Pearl - October 11, 2025


How Social Media Turned Every Modern Woman Into an Attention-Seeking Performer


Episode Stats

Length

12 minutes

Words per Minute

182.14664

Word Count

2,235

Sentence Count

153

Misogynist Sentences

18

Hate Speech Sentences

6


Summary

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Transcript

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00:00:00.000 In general, I would say something that's important to men
00:00:03.080 that's not important to women is privacy.
00:00:06.720 And I've kind of said this, I've stated this over and over again,
00:00:09.780 that women are going to trade their family's privacy to build their brand.
00:00:14.580 Now, a lot of times when I point this out,
00:00:17.800 conservative commentators will come at me and they'll say,
00:00:20.660 Pearl, you just are criticizing women.
00:00:23.060 Whenever I see, you know, Brett Cooper post her kid and her family on Instagram,
00:00:27.740 they'll say, Pearl, you're just hateful, you're just jealous.
00:00:32.000 Whenever I see Riley Gaines posting her kid's birth or her family pictures on the Internet,
00:00:38.400 they'll say, Pearl, you're hateful, you're jealous.
00:00:40.200 And when I come at this, it's really not meant to be hateful.
00:00:43.960 I'm not even suggesting that in all cases it's wrong of mothers to do this.
00:00:50.380 But I have noticed a trend of women using our personal lives in order to build our online brand.
00:00:57.740 There was a time where men knew that the private moments in their home were just for them.
00:01:04.300 You know, and I think there's something special about the moments you have with somebody when nobody's watching.
00:01:10.420 You know, because I think anybody with a mother knows how performative mothers tend to be.
00:01:18.060 And you know when you're forced to do something so the world would see you, right?
00:01:23.380 Where, you know, you have to go to the events, you have to wear these stupid clothes, pose for pictures.
00:01:28.440 I mean, you all know this torturous process.
00:01:31.660 You know, you're posted on the mother's social media.
00:01:34.680 You have to brag about the whole town.
00:01:37.440 Thank you to the new member.
00:01:39.140 I set the tone.
00:01:40.200 We really appreciate you.
00:01:41.500 But there's something special when somebody does something for you and they get no benefit out of it and there's no expectation.
00:01:51.840 And that's so rare with mothers.
00:01:54.480 Oh my gosh.
00:01:55.360 I mean, how often does a mother do something for you and hold it over your head later?
00:02:00.780 Or women in general.
00:02:02.140 Mother, wife, whatever.
00:02:03.640 You know, it's like they have a list ready to go of every nice thing they've done for you ever.
00:02:08.320 Isn't that crazy?
00:02:09.040 It's like every little thing they've done for you ever.
00:02:11.940 So, but there's something special, you know, when the mothers, when you do have good involved parents that do the nice things for you day to day when nobody's watching.
00:02:23.020 One thing that I think about in my childhood was my dad, he coached my basketball.
00:02:28.820 And I think that's why I have this, like, love of sports is because my father, he just, he was really involved.
00:02:35.380 Like, he did work a lot, but he was very involved when it came to the coach.
00:02:39.620 He loved coaching us.
00:02:43.320 And my dad, it was so funny because he, he would have been such a good head coach because he was so smart.
00:02:50.040 Like, he's the smartest person I've ever met.
00:02:52.020 But he would have to be the assistant because he just did not, oh, another member, Byron, thank you for signing up.
00:03:00.360 But he just, he did not have the time to be a head coach, you know, because sometimes he'd have to miss games.
00:03:06.500 He'd always be the assistant coach.
00:03:07.760 And it would just, he would be on the, on the sidelines, like going crazy because he was smarter than the head coach always.
00:03:15.120 Because, what do you do, just have to watch him make, like, dumber decisions, right?
00:03:20.580 But I just remember, like, some of my favorite childhood memories are my dad, like, banging his clipboard, saying, like, go, go, go.
00:03:27.300 And we're, like, in fifth grade running down with the basketball.
00:03:31.520 And the reason I love it so much is because, you know, I, this wasn't posted anywhere.
00:03:37.180 This wasn't used.
00:03:38.200 My dad had nothing to gain from coaching my basketball.
00:03:42.020 I mean, what does he get out of coaching fifth grade women's basketball?
00:03:47.560 Do you know what I mean?
00:03:48.200 It's funny.
00:03:48.580 My dad didn't even play basketball.
00:03:50.660 But he's so smart.
00:03:51.980 He figured out the game.
00:03:53.000 It actually was a pretty good coach.
00:03:55.180 And to this day, if you ask my father, he, he still is so proud of these, like, trophies.
00:04:02.460 Like, it's so, it's so funny.
00:04:04.220 He'll, he'll still brag about, like, these game winning.
00:04:06.680 He can tell you the score.
00:04:08.000 But there's something about that, right?
00:04:09.720 There's something about those special moments that are just for, like, you guys, where you
00:04:14.780 know they got nothing out of it.
00:04:17.060 Back in 2023, I was put on a government watch list for speaking out about men's issues.
00:04:22.200 The government spent who knows how much money trying to shut me up.
00:04:25.920 And honestly, to some extent, it worked.
00:04:28.400 I was demonetized on YouTube.
00:04:29.960 I had three Instagram accounts deleted, seven TikToks accounts wiped out.
00:04:34.040 And I was forced to delete three years' worth of work, videos, interviews, everything.
00:04:38.960 The more honest I was, the harder I was punished.
00:04:41.480 And eventually, I had to shut down my show, move back home, and completely start over.
00:04:45.720 But I'm not giving up.
00:04:47.100 This time, we're doing things differently.
00:04:49.100 I've created my own app, a space where free speech actually means free speech.
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00:04:57.100 shape our future documentaries and show topics.
00:04:59.300 For just $10 a month, you're not only supporting me, you're supporting a movement, a network
00:05:04.360 that refuses to be silenced.
00:05:06.200 The link is in the description.
00:05:07.800 Join us and be a part of something that fights back against censorship.
00:05:12.060 Now, let's talk bigger picture.
00:05:14.660 Why don't we have true free speech in America anymore?
00:05:17.800 Welcome to the female economy, where women make 80% of consumer buying decisions.
00:05:22.860 Have you ever wondered why women always seem to get their way?
00:05:25.960 Well, here's the truth.
00:05:27.400 Men tend to care about the free flow of ideas.
00:05:31.300 Men can separate an idea from the person who said it.
00:05:34.340 But women, on the other hand, have learned that they can control what gets said by controlling
00:05:39.040 what gets funded.
00:05:40.560 Platforms like YouTube have one goal.
00:05:42.360 They want to make money.
00:05:43.540 And if that means catering to the majority female audience, they will.
00:05:47.120 That's why being a conservative creator today feels impossible.
00:05:50.740 This isn't just about me.
00:05:51.920 It's about the future of online speech.
00:05:53.820 With the Audacity Network, me and my community will never have to worry about being silenced
00:05:58.360 again.
00:05:59.460 Have you ever had somebody do something nice for you, and later you find out they got something
00:06:05.480 out of it, or they were using it for something?
00:06:08.840 And I guess it's not that it makes the thing they did any less nice, but, you know, it's
00:06:16.380 kind of like those YouTubers that live stream the nice things they do.
00:06:20.300 Now, on one hand, you could say, who are you to say that at all?
00:06:24.820 They're doing a nice, you know, they're feeding the homeless.
00:06:26.780 They're doing this, that, and the other.
00:06:28.580 But there's still just something, a weird taste left in your mouth when something seems
00:06:33.840 performative.
00:06:35.140 And I think that's what you get with a lot of women in general, because we are so, you
00:06:40.100 know, we had to rely on having a good reputation in order to survive.
00:06:43.680 So it's very, very difficult for us to let go of the reputation.
00:06:48.140 It's very free.
00:06:49.060 I didn't really have a choice, because I got thrust into this.
00:06:52.900 No, I did have a choice.
00:06:53.900 I made this choice.
00:06:55.060 But, you know, I'll say when you become a public figure, it forces you to not care faster.
00:07:01.980 But it's very freeing when you don't, I'll tell you that.
00:07:04.960 Now, but there's something about when men, or sorry, there's something about when someone
00:07:11.740 does something nice, and they gain something out of it, or they expect things from you later.
00:07:16.780 You know, I did this nice thing, now you have to do that nice thing.
00:07:21.140 Now, a good person will reciprocate where they can, but nobody wants to feel like they
00:07:26.620 have to do something, because you accepted niceness from them.
00:07:32.220 So, I think that makes the private moments at home even more special.
00:07:39.260 But unfortunately, now that all women are being given smartphones, are being given, all women
00:07:44.940 are buying, and addicted to smartphones, privacy has now become a thing of the past.
00:07:50.500 Not only does everybody have a smartphone and a camera, but we have 4K video evidence.
00:07:59.040 And cameras can be recorded where, imagine, guys, if you're approached by a woman in public.
00:08:06.360 You might think that you're being recorded, right?
00:08:08.940 We can't even, like, approach each other in public anymore without knowing, is this a
00:08:13.160 YouTube prank, is this that?
00:08:16.580 And, you know, someone that does public interviews, I'm not here to criticize it, but I can kind
00:08:21.080 of observe where this is going.
00:08:23.660 I can see where this is headed.
00:08:26.160 And I think what a lot of other commentators miss when they're covering this kind of thing
00:08:30.600 is they don't see the forest through the trees.
00:08:32.400 I know that social media is a pipeline for divorce and OnlyFans.
00:08:38.000 Divorce, OnlyFans, prostitution.
00:08:40.520 That is what social media is.
00:08:42.540 Because you might, as a young woman, have a nice, cute little vlog channel.
00:08:46.820 I mean, if I was out here in a bikini stream or something, it would get way more views.
00:08:51.460 I mean, we just find out the more naked we get, the more views we get.
00:08:57.260 So, the incentives just are not great on social media.
00:08:59.940 And we saw that with Sophie Rain.
00:09:01.220 You know, when she was young, she was just a guest on David Dobrik's vlogs.
00:09:04.900 Her parents probably thought, oh, okay, she's just doing these cute little vlogs, whatever.
00:09:09.300 Now she's on OnlyFans.
00:09:11.760 And it's very difficult.
00:09:13.100 I see where this is going because it's almost impossible to be intertwined in society without
00:09:21.140 your phones.
00:09:22.120 You know, how do you get anywhere?
00:09:25.240 How do you get invited to things?
00:09:26.960 Half of the places that people go are through Instagram Reels or through a Facebook group.
00:09:31.220 You know, the only sense of community people really have moving forward, we don't know
00:09:35.480 our neighbors.
00:09:37.280 Growing up, I knew like two neighbors of mine, two.
00:09:41.640 I didn't grow up knowing my neighbors.
00:09:43.480 The only community you really have a lot of times is through the phone and people you meet through
00:09:50.660 the phone.
00:09:51.160 And at times, you know, my personal experience and some of the best friends I've ever made
00:09:55.440 were through phones.
00:09:57.600 You know, it's not...
00:09:58.860 And I think YouTubers and content creators feel this first because we're obviously more
00:10:04.320 online than other people.
00:10:06.860 But I really see this as the future.
00:10:09.040 And when I talk to younger women, that's kind of where I see it going.
00:10:14.020 You know, I asked one of my youngest sister, do you think you'd get invited to anything if
00:10:19.360 you didn't have Snapchat?
00:10:20.760 Because that's how they all talk.
00:10:22.560 They all talk through Snapchat.
00:10:23.560 And she said, no, I wouldn't know anything that's going on.
00:10:27.700 That's how everybody talks.
00:10:29.900 Now, a lot of the traditional conservatives, they come back and they say, oh, just ditch
00:10:33.920 the phones and move on a farm.
00:10:35.600 It's like, where do you live?
00:10:37.480 Like, who wants to do that?
00:10:40.540 You know, there has to be some people that just moved into the middle of the nowhere.
00:10:44.980 And now they don't have access to good doctors, good jobs.
00:10:48.340 And they're like there with their cows and they got to just be pissed, you know, because
00:10:54.280 it's one thing if you have, you know, because the small towns of America, they're not what
00:10:58.120 they used to be.
00:10:59.080 It's not like you can go to a small town, a small town and find community.
00:11:03.580 I mean, there are pockets, but in terms of young people, it's not the same.
00:11:09.400 And the people are leaving.
00:11:10.520 I mean, my mom, she was from a town where I think less than 30 people were in her high
00:11:14.560 school graduating class.
00:11:15.800 And I stayed there for a summer.
00:11:17.160 All of the young kids are going.
00:11:18.900 So you stay in that town.
00:11:20.040 Who are you going to hang out with?
00:11:21.020 It's just going to be you.
00:11:23.080 And I mean, maybe, maybe you don't care, but I think that's going to be tough for a lot
00:11:27.040 of people.
00:11:27.440 So I see where a lot of this stuff is going.
00:11:30.720 Now, in general, I would say something that's important to men that's not important to women
00:11:36.180 is privacy.
00:11:37.660 Women, obviously, if you look at social media trends, we will trade privacy for attention.
00:11:42.560 We will post, we will post the family photos.
00:11:45.480 We will post the selfies.
00:11:48.700 We will put, I mean, there are women that have died or gotten their boyfriends killed.
00:11:52.460 They're like, you know, we love criminals.
00:11:54.820 So they'll be like dating or married to like a cartel member.
00:11:58.200 And the opposite cartel just follows the girl on Instagram and then kills the kingpin because
00:12:03.840 his wife was like streaming where they are, where he was.
00:12:07.780 So they'll be like, you know, we're going to be like, I'm up.
00:12:13.440 We love you.
00:12:14.620 We все хорош is going to be like, no, you don't care.