Pearl - How The Fittness Industry Keeps Women Broke and Fat with Amanda Dobler

00:00:00.000 what is up guys welcome to another episode of pearl daily here on the audacity network

00:00:08.800 how's it going you know

00:00:11.560 how's it going thanks for thanks for being here everybody um guys guess what i did stand up

00:00:22.000 yesterday i did it i got over my fear of stage fright and i did it i was very excited

00:00:28.080 i was i was very excited to um do stand-up so it was pretty pretty exciting so um today we

00:00:38.680 actually have a special guest on the channel i've been watching her stuff forever i don't see

00:00:42.740 base women often it's like kind of rare you know what i mean um and i i've been watching this girl 1.00

00:00:49.300 on instagram who's actually given me a ton of like tips that i've used over the years her name

00:00:53.560 amanda dobler um and she's she basically helped most women lose the last 20 pounds um so i decided 0.96

00:01:04.360 i was going to bring her on and she could kind of tell her story and um yeah we could say hi

00:01:08.680 welcome to the show amanda how are you i'm good how are you i am so good excited to be here

00:01:17.480 um did i say your last name right i was saying yes well i'm married now i have to change it it

00:01:24.200 should be done with you but i have not done that over the past year and a half but yes

00:01:29.160 so um how long have you been a fat loss coach and could you tell them what you were telling

00:01:33.080 me about how you got into helping women lose weight yeah totally so i've been coaching for

00:01:38.520 the past seven years um and i started coaching after going through my own little weight loss

00:01:44.120 shorty. I was like, I always say I was never obese. I was never that overweight given like

00:01:49.300 the American standard, I would say, but I was 20 pounds heavier. I was 20 pounds heavier. I was

00:01:55.280 breaking out. I was like binge eating, yo-yo dieting, just like everything, every type of

00:02:00.940 like bad thing that you could do, I was doing. And so, um, anyway, I realized enough was enough.

00:02:06.780 And I started focusing on my habits, my behavior, like the really boring things that people don't

00:02:11.080 actually like doing to lose weight and then i lost the weight and i've kept it off and like that's

00:02:15.640 what i hope my clients do just like get rid of the fluff get well the fluff on your body but

00:02:19.720 the fluff with like all of the info that's out there and just cut through the bs and lose the

00:02:24.600 weight and change your life as you know yeah and so could you tell me what were some of the things

00:02:29.720 that kept you overweight and what are some of the things you like the trends you see in american

00:02:33.720 women um yeah and i'd also like to say why is it when you're chubby we can't just admit we're fat

00:02:41.080 fat is a bad word i've been banned a few times for using that word on some platforms so i don't know

00:02:47.320 maybe one day they'll accept it but what kept me overweight i mean there's so much that goes into

00:02:52.600 like the best food the best diet the best supplement the best all of that it's yeah it's

00:02:57.640 the fact that i would not eat sandwiches because sandwiches i thought would make me fat because

00:03:02.200 bread is bad right but then when i would eat the sandwiches i would binge it which is a crazy thing

00:03:07.000 to binge i would do that with cereal with granola with like chips with anything bad and so as i said

00:03:12.520 like it's your behavior so what kept me overweight and again 20 pounds overweight i'm five foot seven

00:03:17.560 i was 145 pounds like no one considers that overweight because people love talking about

00:03:21.560 numbers but i just was uncomfortable i was pudgier i didn't look as good and so just the fact that

00:03:27.240 hey i'm going to restrict this food but then every time i eat it i'm going to eat 50 sandwiches at

00:03:31.800 a time like that's not good and so having to fix that habit um learn how to eat the food like a

00:03:38.040 normal person and drop the weight was key and so like with people in america with people all over

00:03:44.280 especially women they focus so much on removing the food like getting the food out of the house 1.00

00:03:51.160 not drinking right and i don't care about drinking but like not doing the things that they want to do

00:03:55.640 and then they lose the weight but then how do we actually bring that back into your life and still

00:04:00.680 keep the weight off you don't that's why you always regain it and i was telling you i i think

00:04:06.760 bat loss coaches have to be able to keep it off for a certain amount of time because so many just

00:04:12.040 like they're working out half the day of course you're gonna be of course you're gonna be fit if

00:04:16.920 you dedicate four hours a day like yeah you know working on a day also like what not what sets me

00:04:24.280 apart but like i travel i go out to eat i drink like i'm not glued to well i am glued to my phone

00:04:30.280 but i haven't opened up my fitness pal in years i don't track calories i don't pay attention to that

00:04:34.200 it's literally just being able to not just lose the weight but keep it off with like living a

00:04:38.760 normal life and like everyone has their own life with how they do things but like that's my focus

00:04:44.120 it's a lifestyle not just hey dieting with this so from my experience and i do tick tock reactions

00:04:52.360 a lot so i react to the what i eat in a days like all the time and i want to see if my observations

00:04:58.280 are similar to yours yeah um it seems like it's liquid calories and condiments that keep women fat 1.00

00:05:05.400 in particular starbucks yeah friends have you noticed well with well first my my take with like

00:05:13.880 what i eat in a day no one tells the full story at all like i think that the videos are pointless

00:05:20.040 i i don't know that's so true that's the point your social media you're curating the best of

00:05:27.080 of the best and so when I see and like I get sucked into watching them too like they can be

00:05:31.920 like fun to see but it tells you nothing people save that and they're like oh this girl is thin 1.00

00:05:36.880 let me follow her what I eat in a day no you have a million of those saved that doesn't tell you

00:05:41.640 anything and it does not tell the full picture there are so many people who like eat that on

00:05:46.320 camera and then they're like binging behind the scenes so the what I eat in a day is it's like

00:05:50.560 yeah let's make the most beautiful plate which just is not the thing but in terms of oh I react

00:05:55.420 to it from fat women actually well that's that is uh i can see why and i'm like yeah of course 0.84

00:06:03.980 you're overweight of course of course you're eating you're having a thousand calories before 0.97

00:06:08.820 the sun comes up in your starbucks order or donkey donuts order like that's no that's no

00:06:14.280 good like whenever i walk into the we have a starbucks near us um and see people's orders of

00:06:20.440 like and i don't care but like when there's so much crap on top of it i'm guessing that the

00:06:24.860 person grabbing that drink is overweight not trying to be mean but like you just you don't

00:06:28.840 need that it's thousands of calories that go into something you're sipping that like you don't even

00:06:33.140 get full from you just get it doesn't it doesn't do anything for you so the trends with that I

00:06:40.260 don't know people are so on top of like eating air now and not really having anything and so

00:06:45.660 I think that there's a I mean I don't know my take with like coffee drinks is

00:06:50.000 do you really need to spend 400 calories on the coffee drink I think you mentioned that like you

00:06:54.320 you used to right i would have two a day i would have two caramel lattes 40 grams of sugar each

00:07:01.760 yeah like i think 250 to 300 calories that's a meal that's that's a lot yeah it's a meal that

00:07:08.720 feels like air and in my head i was like i just had two coffees yeah no it does wonders um and

00:07:16.640 not in a good way at all like that's and when people are like oh i'll have a i'll have a little

00:07:21.520 treat with my coffee it's like is coffee that much of a treat for you it doesn't have to be

00:07:26.800 well and it's so frustrating because everyone tells you you're not fat like everybody when

00:07:30.800 you say i'm trying to lose weight because i was always athletic fat like i could i could run a

00:07:34.880 marathon i could do semi-professional sports i was athletic fat so i was like a little over i ate too

00:07:40.720 much but i was athletic yeah um everyone would tell me i wasn't fat i'm like well i feel fat

00:07:46.560 like this is fat people habits you know but for everyone around you is that like family

00:07:51.520 well i'm guessing family friends like those closest yeah yeah because um i don't and tall

00:07:58.160 so i feel like when you're tall like it spreads more i don't know maybe that i mean you have more

00:08:02.880 room like for right it's not when you're petite like yeah i mean fat is fat doesn't matter if

00:08:09.920 you're what what percent body fat do you try to get women to like um the thing is people

00:08:16.240 people ask me this all the time and i i i don't even know my own body fat percentage like i would

00:08:22.600 say i don't know like when you're a woman still you need you need body fat like if you are if you 0.99

00:08:28.120 were a six pack my goal is never a six pack like you're probably losing your period there's probably

00:08:33.720 some other like for any woman who's like really really ripped that takes so much dedication i

00:08:39.500 don't want that so for my clients too i'm like that's that's not the goal the goal is to look

00:08:45.200 lean, feel lean, put on a bathing suit, feel good, be able to go for drinks, have the food,

00:08:50.280 live your life. If you're like, I want to become a bodybuilder and become like my leanest self

00:08:53.480 and compete in bikini competitions, I will send you on your way to another coach because that's 1.00

00:08:58.060 not my arena. And like, I don't think I'll ever get into that, but any, anything is possible.

00:09:04.200 So, so what's like your step one when you have a client come on?

00:09:08.400 Yeah. It's interesting because for, um, and, and when you lost weight, right, it was more

00:09:14.080 than just not just because 20 pounds is a lot but like you had more weight to lose when you were

00:09:18.820 going through this right I see I think 40 pounds total yeah yeah which is which isn't that far off

00:09:25.200 but my my first step like I like using calories in the beginning just like seeing how much you're

00:09:31.620 consuming and most people they have a little bit of a reaction they're like well I've tried calorie

00:09:34.760 counting calorie counting doesn't work for me and I'm like that's like saying that going to the gym

00:09:38.960 doesn't work for you because you have to do it the right way like you can have access to it you can

00:09:43.500 open up my fitness pal every day but if you're half-assing it or you eat something that you feel

00:09:48.220 bad and guilty about then like of course it's not going to work but i like to view calories over the

00:09:53.620 course of a week because if you if a coach gives someone and so many coaches do this they give

00:09:58.960 someone just a calorie amount for the day you can't stick to that like you you will be more

00:10:04.220 hungry sometimes you will overeat and so learning i say learning how to budget your calories like

00:10:08.920 budget your finances like it's not like learning the consequences too when you overeat then we do

00:10:15.240 have to not take that away but just like level set to show well it's being smarter about when

00:10:21.000 you're going to spend it what you're going to spend right exactly if you're opening up your

00:10:25.160 pantry every night and staring at it and you're like i really have to stop eating and then you

00:10:30.200 have dinners out you have drinks out the opening up the pantry that's going to get old that's not

00:10:34.680 going to be worth it so it's really you know looking at the calories seeing how much they're

00:10:38.760 consuming like going through i like doing food audits to like pick out exactly what we need to

00:10:43.000 change because if you just hand someone a meal plan that doesn't tell them anything but when you

00:10:47.720 are able to go into like what exactly they're eating and say here's what i would change

00:10:51.800 give dinner out tomorrow night so here's how we can make the room for that that's my first step

00:10:56.280 so really just like teaching how to make better better decisions around food and you also don't

00:11:02.760 know what foods they hate like we're supposed to eat foods that they like i hate ground beef i know

00:11:09.080 that's something people always like what all the fitness coaches but it's like i'd prefer salmon or

00:11:14.360 chicken to ground b i just don't want you know and it's like it's going to be different for each

00:11:18.120 person and it's going to be torture if you're just doing a like so what someone else wants to

00:11:22.600 eat you know what i mean no exactly that's why when i my first year in coaching sure i did meal

00:11:28.120 plans i like had three different templates of vegan uh presbyterian whatever and like would

00:11:34.680 send to people and be like hey follow this that's a bad coach a coach who does that doesn't know

00:11:38.840 anything someone because everyone has different preferences likes dislikes there's no right or

00:11:44.600 wrong to it it's just knowing what you seeing what someone likes and then just adjusting it

00:11:49.400 if i have a client who's like i hate i don't have money on this like i hate vegetables i hate all 0.79

00:11:53.640 fruits i hate all proteins then it's like okay we do have to like a little bit find someone i don't

00:12:00.600 want to like mommy you and be like no we should eat our veggies but i mean what are we doing but

00:12:05.160 i would say that most people like with the clients i work with it's not this huge overhaul of their

00:12:10.280 life the last bit of weight you're doing so much right already that it's like what exactly do i

00:12:14.840 have to change with what i'm eating and also knowing a big one healthy does not mean losing

00:12:20.920 weight like i eat so healthy but i can't lose weight it's like no you're overeating still

00:12:28.520 when you have clients because you said you still go out and like drink and stuff what do you tell

00:12:33.960 them to do because actually that's what i've had the hardest time with is restaurants i feel like

00:12:38.280 i i have not found a way to do restaurants i'm curious what you said yeah restaurants are hard

00:12:44.600 like and i used to be in the food industry like i if you tell a chef to be like okay

00:12:50.920 go light on the butter they don't care unless you are like deathly allergic to someone to something

00:12:55.740 will they accommodate you if if you have those intolerances sure but like saying go light on

00:13:01.380 the butter and you're in a busy restaurant it's going to be hard so it's going into it knowing

00:13:05.920 that it's going to be more calories like regardless and just knowing how to read a menu

00:13:10.860 and like not my big thing is not every meal has to be the best meal ever so just because you're

00:13:16.760 dining out if you are someone who goes out a lot then yeah you're gonna have to probably

00:13:22.220 pull things in but a big part of that too is your mindset because if you have the mindset of

00:13:28.340 oh I'm I deserve to get the most delicious thing on the menu because I'm spending money and because

00:13:33.920 I'm out to out to dinner and I'm not cooking it and that's your mindset and you got a bunch then

00:13:39.180 like you're gonna have some issues and so it's I've noticed it's the bread I'm like you can't

00:13:44.420 eat the bread if you order a carb with it i don't know maybe you found a way to i can't eat the

00:13:48.540 bread it's like i always go over if i get the bread you start eating it and you're like i can't

00:13:54.100 stop eating it or you just have one piece and you're like that's no if it's an i can't if it's

00:13:59.220 if it's one then i'll keep going i'd rather just not yeah i'm that way too if it's really good

00:14:04.560 bread i'll have it but like it's just being honest with the fact that giving yourself more room for

00:14:10.060 it like knowing in advance that not that you have to be anal about everything but it is helpful to

00:14:15.420 have a bit of a plan where it's like if you if you want to if you know what you're getting if you know

00:14:20.620 you're gonna have drinks too then like do we need the bread maybe not maybe we just don't have it

00:14:27.100 but like the bread isn't gonna make or break it but if your reaction to every time is like let

00:14:31.580 me eat the entire things i'm like yeah i want to get that under control what industries do you

00:14:37.820 think are the fattest for women oh like like what lifestyle like i don't know if you i'm just

00:14:45.420 curious if you've seen like women in a certain industry or that live in a certain area that 0.99

00:14:50.780 tend to be fatter yeah i'm thinking with my place it's not fatter in the sense that they have so much

00:14:59.740 weight to lose and i can't answer it that way but

00:15:01.900 But the harder areas are like women who work in finance, women who are traveling a bunch, 1.00

00:15:08.480 who are on the go, like women who are, I work with a lot of women who have a lot of client 0.51

00:15:12.000 dinners and they're with a bunch of guys all the time.

00:15:16.100 They feel pressured to not be the one who like gets the salad at dinner.

00:15:20.600 They feel like they have all these client dinners where they need to entertain and like

00:15:24.060 they have to drink because, you know, their client is drinking.

00:15:28.240 And so it's not that they have so much weight to lose, but they have the hardest time doing

00:15:31.880 it because it's not like they can just sit at home and be like okay here's my here's my little

00:15:37.560 salad and no drinks and so that's why with my coaching i'm like it's more lifestyle coaching

00:15:41.320 because you can get lean and like any environment but you just have to have a better strategy um

00:15:47.320 but in terms of like those who carry the most weight i don't know you can any person can carry

00:15:55.080 more weight than they want to do you think there's a difference

00:15:58.440 no i think it's more age like i think most women get fat after college like during and after right 1.00

00:16:06.340 in college yeah for sure yeah for me i blew up right after because i played sports so i could

00:16:12.420 work out like i could i was the person that could work out half the day and then i turned 21 22 i'm

00:16:17.220 not an athlete anymore i just blew up but you're still an athlete yeah it was so fast it was like

00:16:23.140 six months like i couldn't even believe how quick i gained it that's what happens i have so many

00:16:28.020 clients who were like d1 i mean it doesn't matter be three athletes who practice a bunch or on the

00:16:34.340 move a bunch and then after college the weight came on and it's like then they get convinced

00:16:38.900 they're like that's my metabolism it's my age and it's like no or just you're doing things differently

00:16:43.540 than you were before what's your step two so you do the food audit what do you do next with your

00:16:48.340 clients yeah um i mean my biggest thing is like taking away all of the fluff of what you have to

00:16:57.140 do so it's really like being in a calorie deficit learning how to be in a calorie deficit and like

00:17:01.620 still eat the foods that you want to eat so that's that's a huge one the second step is just

00:17:05.540 continuing to stay consistent and when you say when people use the word consistent it's such a

00:17:10.820 vague word it's like consistent with what um but like consistent with with tracking with being

00:17:16.580 mindful of what they're eating with like approach with staying within their calories with like

00:17:21.220 getting in movement with drinking water like i focus on the basics because that's what you'll

00:17:26.180 have to do for the rest of your life like i mean there's a few phases learning your calories seeing

00:17:30.820 that you can fit in whatever you want um making the decision to not always eat whatever you want

00:17:35.460 because that food doesn't make you feel your best like with having 400 calories of starbucks every

00:17:39.860 day is that worth it right but coming to that decision on your own not just because of the

00:17:45.780 calories and then that's how you make it into i mean a huge thing i do is like your standards

00:17:50.340 your identity your mindset and like that takes time you need reps with that yeah because i don't

00:17:57.540 know but like once you start tracking your calories i did all these stupid diets and i'm 0.74

00:18:01.780 like why the hell did i do keto and like all this bull like i did carnivore i guess it's like it's 0.97

00:18:07.540 because you're lazy to count calories like i did i think you said you did a juice cleanse and i'm

00:18:11.780 like i'm just being lazy i want to like not count calories and just be able to do this diet but then

00:18:17.940 you start counting calories it's like why didn't i do this sooner like no wonder i'm fat you know

00:18:24.660 no that's why there's a stat i mean this is from years ago but i think they say that the average

00:18:29.860 american will do like 126 different diets in their lifetime or just like little little things and

00:18:36.180 that sounds like a lot but honestly i've done it's not like a new name for each diet but like i've

00:18:40.740 done so many juice cleanses in my past i've done um the low carb the keto all of that and all of

00:18:46.740 those things work in the sense of like you have rules that you follow you get some weight off

00:18:53.700 but then you start introducing everything back in and then you introduce the fat to come back on

00:18:58.580 because like yeah it's like you're at 1200 calorie like because my maintenance is around 1800 without

00:19:06.580 working out and so it's like you go to 1200 calories for three months and you can do it

00:19:12.420 for a few months but then eventually you're going to give up yeah no it's not if that's not what you

00:19:17.540 need that's not going to be sustainable at all now if you're a petite woman because people and 0.69

00:19:22.580 there's so much on social where it's like 1200 calories isn't even enough for a baby if you're

00:19:26.740 petite you probably you don't need as many calories like every person is different but 0.98

00:19:32.820 yeah it just every single person is different especially with your lifestyle too what um

00:19:39.300 um what got you kicked off of social media did you get banned somewhere tick tock i i mean i've

00:19:47.040 always been on instagram and then i started doing tick tock a couple years ago there's the whole

00:19:53.580 like skinny talk thing that came through um which i just posted a video about a video about myself

00:20:00.500 saying i oh my gosh what was it i don't know something that i things that i like about being

00:20:05.940 or i'm happier now that i'm skinnier or whatever and that kind of kicked it off um and for almost

00:20:11.940 a year tick tock was like fine with using skinny and fat and then they started banning things um

00:20:18.660 and so i've just i've been on that i've been on instagram but just like i've been before i started

00:20:24.100 doing this i had a meal prep business in the city that i was posting on instagram um and so i got

00:20:28.660 like a little following up like a huge one now but then i transitioned into coaching and use those

00:20:33.300 platforms so both both are good tick tock is like really really strict with words that you can or

00:20:37.620 can't use so i've been kicked off a few times really what did you say just because you said

00:20:42.260 you liked being skinny just literally using the word skinny that you can't they don't like that

00:20:47.940 um there's been many many other attacks by people um people just don't like those words

00:20:53.940 so it's getting kicked out of the creator fund not that i would ever really end that and then

00:20:58.180 i was kicked out of that three times now people message me they're like i have to search your name

00:21:02.900 and you won't even come up for me so there's a little bit of some shadow bands but that's fine

00:21:07.700 instagram has has its own issues at times but it's just crazy like what people can post and

00:21:14.180 then when it comes to this stuff they're very strict on it you know i got kicked off of tick

00:21:19.780 tock because yeah so i got into um i was like this girl kind of crashed out of me and she called me a

00:21:26.100 slag and i didn't know what that meant i know i didn't either but i knew i was being insulted i

00:21:31.380 moved i moved to london yeah it was like this drunk lady and she's like you have i'll have you 1.00

00:21:38.260 you slag like i don't know it was crazy but and i just said you're a whale like what are you talking 0.97

00:21:43.300 to me you're a whale you're fat and i was fat too i was kind of chubby too but she was fatter 0.99

00:21:50.820 then i'm like you can't you're like morbidly obese you can't say anything to me 0.97

00:21:54.660 and they banned me because of this even though she started she called me i'm like so i can be a 0.94

00:22:04.560 whore i can be that's what i mean foreign british i didn't know it at the time but i found out 0.98

00:22:09.500 and yeah and i'm like so you can call me a whore but i can't call you fat 0.98

00:22:13.720 true you're calling me an animal i should apologize to the whales in the sea 0.98

00:22:20.560 yeah seriously that's disgrace to them oh my god they're so strict yeah it's crazy no i i get a ton

00:22:29.020 of comment this one girl i take screenshots of them sometimes just because they're fun i used

00:22:34.080 to be like really reactive and now i'm like okay not even worth the time but when i first started

00:22:38.620 getting bigger on um tiktok this one girl commented and she goes i'd rather pour acid in my eyes than 0.98

00:22:45.200 listen to you and i was like can you try it and let me know how that goes don't come at me with

00:22:50.580 empty threats like you'll go for it like well it's like why are you here like why don't they just

00:22:56.620 go somewhere else what the i've only ever commented something sassy back to someone who says that to 0.98

00:23:03.080 me i've never once gone to someone's page and be like yep let me let me say something rude i just 0.95

00:23:08.980 like don't who does that there's so many women that are just like losers and they just want to 1.00

00:23:14.280 be fat forever and it's just like they'll make every excuse and it's like i've been there right 0.87

00:23:19.380 i understand yeah like why are you making this my problem well i get a ton about like just you

00:23:27.380 wait until you you're older just you wait until you go through just you wait till you have kids

00:23:31.500 and i'm like well the good news is i have several clients who are older than me a ton most of them

00:23:36.820 actually who have kids who look better than they did in high school so like their college whatever

00:23:42.260 so i don't know like sorry that that's happening with your life but like you don't have to give

00:23:45.540 up on yourself then you can change like so the the just you wait karens are like my the ones

00:23:51.940 that always come in and so i just want to respond back with top pictures of my clients be like see

00:23:56.900 well i know somebody that says that to me all the time and i'm like you get large chai tea lattes

00:24:02.260 from starbucks drinks you get a lot i don't know that's what i was gonna ask you i it just seems

00:24:09.940 like for women it's liquid calories for dudes it's uh fried food maybe i don't know if you do you

00:24:15.620 take on male clients or no when i started i don't anymore unless they pay me a lot um so not really

00:24:22.340 i just don't want to work with i like working with women um but for guys it's just i don't know they

00:24:27.940 can gain weight so easily they can also lose weight so easily too but i think it's a lot of

00:24:32.580 it's drinking but for women it's just the little pieces here and there it's the liquid stuff it's 1.00

00:24:38.580 just no the big one for women is oh i'm eating so healthy but i can't lose the weight oh i'm

00:24:43.540 doing everything right but i can't lose the weight it's like no we're not something wrong give me

00:24:48.340 your top five so i'm eating so healthy but i can't lose the weight translation you're fat because

00:24:54.580 you're eating fill in the blank no no obviously too much but i mean like what like you're eating

00:25:04.020 x y because i'm sure you see where it's like the same problems for like i'd imagine like some of

00:25:10.500 your clients don't know each other but they're fat for the same reason right that's how everyone is

00:25:14.900 everyone thinks that it's such an individualized i mean it's such a oh my gosh no one else can

00:25:18.900 relate to me no most people are struggling with the exact same thing okay so five things that

00:25:22.900 people are overeating that they don't realize yeah okay um like uh collagen the little their

00:25:32.900 little collagen like powders protein powders that they're mixing in they don't really see that

00:25:38.100 really calories okay there's a bunch so many people have so many little supplements that

00:25:44.420 like they're adding two things that can be an extra 100 calories a day but they're like oh

00:25:48.820 it's collagen it's good for me sure but it adds up so that's one i would not have thought of that

00:25:55.700 okay keep going all the things it is it's uh i mean a basic one olive oil cooking you're you're

00:26:03.140 making something olive oil healthy but then you aren't measuring it you don't know how much you're

00:26:07.940 actually using that's 200 extra calories a day that's one um protein bars is one too i think

00:26:18.580 that yeah look at labels they see high protein they see this is fit for me they get hungry an

00:26:25.300 hour later and it's like you just had 300 calories of air because that doesn't do anything for you um

00:26:31.620 i just made that transition actually i just yeah where i'm i'm getting rid of protein bars or i'm

00:26:37.380 trying to eat them less because i have the same problem i'm like these don't fill me up no they're

00:26:42.260 they're like i i'd use them as candy i have them when i'm on the gut like when i'm yeah desperate

00:26:48.420 but like just because it says high protein doesn't mean it's doing anything for you so

00:26:55.700 good um what else things like i mean just the healthy things like nuts seeds chia seeds not

00:27:04.660 again super healthy things but like we have a sprinkle in our salad and then it's we have

00:27:09.140 a sprinkle in our smoothie and it's like oh it's so healthy but then it just continues to add up

00:27:13.860 um the first one number one i don't even know i want to say cheese but it's not just

00:27:22.740 going out for meals thinking that you're getting the healthiest thing but healthy does not mean

00:27:26.820 you're still within your cows so like they order a salad but it's still high calorie

00:27:33.460 and they don't burn it off or something like that yeah even like you mentioned salmon before salmon

00:27:39.220 is healthy right i love salmon but if you are going out to a restaurant and getting salmon

00:27:43.780 and being like okay i'm being super healthy it's going to be just it's one of the fattiest fishes

00:27:49.300 it's going to be more calories than than like a piece of chicken let's say so it's those little

00:27:56.820 things that you don't recognize as like a bad thing because it's not bad but it just it adds

00:28:02.660 up and so especially when you're coming down to like the last little the last bit of weight to

00:28:06.180 lose is paying attention to those things now if you're talking about someone who has 100 pounds

00:28:10.180 to lose different story yeah that's the other thing too i've just noticed every like round

00:28:15.860 because it seems like every like 10 or 20 pounds there's just like a few different things you have

00:28:20.740 to pay attention to so like i don't know if you have 50 pounds to live for me like at first it

00:28:26.100 was getting a hold of the calories yeah and it like every round i don't know if that makes sense

00:28:31.860 have you seen that yeah there's there's always a next level to get to like if you are starting out

00:28:39.540 with 50 40 60 pounds whatever then it can it will probably and maybe you had this it comes off a

00:28:45.060 little bit faster in the beginning or did it feel any bit easier in the beginning compared to getting

00:28:50.340 off the last bit of weight or no well in the beginning i'll tell you i used to just run

00:28:54.420 marathons every time i wanted to lose weight terrible strategy very consuming yeah that's

00:28:59.940 awesome but like that's a lot yeah i would always the first like 20 i kept off for a while but then

00:29:06.420 i couldn't get rid of the next like 25. yeah yeah and so what what did you i mean it comes down to

00:29:14.020 the counting calories like you'd rather run marathons than count calories is that incredible

00:29:20.180 but i can't be the only person that's done that like no no no that's everyone yeah i can't be the

00:29:26.340 only one i'm like that's so incredible that i just really did not want to do it that bad

00:29:34.020 that's why they exist that's why the diet fit industry exists yeah you do everything besides

00:29:39.060 like the one thing that will help you um no but getting down to the next level i mean when you

00:29:44.980 have more weight to lose a lot of it is like the bigger food changes right learning about oh maybe

00:29:51.460 I don't have 400 calories for a Starbucks drink. Let's switch that. But when you get down, it gets

00:29:56.420 harder and harder because you're getting kind of more nitpicky with things and it ends up being

00:30:02.000 more about, and it can sound woo-woo to some, but like your standards that you have. If you are the

00:30:07.360 type of person where every time you, I don't know, if you work in an office and there's a little candy

00:30:12.240 jar, every time you use the bathroom, you grab a Starburst, right? And like, that's not going to do

00:30:17.280 that much damage. But if you have five pounds to lose and it won't come off, then like little

00:30:20.560 things like that are what we need to get a hold of versus like oh let's do a huge overhaul of like

00:30:26.960 all your food so it comes down to the more nitpicky things and that's why it does take a lot of effort

00:30:33.120 to keep a lean body i always say like i clock in every single day to take care of myself but you

00:30:38.640 weigh like what what your priorities are what percent of clients stick to it because there's

00:30:47.280 just no way some people have to sign up and like they just don't do the work right so what percent

00:30:53.840 like if you get 10 clients how many are actually going to listen to you

00:30:59.360 it's a hard thing to measure i mean i have a ton of clients i've worked with

00:31:04.080 so many with sticking with it it's not just it is being realistic with my clients saying that it's

00:31:11.600 not weight loss is not a linear thing like it's not we start here and then we end here like the

00:31:16.800 shiny object that everyone comes in for is the weight loss right but what it actually consists

00:31:21.920 of is the up and down of losing the weight like being excited about that but then like honing in

00:31:28.960 on the fact that you have to maintain this and like what are the skills that come with that so

00:31:33.200 for the ones who stick with it and succeed i don't know it's why i talk the way i do because i have

00:31:37.600 very high success rate with my clients because i so i do things like a lot differently i'm just

00:31:42.640 realistic with it but and i mean i hear from clients who i worked with before they got engaged

00:31:48.880 and then they got engaged and they got married and then they had kids and now they're already

00:31:52.480 down the weight because when you do it the right way and just do it great but then other people

00:31:57.600 pay for a program and never show up and there will always be people like that in any industry

00:32:03.280 any program that's actually a question how much of you get fat from kids is cope versus real

00:32:09.680 for like when we talk about baby weight is that yeah like what yeah okay if you if you were to

00:32:19.200 get pregnant how much weight would you expect to gain and how long would it take you to lose it 0.95

00:32:23.760 i don't i don't know if you have to say if you don't want but um just like because i always hear

00:32:30.160 that you have to gain weight with pregnancies and stuff yeah so go ahead yeah no i mean you should

00:32:35.920 like you have to gain weight but it's not 100 pounds that you have to gain it can be

00:32:40.800 20 i mean it depends on how tall the person is like what like their pregnancy looks like but

00:32:45.920 you don't have to give into every craving at all you don't have to eat for two especially in your

00:32:50.800 first trimester um your calories don't even be increasing that much i worked with a lot of

00:32:56.560 clients who got pregnant while working with me and our focus is not on like losing weight but just

00:33:01.440 like continuing to feel good um so i would say 20 30 pounds 35 pounds people can do 40 like it just

00:33:11.280 depends but a lot of that comes off like soon after you have your baby and then with breastfeeding 0.99

00:33:17.840 and then usually it's the last 5 10 15 that women need help with but i would not wait i would not

00:33:24.640 wait to lose the weight like to get your stuff together until i would do that before you have

00:33:30.800 kids it's so much harder oh god yeah after kids you're like cooked i mean not actually i'm sure

00:33:37.120 you work with people but i i i don't see many moms getting thin after they have a kid i just don't

00:33:44.400 no but i my clients like they're like i'm in better shape now after having kids than i was

00:33:50.000 in college like because when you have struggled with your weight and just not even that much when

00:33:55.760 you struggled with your weight and then you have children there is a part of you or with women 0.99

00:34:00.640 that they kind of like give up on where they're like well maybe this is just meant to be like

00:34:04.080 my mom body like my age this is all of that no i think that it is so amazing i like truly so

00:34:11.360 like baller of women who get into even better shape after they had kids because 1.00

00:34:15.840 uh and i know people will be like well i'm so busy and my husband and blah blah like

00:34:20.480 having a supportive partner who like gives you the space to do that great but also giving you

00:34:26.720 you the space to do that you're going to be eating either way like are you're either going to be

00:34:31.680 eating to get into better shape or eating to stay where you are i'm like that's not what we want to

00:34:37.240 do for the most part and you're going to pass on your habits to the kids yeah that's why i was fat

00:34:42.280 because my mom was fat she ended up losing weight after i was an adult but i'm like okay

00:34:47.140 yeah but as a kid i ate grilled cheese and like pasta like that was what i ate all the time

00:34:52.720 and but that's fine but that's fine there's no there's no shame with the pasta or grilled cheese

00:34:57.380 but obviously if you're having that every single day then like yeah it's not going to be

00:35:00.700 the best thing ever but yeah if you if you have crappy habits now and you want to have kids

00:35:05.720 good luck to your kids you should get that fixed beforehand like that should be like a requirement

00:35:10.180 for people going through parenthood um do you have to tone police yourself ever when it comes

00:35:16.680 to female clients like do you ever find yourself having to hold back or no i would say if it's been

00:35:24.520 a long day for me and i'm responding there are times that i have to just like give myself a

00:35:31.160 second i always say there's no dumb questions and there's not because i i also ask a lot of just

00:35:36.680 questions but i mean the clients who sign up with me they sign up for my personality well i mean for

00:35:43.320 the results for how i talk right they know that i'm not someone who's going to be like

00:35:47.160 oh okay we are we're we're overeating again we're doing this again every day like good job you're

00:35:53.000 trying your best it's like no you're not trying your best but how do we actually fix it so i'm

00:35:56.840 never yelling at any i never yell um but it's it's how do we actually give you the solution

00:36:02.440 and how do we stick with it versus just continue doing these crappy things you know what do you

00:36:07.720 you think of ozempic i am neutral with it like i the thing is people are always like oh does it

00:36:15.300 take away from your clients are you less busy no because the women who are doing ozempic who do not

00:36:21.060 need it good luck if you are doing it to just lose the weight and then not change anything else

00:36:26.880 if you're not going to stay on it forever which you probably won't at some point you're going to

00:36:30.740 get off of it it's going to come back on um the way the reason i'm neutral on it is like it's not

00:36:36.100 my life it's not my body i don't really care what any other person does but if you want to keep the

00:36:40.960 weight off for good and you plan on going off of it and like probably should change it but i have

00:36:45.000 worked with clients who went on ozempic because they needed it lost a good chunk of weight and

00:36:49.240 then signed up because they wanted to solidify keeping the weight off and i'm like good amazing

00:36:53.840 what percent of people do you think are on ozempic a large amount yeah any any like glp when i would

00:37:02.320 any any type of microdose all my tick tock right now is filled with um what is it peptides like i

00:37:09.600 think it is the new thing of the future and i think more people than not are on it do you think

00:37:17.120 there's going to be side effects or i don't know yeah yeah you think they're well i think i think

00:37:23.360 i don't know how big they will be but i don't think that there's much and here's the thing

00:37:27.280 it's not my area that i'm like specialized in but i do think that there's just side effects to

00:37:33.760 i don't know everything that you're injecting your body but who knows yeah it just seems like

00:37:38.880 there'll be a catch there's always a catch when you're doing something like that there's always

00:37:43.280 it's inevitable it's going to be here sooner than than later but at the very least people can ride

00:37:48.720 it out so do you know what i couldn't figure out when i was younger there would be these women i 0.98

00:37:52.800 want to see if you can catch this i didn't figure out how they were thin because their lifestyle

00:37:56.880 was just so unhealthy they're drinking all the time going out all the time and i just could not

00:38:00.480 i'm like how are they thin and there was yeah do you know what the catch was probably

00:38:09.040 probably not good

00:38:13.920 i didn't know because i was um i was really innocent so like how are they still thin like

00:38:18.160 i would be fat if i was at these festivals all the time no i think that there's a lot of things

00:38:23.280 that people do and when you see someone who has that type of lifestyle and they're posting all

00:38:28.320 this food they're not eating all this food yeah like they say that they are but no absolutely not

00:38:36.080 they're eating all of that then their body would look a little bit different or it's their one meal

00:38:39.920 of the day and like that's how they do it oh my god i couldn't do that i can't fast i don't know

00:38:45.120 some people can just fast half the day i wish i could yeah i do that during the work day like i'm

00:38:50.800 pretty used to it um just because i've done it for some time i i genuinely work best when i'm not

00:38:56.720 like when i start eating food then i think this is like most people you start thinking about it a

00:39:00.720 little bit and so i just i like to fast but during the weekends i eat breakfast if i'm really hungry

00:39:05.840 i'll eat breakfast but it just like it works for me fasting is not the reason it's not the thing

00:39:11.200 to do to lose weight if you hate doing it do not do it um have you ever had to drop a client and

00:39:16.320 if so why uh yeah there's been a couple there's also been a few people that i even recently that

00:39:24.160 they had some consults with and like usually i'll follow up with someone if they don't sign up right

00:39:28.080 away but for a handful i'm just like they i know that they won't be a good fit um for clients who

00:39:34.080 are that i've dropped and there haven't been many because i usually do a pretty good vetting process

00:39:38.240 and like my coaching isn't cheap it's not like i just let anyone come in um but for people who just

00:39:44.560 like keep coming with the same issues who are not coachable who like don't listen like just cut ties

00:39:52.320 early it's too it's as i've like grown bigger with this it's a waste of my energy if you can't listen

00:39:57.920 and do it i'm like sayonara so what do you think about all these celebrities getting on ozempic

00:40:04.080 that were formerly body positive oh a joke like it is a slap in the face like for for

00:40:12.640 or it is so everyone wants to and there will be two people raising their hands saying not me

00:40:20.240 um everyone wants to lose weight everyone wants to be lean everyone wants to look good

00:40:24.660 they want to do it now because they have the opportunity to do it after trying so many times

00:40:29.660 and they don't have to accept that they have to like stay fat because they couldn't get the weight

00:40:33.080 off it is like people do it was the biggest 360 or 180 to see of oh oh no i'm actually skinny now

00:40:41.060 because i can be on ozempic oh no i don't agree with anything i just said before like everyone

00:40:45.700 it is the standard it's just incredible you guys all took so much money you took everybody's money 0.93

00:40:53.460 when you were fat and now you're taking a ozempic it's like a trainer screw you

00:41:00.020 like i grew up during that song was popular 1.00

00:41:02.580 it's wild like oh fuck you guys like come on it's crazy it's like just but like the thing is at the 0.97

00:41:13.980 same time doesn't impact me but i hope everyone has learned their lesson to stop listening to 0.99

00:41:19.040 people who are preaching something that they don't actually believe do what's best for you

00:41:22.500 like it's up to be us yeah they all get on ozempic divorce their husbands and say just

00:41:29.580 yeah speaking of dating do you see your um clients okay so i think a lot of women are 20 pounds from 1.00

00:41:40.140 love okay because because a lot of guys will sleep down right i mean guys will sleep with damn near

00:41:46.620 anything if you ever see a guy's roster it's like incredible like a guy that's an eight will go with

00:41:50.860 a four it's like incredible but a lot of times there's like guys that like a girl but they're

00:41:56.140 just kind of hoping and i've heard this from so many guys where they liked a girl they would date

00:41:59.660 her but she just is a little too fat and a lot of women like the guy that they can't get commitment 1.00

00:42:06.300 from you're like 20 30 pounds away baby just get on the treadmill but guys are never going to tell

00:42:11.420 you have you seen um something similar with your clients or their dating lives getting better

00:42:16.140 after they lose the weight from both ends and like i i went through this myself but like i can tell

00:42:21.740 my own little story but for my clients i think a big thing is just having more confidence

00:42:27.420 with dating too where putting less emphasis on does the guy like me and more on oh do i actually

00:42:33.260 like him because they they like themselves more they know that they look better they know that

00:42:36.940 they're a better catch because yes your appearance like you kind of date your league i would say for

00:42:42.620 a lot of people uh for most people it's kind of how it works and so they know that they can get

00:42:47.260 better but for a lot of women yeah i've heard this from so many guys and from clients too where

00:42:52.940 like the dating wasn't really going well but then they lost the weight they dropped their part like

00:42:57.180 who they were with and then started dating someone better because then they realized they deserve

00:43:01.340 better so it's it goes it goes both ways to it uh yeah because it's like i don't know tell me

00:43:09.740 what was your story you said you changed like dating when you lost the weight yeah i mean i

00:43:14.860 think just like i i mean i definitely had to like blow up with it but a lot of it is confidence like

00:43:22.220 when you aren't that secure i wasn't that secure in myself at all and like i i once worked i worked

00:43:29.500 in corporate before i went um off on my own and for one of my jobs like my name is amanda i've

00:43:34.780 never gone by mandy but i worked at this uh company where my boss's name was amanda as well

00:43:42.460 and during my interview she's like oh i want to call you mandy and i'm like okay call sure and

00:43:47.660 then i got the job and then for my two years at that company my name was mandy because that's just

00:43:53.180 like sure this is what people will call me and so just having not as much self like respect and that

00:43:58.540 also translated into dating where my focus was on a fake timeline for myself of i need to get married

00:44:04.300 by this age have kids by this age i just need to find the guy like who i can end up with and it

00:44:10.300 it was just like a bunch of you know some normal people a bunch of losers too because i just wasn't

00:44:14.780 really like my best self for it so when you actually are a better person you can date better 0.95

00:44:21.180 yeah and american women are so fat guys just want someone that's thin you know they really i mean 1.00

00:44:26.700 people will say people have there's a what's the saying there's a kettle for every pot pot for 0.94

00:44:31.180 every cup whatever that is like there's always someone for someone but i would say if you want

00:44:35.500 to date a guy who is good looking who makes money who takes care of himself what are you people

00:44:42.700 always say what are you offering oh a woman doesn't have to offer anything yes you do if 1.00

00:44:46.060 you're not taking care of yourself why would you expect to be with someone who is like the top of

00:44:50.700 the top if you cannot be top of the top oh my gosh that's incredible i i've interviewed so many fat 0.99

00:44:55.660 women that say they want in shape men and i'm like yeah they'll screw you i mean a black guy will do 1.00

00:45:01.500 it let's just see her i'm mad i'm at the people people will there's always someone for someone 0.99

00:45:09.740 but like last time and fat women are like 1.00

00:45:15.980 that makes sense i mean that not that but like

00:45:19.900 oh yeah because you know why why would you want to date someone who goes to the gym when you don't

00:45:26.380 even go to the gym yeah what do you have in common you like you both like that he goes to the gym i

00:45:32.860 don't know people are it's just it also just comes with like taking care of yourself my husband works

00:45:38.380 out if he didn't work out we wouldn't be a fit i want someone who like goes to the gym and does

00:45:43.420 that what do you think about women that gain weight after uh marriage like that's really common where 1.00

00:45:49.820 they yeah yeah men too right yeah go look at my recent i made a lot of people mad recently on um

00:45:59.100 instagram because i created a video and i said if my if my husband ever got fat like i would

00:46:04.060 tell him like just as he would tell me never saw me but uh there's a lot of you're not going

00:46:11.580 there's a lot of like uh less than average people in my comments being like

00:46:17.020 like, you're a weight, you should love anyone at any size. And I said, no, as a parent, your love

00:46:22.520 is, you will love them with whatever, but for your part, like for whoever you're with, like

00:46:27.200 you should take care of yourself. I think that people who let themselves go once they get married

00:46:31.060 did not have anything like set for them before they got married, because it just, it's unnatural

00:46:37.800 to let yourself go to an extent when you've been taking care of yourself for however long,

00:46:42.560 that doesn't really happen. You don't see people like that who had like good habits prior.

00:46:46.300 now for those who let themselves go after the wedding after whatever it's probably because

00:46:50.660 they were trying really hard during dating for the wedding and then they're like okay i'm safe now

00:46:55.380 what are you safe from like you don't look good you don't feel good and in shape guys don't want

00:47:01.260 to deal with your bad habits like because you're going to bring into his lifestyle like i don't

00:47:05.080 know if you're into more traditional gender roles and you want to cook for he doesn't want you to 0.75

00:47:08.140 cook gross food or like food that's gonna make him fat if he's in shape you know exactly like

00:47:14.120 what again like what is what is your offer because at some point it's not just people

00:47:20.800 I always see stuff on social where it's like the woman's role is to just exist and I'm like what

00:47:25.940 are you talking about just exist with what like create your own life do your own thing like yes

00:47:30.960 you're existing but like you can do more than that too yeah why not it's just sometimes just

00:47:37.520 lazy women i just cannot stand i cannot like it's just they have an excuse for everything i think 1.00

00:47:44.080 it's because the world kind of coddles them and they just they won't tell you you're fat they 0.98

00:47:48.560 won't tell you you're in a bunch of debt they won't like i'm trying to think of a good word 0.97

00:47:53.040 for female losers and i i haven't come up with this i just say i like i love the word loser 0.98

00:47:59.280 loser in your own life you're literally it's your life why are you acting like the person that you'd 0.99

00:48:03.840 be like yelling out on tv being like get your together just do it like it's not it's your one 0.99

00:48:09.040 life but yeah i think that women they just they make excuses they they see all of this garbage of 1.00

00:48:14.960 it's your metabolism it's your genetics it's your hormones it's like you have a soft life

00:48:20.400 like be feminine i'm like well it's not very feminine to be as i used to deal with binge eating

00:48:25.120 to be stuffing your face and like holding on to weight because that's body positivity no

00:48:30.240 it's take care of yourself and most of your ancestors were farmers like none of your

00:48:34.560 ancestors had soft lives like i don't know this idea like we had like 20 years in the 50s where

00:48:40.320 women like stayed home maybe had softer lives for like 20 years but their husbands were also at war 0.52

00:48:47.520 no go go watch the recent dinosaur netflix documentary where it talks about all the

00:48:53.200 dinosaurs and like where the world started or how everything started and like it's just

00:48:58.240 it will put a different perspective on things but with women having a soft life now it's like 1.00

00:49:02.480 what the hell does that even mean if you want a soft life work hard now and then you'll have a

00:49:06.240 soft life to get from google a day in the life of the amish that was your that was your ancestors

00:49:12.640 like they're like they're using all these old machines it's no wonder they didn't have to diet

00:49:17.920 because their life was so like calorie they're working for it yeah we have a machine heavy or

00:49:24.800 workforce heavy heavy yeah for sure turn the butter do you think um health is a deal breaker

00:49:31.440 for marriage in the sense of like someone taking care of themselves yeah like um i don't know if

00:49:39.680 if you're with a partner that won't lose weight do you think that's a deal breaker

00:49:43.440 yeah i mean like i thought well it's what if it's what if it's whatever what do you think duh like

00:49:54.220 like when i was when i was 20 pounds heavier i was more depressed like people who are depressed

00:50:00.400 of course there can be this is a vague answer but like if so if you're dealing with someone

00:50:04.740 who's depressed help them right of course that's it but people love to be all hypothetical well

00:50:10.680 what if it's this what if it's this what if it's this it's not that yeah it's not that they're

00:50:14.840 just you know i wouldn't date someone i wouldn't want to be with someone who is like overweight

00:50:20.600 that's just not what i'm doing and i chose my person so like check that off what do you think

00:50:27.880 about um i don't know because i see it on social media all the time where women are mad that men 1.00

00:50:33.640 like thin women yeah what do you think is you can find a guy who doesn't like thin women like yeah 1.00

00:50:46.120 i'm sure that they have like platforms for that to date someone who

00:50:50.920 likes that but like how can you get mad at such a generalized

00:50:56.040 thing you either if you want i don't know like lose the weight unless unless find someone who

00:51:00.920 loves you for who you are and you want to keep your weight perfect there will be someone i'm sure

00:51:04.840 out there like that but it just i don't know stopping at the same time stop blaming men for

00:51:10.440 like your your problems like you can find someone worthy to date too that's my date yeah no i agree

00:51:19.560 um is there anything else you want to tell the audience like just you think we missed or um

00:51:26.200 where to find you go ahead yeah what we missed i would say just learn how to lose weight the right

00:51:33.640 way if you're if you're dieting oh wait where did you go oh my god sorry i clicked something

00:51:40.920 keep going say well could you repeat yourself if you don't mind i was gonna say just learn how to

00:51:44.760 lose weight the right way because if what you're doing today is not sustainable for the rest of

00:51:49.000 your life it's gonna come back and like life is so much easier when you don't have to worry about

00:51:53.640 your weight and like when you like how that when you like how you look it's important your appearance

00:51:58.680 matters people treat you better too um it's a thing but no i mean i think we covered a lot

00:52:05.480 work on yourself right it's important and where to find me just amanda

00:52:11.080 underscore dobler on instagram would you mind um my co-host doug mpa he he's a fan of you he just

00:52:18.520 maybe you might have some questions um doug mpa welcome to the show amanda you you are a treasure

00:52:25.880 and a jewel thank you for joining the show appreciate it i'm glad that you addressed the

00:52:32.200 whole um not having to tone your not having to tone police yourself because a lot of people

00:52:38.440 think you have to talk gentle i know you have to know your audience yeah you have to talk gentler

00:52:43.800 to women that's the only way that they're going to listen and blah blah blah do you think that 1.00

00:52:48.700 there's a distinct difference when it comes to fitness and health on how you talk to women 0.71

00:52:53.540 and how you talk to men i think that men can be bigger babies sometimes i think that with

00:52:59.580 the type of woman i attract like they want to be told exactly what they need what they need help 0.99

00:53:05.860 with what they're doing wrong like that's how i am when i get help with something with my own

00:53:09.520 like coaching I'm like just tell like I can take it it's not getting criticism it's literally just

00:53:13.920 helping you be a better person now there are a lot of women who just want to say wow like good 0.99

00:53:21.300 job for trying and like they go to another coach but with sugarcoating anything why like you're

00:53:26.100 here to get results you're here to change your life so like why do we have to tiptoe around the

00:53:30.560 thing that's keeping you exactly where you don't want to be you know yeah you got to see your

00:53:35.580 content doug mpa i've been watching her for a while she does not if the girls that are sugar 1.00

00:53:41.260 coated are not going to her yeah yeah i will say my clients are like you're a lot nicer as a coach

00:53:47.900 because you get more of me it's not just to the general public of like hey you're whatever and

00:53:54.380 like i don't know who i'm talking to online but then like my clients sign on and it's like oh

00:53:59.100 here's how we actually solve the issue that you have you know um i also wanted to address the whole

00:54:05.980 so male fitness influencers i think they kind of have a responsibility to say if they're on

00:54:13.580 steroids or not um do you think that women fitness influencers have a responsibility to say if 1.00

00:54:20.780 they're on some kind of ozempic or some kind of glp or or something like that uh i mean i would

00:54:27.740 say yeah like disclose if you've had a bbl disclose if you are like taking something to not set

00:54:33.980 unrealistic expectations especially if you're a new with a lot of new coaches do they lost a good

00:54:39.100 chunk of weight and now they're trying to coach because they've lost the weight but they did it

00:54:43.180 in a very different manner um so it could be good to disclose a lot of people don't and probably

00:54:49.420 never will but that's what makes them bad coaches so you need to like research who you're actually

00:54:54.220 dealing with so it could be good but like they'll never they'll never make a law about that you know

00:54:59.420 or with people follow it okay oh god if they banned filters that would

00:55:05.500 someone would scream like imagine if you had to actually show your blubber on the internet

00:55:11.260 oh my goodness no i i would that's why i'm like that's why i just am honest i'm like i picked

00:55:17.260 food out of a garbage kit before when i struggled with binge eating years ago because there's no

00:55:21.900 honesty and you need to be honest in order to like help people so what's the shame everyone

00:55:26.540 does weird stuff you just gotta fix it um and then so have you seen because i've seen

00:55:36.460 glp side effects like some people say that they lose their vision and stuff

00:55:40.300 have you seen any any any have you been around enough people on on glps to see any kind of

00:55:47.500 common side effects or do you see anything coming down the road from this trend what you've seen

00:55:54.460 yeah i mean i would say that for some people who are on it it just it gets rid of their shape like

00:56:03.420 they go a little flat in places um i think that there is such thing as like ozempic face you can

00:56:09.260 tell who has lost weight in a short period of time and just how it makes them look because at the end

00:56:15.660 of the day if you want to lose weight great but like you also want to look good and there kind

00:56:19.020 of reaches a point with that um and i think it is a parent who was on the glp with or something

00:56:24.780 whatever who lost weight years ago went off it and now they're they're big again which has happened

00:56:30.860 to a handful of influencers that just show up on my feed so and then i guess i have one last question

00:56:38.540 so um i would i really couldn't stand for personal trainers in the gym that they tried to get you

00:56:46.780 dependent on them for their health because ultimately personal training is about making

00:56:52.380 money so they would want to get them in this mindset where you need me to be healthy so you

00:56:58.460 can keep paying me to be a personal trainer um you know i've been into fitness most of my life

00:57:03.900 and the people that i've helped i try to get them self-sustaining so i mean what is your

00:57:11.420 it's your goal to get people into a healthy lifestyle where they eventually they have the

00:57:15.660 skills and stuff to not really need you anymore and choose to stay or and then also in your

00:57:22.140 industry what do you see more people that try to get people dependent on them or people

00:57:26.860 that try to get people self-sustaining i would say what i see more of is people who

00:57:32.300 try to get just clients first i think that there are so many coaches out there who don't know what

00:57:38.460 they're doing and so they try to just say they're gonna heal someone and like get all these clients

00:57:43.820 in and then they don't end up like getting those people to resign because they're not doing a good

00:57:47.980 job um i think that a lot of people i think that there are also some great coaches out there where

00:57:52.860 their focus is making it like sustainable skills for life that's what my focus is where you won't

00:57:58.860 like me eventually i don't want to like babysit anyone right mine is pretty like advanced in that

00:58:03.820 sense but my approach with this is this type of mentorship and coaching isn't different from

00:58:10.460 like what i have a business you're going to have new goals along the way and so you want someone

00:58:16.300 who like can help you with those goals because the goal at first might just be lose weight but

00:58:20.780 then it's like what else do we have going on so it's being self-sufficient but it's also

00:58:24.300 understanding that you have one goal as long as you're a living breathing human being who is like

00:58:29.020 a high achieving person you're gonna continue to have new levels of goals and so like having

00:58:34.700 being able to support someone with that so i have a lot of clients who just do one round with me i

00:58:38.460 find who i've been with for over a year year and a half and those are the clients who started out

00:58:43.180 with only five pounds to lose and like it just ends up being a larger thing than that so um let

00:58:49.340 Let me know if that answered it for you.

00:58:51.200 Yeah, that is.

00:58:52.440 That's a really good answer.

00:58:54.820 What was your, off the top of your head, what was your biggest, with a client, off the top of your head, you don't have to name names or anything, but what was your biggest aha moment where they were your client and then you just saw a light bulb go off in their head?

00:59:09.500 They're like, what?

00:59:10.980 Like, you kind of saw the moment where you changed their life towards giving them a healthier lifestyle.

00:59:18.380 Can you think of anything?

00:59:19.340 Yeah, I mean, I'm sure I have a bunch, I'm trying to think. I would say that for most women I work with, they're, you know, 30s, 40s, they've been in their, stuck in their habits for some time. And so it's the realization that, like, just because I've been, I don't know, like coping with food, that's a big one, doesn't mean that I have to continue to do that.

00:59:42.400 and like how good it actually feels to not do that um that's a little bit of a baby answer my stuff

00:59:47.880 is more like mindset but i think at the biggest aha moment is just how it i had a client who texted

00:59:53.200 me a few weeks ago who down 10 pounds right doesn't seem like that much but she's not binging 1.00

00:59:57.900 anymore and she now fully believes that she can be like the ceo of her of her um oh my god of her 0.98

01:00:04.680 practice and so it's just seeing this belief that happens in all other areas of your life because

01:00:09.520 now you believe in yourself for like doing hard things so i think that's the most important and

01:00:14.280 like cool thing to witness awesome awesome cool thank you so much for answering my questions i

01:00:21.180 really appreciate it this has been a great live stream wow thank you so much for coming on

01:00:25.280 of course yeah thanks for coming amanda we're we're a fan of you so come back anytime if you

01:00:30.680 ever wear a green next time because i feel like i'm not matching here with you guys

01:00:35.220 if you ever want to talk about fat women we're here

01:00:42.740 yeah this is this is this is a no whale zone over here 0.96

01:00:48.660 well we cannot we allow recovering whales but you got to be recovering

01:00:53.780 like one girl come on my channel and she came on for a cooking show and she's like i know i'm a whale

01:00:58.900 oh my god i'm working on it i'm like oh god oh my god or um i'm gonna recommend a video

01:01:08.820 on pearl's channel so there's this girl that was on tick tock and she went viral because she 0.97

01:01:13.780 she was she she was a bigger woman and she had the septum piercing and all that stuff and she 1.00

01:01:19.220 went to a bar and went to go talk to three guys and she she starts her camera and she's walking

01:01:25.060 down the street talking about the loneliness epidemic and so i got her on the show and pearl

01:01:33.140 just gave her like a breakdown like you need to lose weight like you're you know you have the

01:01:38.040 septum piercing you know you have these crazy looking glasses on your face you're like 300

01:01:42.420 pounds like you know what and so pro did a really good job of breaking down this girl

01:01:47.840 what men think yeah watch that episode an attractive men banger she showed me i always

01:01:55.480 have people show me their rosters i'm nosy so like mpa you told me about the girl you were

01:02:02.760 dating that like if she lost weight you would have taken her seriously but 100 yeah like she's 1.00

01:02:08.480 good you said she was a good person but you know and that's so fine i think you can be as picky as

01:02:14.440 you want and it's like there's there's no shame in saying that at all it the sad part about it is

01:02:21.200 it's like you most guys who who who are worth something that women will want to pursue we have

01:02:29.460 those women where they can come over to your house and they can hang out and watch tv and stuff but 1.00

01:02:34.360 you don't want to be seen with them in public yeah and that's why the female dating advice is 1.00

01:02:39.580 like because it'll be like oh he doesn't appreciate you he doesn't do this he doesn't

01:02:44.300 like you like that but you know the question is why is it because you're fat or your personality

01:02:48.700 it might not be like yeah being in public girl and 30 pounds you know oh exactly i was i was

01:02:56.460 because you said that to me when we were dm dming i told my husband he's like no that's true he's

01:03:01.020 like hey that happened with you and i'm like you know what it did what it is is as a guy you want

01:03:08.620 the woman that she i'm not saying that she has to be beautiful but she's a reflection of your hard

01:03:13.980 work and your values in life you know and you when you're with a woman it's like you're disciplined 0.99

01:03:21.580 or you're going somewhere you make a lot of money and you know that's who you're with like what

01:03:27.580 men we look at each other kind of like that you know what i'm saying and like i mean women judge 0.91

01:03:32.540 each other but it's a completely different way like men in society will judge you on the type

01:03:37.980 a woman that you're with i mean i'm sorry it's just how it is and i've heard that from so many

01:03:42.940 guys like that is like one of the number one things i hear from men is i like her i would date

01:03:49.100 her but she's 20 30 if she's this big now what how big is she going to be when we have kids because 1.00

01:03:55.500 guys automatically think 20 pounds with each kid so if you're like 150 or 160 if you have two or

01:04:01.820 three kids you're pushing 200 you know 200 that's how they think but it's also true like if you

01:04:08.540 can't get a hold of it now what's it's only gonna get harder like you have to do it now so yeah i

01:04:15.580 mean i told my husband i'm like you're safe with this so like good good for you she's a bit overweight 1.00

01:04:20.540 i don't care you must be black don't get me i agree yeah you know i'm i'm black and i close

01:04:29.740 on what she's saying i i'm i'm the one because i you know i have friends and like that are women 0.98

01:04:35.420 and i tell them i'm like a good indicator of your health is how many black men hit on you on a daily

01:04:42.940 basis because part of my platform i keep saying guys black men we have to do better we have to

01:04:49.660 we accept too little we accept big women and i have no i i'm on a crusade to get my brothers to 0.82

01:04:57.980 stop accepting these big women you know what i was at a gym in london it was a personal training gym 1.00

01:05:05.580 and if there was um there says there's a lot of like really built guys there and i was like if

01:05:11.420 there was ever a super old woman like 60 plus or a fat woman at the gym i just knew there was like 1.00

01:05:17.020 five trainers there that were black yeah yeah you know always namanda like you you don't have to 0.92

01:05:25.020 say anything although we know that you know exactly what we're talking about but yeah you

01:05:30.860 know i i i she's not saying it guys she's not saying that so yeah or or uh um even the girl

01:05:39.900 that i was talking about who came on on pearl's channel the the bigger girl she literally what 0.80

01:05:45.340 did she say pearl she said i get hit on by a lot of black guys yo that's just like they they'll do 0.99

01:05:52.140 it my god they'll do it yeah it's terrible man like we have to do better guys we have to do 0.82

01:05:58.300 better they will i mean look and it's not they can make thin women too but it's just how low 1.00

01:06:03.260 they'll go it's just lower than the white guys it's like 90 day fiance you put that on and 90 0.53

01:06:10.140 days you have the guys who want to come over here and they don't care who they are with they just

01:06:14.460 want to come over here and they do it i see get the men together to stop feeding the hippos it's 0.99

01:06:21.180 why they got these big egos because you know what it would be like there's this one woman at the gym 1.00

01:06:26.380 i used to go to and she was oh i don't know how she was at the gym all the time but she was not 1.00

01:06:31.900 losing weight i'll tell you that much and she just thought she was hot and i'm like it's because

01:06:37.260 these these trainers they keep banging her i'm like what are you guys doing you should be training

01:06:42.300 her like yeah and um that's the thing so your your message to women as you're training them like 0.98

01:06:50.860 we well you said that this woman adopted healthier habits and then she realized 0.67

01:06:57.500 that she could become the ceo of her company um that type of motivation should be what women are 1.00

01:07:06.620 looking for not like that confidence not the confidence that like men will sleep with me

01:07:13.980 understand what i'm saying like because that's two different types of confidence or ways

01:07:19.340 or two different you understand what i'm trying to say like you should be getting into shape to

01:07:26.300 try to get that that level of confidence not just sexual attraction from them because sexual

01:07:31.980 attraction in this current dating market it's not a good barometer of anything tell you the truth

01:07:36.380 business men will sleep with anything anything you want the my take of it is you want the confidence

01:07:43.020 as a woman like if you are with someone who like my thing i love my husband love being married but

01:07:48.940 like i also have the confidence if anything were to happen i'm set i'm financially amazing on my

01:07:54.380 own i'm so confident with everything in my life and like that to me is most important so like

01:07:59.900 there's a confidence of looking better right but then there's a confidence of like literally owning

01:08:03.980 your life and doing what you want to do and like not just like going through the motions like being

01:08:09.900 just like a piece of dust like you want to feel really confident with everything that you do in

01:08:13.580 life and i think that's super empowering for both men and women right but especially with women

01:08:17.900 because they take like i don't know i feel like a lot of women take the step back and they're like 0.99

01:08:22.460 oh i just want to be someone's wife i just want to have kids and that's great right i used to want

01:08:26.700 that and like still you know can but i think you can let yourself go deeper than that too

01:08:31.100 i have one more thing about your so okay would you agree that there's a lot of cope when it

01:08:38.880 comes to women and and accepting a healthier lifestyle like a lot of cope with what as in 1.00

01:08:49.420 like oh you you're not fat you you know you're just you know thick or you know oh yeah a real

01:08:57.780 man would accept you at your current weight or blah blah blah and have you ever had to talk to

01:09:02.780 women about cope in the social infrastructure in place to make them okay with being big or like 1.00

01:09:09.580 or like and then my second part is have you met women who spend more time 0.72

01:09:16.020 coping than if they were to just lose the weight yeah i would say a lot of people

01:09:22.780 go through the coping motions of they want to lose the weight they try it's too hard they

01:09:27.700 quit they turn to body positivity whatever try to suck it up and then they realize i hate how i look 0.70

01:09:32.820 and it's a whole cycle that they're stuck in it's like the hamster wheel of it but in terms of

01:09:38.420 helping women cope with just being bigger i help them say you don't have to be big it's not your

01:09:43.540 bones it's not your body's not stuck at this set point you're you can lose the weight you can do

01:09:49.700 anything that you want like you can you can look better it's just people people quit too early on

01:09:55.780 because they just don't know what they're doing okay cool and all that advice out there so well

01:10:02.500 thanks for coming on amanda come back anytime so is that all your questions it was right yeah

01:10:10.020 keep fighting with the good fight out there because you know once again men we get called 0.96

01:10:16.020 fat not well probably talking about the word loser and when you hear the word loser you 0.84

01:10:22.020 automatically picture a man in his mom's basement eating cheetos and drinking mountain dew but we 0.99

01:10:27.540 don't we haven't there's no female equivalent for the word loser and there needs to be you 1.00

01:10:34.900 know what i'm saying and so you're fighting the good fight and helping reverse this social

01:10:39.620 infrastructure that's in place to just make women be okay with being unhealthy and just being 0.99

01:10:45.700 mediocre so thank you for all that you're doing we really appreciate it yeah i'll keep spewing

01:10:51.220 all the info out there i hope i don't get beyond but for now we're good thanks for coming amanda

01:10:56.980 guys make sure you go follow her on instagram uh tick tock it's amanda underscore dobler are

01:11:03.060 you on youtube actually i don't know if i know when i need to get on it that's what i'm being

01:11:07.700 told so maybe maybe tomorrow maybe you've kick-started me cool cool i hope you do all

01:11:13.780 right thanks for coming yeah all right thank you both bye

01:11:19.460 what a beast yeah she's goaded we had to clone clone her like a hundred times that's what i'm 0.95

01:11:25.540 talking about and i told you the fact that she says that she doesn't have to sugarcoat her words

01:11:29.860 with with women because i was going back and forth with someone in the chat oh you have to

01:11:33.940 it's a case-by-case basis and women won't listen it's like no there's a crisis with women and health 1.00

01:11:40.740 well in america period but like now more than ever you know so yeah what a great guest that's

01:11:48.360 awesome yeah i thought you'd like her um yeah okay well that's what i got today um do you got

01:11:55.220 any other thoughts on the topic doug mpa yeah guys we got to do better when it comes to banging fat 0.99

01:12:00.900 chicks and whales guys come on now come on yeah black men you guys are single-handedly um pushing 1.00

01:12:08.140 this obesity epidemic so yeah yeah all you trainers and all you guys oh because you guys 0.99

01:12:13.720 are banging out of jail wait yeah you know i'm telling you and and so and i'm sorry guys like

01:12:21.240 i'm glad that pro's pointing it out i mean i i'm black i co-sign on her mesh 100 we have to do

01:12:28.500 better and i'm hoping in my life we're able to see it and like before um amanda wasn't gonna say

01:12:34.500 But she knew exactly what was going on.

01:12:40.860 Yeah, she knew exactly.

01:12:43.080 Yeah, but she's don't don't put that on her. 1.00

01:12:46.300 You know what I mean?

01:12:47.580 Yeah, yeah.

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01:12:56.160 All right.

01:12:56.860 Well, all right.

01:12:57.880 Thanks for coming up, Doug.

01:12:59.080 You had really great questions today.

01:13:00.860 So thanks for coming.

01:13:02.280 Yeah.

01:13:03.060 Always a pleasure. 0.91

01:13:05.060 all right a black man prop up the sub five yeah see there's another black guy you guys know 0.95

01:13:09.220 because you guys do you guys not tell your boys to like what are you doing 0.94

01:13:13.460 do you guys not do you guys not say to your boys like why are what are you doing

01:13:21.380 what are you doing you know anyways all right guys um i'm actually

01:13:29.220 i'm gonna actually listen she's i forgot what she protein powder i'm gonna start

01:13:33.540 weighing my protein powder after this show. Anyways, guys, like the video,

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Pearl - March 10, 2026

How The Fittness Industry Keeps Women Broke and Fat with Amanda Dobler

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