Pearl - January 14, 2025


Lolo Jones Preferred To Be 40 And Virgin Than SETTLE With An Average Guy | Pearl Daily


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00:00:00.000 okay so let's look at an example of a woman that's a virgin in her 40s lolo jones is a track star an
00:00:07.760 olympic athlete that is holding off on giving her virginity to her husband she's still not married
00:00:14.560 and has no prospects as far as anyone knows olympian lolo jones says being a 48 year old
00:00:21.040 virgin has killed her love life now she's turning to ivf to become a mom olympian lolo jones you
00:00:27.840 know you guys think i'm making it up i see how this stuff played out i'm telling you i would see
00:00:32.400 these ladies in protestant churches that were like 35 year old virgins 40 year old virgins the
00:00:38.400 challenges in church the only guys signing up they're not going to be attracted to they're not
00:00:43.280 i mean especially at the protestant churches i mean you have like the nala's husbands of the
00:00:49.840 of the protestant churches they'll take anything they're desperate you know olympian lolo jones
00:00:56.000 revealed that being a virgin at the age of 40 has killed her love life jones a champion hurdler
00:01:01.440 and bobsledder who is among the few athletes to compete in both the winter and summer olympics has
00:01:06.640 been vocal about her virginity for years this is the other challenge again when they're vocal about
00:01:11.920 their virginity they're asking for attention for it it's not a private thing between them and god and
00:01:18.640 their husband it's a marketing tool and the challenge is once they get that attention you know
00:01:24.480 everyone clapping good job not saying it's a bad thing it's tough for them to give it up it's tough
00:01:31.520 i mean they have to say hmm average guy over all this attention i get nah nah the star athlete told
00:01:39.360 the daily mail she's now turning to ivf and hopes to become a mother one day jones has been canceled or
00:01:46.400 candid about her fertility journey on instagram documenting what it's like to freeze your eggs so here we go
00:01:52.880 for my husband for so many years and i'm just getting mad and i'm about to turn 40 there's a lot of
00:02:00.480 stress this is insanity i'm gonna give my thoughts on if you're gonna be a virgin and you want to wait
00:02:06.640 till you're married how i would do it but there's a time clock you and remember there's guys that'll sign
00:02:13.040 up but you will not be attracted to them i've seen the men that sign up you which is totally fine i'm not
00:02:19.200 just don't divorce him later because you're bored i mean that's fine sign up do not divorce him later
00:02:24.800 because you're okay let me keep going let me keep going i'm the only one that's gonna be honest
00:02:29.520 about this because everyone else is gonna virtue signal and it's a lot easier to virtue signal it's
00:02:35.680 way it's so much easier to just say you know what wait till you're married and i'm that's the best way to do it
00:02:42.000 young under the age of 22 after 22 you might get a church simp to give you the benefit of the doubt
00:02:50.400 but i've seen how this plays out i know it's all you've got to just be strong and what's the fight
00:02:56.880 just to keep it together you're doing your brain treatment which is your brain screening i know you
00:03:02.480 think that you are too but we're came back normal hormone levels are normal so we're gonna proceed
00:03:10.320 with the process aren't christians against ivf yeah i know i know i know it's like the it's like pick and
00:03:18.000 choose this is how the let me at this point i think she should have just been a nun the catholics
00:03:24.080 have a solution for this look ladies over a certain age it's just not for you you're either too much of
00:03:30.640 a or it's just not going to happen cover up forever here you go let me keep going
00:03:40.160 nobody can convince me that she should have just took the nun outfit
00:03:48.000 but you know it's like for years she's put all this pressure on finding this perfect husband
00:03:58.080 and they don't help in the church because look when i was when i was in high school they would
00:04:02.240 give us like chastity speakers and it's so crazy because if a woman does anything sexual she was just
00:04:08.480 broken but if a man does anything sexual it's it's always like he pressured you into doing it i mean
00:04:15.520 some of the women pressure the men into doing it especially the young women i mean they get naked
00:04:21.600 first if you if you see them the way they're dressing these days okay now the olympian called her virginity
00:04:28.720 a gift i want to give my husband but she said that decision has not been an easy one there's virgins out
00:04:34.640 there i'm gonna let them know it's the hardest thing i've ever done in my life harder than training
00:04:38.800 for the olympics harder than graduating college has been to stay a virgin until marriage but eight years
00:04:43.680 later during a january 2020 interview with kevin hart on his coldest ball series jones has said
00:04:49.760 being said being so candid about her virginity was a mistake that killed all my dates after that she
00:04:56.640 added you know yeah because you know men want to be the guy that you break the rules for right i was
00:05:02.400 gonna wait then i met this awesome guy now we're in love it's amazing you're now telling every not only
00:05:08.720 does he have to wait which you can find a guy it's not there's christian men that'll sign up for that
00:05:14.720 and but you're now telling everybody that he's not the guy you're gonna break the rules for not only
00:05:20.400 does he have to do it which guys will that it could be a private thing between the two of you
00:05:25.280 now it's a public thing for everybody so you know okay so that killed all my dates after that before
00:05:32.000 at least i had a chance but i'd like tiptoe okay when's a good time to tell him do i wait until he
00:05:37.200 sees my personality a bit or do i just drop the bomb jones told heart that she believed being a
00:05:42.240 virgin being a virgin and also put her at a disadvantage in sports having sex actually
00:05:47.680 helps you as an athlete a female athlete so i'm running at a disadvantage
00:05:55.840 yes okay when jones has had i wonder if the biggest whores in our team were the best
00:06:03.200 sorry okay when jones had an impressive career that now includes three olympic appearances she
00:06:09.840 told the daily mail she's now focusing on peaceful things in her life right now i'm currently gardening
00:06:15.760 she said i know it's super weird but i'm trying to do things that are peaceful i tell everybody i'm on
00:06:21.120 a day-by-day plan i'm on the tom brady retirement plan before he actually retired so now imagine a woman
00:06:27.200 that wants to get married look she's gonna do whatever it takes so let's say if she really
00:06:33.360 what she's reconciling with is she does not like men that much she doesn't she doesn't she wants to
00:06:38.640 be single it's the same way a fat you know fat people how they want to be fat they do because they
00:06:44.000 like food more than they like working out i need to get a calorie deficit their choices show what they
00:06:51.120 really want if she wanted to be married your ego goes out the door you say look i'm gonna download
00:06:58.880 hinge i'm gonna start approaching men in public you know i don't know if you've seen like stories of
00:07:04.800 women that have hunted down nba players but there's a guy that came on our show that said he dated a
00:07:10.000 woman i mean she was a major whore but what we can learn from this whore is that she went for what
00:07:15.280 she wanted right so she wanted to sleep her goal was to sleep with all the men in the nba i don't
00:07:21.200 know there's some some man she wanted to sleep with or probably multiple some were married somewhere
00:07:27.440 she would go to the home games she would research the players figure out things they like to talk
00:07:33.280 about from interviews she would go to the games rent a hotel they figured out where the players hung out
00:07:40.720 because i know there was some team stuff that they hung out without their wives now this woman slept
00:07:46.720 with like half of it was either a hockey team or an nba team but she hunted the man she wanted it but
00:07:53.360 women are willing to hunt down men to be whores but they're not willing to hunt down men to marry isn't
00:07:59.040 that crazy like like if she wanted to be married okay let's say she wants a doctor we could do any
00:08:07.280 profession any any profession has groupies right corporate america she wants ceos she's attractive
00:08:13.120 enough in her youth she probably could have got one not now obviously ship has sailed but back then
00:08:19.440 she would have you could take a job at a coffee shop next to a hospital you know i have a friend she
00:08:25.520 married a doctor and she worked for him and then i mean now the men aren't going to do the me too stuff
00:08:31.840 at work you'd probably be better off working at the coffee shop in the hospital or something all i'm
00:08:37.760 saying is the nba whores figured it out she figured out how to go to the olympics if she really wanted to
00:08:44.080 be married she would have figured out how to do it now i'm going to show again i want to show this pipeline
00:08:50.240 the old virgin to ivf pipeline everyone says i'm mate and this is why like the conversations and the
00:09:00.880 marketing they do where it's like god is the answer to all your problems that's not a step one step two
00:09:06.640 step three like step one she wants to be married okay where does she find the single men that would
00:09:13.600 be interested and this woman i mean she was around professional athletes there wasn't any that were good
00:09:18.960 enough i mean none but see you know she's got to weigh your risk right if she goes for a professional
00:09:24.880 athlete her chance of being passed is is way higher right i mean those getting a professional
00:09:31.680 athlete to commit that's a lot more difficult they have women throwing themselves at them 24 7.
00:09:36.800 okay she could have went for the personal trainers that she was working with or the um sorry physical
00:09:43.120 therapists i'm sure she worked with a lot of smart physical therapists they're in good shape
00:09:49.120 okay she doesn't want to do that i'm sure she had injuries in her career none of the doctors
00:09:53.280 that helped her when she had problems i worked with the out none okay okay well she did sports
00:09:58.400 broadcasting i'm sure like she met some broadcasters none of the journalists men no none of them
00:10:03.680 i'm just saying there was someone there was someone along the lines if she really wanted to be
00:10:07.440 married she doesn't know it she doesn't like she doesn't want a relationship she doesn't although
00:10:11.600 you've told the twitter sphere that you're a virgin yeah i yeah i was shaking when i did that
00:10:18.800 now what would i give her you say that why do you want people to know that i mean i just don't believe
00:10:24.080 my producer says i'm harsh with the ratings i'd give her an eight or higher would you agree with that
00:10:28.960 today eight eight or higher this see this is an eight or higher this is an eight or higher sorry
00:10:35.600 i just you know i want to wait till i'm married to have sex my mom she was my dad with for 20 years
00:10:42.560 and never got married and they're not together anymore so i just want that see again this is the
00:10:49.280 psychology she thinks all she has to do is get a ring then i will be married for life that is a
00:10:55.200 that is uh if i get the ring now he can't leave me well legally makes it pretty tough but it's to get
00:11:03.760 rid of the burden of performance i'm gonna show you guys a virgin that pulled it off and she pulled
00:11:09.840 it off with a billionaire some do get the happy endings and we'll talk about the difference okay
00:11:14.400 they said eight or higher at 40 if she's not 40 in this clip all right this is an old one
00:11:20.240 i want to have no she's not a 40 now that's all right she's not eight now it's just something a gift
00:11:25.040 i want to give to my husband so wow but please understand this journey has been hard okay so
00:11:32.640 think about this she's on hbo sports she's getting these interviews she's getting all this attention
00:11:38.240 for it is she gonna give that up hell no no she didn't i'm not there's virgins out there i'm gonna
00:11:44.240 let them know it's the hardest thing i've ever done in my life harder than training for the olympics
00:11:49.280 harder than graduating from college has been to stay a virgin before marriage i've been tempted i've
00:11:54.800 i've had plenty of opportunities i don't have that yeah well now ask yourself i'm just be objectively
00:12:02.160 take take religion out of this please please take it out of this would she have been better off
00:12:09.280 taking some of those opportunities and going for what she wanted okay so clearly none of the christian
00:12:16.240 men that approached her she liked she didn't like him now i'm just saying objectively this woman does not
00:12:22.560 want to be a christian guy because if she did so she's only attracted to the non-christian men would
00:12:30.000 she have gotten what she wanted if she said you know what i'm gonna break the rules for this guy i'm
00:12:35.600 gonna go for it i'm gonna give him what he wants i would argue yeah i would argue you know i don't know
00:12:41.280 how you could say no let me see i'm one year out from turning 30 so i say if they're making a sequel
00:12:48.400 to the 30 year old virgin if they definitely i am their candidate i would love to i'm you know i'm a
00:12:56.160 little bit awkward like steve carell i could definitely play that role people are going to
00:13:00.560 find this very hard to believe it was cute like when i was 22 24 it was cute like oh i'm a virgin you know
00:13:07.040 that's that see she's agreeing with me you age out that's cute 24 to 29 it's not cute like you get
00:13:15.440 judged a lot you know a lot of guys won't return your calls after they find out they here's the two
00:13:21.680 things that happen when you tell a guy you're virgin and this is the honest truth so one you tell them
00:13:28.080 they say okay i respect that but you can already see it in their mind and in their eyes that they're
00:13:32.160 like she's lying about this and i'll crack it so after we talk a month or so or you know usually a
00:13:39.280 month to three months then they're like oh shoot she was serious time for me to exit when i put
00:13:45.760 together your whole life and what you've been through and i'm telling you man man or woman they
00:13:51.440 will get eaten alive in the modern dating market they will that it's just not gonna work you've had
00:13:57.200 traumas and you've had this unstable existence for such a long time it it actually makes sense to me
00:14:02.640 that you want to have the kind of family that you wish you'd had as a kid yeah i just i guess i want
00:14:07.840 that norman rockwell picture now had she given it up she might be a parent now because life doesn't
00:14:14.960 slow down when you're a parent now we're gonna fast forward 10 years now again it would be different
00:14:22.080 if she was getting the outcomes that she wanted right if she was getting offers from men she found
00:14:27.920 attractive to marry her that she was actually interested in and she was on that path but if
00:14:33.520 it's not working she's not attracted to the christian guys she wants a more exciting guy than that
00:14:39.040 i mean it's it's kind of it's helpful to be honest with yourself about what you want
00:14:43.280 and the guys she wanted weren't going to do it so it probably would have been better for her to go
00:14:49.600 a different route please welcome lolo joe
00:14:55.760 thank you well you had us i mean my whole team everybody's like crying and rooting i wrote you
00:15:03.040 a card saying i rooted for you on the track i'm rooting for you on this journey when you look at
00:15:08.240 yourself in those moments is it out of body does it feel real are you like wait a minute am i sharing
00:15:14.320 it all with these people i was like what did you just do like i was i i don't know i think i just
00:15:20.080 had a breaking point i know she's she's a bit socially awkward but i don't think she's socially
00:15:26.240 awkward enough that i would put her in the socially awkward category i wouldn't i would put her in the
00:15:32.160 category of the women who use it as a marketing tool blows up in their face it was just i mean you saw
00:15:39.680 i'm crying i'm emotional my hair is an absolute nightmare it's something you would never want to
00:15:44.400 post like just like a personal video and i was i just i had had enough i was just like this other
00:15:51.360 after i started learning more about the process and where i'm at i was just like i'm sharing this
00:15:55.920 because i don't want another woman to feel like they're stuck and that they don't have power over
00:16:01.040 this situation better power would be to start giving it away like how is this better you're
00:16:06.880 gonna be a virgin until you're 50. you're gonna give birth as a virgin oh god help us you know what
00:16:14.160 i was so happy that you talked specifically about freezing eggs and the the process because a lot of
00:16:19.600 times you hear people say oh freeze your eggs it's not that it's not easy they make it seem like you
00:16:26.240 walk in you pick up a dozen you put them in the freezer and then you go about your way you
00:16:30.960 have to inject someone in the chat said she wants one of those guys from rom-coms well look she was
00:16:36.640 hot enough and high profile enough she probably could have dated a guy from a rom-com she was an
00:16:41.680 eight or higher but look you have to you have to think about the men's point of view because you think
00:16:46.800 we gotta let's pretend we're a guy and the men she's surrounded by surrounded herself with they're
00:16:52.560 athletes they're high profile people they're gonna have women throw throwing themselves at them
00:16:58.720 it's gonna be a tough sell for a guy that has the choice to not wait and not wait with beautiful
00:17:04.160 women and not wait with beautiful women that aren't necessarily right they get quality women
00:17:10.880 it's gonna be a tough sell to say hey wait for me now could she have sold it at 22 sure 29 that
00:17:17.440 it's getting tougher and they have to believe her they have to believe that you were surrounded by all
00:17:23.840 these athletes and nobody hit you didn't do anything well you know that's why i say if you
00:17:30.560 want to go the traditional route you got to work with the parents and their community and if you're
00:17:35.120 not going to do that you're going to get eaten alive yourself you have to go in and they track your
00:17:41.360 hormones and your levels it is not a walk in the park it no so just to put that more in a box for
00:17:48.080 people i've had spine surgery hip surgery shoulder surgery and for this just to be a procedure it is
00:17:54.480 right up there with the surgery like pain wise discomfort discomfort the amount of like recovery
00:17:59.840 it took me so yes it was how many shots a day take us through the process i did ivf oh okay yeah and so
00:18:06.400 that's how i had my son like how what's the process in a day for you well every woman is different so i
00:18:12.240 only had to take two injections per day but some women have to take more depending on where they're at
00:18:17.760 and like how many eggs there she's still pretty attractive what are we six she's four oh come
00:18:23.520 on under the makeup she's a six she's a six under the makeup i'm telling you trying to get out of
00:18:30.480 there what are you going to give her my producer will sign up he's ready he doesn't care love has no
00:18:40.720 age so two is light i was grateful for two and also the days that you take it depend on how fast
00:18:47.600 your eggs are growing so my eggs started growing quite fast and so i only had to take injections
00:18:52.800 for 11 days 11 well that's still a lot i mean a lot like they think she has asperger's in the chat
00:18:59.280 look asperger's women get married all the time you guys can tell me if you disagree i do think she's
00:19:05.760 a bit socially awkward but i i she's hot enough well you know let's go with this let's for a second i'm
00:19:12.960 gonna make the case it's the social awkwardness because you know the guys she's selling to are
00:19:19.520 high level she is not trying to sell to an average guy she's trying to sell to the athletes around
00:19:26.720 her maybe the hosts men like that are not going to be in those positions generally speaking maybe a
00:19:33.760 couple athletes but in general unless they're somewhat socially competent i think the men she would go
00:19:40.800 for which would be in entertainment now she would have to have the skills to keep them interested
00:19:46.880 long enough that they marry her she's pretty pretty attractive no i still think there would have been
00:19:52.640 there would have been maybe another guy that would sign up yeah i'd look at i don't think that's it
00:19:59.040 i'm gonna put it she liked the attention you let me know