Pearl - Jay Dyer Hates My Church Street Interview Series!

00:00:00.000 if anything i'm trying to help you guys out and help you you know become maybe you'll get some 1.00

00:00:04.320 young hot women instead of the old you know used up hags like me in your church you know

00:00:09.280 you'll get you know no kids young and compliant instead of old bitter tattoos what's going on 1.00

00:00:14.800 guys welcome to my reaction series today i am reacting to more trad con bullshit so

00:00:21.440 i had my team compile a bunch of different clips of trad cons just being trad cons as per usual

00:00:27.520 and so today i'm just going to react to another like 10 minutes of it where we left off and i

00:00:33.980 think next is going to be uh jay dyer but i'm just saying like okay so a little a little back

00:00:42.780 background so i went outside an orthodox church and when i was outside the orthodox church i was

00:00:49.360 accused of harassing orthodox people which i did not do i'm always very respectful i come with my

00:00:55.260 sign I asked you Christian women obey and my belief is that if you are a real Christian

00:00:59.080 um you will answer the question without fear uh because you know you're the all the people in the 0.70

00:01:10.000 church like the early church you know they had death on the other side of it ask answering

00:01:15.420 questions like this so I think the church can handle um a little sign then the orthodox came

00:01:23.260 out and they said oh pearl's harassing and blah blah blah blah blah it was just an over exaggeration

00:01:28.980 outright lie then they apologized so it's the beef is squashed so no beef with the orthodox

00:01:33.860 over here uh but what you point out is just the psychology that there's just a lot of fear in the

00:01:40.260 churches um afraid of this like why would you be afraid i agree with you of and pearl clutch over

00:01:48.300 pearl like she's immoral okay she's immoral she's not in the church you're surprised she's not

00:01:54.220 more okay now here's the thing so this is where i talk about christians being particularly 0.97

00:01:58.800 insufferable so even even that statement there pearls immoral well when did you meet your wife

00:02:04.000 how old was she what did she do before she met you know what i mean like another guy um and i

00:02:09.800 like him i've been on a show nothing against him uh but it's like he publicly tells um a story of

00:02:17.300 his wife monkey branching and then claiming she's more moral it's like you said that you dated your

00:02:23.040 wife after she dated your friend you know it's like it's they claim that they're more moral but 0.71

00:02:27.820 they're not and it's so obvious they're not because it like if you guys had more moral women

00:02:33.780 if your church produced moral women then the decisions of the women in your church would

00:02:39.080 reflect that and the average age of first marriage would be low i mean even the trad wife i interviewed

00:02:44.300 at the orthodox church nothing against her but she had a bunch of tattoos it's like you're not

00:02:47.660 fooling me you can fool these guys you're not gonna fool pearl um and i i think you know in

00:02:53.820 this society you're just really not gonna get good women um and that's okay uh you know what

00:03:00.940 but it's so it's just kind of for i mean of course she's immoral she's not in the church

00:03:04.620 she's not orthodox she's gonna be immoral she promotes immoral ideas why is this like some

00:03:10.060 revelation but people were all up in arms because she dared to get in people's faces 0.64

00:03:17.020 and i'm saying what are you i didn't even get in anyone's face 0.97

00:03:22.700 but i'm with him i think i agree with the overall sentiment gonna do when the muslims come in your 0.95

00:03:26.860 church and want to take you out that already has happened daniel sissy was martyred by the muslims 0.91

00:03:33.340 because he was converting them and you're gonna be afraid of this uh volleyball girl yeah i'm 0.60

00:03:38.700 with him i'm with jay asking you questions everybody are just giant dude everybody's 0.99

00:03:45.260 giant freaking vagina man they will not stand up for anything they're terrified of everything and 0.99

00:03:51.740 i'm not saying that you have to be foolhardy and then everybody wants to pretend that they're 0.99

00:03:58.300 monastics i don't understand this like everyone that suddenly becomes this pacifist uh eloi

00:04:06.540 monastic when these topics come up and it's almost always laity who are like oh this is so

00:04:14.480 damaging to the spirit of orthodoxy

00:04:18.120 okay this is kind of funny this the phronema the spirit of orthodoxy it's so it's always

00:04:28.520 the spirit of orthodoxy that is supposedly just being a total um doormat being a complete

00:04:35.860 passive aggressive just weirdo if saint ambrose christianized the classical virtues in his

00:04:42.500 writings then how can you argue that cowardice is somehow christianity and you know i guarantee you

00:04:50.100 he's cooking 90 of the people who piety signal and talk about how these things are bad

00:04:55.940 they're actually cloaking their own insecurities and cowardice under a cloak of pacifism and piety

00:05:03.620 let's see what her what her questions actually were here so pearl is basically a pagan she

00:05:11.480 okay so this is where um christians i'm just helping you out because i do think some of you

00:05:15.520 are well-meaning but i do have a um a chart for you which talks about why you guys are particularly

00:05:21.620 insufferable um and this is part of the chart which let me go to this video let me pull it up

00:05:28.320 um okay so here let me let me find this okay so here if i share this screen which is you can

00:05:38.520 if you google the christian circle of gaslighting you can watch it but i wrote on this board um why

00:05:43.960 christians are particularly insufferable and because they go through the circle of gaslighting

00:05:48.820 which starts with being right um they want to be right um they discredit my interviews and they 1.00

00:05:53.580 say i just interviewed the wrong people the wrong race the wrong social class then they try to

00:05:57.260 discredit me and that's where um that's where j dyer is in this um compilation as he's saying oh

00:06:02.780 and this is where you guys are particularly insufferable i am better than you therefore

00:06:07.040 i'm more moral yada yada yada um yeah so he's gonna go down that that route so let's keep going 0.64

00:06:14.300 i bet i have no knowledge of anything okay now look at now they go into the i am smarter than

00:06:20.980 you so then they they which goes under the discredit so then they just they bark bible

00:06:26.440 verses and say do you know i know the bible verse do you know the bible verse that's insufferable

00:06:33.000 that's insufferable and i i don't mean this as an attack i don't mean this to be mean

00:06:36.840 if anything i'm trying to help you guys out and help you you know become maybe you'll get some 0.52

00:06:41.320 young hot women instead of the old you know used up hags like me in your church you know you'll get

00:06:48.280 you know no kids young and compliant instead of old bitter tattoos so this was like this was a

00:06:54.200 bible 101 question she has no idea right so now again how do i put this do you really think

00:07:02.360 i have no idea when i'm 20 years of catholic school

00:07:08.200 i do all these interview you're right i just have no idea

00:07:11.880 or maybe that's why these guys they don't know what they're talking about i do the interviews

00:07:16.680 i'm there to interview you so like if they're gonna bark questions at me i just say i don't

00:07:22.040 know what what do you think these guys these ninjas they don't get it but you have to understand

00:07:30.040 i don't care whether you like pearl or not i already said i don't think she has good motives

00:07:34.520 where was this smoke when you were on my show you don't have good motives

00:07:39.480 uh okay but see again it goes back to he has good motives pearl has bad motives i am better than you 0.76

00:07:47.640 circle of insufferability this is a pagan this is an unbelieving person see there you go 0.58

00:07:53.080 i am better than you and unbelieving people do self-serving things yeah and the believing 0.85

00:07:58.920 people don't do self-serving things yeah right uh okay they look for click bait rage bait that's

00:08:07.800 the world we live in and i mean and the church people don't look for i mean like let's just

00:08:13.960 look at the actions here pearl goes out respectfully asked questions about obedience

00:08:19.000 um the church comes back at me and says pearls harassing and like doesn't ask again

00:08:24.440 they apologize this isn't beef but i'm just saying objectively

00:08:31.080 who is rage baiting the other i who is falsely accusing the other you know it's like

00:08:37.240 they they claim and that's the thing they they claim holier than thou when they do the exact

00:08:41.320 at least this woman whoever this uh this woman in here is at least she's over there engaging her 0.59

00:08:45.960 like why why were any of the men afraid to engage her like why where are the dudes over there 1.00

00:08:52.440 actually i get more men in these interviews than women engaging her but basically this woman just

00:08:59.400 asked what's the greatest commandment according to jesus and pearl said i don't know uh so here we

00:09:04.840 ago basis of our faith i'm a degenerate so apparently yeah well you're better than me

00:09:11.240 no i'm not i am not okay but jesus answered saying love the lord your god with all your heart

00:09:20.360 your mind and your strength and the second is like unto the first that you love your neighbor

00:09:27.000 as yourself i do not see the love of god in this sign okay see that there is more insufferability 0.52

00:09:34.540 by the christians right again you guys are like particularly a standard deviation worse 0.98

00:09:38.820 i think it's because no one's getting laid it just makes them bitchy you know like obviously 0.98

00:09:42.640 the wives aren't banging their husbands because they're usually weak men and like who is this 0.98

00:09:47.440 woman having sex with nobody hot so i mean that that's going to create a lot of resentment so 0.94

00:09:51.980 um and they have to pretend to be better than you which you know so i you know it's like i don't see 0.96

00:10:00.300 love in your son i don't see love in your heart woman i'm coming at you a lot more um 0.88

00:10:06.140 with a lot kinder spirit than vice versa my comments now unfortunately this woman is the

00:10:14.480 archetype of everything that i'm saying okay there he's good first of all she should have

00:10:20.260 detected from the outset that if pearl doesn't know the first and greatest commandment she's

00:10:25.200 not a christian and she's not going to exhibit the love of god duh but see this is what i mean

00:10:30.140 they pretend to be better than you while exhibiting worse traits so they like they're 0.99

00:10:36.620 like well i know this commandment but exhibiting being a bitch right where i'm being polite to you 0.99

00:10:42.800 i'm smiling i'm being happy and you know they say oh pearl doesn't know the answer to this question 0.95

00:10:48.260 well why can i exhibit it better than you and i don't even think i'm a particularly good person

00:10:55.840 right i'm not even saying that it's just more like again it's okay here's pearl i'm just like

00:11:02.080 a normal person right and then here's the christian women they're like a standard deviation 1.00

00:11:07.200 more insufferable than normal degenerates like me so and so to come over there and act like 1.00

00:11:16.000 should quit could should women submit to their husbands and then you say this is not a loving 0.98

00:11:20.640 action is i mean it's like asking a muslim tell us the the greatest commandment of jesus and then 0.95

00:11:28.480 when they don't know what you say you're not loving yeah they don't care they're not christian 0.64

00:11:33.400 why would they care or know about any of that stuff and pearl obviously doesn't know anything

00:11:38.320 and so ironically this woman in this video actually and this was pearl's intention was to

00:11:45.060 show that the women who come out and do the who will actually respond and i don't know maybe she

00:11:50.320 just clipped uh like one of the worst you know what it actually wasn't my intention at all my

00:11:54.980 intention is to be accurate right but this is the circle let's go back to the circle of cope

00:11:59.280 um discredit the interviews it's just the interviews that you did

00:12:04.220 do you think i really have a big say and who comes up to my sign i would love it if i did

00:12:12.760 right but can we just keep it a buck that i don't really i i can't really control that

00:12:20.920 at all i i mean if it was up to me i would just interview women uh but i get more men doing these

00:12:27.240 interviews so you know i go where i go with who talks to me i you know you sit there you sit there

00:12:33.320 for like two hours up to four i think i've even done six once in the blazing heat and i maybe get

00:12:40.760 like 10 to I think 20 people max do you think I have any control over who I get to talk to that

00:12:50.600 I wish I could because it'd be a lot easier to come up with questions you know um because you

00:12:55.420 have to come up with questions for the type of people that come up to you and you can't always 1.00

00:12:59.360 predict it and you have no idea what they're going to say um so I think you know Christians 1.00

00:13:05.180 like that's what they that's their gaslighting is they have an ego investment in being right 1.00

00:13:09.720 they want it to be the interviews and it's like dude if i could control that i would have a lot

00:13:15.320 better content some of these some of these videos i do every week they don't go viral i lose money

00:13:19.640 on them because you know i can't you know i can't make women be insufferable sometimes they're not

00:13:26.120 versions or something who knows but um actually that is a pharisaical way to reply okay so what

00:13:33.320 happens if you and the husband disagree who should the wife listen to or it could be maybe

00:13:39.000 a different church authority. But if the church authority says one thing and a husband says

00:13:43.300 another, who should the wife listen to? It depends on what the thing is. So I do really

00:13:53.200 think there are certain things. So again, this is, so this is kind of going back to my Christian

00:13:57.580 circle of uh where's my video on let me pull it up the the christian um circle of women 1.00

00:14:07.340 basically circumventing male authority again when people really believe in um

00:14:16.220 how i put it in men having authority like i would say that the answer should just be yes

00:14:24.220 women should listen to their husbands period but they just kind of find a way to round about

00:14:31.740 circle thought um here hold on circumvent male authority so here we go 0.98

00:14:38.620 let me find let me find this video i have on it

00:14:54.220 oh, here we go. All right. We're going to share this tab. So let me pull up my whiteboard.

00:15:03.300 Give me one second. Yeah. So it says, do you obey? Right. And then we're going to yes, but

00:15:11.640 do you obey yes but only if women sets the condition yeah so that's that's what we're

00:15:23.420 gonna go to right here so is it as a couple like you get a spiritual father involved if you need

00:15:30.100 help but really you know like you you have the authority within your own home as a couple to

00:15:35.420 sort these things out right so I don't I don't consult my priest on like every purchase that

00:15:39.440 i make or something like this like i don't constantly text them as i was thinking about

00:15:42.620 buying a new suburban i don't know what do you you know unless i'm just talking to him as a friend

00:15:46.460 right um right but okay parenting style yeah a common disagreement is men want to discipline

00:15:55.040 women say that it's abusive or it's too much it's x y and z maybe you agree with the wife when you

00:16:03.420 hear it should he listen to you or should he or should she listen to you or should she listen to 0.97

00:16:08.600 husband well again nobody should listen to me except in the context that i've been given

00:16:13.240 authority to teach you are another church authority that's my question so if you're asking

00:16:18.920 we're having a trouble it's again then they over intellectualize

00:16:24.600 takes forever to get me up with disciplining the children and we're going to go to our priest and 0.97

00:16:30.200 say how do we handle this correct and he tells us something he agrees with the woman 0.96

00:16:34.840 it's really just going back to the obedience question right because when it comes down to it

00:16:40.140 is she supposed to obey obey the husband or the priest or the church authority ultimately i should

00:16:46.840 obey the priest okay so now again this is this is what i mean religion circumvents male authority

00:16:51.380 because now they have to listen to the church and not the husband so even if the church goes awry

00:16:56.620 you still have to and even though the church doesn't have a vested interest in your success

00:17:02.440 so okay so you would say she should listen to the priest it depends on the situation

00:17:09.280 well it's kind of like a workaround answer and it really is i don't intend it that way like i i've

00:17:15.580 this is you might not intend it that way but that's what it is right i've tried to really

00:17:21.260 make the point all of this is contexted and i'm never going to give you the answer that's going

00:17:26.860 to satisfy you like i could i know it would be yes or no that would satisfy i know that yeah

00:17:31.760 um i'm trying in good faith to explain why that's the case but uh it's it's

00:17:39.520 we don't deal with people in general we don't deal with people in general

00:17:46.920 or we deal with specific people two seconds the thing that i'm concerned with in a pastoral

00:17:56.320 context is let's have a healthy marriage to begin with when the marriage doesn't starts to become

00:18:03.020 unhealthy then we start to say what are the ways that we can try to heal and put this back together

00:18:08.120 at some point the rupture can become too great man is beating his wife man is beating his wife

00:18:14.780 damn right we we have to separate you right we deal with specific people 0.60

00:18:21.780 who made this edit it's the same thing in a marriage so now christ is a perfect you know 0.96

00:18:31.560 we we can't posit a situation in which christ does not give proper love and headship but we

00:18:36.420 can posit a situation which i will not do that um if i fail to give that proper love and headship

00:18:42.180 that identity to to be the spiritual leader and the priest for my home to set a direction for the

00:18:47.460 life of my family and to set boundaries around things when if I fail to do that then I uh

00:18:55.100 then then there's the relationship again becomes broken there's there's nothing for her to embody

00:19:01.380 right but let's say you're doing all that and she still won't listen it's not going to happen

00:19:06.800 it happens all the time yeah but but I'm not talking about you two yeah but I'm talking

00:19:11.960 about in general but this is this is this is an important difficulty in our conversation though

00:19:17.060 is that as an Orthodox Christian, I'm never going to talk in general.

00:19:23.480 Like, it's just, we worship a personal God, right?

00:19:29.060 We don't worship God in general.

00:19:30.560 Okay, well, when the Orthodox guy said, don't transition my kids, 1.00

00:19:35.100 he said, I'm going to do it anyway. 0.95

00:19:36.480 Yes.

00:19:37.000 Divorce?

00:19:38.780 In that extreme situation, absolutely, yes.

00:19:41.260 But it happened here.

00:19:42.280 This is what I mean.

00:19:43.340 Oh, my God. 1.00

00:19:44.220 This is the Christian circle of gaslighting. 1.00

00:19:46.020 i need to make another one that's about and you guys put in the comments but like that that goes 0.88

00:19:52.260 through oh that i don't talk you know asks direct question the way is they circumvent it tells

00:20:01.780 random bible story doesn't answer the specific question that would never happen shows a situation

00:20:10.340 it happened so well that's extreme you know it just never ends okay but it starts with small

00:20:16.100 things right it usually like disobedience doesn't start with like one giant thing like it starts

00:20:23.380 with her not like she spends too much money women make 85 of consumer buying decisions 1.00

00:20:29.300 so spending too much money um talking on social media right like there's a whole heap i'm sure 1.00

00:20:35.700 you know them of things that women don't listen to their husbands for and it can feel like

00:20:40.340 enslavement if a guy has all of the responsibility of a wife but no authority so and he can't leave

00:20:47.780 so what is a guy supposed to do if he and many times the women lie about their past they get

00:20:53.780 through the door somehow and now he's stuck now what so that's just yeah you're obviously addressing

00:21:01.300 real difficulties real pain real this is the gaslighting no answer problems that are you're

00:21:08.840 addressing real problems here where's the answer are endemic in our society for various reasons i

00:21:13.340 disagree with you yeah my church is special cope that's another one um obviously there's all there's

00:21:20.120 plenty of other you mentioned a minute ago um parenting styles is another one people fight a

00:21:26.100 about you know dad wants to discipline she says no yeah you you mentioned a minute ago um the uh

00:21:34.260 that this is sort of the and this is not a i'm not trying to pick pick a bone with you you mentioned

00:21:39.780 you know this is like the worst thing you can think of is because you know all the child's

00:21:42.900 important i smile a little bit when you said that because that is really bad but man there's so many

00:21:48.340 worse sins like there's so many worse since i'm not saying it's good i am but what there's other

00:21:54.500 they're gaslighting there's worse things that could happen ninja that's not the question what

00:21:59.860 i what i'm trying to to kind of point out is that what do you mean if there's worse sins than child

00:22:05.920 support no no what i'm saying is i'm yes if a woman leaves her husband and you know he gets

00:22:11.560 stuck in the child like it's very bad right it's devastating it's absolutely listen i know people

00:22:16.980 who've gone you know now he's saying child support's not that bad through this again are you

00:22:21.420 are you gonna with your chest tell women to take their fathers off of child support

00:22:25.660 no they won't do it that's what i mean

00:22:29.820 there are definitely worse things it doesn't make it okay but they're definitely worse things

00:22:35.500 like you see how he's um taking it this is what i mean you go to church and you get 0.66

00:22:41.820 this is this is the conviction you get for female sex four days a month with your kid

00:22:46.860 worse things than that i think that's death to a lot of men

00:22:50.780 because that's standard every other weekend yeah any guy that she dates has more access yeah yeah

00:22:55.340 then you like can you listen i i have i've i've got people in my life in these kind of situations

00:23:00.940 it is the the the thing that we can't do is to let the exception dictate the rule

00:23:09.340 i need to speak up more so the thing i think in these interviews i need to i need to i get

00:23:16.140 yeah i need to some base in my voice that i'm concerned with in a pastoral context is

00:23:24.620 let's have a healthy marriage to begin with when the marriage doesn't starts to become unhealthy

00:23:30.740 then we start to say what are the ways that we can try to heal and put this back together at

00:23:35.600 some point the rupture can become too great man is beating his wife right we have to separate you

00:23:41.760 hello hi what do you think of this we're gonna stop there um i'm gonna keep going through this

00:23:46.900 compilation and you got a lot of a lot of content here so let me know what you guys think in the

00:23:51.460 comments i love you thanks so much for watching um and if there's any christian you know simp

00:23:58.160 stuff i should react to let me know in the comments like the video subscribe i'll see you next time

Pearl - July 05, 2026

Jay Dyer Hates My Church Street Interview Series!

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