Pearl - It Is On MEN To Fix The Dating Market

00:00:00.000 uh welcome to the show pirate dog what is your thought what are your thoughts on the topic um

00:00:05.280 what do you guys mean by nice guys that's i think that's a that's a good question for

00:00:10.020 did you listen did you listen to the monologue or no no i kind of went through that there

00:00:16.740 i can read it again i guess but no just like a synopsis men who placate women men who placate

00:00:23.820 women yeah totally agreed i think um i sent it earlier in the chat the biggest issue is um you

00:00:32.540 know we all know the old adage like weak men create hard times um and we're living in some

00:00:38.920 hard times i mean i'm i'm 26 the dating scene is not very chill anymore i mean i think a lot of

00:00:45.660 that falls on the young men though because the uh the dating experiences that you hear from young

00:00:50.520 women are just awful i mean between um hookup culture to just like these awful experiences to 0.52

00:00:57.040 where a guy leads them on so much it's like i'm ready to date you i'm ready to step up to the 1.00

00:01:01.560 plate then they just ghost them they just wanted sex from them and then these women get these ideas 1.00

00:01:05.340 in their head that that's all the men in my life are going to do to me especially if they had a bad 1.00

00:01:10.180 upbringing with like a bad childhood or a bad father figure so then they have they double down

00:01:14.340 on this reality and like well i'm just going to treat men the same way they've been treating me

00:01:18.480 So then they go out into the dating world and do the same thing and they kind of they don't expect men to stay around.

00:01:24.360 They just want to get banged and then they want to just go about their life and kind of live it however they want.

00:01:29.340 And then the good guys that are out there like me, and it sounds like a lot of you guys as well.

00:01:33.680 We get the short end of the stick because we're like trying to prove them like, look, we're a good guy.

00:01:38.180 We want to stick around. We want to lead you. And in my life, I want to lead them in a godly way, in a biblical way.

00:01:43.340 But it's tough because they don't believe you because they've experienced so many men out there that have just wronged them and that have just treated them so poorly.

00:01:50.380 So I'll bounce off what you said. A lot of the women in your life, if you can ask them if they think that men are just a source of pain and anguish and they'll say yes.

00:02:00.600 Even if they've never been been in a relationship, they automatically assume that men are just a source of all they can bring to a woman's life is pain and anguish.

00:02:10.280 so you go ahead sean i'm sorry that's a shout out to the brother who said it but

00:02:16.580 cat cat i don't believe that these girls went through this traumatizing

00:02:22.240 30 of men don't even get no no no kitty cat your mistake is believe in them you know what i mean

00:02:30.060 your mistake is believe in them well no no no right along with eve what i'm saying is is there's

00:02:36.780 there's a social infrastructure in place for the past 40 50 years that where men are just harmful

00:02:42.960 to women and women believe it whether they have the experience i'm not saying that women went 0.86

00:02:48.180 through that i agree with you a lot of women have never it's just like it's like how black people 0.98

00:02:52.160 try to say oh slavery but most of us have never been through it but how many black people act on 0.71

00:02:57.260 this on this boogeyman that never happened women are the same way they act like they went through 0.95

00:03:03.740 all the trauma when none of them went through it but they still navigate the dating market that 1.00

00:03:07.040 way go ahead and if you talk to the guys most like you're not really gonna know the real story

00:03:12.420 until you talk to the guy that led them on half the time they'll tell you that they told the girl

00:03:17.160 that they didn't want anything early on like well i will second i want to say this and to ask them

00:03:24.300 their jobs the jobs of these guys a lot of times it's like it's like a job where it's like what

00:03:29.900 you expect yes it's like the bouncer cheated on me well you know what i mean the bartender cheated

00:03:36.380 on me yeah how did that how did that happen you know i found out i found out the personal

00:03:41.580 chain was banging four other women besides all of his clients stacy what like i don't know how um

00:03:49.500 old um most the chat is like i said i'm i'm 26 so not too old but i mean i would just say my own

00:03:55.900 personal experience my friend groups and everything growing up i have seen firsthand my friends that

00:04:01.680 are men do that to women i've called them out and said it's wrong everywhere it's a plethora it's

00:04:07.200 it's like a toxin that exists they they text 10 different girls at one time things about them

00:04:13.740 wanting to date and the girls come confide in me crying saying yeah but he like literally told me

00:04:17.940 that he wants to date that guy dude that's what i'm saying but it's already out there and it's

00:04:22.500 already rampant i'm not that person but trying to convince these girls that don't be the guy that

00:04:27.940 don't be the guy these women talk to about the toxic don't be that guy man

00:04:34.900 i'm the guy's friend and i'm kind of like in the area with

00:04:37.620 oh bro you gotta stop that right away hold on a second i've been the guy talking to multiple girls

00:04:44.980 have you been that guy do you know what yeah but i'm not i'm not leading them on saying that i'm

00:04:49.220 going to date them for 10 years like you should that's fair okay i wasn't leading them on but i

00:04:55.060 was flirting with most girls i understand the emotional high that it does to your ego i get

00:05:00.620 why they do it do i agree with them lying to the girls leading them on no i don't agree with that

00:05:05.840 but at the same time i get why they do it they have to live with themselves i don't the same

00:05:10.460 time they're not going to listen to me if i tell them stop it because they're doing they're going

00:05:14.180 to keep doing it right now i want to point out an underlying thing we are all realizing that there

00:05:18.840 is this infrastructure of social conditioning that gives people a false expectation. If you do

00:05:24.360 the blue pill, you get this certain outcome. And we're all seeing it doesn't work. We're seeing the

00:05:28.620 young men learn the lessons that we have learned through pain and suffering. And because we learned

00:05:33.180 it the hard way, we're not going to give up that lesson. And now we're actually trying to do

00:05:37.960 something positive about it by calling it out for what it is so that maybe someone else can learn

00:05:42.920 it with less pain. So props to all of you guys. Yeah. Were there any signs from these women?

00:05:48.840 that he wasn't in fact taking them seriously like where there's any warning signs that's

00:05:54.700 i mean like so what i'm gonna say is like yeah i'm not i'm not avidly like out there like let

00:06:01.320 me be a shoulder to cry on for these girls but they'll just come up to me at a place and say

00:06:04.820 like your friend did this to me and i'm like yeah i was there i saw the text message i saw him saying

00:06:09.600 that i saw what he said i's told you know i've seen what he's talked about with you and how he

00:06:13.660 does that to 20 different girls and like that's just something i don't want to participate in

00:06:17.460 my only point is that that type of behavior does not help the dating market and doesn't help the

00:06:23.540 world it doesn't it's not a positive outcome to this reality the fact of the matter is we're

00:06:28.000 dealing with a dating market and just a hurt group like a hurt world a hurt a hurt generation of

00:06:33.680 people that are just treating people awfully how do we fix it i don't think doing that type of 0.73

00:06:38.640 stuff is going to make it any better yeah but what did the girls do did they leave or did they just 1.00

00:06:43.480 keep going no they kept going because but only because only because young women are very

00:06:49.600 susceptible we all know this like they're very susceptible people they'll believe whatever you

00:06:53.640 tell them so that's why men as the leaders of this generation as the protectors and providers

00:06:57.380 the people that are in charge the people that are supposed to be leading them in a godly biblical

00:07:00.740 way are not doing that so that's just how it is yeah but what are they supposed to do they don't

00:07:07.060 respond to men in a godly biblical way okay i want to point something out i want to point something

00:07:12.820 out those women are going to be attracted to those men no matter what kind of logic you use

00:07:17.620 because of how those men make them feel so we want those women to make better choices

00:07:22.260 we have to demonstrate to them that we can create that exact same feeling in them but in a more

00:07:28.160 ethical way that takes a lot of work and a lot of men don't want to put in that work

00:07:32.680 we can learn to create that same kind of attraction in those women so they can see actually you know

00:07:38.580 what i don't have to go with the beggar i can find a guy who has better character who can still make 0.80

00:07:43.580 me feel that damn fucking excited that i want him that i'm gonna chase him wait wait wait hold on 0.92

00:07:48.060 pause did we see the did we see the phone all right so you said you've seen the messages that 0.99

00:07:53.160 your friend sent as a man did you see her messages and the message she was sending to other guys 0.98

00:07:58.500 or was she only talking to him stop the cap we always keep coming with humanize these goddamn 1.00

00:08:05.800 women stop trying to put them in this stage that's y'all biggest weakness every time a woman comes 1.00

00:08:11.520 y'all try to put them in this women are like children no they're not they're equal citizens 1.00

00:08:16.120 yeah they're humans and at the end of the day they're willing participants too just the way

00:08:22.180 they are out not not the participants you keep looking at it from that they are committing the

00:08:26.500 same atrocities you act like these girls are going out here man i'm only got only got tricked by this

00:08:32.200 guy besides that i was sitting on the top of the hill eating the apple and being goody two-shoe

00:08:37.440 is that the only guy was popping it they was popping it pearl they was twerking they they

00:08:44.440 hit puberty before you you were still pushing blocks and pokemon cards and they was looking

00:08:49.260 at boys they've been in the game longer than you yeah like what if she like how do you know she

00:08:55.700 wasn't talking to other dudes too no she definitely was okay i'm i'm just proposing an idea and you're 1.00

00:09:03.340 totally right um i'm proposing an idea though that it's like okay you said this women are not children

00:09:10.220 obviously to say that many women no no of course men and women are equal in terms of humanity in

00:09:17.720 terms of like how much value they have but in terms of their role in life they are not equal

00:09:23.400 and one question i will pose that i've heard before on podcasts i think pearl you're actually 0.97

00:09:27.600 on one that talked about it is who controls access to sex it is solely women that is a very 0.98

00:09:34.880 key thing to bring into this conversation they control access to sex 100 hands down 0.99

00:09:41.600 women control and control access to relationships i think i think women control access to both 1.00

00:09:48.040 yeah no because why are women chasing the man at the top trying to get the man to commit to them 1.00

00:09:54.520 y'all stepping into women frame men are too i tell bitches you ain't getting no d 1.00

00:10:01.360 please daddy give me some d please y'all never known that that's why girls don't sniff your 0.99

00:10:06.300 dirty drawers it's because y'all don't know this construct y'all step into the construct the 0.98

00:10:11.560 opposite way which is she control she controls sex she no you don't there's sex out on the 0.94

00:10:17.440 internet for 9.99 how are you going to control something that's in surplus you know i'm sure 0.97

00:10:23.000 everyone in here has has rejected women and rejected them trying to have intercourse with

00:10:27.980 them but it is only at the guise of them consenting to that at all times if a man comes forward to

00:10:33.340 you at any point in time is like i was sexually assaulted by a girl at a bar i'm like i'm not

00:10:37.520 what like i'm what do you mean you're sexually how did she overpower you how did she that doesn't

00:10:42.560 make any sense like how are you sexually assaulted by a woman usually consenting i would say i would 1.00

00:10:47.440 say control it i would say women control access to relationships because an average woman's gonna

00:10:52.220 have more choice than an average guy always like you could argue maybe a small percentage right 1.00

00:10:57.400 but like the average girl is gonna have more choice than the average guy 1.00

Pearl - April 19, 2026

It Is On MEN To Fix The Dating Market

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