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00:00:00.000 What I have found is that many men in this country suffer in silence. And so many times

00:00:08.060 what I hear from women is complaining about the little things in relationships or in life. 1.00

00:00:14.980 And oftentimes what I find is that men are belittled and put down by their wives across

00:00:23.520 this country and they just suffer in silence. Many men are in sexless marriages and they just

00:00:29.800 suffer in silence. Many women were not raised to be wives or told what a wife is and there are many

00:00:38.200 men across this country paying the price. Now I decided to ask the question on Twitter for how do

00:00:48.220 women demasculate men? I asked men, what are some of the ways you have felt disrespected in a

00:00:55.720 relationship that your significant other may not be aware of? Now, I'm going to read you guys the

00:01:02.760 most liked comments. So when I ask questions on Twitter or any social media app, what I find is

00:01:10.960 there's many patterns in relationship. Many people think that their problems in a relationship are

00:01:16.680 unique, but oftentimes they are not. So the number one complaint that men had of how women disrespect

00:01:25.680 them in a relationship, I want you guys to guess in the chat. I want you guys to guess. Now, this

00:01:32.240 was not surprising to me, knowing how bad women are on social media about sharing everything about 1.00

00:01:40.180 their relationship. The number one complaint from men is disclosing too much to your female friends.

00:01:48.460 It's us first, not your gossip group. Being asked to go to marriage counseling, she proceeds to talk 0.73

00:01:56.000 about everything that I was doing wrong and so did the counselor. When I finally looked at her

00:02:01.320 and said, what are the things you were doing wrong? She couldn't answer and looked shocked.

00:02:06.560 Another man said I wasn't allowed to lead. Matt A said the biggest is ignoring you in a group and

00:02:13.480 engaging with another man, sitting next to another man and not you. If that happens, don't lash out,

00:02:20.200 just leave. It won't get better. Scott Patrick said going from a full-time nurse to working

00:02:27.220 part-time to quitting and laying on the couch all day, watching cooking shows and talking to her mom

00:02:33.040 on the phone. It's nice. They live together now. There is a woman who said she's not a man,

00:02:39.040 but my former sister-in-law used to embarrass my brother at family gatherings. I recalled

00:02:44.580 several times when someone would invite them to do X, Y, and Z, my brother would say he'd love to,

00:02:52.100 and she would blurt out, we can't do that. We're broke in front of everyone. He worked two jobs

00:02:57.920 at the time and made good money. She had opted to stop working to stay home with the kids. 0.98

00:03:03.720 It made him feel like he wasn't doing enough, which led to resentment. She put the kids before

00:03:10.000 their marriage at the point that the kids were sleeping in the room at seven and nine years old.

00:03:15.080 And many nights he worked late. She fell asleep on the sofa and wouldn't come to bed when he got

00:03:20.360 home. She was depriving his needs as well. And there were other issues like if he wanted to go

00:03:25.760 play pool or something once a month. With some friends, she would get pissy, but if she wanted

00:03:31.760 a girl's night out, she had no problem going and she would take care and he would take care of the

00:03:36.900 kids no problem, stuff like that. He finally had enough of it, got involved with someone else,

00:03:42.480 and ultimately they got divorced. When he told her he was moving out, she was genuinely shocked.

00:03:48.560 She was completely unaware that her behavior had been the driving force. And by then it was too

00:03:54.220 late. 27 years together up in smokes. She's not a bad person. She just wasn't thinking about her

00:04:00.140 actions, how her actions and words made him feel bad. So I always hear that women don't know what 0.99

00:04:08.480 they're doing. And there's a lot of debate on this. Are women aware of what we're doing or are 0.90

00:04:14.380 we unaware? And the truth is you're never really going to know when it comes to women. We can't

00:04:20.460 know if they know, right? Like in this case. But men don't want to have to teach women how to be 0.99

00:04:27.640 women. The same way women don't want to have to teach a man how to be a man. And so if we're in 1.00

00:04:35.040 a situation where we are not performing the duties of a wife or we're demasculating our men,

00:04:41.960 it is our responsibility to correct ourselves. It's not our husband's or a boyfriend's

00:04:47.240 responsibility to correct us. It's our responsibility to correct ourselves. So I didn't know is not the

00:04:56.320 get out of jail free card that we want it to be. When men don't know something and they make a poor 0.92

00:05:01.040 decision, they have to deal with the consequence. But for some reason with women, if we make a poor 1.00

00:05:06.540 decision, we use I didn't know as a get out of jail free card. Another answer was, at the time,

00:05:14.000 it was more of a feeling than anything I did, was going to be wrong. No move was right. If I did

00:05:20.920 something without asking her, I got yelled at. If I waited for her to ask, I was inattentive.

00:05:26.580 Learned helplessness is very powerful and compounded. Mostly it came down to knowing

00:05:32.100 how I felt on a matter and doing what she wanted anyway. In quotes, I want a dog. He said,

00:05:38.360 I think that's a bad idea. And was we have a one and a three-year-old. I'm getting one anyway.

00:05:44.720 Another answer was, and I was actually surprised. I didn't, this was one of the top liked ones. So

00:05:50.040 it was very highly commented or highly liked. I didn't know this was so common. It said she was

00:05:55.960 watching home improvement shows like she was not thankful for what she had. Being volunteered for,

00:06:03.000 and I see this a lot, being volunteered for something without the knowledge,

00:06:06.860 if plans have been made months and weeks in advance, and I'm told 30 minutes before we're

00:06:11.660 arranged to be there. So one way you can see who holds the power in a relationship is when you ask

00:06:17.160 a couple a question, who answers first? Or if you want to make plans with a couple, who makes the

00:06:23.020 plans? Who says yes or no? Does she say, let me ask my husband. By the way, one is not better or

00:06:29.060 worse necessarily. One tends to, in my opinion, work better. But I think there's certain women 1.00

00:06:37.260 that would, that could not be with an assertive guy. They just wouldn't. I mean, you've seen them

00:06:42.720 like the female lawyers, the ball buster. They just, they couldn't do it. Right. So, and there's 1.00

00:06:48.560 some men that could never be assertive. So have fun, be together, you know, asking for ladies

00:06:54.240 nights out seven days a week. My ex, oh, this is a big one. When women say my kids instead of our 0.99

00:07:02.000 kids or his kids, my ex-wife made me feel like my kids were her kids and not mine. Gaius says,

00:07:10.240 I told insert friend's name that we'd be going to their party. This is another thing that I've heard

00:07:15.460 complaints from men on is they don't want to have their entire weekend filled with all of these

00:07:22.360 events. And many wives and girlfriends fill up their weekends with events, not asking them and

00:07:28.220 expecting them to go. And if they don't go, they get mad. When men are much more naturally home 0.99

00:07:34.480 bodies than women. And they're better with money, so they're not outspending it, you know. 1.00

00:07:39.520 Disclosing private information is hot gossip. Trying to lock you down while her past is 0.99

00:07:44.540 extensive. He's just a friend. Unless a man is hitched, they're saying that she knows that

00:07:51.420 she's being disrespectful. I don't know. Some, it depends. Some women know, and some I think are so 1.00

00:07:58.660 dumb that I'm like, I don't know. Okay. So this was, I think I've shown you guys this video before, 1.00

00:08:04.820 but I can always tell that a man has no frame in a relationship when his woman is posting all of 0.50

00:08:14.540 their personal issues on the internet. The reason I can tell this is because men value privacy

00:08:21.780 and when a woman is posting and in this case an actual fight on the internet that tells me

00:08:29.420 she can do whatever she wants and he will let her get away with it and you can see it in this video.

00:08:36.780 Now this video also I think is a common fight that couples have so I want to use it as an example so

00:08:43.540 we can learn something from it hey with you not being with me on Christmas first to ask if I would

00:08:48.960 be okay with you not being with me on Christmas first of all knowing how important that holiday

00:08:53.880 is to me and to go so this is a couple with your brother they do and also anyone that usually has

00:09:00.160 a couple's content or and I speak from experience to some extent any couple that has a couple's

00:09:07.140 content or family youtube channel where they're posting like they're on like they're very young

00:09:13.880 children generally speaking it's the woman running the show because does that sound like 0.99

00:09:21.100 like anything a man would want do you guys want your relate your fights posted on the internet

00:09:27.380 with your girlfriends yeah no okay so I'm gonna play this video really quick to ask if I would

00:09:35.060 be okay with you not being with me on Christmas, first of all, knowing how important that holiday

00:09:39.980 is to me, and two, going somewhere with your brothers just without me to watch football.

00:09:44.980 My feelings are extremely hurt. Okay, I want us to think about this video in the context of a boss

00:09:52.000 and an employee. Now, you may say, Pearl, relationships are different. Nowadays, it's

00:09:58.400 50-50. Nowadays, it's an equal partnership. Hey, if that's what you want to do, that's

00:10:04.340 completely fine but for people that want to be in more traditional relationships

00:10:10.980 in this in this dynamic if your boss left to do something you would have no say in what your boss

00:10:20.420 does yet women respect their bosses more than they respect their husbands even though their bosses

00:10:28.580 give them a paycheck and their husband gives them a family purpose and children. One you would think 1.00

00:10:35.280 is more important but a boss can tell a woman no and she'll have to accept it. On the other hand 1.00

00:10:42.480 this ends up in an argument that comes onto YouTube. So she said he wants to on Christmas

00:10:48.560 day go watch a football game with his brother. She on the other hand wants him to spend quality

00:10:54.780 time with the children now i can understand wanting what you want on christmas but maybe

00:11:02.220 that's something that he likes to do with his brother and you can let the man enjoy his football

00:11:07.980 game and spend time with the kids he'll be back later you know it doesn't have to be the end of

00:11:13.260 the world christmas has to go my way or i'm going to overreact and this is how the women always get 1.00

00:11:21.020 you guys this is what they do they overreact to a problem and then you guys get tricked and you can

00:11:28.220 see him getting tricked into saving the day and thinking that he's doing something wrong

00:11:35.900 if he wants to go watch a game with his brother there's nothing wrong with that you might not like

00:11:40.300 it but you know who you're marrying and you don't get to pull a 180 after you get married if that's 0.52

00:11:47.100 That's how we tend to spend Christmas.

00:11:49.880 You're not supposed to go into a relationship trying to change people.

00:11:53.100 I'm sorry that your feelings are hurt.

00:11:54.940 I really thought you knew me better than that.

00:11:56.520 I'm hoping that we can talk and that I can gain a deeper understanding.

00:12:00.380 Do you see this?

00:12:02.080 So now he's saying, oh, I hope we can talk.

00:12:04.320 I hope I can gain a deeper understanding.

00:12:06.880 When she's in the wrong.

00:12:08.660 As a, I mean, you're an adult woman.

00:12:10.760 I don't know why you're crying because he wants to go watch football.

00:12:14.280 It's a long day.

00:12:14.880 I mean, Christmas is a long day.

00:12:16.280 I mean, my family gets kind of bored at the end of the day.

00:12:19.040 And how are you going to have quality?

00:12:20.240 And she's saying, I want quality time.

00:12:22.100 Well, how are you going to have quality time if you're crying and nagging him about wanting

00:12:30.000 to go watch football?

00:12:31.880 Holiday means a lot to me.

00:12:33.900 Quality time means a lot to me.

00:12:36.380 Togetherness means a lot to me.

00:12:37.880 So again, is she thinking of herself or him?

00:12:40.520 It's me, me, me, me, me.

00:12:41.760 This is the me, me, me, me, me wife.

00:12:43.660 And so the fact that you don't, you'd rather be at a football game knowing, or I thought you knew

00:12:49.640 that. I can't imagine why he wants to go to the football game. Can you guys imagine? It's

00:12:54.500 interesting because what I see is sometimes men will leave a situation. They might go watch

00:13:00.240 football with their friends. They might go play video games and the women get offended because 1.00

00:13:06.020 he's not spending more time with them. And instead of trying to figure out as women, 0.97

00:13:10.300 how we can be more likable and pleasant to be around so they want to spend time with us

00:13:15.100 we think the solution is to nag and cry and unfortunately it works do you see this do you 0.98

00:13:20.860 guys think you want to watch the football game anyway you think he grew a pair and said deal

00:13:24.620 with it i'm going or do you think he gave her what she wanted because she started crying

00:13:30.140 be honest be honest your wife sounds like christmas is actually more important than me

00:13:36.460 and that's what it sounds like like you're saying christmas is important than my husband

00:13:41.260 i do not have a desire to do anything that will either hurt you or deride in any way your

00:13:48.860 expectation for christmas to ask if i would be okay with you yeah and now they go to the internet

00:13:56.060 and do do women tell women hey let your man enjoy the football game that's something he loves let

00:14:02.860 him enjoy it or will the internet tell her that she is a poor victim and that she is in the right

00:14:13.180 where do you think what do you think happened okay so the next example i found oh wait we have two

00:14:19.820 we have two super chats on the website if you guys do want a super chat we can't hear but you

00:14:24.780 can on the website hey pearl saw your appearance on jubilee you made a ton of great points of course

00:14:29.420 the comments are full of simps for the only fans 304 no one wanted to address your great points

00:14:34.300 thank for thank you for saving lives the reason why his girl's acting like this is because he 1.00

00:14:39.260 lets too many things slide he didn't check her early in the relationship as men you can't be

00:14:43.900 afraid to piss your woman off she'll walk all over you yeah and as much as i have a lot of empathy

00:14:49.980 because a lot of men do live in i mean it's tough right once a guy gets married he loses a lot by

00:14:56.700 leaving and a lot of men would rather take borderline abusive situations than leave but

00:15:03.320 I mean this situation is because he did not he again is allowing a woman's emotions to control 0.91

00:15:10.980 him and allowing himself to constantly be fooled by women's crying okay let me find the last one 0.79

00:15:19.100 okay so the next thing one way one thing that I have noticed that women do to emasculate men 1.00

00:15:26.300 is that they will belittle the things that men love. So for example, there was a conservative

00:15:34.940 commentator named Liz Wheeler. Now Liz Wheeler talks about politics and you can see a lot of

00:15:44.160 times these women, they tend to wear masks and they slip off occasionally. And what happened 0.87

00:15:50.700 with Liz Wheeler is she, let me find the first one, had a status that went viral and it said

00:15:59.240 the least attractive hobbies for men, according to women. Number one, playing video games. Number 1.00

00:16:05.400 two, collecting figurines. Three, magic tricks. Four, online trolling, gambling, building model

00:16:12.860 trains, taxidermy, comic book collecting, and bird watching. For the unattractiveness score,

00:16:18.600 the number one is video game. Well, I view men playing video games as a way they can let

00:16:24.480 out their inner child. You know, my brothers, they, I don't really understand the games,

00:16:31.880 but I mean, the men enjoy them, right? And they talk to their friends. They're like,

00:16:37.640 they all roast each other. I don't understand it. I don't get it. I have no desire to play myself,

00:16:42.400 but this is an issue I see with women they nag and drone on about the things that men find fun 1.00

00:16:51.700 and somehow make them problematic even when they're not and you see this with video game

00:16:57.520 this is something men I mean I don't think I've ever met a guy that doesn't play video games at

00:17:03.200 least a little bit I mean I don't ask every guy so I wouldn't know but this is something that men

00:17:09.120 like. And yet you have the conservative Christian commentators nagging the internet

00:17:16.580 about something that is a genuine joy for many men. I'm not saying that you should do that

00:17:25.680 instead of work, but women use social media and they ruin their family with it. They leave their 1.00

00:17:33.160 husband. They post their arguments on the internet and nobody cries about how social media is ruining

00:17:40.880 women. But yet somehow video games are the root cause of all male laziness or school shootings

00:17:51.920 are often blamed on this stuff. And I just don't buy it. I think it's a way for people to undermine

00:17:59.280 something that men have a tendency to love. Yeah, and so here was another comment from her. Gun 0.95

00:18:05.240 violence isn't because of guns. We've had guns in our country forever, yet only in modern history

00:18:10.700 do we have a spite of mass shootings. Why? Broken families, marijuana, mental health crisis, SSRIs,

00:18:18.020 drug abuse, and violent video games. And this just doesn't match up to what I've seen in real life.

00:18:23.280 I've seen my brother shoot people in the face online. I don't think he'd ever do that. I think

00:18:28.360 they just like it because it's fun. But what it shows is, and as women, we wouldn't like it if 0.95

00:18:34.920 they undermined our hobbies, right? I mean, what if you do yoga and the guy you're dating is

00:18:41.220 constantly nagging you about doing yoga and belittling you about your new yoga hobby or

00:18:47.900 dance or whatever, whatever basket weaving, pottery, whatever your more feminine hobby is

00:18:54.300 that men don't really do or get. Phoenix Light Game says to add to your point, Pearl, women don't 1.00

00:19:00.160 like it when men enjoy themselves unless it benefits them. Like video games, unless women 1.00

00:19:05.640 benefit from men's happiness and success, it's misogyny. Correct? Yeah, it's a video game,

00:19:11.040 not real life. I mean, guys, social media ruins far more marriages than a video game.

00:19:17.100 But I never hear the conservative commentators talk about that. I've seen women on TikTok

00:19:22.460 talk divorce their husbands over social media comments. I've even asked friends if how many

00:19:29.800 fights they would have in their relationship if social media wasn't a thing. So I think it's

00:19:35.160 important to hear from men about from their perspective what broke down a relationship as

00:19:41.940 women because a lot of times men are silent and they do disqualify us for reasons and they may

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LADIES! Be More GRATEFUL to the Men PROTECTING and SUPPORTING You! ｜ PEARL DAILY

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