Pearl - Feminist Only Want Equality When It Benefits Them ｜ The Sitdown

00:00:00.000 if men's jobs disappeared tomorrow society would crumble if women's jobs disappeared tomorrow 1.00

00:00:06.160 society would be fine oh really who's going to raise all the children do you think society

00:00:12.480 discriminates more against men or women or do you think it's equal i think that they discriminate

00:00:17.520 more against women but i don't that's not to say that men aren't discriminated against

00:00:21.920 um in some aspects okay how are women more discriminated against um as i've said before 0.94

00:00:27.200 um in my own personal experience and statistically other than other than can we do something other

00:00:32.000 than just people say mean words to me because men by the time they're 22 somebody said a mean

00:00:37.760 word to them usually it's a woman so anything other than somebody said something i don't like

00:00:44.080 abortion vans can you name a law that controls what men can do and access health care and the

00:00:51.200 health care that men can access is there any laws that control men's health care access well if you

00:00:56.240 want to talk about men's body men are required to go into selective service so if there is a war

00:01:01.680 time they are required to be drafted yeah and i think that the draft should be abolished so you asked

00:01:06.320 for a law there's a law there's a way that women's bodies aren't protected there's a way men's bodies 1.00

00:01:10.800 aren't protected no so it's actually my question was different my question was can you name a law

00:01:15.200 that restricts men's access to health care that restricts men's access to health care no not off the

00:01:22.240 top of my head so there you go that's one discrimination how are women restricted 1.00

00:01:27.280 access to health care you can drive to another state and get an abortion yeah well then that's 1.00

00:01:31.920 also not taking into account like socioeconomic factors right because not every person has the

00:01:36.640 ability or the funds or the time to be able to just cross state lines to gain access we shouldn't have

00:01:43.680 different health care access in different states your your geographical location should not determine

00:01:48.960 your access to a human right okay well again luckily for women we have access to birth control 1.00

00:01:56.800 abstinence and even you can even track your cycle and not get pregnant so i think there's plenty of

00:02:04.480 options beforehand that it really isn't an excuse if you have an unplanned pregnancy so actually about

00:02:10.720 50 percent of unplanned pregnancies used protection and so that's just well then you should learn to 0.81

00:02:17.600 use it better and the other and the other the other thing is after the kids born you could argue that

00:02:22.320 it's an equally irresponsible move when men and women have unprotected sex or there's some problem

00:02:29.600 with the birth control fine equally irresponsible but after the woman has more control she has the right 0.98

00:02:36.240 to get she's the only one who gets to decide if she takes a plan b she's the only one that gets to 0.99

00:02:40.240 decide to put them on child support or alimony if they're married um men don't have a right to their 0.99

00:02:47.760 wallets after the kid is born yeah so pregnancy involves your body and your internal organs and

00:02:55.680 that is worth more than any money yeah but that's okay that's nine months a year what about the rest of

00:03:02.320 the time what about 18 years after right and so then there's like two years after that that you're

00:03:07.520 breastfeeding and then there's the unequal division of child care and domestic labor so it's so much

00:03:14.000 more than nine months but to but to go back we cannot minimize that nine months having your body be not

00:03:20.720 your own for nine months is nine months too long yeah but there are men dying when they go and do their jobs

00:03:27.840 and they're not complaining about it they can get a different job no because men understand that somebody

00:03:33.040 has to do it yeah they don't they they understand well that's why it's admirable that they do it

00:03:39.600 anyway and they don't complain and that's what i keep going back to is what feminists tend to want is 1.00

00:03:45.920 they want all of the credit and they want to over exaggerate their problems so i would actually like to

00:03:51.360 go back to the comparison you made of pregnancy and men going to work do you think those two things are the

00:03:57.920 same i think that a man going to a dangerous job is far worse than a woman being pregnant and do you

00:04:05.440 think that the majority of far far more dangerous i'll say that's more accurate better and good is

00:04:10.560 like it's subjective right yeah and as i've said before i think that we should have better safety

00:04:16.960 protocols and we should improve the safety of all workers so i think that that should be addressed

00:04:21.600 but also the majority should but it isn't right like are you arguing for it to be i here here's

00:04:27.760 the difference okay so feminists have a tendency to think that if we complain things will just happen 1.00

00:04:34.240 and i'm more realistic where i know that just because we say oh it should be better well it's not

00:04:40.560 so and men understand that because they have had to deal with that reality from a young age you

00:04:47.440 recognize that the only reason you have a microphone and you have a show is because feminists complained 1.00

00:04:53.040 because we wanted a voice that's not true it actually is it's not true there's writers there's

00:04:57.920 writers there's female writers in the 1800s and they had to write under male pseudonyms it's not true 0.54

00:05:03.920 it is true well you can say it's not true but it's it's history and it's statistics it is that's not true

00:05:10.720 it is we we used to not have cleopatra we had women in power throughout all of history there are examples of

00:05:16.800 them when the first female property owner was in the 1600s in the united states when were women 1.00

00:05:22.560 allowed to have their own bank accounts women were allowed to have their own bank accounts in 19 1.00

00:05:29.760 what what does that have to do with writing you're changing the topic no no i'm not you're changing

00:05:33.680 the topic because i'm right they were allowed to write they were you're the one who brought up female

00:05:38.640 writers that wasn't okay go ahead go ahead so um sometime in the 1900s i can't remember the year

00:05:45.760 yeah it was like in the 1970s is when women were allowed to have bank accounts so when we're 0.83

00:05:50.480 talking about what's happened since what's happened since we got bank accounts we own 80 we own 80 of

00:05:55.600 the world's debt there's a reason people did things the way they did you don't think that women should 1.00

00:06:00.000 be able to have their own bank accounts i don't think they shouldn't have bank accounts i think everyone

00:06:04.880 should have the should have the right and they do but the re there's a reason i think when we look at

00:06:11.200 the past we have to look at the reason that people did things and one of the reasons is women are very 1.00

00:06:17.360 irresponsible with money they own 80 percent of the world's debt even though they make less money than

00:06:22.640 men so did you know that the majority of household finances are regulated and controlled by women 1.00

00:06:29.680 yeah i knew that we make 80 percent of consumer buying decisions yeah so that's what i said they

00:06:34.480 spend that's what i said they spend money they spend money they don't have we do have the money

00:06:42.560 not anymore i mean the average woman out of college has thirty thousand dollars worth how much debt do you 1.00

00:06:48.160 have you have to have six figures coming out i do have six figures of debt and that's and the student debt

00:06:52.800 yeah because the thing is in your profession i mean on average women leave the medical profession when 1.00

00:06:59.760 they have a kid or within five years so odds are you won't pay it off and it makes i'm not saying you

00:07:05.040 personally i hope you do right i'm not wishing it one way or another but statistically women make their 1.00

00:07:10.640 debt someone else's problem men do the same thing this no they don't so they looked at no they looked at um

00:07:16.800 women paying off their debt and men paying off their college debt and men have been making payments

00:07:21.520 towards it the last five years and women haven't so it's funny because you just mentioned how women 1.00

00:07:26.640 will leave their careers because they have to take care of children and that probably plays a large

00:07:31.920 role into why they're not able to pay back their student debt compared to men who continue to be a

00:07:36.400 part of the workforce even after they have children do you see how those two things like might be correlated

00:07:41.840 no because women aren't having kids anymore that would have been the case maybe the case before but 1.00

00:07:46.800 now they're not really having children we are still having children on average on average it's

00:07:51.440 like 1.5 now so i mean you have one kid you can put it in daycare you can still work you can put it

00:08:00.400 in daycare sorry his or her yeah see and this is the problem is like when we see people as commodities

00:08:06.720 instead of actual people like that's where we run into this thing of like i don't care how you feel 0.98

00:08:11.760 you make stupid decisions instead of taking a nuanced perspective and the complexity of the human 0.93

00:08:17.040 experience and recognizing that there are so many things that contribute into these cherry-picked 1.00

00:08:22.080 statistics well you think that the world owes you understanding and it doesn't i think that it does

00:08:27.120 i think that we owe everybody understanding i think that in order for me so you know what i think that this

00:08:32.640 is something we need to clarify yeah go ahead i partake in these conversations because i want a better

00:08:38.720 world i develop my opinions based on how i think or based on what i think is going to improve the

00:08:46.640 human condition and improve people's um equality of life why do you take part in these conversations

00:08:53.520 i like to report on what's going on okay so you have no desire to improve the world and to be

00:09:00.000 like an advocate for change and progression it would be nice but i don't expect it 0.64

00:09:05.200 see and for me one of my favorite quotes is the people who are crazy enough to think they

00:09:09.360 can change the world are the ones who do and you can call me a dreamer they're the ones who do not

00:09:14.400 i mean historically you're wrong i don't think so martin luther king had a dream didn't he okay but

00:09:20.880 how many guys tried to be martin luther king and failed i'm not i'm not saying that that's a societal

00:09:27.200 issue because we resist progression and you're one of the people who is allowing society to resist progression

00:09:32.640 instead of allowing progression to happen how am i allowing society to what does that even mean

00:09:38.240 yeah so you okay no god god it's fine yeah because you say i see the reality right now and i report on

00:09:45.600 the reality right now and when i say yeah we should recognize what's happening now and improve on it

00:09:51.680 you're you say oh men are dying in the workplace and i'm like okay let's address that let's see why

00:09:56.640 they're doing that let's see how can we can improve on that and then you're like yeah that's not

00:10:00.480 realistic i live in reality where you see how i am advocating for progression i'm advocating for

00:10:06.480 improvement where you're just like yeah you know what that's not the world we live in and i don't

00:10:10.640 have any idea or any desire to improve on the shitty statistics that i constantly report on yeah so i

00:10:18.400 think that sounds nice but again it doesn't change the reality of the situation so you saying something on

00:10:24.560 a podcast doesn't change the amount of men that die every year in a crab fishing boat but what i like

00:10:30.640 to do is be as accurate as i possibly can and that is why i say that women do not do as useful or as 1.00

00:10:37.760 needed jobs in society as men do if men's jobs disappeared tomorrow society would crumble if women's 1.00

00:10:44.960 jobs disappeared tomorrow society would be fine oh really who's going to raise all the children women 1.00

00:10:51.120 aren't even raising their own kids they're in daycare that's actually in daycare in public

00:10:55.600 school that's no it's a billion dollar industry it is a billion dollar industry but statistically women 1.00

00:11:01.840 have the like the majority of child care burden and not a lot of people can afford daycare nowadays

00:11:07.440 well who is the kid spending the most time with if the mom's at work most most mothers work nowadays

00:11:13.520 so the kid is spending more time at school or at daycare yeah because usually school gets out

00:11:18.320 school gets out at like 2 30. it's not the norm people don't really have extended family school

00:11:24.160 gets out at 2 30 or 3. they go to daycare for two or three hours what about before school what about

00:11:29.600 before daycare because a lot of times especially in that first minutes in the morning no no like the

00:11:34.160 first two years of life at least a lot of people aren't sending newborns and like it's not uncommon

00:11:42.240 my sister works at a daycare it's they get newborns like yeah within the first couple right 1.00

00:11:47.120 months all we're talking about like populations right we're talking about like statistics and

00:11:52.960 the majority of people are not sending their average age do you care if i look i'm just curious

00:11:57.360 what is the average age kids go in daycare no that's i actually don't know the answer to that question

00:12:02.640 that wouldn't be the question that i would ask but i'm curious what that answer is okay i'm just curious

00:12:06.720 we recommend kids start daycare as early as six weeks old doesn't give me an average just says kids

00:12:13.360 can start daycare as early as six weeks that's all i got yeah well i mean again that because that

00:12:19.520 wouldn't be the question that i would google like it would be because right we're talking about

00:12:25.280 breastfeeding we're talking about like bonding a lot of these things like especially in the first two to 0.99

00:12:32.240 six months of life at least like women bear the majority of that labor sure but i say so what i could

00:12:39.360 say men men bear the majority of labor of running society for a lifetime on average on average women 0.94

00:12:48.400 have one to two kids so okay you you could say that's four years men work 50 50 in a difficult job

00:12:55.760 that gives us the food that we have the chairs we're sitting on and the microphone we're talking in

00:13:01.760 and who set that system up you should say thank you men did thank god for them no you seem to have a

00:13:07.600 problem with the amount that men work and the responsibility that men bear and so i don't have

00:13:12.160 i don't have a problem with it i'm acknowledging what it is and i women should be thankful to men

00:13:17.760 for doing it instead of complaining that they're not doing enough to make women's lives comfortable

00:13:22.320 we live in one of the most privileged times to be a woman ever i mean you have even even the fact

00:13:27.680 that you're saying um the biggest problem is that they have to raise their kids in the early years

00:13:32.560 you know how privileged that is i mean you have the option to put them in daycare you have the option

00:13:36.720 to delay motherhood they made ivf for us they gave you birth like we have so many choices now

00:13:42.720 and we're still gonna say they're not doing enough that's do you know how much work it takes to raise

00:13:49.280 children i'm one of ten yeah so you should so you should be one of ten okay so here's my next question

00:13:55.760 um are your parents still married yeah and wasn't your mom like um a feminist on the un who fought for

00:14:03.120 women's rights at a global level me and my mom don't agree on everything what's your point yeah 0.90

00:14:08.240 that she had nine children and she's happily married as a feminist so it seems like you should be fully

00:14:13.120 aware and she's not a feminist she took me to sarah palin rallies when i was a kid okay i went to like

00:14:18.400 pro-life rallies when i was 12. yeah i mean they're coming out of nowhere right but she also did advocate on

00:14:24.720 a global level for like women's opportunities so it seems like you should be fully here's the thing 1.00

00:14:29.760 the the internet only has half of that story and i i can't yeah i can't tell the full one

00:14:36.160 just because it's not my place so i can't really use that as an i'm telling you you're wrong though

00:14:40.320 that's not if you had the full story i just can't talk about it here yeah you say that a lot when people

00:14:45.520 bring up your family which is fine um but my main point is that you are not ignorant to these ideas you

00:14:52.320 are not ignorant to these arguments like you on a global and personal level like are aware of them

00:14:59.520 so to say who cares like your mom cares you know to say who cares a lot of us care and i think that it

00:15:07.360 takes a lot of strength to care and i think that it actually to say oh i don't care stop complaining

00:15:13.840 that's the easy way out i don't want to take the easy way out i think that being passionate about empathy

00:15:19.520 is really like the strength it takes strength to be sensitive it takes strength to be vulnerable

00:15:24.640 and transparent i think that it's really easy and it's the easy way out to just be callous

00:15:29.760 and to say we can't make change and i don't care about your feelings okay well again you could you

00:15:34.880 can say that but it doesn't change the reality of the world and the thing is if you want to be in

00:15:39.920 a man's world then be in it and what women try to do is they go into a man's world and tell them how 1.00

00:15:45.520 it should be different yeah because as you've even though even though they've done none of the

00:15:50.000 work it seems like you are you interviewing me or are we even though they've done none of the work of

00:15:54.240 building the society but go ahead sorry i would argue that our society would be better off if we

00:15:59.040 did have a part in building it our society has been stagnated and has been held back because women 1.00

00:16:04.160 have been held back imagine the prosperity and imagine the opportunity that the world would have

00:16:08.960 if women weren't held back and women weren't stagnated and you continuously complain about

00:16:14.480 these things that men have to endure and then simultaneously call it a men's world that women 0.95

00:16:20.320 should be grateful to be a part of but we should also be sensitive towards the things that they've

00:16:26.000 built that are detrimental to themselves so what do you think men did historically like what do you

00:16:33.280 think their jobs were like 1800s what were your choices as a man to do as a job because you know

00:16:39.840 you always talk about how women were held back historically so i'm asking like what was life

00:16:43.760 like back then well women had to stay home and men had to do all of the jobs because they didn't 0.94

00:16:49.680 allow women to help them what were their jobs that they did what were the most common methods of 1.00

00:16:54.880 employment back then i mean what do you mean i mean it's going to be it's going to be construction

00:17:00.000 it's going to be medicine it's going to be food production it's going to be factories it's going

00:17:05.760 like the same thing that runs all of society so they had three choices coal miner farmer factory worker 0.76

00:17:12.960 nothing else happened in society i'm not saying nothing else that was the majority of how people

00:17:17.440 were employed so it was you guys have this like rewritten history where you guys think that men just had

00:17:25.040 these glamorous fun jobs but men did the difficult job men know that they don't they didn't enjoy

00:17:32.560 their jobs it's like do you think of any guys going to a coal mine and saying wow this is my passion

00:17:38.240 and again who set that system up it's not about who set it up it's how would this system run without

00:17:44.880 it they need coal at the time they needed coal like the same way now somebody has to build the buildings

00:17:51.280 somebody has to get the food otherwise society does not run correct and we're better off when

00:17:57.040 women participate and when women are able to help men like we talk about all of these like detrimental

00:18:03.200 aspects of these harmful industries and arguably if we cared about how people felt we were compassionate

00:18:10.960 towards their experience we would put more time and energy to improving these harmful industries

00:18:16.480 and if women had been allowed to enter into these industries earlier you could argue that they 1.00

00:18:22.960 would be safer industries because we have empathy and we want to value progression and we want to

00:18:28.400 recognize problems and address them we don't just see a problem and say hey that's a problem and then sit

00:18:36.000 on it like no you recognize a problem you recognize what causes it and you fix it okay so i told you about

00:18:43.040 the crab fishing today what are you going to do now as i said that's not my job there are people who are

00:18:49.280 excuse me if i could please speak as i've said before there are people on safety committees there

00:18:55.040 are people on workers unions there are people whose jobs are dedicated to worker safety so if you're very

00:19:03.360 passionate about that you should probably invite one of them to sit down in the studio and ask them that

00:19:09.120 question okay so nothing you're not because that's not my job i'm just i'm just clarifying you're doing

00:19:15.040 the same thing no because i'm more than happy to recognize that it's a problem that should be addressed

00:19:21.360 by somebody whose specialty it is to address that problem well thank you very much for coming on this

00:19:26.560 was fun um you want to tell them your socials and they can your social media where they can find you

00:19:32.240 good yeah so you can find me primarily on tick tock um i'm dr bronte b-r-o-n-t-e like the bronte sisters

00:19:39.280 um and then on instagram i'm at be kind and curious cool and you're welcome to use any of

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00:19:58.240 guys so much for watching and i will talk to you guys next time bye bye

Pearl - February 04, 2025

Feminist Only Want Equality When It Benefits Them ｜ The Sitdown

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