Pearl - Ex-Girlfriend's LOSING It For 10 Minutes Straight

00:00:00.000 you're addicted to the hope of being wanted again not the actual person your ego wanted to win but 0.99

00:00:04.740 now it feels rejected so your ego panics and stupidly i wonder who's the chad behind this 0.96

00:00:09.740 well guys welcome to my reaction series today we are going to react to women at our very very 0.98

00:00:16.800 worst when our ex moves on especially when it's someone younger than hotter younger and hotter

00:00:23.600 than us as a woman women just for your mental health it's not if your ex will do better it's 1.00

00:00:29.700 just when generally speaking unless he like fell off during the relationship um yeah i mean i i

00:00:36.480 just you got to mentally accept that they he will get with someone younger and better looking than

00:00:40.760 you at some point so just accept it things i hear you guys talk about the most is the devastation

00:00:45.960 you feel when you see your ex with someone else and they look happy the new girl is smiling and

00:00:50.680 laughing i hate seeing men happy here's the thing you know i think men like they kind of want their

00:00:57.360 wife to find someone new or their ex-girlfriend like i think they're they would be a lot of times 1.00

00:01:02.560 sadder if you didn't find someone else unless you're a complete but if you're good to them

00:01:07.600 women don't want like good things for you it confirms all of your worst fears that someone 1.00

00:01:13.120 else is getting the best of them and by default that makes you feel like you just weren't good

00:01:16.720 enough you start kicking yourself for leaving too soon because there's the thing a lot of times it's

00:01:22.640 timing like maybe you weren't good enough at the time or maybe he did find out he could do better

00:01:27.980 or maybe he just got better at relationships the second time around so afraid that she's going to

00:01:33.660 get the man you were waiting for you're afraid that she's going to get the man you lost yourself

00:01:37.900 look at this is just not helpful thinking it there's it's not helpful break up figure out

00:01:45.680 we can do better move on so i find it's so devastating for us to see the memory of the

00:01:54.600 man we were waiting for but i want you to listen to me i want you to go back to those earliest days

00:01:59.580 back when he was still pretending to be everything you always wanted back when he actually was the

00:02:05.180 man you fell in love with and back before you knew any better if i had taken a camera and recorded

00:02:10.320 every moment of every day in the beginning would you have looked blissfully happy? Of course you

00:02:15.780 would have because you were so in love with that version of him that you spent years waiting for

00:02:20.580 it to come back again. Isn't it possible that you're seeing that same temporary happiness in

00:02:25.580 her that you once saw in yourself? He's pretending to be for her who he pretended to be for you

00:02:31.260 and even if that looks a little bit different you have to understand that they mold to the person

00:02:36.820 because their greatest power is their sense of perception and today we know that the man that

00:02:42.020 calls again this just isn't a good way to think you you need to move on i understand it's really

00:02:47.860 difficult but women if there's any women watching you'll waste years thinking like this um look if 1.00

00:02:55.380 you want to check on what he's doing like once a month or whatever but i would just take all that

00:03:00.660 energy of sadness and go to the gym diet like there's no one that can get more done after a

00:03:08.180 breakup okay you want to use that pain okay that awful pain and like use it to become like all

00:03:17.140 that's all the motivation that you're you like um are not going to have day to day so it's going to

00:03:23.460 be a tool use it a tool to go on dates um use it as a tool to um you know get to the gym learn

00:03:32.820 better blow job skill whatever you got to do chica those same smiles and you never actually existed 1.00

00:03:39.140 you envy her because she has what you wanted but the truth is that no one can have what isn't real 0.57

00:03:44.820 well and you don't know you you have no idea what their relationship is like long to see that

00:03:49.380 version of that there was um there was a time that i was really sad i had an ex-boyfriend he

00:03:54.820 like moved on pretty quick to someone younger and hotter and i was sad and then she ended up

00:04:00.340 like crashing out on him doing all this crazy stuff and it was a very like public fit like

00:04:05.940 and i wish you know i don't know it's just it kind of goes back to it's just not worth being

00:04:12.900 sad over because you don't know and it doesn't matter even if they're blissfully happy it does

00:04:17.220 not matter i'm just one more time but you have to remember that they use that version only to get

00:04:23.700 and never to keep but let's take it a step further because even when the mask came off and you

00:04:29.460 realized who he actually was did you post pictures of the tears did you post the fighting the heart

00:04:35.860 break these days women do actually post it or the pain no you posted fake smiles and temporary highs 1.00

00:04:42.500 to hide the shame and avoid anyone knowing the reality of the relationship

00:04:47.140 you hid the reality of the situation in snapshots that showed what you wished it was but wasn't

00:04:52.900 yeah well because women are very performative when it comes to relationships just because 1.00

00:04:56.180 you're not seeing the same shell of her that you once saw of yourself does not mean he's

00:05:00.180 not leaving or feeling empty inside we can't envy someone's relationship with our ex without

00:05:06.020 remembering our own timeline don't compete with another woman to be someone's victim 0.76

00:05:11.060 because sometimes we're sisters in that heartbreak and not enemies all right um that just

00:05:17.580 sounds like much mumbo jumbo your ex's new relationship let's see what this old broad 0.97

00:05:21.580 has to say a woman that he worked with so when my husband and i divorced he started dating a

00:05:26.420 woman that he worked with they are now happily married now and the day that i met her i welcomed

00:05:31.200 her with open arms it looked like she was going to be a part of our family and she was going to

00:05:35.000 be in my kid's life so i wanted us to have an easy transition at least kindness between us

00:05:40.100 But then the kids started telling me all the things that they were doing together that he didn't do with me, like lots of cuddling and public displays.

00:05:49.220 Well, yeah, because you failed at your burden of performance.

00:05:53.220 And that's making men want to do these things.

00:05:56.000 That's your burden of performance. 0.98

00:05:57.180 Some women got to work harder because they're uglier. 1.00

00:05:59.600 You know, action. 0.99

00:06:00.680 And there was a little voice in my head that thought, what the hell?

00:06:04.540 How come he never did that with me for 20 years?

00:06:06.600 But then I realized we married the wrong person.

00:06:09.560 when you marry the right person who you're compatible with each person is going to behave

00:06:14.080 differently than how they would behave if they were in a relationship with the wrong person

00:06:18.260 i recognized that they were much more compatible than he and i were so did i get angry that he and

00:06:23.740 her are happy absolutely not it makes perfect sense he and i were in an arranged marriage

00:06:29.680 through a prophet in our church we never really fell in love and i believe that a lot of people

00:06:34.460 get into arranged marriages and they're not marrying because they actually love each other

00:06:38.840 they're marrying because they got pregnant, marrying for some legal reason. They're marrying 0.91

00:06:43.200 because they have some financial difficulties. It's more of a business partnership than a love

00:06:47.800 connection. So if you and your partner break up and they go on to be an amazing partner for someone

00:06:52.040 else, that doesn't mean that you were a bad person or that you didn't deserve really beautiful love.

00:06:57.180 I actually agree with her because some people just are not compatible personality wise. It just means

00:07:02.180 that you and your partner were never compatible because no good relationship ends in a breakup.

00:07:06.780 and the key to a successful long relationship is marrying the right person so if you're bitter that

00:07:13.480 your ex is now a good partner to someone else and wasn't to you don't take it personal they're just

00:07:19.860 more compatible and hopefully your partner learned from their mistakes that they're more self-aware

00:07:25.440 now and that they've had a lot of personal growth that thought process was super healing for me and

00:07:30.780 sent me on my path to find the right match for me all right let's see any tips to help you cope

00:07:35.820 with seeing your ex with someone new i know it feels disgusting but you don't want them you only

00:07:40.300 want them because they don't want you and you're experiencing limerence where you're obsessively

00:07:44.440 thinking about someone who isn't reciprocating the same romantic connection your nervous system

00:07:48.560 is trying to resolve the tension of feeling unchosen you're addicted to the hope of being

00:07:52.520 wanted again not the actual person your ego wanted to win but now it feels rejected so your ego

00:07:57.500 panics and stupidly minute i wonder who's the guy having her make this video who i wonder who's the 0.92

00:08:02.780 Chad behind this. 0.99

00:08:32.780 hiding but grief avoided is grief delayed they're weak they didn't have the courage to sit with the

00:08:37.420 discomfort so they ran to the easiest option you're crying now and facing your demon so you

00:08:41.740 can laugh later and you should genuinely be proud once the honeymoon phase dies out they'll realize

00:08:45.840 they never got over you and the real plot twist is when they realize what they've lost you'll

00:08:49.920 realize that they were nothing special take it personal and seek revenge you're allowed to feel

00:08:53.960 triggered because they meant something to you and now they belong to someone else but the best 0.97

00:08:57.900 revenge is showing them exactly what they've lost without saying a fucking word not out of bitterness 0.95

00:09:02.480 you're just fighting for the version of yourself that you abandoned whilst trying yeah i mean all 0.94

00:09:06.240 this mumbo-jumbo just be a better person actions not words to keep them you're not jealous of the

00:09:12.000 new person they've just got traits that you admire so take inspiration and evolve your avatar reinvent

00:09:16.240 yourself hit the gym with vengeance heal your nervous system really fix your appearance build

00:09:21.040 your money up expand your knowledge and embody your femininity become unattainable and unrecognizable 0.98

00:09:26.480 i do agree um yeah the the gym i just think breakups are a useful tool for gyms it sucks to

00:09:33.200 see an ex with somebody new it's a jab in the heart it never feels good but what you need to

00:09:38.080 remember is that people do not change that much that fast right so the next person just has your

00:09:48.320 men will not women women don't change men change all the time problem and they just don't know it 0.96

00:09:54.880 yet this is gonna so this is that's bitter women trying to cope um which is okay i mean we gotta 1.00

00:10:00.720 do we gotta do it somehow we gotta i mean how else are we gonna cope with the fact that we're aging

00:10:04.880 and they can do better forever and they'll be happy with what they have we can have like tom

00:10:09.680 brady and not be happy can you imagine that hi tom brady and then he's like hi honey and she's 0.95

00:10:15.920 like you're never home enough and then he's like i'm tom brady bitch yeah we do know how to torture 0.99

00:10:22.400 instrument anyways guys let me know what you think of the comments make sure you like the video please

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Pearl - January 05, 2026

Ex-Girlfriend's LOSING It For 10 Minutes Straight

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