Pearl - Marriage Is A BUSINESS CONTRACT

00:00:00.000 every other aspect of your life is mostly your professional career almost everything except

00:00:06.960 your relationship or marriage with a woman depends mostly on your own effort so so what

00:00:13.440 you put into it is usually what you get out of it except for with a woman correct i can see what

00:00:19.360 chris rock said a man is judged by what he can provide yeah and i'm a provider and i just thought

00:00:25.440 that's the way it was let me ask uh you a question doug or or the other gentleman what's your name i

00:00:31.120 didn't get it gene gene gene or or doug if if that's the situation let's transfer it from the

00:00:38.000 love romantic to just like a business relationship y'all both said like where experts were accomplished

00:00:43.840 what would you do with an employee who just wasn't showing up who was being drunk refused to stack

00:00:49.680 boxes what would you do because you could solve problems right so what would you do with that

00:00:55.040 employee who just refused to get right you get rid of him so transfer that same construct into

00:01:02.160 the romantic relationship there's a deeper problem than that do you have to figure out what it is and

00:01:07.760 why you well in the corporate world at least the corporate world comes with uh guard rails and

00:01:13.840 how-to books and hr right and you've got to follow steps and you know make sure you're not going to

00:01:21.200 get sued and all this other stuff but in general over time i build really great teams and so now

00:01:29.360 i don't have as many employees i've got a lot of cowboys and cowgirls out there that work with me

00:01:35.040 and i don't have to worry about all that stuff there is no bs there's no rumor mill there's no

00:01:42.080 uh but again but again but again that's that's that's fine but if they cross the line like you

00:01:47.540 said adios yeah goodbye that's what i'm saying why doesn't that same mentality that same skill

00:01:54.900 that you have in that corporate transferred to the romantic sector on the same principles you

00:01:59.900 should because you said it earlier i think it was you you talked about how or one of you guys said

00:02:05.120 it was really great it's because we're afraid we're afraid of either the social aspect or

00:02:11.920 we've invest you said it so once one of you guys said the investment oh my god i clocked 24 years

00:02:19.360 with this person yeah no guys watch nobody ever thanked me for the mercedes i got him never do you

00:02:25.600 want an example in the financial world of this mental phenomenon people who make a losing

00:02:31.440 investment in the stock market they don't want this canceled investment they're hoping it turns

00:02:36.240 around goes the other way it's the same mentality yeah yeah right that's why i had to stop training

00:02:41.600 because i couldn't break that cycle myself like i tried it's like hey i can't own my own psychology

00:02:46.320 enough at this point to do so i i gotta stop trying trading jean jean i have a question so

00:02:51.520 you know bad marriages bad relationships are like losing weight i said this all all throughout the

00:02:57.280 time i've been i've been on youtube people think that losing the weight is the hardest part people

00:03:03.680 think that keeping off the way is the hardest part i don't think that's true i think that

00:03:07.920 when you lose the weight you get the healthier lifestyle you start living the quality of life

00:03:13.040 that you always wanted to live you look back on all the time you didn't do it marriage is the same

00:03:18.800 way guys like you have this quality of life now you probably look back and you're like what the

00:03:24.560 what was i thinking dude you don't want to go back do you still get upset at yourself sometimes

00:03:30.720 when you look back it may not be as frequent but there are times where you probably still look

00:03:35.120 back and you're like man yeah i do and i even go back to conversations years later i'm like i

00:03:41.600 should have said this so here's what i found when i'm starting to feel that negative way i just have

00:03:46.320 to say you know what i gotta show myself grace i gotta forgive myself for being ignorant i didn't

00:03:51.280 know what i didn't know oh okay end of story move on i'm not feeling bad about myself anymore i can

00:03:56.800 keep moving forward yeah um i'm sorry go ahead what no no no because i wanted i wanted to keep

00:04:03.680 building with gene and doug and even mark with this okay let's say that investment thing you're

00:04:08.080 like i'm the expert at investing but at the same time i keep doubling down on bad investments you

00:04:13.520 wouldn't be an expert then right you would be like yo you're a bum like mark said i had to quit right

00:04:18.400 that's cool in my world in my world i can never make a mistake if i make a mistake i'll never get

00:04:24.400 hired again end of story no i dig it so this is what i'm just trying to help under uh undiscover

00:04:31.440 with you guys if that be the case and this is what people do i say transfer it to the romantic

00:04:37.360 sector you can't love is love see that's why you keep getting hooked and booked i always say stuff

00:04:44.800 is transactional. When I do business and relationships with women, I say it's business.

00:04:48.600 I know business and I keep it business. I'm like, wait, hold on. You have no assets. You have none

00:04:53.660 of this, none of this. Why would I do this again? Why would I marry you? Why would I join my empire

00:04:57.520 with yours? It's a straight business deal. But if I said, well, it's love and with love, you don't

00:05:04.360 do that. It's not business. And then I'm like, oh my gosh, you're right. Let me marry you without

00:05:08.440 a prenup everything is transactional in business you are an expert stop losing your expertise when

00:05:15.400 you're transferring over that's what women do they don't have to invest you know why they just marry

00:05:19.800 elon musk and jeff bezos and become the richest person on the galaxy so kids i gotta tell you

00:05:26.280 i've got to tell you i became an expert this is what got me out of it i hired every great

00:05:31.400 psychologist in the country on parental alienation spent probably seven hundred thousand dollars on

00:05:37.000 that alone and i studied every book and gave myself my own phd in psychology and it was the

00:05:45.880 greatest thing i ever did because the way my mind's so up i don't know if i can curse on here

00:05:51.560 it's so screwed up is because i've got to understand the science behind it and then i'll

00:05:56.760 get it right and so that's what i did and now i had to become an expert on psychology to understand

00:06:03.160 why the hell did i do this for 24 years and mark mark said that yesterday and how do i course

00:06:11.320 correct and get down the road as fast as i can because i'm tick the clock is ticking and i want

00:06:18.040 to cause as much trouble as possible while when it comes to why men when it comes to why men make

00:06:23.560 this exception in love it's just completely illogical it's the same as asking a woman

00:06:28.440 why she obeys her boss and not her husband is there a panacea is there a panacea do we have

00:06:35.960 them up on a pedestal because that's what it was for me right like i was chasing that right yeah

00:06:41.880 oh boy yeah and the thing is everybody suffers when men um do this because like the kids are

00:06:48.280 gonna suffer watching you simp for your wife yep the kids are gonna like there's not gonna

00:06:53.480 going to be order in the house. It's going to be chaotic. Awful. Awful. Yeah. I want to point

00:06:59.360 something out. But full circle, Mark. Mark. Full circle. This is what Mark was talking about on

00:07:04.420 last stream. Go ahead. Do your thing. Okay. So, Gene, you said you want to pivot as fast as

00:07:09.560 possible because you've got limited time. I agree. But here's the part I want to caution against.

00:07:14.300 Don't expect to get results as fast as possible because it takes time to course correct. If

00:07:18.820 you're desperate to get results fast you're going to start i don't have any i have zero expectations

00:07:24.220 brother period okay okay i'm just it's a warning for other guys i don't give a fuck if she can beat

00:07:31.660 out my solitude she wins and she's got to be amazing that's my filter right so something

00:07:38.980 that sean said is he is the architect of his reality okay okay so your life is not a whole

00:07:46.840 lot different than your business not anymore okay you are not marrying the woman she is marrying you

00:07:54.440 she's not hiring you you are hiring her a company hires the employee to come serve the company's

00:08:03.080 purpose not the other way around right it can be mutually beneficial but at the end of the day an

00:08:09.160 employee who doesn't want to help the company further its vision that employee is on the

00:08:13.960 shortlist to get kicked out the door right so this is what sean was saying if a woman's coming

00:08:18.920 on board to help him get the outcomes he wants because he's the architect he's going to consider

00:08:25.160 her if she's counterproductive she's a waste of time she's going to slow him down and cause

00:08:30.440 problems instead of being a net positive he don't have time for that plow around the stumps right

00:08:36.280 think about why do women like having male friends because it's positive for them and they don't have

00:08:41.640 to put out been the friends in a lot yeah yeah why do we tell men don't be that guy

00:08:47.960 thank you because they're getting nothing out of it good chat welcome welcome to the show mario

00:08:53.000 what is your thoughts nice guys finishing last oh i think it's completely true after me being

00:08:59.640 trying to be the the good nice husband for 13 years it didn't didn't didn't didn't work out

00:09:05.640 they just went all over you and why do you think that is do you have any thoughts on

00:09:09.960 on the general conversation yeah well i was i've been hearing it for the whole time and uh like

00:09:15.560 yeah on one hand it's like you don't know because a lot of people a lot of men when they get in the

00:09:21.100 marriages they think this is going to be the one and done this is like my forever girl this is the

00:09:25.880 one i'm going to grow old and die with right and that's the same way that i did but that's for me

00:09:31.100 it was different because i had i was serving my country and i've been overseas five times and i

00:09:35.960 knew that if i stayed in and not have a family i won't be able to at least uh make a a legacy out

00:09:44.100 of my for my family from my side so that's why i did it but now after all this has happened i'm

00:09:50.620 more of like i'm gonna be single now because she decided not to stay in my marriage so you know

00:09:56.960 what i'm just gonna be me if you can if you want to be around me cool not fuck off yeah thanks for

00:10:03.940 calling in maria appreciate you why throughout history has there been a dowry why was the man

00:10:09.320 paid to marry the woman because not the other way around he came with problems yeah all the reason

00:10:15.900 they did it even all of us every single one there's no special women i didn't even get a goat

00:10:23.020 the craziest part about it is and gene can talk about this it's like you do you use every skill

00:10:30.700 that you learn in your professional life your education to try to understand the woman that

00:10:36.660 you committed to in your life and it just doesn't work dude you keep trying over and over and over

00:10:42.980 and it's opportunity cost like genes probably just like me were like if you could get all that time

00:10:48.200 and effort back and put it into something that wasn't actively fighting i'd be bulletproof i'd

00:10:54.100 if i can get all the time and effort i put into my my ex-wife or women uh and have put it towards

00:11:01.100 myself i'd be able to leap tall buildings in a single bound seriously and it's just like you

00:11:06.440 just have to just the effort that you put trying to understand a woman and try to treat her like

00:11:13.960 a problem you can fix guys it's just you just and days turn into weeks weeks turn into months

00:11:20.620 months turn turn turn into years it's just crazy how much time and effort you see that

00:11:26.380 once you get out of it and you look at the cost benefit analysis it's a rough deal man it's rough

Pearl - April 18, 2026

Marriage Is A BUSINESS CONTRACT

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