Pearl - May 16, 2025From Independent Woman to Homeless Single Mother
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Summary
On today's episode, the brother and sister duo of the sit down and talk about what it means to be a homeless single mother and how it affects their lives. They also talk about how women are the majority of single mothers in the homeless community and how they end up homeless because of the lack of support from society.
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It's time to date the ugly guy. Yep, it's that time. No, no, no, I can't do that. That's
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prostitution. Modern women think that they can do it all by themselves. They put themselves in a
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whole bunch of debt and they don't plan for the future. And you know what happens? They end up
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homeless. Many of these homeless women are single mothers. 60% of homeless women have kids and 85%
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of homeless families are headed by women. So let's look at some homeless single mothers.
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My GoFundMe is at $1,400. My cash app is at $200. My Venmo is at $1,60.
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Then on top of that, you guys, today, like I told you guys, the campground said we can only stay here
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for 14 days. But I was like, listen, we have a plan now. So maybe they'll work with us, right?
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I hope not. Women's lives never go according to plan. You know what I mean? It's like not all,
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by the way, not all. But in general, when has a woman's plan, like when have we ever followed
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through on a plan? Like I plan to stay married the rest of my life and then we break that plan,
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right? I plan to not be a single mother. Then they, you know, now this woman's a single mother.
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So let's, let's keep, let's see if they take the plan. I wouldn't, but hey.
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To the campsite and it's like at checkout or whatever. And we're like, hey, you know,
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is there just any way we could just stay here, please? Three more nights, you know,
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whatever we need to do, we'll do it. We'll put under a different name, you know, we'll go to a
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different site, whatever the fuck we need to do. Can we please just do it for these last three nights
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so we don't have to like go through all this shit? Just, just please, you know what I'm saying?
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And we were also like, if not, it's totally fine. You know what I'm saying? And he looks at us and
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he's like, I feel led. By the way, this is a Christian camp that we're staying at. He was
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like, I feel led to pay for three more nights for you. Yeah. This is why you Christian
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Christians. And I want to say you guys have the best intentions. You really go in
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trying to save the world, but these hoes take advantage of you. They really do. You feel called
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to bail out women for their bad decisions. And at some point you just got to be like, look,
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it's sink or swim lady. It's yeah. I mean, you got to figure out, you know, cause then
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you get these feeders and then they become everyone else's problem. But I hope she works
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it out. I never have, I never have ill will towards anybody. I want to be clear just cause
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I'm, you know, so-and-so black pilled just cause I'm black pilled. It doesn't mean I wish
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or I hope the world's going a certain way. I just, I see where it's going. Right.
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You guys, you guys, they already paid for fucking two nights for us.
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What the fuck? The last three nights that we're here, we're able to just go work. Like that's
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why we want to be here because we're able to work. Um, over the weekend is where our jobs
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are the busiest and we're able to make a little extra cash to put into this and get the fuck
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out of here. You guys, so we're going to stay here. I know we said we were going to leave
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today, but it's just impossible for us. So we figured out something else and we're leaving
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Monday for sure. For sure. You guys, Oh my goodness. I cannot believe that this shit is
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happening. Our family is about to be on the fucking way. You guys are going to see our
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journey. You guys are going to see us. Okay. I just want you to know, usually when women post
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journeys, so in order for men to like build a following, they have to post results, right? Like
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if, um, if they're selling how to like sleep with a bunch of hot chicks, they got to show
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like, these are the hot chicks, right? If they're going to promote like a weight loss thing,
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they got to show, Hey, these are my muscles, right? Women on the other hand, like we can
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be fat personal trainers. Can you, can you imagine like a man paying another man to personal
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train them? That's overweight. They just would never, they would never do it in a million years,
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but women on the other hand, like we can be bad at things and build followings. Like,
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Oh, my journey to cook where men, it's like, we require them to be a Michelin level chef
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to have a follow. It's not fair, right? I'm just pointing out the trends of how these things happen.
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So a lot of times though, these, um, weight loss journeys, the women just get fatter. And I'll tell
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you why, when I was on Tik TOK, when I was younger, I swear to God, I had posts like this and then I did
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get fatter and I didn't lose the weight till I stopped posting about it really. Um, and not that
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I, you know, I wouldn't open like a fitness. I'm not that in shape, but yeah, how do I put this?
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The journeys usually are journeys going nowhere, right? Like women don't get, when men make a change
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in their life. I mean, I don't want to say they always like make the change, but they're, they're
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much more likely to stick with it than women. We don't tend to do it. Do everything you guys are
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going to see is give back to y'all. She's not giving back to anybody. And I hate, I hate that the world
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has turned me this pessimistic. Um, because I think at one point I maybe was like some of you guys
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watching that call me nihilistic and black pill. I think I was like you guys, you know what I mean?
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But you know, life, you just get older, right? And you see how full of shit other people are.
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You even see how full of shit like yourself is at certain points, you know? Cause sometimes like
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people don't just lie to others. They lie to themselves. So, you know, I'll give you an example
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when going back to the fitness thing when I was younger and I was, I thought I wanted to lose
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weight. I really did. In my heart of hearts, I thought that that was all I wanted. Um, and
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I did it because I would still every day get a large venti caramel latte that was like 300
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calories. And sometimes I'd get two of them, right? That's like a meal. So I didn't actually
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want it because my choice, like if I wanted it, I would have did it. And I think like, that's
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the tough thing is people lie so much to like themselves that they also lie to others.
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Okay. First thing we're doing, like we're going to get a disability and then everything's
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going to be good. And then the first thing we're doing is a huge giveaway. We're going
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to be doing so much shit. That's the stupidest plan I've ever heard of. You can't help others
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if you don't help yourself, right? Like for example, Donald Trump became a billionaire before
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he tried to help others. You know, a lot of times I think the Christians, they really
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get the order wrong. Um, I really would advise getting the money and the power first and then
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trying to help the other people. Cause if you try to help first, it doesn't matter. You're
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a peasant, right? Like in, in society, in the world, cause we all start off as like nobodies.
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I mean, unless you're like, um, Donald Trump's son or something, you know, but most, most of
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you guys aren't, you know? So that's how I see it.
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Y'all like, Oh my gosh, I cannot, I cannot believe this. I cannot believe this. You guys
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Monday will be 11 weeks, 11 weeks in, in Monday is when we're leaving. Oh my gosh.
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There are a few problems with the land and everything like that, where we're going to put
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the trailer. But once we get there, we, we're going to figure that all out. I'm so, I'm so
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excited. I'm so happy. I'm so, so happy. Oh my gosh. We all got to shower today and I
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feel like rejuvenated and refreshed and so thankful. I love y'all. Yeah. Cooked. But Hey, I hope
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she figures it out. I never, I always want to be clear. I never wish anybody ill will, but
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I, I'm, I'm a pessimist, right? I'm a happy pet, you know, cause people always say I'm
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doom and gloom, right? They'll say, Pearl, you're so doom and gloom. And I'm like, most
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people think of me as a happy, upbeat person. I think, I mean, I don't know. I like to think,
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but you know, I, I'm not going to sell hope to you guys. I can't do it.
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Don't mind me. I just, I'm a hot mess and I've been puking all morning, but
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I can't even start to talk. I feel so bad. I like every day.
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Every day I just feel so guilty because I'm always so liver stimulated. I'm always stressing
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out. Stressing out about finding a place to live, getting a job, finding a good running
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car. I feel like it's time to date the ugly guy. Yep. It's that time. No, no,
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no, I can't do that. That's prostitution. Well, that's your other choice. It's, it's
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time. You either got to go date the ugly guy that you're not interested in or be a prostitute.
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Time to gluck gluck. You know what I mean? I mean, you got to provide value somehow. It's
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to one guy or multiple, but it's interesting. Women will pick multiple. They will. And
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you know, men, they don't understand this. They're like, why would you not? Because men can
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fathom banging an ugly chick. Do you know what I mean? Men can kind of get over that. They're
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like, do you know what? I don't want to go out and find a new woman. I like, what if she's
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worse? I'll just bang the, my ugly old wife. They can like fathom that, right? Their sex drive
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is strong. But women, we just can't like fathom that. We can't. Um, and so with prostitution,
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the woman can still at least like, she gets paid for the guy she doesn't like. Because
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if she doesn't like you, she'll make you pay anyway in the divorce. So what's like, what's
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the difference, right? At least the prostitute's coming up front. She's saying, look, I don't
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like you at all. Pay me, pay me, right? The wife is saying, I love you. And I'm going
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to spend here. I'm going to stay here forever until she gets the kid in the marriage. And
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then she says, ha ha, nevermind. Pay me, pay me for all this sex I had with you. You know,
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one's just on the back end. One's up front. What's the difference? You know what I mean?
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So, but women prefer the prostitution because at least like the wife had to deal with your
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bullshit for like seven years. And I know what you're thinking. Well, the women's bullshit is
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way worse than our bullshit. And that's totally true guys, but we're delusional, right? We're not
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logical people. So, you know, for example, we might mess up the bathroom. We might, um, give
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up girls nights to be with you. We might get work part time, you know, and that's, you know,
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women kind of see that as bullshit they have to do to be a wife and a mother. Now men have
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way more bullshit. I mean, they have to deal with the nagging, listening to our problems.
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Like they, men don't give a shit about the lack of appreciation, the belittling, the competing,
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like I could go on and on and on and on and on and on and on. Um, but women like don't count
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that. They're like, no, you know? And so women, the way women see it is they, we can still have
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the freedom to do whatever we want, like gluck, gluck, go out with the girls club, whatever.
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And we don't have to deal with the bullshit of a guy. And then we just have the sex like
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transactionally, which a lot of women feel that way about their husbands. So I'm, this isn't
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to say this is good or moral, right? This is just to show the female mindset. In a way,
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um, it's kind of, they're different things completely. Um, but many women view it as the
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same thing. I hate to break it to you. I, you know, I find myself being so mean to the kids
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and I feel so bad because they don't deserve that. It's not their fault. It's not their
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fault. I just feel so bad because I'm always stressing. I got to get out of them. I don't
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Do you know what's so funny? We'll be mean to somebody and then need to be comforted for how
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mean we were to somebody. Isn't that funny? Like, like, okay, we'll do the mean thing.
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Like, let's say we yell and then we feel guilty that we yelled and then we need to be comforted
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for the fact that we did a bad thing. We're just messed up people guys. You know, um, like
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we can't deal with our emotions of being a bad person. Do you know what I mean? Like women,
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when men are bad people, they kind of own it. They say, yep, I was a bad dad. Yeah, I was
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a bad friend. I was women. We can't like, it's like our conscious won't allow us to accept
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that we're not great people. Men will just eat it. They're like, yeah, I could have worked
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harder. I could have been better. You know, I'm sorry. Women on the other hand. Yeah. So
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it's the unfortunate thing about dating us. We'll like abuse you and then need us need
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you guys to comfort us for abusing you. I'm laughing. It's not funny, but yeah, what the
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I just want a better life for them. I feel like I can't give them that. I don't know. I
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just feel so guilty all the time. My kids deserve their own bed. They deserve their own room with
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their toys. I just hate that they don't have that right now. I'm trying so hard. It's just
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You should apologize because I think listening to these takes years off my life. What's next?
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All right. Mama for a homeless, sober, and trying to stay as positive as possible.
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Looks like she's in somebody's living room, so she's making her life choices, someone else's
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So I'm currently hiding in my bathroom at the hotel that we are staying in. Oh, it's
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Right now. Long story short, we've been living in our hotels, trying to get housing. That
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hasn't gone well for us. Still struggling on a waiting list. We were at a hotel almost
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for a year. You know, paying on time and doing really great, feeling really good about ourselves.
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Got some help from friends and family, which was very much appreciated. I was pregnant at
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the time. I just had the baby almost four months ago. My husband's company shut down, so he was
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out of work for a while. We didn't pay, you know, the hotel for a little bit. Did rack up
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a little bit of a bill, and went to court, you know, explained the situation. It wasn't
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because we didn't want to pay. It was just because we couldn't do it, and we had nowhere
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So last night we left, part of our court agreement, and we're at another hotel. Went through hell
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last night, and now this hotel won't extend our stay because the past hotel talked shit.
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Well, isn't it the consequences of my actions? Yeah, it's time to get a box. Men get a box.
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They're like, all right, well, it's time to be on the bench. Society is not going to know
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what to do with these single women. Look it. Half of kids are being born out of wedlock
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today. I was having this discussion in a Twitter space. If you guys ever want to follow my Twitter,
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it's pearly things with a Z. I do spaces all the time, and there's two schools of thought
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that we had in this space. One is that the government is going to have to legalize prostitution
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because they don't know what to do with these single women, or they're going to have to shame
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you men into making it your problem. Yeah. So I don't know. That's why beta men are really
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the backbone of society. They got to keep you guys convinced into taking bad deals because
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otherwise society would crumble, and everyone would be single. There'd be single mothers
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all over the place if Tyrone just kept Tyroning. You know what I mean? They got to convince
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Tyrone to be... Who's like a typical dad? Brad? Now Brad sounds like a player. What could
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be... Joe. Joe. They got to convince Tyrone to take the Joe deal, right? And there's certain
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guys, they're just never going to accept that because they just naturally think what's in
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it for me. I really think your ability as a man to get good deals is your ability to be
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guilted. You know, the men with no consciences, they get the youngest, hottest chicks and the
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best deals. I hate to say it, you know, but the ones that really are just not great people.
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Sorry, guys. I have nowhere to go. And I have four kids. And... Well, then why did you have
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those children? You know? I'm just heartbroken right now. Like, why can't we just ever catch
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a break? Like, yeah, we made our mistakes. But like I said, it wasn't because we didn't
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want to pay. It was just we didn't have the money to do it. And then, you know, when we
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were getting that cash flow, we paid what we could. We were paying, you know, the court
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agreement. We never went against that. And now this hotel doesn't want us here. And tomorrow
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we have to leave at 11 and we have nowhere to go. And I'm just beside myself. And all
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I want is just to be with my kids and my family. And I'm just really hoping housing calls back
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sooner rather than later. But the kids are keeping me strong. So that is not their job.
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That is not their job. It's time to give those kids to the dad. Yep. It's time. I'm thankful
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for them. My beautiful baby boy who I'm so glad won't remember any of this struggle. But
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if anybody has any help or advice or whatever, I'm going to start sharing my story. If anybody's
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going through this, maybe I can be, you know, a lending ear and try to help them kind of get
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through it the way that... Yeah. So men get comfort from solving their problems. Women get comfort
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from talking to other women that have also made poor life choices. So that's why women kind
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of drag each other down into like poor life choices. It's because we just get, we get comfort
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from different things. Yeah, I am sitting sober and, you know, just trying to be positive as
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I can. Yeah. So again, women will, and not all, not all, but many women will say, I got
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to be positive. Where men will say that being positive doesn't matter. And it's time to make
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a plan. A plan. Just need a break. Yeah. So she's using this kid for clout right now.
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That's a cute baby. It's kind of working on me. I want to donate. Look at the little baby.
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He's so cute. But yeah, women are like, she's obviously using the kid to get donations.
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Yeah. Say hi. Yeah. See how it looks like a fresh babe. What is that? Like a year old?
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You have to have dealt with the dad in the last two years. Give him a call. He's what
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keeps me going. The other one. All right. The last one we got. Two days ago, I made a video
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bawling my eyes out because me and my kids had to leave a hotel with yet again another place
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to go. Two days later, my downstairs neighbor is making me and my kids dinner. I have so, I
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have more. And my kids are home. It's good. I bet it is for me to play. And it's good. So
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when I'm a sick girl, just know, God put me right where I need to be. Then I try to collect
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that tea. For real though. Yeah. Notice in all of these things, it's never I solved my own
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problems. It's all of it is going to other people to solve their problems.
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I'm not able to. Two days ago, this was so far from my reality.
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Yeah. Okay. Well, guys, let me know if you've had an experience with a homeless single mother
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in the comments. Let me know what you guys think. Do you have any sympathy for these women?
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I really don't. But hey, I could be the exception. Like the video on your way out and subscribe
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to the channel and I'll see you guys next time.