Pearl - Even MORE Evidence That Women Aren't Nurturing

00:00:00.000 she told me last week she's torn about having kids so she asked me if we could go to lunch

00:00:05.280 and talk about it i know the answer and the truth is i do regret having her and if i lie

00:00:10.960 and if i say oh you can have it all i feel like i'm setting her up motherhood was a big mistake

00:00:17.600 for me what's up guys welcome to my youtube channel i have said for ages that men are

00:00:22.000 actually the nurturing gender men are the ones that love children and women hate children and

00:00:26.880 And everybody said that I was crazy.

00:00:29.260 Everybody said, Pearl, you're just over-exaggerating. 0.99

00:00:31.320 You just hate women.

00:00:32.040 How did you get this opinion? 1.00

00:00:33.140 Well, don't let me have this opinion without any evidence.

00:00:37.260 I'm tired of waking up and thinking for other people besides myself. 0.99

00:00:40.440 I'm tired of getting up and having to fix fucking breakfast, lunch, and dinner. 1.00

00:00:43.780 Bitch, I'm tired of having to play. 1.00

00:00:45.340 I'm tired of having to go to the store and buy unnecessary shit. 1.00

00:00:48.760 I'm tired of goddamn busted and fighting. 1.00

00:00:50.760 I'm tired of fucking complaining. 1.00

00:00:52.320 I'm tired of hearing mama a thousand times. 1.00

00:00:54.080 Does this sound like a nurturing person who just loves serving other people? 1.00

00:00:58.560 Tired of taking people where they got to go.

00:01:00.540 I'm tired of paying for clothes.

00:01:02.140 I'm tired of paying for shoes.

00:01:03.860 I'm tired of doing hair.

00:01:05.360 I'm tired of taking baths.

00:01:07.080 I'm tired of brushing teeth.

00:01:08.660 I'm tired of washing a bunch of clothes. 0.99

00:01:10.680 I'm tired of goddamn cleaning up. 0.99

00:01:12.860 I'm tired of waking up at the ass crack of dawn. 1.00

00:01:16.560 I'm just tired of a whole bunch of shit that comes with being a parent, right? 1.00

00:01:19.620 So what I've decided to do is I've decided to send my children to their dad. 0.99

00:01:24.080 and when he calls to like bring them back home i'm not gonna answer the phone and he don't know

00:01:30.900 why i stay i moved for this very reason so that way you can't just pop up and you can't just drop 1.00

00:01:35.380 nobody off right bitch i'm gonna disappear for the next three motherfucking months the nurturing 1.00

00:01:40.420 gen again men will fight with their entire life to be in their kids lives where women will fight 0.99

00:01:47.080 to not be mothers and then yet we still say they're nurturing how do we come to this conclusion 0.89

00:01:51.640 as a society some twat mommy monster I'm irritable I'm tired I don't this is the nurturing gender

00:02:00.920 really really really truly conservatives like I saw Candace Owens had a clip once and she's like 0.99

00:02:06.860 yeah women are just naturals with kids really this is what natural with a kid is I don't want 0.73

00:02:11.880 to be a mom. I want alone time. I want to be alone. I want to be so just in my own energy 1.00

00:02:22.720 and like not having to answer to the million demands that I get a day. Mommy, Mommy, Mommy,

00:02:29.120 mommy mommy mommy mommy mommy mommy mommy mommy mommy mommy mommy mommy mommy mommy mommy mommy mommy

00:02:32.640 mom mom mom mommy mom a mommy a a a nurturing all right i feel better now yeah that's that's

00:02:44.640 the nurturing gender okay this she doesn't want to be a mom today and i wish that i didn't have

00:02:49.280 to be a mom right now i'm a single mom and i have no co-manager i have no assistant i don't have help

00:02:57.840 she you know needs me and i want her to need me and i want to give me to her and i love it it's

00:03:04.960 my favorite job that i could ever have but sometimes raising kids is a two-person job and

00:03:12.400 i feel like moms can't say that out loud they can't say the phrase i don't does this look like

00:03:18.800 someone that's getting joy out of being a mother that really just enjoys nurturing and loving their

00:03:25.520 their kid no i mean obviously not right and that's what you know in my years of interviewing

00:03:32.400 that's really what you come to find out is that things are exactly what you think um so

00:03:39.120 literally if it walks like a duck talks like a duck it is a duck um so i want to be a mom today

00:03:46.240 because that's what we are innately born to do right it's in our biology we birth the child so

00:03:51.760 It's our duty. I was in a relationship with somebody that did not help at all. It wasn't

00:03:59.440 worth it for everything that was bad, but I also took for granted just even how big of a help

00:04:07.920 the little things were to just hand her to someone else sometimes to say, hey, can you go change

00:04:15.740 that? I've interviewed men that say when they had full custody, I've lost

00:04:21.420 i've interviewed a lot of men that have lost custody that it was the best time in their life

00:04:26.720 that they love like they loved their kids and it was just so peaceful and amazing and women

00:04:32.080 they complain about being a mother constantly diaper even if i had to ask three times to get

00:04:37.580 it done right i could still have help okay let's let's go to the next was a big mistake for me

00:04:45.200 and i'm not sure if i should tell my daughter or not before i had her should i tell my mother 1.00

00:04:50.560 or sorry should I tell my daughter I regret having her what is wrong with you women 0.99

00:04:56.800 dude what is wrong with you women why would you tell her that just oh my god what is wrong with

00:05:03.760 you I can't even believe this is a question I was a cardiothoracic surgeon I was really 0.99

00:05:09.600 thriving in this and then I met my husband and he wanted to have kids more than anything and

00:05:15.360 when I finally got pregnant I tried to be happy but I hated pregnancy I hated how I felt in my

00:05:24.800 body I felt like something was happening to me I think she's gonna be worshipped at work for

00:05:29.340 being the cart whatever surgeon and women prefer praise from the world than their kids and men

00:05:34.680 prefer praise from their they don't men don't care about praise but if they get it it means more if

00:05:40.880 it's from their friends or family they don't really care about external praise and if they do

00:05:45.120 they're usually kind of feminine i couldn't control and after she was born i wanted to get

00:05:49.920 back to work as soon as i could at the same level and i couldn't i was exhausted i was distracted

00:05:57.600 so i had to step back from work and i threw myself into being a mom i made lunches i volunteered i

00:06:05.680 was at every event at the school i just really resented it i really wasn't happy i hated doing

00:06:12.080 it i i love my daughter i love her but to be honest if i could really relive my life knowing

00:06:18.000 what i know now a thousand percent i would not choose motherhood again so now my daughter's 32

00:06:25.120 and she is doing great she's a biotech researcher and she's working in cancer immunotherapy she's

00:06:32.640 working right but if you didn't have kids would you regret that too you know really hard

00:06:37.040 and she told me last week she's torn about having kids so she asked me if we could go to lunch and

00:06:44.920 talk about it i know the answer and the truth is i do regret having her and if i lie and if i say

00:06:51.200 you can have it all i feel like i'm setting her up motherhood was a big mistake for me and i'm not

00:06:58.300 sure if i should tell my daughter or not before i had her i was a cardiothoracic surgeon i was

00:07:04.040 really thriving in this and then i met my husband and he wanted to have i just can't believe that

00:07:10.200 these are even questions okay again this is the nurturing gender this is the nurturing gender okay

00:07:16.040 let's see it goes this way but i regret having my kids i don't regret having my kids but i regret

00:07:22.200 having my kids i say that because doing you have to understand like women are openly saying this

00:07:29.800 on the internet it's not just something they say that we say behind um closed doors um it's

00:07:38.120 openly saying it in front of every like it's no shame like women aren't even ashamed of being bad

00:07:43.880 parents all this stuff by yourself slash in separate households co-parenting with the other

00:07:50.600 parent is terrible and being a single mom used to be like almost like idolized in a way like

00:08:01.480 you know you're a strong woman you're doing this by yourself you're da da da da and it's like no 0.99

00:08:08.820 none of this parenting shit was meant to be done alone and I cannot stress that enough 0.98

00:08:14.300 like the strain that is on me is like so heavy like it's it's so hard for me to explain like 0.98

00:08:26.580 I'm so tired like mentally exhausted not physically but mentally and my kids are still

00:08:34.140 young they're only going to get older they're always going to be my kids I love them to death

00:08:38.420 and i'm gonna say i love them to death to as a prerequisite um for complaining about them they

00:08:44.780 say oh i love like i love them but and then they can just now have freedom to say whatever they

00:08:50.920 want it's it it came to a point where we had the kids before we realized that we weren't even right

00:08:58.020 for each other i knew we weren't right for each other but i still thought that you know there's

00:09:03.680 always that chance right no me personally i didn't grow up in a one-parent household i grew up in a

00:09:12.320 two-parent household my parents were married and are still married to this day and to think that

00:09:18.460 my kids are not growing up that way like literally breaks me inside every time i think about it yeah

00:09:24.380 but it doesn't break you inside enough to get back with your baby daddy so it doesn't you know break

00:09:30.140 you inside enough to have some humility and apologize, you know. And just thinking from

00:09:35.260 their perspective, you know, having to go from mom's house to dad's house, you know, kind of

00:09:40.040 back and forth like that, not seeing their mom and their dad in the same room and drawing life

00:09:44.160 together, having those family moments and whatnot. And it took me a while to realize that I couldn't

00:09:50.600 fix it. Like, we're just not a match. And because of that, it makes me feel like shit on the daily.

00:09:58.160 and hence the reason why i say i regret having my kids i regret having my kids within this 0.93

00:10:03.800 circumstance i don't regret my kids but yeah so again this is kind of cope she she does regret

00:10:08.760 it's very obvious but she what she feels guilty that she feels this way and instead of being

00:10:13.560 honest about it and i i understand it's like half on it's almost worse because it's half honesty 0.90

00:10:18.440 instead of just saying look i wish i wasn't a parent i fucked up my life that's too harsh right 0.57

00:10:24.840 little johnny will see that someday so she's saying i don't regret having my kids and then 0.94

00:10:28.720 listing off the reasons she in fact does regret having her kids it's just hard because sometimes

00:10:35.160 it just feels like no one could ever step in and be that other parent you know what i mean yeah

00:10:42.400 give the kids to the dad they belong to fathers so it's like am i left to do all of these things

00:10:47.540 by myself for forever like being a parent to my children and just all of the things that come with

00:10:55.500 it you know what I mean like not having that person that you know truly understands my kids

00:11:02.600 because it's just something about when it's your kid you you understand them a little bit

00:11:07.460 differently not saying that somebody couldn't come in and do that but it just seems like a very rare

00:11:12.400 thing. And then for me, just for my, my sanity, um, my, just my peace of mind, you know, being

00:11:23.740 able to coordinate with someone in terms of, you know, picking the kids, uh, making sure dinner is

00:11:30.560 done. Um, the kids had their bath help with cleaning the house again. Okay. So she just

00:11:35.860 made like a 10 minute video complaining about how she hates being a mother. And yet we call us the 0.98

00:11:40.320 nurturing gender which is kind of incredible all right guys all right let me know what you think

00:11:45.340 in the comments uh like the video on your way out subscribe to the channel and I'll see you next time

Pearl - June 24, 2026

Even MORE Evidence That Women Aren't Nurturing

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