00:08:12.180and um so is it better now good okay um so women severely overweight rejecting men that were
00:08:24.800average and i got to see firsthand how many approaches men had to do in order to find a
00:08:31.700woman that was interested and you know i learned a bunch of different little tricks that they do
00:08:37.460like one strategy that I've seen men do is you put multiple dates in one date so if you meet a
00:08:43.920girl at a club you take her to different areas of the club so it feels longer um initiating touch
00:08:50.320because a girl's not going to want to go home with you if you don't touch you know stuff like
00:08:54.080that it's really just basic maybe social skills strategy um they would talk about logistics
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00:08:59.560living somewhere close um but i would have seen objectively overweight unattractive women
00:09:07.700rejecting average men okay so i went to this boot camp but there was still things i watched
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00:09:14.560in the red pill that i don't know just kind of triggered me a little bit one was that marriage
00:09:19.120was a bad deal for men another was that um another one was the high value men cheat and
00:09:28.940And another one was, you know, the way they would, at the time, I thought the way they would use descriptors towards women, they would say, they would say things that I would view as generalizations at the time.
00:09:51.920so what changed my worldview so I ended up going to England right and when I'm in England what
00:10:02.080happened was um I'm still doing the my small YouTube channel on the side I'm pursuing a
00:10:08.960professional volleyball career it's just a side thing for me and when I'm there I think that the
00:10:14.540content is so interesting I I just I couldn't stop watching it um I'm watching Andrew Tate I'm
00:10:20.880watching um you know the creators that i was listing before so what i did was after my season
00:10:28.400was over i decided that i was going to invite women from my team or the gym that i went to
00:10:36.440to come over after the show and give their thoughts on some of the concepts that i heard
00:10:41.940now the first show i did was did women like bad boys and when i first heard this i really thought
00:10:48.240that they didn't know what they were talking about um when i remember going on fresh and fit
00:10:56.820a couple of years before and thinking no like we like the nice guy that's not true at all but i did
00:11:03.680this show and i asked the women on my team and i couldn't even believe how openly they just admitted
00:11:08.840yes we love the bad boys so that was one worldview that crashed another worldview that crashed and
00:11:17.800Now, I want to give you guys context, the things I'm going to talk about next.
00:11:21.740This is a year of doing shows, so interviewing 1,000 people.
00:11:25.800These are some of the lessons that I learned in this process.
00:11:29.780And what happened was I would recruit women for the show,
00:11:32.680about eight people would show up, and I would do these panel shows.
00:11:36.460And we would debate different topics, and I would get people's perspective on relationships.
00:11:40.900Um, okay. So the one thing that I had heard is that women love a man that cheats or that can't
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00:11:51.980cheat. And I thought that was untrue. But when I interviewed a thousand women, I would get a
00:11:58.540little bit more specific. If we had a show about cheating, I maybe would start it and say, have
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00:12:03.640you ever been cheated on? And I couldn't believe how many women said yes. It was pretty much every
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00:12:09.220single woman, maybe 70%, I would say, yes, I have been cheated on. And when you hear that on its
00:12:16.900head, they tell you the story, whatever. But I decided to dig a little further. My second question
00:12:26.520would always be, did you leave or did you stay when you found out? And I would say 80% of the
00:12:38.240time women stayed. Second thing I figured out was if they ended up leaving the man,
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00:12:47.220they left him when he stopped cheating. So I had a clip that went viral where I said that women
00:12:53.220love being cheated on because I had just done 10 shows where I couldn't even believe it. I would
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00:13:02.700say, have you been cheated on? Yes. Did you stay or did you leave? No, I stayed. How long did you
00:13:12.080stay? Six months. Okay. And then did you end up breaking up with him? Yes. Okay. Well, did you,
00:17:32.140The next thing I learned is that very few women can process information without taking it personally.
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00:17:37.800an example of this is one time i tweeted that 25 women are 25 year old women are better looking
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00:17:44.520than 35 year old women and there were married mothers tweeting me their selfies trying to prove
00:17:52.580to me some random woman on the internet that they are still hot i was never talking about anyone in
00:17:59.180particular i never said a specific name i just said you know as we get older we're not as good
00:18:06.300looking. The same way if a guy, I don't know, at 60 or 70, he probably won't be able to lift as
00:18:13.160much. If you, if you say that to most guys, they probably won't tweet you their muscles, you know?
00:18:21.260But so what I realized is I could never make a general statement about men and women dynamics
00:18:32.240without people, and men have this problem too, right? It goes both ways, but without it being
00:18:39.760taken personal. Many of the men that go on these shows and say they would never cheat either don't
00:18:53.600have the option or um they're lying there was a point where there was um a guy that was like a
00:19:04.580regular on our show and his whole thing was that he does not cheat he's a loyal person
00:19:09.540and what i found is the more someone says that they're loyal the less likely they will be
00:19:15.260just in life like people that are loyal don't really have to say
00:19:20.700but it was it was really funny because he was dating like three women on the show
00:19:25.480it's like you don't people don't think i get the gossip like but you know i'm never one to
00:19:31.260like call someone out on a show if i know stuff i just let him go you know um i also found out
00:19:38.960that most women have an ex that they go back to in between breakups um so you know beware guys
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00:19:48.360good luck um and the other thing is that oh the other one thing that i learned was that many women
00:20:01.880or many times when people say they became something or change something it's more that
00:20:08.240they're trying to convince themselves so i would always hear i became feminine i became feminine
00:20:13.680And I don't know, their demeanor wasn't, I couldn't really put my finger on what it was, but I found the women that were femininity coaches had a tendency to be really not feminine at all.
00:20:38.000I would find they would be the most masculine ones.
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00:20:43.680So I'm trying to, I'm trying to stay within the guidelines guys. So if I'm a little slow, just, you know, someone said, yeah, and Doug is telling me in the chat, Pearl had to take a break and guys, this was so taxing on me.
00:21:03.620So again, at one point between me and King Rich's show, we had six shows a week.
00:21:10.460So I just, I got to a point I just could not, it was so frustrating to me to have conversations
00:21:19.120over and over again where the information could never be taken in general.
00:21:23.400It was always taken personal that I just needed a break.
00:23:16.900the women, I think conservatives paint the past as a better time to be alive.
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00:23:25.020I would always hear that, and I maybe even said it at some point, that the past was better because
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00:23:30.100it was more traditional and families stayed together. But when I really got to thinking
00:23:36.080about it, the women of the past did not like their husbands that much, because the second
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00:23:41.860they got the chance, they took the money and left. Again, I don't look at what people say,
00:23:46.260look at what they do and as soon as women got jobs and got the option to divorce they did
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00:23:52.020and that begs the question would you want someone to be with you who doesn't want to be there
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00:23:58.100and that is why i changed my opinion on banning no-fault divorce on you know because i just
00:24:06.980i think it's got to be torture to be in the same house as someone who doesn't want to be there
00:24:11.700I don't know. And some of the wives are so miserable, guys. They just nag on their husbands
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00:24:22.780like endlessly. Why torture them? So I used to think that marriage and family was the answer,
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00:24:34.760right? When I first got into the space, again, some of you might not have even seen this content,
00:24:41.100But before I really went super viral and started talking about divorce laws and all that stuff, I thought that marriage was the solution to a lot of people's problems, traditionalism.
00:24:54.960But what I came to find out was that marriage in 2024 is overwhelmingly a negative experience for men.
00:25:04.180Most men that have been married over a certain amount of time did not have happy marriages.
00:25:08.920I found out that 80% of their wives gained 20 pounds or more in the first five years.
00:25:15.280I found out the average length of marriage is eight years.
00:25:18.940I found out that gray divorce is rising, and a lot of the stats on marriage not being dead
00:25:26.720were a bit misleading because they include people that have not yet got divorced.
00:25:36.160And I realized that a lot of people want to sell their religion. They want people to convert to
00:25:43.640their religion, and so they mislead you on the reality of the situation. Now,
00:25:49.460there is a silver lining, and I'm going to get to it. I had a tweet detailing, so
00:25:58.860I interviewed a lot of men that were victims of divorce rape. And these are men that lost
00:26:06.420everything in divorce. Wives left, took the kids, took their money, lost their job, like just
00:26:12.640complete L, right? And I found out it was a common pattern that after the second child,
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00:26:19.920a lot of these women stopped sleeping with their husbands and get the divorce.
00:26:24.340The timelines differ. I found this consistent amongst Muslim background, Catholic background, Christian, United States, California, Texas, Florida.
00:26:44.880and I found out that the average marriage just is not
00:26:54.040it's not a good experience for most men
00:26:59.580because they don't get anything out of it
00:27:03.300and this was really hard for me to reconcile
00:27:06.140because most people I knew were married
00:27:08.520but one it doesn't mean they'll stay married
00:27:12.760and two it doesn't mean that's the average situation and what i figured out is marriage
00:27:18.980seems to be going away for the middle class and be something for the upper class and that's it