Pearl - Feminist Says Men Should PAY Women After Divorce!

00:00:00.000 It's not unfair to use the Duluth model to protect all victims against their aggressors.

00:00:06.780 Those victims have children too. It doesn't matter what gender the aggressor is.

00:00:10.500 So you're saying that the majority of men are abusive?

00:00:13.160 No, I'm saying that the majority of abusers are men.

00:00:17.440 It's a billion dollar business of money that is transferred from men to women.

00:00:21.320 If women want to be equal, then be equal. 1.00

00:00:23.540 Work just like men do. There's nothing stopping you from getting a job just like men. 0.99

00:00:26.880 So I have an issue with feminists because they say they want to be equal and they're not equal. 1.00

00:00:31.500 Oh, die alone. Never, ever be in love because there's a 4% chance you might have to pay some woman alimony. 1.00

00:00:38.240 No, because I'm talking about death because men kill themselves because of these policies.

00:00:42.580 And you guys try to minimize them and it's serious stuff.

00:00:45.860 A father who is under protective custody is a better parent than their primary caregiver, really.

00:00:53.620 Because you're assuming they're telling the truth.

00:00:56.200 How many of those cases end up in lie?

00:00:58.360 Like, how many of those cases end up being false?

00:01:00.340 The majority, because most aren't criminally prosecuted.

00:01:03.000 Then you would need evidence to criminally prosecute.

00:01:05.440 You can file a PO order and throw a guy in jail for no reason,

00:01:09.440 and it happens all the time.

00:01:11.340 And most men that I talk to,

00:01:13.860 they want nothing more than to be a part of their kids' lives.

00:01:16.320 And so that's why that I believe that marriage is a bad deal

00:01:20.700 because these systems are set up against you.

00:01:23.080 So I believe that marriage is a bad deal for men

00:01:25.140 because of the incentive structure that's at place um men are more likely to pay child support

00:01:30.020 they're more likely to pay alimony um and they're more likely to lose access to their children the

00:01:34.420 house um so because of that risk i don't think it's a good deal i think it's favorable to women

00:01:39.860 so then don't get married die alone yeah you can okay yeah so so basically and that's what's going

00:01:45.860 to happen more and more that's why the marriage rate is declining so what's your person like

00:01:49.300 what's your solution is it just like don't get married or is it how should we change marriage so

00:01:54.100 that it's um i would like it to be no child support no alimony 50 50 custody okay i think 1.00

00:02:00.420 if um feminists want to be equal we need it to actually be equal so let's paternity fraud should 1.00

00:02:05.060 also be illegal that's one thing that i would like to add okay wait child so child support alimony 1.00

00:02:10.100 no child support no alimony because everyone has access to get a job but there's nothing holding

00:02:14.100 you back okay so yeah so let's start let's start with child support and then we can go down the

00:02:18.100 list how about that sure okay so with child support um i guess my thinking about that is

00:02:22.660 it actually has nothing to do with marriage like people still pay child support even when

00:02:26.660 they're not married it's about you know supporting your child right the purpose of child support is

00:02:32.420 if you have a kid you should be financially responsible for supporting that child regardless

00:02:37.780 of your marital status so i mean i don't see what the issue with you know making sure parents are

00:02:44.100 held accountable to have their children be closed fed yeah and if there was legal measures in place

00:02:49.380 where they require it spent on the children but it's just not the way it is today um you can uh

00:02:54.660 you're also the the way that child support is calculated it's based off of how much time the

00:02:59.860 dad gets with the kids um so there is incentive to limit his access to the kid in order to get paid

00:03:05.780 more and there's no structure that requires that the mothers spend it on the child no it's fraud

00:03:11.140 yeah it's illegal to spend child support funds on things other than your children is already

00:03:16.340 no but it's not enforced there's nobody that's thrown in jail for child support but then why

00:03:20.420 does that make child support inherently a bad thing shouldn't we be advocating for more enforcement

00:03:27.460 that child support be spent on children instead of just zero child no because i think if you're

00:03:32.340 equal um if you want to be equal then be equal no child support no alimony i think you should

00:03:37.060 be responsible for the decisions that you make but it's not about equality between men and women

00:03:41.460 it's about does your child have the resources they need to survive no i would say that it's not that's

00:03:47.220 not what it's about it is either parent can pay child support right but i'm saying it should be

00:03:51.700 50 50 custody no child support no alimony well sometimes parents don't want custody of their

00:03:56.740 children sometimes parents have a job in which they can't have right but the default should be

00:04:01.540 50 50 custody no child support no alimony and that's not how it is i know but it's about what's

00:04:05.940 best for the child like it's not actually a gender debate it would literally be illegal to make it so

00:04:11.140 that only women have preferential treatment in custody and child support women pay child support

00:04:16.940 too well no because the way the law started it was based off of the tender years doctrine which

00:04:21.100 was a sexist law they do have gotten that off the books but it's still what everybody was trained on

00:04:25.300 also they have the duluth model which is a gendered law because it assumes that

00:04:29.320 um men are the aggressors and ppos can be easily filed in family court automatically um filed

00:04:35.840 against men. For those watching at home, what is the Duluth model? So it's the way that the entire

00:04:41.780 lawyers, judges, they're basically trained using this system. And essentially, it's just the way

00:04:47.080 it automatically assumes that men are the aggressor. So I, you've mentioned this a lot

00:04:51.220 in your debates. I did take the time to Google the Duluth model. And the Duluth model is actually

00:04:55.420 a format that is used specifically and solely in the cases of domestic violence and abuse.

00:05:02.520 It is a framework that is only for those who have been criminally charged with domestic violence.

00:05:08.820 So this idea that it has anything to do with alimony, child support, and marriage outside of—

00:05:13.500 No, but it's used to train judges.

00:05:14.560 It's used to train judges.

00:05:15.800 Yes, in cases of domestic violence, not just all marriage cases.

00:05:18.420 I know, but you should have the right to face your accuser in court, and you don't get that in family court.

00:05:23.200 And so those are automatically filed, assuming that men are the aggressors in family court.

00:05:27.900 And so then all of a sudden—

00:05:28.880 a man as the aggressor it's when someone has been charged already the person that has more force

00:05:33.920 but it's no stronger it's already someone who's been criminally charged with domestic violence

00:05:38.560 it's not an assumption of who no but it's not it's not criminally because family court isn't

00:05:43.360 criminal court and it's filed all the time no i know but the duluth model what you're talking

00:05:47.520 about is exclusively used in custody battles related to domestic violence right but you don't

00:05:53.520 You don't need evidence, and that's the problem.

00:05:55.180 You absolutely do need evidence to criminally charge the arrester.

00:05:58.800 You absolutely do need criminal evidence to charge someone a domestic violence.

00:06:01.080 No, because you can do an emergency protective order.

00:06:03.320 And so those are done without the man even in court, and sometimes they don't even know it's filed.

00:06:07.200 So do you not think that we should have emergency protection?

00:06:09.560 Well, first of all, I actually do want to know.

00:06:11.000 Well, you need evidence, and that's my problem.

00:06:12.580 You do need evidence to put a restraining order on someone to get an emergency protective order.

00:06:16.660 No, you don't, because it's based on a balance of problems.

00:06:17.980 But I do want to note that 33% of all the victims of domestic violence are men as well.

00:06:25.340 These laws are not put in place to target and subjugate men.

00:06:28.840 It's put in place to protect the victims of domestic assault and violence and their children.

00:06:34.420 Well, you can say that, but they're primarily used against men.

00:06:37.180 Well, if 94% of perpetrators of domestic violence are men, that's not unfairly. 0.64

00:06:41.880 Well, then why are lesbian relationships more abusive? 0.98

00:06:45.720 People always use that statistic.

00:06:47.580 So what's happening is that that stat that you're talking about, it's not that lesbian relationships are more abusive.

00:06:53.420 It's that in lesbian relationships, those people are more likely to have been abused in past relationships.

00:07:00.260 Because women are more likely to be sexually and physically abused in relationships, a relationship with two women has a higher likelihood. 0.70

00:07:08.800 No, when it's one-sided abuse, women hit men more than men hit women.

00:07:12.920 Most abusive relationships— 0.96

00:07:13.580 According to what?

00:07:14.580 Well, it's going to come up on there.

00:07:16.320 But the other thing, too, is you can talk to people that have been in abuse shelters like Aaron Pizzi.

00:07:22.340 Yeah.

00:07:23.580 Sorry, this thing happens really quickly here.

00:07:26.260 But OK, here we go. 0.54

00:07:27.340 I think this is the lesbian woman fact check.

00:07:31.180 So some research reports that lifetime IPV prevalence among lesbian women is around 43.8%, which is higher than 5% for heterosexual women.

00:07:41.760 right so that's the lifetime of experiencing a potentially experiencing domestic abuse and 0.66

00:07:46.800 violence is higher for lesbians it doesn't mean those relationships are more abusive that's not

00:07:51.840 what it literally does no it doesn't it means that women in lesbian relationships have experienced

00:07:57.280 abuse in their lifetime more so it's more abusive but you know that lesbians can also suffer abuse

00:08:03.040 at the hands of men right you literally just talked to a lesbian who suffered abuse at the 0.95

00:08:06.480 hands of men who um only jayus bella oh what about her she is a lesbian woman who has suffered abuse

00:08:14.000 at the hands of men she would be part of that statistic but she's still a lesbian so so you're 1.00

00:08:19.440 claiming that lesbian relationships are more abusive that's not the point i'm saying women

00:08:25.440 i'm saying that i'm saying that one-sided abuse meaning women hitting men and not hitting back

00:08:31.760 i'm saying if you're both hitting each other it's a wash but if one party's hitting the other and

00:08:36.800 they're not hitting back that's that is led um by women hitting men according to what source

00:08:42.640 it's gonna come up on there 96 there you go where the studies uh site i have it in here actually i

00:08:50.240 can get it but aside to study report lifetime ipv i'm saying for people that don't understand what

00:08:56.800 ipv is could you guys uh do you know what ipv is but this source is all about lesbians i want to

00:09:02.160 fact check this thing about all one-sided abuse because i mean like you can look at fbi crime

00:09:07.520 statistics by the way if you ask if you if you ask the question into the mic it'll pop it up

00:09:12.320 a very precise question okay yeah i mean can we look at fbi crime statistics on male abusers

00:09:19.440 versus female no you have to put one side abuse in domestic you have to put one side of you what

00:09:24.080 do you mean one-side abuse because most abusive relationships they're both hitting each other

00:09:30.960 so they're both abusive no i think if someone's being criminally charged with domestic violence

00:09:35.920 and abuse that's them that's their charge it's not i know but but when they look at one-sided abuse

00:09:41.520 women hit men and they don't hit back more okay but when we look at domestic violence

00:09:47.920 the stats on domestic violence push to use fbi crime statistics does this look like the

00:09:54.640 it's giving you the answer here the top one yeah well it's the those are victims we're looking at

00:10:00.960 perpetrators who are the perpetrators of domestic violence could you give us the percentages of

00:10:06.960 perpetrators of domestic violence please it'll pop up in this yeah by gender i mean not to excuse

00:10:13.280 either but i just think that that's kind of a disingenuous statistic when we know that the

00:10:18.320 majority of perpetrators of domestic violence are men it's not unfair to use the duluth model

00:10:24.320 to protect all victims against their aggressors those victims have children too it doesn't matter

00:10:30.720 what gender you're saying that the majority of men are abusive no i'm saying that the majority

00:10:36.720 of abusers are men that's not the majority of men are abusers like obviously not but can you explain

00:10:44.640 that a little more okay so of abusers the majority of those that are abusers are men who have been

00:10:52.480 criminally tried and found liable for abuse right the majority of those are well yeah that doesn't

00:10:57.440 mean that all men are abusers well of course they're going to be criminally prosecuted more

00:11:02.320 because like because nobody prosecutes women for abuse they do study they've done like social 0.98

00:11:06.920 experiments in public where a woman's hitting a man no one cares okay but babes you can't just 0.99

00:11:10.940 like completely deny like legitimate crime no but if they look at one-sided abuse women lead 0.54

00:11:17.300 women lead in one-sided abuse so why do women so why do people report one-sided abuse at the hands

00:11:23.680 of women but when it comes to actual fbi crime data that we can't take as fact i mean you can

00:11:30.640 spin it how you want to spin it but when they look at when they look at when they look at one-sided

00:11:35.040 abuse women lead okay so men are comfortable reporting that but they're not there's a fact

00:11:41.680 check that just popped up so the speaker says that in one-sided abuse women lead this is

00:11:46.960 directly supported by some research and reviews showing that in a non-mutual or unilateral

00:11:52.480 intimate partner violence women are often perpetrators more often than men however the

00:11:56.480 exact phrasing is brought in depends on the data set okay so what about met can we go back to that

00:12:04.320 one if you ask the the microphone it'll probably pop up okay what percentage of people convicted

00:12:11.280 of domestic violence and abuse are met it'll pop up but you guys you know keep going and stuff

00:12:16.880 because it'll i think we're getting kind of lost in the weeds because my whole point is the way

00:12:20.720 the family court system we're talking about marriage right i just and my whole point is

00:12:24.160 the way that the way that the way that the family court system is structured a man can have a ppo

00:12:29.600 order taken out on him and not even get the right to defend himself and that's unconstitutional you

00:12:33.920 should have the right to face your accuser and in family court that is ignored yeah because it could

00:12:39.200 threaten the lives of women and children and other men like that what do you mean women and children

00:12:44.880 the lindsey clancy case shows that's not true well we're not talking about anything like women

00:12:49.600 women are telling everywhere that they have thoughts of harming their kids or saying that

00:12:53.840 on tick tock it's not one specific case may i interject we're not talking about one specific 0.90

00:12:58.240 case you're talking specifically about domestic violence i'm talking about family court that's

00:13:02.640 what i'm talking about okay so are you talking about family court with domestic violence because

00:13:06.240 duluth is just dv like no it's it's used in family court it's used in family court in dv cases correct

00:13:13.760 yeah okay but you need evidence and you don't in family so that would be an extraneous circumstance

00:13:18.400 no no no it's commonly no it's commonly used because it's rewarded that's the problem with 0.96

00:13:25.120 family court is you can take out a ppo pretty quickly and kick the dad out of the house it

00:13:29.440 happens all the time dude it's not because it's rewarded it's because it's necessary no it is

00:13:34.160 do you think that it's important to protect the victims of domestic violence yes or no

00:13:37.920 yeah okay then that's why i know you have to prove that they're victims you can't just say

00:13:42.160 that and the problem is family court is based on a balance of probabilities it's not based

00:13:46.560 already faced criminal charges no it's not no it's not no it's not you're making that up because

00:13:51.440 in family court it's based on a balance of probabilities you're not no it is not based on

00:13:56.320 it's not criminal court which is based on evidence it's a balance of probabilities can i ask like

00:14:00.240 what is one so the duluth model they have this um kind of wheel of like power and control

00:14:05.520 how an abuser gains power and control over their victim right since you are the expert on this

00:14:12.880 name three name three what name three methods in which an abuser according to the duluth model

00:14:18.560 gains power and control over their victims do you mind if i just do a quick fact check on this topic

00:14:22.480 uh so it's saying family law and domestic violence uh the orders the protective orders

00:14:27.200 are issued urgently sometimes without notice the other thing that popped up and it's moving

00:14:31.920 very this is all domestic violence again these are extraneous cases he's saying i'm right but

00:14:37.360 it's to protect people from their abusers there was another fact that appeared to which clarified

00:14:43.440 that family court is not a criminal court so i don't know if that applies for what you're

00:14:47.120 yes but the duluth model is used once somebody has already been criminally you're wrong that's

00:14:51.840 not true that's not true okay so since you know i just told you it wasn't true it just told you

00:14:58.400 this is really important so basically goes family court goes by the civil standard uh just i know

00:15:04.480 information about civil standard i think what what is it like 50 something percent versus criminal

00:15:08.960 standard i mean you might know what's it again the civil standard versus criminal standards like 51

00:15:15.440 yeah i'm fairly no that's yeah that's correct so yeah we went silent all of a sudden should

00:15:20.320 we move on to the next prompt or no i think we can keep doing this so i guess that's that's the

00:15:24.960 first reason i think it's a bad deal the second reason is child support and alimony it's a billion

00:15:29.520 dollar business of money that is transferred from men to women if women want to be equal then be

00:15:34.160 equal work just like men do there's nothing stopping you from getting a job just like the men 1.00

00:15:38.480 so i have an issue with feminists because they say they want to be equal and they're not equal 1.00

00:15:42.560 be you want a partnership in marriage then have one okay you can have one there's nothing stopping 1.00

00:15:46.320 sure what percentage of divorces end in an alimony payment um i think around ten percent it's the

00:15:52.000 minority so that's ten percent of divorces will end in alimony right no you're correct that's it's

00:15:57.760 10 and then i have hold on of divorces of marriages 40 40 to 45 percent will end in divorce so for

00:16:09.360 those men out there who are thinking about getting married but are nervous about paying alimony

00:16:13.920 you have a 4.5 chance at the most of your marriage resulting in you paying alimony so i but it

00:16:21.040 doesn't matter if you're part of that percent and that's the problem but it does it's easy for you

00:16:24.400 to say that like oh die alone never ever be in love because there's a four percent chance might

00:16:30.320 have to pay someone i know because i'm talking about death because men kill themselves because

00:16:35.200 of these policies and you guys try to minimize them and it's serious stuff it's it's pearl pearl

00:16:42.400 they're nine times more likely to commit suicide after a divorce this is serious stuff if you look

00:16:46.480 at the numbers it's 18 years of child support and it makes men homeless you have to pay child support

00:16:51.120 it's your kid it is your child why should you not have to support your kid because of the amount if

00:16:56.000 you're a middle class or a low earning guy it will literally render you homeless in the numbers that

00:17:00.960 they put you on and that's where kids you're right that's where it's going because they're not gonna

00:17:05.360 have you decide to have a child you know it's crazy i just told you financially responsible 1.00

00:17:11.040 i tell feminists that men commit suicide because of these policies it's not because these policies 0.98

00:17:15.600 and divorce is very sad it's a heartbreak no it's because they're kicked out of it because 0.93

00:17:20.240 they're kicked out of their house they're put on ppo orders and not there are a lot of them are

00:17:28.080 alimony and yeah because they have to pay for both of the lawyers you don't know what you're

00:17:34.160 talking about they have to they have to pay for both of the lawyers in a lot of states so of

00:17:38.560 course they're not going to go to court most of you have to pay for her lawyer and his you do not

00:17:42.320 of course you have no that is that is true yes it is that is true no it's it's literally telling you

00:17:49.040 it's true you don't have a financial responsibility to pay in a lot of states you do yes you do okay

00:17:54.160 then don't get married in that state or don't get divorced in that state the problem you get

00:17:58.640 is that most states will still penalize you in some way and you can't predict the laws that are

00:18:03.600 going to be implemented in the future i just don't understand what your freaking beef with child

00:18:07.760 support is like why should you not because i've interviewed men that are suicidal because of it

00:18:12.080 then they shouldn't have gotten married and had a kid like do you hear yourself when you choose to

00:18:16.000 have a child you have a moral responsibility to provide for the kid yeah not the mother that's

00:18:21.840 what child and that's that's the point is it's given to the mother well you can't get if your

00:18:26.400 kid is three you can't give it to the kids you have to give it to the primary caregiver the adult

00:18:32.400 well that's that's the problem with ppo orders is they automatically make the mother the primary

00:18:36.880 caregiver because they kick the father out and by the time they get to court which can be later

00:18:41.520 of dv you're defending abusers this is ridiculous yes just just to clarify i mean that based upon

00:18:47.280 that so it went by the civil standards so civil standard is basically pbo is a court order used

00:18:52.960 to prevent violence harassment or stalking this isn't just the average man who falls out of a

00:18:57.840 relationship but you don't fall out of love this is a violent harassing or stalking person don't

00:19:03.360 need evidence to file them because they can take too long to gather that evidence it could be life

00:19:09.120 or death for those children i understand maybe from your point of view you view men as abusive

00:19:13.440 i don't there's a lot of innocent men that are the victims of these policies no you're misconstruing

00:19:18.800 me i don't view men as abusive but if it's between protecting children from abusive parents

00:19:26.480 that is my priority that will always then we should give the kids to the fathers because

00:19:30.320 postpartum depression is so common by that logic excuse me yeah because postpartum depression 1.00

00:19:37.040 obviously is leading to women killing their kids so give them to the dad one time it led to a woman 1.00

00:19:42.560 no infanticide is primarily committed by women are you talking about women women women are the 0.91

00:19:48.000 most likely ones to abuse children and the elderly okay let's talk about that are you talking about

00:19:52.480 infanticide or filicide i'm talking about babies being thrown in dumpstered and killed infanticide

00:19:57.360 that's what i said okay so not filicide i i said infanticide okay so let's be respectful pearl i

00:20:05.200 know you're scrambling right now to find your stats but there's no reason to be mean mine are

00:20:09.680 all right okay well then maybe gather yourself diva so filicide is the killing of a child by a

00:20:17.520 parent when we look at filicide statistics the majority it's actually quite close to 50 50 men

00:20:24.160 and women but there have been some data that reports that men are the main no they include

00:20:29.600 stepfather i'm sorry how do you say this word infanticide is cut so women are most likely to

00:20:39.120 abuse children the elderly let's go down to that one well so this is saying this is too broad but

00:20:45.360 then it updated the issue with that it is 50 and the reason it's 50 is because they include

00:20:50.480 stepfathers they include stepmothers too they include step parents stepfathers skew the data

00:20:55.360 a lot okay well why does that make a difference because that's the mother's choice of who she

00:21:00.560 that's actually the mother's fault oh so it's the mother's fault that she picked a man and it's not

00:21:04.640 the fault of the man that actually killed the no it's the mother's fault because she's responsible

00:21:08.560 for who you you're responsible as a parent but how do you know if this person if you want to be

00:21:12.960 equal be equal take responsibility so why should a man who kills children not have to take responsibility

00:21:18.400 responsible for the people that you bring into your house okay and the people that you bring

00:21:21.840 in your house are still responsible for their actions. Just because a woman chooses you doesn't 1.00

00:21:26.300 mean you have the right to kill her kids. Are you crazy? I didn't say that. So you said it was a 1.00

00:21:30.680 woman's fault. She's being irresponsible. Correct. So she murdered her children. That's not what I 1.00

00:21:35.780 said. Okay. So who murdered her kids? I said she is responsible for the people that she brings into

00:21:42.360 her kids' lives. Okay. But who murdered her kids? Did he not have to take responsibility for that? 0.97

00:21:47.220 trying to find the numbers well I actually came prepared so I have a lot of stats okay which are

00:21:55.380 correct keep them up there well they're they're going up there too I could have sworn that fact

00:22:00.900 check just said you were wrong but that's no it was because it was incredible generalizations

00:22:07.440 about the entire population of humanity no so I'll explain it to the audience because they're 1.00

00:22:11.580 probably curious so feminists they have a tendency to blame to make it seem like abuse is equal 0.99

00:22:16.320 through men and through women because what I found in these debates is there's just always a way to 1.00

00:22:20.220 skew the statistics. So when you look at biological parents, women are actually more likely to abuse 1.00

00:22:26.160 children. The reason it looks equal is because they include stepfathers. So when feminists do 1.00

00:22:31.720 that, it's misleading because the woman is responsible for who she brings into the kid's 1.00

00:22:36.440 life. And if she's being irresponsible with who the stepdad is, she does bear some responsibility.

00:22:42.020 so but when you look at biological parents so let's let's let's pause for a second when a

00:22:47.780 stepfather kills a child who do you think should be legally tried for murder obviously the stepdad

00:22:55.540 okay so then why are you saying that women are responsible because i would include negligence

00:22:59.300 on the mother if it was up to me i would totally include negligence i think that's deeply 0.96

00:23:04.260 irresponsible and i'm glad you're not a judge yeah yeah that's crazy i would say most women

00:23:08.740 should be glad i'm not a judge because i would be far harder because you're horribly 0.88

00:23:11.860 misogynistic i would be far harsher than the judges today i'm sure well it's easy to be

00:23:17.540 harsh when you're not looking at the laws yeah what laws am i not looking at the i mean let's

00:23:23.860 start with the duluth model diva what pp how it's used to issue ppo orders yes which is protecting

00:23:30.900 victims of domestic violence we already went through that it's so weird to me that you don't

00:23:35.700 care about the victims of domestic abuse and violence i would care it's all about like men men

00:23:41.460 men i would what about their children you don't care about child support because it's hurting men

00:23:45.620 you don't care about ppo orders because it's hurting men but there's so many children involved

00:23:50.420 in this that it's like their lives their needs mean nothing to you no really i actually care

00:23:55.700 about the kids more than she does because i know that the father is the best one to raise them

00:24:00.820 a father who is under protective custody is a better parent than their primary caregiver really

00:24:08.740 because you're assuming they're telling the truth how many of those cases end up in line

00:24:13.300 like how many of those cases end up being false the majority because most aren't criminally

00:24:17.140 prosecuted then that you would need evidence to criminally prosecute really yeah so what can i

00:24:22.100 have a number what percentage of domestic violence charges are found to be false i don't know off the

00:24:27.220 top of my head okay so then how can you say it's the majority uh because i know the majority don't

00:24:32.340 have criminal charges i know that's true could i explain those for the audience could i just

00:24:36.660 explain the difference because i i the criminal versus wait can we read that real quick the

00:24:40.740 speaker claims that most criminal violence cases end up being false no but i said in family court

00:24:46.900 wait oh no no no can we scroll up one can you scroll one it's crazy because hold on false

00:24:51.780 allegations of domestic abuse are common enough to be called the majority that's false that's

00:24:57.700 false that's false these are very important according to what oh so now now that matters

00:25:02.580 when i was proving you right it was perfect we don't question that well i'm not really trying

00:25:06.100 to get into the weeds to be honest you're right you don't want to get into the weeds as in evidence

00:25:10.740 i think this over here is a clear uh this is important that we gotta consider yeah we know

00:25:15.540 this well civil cases are uh 51 basically a judge decides uh what things happen versus a criminal

00:25:22.820 which is i think 97 false allegations of domestic abuse are uncommon or methodologically in the

00:25:30.500 methodologically rigorous research it says oh two to eight percent of abuse yeah according to be

00:25:37.540 false but that's that's so i love how whenever you have something that disagrees with you you

00:25:43.140 say oh that's wrong well well that one's you're doing the same thing and you're not no you're

00:25:47.700 literally if i'm wrong i'm wrong you just gotta admit it let's move on this right here if i could

00:25:52.820 just read this so still cases use it use a preponderance of evidence standard often

00:25:57.140 described as more likely than not or about 51 percent that's uh might be important information

00:26:03.860 yeah so one thing about you know ppo cases that i want to note is the risk involved right so if

00:26:11.700 someone is accused of being a domestic abuser right if we are wrong in that accusation that

00:26:20.180 is horrible and that sucks for them should they be but if we are right in jail for being falsely

00:26:25.380 accused no should should people that falsely accuse men of those things and are proven to be

00:26:29.860 lying should they be in jail false accusations those who intentionally yeah i would yeah i'll

00:26:35.780 give you that one i can see that i think yeah i think it should be a crime to falsely accuse

00:26:39.540 this is a percentage i don't know if this helps but it's giving some kind of percentage where

00:26:44.340 so let me see so six i guess 63 to 74 are authentic the remainder are not shown to be or

00:26:50.980 sorry does not support the claim that false allegations are rampant in family courts

00:26:57.860 cases the remainder are shown not shown to be intentionally false that does not support a

00:27:03.940 majority possible i think you would so to your to your point i think you would have to prove

00:27:08.260 how is that enough you said it was a majority i mean one is too many if we're gonna be honest

00:27:11.700 like my point is that you're it's not what percentage it's that the system is against you

00:27:17.140 as a man because women can and do abuse these systems here's the thing how much if we want to

00:27:21.780 say it's 40 30 60 it doesn't matter here's the thing though in the short term you kind of have

00:27:27.140 to trust the person accusing because you need if you are wrong but it takes a long time to gather

00:27:33.780 evidence in which time someone can die right so if you are wrong about a domestic violence if

00:27:40.100 someone is falsely accused as horrible as that is it won't kill them but if you are right and

00:27:45.860 we don't take it seriously it kills men all the time there's so many men that have killed

00:27:50.580 themselves because they're falsely it absolutely ruins their life it absolutely does it's there

00:27:57.540 no i mean i would much rather you don't care here's the thing you don't care about men's

00:28:02.020 meant okay pearl let me ask you a question would you rather be fully accused of domestic violence

00:28:08.020 or be a victim of domestic violence what does that matter well i mean we're talking about that has

00:28:14.180 nothing to do with anything i'm saying that these systems are abused i'm saying that these systems

00:28:18.820 are abused by women pearl would you rather be falsely accused or the victim of real and legitimate

00:28:25.060 accusations can ruin a man's life so this is eight eight percent supported this is a broad

00:28:29.540 but supported claim supportable claim sources describe reputational damage employment loss

00:28:34.660 family destruction psychological trauma and lasting harm associated with false allegations

00:28:38.820 hold on don't save her probably be falsely accused or a victim i'd rather be a victim

00:28:45.140 of domestic violence yeah because women cry domestic violence over anything emotional abuse 0.86

00:28:51.220 yeah screw that that's crazy yeah domestic violence violence it doesn't matter you keep 0.58

00:28:56.420 changing the topic we're talking about how it's how men are abused in this system can we just 0.65

00:29:02.820 pause on that i need to i need to okay we'll get over it that's crazy over it you'd really

00:29:07.380 rather be domestically abused we can set that up for you if you'd really like get over i mean i 0.98

00:29:12.100 get domestically abused by women all the time really who's doing that to you god these women 0.97

00:29:18.100 are nuts is that why you hate women so much yeah well i'm sorry you had that experience like all 1.00

00:29:24.100 the time that's fucked up okay can we no this is a stupid question that's not a stupid question 1.00

00:29:30.340 you don't deserve to be bullied by other women and i'm sorry you felt that way okay well we're 0.99

00:29:36.260 talking we're not talking about me we're talking about men and that's what's important to talk

00:29:39.860 about today is men are victims of these policies so you can file a po order and throw a guy in jail

00:29:47.460 for no reason and it happens all the time and most men that i talk to they want nothing more than to

00:29:53.540 to be a part of their kids' lives. And so that's why that I believe that marriage is a bad deal

00:29:59.440 because these systems are set up against you. Most men that you talk to, how many? Have you

00:30:05.320 published any studies? No. Oh, so who cares that you've talked to some people? Okay. I mean,

00:30:12.840 it's not really evidence. How many have you talked to? How many men have I talked to in my lifetime?

00:30:16.780 I don't know. Probably thousands at this point. How many have you talked to about family court?

00:30:20.600 about family court i mean pretty much every man in my family at some point

00:30:24.180 okay so you so what's your point i mean the point is it's not evidence everyone can have a

00:30:29.720 conversation that doesn't mean anything about the entire population of humans on earth right

00:30:34.300 right or even married people okay so you look at custody stats men don't get custody

00:30:38.940 men don't men are also the main parent to leave to relinquish custody does that say anything yeah

00:30:46.540 because they don't have a choice no i'm saying like absentee fathers like fathers who choose to

00:30:51.100 abandon their families yeah but that's they do have a choice no no no no no this is before we

00:30:56.780 get to court this is before we do anything yeah i mean i left for milk and i never came back like

00:31:01.180 this is parents who actively choose to leave their families they do have a choice and they

00:31:06.780 chose to leave do you think those fathers should have to pay child support no i think as a woman

00:31:12.060 if you you have the choice to get an abortion you have the choice to not be a mother i think men

00:31:15.980 should have the choice to not be fathers so getting an abortion i am i am pro men having

00:31:22.700 the same rights that women do okay so once well roe was overturned so i mean let's let's assume

00:31:27.580 let's assume we're in your home state of texas which has one of the strictest abortion bans

00:31:31.740 so now zero parent has a choice once that baby is there that baby is there that fetus is there right

00:31:38.940 so if either parent if neither parent has a choice about whether or not they get an abortion

00:31:44.140 do you think that those parents have a moral responsibility to provide for their children

00:31:49.820 i think that women have birth control and plan b so if you get pregnant you're responsible okay

00:31:55.260 and men have condoms do you think that parents have a moral responsibility to provide i don't

00:32:00.780 believe in child support no at all no so if a woman chose not to pay child support you're you'd

00:32:06.460 be okay with that you're equal now be equal so here's the equality you asked for but what if

00:32:11.020 it led to the suffering and neglect of that child i i don't care you don't care about the suffering

00:32:15.420 and you made that hold on i made that choice you don't care about the suffering you are responsible

00:32:20.380 for your decisions but the child didn't ask to be born you are responsible for your decisions

00:32:26.380 could i uh introduce a second prompt and uh because we're about 32 minutes in that one was

00:32:31.020 i was enjoying that unless you guys have i'll give you a couple more minutes i'll do my i'll do my

00:32:35.500 closing statements i mean look i think if you don't want to get married if you think it's a 0.88

00:32:39.980 bad deal because there's a four percent chance you're gonna have to pay some lady alimony then

00:32:43.180 by all means don't get married i i would encourage you to find the love of your life but if that's not

00:32:47.980 for you then that's not for you what i will say though is that child support is not about parents

00:32:52.620 it's about kids and i fundamentally will never support anyone who doesn't believe we should

00:32:57.420 protect children's rights to clothing to food to water to shelter by forcing parents to provide

00:33:03.020 for them yeah she has no idea what she's talking about marriage is a bad deal for men because

00:33:07.260 they're more likely to lose the kids lose the house lose uh be put on alimony and be put on 0.97

00:33:11.980 child support so

Pearl - September 15, 2026

Feminist Says Men Should PAY Women After Divorce!

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