Pearl - Marrying a VIRGIN Could Be Riskier Than a Single Mom! @DailyPersuasion

00:00:00.000 So you and others have pointed out that the postpartum experience is post-nut

00:00:03.840 clarity for women. That is, that is correct. 1.00

00:00:06.160 And it's because it is because her,

00:00:08.620 her hormonal profile changes in a way that she's never experienced before in

00:00:12.740 her entire life. And because of the, the, the,

00:00:15.660 the interconnectedness between personality and expression and mood with

00:00:20.660 hormones, it's, it's like a new, she's a new person after each pregnancy.

00:00:25.620 So what you are getting, if you marry a woman without children, you don't know how she's going to change after that kid.

00:00:34.000 But if she already has a kid, what she sees is what you get. 0.75

00:00:37.560 How is she raising the kid?

00:00:39.240 Yes, absolutely.

00:00:40.820 You can see that too. 0.99

00:00:43.700 There's a lawyer that came on the show that came on to cook me because I was cooking these single moms.

00:00:48.160 And he's like, I would absolutely date a single mother. 0.90

00:00:50.640 And I'm like, you?

00:00:51.280 You've like so much to go. 1.00

00:00:52.240 Why would you date a single mother? 0.98

00:00:53.240 and he's like look it depends on the kid he's like one of the best women i've ever dated 1.00

00:00:57.880 had a 16 year old kid who was a captain of the football team i hung out with that kid it was

00:01:02.040 awesome oh yeah yeah this is something interesting is like like once they're 16 and he was like it

00:01:08.120 was great for me because i don't know if i want kids so she could have the kid she could not like 0.54

00:01:13.880 a young woman is going to resent you based on how long you make her wait right so like you know if 0.95

00:01:20.520 clocks ticking no matter i mean and especially if her friends like small like i'm in the south so 1.00

00:01:26.680 like there's like a race to the altar right so there's gonna be all this nagging the single mom 1.00

00:01:31.720 she's already messed up her life we're on your time now king she already had her wedding she 0.78

00:01:38.040 already did all that so yeah so this is with the with the with the with with the proven now this

00:01:44.360 could be proven good or proven proven very very very very bad okay yeah no proven very good very

00:01:49.400 bad so if if what you see is like a competent mother who's got her act together who knows

00:01:54.920 that i'm in competition with women who are younger and and and no children right now if

00:02:00.880 if they have that self-awareness of here are the ways i i screwed up that that can be a really

00:02:05.920 attractive package to a specific man particularly to a man who also has children from a previous

00:02:10.420 relationship and where i see it working the best and this this is consistent consistent where he

00:02:16.040 has more kids than she does this is where i see it so she has one kid he has two or you know she

00:02:23.000 has one he has three or she has two he has four from the previous relationship and then they get

00:02:29.000 together and they then together have the same number of kids that she had from that previous

00:02:35.320 relationship that's single mom math so he let's say he has three and she has one then they have

00:02:42.520 two together he has three they have two they have three together like big family situation okay but

00:02:48.120 you know i digress that that i consistently see tends tends to create the best um best outcomes

00:02:54.440 they have they have like the same or you know or she has one and then they have one together right

00:02:58.440 so the same or more they have together that she had from the previous relationship and what that

00:03:03.400 seems to do is it is it seems to sort of recast the identity of the mother with her child from

00:03:10.680 in that relationship is we're actually more part of this family now with these kids from my

00:03:18.720 husband's previous relationship. Then we are part of the family that we had with your father.

00:03:24.100 I know a single mother that the new guy she wanted to be with set a prerequisite was that 0.88

00:03:30.200 she gave, there were boys and gave the boys to the father. He said, this isn't my problem.

00:03:35.400 And that was his prerequisite. And she did it actually.

00:03:37.980 now another thing to point out is a real concern real concern you know about SIDS right the truth

00:03:43.420 about SIDS SIDS you know sudden infant death you know the truth about SIDS right like what

00:03:47.600 is SIDS really oh is it women killing kids I've never I've never really I'm surprised I haven't

00:03:54.880 but infant two four months I think that the infant mortality rate back in the day it's the same as 0.98

00:04:01.400 the abortion rate today so I think like women have always killed kids so it wouldn't shock me

00:04:05.560 Yeah, the sudden infant death syndrome, kind of the reality of that, I think, is so horrible. 1.00

00:04:12.980 We have to sort of create social lies about what sudden infant death syndrome really is.

00:04:18.840 Well, we do know that one of the contributing causes is mommy's drunken or drug-addled boyfriend.

00:04:27.320 Same thing with CSA.

00:04:29.540 Same thing with DV that targets the kids.

00:04:33.060 It's mommy's boyfriend, right?

00:04:35.060 Right. So a single mother who's dating is one of the highest risk traumatic events that could ever happen to a child. 1.00

00:04:44.660 So that's reality check. That's my black belt for everyone. 0.97

00:04:49.040 Well, I mean, the other thing, too, is if you have a woman like you put the woman on child support and alimony and you're the stay at home husband, you can have your traditional relationship after you can get your kid right. 0.66

00:05:02.800 You can get like, like, let's say you got your kid at 25 by 32, you could find your second wife, you know, obviously she divorces you or, and then you could put her on alimony and child support. 0.51

00:05:14.000 And now you have girlfriend money.

00:05:15.980 Yeah, the, yeah, the, the, the, the reframe child support budget or the, the girlfriend budget.

00:05:20.620 Absolutely.

00:05:21.300 Yeah.

00:05:22.220 I think as, as there are more and more high profile stories, I, I ultimately think pro that the child support system will be abolished, but I think it will be as a, as a result of.

00:05:32.120 enough high-profile women going to jail for not paying their child support?

00:05:36.840 Yeah.

00:05:38.160 And it's like, oh, this is just so not fair.

00:05:40.960 And then all of the things that men have been saying for 50 years, 0.92

00:05:44.520 women will say for like five months and the entire system will be transformed. 0.72

00:05:48.640 Because women organize through the sisterhood in a way that particularly WASP men, 0.69

00:05:53.860 you know, white Anglo-Saxon Protestant men just don't do with their rugged individualism.

00:05:58.520 Yeah.

00:05:58.760 i realized today pearl looks like i don't know who joanie mitchell is when she picks up a guitar 1.00

00:06:03.680 absolute babe thank you sir do you know who joanie mitchell is a singer singer songwriter

00:06:09.800 in the 70s 80s maybe i don't know how to take this i'm looking at what she looks like yes but

00:06:17.060 well yeah i think i'm sold single mother because what are your choices today as a man you got the

00:06:23.360 woman with six figures a student debt right you got the single mothers what like what would you

00:06:27.960 as a man what are like the average guys wait what are you thinking six figures of student debt 0.98

00:06:33.680 incurable std yeah yeah yeah let's let's here's here's all the here's the here's the uh the the

00:06:40.880 the lowest common denominator of that's that's available right now yeah so in some cases that

00:06:46.520 might just be the best choice standing i didn't say it was a good choice right but all the choices

00:06:50.800 are bad so yes i think i think what is what is really particularly for a man who already has

00:06:55.600 like you know two three four kids i do see this and i see it working where like this the first

00:07:00.900 wife has a kid and she's 15 years younger she's 12 years younger she's 19 years younger right

00:07:08.640 so it's like where they don't have value to people in their same demographic let's say

00:07:15.420 they can add value to to one another and be compatible even in that in that in that regard

00:07:22.520 particularly if again if they have more children which is equal to or greater than the number of

00:07:27.000 kids she had from her marriage there i think so teal swan also talks about this like i like her

00:07:31.960 content that covers this concept of ownership another subject i like to discuss a sense of

00:07:37.880 she says women want to be owned and pearls like i've been telling you that for but this is what 0.79

00:07:43.160 teal says she says that all her bitch get you yeah yes so teal will talk about how how how women want 0.98

00:07:49.000 to want to be owned and feel owned in that holistic sense as a whole person being owned by 1.00

00:07:57.160 their by their band and the funny thing is like she's she's like in the liberal zone and uh 1.00

00:08:03.560 lives just like eat up her content feminists just like or like it's it's it's wild how she can teach 0.97

00:08:09.960 that message to like leftist women and and they just like love her for it it's great um but with

00:08:15.480 With the sense of us, a concern that a lot of men have with the single mother question is,

00:08:21.600 you know, she will never love you, her new husband, as much as she loves her child from

00:08:26.240 her first marriage. That is a thing that I hear a lot. I also hear this, she'll always have first

00:08:34.260 loyalty to her baby daddy because that's who she has the first child with. Manifesting proper

00:08:41.320 ownership of her and of this blended family can come through you now to having another child

00:08:49.420 together. So now your siblings share siblings or rather, rather the siblings share a half sibling,

00:08:57.660 let's say done blindly, of course, or just, you know, as some good poon. Okay. So we're going to

00:09:04.440 date our kids are going to do stuff together. Maybe it's going to work out. Maybe it's not,

00:09:07.580 I don't know. The more self-awareness that you have in any corner of the dating market,

00:09:13.080 the better off you're going to be. Knowing what your score is, knowing your green check marks,

00:09:21.660 knowing your red X's, being honest, having that self-awareness, genuinely rare. But the post

00:09:28.020 clarity that is postpartum can wake up a lot of women. And also like where they maybe really 1.00

00:09:34.360 screwed up with their baby daddy or had they really made a mistake and procreating with this 0.76

00:09:40.300 real sob here you know why would they assume just because she had your first like she had your kid 0.97

00:09:45.420 first what i mean didn't a woman have your kid first and like how many men have had their woman

00:09:51.180 have their kid first and she wasn't loyal to any of you so why would you assume loyalty at all

00:09:55.280 you know what i'm saying like yeah we don't we don't yeah we don't like loyalty is unenforceable

00:09:59.240 now yeah so why would you even assume just because she had your kid first she's not going to be

00:10:04.280 loyal anyway she wasn't loyal to the first guy so like he's not there so yeah i think a lot a lot

00:10:10.120 of the reasons that men resist the resist answering the single mother question the affirmative

00:10:14.420 is the same is the same set of reasons that marriage in the current year is a risk across

00:10:21.740 the board and this is why i point out that some of the concerns like you know okay so you marry

00:10:26.460 in this beautiful marry this beautiful naive doe-eyed virgin bride and then she has a kid

00:10:32.180 and it's completely different personality you know i have that dad chat pearl right i i asked 0.62

00:10:37.840 them in like when did you when did your wife completely change now some of them i got real

00:10:42.580 big trouble for i'll have to tell you about this privately i got in really big trouble for sharing

00:10:46.540 one of your posts where you said something like girlfriend rather than wives changed my mind i

00:10:51.660 got so much trouble for that i'll tell you about that later but that's obviously true because of

00:10:55.260 the peter principle right the peter principle is you're promoted to your maximum incompetence

00:11:00.000 or rather you're maximum competent where you become incompetent that's it that's another thing

00:11:04.580 but throughout when i asked him in the dad chat i guess i got several dozen answers so it's a it's

00:11:08.960 it's a sample size of something the most common was was was not after we got married it was after

00:11:14.700 the first kid personality it was 180 she went from exuberant joyful enthusiastic in bed to frigid

00:11:22.760 and asexual and ballooned and did all these sorts of things and lost interest in her own

00:11:28.520 hobbies and i thought well maybe she's not attracted to me anymore but then she just got

00:11:32.860 bitter with her friends and and and family and she cut off her sister cut off contact with her

00:11:37.600 sister you know these sorts of like transformations after having after having a child when it's a 0.85

00:11:43.680 woman who's already been through that you what you see is what you get what you see is what you get 0.83

00:11:48.360 so it's like a single mother has a carfax report and you can talk to the when do you get an option

00:11:54.400 to talk to a woman's ex you could actually get a side of the story because yeah you know like yeah

00:11:59.460 most guys don't want to it's like an ego thing but maybe you should the other thing too i was

00:12:04.500 thinking anecdotally four um worst divorces i'm thinking of off the top of my head one um

00:12:12.540 was a passport bro slash orthodox woman stole his kid to another country that was uh was that

00:12:20.620 michael knowles church yeah michael knowles church was one of the worst other one was a doctor who

00:12:26.660 transitioned ended up transitioning the kid oh yeah i know that guy's story that's that's one

00:12:31.680 of the worst ones i've heard and the other two elijah might be right up there and he had a virgin

00:12:37.340 crowd crowd or is the other one those two guys both had virgin yeah they they did it they did

00:12:41.880 it right let's say yeah with regard to who they chose oh we want to hate on rachel wilson but 1.00

00:12:47.240 she's still kicking my ninjas. She's still going. Yes. So, so, so what Rachel, so I think, 0.99

00:12:52.160 I think her story is that she's had the three kids from three different men, right? Yeah. Yeah.

00:12:56.080 So she is, she is one of the most credible women on the internet who speaks about this issue

00:13:02.540 because of two words, self-awareness, self-awareness. When you can say, Hey, I screwed

00:13:12.700 up. Don't become like me. Here's how I've decided to dedicate my life to doing it different. And

00:13:19.260 I'm owned by my husband. It's like, what a flex. I mean, just what a flex. Single mothers always

00:13:24.980 leave to do better. You could be better, King. Yes. Yes. Oh, I have a 5 p.m. Eastern that's 1.00

00:13:30.280 waiting for me here. I'll tell him to give him, I'll ask him to give me a minute. Have we satisfied

00:13:34.920 your curiosity, Pearl? Is there anything that's missing from the single mother questions answered?

00:13:39.280 Well, the one, maybe if you really quick, I saw a tweet where you said you need to go for women a little bit older than you.

00:13:45.560 I don't know. I saw a tweet of yours that said a lot of guys are going for women like it was like two to five years older, just trying to get a kid in there because they're like ready for the kid. 0.64

00:13:56.060 I don't know. Do you remember that tweet? I can't I can't pull it up.

00:13:58.860 So I don't remember, but I remember seeing it and thinking, wow, I've never thought about that.

00:14:03.080 I had this conversation yesterday, actually, with a woman who was, I would say, in a demographic that, let's say, she was concerned about the contents of her carton.

00:14:17.680 We'll put it that way.

00:14:19.540 And I personally believe that the purpose of marriage is children.

00:14:23.440 That's like an ancient view, apparently.

00:14:25.160 um you know how we say like we're dating with intention which is like you know you're dating

00:14:31.940 around to find the absolute best one that you can before before the clock runs out we know what

00:14:36.040 you're doing here playing field as a lady or you're like i'm dating for marriage which is a 1.00

00:14:41.120 way of saying i have a really high body count i'm not going to tell you about and your ass is going 0.98

00:14:45.820 to get sarah stalked and then there's the best how would you know to date for marriage that means 0.99

00:14:52.160 you didn't date for marriage before. Oh yes. Oh yes. Oh yes. It's like that. And that's like

00:14:56.940 very little self-awareness, like just enough self-awareness to be dangerous, but not very

00:15:00.220 much. And then there is what I will attempt to practice what I preach. So I'm going to put this

00:15:05.920 out there. Accountability time for Joshua Lysak. Then there's dating for children, dating for

00:15:12.160 children. It's close to like relationship-based eugenics where the idea is, okay, compatibility 0.52

00:15:21.140 and sexuality, et cetera. 0.78

00:15:22.900 I said, okay, that's fine.

00:15:23.620 But like, I am looking for a person

00:15:26.120 to spend the next 20 years of my life

00:15:27.840 with raising the absolute best genetic material we can,

00:15:31.820 let's say, between myself and the other,

00:15:34.020 what we have available.

00:15:35.680 That's a level of seriousness that,

00:15:38.740 that's not that funny, is it?

00:15:39.760 No, I love it.

00:15:40.920 It's great.

00:15:41.960 All right.

00:15:42.660 So that's, I want more children.

00:15:45.160 I want them to be like six, five, six.

00:15:46.240 I'm six, three, right?

00:15:47.160 so my mother was like five nine five ten and it was so much fun she was like she would always

00:15:53.600 mog other women she would hype mog other women it was so it's so much fun i wish she had longer

00:15:57.760 hair though i i'm i'm uh what is this what is the saying what the saying is but there's a saying

00:16:02.320 there for what i just said somewhere and in any case dating for children this is where like if

00:16:08.140 you go a little bit older with the women who are like buzzer beater baby okay like if that's what 1.00

00:16:14.960 you want that's what she wants more than literally anything else and to quote pearl davis that can

00:16:22.460 be you king that can be you king i just yeah i don't think because the young woman you'd have

00:16:28.580 to wait like a decade maybe you want a kid now yeah and she's like i'm just not ready yet i'm 0.98

00:16:33.500 not ready yet and it's like motherfuck i'm 35 years old i haven't had i i haven't had a serious 1.00

00:16:40.300 boyfriend in this many years and there are cases where the women are like actually turbo celibate 0.98

00:16:45.800 for a very very very long time where they become like locked in and kind of like nun mode with

00:16:51.000 their work or their hobby or their family or whatever and it's not like they're lying about

00:16:54.640 it it's like oh okay so you never had you haven't had a boyfriend in 10 years but you've had 100

00:16:58.540 men in bed right not all not all not all okay but i think that there's a lot of high relatively i'll

00:17:05.500 say relatively else all relevant there are there are a number of relatively high value high quality

00:17:10.040 women or potentially high value women who are in categories that are often deemed undesirable.

00:17:15.860 But if you're, but if you're, you're, you're 50 and your kids are, you know, like in high school

00:17:20.460 or whatever, like at the bar on a Thursday night is a 24 year old smoke show with a six year old.

00:17:28.820 You can have three more kids with, you can have a second family. You can be fruitful and multiply,

00:17:34.300 multiply my guy. What are you doing? Being on Tinder with 50 year olds.

00:17:38.260 and then they say like oh well but you're not special and she had someone else's kid

00:17:43.540 it's like well she could have had someone else's abortion right so hey you don't know you won't 0.59

00:17:48.900 know if the girl you marry had an abortion or not so that's true that's true yes why was she

00:17:55.180 oh i would know yeah right is she gonna what incentive does she have to tell you oh but i 0.97

00:18:01.300 would know uh-huh get the fuck out of here oh yeah yeah yeah so so again the risk profile of 0.94

00:18:08.980 the single mother is it can be either worse or better than just your your your your given woman 0.96

00:18:15.740 who um uh who doesn't have who doesn't have children and then and then women oh if you're

00:18:22.180 over 25 oh it's too late it's too late i'm telling you guys there are some incredible women over 30

00:18:27.700 over 35 even and they don't have a carousel count of over 500 my guy

00:18:34.660 maybe you you would be shocked the number of women over 35 who've had 1.00

00:18:39.840 two partners her in her entire life you would be shocked yeah because they're lazy so they're too 1.00

00:18:45.640 lazy to go out and meet men right well they're they have been second-way feminists their entire 1.00

00:18:51.980 life because they had in a lot of cases it was like okay you got to provide for yourself it was 1.00

00:18:56.100 drilled into usually by their mother never rely on a man never have to rely on a man you know you

00:18:59.600 get your master's degree you get your you get your md you get your phd you get your psi d you know

00:19:03.400 and it's like she hasn't been on a date in seven years oh yeah right she hasn't had a boyfriend in

00:19:08.880 her 30s this is again this is this is not uncommon no not uncommon they get ghosted like once and

00:19:14.980 they just can't take it because they're so spoiled they've been given everything their whole life

00:19:18.620 and never been disappointed they get ghosted once and it's like five years of celibacy

00:19:23.340 that can that can be a thing that can be a thing yes i think the l is too hard it's too difficult

00:19:31.380 well they go into they go into nun mode yeah they go they go into nun mode like the monk mode right

00:19:35.660 for men men do have a nun mode that can get turned on get ghosted you guys just have to keep going 0.99

00:19:39.800 ask another bitch out ask a single mother out somebody's gonna say yes but yeah eventually 0.98

00:19:45.060 you'll get a yes yes but like they're just not built like you guys you guys keep trying 1.00

00:19:50.220 we try once and just give up and the men are like here's hinge you can get dick to your door ladies 0.96

00:19:57.020 you don't want to do that you know he can take you to dinner you can do sugar and then we're like 0.89

00:20:02.420 oh it's too difficult no don't do sugaring don't do sugaring no no no yeah he's like

00:20:07.980 fellas fellas you you go into monk mode you become a degenerate playboy or you date for children

00:20:15.700 you date for children you know you know that you know that couple with the weird glasses

00:20:20.220 you know what i'm talking about they're like they're so adorable together they have like seven

00:20:24.600 kids i think now i don't know four five six seven i don't know but they have weird glasses they look

00:20:28.460 like liberals but they're not they live in new england maybe it's just the culture but they're

00:20:32.380 just like an adorable little couple oh wait in them the technology ones right uh yeah like she

00:20:38.220 has these like they both they both have like the biggest black frame glasses you've ever seen

00:20:41.380 they're both adorable i love their i love their stuff like they're super base but they're not like

00:20:45.440 like um cringe about it you know there are a couple there are a good example of like dating

00:20:51.160 of dating for children they like their their their relationship and i think that's like you

00:20:56.620 know the the was it broke dating for love woke dating for compatibility in quotes bespoke dating

00:21:02.980 for children dating for eugenics purposes like that's uh i'm gonna i'm gonna i'm gonna tap my

00:21:08.680 whiteboard for that one folks yeah tapping the whiteboard for love what are you women well see 1.00

00:21:13.120 but see if you're dating for children then there's a set of expectations already in place 1.00

00:21:18.380 that means you're dealing with a serious person particularly with a woman who actually wants to

00:21:22.740 be a mother i think that's very important fellas and if you and if she's already a single mother

00:21:27.220 and then you can see how she's with her kid what she sees what you get you don't have to we don't

00:21:31.400 have to worry about this postpartum postnet clarity thing where she becomes where her

00:21:34.260 personality 180s and she becomes the people of walmart overnight it's all it's all risk it's

00:21:39.660 all risk management scott adams did the single mother thing oh yeah adams did the single mother

00:21:44.660 thing was that the first wife or the second wife both they're both single moms yeah that second

00:21:50.720 wife everyone was like oh she took his money i'm like that was worth every penny she was 1.00

00:21:55.400 plenty of money that man had plenty of money he did not regret that bitch you know there's there's 0.98

00:22:01.520 one there was one there was one there's one time it was like it was the great the greatest subtle 0.98

00:22:05.800 flex i've ever heard was with scott adams somebody it was on it was in the locals i believe

00:22:09.960 yeah somebody said somebody said to him like you and christina you're like 30 years older than her

00:22:16.840 and he and she's like what do you even have to talk about nothing and scott adams says

00:22:23.040 well when she comes over we don't talk a whole lot hey yeah it's they're like oh no it was a

00:22:30.300 transactional relationship you think he didn't know that every relationship is a transactional

00:22:35.880 relationship now and and and the the only good transaction in my opinion that that can work

00:22:42.060 long term is i would like to trade my sperm for your eggs okay deal dating for children i like

00:22:50.720 this dating for children that's what i'm all about that life now stick enough it makes sense 0.53

00:22:55.420 i yeah i i'm all about dating for children eugenics eugenics what would happen if all

00:23:01.080 men stopped serious relationships with modern women if they engaged in hookup culture and

00:23:05.240 only married virgins with dowries they want to know your take uh nobody would get married anymore

00:23:10.000 extinction species extinction level event is that what you want that's so funny okay um all right

00:23:16.900 well i think i've satisfied my curiosity okay you're morbid you're morbid curiosity yeah i had

00:23:22.720 to know i'm like what was i'm with it get you a single mother kings get you all the options are

00:23:29.140 terrible you might as well take a terrible option that benefited you benefits you your ex-wife stole

00:23:34.600 your house get you a single mother that's still another man's house get in there it's all it's

00:23:40.580 all it's all pragmatic and i think the biggest thing is what you see is what you get what her

00:23:45.520 personality now that she's post kids she is post personality change you can see how she is with the

00:23:51.080 child what is a child like in compatibility that's a problem you guys see that the woman's 0.95

00:23:57.700 a terrible mother and you still marry her that's why you say don't date single mothers 0.54

00:24:01.120 you guys date these single mothers that are obviously terrible parents it's like right in

00:24:05.660 front of you but you guys love them too much you're like oh but she's my terrible parent

00:24:09.560 all right thanks joshua come back anytime all right you bet my pleasure take care

Pearl - October 14, 2026

Marrying a VIRGIN Could Be Riskier Than a Single Mom! @DailyPersuasion

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