Pearl - Feminist Gets FURIOUS When Pearl Says Men Should CONTROL the Finances

00:00:00.240 most marriages are not equal yeah so i think holistically i think we can probably agree that

00:00:06.480 nothing is truly a hundred percent equal i think when it comes to marriage and equality

00:00:10.880 i think that really fluctuates because a lot of things go up and down things happen like for

00:00:16.560 example when my husband tore his acl clearly he could not walk the dog so i had to kind of take

00:00:20.640 over some of those other things that he also helped out with so it's one of those things

00:00:24.640 where i think it fluctuates but i don't think that means that it can't be equal or that it's 0.65

00:00:28.960 not equal i'm really going to go back to the same thing women have more power until women give up

00:00:34.800 that power or give men equal power it's not equal so what kind of powers specifically do i have that

00:00:42.720 for example that my husband doesn't have you have the power to issue a ppo and accuse him of being

00:00:48.480 abusive and take the kids so and you can issue that honestly without him even there so you can

00:00:53.760 literally get him kicked out of his house tomorrow yeah file a restraining order it's a temporary

00:00:58.400 restraining order but a lot of times by the time you get to court the kids are already in your care

00:01:03.200 and you go to the judge and you say hey judge um i i mean it's in the best interest for them to be

00:01:08.080 with me because i've been watching them and then the judge says oh they don't say ma'am why did

00:01:12.880 you say he was abusive they just give you the kid a lot of the time right so that's you have the

00:01:16.560 power to take the house and kick him out of the house i'm sure he's put a lot of time energy and

00:01:20.560 effort into if you guys have a house i don't know we actually just bought one here so yeah so yeah

00:01:24.640 so you can take that you can put them on alimony you can put them on child support you have the

00:01:29.040 power too like you're a pretty girl right you could probably get you could probably get attention

00:01:33.280 from really high status probably higher status men than your husband if you downloaded a dating app

00:01:38.240 and put yourself out there especially you got married young yeah they'd love that so so that's

00:01:42.400 that's and that that would be easy for you you could just download uh he couldn't just download 1.00

00:01:47.280 tinder and get a bunch of matches and have women ready to go you could get you know um dick to your 1.00

00:01:52.880 door like right you know like you could go to a hotel and he would have he would have no say like 0.98

00:01:57.840 you can uh you can have i'm sure you're on social media some of the highest status man it doesn't

00:02:02.960 matter like your face is on here so some of the highest status men on the planet can message you

00:02:08.240 reach out to you and um you know again that's not equal so right now i i can't think of any power

00:02:14.720 really men have over women like at all yeah i mean i definitely agree that as far as like the court

00:02:20.400 system goes like it definitely very much favors women i think we do need to go back to actually

00:02:25.200 looking holistically at things when claims are made and i mean i agree with you for like the

00:02:29.440 cornell 7 prom and all that kind of stuff that can be a whole nother thing but i think that that kind

00:02:33.120 of stuff definitely needs to be re-examined and re-evaluated to truly reflect the equality and

00:02:39.360 stuff that you're talking about i think the biggest thing for me is just when it comes to

00:02:43.680 equity now relating to like modern marriages where a lot of people are like dual income working pets

00:02:49.680 kids whatever it is i think it's one of those things where it's very difficult to say the things

00:02:55.360 aren't equal because it's one of those things where if somebody agrees on it then at that point

00:02:59.600 those concessions and things are made so i don't understand because you can agree to a bad deal

00:03:04.320 because you love her that's what most men do they agree to a bad deal because they love their wives

00:03:08.880 so much is it agreement sorry is it agreement to a bad deal or is it them compromising it's an

00:03:14.560 unfavorable deal it's not favorable to them in any way so the dual income thing we yes there are more

00:03:20.480 dual income but overwhelmingly like women do not earn i think the average is like the men make 60

00:03:26.160 000 the women make 30 for the average so uh men he's doubling the salary um yeah and and honestly

00:03:33.840 it's kind of known when women women's money is our money their money is the family's money

00:03:39.120 that's yeah i think that's i think that's also kind of one of the things like hot take i think 1.00

00:03:43.360 sometimes majority of the times depending on who you look at that in that case and in that instance 0.99

00:03:48.720 i think women can be more toxic than men um and especially towards each other for for example so

00:03:54.160 it's one of those things where i'm still not quite hearing where i mean post marriage so as far as

00:03:59.680 like divorce and things of that nature it can definitely be uneven i think we both agree that

00:04:04.640 that needs to be changed but as far as the part of being in the marriage if somebody says i agree to

00:04:10.240 that or they compromise and anything else i don't know how you can call it unequal when you consented

00:04:14.960 to that inequality well you can consent to something that's unequal because you have no

00:04:18.800 choice i'll give you an example in these shows right everybody has to be more pleasant to you

00:04:24.160 everybody the staff here i do not me okay but but because it is so difficult to get women on these

00:04:32.320 shows women it's there's a ton of men that would want to come on these shows women are more rare

00:04:37.680 so everybody like and i've done casting right and there's just a power dynamic where you have to like

00:04:44.720 because they have more power there's not that many pretty you know pretty women there's not

00:04:49.120 it's more of a rare especially nowadays pretty young women are rare so you have to like do all 0.85

00:04:54.960 this stuff to to plead with them you know um and so when someone has the power over you 0.99

00:05:01.520 you just can't you can't help it there's just going to be concessions that you met like if a

00:05:05.840 man has to think oh do i want to tell my wife she's being a today do i want to tell her he's 0.91

00:05:11.040 probably not going to like most women have no idea how insufferable they are and how 1.00

00:05:14.560 they are 24 7 because in all like you go here it's everyone has to cater to you because you're 1.00

00:05:21.040 the guest right women go to a company they have to cater to you because you're the customer 0.87

00:05:25.280 everybody is no one's honest with women ever ever except me it's a terrible job don't do it 0.99

00:05:29.840 um and so and so like the husband it's no different i mean he women underestimate how

00:05:37.120 much men they love their kids they like most men they would give up all their money just and i know

00:05:42.560 men that have done it where they just gave the wife you can have every penny i have please just

00:05:45.760 give me the children that's all i want they just want yeah and they don't even want the kids like 1.00

00:05:50.000 women love their kids in a way they want to weaponize it against the fathers and like when 1.00

00:05:55.120 women on mother's day they want time away from their kids fathers just want to spend time like 1.00

00:05:59.200 i've never met happier men than men that work with kids there's there's some idea that women

00:06:03.040 are the nurturing gen they're just not men are the nurturing gender so when you have that weapon

00:06:09.120 like it's not even about the money for them like they would do anything uh they would go to the

00:06:14.000 ends of the earth to make you happy so you don't steal their children like so i mean yeah it's just

00:06:20.000 it's too big of a bargaining chip it's too big i mean and as far as kids go i mean i would argue

00:06:25.040 as far as like whenever it comes like women one time away from their kids when it comes to mother's 0.76

00:06:29.680 day and things of that nature i think that's because a majority of the time even in like an 1.00

00:06:34.320 equal household to income whatever you want to call it um women just tend to do more of the 1.00

00:06:39.920 responsibilities with the kids to an extent like for example like they whether it's you know if 0.99

00:06:44.880 they take them to the doctor or like you said like if men make more money right then they don't

00:06:48.880 really want to take the time off whether it's taking them to the doctor whether it's staying

00:06:52.320 home with them when they're saying nowadays it's a lot more equal so then your prom no i'm saying 0.99

00:06:57.920 the time with the kids is a lot closer and what happens is women tend to over aggrandize the 0.72

00:07:02.960 things they do and not notice the things that men do so they think oh well i took them to some

00:07:07.440 doctor's appointments when it's and i can't remember it off the top of my head but there's

00:07:12.160 things they don't factor in that men do where they spend time with the kids and that's how a lot of

00:07:16.320 the systems are set up to make it seem like men don't spend time with their children well and the 0.95

00:07:20.880 other thing too even when they're stay-at-home mothers so women just love complaining they'll 0.99

00:07:24.000 say it's the hardest job on the planet and they've really convinced people that it's no it's not 0.99

00:07:28.000 um my grandma had nine kids and she worked part-time i mean man so i think it's as hard

00:07:33.520 as you make it for sure and the husbands they do it and you'll see it on tiktok like it's so funny

00:07:39.200 i i showed this in a previous debate these two tiktoks and the mothers are all complaining

00:07:43.760 saying they hate they're like they'll say it on tiktok that they hate their kids there's hundreds

00:07:47.840 of thousands of likes the fathers do the same job and they look so happy it's like man this is the

00:07:53.200 easiest job i've ever had i've done all these other jobs this is the best i get to spend time

00:07:58.160 with my kids all day like they just look genuinely happy yeah and i think and as far as that goes like

00:08:04.400 and that's really good i definitely think when it comes to being a stay-at-home parent like you

00:08:07.600 definitely make it as hard as you want it to be and i know that women especially i mean myself

00:08:12.320 included we like to overthink and do things a lot and over complicate yeah over complicated

00:08:17.200 over everything all of it and even if it's i mean just as simple as picking a place to eat like when

00:08:22.480 they're like where do you want to eat i don't know even what's for dinner right because they

00:08:25.520 eat the same thing what i think men bring the most is routine and that's why their kids are 1.00

00:08:29.440 so much better is because like structure women like think about the fact that we can't even 0.68

00:08:34.400 stick to hoe phases we can't even stick to home i didn't go through a whole phase but i'm saying 0.84

00:08:39.600 but i'm saying just like women don't say a whole life they say a whole phase women we alternate 0.97

00:08:44.400 through hobbies i can always tell a woman's torturing her husband when they've moved like

00:08:48.080 10 times because men like to stay in the same place and be in the same area forever and that's

00:08:52.640 good for kids women want to move around we want to try a different thing try a different church 0.86

00:08:56.240 go here go there like where men it's like they're very they want to stay in one place and do the 1.00

00:09:01.200 same thing and that makes if you do the same thing every day it's easier so women it's like i want to 0.84

00:09:05.840 rest i want to try this recipe or that i want to change it i want to do and i i like i like to

00:09:10.320 change it up to i understand it right i'm not saying i don't do the same thing but it's better

00:09:15.360 for the kids you know so it's easier for them they do a better job well yeah i feel like well kids

00:09:20.560 definitely benefit from structure i don't have kids but i mean my dogs benefit from structure if

00:09:24.480 that helps even no i swear to god even the dogs because men are so much better like they discipline

00:09:29.680 the dog right away where we like we'll tune it out or we're like not paying attention yeah they're

00:09:34.880 the babies right yeah yeah they're my fur yeah my fur babies yeah like the men will hit the dog

00:09:40.560 right but they love the dog you know what i mean like oh i hope they don't have the dog um but

00:09:44.080 that's the problem that's the problem because it like disciplines them and i'm not saying to hurt

00:09:48.560 it but you got to discipline that you know like they used to have shot collars or whatever you

00:09:52.880 have to you have to give like good and bad conditioning it's kids too yeah i'm not i'm not

00:09:57.440 saying to shot collar your kids yeah they're gonna click that yeah nobody here said what are you what

00:10:01.520 are you gonna do what are you gonna do but i just kind of and just to like go back to the prompt as

00:10:05.520 far as it being equal so could we concede that while it may not be equal as far as currently

00:10:12.080 right now post-marriage for dissolvement divorce all that extra stuff but as long as things continue

00:10:18.960 to fluctuate as far as who's more responsible less responsible it's pretty it's pretty equal

00:10:23.920 for a majority of marriages what's pretty equal as far as whether it's responsibilities the only

00:10:29.120 thing that i think could differ obviously is that unless somebody makes the exact same salary

00:10:32.560 obviously that'll never be equal but if you guys talk about how to use hold on if you got if you

00:10:36.640 talk about how to use the finances together and you talk about it and you get equal opportunity

00:10:41.040 to talk about how those things are decided i feel like that's a form of quality i don't understand

00:10:46.800 so it's equal responsibilities you're saying in what way well so equal responsibilities and they

00:10:52.160 and they fluctuate so like for example if it's he's responsible for taking out the trash i you

00:10:56.640 know load and unload the dishwasher and wash dishes right so then but if something happens

00:11:01.520 where hey i'm working late today can you take care of this and vice versa then that still levels out 0.92

00:11:06.720 to be equal no i would say the men do far more it's not even close and women always overestimate

00:11:12.240 how much they do and think it's way more important than it is so um talking about the finances 0.52

00:11:18.720 actually is terrible because you don't think people should talk about their finances i think 0.85

00:11:23.040 the guys should decide because women make terrible financial choices and this is so apparent in every 1.00

00:11:28.000 area of life well i'd argue that's what where the conversation could be a benefit because then you 1.00

00:11:32.800 can hear the opposing a conversation like again women have no idea how insufferable they are 1.00

00:11:37.840 oh my god like imagine you don't think you have an employee i don't think you're insufferable and 1.00

00:11:42.080 we're having a good conversation don't make me hurt your feelings it's it's look talking about

00:11:47.680 every financial decision is insufferable that that's like such a headache now they have to

00:11:52.400 every time they want to make a choice they have to get your permit that's like slavery well it's

00:11:55.840 like well i don't mean like every single one but you know like even purchasing a car or just let

00:12:00.880 him do you trust him or not you guys trust him to have a kid and marry him but he can't make 1.00

00:12:05.280 the choice on the house that's what i mean women are so controlling i mean you can still have an 1.00

00:12:09.760 opinion because especially if you're both working and you know we don't want it like i just want you 1.00

00:12:15.280 might not want it i like to have a say i know i can tell i know i know but that's insufferable 0.96

00:12:21.920 like it's insufferable for women to have an opinion on everything yes and that's that's 0.99

00:12:27.360 where we're at think about where we're at in society it's because we've just taken too many 0.98

00:12:30.880 women's opinions seriously we need less so then should we not take your opinion seriously yeah 0.74

00:12:37.200 i would actually recommend it i think we should put in i can't help the society i'm in but there's

00:12:42.480 far more capable and competent men they're they're totally i know a guy that saved 500 men from

00:12:47.120 suicide yeah that's great i'm not no but i'm saying he's like he can talk about this stuff

00:12:51.680 better than me but it's just we're in the society where they prop up women and give us stuff you

00:12:56.240 can't help it it's just the society we're in that's why all people are feminists you have to 1.00

00:12:59.840 participate in some way people have to kiss your ass they have to kiss my ass it just is what it 0.99

00:13:03.920 is i mean i don't think that necessarily comes so but the equal i want to go back to i want to go 0.99

00:13:09.120 back to because i want to i didn't get to finish my point women do far less than men in marriages

00:13:14.480 there's just things you don't take into account um like for example women order amazon boxes they

00:13:19.440 don't know how to put them together the men always do that and that's never taken into account into

00:13:22.880 like household chores um you know fixing like fixing the house uh balancing a budget like 1.00

00:13:29.680 women in all areas of life have just shown to be terrible with money make terrible choices 1.00

00:13:34.640 and yet they still think they should have an equal say and so what happens is the woman 1.00

00:13:38.720 i actually have a video on this if you want to pull it up the man is enslaved to the woman's 0.93

00:13:43.120 emotions and bad choices because they make bad money choices the man has to bail her out then

00:13:48.080 he tells her something she doesn't want to listen then it's repeat the woman makes a bad um hobby 0.99

00:13:53.840 choice she wants to spend her all her time on something stupid the man suggests she not doesn't 0.99

00:13:58.560 want to tell her what to do but is like hey maybe don't do this but he knows he has no say she 0.98

00:14:03.440 doesn't take his opinion then she wastes a bunch of time on money on a bunch on something that 1.00

00:14:08.480 That sounds like a toxic marriage. 1.00

00:14:10.520 This is the shaming language. 0.99

00:14:12.060 No, it's common.

00:14:13.340 You're the one that called women liars and all kinds of other words.

00:14:15.920 I don't know by saying that sounds like a toxic marriage.

00:14:18.820 And that sounds toxic.

00:14:20.100 That sounds like an accurate description of being toxic.

00:14:22.540 It's gaslighting because what you're trying to do is make it seem like that's an exception and not the rule.

00:14:27.780 I'm not saying it's an exception.

00:14:29.580 I think that that trait is considered toxic.

00:14:32.600 Would you not agree that that's bad behavior?

00:14:34.940 I would say it's the norm.

00:14:36.600 But is it bad behavior?

00:14:38.220 well not today now today it's just if i could acknowledge it's bad behavior i would think you 0.86

00:14:43.580 could acknowledge it was bad behavior but i think holistically i just hate dumb questions i hate

00:14:48.140 dumb questions then you chose a very very poor career choice if you think it's a bad thing 1.00

00:14:54.060 shaming language it's shaming language but you call women horrors liars stupid dumb that's 1.00

00:15:01.180 accurate financially illiterate i mean i could go through the numbers if you want but what i'm 0.99

00:15:06.060 what i'm saying is i could go but what i'm saying is if people are contributing to the same pot and

00:15:11.860 they just say hey i want to go out and buy a car is it no bad to want to talk about it and be like 1.00

00:15:16.240 here's why we don't because women's money like does not matter we get all these fake jobs that 0.99

00:15:22.000 are not that important that society would be fine without including mine you men i just want you 0.53

00:15:26.860 guys to know your jobs a lot of commentators they have these big egos these women they get they get

00:15:31.820 I'm going to just talk about jobs that women think matter and don't matter. 1.00

00:15:35.500 Psychologists doesn't really matter. 1.00

00:15:37.600 Yeah, it doesn't matter at all.

00:15:39.640 Human resources doesn't matter at all.

00:15:41.860 Project managers at these companies, they're just nagging for a living. 1.00

00:15:45.960 Even a lot of nurses do nothing nowadays. 0.99

00:15:49.560 Commentators definitely don't matter.

00:15:51.260 Like we don't impact society at all. 0.70

00:15:53.760 And they want to pretend like they're at the same level as the men that are doing the dangerous and the hard jobs in society.

00:16:00.100 they build they maintain and they protect the infrastructure even my counterpart right any of

00:16:05.200 my male counterpart had to work 10 times as hard to get in the position as I did they just did

00:16:09.860 because a man's world is just so much harder their money is so much more difficult to get 1.00

00:16:13.880 but now we have these women with these giant ass ego oh my god like even like me listening to you 1.00

00:16:19.720 is pissing me off a little bit because ditto yes because you think that your money is important as 0.99

00:16:25.620 men's money and it's just not like you know i think if you go back to marriage the important

00:16:29.860 part is that we're both my point is that when you both contribute you should both have a say 0.95

00:16:34.540 on what's done with it that's i disagree i don't agree because again that's that's women thinking

00:16:41.400 they're more important than they are how is it saying that i would like a say of how my money

00:16:46.700 is used and how our money is collective i would agree that the reality is women will give a say

00:16:53.120 how the money is used because they make 80 percent of consumer buying decisions even in marriage 0.99

00:16:57.600 and the whole family will be enslaved to her emotions and bad choices with money and now the

00:17:02.880 husband's gonna have to work more to deal with her poor choices um and i could go through the ways 1.00

00:17:07.360 women waste money uh i don't agree i don't disagree people definitely waste money no women women do 1.00

00:17:12.720 it's not close it's not close and it's not the same and the reason it sometimes they do quote 0.85

00:17:17.120 stats where they make it look like women and men's debts the same it's really not it's because women

00:17:21.840 put their biggest expenses in their husband's name and on their husband's credit card women 0.60

00:17:25.840 completely overspend and the whole family suffers and it's again it's back to the big egos it's the 0.55

00:17:31.360 women thinking they're more important that they should have an equal say and the the reality is 0.75

00:17:35.840 it doesn't matter should because women do have an equal say and it's hell on earth i live in hell 1.00

00:17:39.920 on earth can i can i ask about the the debt route right so you said that women come with debt i i 0.84

00:17:44.400 mean nowadays almost everybody comes with some form of debt but with men picking a majority of 0.99

00:17:48.720 the higher paying jobs as far as like lawyer engineer all those higher things that take a

00:17:54.160 little bit of extra education arguably they would also come with debt maybe potentially even more

00:17:59.440 especially as you go to law school med school and all those extra schools that is a lot more

00:18:04.080 debt that they take on as well right do they pay it off i mean everybody technically has to pay

00:18:10.160 debt off at some point so this is it's just kind of a tactic they do it's try to make it seem like

00:18:15.840 because women we're so embarrassed about our bad choices and i don't know when it comes to the

00:18:19.920 women i'm talking to today i don't know them personally don't know which of these choices

00:18:23.840 the shoe fits right but i'm sure some of them right some of them fit for me some of them fit

00:18:28.080 for them it's just where the world we're in right and they want to make it seem like men are equally

00:18:32.640 as bad but men are not equally as bad because when men pick majors uh they pay off their debt they

00:18:38.720 don't expect someone else to bail them out and women will they'll make a bad choice and they'll

00:18:43.440 double down like they'll get a master's degree and a doctorate degree and still not make the 0.98

00:18:47.360 money back they'll just get more and more debt um and then when it comes to i forgot i should

00:18:53.200 have written it down what the other thing you said was but yeah basically they're trying to 0.99

00:18:57.600 make it seem like it's the same it's not the same women make way worse choices with money

00:19:02.400 uh it just is what it is um so everyone would be happier if men had the money like then we wouldn't 0.99

00:19:08.240 have to sell out in order to get money right we wouldn't have to lie in order to get money but

00:19:13.440 it's just it's the world we're in hell on earth all right closing thoughts again i just think

00:19:19.800 it's ironic the equality police over here but when it comes to showing the differences between

00:19:24.740 what both men and women can bring somehow we can't get into a realm where at some point people are

00:19:31.120 going to be equal we all have equal opportunity we all have equal everything but somehow it's still 0.91

00:19:36.360 not equal yeah well i would say because women are superior um and even and even though we're 0.97

00:19:42.420 superior we make such bad choices that we still find a way to mess it up think about the fact 0.96

00:19:46.980 that women still go into poverty after divorce even though they rob their husband on the way out

00:19:51.300 that's how bad we are with money that's how much leverage we can get and still mess it think about 0.66

00:19:57.140 the fact that we get thousands of matches on dating apps and still pick wrong like we have

00:20:02.380 so much leverage we have so much power we're just spoiled like we just have a society full

00:20:06.840 of spoiled women that have been given everything and it's just never enough and i just want you to 0.77

00:20:11.200 know we'll never we will never be happy so

Pearl - October 25, 2026

Feminist Gets FURIOUS When Pearl Says Men Should CONTROL the Finances

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