Pearl - Foid Psychology： Deny Everything and CRY

00:00:00.000 the worst part about women looking for projects is they think they're better than the projects 1.00

00:00:03.920 when it's like bitch you are the project what up guys welcome to my reaction series today we are 1.00

00:00:09.080 reacting to women talking about um basically some psycho psychology nonsense uh they're talking 0.99

00:00:15.500 about codependency um which i don't even know what that means but i guess we're gonna watch

00:00:20.760 the women um try to rationalize our hamster wheels impossible but first of all poppy i drink like two 1.00

00:00:27.820 of you a day let's send some cases over so when i was in my seven year long relationship the first

00:00:31.920 year to two years i was so insecure you guys i was always worried that he was going to cheat on me i

00:00:38.000 was always worried he was talking to other girls i was always worried about him being at the gym or

00:00:41.640 being at work i was just so lost dude i just neurotic yeah know who i was and i was deeply

00:00:48.440 deeply deeply insecure and fearful during that time because my energy was like that he totally

00:00:53.440 felt it and it was almost like he always had the upper hand in our relationship during those years

00:00:57.620 was until i opened my eyes and understood what i was doing like psychologically and i reversed that 0.84

00:01:03.460 shit so fast so i would say about year two is when i woke up and was like oh my gosh i'm literally 0.90

00:01:09.460 handing him all of my power and giving him the ability to walk all over me give me that back 0.95

00:01:14.820 like what and so i started doing things for myself because i realized i was like oh my god anny you're

00:01:19.700 not doing anything for yourself how are you supposed to know who you are when you're not

00:01:23.140 doing anything for yourself and it all clicked so i started doing yoga every morning i started

00:01:27.140 waking up earlier than him every single day i started working on my businesses i started

00:01:30.820 focusing on things okay working on my businesses means like i i started like a tick tock shop

00:01:38.260 just solely belonged to me and had nothing to do with him just by doing that the confidence

00:01:42.740 that i started gaining made me walk talk and act different around him every single day once i

00:01:47.540 started developing that natural confidence just by focusing on myself genuinely started caring

00:01:52.500 less if he was deceiving me because my energy was so powerful that i literally just knew in my

00:01:58.020 intuition that he was gonna stop the man literally stopped talking to everybody there was some girls

00:02:03.540 that he would like chat with that were his friends that you know what i'm saying he decided to block

00:02:07.300 them and never talk to them again i never asked the man to do that he did it willingly and i was

00:02:12.580 just here like that's what happens when you hold power in a relationship so ever since that year

00:02:17.220 our relationship dynamic completely did a 180 you guys it was him who was worried about me talking

00:02:22.660 to other people it was him who was always on edge thinking he would lose me it was him who always

00:02:26.660 felt like he loved me more than i loved him yeah so she stopped nagging him basically and bothering

00:02:32.180 him and then he loved her more it was an unhealthy thing so we figured that out but that's how you

00:02:36.340 gain your power back lady all right so all right point of view you're the codependent friend and 0.59

00:02:42.180 i'm in a relationship i need all of my friends to be in a relationship because i will be damned if

00:02:46.180 if I'm the only one dealing with a man every single day.

00:02:49.540 Like we have notes to compare.

00:02:51.100 Life is ghetto enough. 0.99

00:02:52.420 I'm not doing this shit by myself. 0.99

00:02:53.960 Oh, and the second I get married, 1.00

00:02:55.960 all you bitches are getting married 1.00

00:02:57.040 because I'm not doing it alone, okay? 1.00

00:02:59.400 Yeah, women always have to do things with the group. 1.00

00:03:01.920 We were single together.

00:03:02.920 We'll be in a relationship together.

00:03:03.900 We'll be married together.

00:03:04.760 We'll be having kids together.

00:03:06.000 Then they'll divorce together. 0.95

00:03:07.320 We're doing it together, okay?

00:03:09.820 So yeah, women love dragging women 1.00

00:03:12.900 into their bad and good decisions, but mostly bad. 0.99

00:03:15.700 on a count of three everyone say together forever till death do us part oh and the day i die 0.99

00:03:23.600 all you bitches are gonna have to die too that's kind of funny okay i love being codependent this 1.00

00:03:28.540 girl codependent bitch that's just some word that somebody made up one day well baby that's why i 1.00

00:03:32.920 got married i'm married because i am codependent i need my husband so i can live who's gonna fix 1.00

00:03:38.880 the shit that i break oh we're big strong girls we can do that ourselves huh not this bitch i don't 1.00

00:03:45.160 want to i just want to stand there and hand you things and look cute tell you where to put it 1.00

00:03:49.160 y'all over here acting like codependency is a bad thing hell could be a bad thing to you 1.00

00:03:53.160 fucking mental illness to y'all oh i spend plenty of time with my husband bitch no you don't you 1.00

00:03:58.380 don't even like him that's why you need your girl's time i get it maybe maybe two friends 1.00

00:04:02.860 but y'all going on them big huge trips this bitch is talking about you when you ain't around why you 1.00

00:04:07.500 want to hang out with him at least yeah that's so true it's such a it's such a like female friends 0.98

00:04:12.420 is such a net negative because they're just bound to they're women they're bound to like okay they 1.00

00:04:19.240 turn their backs on their husbands why i'm not better than their husband i'm worse than their 1.00

00:04:23.540 husbands so why would they be better to me your husband doesn't do that shit or he better not 1.00

00:04:29.160 mine don't got 40 11 friends you about to go party with doing something stupid and tomorrow they're 1.00

00:04:34.760 all gonna be talking trash about your ass knowing good damn well girls can't act right it's normal 1.00

00:04:39.540 gonna have one or two friends and me and my one or two friend will go do something we'll go get 1.00

00:04:44.060 our nails done or some shit but nine times out of ten my husband's going with me especially if 0.62

00:04:48.640 it's something fun we go if we're going on the trip oh yeah he's going we just gonna go get our

00:04:52.860 nails done or something no he can just stay at home i want to be in his pocket right in between

00:04:58.000 all right let's keep going becoming too codependent in my relationship hey my please sit down we have

00:05:04.380 to be vulnerable with each other i have felt myself getting really really codependent in my

00:05:09.140 relationship. And I just fell so, so, so in love with him. And I am so in love with him and love

00:05:14.740 him so much that I became very, very codependent. And I think it's different for me because I'm so

00:05:22.680 hyper-independent before him. They always frame being codependent as a bad thing. Like

00:05:28.700 in a company, you're going to be codependent with the people at the company. If you're like

00:05:33.000 together, a lot of times you do depend on each other for things. I do everything myself. I love

00:05:38.060 solitude but i think falling in love with him i feel like i just need him at all times in my life

00:05:45.020 and to a point i think that's beautiful and that's how are you guys thinking do you like it when the

00:05:49.420 girl needs you or do you like when she leaves you alone for a few days but then also to a point i'm

00:05:55.900 like it was very much like wait wait wait and that's not to say it's not reciprocated i know

00:06:02.780 my boyfriend loves me so much and like he's vocalized that and shows me that in so many ways

00:06:07.420 I just feel like I need to do things for like me and not lose Anoush and all this, which in itself

00:06:14.800 is difficult. Like I have to manage and learn how to do this all on my own time. I haven't

00:06:19.600 been in a relationship since I was like 15, 14, 15. So it's like, I'm 25. Now I'm a, I'm a grown

00:06:27.800 woman. It's different. My emotions are different. Everything is different. And this is like my

00:06:31.780 first serious relationship he like knows my family i know his family our families know each other

00:06:38.020 like it's very deep and i want this to be a forever thing and i know that if i want this

00:06:42.980 to be a forever thing i have to like be right with myself and not completely just like be a girlfriend

00:06:49.700 but like be my own person i say all that to say that if you primas will have me i would love to

00:06:55.860 do a series where i do things alone and like vlog it for you guys on here okay that okay how does

00:07:03.940 how can you say you're doing something alone if you're vlogging it like you're by vlogging it

00:07:10.020 you're talking to a camera and you're showing everyone what you're doing like doesn't that 0.98

00:07:14.580 defeat the whole purpose of solitude women it's like we find the dumbest workarounds 1.00

00:07:21.620 like it's just we're incredible i think it's gonna be really really fun it's gonna be really

00:07:25.540 good for me and it's going to be really good for my relationship as well yeah i felt like i wanted

00:07:30.580 okay so she's trying to do things without her boyfriend it'll probably be a great week for him

00:07:35.380 he'll get like some alone time he's like i don't have to listen to you yap i could leave you but

00:07:40.900 then what would i complain about i'm codependent i'd rather focus on you than on my own house

00:07:46.980 which is currently on fire i'm codependent but that's not a big deal i mean it totally could be

00:07:52.180 worse right i'm codependent and i'll do anything to help you make me not feel things i'm codependent

00:07:58.980 but do you think i am i'm codependent why did i say it like that i could have said it so much

00:08:03.540 better i'm codependent and compliments make me deeply uncomfortable but also i need them

00:08:08.580 i'm codependent are you mad at me i'm codependent my schedule is full of things that i hate but you

00:08:14.580 love i'm codependent my love language is a trauma response i'm codependent i don't say what i need

00:08:21.060 and then i i'm codependent i'm not looking for a boyfriend i'm looking for a project i'm

00:08:26.420 codependent the worst part about women looking for projects is they think they're better than 1.00

00:08:30.540 the projects when it's like bitch you are the project you're the project like you think you're 1.00

00:08:36.140 better than the project got like i saw this episode of caleb hammer and the girl's like mad 1.00

00:08:41.620 because you know she's paying for the guy who's been unemployed for a few months and you know

00:08:47.620 they're kind of digging into her life choices and i'm like well are you really better than this guy

00:08:52.820 like are you're kind of the project because you're paying for the guy she had like two

00:08:56.580 boyfriends i love languages are micromanaging martyring and mothering i'm codependent i could

00:09:03.380 leave you what's next all right codependency is not needing somebody and see is not i need you

00:09:10.900 it's i need you to need me another way to say it is codependency is not an over dependence on

00:09:18.580 someone else it's an over focus they have ssri eyes on someone else in fact when i work with

00:09:24.740 codependent people and i think people just you know you say have you heard of codependency like

00:09:29.620 oh right that's a bad word you know they like have heard all these bad things about it and

00:09:36.180 so first i see you know usually i'm like well i'm a codependent so you know um but usually i say you

00:09:42.980 know your definition of it is probably outdated or has been skewed along the way i don't know how

00:09:48.180 we've gotten i mean yes there is a dependency part to it right because you know i do need this

00:09:55.060 system to be maintained in some way but really when i talk to codependents when when they kind

00:10:00.580 of pull away and i say what's that reaction about you know they'll say well i'm not needy i'm the

00:10:07.140 most self-sufficient person that you've ever met and i say you know i'm like trying to hold back

00:10:12.900 my like smile because i'm like yeah no i totally i know where you're going with this because again

00:10:19.220 your definition of codependency is i'm needy i'm whatever and actually the most codependent

00:10:25.540 people i know are the most self-sufficient people that i know okay it's psychology mumbo jumbo for

00:10:32.020 women being neurotic which is pretty much all of psychology it's just women are neurotic anyways 1.00

00:10:37.780 all right guys um thank you so much for watching this reaction series i love it when you guys come

00:10:42.660 in um and if you guys have any requests for reactions let me know in the comments like

00:10:46.820 the video and I'll see you next time.

Pearl - March 28, 2026

Foid Psychology： Deny Everything and CRY

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