It's so devastating to see your ex with someone new, especially when it's someone younger, hotter, and better looking than you. It confirms all of your worst fears that someone else is getting the best of them, and by default that makes you feel like you just weren't good enough. You start kicking yourself for leaving too soon.
00:00:00.000you're addicted to the hope of being wanted again not the actual person your ego wanted to win but
00:00:04.740now it feels rejected so your ego panics and stupidly i wonder who's the chad behind this
00:00:09.740well guys welcome to my reaction series today we are going to react to women at our very very
00:00:16.800worst when our ex moves on especially when it's someone younger than hotter younger and hotter
00:00:23.600than us as a woman women just for your mental health it's not if your ex will do better it's
00:00:29.700just when generally speaking unless he like fell off during the relationship um yeah i mean i i
00:00:36.480just you got to mentally accept that they he will get with someone younger and better looking than
00:00:40.760you at some point so just accept it things i hear you guys talk about the most is the devastation
00:00:45.960you feel when you see your ex with someone else and they look happy the new girl is smiling and
00:00:50.680laughing i hate seeing men happy here's the thing you know i think men like they kind of want their
00:00:57.360wife to find someone new or their ex-girlfriend like i think they're they would be a lot of times
00:01:02.560sadder if you didn't find someone else unless you're a complete but if you're good to them
00:01:07.600women don't want like good things for you it confirms all of your worst fears that someone
00:01:13.120else is getting the best of them and by default that makes you feel like you just weren't good
00:01:16.720enough you start kicking yourself for leaving too soon because there's the thing a lot of times it's
00:01:22.640timing like maybe you weren't good enough at the time or maybe he did find out he could do better
00:01:27.980or maybe he just got better at relationships the second time around so afraid that she's going to
00:01:33.660get the man you were waiting for you're afraid that she's going to get the man you lost yourself
00:01:37.900look at this is just not helpful thinking it there's it's not helpful break up figure out
00:01:45.680we can do better move on so i find it's so devastating for us to see the memory of the
00:01:54.600man we were waiting for but i want you to listen to me i want you to go back to those earliest days
00:01:59.580back when he was still pretending to be everything you always wanted back when he actually was the
00:02:05.180man you fell in love with and back before you knew any better if i had taken a camera and recorded
00:02:10.320every moment of every day in the beginning would you have looked blissfully happy? Of course you
00:02:15.780would have because you were so in love with that version of him that you spent years waiting for
00:02:20.580it to come back again. Isn't it possible that you're seeing that same temporary happiness in
00:02:25.580her that you once saw in yourself? He's pretending to be for her who he pretended to be for you
00:02:31.260and even if that looks a little bit different you have to understand that they mold to the person
00:02:36.820because their greatest power is their sense of perception and today we know that the man that
00:02:42.020calls again this just isn't a good way to think you you need to move on i understand it's really
00:02:47.860difficult but women if there's any women watching you'll waste years thinking like this um look if
00:02:55.380you want to check on what he's doing like once a month or whatever but i would just take all that
00:03:00.660energy of sadness and go to the gym diet like there's no one that can get more done after a
00:03:08.180breakup okay you want to use that pain okay that awful pain and like use it to become like all
00:03:17.140that's all the motivation that you're you like um are not going to have day to day so it's going to
00:03:23.460be a tool use it a tool to go on dates um use it as a tool to um you know get to the gym learn
00:03:32.820better blow job skill whatever you got to do chica those same smiles and you never actually existed
00:03:39.140you envy her because she has what you wanted but the truth is that no one can have what isn't real
00:03:44.820well and you don't know you you have no idea what their relationship is like long to see that
00:03:49.380version of that there was um there was a time that i was really sad i had an ex-boyfriend he
00:03:54.820like moved on pretty quick to someone younger and hotter and i was sad and then she ended up
00:04:00.340like crashing out on him doing all this crazy stuff and it was a very like public fit like
00:04:05.940and i wish you know i don't know it's just it kind of goes back to it's just not worth being
00:04:12.900sad over because you don't know and it doesn't matter even if they're blissfully happy it does
00:04:17.220not matter i'm just one more time but you have to remember that they use that version only to get
00:04:23.700and never to keep but let's take it a step further because even when the mask came off and you
00:04:29.460realized who he actually was did you post pictures of the tears did you post the fighting the heart
00:04:35.860break these days women do actually post it or the pain no you posted fake smiles and temporary highs
00:04:42.500to hide the shame and avoid anyone knowing the reality of the relationship
00:04:47.140you hid the reality of the situation in snapshots that showed what you wished it was but wasn't
00:04:52.900yeah well because women are very performative when it comes to relationships just because
00:04:56.180you're not seeing the same shell of her that you once saw of yourself does not mean he's
00:05:00.180not leaving or feeling empty inside we can't envy someone's relationship with our ex without
00:05:06.020remembering our own timeline don't compete with another woman to be someone's victim
00:05:11.060because sometimes we're sisters in that heartbreak and not enemies all right um that just
00:05:17.580sounds like much mumbo jumbo your ex's new relationship let's see what this old broad
00:05:21.580has to say a woman that he worked with so when my husband and i divorced he started dating a
00:05:26.420woman that he worked with they are now happily married now and the day that i met her i welcomed
00:05:31.200her with open arms it looked like she was going to be a part of our family and she was going to
00:05:35.000be in my kid's life so i wanted us to have an easy transition at least kindness between us
00:05:40.100But then the kids started telling me all the things that they were doing together that he didn't do with me, like lots of cuddling and public displays.
00:05:49.220Well, yeah, because you failed at your burden of performance.
00:05:53.220And that's making men want to do these things.