Pearl - July 11, 2026Does Family Court Kidnap Children？
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In this episode, we talk about when is it legal for a woman to get custody of her ex-husband's kids, kidnapping, and child custody in the United States of America. We also talk about sex and morality in the Christian and secular worlds.
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Do you think you behave in a Christian value way?
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Where in the Bible does it talk about sex change?
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And usually men, it's like, number one, having kids, getting a family, being a protector
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And then women, it's like traveling and getting dick.
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Because I said, you can't go around saying, I don't give you money when I give you $75,000 a year tax-free.
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I hope your generation starts appreciating and letting women be more meaningful.
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What's up, guys? Welcome to my YouTube channel.
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Today, we are asking the question, when is it legal for a child to be kidnapped?
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Talking about child custody laws in the United States.
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today we're on the Katy Trail in Dallas, Texas. But before we get started, guys, make sure you
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event that is in your city. Like the video and let's get started. So today we're talking about
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when is it legal for a child to be kidnapped? So we're talking about family court today,
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child custody. Oh, I don't know that was a topic right now, is it? What? That's a topic right now?
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yeah oh i don't really know much about the topic okay so we're just kind of begging the question
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if how is if a woman can take a man's kid in a divorce how is that different than kidnapping
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where she can limit his access to four days a month so how should it be i don't i don't have
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a kid so i don't even know yeah but if you did hypothetically right i mean obviously i would
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want my person to have equal custody whatever that is that what you're saying yeah but women
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get custody the majority of the time and standard is every other weekend so we're just kind of
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begging the question how is that any different than kidnapping i don't know no i usually agree
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with all the stuff you say so i'm not here to argue i'm not gonna be good content
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that's crazy i met you though it's crazy i think i found you on facebook
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how's it going sir would you like an intriguing prompt yeah so when is it legal for a child to
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be kidnapped i feel like i recognize your voice you might yeah what's your name pearl yeah i do
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yeah you're like uh i guess right wing trad woman i guess i guess yeah okay so when is it legal for
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a child to be kidnapped yeah um probably if it's the kid's mother okay yeah um i mean usually uh
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i think when it comes to divorce courts women get a lot of uh privilege over men a lot of the times
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they kind of just get defaulted to the woman i mean that's what the law was for like forever now
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like there's men's rights groups that have changed that but is that uh what this is like yeah it is
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so as um do you know any fathers that are struggling with getting custody of their kids
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not personally no but i mean there's probably countless of them out there and as a young guy
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does that impact um your like want or desire to have a family and a kid of your own i mean somewhat
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But I think that I also, you know, get the selection of who I marry and who I have a kid with.
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So obviously, that's always the case that, you know, there could be some no-fault divorce.
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I would also try and get with a girl that's a practicing Christian that has good moral character that hopefully wouldn't do that to me.
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Do you think Christian women have higher moral character?
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I think Christian women are the only women that really have moral character.
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I mean, I don't think you can have moral character outside of at least theology.
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I think the secular worldview is just completely based on preferences.
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So do you think the hoe-to-church pipeline is something that's not real?
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Because you know the reputation of like...
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Yeah, well, I guess it kind of depends how you do it.
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If you're like Nala Ray and you're going to be sucking dick one month
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and then six months later you're starting your own ministry, that's terrible.
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I mean, there definitely is women out there that have become reformed, but it needs to go from you being a hoe to you sitting in the back of the church, not opening your mouth for, I mean, 10 years.
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And then, I mean, later on, if you want to go and tell other women that they shouldn't do what you did because you went through that experience, obviously you should listen.
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But obviously women shouldn't be ministers in the first place.
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They definitely shouldn't be expressing their opinion, trying to shame other people if they're a whore themselves.
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so uh what incentive is there for good women to stay good and virtuous um the wrath of god I guess
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I mean in society I mean there isn't really any incentive anymore I mean women are kind of just
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allowed to do whatever they want there's no uh restraints anymore there's no shame how old are
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you if you don't mind me asking I just turned 20 okay so is this a general like I guess what would
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you say is the sentiment amount around yourself and your friends around getting married and having
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a family do would you say most young men are planning for it and intending on it or no um
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yeah most young men i would say are planning for that i mean they've done surveys on what
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men prioritize versus what women prioritize and usually men it's like number one having kids
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getting a family being a protector provider and then women it's like traveling and getting dick
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and then kids are like last but um obviously there's still like some cucked guys out there
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that, you know, subscribe to the whole feminist mantra,
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they don't really want kids or want to get married.
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I think, obviously, like, Gen Z men are the most right wing
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that there's ever been, really, for a generation.
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So that's definitely something that's on the come up.
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Gen Z women are the most left wing we've ever seen.
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So, I mean, there's a lot of men that are either unable to get a wife
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So, I mean, I think most men are optimistic about having kids and having a wife.
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But when it comes down to the actual details, then it becomes a lot harder.
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Yeah, like what have you been, what's been your experiences in the dating pool?
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I mean, to be honest, I haven't been the most Christian when it comes to that.
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No, I'm not like, like what, are you seeing some of the trends in women?
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Oh yeah, definitely. I mean, there's a lot of women out there that will not really even look for a serious relationship.
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They're just looking for hookups. I mean, there's definitely still good women out there, but it's few and far.
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Who do you think uses the other gender for sex more, men or women?
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I mean, it depends on what you mean by more.
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I mean, if you're looking at it on like a percentage basis, I would say that when a man is looking for a woman, he's mainly looking at her for, you know, attractiveness and like for sexual access.
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Women, I would say, actually end up doing it more just on a numbers basis because they are the gatekeepers to sex.
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But women also look at men for money, for protection, for other things.
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So I guess there's two ways to look at that.
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Well, I just meant, you know, there's this society, like, there's this idea that men
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use women for sex, but if young women aren't looking for relationships, wouldn't they be
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Yeah, definitely, or, you know, for money, or just to get tricked out on.
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Oh, have you seen women your age in, like, doing OnlyFans or sugar babying or any type
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Have you seen that at all with women you know?
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Yeah, there's, like, women I went to high school with that have OnlyFans accounts now.
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Is it the most attractive women or the average women that tend to do it?
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I mean, there's obviously some barrier of entry, but there's definitely, you know, very not entirely attractive women that do it.
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I don't think there's any correlation really with how attractive you are and how promiscuous a woman is, to be honest.
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I mean, obviously, like, if a woman's more attractive and she does sex work, that's going to be highlighted.
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then she's going to get a lot more engagement.
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But there's plenty of unattractive women that do the same thing.
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What's that been like graduating high school
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There was this one girl I knew that was doing it while she was in high school.
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But the only difference between a girl that, really these days,
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a girl that has an OnlyFans account is she's getting paid for what she does.
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I mean, there's plenty of women that will go out there
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and just hook up with a guy, you know, at a bar or whatever,
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Or they're still posting promiscuous stuff online.
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I mean, really the only difference is that one of them is financing it.
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We're asking, when is it legal for a child to be kidnapped?
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You're talking that shit about the dating and shit.
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So today we're talking about when is it legal for a child to be kidnapped?
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And, um, kids are going through some shit.
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children go through shit rough shit right um i've never really thought about this so give me a second
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to think about this but i work with kids what do you what's your job um i have a fitness program
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okay so you like coach kids yeah okay so how is it have you seen um divorce impact children
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And what I've noticed most is that a lot of times adults aren't really taking kids into consideration
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in the scheme of things and so it affects the child the child knows it children are very smart
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intelligent and they they can feel they don't have to know they can just that's how they move move
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and so kids are very intelligent so whether you try to hide it from them or not they can pick it
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up how early do you notice them being able to pick up on like parents not being able to get along
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um i'll say about as early as six or seven they can tell the parents aren't getting along yeah
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they can they can they can put a about you know five years old and under they just kind of
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they're just absorbing things but about six seven they can
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can you tell a difference between the kids that have their parents together
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and the ones that maybe don't have full-time access to their dads?
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and the single-parent mother creates an atmosphere,
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an environment that makes the children feel like they're being taken care of.
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at a good at a great degree that makes sense so they feel like they're being taken care of in a
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single mother home the single parent mother creates the atmosphere okay um the children know
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that there's something that's not right but the children aren't going to go against the mother
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a lot of times so yes it affects them and when i get when i get a kid when i have a 30
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child um classroom set and and i've just recently been able to point this out as a as a trainer as
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a coach um you can tell when the kids are saddened they're saddened and you don't know why
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and then over the years i've realized it probably has something to do you'll see the kids are upset
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and then like maybe having behavioral issues is that not really behavioral issues they just
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you can tell when a kid is yeah they don't hide it like kids emotions yeah and when they
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they they're happy they're asking questions they're engaging they want to know more
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there's a certain set of social behaviors that go with a happy kid and a certain set
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of social behaviors that go with a kid that's not thriving internally yeah have you ever seen
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like a nasty custody battle like in a kid being put in the middle of it no i'm mostly in the
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after school programs i'm mostly in the schools school districts so
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i try to create an atmosphere where none of that matters and then and then i leave right so i'm
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there for one hour let's forget about our problems smile breathe laugh let's have some fun
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and um and let's get stronger physically mentally emotionally when i talk this
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language to a six-year-old they understand yeah a five-year-old uh about six they understand
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mentally strong they understand physically weak they understand higher levels of conversation
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so yeah how if a mother can issue a restraining order and limit a father's access to the kid
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and you don't need evidence to issue a restraining order these are very complicated situations because
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like I say the algorithm I look at the algorithm that's how I look at the parenting situation or
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a kid situation every kid has an algorithm and that algorithm is is coming from the parents the
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environment how they were raised so some kids know love some kids don't know some kids know
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fun some kids don't know some kids know healthy some kids don't know so
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the legal situation is just it's a completely set of algorithms that
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i don't even know how what percentage of parents have to deal with that but
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anytime that happens it's not good for the kid at all yeah yeah and you can see it because the
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kid just seems really sad and off they know what's going on yeah they know they know word for word
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they can have a conversation with if you sit down and talk with a five six year old seven year old
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for sure what's going on with your parents and they'll go um i woke up in the middle of the night
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and they were arguing the parents didn't know the kid was up the kid didn't come and make it
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you know i'm saying so it's always something that the kid the kids are aware we're trying to act like
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the kids are not intelligent the kids are so smart yeah and so when you're arguing like a lot of the
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parents think it's not affecting the kids because maybe they're doing it behind closed doors but it
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really is yes for sure and kids are intelligent you got to stop acting like the kids are not
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intelligent and they're intelligent at an early age they come with intelligence so a lot of times
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I see parents teachers coaches they try to they try to play the kids like they're dumb or that
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like they're not intelligent like they're not physically active or they can't be physically
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active and so they go oh don't hurt them but these kids are I don't have a problem getting them to
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work out I don't have a problem to get them to drink water eat fruits and vegetables think
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positive these are things that we talk about in my class and they pick it up but this might be the
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first time they've heard about positive thinking and so if we're not teaching our kids positive
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thinking before in puke before their uh before puberty then we've wasted so much time with these
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kids they yeah so since do you ever see a difference in discipline because fathers are
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generally the like they're the ones that discipline the kids more so than mothers
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do you ever see a difference in like um uh kids that have been disciplined for like in single
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mother homes versus kids with two parents i mean all the research suggests that um it's different
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when your boots on the ground you know yeah i see a lot i mean it depends on the scenario i've been
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in louisiana i've been in texas i've been in new york i've been i've been all over the country
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and again it's the algorithm you can have a kid like LeBron James came from a single parent
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family he's the best athlete in the world ever so it's again it's the algorithm God has a lot
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to do with it I'm sure so but the research always suggests that kids that come from a
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two-parent household are more of everything so what are things that kids notice that you don't
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think most parents realize most kids don't notice no they do notice they do notice like you said
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that kids are intelligent so what are some examples do you have maybe a story of something that you
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saw or experienced when working with the kids so in my camps um skateboard fitness camp are we
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recording this yeah okay um at the skateboard fitness camp all right we always we understand
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the mind-body connection and so we always expect more and so when you expect more you get more
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if you expect less you get less the kid knows the difference between a person that's trying
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to manipulate them and a person that really cares about their well-being their performance
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and they want to see them do yeah perform better and um and you know that's a tough job because
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again when you're working with someone else's kids it's it's really a self-fulfilling thing
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versus the parents may never acknowledge that you're working with their kids to make them
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their kids better and the people around them may not recognize it but so you just have to be
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internally um yeah strong for your own self awesome well thank you so much i appreciate
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at the interview youtube right but so if you can file restraining orders without evidence
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and limit a father's contact with his kids how is it any different than kidnapping
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if you can file a restraining order you think it's easy to file a restraining order
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well you don't need evidence to file them it's not because it's um i've actually had to do it
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once when i was a young woman so okay right but you don't it's um because it's in family court
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it's not based on evidence it's um probable cause so uh true yeah so you don't need evidence to file
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them so you can you there might be the legal you know well it's okay there might be like women that
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don't um that use it for good reasons right i'm not saying every woman that does but legally you
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can file a restraint i work for some private catholic um i don't want to say names you don't
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Where women and men can come for help and legal aid.
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So there are resources out there that people need to know about.
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Because they could be completely against, you know, I'm not putting names out there.
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But I still don't get the statement because it's so broad.
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Well, standard custody is every other weekend for fathers in this country.
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So you're limited to four days a month with your kid.
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When that is 50% your DNA, why don't you get 50% custody?
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So you're more concerned about custody for a good dad?
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okay that may be the legal system in family court but if you're good parents and you're a good dad
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that assuming you're a good mom okay then that can all be worked out privately I mean it doesn't
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have to be that way I know people that try to keep the kids in the same house so they don't
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have a little suitcase going back and forth between houses and the parent leaves well it
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can't always necessarily be worked out because it's very dependent on the judge you get and
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because of judicial yeah you know i can't say it yeah but i mean dallas county is not a great
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place to be in family court yeah i know i know so the it's better to be in denton county or
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tarrant county or if you know um flower mound um there's actually i know flower mound really well
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there's a kid that a father that actually had his son transitioned and there was nothing he
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could do about it okay so now we're talking about sex changes yeah how yeah so there's examples
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So if you're talking about sex change, you're in the wrong place.
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Well, you're welcome to do an interview yourself and conduct it, however.
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So, I mean, yeah, I'm against it because a child can't make that decision.
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And I've actually gone through it with a friend with a 12-year-old little girl.
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and until a child's 18 years old and i think to you know to delay puberty and i mean god knows
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what you're doing to them as far as their home hormones and their health i mean there's a lot
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more involved than the legality of a parent being prevented from so i'm sorry this is a whole new
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dynamic into the legal system right so but are you going to tell me next that there's six sexes
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you know are you online with our well so no so the the question is how is that different than
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kidnapping like you know if a dad if a dad doesn't have a say on if his kids transitioned or if he
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gets access to his kids how is it transitioning has absolutely nothing to do with access to your
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child well yes it does okay well if you're all if you're for sex change and mutilating a child's
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genitals and right and putting hormones in their bodies before puberty that's disgusting yeah so
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if the mother is for that and the father has no say it breaks marriages i understand yeah so how
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is that different than father's against it well it needs to go through the court system which
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there is no real precedence yet to my knowledge right well there was actually a case in flower
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mound so again you're giving me an isolated case in flower mound which is denton county
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which is a very conservative county which i can't imagine they're they're
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well it did happen so and what was the result the kid was transition there's nothing the dad could
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do i i interviewed him like a few weeks ago so i think a lot of it is illegal i think certain
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hospitals are not allowed to perform that or be able to well they can the issue is they can legally
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take him to california and that's yeah well but then then the argument is well i can't do that
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because i could lose my job because they're saying corporations can't that's that's that's
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no different than you know having an abortion morning after pill i mean it's all in the same
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realm so you would say abortion is the same thing as kidnapping again you're putting words in my
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mouth you're now talking about sex transitioning a child to a different sex okay when their little
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brains are still growing you know i mean my child wanted to change his name another boy's name but
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still wanted to change his name when he was six so when you're 12 and you haven't gone through
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puberty yet you're not your brain is not formed enough to know what you want you could change
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your mind in five years and then your parents have really messed up your life right right I'm
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done with this conversation because it sounds like you're four you you agree that you should
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if you wanted to be a boy you should be able to be a boy but you're an adult so you can make that
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decision and put yourself through all you think that's what I'm saying I think that's what you're
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four because you're calling it kidnapping meaning it's okay to kidnap a child to get a sex change
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operation and mutilate their body and give them hormones if you think that's okay i think i didn't
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say that well then you wouldn't have this broad weird sign and start bringing up you know do you
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think you behave in a christian value way beyond okay yeah i can see all right thank you i appreciate
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where in the bible does it talk about sex change you want to talk christian are you a christian
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you know what are you agnostic are you a christian are you an atheist it's right you
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can just keep going ma'am i've had so you are 100 pro sex change no yes you are i am
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you're i mean go to austin okay that's where it's really accepted not here all right or maybe i mean
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I have no desire because we're disgusting.
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We're asking people when is it legal for a child to be kidnapped.
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So we're asking when is it legal for a child to be kidnapped in the United States.
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When is it legal for a child to be kidnapped? Never.
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So how is kidnapping different than taking custody away from fathers?
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Oh, I agree with that. You're on my camp on that.
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I think that sometimes you have a good father and a good father and the courts always lean towards the woman.
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Why do you think that is? Do you think mothers?
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Because mothers are probably more, it's just how human nature and society brings mothers together.
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Mothers are much better, but I don't think it's always fair.
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I mean, there's no question it's tilted towards women.
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You could argue if it's right or wrong. I don't know.
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What if I told you mothers are actually more likely to abuse biological children than fathers?
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I'm not sure I do. I don't know. Have you got any data?
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Well, so the men are more likely to physically abuse kids,
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but if you include neglect, so many kids die because the mother was neglectful,
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verbal abuse and if you take out if you take out if you take out the physical abuse from step
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dads who the mother picks um the so a lot of times the abuse is the stepfather it's not the
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biological father the woman actually leads an abuse so the kid kid is actually more likely to
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be abused and so why do you think even with those statistics that the family court has to know
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they still give mothers because it's the way society leads always thought that mothers are
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better to raise kids it's just how society is drawn up it's not necessarily the case but i do
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think there's often cases where where men make better parents and the courts don't look after
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that so yeah i mean you're asking that's a very relevant question it's very difficult for the
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courts to determine yeah that a of course they get so muddy you know with these cases that you
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never everybody throws in something else but i agree with you i mean i don't really know
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the right answer but you make a very very good point and i've been saying that a while that the
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So there's very good fathers who don't get what they deserve.
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Do you know any fathers struggling to get custody of their kids?
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I don't know of any at present, but I've heard of people in the past.
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And I've heard, I mean, I don't know personally,
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but I've heard they've struggled enormously to go through the courts.
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And I've heard of women, and I know cases of women
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who have walked away from their kids completely.
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And what else has happened is a father gets custody
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So he took care of the kid and he still had to pay the woman.
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So how is kidnapping different than taking custody away from fathers?
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You know, that's why, you know, if you're talking about this by the case, I don't know if you are,
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but it's important just to keep the context in mind.
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Well, just thinking about how mothers get custody the majority of the time,
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and every other weekend is standard in a lot of states,
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So how is that different, limiting a father's access to his kid to four days a month?
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So, like, why isn't that looked at as kidnapping?
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I don't know if it's the same thing as kidnapping, because it's not 100%.
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But I would agree with you that it doesn't seem fair by default.
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I think that comes from the pretext of mothers, you know, are seen by default as being better caregivers,
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Would definitely be, I don't think anyone can really fight that.
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Unless, of course, you know, case-by-case basis, if the father's abusive, whatever.
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But, you know, in general, I think that 50-50 should be the new folk.
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Do you think that women are the nurturing gender?
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But I don't think, again, I don't think you can really...
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I'm asking just your personal experience, either in your life or your friends.
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Like, did you find that mothers were more nurturing than fathers?
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I don't know. I think on average it's about 50-50.
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There's some guys who really are kind of misogynistic,
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and then some guys who are really excited to be fathers
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because they want to be fathers and not just because they want to be kids.
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You get the same sort of mothership that we, you know, traditionally see,
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and then there's some mothers who are just like, yeah, I don't want kids.
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Is custody something that you think about when starting a family of your own?
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Is that something that, does it make you, is it something that's crossed your mind?
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We're asking the question of the day, when is it legal for a child to be kidnapped?
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How is it different than taking custody away from fathers?
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Well, being a divorced dad, I can tell you that it's not very different.
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So I always, you know, and I was adamant about that.
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Like, I'm going to raise my kids as much as you are.
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And so, you know, what I can say is that depriving fathers of their children is not only bad for the father,
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because it hurts their mental health, it hurts their spiritual health, it hurts their well-being.
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Why aren't mothers that limit a father's access to their kids,
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especially when they're good dads looked at as kidnappers?
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I think it's one probably needs to be looked at.
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Did you know that Amber Alerts, a lot of the time, are actually dads trying to get access to their kids?
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I did not know that. No, but it's not surprising.
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It's really not because, you know, I think sometimes mothers go to extremes
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to try and prove a point without thinking about what the impact is on the kids.
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Did you ever have limited time where you weren't, during the divorce, able to see your kids as much as you wanted?
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Well, I had a really good lawyer, and it cost me.
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I would say it probably cost me $25,000 in total legal fees when it probably should only cost $10,000.
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and I also had to have character witnesses go before the judge and talk about how I'm a good
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person which I was like why doesn't she have to do that I was like why am I the only one who has
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to do that I'm like this makes no sense but sure here here's my professors my co-workers my friends
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talk to them would you say it's contingent on the judge that you get in the case absolutely
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And when I got divorced, I'm originally from Illinois.
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So I was up in Chicago, which is not father friendly.
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So, I mean, you know, it's just you go into Cook County as a dad.
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Have you ever witnessed a father struggle to get custody of his kids?
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You know, I mean, there's a lot of mental stress around, you know, not having access to your own biological children.
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And, you know, the dads that I have known who've gone through that have been limited in the amount of their own financial resources that they can spend.
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Been limited in the number of financial resources they have available to access things like mental health care or, you know, divorced dads groups, those kinds of things.
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And then and then thirdly, you know, that amount of time not being spent with the kids often also leads to other kind of negative behaviors, drinking, gambling, you know, you name it, lying, those kinds of things.
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And so when it when a dad doesn't have that kind of access, it sometimes can lead into really bad behavior.
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Have you ever seen a man like either throw his life away or contemplate suicide following a divorce?
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Because, you know, I can tell you that even though I had my kids half the time,
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the time when I didn't have them, I still miss them.
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Do you think it's common for mothers to turn the children against fathers?
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You know, I was fortunate that my divorce was pretty amicable.
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um and then hold on wait hold on did this answer hey dave let me call you back
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yeah sorry i'm on the other line let me call you back sorry yeah no no that's fine i didn't
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i like was not answering it and so um what was i saying i'm sorry oh your divorce was amicable
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yeah it was amicable and so my ex-wife and i were very good at never saying anything negative about
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the other in front of our kids now that does not apply to what she said to a bunch of other people
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about me yeah and i definitely confronted her about that because i said you can't going around
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can't go around saying i don't give you money when i give you 75 000 a year tax-free i'm like
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that's a full-time job so don't pretend like you're poor and i don't give you anything you
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know what i mean why do women say that that's so common i you know i don't know in her head was it
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just not enough money i i i guess i don't i don't see how it's not yeah i mean for without taxes
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too. That's like, you know, after tax, that's just 75 grand. So why, um, do women fare worse
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financially after a divorce, even though we get more money, child support, alimony and often the
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house? Yeah, I, that's a good question because yeah, she got the house. You know, I wanted my
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kids to have some stability there. And, uh, and I definitely gave her more than enough money to
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cover any expenses we ever had. If anything, I was the one who really struggled for the years
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where I was paying child support. And it was a higher net worth now. I do. Yeah, I do. So you're
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living the statistic. Yeah. Why do you think it is? Well, I'm also highly educated. I'm working
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on my third postgraduate degree. And so I have a senior executive position. I get I get paid really
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well. And so I might be a little bit of an outlier there. Like I'm not. Well, OK, maybe not.
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You know, we did have some back and forth because I ended up getting remarried about six years after our divorce.
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And then I went back to the table over the amount of money that I gave her.
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It was now based off of how much do they actually cost and then divide that by custody.
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Do you think that child support is spent on the children?
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And I was like, every time I see you, you're wearing a new outfit.
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And so I think it just comes down to a factor of the man just has to kind of hand this over and just hope that his kids would be taken care of.
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Now, you know, my kids were always fed, well-rested, you know, that, like, healthy.
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So I never worried that she wasn't taking care of their basic needs.
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But I know for a fact is there were trips, purchases, all kinds of stuff where I'm like, you don't make that much money.
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Was it ever hard for you when the mother started to date again and there would be other men around the kids?
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I mean, because she got remarried a couple years ago.
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Um, but you know, I'm fortunate that he's a really good guy. You know what I mean? He's not an
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alcoholic. He doesn't gamble. He doesn't yell at my kids. Like, and like I said, my, I mean,
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my, my daughter is getting ready to graduate college this next year. My son's going in as a
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freshman. And so, you know, they're also kind of raised by this point, but I will say that it was
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a concern and I'm sure it was reciprocal as well. I'm sure she was like, who is he introducing to
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the kids? Now we had a rule. He had to be in a relationship for at least four or five months
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before any kind of introduction to the kids was made, which I think is important because you get
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these revolving doors of partners and kids get really confused. So what made you get remarried
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after spending all the money and time on a divorce? Well, first of all, I promised myself
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that was never going to happen again. I was like, I will be perfectly happy never being remarried.
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I'll just live the bachelor life, you know, hopefully get in relationships, that kind of
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it was really a relationship right where the woman was like you know my wife was like well
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I don't want to just hang around for the rest of my life like I I want to get married and so uh
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you know we we had some conversations was it a tough sell for her because of last time a little
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bit yeah but she's also so different from my first wife and uh we have no plan you know I
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I had gotten snipped when I after my second kid so there was no plans of any future kids or
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anything like that so do you think if it wasn't for family court you would have been open to more
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kids yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah most definitely because they talk about the birth rate going
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down and one solution could be to fix family court it was after i got divorced that i went
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and got snipped because i said i never want to pay child support again whereas i could i i can
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easily afford four to five more kids but now i'm like nope that'll all just go to my kids do you
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think that family court affects middle class men the most yeah i would say middle class and lower
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class yeah yeah you know look the upper one percent they don't care they have enough money
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that you know what i mean it's not people like me who are in the upper middle class i would say
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it's still a struggle you know when i get impacted by inflation in those types of things and so it's
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still a struggle yeah well thank you so much this is a great interview thank you yeah you bet um it's
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pearl davis on youtube so we talk about family courts all right i'll look you up all right i'm
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So we're asking, how is kidnapping different than a mother taking away custody from the dad?
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Yeah, kidnapping, you'll never see the kid again.
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They're the ones that should give it, you know, unless he's a nasty guy.
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But why doesn't society look at mothers who don't let the father see the kids as kidnappers?
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But I also said, you know, then you can talk about, what about abortion now?
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But, you know, he should have the opportunity to have him a certain amount of time.
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But somebody, if they have that, somebody should follow up at the judge or the legal system
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Because kids without, you know, if a dad raises a kid by himself,
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it actually turns out the same as a two-parent home.
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Where if the mother raises a kid, they're more likely to be drug dealers,
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And it makes sense because men have structure and discipline and routine.
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and she didn't like him flying or anything like that.
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But he was a guy that says, you have to be self-supporting in this world.
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Where he was a multimillionaire and said, you earn it.
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on that so that's i think you're right i think kids i don't know why men do a better job i guess
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they expect more out of kids i think um do you think that they say that women are the nurturing
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gender they are they are nurturing they're too nurturing well if that were true then why are
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women more violent towards their biological children than fathers are they think about it
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they've aborted a third of the world population or an eighth of the world population well i can
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see them doing that because it's too much work yeah that's so true and i believe when i die and
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god says hey i got a special job for you're going back i go what am i gonna do he's gonna be a woman
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i go no no i'm not gonna be a woman i i i get a lawyer i'm not going you're not going if you go
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don't you think women are lazy yeah huh lazy yeah but they they don't have the rights
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you know you don't allow them to be successful but now it's getting better that's okay it's
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getting better but they they're carrying people and they want their kids to be not have worries
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and not worry about things and stuff like that and then they don't worry when they grow up you
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know what i think women um how women view children handbags you think so yeah i know you have kids
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no kids no kids maybe soon though maybe someday no kids but uh like if you notice i think women
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like the attention of the kid where dads love the kid because like they um women are more likely to
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be neglectful towards the kids they're more likely to abuse the if you know if there's a baby
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in the first year of life that's found in the dumpster the police don't even look for a father
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it's always a mother and like women are more violent towards the elderly towards infants but
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yet we have this idea maybe they're worn out what maybe they're worn out they're worn out by
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everything what are we doing you know the ones dying at work you know but do you remember back
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You know, 20 years ago, girls or ladies or couples had eight kids and nine kids.
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And you know exactly what it's going to be like the third, fourth, fifth.
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So I hope your generation starts appreciating and letting women be more meaningful.
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and what more meaning do we need but but what makes you happy oh yeah yeah whatever what makes
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are women ever happy ask yourself i don't know there are more complainers yeah that's what i
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mean about my wife we're both 85 yeah my wife but she's athletic too and and i says we live in an
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apartment i go quit complaining about they're doing construction and it's gonna be better
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No, they take away my this and that, you know, my workout.
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But my wife is so responsible for kids, raising kids.
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So you've kind of seen the decline culturally of this country in your lifetime.
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Like when you were, yeah, it's, um, you've kind of seen social media come into place
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But, but, but we are, we are a family that says, okay, it's terrible.
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So we support four charities, major support, an Indian group, a retarded kid.
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Well, if you don't know, but there's a school called Notre Dame of Dallas for kids that are all retarded.
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We support our grade school and college, UT, Texas, and our high school with big money.
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We're going to support you guys, but these are what we want to do.
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We want you to help these kids learn what gets them up in the morning, what's their passion,
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what they really want to accomplish in this life, and then help them light their fire, internal fire.
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Yeah, so we're working to get family court judges taken out that are bad,
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So you have to file complaints, but nobody files complaints.