Pearl - November 16, 2024


Feminist Divorce Coaches RUIN Marriages ｜ Pearl Daily


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10 minutes

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1,854

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144

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Misogyny

14

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Toxicity

17

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9

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Lamar Odom orders an $8,000 custom sex doll of his ex-wife Khloe Kardashian. I talk about the double standard and why this is creepy and weird. I also talk about Trump s election victory and why women should leave their husbands.

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00:00:00.000 Lamar Odom orders an $8,000 custom sex doll of his ex-wife, Khloe Kardashian.
00:00:08.880 You're right to choose what is best for you and your kids before it's taken away. 1.00
00:00:13.220 Because the reasons that you want to leave your marriage are no one else's fucking business. 0.96
00:00:17.400 I might say, have you considered that maybe it was the wrong decision? 0.97
00:00:21.380 So today's first topic, we are going to be talking about how
00:00:25.260 sex dolls are actually coming into the picture.
00:00:28.680 Lamar Odom orders an $8,000 custom sex doll of his ex-wife, Khloe Kardashian. 0.91
00:00:38.180 Now, Lamar Odom is 45, is under fire for ordering a life-size customized sex doll 0.51
00:00:45.720 featuring the likeness of his ex-wife, Khloe Kardashian.
00:00:49.860 Social media users on X react with disgust, labeling the purchase as creepy and beyond weird.
00:00:56.440 Odom's manager, Gina Rodriguez, confirmed the NBA star's order from Real Doll,
00:01:02.740 which typically retails from $8,000 to $20,000.
00:01:07.720 Odom reportedly pleased with his custom order, was even filmed handling various models at the factory.
00:01:15.440 The ex-couple who was married from 2009 to 2016 had a turbulent relationship marked by Odom's
00:01:22.440 struggles with infidelity and substance abuse.
00:01:25.620 So that's them.
00:01:27.160 Now, this is the doll he ordered.
00:01:29.180 Now, that's interesting.
00:01:34.200 Now, there's a couple things that come to mind when I'm looking at this. 0.98
00:01:37.500 The first question is, why is a guy that clearly has access to sex ordering a sex doll? 0.65
00:01:43.020 I wonder if maybe men are looking at the market and looking at the cost that comes with women 0.97
00:01:49.080 and wondering if we're just too annoying and too much work. 0.99
00:01:54.700 Even the men that can get it think maybe it's just easier to have a sex doll. 0.93
00:02:00.140 Now, I don't think this will become mainstream in my lifetime, right?
00:02:03.860 I think this is a bit weird, but I would not be surprised if in the next 20 years, 30 years,
00:02:11.540 you see an increase in the number of sex dolls and the number of men that use them.
00:02:16.760 Again, it's a little bit weird.
00:02:18.300 But, you know, what's interesting is men will call this or women will call this creepy and weird
00:02:23.460 and it kind of is.
00:02:24.680 But you see women marrying themselves and then talking about how their husband is Jesus. 0.94
00:02:30.500 And nobody really looks at that as kind of creepy, right?
00:02:35.160 You know, we have the term son-husband.
00:02:37.120 Nobody looks at that and says, that's really, that's weird.
00:02:39.860 Or women will brag about their vibrators, right? 1.00
00:02:42.860 And nobody says that's so creepy and weird when it's a woman. 1.00
00:02:46.660 Now, again, I think it's strange.
00:02:50.520 Sorry.
00:02:51.680 I think it's all a bit odd.
00:02:53.300 But I just kind of want to point out the double standard.
00:02:57.120 And it's going to be interesting if in the future, this will become mainstream.
00:03:02.820 As we have seen, liberals, you guys already know, I hope liberals have a terrible day.
00:03:09.040 I've been saying this all week.
00:03:10.920 The last four years, they have pushed policies that have made average Americans' lives worse.
00:03:17.640 Myself, for example, all of the liberals celebrated when I got demonetized.
00:03:22.440 They said they all made videos and were very excited because they're pro-censorship.
00:03:28.480 They're not for freedom of speech.
00:03:31.140 So when Trump wins and I see ladies shaving their heads, 0.99
00:03:35.400 when I see ladies saying they're going on a sex strike, 1.00
00:03:38.160 when I see women crying on camera,
00:03:40.260 do I have an ounce of sympathy?
00:03:43.460 I don't.
00:03:44.740 I don't.
00:03:45.340 Because most of these women do not have to deal with the consequences 1.00
00:03:48.840 of the policies that they push.
00:03:50.860 And if they were in our shoes, they wouldn't last a week.
00:03:55.280 For example, immigration.
00:03:57.100 Many of the women saying that immigration is not a problem 1.00
00:04:00.220 are not willing to house immigrants. 1.00
00:04:03.240 They're not willing to go down and protect the country themselves.
00:04:06.960 They're not willing to fight for this country.
00:04:08.620 They're not the ones that'll be drafted if World War III happens.
00:04:11.680 And Trump gets elected and all of the other world leaders
00:04:15.620 congratulate him and say they're excited to work with the United States.
00:04:20.120 Women are still freaking out. 1.00
00:04:22.100 And there are a divorce coaches saying that women should leave their husbands
00:04:27.500 at this time because of the election.
00:04:30.180 This is a PSA for any of the ladies that have been 0.79
00:04:32.980 seriously considering divorcing their husband.
00:04:35.320 There's a lot of big conversations happening now that we have the results of the election.
00:04:39.460 One of them being no-fault divorce.
00:04:41.900 That is a type of divorce that allows you to end your marriage 0.99
00:04:44.480 without needing to prove that anyone is at fault.
00:04:47.660 Some lawmakers are looking to abolish that,
00:04:50.400 which is going to make you divorcing your husband a lot harder. 0.99
00:04:53.780 So here's what that potential change could mean for you.
00:04:56.100 You're going to have to prove that your husband did something wrong,
00:04:58.300 which can be even more expensive, emotionally draining, and time-consuming.
00:05:02.920 Legal battles over fault can keep you in an endless and very expensive fight.
00:05:09.640 Removing no-fault divorce could mean higher conflict in court,
00:05:13.140 which is certainly not ideal for your kids or you.
00:05:15.660 Without no-fault divorce, you lose the freedom to decide when to leave your marriage.
00:05:20.400 Your private decision could be left up to someone else's idea of what's right.
00:05:24.880 So if you're unhappy in your marriage, now might be the time to act.
00:05:28.380 Protect your right to choose what is best for you and your kids before it's taken away. 0.99
00:05:33.060 Because the reasons that you want to leave your marriage are no one else's fucking business. 0.99
00:05:37.200 This woman is a divorce coach. 1.00
00:05:40.180 So women are actually building brands off of divorcing their husband. 1.00
00:05:45.740 She's got 150,000 followers, 2 million likes.
00:05:50.080 Look at this.
00:05:50.660 How to handle the guilt after divorce.
00:05:53.420 So if someone said, I feel really guilty after my divorce,
00:05:56.840 I might say, have you considered that maybe it was the wrong decision?
00:06:00.820 I don't know.
00:06:02.240 Maybe if you feel bad, maybe you should think about the kids.
00:06:05.940 I don't know.
00:06:06.720 Let's see what she says.
00:06:07.980 I'm just wondering.
00:06:08.980 I'm just wondering, you know.
00:06:10.320 I'm sure she's going to give me some really great advice here.
00:06:13.020 Just because you were the one that decided to leave
00:06:15.500 and you're seeing your ex really struggling with it, this is for you.
00:06:19.900 It is so important for you to understand that your decision was made for valid reasons.
00:06:25.280 So here are some steps to help you manage.
00:06:27.480 How do we know they were valid reasons?
00:06:29.280 I mean, who is this for?
00:06:31.380 What is the valid reason?
00:06:33.140 Oh my God.
00:06:34.520 I just saw this.
00:06:35.980 I just messaged my friend with exactly this.
00:06:38.940 I'm worried about him being lonely, but he has family.
00:06:42.120 I don't.
00:06:42.960 He also has more friends than me.
00:06:44.580 So why am I worried?
00:06:45.940 Your guilt.
00:06:46.620 Number one is focus on your why.
00:06:49.000 Keep reminding yourself why you initiated the divorce
00:06:51.700 and the long-term benefits for both of you.
00:06:55.040 Number two is separating your emotions from their responsibility.
00:06:58.600 You are not responsible for his feelings, only for yours.
00:07:02.960 It's okay for them to be sad, but that's part of their healing process.
00:07:08.340 That's their responsibility.
00:07:10.020 Just like it's your responsibility to get the support
00:07:13.420 and figure out how to get yourself through it.
00:07:15.640 Third thing is acknowledge your grief.
00:07:17.680 Divorce is a loss.
00:07:19.220 I mean, it feels like a death sometimes,
00:07:21.160 even when you know that it's the right choice.
00:07:23.840 So give yourself the time and space to feel that sadness and to grieve
00:07:29.020 without letting it pull you backwards.
00:07:32.340 Number four, stay consistent.
00:07:34.700 Flip-flopping back and forth and drowning in all of your what-ifs
00:07:38.540 will prolong the process and really just create more suffering.
00:07:43.420 Trust the decision that you made
00:07:45.440 and that it was based on what is best for everyone in the long run.
00:07:49.760 And number five, talk it out.
00:07:52.280 That could be hiring a therapist, hiring a coach, friends, family.
00:07:56.420 Do women pay her for this advice? 1.00
00:07:58.680 Getting into a support group.
00:08:00.200 Find a safe space to talk through all of it.
00:08:02.880 That will help you process the guilt and the sadness.
00:08:05.640 Make sure you're acknowledging your-
00:08:06.460 When you're looking at a coach,
00:08:07.900 three steps to rebuild self-esteem after divorce.
00:08:11.980 Here are three free things that you need to be doing
00:08:14.940 if you want to rebuild your self-esteem fast after your divorce.
00:08:18.660 Number one is affirmations. 0.98
00:08:20.700 I know this sounds cliche, but it's so true and it's fucking science. 0.98
00:08:24.720 Your low self-esteem is coming from the thoughts that you're thinking, 0.99
00:08:28.380 that inner critic in your head.
00:08:29.800 In order to reprogram your subconscious,
00:08:32.180 you want to use affirmations to start and write them down.
00:08:34.980 You can look at yourself in the mirror and speak them to your reflection.
00:08:37.900 I am worthy of love and respect.
00:08:39.900 I am strong and resilient.
00:08:41.640 I deserve happiness and peace.
00:08:43.640 Start with ones that resonate with what you need to hear most.
00:08:46.660 Okay, my question is, if you want a divorce, that's fine.
00:08:50.460 I mean, I'm not saying it's fine, but you're an adult.
00:08:54.780 I'm not here to babysit you.
00:08:56.620 If that's what you're going to do, I can't stop you.
00:08:58.820 But what many fail to consider is,
00:09:01.800 what are your plans for the second half of life?
00:09:04.520 Because I don't think it's your kid's responsibility to take care of you.
00:09:08.300 I don't think you are not owed anything by your children.
00:09:10.800 Because by divorcing, you're deciding that your happiness is more than your children's, right?
00:09:16.320 Fine.
00:09:16.980 Okay, whatever.
00:09:18.140 So why do they owe you taking care of you when you're old?
00:09:22.860 Do you have a good relationship with your kids?
00:09:25.320 Are they going to be happy after this choice?
00:09:27.600 So if you're going to do that, what is your plan to pay for 40 to 80?
00:09:32.680 What is your, let's say you don't remarry.
00:09:34.860 How are you going to pay for it?
00:09:37.260 The second thing, an affirmation that will not, that will not fix that.
00:09:41.300 Is journaling.
00:09:41.940 If you're not doing this, you're really missing out.
00:09:43.960 At the end of the day, just jot down one thing that you did well, like a small victory.
00:09:48.760 No matter how minor it may seem, celebrating your little wins builds confidence.
00:09:54.080 And it's going to help you recognize your progress.
00:09:56.580 Third thing is you got to start setting boundaries.
00:09:58.680 Practice by saying no and asserting your needs in small ways.
00:10:03.100 This could be with friends, with family.
00:10:05.980 It could be with yourself.
00:10:06.880 Boundaries are crucial for self-respect and self-worth.
00:10:11.360 And establishing them will empower you by putting your needs at the forefront.
00:10:16.100 All three of these are going to help you reinforce your self-worth and build a more positive relationship
00:10:21.520 with yourself.
00:10:22.400 I can't believe she's making money doing this. 0.65
00:10:24.460 This is crazy.
00:10:25.500 Okay, so now we have a tendency to build brands off of pretty much anything.
00:10:30.520 So now we have divorce coaches. 0.59
00:10:33.220 Anyways, let me know what you guys think in the comments.
00:10:35.820 Please like the video on your way out and subscribe to the channel.
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00:10:44.820 I love you guys.
00:10:45.520 Bye-bye.