Pearl - Good Guys Are Getting REJECTED While BAD BOYS Get EVERYTHING

00:00:00.000 didn't nobody tell me how hard it is for a nice guy to get a girlfriend like i thought y'all were

00:00:05.600 the ones who were winning until i seen what my friend matt had to go through and baby i saw the

00:00:11.620 whole other side of this so i'm at home getting ready with some of my friends because we're about

00:00:16.100 to go to the fair right so we're getting ready we're listening to music and all of a sudden

00:00:21.220 the music's cut off right because my phone is ringing so i'm like hold on hold on let me grab

00:00:26.240 this right quick so i go get the phone i don't know who's calling me and then i see it's my

00:00:31.280 friend matt right so i answer the phone i'm like what's up matt what's going on he's like hey um

00:00:36.900 are you still going to the fair tonight i'm like yeah yeah we're getting we're getting ready right

00:00:41.400 now he's like who's we i said oh me and some of my college friends like we're going like do you

00:00:46.860 want to meet us there he's like oh yeah yeah like yeah i'll meet y'all there i'm like okay bet

00:00:52.380 i hang up the phone right i'm thinking this is gonna be a fun cool little night

00:00:56.620 this turns into something completely different so me and my friends we get to the fair and we meet

00:01:01.980 matt there and we're in line for some food and all of a sudden matt hits me he's like lala um

00:01:08.020 who's that i'm like who my friend lexi he's like yeah um she's super pretty i'm like oh you think

00:01:16.300 she's pretty let me put you on before he can even get a word out i hit lexi i'm like lexi um

00:01:22.300 i want to introduce you to my friend matt she's like oh hi nice to meet you matt like i'm lexi

00:01:27.260 he's like oh hi nice to meet you after that right matt is already a nice guy but he brought it to

00:01:33.840 another level right we're in line for a freaking hot dog he buys us all the hot dogs right and i

00:01:39.820 see him and her chatting the whole rest of the night right they're chatting lexi's quick with

00:01:46.200 the two if she wants somebody she's getting them right so they're walking with each other around

00:01:51.180 this whole fair they're talking the whole night i'm thinking this is going great right wrong so

00:01:57.660 that night afterwards we leave we leave as soon as i get home matt's calling my phone i'm thinking

00:02:06.360 you know what i already know what this is about but i'm gonna answer anyway so i answer the phone

00:02:11.240 i'm like hey matt how was your night he's like bro it was so good like thank you for putting me

00:02:16.360 on to lexi like do you think she likes me i'm like yeah she definitely likes you she was talking to

00:02:21.660 you the whole night he's like okay nah talking doesn't mean anything to women if we don't have

00:02:28.460 sex with you it doesn't mean much okay okay good like i'm gonna try i'm gonna try to keep talking

00:02:32.820 to her um i got her number like i'll keep you updated i'm like okay good love that for y'all 0.78

00:02:38.220 right but instead of him keeping me updated she surely does now mind you lexi has only ever been

00:02:46.100 with men who are cheaters and players and if you've only been with men who are cheaters and

00:02:51.140 players a nice guy you don't even know what to do with them so that next week right i get a text

00:02:57.800 from lexi and me and lexi really don't even be texting that much i get a text from lexi and

00:03:03.140 she's like hey girl um can i can i talk to you i'm thinking oh bro what happened right i'm not

00:03:09.580 really worried about matt matt is the sweetest guy you could think of right he's doing everything he

00:03:14.040 needs to do he's only had one other girlfriend treated her like an angel so i'm thinking this

00:03:19.000 can't be with matt but it is i text her back i'm like yeah do you want to call she calls me

00:03:24.940 immediately she's like girl what's what's going on with your friend i said what do you mean she's

00:03:30.620 like i thought matt liked me does he not like me i said no he does like you she's like well then why

00:03:37.300 does he not text me i said what do you mean she sends me a screenshot of their text messages

00:03:43.260 it's a text from matt saying good morning at 9 a.m and then not speaking to her again until

00:03:49.980 5 5 6 p.m i said oh um i don't know have you have you talked to him about it she's like well

00:03:57.120 i tried but like he he doesn't really say anything like look at his responses his responses are okay

00:04:03.940 yeah got you nice i said okay i don't i don't really know what to say um i i know he likes

00:04:11.360 we just talked not too long ago like maybe he's just nervous she's like well i can't do that i

00:04:16.580 can't be with someone who has bad communication like i'm not doing this if he doesn't like me

00:04:20.040 i'm not talking to him valid period i'm like okay i'll talk to him i'll see what i can do

00:04:23.700 right i'm playing the middleman at this point so i go and i call matt right i'm not gonna text him

00:04:29.160 i call him i'm like hey um what's going on with you and lexi he's like oh me and lexi we're so

00:04:36.180 good we're so good the same dude i said are you are you sure he's like yeah why i said because

00:04:43.800 she she just told me you you don't be texting her back he's like what i text her every day i said

00:04:49.080 okay well screenshot is showing you texted her at nine o'clock in the morning and then didn't talk

00:04:53.380 to her again till like five or six he's like oh um yeah i was at work i was busy i said did you

00:05:00.440 tell her that he's like no was that was i supposed to i said yep that's the part of the communication

00:05:06.960 part right you gotta do that he's like oh i didn't know that i said hold on i thought you were in a

00:05:13.380 relationship before right communication is like the number one key in a relationship yeah that's

00:05:18.200 what women say do you know what i mean but not really it just means i need incessant attention

00:05:23.280 this man tells me he's like yeah i was in a relationship um in sixth grade six that don't

00:05:30.400 count that don't count at all i can see why we're behind a few steps he's like okay well what do i

00:05:35.140 need to do like i really like her i said all you got to do is learn how to communicate right it's

00:05:39.740 really that simple he's like okay okay i i will period perfect right i have no doubt in my mind

00:05:46.260 that matt's gonna do that right he has everything else checked off he just needs that point right

00:05:51.040 tell me why four or five days go by right i get a call from lexi i'm thinking okay it must be

00:05:59.700 it must be something serious because last time you texted me i answer the phone i got no idea

00:06:04.580 what she's about to say but i did not expect it to be this she's like girl i said yeah what's up

00:06:11.400 she's like oh my gosh i think i'm gonna cut matt off i said whoa whoa why would you why would you

00:06:17.100 cut off mad i thought things were going better she's like no like we still are barely texting

00:06:22.800 and like when he texts me it's just about like random stuff like he i don't know i feel like by

00:06:28.840 now he should have told me like he loved me he loved you i said y'all been talking for two weeks

00:06:34.020 she's like well i feel like every other guy like i talked to told me he loved me within that time

00:06:39.580 i said yeah and um how did that turn out she's like yeah i mean i guess like i don't know i've

00:06:45.080 never i've never talked to someone like him like i'm confused i'm thinking in my head baby y'all

00:06:49.640 both are confused right y'all both have terrible communication and honestly it starts with the man

00:06:55.240 right the man needs to figure that out and then everything will work so i am praying and hoping

00:07:00.840 that matt can get this communication in order and two weeks later everything changed two weeks later

00:07:09.400 i'm going out to eat right i i put in the group chat i invite some friends whoever wants to come

00:07:13.160 um come right so we're all there right and i see lexi walk in right i see lexi walk in

00:07:23.040 and behind her i see matt i'm thinking oh honestly i thought i didn't even know y'all were talking

00:07:29.300 anymore i low-key thought this fizzled out i haven't heard anything mind you they walk in

00:07:34.280 he's behind her they're holding hands i said oh y'all doing pda this must be something a little

00:07:41.180 serious so we sit down and i'm nosy i gotta know what's going on so i'm like hey guys what's what's

00:07:47.800 happening right like what's going on with y'all matt speaks first right and usually lexi's the

00:07:54.000 one to take over but now it's matt matt's like oh yeah like we're dating now everyone's like

00:08:00.760 oh he's like yeah we started dating last week like everything's been great like blah blah blah

00:08:07.300 blah telling what they've been doing i'm looking at lexi she's like yeah things have been so good

00:08:11.360 like what what happened two weeks ago that i'm missing out on right so i don't want to bring it

00:08:17.620 up in front of everybody so as we're getting up to leave right i i catch matt right lexi she went

00:08:24.500 to the bathroom i grabbed matt i'm like matt what what happened he's like bro um i told you like i

00:08:30.380 had to figure out that communication stuff like this might be weird but like i just i looked it

00:08:34.980 up i said he looked it up he's like yeah i looked up relationship stuff i got this app called gleam 0.92

00:08:41.300 like oh my god i just get bamboozled i just waste five ten minutes of my time on a stupid ad 1.00

00:08:47.560 teach you some shit your daddy probably didn't teach you being a lover boy being a nice guy 1.00

00:08:53.060 being a good man it gets rewarded with suffering i'm telling you right here right now if you want 1.00

00:08:59.040 a woman that you're dating in a relationship with or even married to to betray you stab you in the 1.00

00:09:03.860 back start disrespecting you all kinds of stupid shit that you don't want out of a woman start 1.00

00:09:09.420 treating her good a lot of you guys are experiencing this shit right now you're treating that woman 1.00

00:09:13.660 good you loyal you you available you treat her like a queen you know you treat her like a celebrity 0.98

00:09:20.840 guess what she don't respect you bro when i was younger for the world of me i could not understand

00:09:26.020 why bad boys got the best performances out of women they got the best cooperation out of women 0.99

00:09:30.760 i was perplexed as fuck and it sent me down this journey of figuring this shit out 0.99

00:09:35.340 women don't want a man they can control women don't want a man they can lead 0.99

00:09:39.420 women don't want a man that if she feel this type of way he gonna chase her moves they don't want 1.00

00:09:45.640 that shit they say they want it out of their mouth but guess what they respond to something 1.00

00:09:49.720 totally different that's why you can't listen to what women say if you ask a woman what what's your 1.00

00:09:55.160 ideal type of man no and it's true um we do like the bad boys and it's just biology like you can't 0.98

00:10:03.380 outsmart our nature which is we like men um that signal high status and men that don't really like 0.98

00:10:09.700 you signal higher status in our hindbrain it just is what it is 99 of the shit that she say 0.99

00:10:13.940 is a motherfucking lie i want a gentleman i want a guy that's gonna open up the door for me i want 1.00

00:10:18.400 a guy that's gonna text me back i want a guy that's gonna put me first motherfucker don't do 1.00

00:10:22.240 none of that shit that's her attempting to program you into a goofy bro don't fall for none of that 0.99

00:10:27.940 shit all right don't be a nice guy but i'm not telling you to be a bad boy you want to be a kind 0.99

00:10:33.320 man you want to be a fair man with a spine you want to run a strict program but you don't want 0.99

00:10:38.720 to be mean all the time being disrespectful and shit like that bro that's how i operate when i 0.98

00:10:43.680 deal with women and i'm not afraid to check a woman you can't be afraid to check a woman 0.99

00:10:47.480 you lover boys you nice guys you good men out there you afraid to rock the boat i'll tip that 1.00

00:10:52.540 bitch over if i get disrespected if i'm not happy i'll stab a hole in the boat fuck this 1.00

00:10:57.760 relationship yeah that's true fuck me and you date yeah all right let's see the nice guys that 1.00

00:11:03.720 suffer the most honestly honestly the guys that are like genuinely have good hearts they will 0.99

00:11:09.180 never cheat never do anything bad to their girls that's the that's the guys that get abused in the

00:11:14.720 relationship the guys that are the tough guys sadly it's vice versa where's the middle ground

00:11:20.680 guys where's the guys in the like with the balance like they know how to get onto girls

00:11:25.500 where they also know how to serenade they know how to like you know bring a girl up but also

00:11:31.000 knock her ego down if it's too high like you need more balance yeah you gotta do both all right let's

00:11:36.900 i see men carrying pressures silently i see men questioning themselves instead of questioning 0.99

00:11:46.740 the situation yeah that's the crazy thing because women will gaslight you into eternity

00:11:52.980 i see men trying to be better without actually being supported i've had men knock on my door 0.67

00:12:00.980 saying we need your help and i don't take that lightly because men matter too this space exists

00:12:07.540 because something is missing and i'm not here to soften the truth or dance around it i'm here

00:12:14.900 to name it and hold men to it oh my gosh all right let's see all right one second i'm gonna look at

00:12:21.460 something really quick this is why nice guys struggle with women you see in my opinion nice

00:12:27.620 guys are very logical with girls in a nice guy's brain if i do this this and this that should equal

00:12:36.020 this and if they don't get that outcome then it's like what the hell i did this i did this

00:12:41.940 yeah because men find women confusing i did this where's my reward because in their head they did

00:12:48.020 everything right why don't they get the reward and they get really upset when they see the jock or

00:12:53.860 like the f-boy get the girl with little to no effort meanwhile they were opening doors and

00:13:00.200 freaking buying dinners and buying flowers and they got nothing here's the thing stop looking

00:13:05.260 at girls as like this math equation some guys went the date route and some guys went to come 0.94

00:13:11.000 over and hang out and have a joint with me route once you realize there's no set equation on getting

00:13:15.980 a girl that's when you understand girls a whole lot better when i go out with the chick i'm just

00:13:20.840 thinking let's just have a good time at night and see where this goes there is no expectation women 1.00

00:13:26.100 hate male expectation we hate that's why a lot of women now kind of will do the 50 50 and like pay

00:13:32.120 for stuff because they don't want the man to expect anything no nothing in that case if i don't 1.00

00:13:37.340 get the result i want i'm not beating my head against the wall because i went out with her

00:13:41.860 with zero expectations of anything so if you're a nice guy all right so the one thing i always say

00:13:47.200 that women men open up and they say hey i have this problem where i don't get laid as a nice guy

00:13:54.000 and i want to show you how women respond 36 000 likes right um and this is how women respond when

00:14:02.520 you open up to them always finish last uh no being a nice guy isn't the reason why you're getting

00:14:08.240 rejected okay no not like that i just mean i hear the saying girls don't like nice guys and then

00:14:13.580 they take that in a literal sense but let me explain to you what the girls are actually

00:14:17.700 thinking being kind isn't unattractive being respectful also isn't unattractive actually

00:14:22.960 caring about someone is not unattractive the real problem is when being nice becomes a transaction

00:14:29.220 you're only nice because you expect something back i did all these things for her she owes me

00:14:35.300 but it's funny this is a projection because this is how women feel about men i did all this for

00:14:39.280 him men don't really do that they might think it right they might feel it but they don't really say

00:14:42.780 that chance that's not kindness real kindness is doing something for someone

00:14:48.280 because you genuinely care about them not because you hope that you'll be

00:14:51.940 rewarded for it here's the thing people can 100% tell the difference the goal

00:14:56.300 isn't to become the guy that does everything for someone in hopes that

00:15:00.300 they'll finally see their worth the goal is to become the guy who already knows

00:15:04.280 is worth your person isn't gonna choose you because you convince them they're

00:15:09.720 going to choose you because they see who you are. Don't stop being kind. Just make sure your

00:15:13.980 kindness comes from love. Yeah, that's what I mean. Men, don't open up to women. We throw it in your

00:15:18.300 face. Anyways, all right, I love you guys. Thanks for watching. Like the video. Subscribe. I'll see

00:15:22.840 you next time.

Pearl - October 22, 2026

Good Guys Are Getting REJECTED While BAD BOYS Get EVERYTHING

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