Pearl - December 20, 2025


Hey Modern Women： GET BACK TO WORK!


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10 minutes

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10

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2

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In this episode, we re reacting to women going back to their 9-5 jobs. We re talking about the pros and cons of going back after 3 years of being your own boss and why it s time to go back to a 9-to-5.

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00:00:00.000 make part two of what my feelings are before i start this job and oh i'm gonna miss the tick
00:00:07.200 tock of you talking about your feelings oh what up guys welcome to my reaction series today we're
00:00:13.520 reacting to women going back to their nine to five so i actually don't think nine to fives are that
00:00:19.680 bad i think that women grossly over exaggerate how hard it is because especially at white women 1.00
00:00:25.840 that are pretty a lot of times a man's doing the work at work anyways here's why after three years
00:00:31.040 of freelancing and essentially being my own boss i am going back to a nine-to-five job i wanted to
00:00:37.040 share this because a lot of people romanticize being your own boss um but when you're your own
00:00:41.680 boss sometimes you don't get paid um some people have the personality for it some don't it just
00:00:47.200 depends what kind of person you are i feel like it's super relatable especially in a time where
00:00:51.680 everyone wants to be a content creator or influencer they might be thinking of quitting
00:00:57.040 their nine-to-five job or they're about to do exactly what i'm about to do main reason why i
00:01:02.880 am going back to a nine-to-five job after freelancing and being my own boss is to become
00:01:09.520 financially stable again and that holds a lot because a lot of women don't have the skill 1.00
00:01:14.320 um to make money on their own especially to be a youtuber um tick tock is not the money you think
00:01:20.080 it is it maybe is for short periods but i i don't really see that as overly sustainable as a full
00:01:26.960 time thing a lot of embarrassment for me for some reason quick backstory i actually worked a nine
00:01:34.480 to five job for six years and felt like i was in a good place with all of the side gigs that i had
00:01:43.760 going on at the time to quit my nine to five so a lot of people think in the past three years the
00:01:49.360 only thing that i've been doing is maybe photography and some social media like tiktok but i've had so
00:01:55.680 many different jobs in the past three years but freelance i don't really recommend that because
00:02:00.080 i just don't think you can get good at that many things if you're focused on like five things um
00:02:06.080 but hey i mean i'm not saying i have all the answers i'm saying for different non-profits
00:02:11.360 or different companies i was and still i'm doing a ton of photography i'm a certified travel agent
00:02:16.960 i babysit at night and then i was a nanny in new york city feel like everyone thought i was
00:02:21.520 messing around all day frolicking around new york city or traveling the world doing absolutely
00:02:27.040 nothing but i had about six years the more women try to signal that they're not doing something it 1.00
00:02:33.360 just seems like the more likely they are to do it have you noticed that in jobs i was doing all at
00:02:38.000 once some months were so good financially that it honestly was kind of mind-blowing and then there
00:02:43.120 there were months that it was the very opposite someone who grew up playing soccer college soccer
00:02:48.580 I had so much structure that I kind of lost it in the past three years although I'm super on it with
00:02:55.980 my work I get everything back in time to clients I just think I lost my schedule and that part of
00:03:02.220 my life kind of started again this is translation and this is um some people are not built to work
00:03:08.340 for themselves. They can't turn down events and like fun stuff in order to get stuff done.
00:03:15.920 To get a little crazy. So I think having structure again is going to be super helpful for me. I'm not
00:03:21.540 going to be on everyone's beck and call. Like I feel like I have been in the past three years. As
00:03:26.480 someone who is 30 years old, it's kind of crazy to have a nine to five, not have a nine to five,
00:03:33.160 and then go back to a nine to five more people do this more frequently than i thought or i think
00:03:39.560 and it has been a roller coaster of emotions in the past two weeks to make part two of what my
00:03:45.640 feelings are before i start this job and ah i'm gonna miss the tick tock of you talking about
00:03:53.800 your feelings ah no no i'm devastated i failed at quitting my nine to five and pursuing my dream
00:04:05.880 and my dream did not come true here's the pros and cons of working a six-figure tech job versus
00:04:12.440 quitting everything quitting your job moving abroad to chase after your dream start your own business
00:04:18.760 I don't know if moving abroad, unless you have something lined up there, it's like a reason for your industry, it just seems like it would be expensive.
00:04:28.300 A lot of women get really good paying jobs out of college because they're young and hot and they don't realize that those jobs aren't going to come forever. 1.00
00:04:35.880 And then they leave them and then they don't get them again.
00:04:39.740 Ground zero.
00:04:41.080 I can now say I've done both and I have failed at both.
00:04:46.060 and maybe in some people's eyes succeeded a little bit at both too so that's my credibility
00:04:52.680 i have about nine years of experience in corporate tech and then i also have and tech is kind of like
00:04:59.040 women doing nothing i don't know i i have friends that are male that work in tech and i've just
00:05:07.160 heard that the women are like grossly overpaid and the men do a lot more work i guess i don't 0.98
00:05:12.360 know from experience but I have seen women go into tech and get insanely paid jobs that were like 1.00
00:05:19.700 really good about three three and a half almost four years of being an entrepreneur in like a
00:05:26.280 small business type of deal but not not like tech related or anything hobby becoming a business that
00:05:33.720 didn't really go anywhere I'm rambling sorry let me get to the point but I really was serious at it
00:05:38.760 and went full time with it I quit my career quit everything didn't pursue trying to find a new job
00:05:44.940 or anything for about a year and a half and here are my thoughts yes corporate or the nine to five
00:05:52.220 grind is a rat race yeah you do the same things you barely make enough where you make enough
00:05:59.720 where it gives you a sense of stability but like is it ever going to scale the challenge is I don't
00:06:06.060 think it's making enough. It's the lifestyle that comes with corporate America is very expensive
00:06:14.560 and women don't say no to drinks after work. Women don't say no to going out to eat. Women don't say 1.00
00:06:23.680 no to a Pilates class. The lifestyle in a lot of these cities is expensive and women just keep 1.00
00:06:30.380 signing up for expensive things in my experience in the same sense as like a business owner like
00:06:36.800 would you have the potential to become like financial free yes if you're very smart and
00:06:42.480 careful no not on the scale if you build a successful business and that business kind of
00:06:49.460 you know explode but a corporate job does give you the stability that everyone talks about 0.97
00:06:54.720 gives you health care benefits depending on where you are it might be shit might be not might be 0.98
00:06:59.520 great but like it just gives you something because like without it you're on your own you have nothing
00:07:04.400 gives you 401k match social security and let's not get into whether or not that's good or not
00:07:11.440 like it's an option okay we can get into the nitty-gritty at some point but it's an option
00:07:17.160 and you have a schedule you have somewhat a sense of community if you are in a healthy working
00:07:25.140 culture you can make friends with your co-workers you can relate to a lot of your friends and a lot
00:07:31.060 of women kind of marry their work and that's kind of the new uh series it's like we have all these 0.99
00:07:36.340 jobs that are essentially babysitting for women um and they make friends at work they go out after
00:07:42.260 work then they backstab each other and find a new job repeat family and other people i would say
00:07:48.180 those are some like the obvious perks with building a small business i got to pursue my dream
00:07:56.180 my hobby as a full-time gig but then like you're free with your time yeah you can dictate how much
00:08:04.580 you work how little you work but you're trying to build something and if you're not doing it
00:08:12.180 nobody else is sorry about the background noise i live on top of a mechanic shop
00:08:16.420 so you end up really just working full time like not the nine to five more like a lot of i would
00:08:22.740 say you work more hours um but you do have flexibility like if you do if you want to do
00:08:31.940 like growing up my parents owned a business and they we they would take vacations like with the
00:08:36.580 whole family but it's not like they weren't working on these vacations like they my dad still had to
00:08:43.140 to take calls they still had to do stuff but like other jobs they couldn't take like three weeks off
00:08:49.040 and just hang out the kids the minute you wake up to the minute you sleep don't have a routine
00:08:54.260 you could set a routine but it's not the same as like knowing you have to go to work you know
00:08:59.080 money is always coming and going you don't know when the next paycheck is you don't know if you're
00:09:05.180 going to make it i this is where i failed i did not make enough i not making enough for it to
00:09:13.260 become something that can sustain my life like i it doesn't pay all my bills like doesn't pay to
00:09:19.560 you know stay alive i'm not giving up but it's hard i've been at it since 2021 i've learned a lot
00:09:27.280 for sure i'm not a business oriented person i'm really just an artist and i wish i could just make
00:09:33.660 art for the rest of my life and not worry about money i don't even care to have a lot of money
00:09:37.980 really i just want to make enough where i can't be alive and do what i love to do and so homegirl
00:09:44.860 cannot just live on her savings forever and make jewelry and try to make this business work because 0.99
00:09:51.500 set savings does run out and i don't have a very supportive family so i can't just move home to
00:09:57.980 pursue my dreams so the reality is i have to go back to corporate and here we are we're back
00:10:06.460 it feels good but yeah a lot of women we just think that running a like again we want to be 1.00
00:10:11.660 men to look cool but we don't want to do the responsibility that comes with being a man
00:10:17.900 and living in a man's world so anyways guys let me know what you think in the comments um
00:10:22.380 have you ever had your own business or gone in corporate america what was the difference what
00:10:26.220 what did you prefer? Like the video and I'll see you next time.