Pearl - October 12, 2025Even Shemeka Michelle Has Black Fatigue ｜ Pearl Daily
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Summary
On this episode of Pearl Daily, we have our first guest on the show, Shamika Michelle, co-host of Jason Whitlock's Fearless show on Fox News and author of the book, "Naked Girls: The Story of How I Became a Feminist in the 21st Century."
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I am your host, Pearl, and today I'm the Audacity Network.
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What up, guys? Welcome to another episode of Pearl Daily.
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Today, we have our first guest in our new studio.
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So she, your co-host on Jason Whitlock's Fearless show,
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You were a Fox News contributor, and you were an author.
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And you were also a housewife for 20 years, right?
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So how did you get into cultural and political commentary?
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I would say by mistake because so after I got divorced,
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Yeah, because we just been texting into it today.
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Okay, so in high school, me and my group of friends, we called ourselves The Girls.
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It was just like our little group in high school.
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We called ourselves like little sororities and fraternities.
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So when I started this group, I was like, we should start a blog,
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and we should just, you know, tell our feelings and be open,
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because I made a post on Facebook just talking about how I hated divorce
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and that I didn't understand how people were celebrating divorce
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And so I told my friends, these same group of women, I said,
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I poured my feelings out on Facebook, you know,
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don't let everybody crucify me for being a naked girl.
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and so they were like, naked girls, we love it.
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So we were like, that's what we should call our blog.
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but we didn't know like what name we were going to call it.
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And so then you started commentating on different cultural and political issues.
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So you understand it was a huge marketing mistake,
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Because so we had what we call the naked nation.
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Like once we started naked girls and started writing,
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So we had naked girls, Texas, naked girls, Michigan.
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And so only the people in naked nation understood that naked meant open,
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So me thinking here, a woman again, oh, this would be a great play on words.
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Let me just be naked on the front of the book.
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And people outside of naked nation are going to think they're traditional naked.
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So we, I, we started, um, naked girls, naked nation was growing.
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And I was just mostly doing cultural commentary.
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And so the book came across or came up because people would always ask for my advice.
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And so I said, well, let me take everything and just put it in a book.
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So I did that, but in 2017, I put out a video that said, um, Father's Day is for men.
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And I got a lot of pushback and a lot of pushback from black women.
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Because all the mothers want to take credit.
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It's like, they're like, can we have this one day of the year?
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Without, without any qualifiers, because they will also say to all the good dads or to all the dads that were around or to all the dads, I don't know, you know, with a fade or with a fro, whatever.
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You could be, uh, on crack and people will still just say happy Mother's Day.
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So I put out a video letting women know you can't be the mother and the father.
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And I thought this was common sense, but I got a lot of pushback, mostly from black women.
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They ended up after like a million views, may have hit two million, I can't remember.
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That's not even, uh, I mean, I've said way worse.
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And I was always getting in trouble, but I didn't understand why.
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Everything that I was saying, I thought was just common sense.
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So then 2018, I said, I'm going to put the same video up, you know, you know, I'm going
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After that, it was like, I couldn't get into my account.
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So my friend said, just start posting on Twitter.
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And I said, but I don't have any followers on Twitter.
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And she said, you're just, you just like Facebook because your friends are there.
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And this was during like, um, mostly the Kavanaugh trial.
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Because I had always been told conservatives were racist or, you know, bigots or whatever.
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And I just thought, this is just common sense stuff.
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And so during the Kavanaugh trial, you got a lot of attention.
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Because I'm guessing you, you didn't believe the accusation?
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And it just, it, not only do I have daughters, I'm a product of rape.
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So it will come back to that because people would say, so you, you think it's okay for
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I don't like women that wait 20, 30, 40 years to come out with a story.
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It's always once the man is famous and they feel like they can get attention or money.
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And I just feel like if you've held it for that long, keep holding it.
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I know that sounds really heartless, but you know.
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And so I was aggravated because I was sick of seeing it.
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I mean, like he had like, I mean, they tore through his entire life and they found pretty
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much nothing other than this crazy woman who said something happened 40 years ago.
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And so for me, I just, um, I was like, you know, we, you have IP, what'd I say?
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You are irresponsible as a woman and nobody should be blamed for that at all.
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So one of my concepts I have on my show is called as women, we need to learn to take the
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Sometimes, you know, stuff happens when you're a woman.
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It doesn't, it doesn't mean that he was abusive.
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You know, sometimes you sleep with a guy, you're hoping that you'll date.
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Like men, when they take an L, when a girl calls them creepy or weird, they just eat it.
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They eat it and say, all right, well, I'll go to the next girl.
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Why can't we have that mentality and just, why can't we just move?
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The men are always going to date younger and hotter.
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It's not, if it's not, if your ex is going to do better, it's when they have forever.
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You know, nobody has really held women accountable to say, no, you're going to be in this position.
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So they're used to wiggling and, you know, dodging accountability because they never had to wear the L.
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Yeah, I got in trouble, especially when Cosby was going through the whole thing.
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And so I was just thinking, like, no, these women thought that they were going to sleep with him.
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He was going to put them on a TV show or, you know, do something for their career.
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And they were mad because 20, 30 years are coming out saying this.
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And some of them were actually sleeping with him over and over and over again.
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Oh, I was with him for two years and I was abused.
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And I just, I don't know, it's just always bothered me because when I think of my mom being 14 and walking
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through a path and being great, it's totally different from these women who voluntarily
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go to these men's hotel rooms, take whatever pill he may be given or get drunk.
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You're actually going because he wants something from you.
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Sometimes you sleep with the boss for a job, but he doesn't give you the job.
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They need the L that Laverne and Shirley, remember she had that?
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I don't know, this is before your time, but just get your little L.
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And so once I started actually just putting myself out there, people just started flocking
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to me and wanted to just hear, hear what I had to say, because not only was I a woman
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saying these things, I was a woman with a lot of melanin in my skin saying these things.
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And did you always think that way or were you more liberal when you were younger?
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So I voted, voted Democrat, but I feel like I've always had pretty much a lot of the same
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mindset, except for the whole black power thing.
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I did go through a black power phase, you know, right fist up.
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You know, I had girls on my volleyball team.
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They stopped being friends with me because I wouldn't post a black square.
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So I think just the amount of people that I was around, you know, I feel like for a lot
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of people with a lot of melanin, I'm trying to un-black myself.
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So a lot of times I don't say black because I'm un-blacking myself.
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But, you know, just victims and everything was skin-based.
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And I wasn't forced to kind of look at other reasons that it could be.
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And so I went through that phase where I would say, you know, white people with big noses,
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And not understanding or not even looking at statistics, especially when social media
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kept putting out there, there was a black man being killed by police.
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They make it seem as if they're dropping dead every day.
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You know, like it's happening across the country.
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When I was young, I wouldn't say, like, the first scandal I remember, I think it was Trayvon
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So I think I was in high school or early college.
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The, I can't remember his name, but I just, I'll give you the, when I, I remember the way
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I thought that he was just gunned down by police.
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And I can't, it turns out the facts of the case came out.
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And then he was like going for the police officer's gun.
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And he had like punched the police officer like 10 times.
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Well, why would you, why would they tell you it the other way?
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You know, it's like, why wouldn't they just stick to the facts of the case?
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It was once I started again, being more in conservative circles and start looking into
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things that it was like, okay, um, they aren't just being chased and shot down like dogs in
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And the early marketing was really, I understand why people fall for it.
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I was young, so I wasn't that political at the time.
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You know, like when you're in high school, you don't really care.
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And I was old and still, and still wasn't political and getting duped.
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So I understand why people get duped like that.
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But so by the time the BLM movement came out around, where were you?
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By the time BLM came out, I had had it up to here.
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And I think what really tipped me over the edge is I think it was 2017 when they had that
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And initially, because I was still kind of like not completely free from the whole black
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power thing, I just was like, oh, these white women are crazy.
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I didn't even know there was a difference.
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But I didn't know there was a difference between, let's say, liberal white women or conservative
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And all I knew was when I saw that, I said, you know what?
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I mean, I have no choice but to be in the number.
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Because I think that was the Kavanaugh stuff, right?
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And because I had done, like, talks about I don't have a problem with, say, food stamps
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as long as it's briefly, you know, nobody should have welfare as a way of life.
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I had talked about the fact that I felt like fathers in the home, they were important.
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It was something about that day without a woman, which was before, I think, the Kavanaugh hearings,
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that just kind of started to tip me over the edge where I just was sick of everything and
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everybody, period, black, white woman, some men, like I just, it was the mindset I think
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I was starting to hate, but I didn't notice, like, it was definitely the mindset.
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The BLM, when that happened, that was huge at the time.
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It was, I just remember, like, I remember hearing the riots, like, down the street.
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Yeah, because I was in Milwaukee, and I just remember the, like, the marching, and then,
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like, some people were breaking into stores really close to where I lived.
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I was there, too, but I wasn't that political, though, so I was just kind of hanging out.
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Yeah, I hated it, and I kept trying to tell people the only way they care about a black
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I knew it was wrong, and so that's just kind of what I went with, you know?
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I didn't do the Candace Owens, you know, deep dive or any of that, but I knew it didn't
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feel right, and I just saw black people losing their minds for no reason.
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So you said earlier, can't remember if it was on camera or not, but I thought it was
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You said that in the black community, promiscuity is celebrated.
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And one of the things, and somebody's going to say, that's not true, but when you notice
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who black people as a whole embrace, or prime example, this is the perfect example, when
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they would say, Bill Clinton was the first black president.
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Because he blew a saxophone, smoked weed, and got fellatio.
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I'm going to say that nice and clean, you know?
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Like, that's why they said he was the first black president, though.
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So it was the degeneracy that they latched onto and started to celebrate, and that's
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In hindsight, they're like, oh, you know, what about the 94 crime bill?
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You know, when he was in office, y'all were calling him the first black president.
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Charming men can get away with murder, especially when it comes to politicians.
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I think that's kind of why people didn't really criticize him the same way.
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For black people, they would say he was the first black president, and it was not because
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he did anything good or substantial in the black community.
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It was simply because of the things, the degeneracy.
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So being that you are a product of rape, does that mean, are you pro-life?
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And I always think, like, is it because of that?
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One particular friend, she was on her third abortion.
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You know, you can only get pregnant, like, three days.
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But I just, oh, my God, she must be the most irresponsible person ever.
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One, you can chalk up to, like, not know, but three?
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And I remember at that time, her mother was mad at me because it seemed like I wasn't being supportive of her.
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I think maybe her mother thought this was her first one.
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And I said, you don't want to bring me into, like, your home to sit and talk with your mom.
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And her mom, she didn't have the guts to stand up to her mom and say, no, don't talk to Shamika.
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So, long story short, we're in there, and her mom is ridiculing me for not being a good friend, for not supporting her.
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Everybody makes mistakes, and I'm being judgmental and whatever, whatever, whatever.
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And I go, I'm not going to keep supporting her killing kids.
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And I just sat there like, doo, doo, doo, you know.
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I don't know if it's because I'm a product of rape.
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And I've told the story about having an abortion myself some years later, and it always haunted me.
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It was just never something that I could get behind and promote, even for myself.
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And I want to say I was seven weeks, and it bothered me so bad because at that time.
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Yeah, I don't even, nobody even mentioned a pill then, so I don't even know if a pill was out at that time.
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But, um, I remember being around seven weeks because I laid there and I said, um, can I see when they did the ultrasound to make sure, you know, before they start to make sure they can see what they're doing?
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And then when I actually went in with my second daughter to have my ultrasound, I was only six weeks, and the doctor, we're all standing around me, my husband at the time, my oldest daughter, and we're looking, and the doctor goes, you see right there?
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That's, that's the heartbeat, and you could see it.
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And what was supposed to be a happy occasion, I just broke down in tears because I said, if this baby has a heartbeat, then the one I was like a week or two further along definitely had a heartbeat.
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Was, was it just because you didn't get along with the father of the first kid?
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But again, I don't try to really condemn people when they feel that way only because I was there.
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But I'm just not going to be that person that's like, it's your body, your choice, kill it.
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I mean, I've kind of given up because I think women will fight so hard to kill their kids.
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I said that the last liberal I had on to argue this, I was like, yeah, kill it up to birth.
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If it was up to me, it would be illegal, but it's not.
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And I just kind of view it like, imagine there's like the Titanic, right?
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And the Titanic is sinking and there's a lifeboat.
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And I think of abortion as the Titanic, where if you really try to save that issue, you're
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going to go down with the boat because it's just, you can't, women have too much voting
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So you can either get on the lifeboat and worry about issues that we could maybe change.
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But if you, if you like, a lot of them looked at Roe versus Wade as some sort of win,
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But it's like, if women want abortions, they'll just drive to another state.
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It's not the hill that I'm willing to die on simply because I feel like before you get
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So that's why I try to talk about more culture and really just saying, okay, you know, women
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be in a better predicament or have some morals, have some values.
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And so I feel like if I kind of die on that hill, maybe they won't even get to the abortion
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place because maybe they'll have some morals and values and maybe they'll be in good relationships
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where they feel like, okay, I can keep this kid and I can be okay.
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So you don't hear me too much saying, um, murderer, you know, when it comes to abortion,
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because I just, I try to focus on getting there beforehand.
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I saw another interesting video you did, um, saying it was you reacting to a Nick Fuentes
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clip, um, where he talked about black fatigue and you said you weren't offended.
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I wasn't offended because I don't know if you're familiar with that Chris Rock, uh, clip where
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he says there's a difference between, um, black people and I'm, I'm going to say N word.
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I prefer to say the word, but, um, um, but he said there's a difference and my entire life,
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my grandmother said, uh, N word was somebody that was ignorant.
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So when I, uh, saw Nick talking about it, I was like, yeah, these N words get on my nerves
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Yeah, because for me, there was a difference between black and N word, just my entire life.
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He was like, there are black people and then there are N words.
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So to hear him talk about N words, I was literally like, yeah.
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It's, um, I've seen more black people that are right wing and then are conservative in the
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last like 10 years where when I was growing up, I didn't know one probably.
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So it's kind of crazy to see the shift in the black community in the past like decade.
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Um, have you seen that like personally with people you grew up with?
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And I think part of that is because people didn't talk about politics as much when I was
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You just, you don't tell who you're voting for.
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You don't tell kind of where you stand on certain issues.
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And now people are so open about everything that I think we're starting to actually see.
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Um, because I know I have a couple of family members that were conservative long before I
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knew they were, and we're voting that way long before I knew they were.
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And it was just me coming out and being open and honest and being online and being on news
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shows that they, you know, reached out to me family, like, oh, you, you know, um, but I
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do think more, um, more people are being open about it and feeling comfortable about being open.
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There are some people that have messaged me that grew up in my community.
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There are some people that have known me for 30 plus years who will not openly say they
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lean more that way, but I've gotten messages saying, you know, thank you.
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And I'm with you, or I'm proud of you and, or I voted for Trump, you know, they're not
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But it is more, more people being open about it.
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So I have a few news stories I'm going to throw at you.
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So, um, what was your, since you do work, um, with Jason Whitlock, what was your take
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when Joy Taylor, it turned out that she had slept with a bunch of guys at ESPN.
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Now she's getting dragged to do a lawsuit.
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Like, what was your reaction to that whole situation?
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It was funny to me, um, initially, especially with the whole peanut butter skin and big cans.
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I did not think it would actually, she's pretty hot.
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I'm going to give it to her in the face, but I, in the body, not crazy men.
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I never realized this till I did a show, um, where a thousand women came through.
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If they have big butt and boobs, they're like, they don't see it.
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And I, I don't think they're as critical of women as maybe we are.
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Cause I was just fussing the other day, like, why didn't someone, I feel like, you know,
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I'm starting to get dimples in my thighs and I'm like, babe, why didn't you tell me?
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Um, but I thought it was funny initially and I didn't think it would be such a big deal.
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And then when people were starting to tweet about it and, you know, it was kind of trending,
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But I started then hearing some rumors and I was thinking she's mighty brave to not even
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Because if I knew somebody knew all of these personal things about me and they weren't
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Women are so used to being able to dodge things, you know?
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She's thinking nobody's ever going to actually pin me down and everything comes out because
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she's mighty brave to keep running her mouth.
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Like if I was her, the things that I've heard, she should shut up and let this go.
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Because I don't know why I was telling you earlier, I think there's some choices that
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you make as a woman where you just can't tell me anything.
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And I think once you've banged your entire department, you just can't say anything to
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I think once you've, I also got a lot of flack because there is a girl who is an ex-corn
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You just, there's certain life choices where you just can't, you're in the back.
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Once you've done that, you've officially, yeah, you've lost the right to say anything
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I see you coming at her, but I don't know who it is.
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These churches will put them in the front of the room.
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And they'll put them in the front over men that actually have been studying the Bible
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I was going to say, I do feel like people can change and you're right.
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We do love the hero stories, which is why, you know, the pastors that's, oh, I was
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Let's bring, let's bring the past, make the past through the pimp with all the ex-hoes
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Those are always the ones, you know, that people actually flock to a lot.
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Well, I just can't, I don't like when we just, how do I put it?
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I don't like that churches are basically letting hoes take over the church.
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You know, there's a lot of men that have studied for years.
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And now you get to go to the front of the line because you got tag teamed on camera
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and now you checks notes stopped getting tag teamed.
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Don't you think that we, well, again, this goes back to culture, but I noticed like there
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are men who have made great choices, stayed out of prison and nobody celebrates them.
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But the moment somebody goes to prison, they're there 10, 15 years or whatever, they come
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out, everybody's like, oh, you know, throwing them a big party.
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And it's like, because he made a bad decision and had to do time and now he's home.
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Well, what I don't, it just gives the wrong incentives.
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Because why as a woman, why would you not start an OnlyFans, make a bunch of money, say sorry,
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If they're just going to like, it's going to be easy.
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It does make it harder when you're trying to tell young girls.
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Like if you're married, you want the, you want these hoes by your husband?
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It does make it harder though to steer young girls in the right direction when they think
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I can just do what I want in my twenties and my thirties.
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And then when I'm used up, I can accept Jesus and no, everybody will forget.
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And I think it would be better if you put people at the front of the line.
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And like you said, these men that have been studying the Bible and actually doing the
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right thing, like, Hey, you can stay on the right track and yeah, you don't have to have
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I'm like, I'm okay with redemption, but you know, make them work a little bit.
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Anything like when she went on the Michael Knowles show, she did, she's had an active
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She's still, because you can't, you can't delete it after a certain time.
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So that's her excuse is like, um, they pay for the year or something.
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I just, and then every, but I keep pointing out the facts and they get mad at me.
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So she's still, she's kind of playing both sides.
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And I'm like, well, could you wait until it's all gone before you come?
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We could wait, wait a year, you know, wait a year, do some good behavior.
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And then, you know, at least two years minimum.
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But yeah, you want to make sure those roots are solid.
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But no, Joy Taylor, I think should be the next preacher.
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Well, let's, let's wait until her roots are solid.
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Let's see if, you know, she actually makes a turn.
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I'm so, I'm perfectly fine with people doing the 180 and going the opposite direction, actually
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And some people, you know, will do it and it's, it's fun for now.
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And then, oh, it was just, I mean, look at Brittany Renner.
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I didn't, but people actually thought she had changed and that didn't last long at all.
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Brittany Renner is in court seeking to increase the monthly child support payments from NBA
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player, PJ Washington from 5,500 a month to 35,000 a month, citing a higher cost of living
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in California and Washington's improved financial situation.
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A previous North Carolina agreement set the payments at $5,500 monthly and included a
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But Renner claims that is no longer sufficient to provide for their son.
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Um, and I don't know if you've seen, we could probably edit it then, but there's like clips
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of, uh, Renner's just being a bitch to him when he's like picking up his son, throwing
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Um, and he's obviously just like saying, Oh, he's sad when he goes to you.
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Like, well, why would he be cooperative if you're being a dick to him?
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And so one of my pet peeves when it comes to women is they will say things like he wasn't
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If this is a man that wants to be in his child's life, he's not trying to murder the child or,
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But so many times these women are bitter and I feel like Brittany is one of them.
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These women are bitter and they want to punish the man, but you're not punishing the man.
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You're really punishing the child because now the child psychologically, they won't,
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they can't verbalize this, but now they're, you know, trying to figure out who do I choose?
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I don't want to talk favorably about my, my dad because my mom may get upset.
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Or I don't want to talk favorably about my mom because my dad, you're putting them in a place
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where they have to choose and they don't know what to do.
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One of the things that for me, when we went our separate ways, we never followed any type
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And I felt like I chose to have these children.
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So at least until they were 18, they were at the front, which meant if I couldn't move on,
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Like, you know, if my daughter had a basketball game, we're sitting right there together.
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She's not looking all over the gym trying to find her mom and then trying to find her dad
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because they don't get along, you know, we never did that.
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And it was like, the one, the youngest, oh, she's 15, three more years, you know,
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But so many of these women are bitter and they're angry and they want to hurt the man
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But you never made sure the man, didn't even try to have a relationship.
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Don't you think she would get further with a plate of cookies and saying, here's your son?
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Men accept so much with just a nice apology and being nice to them.
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Yeah, so a lot of times when it's like the man left, I always think, well, why did he leave?
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It's possible maybe you were being so insufferable that he had to, you know.
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And sometimes it's more peaceful to just say, I'll wait until my child is 18.
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And it's sad because I see, I can't even think of her name, Erica Mena, I think.
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She's constantly online talking down about safari.
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And I'm just thinking if I had to deal with that, I wouldn't be around either.
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I don't want to hear somebody bitching at me every time they're around.
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Sometimes people aren't the best boyfriend or husband with their good dads.
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And just because someone's not good at that role, it doesn't mean they're a bad father.
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Seriously, if I had to listen to that, women get on my nerves as a woman.
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My friends know, my female friends, don't send me a long text message.
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I don't want us to talk about our feelings and our emotions.
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If I'm not sleeping with you, I don't want that type of interaction.
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And so I know if I'm that way as a woman, for a man.
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So what do you think about Brittany asking for $35,000 a month?
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She wants money to support her and her lifestyle and her choices because what do you need $35,000 for a month?
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I thought there was maybe a cap in that state, but I guess not.
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And we did a show together and it was in Vegas.
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So, but we went out to dinner like the day before the crash out.
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And I remember now that this is coming out and she's saying, oh, I like, oh, I can't afford my lifestyle.
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And I'm like, we just casually went out to like a steak dinner.
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Like when you're really pinching, because I went from like doing really well to getting demonetized.
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So that was a very different like income category.
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And so I had to cut back on a lot of expenses, obviously.
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And like eating out is one of the first things to go.
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It's like, so I'm like, you can't be eating out and traveling and doing all this stuff and saying you need more money.
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Like you're just living a lifestyle you can't afford.
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Because she could have stayed in North Carolina so that the living expenses would have been a bit lower.
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Like again, when you have children, you make sacrifices.
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So for me, those sacrifices last for as long as they last.
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And you know what it is when you're dating an athlete.
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There's plenty of engineers that you can date that will be faithful.
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But you'd have a higher chance, like an engineer, an accountant, like a more boring job in a way.
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So she said, they said she went to every single away game her husband ever had.
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And she was like right up under him every moment.
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But I just, for Brittany, I think she's a gold digger.
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You said when we were talking, the dumbest one, I guess.
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And I don't care how much she sits in front of her camera and tries to talk and sound intelligent.
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You can look at her life choices and see she's not that smart.
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She could make those sacrifices to stay in North Carolina.
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Or if you say, hey, my career is leading me to California.
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Take your little $5,000 and make that work in California the best that you can.
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But it doesn't mean that you deserve any type of increase.
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And if you can't, you know, get an OnlyFans or, you know, do what the other girl did.
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I think at this point, I think she should drop an OnlyFans.
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Like, she's still going to be hot for probably like five more years, maybe.
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She's got like five years of being hot enough to make money on OnlyFans.
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A smart man for sure is not going to marry her.
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She, most people will see her as a liability, even the way that she's handling P.J. Washington.
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Like, they will see, okay, this is a liability because the video that came out as we were
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talking earlier when she just threw the camera in his face and, oh, the child is crying.
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First of all, shouldn't the child be like walking by now and able to verbalize?
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And when he said, that's because you baby him, that may be the case because that child
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should be old enough to be walking and talking.
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But she was treating it as if the baby was like a year old and that's not the case.
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There's so many of them that I could say liability, but hey.
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Well, I think we're going to go to the next section of the show.
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So what we're going to do is I'm going to show you some of the songs we've made on the
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Now, these are obviously struggle songs to some degree.
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I don't know if you rap or you sing or whatever.
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And then I'll do a random word generator and we'll come up with one together.
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One time I might have money for a pianist, but go on.
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Because I was like, she's too willing to do it.
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And those lashes, they need to slash is a black fatigue.
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Take out the lashes or you'll get lashes and create slashes of black fatigue.
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I'm going to be in trouble, though, for talking about lashes.
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So then, we're going to do a random word generator, number three.
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Joy Taylor banged all the dudes at the office.
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We all thought that she got her job because she was good at it.
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But it turns out that hoes are going to blow.
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With her peanut butter skin and big hands, we just want her to shut up and just go into oblivion.
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But hoes are going to hoe and keep showing up.
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Hoes are going to hoe and keep putting out.
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Hoes are going to hoe and keep trying to sleep to get ahead and give head to get ahead.
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And now we've got Brittany Renner begging for more money.
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She's crying on Instagram and it's kind of funny.
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Brittany Renner was Muslim like a year ago.
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She couldn't stop because hoes are going to hoe.
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Welcome to the extended Pearl Daily, where today we're going to be reacting.
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I'm going to show you some girls on TikTok.
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And then we're going to, I want to get your thoughts.
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No, my new study page, but they would always take my videos down.
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It's like, so all the liberal women just get to go no.
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She says one in three women have a backup guy.
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Just sitting on standby in case her current relationship doesn't work out.
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It's an ex she still talks to, a friend who flirts a little too much, or a guy who's always
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made it clear if she's ever single, he'll be first in line.
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He's showing up, staying faithful, trying to build something real.
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And she's got a safety net just in case he stumbles.
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If roles were reversed and he had someone waiting in the background, wouldn't that feel like
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Because the truth is, if you are halfway out the door when telling someone you were all
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You're just keeping them close until something better comes along.
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Be the kind of person who doesn't need a backup because they know how to show up for the one
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So I think there's some truth to what she was saying.
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There are some things that I feel like may be a little bit off.
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And I would just say for myself personally, I do think that there are men that they don't
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I just feel like whether I'm, I could be 65, they'll say, hey, you're single?
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I feel like she presented it as if there's some constant communication and it doesn't always
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Though I do understand that's that way for some women.
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I think a lot of women would go crazy though if men constantly had female.
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I know some men do, but it's not common where they can have female friends that are just
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And so I don't think it's good to have people in your life that are just sitting waiting.
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I don't have those type of male friends, but I do know that there are men, even in my
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past that would say, oh, I heard you were single.
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Oh, 45, soon to be 46 year old, single mom by choice, had a baby with a donor, different
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I know there's black woman fatigue, but I do have white woman fatigue.
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Cause I don't really see black, you know, if black women want to be single mothers, they
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They go find, they go find that, they go find the irresponsible guy that doesn't want to
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be a dad and they go find him, they go get pregnant.
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We got to go to a sperm donor, spend all this money.
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So I just, I, I know a woman that did this and she had like twit single mother by choice
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And I'm like, yeah, I never think it's really by choice though.
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I feel like maybe somebody just didn't want her who she wanted.
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Well now out of the choices she has, she's choosing single motherhood.
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86 pounds in the last two years with Olympic different story, different video.
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Um, and it's out there really trying to find a great partner.
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Um, cause let me tell you, the struggle is real and it is not easy.
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I mean, I would certainly say that most men in my age group, their children are older.
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So I can see how starting to date someone who has a two and a half year old might not be
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So how old were your kids when you started dating again?
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Did you notice a difference when your kids were older?
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Cause my thought is once the kids are like 16, men don't care as much about you having
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And then also, again, I was telling you earlier how he was just so present in our lives.
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I could never really get to a serious relationship because no man wants the old man sitting at
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Cause she's saying it's not cause of the kids, but, but young kids are so like, from what I've
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spoken to men, it's like one thing when they're teenagers and they're kind of out of the house
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They're not, they're not around as much, but like a two-year-old, a two-year-old.
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And if he has older kids, he doesn't really want to deal with a two-year-old.
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Um, you know, but I think with all these apps and everything, what happens is I get aged
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out, you know, for me personally, this is just how I feel.
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So I want to date someone within five years of me, ideally between 45 and 50.
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But I was thinking if he were to ever be single again, he would, oh no.
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He's done with kids at that age, they're, no, they're done.
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It's time for grandparent when you got to, you get to love them and send them home.
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And I know you could say, well, you're going to have to go younger and find a guy that doesn't
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I tell her it's time to go for those 25 year old men that don't really, I would recommend
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That's, but if we're going to go strategy here, I don't think the older men are going
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And she's going to have to have someone who also has a child that young.
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You know, someone who's 52, 55, that's not really that much older.
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They, a lot of these men that got served up to me, they look like my dad and I don't really
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You look like they're, I don't think she's looked in the mirror lately.
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And because I am a confident and secure woman, I can say that I think I'm a huge
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movie and I think I look really good, but I feel.
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That's why I always say, okay, I'm fine being my age.
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I'm compelled to have to like lie on these apps and say that I'm 40 so that I fit into, you
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And yes, I do disclose that I am actually 45, but for a long time I resisted doing that
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And I didn't want any introduction or entry point into a relationship with somebody to
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And then I decided to get over it because I just wasn't being served up men that I felt
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So the minute I tweaked that, I will say the men and the apps that were served up to me
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But then you get pumped and dumped because you know, that's.
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If you were that confident, I just feel like you could go to the grocery store and you don't
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I had a friend that I would say she was a nine back, back in the day.
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People have no idea how, if you were a nine, you would know because she would get free concerts,
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It can feel incredibly empowering to embark on this journey independently, much more so
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It's also possible that you might feel grief and overjoyed all simultaneously.
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Grief for the life that you imagined that you were going to be living and joy for what
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At that point, just go find a guy out of your league and be a single mother.
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I mean, look, I don't want to advocate for that because obviously that's the wrong thing
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But I just think IVF, you might as well just go be a single mom.
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It's the wrong thing to do, but I would, I just, I think it's, I'd rather her go and
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just be a single mom to some dude out of her league and be a side piece forever.
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Then you're opening me to a league I didn't know existed.
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This is, there's like white people things and black people things.
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And this is just the white, I see white women, sometimes Asian women.
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I think it's, it's a lot of marketing women.
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What I've noticed, cause it's very expensive to do it.
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So it's a lot of the women that go the corporate America.
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And last and most importantly, your child can thrive in a single mom environment.
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Being single now for like over two years, even more actually at this point.
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Any interaction with a man for like over two years from the work that I do, but that
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I get very overwhelmed, like after a day and end up like just deleting the app again.
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I'm going to treat it like a job and literally going through the apps is like having a part-time
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I think just because that's, um, it's the age thing.
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I'm not worried about my future husband seeing this because my future husband is definitely
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My man to be very down to earth, completely obsessed with only me.
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Most likely a tradie, like a mechanic, a plumber, an electrician, something like that.
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And he runs his own business and yeah, he works really hard to provide for the family
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And he's going to like balance out my neuroses a little bit.
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Italians are like, you know, too high strung.
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He's going to let me have my silly little business that doesn't make much money, but
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feels like I'm doing something and I'm going to give him a really nice home.
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The biggest problem over the years is I keep going for Aussie white guys who just won't
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This is like the longest I've ever been single.
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Well, because she is in her age, so I think she's in her 20s.
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And when you're in your 20s as a woman, you're kind of automatically a six.
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So in her age bracket, she's going to probably be a four for her age.
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You got to get a divorced guy who just doesn't care anymore.
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And I really had to evaluate like what I actually want instead of like what I was attracted to.
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Yeah, like a black divorced guy, I think would be good.
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I'm going to say about me like leaving it very late because I'm 38 years old.
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You know why I thought she was in her 20s?
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Because sometimes, no offense, white women look older.
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But seriously, my new husband is not going to care.
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It's just more that the last two years, I have literally done everything I can to avoid
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I'm going to download Bumble, Hinge, and Tinder.
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I'm going to try them all and I'm going to treat it like a job.
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No, I don't believe that she's been doing everything to avoid a relationship.
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I'm getting ready, but yeah, I'm going to go find a husband.
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I'm going to play a little music while I'm getting ready, but yeah, I'm going to go find
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Okay, I might not be successful, but we're going to try.
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I'm also trying to figure out where I'm going to find a husband.
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Do you think an unemployed black guy, would he do it?
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If she has her own place and he needs a place to stay, he's homeless, he needs a car, he
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A successful black man, she's not going to get that.
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I'm thinking if she goes white, you got to go for the destiny looking white guys.
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He actually gets hot women because he's a streamer, but his look, I think would be pretty
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Because there's some that are just like this kind of look, like the liberal, like there's
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some, you ever seen the like, um, feeder relationships.
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Like if you ever see my 600 pound life, um, let's see.
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Sometimes those guys, I think, let's see, let's see what type of guy she could get.
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I'm never going to say she won't find anybody because there's always a man who will.
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I don't think that per se, but there's always a guy that'll put up with it.
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This guy, he's actually decent looking is the sad part.
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But just comparison, you know, let's, let's go back to our, our lady over here.
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I would go to like a Home Depot or something, but I don't want to go to Home Depot and I
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Every time I use this primer or every time I see it, I'm reminded.
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She has to be eating like 4,000 calories a day.
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When I was in college, I obviously didn't have any money.
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Me and my friend Jasmine would walk to the mall and I would get.
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And I think if I remember correctly, one time they like denied me.
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And so I stopped going to the Sephora and I started going like to the Macy's department
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counter because those people didn't know me and I would get samples from them.
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I'm going to do my eyebrows the same way I always do.
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I saw a couple of comments on some videos asking where like my dating content is.
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Y'all, these men, I don't know what's happening.
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She spends money on her nails, but clearly she does not spend any money on a gym membership.
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And I, when I was heavier, I actually didn't work out at all to lose weight because I wanted
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You can 10,000 steps, 1200 calories a day when you're cutting.
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I found it was more of the sugar drinks than anything.
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So I'm trying to think, other than Home Depot or like Lowe's, I'm thinking maybe Dick's
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It was like, at least in there, I could probably find something to buy or like pretend to buy.
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I think we know what foundation I'm about to use today.
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And like, I've also been talking to a new guy, but he doesn't live here.
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Again, I'm always meeting men who don't live in Atlanta.
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One fat woman in particular, she had this relationship and she was always taking care of the man.
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I'm telling, like, the place was decorated nicely.
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Then I'm going to go in with this little bitty Too Faced Fruitcake Palette.
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I'm going to add a little bit of like white.
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You saw she put those lashes on and everything.
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On the inner parts, just to open the eye up a little bit.
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I'm going to go in with this one from Juvia's Place.
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I stopped at Chick-fil-A because I need like a little sweet little treat, a little drink.
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I swear most of the time when women are fat, it's because of the sugary drinks.
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I wouldn't, if I would see, this is what I'm saying.
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You cannot correct and redirect women because why would you even at that size put out there
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Like, you could have left that part out of the video.
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I got my little drink, which I've drunk most of this by now.
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It ended up being a cherry berry frosted lemonade.
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I think my goal is to like, if I see a guy that I think is cute to like maybe say something.
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I don't know what I would say, but like if they're looking at something, they're like,
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They'd be like the basketball shoes department.
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Yeah, this is why I think in the future, like people just aren't out the way they used to be.
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I would, I mean, I would tell her to lose weight, but you got to go to the dating app route.
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I'm sure she'll get past a little bit, but one will bound to stick around.
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If she can be pleasant enough, someone will do it.
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No guys waiting for sex with a woman that big.
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Like 45 bajillion, because that is her only shot.
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Starting with my vision board, I did put a man on my vision board in 2024.
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I would put 30 to 35 age bracket, I'm guessing.
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So, she's going to be a four, I would say.
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But the problem with four is, is they're going to get to sleep with sixes to sevens in men.
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Because then they start to think they deserve that.
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Like, because most guys would do this on a slow Tuesday.
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I'm actually going to show you my vision board in another video.
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I'll just tell you how ChatGPT is going to help me find my husband.
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Basically, for years, I've had a list of all of the things.
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All of the traits, characteristics, everything that I want.
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It's going to be long because she's banging his friends.
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Even if you don't do what I'm about to say next.
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I said, if I want a man who has all of the qualities below, what type of woman do you think he would want?
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And then ChatGPT says all of these traits that this man's ideal woman would have.
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Based on these qualities, what would the daily activities or schedule be of this woman?
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Would I recommend any plastic surgery to this woman?
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Like some long bangs and maybe like pull her hair towards her face so that you can't see her fat, her cheeks up.
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Between the wake up, the workouts, the breakfast, the work, everything.
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I'm going to follow this schedule until I find my husband.
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This is the most, this one actually isn't, isn't how I put it.
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So we could just say, girl, that's not happening.
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Back to my list often to make sure that I'm not veering from the list.
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I met my husband in three days, believe it or not.
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I went on Muzz, a marriage app, which I did not ever imagine my entire life.
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I can always tell when women are serious about finding someone.
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They're like, I will go on a date every single day.
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When women think they're above dating apps, I think generally, if they're, especially if
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they're not overly attractive, it's like, they're not going to approach you.
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Day one, I was like, oh my God, I'm not doing this.
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The app has really good features for you to find the right person.
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Don't get discouraged if you don't find somebody right away.
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They say it takes 15 dates usually on average for people to find someone on a dating app.
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Because they work with people and they said on average, it's 15 dates.
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I think if it's in person or you meet through social circle, it's probably less.
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But for what I've seen, people go on a lot of first dates off of dating apps, not a lot of second or third.
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I do know two people that met on Match.com and they've been married like over 20 years.
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Well, it usually allows women to date a little bit more out of their league because there's just not that many women on the apps.
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And it gives them access to men like out of the area too.
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So if a guy's in a place with ugly women, but he's good looking.
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That's why the downside is you do run a higher risk of getting pumped and dumped, obviously, because the guys that are running through the apps, they're running.
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I have a friend, he goes through a hundred women a year.
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So it's like, they, they do this, they, they basically, yeah.
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So PUA is like, they study dating women pretty much.
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So he's just like a professional womanizer and he teaches men that are kind of awkward how to do it.
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So for 10 years, he approached women in person.
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Like this guy, it's very interesting talking to these guys because they've just been like through.
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So a guy like that, he's going through a hundred women a year.
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Or, you know, if you get on a date with him, you're going to fall for everything.
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So there are more like predators and stuff on the apps.
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Not that I think he's a predator because a lot of the women want the casual sex too.
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A lot of guys that'll have like a leg up on you, but there's also nice guys there.
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So she might be the best looking one we've seen.
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I graduated with approximately $500,000 worth of student loan.
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When I was in school, we actually had like a couple hour seminar on student loan debt.
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So the challenge you get with women is we don't like doing the job, but we like the title and the prestige.
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So most of the doctor, I'm assuming she's a doctor or something like that.
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She kind of looks like a dermatologist or something.
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Where men will stick it out and pay off the debt and make a lot of money.
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How you can go around repaying it could either be through working for a nonprofit where you make way less money.
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But at the time, they had promised that the loans would be forgiven after 10 years.
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The other way was to do income-based repayment.
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And during the seminar at my school, I raised a lot of concern.
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I told people around me and I also asked the professors like, hey, the administration changes every four years.
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How are you guaranteeing that this works for people in the future?
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You were aware of how stupid the decision was.
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I was very lucky that I was one of the few that was not duped.
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But with that much student loan, I knew I needed an action plan.
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And so I decided to move to a state that had no state income tax.
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So I would work around 12 to 16 hours, five days a week.
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And then on the weekends, I would go and substitute into other clinics and work there.
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So essentially, I was working six to seven days a week, most weeks, the first couple years
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Burdensome amount of debt that I knew I had to repay.
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And so I worked my butt off to get a lot of that paid down in the first two years alone.
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It was actually very stressful and very horrible.
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And I didn't feel comfortable or confident relying on the government or anybody else to like save me from my own student loans.
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A lot of people are coerced into taking out high student loans without really understanding the implications of it.
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And that's something that needs to be addressed.
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I was about to say, she sounded so responsible until she said, you're coerced into it.
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Women are too, like, we're too lazy to do the work of understanding the contract.
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And so then we get mad that we take a bad contract.
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No, because it's women want to go to college.
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Like, there is no reason why a school should be charging hundreds of thousands of dollars to get through and start your career.
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So I want to see if she's a dermatologist.
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And she's staying in shape after having a child.
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Yeah, she seems like a former eight plus, now, like, strong six, seven.
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But I bet back in the day, she's really attractive.
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So what did you think of the modern people on the Internet?
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It made me, though, feel like I'm just a little bit out of touch because seeing those videos,
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I'm like, oh, it's women across the board.
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Um, if they go to ShamikaMichelle.com, find me there.
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Thanks for watching, guys, and we'll see you next time.