Pearl - June 05, 2025


Modern Marriage Is a Broken Deal for Men w⧸ @thisisshah


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2 minutes

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604

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12

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2

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In this episode, we talk about the decline of the traditional dowry system and why it s time for men to start asking for equal pay for equal work. We also talk about why millennials are having trouble buying houses compared to their forebears and why this might be a good thing.

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00:00:00.000 You also saw this in Cyprus and places like that. So, you know, Cyprus, the dowry was typically a
00:00:05.500 house for the middle class as it started to get modernized. And that was after England. England 0.87
00:00:09.800 was like the first place you can say, you know, they start sending their kids over to England and
00:00:13.960 places like that to get educated. They start to get urbanized. You start to get these mega cities.
00:00:18.900 You start to get cheap apartments for rent. They're living away from their families.
00:00:24.180 There's different jobs you can take now because of modernization. People who might have been at
00:00:29.120 lesser class can go jump up a class easier so they're more focused than that and i think what
00:00:34.720 you hit you ended up with was a kind of market bust because a lot of guys here are saying okay
00:00:38.800 well i'm now worth more because i went to college and i have this job where typically they would
00:00:44.080 have married her this family's probably having trouble getting her married and you end up with
00:00:48.400 this complete it's like a perfect storm and feminism all these things changes in laws so it's 1.00
00:00:52.800 a market bust because now the kings are like having kids with basically like like peasant 0.99
00:00:58.160 women in a way yeah vice versa it was it's harder to chart someone's income trajectory than it was 1.00
00:01:04.800 back then so that romantic love the love match takes over you start to see that uh in literature
00:01:12.480 you know you think about it like the printing press i think came in the mid 1400s literacy rate
00:01:17.360 was really low um then they start making polygot bibles and then they start making these tales of
00:01:22.480 chivalry in these knights who would do these amazing things for women that starts to get very
00:01:26.640 popular literacy rate goes up more people start to read modernization so there's a cultural change
00:01:33.680 and then you know people start looking for their love story a lot more but even as that goes still
00:01:37.680 for a long time you know we were talking about germany earlier even into the 1850s if you look
00:01:42.960 at their records there people who are getting married are still bringing you know some kind of
00:01:47.120 dowry or equal contribution um then this this basically falls out of favor i think we're hitting
00:01:52.480 a point now where the economy and the culture and life you know they'll say oh chivalry is dead
00:01:57.600 whether you believe that or not women coach greg adams you know we'll talk about the monetized
00:02:02.480 dating marketplace uh millennials are having trouble buying houses you know what i mean and
00:02:08.560 what i'm seeing is a kind of similarity to the way economy used to be back then millennials might
00:02:13.920 have a better time starting families and getting houses if the parents are more involved in terms
00:02:18.960 of a wealth threading through the generations like they used to do for thousands of years you
00:02:24.160 know so we're in this very interesting time um and i i think we're we're kind of pushing on
00:02:30.400 something new in the culture where i would like to see men at least remember this so they don't
00:02:35.280 have to feel like they're not a man if they ask for what's owed to them if they're going to be
00:02:41.200 be the provider. So my real first, I don't know, axe to grind is what Tradcons, so to speak, 0.90
00:02:46.940 because they're the ones who are selling this stay-at-home monogamy with the man as this
00:02:50.620 provider, the 100% provider. So that's where I've been at for a while now.