Pearl - How Some Modern Women DISRESPECT Their Men IN RELATIONSHIPS! ｜ Pearl Daily

00:00:00.000 good afternoon good evening ladies and gentlemen welcome to another episode of pearl daily i am

00:00:12.200 your host pearl and i am going to be going over the topic of women demasculating men today if you

00:00:20.860 guys don't know i've interviewed over a thousand women and men about dating relationships and

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00:00:33.120 world good afternoon good evening ladies and gentlemen welcome to another episode of pearl

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00:03:05.900 okay oh wow that's so good I love the blueberry I think anyways so today's topic

00:03:17.880 what I have found is that many men in this country suffer in silence and so many times 0.64

00:03:27.320 what I hear from women is complaining about the little things in relationships or in life 0.62

00:03:33.560 And oftentimes what I find is that men are belittled and put down by their wives across 0.99

00:03:44.180 this country and they just suffer in silence. Many men are in sexless marriages and they just

00:03:50.460 suffer in silence. Many women were not raised to be wives or told what a wife is. And there are

00:03:59.380 many men across this country paying the price. Now, I decided to ask the question on Twitter

00:04:09.040 for how do women demasculate men?

00:04:17.240 I asked, men, what are some of the ways you have felt disrespected in a relationship

00:04:28.460 that your significant other may not be aware of?

00:04:34.100 Now, I'm going to read you guys the most liked comments.

00:04:38.240 So when I ask questions on Twitter or any social media app, what I find is there's many

00:04:44.960 patterns in relationship. Many people think that their problems in a relationship are unique,

00:04:50.700 but oftentimes they are not. So the number one complaint that men had

00:04:58.780 of how women disrespect them in a relationship, I want you guys to guess in the chat.

00:05:07.120 I want you guys to guess let me turn the there we go okay

00:05:18.400 guess now this was not surprising to me knowing 1.00

00:05:35.920 how bad women are on social media about sharing everything about their relationship 0.97

00:05:41.680 the number one complaint from men is disclosing too much to your female friends it's us first

00:05:54.640 not your gossip group being asked to go to marriage counseling she proceeds to talk about

00:06:05.020 everything that I was doing wrong and so did the counselor when I finally looked at her and said 0.92

00:06:10.560 what are the things you are doing wrong? She couldn't answer and looked shocked.

00:06:16.480 Another man said, I wasn't allowed to lead. Matt A said, the biggest is ignoring you in a group

00:06:23.980 and engaging with another man, sitting next to another man and not you. If that happens,

00:06:31.360 don't lash out, just leave. It won't get better. Scott Patrick said, going from a full time nurse

00:06:38.200 to working part-time to quitting and laying on the couch all day watching cooking shows and

00:06:44.140 talking to her mom on the phone. It's nice. They live together now. There is a woman who said she's

00:06:51.780 not a man, but my former sister-in-law used to embarrass my brother at family gatherings.

00:06:58.660 I recalled several times when someone would invite them to do X, Y, and Z, my brother would say he'd

00:07:06.340 love to. And she would blurt out, we can't do that. We're broke in front of everyone.

00:07:11.540 He worked two jobs at the time and made good money. She had opted to stop working to stay

00:07:17.500 home with the kids. It made him feel like he wasn't doing enough, which led to resentment.

00:07:23.160 She put the kids before their marriage at the point that the kids were sleeping in the room

00:07:28.280 at seven and nine years old. And many nights he worked late. She fell asleep on the sofa and

00:07:34.940 wouldn't come to bed when he got home. She was depriving his needs as well and there were other

00:07:40.200 issues like if he wanted to go play pool or something once a month. With some friends she

00:07:46.660 would get pissy but if she wanted a girl's night out she had no problem going and she would take 0.93

00:07:52.040 care and he would take care of the kids no problem stuff like that. He finally had enough of it got

00:07:57.840 involved with someone else and ultimately they got divorced. When he told her he was moving out she

00:08:03.940 was genuinely shocked. She was completely unaware that her behavior had been the driving force.

00:08:09.960 And by then it was too late. 27 years together up in smokes. She's not a bad person. She just

00:08:15.840 wasn't thinking about her actions, how her actions and words made him feel bad. So I always hear

00:08:23.740 that women don't know what they're doing. And there's a lot of debate on this. Do women, 1.00

00:08:31.820 are women aware of what we're doing or are we unaware? And the truth is you're never really

00:08:38.940 going to know when it comes to women. We can't know if they know, right? Like in this case, 1.00

00:08:45.820 but men don't want to have to teach women how to be women the same way women don't want to 0.60

00:08:55.200 have to teach a man how to be a man. And so if we're in a situation where we are not performing

00:09:05.580 the duties of a wife or we're demasculating our men, it is our responsibility to correct ourselves.

00:09:14.120 It's not our husband's or a boyfriend's responsibility to correct us. It's our

00:09:18.580 responsibility to correct ourselves. So I didn't know is not the get out of jail free card that

00:09:28.060 we want it to be. When men don't know something and they make a poor decision, they have to deal 0.71

00:09:32.380 with the consequence. But for some reason with women, if we make a poor decision, we use I didn't 0.99

00:09:38.780 know as a get out of jail free card. Another answer was at the time it was more of a feeling 0.99

00:09:45.300 than anything I did, was going to be wrong. No move was right. If I did something without asking

00:09:52.140 her, I got yelled at. If I waited for her to ask, I was inattentive. Learned helplessness is very

00:09:59.180 powerful and compounded. Mostly it came down to knowing how I felt on a matter and doing what she

00:10:06.520 wanted anyway. In quotes, I want a dog. He said, I think that's a bad idea and was we have a one

00:10:14.100 and a three-year-old I'm getting one anyway another answer was and I was actually surprised

00:10:22.460 I didn't this was one of the top liked ones so it was very highly commented or highly liked I

00:10:30.760 didn't know this was so common it said she was watching home improvement shows like she was not

00:10:36.280 thankful for what she had being volunteered for and I see this a lot being volunteered for something

00:10:42.440 without the knowledge if plans have been made months and weeks in advance, and I'm told 30

00:10:47.540 minutes before we're arranged to be there. So one way you can see who holds the power in a

00:10:52.540 relationship is when you ask a couple a question, who answers first? Or if you want to make plans

00:10:59.160 with a couple, who makes the plans? Who says yes or no? Does she say, let me ask my husband?

00:11:05.000 And by the way, one is not better or worse necessarily.

00:11:09.240 One tends to, in my opinion, work better.

00:11:13.460 But I think there's certain women that would, that could not be with an assertive guy. 0.88

00:11:19.740 They just wouldn't. 1.00

00:11:21.660 I mean, you've seen them like the female lawyers, the ball buster. 1.00

00:11:25.220 They just, they couldn't do it. 1.00

00:11:26.560 Right.

00:11:27.760 So, and there's some men that could never be assertive.

00:11:31.400 So have fun, be together, you know.

00:11:33.400 um asking for ladies nights out seven days a week my ex oh this is a big one when women say

00:11:41.500 my kids instead of our kids or his kids my ex-wife made me feel like my kids were her kids

00:11:50.640 not mine Gaius says I told insert friend's name that we'd be going to their party this is another

00:11:57.820 thing that I've heard complaints from men on is they don't want to have their entire weekend

00:12:04.700 filled with all of these events and many wives and girlfriends fill up their weekends with events

00:12:11.660 not asking them and expecting them to go and if they don't go they get mad when men are much more

00:12:18.420 naturally home bodies than women and they're better with money so they're not outspending it 1.00

00:12:24.780 you know disclosing private information is hot gossip um trying to lock you down while her past 0.97

00:12:32.600 is extensive he's just a friend unless a man is hitched uh oh he's saying they're saying that she

00:12:40.160 knows that she's being disrespectful I don't know some it depends some women know and some I think

00:12:47.560 are so dumb that I'm like I don't know okay so we have a lot of examples and I wanted to show you 0.77

00:12:59.600 guys a couple videos of examples I found on the internet of women being disrespectful to men 0.99

00:13:05.160 after that we're going to do a call-in show and I want to hear I prefer to get personal stories

00:13:11.840 from you guys of times that a woman disrespected you and if you think she was aware of it or

00:13:23.040 unaware I want to know what your experience has been in relationships being disrespectful I'd also

00:13:31.900 love to hear from the women if there was ever a time you caught yourself being disrespectful and

00:13:37.420 how you changed it how you improved or maybe you lost the relationship and moved on I don't know

00:13:44.120 but the more I prefer to get personal stories from you guys that happened in your personal

00:13:49.340 lives so we're going to put a link in the chat um after this but we're going to go through the

00:13:55.840 videos first okay so this was I think I've shown you guys this video before but I can always tell

00:14:05.540 that a man has no frame in a relationship when his woman is posting all of their personal issues

00:14:13.860 on the internet. The reason I can tell this is because men value privacy. And when a woman is

00:14:24.400 posting, and in this case, an actual fight on the internet, that tells me she can do whatever

00:14:30.100 she wants and he will let her get away with it and you can see it in this video now this video

00:14:38.300 also I think is a common fight that couples have um so I want to use it as an example so we can

00:14:48.040 learn something from it hey with you not being with me on Christmas first to ask if I would be

00:14:54.700 okay with you not being with me on Christmas first of all knowing how important that holiday is to

00:14:59.840 me and two going on the website i'm sorry guys we're live on the audacity network we're dual

00:15:11.200 streaming today but we've had wi-fi issues so um we're testing the dual stream to see if we can

00:15:19.080 keep it up give me one second to the people on the website i am so sorry guys you check my inbox

00:15:28.100 what do you hold on guys wait uh we said an email check here okay

00:15:34.560 yeah I can't read that that's way too small like um can you screenshot it and send it to me

00:15:45.600 okay yeah thank you all right I'm gonna I'm gonna watch this video really quick and then I'm gonna

00:15:49.760 read your chat on the website okay so this is a couple with your brother they do the and and also

00:15:56.240 So anyone that usually has a couple's content or, and I speak from experience to some extent,

00:16:04.000 any couple that has a couple's content or a family YouTube channel where they're posting

00:16:11.100 like they're very young children, generally speaking, it's the woman running the show. 0.78

00:16:20.080 Because does that sound like anything a man would want?

00:16:23.480 do you guys want your relate your fights posted on the internet with your girlfriends yeah no okay

00:16:31.280 um so i'm gonna play this video really quick to ask if i would be okay with you not being with

00:16:39.000 me on christmas first of all knowing how important that holiday is to me and two going somewhere

00:16:44.280 with your brothers just without me to watch football my feelings are extremely hurt okay

00:16:51.720 Okay. I want us to think about this video in the context of a boss and an employee. Now you may say, Pearl, relationships are different. Nowadays it's 50-50. Nowadays it's an equal partnership. Hey, if that's what you want to do, that's completely fine.

00:17:12.860 But for people that want to be in more traditional relationships, in this dynamic, if your boss

00:17:26.300 left to do something, you would have no say in what your boss does. Yet women respect their 1.00

00:17:36.760 bosses more than they respect their husbands. Even though their bosses give them a paycheck 1.00

00:17:42.600 and their husband gives them a family purpose and children. One you would think is more important

00:17:49.140 but a boss can tell a woman no and she'll have to accept it. On the other hand 1.00

00:17:55.460 this ends up in an argument that comes onto YouTube. So

00:18:00.820 she said he wants to on Christmas day go watch a football game with his brother

00:18:08.100 she on the other hand wants him to spend quality time with the children

00:18:12.720 now I can understand wanting what you want on Christmas but maybe that's something that he

00:18:22.320 likes to do with his brother and you can let the man enjoy his football game and spend time with

00:18:28.360 the kids he'll be back later you know it doesn't have to be the end of the world Christmas has to 0.99

00:18:35.380 go my way or I'm going to overreact and this is how the women always get you guys this is what 0.99

00:18:42.000 they do they overreact to a problem and then you guys get tricked and you can see him getting 0.99

00:18:48.740 tricked into saving the day and thinking that he's doing something wrong if he wants to go

00:18:56.760 watch a game with his brother there's nothing wrong with that you might not like it but you

00:19:02.620 know who you're marrying and you don't get to pull a 180 after you get married if that's how he

00:19:09.180 tends to spend christmas um you're not supposed to go into a relationship trying to change people

00:19:15.360 i'm sorry that your feelings are hurt um i'm hoping i really thought you knew me better than

00:19:20.140 i'm hoping that we can we can talk and that i can gain a deeper understanding it's because

00:19:24.440 do you see this so now he's saying oh I hope we can talk I hope I can gain a deeper understanding

00:19:30.040 when she's in the wrong as a I mean you're an adult woman I don't know why you're crying because

00:19:39.140 he wants to go watch football it's a long day I mean Christmas is a long day I mean my family

00:19:44.340 gets kind of bored at the end of the day um and how are you gonna have quality and she's saying

00:19:49.860 i want quality time well how are you gonna have quality time if you're um crying and nagging him

00:20:01.900 about wanting to go watch football holiday means a lot to me quality time means a lot to me

00:20:08.380 togetherness means a lot to me so again is she thinking of herself or him it's me me me me me

00:20:15.320 this is the me me me me me wife and so the fact that you don't you'd rather be at a football game

00:20:21.540 knowing or I thought you knew that I can't imagine why he wants to go to the football game can you

00:20:26.660 guys imagine it's interesting because what I see is sometimes men will leave a situation they might

00:20:36.860 go watch football with their friends they might go play video games and the women get offended

00:20:42.480 because he's not spending more time with them and instead of trying to figure out as women how we

00:20:47.780 can be more likable and pleasant to be around so they want to spend time with us we think the 0.90

00:20:53.980 solution is to nag and cry and unfortunately it works do you see this do you guys think you want 0.99

00:21:03.220 to watch the football game anyway you think he grew a pair and said deal with it I'm going or 0.96

00:21:08.520 do you think he gave her what she wanted because she started crying be honest be honest your wife

00:21:14.140 sounds like christmas is actually more important than me and that's what it sounds like like you're

00:21:20.120 saying christmas is important than my husband i do not have a desire to do anything that will

00:21:26.100 either hurt you or deride in any way your expectation for christmas to ask if i would

00:21:33.840 be okay with you yeah and now they go to the internet and do do women tell women hey let your

00:21:44.420 man enjoy the football game that's something he loves let him enjoy it or will the internet tell

00:21:53.300 her that she is a poor victim and that she is in the right where do you think what do you think

00:22:01.420 happened okay so the next example um i found oh wait we have two um we have two super chats on

00:22:14.360 the website if you guys do want a super chat we can't hear but you can on the website hey pearl

00:22:18.900 saw your appearance on jubilee you made a ton of great points of course the comments are full of

00:22:23.000 simps for the only fans 304 no one wanted to address your great points thank you for saving

00:22:28.200 lives. The reason why his girl's acting like this is because he lets too many things slide. 0.99

00:22:33.460 He didn't check her early in the relationship as men. You can't be afraid to piss your woman 0.97

00:22:37.720 off. She'll walk all over you. Yeah. And as much as I have a lot of empathy because a lot of men 1.00

00:22:45.120 do live in, I mean, it's tough, right? Once a guy gets married, he loses a lot by leaving.

00:22:53.280 and a lot of men would rather take borderline abusive situations than leave but I mean this

00:23:03.000 situation is because he did not he again is allowing a woman's emotions to control him

00:23:11.640 and allowing himself to constantly be fooled by women's crying okay let me find the last

00:23:21.360 one. Okay. So the next thing, one way, one thing that I have noticed that women do to emasculate

00:23:36.980 men is that they will belittle the things that men love. So for example, there was a conservative 0.99

00:23:47.760 commentator named Liz Wheeler. Now Liz Wheeler talks about politics and you can see

00:23:57.840 a lot of times these women they tend to wear masks and they slip off occasionally 1.00

00:24:05.440 and what happened with Liz Wheeler is she let me find the first one had a status that went viral 1.00

00:24:15.360 and it said, the least attractive hobbies for men according to women. Number one, playing video 0.82

00:24:25.000 games. Number two, collecting figurines. Three, magic tricks. Four, online trolling, gambling,

00:24:32.620 building model trains, taxidermy, comic book collecting, and bird watching. For the unattractiveness

00:24:38.740 score, the number one is video game. Well, I view men playing video games as a way they can let

00:24:44.920 out their inner child um you know my brothers they I don't really understand the games but

00:24:54.660 I mean the men enjoy them right and they talk to their friends they're like they all roast each

00:25:01.260 other I don't understand it I don't get it I have no desire to play myself but it this is 1.00

00:25:08.000 an issue I see with women they nag and drone on about the things that men find fun and somehow 1.00

00:25:16.280 make them problematic even when they're not and you see this with video game this is something men 1.00

00:25:22.040 I mean I don't think I've ever met a guy that doesn't play video games at least a little bit

00:25:28.560 I mean I don't ask every guy so I wouldn't know but this is something that men like and yet you

00:25:37.940 have the conservative Christian commentators nagging about nagging the internet about something

00:25:45.520 that is a genuine joy for many men. I'm not saying you guys like that we should that you should do

00:25:55.640 that instead of work but women use social media and they ruin their family with it. They leave 1.00

00:26:03.140 their husband they post their arguments on the internet and nobody cries about how social media

00:26:12.680 is ruining women but yet somehow video games are the root of the root cause of all male laziness

00:26:22.220 or school shootings are often blamed on this stuff and I just don't buy it I think it's a way

00:26:30.440 for people to undermine something that men have a tendency to love.

00:26:42.320 Yeah. And so here was another comment from her. Gun violence isn't because of guns.

00:26:46.980 We've had guns in our country forever, yet only in modern history do we have a spite of mass

00:26:52.840 shootings why broken families marijuana mental health crisis SSRIs drug abuse and violent video 0.53

00:27:01.040 games and this just doesn't match up to what I've seen in real life I've seen my brother

00:27:06.520 shoot people in the face online I don't think he'd ever do that

00:27:12.180 I think they just like it because it's fun but what it shows is

00:27:18.180 and as women we wouldn't like it if they undermined our hobbies right I mean what if

00:27:25.100 you do yoga and the guy you're dating is constantly nagging you about doing yoga

00:27:30.560 and belittling belittling you about your new yoga hobby or dance or whatever whatever

00:27:37.100 whatever basket weaving pottery whatever your more feminine hobby is that men don't really do

00:27:43.360 or get um phoenix light game says to add to your point pearl women don't like it when men enjoy 0.56

00:27:50.360 themselves unless it benefits them like video games unless women benefit from men's happiness

00:27:56.300 and success it's misogyny correct yeah it's a video game not real life i mean guys

00:28:02.220 social media ruins far more marriages than a video game but i never hear the conservative

00:28:10.260 commentators talk about that. I've seen women on TikTok divorce their husbands over social

00:28:18.100 media comments. I've even asked friends if how many fights they would have in their relationship

00:28:25.880 if social media wasn't a thing. Okay. So what I want to do is I want to hear from the people

00:28:32.640 and I want to hear we're going to put a zoom link in the chat 1.00

00:28:37.660 the common ways that women belittle men

00:28:45.260 or sorry let me restate this restate the question what are some ways that you have felt

00:28:52.760 disrespected in a relationship that your significant other may or may not have been

00:28:58.680 aware of i want to hear from the men and i also want to hear women if you've ever disrespected

00:29:08.200 your husband or your boyfriend and learned from it and stop doing it in the future i want to hear

00:29:14.760 what it was how he checked you and how you fixed it i like to hear personal stories so if you don't

00:29:22.360 want to go personal please do not call in i'm not asking about in general i'm asking about what's

00:29:27.400 happen to you i need you guys to have your cameras on the reason i do this is because sometimes we

00:29:34.120 get trolls and i need to be able to see the people or the person please don't be walking around with

00:29:40.360 your camera set it on the table i need to see your face and click the zoom link and then we will bring

00:29:47.080 you up. Hello. I don't know if your sound's on. You might be muted. Okay. We might have

00:30:14.940 to drop you if you don't yeah if you have to drop him and then if he figures out his sound he can 0.85

00:30:20.280 come back up um they try and correct you often bring the guy homath on your show he's insightful

00:30:33.800 yeah i mean he could call in guys if we want to fly in guests i need more membership signups i'm 0.68

00:30:40.900 sorry I can't a lot of you guys watch for free which is fine I love you guys I'm not like I

00:30:47.360 watch a lot of places for free I understand you know but I mean every guest we fly in is

00:30:54.820 at least a thousand bucks generally with their plane ticket the hotel I mean these are the what

00:31:03.800 We pay people to film them.

00:31:05.640 All this stuff adds up, you know.

00:31:09.660 Is anyone else up or no?

00:31:12.220 Oh, no.

00:31:12.600 Okay, I'm going to read the chat, but I'd love to hear from you guys.

00:31:20.280 Please call in. 1.00

00:31:23.580 Ex-wife's wife was raising her voice at me in front of family, friends, or just period. 1.00

00:31:33.800 let me go through 1.00

00:31:40.320 insulting their husbands in public and I've seen high-level women 1.00

00:31:52.360 insult men or belittle men in public and it's so interesting because a lot of the women are 0.60

00:32:02.140 clearly intelligent but they haven't spent the time observing their husbands 0.75

00:32:13.100 and what makes him tick to the point that they either think it's acceptable or they just don't

00:32:20.700 care oh hello Thor hello I can't hear him either is it on our end then just weird it's two in a row

00:32:47.660 or I can't hear you I don't know why

00:32:58.580 guys go to the audacitynetwork.com so maybe one day it'll oh wait now I can

00:33:06.080 oh now I can hear wait something it's buzzing

00:33:17.660 The guy's on mute, it says.

00:33:33.180 Hold on one second.

00:33:34.360 We're seeing if it's on our end.

00:33:35.600 oh now he's muted in the corner I can see it

00:34:05.600 okay well guys we're gonna try setting up a new meeting

00:34:09.680 um yeah thor we're gonna try set oh okay he left

00:34:16.720 i don't know what the problem is let me see

00:34:23.200 um

00:34:28.640 okay we're gonna go another

00:34:35.600 what happens if you're not chad you have to settle for whatever you can get blazing 0.66

00:34:45.280 I hate to break it to you I have seen some unattractive guys get pretty attractive women

00:34:52.460 I have seen it now I would say it's more difficult that's true but I'll say I have seen it

00:35:00.700 he has to unmute himself um okay guys I think we almost fixed it so again when you call in

00:35:11.700 I need to see your face um don't walk around with your camera um and

00:35:19.820 yeah make sure your sound's on there's no background noise

00:35:25.300 and the question is how

00:35:41.460 and the question is what are some ways you have felt disrespected in a relationship that your

00:35:49.840 significant other may or may not have been aware of if you're a woman I want to know how you did

00:35:57.480 it or how you disrespected him and how you've changed it in the future if you did hello can

00:36:05.420 you hear me now oh yeah now I can yes excellent excellent where are you calling out of uh I'm

00:36:13.100 Harry Wilmington and I'm calling out of Los Angeles California oh nice and are you single

00:36:17.860 married, divorced? Currently dating. Dating. Okay. So what are some ways that you have felt

00:36:25.220 disrespected in a relationship that your significant other or date may have not been

00:36:31.400 aware of? Well, I think one of the biggest things for women that they may not be aware of is just

00:36:38.040 how much they interrupt guys. Like, especially when there's a disagreement happening, I found 1.00

00:36:44.320 that i'm a pretty even keel guy like if there's an issue you can come to me talk to me i'll listen

00:36:49.280 to whatever you think it is i did wrong apologize and then i'll say hey here's on my end of things 0.98

00:36:54.480 what was going wrong and i found doing that there are a surprising number of women that do not 0.98

00:36:59.840 actually have the emotional intelligence or stability to handle those conversations and so 1.00

00:37:04.000 they'll jump in and interrupt as i'm trying to answer their question like i'll let you talk for

00:37:08.960 like four or five minutes and then it is my turn i'll get 10 seconds in well no that's not a thing 0.99

00:37:14.080 because blah blah you're stupid trying to distance i'm like what am i supposed to do with that 0.99

00:37:20.800 and have you ever disqualified a woman based on that without her knowing uh well without her 1.00

00:37:28.160 knowing i usually it starts getting to that around the time that you've dated them for a while early 0.94

00:37:32.640 on they're pretty good at not being too interruptive but i i have definitely disqualified women for 1.00

00:37:38.560 basically either being really self-absorbent or trying to make trying to make arguments about 1.00

00:37:45.440 them when it's not about them at all so for example oh for example a long time ago there

00:37:51.960 was a woman i dated and we were doing pretty well but like i just noticed she was one of those that

00:37:56.380 would interrupt during arguments and took things very personally if she didn't get away so side

00:38:02.160 story me and my best friend uh he came here from california we went to vegas for the weekend with

00:38:07.480 a female friend of his, a white woman, which is important to the story. We, so we party all night.

00:38:13.300 We drop her off at her place in this very nice part of Vegas. And as we're leaving, we realized

00:38:18.400 she left something in our, in the car. My, my friend had rented like this really nice Lexus

00:38:21.860 black car, looked really nice. Went back to the, to the lady's place, dropped off the purse. We go

00:38:26.720 to leave the neighborhood. We make a complete stop and take a turn and we see cop lights come

00:38:31.200 on. And there's this white cop that's stopping these two black dudes in a car in Vegas, asking

00:38:35.240 us while we're in the neighborhood and what business do we have doing there etc so we go

00:38:39.360 through this whole rigmarole of these this cops harassing us and because my friend was in the

00:38:44.020 military he showed his military id we got out so fast forward to we get back from vegas and i'm

00:38:50.080 supposed to see her like the next day and so she had called me i missed the call because we'd just

00:38:54.820 gotten back and i was telling my roommate the story and so i called back like five minutes later

00:38:59.060 and she's getting sarcastic with me on the phone like i was just trying to call you see how you're

00:39:03.280 doing why didn't you pick up and whatever and then i was trying to explain to her we got back

00:39:07.100 from vegas very very late we hang up and i start trying to text her like hey like i didn't like

00:39:12.140 that conversation your tone was kind of off like i was just trying to explain to you what was going

00:39:15.600 on and then she was trying to explain back to me how she felt about stuff and then i was like look

00:39:20.640 i'm sorry like i'm tired i'm in a bad mood we had these two cops like racially profile us in vegas

00:39:25.480 and pulled us over and it's just it's been like horrible and her response back to me was well my

00:39:32.080 dad's a cop how dare you say cops are a-holes not all cops are like that and i dumped her on the

00:39:38.240 spot wow yeah so yeah so you were telling her a story and you thought that she would maybe give

00:39:46.900 you some sympathy or at least listen and then she made it about her dad yeah because i mean she was

00:39:52.020 half black and half asian so i thought you know racial profiling it's a thing that happens in the

00:39:55.400 community she'd understand that and to be like well my dad's a cop and how and i'm like i'm not

00:39:59.420 even talking about your dad i'm talking about a completely separate cop in a different so it was

00:40:03.540 just weird how she made it about herself she took it personally and i just started calculating like

00:40:07.400 do i want my next 30 to 40 years to be like this and i said nope and that was the end of it are

00:40:12.980 there any other ways that women that you've dated disrespected you in a relationship that made you

00:40:19.260 disqualify them uh yes yes a big one also is you know i i come from the belief that men and women

00:40:27.140 think about things differently. And so I've learned, I do day coaching as well. I've learned

00:40:31.640 not to take this stuff personally. If she thinks differently, it's totally fine. And I've found a

00:40:35.540 lot of women can't handle the way in which men think about things. I honestly think when Kevin 1.00

00:40:41.740 Samuels was alive, that was a big barometer to be able to tell the difference between women that

00:40:45.880 can just have a conversation about somebody and disagree versus like, and you're a misogynist 1.00

00:40:50.280 also, and you're the devil. And there are a lot of women that show themselves like they just can't 1.00

00:40:54.200 handle that guys think about stuff differently and so that's that's been a big one like if i if

00:40:58.380 i'm not able to because guys want to be able to amongst ourselves we tell each other truths about

00:41:03.260 stuff and it's not personal it's not emotional it's just this is what we think this is what it

00:41:06.480 is and a lot of women you try to tell them they want honesty you tell them what you're honestly

00:41:11.380 thinking and they go crazy and as a guy you end up having less trust for that woman because if i

00:41:17.060 can't tell you my true thoughts you then you really don't want to know what's actually going

00:41:20.780 on you just want the lies told to you and i'm not that guy yeah yeah okay well these are really good

00:41:26.540 insights thank you very much for calling in i appreciate it it's been fun yeah so you know i

00:41:34.220 just think it's good for women to know that oftentimes we get disqualified for things

00:41:40.140 and we may not even know why um because men you know if women have a problem

00:41:47.500 we are great at complaining I think that is our number one skill as women we're great naggers and

00:41:54.500 we're great at complaining men just suffer in silence a bit more and they just watch and observe

00:42:01.780 and oftentimes women you know I can't remember the quote but there's some quote that said the

00:42:09.900 there is a big silence when men put a woman in a fun only category and they realize it's not

00:42:23.200 their future wife or something like that because a lot of times men will keep seeing you but they

00:42:29.300 don't um they don't tell you that they've disqualified you is there another one yeah okay

00:42:36.840 hello hi how are you uh i'm having a great day today i found out the hoa or the condo association

00:42:49.460 wants to basically make me leave so i'm gonna go move to milwaukee and be kind of homeless

00:42:53.220 with my music and stuff is up too loud or i'm smoking cigarettes like the women are complaining

00:42:58.800 about me smoking cigarettes at the place and like belching and talking and like whatever

00:43:03.920 it was really scary so that they sent me this picture i don't have time for that story but

00:43:08.800 the let's let's get on topic you know okay um so what are some ways you have felt disrespected

00:43:15.920 in a relationship that your significant other may or may not have been aware of oh yeah okay

00:43:23.920 so i was dating this girl who's related to like people on these car dealerships in madison 1.00

00:43:29.280 and she was like a spoiled brat and addicted to drugs and she would get me arrested for like just 1.00

00:43:35.320 to get like a weekend to cheat on me and like do drugs and stuff and so that was pretty disrespectful

00:43:40.960 and then like that's extreme but i had i was i've been kind of then i'd have to be homeless if i

00:43:45.840 were to leave her so i'd have to go back and be with her and wisconsin has the duluth model and

00:43:53.400 all that stuff so it's like really um it basically makes everything screwed up and and like you have

00:43:59.560 to have a no contact with her and stay away and then like she's trying to get you to come back

00:44:04.120 and all that but then the police when we're too respectful and in the jail to me a little bit um

00:44:10.840 is a nice way to put it i guess that's like skipping over a bunch of stories with them um

00:44:15.480 uh stories i have too many and then um there's so yeah that's that's a quick i mean that's like

00:44:26.080 extremely disrespectful stuff like calling cops and making stuff up and then going and then like

00:44:31.520 trying to take it back in court and then the state picks up the case and then they tell her to shut

00:44:37.560 up or something when she's telling the truth taking back her words of lies in court and just

00:44:43.480 feel like you're just it's scary you know it's been a scary hard life but i'm like i'm having

00:44:49.400 a great day you know kind of it's so exciting i kind of been homeless before so i'm gonna go try

00:44:53.580 it again did you say you stayed with her are you are you trolling me no i'm not trolling you this

00:45:03.540 is my life my life's been crazy okay are you did you stay with her after that uh yeah i stayed with

00:45:13.180 for a while after that then i wound up going to um to mendota do you know what that is um wound up

00:45:20.620 there it's like a mental hospital state mental hospital in wisconsin madison and it's that's

00:45:28.780 where i think i talked to yesterday as i talked about being locked up with a bunch of killers and

00:45:33.500 stuff and i'm not trolling anything is that the mental hospital that she she got you put in there

00:45:41.660 yeah it's a mental hospital i've been there yeah she got me put in there wow well yeah that's a

00:45:49.900 i i okay well have you seen one film that cuckoo's nest

00:45:55.340 what have you seen the movie one floor over the cuckoo's nest with jack nicholson

00:46:00.300 oh okay well it's like um it's like the that's part chapter of my life

00:46:07.660 oh wow um okay well thank you very much for it's been it's been a really it's really stressful i

00:46:14.460 don't have any good relationship disrespect stories besides just like extremely bad stuff

00:46:19.020 like that yeah and like uh so it's not there's no joking about it i'm not like but i am kind of

00:46:24.860 have to laugh it off you know i kind of have the the rough background where like i laugh to get

00:46:32.060 through it you know well thank you very much for calling it's good talking thank you for calling

00:46:38.700 in um i wish you luck in milwaukee yeah go brewer's brewer's one last night yeah okay have a good one

00:46:47.580 all right see you

00:46:53.820 oh thor is back

00:46:57.100 sorry about that i looked like my obs was what was taking it down so i had to reboot

00:47:01.100 oh i think it might have been on our end oh okay yeah um thank you for calling in thor thor's got

00:47:09.600 a youtube channel do you want to plug it before you give your answer yeah it's just rp4 check it

00:47:14.860 out on youtube we're good to go um so what are some ways that you have felt disrespected in a

00:47:20.680 relationship that your significant other may or may not have been aware of sure i qualify it

00:47:28.820 doesn't happen anymore, but for sure, it's undermining your confidence, and it's done

00:47:38.540 in several ways, usually passively, aggressively, not appreciating your work, or the worst case

00:47:44.620 is showing contempt in public, where somebody's actually criticizing you for being a man

00:47:50.000 in public. One of the worst things that I can think of that's very, very prevalent right now

00:47:55.720 is when a man in fact anybody not just a woman but it's a sign of disrespect and a lack of care

00:48:03.200 for you and what you think and that's to interrupt you when you're speaking making a point not when

00:48:08.600 you've made a break so that they can get in it's that you're speaking and making a point and it's

00:48:13.240 no I want to say this and they jump right in but one's doing that to you that's definitely very

00:48:17.900 disrespectful. And not accepting your place as somebody that has a valid opinion and is trying

00:48:26.520 to say something. I'm not talking about arguing. I'm talking about, you know, being in public and

00:48:30.760 arguing. Or she will correct your language. That's one of the worst. I've seen this so many 0.96

00:48:36.240 times at public events when someone's lecturing and it's an open environment, say tables are set

00:48:40.820 up, more of a black tie event, and a man is quite successful and he's being asked to say something

00:48:46.320 and he might say something that's not quite correct in the English and she'll correct him

00:48:53.360 as if he is a little bully. To me, that's highly disrespectful. And, um, those are some of the

00:48:59.540 things that I have experienced, but easy to correct. So you, you said that the woman corrects

00:49:06.600 the man when he can, can I have an example of what she would correct? Uh, sure. If he, 0.94

00:49:13.880 let's just let's just do it this way let's say he's recalling an event where all the cousins

00:49:20.780 were present and they had a star-shaped pinata the kids were using at a birthday party and she

00:49:27.300 goes no it wasn't star-shaped it was a donkey oh and how do you that important yeah help their

00:49:36.140 relationship you kind of can infer what's going on there and uh if you're experiencing that or

00:49:44.620 you're experiencing something like uh contempt whereas you might have a conversation with a

00:49:50.780 significant other whereas like you're commenting on how beautiful the sky is today it's so blue

00:49:56.540 and then they kind of quip back at you and say it's not really blue it actually has a touch on

00:50:02.300 magenta it's kind of gray there's something going on you're being disrespected for a reason

00:50:10.940 uh being late uh breaking promises there's a huge list of these things uh for sure most of

00:50:18.300 it's subtle when a woman disrespects you but uh you gotta pay attention to that uh making it making

00:50:24.380 decisions that affect both of you particularly revolves around finances you wouldn't do it

00:50:30.940 it without i mean that can really be destructive you know um and it happens so those are some of

00:50:39.020 the things how do you sorry yeah go ahead how do you how do you tell men to correct them

00:50:47.660 okay uh uh comp compassionate compliance conditioning let's say so i mean you're

00:50:59.500 going to encourage good behavior with things she likes compliments and in bad behavior going to use

00:51:08.380 your withdrawal of time attention affection and even your physical presence

00:51:16.940 because tension is coin of the realm and if things aren't going well it's an easy way to get

00:51:22.460 her attention and then you can have a conversation yeah don't let's not do that in public anymore 1.00

00:51:26.700 You know, I need a cheerleader. I don't need a heckler. I have not actually had a heckler as a significant other. Let me qualify that. I've always had a cheerleader. And when I did get to the point where there was a heckler, they weren't a significant other anymore. 1.00

00:51:45.520 right or if you or if you lay down some i'll be talking about somebody else when i say that but

00:51:51.760 if you laid down some pretty hard and fast rules that you really don't want them to break and it

00:51:55.840 would hurt your feelings and they do then you got to get a little harsher you know oh and by harsher

00:52:03.920 you mean withdrawing more or do you mean raising your voice no no no just yeah absolutely remove

00:52:09.680 the presents and we're not going to work anymore. An example would be a friend who had an ex-gal

00:52:16.720 that felt birthdays were really important and it was an ex situation but also was a family

00:52:24.320 situation where he had a birthday and there was going to be a birthday celebration and the ex

00:52:30.000 really liked birthdays and wanted to show up and be surprised and surprised. The rules were already

00:52:34.720 said, we're not going to do that. Do not do that. But they still talked on the phone, which was

00:52:39.880 probably his mistake. She showed up unannounced before everybody showed up with this extravagant

00:52:46.460 gift set to try to get to the birthday. And yeah, that didn't go well because

00:52:53.700 some of the family members didn't like her. It caused more grief. And here's the thing,

00:52:58.840 she knew about it. So that was kind of disrespectful too. I think that approach would

00:53:02.600 been better not done in the public environment. It seems like when the disrespect comes publicly,

00:53:10.920 it's pretty hurtful to the guys for sure. They won't show it, but they're going to get pissed.

00:53:17.240 And yeah, that's what happened. You pack up that car and you get the F out. You're nuts. This did

00:53:23.640 not work. And so that's one example of the public criticism controlling behavior. I mean, if it's a

00:53:31.640 live in and you start getting the nagging take your shoes off before you come in you got dirt

00:53:36.120 that's a reasonable ask but to start nagging like don't leave your shoelaces outside the inside of

00:53:43.240 your boots tuck them in every time really you know it may lead to that to other types of nagging

00:53:50.120 you went to the store and you bought vitamin d milk and i wanted low fat milk i'm sorry i won't

00:53:54.840 do it again just continuous nagging maybe that wasn't the best example but um you know i don't

00:54:00.600 like you driving faster than 35 miles an hour in a 35 mile an hour zone i know i'm doing 39 sorry

00:54:08.360 there are relationships like that and it's funny some people that's just how they do it but i think

00:54:14.120 they do it because they're in the habit but i've seen it in front of other people some of these

00:54:19.000 things are always announced i think that's the worst you should be putting on your best face

00:54:25.480 always but if you're out in public that's your significant other shouldn't you be cheerleading

00:54:33.400 yeah you see the white knights do it all the time in fact they over cheerlead that's actually a way

00:54:37.560 of disrespect i think that's disrespect too when they over cheerlead what do you mean yeah oh you

00:54:43.800 look so pretty let me do this for you and then just a garage of compliments how do you feel about

00:54:48.680 that when you've dated a guy for a month and he starts doing that he probably starts overdoing

00:54:53.640 and text constantly call send stuff you know yeah because they're not trying to get to know you

00:55:00.020 it's just like anyone will do because they're so you know they're they're too much too soon

00:55:06.560 covert contracts right yeah at least on the guy's side yeah uh another one i can think of was

00:55:15.160 it's just that

00:55:16.800 the correcting is really bad

00:55:21.700 but you know controlling behavior

00:55:23.440 where everything has to be in her

00:55:25.760 control or she's angry

00:55:27.120 if you're not

00:55:29.960 making her satisfaction

00:55:32.140 the point of the relationship

00:55:33.780 then you're doing something wrong

00:55:35.040 that's a way to disrespect as well

00:55:37.280 yeah

00:55:39.760 some of those are so good

00:55:41.360 the whole criticizing

00:55:44.940 in public's pretty bad you know i've seen it go to the point where a guy's getting award and she

00:55:49.900 says yeah he's getting this award but he didn't have to work that hard i've heard that jd jd vance's

00:55:55.740 wife had a backhanded compliment to him in her speech that she gave at the rnc that's the vice

00:56:03.340 president that's almost unforgivable in my book yeah that should never happen it tells a lot about

00:56:11.900 the relationship being more maybe politically pragmatic than the kind of relationship i would

00:56:18.700 want emotionally i think some men don't even do you think some men don't notice it or they just

00:56:25.660 accept it they accept it men are thirsty they don't want to give up something and it'll take

00:56:33.100 a lot of heat to keep it and that's our leverage actually yeah but um

00:56:41.900 yeah some men accept it as normal behavior normal female behavior i can tell you that right now oh

00:56:47.660 she's just always like that she's a little cranky or the guys will go i've watched this too and in 0.75

00:56:53.740 a way i think it's kind of disrespectful she'll do something like that at a public event or at

00:56:59.020 the swap meet she's saying you whatever and then he'll respond with it's just her time of the month

00:57:04.700 you know yeah i it's not and then she's pissed at him for saying something like that as a defense 1.00

00:57:12.140 and he pays for it later right um you girls always have ways to make us pay i think the 1.00

00:57:19.020 biggest way we control men is overreacting because men just want to make the problem go away

00:57:26.300 and so that's what i see like like it's something that we shouldn't overreact to

00:57:33.900 or because maybe we can't control our our emotions i don't know if you saw the video

00:57:37.740 earlier that i played but it was a guy on christmas and he just wanted to go watch

00:57:43.580 football with his brother on christmas and she made it a big deal why don't you want to spend

00:57:47.420 time with me or why don't you want to spend time with the children and then he's trying to soothe 0.91

00:57:55.580 her right and then she's getting what she wants because she's starting an argument over nothing

00:58:01.420 See, when I work with guys about conditioning, man, it sounds harsh, but when somebody offers criticism or they do the things we talked about and it becomes normal, you're essentially sanctioning that behavior for the future.

00:58:18.320 Yeah, you really are. And it can grow worse over years. Then it can lead to withholding of sex, which is important part of the bonding intimacy of any relationship. And then once that goes, more contempt comes in, it becomes more normalized, you know, and then you get the comedian saying that women can't live with them can't live with them.

00:58:42.220 and you've got the white knights running around saying happy wife happy life let's try to do more

00:58:50.100 for them but that's really never the solution to any of those slightly disrespectful things that

00:58:55.460 are allowed to go on you need to select a good wife and have a great life yeah and part of your

00:59:01.920 responsibility to do that is to pay attention to what's important to them too and if they if they

00:59:07.100 find themselves disrespecting you and making it a habit to get what they want some of that's on you

00:59:12.860 yeah on you yeah sometimes I see relationship dynamics and I just think why do you let her

00:59:22.900 walk all over you if you need why are you so afraid to tell your wife no and I know why there's

00:59:28.960 the court system and yeah I totally understand why but sometimes I just think is this worth

00:59:34.940 your self-respect i mean you know because sometimes the wife is so belittling to him

00:59:42.200 even in public it's very sad to see it is yeah it is i've watched a woman in one of the stores get

00:59:50.320 mad about some little treat or something not in the basket right and run around and hit him on

00:59:54.260 the back of the shoulder you know like a little kid you know here's this guy she's reaching up

01:00:00.880 maybe she was trying to reach the back of his head i don't know some kind of skit or something

01:00:07.560 but it is kind of it is i see it i see enough of it that i don't think it's super common

01:00:17.820 but it's out there and if you pay attention in the social environment club drinks maybe it's an

01:00:24.640 outing bowling alley you'll see a little bit of it a little bit of it and then you can tell if

01:00:31.520 they have a good relationship or not and one or two one one mistake of disrespect is not that bad

01:00:40.640 but if you couple it with you know disrespect overly critical or constant or overwhelming

01:00:47.600 chatter about his behavior or behavior from the past, not letting go of certain things, even

01:00:54.680 out in public, that's a real indicator of future problems that come, you know, or if someone is

01:01:02.140 overly shut down, if the woman is overly shut down and her body language, you've seen the body 1.00

01:01:07.280 language of disrespect, right? Have you seen the little girls that stomp their legs when they're 1.00

01:01:12.780 upset i've seen grown women do that or you know let me see you know the eye roll oh yeah 1.00

01:01:22.840 i mean i've seen gals that you've had on 1.00

01:01:26.700 you know the sigh yeah sure sure sure so those are kind of some of the physical

01:01:35.060 things too that you should pay attention to as a guy uh if that comes from your significant other

01:01:42.200 Like I say, somebody has to roll back on you, particularly if you've been together for any length of time.

01:01:49.020 I would say more than a year or two.

01:01:51.300 I mean, you need that much time to even work these things out, you know, and get past it.

01:01:56.400 Because you're going to make mistakes.

01:01:57.840 You're going to disrespect.

01:01:59.480 Hell, you might even butt up to the edge of loyalty in somebody's opinion.

01:02:03.040 And I'm not talking cheating or anything like that.

01:02:04.520 But that's how you learn about the other person, what their boundaries are and how you can make them appreciate you so much more than anybody else out there and make them think you're irreplaceable.

01:02:21.400 That gives you a tremendous amount of power to make the relationship better and make it last.

01:02:28.220 When somebody that can do that is leading the relationship. 1.00

01:02:32.840 and i'll go so far as to say i know it's not normal but i've seen women lead relationships 1.00

01:02:38.380 well because the guy just has too much of that feminine thing and the gal has too much masculine 0.98

01:02:43.980 thing and it does work but it's very much the exception yeah i've seen it i've seen it work 0.65

01:02:49.620 from time to time and it's the only solution i see for those couples because they're both

01:02:54.760 to one way or the other yeah yeah it's usually yeah yeah well thank you for calling in thor i

01:03:03.160 appreciate your insights um you you want to shout out your channel one more time oh sure it's rp

01:03:11.240 thor and then if you guys want that you can see um over here is my book a dominant masculine

01:03:17.880 presence. And in some ways, it's a response and a solution to the boy crisis that William Farrell

01:03:25.400 have put out, actually put this book out before, but it fits perfectly in the solutions there

01:03:29.140 versus what they're recommending for men to become extremely emotionally vulnerable. It's another way

01:03:36.360 that's more conventional. Those of you would say traditional, I would not. I would say conventional

01:03:41.620 because conventional crosses all cultures and boundaries, whereas traditional might be isolated

01:03:46.700 do certain group or a culture across the world so it's more conventional masculinity described

01:03:52.780 how to obtain those skills so i appreciate that rp thor youtube

01:03:56.940 oh it was nice seeing you girl yeah good seeing you thor yeah thank you

01:04:05.020 okay and i'll put on the next caller

01:04:11.420 hello

01:04:11.820 hello hello i can't hear you

01:04:18.300 oh there it is i'm you there you are hi where are you calling from

01:04:27.700 hi pearl um currently colorado somewhere um i got there on i-70 oh okay and are you married

01:04:37.300 dating single dating um soon to get married um if i don't like choke her out first love the woman 1.00

01:04:45.600 but she drives me crazy you know find the credit you can deal with and marry that so are you're

01:04:51.520 engaged then yes okay um so what are some ways that you have felt disrespected in a relationship

01:05:00.200 that your significant other

01:05:01.840 may not have been aware of?

01:05:06.200 Oh, so thinking back

01:05:07.660 on previous relationships,

01:05:09.500 one of the biggest ones

01:05:10.600 that kind of became a final sprawl

01:05:12.060 was just the lack of gratitude.

01:05:14.200 Like they forget that

01:05:16.360 people will do things for them

01:05:19.120 without really,

01:05:23.460 you know, they're doing things

01:05:25.280 and they just forget that

01:05:26.980 they thank you for it.

01:05:28.240 It's simple.

01:05:29.680 No one owes anybody anything.

01:05:31.120 And so when somebody's doing you a favor, whether it's getting you ketchup packets out of the bin or, you know, bringing you your lunch, making you lunch, whatnot, men have a greater tendency to say thank you and appreciative of the things that others do for them.

01:05:47.900 And I think a lot of women just forget to say thank you because everything is always handed to them.

01:05:53.120 Because if one man won't hand it to them, another man will.

01:05:55.760 and you said that was the final straw in your last relationship

01:06:01.380 uh well no not my last relationship a couple relationship parts but it was a very long

01:06:07.100 lasting relationship and it was it was the final straw because even trying to explain it it was

01:06:12.240 like oh really you say thank you every time someone does something like yes every time because

01:06:17.940 because no one owes me anything what were you doing that she wasn't saying thank you for was

01:06:25.100 it the lunches is that what you're talking about well no they i was always expected to be grateful

01:06:31.220 and you know she even recognized because you know the uh children her well my stepchildren 0.82

01:06:36.280 her children you know they'd always bitch and complain about the meals because they want it 0.98

01:06:40.480 their way i don't bitch and complain i'm grateful for the fact that she's cooking me a meal all the 0.99

01:06:46.560 time he recognizes that but when the favor gets turned around that i'm doing the favors for her 0.73

01:06:52.360 it's like, man, well, you know, I'm supposed to be doing it, but I'm not supposed to be doing

01:06:58.580 anything. It's a favor. You could have just got your ass up and got your own food or ketchup

01:07:04.200 packets or whatever it was. It was a while back, but it's just, it's the gratitude thing that I 0.97

01:07:10.780 guess sticks, you know? So a lack of gratitude is a way that you have felt disrespected.

01:07:19.360 absolutely because then you're no longer a person you're just a tool you're a thing yeah

01:07:27.120 and what human wants to be felt like that you know yeah yeah that makes perfect sense

01:07:34.640 thank you for calling in thank you pearl appreciate you keep doing your thing thank you

01:07:49.360 hello england right hello hello hello england right yeah man

01:08:10.560 sunny old england so what are some ways you have felt disrespected in a relationship

01:08:19.360 um do you reckon that women sometimes will sort of degrade a relationship that they're in

01:08:27.360 to justify their behavior so say if they're caught cheating 0.96

01:08:35.040 like they'll downgrade a relationship to a situationship so we weren't really seeing each

01:08:42.080 other just to sort of make themselves not look like the villain you know so you've dated you

01:08:54.080 were in a relationship with a woman or so you thought and then she said you were just dating

01:09:03.840 uh deluded male that i was you know but like um we'd been together for about three months you

01:09:09.920 you know, sleeping in the same bed.

01:09:11.560 I hadn't, you know, gone the journey,

01:09:13.120 but we were young, you know,

01:09:16.320 like it was my first flat and like...

01:09:19.900 Anyway, so we're three months in.

01:09:22.760 Great, great chemistry,

01:09:24.800 great relationship and that, you know.

01:09:26.900 And all of a sudden I hear

01:09:30.400 that she's got off with my ex

01:09:32.100 at a nightclub in Newcastle.

01:09:35.920 And so I eventually call her

01:09:38.480 when to find out what exactly happened and she says um yeah well everyone else had gotten off

01:09:47.760 i decided to see what it was like

01:09:53.440 and i was like oh i didn't know

01:09:59.680 yeah so like then she comes back at me with well we weren't really seeing each other like

01:10:06.400 weren't like you didn't ever ask me out i was like ah so we're there

01:10:14.640 um so like yeah i just called time at that point there wasn't much else to say i thought anyway

01:10:23.360 yeah that makes yeah that that makes sense you can't date her after that

01:10:28.640 no she wrote me a really nice letter on that afterwards but like yeah

01:10:38.240 well thank you very much for sharing

01:10:40.800 always man have a good day one yeah you too

01:10:45.920 okay

01:10:49.280 um hello

01:10:52.960 Hello? I can't hear you. Oh, now I can. Hi, where are you calling? Yeah, I can. Where

01:11:03.240 are you calling from? I'm calling from Maryland. And what are some ways women have disrespected

01:11:10.220 you in a relationship? Well, for number one, I would say they get into arguments with restaurant 1.00

01:11:18.560 staff i don't know if that's been other men's experience but that's happened to me more than

01:11:24.180 i thought it would they argue with the waiter well they argue with the hostess sometimes

01:11:30.540 because you know we gotta wait and i'm like well waiting's a part of the restaurant experience

01:11:36.040 we can't always go somewhere and you know um get seated right away you know what i mean yeah

01:11:44.300 um and i would say another thing would be being on their phone while we're out somewhere

01:11:51.160 that is really a big pet peeve of mine um and i had a third one i was i was coming up with a list

01:11:58.800 while i was waiting oh helping them out and you barely get a thanks i mean you go out of your way

01:12:04.980 to do something and it's just like you get like i think the last caller said it you like they

01:12:11.300 expect you to do it and you just don't like feel enough appreciation for that

01:12:16.580 and then another one uh if you have a what i would consider a minor disagreement or conflict

01:12:23.860 and you don't want to um kind of like you know agree with them or you know like if you're if

01:12:32.180 you're firm if you're firmly in disagreement and all of a sudden they they throw a temper tantrum

01:12:37.460 And you're just like, what is going on? Like that's happened in the past. And I'm just like, do these, I mean, is this how my, my grandmother, our grandparents were? Is this how, you know what I mean? Like, is this how the past generations were? I don't know. I just can't see men putting up with that stuff. And I know, I don't know.

01:12:58.160 What were they overreacting about?

01:13:00.300 Can I have a specific example of an argument?

01:13:03.260 Oh, man.

01:13:04.420 You know, it's been such a long time that I wish I could think of it.

01:13:09.780 I mean, well, actually, I can.

01:13:14.220 I thought, so, I don't know.

01:13:16.900 I'll just say this.

01:13:17.920 We were about to get intimate, and she said something disrespectful,

01:13:23.100 and I'm like, I kind of, I was joking, and I said,

01:13:25.780 oh I don't feel like I don't feel like doing anything now and I was it was it was like literally

01:13:30.600 gonna if she would have said oh okay that's fine like it was like a joke so a joke was

01:13:35.940 misinterpreted and then a tantrum started and it just I can't calm you know I couldn't calm her

01:13:41.320 down yeah I I just and and like you just feel disrespected in the moment and you just you're

01:13:49.740 like am i dating a three-year-old you know what i mean like this is it's like pearl help me help

01:13:59.300 me i can't you gotta figure out where do i find where do i find the normal women not not where i

01:14:05.580 live they're there but yeah i don't know good luck thank you so much for um for making the videos

01:14:12.900 that you do and uh i wish that youtube wasn't suppressing men's men's interests because

01:14:19.540 that's disrespectful what youtube and what youtube's doing is disrespectful to your channel

01:14:24.980 yeah so thank you thank you well go to the audacity network.com guys sign up

01:14:31.780 absolutely thank you thank you very much thank you for sharing you too

01:14:35.460 uh they said pearl might have lied there's no promises in the good women out there erin

01:14:45.020 i mean i didn't promise it okay i just said i'm sure some exist right there's got to be one in

01:14:54.400 your town right um hello

01:14:58.920 right yes hi um hello hi i need you to turn off the sound in the background i hear myself

01:15:08.720 um okay so what is a way that you have felt disrespected by your significant other in a

01:15:22.740 relationship yes um hi hi peril hi um it's finally nice meeting you yeah nice to meet you this is

01:15:35.000 like my first ever um yeah that's okay um so yeah the i think the the number one like most

01:15:42.040 important thing i believe um it comes down to their um like deprived like they're depriving

01:15:49.580 you from emotional love and while uh acting and behaving like they are um they're in charge

01:15:59.820 can i have a specific example maybe that's happened to you i'm sorry i'm a little bit of 0.58

01:16:09.700 um i'm not a public speaker you're okay but so uh my point was that um so a lot of girls uh you 0.98

01:16:18.440 can't generalize them. I don't think you can generalize women. I see you doing that a lot 1.00

01:16:25.420 on your videos. It's brave. And I think you're like one of the only women that really truly

01:16:34.180 stand out right now. So there are women who have a tough attitude just like men. And there 0.94

01:16:45.080 are women who, um, live, um, under, um, I mean, behind the closed doors who are like 1.00

01:16:53.360 being a housewife. We still have traditional women. And then there are also women, I mean, 1.00

01:17:00.800 young girls who are growing up and, uh, and, uh, with the modern, uh, influence of the internet

01:17:08.480 and everything. So what, what are, what are the ways that you felt disrespected in a relationship?

01:17:13.700 uh personally right right now i am in a relationship and i am not disrespected

01:17:22.940 uh but previously i had um a share i i was i had uh experiences uh with girls before that pushed

01:17:34.640 me to my limits where i had i couldn't take it anymore maybe something told me to like

01:17:41.600 keep leaving them because that um there was a lot of like i think belittlement of you

01:17:50.980 and when that happens the heart of a man tries to like do justice for himself not for her not

01:18:00.720 for the world and slowly it's just i think that's where we all

01:18:06.200 going towards but my the most disrespect i had was basically that 1.00

01:18:12.640 lack of emotional attention from a woman 1.00

01:18:17.840 um that's it that's my my most important uh take i mean answer how would she do that can i have a

01:18:28.680 specific example um so i grew up maybe i'll be very like open i grew up without my mom being

01:18:39.860 beside me when i was little so maybe that had a lot to do with the way i behaved later in my life

01:18:46.660 but once i got in the relationships girls noticed me when i whenever i showed a little bit of um

01:18:55.800 confidence a little bit of uh belief in myself and every time i got into relationship was because

01:19:04.080 of those reasons uh i could not get in a relationship when i was feeling depressed or

01:19:10.300 insecure or low selfish i mean yeah it was impossible to be with a woman or girl even

01:19:18.500 though like i feel like a lot of women are well aware of the mental state of men they would still

01:19:26.740 not give a try because they're true they're they're uh what they want is uh obviously

01:19:34.700 a man who uh is a little bit more confident in himself

01:19:39.780 okay well thank you very much for calling in and sharing okay thank you so much for

01:19:48.220 Thank you for having me. I appreciate you. I love you. Bye-bye.

01:20:09.220 Hello, sir.

01:20:11.220 Hello, ma'am. How are you?

01:20:13.220 I'm good. How are you?

01:20:16.220 I am doing all right. Where are you calling out? My name is Kelton Huber and I'm from Utah.

01:20:24.900 Oh, Utah. Okay. So what is a way that you have been disrespected in a relationship?

01:20:33.360 So I actually brought my Bible to the day and I've been thinking about how I was going to say

01:20:39.620 this when you answered so if if it's okay i was going to read what my my opinion and then 0.97

01:20:46.160 describe how women don't do that and why that's disrespectful that's fine so i guess i'll just go

01:20:54.640 to peter chapter 3 and it says likewise ye wives be in subject to your own husbands that if any

01:21:06.360 obey not the word they also may without the the word be won by conversation of the wives

01:21:15.380 while they behold your chest conversation coupled with fear whose adorning let it not be the that

01:21:25.020 outward adorning of plating the hair and of wearing gold or of putting on apparel but let

01:21:33.200 it be hidden in let it be the hidden man's of heart man of heart in that which is not corruptible

01:21:41.840 even the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit which is in the sight of god of great great peace

01:21:49.640 for after this manner in the old time the holy women also who trusted in god adorned themselves

01:21:56.100 being in subjection unto their own husbands and so i guess by that i just mean i i watch 0.89

01:22:04.460 women make decisions uh either by themselves or run the relationship and not allow for a male 0.97

01:22:12.640 opinion or judgment or action and that is causing a huge uh disconnection and

01:22:23.860 um men are supposed to be the leaders and when we can't lead and protect it just

01:22:32.000 makes us feel or it makes us worthless in the relationship so i just feel like they should do

01:22:42.160 as said and that chapter also talks about what men should do also so it's not a one-sided chapter but

01:22:48.300 can i have an example of how something specific that maybe happened to you in a relationship

01:22:55.500 and how a woman maybe did that yes so um for example one girl wanted to get a tattoo that

01:23:04.700 matched one of her best friends her childhood friends and i told her not to do that because

01:23:10.220 their friendship was off and on and they just seemed very argumentative to each other and it

01:23:17.640 just didn't seem like it was going to end well.

01:23:21.500 She'd have a tattoo that she didn't want

01:23:23.760 for the rest of her life after a month. 0.99

01:23:25.660 And that actually ended up causing the relationship 0.83

01:23:29.900 to end there.

01:23:31.360 And so if you can't say no and keep the relationship,

01:23:38.340 was it ever a relationship in the beginning?

01:23:44.000 But thank you so much for having me.

01:23:46.100 Thank you for sharing.

01:23:48.120 No problem.

01:23:49.160 Have a good day.

01:23:49.880 You too.

01:23:51.660 So I think it's important to hear from men about from their perspective, what broke down

01:24:00.340 a relationship as women, because a lot of times men are silent and they do disqualify

01:24:07.240 us for reasons and they may not tell us.

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Pearl - October 03, 2024

How Some Modern Women DISRESPECT Their Men IN RELATIONSHIPS! ｜ Pearl Daily

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