Pearl - Even Shemeka Michelle Has Black Fatigue

00:00:00.000 I am your host, Pearl, and today I'm the Audacity Network.

00:00:09.820 What up, guys? Welcome to another episode of Pearl Daily.

00:00:14.060 Today, we have our first guest in our new studio.

00:00:17.160 Welcome to the show, Shamika Michelle.

00:00:19.060 Hi. Thank you for having me. I'm excited.

00:00:22.880 So she, your co-host on Jason Whitlock's Fearless show,

00:00:26.940 or commentator?

00:00:27.600 One of his contributors.

00:00:28.300 Contributors, okay.

00:00:29.240 You were a Fox News contributor, and you were an author.

00:00:33.160 Yes.

00:00:33.540 And you were also a housewife for 20 years, right?

00:00:36.740 Yes. Yes.

00:00:37.860 Okay.

00:00:38.160 Yeah.

00:00:38.900 So how did you get into cultural and political commentary?

00:00:42.860 By mistake.

00:00:43.940 I would say by mistake because so after I got divorced,

00:00:48.040 I started a group called Naked Girls.

00:00:52.680 So it's a long story.

00:00:54.000 Okay.

00:00:54.280 I was wondering why it said Naked Girls.

00:00:57.040 That's why you called.

00:00:58.040 Oh, yes.

00:00:58.900 That's why.

00:00:59.820 I was so confused.

00:01:02.500 Right.

00:01:03.100 Like, who is this?

00:01:04.340 Yeah, because we just been texting into it today.

00:01:05.660 I was like, what did she do in another life?

00:01:07.940 Yes.

00:01:08.920 Okay, give me the backstory.

00:01:10.400 That's what it is.

00:01:11.200 Okay, so in high school, me and my group of friends, we called ourselves The Girls.

00:01:17.020 Okay.

00:01:17.320 G-I-R-L-Z.

00:01:19.680 It was just like our little group in high school.

00:01:22.640 Everybody had different groups.

00:01:24.520 We called ourselves like little sororities and fraternities.

00:01:27.740 We were called The Girls.

00:01:29.480 So when I started this group, I was like, we should start a blog,

00:01:33.420 and we should just, you know, tell our feelings and be open,

00:01:37.020 because I made a post on Facebook just talking about how I hated divorce

00:01:42.980 and that I didn't understand how people were celebrating divorce

00:01:46.840 and having all of these divorce parties.

00:01:49.540 I thought it was stupid.

00:01:51.300 And so I told my friends, these same group of women, I said,

00:01:55.600 I poured my feelings out on Facebook, you know,

00:01:58.540 don't let everybody crucify me for being a naked girl.

00:02:04.260 And because, you know, we were the girls,

00:02:06.620 and so they were like, naked girls, we love it.

00:02:10.660 That's what we should call our blog.

00:02:12.560 I'm sorry.

00:02:13.740 It's just like women.

00:02:15.100 Right.

00:02:15.720 So we were like, that's what we should call our blog.

00:02:18.860 So that's what we did.

00:02:20.800 So that's why my phone says naked girls,

00:02:23.700 because the blog was my idea,

00:02:26.800 but we didn't know like what name we were going to call it.

00:02:30.300 And so that's how that was born.

00:02:32.460 Okay.

00:02:32.960 And so then you started commentating on different cultural and political issues.

00:02:36.780 Like, what did you write about?

00:02:38.080 Mostly cultural.

00:02:39.740 So did you look up my book?

00:02:42.160 You did.

00:02:43.060 Yes.

00:02:43.280 So you understand it was a huge marketing mistake,

00:02:46.960 but mostly, mostly cultural.

00:02:50.760 Why?

00:02:51.860 Because so we had what we call the naked nation.

00:02:56.240 Like once we started naked girls and started writing,

00:02:59.640 we got a lot of followers.

00:03:01.560 So we had naked girls, Texas, naked girls, Michigan.

00:03:06.320 And we were just growing.

00:03:09.340 And so.

00:03:09.940 Well, yeah, it sounds like strip.

00:03:10.940 I thought it sounded like strippers.

00:03:13.120 Yes.

00:03:13.460 And so only the people in naked nation understood that naked meant open,

00:03:19.440 honest, and emotionally exposed.

00:03:21.080 So me thinking here, a woman again, oh, this would be a great play on words.

00:03:26.780 Let me just be naked on the front of the book.

00:03:29.280 Not thinking, duh, it's naked.

00:03:33.260 And people outside of naked nation are going to think they're traditional naked.

00:03:39.900 Duh.

00:03:40.880 And yeah, it was like hindsight is 2020.

00:03:43.800 But at the time it felt like a great idea.

00:03:48.980 So we, I, we started, um, naked girls, naked nation was growing.

00:03:54.640 And I was just mostly doing cultural commentary.

00:03:57.400 And so the book came across or came up because people would always ask for my advice.

00:04:02.720 And so I said, well, let me take everything and just put it in a book.

00:04:06.000 So I did that, but in 2017, I put out a video that said, um, Father's Day is for men.

00:04:15.980 And I got a lot of pushback and a lot of pushback from black women.

00:04:21.140 Because all the mothers want to take credit.

00:04:22.980 It's like, men can't have anything.

00:04:24.800 Right.

00:04:25.480 It's like, they're like, can we have this one day of the year?

00:04:28.080 One day.

00:04:28.500 They're like, this is one day.

00:04:30.080 Can we get credit for being dads?

00:04:32.420 Okay.

00:04:32.820 And they're like, no.

00:04:34.200 Right.

00:04:34.500 Without, without any qualifiers, because they will also say to all the good dads or to all the dads that were around or to all the dads, I don't know, you know, with a fade or with a fro, whatever.

00:04:47.660 But that doesn't happen on Mother's Day.

00:04:49.880 You know, it's just happy Mother's Day.

00:04:52.620 You could be, uh, on crack and people will still just say happy Mother's Day.

00:04:57.880 So I put out a video letting women know you can't be the mother and the father.

00:05:01.800 And I thought this was common sense, but I got a lot of pushback, mostly from black women.

00:05:08.020 They ended up after like a million views, may have hit two million, I can't remember.

00:05:13.320 Facebook took my video down.

00:05:15.140 And I was...

00:05:16.080 They took it down?

00:05:17.000 They took it down.

00:05:17.820 They took it down.

00:05:19.580 That's not even bad.

00:05:20.900 That's what I thought.

00:05:21.560 That's not even, uh, I mean, I've said way worse.

00:05:24.520 Yeah, that's what I thought.

00:05:26.140 And I was always getting in trouble, but I didn't understand why.

00:05:30.120 Everything that I was saying, I thought was just common sense.

00:05:33.520 So then 2018, I said, I'm going to put the same video up, you know, you know, I'm going

00:05:39.640 to do it again.

00:05:40.780 And then I couldn't get in my account.

00:05:43.420 After that, it was like, I couldn't get into my account.

00:05:46.900 So my friend said, just start posting on Twitter.

00:05:51.340 And I said, but I don't have any followers on Twitter.

00:05:54.080 They don't want to hear from me, you know?

00:05:55.820 Yeah.

00:05:56.020 And she said, you're just, you just like Facebook because your friends are there.

00:06:00.380 You have followers there.

00:06:02.040 Put your thoughts on Twitter.

00:06:03.600 So I started putting my thoughts on Twitter.

00:06:06.140 And this was during like, um, mostly the Kavanaugh trial.

00:06:11.360 Yeah.

00:06:11.860 And conservatives started flocking to me.

00:06:15.160 And at first I didn't know why.

00:06:16.820 I was like, what are they doing?

00:06:18.720 Because I had always been told conservatives were racist or, you know, bigots or whatever.

00:06:24.560 But they loved my message.

00:06:27.160 And I just thought, this is just common sense stuff.

00:06:30.460 And it wasn't so common sense, I realized.

00:06:34.440 And so during the Kavanaugh trial, you got a lot of attention.

00:06:37.400 Because I'm guessing you, you didn't believe the accusation?

00:06:41.460 No.

00:06:41.980 I thought it was stupid.

00:06:43.600 I have daughters.

00:06:44.600 Oh, really?

00:06:45.160 I was like, I knew you'd have sons.

00:06:46.840 Okay.

00:06:47.060 No, I have daughters.

00:06:48.620 And it just, it, not only do I have daughters, I'm a product of rape.

00:06:53.200 So it will come back to that because people would say, so you, you think it's okay for

00:06:57.940 women to be raped?

00:06:59.140 That's not what I'm saying.

00:07:00.480 It was just that I didn't believe it.

00:07:03.360 I don't like women that wait 20, 30, 40 years to come out with a story.

00:07:08.740 It's always once the man is famous and they feel like they can get attention or money.

00:07:13.840 And I just feel like if you've held it for that long, keep holding it.

00:07:18.700 I know that sounds really heartless, but you know.

00:07:22.920 Yeah.

00:07:23.060 Like what's the point?

00:07:24.060 What's the point?

00:07:25.040 Yeah.

00:07:25.380 And so I was aggravated because I was sick of seeing it.

00:07:29.420 And it just seemed like.

00:07:30.920 And he seemed like such a nice guy too.

00:07:33.220 Yeah.

00:07:33.520 I mean, like he had like, I mean, they tore through his entire life and they found pretty

00:07:38.000 much nothing other than this crazy woman who said something happened 40 years ago.

00:07:42.860 Exactly.

00:07:43.600 And so for me, I just, um, I was like, you know, we, you have IP, what'd I say?

00:07:52.860 IPB irresponsible pussy behavior.

00:07:56.800 And so take ownership of that.

00:08:00.040 You are irresponsible as a woman and nobody should be blamed for that at all.

00:08:07.320 And so I just didn't buy into it.

00:08:10.020 So one of my concepts I have on my show is called as women, we need to learn to take the

00:08:15.640 L better.

00:08:16.660 Right.

00:08:17.520 Sometimes, you know, stuff happens when you're a woman.

00:08:20.120 You don't always get what you want.

00:08:21.200 You get married and you get divorced.

00:08:22.980 Exactly.

00:08:23.380 It doesn't, it doesn't mean that he was abusive.

00:08:25.680 You just took an L.

00:08:26.840 Exactly.

00:08:27.440 It happens.

00:08:28.280 You know, sometimes you sleep with a guy, you're hoping that you'll date.

00:08:33.040 He goes, that's an L.

00:08:34.740 It's an L.

00:08:35.400 That's an L.

00:08:36.380 But it doesn't mean you got great.

00:08:38.940 I say great for YouTube.

00:08:40.340 Okay.

00:08:40.680 It doesn't.

00:08:41.420 Yeah.

00:08:41.800 It doesn't mean you got great.

00:08:43.320 It just means you took it out.

00:08:44.780 Right.

00:08:45.100 Why is women?

00:08:46.200 Can't we just take L's on the chin?

00:08:48.920 Like men, when they take an L, when a girl calls them creepy or weird, they just eat it.

00:08:54.360 Right.

00:08:54.640 They eat it and say, all right, well, I'll go to the next girl.

00:08:57.500 Yeah.

00:08:57.840 Why can't we have that mentality and just, why can't we just move?

00:09:01.320 I understand it's unfortunate.

00:09:03.400 The men are always going to date younger and hotter.

00:09:05.660 It's not, if it's not, if your ex is going to do better, it's when they have forever.

00:09:12.700 It just is what it is.

00:09:13.680 But we can, like, I just don't get it.

00:09:15.920 Why can't we just take the L?

00:09:17.320 Well, I think because we've never had to.

00:09:21.640 Yeah.

00:09:22.240 You know, nobody has really held women accountable to say, no, you're going to be in this position.

00:09:29.960 Don't move to the left.

00:09:30.940 Don't move to the right.

00:09:32.020 You're going to wear this.

00:09:33.520 And you're going to feel through this.

00:09:36.560 And you're going to be okay.

00:09:37.640 Nobody has ever made a woman do that.

00:09:40.040 So they're used to wiggling and, you know, dodging accountability because they never had to wear the L.

00:09:46.960 Yeah.

00:09:47.500 Not, you know.

00:09:48.940 It's just sometimes you can't win.

00:09:50.920 Sometimes there's losers.

00:09:52.040 Yeah, I got in trouble, especially when Cosby was going through the whole thing.

00:09:57.080 I told you I had a blog.

00:09:59.020 And so I was just thinking, like, no, these women thought that they were going to sleep with him.

00:10:04.740 He was going to put them on a TV show or, you know, do something for their career.

00:10:10.640 And when that didn't happen, they were upset.

00:10:14.160 Yeah.

00:10:14.580 And they were mad because 20, 30 years are coming out saying this.

00:10:18.460 We don't know who you are.

00:10:19.880 We don't care.

00:10:21.020 And some of them were actually sleeping with him over and over and over again.

00:10:26.520 Oh, I was with him for two years and I was abused.

00:10:29.640 For two years?

00:10:30.940 You know.

00:10:31.980 You're like torturing him?

00:10:33.300 Okay.

00:10:34.600 So he grates you for two years.

00:10:37.760 He went to jail, didn't he?

00:10:39.120 Yeah.

00:10:39.520 He did for a while.

00:10:41.060 And I just, I don't know, it's just always bothered me because when I think of my mom being 14 and walking

00:10:49.120 through a path and being great, it's totally different from these women who voluntarily

00:10:55.420 go to these men's hotel rooms, take whatever pill he may be given or get drunk.

00:11:02.160 And what do you think you're going for?

00:11:03.880 A game of pinochle?

00:11:05.000 No.

00:11:05.500 Yeah.

00:11:05.720 You're actually going because he wants something from you.

00:11:09.340 Sometimes you sleep with the boss for a job, but he doesn't give you the job.

00:11:13.120 That's an L.

00:11:14.640 Right.

00:11:15.080 That's, that's an L.

00:11:17.040 It's an L and you just have to wear it.

00:11:19.780 They need the L that Laverne and Shirley, remember she had that?

00:11:24.200 I don't know, this is before your time, but just get your little L.

00:11:27.800 Yeah.

00:11:28.160 You just, you can't always take W's.

00:11:30.520 Right.

00:11:31.500 So that's, that's what it is.

00:11:33.860 And so once I started actually just putting myself out there, people just started flocking

00:11:41.540 to me and wanted to just hear, hear what I had to say, because not only was I a woman

00:11:47.660 saying these things, I was a woman with a lot of melanin in my skin saying these things.

00:11:53.740 And did you always think that way or were you more liberal when you were younger?

00:11:57.100 So I voted, voted Democrat, but I feel like I've always had pretty much a lot of the same

00:12:06.000 mindset, except for the whole black power thing.

00:12:09.040 I did go through a black power phase, you know, right fist up.

00:12:14.480 But I think for the most part.

00:12:15.900 And you posted a black square, huh?

00:12:17.780 No, I didn't post a black square.

00:12:20.160 I didn't do that.

00:12:22.180 But I was.

00:12:22.500 You know, I had girls on my volleyball team.

00:12:24.340 They stopped being friends with me because I wouldn't post a black square.

00:12:27.580 Yeah, I didn't post that.

00:12:28.520 I was like, I thought we were friends.

00:12:30.700 Yeah, yeah.

00:12:32.040 They were like, where's your black square?

00:12:34.240 Yeah, I didn't.

00:12:34.900 That was stupid.

00:12:35.680 Sorry.

00:12:36.380 But keep going, keep going.

00:12:37.220 Tell them they were stupid.

00:12:38.140 You had a black power phase.

00:12:40.000 What was that about?

00:12:40.960 So I think just the amount of people that I was around, you know, I feel like for a lot

00:12:47.960 of people with a lot of melanin, I'm trying to un-black myself.

00:12:52.080 So a lot of times I don't say black because I'm un-blacking myself.

00:12:56.720 You can.

00:12:56.740 Okay.

00:12:57.260 I was like, you can't.

00:12:58.540 I don't care.

00:12:58.980 Yeah, I'm so sick of it.

00:13:00.840 But, you know, just victims and everything was skin-based.

00:13:06.820 Yeah.

00:13:07.060 And so it's like, oh, well, this is happening.

00:13:10.460 It must be because I'm black.

00:13:12.260 Or this is happening for somebody else.

00:13:14.560 It must be because they're black.

00:13:16.560 And I wasn't forced to kind of look at other reasons that it could be.

00:13:22.840 And so I went through that phase where I would say, you know, white people with big noses,

00:13:30.000 stay out of our business.

00:13:31.360 You know, I just went through that phase.

00:13:33.960 And not understanding or not even looking at statistics, especially when social media

00:13:39.680 kept putting out there, there was a black man being killed by police.

00:13:44.720 They make it seem as if they're dropping dead every day.

00:13:47.720 You know, like it's happening across the country.

00:13:50.960 When I was young, I wouldn't say, like, the first scandal I remember, I think it was Trayvon

00:13:58.200 Martin.

00:13:58.920 Okay.

00:13:59.340 So I think I was in high school or early college.

00:14:02.160 Okay.

00:14:02.920 I just, no, no, no, no.

00:14:04.640 Trayvon was the young one.

00:14:05.840 It was the guy in Ohio.

00:14:07.240 The, I can't remember his name, but I just, I'll give you the, when I, I remember the way

00:14:12.640 the media said it.

00:14:13.860 I thought that he was just gunned down by police.

00:14:16.620 Right.

00:14:16.940 And I can't, it turns out the facts of the case came out.

00:14:20.340 I think it was Brown, something Brown.

00:14:22.180 Night Brown.

00:14:22.700 I think so.

00:14:23.320 And then he was like going for the police officer's gun.

00:14:26.540 I think it was Night Brown.

00:14:27.360 Yeah.

00:14:27.740 Yeah.

00:14:28.000 And he had like punched the police officer like 10 times.

00:14:31.500 And I'm like, well, what did you, right?

00:14:33.700 Well, why would you, why would they tell you it the other way?

00:14:36.960 You know, it's like, why wouldn't they just stick to the facts of the case?

00:14:40.100 Yeah.

00:14:40.280 They have to paint a narrative.

00:14:41.780 And I didn't realize that then.

00:14:43.540 It was once I started again, being more in conservative circles and start looking into

00:14:49.940 things that it was like, okay, um, they aren't just being chased and shot down like dogs in

00:14:58.320 the streets.

00:14:58.840 We've been lied to.

00:15:00.120 And the early marketing was really, I understand why people fall for it.

00:15:05.240 I was young, so I wasn't that political at the time.

00:15:08.140 You know, like when you're in high school, you don't really care.

00:15:10.400 And I was old and still, and still wasn't political and getting duped.

00:15:15.580 So I understand why people get duped like that.

00:15:19.020 But so by the time the BLM movement came out around, where were you?

00:15:23.580 Yeah, I didn't fall for it.

00:15:25.760 By the time BLM came out, I had had it up to here.

00:15:29.500 And I think what really tipped me over the edge is I think it was 2017 when they had that

00:15:35.840 day without a woman.

00:15:37.320 And a lot of the women were in DC.

00:15:39.520 I think it was Trump's inauguration.

00:15:41.020 And they had the pink hats.

00:15:43.920 I don't care.

00:15:44.540 The pink.

00:15:45.340 Yeah.

00:15:45.660 It's fine.

00:15:46.300 It's recorded.

00:15:46.980 Yeah.

00:15:47.220 It's fine.

00:15:48.480 And I was so livid.

00:15:51.500 I was just aggravated with it.

00:15:54.740 Sometimes I get embarrassed to be a woman.

00:15:56.860 So like, why would we do that?

00:15:58.160 Yeah.

00:15:58.520 I was so upset.

00:16:00.760 And initially, because I was still kind of like not completely free from the whole black

00:16:07.680 power thing, I just was like, oh, these white women are crazy.

00:16:12.460 Yeah.

00:16:12.720 I didn't even know there was a difference.

00:16:14.920 I mean, a lot of white women are crazy.

00:16:16.980 But I didn't know there was a difference between, let's say, liberal white women or conservative

00:16:22.140 white women.

00:16:22.740 So I just lumped them all together.

00:16:24.360 And all I knew was when I saw that, I said, you know what?

00:16:30.360 I'm done.

00:16:31.500 Women are crazy.

00:16:32.260 Y'all are crazy.

00:16:33.320 I cannot.

00:16:34.860 I mean, I have no choice but to be in the number.

00:16:37.300 But I can't side with it.

00:16:39.460 I'm tired.

00:16:40.440 Well, I was asking more about the BLM stuff.

00:16:43.020 Yeah.

00:16:43.300 Because I think that was the Kavanaugh stuff, right?

00:16:45.680 Well, for me, all of it just.

00:16:49.280 It was all kind of together.

00:16:50.640 Yeah.

00:16:50.980 I was just tired.

00:16:52.420 I was tired of the victim mentality.

00:16:55.000 I was tired of women whining.

00:16:57.320 I was tired of black people whining.

00:16:58.920 And because I had done, like, talks about I don't have a problem with, say, food stamps

00:17:09.020 as long as it's briefly, you know, nobody should have welfare as a way of life.

00:17:15.180 I had talked about the fact that I felt like fathers in the home, they were important.

00:17:21.000 So I don't know.

00:17:21.800 It was something about that day without a woman, which was before, I think, the Kavanaugh hearings,

00:17:29.400 that just kind of started to tip me over the edge where I just was sick of everything and

00:17:35.200 everybody, period, black, white woman, some men, like I just, it was the mindset I think

00:17:44.080 I was starting to hate, but I didn't notice, like, it was definitely the mindset.

00:17:49.000 I still attack people kind of.

00:17:52.400 No, because it's a really big victim.

00:17:54.340 The BLM, when that happened, that was huge at the time.

00:17:57.760 It was, I just remember, like, I remember hearing the riots, like, down the street.

00:18:02.860 Really?

00:18:03.040 Yeah, because I was in Milwaukee, and I just remember the, like, the marching, and then,

00:18:08.320 like, some people were breaking into stores really close to where I lived.

00:18:12.040 I came to Milwaukee to speak.

00:18:13.940 Oh, did you?

00:18:14.520 During that time.

00:18:15.300 Oh, really?

00:18:15.740 In 2020.

00:18:16.980 Okay.

00:18:17.260 Yeah.

00:18:17.540 I was there, too, but I wasn't that political, though, so I was just kind of hanging out.

00:18:22.520 Yeah, I hated it, and I kept trying to tell people the only way they care about a black

00:18:27.560 man is if he's dead.

00:18:28.860 This is, this is a hoax, you know?

00:18:31.380 I had no research.

00:18:33.580 It was just, like, a feeling.

00:18:34.920 It didn't feel right.

00:18:36.140 I knew it was wrong, and so that's just kind of what I went with, you know?

00:18:41.040 No research.

00:18:41.860 I didn't do the Candace Owens, you know, deep dive or any of that, but I knew it didn't

00:18:47.900 feel right, and I just saw black people losing their minds for no reason.

00:18:52.900 So you said earlier, can't remember if it was on camera or not, but I thought it was

00:18:57.640 interesting.

00:18:58.220 You said that in the black community, promiscuity is celebrated.

00:19:03.720 Would you say that's true?

00:19:05.120 Oh, for sure.

00:19:06.120 Degeneracy across the board.

00:19:07.480 And one of the things, and somebody's going to say, that's not true, but when you notice

00:19:13.460 who black people as a whole embrace, or prime example, this is the perfect example, when

00:19:22.400 they would say, Bill Clinton was the first black president.

00:19:25.660 Oh, he's black.

00:19:27.100 Why?

00:19:28.100 Because he blew a saxophone, smoked weed, and got fellatio.

00:19:33.500 I'm going to say that nice and clean, you know?

00:19:36.560 Can't help ourselves.

00:19:37.820 We're just always screwing bosses.

00:19:40.040 Like, that's why they said he was the first black president, though.

00:19:44.360 What else did he do?

00:19:45.540 So it was the degeneracy that they latched onto and started to celebrate, and that's

00:19:52.160 why they liked him.

00:19:53.940 It didn't matter about the 94 crime bill.

00:19:57.040 Nobody was focused on that then.

00:19:59.160 In hindsight, they're like, oh, you know, what about the 94 crime bill?

00:20:03.580 Well, y'all were celebrating it in 94.

00:20:05.940 Yeah.

00:20:06.400 You know, when he was in office, y'all were calling him the first black president.

00:20:10.720 Clinton's charm.

00:20:11.600 Charming men can get away with murder, especially when it comes to politicians.

00:20:15.540 Like, he's a charming guy.

00:20:18.160 He's so likable.

00:20:19.020 I think that's kind of why people didn't really criticize him the same way.

00:20:24.100 Yeah.

00:20:24.940 For black people, they would say he was the first black president, and it was not because

00:20:31.100 he did anything good or substantial in the black community.

00:20:36.300 It was simply because of the things, the degeneracy.

00:20:40.140 Yeah.

00:20:40.360 And it was like, yeah, he's one of us.

00:20:42.820 Excuse me.

00:20:43.800 He's not one of me.

00:20:45.540 So being that you are a product of rape, does that mean, are you pro-life?

00:20:52.340 I am pro-life.

00:20:55.880 And I always think, like, is it because of that?

00:20:59.860 I don't know.

00:21:00.780 But I've always been pro-life.

00:21:02.560 Like, I had it out with friends.

00:21:06.000 One particular friend, she was on her third abortion.

00:21:12.080 And how?

00:21:15.120 You know, you can only get pregnant, like, three days.

00:21:17.660 I mean, you're chanting.

00:21:19.320 But I just, oh, my God, she must be the most irresponsible person ever.

00:21:25.820 Isn't it?

00:21:26.760 It's irresponsibility.

00:21:27.580 One, you can chalk up to, like, not know, but three?

00:21:32.820 Three.

00:21:33.580 She was on her third one.

00:21:35.580 And mind you, at the time, we were 19.

00:21:41.480 Sorry, sorry.

00:21:44.100 Yes.

00:21:45.080 Okay, keep going.

00:21:45.800 Yeah, we were, like, 19.

00:21:47.520 And so I've always been pro-life.

00:21:50.120 And I remember at that time, her mother was mad at me because it seemed like I wasn't being supportive of her.

00:21:58.900 I think maybe her mother thought this was her first one.

00:22:01.920 I don't, you know.

00:22:02.840 And she said her mother wanted to talk to me.

00:22:05.840 She wanted to have a sit-down conversation.

00:22:08.720 And I said, you don't want to bring me into, like, your home to sit and talk with your mom.

00:22:15.320 Like, this is not going to go over well.

00:22:16.960 And her mom, she didn't have the guts to stand up to her mom and say, no, don't talk to Shamika.

00:22:23.960 So, long story short, we're in there, and her mom is ridiculing me for not being a good friend, for not supporting her.

00:22:30.340 Everybody makes mistakes, and I'm being judgmental and whatever, whatever, whatever.

00:22:35.300 And I go, I'm not going to keep supporting her killing kids.

00:22:40.060 This is her third one, you know.

00:22:42.520 And her mom is like, what?

00:22:45.440 What? You're third?

00:22:47.880 And I just sat there like, doo, doo, doo, you know.

00:22:51.000 I don't know if it's because I'm a product of rape.

00:22:55.840 Maybe.

00:22:56.800 But I've just always been pro-life.

00:22:59.820 And I've told the story about having an abortion myself some years later, and it always haunted me.

00:23:08.500 It was just never something that I could get behind and promote, even for myself.

00:23:16.660 Like, it just.

00:23:18.220 How far along were you?

00:23:20.180 I, um.

00:23:22.060 Was it like the surgical or the pill?

00:23:23.720 No, no, no, no.

00:23:25.140 It was the vacuum sucking it out.

00:23:28.620 Oh, my God.

00:23:29.280 Yeah, that's what I did.

00:23:30.620 And I want to say I was seven weeks, and it bothered me so bad because at that time.

00:23:36.100 I thought you said that was the pill.

00:23:37.540 I've just, I've done shows on it before.

00:23:39.320 I thought the pill was before three months.

00:23:41.160 I could be wrong, though.

00:23:42.280 No, they do the vacuum.

00:23:43.420 Oh, okay.

00:23:43.840 Yeah, they do.

00:23:44.800 Or back in that day, I remember, I'm old.

00:23:49.060 Yeah, I don't even, nobody even mentioned a pill then, so I don't even know if a pill was out at that time.

00:23:54.720 But, um, I remember being around seven weeks because I laid there and I said, um, can I see when they did the ultrasound to make sure, you know, before they start to make sure they can see what they're doing?

00:24:09.000 The doctor goes, oh, it's nothing to see.

00:24:10.960 It's just a clump of cells.

00:24:12.080 And then when I actually went in with my second daughter to have my ultrasound, I was only six weeks, and the doctor, we're all standing around me, my husband at the time, my oldest daughter, and we're looking, and the doctor goes, you see right there?

00:24:31.220 That's, that's the heartbeat, and you could see it.

00:24:33.640 And what was supposed to be a happy occasion, I just broke down in tears because I said, if this baby has a heartbeat, then the one I was like a week or two further along definitely had a heartbeat.

00:24:48.820 Was, was it just because you didn't get along with the father of the first kid?

00:24:54.260 Like, what made you?

00:24:55.420 No, I think because I was poor.

00:24:57.660 Oh, you didn't?

00:24:58.100 Yeah, I was poor.

00:24:59.120 And it was like, I can't have a baby.

00:25:04.460 I can't afford it.

00:25:05.760 Yeah.

00:25:06.060 Yeah.

00:25:06.840 So I think that's a silly reason now.

00:25:11.300 But again, I don't try to really condemn people when they feel that way only because I was there.

00:25:17.740 But I'm just not going to be that person that's like, it's your body, your choice, kill it.

00:25:23.000 Yeah.

00:25:23.420 Yeah.

00:25:23.800 I mean, I've kind of given up because I think women will fight so hard to kill their kids.

00:25:28.900 They will.

00:25:29.300 Yeah, you win.

00:25:30.220 Yeah.

00:25:30.800 Yeah.

00:25:31.580 They will.

00:25:32.000 I said that the last liberal I had on to argue this, I was like, yeah, kill it up to birth.

00:25:35.960 I don't care.

00:25:36.720 Yeah.

00:25:36.960 I think it's, I think it's disgusting.

00:25:38.900 Right.

00:25:39.260 If it was up to me, it would be illegal, but it's not.

00:25:41.880 And I just kind of view it like, imagine there's like the Titanic, right?

00:25:46.300 And the Titanic is sinking and there's a lifeboat.

00:25:50.620 And I think of abortion as the Titanic, where if you really try to save that issue, you're

00:25:55.840 going to go down with the boat because it's just, you can't, women have too much voting

00:25:59.780 power.

00:26:00.300 They're never going to give it up.

00:26:01.660 So you can either get on the lifeboat and worry about issues that we could maybe change.

00:26:06.320 Right.

00:26:07.260 But if you, if you like, a lot of them looked at Roe versus Wade as some sort of win,

00:26:13.900 I guess you could maybe say it was.

00:26:15.440 But it's like, if women want abortions, they'll just drive to another state.

00:26:19.080 It's not really, yeah, it's, I don't, yeah.

00:26:22.660 Yeah.

00:26:22.840 It's not the hill that I'm willing to die on simply because I feel like before you get

00:26:27.140 there, there are so many issues.

00:26:28.860 So that's why I try to talk about more culture and really just saying, okay, you know, women

00:26:35.660 be in a better predicament or have some morals, have some values.

00:26:41.920 And so I feel like if I kind of die on that hill, maybe they won't even get to the abortion

00:26:47.540 place because maybe they'll have some morals and values and maybe they'll be in good relationships

00:26:53.700 where they feel like, okay, I can keep this kid and I can be okay.

00:26:58.100 So you don't hear me too much saying, um, murderer, you know, when it comes to abortion,

00:27:06.240 because I just, I try to focus on getting there beforehand.

00:27:10.860 Yeah.

00:27:11.240 Yeah.

00:27:11.660 I saw another interesting video you did, um, saying it was you reacting to a Nick Fuentes

00:27:17.480 clip, um, where he talked about black fatigue and you said you weren't offended.

00:27:23.280 I wasn't offended because I don't know if you're familiar with that Chris Rock, uh, clip where

00:27:30.300 he says there's a difference between, um, black people and I'm, I'm going to say N word.

00:27:37.140 Yeah.

00:27:37.240 You can say it's fine.

00:27:38.340 Okay.

00:27:39.560 Yeah.

00:27:40.280 I prefer to say the word, but, um, um, but he said there's a difference and my entire life,

00:27:51.160 my grandmother said, uh, N word was somebody that was ignorant.

00:27:55.780 So I grew up my entire life thinking.

00:27:58.600 I'm not an N word.

00:27:59.860 And so the term just never offended me.

00:28:04.300 So when I, uh, saw Nick talking about it, I was like, yeah, these N words get on my nerves

00:28:11.380 too, you know, do away with them all.

00:28:15.700 Yeah, because for me, there was a difference between black and N word, just my entire life.

00:28:22.840 And Chris Rock said it.

00:28:23.920 He was like, there are black people and then there are N words.

00:28:26.260 And so I was with that.

00:28:28.000 So to hear him talk about N words, I was literally like, yeah.

00:28:33.460 Yeah.

00:28:33.800 You know, it's interesting.

00:28:35.200 It's, um, I've seen more black people that are right wing and then are conservative in the

00:28:41.920 last like 10 years where when I was growing up, I didn't know one probably.

00:28:46.540 So it's kind of crazy to see the shift in the black community in the past like decade.

00:28:51.160 Um, have you seen that like personally with people you grew up with?

00:28:55.120 Definitely with people I grew up with.

00:28:57.400 And I think part of that is because people didn't talk about politics as much when I was

00:29:02.160 younger, it was kind of like a quiet thing.

00:29:05.080 You just, you don't tell who you're voting for.

00:29:07.660 You don't tell kind of where you stand on certain issues.

00:29:10.780 And now people are so open about everything that I think we're starting to actually see.

00:29:16.960 Oh, they think this way.

00:29:18.880 Whereas maybe beforehand, we didn't know.

00:29:21.680 Um, because I know I have a couple of family members that were conservative long before I

00:29:28.360 knew they were, and we're voting that way long before I knew they were.

00:29:32.800 And it was just me coming out and being open and honest and being online and being on news

00:29:38.860 shows that they, you know, reached out to me family, like, oh, you, you know, um, but I

00:29:46.800 do think more, um, more people are being open about it and feeling comfortable about being open.

00:29:54.120 There are some people that have messaged me that grew up in my community.

00:29:57.940 There are some people that have known me for 30 plus years who will not openly say they

00:30:04.000 lean more that way, but I've gotten messages saying, you know, thank you.

00:30:08.680 And I'm with you, or I'm proud of you and, or I voted for Trump, you know, they're not

00:30:15.140 going to say it openly though.

00:30:16.360 Yeah.

00:30:16.740 Yeah.

00:30:17.100 But it is more, more people being open about it.

00:30:21.020 So I have a few news stories I'm going to throw at you.

00:30:24.100 I want to see your take.

00:30:25.040 So, um, what was your, since you do work, um, with Jason Whitlock, what was your take

00:30:31.420 when Joy Taylor, it turned out that she had slept with a bunch of guys at ESPN.

00:30:36.100 Now she's getting dragged to do a lawsuit.

00:30:38.580 Um, and she's coming at Jason Whitlock.

00:30:41.280 Like, what was your reaction to that whole situation?

00:30:44.360 It was funny to me, um, initially, especially with the whole peanut butter skin and big cans.

00:30:50.980 I did not think it would actually, she's pretty hot.

00:30:54.480 I'm going to give it to her in the face, but I, in the body, not crazy men.

00:31:02.620 I never realized this till I did a show, um, where a thousand women came through.

00:31:08.240 They like, forget women are chubby.

00:31:10.680 If they have big butt and boobs, they're like, they don't see it.

00:31:14.280 And I, I don't think they're as critical of women as maybe we are.

00:31:19.680 Yeah, that's true.

00:31:20.560 Yeah.

00:31:21.020 They're way nicer.

00:31:21.920 Yeah, they are.

00:31:22.560 Yeah, they totally are.

00:31:24.120 That's so true.

00:31:25.180 Yes.

00:31:25.540 Cause I was just fussing the other day, like, why didn't someone, I feel like, you know,

00:31:29.580 I'm starting to get dimples in my thighs and I'm like, babe, why didn't you tell me?

00:31:34.060 Yeah.

00:31:34.460 Yeah.

00:31:35.160 So, yeah.

00:31:36.720 Um, but I thought it was funny initially and I didn't think it would be such a big deal.

00:31:43.400 And then when people were starting to tweet about it and, you know, it was kind of trending,

00:31:48.640 I was like, oh, wow.

00:31:50.320 But I started then hearing some rumors and I was thinking she's mighty brave to not even

00:31:56.660 back away from this.

00:31:58.420 Because if I knew somebody knew all of these personal things about me and they weren't

00:32:04.120 favorable, I would shut up.

00:32:05.540 But that goes back again to women.

00:32:09.540 Women are so used to being able to dodge things, you know?

00:32:13.840 Yeah.

00:32:14.280 She's thinking nobody's ever going to actually pin me down and everything comes out because

00:32:21.820 she's mighty brave to keep running her mouth.

00:32:24.760 Like if I was her, the things that I've heard, she should shut up and let this go.

00:32:31.000 Yeah.

00:32:31.340 Because I don't know why I was telling you earlier, I think there's some choices that

00:32:35.820 you make as a woman where you just can't tell me anything.

00:32:38.840 Right.

00:32:39.120 You cannot.

00:32:40.580 And I think once you've banged your entire department, you just can't say anything to

00:32:46.240 anybody ever.

00:32:47.240 Right.

00:32:47.580 I think once you've, I also got a lot of flack because there is a girl who is an ex-corn

00:32:52.880 star and she's now preaching.

00:32:55.360 And I said that you just can't.

00:32:56.420 I've seen you talk about her.

00:32:57.160 Yeah.

00:32:57.180 You can't tell me anything ever.

00:32:58.820 Sorry.

00:32:59.380 You just, there's certain life choices where you just can't, you're in the back.

00:33:04.320 And I don't put Joy Taylor on Nala Ray.

00:33:07.200 Okay.

00:33:07.620 I don't know anything about her.

00:33:08.780 Once you got tag teamed on camera.

00:33:12.600 What?

00:33:13.500 Yeah.

00:33:13.900 Once you did a double penetration.

00:33:15.540 Once you've done that, you've officially, yeah, you've lost the right to say anything

00:33:20.780 of her.

00:33:21.240 Oh, wow.

00:33:22.060 Yeah.

00:33:22.260 I see you coming at her, but I don't know who it is.

00:33:22.960 But it's crazy.

00:33:23.360 These churches will put them in the front of the room.

00:33:25.760 Yeah.

00:33:25.940 And they'll put them in the front over men that actually have been studying the Bible

00:33:30.220 for you, which is insane.

00:33:31.480 Oh, yeah.

00:33:31.960 That is insane.

00:33:33.740 But they like, they like the hero story.

00:33:35.980 So it's.

00:33:36.340 I was going to say, I do feel like people can change and you're right.

00:33:40.380 We do love the hero stories, which is why, you know, the pastors that's, oh, I was

00:33:45.220 the drug dealer.

00:33:46.260 I was the pimp.

00:33:47.380 I was the, you know.

00:33:48.480 Yeah.

00:33:48.640 You are.

00:33:49.220 Yeah.

00:33:49.620 Okay.

00:33:49.920 Let's bring, let's bring the past, make the past through the pimp with all the ex-hoes

00:33:53.620 and jerks.

00:33:54.380 Right.

00:33:54.420 Come on.

00:33:54.880 That's a good idea.

00:33:55.740 Those are always the ones, you know, that people actually flock to a lot.

00:34:01.040 But, um, I didn't know a lot about her story.

00:34:03.460 I just said, oh, here's Pearl again.

00:34:05.460 So I, I had no clue who she was.

00:34:11.060 Yeah.

00:34:11.440 Well, I just can't, I don't like when we just, how do I put it?

00:34:18.700 I don't like that churches are basically letting hoes take over the church.

00:34:23.720 And that's just how I see it.

00:34:25.240 Right.

00:34:25.960 You know, there's a lot of men that have studied for years.

00:34:28.420 They didn't make those choices.

00:34:30.000 Right.

00:34:30.320 And now you get to go to the front of the line because you got tag teamed on camera

00:34:34.720 and now you checks notes stopped getting tag teamed.

00:34:37.980 Right.

00:34:38.780 It's not that hard to not do something.

00:34:41.880 Yeah.

00:34:42.180 Don't you think that we, well, again, this goes back to culture, but I noticed like there

00:34:48.360 are men who have made great choices, stayed out of prison and nobody celebrates them.

00:34:56.720 But the moment somebody goes to prison, they're there 10, 15 years or whatever, they come

00:35:01.780 out, everybody's like, oh, you know, throwing them a big party.

00:35:05.460 And it's like, because he made a bad decision and had to do time and now he's home.

00:35:11.780 Yeah.

00:35:12.160 This is, I see that so much.

00:35:14.360 Well, what I don't, it just gives the wrong incentives.

00:35:18.740 Yeah.

00:35:18.940 Because why as a woman, why would you not start an OnlyFans, make a bunch of money, say sorry,

00:35:24.420 and then go be a preacher?

00:35:25.680 Right.

00:35:25.860 Why would you not?

00:35:26.720 Right.

00:35:27.180 Right.

00:35:27.480 If they're just going to like, it's going to be easy.

00:35:29.420 At this point, they deserve what they get.

00:35:31.260 Right.

00:35:31.540 That's how I feel about it.

00:35:32.720 You, you deserve what's going to happen.

00:35:34.820 Yeah.

00:35:35.020 It does make it harder when you're trying to tell young girls.

00:35:37.280 Like if you're married, you want the, you want these hoes by your husband?

00:35:39.820 No.

00:35:40.140 No.

00:35:40.540 Yeah.

00:35:41.700 Yeah.

00:35:42.360 It does make it harder though to steer young girls in the right direction when they think

00:35:46.820 I can just do what I want in my twenties and my thirties.

00:35:50.200 And then when I'm used up, I can accept Jesus and no, everybody will forget.

00:35:57.080 It does make it harder for sure.

00:35:59.760 Yeah.

00:35:59.960 And I think it would be better if you put people at the front of the line.

00:36:05.100 And like you said, these men that have been studying the Bible and actually doing the

00:36:09.620 right thing, like, Hey, you can stay on the right track and yeah, you don't have to have

00:36:16.120 a redemption party or story.

00:36:17.800 I'm like, I'm okay with redemption, but you know, make them work a little bit.

00:36:23.000 Yeah.

00:36:23.900 Yeah.

00:36:24.760 Anything like when she went on the Michael Knowles show, she did, she's had an active

00:36:28.980 only fans the day before.

00:36:30.560 She still makes money off of it.

00:36:32.660 She's still, because you can't, you can't delete it after a certain time.

00:36:36.360 So that's her excuse is like, um, they pay for the year or something.

00:36:40.100 When was her last, like, I'm sorry.

00:36:42.740 She has nothing to do with the interview.

00:36:44.700 Yeah.

00:36:45.080 She raised the prices after she was baptized.

00:36:47.060 I just, and then every, but I keep pointing out the facts and they get mad at me.

00:36:53.500 So she's still, she's kind of playing both sides.

00:36:56.320 Yeah.

00:36:56.680 I mean, they'll give you excuses.

00:36:58.020 They'll say, Oh, I couldn't delete it.

00:36:59.540 And I'm like, well, could you wait until it's all gone before you come?

00:37:03.060 I think that's a bare minimum.

00:37:04.540 We could wait, wait a year, you know, wait a year, do some good behavior.

00:37:09.400 Yeah.

00:37:09.760 Let's make sure you're, you have good roots.

00:37:12.040 Yeah.

00:37:12.600 Yeah.

00:37:12.980 And then, you know, at least two years minimum.

00:37:15.380 Right.

00:37:15.780 I think that's a, the bare minimum.

00:37:17.800 And then you can go.

00:37:19.120 See, you're telling me stuff.

00:37:20.880 Yeah.

00:37:21.040 No, they never, they never.

00:37:21.980 Yeah.

00:37:22.640 I didn't, I didn't know.

00:37:24.480 But yeah, you want to make sure those roots are solid.

00:37:27.540 Yeah.

00:37:27.720 But no, Joy Taylor, I think should be the next preacher.

00:37:30.300 Well, let's, let's wait until her roots are solid.

00:37:34.220 Let's see if, you know, she actually makes a turn.

00:37:38.340 Yeah.

00:37:38.780 Yeah.

00:37:39.140 I would like to see that.

00:37:40.680 I'm so, I'm perfectly fine with people doing the 180 and going the opposite direction, actually

00:37:46.660 making a change, but you got to make a change.

00:37:49.760 Yeah.

00:37:50.020 You got to turn.

00:37:50.920 And some people, you know, will do it and it's, it's fun for now.

00:37:56.340 I'm, I'm a Christian, 30 days, 60 days a year.

00:38:00.220 And then, oh, it was just, I mean, look at Brittany Renner.

00:38:04.240 Yeah.

00:38:04.600 That was going to be my next story.

00:38:06.560 Yeah.

00:38:07.060 People thought she had changed.

00:38:08.860 I didn't, but people actually thought she had changed and that didn't last long at all.

00:38:15.660 No.

00:38:17.240 Yeah.

00:38:17.720 She couldn't, she couldn't help but be naked.

00:38:20.240 Yeah.

00:38:20.620 It didn't last long at all.

00:38:22.720 I want to figure out what state it was.

00:38:24.280 So the next story I wanted to ask you about.

00:38:26.240 Yeah.

00:38:26.600 Brittany Renner is in court seeking to increase the monthly child support payments from NBA

00:38:33.480 player, PJ Washington from 5,500 a month to 35,000 a month, citing a higher cost of living

00:38:41.180 in California and Washington's improved financial situation.

00:38:45.640 A previous North Carolina agreement set the payments at $5,500 monthly and included a

00:38:51.900 $130,000 one-time lump sum.

00:38:56.700 But Renner claims that is no longer sufficient to provide for their son.

00:39:02.640 So she got $130,000 up front.

00:39:06.180 Lump sum.

00:39:06.580 Oh, I think he wasn't paying.

00:39:08.260 It says to cover past due child support.

00:39:10.540 Okay.

00:39:10.820 Still.

00:39:11.160 Um, and I don't know if you've seen, we could probably edit it then, but there's like clips

00:39:15.600 of, uh, Renner's just being a bitch to him when he's like picking up his son, throwing

00:39:20.260 a camera in his face.

00:39:22.980 Um, and he's obviously just like saying, Oh, he's sad when he goes to you.

00:39:26.840 Like, well, why would he be cooperative if you're being a dick to him?

00:39:31.540 Exactly.

00:39:32.120 And men don't understand.

00:39:33.560 And so one of my pet peeves when it comes to women is they will say things like he wasn't

00:39:39.340 around and he didn't fight harder.

00:39:42.920 Why should he have to fight at all?

00:39:45.080 If this is a man that wants to be in his child's life, he's not trying to murder the child or,

00:39:51.560 you know, why should he have to fight at all?

00:39:54.240 This should be something that's very easy.

00:39:57.000 You should want this for your child.

00:39:58.940 But so many times these women are bitter and I feel like Brittany is one of them.

00:40:04.420 These women are bitter and they want to punish the man, but you're not punishing the man.

00:40:10.580 You're really punishing the child because now the child psychologically, they won't,

00:40:16.060 they can't verbalize this, but now they're, you know, trying to figure out who do I choose?

00:40:20.680 I don't want to talk favorably about my, my dad because my mom may get upset.

00:40:25.320 Or I don't want to talk favorably about my mom because my dad, you're putting them in a place

00:40:30.180 where they have to choose and they don't know what to do.

00:40:32.640 It's more stress on your child.

00:40:34.500 And I just don't think it's fair.

00:40:37.020 One of the things that for me, when we went our separate ways, we never followed any type

00:40:43.220 of custody agreement.

00:40:44.800 We did everything together.

00:40:46.680 And I felt like I chose to have these children.

00:40:51.380 So at least until they were 18, they were at the front, which meant if I couldn't move on,

00:40:58.200 I just couldn't move on.

00:40:59.660 He was going to be at every birthday party.

00:41:02.100 We celebrated Christmas together.

00:41:03.960 We did Thanksgiving together.

00:41:05.740 Like, you know, if my daughter had a basketball game, we're sitting right there together.

00:41:10.060 She's not looking all over the gym trying to find her mom and then trying to find her dad

00:41:14.520 because they don't get along, you know, we never did that.

00:41:17.140 We always did things together.

00:41:19.500 And it was like, the one, the youngest, oh, she's 15, three more years, you know,

00:41:26.140 but that's just what has to be done.

00:41:28.620 But so many of these women are bitter and they're angry and they want to hurt the man

00:41:34.880 because the man didn't choose them.

00:41:38.120 But you never made sure the man, didn't even try to have a relationship.

00:41:42.920 Don't you think she would get further with a plate of cookies and saying, here's your son?

00:41:47.180 You know, it's so crazy.

00:41:48.960 Men accept so much with just a nice apology and being nice to them.

00:41:53.020 Yeah, it's just simple.

00:41:54.900 Yeah, so a lot of times when it's like the man left, I always think, well, why did he leave?

00:42:00.060 Yeah.

00:42:00.440 It's possible maybe you were being so insufferable that he had to, you know.

00:42:05.820 He didn't have a choice.

00:42:06.680 And sometimes it's more peaceful to just say, I'll wait until my child is 18.

00:42:12.940 I don't want to deal with this.

00:42:14.640 Yeah.

00:42:15.100 And it's sad because I see, I can't even think of her name, Erica Mena, I think.

00:42:22.780 She's constantly online talking down about safari.

00:42:26.900 These are more hip hop people.

00:42:28.740 But she's constantly online berating him.

00:42:34.620 And I'm just thinking if I had to deal with that, I wouldn't be around either.

00:42:39.740 I'd be a dead bee.

00:42:40.640 Yes, I would.

00:42:42.360 I don't want to hear somebody bitching at me every time they're around.

00:42:47.800 Sometimes people aren't the best boyfriend or husband with their good dads.

00:42:51.840 Yeah.

00:42:52.300 And just because someone's not good at that role, it doesn't mean they're a bad father.

00:42:55.860 Yeah, and I don't know, I would be a dead bee.

00:43:00.420 Seriously, if I had to listen to that, women get on my nerves as a woman.

00:43:06.280 Yeah.

00:43:06.620 So imagine being a man.

00:43:08.460 I can't stand long text messages.

00:43:10.740 Like my friends know, I'm serious.

00:43:13.380 My friends know, my female friends, don't send me a long text message.

00:43:17.580 I don't want to have heart to hearts.

00:43:19.920 I don't want us to talk about our feelings and our emotions.

00:43:23.840 If I'm not sleeping with you, I don't want that type of interaction.

00:43:28.160 And so I know if I'm that way as a woman, for a man.

00:43:34.340 So what do you think about Brittany asking for $35,000 a month?

00:43:38.600 She doesn't deserve it.

00:43:40.060 Yeah.

00:43:40.280 $5,000 is plenty of money to raise a child.

00:43:43.980 And I know because I have three.

00:43:45.560 $5,000 is plenty.

00:43:49.580 She wants money to support her and her lifestyle and her choices because what do you need $35,000 for a month?

00:43:59.320 I thought there was maybe a cap in that state, but I guess not.

00:44:02.940 Yeah, she doesn't need more than that.

00:44:04.620 When you think about clothes, that's plenty.

00:44:11.660 I know.

00:44:12.580 And we did a show together and it was in Vegas.

00:44:17.600 She like crashed out on me.

00:44:18.880 It was a whole thing.

00:44:19.960 But we can react to it when we go downstairs.

00:44:24.560 I want to see it.

00:44:25.680 So, but we went out to dinner like the day before the crash out.

00:44:31.840 And I remember now that this is coming out and she's saying, oh, I like, oh, I can't afford my lifestyle.

00:44:40.820 And I'm like, we just casually went out to like a steak dinner.

00:44:43.760 Do you know what I mean?

00:44:44.200 Like when you're really pinching, because I went from like doing really well to getting demonetized.

00:44:48.880 So that was a very different like income category.

00:44:51.980 And so I had to cut back on a lot of expenses, obviously.

00:44:56.340 And like eating out is one of the first things to go.

00:44:59.460 Right.

00:44:59.760 For sure.

00:45:00.740 Yeah.

00:45:01.120 Eating out, then getting your hair done.

00:45:04.480 It's like, so I'm like, you can't be eating out and traveling and doing all this stuff and saying you need more money.

00:45:09.940 Right.

00:45:10.180 Like you're just living a lifestyle you can't afford.

00:45:12.240 And that's exactly what it is.

00:45:13.540 Because she could have stayed in North Carolina so that the living expenses would have been a bit lower.

00:45:18.320 Like again, when you have children, you make sacrifices.

00:45:21.980 And that's just what it is.

00:45:23.480 Nobody forced her to pop her legs open.

00:45:26.360 She did that willingly.

00:45:28.300 She had the child willingly.

00:45:30.260 So for me, those sacrifices last for as long as they last.

00:45:34.960 And you know what it is when you're dating an athlete.

00:45:37.180 It's like, come on.

00:45:38.160 You can't expect monogamy from an athlete.

00:45:41.700 I mean.

00:45:42.280 There's plenty of engineers that you can date that will be faithful.

00:45:45.800 Yeah.

00:45:46.380 And some of them may not even be faithful.

00:45:48.340 But you'd have a higher chance, like an engineer, an accountant, like a more boring job in a way.

00:45:56.580 Unless you are maybe Jackie Christie.

00:45:58.840 So she said, they said she went to every single away game her husband ever had.

00:46:03.240 And she was like right up under him every moment.

00:46:06.540 But I just, for Brittany, I think she's a gold digger.

00:46:12.780 You said when we were talking, the dumbest one, I guess.

00:46:16.740 You know, she's not that smart.

00:46:18.760 And I don't care how much she sits in front of her camera and tries to talk and sound intelligent.

00:46:23.960 You can look at her life choices and see she's not that smart.

00:46:27.540 She could make those sacrifices to stay in North Carolina.

00:46:31.440 Or if you say, hey, my career is leading me to California.

00:46:35.900 Take your little $5,000 and make that work in California the best that you can.

00:46:41.560 But it doesn't mean that you deserve any type of increase.

00:46:44.820 $5,000 is plenty of money for a child.

00:46:47.880 Oh, I want my child in this different school.

00:46:50.580 Pay for it.

00:46:52.100 Yeah.

00:46:52.560 Yeah.

00:46:52.840 And if you can't, you know, get an OnlyFans or, you know, do what the other girl did.

00:46:59.000 I think at this point, I think she should drop an OnlyFans.

00:47:01.820 I'd actually recommend it for her.

00:47:03.580 Yeah.

00:47:04.100 What else is she going to do?

00:47:05.320 Yeah.

00:47:05.660 Like, she's still going to be hot for probably like five more years, maybe.

00:47:09.700 She's got like five years of being hot enough to make money on OnlyFans.

00:47:14.060 So, yeah, you might as well.

00:47:17.320 No one's going to marry you.

00:47:18.460 You're kind of cooked.

00:47:20.060 Right.

00:47:20.500 A smart man for sure is not going to marry her.

00:47:24.220 Yeah.

00:47:24.620 Smart man.

00:47:25.600 Yeah.

00:47:26.160 Well, someone always will.

00:47:27.460 I guess you're right.

00:47:28.820 Right.

00:47:29.740 Because I'm like, smart man.

00:47:31.180 But they're going to do it either way.

00:47:32.680 The smart man's already gone.

00:47:34.480 So she might as well just drop it.

00:47:36.300 I'd say drop it.

00:47:37.400 Yeah.

00:47:37.920 She, most people will see her as a liability, even the way that she's handling P.J. Washington.

00:47:44.920 Like, they will see, okay, this is a liability because the video that came out as we were

00:47:51.960 talking earlier when she just threw the camera in his face and, oh, the child is crying.

00:47:56.320 First of all, shouldn't the child be like walking by now and able to verbalize?

00:48:02.240 And when he said, that's because you baby him, that may be the case because that child

00:48:07.340 should be old enough to be walking and talking.

00:48:10.700 But she was treating it as if the baby was like a year old and that's not the case.

00:48:14.980 She's a liability.

00:48:18.420 There's so many of them that I could say liability, but hey.

00:48:22.320 Yeah.

00:48:23.500 Okay.

00:48:24.060 Well, I think we're going to go to the next section of the show.

00:48:26.620 Okay.

00:48:27.080 So now you want to do a freestyle?

00:48:30.500 I'm going to try it.

00:48:32.300 Okay.

00:48:33.980 Okay.

00:48:34.580 So what we're going to do is I'm going to show you some of the songs we've made on the

00:48:41.180 show.

00:48:41.640 Okay.

00:48:42.040 Now, these are obviously struggle songs to some degree.

00:48:45.620 Okay.

00:48:46.240 But if you think of a verse, you can come in.

00:48:49.200 I don't know if you rap or you sing or whatever.

00:48:51.680 Okay.

00:48:52.180 But you can just go in if you think of a line.

00:48:54.720 Okay.

00:48:55.220 And then I'll do a random word generator and we'll come up with one together.

00:48:59.740 Okay.

00:49:00.400 So one of them that we did was,

00:49:02.660 Hoes are going to hoe.

00:49:05.380 Keep it on the low.

00:49:08.140 Nobody has to know.

00:49:10.240 Hoes are going to hoe.

00:49:14.200 Hoes are going to hoe.

00:49:16.820 We can have a show.

00:49:19.720 Hoes are going to hoe.

00:49:22.380 Oh, do it again.

00:49:23.040 Do it again.

00:49:23.600 Nobody has to know.

00:49:24.880 We're doing it again.

00:49:25.680 I wish I was better at the piano.

00:49:27.040 That was good.

00:49:29.060 One time I might have money for a pianist, but go on.

00:49:32.780 We can do it.

00:49:33.360 One, two, one, two, three.

00:49:38.760 Okay.

00:49:39.200 Hoes are going to hoe.

00:49:45.780 We should start a show.

00:49:48.580 Just for the hoes.

00:49:52.240 Just for the hoes.

00:49:54.660 We should have a show.

00:49:56.920 Because hoes are going to hoe.

00:49:59.160 Although they don't know.

00:50:01.300 They are going to grow.

00:50:02.660 Because hoes are going to hoe.

00:50:06.620 Yes!

00:50:09.240 Hoes are going to hoe.

00:50:12.160 Ho.

00:50:14.240 Ho.

00:50:15.800 That was good.

00:50:16.100 Ho.

00:50:18.340 Oh, that was good.

00:50:19.700 That was so much better than I was expecting.

00:50:21.400 I knew she was going to be decent.

00:50:25.160 Because I was like, she's too willing to do it.

00:50:26.960 Okay.

00:50:28.360 Hold on.

00:50:28.960 I have one more.

00:50:30.800 So this one.

00:50:34.460 I think.

00:50:35.240 Hold on.

00:50:36.580 I want to remember what chord pattern I used.

00:50:42.900 I think it was this one.

00:50:44.540 You don't play piano, do you?

00:50:45.900 No.

00:50:46.160 I was like, if you do.

00:50:47.120 Yeah.

00:50:49.080 Black fatigue.

00:50:50.080 Oh, yes.

00:50:51.920 Black fatigue.

00:50:53.360 Oh, yes.

00:50:59.060 Black fatigue.

00:51:01.620 I'm so sick of it.

00:51:03.700 It's weighing on me.

00:51:06.440 Black fatigue.

00:51:08.320 So tired of these nits.

00:51:11.640 Can you figure?

00:51:15.760 Okay.

00:51:16.120 So I was told I was wrong for this lyric.

00:51:20.400 Uh-oh.

00:51:20.940 Okay.

00:51:21.900 Black fatigue.

00:51:24.740 Black fatigue.

00:51:27.900 I beg you, you can take out the weave.

00:51:31.340 Oh, God.

00:51:32.640 Black fatigue.

00:51:33.900 Mm-hmm.

00:51:34.660 Yes.

00:51:35.280 Black fatigue.

00:51:36.940 Yes.

00:51:38.040 I beg you, you can take out the weave.

00:51:40.980 Okay.

00:51:41.480 Black fatigue.

00:51:44.260 Black fatigue.

00:51:46.920 And those lashes, they need to slash is a black fatigue.

00:51:54.260 Take out the lashes or you'll get lashes and create slashes of black fatigue.

00:52:03.100 Oh, that was good.

00:52:07.420 I'm going to be in trouble, though, for talking about lashes.

00:52:10.640 Lashes.

00:52:11.140 Lashes and lashing.

00:52:12.600 Did you get it?

00:52:14.020 Lash.

00:52:15.380 No, I didn't get that.

00:52:16.560 Oh, God.

00:52:17.540 Right.

00:52:19.300 Oh, man.

00:52:20.040 Yeah.

00:52:20.520 I don't want that.

00:52:21.380 Well, it's like it's pre-recorded.

00:52:25.340 That's how I say it.

00:52:26.440 Pre-recorded, you know.

00:52:27.440 So then, we're going to do a random word generator, number three.

00:52:33.420 That was so good.

00:52:34.200 You have a good voice.

00:52:35.060 Oh, thank you.

00:52:37.440 A little practice.

00:52:39.160 Yeah, we can make a whole song.

00:52:40.820 Wait, here, wait.

00:52:41.540 Let me think.

00:52:42.180 We should do, actually.

00:52:50.380 Joy Taylor banged all the dudes at the office.

00:52:55.200 At the office.

00:52:58.500 I don't know why she'd do that.

00:53:01.320 At the office.

00:53:03.420 At the office.

00:53:05.960 Hoes are going to hoe.

00:53:07.620 Keep it on the low.

00:53:09.320 Now everybody knows.

00:53:11.540 Hoes are going to hoe.

00:53:13.380 We all thought that she got her job because she was good at it.

00:53:16.940 But it turns out that hoes are going to blow.

00:53:19.600 With her peanut butter skin and big hands, we just want her to shut up and just go into oblivion.

00:53:30.860 And we don't want to see her anymore.

00:53:34.940 But hoes are going to hoe and keep showing up.

00:53:40.060 Hoes are going to hoe and keep putting out.

00:53:43.420 Hoes are going to hoe and keep trying to sleep to get ahead and give head to get ahead.

00:53:55.500 And now we've got Brittany Renner begging for more money.

00:54:02.380 She's crying on Instagram and it's kind of funny.

00:54:05.980 Brittany Renner was Muslim like a year ago.

00:54:09.160 She couldn't stop because hoes are going to hoe.

00:54:13.300 Hoes are going to hoe.

00:54:15.340 Hoes are going to hoe.

00:54:17.140 Brittany.

00:54:18.560 More money.

00:54:19.460 No, you don't need more money.

00:54:22.200 You've got plenty.

00:54:24.060 Go find another man who is willing.

00:54:27.240 It's time to start an OnlyFans.

00:54:28.500 Yeah.

00:54:29.920 It's time to start an OnlyFans.

00:54:34.360 Start an OnlyFans.

00:54:37.280 Because you ain't going to get a man.

00:54:40.180 Correct.

00:54:44.100 All right, that was good.

00:54:45.900 That was so fun.

00:54:47.960 All right, what up, guys?

00:54:49.660 Welcome to the extended Pearl Daily, where today we're going to be reacting.

00:54:54.940 I'm going to show you some girls on TikTok.

00:54:57.000 Okay.

00:54:57.560 So you got this lady right here.

00:55:02.720 And then we're going to, I want to get your thoughts.

00:55:05.420 Do you spend a lot of time on TikTok?

00:55:07.440 No.

00:55:08.400 Because they, sorry, go ahead.

00:55:11.060 No, my new study page, but they would always take my videos down.

00:55:15.640 Yeah, I know.

00:55:16.180 That's why I saw.

00:55:16.980 They kick off the conservative women.

00:55:19.680 It's like, so all the liberal women just get to go no.

00:55:22.880 She says one in three women have a backup guy.

00:55:27.040 Yeah, a whole man.

00:55:28.580 Just sitting on standby in case her current relationship doesn't work out.

00:55:33.520 And it's usually not some random dude either.

00:55:36.640 It's an ex she still talks to, a friend who flirts a little too much, or a guy who's always

00:55:43.880 made it clear if she's ever single, he'll be first in line.

00:55:47.640 Meanwhile, her man thinks they are solid.

00:55:51.460 He's showing up, staying faithful, trying to build something real.

00:55:55.800 And she's got a safety net just in case he stumbles.

00:56:00.320 That's not harmless.

00:56:01.640 That's not smart.

00:56:03.020 That's not love.

00:56:04.400 It's emotional insurance.

00:56:06.820 And someone always ends up paying for it.

00:56:09.720 Let's be honest.

00:56:10.920 If roles were reversed and he had someone waiting in the background, wouldn't that feel like

00:56:17.640 betrayal?

00:56:18.580 Even if nothing physical ever happened.

00:56:21.580 Because the truth is, if you are halfway out the door when telling someone you were all

00:56:27.040 in, you are not loving them.

00:56:29.800 You're just keeping them close until something better comes along.

00:56:34.000 Let's do better.

00:56:35.380 Be the kind of person who doesn't need a backup because they know how to show up for the one

00:56:41.900 they chose.

00:56:43.640 What do you think of that?

00:56:45.480 So I think there's some truth to what she was saying.

00:56:48.440 There are some things that I feel like may be a little bit off.

00:56:53.340 And I would just say for myself personally, I do think that there are men that they don't

00:56:59.780 have to say anything.

00:57:00.840 We don't have to keep in touch.

00:57:02.940 I just feel like whether I'm, I could be 65, they'll say, hey, you're single?

00:57:09.940 Yeah.

00:57:10.500 Yeah.

00:57:10.780 You can come and be with me.

00:57:12.700 So I don't know.

00:57:13.660 I feel like she presented it as if there's some constant communication and it doesn't always

00:57:18.820 have to be that way.

00:57:19.840 Though I do understand that's that way for some women.

00:57:22.420 I think a lot of women would go crazy though if men constantly had female.

00:57:26.720 I know some men do, but it's not common where they can have female friends that are just

00:57:30.400 ready to go.

00:57:31.700 Yeah.

00:57:32.000 Women would go crazy.

00:57:34.560 And so I don't think it's good to have people in your life that are just sitting waiting.

00:57:40.200 Yeah.

00:57:40.580 Yeah.

00:57:40.780 I don't have those type of male friends, but I do know that there are men, even in my

00:57:46.240 past that would say, oh, I heard you were single.

00:57:50.500 You know, if that was the case.

00:57:52.000 Yeah.

00:57:52.380 Yeah.

00:57:52.600 Yeah.

00:57:53.600 Yeah.

00:57:54.600 Yeah.

00:57:55.600 Yeah.

00:57:56.600 Yeah.

00:57:57.600 Yeah.

00:57:58.600 Oh, 45, soon to be 46 year old, single mom by choice, had a baby with a donor, different

00:58:05.600 story, different video.

00:58:06.860 Um, who's also recently lost.

00:58:08.860 This is my white woman fatigue.

00:58:10.860 Okay.

00:58:11.860 I know there's black woman fatigue, but I do have white woman fatigue.

00:58:15.860 Cause I don't really see black, you know, if black women want to be single mothers, they

00:58:20.840 go for it.

00:58:21.600 They go find, they go find that, they go find the irresponsible guy that doesn't want to

00:58:29.240 be a dad and they go find him, they go get pregnant.

00:58:32.280 Yeah.

00:58:32.820 We can't just do it with our chest.

00:58:34.580 We got to go to a sperm donor, spend all this money.

00:58:37.720 Just let him shoot up.

00:58:38.960 Okay.

00:58:39.600 You can find one.

00:58:40.920 Yeah.

00:58:42.360 But yeah.

00:58:43.700 So I just, I, I know a woman that did this and she had like twit single mother by choice

00:58:50.560 twins.

00:58:50.960 And I'm like, yeah, I never think it's really by choice though.

00:58:54.400 I feel like maybe somebody just didn't want her who she wanted.

00:58:58.600 Didn't want her.

00:58:59.320 Yeah.

00:58:59.780 Yeah.

00:59:00.300 Well now out of the choices she has, she's choosing single motherhood.

00:59:04.860 86 pounds in the last two years with Olympic different story, different video.

00:59:10.520 Um, and it's out there really trying to find a great partner.

00:59:16.320 Um, cause let me tell you, the struggle is real and it is not easy.

00:59:21.440 And it's probably not why you think.

00:59:24.860 I mean, it's a combination of things.

00:59:26.320 Certainly.

00:59:27.020 I don't think it's because I'm a single mom.

00:59:29.320 I mean, I would certainly say that most men in my age group, their children are older.

00:59:34.180 So I can see how starting to date someone who has a two and a half year old might not be

00:59:40.440 the most appealing thing.

00:59:41.400 Actually, I have a question on that.

00:59:43.080 So how old were your kids when you started dating again?

00:59:45.680 Um, let's see.

00:59:51.020 My youngest was seven when I got divorced.

00:59:55.380 Um, so yeah, the youngest.

00:59:57.400 Did you notice a difference when your kids were older?

01:00:00.640 Like in date?

01:00:02.420 Yeah.

01:00:02.540 Cause my thought is once the kids are like 16, men don't care as much about you having

01:00:08.360 kids.

01:00:08.780 Did you find that to be true?

01:00:09.920 Yeah.

01:00:10.080 I definitely think there's a difference.

01:00:12.260 And then also, again, I was telling you earlier how he was just so present in our lives.

01:00:18.380 I could never really get to a serious relationship because no man wants the old man sitting at

01:00:27.380 the house eating dinner.

01:00:28.420 Yeah.

01:00:29.640 So, yeah.

01:00:32.080 Cause she's saying it's not cause of the kids, but, but young kids are so like, from what I've

01:00:39.420 spoken to men, it's like one thing when they're teenagers and they're kind of out of the house

01:00:44.100 and they're good kids.

01:00:45.400 They're not, they're not around as much, but like a two-year-old, a two-year-old.

01:00:49.920 No.

01:00:50.460 And if he has older kids, he doesn't really want to deal with a two-year-old.

01:00:56.400 You know, again, it's the right guy.

01:00:58.600 It's all going to work out.

01:00:59.600 It's fine.

01:01:00.740 Um, you know, but I think with all these apps and everything, what happens is I get aged

01:01:06.060 out, you know, for me personally, this is just how I feel.

01:01:10.020 I want to date someone my age.

01:01:11.600 So I want to date someone within five years of me, ideally between 45 and 50.

01:01:18.520 I could go a little younger.

01:01:19.740 Oh no.

01:01:20.560 You want a 45?

01:01:21.740 No, 45 and 50.

01:01:23.460 They're done with, I'm thinking of my dad.

01:01:25.760 Babies.

01:01:26.120 And my dad's, my dad, we had 10 kids.

01:01:28.380 Obviously he likes kids, but he's married.

01:01:31.580 But I was thinking if he were to ever be single again, he would, oh no.

01:01:35.520 And a woman had a little kid.

01:01:36.880 He's done with kids at that age, they're, no, they're done.

01:01:43.020 Yeah.

01:01:43.220 It's time for grandparent when you got to, you get to love them and send them home.

01:01:47.580 Yeah.

01:01:47.780 Not when they're under the same roof.

01:01:50.660 I'm not really in too much older men.

01:01:53.620 And I know you could say, well, you're going to have to go younger and find a guy that doesn't

01:01:56.700 know better.

01:01:57.320 That's what I tell her.

01:01:58.620 I tell her it's time to go for those 25 year old men that don't really, I would recommend

01:02:04.240 just being alone and raising your kids.

01:02:06.700 That's, but if we're going to go strategy here, I don't think the older men are going

01:02:11.920 to fall for that.

01:02:13.080 Baby's too young.

01:02:14.020 Yeah.

01:02:14.680 And she's going to have to have someone who also has a child that young.

01:02:18.500 Yeah.

01:02:19.080 Possibly.

01:02:19.380 Yeah.

01:02:19.720 Oh, that's a good, that's a good option.

01:02:21.520 Yeah.

01:02:22.320 You know, someone who's 52, 55, that's not really that much older.

01:02:25.860 And that's true.

01:02:27.060 But I don't know.

01:02:28.240 They, a lot of these men that got served up to me, they look like my dad and I don't really

01:02:32.680 want to be dating my dad.

01:02:33.680 You look like they're, I don't think she's looked in the mirror lately.

01:02:38.360 Yeah.

01:02:38.780 You don't.

01:02:40.060 Yeah.

01:02:41.380 And because I am a confident and secure woman, I can say that I think I'm a huge

01:02:47.280 movie and I think I look really good, but I feel.

01:02:51.740 Yeah.

01:02:52.020 That's, I don't think she looks bad.

01:02:54.300 Yeah.

01:02:54.760 She just looks her age.

01:02:56.140 There's this idea.

01:02:57.400 That's why I always say, okay, I'm fine being my age.

01:03:03.960 Yeah.

01:03:04.460 Yeah.

01:03:05.020 But some women aren't.

01:03:06.080 There are choices to die.

01:03:07.960 So what else are you going to do?

01:03:10.000 I'm compelled to have to like lie on these apps and say that I'm 40 so that I fit into, you

01:03:16.720 know, the, the search criteria of men, my age.

01:03:19.280 And yes, I do disclose that I am actually 45, but for a long time I resisted doing that

01:03:25.020 because I didn't want to lie.

01:03:26.680 And I didn't want any introduction or entry point into a relationship with somebody to

01:03:33.400 be based on a lie.

01:03:34.220 And then I decided to get over it because I just wasn't being served up men that I felt

01:03:40.720 I would be willing to go out with.

01:03:42.860 So the minute I tweaked that, I will say the men and the apps that were served up to me

01:03:47.980 have certainly changed.

01:03:49.060 Yeah.

01:03:49.460 But then you get pumped and dumped because you know, that's.

01:03:52.760 And you have to do a video begging.

01:03:54.920 Yeah.

01:03:55.400 Cause she's saying that she's confident.

01:03:57.420 If you were that confident, I just feel like you could go to the grocery store and you don't

01:04:02.680 have to be on the app.

01:04:03.600 I had a friend that I would say she was a nine back, back in the day.

01:04:08.500 People have no idea how, if you were a nine, you would know because she would get free concerts,

01:04:16.200 celebrities or messaging.

01:04:18.740 I'm like, she didn't have to work.

01:04:20.720 She literally did not have to work.

01:04:22.740 Don't matter.

01:04:24.920 And this is what nobody tells you.

01:04:26.440 It can feel incredibly.

01:04:27.520 I had my second child.

01:04:29.000 This is single mom by choice.

01:04:30.160 Using a donor.

01:04:31.520 And this is what nobody tells you.

01:04:33.020 It can feel incredibly empowering to embark on this journey independently, much more so

01:04:37.560 than people sometimes realize.

01:04:39.180 It's also possible that you might feel grief and overjoyed all simultaneously.

01:04:44.620 Grief for the life that you imagined that you were going to be living and joy for what

01:04:48.420 you're actually creating.

01:04:49.640 At that point, just go find a guy out of your league and be a single mother.

01:04:54.280 I mean, look, I don't want to advocate for that because obviously that's the wrong thing

01:04:58.900 to do.

01:04:59.880 But I just think IVF, you might as well just go be a single mom.

01:05:04.720 I just say go for what you want, obviously.

01:05:08.600 Don't do that.

01:05:09.520 Does that make sense?

01:05:10.140 It's the wrong thing to do, but I would, I just, I think it's, I'd rather her go and

01:05:16.060 just be a single mom to some dude out of her league and be a side piece forever.

01:05:20.460 Then you're opening me to a league I didn't know existed.

01:05:24.420 What?

01:05:24.820 Just these women voluntarily.

01:05:27.160 Oh yeah.

01:05:27.580 This is wanting to be a single mom.

01:05:29.880 This is, yeah, this is.

01:05:31.900 Now I'm going to have white fatigue.

01:05:33.840 Yeah.

01:05:34.220 Yeah.

01:05:34.400 This is, there's like white people things and black people things.

01:05:38.780 And this is just the white, I see white women, sometimes Asian women.

01:05:42.480 This is the route we go.

01:05:44.240 I think it's, it's a lot of marketing women.

01:05:47.020 What I've noticed, cause it's very expensive to do it.

01:05:49.540 Right.

01:05:49.840 So it's a lot of the women that go the corporate America.

01:05:52.500 Yes.

01:05:53.040 Yes.

01:05:53.860 Just.

01:05:55.000 And last and most importantly, your child can thrive in a single mom environment.

01:05:59.220 They can feel loved and secured.

01:06:00.740 You've got this lead with your heart.

01:06:02.700 So they're all stupid.

01:06:10.240 It is just a woman thing.

01:06:12.820 Yeah.

01:06:13.780 I mean, cause men don't get surrogates.

01:06:16.400 Oh God.

01:06:17.460 Let me put it in the corner.

01:06:21.040 Let's see what she is.

01:06:22.200 Point.

01:06:22.700 I haven't been on a date.

01:06:23.940 I'm so ready to find my husband.

01:06:26.220 Being single now for like over two years, even more actually at this point.

01:06:32.160 I haven't been on a date.

01:06:33.580 I haven't had a hookup.

01:06:34.900 Any interaction with a man for like over two years from the work that I do, but that

01:06:40.640 doesn't count.

01:06:41.300 Cause that's not like personal.

01:06:42.660 I might go to download.

01:06:44.040 Oh, she's a hooker.

01:06:45.600 She's a only fan.

01:06:47.040 I'm like, what kind of work does she do?

01:06:50.000 I'm guessing there's a link.

01:06:52.300 Yeah.

01:06:52.760 Okay.

01:06:53.260 We'll keep going.

01:06:54.940 The dating apps.

01:06:55.780 I get very overwhelmed, like after a day and end up like just deleting the app again.

01:07:01.940 I'm going to treat it like a job and literally going through the apps is like having a part-time

01:07:08.700 job.

01:07:09.100 It does consume.

01:07:10.560 Did you meet your boyfriend on the apps?

01:07:12.300 No.

01:07:13.740 I think that I'm pro apps actually.

01:07:16.640 I think just because that's, um, it's the age thing.

01:07:22.580 It's the generation thing.

01:07:23.680 Yeah.

01:07:24.400 Yeah.

01:07:25.440 A lot of like energy and time.

01:07:29.220 I'm not worried about my future husband seeing this because my future husband is definitely

01:07:33.580 not on this app.

01:07:35.160 He is like working hard on his business.

01:07:37.920 He is not.

01:07:38.520 There's such a big power in shutting up.

01:07:47.840 Okay.

01:07:49.600 On social media at all.

01:07:52.000 My man to be very down to earth, completely obsessed with only me.

01:07:56.780 Most likely a tradie, like a mechanic, a plumber, an electrician, something like that.

01:08:02.460 And he runs his own business and yeah, he works really hard to provide for the family

01:08:08.200 we're going to have.

01:08:09.000 Very happy.

01:08:09.940 And he's going to like balance out my neuroses a little bit.

01:08:13.440 So he's going to be like a diffuser.

01:08:15.620 Whereas I am an escalator sometimes.

01:08:17.880 Like Greek or Italian.

01:08:19.740 I don't know.

01:08:20.500 Probably Greek.

01:08:21.200 Italians are like, you know, too high strung.

01:08:23.820 He's going to let me have my silly little business that doesn't make much money, but

01:08:28.260 feels like I'm doing something and I'm going to give him a really nice home.

01:08:32.860 The biggest problem over the years is I keep going for Aussie white guys who just won't

01:08:37.760 commit.

01:08:38.440 This is like the longest I've ever been single.

01:08:40.620 Well, because she is in her age, so I think she's in her 20s.

01:08:44.540 And when you're in your 20s as a woman, you're kind of automatically a six.

01:08:48.400 But she looks overweight.

01:08:51.260 So in her age bracket, she's going to probably be a four for her age.

01:08:55.600 I would tell her to go older.

01:08:58.440 And you got an OnlyFans.

01:09:00.100 You got to get a divorced guy who just doesn't care anymore.

01:09:03.860 And just want someone young and fresh.

01:09:06.440 And yeah.

01:09:06.980 Who would you tell her to go for?

01:09:09.640 What race would you tell her?

01:09:11.940 Black.

01:09:12.480 You tell her to go get black.

01:09:13.740 Yeah, because she's overweight.

01:09:18.400 She said it.

01:09:21.880 I didn't say it.

01:09:22.740 And I really had to evaluate like what I actually want instead of like what I was attracted to.

01:09:28.760 I know what some of you are going to say.

01:09:30.040 Yeah, like a black divorced guy, I think would be good.

01:09:33.120 Unless she wants kids.

01:09:35.040 Then, yeah.

01:09:36.540 Then maybe not.

01:09:37.700 But no, they'll still do it.

01:09:39.980 I'm going to say about me like leaving it very late because I'm 38 years old.

01:09:44.800 And also for what I do.

01:09:46.000 Oh, okay.

01:09:47.360 I thought she was super 38.

01:09:49.040 Am I crazy?

01:09:49.700 I thought she was in her 20s.

01:09:51.060 Did you think?

01:09:51.320 I could have thought.

01:09:52.380 Well, I thought she was like 20.

01:09:53.540 You know why I thought she was in her 20s?

01:09:55.620 Because sometimes, no offense, white women look older.

01:09:59.080 Yeah.

01:09:59.560 Yeah.

01:09:59.940 No, we do.

01:10:00.520 So, yeah.

01:10:02.560 It was a job.

01:10:03.540 But seriously, my new husband is not going to care.

01:10:06.260 I've also never had trouble getting a man.

01:10:09.420 It's just more that the last two years, I have literally done everything I can to avoid

01:10:14.800 looking for a relationship.

01:10:16.360 I'm going to download all the apps.

01:10:17.620 I'm going to download Bumble, Hinge, and Tinder.

01:10:21.080 I'm going to try them all and I'm going to treat it like a job.

01:10:25.820 I don't believe that.

01:10:27.640 That she'll treat it like a job?

01:10:29.200 No, I don't believe that she's been doing everything to avoid a relationship.

01:10:34.860 You've still been getting banged, I'm sure.

01:10:37.480 Yeah.

01:10:37.720 You know, like.

01:10:40.320 Yeah, she's been getting passed.

01:10:41.920 Yeah.

01:10:43.520 Oh, no, don't.

01:10:47.860 Don't.

01:10:48.660 You're going to make me be mean.

01:10:51.640 Oh, man.

01:10:53.380 Oh, God.

01:10:56.020 I'm getting ready, but yeah, I'm going to go find a husband.

01:10:58.320 What's ready with me to go find a husband?

01:11:00.320 I'm going to play a little music while I'm getting ready, but yeah, I'm going to go find

01:11:03.460 a husband today.

01:11:04.060 Okay, I might not be successful, but we're going to try.

01:11:06.680 I'm also trying to figure out where I'm going to find a husband.

01:11:10.040 Where would you tell her to go?

01:11:15.540 All right.

01:11:17.680 Do you think an unemployed black guy, would he do it?

01:11:22.540 Unemployed?

01:11:23.700 Yes.

01:11:24.100 If she has her own place and he needs a place to stay, he's homeless, he needs a car, he

01:11:31.760 needs food.

01:11:33.260 Yes.

01:11:33.760 A successful black man, she's not going to get that.

01:11:37.140 Yeah.

01:11:37.460 I'm thinking if she goes white, you got to go for the destiny looking white guys.

01:11:42.100 You don't know who destiny is?

01:11:45.140 Okay.

01:11:45.380 Is that like a crack, a meth head?

01:11:47.480 He actually gets hot women because he's a streamer, but his look, I think would be pretty

01:11:53.160 with destiny streamer.

01:11:55.300 Pretty good for her to go for.

01:11:57.180 Because there's some that are just like this kind of look, like the liberal, like there's

01:12:02.240 some, you ever seen the like, um, feeder relationships.

01:12:09.640 Yeah.

01:12:10.240 Like this guy.

01:12:11.200 Ah, yes.

01:12:12.880 Yes.

01:12:13.440 Yeah.

01:12:15.340 Like if you ever see my 600 pound life, um, let's see.

01:12:19.080 Yes.

01:12:19.360 Sometimes those guys, I think, let's see, let's see what type of guy she could get.

01:12:23.700 I'm never going to say she won't find anybody because there's always a man who will.

01:12:28.640 Yeah.

01:12:28.780 There's somebody for everybody for sure.

01:12:31.080 I don't think that per se, but there's always a guy that'll put up with it.

01:12:36.540 Um, yeah.

01:12:39.200 Life couples.

01:12:40.400 Let's see the couples.

01:12:41.500 Or maybe someone as fat as she is.

01:12:44.500 Oh, here we go.

01:12:45.440 Yeah.

01:12:45.820 There, this type of guy.

01:12:47.780 Yeah.

01:12:48.380 As fat as she is.

01:12:49.660 Yeah.

01:12:50.160 This guy, um, this guy won't do it.

01:12:55.540 I think he wouldn't go that route.

01:12:57.720 This guy, he's actually decent looking is the sad part.

01:13:02.340 He looks a little feminine though.

01:13:03.840 Yeah.

01:13:04.320 But just comparison, you know, let's, let's go back to our, our lady over here.

01:13:10.140 I would go to like a Home Depot or something, but I don't want to go to Home Depot and I

01:13:15.460 don't need anything.

01:13:16.680 All right.

01:13:16.920 We're going to use this primer.

01:13:18.500 It's the Smashbox Photo Finish Primer.

01:13:21.040 Every time I use this primer or every time I see it, I'm reminded.

01:13:24.020 She has to be eating like 4,000 calories a day.

01:13:26.480 Absolutely.

01:13:27.300 Yeah.

01:13:27.540 That is.

01:13:28.500 Absolutely.

01:13:28.860 And she's wearing a wig.

01:13:29.980 I don't know if you can tell that.

01:13:31.460 I can't.

01:13:32.120 Yeah.

01:13:32.560 She's wearing a wig.

01:13:33.500 That's not her hair.

01:13:33.780 Does that mean she's like bald or like what?

01:13:36.040 Possibly.

01:13:36.460 Possibly.

01:13:36.940 Yeah.

01:13:38.140 When I was in college, I obviously didn't have any money.

01:13:41.140 Like I was a broke college student.

01:13:43.080 Me and my friend Jasmine would walk to the mall and I would get.

01:13:46.980 I don't think you're walking that far.

01:13:47.740 Okay.

01:13:48.260 No, she's not walking anywhere now.

01:13:51.100 Around the table.

01:13:52.600 Every single time.

01:13:53.920 And I think if I remember correctly, one time they like denied me.

01:13:59.640 They denied me a sample.

01:14:01.440 And so I stopped going to the Sephora and I started going like to the Macy's department

01:14:05.760 counter because those people didn't know me and I would get samples from them.

01:14:09.540 All right.

01:14:09.840 I'm going to do my eyebrows the same way I always do.

01:14:11.660 I use this nasty Jaclyn Hill palette.

01:14:13.920 I saw a couple of comments on some videos asking where like my dating content is.

01:14:20.120 Y'all, these men, I don't know what's happening.

01:14:26.360 I don't know how you can.

01:14:27.580 Let me just say this.

01:14:29.680 Point out that she spends money on her wig.

01:14:32.800 She spends money on her nails, but clearly she does not spend any money on a gym membership.

01:14:38.380 Yeah.

01:14:39.340 Yeah.

01:14:40.220 That's that always aggravates me.

01:14:42.340 And I, when I was heavier, I actually didn't work out at all to lose weight because I wanted

01:14:49.520 to spend more time focusing on eating.

01:14:51.280 You don't even need to work out.

01:14:52.560 Yeah.

01:14:52.940 You just need 10,000 steps.

01:14:55.360 You don't even need a gym membership.

01:14:56.700 You don't have to think about all that.

01:14:57.900 You can 10,000 steps, 1200 calories a day when you're cutting.

01:15:02.380 Yeah.

01:15:03.140 15, 16 if you're a little taller.

01:15:06.060 And say no to somebody baking bread.

01:15:09.300 That's true.

01:15:11.980 I like bread.

01:15:14.700 Do you know what?

01:15:15.560 I found it was more of the sugar drinks than anything.

01:15:18.280 Like Starbucks.

01:15:19.160 Yeah.

01:15:19.640 Because those can be three, 400 calories.

01:15:22.260 Yeah.

01:15:22.400 Those can be bad.

01:15:23.220 Yeah.

01:15:23.400 So I'm trying to think, other than Home Depot or like Lowe's, I'm thinking maybe Dick's

01:15:30.300 Sporting Goods.

01:15:31.400 It was like, at least in there, I could probably find something to buy or like pretend to buy.

01:15:36.320 I think we know what foundation I'm about to use today.

01:15:38.420 And like, I've also been talking to a new guy, but he doesn't live here.

01:15:42.660 He lives all the way in Illinois.

01:15:43.860 Again, I'm always meeting men who don't live in Atlanta.

01:15:46.920 So I be getting lonely.

01:15:50.640 Yeah.

01:15:51.280 They don't have to look at you.

01:15:52.460 Just send them money.

01:15:53.920 I know that.

01:15:54.920 I know fat women that do that.

01:15:57.860 One fat woman in particular, she had this relationship and she was always taking care of the man.

01:16:03.700 And they planned a wedding and everything.

01:16:07.600 He didn't show up.

01:16:09.060 I'm telling, like, the place was decorated nicely.

01:16:14.700 Family there, friends there.

01:16:17.060 He did not show up.

01:16:18.640 Dang.

01:16:20.560 All right.

01:16:21.000 A little Juvia's Place for blush.

01:16:24.300 Okay.

01:16:24.480 Then I'm going to go in with this little bitty Too Faced Fruitcake Palette.

01:16:27.880 I'm going to add a little bit of like white.

01:16:30.280 You saw she put those lashes on and everything.

01:16:34.420 This is like sorcery.

01:16:35.900 Holy.

01:16:36.180 On the inner parts, just to open the eye up a little bit.

01:16:41.940 I'm going to go in with this one from Juvia's Place.

01:16:44.420 It's a nice brown.

01:16:46.180 She almost looks Asian, though.

01:16:48.500 Yeah.

01:16:49.820 Made those eyes very slantic.

01:16:52.200 Mm-hmm.

01:16:53.040 I feel like I need a gloss.

01:16:56.160 I don't look good for my husband, y'all.

01:16:57.740 When he sees me, he's going to be like.

01:16:59.820 She's got to be trolling.

01:17:01.820 She's serious.

01:17:03.420 She is.

01:17:03.940 Wow.

01:17:04.180 I stopped at Chick-fil-A because I need like a little sweet little treat, a little drink.

01:17:11.460 And I know they have that new.

01:17:14.620 Of course you got the drink.

01:17:16.540 I swear most of the time when women are fat, it's because of the sugary drinks.

01:17:21.360 Like, that's.

01:17:23.220 I wouldn't, if I would see, this is what I'm saying.

01:17:26.000 You cannot correct and redirect women because why would you even at that size put out there

01:17:33.220 that you stopped at Chick-fil-A?

01:17:34.680 Like, you could have left that part out of the video.

01:17:37.880 A little flavored drink.

01:17:39.060 I want to see if I can get it like frosted.

01:17:40.720 I got my little drink, which I've drunk most of this by now.

01:17:44.620 It ended up being a cherry berry frosted lemonade.

01:17:48.740 We're going to go in.

01:17:49.980 I think my goal is to like, if I see a guy that I think is cute to like maybe say something.

01:17:56.780 I don't know what I would say, but like if they're looking at something, they're like,

01:18:01.500 oh, is that a good one?

01:18:09.680 I don't see anyone.

01:18:13.220 That's nice.

01:18:15.160 I'm going to put it out.

01:18:17.640 I really like this one.

01:18:20.260 Hey, where are your fishing poles?

01:18:22.520 So, we, our little fish don't care it anymore.

01:18:25.260 They don't sell fishing poles in here.

01:18:28.280 There's like no one in here.

01:18:29.540 She's going for white guys.

01:18:30.840 She's going for the fishing poles.

01:18:32.820 She's going for black guys.

01:18:34.280 They'd be like the basketball shoes department.

01:18:36.580 Yeah.

01:18:37.160 You got an Asian guy.

01:18:39.260 Where would I go to meet an Asian guy?

01:18:42.820 Starbucks?

01:18:44.660 I don't know.

01:18:46.040 Barnes and Noble?

01:18:47.300 Yeah, they read.

01:18:47.980 Dick's Sporting Goods was low-key a bust.

01:18:58.740 Yeah, this is why I think in the future, like people just aren't out the way they used to be.

01:19:04.080 I would, I mean, I would tell her to lose weight, but you got to go to the dating app route.

01:19:10.300 Especially being that fat.

01:19:11.600 Your pool is going to be so small.

01:19:14.200 Men have fetishes, though, don't they?

01:19:16.220 Do they say, I'm looking for a fat girl?

01:19:18.680 I'm sure she'll get past a little bit, but one will bound to stick around.

01:19:23.100 It's just, you know.

01:19:24.520 Yeah.

01:19:25.580 For her.

01:19:26.220 If she can be pleasant enough, someone will do it.

01:19:29.220 Yeah.

01:19:29.760 So, that's.

01:19:31.840 Don't try that waiting thing, though.

01:19:33.480 No guys waiting for sex with a woman that big.

01:19:36.120 90 days.

01:19:37.880 She's going to wait 90 days.

01:19:39.020 No, no, no.

01:19:39.660 She's got to give that out for free.

01:19:42.620 And she's got to gluck, gluck 9,000.

01:19:45.120 Like 45 bajillion, because that is her only shot.

01:19:49.420 Well, they say they give the best.

01:19:51.460 Yeah, yeah.

01:19:52.320 I guess because they're hungry.

01:19:54.180 I don't know.

01:19:54.960 Oh, that's funny.

01:19:59.260 Okay, let's see the next one.

01:20:01.320 All right.

01:20:01.580 The next woman ready to find her husband.

01:20:04.520 Share this tab instead.

01:20:06.200 Five.

01:20:06.660 With the help of my vision board and chat GPT.

01:20:09.100 Starting with my vision board, I did put a man on my vision board in 2024.

01:20:12.740 So, I plan to find.

01:20:13.700 Okay.

01:20:14.240 So, she looks around.

01:20:16.500 I would put 30 to 35 age bracket, I'm guessing.

01:20:20.180 What do you think?

01:20:22.820 Yeah.

01:20:23.680 Yeah.

01:20:24.180 I'm going to go 39.

01:20:27.740 Oh, you think 39.

01:20:28.860 Okay.

01:20:29.140 I would say 40.

01:20:30.160 Do you know what?

01:20:30.640 These filters throw me off.

01:20:32.700 Yes.

01:20:33.000 Yeah.

01:20:33.260 Because that's the.

01:20:34.060 Yeah.

01:20:34.780 Let's say 35.

01:20:37.000 She looks overweight.

01:20:38.020 So, she's going to be a four, I would say.

01:20:41.320 Yeah.

01:20:41.580 She's definitely not that attractive.

01:20:43.400 Yeah.

01:20:44.800 I would put her at a four.

01:20:46.800 And.

01:20:47.440 But the problem with four is, is they're going to get to sleep with sixes to sevens in men.

01:20:51.980 And that just keeps them perpetually single.

01:20:54.300 Single.

01:20:55.040 Because then they start to think they deserve that.

01:20:58.140 But you're just like a slow Tuesday.

01:21:00.720 You know?

01:21:01.040 Like, because most guys would do this on a slow Tuesday.

01:21:03.640 All right.

01:21:04.180 GPT.

01:21:04.760 Starting with my vision board.

01:21:05.760 I did put a man on my vision board in 2024.

01:21:08.420 But I didn't find it.

01:21:09.360 But it's okay.

01:21:09.980 Particularly, I put a man on here again.

01:21:12.400 A few times.

01:21:12.980 I'm actually going to show you my vision board in another video.

01:21:16.260 Do black women have vision boards?

01:21:18.280 You guys do that?

01:21:19.020 Yeah.

01:21:20.500 I'll just tell you how ChatGPT is going to help me find my husband.

01:21:24.600 Basically, for years, I've had a list of all of the things.

01:21:28.080 All of the traits, characteristics, everything that I want.

01:21:31.900 I hope it's a short list.

01:21:34.080 Because you can't ask for a lot.

01:21:35.580 What do you think?

01:21:36.380 What do you think?

01:21:37.780 It's going to be long because she's banging his friends.

01:21:40.900 Yeah.

01:21:42.980 His friends got a lot going on for themselves.

01:21:46.340 Is it going to be realistic?

01:21:48.020 I think it's going to be unrealistic.

01:21:50.000 My ideal man.

01:21:51.140 It's good to do that.

01:21:52.120 Even if you don't do what I'm about to say next.

01:21:54.000 I took my list and I said to ChatGPT.

01:21:56.120 I said, if I want a man who has all of the qualities below, what type of woman do you think he would want?

01:22:01.460 So I put them all in.

01:22:02.900 And then ChatGPT says all of these traits that this man's ideal woman would have.

01:22:09.280 Okay.

01:22:09.680 Some of them I'm good.

01:22:10.600 Some of them I'm good.

01:22:11.240 Some of them I could probably work on.

01:22:12.640 And then I said, okay, period.

01:22:14.340 Based on these qualities, what would the daily activities or schedule be of this woman?

01:22:19.180 I get a whole schedule.

01:22:21.120 Yep.

01:22:21.620 I got a whole schedule.

01:22:23.360 Girl, go to the gym.

01:22:25.000 Download Hinge.

01:22:26.060 Yeah.

01:22:26.260 That's it.

01:22:26.880 She definitely needs to get in the gym.

01:22:28.940 Yeah.

01:22:29.740 I kind of feel bad.

01:22:32.440 This makes me feel a little bit sad.

01:22:34.400 Would I recommend any plastic surgery to this woman?

01:22:38.980 Yeah.

01:22:39.700 I'm not.

01:22:40.940 I know a lot of.

01:22:41.460 A bang.

01:22:42.320 The bangs would be good.

01:22:43.360 Like some long bangs and maybe like pull her hair towards her face so that you can't see her fat, her cheeks up.

01:22:49.700 Yeah.

01:22:50.000 Well, she's fat.

01:22:51.380 That's the.

01:22:52.360 She should just lose weight.

01:22:54.040 Yeah.

01:22:54.260 Between the wake up, the workouts, the breakfast, the work, everything.

01:22:59.660 So this is what I'm going to do.

01:23:00.900 I'm going to follow this schedule until I find my husband.

01:23:04.500 And I'm going to refer.

01:23:05.300 This is the most, this one actually isn't, isn't how I put it.

01:23:12.220 This is better than the other ones we watched.

01:23:14.420 I think she's at least trying to do something.

01:23:17.180 Yeah.

01:23:17.340 She didn't tell us what that list was.

01:23:19.220 So I want to know what type of man.

01:23:21.560 So we could just say, girl, that's not happening.

01:23:25.700 Yeah.

01:23:27.980 Back to my list often to make sure that I'm not veering from the list.

01:23:32.220 I will let you know how it goes.

01:23:33.400 I mean, I don't know though.

01:23:35.420 She has this vision for it.

01:23:36.920 She might manifest this, you know, maybe.

01:23:41.560 I met my husband in three days, believe it or not.

01:23:44.240 No, she's got a, she's got a.

01:23:46.860 Here's one.

01:23:47.460 She met him in three days.

01:23:49.500 We can watch that one.

01:23:50.760 That was up next year.

01:23:53.620 I went on Muzz, a marriage app, which I did not ever imagine my entire life.

01:23:58.100 I can always tell when women are serious about finding someone.

01:24:01.660 It's when the ego is gone.

01:24:04.280 Yeah.

01:24:04.940 They're like, I will go on a date every single day.

01:24:08.220 Do you know what I mean?

01:24:08.820 It's just a different.

01:24:10.220 When women think they're above dating apps, I think generally, if they're, especially if

01:24:16.120 they're not overly attractive, it's like, they're not going to approach you.

01:24:20.940 Are you going to approach them?

01:24:22.900 No.

01:24:23.380 Okay.

01:24:23.580 What are you going to do?

01:24:24.400 Right.

01:24:24.980 Yeah.

01:24:26.060 I was like, no way I would ever do it.

01:24:27.180 My friend convinced me.

01:24:28.060 She said, it's a really good app.

01:24:29.040 I was like, okay, fine.

01:24:29.820 I got on.

01:24:30.760 Day one, I was like, oh my God, I'm not doing this.

01:24:32.780 Day two, my husband had messaged me.

01:24:34.260 Day three, I got off the app.

01:24:35.640 Alhamdulillah, my family knew.

01:24:36.840 Fast forward four years, we are married.

01:24:38.340 We have a kid together.

01:24:39.660 Alhamdulillah.

01:24:40.380 The app has really good features for you to find the right person.

01:24:43.320 Don't get discouraged if you don't find somebody right away.

01:24:45.700 I know I got lucky.

01:24:46.660 Not everyone.

01:24:47.320 I've had dating coaches on here.

01:24:48.600 They say it takes 15 dates usually on average for people to find someone on a dating app.

01:24:53.860 Yeah.

01:24:54.020 Because they work with people and they said on average, it's 15 dates.

01:24:58.480 15 dates.

01:24:59.860 Yeah.

01:25:00.120 That's a lot.

01:25:01.220 Yeah.

01:25:01.460 I know.

01:25:01.800 Yeah.

01:25:01.940 You got to really put yourself out there.

01:25:03.460 Because dating apps are a numbers game.

01:25:05.600 I think if it's in person or you meet through social circle, it's probably less.

01:25:09.700 Right.

01:25:10.000 But for what I've seen, people go on a lot of first dates off of dating apps, not a lot of second or third.

01:25:16.560 I do know two people that met on Match.com and they've been married like over 20 years.

01:25:23.180 Yeah.

01:25:23.500 Well, it usually allows women to date a little bit more out of their league because there's just not that many women on the apps.

01:25:31.320 Okay.

01:25:32.480 And it gives them access to men like out of the area too.

01:25:36.880 So if a guy's in a place with ugly women, but he's good looking.

01:25:40.300 No, that's good.

01:25:41.700 That is good though.

01:25:42.980 It opens up your choices.

01:25:45.120 Yeah.

01:25:45.180 Yeah.

01:25:45.620 For, I think it favors for women.

01:25:47.860 That's why the downside is you do run a higher risk of getting pumped and dumped, obviously, because the guys that are running through the apps, they're running.

01:25:59.560 I have a friend, he goes through a hundred women a year.

01:26:02.580 Yeah.

01:26:03.040 And I've seen his messages.

01:26:04.300 Yeah.

01:26:04.540 He's a, he's a PUA.

01:26:05.660 So it's like, they, they do this, they, they basically, yeah.

01:26:09.520 So PUA is like, they study dating women pretty much.

01:26:14.940 So he's just like a professional womanizer and he teaches men that are kind of awkward how to do it.

01:26:21.460 So that's how he makes money.

01:26:23.000 So for 10 years, he approached women in person.

01:26:25.400 He did the app.

01:26:26.060 Like this guy, it's very interesting talking to these guys because they've just been like through.

01:26:31.840 So a guy like that, he's going through a hundred women a year.

01:26:35.160 Or, you know, if you get on a date with him, you're going to fall for everything.

01:26:39.360 Yes, a hundred women a year.

01:26:41.440 So there are more like predators and stuff on the apps.

01:26:45.700 Not that I think he's a predator because a lot of the women want the casual sex too.

01:26:49.520 But you know what I mean?

01:26:50.420 Yeah.

01:26:51.260 A lot of guys that'll have like a leg up on you, but there's also nice guys there.

01:26:56.620 So she might be the best looking one we've seen.

01:27:00.000 Okay, let's see.

01:27:01.660 I actually had like a couple hours.

01:27:03.460 I graduated with approximately $500,000 worth of student loan.

01:27:08.060 What in the world did she major in?

01:27:11.960 I don't know.

01:27:14.080 These are my thoughts.

01:27:15.740 Pre-med?

01:27:16.380 Pre-med maybe?

01:27:17.480 On the skyrocketing monthly payments.

01:27:19.720 When I was in school, we actually had like a couple hour seminar on student loan debt.

01:27:24.740 So the challenge you get with women is we don't like doing the job, but we like the title and the prestige.

01:27:29.600 So most of the doctor, I'm assuming she's a doctor or something like that.

01:27:34.380 She kind of looks like a dermatologist or something.

01:27:37.040 That's my guess.

01:27:39.780 They quit within 10 years usually.

01:27:42.540 Yeah.

01:27:42.960 Where men will stick it out and pay off the debt and make a lot of money.

01:27:45.900 How you can go around repaying it could either be through working for a nonprofit where you make way less money.

01:27:55.080 But at the time, they had promised that the loans would be forgiven after 10 years.

01:27:59.760 The other way was to do income-based repayment.

01:28:03.880 And during the seminar at my school, I raised a lot of concern.

01:28:07.880 I told people around me and I also asked the professors like, hey, the administration changes every four years.

01:28:14.720 How are you guaranteeing that this works for people in the future?

01:28:18.580 And honestly, I did not believe.

01:28:20.300 You were aware of how stupid the decision was.

01:28:23.200 You can't say you didn't know.

01:28:24.800 You really knew.

01:28:26.080 Leave it at all.

01:28:26.780 I was very lucky that I was one of the few that was not duped.

01:28:30.680 But with that much student loan, I knew I needed an action plan.

01:28:34.300 I decided to just do my own plan.

01:28:37.040 And so I decided to move to a state that had no state income tax.

01:28:41.720 And I worked my butt off.

01:28:43.800 So I would work around 12 to 16 hours, five days a week.

01:28:47.780 And then on the weekends, I would go and substitute into other clinics and work there.

01:28:53.460 Yeah, I guess.

01:28:54.720 Doctor.

01:28:55.200 So essentially, I was working six to seven days a week, most weeks, the first couple years

01:29:01.620 that I graduated.

01:29:02.800 And this is not ideal for everybody.

01:29:04.980 But notice she's complaining about it.

01:29:06.840 She's clearly had Botox done.

01:29:08.860 Like you can tell her forehead doesn't move.

01:29:10.360 Yeah, it doesn't move at all.

01:29:11.440 No wrinkle.

01:29:12.420 When she raises her eyebrows, it's just.

01:29:14.460 Yeah.

01:29:15.020 Yeah.

01:29:15.880 But in my mind, I had.

01:29:18.060 Hair is colored.

01:29:19.500 Mm-hmm.

01:29:20.660 Burdensome amount of debt that I knew I had to repay.

01:29:24.560 Nails.

01:29:24.920 And so I worked my butt off to get a lot of that paid down in the first two years alone.

01:29:32.260 I had no work-life balance.

01:29:34.940 It was actually very stressful and very horrible.

01:29:38.420 But in my mind.

01:29:39.360 She paid it off, I think.

01:29:40.760 And I had taken out these student loans.

01:29:43.000 And so I needed to repay them.

01:29:45.320 And I didn't feel comfortable or confident relying on the government or anybody else to like save me from my own student loans.

01:29:53.400 A lot of people are coerced into taking out high student loans without really understanding the implications of it.

01:30:01.280 And that's something that needs to be addressed.

01:30:03.520 I was about to say, she sounded so responsible until she said, you're coerced into it.

01:30:10.860 Right.

01:30:11.360 Women are too, like, we're too lazy to do the work of understanding the contract.

01:30:15.600 Right.

01:30:16.000 And so then we get mad that we take a bad contract.

01:30:18.820 But we're too lazy to, like, think it.

01:30:20.900 Now Grok will do it for you.

01:30:22.580 You can use ChatGPT.

01:30:25.100 Thank goodness.

01:30:25.660 Institutions also need to be held.

01:30:28.300 No.

01:30:29.080 Yeah.

01:30:29.840 No, because it's women want to go to college.

01:30:32.620 They want to party.

01:30:33.320 We want to, like, you know, have fun.

01:30:35.580 So more accountable.

01:30:37.060 Like, there is no reason why a school should be charging hundreds of thousands of dollars to get through and start your career.

01:30:44.760 Well, they keep charging it because we pay it.

01:30:47.560 So I want to see if she's a dermatologist.

01:30:52.080 Stay at home mom.

01:30:53.600 Oh.

01:30:53.760 Yeah, I did see a ring when we saw the nails.

01:30:58.200 She's attractive enough to be.

01:30:59.960 Yeah.

01:31:00.180 Yeah, she's pretty.

01:31:01.180 I'd put her at.

01:31:02.800 And she's staying in shape after having a child.

01:31:05.140 Yeah, she seems like a former eight plus, now, like, strong six, seven.

01:31:10.280 But I bet back in the day, she's really attractive.

01:31:12.520 Yeah.

01:31:13.540 Marrying wealthy.

01:31:15.020 Oh, okay.

01:31:15.600 So she got a guy that paid off.

01:31:17.380 Right.

01:31:18.060 Smart.

01:31:18.840 Best way to do it.

01:31:19.920 So what did you think of the modern people on the Internet?

01:31:24.160 What did you think?

01:31:25.260 Gosh.

01:31:26.760 I think you have your work cut out for you.

01:31:28.680 Yeah.

01:31:29.260 Yeah.

01:31:29.760 I'll be employed forever.

01:31:31.000 So will you.

01:31:31.800 Yeah.

01:31:32.020 I mean, goodness.

01:31:32.880 It made me, though, feel like I'm just a little bit out of touch because seeing those videos,

01:31:40.160 I'm like, oh, it's women across the board.

01:31:43.040 Oh, yeah.

01:31:44.140 Everyone.

01:31:44.980 Yeah.

01:31:45.980 I feel a bit out of touch.

01:31:47.680 Um, but that's why I have you.

01:31:50.440 Yeah.

01:31:51.200 I'm the whole connoisseur.

01:31:52.820 Right.

01:31:54.720 Well, thanks for coming on.

01:31:56.500 I appreciate it.

01:31:57.660 Thank you for having me.

01:31:58.620 Can you tell them where they can find you?

01:32:01.800 Um, if they go to ShamikaMichelle.com, find me there.

01:32:06.360 They can find me anywhere.

01:32:07.600 All right.

01:32:08.080 Yeah.

01:32:08.340 Cool.

01:32:09.000 All right.

01:32:09.280 Thanks for watching, guys, and we'll see you next time.

01:32:12.100 Bye-bye.

01:32:12.560 Bye-bye.

Pearl - October 12, 2025

Even Shemeka Michelle Has Black Fatigue ｜ Pearl Daily

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