Pearl - December 04, 2024


How FEMINISTS Change Consent To R＊pe, And You'll Never Know ｜ Pearl Daily


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15 minutes

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2,584

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157

Misogynist Sentences

19

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In this episode, I discuss rape, consent, and sexual assault. Sexual assault is a term that has been around for a long time, but it s been misused and misused in a way that many people don t even realize. In this episode I discuss the difference between rape, sexual assault, and forced sexual penetration.

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00:00:00.000 So it turns out that 61% of all grape accusations are reported false,
00:00:05.700 according to Sheriff Roland Birmingham County, Idaho Police Department.
00:00:10.420 56% of false rape allegations are used as an alibi to cover up consensual sex.
00:00:17.120 A married 30-year-old female reported that she had been graped in her apartment complex.
00:00:22.480 During a polygraph, she reported that she had been graped because her partner
00:00:26.040 did not stop ejaculation as he agreed, and she was afraid she was pregnant and her husband was overseas.
00:00:33.180 So essentially, she reported this, they put her under a polygraph, and she cracked.
00:00:37.480 Now, we can agree that the ejaculation situation, that's not great, right?
00:00:43.720 But that is not the same thing as being pulled off of the side of the road,
00:00:48.320 held at knife point, and being overtaken.
00:00:52.180 And you think, how did we get here?
00:00:53.960 And what you'll notice is when feminists get into the legal system,
00:00:57.980 what they have a tendency to do is change the definition of everything to be more broad.
00:01:05.120 Because the broader you make it, the more men can be thrown in prison, fired, etc., etc.
00:01:11.960 Because oftentimes, these cases, it's up to the discretion of a judge.
00:01:16.920 So the old definition of great was the carnal knowledge of a female forcibly and against her will.
00:01:23.960 So essentially, forced sex.
00:01:26.860 And the new definition is penetration, no matter how slight, of the vagina or anus within,
00:01:33.680 with any body part of object or oral penetration by a sex organ of another person without the consent of a victim.
00:01:42.380 Now, what is the key word in there?
00:01:44.460 And I want you guys to be able to hear this because when you hear people telling stories,
00:01:49.240 there's certain key words that you have to be able to pick up to understand what they're really saying.
00:01:55.120 So the key word is consent.
00:01:57.300 What is consent?
00:01:59.300 And this is where things get a little bit gray.
00:02:01.440 Now, oftentimes what you hear is, I said no, or no means no.
00:02:07.240 But when you get the experience of men or men telling you stories or situations they've been in,
00:02:13.240 oftentimes women will say that and then change their mind.
00:02:16.820 So what happens if they initially said no and then changed their mind later?
00:02:21.560 They can still say that they said no.
00:02:24.860 Okay.
00:02:25.040 The other thing is they add in new words to include more behavior that they just don't like.
00:02:31.000 Now, again, I'm not saying that these behaviors are moral or immoral,
00:02:34.920 but let's not pretend it's the same thing as being held at knife point,
00:02:40.560 pulled off the side of the road and having onto the side of the road
00:02:44.160 and being forced to have sex against your...
00:02:46.740 We can agree those are completely different things, right?
00:02:49.300 Coercion is defined as the use or threatened use of lawful force upon any person
00:02:55.540 which induces him or her to do an act against his or her will.
00:03:00.340 So the key word in this is threatened use.
00:03:04.220 The use or threatened use of lawful force upon any person
00:03:08.460 which induces him to do an act against his or her will.
00:03:11.840 Now, when I hear this, I think, you know, knife point, gun point,
00:03:16.480 or I'm going to go get a gun.
00:03:17.960 I'm going to shoot your...
00:03:19.480 That's what I think of.
00:03:21.180 But when I hear it in practice, they're able to put in,
00:03:25.380 oh, I thought he might get a gun, or I thought he...
00:03:28.560 I felt like he was going to hurt me.
00:03:30.680 I don't think that's the same thing.
00:03:33.020 Sexual assault is sexual contact or behavior that occurs without explicit,
00:03:37.900 again, that word again, consent from the victim.
00:03:40.700 Sexual battery forced or attempted oral, anal, vaginal penetration
00:03:44.900 by using a sexual organ or object simulating a sexual organ
00:03:49.500 or the anal or vaginal penetration of another body part or foreign object.
00:03:54.980 Both males and females can be victims of sexual battery.
00:03:58.960 Then you get abuse.
00:04:00.300 Now, abuse used to be physical abuse.
00:04:04.120 He hit me.
00:04:04.940 I didn't hit back.
00:04:06.360 He hit me for no reason.
00:04:07.940 Then they broadened the definition.
00:04:10.340 So they included things like spiritual abuse.
00:04:13.060 So if you force your woman...
00:04:14.660 You know, the trads will always say, pray every day.
00:04:16.940 Then she won't leave you.
00:04:17.900 If you force her to pray, that could be spiritual abuse.
00:04:20.880 And it holds up in court.
00:04:22.120 Family court, anyways.
00:04:23.420 On top of that, they have emotional abuse.
00:04:25.680 So the shift from defining domestic abuse solely as physical violence
00:04:30.200 to include emotional, psychological, and economic abuse
00:04:33.820 began in the 1990s,
00:04:35.780 particularly with the passage of the Violence Against Women Act in 1994.
00:04:40.340 While the Violence Against Women Act initially focused on physical violence,
00:04:44.360 subsequent reauthorizations and interpretations broadened its scope.
00:04:48.600 So remember, they changed the definition and they broaden it.
00:04:51.360 That's how they do it.
00:04:52.460 The term domestic violence was officially expanded in federal and policy contexts
00:04:57.420 during the early 2000s when legal and advocacy efforts
00:05:00.780 started incorporating non-physical forms of abuse.
00:05:03.940 For instance, the 2000 reauthorization of the Violence Against Women Act,
00:05:09.160 this included funding and legal recognition for programs addressing emotional abuse
00:05:14.480 and broader dynamics of power control within abusive relationships.
00:05:19.880 So who defines what emotional abuse is?
00:05:22.520 Who defines it?
00:05:23.340 Do the men get to define it?
00:05:25.980 Or do the women get to define it?
00:05:28.160 By the early 2010s,
00:05:30.000 agencies like the Office on the Violence Against Women and state laws
00:05:33.960 began formally recognizing emotional, psychological, and financial abuse
00:05:39.000 as key components of domestic violence.
00:05:41.380 Broad public recognition, legal, and cultural definitions
00:05:44.320 were increasingly informed by frameworks like the Duluth model,
00:05:48.480 which emphasized patterns of coercion and control.
00:05:51.220 So this is what they do.
00:05:52.120 They first change the definition of the words.
00:05:54.420 Then they add in more words to criminalize behaviors they don't like.
00:05:59.220 So if a guy talks to you in the wrong way, that's emotional abuse.
00:06:02.600 If he makes you go to church, that's spiritual abuse.
00:06:04.820 If he says, no, don't spend $10,000 on the credit card this month,
00:06:09.080 that's financial abuse, especially if she's a stay-at-home wife.
00:06:12.500 And they essentially, any behavior they don't like, they just criminalize.
00:06:16.480 Now, I am not saying that some of this behavior that we're talking about isn't immoral,
00:06:21.620 but I don't think every immoral situation needs to be criminalized, you know, like cheating.
00:06:30.280 You know, if somebody cheats, it's wrong, but do they need to go to jail?
00:06:34.480 I don't think so.
00:06:36.040 Now, the emotional abuse definition is the intentional infliction of distress,
00:06:41.860 anguish, or intimidation through non-physical acts.
00:06:45.380 So if I'm distressed, okay, you know, let's say the guy cheats on me, and I'm distressed.
00:06:52.440 Is that emotional abuse?
00:06:54.060 You could say it's wrong, or maybe he yelled at me in a way I don't like,
00:06:57.800 and I'm very, very distressed.
00:06:59.660 Is that emotional abuse?
00:07:01.360 And that's why you see the conservative commentators, you saw Candace Owens,
00:07:05.260 accuse Stephen Crowder of emotional abuse.
00:07:07.900 That's why I say that when push comes to shove,
00:07:11.400 they will act just as feminist as the liberals,
00:07:13.840 because you have Candace Owens, a conservative commentator,
00:07:17.040 accusing Stephen Crowder of emotional abuse
00:07:19.520 because he spoke to his wife in his house in a tone that she deemed as wrong.
00:07:24.660 Never apologize.
00:07:25.900 And Lauren Southern, same thing.
00:07:28.520 You know, her reputation was at a wall
00:07:30.680 because she was a conservative commentator and divorced.
00:07:33.440 Then what does she do?
00:07:34.420 She releases a long video accusing everyone of essay and abuse.
00:07:38.380 Like that, that's the tactic they go to.
00:07:40.700 And really, feminists, they openly admit to this.
00:07:44.660 Catherine McKinnon, a feminist, says,
00:07:47.280 I call it rape whenever a woman has sex and feels violated.
00:07:51.540 Now, again, it goes back to, it goes based on the woman's feelings.
00:07:54.760 So if she feels like she was spiritually abused,
00:07:56.940 she feels like she was emotionally abused.
00:07:58.900 And you see the same thing in cases like Zach Bryan and Brianna Chicken Fry.
00:08:02.980 After the relationship, she felt like she was emotionally abused.
00:08:06.060 So clearly she was, right?
00:08:07.920 She also said,
00:08:09.340 All heterosexual intercourse is rape
00:08:11.360 because women as a group are not strong enough to give meaningful consent.
00:08:15.400 Another male feminist says,
00:08:17.380 As men, we have no right to tell women what rape is.
00:08:20.760 We have no right to weigh in on the logistics of what constitutes rape.
00:08:24.640 Our role is to shut up and stop graping people.
00:08:27.480 I mean, this is insane.
00:08:29.100 And I want to show you how feminists either convince other women
00:08:34.680 that they were assaulted and raped when they weren't,
00:08:38.560 or they, I don't know if the other women are convinced
00:08:42.100 or they're doing it maliciously.
00:08:44.140 Let's say for the sake of this argument, they're convinced, right?
00:08:47.840 I'm going to show you what goes on during this.
00:08:50.520 Hey, everybody.
00:08:51.160 A little while ago, I got a letter from one of you wonderful viewers whom I cherish.
00:08:56.900 I wasn't able to stop thinking about it.
00:08:59.840 That, to me, says, well, let's talk about it.
00:09:03.220 In a nutshell, what happened to this person,
00:09:05.420 and I have a feeling has happened to a lot of other persons,
00:09:08.620 was a situation involving someone this person knew
00:09:12.320 mixed in alcohol and drugs,
00:09:15.220 sex consensual, up until a point to which it is not anymore.
00:09:18.680 And this person put up resistance not in the form of directly saying no,
00:09:23.340 but trying to communicate in other kinds of body language.
00:09:27.120 And it continued.
00:09:29.040 The next morning, this person woke up.
00:09:30.820 So she's saying that the person did not say no,
00:09:33.980 but tried to communicate with other types of body language.
00:09:38.700 Now, again, is this the same thing as being taken by knife point?
00:09:43.120 A very awkward encounter.
00:09:44.340 With a hazy idea of what had happened,
00:09:47.440 but a very clear feeling and gut instinct that something had gone wrong,
00:09:53.900 that something had been violated.
00:09:56.540 This person has carried this around for years.
00:09:59.840 A lot of times, I think there is this question going on and on and on
00:10:03.180 in the brain of, well, was it really rape?
00:10:06.300 Can I call it sexual assault?
00:10:07.940 Does that make my friend a rapist?
00:10:10.560 We compartmentalize it as small as we can and we put it away.
00:10:14.440 Not only because of the implications of what that means for us,
00:10:18.480 but also the implications of what that means for the other person.
00:10:22.260 When it comes to that question of was it rape,
00:10:25.660 I can tell you what the legal definitions of rape and sexual assault are.
00:10:30.740 I can also tell you that those legal definitions will change in the United States
00:10:35.540 depending on what state you're in.
00:10:37.040 But to hopefully add a little more nuance to those definitions and stats and facts,
00:10:42.140 I do want to offer things that don't disqualify, double negative alert,
00:10:47.400 people or situations from being rape or sexual assault.
00:10:51.760 When it comes to the question of was it rape,
00:10:54.820 the answer may be yes, even if you know the person.
00:10:59.300 Even if you were both drunk and or otherwise intoxicated.
00:11:03.840 Okay, so she's saying you might not be able to legally consent due to alcohol and drugs.
00:11:09.940 So you're both drunk.
00:11:12.060 One of them, one gender can call rape.
00:11:15.040 The other can't.
00:11:16.100 You're both drunk and or otherwise intoxicated.
00:11:19.480 Even if you never said no.
00:11:22.220 Even if it started off.
00:11:23.620 Okay, so now, even if you never said no,
00:11:27.400 they can still, that still doesn't take it off the table.
00:11:31.180 Sensual.
00:11:32.100 Even if you felt personally guilty afterwards.
00:11:35.260 Even if you never contacted the police.
00:11:37.700 Even if you've never been able to bring yourself to call it rape or sexual assault
00:11:42.140 because it just feels too ugly or too traumatic or too hurtful.
00:11:46.560 Even if something happened and you aren't entirely sure what it was,
00:11:51.000 but you have that gut feeling that it was not right,
00:11:54.140 that a violation occurred,
00:11:56.100 trust that instinct.
00:11:58.980 It doesn't matter if it happened 20 minutes ago or 20 years ago.
00:12:01.840 Okay, so if you have this feeling, if you feel like it happened, it's real.
00:12:07.840 If you feel like you were graped, you totally were.
00:12:11.900 And so what happens is these type of videos are pushed out at institutions, at work,
00:12:19.240 even sometimes at police departments, they've brought in the definition.
00:12:24.440 It's tougher in criminal court, but they push these videos.
00:12:28.720 And oftentimes the judge, trial and jury is in their special court.
00:12:35.500 So what happens is there's family court.
00:12:38.000 There is courts that are just at school.
00:12:41.980 I believe there's military courts.
00:12:43.780 And those don't have the preponderance of evidence that they have in criminal court.
00:12:50.120 So criminal court, it needs to be above 90%.
00:12:52.740 Balance of probabilities is above 50%.
00:12:55.520 So it needs to be 51% likely that it happened instead of it didn't happen.
00:12:59.460 And then what you can do is they can revoke the opportunity from the men.
00:13:03.700 They can kick them out of their job, put them on militarily, like whatever it is.
00:13:08.740 It depends on the court, right?
00:13:10.620 But that's how they do it, is they brought in the definition.
00:13:14.680 And now she's including more things.
00:13:16.960 She's saying, well, even if you didn't say no, it could still be great.
00:13:20.760 When 20 years ago, that word was simply forced sex.
00:13:25.460 Now it's sex without consent, that if you drank too much, now you didn't give consent.
00:13:30.900 If you, you might've even said no and then changed your mind or said yes and then changed
00:13:35.300 your mind.
00:13:36.240 You didn't even have to say no.
00:13:37.880 Maybe if you, if you feel violated after, it was great.
00:13:42.780 Is no statute of limitations for personal healing that can take place by first reaching
00:13:49.380 out to those resources available, whether it's someone with your school's counseling center
00:13:54.820 or reaching out to a local rape crisis center or calling a rape crisis hotline, having someone
00:14:00.780 you can talk to, to finally answer that question that goes on and on and on and on in your brain
00:14:06.600 of, was it rape?
00:14:07.500 Was it rape?
00:14:08.140 Am I just making all of this up?
00:14:10.620 From there, speaking of legalities, who can help you decide if and whether that is a path
00:14:16.360 that you want to pursue?
00:14:17.880 And that, my friends, in terms of reporting things to the police and pursuing that, that
00:14:24.240 is up to you.
00:14:25.240 I simply want to encourage you to take advantage of the resources that are available and the
00:14:30.840 time that you need to do it.
00:14:33.440 What I'm most concerned about right now, where I'm sitting, is you and the people that I
00:14:40.400 hear from who carry these questions around in their brain for years and even carrying it
00:14:46.960 around an hour or a day is too long.
00:14:49.940 If the main thing that's holding you back is fear that someone won't believe you, here's
00:14:55.440 one person.
00:14:56.180 I believe you.
00:14:57.020 I also want to know, so she knows no facts, no facts, any story.
00:15:03.660 This is ridiculous.
00:15:04.960 But the reason I brought this up was I wanted to show you guys the types of videos that they
00:15:11.540 push at a lot of these institutions in order to basically maybe convince women that they
00:15:19.520 were raped or encourage more women to report sexual misconduct under the guise of these new
00:15:26.580 definitions.
00:15:27.320 You guys are amazing.
00:15:28.800 Seriously, I don't know what I would do without you guys.
00:15:31.640 Thank you.
00:15:32.180 Like the video on your way out.
00:15:33.440 Subscribe to the channel and I will talk to you guys tomorrow.
00:15:35.800 See ya.