00:07:24.980who shows like promise to say something to my dad i think i ask you a little bit about the
00:07:31.380way that you constructed your own family and career pathway because i've been working with
00:07:38.020my wife trying to sketch out, she does a podcast on issues related to femininity.
00:07:45.940And we've been trying to sketch out at least hypothetically, something like
00:07:51.060a appropriate timeline for young women because they have no real guidance in that. So here's
00:07:57.620a stat for you. We hit this milestone last year. Half of Western women, 30 and under,
00:08:07.700have no child. So it's a little more than half now. So we hit more than half. Half of them will
00:08:15.940never have a child. So this is competing strategies, right? Because women's strategies,
00:08:21.740we want to use as much of our youth and beauty on ourselves as possible without having to spend it
00:08:27.020on our family. And it's not necessarily wrong, right? But it's just a competing strategy. I
00:08:36.980think megan kelly like do i am i losing sleep at night who megan kelly married i don't care
00:08:43.700but it's a female centric strategy children centric and men centric would be to use your
00:08:49.860youth on your family and 90 of them will regret it that means we're setting up this is a catastrophe
00:08:58.100this is a catastrophe if it's true and the data are pretty clear i believe this means we're setting
00:09:03.780up one woman in four for isolation, right? And that gets increasingly brutal as you get older.
00:09:14.340And I also think we're setting up that 25% of women to be preyed upon in a manner like nothing
00:09:21.700we've ever seen. All right. So that's a blue pilt is that women are preyed upon. No, no, no, no, no.
00:09:28.980men are the prey women are the hunters when they enter their later years because they'll have
00:09:35.380no one to keep an eye out for them especially during times of vulnerability this is not going
00:09:42.260to be good so so let me sketch out an idea for you in terms of a timeline and tell me what you
00:09:48.740think about that i mean one couple in three have fertility problems by the age of 30.
00:09:54.500and that's defined as not being able to conceive within a year of trying.
00:10:00.160And so it seems pretty obvious, all assistive reproductive technology notwithstanding,
00:10:10.140which is very expensive and very unreliable and certainly not something to be depended on
00:10:15.160except in cases of absolute necessity.
00:10:18.300having your children before you're 30 is a wise move if you want to ensure that it's going to
00:10:27.320happen and so then the question is order you know you're we're best served probably as human beings
00:10:35.540to have our children in our 20s and probably our early 20s and of course that's going to be more
00:10:43.860demanding for women, more demanding and more of an opportunity, I would say, because each child
00:10:51.520really requires something approximating three years of pretty dedicated care. You know, the
00:10:57.360data seem to show that if your child is three and reasonably social, then social education,
00:11:06.400daycare can work. Before that, especially with transformation of caregivers, it doesn't
00:11:13.780look like it's a very good idea. So you need three years per child. And maybe you want two
00:11:20.800children or three children. And so that's something like, I don't know, five or six years
00:11:25.280that you have to devote to it. Now, women live about six or seven years longer than men. So
00:11:30.400that's kind of an interesting little twist on the whole situation. And if you started your career
00:11:35.580At 30, you could have 40 years of career, which is a lot.
00:11:42.060And yeah, but so the female strategy, we want to get the hot popular guy.
00:11:49.280So it's not conducive to the female strategy to do that young because do you want the hot
00:11:55.420popular guy in your hometown or in LA, New York, San Francisco, competing strategies?
00:12:02.780That way, I would say, in some ways, you get to have your cake and eat it, too, although perhaps not at the same time, which we had talked about early.
00:12:10.820But there are no real guidelines developmentally for young women, and they don't know what to do.
00:12:16.080And they're increasingly not married, and they increasingly don't have children, and they're increasingly unhappy.
00:12:22.420And it doesn't look to me like slave to a corporation is necessarily a substitute for family life and children.
00:12:32.780Now, some people have a career. You have a career. Some people have a career.