Pearl - FEMINIST LEFTIST JOINS PEARL FOR A NICE CONVERSATION

00:00:00.880 What up, guys? Welcome to another episode of Pearl Daily here on the Audacity Network.

00:00:07.400 Today, we are going to have a guest join, but I started a little bit early because I

00:00:13.980 am officially cool. Yes. I've worked my whole life. I've been trying to be cool for a while

00:00:19.620 now. It's been a tough road. Wasn't cool in high school. Wasn't cool in college. I was

00:00:27.760 on tiktok i wasn't cool there but i'm officially cool because the coolest guy on youtube knows who

00:00:35.160 i am the king of kings joe rogan ah reacted to one of my clips so we're gonna react to joe rogan

00:00:43.560 reacting to yours truly me me how crazy is this all right let me go

00:00:51.520 are women and it got super performative and here i'll send it to you i want to do this on my

00:00:59.960 podcast it got super performative and sue it was like trans women are women like that's not an 0.99

00:01:06.660 argument like the what you're saying this lady has a point about showers and locker rooms and 1.00

00:01:12.700 and competing in sports and this is to deny that this is a point here play this trans women be 1.00

00:01:18.980 included in feminist conversations how about in women's spaces yes they're women oh boy yes what's 0.60

00:01:26.980 the question pearl women um so i i want to come at this from the um position so so i play semi-pro

00:01:37.860 basketball semi-pro volleyball so when it comes to like athletic spaces i don't think that trans

00:01:43.140 women should be allowed into athletic spaces because i don't think it's a fair um i think 1.00

00:01:48.180 as female athletes we work so incredibly hard for the little opportunity there is in women's 1.00

00:01:52.660 sports would this be a barrier like this there's no barrier there's less opportunity in some

00:01:56.740 industries that's what a barrier there's less it's not no no no it's based on the market okay

00:02:01.620 okay yeah what i was trying to say there i'm going to input my opinion now um what i was trying to 0.91

00:02:07.300 say is there's less opportunity because we suck you know we're not as good as men at basketball

00:02:12.980 and volleyball we're not as entertaining so they just kept interrupting me you know they just kept

00:02:20.820 um so yeah honestly that look served that day that's when i was young i didn't have to wear

00:02:27.620 makeup then i gotta put an eye shadow and eyeliner now it's like okay hold on hold on guys okay so

00:02:34.260 again we work very hard for the little opportunity that we're given and the problem is like

00:02:39.700 Like, we can't compete.

00:02:42.780 We can't.

00:02:43.460 Like, I'm six foot.

00:02:44.500 If I go up against a six foot guy and I play basketball with him, he's going to body me.

00:02:48.280 And what happens if I go up against you?

00:02:49.820 Even if I have years more of training.

00:02:55.120 And so it's like you're taking away the little opportunity that we're given and we all work so hard for.

00:03:00.300 It will be the end of women's sports. 1.00

00:03:02.920 I have changed my opinion officially.

00:03:05.260 I do want to make that public.

00:03:08.460 I...

00:03:09.700 I think that men should be allowed in women's sports because women keep voting for it. What 1.00

00:03:17.120 changed my mind was after this interview, I went to a tournament where we had men in our locker

00:03:22.760 rooms. I never thought it would happen to me. And then it happened to me. And I went around and I

00:03:27.700 said, Hey, do you guys have a problem with this? And all the women were for it. So I'm like, 1.00

00:03:35.020 at it if we keep voting for this we're just cooked we're cooked confidence confidence can't

00:03:42.800 make me bench what a guy benches confidence can't make you guys so hostile she's sharing

00:03:47.420 no she's not she's she's a woman who's had an experience kill it the woman i was trying to say 0.90

00:03:58.460 it's always the unathletic people it's always the unathletic people talking about how they would do

00:04:04.460 sports like you're not athletic you're not athletic but if a guy trains for a few weeks

00:04:09.300 he's gonna out i won't be able to catch up and i watched that a long time ago dress like a man

00:04:15.360 with short hair said she's trans that's a trans man by the way oh it's a man yeah that's a man

00:04:20.860 who's now a woman yes see that i don't have a problem with try that you could go ahead do that 0.92

00:04:26.380 yeah that doesn't bother me at all like if trans men want to invade men's spaces and pee next to 1.00

00:04:32.160 With a funnel go for it. I do not care at all. You know why cuz you can't rape me. No, right? 0.98

00:04:37.980 That's the real problem with trans men is that men are creeps and especially in female prisons 0.98

00:04:44.340 Female prisons is a huge one huge one, but it's also just female locker rooms 1.00

00:04:48.180 So like some guy with his dick hanging out is pretending he's a woman. That's real, too 1.00

00:04:52.560 There's trans women and then there's perverts who enter into these spaces 1.00

00:04:57.000 This is you given you've given them a Willy Wonka golden ticket 0.97

00:05:00.360 It's like it's like pedophiles who found a safe haven when they could put on a the garb the robes of a priest

00:05:06.720 And the crazy thing is like a lot of these things like that one in LA with that

00:05:10.760 The health club that was they got protested because they kicked a trans woman out of the locker room 1.00

00:05:17.360 Yeah 0.96

00:05:18.540 Multiple times sex offender. Yeah multiple times

00:05:21.920 that's crazy what that happens sometimes yeah so someone who's a freak yeah who decides oh 0.99

00:05:28.320 i'm a woman now and i'm just gonna let my dick shine i'll just polish it up in front of these 1.00

00:05:33.200 ladies right so you could just oil up your dick in front of you know some people 1.00

00:05:40.800 i think i'm officially cool they reacted to me 1.00

00:05:44.400 you know i've been waiting my whole life for this moment

00:05:46.640 oh wait let me see the brush just trying to get to yoga class i think that conversation has been one

00:05:53.120 yeah hasn't it not totally look at those ladies that's a while ago that was trans five years ago 1.00

00:05:59.280 i don't know last time i was in england they were they were it was getting worse but i don't know

00:06:03.840 it could have changed i haven't played semi-prone a few years now you really kind of got to let that

00:06:08.720 die at some point i know i made it okay all right so i wanted to have a new series on the show um

00:06:15.920 and it's basically called hear me out where i'm gonna hear out or vice versa we're gonna hear

00:06:21.360 each other out with someone with a very different world view what why am i glitching am i glitching

00:06:26.960 for you guys okay someone i don't know what caused this well if i have to go camera-less

00:06:34.000 i'll go camera-less um someone with a very different world view than me so we have the

00:06:40.480 tick tocker coming on my show her name's ashley ann we reached out i think she reached out to me

00:06:45.280 or if i i don't remember maybe i'm not sure um and we're gonna have a conversation about some

00:06:50.000 topics that we disagree on can you guys see the glitching can you guys see the glitching in the

00:06:54.560 chat you can i'm gonna refresh myself maybe i'm gonna try that before i bring her up you

00:06:59.360 think it's the camera i don't think it's the camera oh i'm back oh that's better i think i

00:07:13.680 just had to refresh the page maybe stream yards what up ashley hello how are you good you can just

00:07:21.440 call me ash ash okay yeah that's the show i'm gonna do a little editing here real quick you

00:07:28.480 know what i'm just gonna actually keep it just like that i think everybody can see me good okay

00:07:32.080 great cool so um i'd love to hear a little bit about you before we we talk oh man are you sure

00:07:38.960 yeah like you know i just want to get to know you ashley sure what made you talk about this stuff

00:07:46.480 um you start you know doing stuff on tiktok give me give me your backstory um yeah sure so um

00:07:55.400 i got i don't know really when i got into tiktok really just sort of um

00:08:01.040 watching and you know kind of the way everybody did i think through covid and all that or whatnot

00:08:09.680 but i think um i really found myself debating abortion a lot um but i sort of left just the

00:08:18.120 the realm of abortion and went more into feminism and have found myself

00:08:23.440 here um i enjoy discourse um i like talking i like hearing other people's ideas

00:08:30.340 um but i am rooted in facts and statistics so i guess we'll see where this will go i think um

00:08:41.320 which um we just we decided on topics right yeah we did we'll go through in a second so when did

00:08:50.300 you become a feminist is it a new thing or have you always been a feminist i think i've always 0.95

00:08:54.720 been a feminist i think we all struggle through our own internalized misogyny and growth um you 1.00

00:09:00.060 know but I think as we get older with more experience we understand feminism

00:09:04.500 and life more and I think that as we grow or at least in my experience with

00:09:10.500 feminism my own experiences like experiencing the world being a mother in 0.72

00:09:16.200 relationships so working in male-dominated fields all of these

00:09:20.280 things just really you know solidified that that I believe in gender gender

00:09:27.660 equity and gender equality and on that on that flip side too you know um you know the patriarchy

00:09:33.760 is bad for men as well okay so um what male dominated fields did you work in i'm curious

00:09:41.700 um i worked in um like hotel restaurant bar um industry oh is that male dominant i thought it

00:09:49.060 was 50 50 last night um when you look at like owners and like bar managers like a lot like

00:09:55.480 women are used and and they play roles more in um like the sex that sells um and then in like 1.00

00:10:02.120 managerial positions um or like uh like who you know washes the girls etc things like that um but

00:10:09.880 but as far as decision making goes i was typically always the only woman um on staff okay so you said

00:10:17.240 you get a lot of your opinions um from facts and data um well so i'm curious when because i i always

00:10:27.240 hear when people say that and i'm there's nothing wrong with it per se um in fact it's a very big

00:10:33.080 conservative talking point what do you believe if you read a study and it conflicts with what you

00:10:38.920 see in real life oh can you give me an example um okay

00:10:50.280 sorry that's okay i'm trying to think of a good example okay so you think that men are

00:10:59.640 like there's a big pay gap right but everyone around you you see women getting paid more

00:11:03.720 but there's a study that says um like men are paid more

00:11:08.920 yeah i mean or let's say like violence you know there's studies that come out that say women are 1.00

00:11:15.060 more violent but then you know you know something that conflicts with your worldview that's that's

00:11:20.620 kind of what i'm trying to get at well yeah so like the baby like feels pain or the baby does

00:11:26.180 that make sense so yeah well i'm well i'm gonna what i'm gonna do is i'm gonna look at that at

00:11:31.800 more. So if you gave me an example, right, like, like, so sorry, I'm actually fixing something on

00:11:37.200 my, so you mentioned like the wage gap, right? Or so, so if men are making more, right, how would 0.98

00:11:45.120 I like, so as an example, men in nursing, right, a feminized field are going to make more on average 0.98

00:11:52.660 than women. And so often when I have this discussion, that's something that men don't

00:11:59.380 want to believe or people would go like, that doesn't make sense to them. Right. And so I would

00:12:05.700 just look at that data and I don't think if it conflicts with my work, if it conflicts with my

00:12:10.640 worldview, then I need to change my worldview. Okay. So you're going to go with the data before

00:12:17.180 your eyes. So let's say I brought up like a study that said women were 90% of plumbers

00:12:24.040 and you worked like, and every time you've hired a plumber, it's been a man. Would you believe the

00:12:29.600 data first? Well, the data that there's more men plumbers or that men or, or about their wages.

00:12:37.920 No, I'm just, I'm giving, I'm giving you examples. So I'm saying if you see something in real life,

00:12:44.140 like your real day-to-day life, I can't see what everybody makes in an industry. So when I look at

00:12:50.800 the data, I can take, I can take the data from like the Bureau of Labor Statistics. Right.

00:12:56.000 And I know on average, right. Like even in these feminized fields, we can look at like community

00:13:01.240 service and things that are feminized there, there are more women in these fields, but men still get 0.94

00:13:06.860 paid higher. So when I look at that, right. Same, same with plumbers. That's not, it's, it is a fact

00:13:13.080 that there are more plumbers. I'm not trying to go back and forth about the data or the specific

00:13:18.000 examples. My only question is if something conflicts with your worldview and your life

00:13:23.000 experience has shown you different, are you going to believe the data or the life experience?

00:13:27.260 I'm probably going to look at the data. The data would be first. First. Yeah. Yeah. I would look

00:13:35.420 at my life experience first, personally. Yeah. And I think it's perfectly okay that other people

00:13:42.680 have a different opinion on this. But the reason being is that I think there is a lot of deception

00:13:49.180 in the way people show numbers at times, and you don't know who's funding stuff. So when I come to

00:13:54.540 a conclusion about the world, you know, at times in my job, I have to use data, right? You know,

00:14:00.540 you do debates, you do that kind of thing. But, you know, when I, when something, it has to match

00:14:07.580 what I see in the real world. Does that make sense? Well, that's just factually incorrect.

00:14:12.680 because I've never seen a million dollars,

00:14:14.740 but the million dollars exists.

00:14:17.420 I would not say that's the same thing,

00:14:19.340 but you're entitled to your opinion.

00:14:21.360 Well, I don't know how one person

00:14:25.900 with a very small view of a larger picture

00:14:30.900 could make the deduction that it's the same for everybody

00:14:34.240 based on their experience.

00:14:35.560 My experience, I'm extremely privileged.

00:14:40.020 I have both my parents.

00:14:42.920 I had a great birth experience.

00:14:46.080 All of these things, right?

00:14:47.820 But that's not true.

00:14:50.800 So there are things that I would agree with.

00:14:52.960 There are things that I would say are out of my scope, right?

00:14:56.520 There are things where I have not had enough experience in that topic where I could come to a conclusion on.

00:15:04.380 So I don't claim to speak for everything.

00:15:08.580 Let me give you sure. I mean, it's it's it's let me give you an example.

00:15:15.380 And so that would be like an anecdotal fallacy. Right. So so I work in maternal and birth health. Right.

00:15:22.560 So when I look at the data, I know that the experience and the numbers are going to change. Right.

00:15:27.960 So black women, their experience and the data and outcomes are going to be different than mine. 0.99

00:15:32.560 as I worked in the industry and my eyes only saw 90% white women and maybe 10% black women 1.00

00:15:44.280 in this industry. And those black women got a great experience with us as well, right?

00:15:50.440 So inside of that view of what I know, we supply better care or women are getting better care

00:16:00.080 overall. But if we look at the data, that's not true, right? Our maternal health statistics are

00:16:09.200 far worse than the view that I've gotten from my firsthand view. And so you would pick, really,

00:16:15.760 you would pick the, because don't you think that could make you easily manipulated? Because then

00:16:20.540 anybody could look at data and numbers? Yeah, because then anybody could throw a study or

00:16:25.480 numbers in front of you. And if you blindly believe it over what you see in real life with

00:16:31.980 your eyes, I think that makes you easily manipulated. I think that's the reverse.

00:16:37.400 I think that trusting things with your own eyes without having grounded factual data is actually

00:16:43.600 how you'll be manipulated. And I think I've avoided being manipulated by choosing to look

00:16:49.800 at the data um and i've been able to have a view that that it that includes everybody

00:17:00.200 um that's just a very biased way of looking i have a i have a question i'm just gonna throw

00:17:04.840 a stat out for you so if i said that um married men live longer and are happier would you

00:17:14.120 would you believe that like let's say it's a good source we're in good faith i'm not lying

00:17:18.680 Yeah. Well, yeah. Well, sure. I also know that there's truth to that. But when you say like married men, there's going to be like married men in comparison to who? And then inside of married men, there's going to be single men in comparison to men that don't get married. Single men. 0.59

00:17:35.880 Yes, I know that they are. They live longer.

00:17:38.920 One way, conservatives really like to push marriage because they want their religion to be right.

00:17:44.680 Right. So there's an ego investment where they're trying to sell. They want more people in the congregation.

00:17:49.980 I think we might agree on this, though.

00:17:51.800 No, no, no. Wait, wait. So let me let me finish.

00:17:54.020 OK, so the way they manipulate that stat is they include men that are disqualified from marriage because in general,

00:18:02.920 women would not marry men that are extreme alcoholics that are, you know, that they have

00:18:07.700 a life choice that, yeah, yeah, yeah. They're not really in the marriage. Well, I don't know that

00:18:12.520 that's, that's true. Do you, do you like, do you have a statistic that says that like,

00:18:18.500 like men with like alcohol or drug problems, like don't get married as much or,

00:18:24.260 you know, see, again, I think that that would just be anecdotal. You know, I don't think

00:18:30.160 crack addicts are really the number one draft pick for women that's what i mean 1.00

00:18:34.000 i don't know i don't need you gotta not interrupt me i'm trying but there's women 1.00

00:18:40.020 we gotta we gotta you gotta not interrupt i'm gonna give you a warning now okay so

00:18:46.040 the the challenge you get is if i need a study to think you know i don't need a study to think

00:18:57.340 you know i could think through what i've seen in real life so well i i do um that's fine if you need

00:19:02.940 to study to have any opinion totally fine but it's just a difference in world view i think that would

00:19:08.300 make you easily manipulated you would probably think it makes me easily manipulated which is

00:19:12.700 fine you can disagree yeah i mean i i think like i said if we're looking at right like i mean if

00:19:19.020 if i say one plus one equals three and that's my world view and you're like well i actually have

00:19:23.260 data to say that one plus one is two and i'm like yeah but over here one plus one is three right i

00:19:29.580 like you you're right i'm wrong but my world view so i totally i'm glad you brought that up because

00:19:37.900 i do think that's you know what if the person's lying right what if the person's just making

00:19:42.300 stuff up to be a victim what if and i'm not saying me but just in general that's the challenge you

00:19:46.700 get with anecdotes i understand the discrepancy but i think over time you just start to see

00:19:53.260 who tends to make stuff up and who doesn't and then that's that's that's and that's and that's

00:19:58.300 something you got to make a judgment on as a person so well i i well i don't i don't really

00:20:03.900 make judgments on data i think there's just there's there's good sources i think there's

00:20:08.300 reliable and non-biased sources and that's where i try to stay right because numbers don't lie when

00:20:12.700 we look at things like maternal mortality right like you can't lie on who died right like they're

00:20:19.020 dead right so so and then when we suss that data out like nobody's lying i i would agree with you

00:20:25.420 you could you could you say that again wait i i just don't know what that is what mortality say

00:20:29.500 that the maternal like women who women who died during pregnancy birth and i believe it includes

00:20:35.100 40 days after birth as well in the postpartum period i do i do agree that some data is better

00:20:40.060 than others okay right so i'm not i'm not saying you don't take data right that's not i'm not saying

00:20:45.500 that you never look at it you never consider it all i'm saying is for me personally if you give

00:20:51.820 me a study and it says something that conflicts everything i've seen in real life um you can't

00:20:58.140 shame me into believing it a lot of women i wouldn't want to shame you i'm not wait wait i'm 0.99

00:21:03.020 not i'm not saying you i'm saying this is common is you know they insinuate you're dumb they 0.95

00:21:08.300 insinuate you're you know you're lying or whatever but it's like you can't shame me into um not 0.90

00:21:15.500 seeing what I've seen in real life. And I personally would think that you're easily

00:21:19.840 manipulated if someone can just shove a piece of paper in your face and you believe it.

00:21:24.820 Right. Well, I wouldn't, I wouldn't believe anything that anybody shoved in my face. Right.

00:21:28.700 Like I would, I would look at data and I would compare it with other data and I would compare

00:21:33.280 it with other sources as well. Right. So when we read, if somebody were to send me a vlog or a blog

00:21:40.380 post it's if it's an opinion piece and they say if they say something i'm going to want to know

00:21:46.620 where that data came from right and so that's when we get in um to like primary secondary and tertiary

00:21:52.940 the challenge the challenge you get it because i've done a lot of these debates and it always

00:21:58.300 it always turns into this the liberals believe their data and the conservatives believe their

00:22:03.340 data we get nowhere and that's and that's kind of that's kind of what can you give me an example

00:22:09.100 of of like conflicting data and then tell me about like i would say conservatives like the

00:22:16.220 institute for family studies i think it is they like that source where liberals tend to not like

00:22:21.660 it and why is that i don't know because i think it's got like a religious backing well yeah so

00:22:28.380 the conservatives are not going to like the the sources that come from the schools right because

00:22:33.180 the schools have more of like a left-leaning bias i you guys might disagree but you know that's how

00:22:38.620 we see well i think that you're to be to be honest i think you're confusing left-leaning sources

00:22:44.860 just with like educated non-biased sources and a religious institute would be biased for their

00:22:50.700 agenda kind of like you're talking about with marriage but i believe like if we're going to

00:22:54.620 look at data i think that that education you know i don't think that's i mean if to be honest maybe

00:23:03.420 you're right like maybe education is left-leaning at this point i like that might just be actually

00:23:08.140 factual, that right-leaning people have completely abandoned intellectual conversation and debate

00:23:14.220 because they want to go on their feelings rather than facts. And so it's interesting to me that

00:23:19.480 the topic of choosing to use data or not is the topic. I will not engage that way. My feelings

00:23:27.520 don't matter. So again, I noticed you said educated non-biased sources. And to me, the way I would

00:23:34.560 interpret that is I get to determine what's a good source and a bad source. And, and it just,

00:23:41.100 again, it just becomes a back and forth between. No, I think things, I think things like peer

00:23:45.920 reviewed and double blind studies, randomized studies, I think things like those are what

00:23:52.920 would make it make them more right. Because if, if the people don't know they're in it and if

00:23:57.500 we're looking at raw data and if we have sample size after sample size, after sample size, after

00:24:01.580 sample size that is saying the same thing i think that if i still chose to believe my own world view

00:24:08.860 i think that i would be um doing a disservice to myself let me give you an example okay so if let's

00:24:16.300 neither of us are this person but i'm just gonna give you an example okay if you're a cop and every 0.89

00:24:23.100 day you're arresting black people every single day you're you're getting stabbed by them you're 1.00

00:24:28.780 shot by that whatever there's oh wait you said arrested or getting assaulted by them there's 0.98

00:24:33.060 two different things that you just said so arresting okay look i i don't need you to explain

00:24:38.320 it to me i think no i just i just want a clear question okay so if you're if you're a cop and

00:24:45.000 this is the experience and then they throw a data data set in your face if i was the cop i would go

00:24:53.180 with my experience because you know if you've worked in the field 20 years i think i don't

00:24:57.360 what the scenario you're giving me is no i don't hold on i don't know what scenario you're giving

00:25:03.120 me is so you're saying that i'm a cop and my experience is that i arrest more black people 0.54

00:25:07.680 than white people yeah and the data and then let's say a study comes out and it says

00:25:13.200 you arrest more that more white people commit crimes and you're like that is not true

00:25:19.520 well yeah i'm not trying to argue about that by the way we don't know

00:25:23.600 No, I mean, I would just say that, oh, wow. Interesting. Like, I wonder why that is. Right. So then I might look at like the rest of the data of like the people on my force. Right.

00:25:35.260 If I find out that I'm the only person arresting black people at the same rate and everybody else on my force is arresting people at the rate that that data tells me the crime is committed. 0.59

00:25:45.820 i would say like if i didn't want to be a racist i'd be like oh wow i should probably look at why 1.00

00:25:51.160 like why i'm arresting more black people wow yeah that i would just say that study is full of shit 0.99

00:25:58.480 that's me personally so so i under i understand where you're coming from i do get it but it's 0.99

00:26:04.720 just a difference in how we perceive information right maybe that is just better at finding black 1.00

00:26:11.720 criminals, I guess that's probably what he would say. Right. It's just, he's just, he's just better 0.97

00:26:15.540 at it then. Yeah. I mean, that's, that's fine. It's just a difference in worldview, which is

00:26:19.780 fine. Um, yeah. Okay. So we can actually get into the, I just wanted to clarify that before we

00:26:25.320 started. So, okay. All right. So one of the topics I think you suggested was traditional

00:26:30.940 gender role benefit men more than women. I'll hear you out. Give me the case. Okay. Sure. Uh, okay. 0.94

00:26:38.920 um do you want to so the reason i had asked you this these all these topics actually kind of

00:26:47.040 blend together to be honest um i did suss them out the way we talked about them but they are

00:26:51.780 they do kind of blend together and just so everybody else knows we talked about this topic

00:26:55.840 and um sexism uh still shaping pink collar and blue collar jobs uh and i can't remember the

00:27:05.400 other one what was the other one it's um women don't have it easier than oh yeah which i think 1.00

00:27:10.880 they all tie together to be honest but that's why i picked it is we could do this another day and go

00:27:16.140 through the other ones but you're fine you're fine um yeah so basically um i think men gain

00:27:21.820 more economic and social advantages from the gender roles than women um i'm gonna i'm going

00:27:27.800 to say that that's going to be in wages and earnings um it's going to tie into the history

00:27:34.100 that men have sort of had the norm of being the breadwinner and have had access to gain economic

00:27:39.860 value far longer than women have women have um so that's like starting a race you know x amount 1.00

00:27:47.620 of steps ahead um when we talk about like unpaid labor um done whether you are a stay-at-home

00:27:56.260 parent or you work women typically are going to pick up for the slack of that around the house 1.00

00:28:02.340 um and things like that i've got data that i can like you know go through this i've just got some

00:28:06.420 stuff that i wrote down um here as well sorry say the last one more time unpaid later so women do 1.00

00:28:11.940 more chores essentially but yeah when we talk about um like outside of the uh there's outside

00:28:18.900 of the work day so even women who work like a nine to five um and then when they compare um 1.00

00:28:25.060 household labor i think women do on average between like 37 and 51 more than men

00:28:30.980 how many hours a day are they doing chores i mean there's like you know um there's air fryers now

00:28:38.020 it's not that hard to cook keep clean yeah well i think that that right there too right i mean

00:28:43.140 people who have children right like i just literally went through a crisis for 45 minutes

00:28:48.180 prior my dad's fishing me and my mother you know are wrangling you know my child um you know that

00:28:55.220 just typically like falls on on the mother and men benefit from that right my my dad my dad's

00:29:00.500 benefiting from an anecdotal i know right um i'm i'm okay with the anecdotal you can give it to me

00:29:08.980 well i'm just saying you know tell me so what like what's the specific thing that like was super

00:29:14.180 you know time because today i want to talk about my personal that i'm just saying like uh but here

00:29:20.180 let me um i mean we could just give an example so like you know because i you know we're having one

00:29:26.100 kid maybe two now not ten you know my grandma had 13 kids so i could see how that would be time

00:29:31.220 consuming but we're not you know i'm like how many hours a day are we like cooking you know

00:29:35.860 and cleaning yeah i mean kids don't kids don't make kids you don't have children right no by the

00:29:42.260 way perryl i have to say that for an anti-feminist you you sure would rock a feminist life i mean 1.00

00:29:48.820 college educated no kids you're not married yet like right now you're in your prime like you got

00:29:55.380 your bag you've got your thing like i wish i like i wish i was i wish i had rocked the feminist 0.78

00:30:00.580 lifestyle like you did i i you know are you jealous i i like honestly yeah like i didn't have

00:30:06.580 to wrangle my i didn't have to wrangle my kid tonight before this right like i mean you like

00:30:11.380 i mean honestly like you know so i i think that uh you know getting pregnant young and and and

00:30:17.140 holding that yes where a house is 1500 square feet so that's that's that's where yeah i live in

00:30:29.620 well here i pulled up the answer to your question so um like how many so because in this study how

00:30:36.740 many i want to know how many hours a day are the women doing this unpaid labor it's an it like i 1.00

00:30:41.860 i said it so the 37 increase is gonna it talks about so 5.2 hours on average for men 8.8 for

00:30:51.020 women this is um a day this is a day this is a day let me pull up the chart here um

00:30:56.680 you just seem really inefficient well so we'll know because omg i do if you have a child i do

00:31:05.260 have to read these may roast you at times i want you to know it's not personal but i will read

00:31:10.420 that. You're welcome if they super chat you on TikTok and they roast me. It's totally fine.

00:31:14.380 They are. OMG, it's fine. Is she really complaining about life skills every man can do?

00:31:20.640 They can. They just don't. Okay. Yeah. I agree. I agree that men can do these things. They just

00:31:26.740 don't. Okay. So you're saying, so men gain more economic and social gender roles from women.

00:31:33.660 They make more money. How do you know they don't make more money to appease women's spending habits 1.00

00:31:43.180 because women spend more than men? When you say women spend more, where are you getting that

00:31:49.900 information from? Well, the first line of eyesight would be my eyes. I do have eyes and I see how

00:31:56.800 women move in the world. Women do make 80% of consumer buying decisions. I think it's like 1.00

00:32:02.920 150 000 well yeah they're doing well yeah they're doing the shopping for that that's part of that

00:32:09.720 unpaid labor that they're they're doing right so they are managing the household managing the

00:32:14.280 bills right so when you say women are are doing it like i i got you got to stop interrupting me 1.00

00:32:20.920 okay yeah you got it you got to let me finish you got to let me finish okay so my first the

00:32:28.520 first way I would, I would have this opinion is my eyes. So I have seen the difference between

00:32:35.960 men and women's spending habits. I noticed this in college, women would go out to eat, 1.00

00:32:40.560 men would be more likely to eat in the cafeteria. I noticed this post-college where women would 1.00

00:32:45.720 invest in, especially white women. We love Botox. You know what I mean? We love, we love Botox. We 0.96

00:32:52.280 love um shopping you know i don't really witness a lot of women um cooking to be honest maybe that's 1.00

00:32:59.400 what the study is saying but that's just not what i've noticed i know i know oh you gotta

00:33:04.280 okay sorry i was just i just i don't want to mute you i don't want to mute you but i will so um

00:33:13.000 see this is why i can't be interrupted i get i'll be on a roll you know so anyways it first starts

00:33:19.560 in college where i just noticed a different you know women go out shopping that's like a hobby for 1.00

00:33:24.040 us that's a hobby it's not a hobby for men um then on top of that there is evidence that supports

00:33:35.400 this um it's also if i go around in the city i just see all the stuff that like is marketed to

00:33:40.200 women you know restaurants um botox fake nails fake hair um doug mpa oh yeah then there's hold

00:33:53.480 on i can't i can't i got look hold on one second one second i'm going to take you down for one 1.00

00:33:59.000 second one second i can't read and listen so i'm trying to have a conversation with her you gotta

00:34:06.440 you gotta let me go thank you i can't yeah please don't do that you can put it it's just you know

00:34:15.480 okay thank you we're back um so yeah so you have st i witness women traveling you see this on

00:34:23.240 instagram um student debt women own the majority of so i would attribute in my eyes you know i 1.00

00:34:34.040 grew up with a mother and a father my mother spent far more than my father relatives the women always 1.00

00:34:40.920 spend more than the men so yeah go ahead you're welcome to rebuttal now okay can you show me some

00:34:47.720 some data to back that up please

00:35:09.480 in their lifetime if i do show you data that backs that up will you believe it or think i'm lying

00:35:15.720 no i i i believe data but then i'm gonna want to look at why i already know the answer to this i'm

00:35:21.160 just wondering if you have it women spend why it costs three hundred thousand dollars more to be a 1.00

00:35:27.080 woman than a man right yeah what is that like a cosmo blog or what yeah see i don't like this

00:35:35.000 where you're going in in bad faith i try to i try to have a nice conversation with you okay okay

00:35:40.440 where's the data from where's it from this is always where it goes it's i don't believe pearl

00:35:45.320 i think she's lying which is fine i just just show me the data then listen all right all right there

00:35:51.280 we go ah i try i try with these women i'll try another feminist next week 1.00

00:36:02.300 i'll try another one next week

00:36:06.900 well

00:36:11.940 because and a lot of people come at me i think we'll just react to something else

00:36:18.740 they say pearl why don't you just go back and forth because it's going to be that the whole way

00:36:23.380 source source source source source source source and i'm exhausted i just want i just want somebody

00:36:32.360 to come in uh i just want someone to come in in good faith i just thought

00:36:41.880 i just thought we could try

00:36:45.320 i know she was in bad faith i know i have woman fatigue i don't know how you guys live but like

00:36:51.640 this. Women are 80% of consumer spending. Is she crazy? Yeah, because do you know what I mean? It 1.00

00:37:05.200 would just take me 10 minutes. I could go through this. I'm going to do an essay video on this.

00:37:09.440 What should I react to?

00:37:36.760 Hmm.

00:37:39.440 I couldn't do Piers Morgan. I wonder if Piers Morgan has had any good clips. Does Trump

00:37:54.220 win the noble piece? I think I had a face. No, this is all too much. Ah, Spotify banned

00:38:04.780 nick f yeah you know because i let her know beforehand if you're just gonna question me

00:38:20.540 every step of the way i'm not gonna do it you know and it's the interesting thing about women 1.00

00:38:27.100 is they go on to your show and then they they can't play by your rules it's like i demand

00:38:32.620 I demand we do things my way. I'm like, well, no. Disgusting 304, admit this crime.

00:38:51.280 I actually, I think this will be my next essay video. I'll make one for her. I really will.

00:38:56.240 I'll make an essay video with all my sources. I really will. I'll put them all in the comments.

00:39:02.620 but what I'm not going to do,

00:39:04.740 we can't have a real conversation about what we've seen in life if it's just

00:39:08.980 going to go back and forth. All right, here we go.

00:39:13.080 What about you?

00:39:14.020 Hi, I'm Ophelia Purr. I'm a professional star in an online slut. 0.98

00:39:19.740 I am 20 years old and I moved to LA about four years ago to be a greater 1.00

00:39:24.840 slut. 1.00

00:39:25.900 Wait, you're how old again? 1.00

00:39:27.620 20.

00:39:28.340 You're 20?

00:39:29.020 Yeah. 1.00

00:39:29.320 You moved to LA at 16 to be a slut? 1.00

00:39:31.340 well fake id yeah hold on 1.00

00:39:35.200 what yeah hold on i got a fake id at 16. why did you use the fake id for because you can't do

00:39:44.600 porn until you're 18 so i had a friend and we both got fake ids and then we got into porn

00:39:49.640 and it kind of just went from there so like there's definitely an underage footprint of me

00:39:56.380 somewhere but the daddies are off too that's actually not funny at all but i kind of love it

00:40:04.620 hold on um you're 20. oh i'm from albuquerque new mexico okay maybe that makes sense it's kind of

00:40:13.500 crazy how women we commit crimes and we like laugh at them or like teehee teehee by the way 1.00

00:40:20.700 if there is a feminist that can have a normal conversation like i just think feminists lack 1.00

00:40:27.400 like basic social skills now it'd be one thing if i came into this habit saying debate me debate me

00:40:33.700 but i never do that i say let's have a normal conversation they just don't know how to do it

00:40:39.280 i don't think they know it's like they're like what's good faith i'm like not assuming i'm a

00:40:45.280 bad person just off the jump giving someone the benefit of the debt the same benefit of the doubt

00:40:51.420 that I gave you you know I don't come in and every source you say I say you're lying you're lying

00:40:56.660 you're lying I would do that if I if I thought they're a bad person you know and a lot of the

00:41:03.120 women they say you know you're running away from the conversation but I'm like we can't even have

00:41:07.780 a conversation if the whole way you're just trying to discredit me we can't we can't we could do

00:41:15.200 a debate um hypothetically but it's just you know and i'm not trying to be rude you know she came at

00:41:23.380 me personal first you know she's a single mom living at her parents house you know am i really

00:41:30.800 gonna come on like let's just let's just be real am i am i really you know it she's not gonna tell

00:41:41.300 me anything nor is she going to tell me how to run my show unfortunately i know they're taking

00:41:49.040 it as a huge w they could that's fine you know it's just it's like these people that have no

00:41:57.200 social skills they're just not very nice people in the world you know and you can tell because

00:42:02.640 they don't know how to have a normal conversation it's they come in and they just immediately you're

00:42:09.020 lying. You're, they talk over you. You, you give them so many warnings. You're like, don't talk

00:42:16.540 over, don't interrupt me. And I'm not a yeller. Do you know what I mean? It's just not, it's not

00:42:21.400 my personality. It's not who I am as a person. I'm not, I'm really not a mean person. I hate,

00:42:29.500 I hate that as a person, in order to have like, these are adult women. In order to have like 1.00

00:42:35.440 adult conversations. I have to go. I have to start talking like this. Don't talk over. I hate

00:42:42.080 talking like that. I hate, I hate that I have to don't stop. Like, cause they don't listen. It's

00:42:49.500 like, if I say, all right, stop. I have to treat them with kid. It's too frustrating.

00:42:54.320 You see why they're single moms. I'm being honest. I'm being honest. I'm like, I can see

00:43:00.900 they can never like, um, function in society. It's their life choices.

00:43:07.800 You know, and I understand everyone wants a bloodbath, right? They want me to go back and

00:43:14.720 forth. They want me to debate. I get it. I understand. I understand the want. That's a

00:43:19.620 good internet material. It would probably make a lot more money, but I don't like, you know,

00:43:26.760 i don't like arguing with people i'm not a i am not shocking to the internet i'm not a combative

00:43:33.000 person you know i genuinely go into things in good faith i'm not going to hold your life

00:43:40.040 circumstances against you i'm not going to bully you know i'm not going to do those things um

00:43:47.880 but these women they come in every time you say show me your soul show me your and it's 1.00

00:43:53.000 just like okay we're not gonna have a real conversation and then they gaslight the

00:44:01.000 interesting thing is they gaslight you see these women they gaslight because they say oh it was 1.00

00:44:06.440 bad faith from you i'm like well you know she started she was in number one you know she's

00:44:13.080 she says she doesn't want to talk about her personal life while trying to attack mine

00:44:17.400 which by the way i don't put all of it on the internet um you know they want privacy which

00:44:23.080 is fine i respect it uh they have no regard or respect for yours you know which is fine you know

00:44:30.920 i'm not but it's just i'm not a combative person i'm really not and i i do have the right on this

00:44:40.520 show i do have the right to make the rules for it and you're totally welcome to make your own show

00:44:45.800 but nobody would watch it that's the problem nobody would watch it you couldn't do what i did

00:44:51.160 because of your lack of social skills i swear to god you know you couldn't you couldn't do what i

00:44:58.120 did you couldn't it would be impossible it's what you know it's why you guys are all struggle streaming

00:45:05.080 you know it's why you got 500 followers on instagram you know you can ask me for advice you

00:45:10.360 know i'm just saying it's like this is what they do they they demand they say come on

00:45:17.240 come on the show and i say okay can you have a normal conversation honey can you do it and they're

00:45:22.200 like yeah i can do it and then you give them a warning you're like okay you gotta be nice

00:45:28.040 that's all i ask you just have to be polite and nice

00:45:31.160 you know and and the liberals what they do is they come in and they okay because imagine if

00:45:41.320 i say women spend more than men well what's your source now i got to explain my source for 10

00:45:46.680 minutes why don't you just listen to what i have to say and then if you disagree later you can look

00:45:53.480 it up yourself you know you can go through it um but we you know we can at a later time give you

00:46:00.520 a list whatever and i'm gonna actually make a series going through my source so this is coming

00:46:06.120 this is you know you have to understand i have a lot of moving pieces i'm trying to raise money

00:46:09.960 for a document i'm doing all these things that sometimes yeah if people asking for citations

00:46:17.640 for any small claim like women have consumer power it's not good i know and i try to explain

00:46:22.920 this to people that aren't in debate but they don't get it you know uh you know i then they'll

00:46:30.040 never get it you know and the women they'll come in and i'm sure these you know they come in but 1.00

00:46:37.000 they usually it's just they gaslight they're like no you're in bad faith i'm like really i think i

00:46:41.720 was pretty nice i you know hey i believe my eyes and the way the way liberals want to manipulate

00:46:50.280 you is they want to be in charge like women are so controlling they want to control how you perceive 1.00

00:46:56.920 the world so they want the ability to control what sources are allowed they want the ability

00:47:02.920 to like they want to be able to discredit you um yeah the crazy thing is um even when they google

00:47:13.640 they don't realize that personalized google shows them what they want to see in niche studies i know

00:47:19.720 i know

00:47:20.120 i know so you know again i am i do i would like to do a reoccurring series from a feminist i 0.99

00:47:33.000 really would this is an open offer you can dm me but you gotta i gotta i got some rules for you

00:47:39.960 you cannot ask me source every five minutes i understand if we were debating that could be a

00:47:47.240 thing or not this is a conversation conversations i don't converse with people without going into

00:47:55.320 things in good faith good faith

00:48:06.760 sincerity of intention good faith is a broad term that's used to encompass honest dealings

00:48:17.240 depending on the exact setting, good faith. Yeah. You can't ask me for definitions every

00:48:22.480 five minutes either. That's a debate tactic. Every five minutes, I cannot have definitions.

00:48:30.960 Yeah. It implies I'm lying. And I'm like, if you think I'm lying, why are you here?

00:48:35.680 You're just here to try to, you know,

00:48:37.520 it's like i beg them please please just have a normal conversation

00:48:47.180 i try with these women i really do i try

00:49:07.520 Yeah. So again, this is open. Um, I'll make a list of rules, but you can't ask me stat every

00:49:22.520 five minutes. You can't ask me to define words every five minutes. You can't insult me. You

00:49:31.720 know, I get it. You know, I'm not, I could be a better person, but I won't insult you personally

00:49:36.320 if you don't insult me personally um yeah and you have to have a good spirit about you

00:49:48.320 i don't you know i don't mind a definition here and there you know what but it's every

00:49:54.560 five minutes there's certain liberals that they they debate you and they're like definition

00:49:58.480 definition def and you're just like okay i'm moving on i'm moving on with my life

00:50:06.320 yeah it's a spirit thing it's a spirit thing but the thing is women go through the world and 1.00

00:50:14.440 they're never told how insufferable they are because they're pretty when they're young

00:50:18.100 they're pretty but unfortunately your life choices will just keep

00:50:22.560 see this is a person that's in bad faith so what's the delineation between what's too many

00:50:30.340 or not too many it's like these nerds with no conversation skills they have none they don't

00:50:35.860 how to have a nice conversation with somebody they're like okay well how many definitions can 0.99

00:50:40.900 you do we have to set rules and i'm like okay if you're too dumb to have a conversation where 0.96

00:50:46.260 you're polite if you can't do it if you don't have that in you you know you know if you if you need 0.94

00:50:52.900 like a list here do you know what i mean it's just you can't

00:51:00.740 yeah they're going to continue to invent new words i mean they change definitions of words

00:51:09.160 anyway and so it's like if you need a list of rules in order to have a good conversation 0.99

00:51:14.100 i'm just going to kick you yeah define too dumb 0.99

00:51:19.420 yeah well conversations don't have rules they do on this channel 0.98

00:51:26.320 sorry if you want let me let me go look at your successful youtube channel let me see let me see

00:51:32.480 how you do let me see yeah do you know what i mean it's like let let me see let me i bet you

00:51:44.280 did i bet you did a great job i bet you have a ton of if people interrupt every premise it's bad

00:51:50.560 Exactly.

00:51:56.120 I'm not a YouTuber.

00:51:57.340 I can tell.

00:51:58.380 I can tell.

00:52:01.800 I can tell.

00:52:04.420 You know, because in the real world, you opt in and opt out of conversations.

00:52:09.840 Do you know what I mean?

00:52:10.340 Because if you're just a bad conversationalist, everybody's just going to not want to converse with you.

00:52:20.560 yeah I'm gonna keep I'll keep going I'll keep no because look at I give the women a chance I tell 1.00

00:52:33.200 them beforehand I tell them beforehand you know what was my first message to her I'll see what I

00:52:38.740 that. I said, look, um, do you have a topic? Blah, blah, blah. You can come on the show and we can

00:53:00.920 have a good faith conversation about two to four topics we disagree on.

00:53:05.120 you can bring up videos we want to react to together if you have things you want to show

00:53:11.360 to explain your point the idea is to go in depth and think more through our opinions

00:53:16.300 this is not a debate

00:53:20.180 yeah so you know and it's it's just i wonder because sometimes these women 1.00

00:53:34.880 It's like, I think they just want to argue. I'm going to, I'm going to rant a little. They just

00:53:38.620 want to argue because, you know, this is a show. So that means you can turn it on or off.

00:53:46.500 You can turn it on or turn it off. You can turn on the show or turn off the show.

00:53:52.020 And so it's like, you know, why are you here? If you're not here to have a good faith conversation,

00:53:57.420 are you here to just, you know, be a bitch? 1.00

00:53:59.140 and the thing is i'm an athlete if this had to get physical i could kick these women's ass 1.00

00:54:09.520 all of them i really could i am not a violent i hate i hate that it's like i have to develop 1.00

00:54:19.020 being a bitch to deal with bitches i hate that is this what you guys feel like dating women 1.00

00:54:25.340 it's like you have to develop these skills you know because debate at its core it's just 1.00

00:54:30.220 manipulating people like it it's just you know trying to find ways to make the other look stupid 0.94

00:54:35.900 instead of having a good place conversation about what we believe it's always how it goes 0.96

00:54:39.840 being a housewife and not working is a privilege not a chore it's free rent free free food not

00:54:45.600 unpaid labor also use your eyes women spend more i know and it's like if people don't trust their 1.00

00:54:53.000 then I think you're just kind of, you can just be easily manipulated, you know?

00:55:08.000 I couldn't fight my way out of a wet paper bag. You would be surprised.

00:55:12.700 You would be surprised. You really would be surprised.

00:55:15.440 um in basketball i got a few technicals look at i not a lot gets to me but when something gets to me

00:55:25.220 i had a girl i'm not gonna tell the story of who but i had this woman 0.99

00:55:29.340 punch me in the face once it was over the dumbest thing 0.97

00:55:32.780 i i i regret every day not hitting her back i really regret it but i had her in a headlock 1.00

00:55:39.500 so fast and she was my height. I had her in like this headlight. She's like squirming trying to 1.00

00:55:45.640 go at me and I'm like holding her down. And I'm like, well, this is a long time ago.

00:55:59.840 I'm telling you guys.

00:56:09.500 so yeah this is an open open invite you know that's what i wanted i have a liberal law i have

00:56:15.260 a liberal guitar teacher we just have the best conversations offline or a liberal friend we have

00:56:21.100 the bat like there and i wanted him to actually start this debate because he's just um 0.89

00:56:28.540 or this series because i really want to do this series i want to do it's called hear me out

00:56:32.860 where every week i go with a feminist and we have to hear each other out okay hold on one second 1.00

00:57:02.860 .

00:57:32.860 .

00:58:02.860 Sorry, I got the best news ever.

00:58:30.240 I got the best news on the planet.

00:58:32.860 i i don't know if i could tell you i can't tell you guys but oh my god i'm so happy

00:58:38.860 oh this is the best news ever ever ever ever

00:58:44.320 oh my gosh i'm so happy

00:58:48.820 all right i gotta go i gotta go because um yeah this is i'm sorry you know

00:59:02.760 I'm sorry to you, Ash.

00:59:03.920 I really wanted to have a good conversation.

00:59:06.540 Try to be more likable next time.

00:59:09.900 Try to be more pleasant and nice.

00:59:13.720 And no, I can't tell you the news.

00:59:15.660 Have I told you the news?

00:59:17.820 You know, I can't tell you the news.

00:59:19.620 I can't.

00:59:21.520 I can't.

00:59:22.380 But this is a great day.

00:59:25.800 This is a great day.

00:59:26.900 I'll tell you what.

00:59:27.660 no it's nothing to do with me guys

00:59:34.300 you know but so anyways this is an open invite um to the feminist women i would love to have 1.00

00:59:42.180 one of you that is pleasant please god and i've noticed this there's a lot of liberal young women 1.00

00:59:47.860 but they're usually still pleasant i see why you guys don't date these older broads because that's 0.99

00:59:52.380 what you have to deal with you're going to be in your house and she's going to be like stat stat 0.99

00:59:55.800 you're gonna be like i think this and she's gonna be like stat stat stat i can't tell you the update

01:00:01.960 guys 500 super chat and i will 500 super chat it's 500 keeping it real yeah i won't do it but

01:00:18.760 for money i will 500 super chat 500

01:00:25.800 Yeah, you want to know so bad, but when it's pay me, when it's pay me, when it's pay me for it, you don't want, they're like, you know, I don't want to know, $500.

01:00:46.820 Pearl's rant is arguments.

01:00:48.520 Yeah, because you know what?

01:00:49.900 It's like, you just kind of want to be like, all right, you're right.

01:00:52.340 Are you happy?

01:00:53.460 Are you happy?

01:00:54.500 Do you know what I mean?

01:00:55.080 when you argue with these women, it's like, you just want to be like, all right, you're right. 0.98

01:00:59.240 You win. You win. $500 super chat. I'll give you guys two minutes.

01:01:10.400 Oh, this is the best news ever. Oh, I'm so happy. I am so happy. This is like

01:01:18.880 is everything good oh every i i can't i won't say his name but

01:01:30.680 no everything's really good and for 500 i'll tell you what it is

01:01:35.220 yeah now they're fake super chat i have way too many divorced men watching me because you're all

01:01:45.380 broke the women took they can't donate to the show the women took their money

01:01:54.500 you know it's it's not me it's not me but

01:02:04.660 or maybe it is and i'm lying

01:02:06.180 all right well i'll see you guys um thanks for watching i appreciate it um 0.90

01:02:16.980 again if you know i'm not launching an only fans you're crazy

01:02:23.760 um let me just go and ask my partner she controls that what if everybody chipped in five dollars 0.96

01:02:33.740 I mean, you can all put in like 50 or a hundred, then enough people do that, you know?

01:02:41.420 Um, yeah, but I mean, it's not that big of a deal. I mean, who cares? Do you know what I mean? It's

01:02:47.620 just anyways, guys. All right. If you want to support me, go to the audacity network.com. I

01:02:53.360 need to be, I need to be paid for having to deal with these women. I need to be paid. 1.00

01:02:58.120 uh please like the video thanks so much for watching and i'll see you next time bye

Pearl - October 17, 2025

FEMINIST LEFTIST JOINS PEARL FOR A NICE CONVERSATION

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