Pearl - How Men Escape the Incel Mindset @Mr.DatingCoach

00:00:00.000 So when it comes to, like, the guys that are, like, want to go from incel to, like, in a relationship, what's that process usually like?

00:00:09.580 Incel to a relationship.

00:00:10.740 To, like, get married with kids or whatever.

00:00:12.540 Yeah, so this is what happens, right?

00:00:14.180 Because, I mean, how does a guy get turned into an incel, right?

00:00:18.080 It's overworking, right?

00:00:19.380 Yeah.

00:00:19.820 So, again, like, on a bell curve, right?

00:00:22.980 The average guy, if he doesn't seek help, he's either going to blame the world and himself and his flaws for not getting into it.

00:00:30.000 getting any girls like oh that guy is super tall that guy's super chatty and

00:00:33.480 I'm super short or the world hates me and you know you just pity right victim

00:00:37.880 mentality or he goes the other way and he blames all women he's like all women 0.82

00:00:42.960 are horse hypergamous and you know what I mean the whatever he turns into an

00:00:46.680 incel or whatever yeah but so they either end up in those buckets that they

00:00:50.340 don't fix themselves right so it's really hard to get him out of that the

00:00:54.800 way you get him out of that's first by getting rid of those beliefs saying okay

00:00:58.440 well you're wrong right make him realize that and then you count his small wins he has to get out

00:01:03.240 there when they turn into answers it's usually like a coping mechanism for them as they say oh

00:01:08.200 well women are you know whatever horse and then you're like well are they go approach that one 1.00

00:01:12.600 you don't know oh i don't want to and then it's just a coping mechanism for them to avoid failure

00:01:17.640 so that's what happens you have to make them realize that and we do that through a phase right

00:01:21.720 where we take them out and we make sure that we desensitize them to those approaches making sure

00:01:26.600 they realize oh women are actually cool you know because you guys are right it's god's greatest 0.99

00:01:31.800 invention so it's like um they have to realize that before they even think about uh hooking up

00:01:38.120 up with a girl or dating one.

Pearl - June 09, 2025