Pearl - May 06, 2026


Jesus Couldn’t Save These Hoes, Why Do You Think You Can？


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Length

10 minutes

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157.87988

Word count

1,678

Sentence count

34

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Misogyny

2

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Toxicity

8

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Hate speech

11

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00:00:00.240 What up, guys? Welcome to my Coffee Talks.
00:00:03.820 So today, I wanted to talk about a change of mindset that I had from when I was younger to now.
00:00:11.680 When I was younger, there was a lot of instances where people that I felt like I was very good to betrayed me.
00:00:19.160 And I think this is a concept in most people's life, you know.
00:00:22.860 We have a tendency as people to be very egotistical, 0.82
00:00:25.620 always viewing ourselves as the heroes and never viewing ourselves as the villain um at least women 1.00
00:00:32.040 in general and I'm a woman so you know let's not pretend I don't fall prey to some of this 0.69
00:00:36.780 and when I was young I remember there's an instance where this girl I thought I thought
00:00:41.780 she was my friend right and it turned out um that she was talking trash about me and my parents had
00:00:50.460 a very big house growing up and she said that she was only friends with me for my parents house can
00:00:57.140 you believe it right um there's also an instance i've talked about it a lot where there was a guy
00:01:02.760 that i was friends with in london i thought we were the best of pals um and he came out and said 0.97
00:01:08.120 that i was a had a colonial mindset or some stupid shit like that um and this is a guy that worked 0.90
00:01:15.200 for me for a few years um I really viewed him as a friend I even invited him to like my birthday 0.99
00:01:21.100 party and like you know friendly right um I guess he said he did not view me as a friend I was like
00:01:28.000 well it's news to me right um and then he made like videos trying to like expose me you know
00:01:36.740 it was this whole thing and I was like my guy I've given you so much opportunity right you know
00:01:43.780 and I was very hurt and this was kind of a theme until my mid-20s where
00:01:51.860 um there's another person who stole a camera from me and um again I thought we were friends
00:02:00.980 they stole a camera do you know what I mean it's like it's like it's incredible incredible um
00:02:08.920 and what I realized is that I thought I was a victim because these people like took
00:02:14.880 but in all actuality um there's a few things one I was too weak in order to call them out when
00:02:25.520 things were a little off or a little weird and I allowed them to gaslight me there were times where
00:02:31.160 I've called I said you were talking about me and the girl do what women do is they say no I was 0.99
00:02:35.820 and I didn't say that. And you're like, I think you did. I've heard this from like three different 1.00
00:02:40.320 people that you said X, Y, and Z. Or, you know, anyways, regardless. The problem with this mindset
00:02:53.920 is there are two things. Number one, I was not a victim because in these instances,
00:02:57.920 I was chasing their validation or I wanted the friendship at times more than my self-respect.
00:03:04.120 and there were times when it's very obvious, you know, uh, they didn't like me, they didn't
00:03:10.340 respect me, et cetera, et cetera. Um, and in a way, you know, I talk about the natural order of the
00:03:16.800 world. It's supposed to be like this, but when I put another person above me and I want their
00:03:29.300 whatever friendship validation um more than i want to do what's right or to follow god or i don't know
00:03:37.320 whatever it means you're making them a god right you're making the friendship of god you're making
00:03:46.440 the relationship of god and you just can't you can't do that um because it's kind of like
00:03:54.260 scammers um that scam people they're evil people they're takers etc however their vic their
00:04:03.260 victims quote unquote uh in a way they wanted to get rich quick or they wanted something easy
00:04:09.420 um more than like or they were too lazy to read the contract whatever it is there was a character
00:04:17.820 flaw in them too so victims aren't always victims now number two pull on this thinking
00:04:22.360 it's egotistical to think that you can control another person and it's actually downright
00:04:30.200 psychotic to believe um that people are going to be good to you because you were good to them
00:04:35.840 um if i'm good to a person i do my best to be good to them i don't always do this right i can
00:04:44.060 be spiteful i can be wicked um but if i behave in an ideal way which i don't at a lot of times
00:04:51.140 um you want to their behavior should have nothing to do with you when Jesus came down I'm not even
00:04:59.700 that religious but this just makes sense to him Jesus came down and he offered nothing but goodness
00:05:06.400 he said I'm going to be good to people and they're killing him on the cross right and he's forgiven
00:05:12.340 these ninjas he's forgiven them and I was thinking about it and it's because his kindness um was not
00:05:19.980 dictated on other people and he was not a weak person he was brave enough to say like when
00:05:26.680 something was right or something was wrong or what he thought and I think when you're a kid
00:05:30.920 you're a kid you're like naturally good it's like kind of my assumption you are a good 0.99
00:05:35.480 because when kids are young they like will um and I really do think mothers ruin their kids
00:05:44.480 you'll naturally say you're fat or you're old or you're black or you're white but you don't
00:05:49.500 say it with any hatred in your heart but kids are very observant and they will say what's in front
00:05:54.860 of them until the world tells them like not to talk like that and it's usually not the world
00:05:59.600 it's just women to some degree it's the mother's mad because she says mom the kid says mama gets 0.53
00:06:07.000 angry all the time and the mom gets mad at the kid for saying that like observing the behavior
00:06:13.340 you know what i mean so anyways um just in my experience um jesus and none me and you
00:06:25.660 none of us are jesus right we all behave in a worse way than god there's no way unless 0.95
00:06:33.180 unless you are a narcissistic psychopath there's no way you think you behave better than jesus
00:06:38.940 Jesus could not get people to be nice to him respect him and treat him well in fact they 0.97
00:06:47.820 crucified Jesus now I don't even like making this comparison because I'm a woman so like my flaws
00:06:55.080 are like here you know what I mean and Jesus's flaws were here but if Jesus himself came down
00:07:02.980 and couldn't get people to respect him,
00:07:06.520 treat him well, and not betray him. 0.99
00:07:09.340 Who the hell are you? 1.00
00:07:11.680 Maggie, the substitute teacher, 0.99
00:07:14.420 she actually said something like this to me
00:07:16.400 in a different context once.
00:07:17.720 She said about converting people.
00:07:21.220 I used to, and I think this was egotistical.
00:07:24.960 I used to think that everybody needed to hear conservatism
00:07:29.840 and it would free them and blah, blah, blah.
00:07:32.980 And that was a very egotistical way to think, right?
00:07:36.760 That I can control, it's controlling, right?
00:07:40.120 I can control the behavior of another person by giving them information.
00:07:43.680 You cannot, look it, I've done the street interviews, I've done the fighting, impossible.
00:07:50.180 You cannot do this.
00:07:51.860 And in a way, it's thinking that you are above, like me as a woman, a woman of all people, right?
00:07:59.300 Is above Jesus.
00:08:01.460 you think you're better than God and she said you know something along the lines I can't remember 1.00
00:08:10.840 she does not care about converting people and in fact that's a way to show femininity because 0.83
00:08:17.780 um wanting to convert someone else is controlling it's I want to control what they do and that's 0.57
00:08:24.740 not feminine um and so in my thought process before I thought well if I'm nice to people 0.92
00:08:31.000 they'll be nice to me and um one that's trying to get something out of people and really the
00:08:40.540 best people um that you gravitate back towards are the people that expect nothing you know people
00:08:46.840 that are just kind and they don't they don't even need you to become that's what jesus did right
00:08:52.360 So, you know, you can say your Christian values or whatever and have no care about the outcome of other people.
00:09:04.000 And when you start to think like this, it's actually very freeing, even being more honest with people.
00:09:11.220 Because I kind of found this weird persona in a way where I can be very honest on camera and talk about like X, Y, and Z.
00:09:20.080 and talk about my beliefs because it was kind of an environment that you know you're on shows and
00:09:28.420 stuff where they say what is your opinion but still there would be times in my personal life
00:09:32.860 where I would have a harder time being honest right and I believe that showed a weakness in
00:09:39.260 my character but I don't think I'm alone I think this is a common trope where you just can't
00:09:45.220 it shows a different level of care and honesty to people when you're honest
00:09:53.300 and you have no care about the outcome. It's like a different type of love.
00:10:00.140 So anyways, this is kind of something I've been like
00:10:04.560 thinking about a lot and attempting to do more of because I think a lot of people and I've
00:10:14.480 fallen into this trap, you think you're being moral by not being honest with people. And
00:10:20.840 I think when you live like that in the way it eats at your soul. So I don't know. These are,
00:10:28.300 these are my coffee talks today. Um, let me know what you think in the comments.
00:10:31.960 If you can like the video and subscribe to the channel. I love you guys. Thank you for watching
00:10:36.580 and I'll see you next time.