Pearl - Jeff St James Schools Two Feminists

00:00:00.000 from the hill it caught my eye most young men are single most young women are not young men

00:00:05.440 have fallen faster than any demographic in america over the last 40 years it's a different world now

00:00:10.560 like we don't need men the way that they used to the future is female men and women are drifting

00:00:19.360 further apart and society is crumbling because of it a fascinating debate has broken out about

00:00:25.600 the value of marriage you've kind of got the trad con versus red pill thing this men's rights

00:00:30.320 crowd that sometimes just goes too far the other way you need to stop acting like grown boys and

00:00:35.440 infants and actually become men marriage is a bond and it's a sacred bond it's a machine designed to

00:00:41.280 extract resources from you now many of the red pill have taken the position that it's bad for

00:00:45.440 men to get married hannah pearl davis or just pearly things one of the most controversial faces

00:00:53.600 In all of the internet, she goes on to say that marriage is a terrible deal for men.

00:00:57.920 Because if me and you were in a business contract, you would never sign a contract where I am paid to leave.

00:01:03.100 Gee, what could go wrong there?

00:01:05.260 74% or something of divorces are initiated by women.

00:01:08.840 Men have everything to lose, primarily their own children.

00:01:11.720 Men get killed by the courts and by divorce laws.

00:01:14.400 I had no idea that courts of family law were courts of equity, not courts of law.

00:01:19.320 Because in family court, you don't need evidence to accuse someone of abuse.

00:01:22.440 You need no evidence.

00:01:23.600 When you guys say get married young, a lot of these men don't know what they're signing up for,

00:01:27.400 and you're not going to be there when their entire life falls apart.

00:01:30.740 I interviewed them on the other side.

00:01:33.280 I didn't meet my son until he was 15 months old.

00:01:35.580 How much did you spend trying to get him back?

00:01:37.720 The legal fees alone was about $200,000.

00:01:40.080 Before you know it, you're homeless. You're literally just thrown out onto the street.

00:01:43.420 We absolutely reinforce bad behavior from women.

00:01:45.860 Wives are taught to leave their husbands, and then daughters grow up without their fathers.

00:01:50.100 Family is the foundation of society.

00:01:51.720 Every problem in society comes from single mother homes.

00:01:55.040 A lot of women will just chase this negative rabbit hole of happiness, endless happiness.

00:01:59.340 Feminism's biggest failure is it lies to women.

00:02:01.300 We tell women to date as many guys as possible.

00:02:03.120 We tell them to put off family and a marriage.

00:02:04.900 You are allowed to leave your perfect husband.

00:02:07.640 You are allowed to end a relationship with a really great boyfriend.

00:02:12.060 Oh, freeze your eggs, have an abortion.

00:02:13.860 What? You're evil.

00:02:15.100 I don't think there's anything else in life that we actually ever go into preparing to fail.

00:02:18.820 like if you have the mentality of this is going to go wrong and be pessimistic naturally the

00:02:23.720 outcome is going to be that it's going to fail anyway it's self-sabotage that's the thing like

00:02:27.380 women are so willing to leave marriages because they're not happy this is not about happiness

00:02:32.000 the most important thing is the children and the problem is we have a modern society where it's me

00:02:37.540 me me my feelings leave when i feel like it instead of doing what's best for the kids

00:02:42.240 this myth that we live in an age of male privilege where's my male privilege they think well men have

00:02:47.860 They have all the rights, they have all the power.

00:02:49.860 Privileged patriarchal system that we have.

00:02:51.860 Why doesn't our society care about men's rights?

00:02:54.860 I have no friends.

00:02:55.860 No wife and no social life.

00:02:57.860 Men are alone in this situation.

00:02:59.860 Men are homeless.

00:03:00.860 Men are thinking about eating guns.

00:03:02.860 I've seen so many men on the brink of suicide and they didn't do anything wrong.

00:03:06.860 How are you equal if the men are the ones that have to fight and die to defend the country?

00:03:11.860 The men are the ones that build and maintain all the infrastructure.

00:03:16.300 Women are helplessly dependent upon men.

00:03:18.900 The so-called deaths of despair from suicide, overdose, or alcohol,

00:03:22.880 three times higher among men than among women.

00:03:25.960 Culture is telling men, you are no good.

00:03:27.820 You've got to get your act together.

00:03:29.020 I think men have failed themselves.

00:03:30.640 What kind of a man are you?

00:03:31.880 What kind of a woman are you going to attract?

00:03:33.840 If men are in trouble, so are women.

00:03:36.500 Everybody knows this is a huge problem, but nobody wants to admit it.

00:03:40.080 Every single woman at the table said they wanted a man to give...

00:03:42.440 500K.

00:03:43.120 500K.

00:03:44.060 300K.

00:03:44.500 200K.

00:03:44.940 Am I crazy?

00:03:45.500 everything is really set up against you to fail as a man if men make less than women women don't

00:03:50.400 want to marry them so you know who wants more economically and emotionally viable men women

00:03:55.880 i don't want to be an independent woman anymore i don't want to be a strong independent woman i'm

00:04:01.600 over it when is it going to be my turn where are we meeting the men that don't stop i can't keep

00:04:06.280 having these same conversations the only simp here is you pearl you simp for no i think i think you

00:04:10.940 for women. She's a provocateur. She says stupid stuff, but Pearl is right about this. It's already

00:04:15.460 happening. It's just not out in the open yet. Now it's just hookup culture is going to be our

00:04:19.440 fairy tale ending because men don't want a wife and women can't find a husband. The future,

00:04:24.500 if everybody follows your path, is there is no future. We go into population decline and our

00:04:29.360 economy goes into decline. Civilization will crumble. The American story does not end well.

00:04:35.680 This is an existential crisis failing young men.

00:04:40.940 what up guys welcome to another episode of pearl daily that is our trailer for the divorce

00:04:51.060 documentary which last show we got four hundred dollars worth of donations we're trying to get

00:04:57.680 to 100k and we're recently at 31 000 at 897 dollars as you guys know video production is

00:05:06.520 expensive so hit that donate button if you can and for 10 20k i'll let you guys add in a

00:05:16.120 personalized message to your ex-wife so if you if you have something you want to say to her you

00:05:22.520 can go in my divorce documentary all right so what are we talking about today today we are reacting

00:05:31.080 to um jeff james and he is a licensed therapist and he's basically cooking he's basically cooking

00:05:41.140 these feminists uh yeah cooking cooking cooking cooking um all right so let me

00:05:48.460 let me play this i think he said around the 17 minute mark

00:05:52.120 also guys um we are back on the app store so if you go

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00:06:08.740 it's a one-time lifetime fee and then you're in it for life so all right let's let me do this okay

00:06:17.720 so if i'm gonna say no i'm gonna say no if i'm gonna disagree i'm gonna disagree and

00:06:27.160 men not going through the natural maturation process as teenagers as early adults because

00:06:34.460 they literally don't have the opportunity to with women we can't be shocked anymore that there's an

00:06:39.760 environment that's festering of boys and young men who unfortunately have a strong distaste and

00:06:45.480 i would argue not even for women in general women in the western cultures and countries

00:06:51.400 this is why they're running to the other countries and cultures where men are at least still seen as

00:06:56.740 valuable, relevant, important.

00:07:00.780 No, I think, yeah, I will break a point.

00:07:04.540 I, you know, I think that like anything in the West

00:07:08.120 to redress any kind of, any imbalance in anything,

00:07:12.540 we've had to go to some crazy level to the other side

00:07:15.820 and come to a middle thing.

00:07:19.140 The only thing I have to say to my ex is,

00:07:22.460 damn, you got fat.

00:07:23.520 Well, that'd be pretty funny.

00:07:25.180 imagine imagine so steve m in the chat hello let's say your name is diane hello diane um i have a

00:07:32.540 message from steve m and he wants you to know that you look like a beluga whale now and he's glad he

00:07:40.080 got out when he could because he got you when you were thin and um good luck to the simp that puts

00:07:47.260 up with that that would be pretty funny that'd be a pretty good i'll leave it i'll drop it to 5k

00:07:57.120 this show this show paypal me hannah pearl davis at gmail.com send me a paypal this show

00:08:03.980 it's in the divorce documentary it's in the i'll i know you guys are thinking pearl why do you

00:08:09.740 charge so much money look guys do you know what it costs to put a documentary do you know what

00:08:14.520 do you know like do you know what this stuff costs i have to hire editors producers lighting people

00:08:22.360 i know what you're thinking pearl pearl but you did you you in england you you said you were

00:08:28.920 working at will we were i had one guy that messed it up i'm gonna be honest i hired i made one bad

00:08:34.840 choice that wasted money you know sometimes when you're putting something together that was one

00:08:40.600 two got the second issue that we had um

00:08:48.200 was that i got demonetized so now we're raising money for it in a few months you know i might be

00:08:53.240 able to put it together myself but you know i'm trying to i'm not supposed to say that but yeah

00:08:58.040 okay why are we so surprised why do we have to have shows like adolescents that quite frankly

00:09:02.680 a pretty latent game in terms of its culture and like you said um i talked quite a lot of my friends

00:09:11.400 you know who were all parents and they had no idea what i mean i knew about it i'm doing this podcast

00:09:16.280 and i see these comments all the time and i was very aware of it i've read a lot about it

00:09:20.280 they had no idea i had no idea about it i'm like you have teenage children and young adult children

00:09:26.680 how do you not know how are you that ill-informed i agree with you know what's crazy yeah i'm sorry

00:09:35.240 i'm sorry to cut you off but you want to know what's crazy when you're in a marketing environment

00:09:38.840 where both parents got to work long hours i started it too far ahead i thought you said 17 minutes

00:09:46.680 okay where do you want me to start it doug mpa

00:09:48.680 you said at the 17 minute mark it got good um where am i going

00:09:59.240 uh all right i guess i'll do the two minute mark not seeing it in today's culture for men

00:10:13.440 which we do not get rid of the welcome so what was the reaction when you saw the show adolescence

00:10:20.280 which is like based in in self-consumer i understand why it's extremely appealing i

00:10:27.340 understand why i see why it's going viral i understand why i believe it's the third

00:10:31.500 most watched show on netflix history after being out there's such a short amount of time which is

00:10:36.660 crazy how big of a deal is it to be demonetized mark i had to fire everybody and move home

00:10:44.020 i worked for free for a year and a half do you know what that does mentally to a person

00:10:49.840 if you've ever been unemployed at least you have free time

00:10:54.040 anyways um but it's wildly wildly off in most in most ways in which they try to categorize

00:11:10.400 what's actually going on i'm being honest with you and the problem with it is is several things

00:11:16.880 But the first is they clearly did not use an expert on incel culture.

00:11:22.880 Any expert on it, go on YouTube when you get the chance

00:11:26.540 and type in incel experts review adolescence

00:11:33.540 and see all the data they have

00:11:36.640 in comparison to how the show tried to cover it to a degree.

00:11:42.060 And it was only four episodes,

00:11:43.220 so there was only so much, of course, that they could do.

00:11:45.300 but i'm going to tell you one thing that i loved and i think they did get right and it was very

00:11:51.180 subtle and i don't know if people actually picked it up enough the first is when the two detectives

00:11:58.160 were walking this is a rattlesnake raid oh tell jake i said thank you yeah and they're trying to

00:12:07.700 engage with the students and it's very clear like they're just missing it students aren't saying

00:12:12.420 anything nobody's really wanting to work with them like they're just getting all this resistance

00:12:16.540 they're not really getting anywhere in terms of their investigation and the lead detective

00:12:20.860 after he talks with his son and his son talks about the red pill and and he's asking son did

00:12:27.740 you see the matrix and his son's like what's the matrix like what are you talking like

00:12:30.240 and they captured the confusion of people who aren't in it yes you don't do this for a living

00:12:39.260 who aren't psychologists, who aren't psychiatrists, who aren't in mental health,

00:12:42.720 who aren't in these spaces, even people who are talking about it all the time,

00:12:47.700 if you're not in it, you don't actually get it. When I talked about that mountaintop thing,

00:12:55.760 you don't know what it's like to be considered invisible and useless to both men and women.

00:13:03.800 you don't get it damn see she's like i don't care because women will always be useful to

00:13:13.380 some degree because you're a whole someone will do it you don't know that feeling i don't care

00:13:19.800 if you're the most unattractive if you saw the show uh what was it my 400 500 pound life or

00:13:27.120 something like that where they got to get cranes and break down doors to move these people

00:13:32.040 why all these women got men

00:13:33.880 oh that's funny great question i've always

00:13:43.860 because still as a woman by default she's still going to have value with some man

00:13:49.260 wow but at a certain age she she she's still but again

00:13:54.420 if the first 60 years of you living you're seen as valuable to somebody

00:14:00.240 that matters versus in comparison you can go your entire life and be considered a genetic dead end

00:14:07.100 that is actually so interesting yeah so on the show these are lead detectives whose job it is

00:14:13.760 to learn to question think of things on multiple levels and they had no idea that there's a

00:14:19.300 subculture yeah of bullying and and ostracization amongst not just boys doing this to each other

00:14:27.320 but on social media other people who you may not even know also saying things about you

00:14:34.720 also targeting you and it's not yeah and it never ends i mean there's a kid who committed suicide

00:14:43.060 because his nude got leaked or something to someone in nigeria and they extradited them

00:14:49.040 and put them in prison that's amazing just the bullying and attack that's it's also the shaming

00:14:56.380 it's also the rejection it's also being seen as invisible and i don't it's a very very very hard

00:15:04.440 way it's a very hard concept to try to describe to people who for most of their life or they have

00:15:11.380 yet to experience what it means to be invisible since they were 14 years old right they don't

00:15:16.740 know what that that feeling is and and i thought the show did a really good job of the parents

00:15:20.600 didn't see it yeah the the detectives didn't know it but the second piece i thought they got really

00:15:25.940 great, was when they found out, oh, snap, the kid's being targeted, the kid's being bullied,

00:15:38.840 the victim apparently was a contributing member of this, and she was leading the charge,

00:15:43.880 and the things that she would say, and the viciousness of how they were treating this boy,

00:15:48.400 I'm not going to say what he did was justify, spoiler alert, for those who didn't watch the

00:15:53.220 show. If you didn't, it's your fault by now. Yeah, exactly.

00:15:55.300 But the callous response that the woman investigator had

00:16:02.080 When he tried to bring it to her attention

00:16:04.080 Like I think there's more that's going on with this case

00:16:06.120 And she said

00:16:07.560 I just want the attention to be on the victim

00:16:11.160 On the girl

00:16:12.160 And what I would suggest is

00:16:14.700 There were two victims

00:16:16.260 It's just that one guy

00:16:17.640 Right

00:16:18.860 One lost their life

00:16:21.280 And one lost their freedom potential

00:16:23.500 you notice that whenever women die um it's always the national headlines but when when men die no

00:16:29.820 one cares people don't um have a lot of sympathy when men pass away really for the rest of their

00:16:39.420 lives and what happens is that small little snippet is an example of the larger pool of

00:16:47.660 what's going on. Yes, he did something wrong. Yes, he's the murderer. Yes, he needs to be

00:16:53.420 incarcerated. I agree with all of that, obviously. But the environment that created someone like that,

00:17:00.620 we are so oblivious to the realities and perspectives of what young boys and men are

00:17:07.980 going through. You don't get it that for many men, they don't see feminism. It doesn't matter

00:17:17.100 if they don't have the great working definition of it their experience of all these people who

00:17:22.140 claim that identity you don't actually care about equality that's a woman advocacy movement or at

00:17:30.220 least was up until recent debates about who can or can't be a woman but prior to this debate it's

00:17:37.820 always been for many people and particularly many men it's more so women advocacy program which is

00:17:43.500 totally fine. But you cannot say that you care about men and that you're advocating for equality.

00:17:49.820 And I'm going to list these things off, and I wrote them down to make sure I don't forget it.

00:17:53.980 You don't care about mandatory paternity tests. You don't care about paternity fraud.

00:17:59.260 You don't care about male suicide rates. You don't care about equalizing

00:18:05.340 hard, laborious jobs outside. You don't want to equalize that. You don't care about what

00:18:12.220 happens to people that are falsely accused which is almost always exclusively men you don't actually

00:18:17.340 care about the declining school performance the rise in adhd diagnosis and the medication

00:18:22.540 psychiatric medication that comes from it you don't care about the lack the lack of homeless

00:18:26.300 shelters for men you don't care about the weaponization of the family court the equal

00:18:30.380 custodial rights reproductive safe for men uh reduction in child support and alimony pathologizing

00:18:36.860 of just men and masculinity in general negative attitudes towards um uh even men that want a

00:18:43.580 nuclear family you don't think or care about any of these things and i'm not even saying it's just

00:18:49.420 the feminists that don't care about it nobody i'm saying most people who don't do what i do

00:18:55.660 don't care about this at all and you're creating and we talked about this 80 20 rule what's

00:19:01.660 happening to the 80 percent you don't care not good and in the beauties if i if i just get the

00:19:08.380 man i want if i just get the partner i want if i just i don't i don't care i don't care about

00:19:13.580 what's happening with men let's bring the attention back to women that's what the detective did in

00:19:17.340 that show right and that is what society in western cultures is unfortunately like

00:19:24.060 Most people only care about males or boys or men if they are their brother, their son, or their father, or their uncle, or their close friend.

00:19:38.540 This society, in the quest to be fair to women, to improve their rights, allow the worst representatives to take it to its furthest extreme.

00:19:51.920 Right. When we talk so much about misogyny, most women can't tell you what the term is

00:20:01.640 for a strong distaste and hatred for men. What's the term?

00:20:07.940 Misandry. Misandry. Being a misandrist. Most men's experiences that we keep labeling as

00:20:15.160 in cells, we keep labeling as massages, their experiences in co-worker situations, in the

00:20:22.600 schools, dating, on dating apps, is that a lot of women are either misandrous or they're

00:20:29.180 so reductionistic of men that if you don't have the money, you have no say and you need

00:20:35.680 to shut up.

00:20:36.400 And even if you do have the money, it's happy wife, happy life once I'm in your life.

00:20:43.160 Yeah.

00:20:43.600 I done told my wife, we joke around about it all the time. When we're amongst other couples and

00:20:49.920 friends, she sarcastically say all the time, the one thing I appreciate about Jeff more than anything

00:20:56.000 is he's the same exact person in home as he is in public. He doesn't change. So if I'm going to say

00:21:03.660 no, I'm going to say no. If I'm going to disagree, I'm going to disagree. And men not going through

00:21:11.700 the natural maturation process as teenagers, as early adults, because they literally don't have

00:21:16.580 the opportunity to with women. We can't be shocked anymore that there's an environment that's

00:21:22.040 festering of boys and young men who unfortunately have a strong distaste. And I would argue not even

00:21:28.480 for women in general, women in the Western cultures and countries. This is why they're

00:21:34.300 running to the other countries and cultures where men are at least still seen as valuable,

00:21:38.600 relevant important no i think he just cooked oh my gosh and they don't care

00:21:48.200 they don't care at all she's got at least a little bit of sympathy eyes this woman does not care

00:21:54.840 yeah i i you know i think like anything in the west to redress any kind of any

00:22:04.220 imbalance in anything we've had to go to some crazy level to the other side and

00:22:10.540 come to a middle thing and and why are we so surprised why do we have to have shows like

00:22:17.240 adolescents that quite frankly are pretty late in the game in terms of its culture

00:22:22.000 and like you said um i talk to quite a lot of my friends you know who are all parents

00:22:28.440 and they had no idea what i mean i knew about it i'm doing this podcast and i see these comments

00:22:33.020 all the time and i was very aware of it i've read a lot about it he had no idea i had no idea about

00:22:38.060 it i'm like you have teenage children and young adult children how do you not know how are you

00:22:45.260 that ill-informed i agree with you to me you know what's crazy yeah i'm sorry i'm sorry to cut you

00:22:51.900 off but you want to know what's crazy when you're in a marketing environment where both parents got

00:22:55.580 to work long hours and both both parents are out of the home for extended periods of time

00:23:00.380 and both parents have to figure out so much

00:23:04.280 and you don't even have one parent

00:23:05.880 that's like really super involved

00:23:07.600 versus they both are kind of got 40-hour work schedules

00:23:11.680 and one may have to do additional overtime

00:23:14.300 and the cost of living is exploding.

00:23:17.000 It's harder than ever before.

00:23:19.720 Oh, yeah.

00:23:20.540 For parents, men and women, fathers and mothers,

00:23:22.780 it's a lot harder now.

00:23:25.000 We are living in an area in New Jersey

00:23:27.300 where our property taxes per month

00:23:32.620 is the cost of most people rent across the world.

00:23:36.580 Yeah, most.

00:23:37.300 Where our daycare is more than the cost for daycare

00:23:41.720 for one to two kids is the equivalent

00:23:44.500 of what 50 to 60% of people in the world make.

00:23:50.500 So it's kind of difficult.

00:23:53.340 Women don't want to watch their kids.

00:23:57.300 They got to make as much as their husband to feed their ego.

00:24:00.800 Be super-duper involved and actually know what's going on.

00:24:03.600 You know what she saw? My son's home.

00:24:05.800 He turns the light off when I tell him to turn the light off.

00:24:08.600 And he doesn't get in trouble.

00:24:10.600 He goes to school every day. He gets good grades.

00:24:13.600 Parents are just surviving.

00:24:15.600 Mothers, fathers, people are just trying to figure this.

00:24:18.100 You know what I'm saying? Like, this is...

00:24:19.300 I'm not saying it's a complete...

00:24:20.600 Like, there's no...

00:24:22.600 They get no fault. They get no blame.

00:24:25.100 just saying that the context for what we're in is what's also creating this type of dynamic and

00:24:30.300 environment so it's and then lastly i meant to say the dynamic why is this exploding and why

00:24:37.020 is it so big in the uk and why are these government officials getting all involved in this i'm gonna

00:24:40.940 tell you this right now if you are young how did i not get arrested in the uk i don't know

00:24:46.540 woman or woman period i'm a woman right and you're thinking about whoa oh my gosh this incel thing and

00:24:54.140 all these men want to harm me and hurt me and do this or do that a huge percentage of the boys and

00:25:00.220 men that feel that way is a reading why they're leading the statistics of being four times more

00:25:04.860 likely to take their own life right they're actually far more of a danger to themselves

00:25:11.420 than to anybody else even in a relationship you take a woman who's in a relationship with a man

00:25:18.060 in a relationship with a woman her domestic violence rates are significantly higher with

00:25:22.780 another woman than with a man really dv rates are up uh divorce rates are up when same-sex

00:25:35.500 relationships between two women than her with a man i know the highest divorce rate is lesbian

00:25:41.980 couples yeah and so is the dv rate what's the d they should be having the most orgasms that's

00:25:47.420 unbelievable domestic violence dv right yeah so again this show is so popular it's so big

00:25:56.220 probably a quarter million plus people are probably going to watch it and now they're again

00:26:00.300 adding to this narrative that the most unsafe you can be is dealing with and doing life with men

00:26:08.540 or males and what i'm arguing is a huge percentage of them end up taking their own life

00:26:17.420 a very very small percentage of them if they get successful enough end up finding a suitable

00:26:22.620 partner or they're going abroad to find find a women are actually the passport bros most

00:26:30.860 female travelers are women so a woman who can meet their needs so it's not to say that men

00:26:38.380 there's violence between men and women that doesn't exist of course it's a thing all i'm

00:26:42.300 suggesting is is that the show there may be ulterior motives for why the show is being pushed

00:26:49.820 yeah they want to demonize the red pill it's the same reason i'm put on a dhs watch list

00:26:55.980 me of all people ever politicians or celebrities or anybody who's not a normal person jumps in on

00:27:04.140 a wave always be wary of what's the thing that they're pushing and what's the policy that that's

00:27:09.260 going to come down as a result of this. Is this going to be a social media crackdown? Is this

00:27:14.780 going to be a monitoring thing where people have to register their social ID numbers or something

00:27:19.260 in order for them to even have access to a website or have access to the internet?

00:27:24.060 I'm going to argue this. Find time. It's perfect to push something like this in a political

00:27:34.460 environment when gen z and some millennials between men and women are splitting further

00:27:40.120 than they've ever been and now you have a huge pool of women who are looking for explanations

00:27:47.180 to justify why all these men are splintering off and voting differently than us thinking

00:27:53.180 differently than us going their own way not yeah we're not nice to them if you've treated men like

00:27:59.600 shit for 20 years we we get surprised when they respond to open misandry

00:28:05.840 mary when there's got to be some explanation for it and it can't possibly be because of our

00:28:13.220 decision making our hierarchy of what we're attracted to and not attracted to it can't be us

00:28:18.260 it's got to be because they're all incels right it's got to be because they just outright hate

00:28:23.480 women it can't possibly be because there's been an environment that's been telling them

00:28:28.020 that we hate you can't possibly be that it can't it can't be society or culture or the colleges or

00:28:38.240 liberal it can't be any of those factors or even how we treat the men who we think don't check off

00:28:43.460 all about it can't be none of that it's got to be because of this netflix series and now we need

00:28:48.300 policy to deal with that yeah that that's the level of thinking that i want all of us to start

00:28:55.720 to get better at when we watch anything on social media anything on streaming services because i

00:29:02.340 would argue much of the things that's impacting us and influencing the quote-unquote gender war

00:29:06.960 is not even coming from in here it's coming from what we're seeing on screens and on these

00:29:13.180 computers when i walk around in everyday life men and women still open the door for each other

00:29:19.320 a woman's in trouble men are still going to rush to help her and that's going away but yeah yeah

00:29:25.580 a black man a white man is hurting somewhere at this point we almost have more interactions

00:29:33.280 through phones i think over 50 of communication is digital now whoever the whoever the race of

00:29:40.720 the person is they're still going to try to intervene and help them i'm trying to lift a

00:29:44.480 heavy box my white neighbor gonna come and come and lift it up somebody who's gay or trans if

00:29:49.540 they need help or support it's still happening hate exists i know that but i'm telling you

00:29:54.240 the social media the trends what's going viral is but the challenge is young people that's their

00:30:01.400 reality because most of their interactions are digital at least half actually 100 percent of

00:30:08.320 reflection of what's actually happened in most of our lives you're actually not walking around and

00:30:12.800 most men are spitting at you calling your names um attacking that's that's that's not it's not

00:30:18.700 happening in modernity not in mass the majority of a huge percentage of the men that's a threat

00:30:24.800 they got they're arrested they got they got records no absolutely like i think obviously

00:30:30.820 social media make it look like everyone is out to get you and that's why we're having so big

00:30:37.640 problems now adolescence as true as it is about exposing something a lot of people didn't know

00:30:44.140 what's the takeaway that this is everywhere this is happening everywhere it's crazy it's so much

00:30:53.260 going like i'm gonna be honest with you the u.s and our our thing of violence we we have the

00:30:59.840 monopoly it seems like on school violence it's insane we're not using knives we're using guns

00:31:05.460 yes and and much of it is in response to being bullied or being radicalized with some particular

00:31:13.460 political religious ideology that's usually what it is doesn't make it any better but it's really

00:31:20.100 not heavily connect no there's there is no significant data that shows that this is

00:31:28.180 happening in mass i'm telling you if you went to the data and looked at uk stats of who's

00:31:33.300 who the primary group's doing the stabbing the stabbings in the knifings it's not who you saw

00:31:38.740 on the show right it's not who you saw we don't have to go political or go into who is and who

00:31:44.020 isn't doing it's not it's not who they put showed on the show you have a market of white males

00:31:50.660 who feel so angry and disenfranchised and feeling like they're i can't imagine why

00:31:55.860 conservatives and not conservatives liberals have told white males that they're not valuable

00:32:03.460 and they're the root of all evil where people are just jealous of white males to be honest

00:32:10.740 they're jealous because they're really high performing and they do well

00:32:14.500 they do they're intelligent um they're good at problem solving yeah blamed for everything and

00:32:21.780 they're not allowed to hold an opinion not allowed to hold a view and now you're shocked with the

00:32:26.820 reactions and responses of what's coming and it's not even all violent it's just it's just a

00:32:31.780 noticeable shift and in the end game everybody can say well we're all gonna lose in the end

00:32:40.020 you say digital friends are not real friends

00:32:44.980 well look that's how gen z is meeting you might not like it but that's how

00:32:52.020 i feel like you're my real friend guy fawkes i'm just kidding

00:32:55.380 the mountaintop is undefeated father time is undefeated mother nature is undefeated

00:33:03.940 the men host 30 who can figure out how to get what they need in order physically emotionally

00:33:13.560 financially they have the leverage the most leverage a woman is going to have is when she's

00:33:21.380 her fittest, youngest, most fertile self.

00:33:24.700 Of course.

00:33:25.700 I understand.

00:33:26.700 I say this all the time.

00:33:27.700 I say this all the time because I hear so often, oh, women are the gatekeepers of sex

00:33:33.140 and you're like, they are when they're young, when they're young, but you know, you start

00:33:39.620 to, I think women sort of 30, 35, you know, you start to sort of, it's not that you're

00:33:47.660 not attractive but you're not attractive to the same age as men whereas men can look up or down

00:33:54.220 all along whereas women the older we get we can only look up in age or down in age you know i mean

00:34:02.540 i always say to my husband if if i you know god forbid we wouldn't get divorced if we got divorced

00:34:08.300 he could he could find anybody of any age and it would be a younger woman absolutely be a younger

00:34:13.580 woman he said he's a lawyer right yes he's a lawyer he can marry you he wants what are we

00:34:18.380 talking about here exactly no issue a lot exactly it doesn't be a lot it don't matter how he look

00:34:25.500 it don't matter how he dress when they hear lawyer and they hear widow oh he needs food

00:34:34.620 whereas i'd have to marry an eight-year-old for sure and my problem would be like i'm also

00:34:39.420 I'm also marrying an 80-year-old, by the way.

00:34:40.920 I'm not saying there's anything wrong with that, but it changes.

00:34:44.920 I mean, we could obviously go on forever talking to you.

00:34:48.920 There's so much to talk about.

00:34:50.420 I know.

00:34:51.420 I wanted to go back for one second.

00:34:52.920 Did you finish all of your thoughts on the cheating?

00:34:55.620 Because we may have skipped a bit.

00:34:58.920 Yeah, I actually definitely prepped for this part,

00:35:03.720 because I figured this question might be.

00:35:05.420 Let's go.

00:35:06.120 It'll be our last little segment of the show,

00:35:07.920 because we've already gone over an hour, which I love,

00:35:10.300 but I'd love to hear your thoughts on this.

00:35:13.160 All right.

00:35:13.640 So the main thing I'm going to say is I'm careful to avoid

00:35:18.900 what's called a naturalist fallacy.

00:35:22.260 And this is the false belief that because something is natural,

00:35:25.300 it must be moral or good.

00:35:27.340 So I just kind of put that out there as a qualifier

00:35:30.620 with what I'm about to say.

00:35:33.140 There's something called like a blank slate theory

00:35:35.620 or socialization theory and it's very basically it's the debate about uh nature versus nurture

00:35:41.560 most people who consider themselves feminists they have a working presupposition or theory

00:35:49.780 about human beings men and women and human sexuality and their belief system is rooted in

00:35:57.780 this. When you lean much more into nurture versus nature, anytime you see distinctions,

00:36:09.680 differences, sociological reactions or responses for whatever reason between men or women,

00:36:16.460 you are going to believe that you can socialize it out of them.

00:36:20.740 And that's what it means is if you don't believe that there's biological, evolutionary,

00:36:27.780 hard wiring that's built into us to to be attracted to to desire to do and behave in certain ways

00:36:34.780 you're going to believe that the sex that isn't the sex that's that's not doing what you think

00:36:40.960 they should be doing is because you can socialize them to now act like the other sex right okay yeah

00:36:46.120 all right the reason why that's important with this topic and all others is because there is

00:36:51.340 a version of femininity that believes any distinction, even when it comes to sex,

00:36:57.700 is something that just has to be completely 100% socialized and changed out of men. And that as

00:37:03.460 long as men start to behave, communicate, think, and act like women, they'll be fine.

00:37:09.800 So when it comes to sex, they'll insist that there is no innate psychological differences

00:37:18.120 between men and women. They'll functionally believe that because they're psychologically

00:37:23.700 the same, we should have the same expectations. This is the issue. There's physiological differences.

00:37:33.040 And the physiological differences are, some are very minute, but then some are massive,

00:37:38.820 with huge implications. These are some of the differences that I noted. And obviously,

00:37:43.880 naturally we know that there's differences between men and women grip strength speed upper body

00:37:49.460 strength versus lower body strength we know this like generally speaking there's physiological

00:37:54.020 differences i don't think women or men are really meant to be monogamous

00:37:58.280 unfortunately because if women were meant to be monogamous then we wouldn't be such whores

00:38:06.260 they said do whatever you want ladies and we said hoard them

00:38:10.720 whoredom so we'll see what he says physiological differences sorry i'm trying to give more

00:38:16.980 commentary but i'm very um i'm very drawn into this this is good when sex occurs and when they

00:38:24.380 have orgasm and i want a question once i i have a question once i list these these off um and the

00:38:32.100 question is this actually do men and women experience sex and are the consequences they

00:38:37.980 experience from said sex. The same or different. These are the things that I noted that were

00:38:43.980 different. Men tend to have higher sexual desire and are more accepting of casual non-commitment

00:38:51.540 based sex. Sex hormone amounts and patterns are different. Are you sure about that?

00:38:59.040 Are you sure about that? Between male and females, the hypothalamus, which is the region.

00:39:05.280 i'm being honest and i don't mean to be disagreeable today

00:39:12.400 i think men want relationships more than women i really do

00:39:17.360 i think i know more men that want commitment than women that want commitment

00:39:24.400 i don't know what that means um maybe it's because out of necessity possible

00:39:30.240 women are meant to be monogamous well if women were meant to be monogamous why are they fighting

00:39:39.780 to be whores so bad brain involved in sexual activity is both larger and more sensitive

00:39:47.140 to testosterone men tend to experience quicker and more intense sexual arousal and orgasms

00:39:54.420 compared to women research shows that women's sexual desire has more variables and is influenced

00:40:00.020 by factors like self-esteem relationships emotions and how they feel about their bodies

00:40:06.180 the relationship in overall emotional state social consequences of clear communication

00:40:13.220 of their desires in the domain now you guys are saying oh feminism made women be whores well okay

00:40:20.180 who pushed feminism oh it was the elite yeah okay okay sex especially sexually so think of it this

00:40:30.900 way because that one could be a little bit confusing if men were bluntly or straightforwardly

00:40:36.900 honest about how often they think about sex about the different ways that they think about sex about

00:40:43.140 the different types of women that they want to experience in terms of thinking about sex if they

00:40:46.100 were honest about how they felt sexually are they rewarded for their honesty no and then lastly

00:40:56.500 reproduction evolutionary drives for men or women they're tipping you are the product of

00:41:05.780 thousands if not tens of thousands of years of one side of a person or one set group trying to

00:41:13.860 survive and procreate and and and and mate select in a certain way and the other group you're the

00:41:19.380 product of a person who kept people now what are women's consequences for stds they're saying in

00:41:24.580 the chat women have more consequent well not really because men keep fixing them and women

00:41:31.860 just lie about having them so not really a consequence throw in their seat and the question

00:41:40.100 going to be like well wait a minute if there's all these evolutionary biological physiological

00:41:47.220 differences and men and women clearly don't even experience sex let alone orgasms in the same way

00:41:56.900 i don't know actually i do know but i'm just saying it facetiously i don't know

00:42:03.860 that in the quest to be like men that's actually been a net benefit to most women especially

00:42:12.580 after 40 50 years of this experiment that doesn't mean that men are justified to cheat it seems to

00:42:20.420 suggest that at least their biological hard wiring has designed them to better be able to be okay

00:42:25.300 with doing it right i mean i totally agree have you seen how women are cheating these days i don't

00:42:30.900 think i don't think we're the same right because but i do think women have some

00:42:38.180 biological predisposition to be horrors like they got a benefit out of it biologically

00:42:46.740 so yeah someone said you talk too much for a woman you need to work on that

00:42:54.020 why are you here

00:42:54.820 why are you like what

00:43:01.700 this is a pot okay you know what i'm practicing radical acceptance this year

00:43:09.940 it's a nice comment thank you thank you

00:43:15.780 men are built to to sex

00:43:17.940 we're both built to have sex but men are better built to do meaningless sex right right like

00:43:28.020 have you seen women no no women i i think women are built to have meaningless sex too it's just

00:43:34.900 they have to do it on in cabo or dubai or some other country

00:43:42.100 that what came with the sexual revolution and liberation we have to acknowledge

00:43:46.820 was the opening the door pearl do you have perfect peace i don't

00:43:55.460 i really don't

00:44:04.180 loveless sex well men are built to populate the earth for commitment less sex and men are

00:44:12.660 biologically hardwired to be better built with doing that on a regular basis and nothing has to

00:44:20.820 be feels like wrong for him to do it he doesn't have to know your name he doesn't have to know

00:44:26.260 anything about you he just has to find you attractive there's so many more social cues

00:44:31.880 there's so many more cues that a woman is this safe is is if something happens it'd be surprised

00:44:38.040 I talked to them on Twitter they're now showing how to get women they do a date straight to the

00:44:43.040 house so it's is he gonna harm me or something there's so many other things that's that's innate

00:44:50.540 no one had to tell her these things and so for me it's it's less about whether it's right or wrong

00:44:57.800 and it's more about in the quest to be progressive and modern and this and that

00:45:05.700 are we ignoring biological reality at the potential risk and demise of women? I would

00:45:13.980 argue that the greatest victims of this experiment that we've been doing, loveless, commitmentless

00:45:19.600 sex recreationally. Number three on the list is the men who can't get access to it. Number two on

00:45:27.140 the list are women who are single and can't find a suitable partner who are looking for

00:45:33.420 long-term commitment in monogamy in a market with men yeah but women only look for that later like

00:45:39.980 we don't look for that when we have the most choice so that tells me that we don't um

00:45:45.820 we don't really want it like we say we do we're just whores slut

00:45:51.940 who get the who's doing dates to the house look if you're hot enough well that's what i was saying

00:46:00.520 women if you're hot enough they'll do the same thing they'll just be ready to bang

00:46:04.760 don't have to give that number one on the list is children you don't even have to be a celebrity

00:46:13.800 you have guys that look like me whose experiences with women will rival kings and monarchs monarchs

00:46:22.600 previous times before they turn 30 or 35. That's the reality. You're in a market where things are

00:46:31.960 not equal. They're never going to be equal. Our equality starts and stops with our value as human

00:46:37.320 beings. I'm not equal to another man. So what made you think like there's men who do way better than

00:46:43.960 me, make me more money than them, it's way more respected and men that don't. We're not equal.

00:46:48.920 we only are equal as human beings yeah nothing else about what we got going on makes us equal

00:46:55.640 so when you try to be equal to a man and you try to try to dictate what's going to happen in this

00:47:03.020 market i'm going to be honest with you got two choices that's what i don't understand when women

00:47:06.720 say a partnership because that would imply you guys are equal and you're not part of the other

00:47:13.920 reason for why some men will cheat is because they don't have the option to do so it what's

00:47:19.380 the reward that's when you see sorry that's when you see men crash out a lot of times where they

00:47:25.440 have like a midlife crisis or whatever because they didn't know they could have banged all these

00:47:29.360 hot women men hate missed opportunity they'll think about it for years for the guy that no

00:47:36.660 woman is checking for you don't have the option you don't you're not you don't even have the

00:47:43.460 option to cheat no woman checking for you you're not that attractive you got lucky with getting

00:47:47.860 with some woman who wanted to settle down or settled for you and part of the reason why you're

00:47:52.660 so faithful is because it's fairly easy when you don't have women that's constantly trying to poach

00:47:58.020 you and steal you from your wife or girlfriend what about men who are like actively even if they

00:48:04.180 aren't like let's say like not bad what about those men who are actively looking and like

00:48:11.620 cheating is hard nowadays because people consider cheating as porn i think it's harder to get away

00:48:19.700 with too nowadays especially women we're crazier than ever and there's more evidence than ever

00:48:26.420 so it's tough you can like put trackers on people's cars and like a bunch of

00:48:32.100 bullshit cheating and talking to someone else on social media you know there's a lot of

00:48:36.500 layers of cheating nowadays yeah yeah i would i would say this and this is going to be funny

00:48:42.500 because we we my group we talk about this stuff all the time as a woman part of the reason for

00:48:49.780 why it wasn't ultimately just your decision in the past was for this very reason because

00:48:58.100 if you had to make this let's say 100 of men cheated but 100 of men go can are going to

00:49:04.580 you to have the capacity to achieve 100 and this question is are you going to give one man 10

00:49:11.940 chances are you going to give 10 men one chance the amount of women who will say that they would

00:49:22.500 read that i'm i'm done after the first time every time i don't i don't tolerate it i don't this i

00:49:28.100 on that. What I'm suggesting is going to sound kind of controversial. You only have three options

00:49:35.780 when it comes to mates with men. The man who probably doesn't have the option to cheat

00:49:43.300 and the man who does and the man who has the option to cheat,

00:49:50.340 you have to make a decision of whether or not you're going to stay.

00:49:52.580 there's men that probably will never cheat on you they won't have the opportunity to

00:49:59.180 they're working at mcdonald's ain't no women gonna try that one woman go give him the time of day

00:50:03.940 he he stays to he plays video games all day he don't go nowhere he don't do nothing he

00:50:08.840 he he doesn't check all eight of the ten boxes that women are looking for

00:50:12.940 chances are or if he's extremely religious and extremely disciplined and if you don't want the

00:50:22.100 guy that most of the women don't want, or if you don't want the guy that's ultra-conservative or

00:50:26.800 ultra-religious, you got to deal with the men that potentially have the option to cheat.

00:50:33.660 And then you have to decide between that group, is this the type of man that I'm willing to give

00:50:39.320 my name to, give children to, marry, and stay with, even if something like this happens?

00:50:47.760 that's the choices the guy that you're probably not we want it all damn it

00:50:55.800 a percent confident one and the guy that may or may not and you got to decide if you're going to

00:51:04.020 stay what's the guy it's going to sound horrible but what's the man that you're willing to saddle

00:51:10.460 and set yourself up with to where either he doesn't do it if he does you'll stay or he does

00:51:18.100 but you'll never know or find out about it cheating in private that's the only option

00:51:22.720 cheating with like the whole point i'm making it's a stark reality is you're in a modern world

00:51:33.060 where the pool of men that you're even interested and attracted to you have a global market of

00:51:41.640 competition of women who also think he's attractive no i agree like it is a very weird place that we

00:51:47.880 are in right now because people have so much opportunity to date and in my experience dealing

00:51:52.660 with a lot of men through all ages most of them cheat and so it is very interesting to me when i

00:51:59.200 see a man who doesn't cheat or has no interest in cheating and that was like my who was was

00:52:06.040 seriously a very kind man and he is if i say so myself he is one of the top guys he's very

00:52:12.280 great job he and he had no interest in cheating but i see well i know obviously but he's i think

00:52:19.920 he's abnormal i don't think it had anything to do with me i think it was it usually listen it

00:52:25.080 usually doesn't um because it still is his decision at the end of the day if he wants to do

00:52:29.620 it regardless of what you're going to do or not do um but you got to remember he's still an ex

00:52:36.980 what i'm saying is that didn't help him right in the grand scheme of things that didn't

00:52:44.580 ensure that you would stay you're right yeah that's the thing men keep asking with monogamy

00:52:51.780 what do i get out of this and they keep going that's the thing that i don't how do we know

00:52:58.580 we didn't cheat you dumped him and she said he was a great guy think what's the best way to say

00:53:03.220 it oh just say it anyway we can take it we'll see more audience but yeah i think she's feeling him

00:53:10.980 on the right he could hit he's gonna get all this social media fame

00:53:17.860 he's newly married he might regret i don't think he will i don't think he will but i'm just saying

00:53:26.700 that's that's going to be a whole bag of temptation when you get social media fame these women come

00:53:32.860 they throw the poonanny at you so many of the bad boys so many of the cheaters so many of the guys

00:53:40.840 who constantly are running through women

00:53:42.600 were at one time the dutiful good boy.

00:53:48.640 A lot of them, you aren't born a bad boy.

00:53:53.080 You see who gets the attention.

00:53:55.080 You see who ignores you.

00:53:57.080 You see what happens when you get a little taller,

00:53:59.600 get a little more bass in your voice,

00:54:00.940 grow a little bit of a beard,

00:54:02.920 and the dynamics change.

00:54:04.540 You see how they change towards you

00:54:08.260 once they suspect or see that another woman is interested you're seeing this stuff and

00:54:15.160 if a woman's ex if all her ex is cheated on her do you know the hell i'm gonna go through

00:54:25.980 to try to be the guy who does everything right and the crap i gotta go through and i'm like well

00:54:33.260 what what what is this thing where all the guys who do an x y and z they get all the options

00:54:39.900 there is this thing of like even when it comes to attraction traits

00:54:45.100 you all value experience we don't so experience been like like textual experience yeah right

00:54:55.940 so when he's a virgin i don't care how admirable he is if you found out he was a virgin

00:55:02.360 had no experience of women whatsoever he goes down a couple points instantly

00:55:07.320 if he finds out you only have one or two boyfriends oh my gosh i gotta get her off the

00:55:13.820 market immediately you don't listen you don't want to know the number but you're paying attention to

00:55:19.820 certain things and also he has a few exes he has some some um women that are his girlfriends that

00:55:24.880 he's cool and comfortable with he's very comfortable around women he's very charismatic

00:55:28.700 that only comes with practice for sure that only comes with experience so you're saying should men

00:55:33.940 cheat because they have they it doesn't matter i'm saying that what you're labeling and calling

00:55:42.500 cheating is an express is labeling an aspect of reality that was a market that was artificially

00:55:52.020 created by the women and their standards.

00:55:56.120 So for instance, if most modern women

00:55:58.960 in Western countries demand monogamy,

00:56:03.420 and most many human cultures throughout civilization

00:56:07.260 actually was okay with colligion.

00:56:10.300 Yeah, that's true.

00:56:11.200 Because they factored this part in and you don't.

00:56:13.700 Yeah.

00:56:14.640 The consequence is going to be

00:56:16.200 is you keep leaving for cheating

00:56:17.780 because he's not allowed to have a second wife or girlfriend.

00:56:22.020 Mel hates cheating. This is her favorite topic in the world.

00:56:28.500 She's fine, but I know that if you were born 500, not even 500, if you were born in another culture,

00:56:33.660 another time, another civilization, you probably wouldn't have the leverage to be able to demand

00:56:40.540 anything about this man is going to be with me and only me for the next 60 years of his life.

00:56:45.580 he he he gave a dowry he he uh was a king he was a monarch he was very wealthy he had this or that

00:56:53.620 and him having two concubines or your wife number two or three that's just what i'm not saying that

00:56:59.960 was good but that was the part of human nature that people from the past and tradition accepted

00:57:06.260 as a reality when you are a blank slatist maybe that's why we're so chose because the concubines

00:57:13.360 probably serviced a few people right i'd imagine it wasn't like you were a monogamous concubine

00:57:20.160 or ex your reactions and responses to something that clearly they're more designed to be able to

00:57:26.080 do way more easily than you can is going to trigger you to constantly want to divorce leave

00:57:34.960 now i gotta find a new guy to sleep with now i gotta now i gotta find a next partner every year

00:57:39.440 how many men do you want to do this dance with before you make infinite that's a women's answer

00:57:47.920 infinite men because like it never ends you know one of the two major decisions i need to get with

00:57:57.320 a guy who's not going to cheat and stay with him or i need to get with a guy who potentially could

00:58:02.720 cheat but i'm going to stay with him because he checks off and not be a bitch when he does it

00:58:07.480 not be crazy the boxes that i'm looking for the guy who is extremely good looking

00:58:16.120 extremely tall makes all this money and is also going to be faithful to you for the next 50 plus

00:58:22.960 years of his life so one in what's the percentage of it one in one in if if one percent men is just

00:58:34.040 based on height uh weight height in salary he he's one percent of one percent

00:58:44.200 no it's very that x don't let me call him because i fixed it i say listen man

00:58:52.200 she she won't she gonna fix it y'all good she forgave you for whatever it the reality is things

00:58:59.080 change and and that's just that's just it i don't i don't want to say it's justified it's just i've

00:59:05.000 seen the story he's not going to come back if he's a hot guy he's got too much poo nanny after this

00:59:10.280 divorce he's done he's like see ya like a chubby six five six probably five she has like a good

00:59:21.000 face but yeah she's chubby so she's probably actually a four the weight and i've seen it's

00:59:26.360 my community as well and it's where it's most highest divorce rate lowest marital rate highest

00:59:31.800 rate of single parent single mother households everything is skewed and horrible and all of

00:59:38.040 these women are coming back out there older more kids more jaded man after man at some level you

00:59:46.040 can't listen you can be date women you could be by yourself you could date the man that nobody else

00:59:51.800 wants or you could date the man that you know everybody else wants and whether he does tactfully

00:59:59.440 do a little something on the side you're not leaving but what the yeah yeah i mean it's a

01:00:06.180 it's definitely a hard thing because women really don't want to look stupid right and so if we are

01:00:11.540 dating a man who is hot and like we're just hoping that you're like cross your little fingers that

01:00:17.400 like he's just not gonna cheat um the biggest thing about it is like women really don't want

01:00:22.200 to look like we don't want people to feel bad for us like and so if we if our community knows that

01:00:28.660 we're with a guy who's got to be in a different city looking but he's cheating on us like we're

01:00:35.140 we're like because now we're able to leave we're most likely never not going to stand for that

01:00:39.940 because we can't take the it's the embarrassment it's more than the cheating it's the embarrassment

01:00:45.300 opinions of other people that are negative as women i'm going to say that there's pros and

01:00:52.440 cons to karen so much about a bunch of people pay your bills and guess what they got cheated on and

01:01:00.060 now they alone they they getting cheated on alone is better though yeah you said what maybe being

01:01:06.060 alone is better though okay but i i i'm assuming these millions and millions of based on women's

01:01:12.900 choice as it is yeah like women again women don't like men as much as they think

01:01:20.100 that's the reality women do not like men as much as we originally thought we don't like

01:01:27.940 being around them we don't like them as much as we thought unfortunately unfortunately

01:01:35.020 news and likes and sharing of content of them saying how hard it is to find the right man

01:01:41.120 and how lonely they are and how upset they are

01:01:42.900 and how they regret their divorce,

01:01:45.100 I think two things are true.

01:01:46.620 I think that there's women who are genuinely okay

01:01:48.820 with being on their own.

01:01:50.020 They got peace.

01:01:51.180 They're fine.

01:01:52.440 They're not looking for...

01:01:53.860 I think after they've had kids and they've fallen in love,

01:01:57.440 they're cool just sharing alphas forever.

01:02:01.100 They are.

01:02:01.820 They'll just smash the chat in the nursing home or whatever.

01:02:05.500 Because the thing is, women like that exciting new sex.

01:02:09.180 it's not just you guys that like the hot new sex women like the hot new sex too so if like and i've

01:02:17.320 talked to guys that date older women they get to a certain age um there's like one i call him an

01:02:22.820 older chad he's like 70 or something 60 and he was talking about how he runs through the 50 year olds

01:02:28.520 and they're great he's he told me because he said they've let the dream die they've just accepted

01:02:33.420 they won't find love and they're just ready to get right to it and hook up in the car the lady in

01:02:39.340 the pics pick has more options than her ex-husband no matter his look or status a lot of men are

01:02:44.860 desperate right but in the female mind there's we don't care about all the options it's just the

01:02:51.180 options that like we see unfortunately i don't say it's like we only care about the opinion of alphas

01:02:57.820 sadly enough um yeah these old cougars are sexual predators yeah he loves he told me he loves these

01:03:08.120 50 year old women he said that was amazing ship and they're cool like they don't want kids like

01:03:15.040 that exists there are people like that a huge percentage of women are not are not yeah and

01:03:22.300 and the the social factor of constantly trying to measure what you're going to do with your life

01:03:30.220 your marriage your life i know he doesn't even have to pay for the hotel he just says pay for

01:03:36.620 the car good and financial situation based on how other people who don't pay none of your bills

01:03:43.660 who are who aren't going to do much for you and can't fulfill your needs in any of these other

01:03:48.540 categories listen the harsh truth is if fathers and uncles and male role models had more say

01:03:58.380 had more influence and were respected enough to even be asked their opinion none of this would

01:04:04.680 be new information they would tell you there's this group of men you probably want to avoid

01:04:10.700 and stay away from and there's the group of men that you yeah that'll make them want to have sex

01:04:16.200 with the alphas more truly cling to you tell a woman to stay away from a boy she's gonna fuck

01:04:24.420 matter what and this is how you identify do not spend your teens in your 20s

01:04:31.860 chasing all these men that's going to do all these things you probably never going to be

01:04:38.860 able to have a man that successfully checks off 10 out of 10 boxes every season every year for

01:04:44.280 the rest of your life. So when he loses his job, when he has a slip up, when he has a down season

01:04:52.080 emotionally, when he's not the best father, husband, partner, he forgets some special occasion.

01:05:03.180 You have to find a man that you're not women raised with good fathers. Untrue.

01:05:08.520 women are women this is such a cope like men saying that they can control their daughter's

01:05:15.620 outcome is such a cope when she's 18 it's out of your control i've seen good kids good dads

01:05:23.440 have daughters that gluck gluck the whole town it just is what it is to deal with

01:05:30.320 the the rigors of life even when he doesn't always live up to all 10 boxes

01:05:35.660 because guess what you don't check all 10 boxes no that's absolutely melanie check

01:05:45.040 melanie check off all 10 boxes melanie does right but what i'm making is remember what i said about

01:05:51.520 that that that 70 80 initiation breakup and divorce thing it's not because women are checking

01:05:57.340 off all the boxes and showing up in all the ways that they agreed that they would

01:06:00.660 it's just men are still willing to stay. I said something to my wife. She was so mad. I've said

01:06:07.280 it in public settings. She cussed me out. She came back and said, and now when I say it in front of

01:06:12.340 other people, she's like, you know what, y'all? He right. What if we viewed when you get in a

01:06:18.380 relationship with a man and y'all are going to be monogamous, right? And you agree that the only

01:06:25.640 person he's going to have sex with both now and pre-marriage during marriage for the rest of your

01:06:31.000 lives the only way he's going to have a sexual outlet is through you and you arbitrarily decide

01:06:38.120 for a couple weeks for a couple months for a few years that for whatever reason

01:06:45.640 i'm not feeling it i'm not attracted to him anymore i don't love him anymore i'm not this i'm not on

01:06:50.280 that. When he steps out of the relationship, and he's moved away from the agreement to practice his

01:07:01.040 sexual exclusivity with just you, that is cheating. But when you have an agreement that this man and

01:07:08.500 you two are going to do this, and he can only get access from you, and you omit, withhold sex,

01:07:16.140 especially if you weaponize it you're being unfaithful and what if men broke up with women

01:07:24.440 and girlfriends and wives when they're sexually unfaithful yeah

01:07:29.480 and men even stick it out they're cheating for more than two weeks

01:07:36.000 yeah yeah and not for physical you know child labor or some physical situation just because

01:07:43.980 just because that's what that's what if men left relationships with all these women that are being

01:07:50.000 sexually unfaithful that is the equivalent for us you are being unfaithful when you obligate this man

01:07:57.060 to only come to you for sex and he can't have access to it because you weaponized the ability

01:08:03.060 for him to do it because he didn't take out women do after the after they get the kids they just

01:08:08.300 stop however many kids they want they just they're like no i'm good trash because he he didn't get

01:08:15.880 the right flowers because he wasn't romantic enough because of this because of that when

01:08:20.640 you're tired you'll ask to go to work when you when you're when you're frustrated at work with

01:08:27.280 your boss you still respect them you still follow the rules you you you you know like in every other

01:08:33.740 area of life you figure out a way to still show up but then when it comes to this particular area

01:08:40.780 where he can't go to outside when you don't want to cook he can order takeout

01:08:45.420 he can order delivery when you don't want to clean he can he can hire somebody to come in and clean

01:08:51.180 but when this area that you've made that says he can only get it from you you don't show up in

01:08:55.500 what if that's an area of unfaithfulness that's heavily contributing to this whole situation

01:09:03.840 and i do agree with you 100 to an extent i think two weeks are very dramatic

01:09:09.200 with women's hormones like we get a little bit nuts sometimes that's just how we are

01:09:15.060 um but i'm setting the bar high for my life really

01:09:19.700 then y'all can negotiate from there i'm not starting to add a month like two weeks then

01:09:25.320 we can negotiate that's totally totally um what i i think that is really interesting like do

01:09:31.060 you if if they're like let's say it's a month right like which i would say is a long time to

01:09:36.720 not have sex with your partner like i would agree that it's a long time um obviously like even two

01:09:42.120 weeks is i i also agree that that's a long time i don't think it's a divorce reason but i would

01:09:46.420 agree it's a while what like would you be like why doesn't the woman allow him like allow him

01:09:54.980 to go see another woman or why doesn't the man ask to go see another woman let's say a sex worker or

01:10:00.620 something like that because you were born in a society where monogamy and monogamous relationships

01:10:05.740 are normalized that's the only difference and you'll be shamed by the other women if they find

01:10:10.520 out something's going on yeah because if you're the girl giving your guy threesomes or giving

01:10:15.720 your guy other women your husband like then all the other women hate you because you're it's like

01:10:23.320 you're offering a value add that they're not doing and now they have to compete it's the same

01:10:27.560 way recent women hate whores because they're giving away sex easy you were born in a society

01:10:32.600 or culture where it was very normal for a man to have a concubine or have one or two or three

01:10:39.240 women that you know uh sister wives or whatever and this is normal it's natural it's been happening

01:10:45.080 for 500 years in your culture, this wouldn't even be a conversation. Wouldn't even be a conversation.

01:10:50.960 So the reality is in Western culture, as we become more individualistic, less communal,

01:10:58.280 less we're all about self and what we want and our desires, not even about our kids or about the man

01:11:04.180 or about the family or the nuclear, this is the consequence. There's pros and cons to all of this.

01:11:09.100 No matter which side of the aisle you pick

01:11:12.280 This is just the one where

01:11:14.760 My interest is more so

01:11:16.700 On the outcomes

01:11:17.840 Are women in masks

01:11:20.680 Globally in western countries

01:11:22.840 Getting the outcomes

01:11:26.500 They say they want

01:11:27.460 They don't want them

01:11:28.880 If women wanted marriage and relationships

01:11:32.620 We'd do it but we don't

01:11:33.880 It's like the fat person

01:11:36.000 That says they want to lose weight

01:11:38.080 but they keep eating twinkies they want to be fat they do they're unmarried and they want to be

01:11:45.320 they're single but they don't want to be women don't want to be married we want to be side chicks

01:11:50.100 that's why we watch scandal and not like the good wife or something they want kids but can't find a

01:11:56.580 guy to to do it oh women can women there's always a guy i'll tell you what and and and they're

01:12:06.820 constantly in competition and comparison mode with the women around them that's true the reality is

01:12:12.880 the market's already moved in a direction where women are sharing men whether they realize it or

01:12:18.280 not you are you're sharing when you're sharing yeah they are you guys are sharing women too

01:12:25.560 i mean when he's cheating you're sharing him in atlanta georgia at a woman last year we were at

01:12:32.380 a friend's house and we were all hanging out and she was saying that the dating market is so skewed

01:12:36.140 because a huge percentage of the men that go down to atlanta and live in atlanta are gay

01:12:40.380 or bi so the pool the ratio of men to women start dating in atlanta ladies that's a great way to get

01:12:47.980 aids a lot of those guys go both ways like heterosexual men is like 10 to 1. these guys

01:12:56.540 are going on dates with three women simultaneous in atlanta wow everything's out what he got the

01:13:04.220 lie for that's not cheating because he he's in an environment where he now realizes what is that what

01:13:12.220 it is and she realizes he needs to make look and be a certain level for me to be okay with something

01:13:17.500 like this and they're fine that's actually what a lot of human history is actually resembled

01:13:25.420 the more desirable man was in every ancient culture was he following the rules that y'all

01:13:32.060 are trying to put on men today the equivalent that's why women want to ruin female beauty with

01:13:39.580 tattoos getting fat and all that stuff it gives us more power because if you lower the market

01:13:45.500 then every woman has more power top one percent may we like they tell us to like shave our heads

01:13:50.860 and uh men who don't uh pull a lot should just go on list crawler and stop

01:13:56.940 stressing it's just my opinion yeah i think so too you're six feet tall you make six figures

01:14:05.500 and if you are white black or hispanic you are desired by 80 percent of women that's on the

01:14:13.660 planet period period it's asian men who struggle the most and then when you flip it uh asian women

01:14:23.500 depending on the stat, are usually number one in most desirability globally, then white women,

01:14:29.040 then Hispanic women, and then black women last. So that's the stats. That's the truth. It's not

01:14:38.300 all great. But if fathers and uncles weren't welcome to give you a heads up over the last

01:14:43.780 decade, you went the last decade through trial and error. Nobody does this. Nobody was doing

01:14:50.760 this historically trial and error recreational sex um uh being liberated listen you could vote

01:15:00.040 you could own a home you could rack up a credit card if you want to there's a lot of great things

01:15:04.460 that women haven't gotten access to but there were also consequences that came from of course

01:15:09.780 i literally told you i had almost 75 women that wanted to match with me from two hours in one

01:15:16.400 city in 30 minutes in another hadn't even gone through the city yet that's the reality of it

01:15:24.160 and guess who created that market and killed chivalry ladies it wasn't us and now it's gonna

01:15:30.880 get better for you fellas guys if you want young hot poonanny become a youtuber i gotta tell you

01:15:38.640 yeah it's just it's the ultimate i'm not saying it's all good because if you got pissed off women

01:15:45.520 they can also ruin your life but yeah that is the ultimate like thing you know it's like there was

01:15:56.540 there was an era yeah where i had to do and own and have so much to even be at a space where i

01:16:04.040 could approach your parents and if you're going decade after decade experiencing experiencing

01:16:09.380 experiencing is it making you healthier whole pearl i found you at 20 your hard truths woke me

01:16:14.940 up but i didn't take it personally i prepped got on his program and now at 22 i have a man i respect

01:16:20.680 dearly thank you thanks lovely d that's always nice to hear can you text me like um if there's

01:16:27.820 a wedding can i get an invite i'd really like to go can i be the can i be the flower girl i've

01:16:33.700 always wanted to no no i'm too old that's too weird but i've always wanted to do it you know

01:16:39.720 i've always just thought it'd be fun i'll just i'll just go or is it or is it feel are you

01:16:46.600 making you feel more helpless hopeless like what's wrong with me what's wrong with the men

01:16:51.420 like what's that was the issue you're you're where'd you meet him put it in the chat put it

01:16:57.880 in the chat the ladies want to know where where we can you know put it yeah ain't select and guy

01:17:05.120 fax says at 27 she'll be ready to move on all right all right all right fine

01:17:17.680 probably but do you know what enjoy i'll be hopeful for a second you get lucky if you find

01:17:25.040 somebody yeah for sure most people's experiences are yours not melanie's nowadays i know mel is so

01:17:33.600 lucky she has her husband he's the absolute best i'm thankfully enjoying the go-through of

01:17:40.480 everything like she's like i'm getting ran through and i love it she's loving it she's loving getting

01:17:46.560 ran through she's ready to run have this guy run through her too i don't have that angry woman

01:17:53.520 mindset yet maybe hopefully never but just because i allow myself to kind of be present and allow

01:18:00.800 myself to make connections organically instead of just online and it feels a lot better and i i don't

01:18:08.080 i have a weird set of myself so it's awesome i feel okay about what's happening right now but

01:18:14.640 you know talk to me in five years to see if i'm okay sorry what'd you say do you want kids see

01:18:21.600 that's still it up in the air for me i don't translation if i find a guy that makes me want

01:18:26.080 to have kids it'd be good either way like it's not a it's not like a thing i know some women

01:18:31.440 have like a real heartbeat of i want women don't want to be mothers like that a mother

01:18:37.280 as uh feminine as i am kids are in the card tree and i'm totally okay with that but that's also

01:18:46.960 like i see what my life who i would want my ideal partner to be and that would be an old

01:18:52.000 grant so there's a lot of factors that i'm going through and i i feel really sad for a lot of my

01:18:59.920 young women friends who are still trying to be moms and you know having their eggs and all of

01:19:05.440 these things that are coming with that but i also see a lot of their freedoms obviously like the

01:19:10.880 the way that they're able to make money for themselves and their families um and they're

01:19:15.680 not able to be supported by a man like they don't have to live with that so there's obviously the

01:19:21.280 goods and bads and i love everything you're saying i i think it's so great to get a male perspective

01:19:28.000 especially someone who's in the us i know you experience things a lot differently than we do

01:19:32.480 up here in canada canada um but it's a so it's been really great i know we've we've gone a little

01:19:39.280 overtime which i love um and i really want to say just appreciate everything everything you've given

01:19:45.680 us i know we've obviously talked a little bit about this we do ask this of all of our uh guests

01:19:50.960 that we have on this podcast and and it's just in the spirit of telling truth what is one truth

01:19:56.800 that you would tell your younger self um oh my oh yeah um one thing one truth that i would have told

01:20:11.760 myself, use my 20s to be the best version of myself. Because when I hit 30, I can, I have

01:20:26.660 the freedom and flexibility to do what I want in life. I would have told myself something along

01:20:31.820 those lines. I think I wouldn't have spent as much money. I don't think I would have wasted much

01:20:36.160 time I don't think I would have been as consumed with women and distracted by women um I think I

01:20:42.580 would have used my 20s way more appropriately to learn to grow to build and be at a much further

01:20:51.660 place financially if I had that level of focus in my 20s um yeah all right I think they're closing

01:21:03.260 up this podcast guys what did you think he's coming on tomorrow so i did this as like a pre

01:21:09.440 i thought he was cooking i really enjoyed that

01:21:12.560 um let me know what you think in the comments guys all right so i did see your thing about

01:21:19.700 the clipper job okay i wanna i wanna i thought he cooked um had a lot of harsh truths nobody

01:21:27.680 a lot of people aren't touching on so i'm excited to see what his views are

01:21:32.060 more in depth tomorrow all right so we're going through the clippers so what happened is i have

01:21:42.500 a lot of clips channels with a lot of subscribers um but they're still demonetized because we have

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01:22:12.300 and we're open to suggestions but we need to create a system where you guys you cannot

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Pearl - July 09, 2025

Jeff St James Schools Two Feminists ｜ Pearl Reacts

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