Pearl - March 28, 2026Foid Psychology： Deny Everything and CRY
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Summary
In this episode, we re reacting to women talking about codependency and how it s a mental illness. We re talking about how to deal with it, how to overcome it, and how to heal from it.
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the worst part about women looking for projects is they think they're better than the projects
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when it's like bitch you are the project what up guys welcome to my reaction series today we are
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reacting to women talking about um basically some psycho psychology nonsense uh they're talking
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about codependency um which i don't even know what that means but i guess we're gonna watch
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the women um try to rationalize our hamster wheels impossible but first of all poppy i drink like two
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of you a day let's send some cases over so when i was in my seven year long relationship the first
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year to two years i was so insecure you guys i was always worried that he was going to cheat on me i
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was always worried he was talking to other girls i was always worried about him being at the gym or
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being at work i was just so lost dude i just neurotic yeah know who i was and i was deeply
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deeply deeply insecure and fearful during that time because my energy was like that he totally
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felt it and it was almost like he always had the upper hand in our relationship during those years
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was until i opened my eyes and understood what i was doing like psychologically and i reversed that
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shit so fast so i would say about year two is when i woke up and was like oh my gosh i'm literally
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handing him all of my power and giving him the ability to walk all over me give me that back
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like what and so i started doing things for myself because i realized i was like oh my god anny you're
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not doing anything for yourself how are you supposed to know who you are when you're not
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doing anything for yourself and it all clicked so i started doing yoga every morning i started
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waking up earlier than him every single day i started working on my businesses i started
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focusing on things okay working on my businesses means like i i started like a tick tock shop
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just solely belonged to me and had nothing to do with him just by doing that the confidence
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that i started gaining made me walk talk and act different around him every single day once i
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started developing that natural confidence just by focusing on myself genuinely started caring
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less if he was deceiving me because my energy was so powerful that i literally just knew in my
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intuition that he was gonna stop the man literally stopped talking to everybody there was some girls
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that he would like chat with that were his friends that you know what i'm saying he decided to block
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them and never talk to them again i never asked the man to do that he did it willingly and i was
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just here like that's what happens when you hold power in a relationship so ever since that year
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our relationship dynamic completely did a 180 you guys it was him who was worried about me talking
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to other people it was him who was always on edge thinking he would lose me it was him who always
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felt like he loved me more than i loved him yeah so she stopped nagging him basically and bothering
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him and then he loved her more it was an unhealthy thing so we figured that out but that's how you
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gain your power back lady all right so all right point of view you're the codependent friend and
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i'm in a relationship i need all of my friends to be in a relationship because i will be damned if
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if I'm the only one dealing with a man every single day.
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Yeah, women always have to do things with the group.
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into their bad and good decisions, but mostly bad.
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on a count of three everyone say together forever till death do us part oh and the day i die
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all you bitches are gonna have to die too that's kind of funny okay i love being codependent this
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girl codependent bitch that's just some word that somebody made up one day well baby that's why i
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got married i'm married because i am codependent i need my husband so i can live who's gonna fix
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the shit that i break oh we're big strong girls we can do that ourselves huh not this bitch i don't
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want to i just want to stand there and hand you things and look cute tell you where to put it
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y'all over here acting like codependency is a bad thing hell could be a bad thing to you
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fucking mental illness to y'all oh i spend plenty of time with my husband bitch no you don't you
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don't even like him that's why you need your girl's time i get it maybe maybe two friends
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but y'all going on them big huge trips this bitch is talking about you when you ain't around why you
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want to hang out with him at least yeah that's so true it's such a it's such a like female friends
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is such a net negative because they're just bound to they're women they're bound to like okay they
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turn their backs on their husbands why i'm not better than their husband i'm worse than their
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husbands so why would they be better to me your husband doesn't do that shit or he better not
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mine don't got 40 11 friends you about to go party with doing something stupid and tomorrow they're
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all gonna be talking trash about your ass knowing good damn well girls can't act right it's normal
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gonna have one or two friends and me and my one or two friend will go do something we'll go get
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our nails done or some shit but nine times out of ten my husband's going with me especially if
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it's something fun we go if we're going on the trip oh yeah he's going we just gonna go get our
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nails done or something no he can just stay at home i want to be in his pocket right in between
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all right let's keep going becoming too codependent in my relationship hey my please sit down we have
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to be vulnerable with each other i have felt myself getting really really codependent in my
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relationship. And I just fell so, so, so in love with him. And I am so in love with him and love
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him so much that I became very, very codependent. And I think it's different for me because I'm so
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hyper-independent before him. They always frame being codependent as a bad thing. Like
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in a company, you're going to be codependent with the people at the company. If you're like
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together, a lot of times you do depend on each other for things. I do everything myself. I love
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solitude but i think falling in love with him i feel like i just need him at all times in my life
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and to a point i think that's beautiful and that's how are you guys thinking do you like it when the
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girl needs you or do you like when she leaves you alone for a few days but then also to a point i'm
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like it was very much like wait wait wait and that's not to say it's not reciprocated i know
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my boyfriend loves me so much and like he's vocalized that and shows me that in so many ways
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I just feel like I need to do things for like me and not lose Anoush and all this, which in itself
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is difficult. Like I have to manage and learn how to do this all on my own time. I haven't
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been in a relationship since I was like 15, 14, 15. So it's like, I'm 25. Now I'm a, I'm a grown
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woman. It's different. My emotions are different. Everything is different. And this is like my
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first serious relationship he like knows my family i know his family our families know each other
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like it's very deep and i want this to be a forever thing and i know that if i want this
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to be a forever thing i have to like be right with myself and not completely just like be a girlfriend
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but like be my own person i say all that to say that if you primas will have me i would love to
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do a series where i do things alone and like vlog it for you guys on here okay that okay how does
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how can you say you're doing something alone if you're vlogging it like you're by vlogging it
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you're talking to a camera and you're showing everyone what you're doing like doesn't that
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defeat the whole purpose of solitude women it's like we find the dumbest workarounds
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like it's just we're incredible i think it's gonna be really really fun it's gonna be really
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good for me and it's going to be really good for my relationship as well yeah i felt like i wanted
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okay so she's trying to do things without her boyfriend it'll probably be a great week for him
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he'll get like some alone time he's like i don't have to listen to you yap i could leave you but
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then what would i complain about i'm codependent i'd rather focus on you than on my own house
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which is currently on fire i'm codependent but that's not a big deal i mean it totally could be
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worse right i'm codependent and i'll do anything to help you make me not feel things i'm codependent
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but do you think i am i'm codependent why did i say it like that i could have said it so much
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better i'm codependent and compliments make me deeply uncomfortable but also i need them
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i'm codependent are you mad at me i'm codependent my schedule is full of things that i hate but you
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love i'm codependent my love language is a trauma response i'm codependent i don't say what i need
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and then i i'm codependent i'm not looking for a boyfriend i'm looking for a project i'm
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codependent the worst part about women looking for projects is they think they're better than
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the projects when it's like bitch you are the project you're the project like you think you're
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better than the project got like i saw this episode of caleb hammer and the girl's like mad
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because you know she's paying for the guy who's been unemployed for a few months and you know
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they're kind of digging into her life choices and i'm like well are you really better than this guy
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like are you're kind of the project because you're paying for the guy she had like two
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boyfriends i love languages are micromanaging martyring and mothering i'm codependent i could
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leave you what's next all right codependency is not needing somebody and see is not i need you
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it's i need you to need me another way to say it is codependency is not an over dependence on
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someone else it's an over focus they have ssri eyes on someone else in fact when i work with
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codependent people and i think people just you know you say have you heard of codependency like
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oh right that's a bad word you know they like have heard all these bad things about it and
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so first i see you know usually i'm like well i'm a codependent so you know um but usually i say you
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know your definition of it is probably outdated or has been skewed along the way i don't know how
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we've gotten i mean yes there is a dependency part to it right because you know i do need this
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system to be maintained in some way but really when i talk to codependents when when they kind
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of pull away and i say what's that reaction about you know they'll say well i'm not needy i'm the
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most self-sufficient person that you've ever met and i say you know i'm like trying to hold back
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my like smile because i'm like yeah no i totally i know where you're going with this because again
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your definition of codependency is i'm needy i'm whatever and actually the most codependent
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people i know are the most self-sufficient people that i know okay it's psychology mumbo jumbo for
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women being neurotic which is pretty much all of psychology it's just women are neurotic anyways
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all right guys um thank you so much for watching this reaction series i love it when you guys come
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in um and if you guys have any requests for reactions let me know in the comments like