Pearl - Happy Single Mother's Day (Call-in Show) ｜ Pearl Daily

00:00:00.000 So there's this clip going viral online of a dozen women being asked the following question,

00:00:09.820 do we need men? Most answered very quickly, no, because men are useless. 1.00

00:00:17.960 This headline from The Hill, it caught my eye. Most young men are single, most young women are 0.98

00:00:23.380 not. Young men have fallen faster than any demographic in America over the last 40 years.

00:00:28.340 It's a different world now.

00:00:29.520 We don't need men the way that they used to.

00:00:31.480 Nobody needs men! 1.00

00:00:32.740 The future is female. 1.00

00:00:35.820 Men and women are drifting further apart, 0.67

00:00:39.340 and society is crumbling because of it.

00:00:42.620 A fascinating debate has broken out about the value of marriage.

00:00:45.560 You've kind of got the trad con versus red pill thing.

00:00:48.280 This men's rights crowd that sometimes just goes too far the other way.

00:00:51.840 You need to stop acting like grown boys and infants and actually become men.

00:00:55.760 Marriage is a bond, and it's a sacred bond.

00:00:58.560 It's a machine designed to extract resources from you.

00:01:01.580 Now many of the red-pilled have taken the position that it's bad for men to get married. 0.99

00:01:06.520 Hannah Pearl Davis, or just pearly things.

00:01:10.160 One of the most controversial faces in all of the internet.

00:01:13.820 She goes on to say that marriage is a terrible deal for men.

00:01:16.680 Because if me and you were in a business contract,

00:01:18.900 you would never sign a contract where I am paid to leave.

00:01:21.860 Gee, what could go wrong there?

00:01:24.000 74% or something of divorces are initiated by women. 0.53

00:01:27.600 Men have everything to lose, primarily their own children. 0.81

00:01:30.480 Men get killed by the courts and by divorce laws. 0.73

00:01:33.160 I had no idea that courts of family law were courts of equity, not courts of law.

00:01:38.120 Because in family court, you don't need evidence to accuse someone of abuse.

00:01:41.340 You need no evidence.

00:01:42.440 When you guys say get married young, a lot of these men don't know what they're signing up for,

00:01:46.060 and you're not going to be there when their entire life falls apart.

00:01:49.520 I interviewed them on the other side.

00:01:52.040 I didn't meet my son until he was 15 months old.

00:01:54.360 How much did you spend trying to get him back?

00:01:56.500 The legal fees alone was about $200,000.

00:01:58.860 Before you know it, you're homeless.

00:02:00.280 You're literally just thrown out onto the street.

00:02:02.180 We absolutely reinforce bad behavior from women. 1.00

00:02:04.620 Wives are taught to leave their husbands, 0.96

00:02:06.520 and then daughters grow up without their fathers.

00:02:08.880 Family is the foundation of society.

00:02:10.620 Every problem in society comes from single mother homes. 1.00

00:02:13.600 A lot of women will just chase this negative rabbit hole of happiness, endless happiness. 1.00

00:02:18.140 Feminism's biggest failure is it lies to women. 1.00

00:02:19.980 we tell women to date as many guys as possible we tell them to put off family into marriage 1.00

00:02:23.580 you are allowed to leave your perfect husband you are allowed to end a relationship with a really 1.00

00:02:29.660 great boyfriend oh freeze your eggs have an abortion what you're evil i don't think there's 0.87

00:02:34.300 anything else in life that we actually ever go into preparing to fail right like if you have the 0.97

00:02:38.620 mentality of this is going to go wrong and be pessimistic naturally the outcome is going to be

00:02:43.100 that it's going to fail anyway it's self-sabotage that's the thing like women are so willing to 1.00

00:02:47.340 leave marriages because they're not happy this is not about happiness the most important thing

00:02:52.140 is the children and the problem is we have a modern society where it's me me me my feelings

00:02:57.740 leave when i feel like it instead of doing what's best for the kids this myth that we live in an age

00:03:03.980 of male privilege where's my male privilege they think well men have all the rights they have all

00:03:07.740 the power privilege patriarchal system that we have why doesn't our society care about men's 1.00

00:03:12.700 rights. I have no friends. No wife and no social life. Men are alone in this situation.

00:03:18.700 Men are homeless. Men are thinking about eating guns. I've seen so many men on the brink of

00:03:23.460 suicide and they didn't do anything wrong. How are you equal if the men are the ones 0.99

00:03:28.640 that have to fight and die to defend the country? The men are the ones that build and maintain

00:03:33.580 all the infrastructure. Women are helplessly dependent upon men. The so-called deaths of 0.96

00:03:38.600 despair from suicide overdose to alcohol three times higher among men than among women culture

00:03:45.000 is telling men you are no good you got to get your act together i think men have failed themselves

00:03:49.320 what kind of a man are you what kind of a woman are you going to attract if men are in trouble 0.99

00:03:54.360 so are women everybody knows this is a huge problem but nobody wants to admit it every 1.00

00:03:59.240 single woman at the table said they wanted a man 500k 500k 300k 200k am i crazy everything is really

00:04:05.080 set up against you to fail as a man if men make less than women women don't want to marry them 0.99

00:04:10.200 so you know who wants more economically and emotionally viable men women i don't want to be 0.61

00:04:16.440 an independent woman anymore i don't want to be a strong independent woman i'm over it when is it

00:04:21.560 going to be my turn where are we meeting the men that don't stop i can't keep having these same

00:04:25.800 conversations the only simp here is you pearl you sent for no i think i think you said for women 0.99

00:04:30.280 she's a provocateur she says stupid stuff but pearl is right about this it's already happening 0.98

00:04:34.840 it's just not out in the open yet now it's just hookup culture is going to be our fairy tale 1.00

00:04:38.680 ending because men don't want a wife and women can't find a husband the future if everybody

00:04:43.880 follows your path is there is no future we go into population decline and our economy goes into

00:04:49.080 decline civilization will crumble the american story does not end well this is an existential

00:04:55.800 crisis failing young men. What up? What up, guys? Welcome to another episode of Pearl

00:05:08.680 Daily here on the Audacity Network. So that was my documentary that I am making called

00:05:15.520 What's in It for Men. Unfortunately, getting demonetized really derailed this in the past

00:05:21.100 year. Women decided to flag my channel because of the topics that I talk about. And really,

00:05:26.720 they succeeded. Women are spiteful. They really, they can and do and will try to ruin your life. 1.00

00:05:33.480 Like there's no ifs, ands, or buts, just when. And I really do enjoy doing what I do. I really

00:05:38.760 enjoy being honest. But unfortunately, you do need funding to do that. So our goal is to raise a

00:05:44.860 million dollars for this documentary. That's a super lofty goal. Some would say maybe unreachable.

00:05:49.880 maybe it is i don't know the reason being is if i can raise that much i can hire matt walsh's team

00:05:54.900 from um the same team i don't want to say his team but the same team that produced what is a woman

00:05:59.320 that's the quote they gave us um however if we get to around 100 to 150k um that that will get

00:06:06.980 the documentary done just like um that's like the lower quotes i've gotten so right now the go uh

00:06:14.220 fund me. The link to this is in the description. We're at $18,000. Now I am ultimately super

00:06:22.320 grateful that you guys gave this to me to begin with. There's two routes we can go. We can either

00:06:26.680 hire someone else or maybe bring a full-time person in house. And I'm open to either of those

00:06:34.440 options. If you guys have a bigger donation that you want to do, we're open to profit share. We're

00:06:40.040 open to some sort of advertisement that we could potentially do just pearly things at gmail.com

00:06:48.660 second announcement is that we are launching our school academy tomorrow I am allowing you guys if

00:06:54.420 you sign up now on the website which is the audacity network.com the link to that is also

00:06:58.920 in the description it should be the second link that is going to have information on how you guys

00:07:05.980 can get custody. It's going to improve your love life, your money, and essentially all of these

00:07:11.160 smart, intelligent guests that I've made over the years are going to be teaching you different

00:07:14.880 things. I have a child support officer that's telling you guys how to lower and avoid child

00:07:19.900 support. That's going on. There's a private investigator coming on Friday to teach you guys

00:07:24.860 how to catch your girl cheating. It's better to test her before you marry her, right? So if you 0.93

00:07:31.400 guys can, feel free. Thank you to BR Merrick for this thousand dollar donation. That's the top

00:07:36.740 donation this week. We really appreciate it. Okay, so we're a little bit earlier today. My

00:07:43.520 little sister is graduating high school. She's the last one, so I do have to make that. But today

00:07:50.440 we're talking about single mothers. So as you guys know, Sunday was single mother's day. I mean,

00:07:56.260 Mother's Day. But when the majority of kids are born out of wedlock and into single mother homes 0.99

00:08:02.380 and kids are, you know, and parents are breaking up before the age of five, really we should just

00:08:07.940 change the national name to Single Mother's Day. So I was traveling and I wasn't able to do my

00:08:13.940 Mother's Day special. So now here I am. This is going to be the dedication to Single Mother's Day.

00:08:21.320 Modern women are still perpetuating this narrative that being a mother is the most difficult job 1.00

00:08:26.120 in the world. You see women saying this all the time on podcasts, on TV. It's everywhere. Men work

00:08:33.540 the dangerous jobs in society. They build the buildings. They work on the oil rigs. They do

00:08:43.280 the plumbing. And they've made all these conveniences that make life easier for women. 1.00

00:08:50.360 But it's dismissed by women because they, what, give birth? 1.00

00:08:55.260 Dogs give birth.

00:08:56.900 Do we revere dogs super highly? 0.99

00:08:59.080 Do we revere bitches, right? 1.00

00:09:02.140 I'm hilarious. 0.99

00:09:03.280 I don't care what anyone says.

00:09:04.660 Modern women also say that all women are more nurturing because of the sexes, right? 1.00

00:09:09.560 Because they give birth to children and they're automatically more nurturing.

00:09:13.840 But, you know, as we know, that's not true.

00:09:15.480 If you look at the stats, the most likely person to abuse and murder children is almost 0.72

00:09:21.920 always women. 1.00

00:09:22.960 So much so that when there's an infanticide, meaning that a child dies within the first

00:09:27.220 year of life, do you know who's most responsible?

00:09:30.360 Do you know who the police don't even look for?

00:09:32.400 A man, they look for the women. 1.00

00:09:33.880 It's most likely the mother.

00:09:36.020 And they don't even throw these women that are throwing their kids in dumpsters in jail. 1.00

00:09:40.320 I just saw a case recently of a woman that got like 20 years.

00:09:44.200 I couldn't even believe it.

00:09:45.480 believe it. I didn't think it was possible for women to go to jail. So the grim reality is that 0.94

00:09:51.940 modern mothers are some of the coldest, most callous, the most selfish women in the history 1.00

00:09:58.180 of humankind. These mothers have their children out of wedlock. They take from society, even though 1.00

00:10:04.160 government benefits, even though they have government benefits and put their own selfish

00:10:08.320 desires ahead of the needs of the children. Even the married mothers emotionally and verbally 0.92

00:10:14.880 abuse their husbands, belittling their efforts and airing out all of their marital and personal

00:10:20.320 business on social media. So this Mother's Day, let's look at some of these mothers, 0.89

00:10:25.280 the mothers that paint the picture of how awful modern mothers are in 2025. This will be a call 0.98

00:10:31.200 in show. So I'm going to drop you a link and you can share any stories of how awful your mother

00:10:36.480 was to you. Or maybe you were a saint, right? You can tell me that too. Society is not afraid to

00:10:41.440 hold fathers accountable for their shortcomings but they have yet to do so with mothers. I hope 1.00

00:10:46.980 that one day mothers will be held to the level of scrutiny that fathers have had to endure. Is it

00:10:52.700 going to happen? I'm not going to hold my breath but hey you never know. You never know. All right

00:10:59.940 so number one. My abusive mother texted me. Okay we're going to do the first one. My abusive mother

00:11:06.800 texted me this morning um let's break down her message shall we just thinking about you i hope

00:11:12.580 you're doing well i think about you every day i just don't know how to talk to you i feel like

00:11:17.900 anything i say no matter how positive my intentions are interpreted as negative i can't change your

00:11:23.920 perception i can only tell you that i have always wanted the best for you anything i've done that

00:11:30.280 has been hurtful was just me being a stupid human my intentions for you or for your life have always 0.89

00:11:38.560 been for you to be happy and successful whatever that means for you all right let's break this 0.97

00:11:44.900 down line by line she starts off with a couple of lines to create a sense of closeness and like 0.78

00:11:50.780 familiarity and then goes right into i don't know how to talk to you this is the woman who has

00:11:56.940 emotionally abused and neglected me and medically neglected me for my whole life the reason i don't

00:12:04.380 talk to her is because any amount of information that i give her good or bad will be used to tear 1.00

00:12:10.520 me down that's why i gray rock her and why i give her nothing and why most of the time i just don't 0.95

00:12:15.200 respond to her this whole message is also a really good example of darbo already she has placed

00:12:20.400 herself in the role of the victim the mother who is trying so hard blocker i don't know why you

00:12:26.220 guys don't block your mom so it's such an easy fix don't ever have to hear from her just block

00:12:31.220 hard to reach her child and just no matter what she does it's always wrong even though historically

00:12:37.040 she has been the person who has all of the power in this relationship and no matter how hard I

00:12:41.020 tried the goal posts were consistently I won't lie the daughter seems pretty insufferable too 1.00

00:12:45.920 but yeah just block her move on don't be angry just move on with your life and what I tried to

00:12:51.740 achieve was never enough. This is projection. Anything I say no matter how positive my intentions

00:12:57.500 are interpreted as negative. This woman has never given me a genuine apology in my life that I can

00:13:04.160 think of that did not involve placing herself as the victim and guilt tripping me. I don't even

00:13:11.100 think you can call this an apology. I've always wanted the best for you. Again she's the good guy

00:13:16.220 this scenario anything i've done that has been hurtful was just me being a stupid human she 0.95

00:13:22.460 knows she knows that she's up she knows that i'm hurt she knows because i've tried to tell her for 0.96

00:13:27.740 years and she refuses to accept responsibility this is the closest that i will get and she is

00:13:32.700 still framing herself as the sympathetic party here my intentions for your life have always been

00:13:37.820 for you to be happy and successful whatever that looks like oh she loves that line she loves the

00:13:44.540 happy and successful her version of whatever my happy and successful looks like is pressuring me

00:13:51.980 and guilting me and scaring me into her version of my best life and then saying it's for my own good

00:13:58.780 it's privately downplaying and discouraging any kind of accomplishments that i make but then

00:14:03.260 publicly using my success as like a trophy to parade around it's continually disregarding my

00:14:10.220 interests and my needs and pushing me for a life that would be more beneficial for her socially 0.98

00:14:17.880 this is a beautifully crafted piece of passive aggressive manipulation that sounds kind when 0.99

00:14:24.640 in actuality she's an abuser who talks shit about me to the entire family behind my back 1.00

00:14:30.400 yeah that's how women do it they ruin your reputation we can't use verbal violence so 1.00

00:14:37.060 women will just spread rumors over exaggerate things and really overreact that's the that's 1.00

00:14:43.120 how women do it it's how they get their way because i openly talk about the abuse she cannot 1.00

00:14:47.440 accept it she won't own up to it and she will never say sorry to my face all i want all i want

00:14:54.220 is for an acknowledgement of the harm never impossible and proof that she is trying that's

00:15:01.840 it that is the cost for her to be in my life and that will never happen she wants the benefits of 0.83

00:15:06.340 having access to me but she doesn't actually want to put in the work to make it a relationship that 0.88

00:15:11.700 is mutually beneficial i i don't even know if i'm going to respond or what i'm gonna say to her

00:15:20.120 messages like these are so exhausting there's no one else i can talk to in my family because

00:15:25.660 if i bring it up and i show them this message there's the plausible deniability of well look

00:15:30.900 she's saying if she hurt you like she's she's trying to reach out to you she's trying to make

00:15:35.920 a bridge and it's like no she's trying to get me to reach out to her without her having to change

00:15:42.620 at all don't we just love emotionally immature abusive parents yay yeah she's the same they're

00:15:50.560 the same but okay a single mother put a kid in the trash protected parents that you you asked 0.52

00:16:01.320 if the baby was okay. Why'd you ask him that? Because with or without the incident, he still

00:16:13.200 might. The Hobbs teenager accused him. Oh my gosh. She threw that kid in the trash. And 0.99

00:16:19.740 they said, well, why'd you do that? Or why'd you say that? And then she's like with or 1.00

00:16:23.260 without the incident. Um, he's still, oh, I thought he still might. I thought she said

00:16:28.720 he still might have been hurt.

00:16:31.360 No, he's still mine. 1.00

00:16:33.760 Bitch, you don't give a shit about this. 1.00

00:16:35.600 You threw it in the trash. 1.00

00:16:36.760 Her baby into a trash bin testifies about leaving him in the January cold last year.

00:16:42.200 Good evening.

00:16:42.640 Thank you.

00:16:43.000 Oh, my God.

00:16:43.760 Kieran and Abner are on assignment tonight.

00:16:45.900 The trial does continue in New Mexico for Alexis Avila, who is facing charges of attempted

00:16:51.220 first degree murder and child endangerment causing bodily harm.

00:16:54.940 She took the stand today to speak in her own defense.

00:16:58.100 In January of last year, security camera footage caught her tossing a bag into a large trash bin and then driving off.

00:17:06.040 Almost six hours later, dumpster divers heard cries and found the discarded infant.

00:17:13.240 Medical experts testified yesterday on the child's condition after his rescue

00:17:17.140 and said it is very likely he would have died from the extreme hypothermia if he had not been found.

00:17:22.900 How many babies are thrown in dumpsters and not found every year? 1.00

00:17:28.260 Dark question, isn't it?

00:17:31.040 Do you understand how your actions affected the baby?

00:17:35.460 Yes.

00:17:36.900 And what do you think of that?

00:17:39.040 I think that hurts.

00:17:40.720 That's something that he's never going to forget.

00:17:44.180 That's something that's going to live with him for the rest of his life.

00:17:48.040 You know what's so crazy?

00:17:49.600 You know you can leave babies at fire stations? 1.00

00:17:51.840 Like, why do they choose to throw it in a dumpster instead of a fire station?

00:17:58.760 Avila pleaded not guilty last year.

00:18:01.060 If convicted, she faces at least...

00:18:02.380 My mother claimed $100,000 in my name, and now I got to deal with it.

00:18:05.740 It started when I was 12.

00:18:06.800 I'm 20 plus. 0.97

00:18:07.840 Holy crap. 0.97

00:18:09.340 Call in. 0.98

00:18:09.940 Tell your story.

00:18:10.600 18 years in prison.

00:18:12.040 We'll have live coverage of this trial from Lovington tomorrow.

00:18:16.600 She'll get off on good behavior.

00:18:19.100 Baby dies when a mother goes on vacation. 0.99

00:18:21.840 She was always happy, always... Hold up. Oh, my God.

00:18:26.460 Okay, I'm sorry. Let's go here.

00:18:30.480 She was always happy, always playing and smiling and laughing.

00:18:35.820 Pictures and happy memories. That's all neighbors have of 16-month-old Jailene Calendario.

00:18:41.560 I absolutely loved her. She was like a little sister to me.

00:18:44.680 Sulem and her mom, Iris, didn't want to show their faces.

00:18:47.780 They said the first time they met Jailene was last August.

00:18:51.020 They were supposed to watch her only a few days, but they said her mom didn't return for a month and a half.

00:18:56.920 I was the one calling her, look, I need milk, I need money. I don't have no money to buy milk for you, baby. What am I supposed to do?

00:19:03.380 Fast forward to this month, and Cristel Calendario is charged with her daughter Jailene's murder.

00:19:08.880 Court documents show the 31-year-old admitted to leaving her baby home alone June 8th while she went on vacation to Puerto Rico and Detroit.

00:19:16.760 When Calendario returned home eight days later, police say she found Jailene unresponsive.

00:19:23.160 We were absolutely heartbroken. We loved Jailene a lot.

00:19:26.940 Iris and Sulem wish Calendario would have asked them to watch Jailene.

00:19:30.900 I wish for her to pay what she did to her daughter.

00:19:33.540 Instead, they're left with an investigation and reminders of Jailene's many visits.

00:19:39.780 Jailene really didn't deserve what happened to her. 1.00

00:19:41.980 she was amazing and really adorable and i miss her a lot wow that's devastating

00:19:50.720 and they keep pushing that women love their kids they don't they do not they love i guess this

00:19:58.860 video is not available they love the clout their kids get they love i mean even even candace owens

00:20:06.320 today she's like you know i saw her twitter and she posted a picture of her baby right she sent 0.99

00:20:13.680 another kid and i'm thinking candace you you're in fucking politics are you insane are you mad 1.00

00:20:20.440 you're posting pictures of your kids when you're in politics holy i i i'm like these women do not 1.00

00:20:30.600 care about their kids political people go dark like they try to anyways um mother told me that

00:20:37.820 she owned my body she could do whatever she wanted to it whenever she wanted to it and there was 1.00

00:20:41.820 nothing that i could do about it whenever i was born i was the only one out of my siblings with

00:20:46.020 brown hair and bright blue eyes the rest of my siblings were born with blonde hair and bright

00:20:50.280 blue eyes growing up she always made sure to remind me that she told god she wanted a baby 1.00

00:20:55.940 with brown hair and bright blue eyes, and he finally blessed her with that by giving her me.

00:21:02.480 However, she always resented me. I was the black sheep of the family, the scapegoat. She always

00:21:07.440 made sure to make that known. Because she was my mom, I always seek validation from her, so I wanted

00:21:13.740 blonde hair exactly like my sisters, since she liked them more than me. It was my junior year.

00:21:18.980 My big sister had already moved out of the house, and she was living with a friend. One day, I was at

00:21:22.660 my sister's house. We got the bright idea to give me highlights, except we really didn't know exactly

00:21:28.020 what we were doing. We took the little highlight cap that you pulled hair through. We pulled majority

00:21:32.880 of my hair through this cap. My hair ended up looking like a strawberry blonde color. To be

00:21:37.760 honest, it was not that bad. Here's a picture of it right here. Wasn't terrible at all. We didn't

00:21:43.680 realize how much hair that we colored of mine though. We thought it was going to be a subtle

00:21:47.320 difference and you weren't going to be able to tell. When we were finished, I made sure to put

00:21:51.620 my hair up in a ponytail and my sister took me home. I got home and ran through the front door

00:21:55.940 and tried to get to my room before my mother saw my hair but she did see it as I walked into the

00:22:00.860 front door. She made sure to let me know that I was so ugly now that this was her body and she 1.00

00:22:07.000 had rights to do whatever I wanted to it. I did something to her body that I was not allowed to

00:22:12.620 do. She said the only thing that ever made me pretty was my brown hair. Now that that was gone

00:22:17.200 i no longer had any value after that i just went to my room and i cried believing that i really was

00:22:23.120 ugly and that my brown hair was the only reason why people liked me and thought that i was pretty

00:22:27.520 at all when i went to school and people pointed it out that something had changed about my hair

00:22:32.240 or even complimented it i would be sure to say oh yeah it's really messed up i didn't do this

00:22:37.520 on purpose it looks horrible i know i said that every single time someone even complimented it

00:22:43.440 I really believe that I was so ugly with this hair, made me hate everything about myself.

00:22:49.540 Of course, now I know that my hair color does not define me.

00:22:52.880 Just because she told me as a kid that my brown hair was the only reason I had value to her,

00:22:58.180 I really don't even color my hair brown anymore.

00:23:00.780 I make sure to keep it blonde most of the time.

00:23:03.240 At least that's the reason I think I like it blonde a lot. 1.00

00:23:06.200 My mother always made it a point to make sure I knew that she owned my body and I had no rights to it. 1.00

00:23:12.140 still to this day i struggle with my self-image issues but for the most part i have overcome them

00:23:17.100 i refuse to allow her to have any more control over me or they'll come back at 35 don't worry lady

00:23:23.820 you might have overcome them for now they'll be back my body any longer i own my own body and

00:23:29.260 i'm not gonna let anyone else tell me different ever again just because you birthed someone does 0.64

00:23:33.740 not mean that you mothers are especially mean to their daughter women do not like their daughters

00:23:38.860 especially when the daughters become like prettier and get more attention than them 1.00

00:23:42.540 and if the dad likes the daughter more than the wife oof cooked so cooked done um all right mother

00:23:50.680 shoots daughter in the neck and then tells her to lie about it bond for the maryland mother accuser 1.00

00:23:55.460 oh my god holy shit bond for the maryland mother accuser trying to kill her own daughter the 1.00

00:24:02.840 suspect talika brown will stay in jail and today new evidence suggests she tried to manipulate 0.99

00:24:07.320 what her daughter told authorities.

00:24:09.520 Lili Zhang's on the story tonight.

00:24:10.720 She's standing by live with those details.

00:24:12.440 Lili?

00:24:14.800 Hey, Jim, good evening to you.

00:24:16.600 Prosecutors are pointing to a voicemail

00:24:18.680 that was turned over to their office

00:24:20.340 before today's hearing, just hours beforehand.

00:24:23.700 In that voicemail, we are told that the suspect

00:24:25.980 sent it to the child's father,

00:24:28.960 essentially saying that if their child

00:24:30.740 does not make a statement, doesn't show up in court,

00:24:32.820 that all this will, quote, go away.

00:24:35.660 That was concerning to the state

00:24:37.060 because obviously with her being 13 years old, she's very impressionable.

00:24:40.480 And that's our concern, is that it's her mother.

00:24:44.180 She's going to listen to her mother.

00:24:45.780 And so we don't want her to be tainted in any way by the pressure.

00:24:52.560 Ashley Soles is an assistant state's attorney for Prince George's County.

00:24:56.400 She presented the case before a judge today,

00:24:58.740 arguing that Talika Brown was a danger to the community

00:25:01.780 and should not be released on bond.

00:25:04.420 Brown is accused of shooting her 13-year-old daughter in the neck on Monday.

00:25:08.840 This was after authorities say an argument turned physical in their Seat Pleasant home.

00:25:13.540 Charging documents say Brown initially told her daughter to claim that she was shot by someone who broke into the home.

00:25:20.660 The 13-year-old, according to prosecutors, remains in the hospital today.

00:25:24.640 She requires a chest tube right now, with doctors at one point fearing that paralysis was a possibility.

00:25:31.540 And while no one thinks that a mother would shoot her very own daughter,

00:25:42.260 no one can conceive of that, these incidents do happen. And they happen for a variety of reasons.

00:25:50.500 But our goal is to prevent these incidents from becoming tragedies,

00:25:55.380 to begin to address those underlying issues that lead to this type of violence.

00:26:01.540 now in court today a defense attorney for brown tried to make the argument that in his opinion

00:26:07.560 home detention would be more appropriate in this case he says that brown has no violent criminal 0.89

00:26:13.020 history also adding that in this case the victim could stay with her father the judge of course

00:26:18.320 in this case did side with the state guys holy all right pearl reed if you guys have a question

00:26:28.680 in, comment, concern, you can go to the audacity network.com and put Pearl Reed in front. When we

00:26:35.140 say the word deadbeat, we automatically picture a man. What is the equivalent word of a deadbeat

00:26:39.320 mother? There isn't one. And that's a problem. Totally. That is disgusting. And this is the 0.97

00:26:50.200 thing. We don't talk about these issues. It's always women are far worse to their kids. 1.00

00:26:58.680 than men. I'm going to refresh. I don't see one on the YouTube site. Okay. 0.99

00:27:05.560 I don't love my mother. And whenever I make that statement, it ignites. I don't love my mother.

00:27:10.380 I don't love my mother. But I thought the women in their 70s were like so much better. Now, 1.00

00:27:15.400 women have always been women. Okay. The men have not had as much opportunity. Don't get this idea 0.95

00:27:23.080 that women were different in the past and whenever i make that statement it ignites

00:27:28.200 a ton of people and a ton of judgment she brought you into this world you know i owe her gratitude

00:27:35.240 i owe her love when the fact of the matter is she owed me safety and nurturing and love

00:27:43.640 this little girl the only thing she ever experienced in connection to her mother the

00:27:50.760 the only thing I ever experienced in connection to my mother

00:27:55.560 was anxiety, fear, and absolute terror.

00:28:00.780 And that was the result of the emotional violence,

00:28:05.080 the emotional abuse that she perpetrated against me.

00:28:10.400 So no, I don't love my mother

00:28:14.120 because that's not what she grew between us.

00:28:17.240 And I wish I did, and I wish she had.

00:28:20.760 Parents, not parents, dad's a, you know, if a dad's a F up, right, if he wasn't the best dad,

00:28:27.740 dads will admit it. Do you know what I mean? Like, have you ever talked to kind of a shit father?

00:28:34.480 I have. And they'll say, you know what, I wasn't around much growing up. 1.00

00:28:40.420 They'll admit their faults and just say, well, I put food on the table. I did the best I could.

00:28:45.400 I could have did it better, of course.

00:28:48.240 But mothers, it's like you do one criticism and it's like World War III.

00:28:52.320 It really is.

00:28:53.780 It is truly World War III.

00:28:57.580 Okay, let's see what's next.

00:29:02.520 My mother changed my diaper and therefore I should what?

00:29:06.420 Yeah, the other thing about mothers, men have a child and know that the kid owes them nothing. 0.83

00:29:12.200 that it's your you have zero until 18 and once that kid is 18 that's your responsibility okay 1.00

00:29:19.400 I don't know why mothers they just have a tendency to oh I but I gave birth to you bitch 1.00

00:29:28.940 you chose not to wear a condo nobody made you you chose not to go on birth control nobody made you 0.99

00:29:37.140 do that that was number one number two nobody you could have given a kid up for adoption you

00:29:41.500 didn't have to keep the kid the kid didn't ask to be here so the kid isn't indebted to you because

00:29:47.300 that she raised it and so many times I'll hear these like these moms and they'll just say oh

00:29:52.940 I raised you I changed your diapers and you were like you as an adult made the decision to take on 1.00

00:30:03.440 this responsibility like you know I mean I know a dog isn't the same thing buy dog dial out you

00:30:08.980 know I already have a dog but you know if you buy a pet you're actually you can go to jail for not

00:30:18.280 taking care of the pet right there's no like societal gratitude that you're such a good person

00:30:24.360 because you took on a pet right um but somehow with kids like we we somehow think that they're

00:30:34.720 like that's why I always kind of make fun of these trad women that use their kids for clout 1.00

00:30:39.100 and they post their kids on the internet especially Twitter okay there's some messed up people on

00:30:45.000 Twitter some messed up people that will uh there's pedophiles there's creeps and yet all these trad

00:30:54.640 con influencers they just put their kids face on the internet now look I totally understand that

00:31:02.060 sometimes you make mistakes, right? Like, you know, when I first got on the internet, and I'll

00:31:07.160 even I'll even raise my hand. I did post way too much. You know, there were just times where

00:31:14.780 I would, you know, post me and my family would do content. Granted, everyone was older, right? No

00:31:23.300 one was like a baby. And it did backfire when I got into like controversial stuff. And I kind of

00:31:30.080 regretted putting that stuff online and I stopped you know unless sometimes my sister if she wants

00:31:35.300 to come on but you know she's an adult but I don't know why you would put like a kid right like the 0.99

00:31:43.860 kid and I see I see like wall I see a lot of the daily wire people do this with their families and

00:31:50.840 their spouse a lot of the trad cons it's like nobody at like these people didn't ask to be in

00:31:56.220 this political crazy world you know so by putting them as part of your brand you're kind of like

00:32:03.340 now you're putting the kid up for attack from all these people that hate you right and the moms just 0.98

00:32:10.540 say fuck it let's do it i need these clout points i need the i need this clout like let me i'm gonna 0.98

00:32:17.980 before i go into this i'm gonna show you okay uh put it up for one sec just put the screen off for 0.99

00:32:26.020 one second oh it's off okay okay like I saw this today there's another one okay I'll look in a

00:32:37.360 second I saw this and everyone says I'm bitter right and maybe I don't know I don't think I'm 0.97

00:32:43.680 bitter but I'm a pretty positive person I can't you know I talk a lot of shit on the internet

00:32:49.880 so it's totally fair I think maybe sometimes people don't understand my tone but this is 0.98

00:32:57.640 what I mean when I say a lot of these trad women are kind of frauds because what do you do you 1.00

00:33:03.180 putting this baby's face on the internet already and they all do it all of them here like this is

00:33:09.820 one let me go to Michaela Peterson's page she just did it again too Michaela Peterson 0.99

00:33:16.660 and i just i keep thinking like is this uh here this bitch is thirst trapping with her kid 1.00

00:33:27.400 bro come on you know what this is gonna do to a guy's mind you know how men are bitch 1.00

00:33:35.540 i just 0.98

00:33:38.420 being realistic isn't being bitter right and i thank god oh i thank god my mom didn't have

00:33:48.960 twitter back in the day i thank god because her facebook i'll tell you what her facebook was like

00:33:54.120 crazy oh my god i was all over it oh thank god but it was a private one thank you god 0.53

00:34:01.240 but i just think holy shit if these people have twitter 0.99

00:34:04.720 oh my goodness and they just they don't care they really don't care about their kids they're 0.99

00:34:12.440 just like fuck it let me get this clout um let me go back to this other video i was talking about 0.99

00:34:19.160 with this nice blonde my mother changed my diaper and therefore i should what love her 1.00

00:34:24.360 she kind of didn't I'm sure she must have done it on occasion but just as a

00:34:31.020 little FYI one of the ways that my mother abused me was through neglect 1.00

00:34:37.780 when I was born I had a babysitter who was only 10 years old and her mother

00:34:44.520 would come over with her well take her over because she was only 10 years old 1.00

00:34:48.300 and they would check on me after school every single day this is a story that

00:34:54.340 my babysitter who i still know told me she said we would come and check on you because we knew

00:35:01.300 that your mother was not feeding you or changing you and when they would arrive and i would be in

00:35:07.380 my crib playing i was unchanged unfed not crying already disassociating and self-soothing because

00:35:17.700 of the fact that my mother actually did not change my diapers or feed me for that matter exactly

00:35:29.060 exactly and they're like thank they want i know they want to thanks for not murdering me

00:35:35.380 trigger warning talks of abuse when i was 13 my mom and i think this is what men fear the most 0.93

00:35:41.380 it's not really the money necessarily right you know money's part of it but no guy wants a fucked 0.97

00:35:48.860 up kid right no guy like the guy will like say you know what take the money men can be happy 0.82

00:35:54.920 like with a mattress on the floor of a one-bedroom apartment they're happy they're happy women we're

00:36:00.420 so jealous of men's ability to be content like we'll look at them they'll have a mattress on the 1.00

00:36:05.700 floor. And we'll still sleep. We'll still bang them, right? That doesn't stop us. But you know,

00:36:12.140 we'll look at this and say, how are you happy? But men, they're fine. They're like, take my money,

00:36:17.440 whatever. I don't care. But no guy, like a guy would rather have no kid than a messed up kid.

00:36:28.600 Do you know what I mean? Like, the guy would just rather have no kid at all than a kid that's going

00:36:34.040 to be a terrible representative of him and he can't really stop that I mean he can vet to see

00:36:38.760 if the woman's crazy but he doesn't know until he puts a baby in her women we lose our minds after 1.00

00:36:43.760 we get that baby we're like drunk on power we're like yes yes I can use this kid I can weaponize 0.97

00:36:51.700 this kid for the rest of my life I can and um so it's not necessarily their fault but you know

00:37:03.660 when women get that baby that's when you see your true colors you know mom and dad got in an argument 0.97

00:37:08.420 and they never really argued before so hit that like button guys how the hell we got 500 people

00:37:14.100 watching we need at least 400 likes a like is free please you know please if you want you know

00:37:19.200 if you want i thought it was strange and maybe i just never saw them argue or heard them argue

00:37:24.140 boomers can be very sneaky so i asked my dad i was like are you a mom gonna get a divorce and he was

00:37:30.400 like no so a few days have passed maybe a couple weeks i don't really remember my mom called me up

00:37:36.960 to her room and my brother was there too and that album was playing on the radio her cassettes

00:37:43.580 whatever she said i don't want you guys to worry or anything but me and your dad are getting a

00:37:48.340 divorce she said i still love you everything is going to be fine but i'm going to have you live 0.55

00:37:54.600 with your dad and that is the day my life completely fucking changed i still don't have 0.99

00:38:00.200 all the answers today but apparently my dad found a polaroid of my mom at a rave with some guy her 0.91

00:38:06.620 friends were in the polaroid too so who knows but she ended up going to live with him and i live

00:38:13.320 with my dad and i had a boyfriend at the time and his parents were truck drivers and they were on

00:38:18.480 the road all the time we had a huge house so my dad let my boyfriend live with us this is probably

00:38:24.100 when we were like 15 14 like what the are you thinking my dad was a workaholic and he bought

00:38:31.300 our love for the most part he was very emotionally unavailable this is going to be a long one i

00:38:36.820 apologize there might be multiple parts who knows my dad was like a part owner of budget rent a car

00:38:42.100 sales and he would buy a franchise build it up and sell it and we were rich like my dad would take me

00:38:50.580 Me and my best friend to go get perms, bath and body work, J.Crew, Banana Republic, all 0.97

00:38:58.100 that crap.

00:38:59.100 I would go and visit my dad at work and his work buddies would give me $100 bills just 0.99

00:39:04.940 to impress the boss and me and my best friend would be at the job and we'd be in like the

00:39:09.100 garage with the cars and we'd be getting like high on helium. 1.00

00:39:13.520 I don't know if you can get high on helium, we were playing with the damn shit. 1.00

00:39:17.140 Okay, back to seriousness. 1.00

00:39:19.560 So after a while, my boyfriend started to abuse me.

00:39:22.960 I doubt it.

00:39:23.960 I mean, it would go as far as him hitting me in the halls of...

00:39:28.220 After you screamed in his face and antagonized him and verbally abused him, he probably hit

00:39:33.120 back.

00:39:34.120 It's my guess.

00:39:37.200 It's my guess! 0.98

00:39:39.420 Tell the women trying to ruin my life. 1.00

00:39:41.360 I caught him watching Korn once, and I was like 15.

00:39:44.760 I didn't understand what it was, and it made me really uncomfortable.

00:39:49.320 then later on he cheated on me, got a girl pregnant. We decided to move to Orlando and

00:39:56.120 that was it. I've talked about my mom on here before. If you don't know, she had Crohn's

00:40:01.200 disease. She found out she had Crohn's disease in 1985. I was five. They didn't know what

00:40:08.000 it was at first, so she went into the hospital to have surgery and she woke up with an ostomy

00:40:14.140 bag. If you don't know what an ostomy bag is, it's basically you shit in a bag for the 0.99

00:40:18.360 rest of your life at least for her can you imagine being a young woman go into surgery and wake up 1.00

00:40:24.360 sorry part two what a time all right so a woman's mother um left her dad to go raving woman is for

00:40:35.800 it was the last one woman is forced to go into work instead of be with her son the way that

00:40:40.580 working moms are made to choose between their job and their children you should have married rich 1.00

00:40:45.600 you're probably hot 10 years ago you know i mean she's cute now but like 10 years ago but she was 1.00

00:40:50.880 should have married really freaking infuriates me and let me just set the record straight now

00:40:54.640 i will always always choose my son over my little corporate job but yeah how are you gonna pay to

00:41:00.560 lit how is he gonna eat somehow i was gaslit into having to go into the office today which is not

00:41:06.640 my normal day that i go into the office so i go in today and tomorrow and my son had to miss school

00:41:12.560 today and he will miss it again tomorrow because no one can pick him up from school on top of that

00:41:18.000 i had to cancel two therapy sessions that he had today and every day as part of my job i am reminded

00:41:24.880 that these companies really don't give a damn about you and even when they say that they value

00:41:29.200 diversity and inclusion and they support working moms and blah blah blah blah blah blah blah 0.96

00:41:33.840 we have all learned so far that that is absolute nonsense and garbage and then to make things even 0.90

00:41:39.440 worse, I have to drive an hour and 20 minutes to my office. And it's going to take me over two 0.96

00:41:45.220 hours to get back home, which means I won't see my husband on his birthday until at least 7 730

00:41:52.540 p.m. today. How's your day going? Yeah, like women complain about just doing basic things like 1.00

00:41:58.260 working. Like men, you know, single dads, they just never complain. They just they solve the

00:42:06.160 problem they don't they're not going to complain on the internet they're like they don't they know

00:42:09.860 people don't care nobody cares about your problem nobody does nobody except me because you know I

00:42:15.840 get paid to do this thanks for keeping me employed ladies thank you my kid um but someone on the

00:42:22.440 website said uh wait in college I was arrested for a DUI around mom's weekend cops were cool

00:42:29.500 they were telling me how on mom's weekend they have the most police calls because the moms

00:42:33.740 fight their daughters over men wow that is okay let's see the next one the way that working moms 1.00

00:42:46.120 are i watched that one already all right a kid book tells kids about moms getting drunk and 0.95

00:42:51.760 beating on men and the women laugh about it why mommy hits daddy kids guide to understanding

00:42:57.420 alcoholism why mommy hits daddy kid's guide to understanding alcoholism by brad goss imagine if

00:43:07.980 this was the other way around imagine if there was a book called why daddy hits mommy oh my gosh

00:43:13.920 on comes home she doesn't expect much a clean bathroom and your father's gentle touch even 0.99

00:43:20.680 though your daddy works hard really he's a fucking astronaut she expected him to clean the poops in 0.99

00:43:26.320 the yard mom looks rough and why what is that's called mom overreacting right so this is a way 1.00

00:43:32.860 women control you and i want you guys to understand this women have a standard of clean that they have 0.99

00:43:38.180 for a house house they don't pay for right but or maybe they go half and half but they make their

00:43:44.600 neuroticism everyone else's problem so they get upset if somebody takes an extra egg they get 0.96

00:43:52.980 upset if everything is important now i'm not saying to be a slob right i mean don't be disgusting but 0.52

00:43:57.860 it's it's not that they really care about the house being clean because if they did you could

00:44:04.240 say i'll do this and i'll stop nagging but they'll just find something else to nag about

00:44:07.680 so um that's why you just ignore ignore all the emotions of the poops like what is happening here

00:44:14.820 why is he so sad after mom starts drinking wine with your father she draws the line this poor 1.00

00:44:20.920 guy's never gonna quit smoking with this bitch in a second. Sorry that was funny. Just it's never 1.00

00:44:26.900 gonna happen. Once mom takes a break to pee. God I hate her. Like just her face. Just a very 1.00

00:44:32.020 punchable face. You and your dad had better flee. To the lawyer you must go. What is this pompadour 0.99

00:44:39.540 hair? What is happening? Before mom's anger plateaus. And she beats your daddy with her 1.00

00:44:46.840 Oh my god, where are her pupils?

00:44:50.840 Because she can't control her drunken fits. 1.00

00:44:54.840 Drinking is your mom's issue. 1.00

00:44:58.840 This is a fucked up book. They give this to kids? 1.00

00:45:02.840 Oh my, imagine if they had the opposite. They wouldn't.

00:45:06.840 They wouldn't. Alright.

00:45:10.840 When a mother emasculates the father. 0.72

00:45:14.840 emasculates the father okay when a mother emasculates the father and there's children 0.98

00:45:22.940 in the household and the children observe that and see that that causes so much detriment to the

00:45:29.360 children and i'll tell you why in a family the mother plays the motherly feminine role okay and 0.82

00:45:35.260 then in a family the father plays the fatherly masculine role i'm not saying that every father

00:45:39.540 always shows up as a father or shows up as a masculine role but when a mother intentionally

00:45:46.420 and deliberately emasculates the father the children always grow up to a degree feeling

00:45:52.740 confused about their sexual orientation about their gender role about their place in the world

00:45:59.180 and i'm not talking about mothers that have a strong personality and have to play the father

00:46:04.180 i'm not talking about that i'm talking about mothers that literally deliberately emasculate 1.00

00:46:09.640 the father through you know you know putting them down or you know always trying to wear the pants

00:46:16.240 in the relationship okay when that happens the children always grow up feeling confused about

00:46:21.780 the gender roles within the family dynamic and then it causes them to feel confused about their

00:46:26.640 role in their life especially when it comes to their sexual orientation or their gender so when

00:46:31.440 a mother is emasculating the father and putting him down and wearing the pants and being cruel 0.66

00:46:37.600 and and almost playing this power dynamic it it's so detrimental to the kids it does something so

00:46:45.080 significantly that detrimental to the children and it causes the family system to almost collapse

00:46:51.420 and i say that through my own experience okay every time i've seen a family where the mother

00:46:56.940 was almost playing the masculine energy and the father is playing not the feminine energy but is

00:47:02.660 emasculated doesn't feel like they can speak up doesn't feel like they they they have a role in

00:47:08.100 that dynamic the children always have a degree of confusion as they grow up because the parents are

00:47:13.400 supposed to play these roles they're supposed to play the masculine they're supposed to play the

00:47:17.580 feminine and when that doesn't happen it causes confliction in the child and it causes a 1.00

00:47:23.160 confliction and where the child places themselves in their world yeah that's true okay um a woman 0.91

00:47:30.420 stabs ex-husband and kidnap deputies say this woman showed up at her oh my god you guys think

00:47:39.380 you're hooking up with this spicy latina and you think oh it's going good i got this spicy latina

00:47:46.340 and then yeah you didn't look for the crazy eyes you didn't do it you guys gotta look you gotta 0.98

00:47:52.020 look into the eyes and say is she is she just jealous and spicy or is she batshit crazy and 0.67

00:47:57.780 that's a tough line you guys gotta pick and i think like sometimes girls will do things 0.99

00:48:02.500 for women will do things and guys will look twice and be like is she crazy or is she batshit 1.00

00:48:11.300 ex-husband's apartment and stabbed him she then took off with their daughters and it all went 0.99

00:48:16.660 down sunday night in lake mary on greenstone drive and that initiated an amber alert all three

00:48:22.100 kids were tracked down this morning in orlando fox 35's holly bris careful guys look for the

00:48:27.620 crazy eyes you might lose your life over it we are not playing games so joins us live with the

00:48:33.040 she doesn't look too spicy well like i bet when she met he met her she was like you could tell 0.98

00:48:37.260 she used to be latest holly good evening well investigators tell me that they are still does 0.69

00:48:43.660 She have crazy eyes, one in the chat if she does, two if she doesn't. 1.00

00:48:47.440 You got to judge this one.

00:48:48.480 We're going to listen.

00:48:49.360 Very early on in this investigation, and one thing that they did want to make clear

00:48:54.180 is that the children were not in the apartment when the victim was stabbed.

00:48:59.840 All right, Ms. Kelly, I reviewed your public defender application.

00:49:03.380 At the last Kelly made her first appearance before a judge today, 0.98

00:49:07.120 Kelly is charged with attempted first-degree murder.

00:49:10.440 Investigators say she showed up at her ex-husband's Heathrow.

00:49:13.220 Dang, he died, I didn't realize.

00:49:14.820 ...partment, and stabbed him several times late Sunday afternoon.

00:49:18.640 I do find probable cause to hold you.

00:49:21.340 Neighbors in this quiet complex shocked by the whole ordeal.

00:49:24.940 But he's a nice man, yeah.

00:49:26.520 FDLE put out a missing child alert after the stabbing,

00:49:29.480 saying that Kelly was on the run with her two daughters

00:49:31.920 and was to be considered armed and dangerous. 0.98

00:49:35.060 Hey, I didn't say it was your fault for dating crazy. 0.90

00:49:37.240 You can't always tell.

00:49:39.380 Someone said, oh, but Pearl's blaming. 0.80

00:49:40.860 I'm just saying try to avoid it if you can. 0.99

00:49:44.060 It's like, God damn. 0.99

00:49:45.220 Orlando police saw Del... 0.99

00:49:46.440 Yeah, I'm taking calls in a bit.

00:49:47.820 ...last Kelly on Selena's drive around 120 this morning and arrested her. 1.00

00:49:51.720 Investigators say her girls were with her and were not harmed.

00:49:55.720 Court records show the ex filed for divorce in September 2020.

00:49:59.560 The divorce finalized in December.

00:50:01.380 A neighbor says the ex lived in the complex for about a year

00:50:04.700 and they'd never seen or heard of his ex-wife, Delast Kelly, before.

00:50:09.100 It's a little bit scary.

00:50:10.240 and investigators tell me that the victim is listed in critical condition at the hospital

00:50:18.400 according to the incident report doctors told oh he's oh he's still alive investigators they've

00:50:24.680 already performed one surgery on the victim and they expect him to undergo several more 0.93

00:50:29.680 for now reporting live in holy crap insane okay now we have another woman becoming a single mother 1.00

00:50:37.820 then we're going to take callers if you want to put the link in the chat um you guys can hop on

00:50:44.060 right now today's a hard it's been a hard morning becoming a solo single parent

00:50:54.020 is difficult it's only been two days but it's still been hard i think the thing that makes

00:51:04.720 It's time to beg.

00:51:05.760 Beg for him back.

00:51:06.860 That does work.

00:51:09.520 Just so you guys know, I'm not going to say who.

00:51:12.460 A certain somebody said after watching my show his wife apologized.

00:51:20.980 There's nothing like with me mentioning there's 22-year-olds

00:51:24.540 and he could do better to get your wife on her best behavior.

00:51:28.740 Just show her my clip.

00:51:30.060 Hey, if he got you, if he got you, he can get 10 years hotter than you.

00:51:36.280 If you're a six, right?

00:51:37.600 Or let's say, let's say you're really hot.

00:51:40.180 You're an eight.

00:51:41.260 Well, if he got you, right, that means all the younger eights are going to see that he's

00:51:45.800 with you and the other eights and boom, now he can smash them too.

00:51:54.280 It's like, it's not really fair and you just do worse unless, unless you got some real

00:51:59.700 girl game but let's be honest uh most of us don't uh not much anyways um right no no no not rachel

00:52:09.140 yeah i'll just say that so yeah lady um if i were you i would start begging blowing and cooking or 1.00

00:52:17.180 if you got money for reeds or something you know maybe buy him a present it's time it's time to

00:52:22.780 treat him like a king and put the crazy away the hardest though is the reality like sinking in you

00:52:29.500 know at first like your body is kind of in shock stop crying and start lying say baby

00:52:36.620 you're the best i ever had start gassing up look it yeah there's three things really

00:52:43.980 men lie to us too so before you guys virtue sign please stop virtue signaling to me

00:52:50.920 and saying like men don't want to be lied to to some extent right women like when we say 0.99

00:52:57.960 tell me the truth and you're like I can't tell you the truth you bitch like you know you guys 1.00

00:53:03.900 are like I tried that and you guys are crazy you guys can't handle it well women it's like we can't 1.00

00:53:09.860 so men when they lie to us they say things like I'm not cheating 0.98

00:53:14.120 there's no other women I'll never leave not even if you know um no your friend isn't that hot no 1.00

00:53:24.480 your friend you're not I don't want to smash your friend I don't um they might say um

00:53:30.560 you're the most beautiful woman in the world no I didn't notice you gained weight right um so those 0.99

00:53:39.780 are some lies that men tell us to make us feel better now women you know the lies that women 0.96

00:53:45.720 tell are my body count is two or one or three whatever whatever number she's it's under 10

00:53:52.420 right that that's what women say number one number two what women say is they say like um 0.92

00:53:58.420 you're the best I ever had you're so strong what should we do baby you know so there's ways that

00:54:08.500 women you know manipulate men and men manipulate women so like what I would suggest to her is 1.00

00:54:15.140 whatever you know because men they have a couple things that kind of like men are really proud of

00:54:20.520 right? Like physique, being really intelligent. You know, all men want to feel smart.

00:54:29.660 Being like good dad, you know, there's a lot of things bringing home the money depends on the guy.

00:54:35.240 Every guy's different, right? But I would start begging, you know, I would start begging saying,

00:54:40.260 please, I'll change, you know, men do respond. I mean, because men, here's the thing. Most men, 0.65

00:54:47.080 lies don't work on me well they work on enough men that you know porn stars are getting married 0.94

00:54:53.460 I don't know what to tell you so this lady what I personally would recommend is um yeah tell him 1.00

00:55:00.360 you're gonna change I mean that's obviously a lie um tell start complimenting him based on

00:55:07.200 whatever he's like good at start you know trying to change your behavior really good glut glut I

00:55:13.660 I would I'd start, you know, but, you know, because most men, they've never gotten an apology before.

00:55:17.920 Not really. Not a real one. Not maybe she could try. I'm sorry.

00:55:23.640 Is there anything I could do to make this right? How many times do you think a man's heard that ever, ever?

00:55:30.540 Never. It might happen. Yeah. I would never marry a woman with kids. 1.00

00:55:36.440 She's not getting him back. Men are done with the rubber banding.

00:55:39.060 look, I, I, all I'm saying is it's worth a shot. I'm not saying it's going to work, but Hey, you

00:55:47.780 know, it's, it's worth like, it's worth a good old truck. You know, if you guys ever like fumbled a

00:55:54.520 girl, right. But you kind of send a hail Mary text to just see, you know, you're like, I mean,

00:55:59.840 I think this is over, but Hey, I want, I'm going to try to smack. Let's just, let's just try it.

00:56:04.940 yeah so I think I think um I think you know she should true gluck gluck is important yeah I mean

00:56:17.840 I think she should give it a good old college try I mean what's the worst that can happen 0.99

00:56:24.800 she's already a single mother as the days progress it kind of your body starts to realize that okay

00:56:30.600 this is happening and then your mind starts to react um another hard part of it is the

00:56:38.460 logistics of everything a true apology has three parts i'm sorry it was my fault how can i make

00:56:43.760 things right said no woman ever in all of human history you guys are funny she could try 0.53

00:56:54.400 when you have a baby there's yeah you got to take off the bonnet you know take off the glasses put

00:57:00.240 some makeup on men say they don't like makeup yeah they do they do maybe get a 1.00

00:57:04.680 boob job I mean your tits are probably like to your you know down because you 1.00

00:57:08.800 just had a kid yeah yeah I mean I'm not saying this is moral I'm saying it's 1.00

00:57:13.620 proud I'm trying to be pragmatic here to parents and if both parents are good

00:57:17.880 parents which me and my son's dad we're both good parents you didn't have to

00:57:23.420 figure out a middle ground and then that means that there's gonna be times when

00:57:29.400 your baby is possibly not with you my baby is so young yeah i would i would delete your tiktok 1.00

00:57:35.600 it's probably why you're a single mother he probably dumped you over this so it's it's like

00:57:40.800 hitting me hard i would have never expected or wanted this okay so now we're gonna take callers

00:57:47.560 okay so we have a couple questions and you guys are welcome to answer any of these questions but

00:57:53.360 please we really want to keep it to four minutes or less so I'm not um trying to be rude if I cut

00:57:59.840 you guys off it's just I gotta move on you know I want to take so many callers as I can

00:58:05.120 um the other thing so I want to ask what behaviors did your mother exhibit that were

00:58:12.860 toxic have you ever confronted your mother about any of her behaviors and what is the worst thing 0.74

00:58:19.640 you saw your mother do growing up, either to you or somebody else. I would love to hear your

00:58:25.560 mother's story. So come on, please don't start with a, I love your show. It's really nice. I'm

00:58:32.540 really happy you guys watch. I don't want you to think I'm taking it for granted, but we do this

00:58:38.360 show to get to the stories, right? I love hearing your stories. So please beginning, middle and end

00:58:44.240 and um tell me your story starting with Doug MPA. Hey Pearl how you doing? I'm good how are you?

00:58:53.880 See you guys know my story if you've been listening to pro shows long enough you know

00:58:57.980 my mother was the worst person in my life up until my mid-30s and then my parents got divorced 0.99

00:59:04.120 she started living by herself started going to therapy and she apologized for all the horrible

00:59:09.720 things that she did to to her three kids and she since i was 36 years old she spent um her whole 1.00

00:59:18.180 life after that trying to make up for her being so terrible now what would she do my mom uh i i don't

00:59:26.240 like when women say this but it's the only way that i can describe my mom was just verbally and 0.96

00:59:31.840 emotionally abusive like she would literally say the worst things and just make the house 1.00

00:59:36.200 uncomfortable and then when i was young i mean she she'd whoop my ass and it just it was just 0.97

00:59:42.120 terrible um so i consider myself fortunate that i'm on the other side of that because my mom is 0.95

00:59:48.180 great now but she she had to go to therapy and fix all that stuff and i know a lot of people 0.99

00:59:52.520 who whose mothers will never apologize will never take accountability and make you feel like you're 1.00

00:59:59.720 wrong when they were the scumbags guys too many mothers in america are scumbags 1.00

01:00:04.040 and and i i put this in the audacity chat i said when you think of the term deadbeat 0.99

01:00:11.120 you automatically think of a man like a father uh insufficient father what is the term for that

01:00:19.700 with a mother there isn't there isn't one we don't have one yet it's just what would you come

01:00:24.920 up with what would you say i'll have to think about it and try to come up with it yeah we

01:00:29.500 It's just a shame that we don't have it.

01:00:30.860 Yeah, we could make it.

01:00:33.200 We'll put our heads together and try to figure something out. 0.59

01:00:35.620 It's just like the term loser. 0.95

01:00:38.140 When you think of a loser, you think of a guy eating Cheetos in his mom's 0.97

01:00:41.040 basement playing video games. 0.98

01:00:43.020 What is the equivalent of the word loser for a woman? 1.00

01:00:48.620 We don't have one yet.

01:00:50.700 And that's a problem in society, Pearl.

01:00:53.040 It totally is.

01:00:55.820 Is there anyone on the line?

01:00:59.500 I'm going to let in Leo.

01:01:02.080 Yes, hi.

01:01:03.800 Turn off the YouTube in the background.

01:01:06.120 There you go.

01:01:06.640 Sorry.

01:01:07.080 Hey, Pearl. 0.89

01:01:08.240 Sorry.

01:01:09.540 How's it going?

01:01:10.100 What part of the country are you in?

01:01:12.360 I'm in Jersey.

01:01:13.420 Oh, cool.

01:01:14.180 So what behaviors did your mother exhibit that were toxic? 0.90

01:01:19.560 Well, this was really regarding my ex.

01:01:24.180 Okay, well, today the show is about mothers.

01:01:26.460 Yeah, sorry.

01:01:27.180 You get along with your mom?

01:01:28.400 i do yeah okay okay well call in a different show okay leo okay okay sorry bye

01:01:34.600 all right next we got uh i'll do roland

01:01:40.940 all right roland

01:01:44.860 roland are you there

01:01:49.920 well i don't even think he's there i think he left no it says connecting audio well i see his chair

01:01:58.040 Oh, now he's back. There he is. Roland, how are you? Can you hear me? Hi, Pearl. I do.

01:02:07.340 What part of the country are you in? You look American. I am American. Yeah. Midwest? Oh,

01:02:13.980 okay. Yeah. I was going to guess like Kansas or something. I don't know why.

01:02:19.580 Oh, I look corn fed. I don't know. You kind of look like, I think it's the hat.

01:02:24.920 Yeah.

01:02:25.480 Yeah.

01:02:26.560 I don't want to keep the glare down.

01:02:27.960 I'm follicly challenged.

01:02:29.280 I used to be a redhead like you, though.

01:02:30.960 Oh, nice.

01:02:31.800 But now I have my soul back.

01:02:34.300 Oh, nice.

01:02:34.980 So how is your mother?

01:02:37.620 I kind of have a triple threat.

01:02:39.540 I'm divorced, married to a single mother.

01:02:42.040 And my mom is a real piece of work. 1.00

01:02:45.320 She's about to become a single mom. 1.00

01:02:47.780 My father apparently is passing away.

01:02:50.700 He's got Alzheimer's in his terminal.

01:02:52.940 but um they were like one of the worst things that ever happened to me uh when i was a kid

01:02:58.400 my dad had a temper but my mom would incite him to beat me and my brother um i grew up thinking i

01:03:05.820 was just the worst person ever and my sister thought she was you know the good one uh after 1.00

01:03:14.280 i grew up and went away to college that shifted to my to my brother and one time when i was home

01:03:21.880 on leave, I saw my mom do one of her typical things. She walked in with a report card that 1.00

01:03:26.180 wasn't stellar, but wasn't terrible, handed it to my father and watched him go into the other room

01:03:31.740 and beat my brother. And while I listened to, you know, I mean, if you've ever heard an animal

01:03:38.880 being beaten, you know, that's what it sounded like. And I dealt with the guilt from that for

01:03:44.960 years because I never did anything about it. Later on, you know, those decisions, they affect

01:03:51.140 you you know the they say the sins of the fathers are visited upon the sons and you know it happens

01:03:57.700 uh i married somebody who you know made my life hell for 20 years uh i sacrificed everything to

01:04:05.080 try and make things work she baby trapped me very early on when i was about ready to leave

01:04:09.480 uh i joined the military uh i worked through a bunch of challenges i ended up getting cancer

01:04:15.900 and still, you know, fought through that so that I could, you know, eventually commission into the

01:04:21.940 army. I went to Afghanistan and fought. And the hardest thing for me to see there was little kids

01:04:27.380 who just weren't valued. You know, it was just a different society there. There's things that

01:04:32.880 haunt me to this day. And I don't know which one is worse, my childhood or seeing children get

01:04:39.600 dragged or just happened to be there when when combat would break out and uh i felt used you

01:04:46.520 know i mean we talk about like men being a utility to women that's essentially what it was and about

01:04:51.820 two years ago that marriage ended and you know my my ex-wife's the one that asked for it and said 1.00

01:04:57.620 that um you know like you know i just was this horrible person and since then history's been

01:05:04.340 rewritten. I'm the one that wanted the divorce. Um, and the ironic thing was that, um, my oldest

01:05:11.740 son's now estranged for me, but my two youngest children, I was the most effective I've ever been

01:05:18.460 at being a father. And I got to just truly be with them and love them. And, um, over the course of

01:05:25.440 those two years, I met someone, uh, I moved in with her and I've, you know, got put in a position

01:05:32.200 where with my divorce settlement i made the decision to marry her to avoid conceding some

01:05:36.840 uh some legal custodial authorities that i had and what i've discovered is once i gave that

01:05:44.680 commitment everything shifted um you know i've been told that i'm too focused on my children

01:05:50.600 um she's made it so that like uh you know she punishes me for spending time with them 1.00

01:05:56.600 you know uh i've had long uh you know either hours or days worth of arguing arguments um

01:06:05.400 over things like you know i called my son when he was sick said if he felt better i'd want to play

01:06:10.520 you know a video game with him if he was up to it and that turned into like well you're

01:06:13.880 you're focused on your son when you should be focused on us instead and then on top of that

01:06:20.040 you know this uh my my new wife has a daughter that's the same age as my kids they're all

01:06:26.120 friends they all play together they all get along well but i'm not allowed any authority but i'm

01:06:31.280 supposed to assume total responsibility so you know if i ask the daughter hey do you want to come

01:06:36.980 wash the dishes with me we'll show your mom we appreciate her making a meal you know the daughter 0.97

01:06:42.000 will start to cry and you know she's entirely never has to do anything oh yeah sorry i'm over

01:06:49.280 my four minutes sorry no no i'm gonna ask you a question because when you deal with an environment

01:06:55.480 like the one that you grew up in especially you know if you there's just double it tell me if you

01:07:01.000 agree with me there's just double-edged sword where you you get used to being uncomfortable

01:07:06.840 and you get used to enduring right so absolutely you're able to endure things that a lot of people

01:07:14.120 can't but then that also translates to you enduring stuff from women that you shouldn't

01:07:19.960 have to endure and you kind of feel like it's your duty to endure was that your your uh scenario

01:07:27.880 yeah and it's dead right doug mpa yeah yeah no that's absolutely the case in fact i mean you

01:07:35.000 seek out you seek out situations that are unhealthy because they feel comfortable they feel normal

01:07:41.080 even though they are not and so your family can set you up for a lifetime of suffering because

01:07:47.400 you don't know what normal is and then when you start to actually establish healthy boundaries

01:07:53.560 that's the irony is like when i've tried to make things you know good or peaceful with my ex-wife

01:08:00.680 or with my current wife um it encourages them it's almost emboldening you know it's like yeah

01:08:06.840 you really are a piece of you're verifying that by coming and apologizing but the moment that

01:08:12.040 you've had enough and sorry if i'm using language that is going to get you banned or anything

01:08:18.920 but like but the moment you say you know i've had it i've had enough of this i'm not going

01:08:23.720 to deal with it anymore you know like i got to the point where you know like i had i lost my job in

01:08:30.440 february you know i voted for elon and or excuse me i voted for trump but you know i lost my job i

01:08:36.920 I was doing military contracting, but I had some mental health issues arise from some of that.

01:08:42.400 And I was trying to work through it. And, um, my, my current wife was like, you need to get out of 1.00

01:08:48.580 this house, you know, depressed and you look sad all the time. And, and like, I said, okay, I guess

01:08:54.120 we're getting divorced then. And her response to that was, well, no, you know, you, you just go get

01:08:59.000 all this stuff figured out. I'm like, okay, so I'm supposed to go basically be homeless, live out of

01:09:02.460 my car uh figure out like the solutions to these long-standing issues of trauma um you know going

01:09:09.440 back to childhood and then my reward for that is to come back here to the person who causes me the

01:09:14.660 most anxiety and stress because you're never happy like how is that why would i come back

01:09:21.380 rolling you're an example of a lot of men sleep next to their worst enemy every single night

01:09:27.220 you are not kidding it's quite desperation more trauma with the women in your life than you did

01:09:34.160 in combat in your military career if you do the totality of the stress that the the two women in 0.98

01:09:40.820 your life well actually the three with your mother is probably more stress than all the

01:09:45.140 combat you were in all your military career i i would i felt more comfortable in fact i would trade

01:09:50.700 my situation for most of my life, current with my ex-wife, with my mother, I would trade that for

01:09:57.340 being with 16 of my closest friends, a combat loadout, going through a valley with a bunch

01:10:03.420 of people that want to kill us, because I knew that those people had my back. And if worse came

01:10:08.040 to worse, well, I die. Right now, it's, okay, prolonged suffering, and what do I do to avoid it?

01:10:15.200 like all i want to do is have peace and it just seems to be this elusive thing because i feel like

01:10:21.600 a lot of these women are taught because they have trauma from their mothers it's like well the way

01:10:25.840 to get what you want is to make sure you don't give the man in your life peace and then he will

01:10:30.320 give you what you want yeah 100 true and i i don't sorry sorry i didn't interrupt well what's your

01:10:36.560 plan now are you going to file um i don't know i'm putting my face out there i don't know if anybody

01:10:43.600 who knows her will put this out you know this isn't my real name but but yeah i mean i need to

01:10:48.480 i need to leave and um it's because it's like i i feel like i owe her some counseling i have

01:10:54.560 some good friends and they approach things from a religious perspective i'm more secular now but i i

01:11:00.880 i feel like i need some spirituality in my life i'm trying to figure out what the point of my

01:11:04.640 life is because i've spent my entire life trying to make other people happy because whatever was

01:11:11.440 in me like i thought my parents just didn't teach me or there was something wrong with me and i've

01:11:16.080 noticed with my own children they're born with everything that they need to be happy you just

01:11:22.320 need to get out of the way you need to make sure that you don't put them in a toxic environment

01:11:26.960 and i am trying to repair things that i don't know if it can be done so like i have two kids that i

01:11:35.360 want to see grow up and be happy and be healthy and have a chance to get into some uh good

01:11:42.000 relationships but i i worry about that my oldest son that's estranged he married um a woman from

01:11:48.560 eastern europe a little while ago i barely was notified of it he's gonna learn um but yeah i

01:11:56.160 need to get out of it and then i need to be on my own because i really at this point don't trust

01:12:00.000 myself to make good decisions about who to be with because the thing that will feel good to

01:12:04.800 me a normal is it's harmful it's toxic so yeah don't let them guilt you for filing don't let her

01:12:19.440 real fast i because i've been married and divorced and i told you i i dealt with some

01:12:24.320 stuff from my ex-wife that i i just i never thought that i'd deal with um i know you think

01:12:30.240 that what you're going through right now is the hardest part um i i i i was talking to

01:12:38.400 to pearl about this the other day i always say if you're working in a job and you're miserable

01:12:44.400 or you or you're in a relationship and it's terrible you have to ask yourself this question

01:12:48.880 and you have to answer yes or no the the magical question is is this working yes or no if the

01:12:53.840 answer is no all the rest of it's easy but people refuse to answer that question is this working

01:12:58.320 yes or no if this isn't working for you you have to decide that it's not working and all the rest

01:13:03.360 but you have to and but the worst part about it isn't being in the situation it's like getting

01:13:10.720 out of the situation you will get the quality of life that you want and when you finally get there

01:13:16.800 you're going to look back on all the rest of this time like dang i should have did this earlier that

01:13:21.920 looking back on regret is the hardest part about it so yeah that's going to be the hardest part

01:13:26.960 it's it's easy this time because for 20 years i hung in there you know and pearl you always

01:13:31.520 talk about it it's like it's not about you it's about the kids and i'm like i i owed them and in

01:13:37.120 this case it's like well there's you know i'm like my kids are the ones who are suffering because of

01:13:44.400 this i have 50 custody and i see them five days a month at the most yeah so but you can't so it's

01:13:50.480 an easy situation to be like i need to leave so that i can because i owe them yeah well and you

01:13:56.400 can't help your kids if you don't help yourself first that's true yeah you can't you can't help

01:14:01.200 them if you're not in a good place yeah absolutely um well let us know call in and give us any kind

01:14:08.860 of update because we're really good absolutely your story and stories like yours are are what

01:14:14.560 really show what men are going through out there no i listen to you all the time and i'll call in

01:14:19.140 doug mpa has some mental models on the website that are really helpful so okay if you um go to

01:14:25.340 the audacity network under audacity academy there's one that there's a presentation doug

01:14:30.640 mpa did on mental models and he just has a lot of really good ones so i appreciate that i look

01:14:36.340 more into you doug i appreciate talking to you uh it's nice to be able to talk to somebody and

01:14:41.840 feel like you know they've they've been there and and uh have seen the other side yeah it's just

01:14:47.720 just you you were raised to think that enduring was the best thing that you can do and that's

01:14:53.960 Your military career

01:14:56.160 But then it's also the worst part about you too

01:14:58.140 Alright well we're going to move on

01:14:59.580 Colin can give us an update okay

01:15:01.240 Take care you guys

01:15:04.080 Okay next up we have

01:15:07.980 Andres

01:15:10.240 Andres are you there

01:15:18.120 Hello

01:15:19.920 Yeah I can hear you

01:15:22.460 Hello

01:15:23.820 Okay.

01:15:24.460 Awesome.

01:15:25.060 What part of the country are you in, Andres?

01:15:29.080 Texas.

01:15:30.200 Oh, nice.

01:15:30.740 Okay.

01:15:31.280 So tell me about your mom.

01:15:35.600 Yeah, I'm here.

01:15:37.680 Sorry, I'm a little slow to speak.

01:15:40.480 That's okay.

01:15:41.640 So tell me about your mother.

01:15:45.200 Whoa, wait a second.

01:15:48.780 Are you there?

01:15:50.840 Yeah, I'm here.

01:15:52.300 I'm sorry.

01:15:52.740 i'm getting uh i'm getting the double thing you probably have youtube open on another tab yeah

01:15:59.520 yeah turn off yeah yeah i stopped it all right sorry about that uh so uh my mom i i i do love

01:16:07.100 my mom uh but uh i do have like issues with her and especially in the past uh she separated from 0.99

01:16:16.720 my dad when she caught him cheating and she drugged me into the middle of it uh i think that was

01:16:23.020 probably the worst thing she ever did and uh it messed me up for a long long time how old were

01:16:30.280 you probably about oh i'm i'm uh sorry then i'm just to put into context oh i was i was i was 10

01:16:39.040 like 10 and a half almost 11 and so you only child uh no i had a i had a baby brother okay at that

01:16:48.460 time but but my dad had been cheating on her for a while with a uh a stripper and uh and then i 0.84

01:16:59.060 guess finally she had enough and but you know it's like i wish she would have just like made

01:17:06.320 the decision to leave and not drag me into the middle of it like I saw them fighting and everything

01:17:11.220 and and he hit her and and I'm like you know it was like I I grew up with a

01:17:18.520 a huge resentment uh against my dad because of that you know and and the thing was was that yeah

01:17:29.320 my dad's not like really a good person uh but you know my mom's co-dependent and she made the

01:17:36.200 decision to stay with him for a long time knowing that you know he's uh mentally abusive and all 0.53

01:17:43.640 that right so even eventually they got back together and you know my dad's like a coke addict

01:17:51.000 and he would come home psychotic and stuff and and like attack me and and threaten my life he's 0.76

01:17:57.640 start my life a few times and and you know like she never did anything about that and it's like

01:18:06.360 you know it's like okay well i mean i i get that that uh you know she's probably not equipped to 0.97

01:18:18.040 deal with that stuff you know what i mean but like get help from somebody you know like get

01:18:24.600 help from somebody else it's just like she didn't protect you yeah exactly so you know um i had to

01:18:33.080 carry a lot of resentment and stuff for years that's it you know i'm i've been black in this

01:18:39.560 country for over 40 years right and one thing about the black communities we always talk about

01:18:45.000 the the trauma that black mothers have to go through because of the history of racism and

01:18:49.880 the trauma the trauma and the blah blah blah blah blah first off everyone has their issues

01:18:54.760 second off even if we take that as oh all these women went through all this trauma it's their 1.00

01:19:00.600 responsibility to not take it out on their children there's no reason ever for mothers 1.00

01:19:06.280 or fathers to take their trauma out on their children period i totally agree with you yeah

01:19:12.520 absolutely so anyways yeah that that's my story love i do still love my mom you know um don't

01:19:22.820 yeah i'm i do have a good relationship with her and you know i've forgiven her and everything

01:19:28.760 like that and and it's you know did they eventually did they stay together or did

01:19:33.680 they break up eventually oh yeah oh yeah they're still together but i don't have anything to do

01:19:38.540 with my dad got it yeah i don't yeah no i i keep him out of my life because uh if not then i'll get

01:19:47.700 violent with him yeah that's that's how he's just he's he's uh he's screwed up really bad and i mean

01:19:57.080 he gets thrown out of bars all the time you know like at 70 something he he yells and gets thrown

01:20:02.740 out of bars like yeah it's like where are you still with him yeah well thanks for thanks for

01:20:09.540 anyways that's my story yeah thank you so much for sharing and calling anytime okay all right

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01:20:37.460 rj isaac how you doing buddy hey i'm doing well where are you calling from isaac

01:20:46.340 i'm living in el salvador oh cool wow that's different are you american though right

01:20:52.340 yeah that's correct okay how is that do you like it i love it moved here um three months ago um

01:20:59.460 before that i was living in europe um and yeah the the weather here is fantastic

01:21:06.500 really no complaints cool so tell me about your mom yeah so uh i have a very interesting

01:21:13.940 relationship with my mom i was homeschooled um k through 12 and she was the you know the primary

01:21:22.260 teacher um and i did what's the best way to say this i can't say you know i wasn't

01:21:33.540 later on in life she told me that um she saw a lot of characteristics in me about my dad

01:21:41.940 and she saw that as a very negative thing and she said that because of that she treated me

01:21:47.620 differently than my siblings and so i was um i was i wasn't really given like there's a lot of

01:21:57.680 it was very subtle things like i wasn't given the benefit of the doubt in things and whereas like

01:22:01.760 my sister my older sister um you know she was the golden child that would be getting you know

01:22:08.040 all these things and um all the all the privileges and expectations and a good example of this is

01:22:14.840 when it came down to like the junior year of high school um for my sister my parents were pushing

01:22:21.700 her to go into her colleges and telling her she needs to think about her future and that she should 0.99

01:22:27.760 be you know figuring out what major she wants to go in all that sort of thing and then in my junior 0.98

01:22:33.040 year there was nothing about it like there was no interest there was no talk about it my senior year

01:22:38.640 comes and i'm like hey by the way shouldn't i be like planning for college and like i don't think

01:22:44.080 you're smarter to go to college um and uh did you look like your dad and did your sister look yes

01:22:50.540 okay so you were you the only one that looks like him i was the one i i well i was the one that

01:22:58.160 looked the most like him um i was always told that basically if i wanted to know what i would

01:23:02.500 look like in you know 25 years i just need to look at my dad yeah um and my dad was rather

01:23:09.240 overweight so it's never really uh you know too fond of an idea are they still together or no

01:23:15.180 yes they are okay and so like she just hates your dad even though they're still together

01:23:21.520 yeah so my my family is um very religious my dad and particularly my mom my dad was um a pastor

01:23:31.520 and he and so there was this very strong like oh just you know divorce is never an option

01:23:38.840 um mentality between them and the but finances were always a problem and so it was a case where

01:23:49.240 every single week they'd be you know fighting and shouting at each other about you know usually

01:23:55.160 something related to financing is usually the biggest thing um and so it was you know it was

01:24:03.240 one of these um you know experiences where you know like we're supposed to be the you know the

01:24:09.020 pastoral family and yet you know inside the home it's like there's just shouting going on and all

01:24:13.940 these other problems and again like i also like had undiagnosed dyslexia and adhd and all these

01:24:21.100 other problems that you know i've since now figure out how to to deal with those but you know growing

01:24:26.800 up that just i you know caused a lot of problems where it was really difficult for me to go through

01:24:31.860 school and and you know actually succeed but when i actually did you know push myself into college

01:24:38.660 and like uh again based off state laws and being homeschooled she could basically give me any 0.99

01:24:43.560 grades she wanted um and she just gave me really bad grades um because she's like you know has to 1.00

01:24:49.540 be fair and your own mom no way oh my god oh and you couldn't even get away from her 0.99

01:24:57.000 because you had to do the home school oh did you want to go let me did you want to go to public

01:25:02.060 school um i didn't so my my dad after my dad was a pastor like when i was about 14 he became the a

01:25:11.880 um okay i i did not want to go to public school at the time because i was very much

01:25:19.080 just this was all i knew and and i was told again and again how important it is to you know get this

01:25:25.480 kind of education and how important it is. And I was, I mean, propagandize is probably the best

01:25:31.520 word. And when I actually, after my dad was a pastor, he became a Bible teacher at a private

01:25:38.360 school. And so we could have even gone to this private school for free because we would have

01:25:43.220 gone to free tuition and all my friends were part of the private school. And at that point,

01:25:47.000 I was like, you know what, this might be a better fit for me. I think I'll do better with that kind

01:25:51.020 structure but um saying that was a massive insult to my mom and so i could never actually say that

01:25:58.380 you should ask the question like oh do you want to go to that school like it was this um like a

01:26:03.980 threat that how dare you ever actually suggest you might want to do that um and so i can never admit

01:26:09.820 that and um but when i i actually did manage to get to school to college even though she was saying

01:26:16.300 i would probably fail actually you know fairly well in college but um so i can't say that the

01:26:22.620 academically at least that the homeschooling was bad but i do see that there's a lot of negative

01:26:27.260 aspects that came from that so you thought that you were not that good at school and then you

01:26:31.260 went to school and you did pretty well because your mom was giving you all these bad grades right

01:26:36.060 you probably thought you were like if my mom was giving me bad grades i would think i was dumb

01:26:40.940 right my own mother well and then you got a public part of it yeah i'm just i'm just wondering you

01:26:46.380 could correct me if that's not what happened well part of it is that my i'm i don't know how to say

01:26:53.180 it's except just directly my family is very intelligent like um and so my younger brother

01:26:59.660 he was doing like two grades above me in in math um because he was very good at math and he's making

01:27:06.700 a lot of money now um with that um my younger sister she was also um excelling in academically

01:27:13.420 she actually was able to get a full ride scholarship to get her doctorate at at brown

01:27:18.940 so they were paying her to go to to get her doctorate there um so just a lot of very smart

01:27:24.300 people in with my siblings and for me i was just struggling with math i couldn't read well

01:27:31.580 i couldn't do uh and again it's not that i it came down to dyslexia i just have a hard time

01:27:37.420 reading from physical books and when i actually went to college and started doing math something

01:27:42.940 i thought was i was really bad at i turned out that i was actually above all my peers just because

01:27:47.580 the different perspective and expectations that we had academically okay my i can tell you so um

01:27:55.020 So I transferred off to a university out of state after I went to community college, and I intentionally didn't tell my mother because I knew she was going to tear it down, right?

01:28:06.060 So the day before I left, I told my mom I was leaving, and the last words that she said to me was, I don't know why you're going down there because all you're going to do is fail out and end up on our couch.

01:28:20.320 Then what are you going to do?

01:28:21.840 Those are the last words that she said to me.

01:28:23.740 And then when I started my professional career after grad school, I got a job in a different state because I moved back in with my parents after grad school.

01:28:36.680 And then I had to go because my mom was treating me like she was when I was a kid, just being just horrible to me, right?

01:28:43.420 So I applied for jobs out of state, and I took a job out of state.

01:28:46.400 and my mom told me she summed up my entire childhood when she said i hate you when you're

01:28:55.120 here but i miss you when you're gone she literally said that to me yeah very familiar and and actually

01:29:03.520 what what happened for me so i wanted to go to college to one of the state schools um it was

01:29:08.740 you know a big state school that had a great program like the campus um it was about two

01:29:14.200 hours away from my house. And I was going to just do some business degree. So it wasn't anything

01:29:20.120 special. But my mom said that she would not allow me to do that. I had to go to the closest school

01:29:26.660 that offered the program I was interested in, which happened to be a couple blocks from my

01:29:31.900 house. And it was a private Christian school, which cost more money than, of course, in the

01:29:36.700 state school. And again, it was a tiny college, less than a thousand students. And of course,

01:29:43.780 I also then had to stay at home to save money because why would I go live on campus if it's

01:29:48.260 just a couple blocks away? That makes no sense. And so I, I absolutely hated that because, you

01:29:54.700 know, I'm, you know, want to be able to get away from, from the house and want to be able to get

01:29:58.320 out as quickly as I can. And here I am stuck, still living there. And, and it was, I think

01:30:04.900 what made it more frustrating was my younger brother, again, who is, again, he's a very smart

01:30:10.000 guy. But he was able to go to that school that I wanted to go to. There was no problem with that

01:30:15.740 for him. And on top of it, my older sister, for whatever reason, I ended up transferring colleges

01:30:23.100 twice. My older sister, for whatever reason, she went to every single school and made every single 1.00

01:30:29.000 of the same transfers at the same time I did. So we both started in the same year, even though

01:30:33.700 she's like two years older than me, she both started in the same year. We both transferred

01:30:36.600 after one year to the next goal stayed there two years and then transferred again um and so even

01:30:43.080 though we really had a lot of tension between us like it was it was kind of awkward because then

01:30:47.660 everyone would say oh i know your sister and i'm like i don't know if that's a good thing or not

01:30:51.160 but even when i finally did graduate college and i was the first one of all my siblings to graduate

01:30:56.640 you know i had i didn't have a 4.0 gpa but i had a pretty good gpa um and i remember like you know

01:31:02.120 these get degrees man it's like um you know i finally did it look i should finally you know

01:31:07.840 my mom's gonna be happy i did it i graduated college i proved her wrong and her whole response

01:31:12.140 was like yeah well i mean they just have have lowered the standards so much since i went to

01:31:16.720 school so i mean it doesn't really mean anything and that just all that i can't believe tell you

01:31:22.520 how much it upset me did you ever confront her about it i've tried a couple times and i just

01:31:28.180 it gets shut down she starts crying um about how much she's a failure as a mother and um and it's

01:31:36.260 i'm sorry i'm such a failure that's what they go to right yeah and what's what was even more

01:31:42.820 frustrating like so again i ended up getting married i i have kids you know i moved out of

01:31:47.460 state um and then finally after having two kids we're like you know what we should i want to move

01:31:52.260 back this isn't working out let's move back closer to my uh my parents and they live in a small town

01:31:58.020 a tiny town in south dakota so we moved an hour away to the biggest city in south dakota

01:32:03.140 um because there's more job opportunities there um and i was like great you know finally we're

01:32:08.100 going to be close they're going to have their grandkids nearby it's their only grandkids they

01:32:11.780 can come by and visit all they want and my my wife she was also like this is going to be good too like

01:32:18.660 i can just go and drive out to to you know to their house with the kids and and you know they

01:32:25.220 spend time with their grandkids and yeah they basically had very little interest in spending

01:32:31.540 time with the grandkids and were um uh i mean they even told my wife you know you like just don't

01:32:39.380 come here like if you're gonna come here we gotta make this big plan and have things planned out you

01:32:43.780 can't just you know come over and um with the kids if you need to um and even things like you know

01:32:50.900 trying to say we wanted to say can you come over to our place and watch the kids overnight

01:32:55.940 so my wife and i can go you know get a hotel um that they would never do that um if they if we 1.00

01:33:02.260 wanted to do that i would have to go drive the kids over to our house drop the kid you can see

01:33:06.180 articles about how what's your age range um i'll be 35 next week yeah they have whole articles about

01:33:14.340 how grandparents your age just aren't participating with their grandkids they're just saying f these

01:33:21.780 kids so it's not just you there's a lot yeah there's a lot of uh so i would you have to learn

01:33:29.780 the hard way but having the expectation that grandparents will go along with the grandkids

01:33:34.500 is kind of not realistic these days it sucks well and it goes back to what you're saying like

01:33:39.940 you know they'll like you know again since i moved out of the states you know they um hardly

01:33:45.300 get to see the kids at all um and it's always like oh we miss you so much and we want you to

01:33:50.980 come back and wish you were closer and you know i again being in europe we had a seven hour time

01:33:56.940 difference now it's a either since there's no time savings time it's in el salvador it's either

01:34:02.780 a one hour difference or no time difference and i even got the kit my kids tablets so and set them

01:34:09.400 up with you know messenger kids so my my mom can because she uses facebook messenger so if she wants

01:34:15.620 to call in she can message him and keep in touch with them and be connected and i don't think my

01:34:21.900 you know in the past three months that i got this all set up and we've been on the same time time

01:34:25.800 zone i don't think she's messaged or contacted him once okay i mean it just it's and you know i will

01:34:34.000 add, two of my kids

01:34:35.980 are autistic, so only one of them is actually

01:34:38.000 able to talk, and, you know, I

01:34:39.880 will encourage him to go and send

01:34:41.780 messages and stuff, and she might

01:34:43.940 respond to a message, but she's, there's

01:34:46.000 no initiative on her part to go and actually

01:34:47.960 reach out and do anything. Right.

01:34:51.640 Okay.

01:34:52.440 Well, thanks for calling in and sharing

01:34:53.960 your story. Call in any time, okay?

01:34:56.940 Yeah, of course. Thank you so much.

01:34:58.100 Thank you.

01:34:59.860 You know, Doug and Pierre thought about that

01:35:01.800 for a bit.

01:35:04.000 um you know because i'm not against homeschooling but i've always i thought that it would be

01:35:09.640 torture if you had a crazy mom you know yeah yeah and because you always hear the trads talk

01:35:16.240 about homes and i'm not against it but i'm like god if the mother's doing it i don't know man 0.96

01:35:22.620 yeah you're stuck you saw that one um influencer who who met that psychotherapist

01:35:32.620 and then they were doing she was doing all that stuff to her children oh yeah oh yeah um there's

01:35:39.440 a super chat can't people just let go i don't want to be like any of you so i'll just live my

01:35:43.460 own life okay well then don't watch the show richie it's fine oh but 20 bucks i'll still

01:35:49.640 read it sorry go ahead doug mpa we have one last caller here and then we can wrap it up because i

01:35:55.820 know you your heart out a little bit okay we're gonna let nick in nick has four minutes oh wait

01:36:04.840 no he dropped out um well this is how far it goes the motherhood denial i had a friend

01:36:15.120 and uh she went to catholic school and when she was in fifth and sixth grade like her her teacher

01:36:22.460 you know all the teachers were religious were clergymen this guy was literally you know uh 0.78

01:36:30.460 having sex with the with her and two of her friends in fifth and sixth grade it was terrible 0.93

01:36:35.900 right and so she went to go try to tell her mom but her mom was like a pillar of the religious 0.93

01:36:43.180 community and blah blah blah so she's like how dare you say it about him he's a good man blah

01:36:47.980 blah blah blah blah so she had to spend like all of all of one grade of elementary school like 0.97

01:36:54.200 you know in this guy's class while he was doing it to her and to her friends right so then fast

01:37:01.520 forward when she was in high school it finally got out that this guy was doing that to young

01:37:07.080 girls and he got convicted and no way this woman decided to say i i tried to tell everybody that

01:37:15.540 what was happening and even to her mom and her mom to this day is in complete denial and when

01:37:20.820 she tries to bring up the fact that her mom didn't um keep her safe she starts crying and then shaming 0.81

01:37:27.220 her and so when that happens to men they just say yeah i did i failed do you know what i mean like

01:37:33.540 met like when you tell a man that he was a shitty dad or he did something wrong as a parents they

01:37:38.500 just say yes i did you know but women it's like god they'll gaslight you to the end of the earth 1.00

01:37:46.580 and then make your life hell for noticing that's so messed up that's so messed up go ahead sorry

01:37:52.500 let's let in nick nick is the last caller we could do another mother show though this was

01:37:59.780 how many callers are on the line this is pretty because the last one okay i know i meant were

01:38:04.900 there more or no because this is pretty good for this time a day nick is the last one okay hi nick

01:38:11.620 where are you calling from hello uh midwest oh nice okay so tell me about your mom

01:38:21.860 tell me about how is the mother she's you know i don't know she got right she got remarried i 1.00

01:38:27.780 talked to you about her a little bit before yeah i remember yeah yeah yeah she's good you know

01:38:34.900 normal well the topic is what um behaviors did your mother exhibit that were topic and did you

01:38:42.180 ever confront her that were toxic oh yeah i definitely confronted her i mean just like you

01:38:47.560 know i think the number one thing was just like you know selfishness essentially i don't want to 0.84

01:38:54.340 talk too much shit about her but like you know like just because someone has a kid does not mean 0.57

01:38:59.560 the show is now not hers you know we'd say that again like just because someone has a kid just 0.99

01:39:09.560 because a mom or a woman has a kid does not mean that now like the show is about the kid you know

01:39:14.120 i think that's one of the most common things that happens yeah so this whole myth of the selfless

01:39:20.200 mother who sacrificed you for that's false that is false yeah yeah it's not like oh you know she

01:39:30.140 did so much for all the other people and blah blah blah whatever it's like no no no no you're

01:39:37.080 you kind of you kind of you know and don't get me wrong a lot of them do a lot of stuff but it's

01:39:42.520 still like the her show you know what i mean like it's still it's funny they'll do things for

01:39:48.100 themselves and then convince you that they did it for you oh yeah yeah you're like i didn't ask for

01:39:55.340 that world too and they'll be like oh no but i did so much and you're like

01:39:59.700 what i'm like i didn't want any of that you know what i mean or like it was

01:40:06.180 you kind of had no choice in some situations like oh i worked so hard to keep a roof over

01:40:11.120 heads or whatever and it's like did you not want to have a roof over like 0.99

01:40:13.800 if i wasn't part of this equation were you like fuck dude i want to be homeless so bad 1.00

01:40:25.900 but i have this kid 1.00

01:40:27.400 or my favorite is i gave birth to you i'm like you chose to do that

01:40:35.420 i know the difference like i didn't murder you you should be happy like okay thanks yes i appreciate

01:40:45.640 that like i appreciate you didn't succumb to one of the worst possible human traits

01:40:51.440 i gave up so much i gave up so much for you while they proceed to give up nothing at all

01:40:57.460 did you give up your job no did you give up any would you give up so much pearl she gave up all

01:41:08.880 of it go ahead the hero worship for motherhood is just insane guys women are having less children 1.00

01:41:17.060 they're actually doing less but mothers want all the credit and everything men do and fathers do 0.97

01:41:24.320 it's just it's just expected and automatic yes men create the internet bridges roads air 0.81

01:41:32.860 conditioning buildings and women will say yeah but women give birth and our mothers that's all 0.99

01:41:38.020 they got that's all they have yeah literally she kept the roof over your head buddy all right so 1.00

01:41:43.100 you gotta you gotta respect her and really it's just taking credit because let's be honest the

01:41:48.000 dad's the one fixing everything around the house like if there's a leak in the roof she's not

01:41:54.380 fixing it yeah it is the men make more anyways but you know yeah but it doesn't matter it's weird

01:42:04.920 it's so weird it's it really is like a and one thing i've seen this might sound a little crazy

01:42:09.640 but i think the people who constantly call other people narcissists are always narcissists like

01:42:13.500 100% true.

01:42:14.800 100%.

01:42:15.300 That's one of the reasons why you never hear men calling women that they date

01:42:21.020 or their exes narcissists. 0.70

01:42:22.320 It's only women. 1.00

01:42:23.640 Narcissists is not like something that a lot of guys are like constantly

01:42:27.200 calling other people.

01:42:28.300 You know what I mean?

01:42:29.160 And it's about fathers and you're like, well, they're not focused all on them.

01:42:35.300 I don't know.

01:42:35.760 Whatever.

01:42:37.640 Really quickly, the Andrew Wilson stuff, what happened with that?

01:42:41.380 what do you mean the debate

01:42:43.940 yeah i mean like did he did he have a talk with his wife and then just go full feminist or like 1.00

01:42:51.680 what uh i mean we just have a difference of opinion like he just seemed way different than 0.97

01:42:57.920 normal yeah i mean all right i don't talk shit then yeah he's a he's a good guy we just have a 0.78

01:43:03.540 difference of opinion so yeah i like him yeah no i do too he's a great guy like that just seemed

01:43:11.180 like out of nowhere i don't know no i think it's consistent with his worldview right like save the

01:43:17.060 world i mean it's i would say it's consistent is it yeah and andrew and rachel wilson are good

01:43:23.520 people pearl and andrew and rachel are all friends so it's just you know i just don't think that

01:43:29.200 they're ever going to come to a consensus on on the whole marriage thing but other than that man

01:43:33.860 and rachel are great yeah i normally agree with you i just like i don't know that came out of

01:43:40.140 i feel a little bit no like the conversations i've heard had like i've heard pearl have with

01:43:45.980 andrew are almost always just like them to be in like yeah isn't it crazy yeah what's going on with

01:43:50.940 this yeah i know i mean that's like just the one thing that we disagree on yeah maybe religion i'm

01:43:58.000 not that religious it's i'm a degenerate i get it me too okay well we're gonna move on to the

01:44:06.060 next caller calling anytime yeah calling anytime awesome yeah thanks guys oh yeah um we're gonna

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01:44:58.560 these hoes cheating and lying we have pis coming on teach you how to catch your cheating before 1.00

01:45:04.400 the ring not after but the price it's going to be expensive i've been telling you guys

01:45:08.680 that we're raising the price tomorrow it's the last day so if you want it get it now

01:45:13.020 hi shiv cook cook your mom cooker oh no honestly the the worst thing is is i will say too women 0.99

01:45:22.400 are so bad at picking their son like who their son should marry like like every every time i have

01:45:30.240 a a girl that like i it gets to a point where i tell my mom like when she asks about dating she 1.00

01:45:35.760 always has like so much criticism but it's all like and then she'll like the girls that like 0.97

01:45:40.800 were really toxic she'd be like oh she seems nice what why didn't that like work out so i will say 0.99

01:45:46.800 like never ask your mom like for like never even get relationship advice from from your mom women 0.97

01:45:53.040 just can't give good relationship advice in general oh my gosh every time i've asked my mom

01:45:57.120 who i should date she gives terrible advice too awful but good um yeah so have you did your mom

01:46:06.880 ever do anything toxic and did you ever confront her um are you scared to answer no no no it's not

01:46:14.320 not even that i just got lucky that um i i went to india for high school um i was born and raised

01:46:20.320 here but i moved to india for high school and we just had so much staff and my mom was just

01:46:24.480 a workaholic my mom's like one of those people who's just always at work so i kind of got lucky

01:46:30.000 i never had to deal with her right like i like in the nicest of ways like it's you know you

01:46:35.760 you just come back from work and then go to bed like i had a cook a maid and we had chauffeur

01:46:39.920 drivers in india so it was almost better that way in my opinion because your dad stayed home right

01:46:47.520 yeah my dad's great he's he's very chill i think the hard part is like yeah my mom was very like

01:46:54.720 um she like when it comes to planning stuff out she's really bad i will say that like if

01:47:00.240 like she was just in town she visited me in san francisco and um she was like oh let's i want to

01:47:06.360 these things today and i'm like mom these things are two hours driving apart like we can't do it

01:47:10.840 all today and like why didn't you tell me yesterday when we were in this area so yeah i will say like

01:47:15.960 that's one thing that she's really bad at she just cannot plan things out well and they all think 0.79

01:47:20.920 they're really good at planning is the worst part there have you ever had honestly like i've had

01:47:25.720 girls plan out dates for me like every once in a bloom like i'll do the first 10 dates and then 1.00

01:47:30.520 they'll be like oh like let me pick the next one they always it up like i can't tell you how many

01:47:35.000 girls have like have like forgot to get a reservation like when they've like they're 1.00

01:47:39.480 like oh we'll go to this restaurant we should like the busiest restaurant and then they go

01:47:42.840 oh i just thought we could walk in i'm like what you didn't know like we should get a reservation

01:47:46.920 or like they yeah just or they go like they'll bring their you know it's their friends and their

01:47:52.600 friends are deathly allergic to peanuts and then they'll go and pick a thai restaurant where all

01:47:56.760 the food's peanut based off awful level planning i mean i could talk it's not uh i don't know if

01:48:03.080 we're going off topic but i will say too like i don't think women really appreciate when guys 0.88

01:48:08.520 do stuff that's really special for them like they always like to say that i want a guy who

01:48:12.360 just knows me and like hears me out and like i love a guy who cares about attention to detail

01:48:16.840 and like you already know my story with the girl i'm dating where you know she's a huge fan of of

01:48:22.920 the warriors get warrior tickets and i'm getting ghosted so it's like and then i know these are the

01:48:28.440 same women who are like you know guys aren't attention oriented they don't pay attention to 1.00

01:48:31.800 detail i'm like no i listen to every one of those conversations and that's why i know you're a

01:48:35.560 warriors fan hence why i bought the warrior tickets and it's so much harder for you to

01:48:39.160 listen to we're not interesting so so you guys listening to us is way more like is way harder

01:48:46.280 than us listening to you because you guys are way more interesting than us yeah like and the other

01:48:51.000 thing too is like if i just i would rather go to the warriors game with my boys right because then

01:48:55.000 i if i drink a little too much or whatever it's like none of my my guy friends are going to be

01:49:00.440 like dude what the heck you're slamming a second beer but like i've girls if i take them to the 1.00

01:49:04.680 warriors game they'll be like don't you think you drank too much don't you think this or whatever

01:49:07.960 or like hey can you explain the whole game to me yeah so it's it's i don't think women like 1.00

01:49:12.760 understand that that like i would rather go to this game by with the boys i'm doing i'm doing

01:49:17.960 this for her like i'm not doing this like but you know why one of the reasons why you'd rather go

01:49:24.200 with your guy friends is because you don't have to filter yourself and try to

01:49:28.440 to you don't have to stay present how can i put this here you act yeah yeah you can just be

01:49:36.180 yourself right exactly the worst advice yeah the worst advice is when people are when when this is

01:49:43.000 what girls will say too if you ever ask girls for dating advice they'll say just be yourself 0.81

01:49:46.880 shiv just be confident bro because the worst advice in the history of dating um and so no

01:49:54.020 like i got laid when i was nothing like myself one of the reasons why is here's the thing um

01:50:00.740 women i dated surgeons doctors lawyers that are women and they will not approach a man 1.00

01:50:07.860 they don't know how to do it so why ask a woman who's never gonna do it ever what you should do 1.00

01:50:14.020 don't ever do it guys don't ask a woman how to approach a woman don't ask a woman how to get

01:50:19.060 laid because they're never going to do it ever yeah you you almost you almost can do the exact

01:50:25.220 opposite of what your gut tells you to do and that's closer to the truth

01:50:29.460 whatever we say do the opposite yeah just do literally the opposite you'll you'll

01:50:33.780 i'm not saying you'll you'll end up like a giga chad but you'll end up way better than 0.99

01:50:37.780 your current situation we say give us flowers and you you punch her in the face and she's 1.00

01:50:42.660 i want your opinion on this so so i've been seeing this girl for about seven weeks and you know she 1.00

01:50:53.300 went to india for nine days or whatever so she didn't text me for the nine days like she texted

01:50:58.100 me at the airport and then went to india like and i responded back like in an hour so i knew she

01:51:02.340 could have responded and in india she has why like there's a way she could have responded if she 0.98

01:51:05.780 wanted to she didn't and then she texted me yesterday and then i texted her with hey like

01:51:11.220 I got warrior tickets this Sunday if you want to go.

01:51:13.840 And I still haven't heard back from her.

01:51:15.620 So what I'm thinking of doing is I'm thinking of when she responds back,

01:51:20.040 because she'll probably respond back tomorrow and wait two days. 0.98

01:51:22.720 I think I'm going to respond back with like, hey, I didn't hear from you,

01:51:25.260 so I invited another girl I'm dating to the game.

01:51:28.340 But maybe we can hang out next week.

01:51:30.260 I was literally going to say, if she's doing this,

01:51:33.780 she shouldn't be the only girl that you're talking to.

01:51:36.300 No, correct, which I'm not.

01:51:37.900 But she's the one that up until this point I like the best,

01:51:40.680 but she already has now slid a couple because i can't i can't believe you do something as nice

01:51:44.820 as buy someone warrior tickets who's a diehard warriors fan mind you these tickets aren't easy

01:51:48.780 to get right yes 100 you know but like it's still like and and i'm just so pissed off because

01:51:54.600 nothing is worse than when a guy goes out of his way for a girl he likes and then gets gets uh

01:52:00.660 disrespected or and all they have to do is show up and look pretty because i i've been talking

01:52:06.460 bro about this i tell her my my dating stories here in the big city i live in and one of the

01:52:12.220 biggest things for these women show up late bro they show up late 45 minutes an hour late and 1.00

01:52:18.780 it's just like and a lot of people like whoa oh she she wouldn't show up if she she liked you bro 1.00

01:52:24.380 no women just is it's a they just don't respect men period it doesn't matter who you are it doesn't 0.97

01:52:30.140 matter what you do it doesn't matter the only reason the only way they will respect you is if

01:52:34.860 if you like if i invited her to justin bieber it was just so she could flirt with justin bieber 0.92

01:52:38.780 and find a new guy to monkey branch then she'll show up on time right if there's like oh there's 0.98

01:52:42.940 more rich high level guys i could like to like be conniving with then she'll show up on on the dot 1.00

01:52:48.540 but like honestly the other the other problem too i find like like going back to like why i'd rather

01:52:53.900 go to the game with with the boys is like little things right like if i go with my my guy friends

01:52:59.020 to the warriors game if one of them is going to go get a beer they'll just ask me like hey can i

01:53:02.940 get you a beer a girl will just make you leave the game at your favorite part of the game to 1.00

01:53:07.340 go get her a drink or new food or like she won't know how to direct you to the stadium or how to 0.98

01:53:12.380 get through the vip seating or whatever so like at least the boys like we'll divide and conquer

01:53:16.620 and like try to make this where we can all shut our brains off a little bit but when you're with

01:53:20.220 a chick you have to always be on high alert i mean you're always thinking about oh now i have

01:53:25.420 to like show her there and god forbid if i like get lost in the stadium for six seconds she's 1.00

01:53:29.500 going to think less of me so i better nail where my seats are on the first get-go i mean ladies in 1.00

01:53:34.060 the chat i mean he's got a slot available what is the game sunday this this sunday 7 p.m chase

01:53:41.740 centers anyone in san francisco yeah honestly i'm gonna meet i like size size eight or smaller size

01:53:47.900 eight or smaller dress size otherwise get out of here under 30. yeah it's just you know i it's just

01:53:55.100 about respecting a man's time and effort and women want a man to show effort uh but they don't want

01:54:02.200 to respect that effort because they never have to put that effort out and that's the thing with

01:54:06.240 women getting older women don't have to start putting out effort until they hit they smash 1.00

01:54:11.120 into the wall when they're 35 but then anything that you're good at it takes practice so it's like

01:54:16.900 they have to start putting in effort they don't know how they're not good at it and they've already

01:54:20.920 smashed into the wall so that the only time you're gonna see women respecting your time is usually 1.00

01:54:26.040 when it's too late they usually have had kids already if they're broke and they need help all

01:54:30.580 that stuff yeah 100 and and you know actually doug i have a question for you which is you know for me

01:54:35.260 my my way i kind of handle this with like women who do stuff is i just move on right i just have 1.00

01:54:40.880 this belief like there's no no matter what you say to a woman it's not like they're gonna take 0.99

01:54:44.740 your advice or critique they're just gonna be women right so for me a lot of times in like a

01:54:49.260 situation where she goes to me like i'm just gonna go invite another girl this sunday and just ignore 1.00

01:54:53.220 her and move on with my life but there's a part of that sometimes wants to like there's of course

01:54:57.680 my male brain wants to text her and be like you know why i'm pissed off but no don't do that right

01:55:02.000 i know and like that's the most frustrating part is like women are never going to get the feedback 0.79

01:55:06.460 because we know what's going to happen if we give them the feedback well well no well so here's the

01:55:10.320 thing i'll i'll challenge you on this women have this need and desire for for closure ask any guy 1.00

01:55:18.020 who breaks up with some crazy chick 0.99

01:55:20.120 who wants to come over and have sex 1.00

01:55:22.340 one last time for closure and he gets 0.98

01:55:24.340 her pregnant. A lot of guys end up

01:55:26.200 getting a girl pregnant. I'm going to 1.00

01:55:28.360 come over. I need closure, right?

01:55:30.380 Just stop explaining

01:55:32.180 yourself to women.

01:55:34.380 If you've already

01:55:36.280 moved on,

01:55:37.620 just, if she starts to contact you,

01:55:40.180 just don't pick up and don't answer.

01:55:42.180 And if a couple weeks go by

01:55:44.140 and she's really trying, then maybe

01:55:46.020 it pick up and then if you pick up and just act like nothing happened and just see if she wants

01:55:51.220 to move forward but don't give them closure don't give them an explanation just keep it moving

01:55:56.100 that's like ghosting guys ghost women ghost them agreed all these women explanation you don't owe 1.00

01:56:02.660 them anything women feel and who did we learn all this stuff from guys women when we were younger

01:56:10.100 they don't like it being thrown back at them so move on and just don't give her any kind of

01:56:16.500 explanation don't even pick up now if you have the the bandwidth if it's not above your comfort

01:56:22.020 give you this level and in a week or two or three hit her up and if you do just keep it moving she

01:56:27.460 gonna ask well what happened just be like nothing you want to meet up or not it's so true so true

01:56:36.340 they're just so bad at picking and they they have no idea like i the worst part is i bet you this

01:56:40.920 girl doesn't realize i'm spinning plates like that's the that's the even sillier part like 0.86

01:56:45.300 she probably thinks oh like because i'm i'm like cordial on dates right but yeah the irony is like

01:56:51.340 yeah then they go like i don't get it why did he go cold it's like well dude i get it like these

01:56:57.900 girls get the red carpet treatment and then they still can't walk on the red carpet they have to 1.00

01:57:02.200 go fuck off and like see a little part of the pottery barn or like some little like flower 0.99

01:57:06.680 shop and just go off into the distance think about this for a second she hasn't talked to you since 1.00

01:57:11.300 she left on a trip and then you stop communicating but you have the problem right now now now mind

01:57:20.560 you this she in fact i was mad that i ended up getting the warrior tickets because you know

01:57:25.060 there's the game the season's ending and then like the odds of me being able to go across the street

01:57:29.440 to chase center and go to this game is limited right so i just know like hey there's a chance

01:57:33.940 they're gonna uh play this sunday i have amex points it was like pretty cheap with my thing

01:57:39.920 with amex so i was like i'll get the tickets um and now in hindsight i go so i rewarded bad behavior

01:57:46.300 she didn't text me in nine days and she got warrior tickets out of it so i'll take the simple 0.94

01:57:51.040 word for that my bad lesson learned right but but holy shit like that's i think that right there is 0.98

01:57:56.800 why women act the way they do is because they they never really they never really suffer from 1.00

01:58:02.880 their bad consequences until they hit the wall they only they only get they get all of it uh

01:58:07.400 kind of at 35 or 40 years old in their 20s they just don't get the feedback the cougars treat you

01:58:13.900 real nice huh it's true no it's true it's true and honestly it's the cougars are desperate good

01:58:20.520 it's it's the two extremes right it's either like the 18 19 year old girls or like the cougars 0.98

01:58:25.800 because like 18 19 they're just they're just naive enough um like where they or you they just don't

01:58:33.080 know much of the world if you get one that hasn't experienced too much so there's some fun there um

01:58:38.200 but yeah and then the cougars because the cougars now they know that but then the 18 year olds 19

01:58:43.560 they go to the city and they're like see ya you know no no the 18 year olds you can enjoy one or

01:58:47.880 two months with them you get one or two months tops right yeah but once you take them to nobu

01:58:51.720 wants your it's over because then they go meet the other guy who can take him to nobu but like 0.65

01:58:57.960 the two most powerful things a man has in the current society is one the ability to walk away

01:59:03.960 and two the ability to determine who his girlfriend fiance and wife is don't let any woman anybody

01:59:10.840 ever take those two powers away from you because that's what society is trying to do so um and

01:59:17.400 And walking away means just the worst thing you can do to a woman is go cold, man.

01:59:22.820 Go cold.

01:59:24.540 This woman, let her come back. 1.00

01:59:26.760 Try to reach out and just move on.

01:59:29.040 And I've been telling Pearl about this.

01:59:31.720 You got to set a comfort and convenience level and make sure that you're not going past it.

01:59:36.700 If she's reaching out to you and texting you maybe a week or two from now and you're just bored or maybe you want to see her again, just pick it up.

01:59:45.380 but don't give her any kind of explanation don't do it well why'd you go cold i i texted you when

01:59:50.800 i got back to be like i don't want to talk about you you're going to meet up or not best thing to

01:59:55.760 do no 100 no i think honestly it's just so obvious to me because this girl's 29 it's so obvious like

02:00:04.320 that like she's on thin ice of like ending up 40 with a bunch of cats childless and not married 0.99

02:00:10.360 like a lot of these women it's right at that i'm telling you like i i just noticed like some of 0.95

02:00:15.640 these girls at 28 29 when they have these behaviors are like cooked like they're not 1.00

02:00:20.120 they're not realizing like hey clocks are ticking you know like time like you don't get to play the

02:00:25.400 games like you're 21 anymore and that that blows my mind it blows my mind when girls are 29 and 1.00

02:00:30.840 they still are just as annoying as they were at 21. guys where do you reach your okay go ahead

02:00:38.440 uh shiv i put your your twitter in the in the chat if there's any ladies 0.99

02:00:45.080 and also send your dress size send your weight that's you got to start with weight weight height

02:00:51.480 age go ahead wait till you hit your your mid 30s and 40s and you see all these women that curbed 1.00

02:00:57.800 you in their 20s single mothers fat trauma broke bro it's beautiful man it is oh yeah you know how

02:01:05.960 i know that because like i was looking up like my middle school and high school classmates on

02:01:09.400 facebook and the ones that have the girls have that have deleted their accounts or haven't like

02:01:14.240 posted a new photo in a long time it's because they're fat and like fell off the wagon and

02:01:17.580 they're not married right like it's it's so fascinating to see that like girls will be so 1.00

02:01:22.780 hot on social media and then they hit like 35 and then they realize like they screwed it all up and

02:01:28.220 then magically like their last photo on facebook's from like eight years ago but you know yeah this

02:01:34.280 when you start having all when you hit your mid to late 30s all of your ex-girlfriends will be

02:01:39.180 hitting you up every single ex-girlfriend i've ever had has hit me up on social media about

02:01:44.760 uh for my 20s and my 30s every single one of them oh i i believe it no it's it's crazy too

02:01:51.000 because like you know these are the girls that will look at me or my lifestyle and think i'm 1.00

02:01:55.680 a player and the truth is i would have been exclusive with this chick she's my favorite 1.00

02:01:58.920 in the rotation so and now she she totally fucked that opportunity right but like it's 1.00

02:02:03.140 that's the hilarious part that girls don't realize is like no even guys who like spin plates 0.97

02:02:07.960 like for the if the girl shows enough qualities like eventually we got shit to do right like 0.85

02:02:14.380 exactly we got shit to do i i would rather just work all day and have a consistent girlfriend at 0.88

02:02:19.740 home but but they keep they keep doing these like micro it's it's a death of a thousand cuts with 0.94

02:02:26.120 these with these women right and guys just don't have time for it especially guys who have real

02:02:30.640 careers and real things going on it's like dude i i already have a million problems in my business 1.00

02:02:35.160 you think i need a million more with my girlfriend like fuck no fuck no well we got to close out the 0.99

02:02:41.640 show because i got to go to my sister's graduation but thanks for calling shiv 1.00

02:02:45.820 nice wait it's a college or graduation you can give them my handle too oh never mind

02:02:51.980 if they're 18 18 on their birthday and above

02:02:55.740 all right bye ship all right always good talking to you yeah i know i do i do have three sisters

02:03:04.980 fellas in the chat but stay away yeah we're not anyways um thanks so much for watching i'm doug

02:03:12.940 mp any final thoughts on mothers uh guys once you become an adult and you pay your own bills

02:03:19.900 you don't owe your mother anything man and you are able to set the rules and regulations that 1.00

02:03:25.320 people have to abide by socially to be able to interact with you if your mother's a scumbag 1.00

02:03:29.960 she's a scumbag and you don't have to deal with it this whole oh what about your family and she's 1.00

02:03:35.780 your mother nah man once you're an adult you get to decide so don't let your woman no don't let 1.00

02:03:42.260 your mother treat you like garbage don't do it all right thanks so much for calling in doug mpa 0.98

02:03:48.920 it's a pleasure as always guys please like the video on your way out and subscribe and it's the 0.98

02:03:54.040 last day shiv is going to download all of the active emails to put into the school group so

02:03:59.720 the school group tomorrow um it's the app school and we're going to put in um basically the

02:04:07.520 education part of our platform is going on to there so whoever is on the audacity website as

02:04:15.320 a thank you for supporting me the last year i will put you guys um also into the school group

02:04:21.860 this is going to be a high-end group worth um it's going to cost a couple grand to get in right

02:04:26.440 now you can get it for 100 bucks a year 10 bucks a month on the 15th you're not going to be able to

02:04:30.980 get that and i do mean it this time um also if you want to donate to the documentary feel free

02:04:35.940 and if you are interested in a large donation please email me just pearly things at gmail.com

02:04:40.440 thanks so much for watching and i'll see you guys next time bye

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Pearl - May 14, 2025

Happy Single Mother's Day (Call-in Show) ｜ Pearl Daily

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