Pearl - Modern Marriage Is a Broken Deal for Men w⧸ @thisisshah

00:00:00.000 You also saw this in Cyprus and places like that. So, you know, Cyprus, the dowry was typically a

00:00:05.500 house for the middle class as it started to get modernized. And that was after England. England 0.87

00:00:09.800 was like the first place you can say, you know, they start sending their kids over to England and

00:00:13.960 places like that to get educated. They start to get urbanized. You start to get these mega cities.

00:00:18.900 You start to get cheap apartments for rent. They're living away from their families.

00:00:24.180 There's different jobs you can take now because of modernization. People who might have been at

00:00:29.120 lesser class can go jump up a class easier so they're more focused than that and i think what

00:00:34.720 you hit you ended up with was a kind of market bust because a lot of guys here are saying okay

00:00:38.800 well i'm now worth more because i went to college and i have this job where typically they would

00:00:44.080 have married her this family's probably having trouble getting her married and you end up with

00:00:48.400 this complete it's like a perfect storm and feminism all these things changes in laws so it's 1.00

00:00:52.800 a market bust because now the kings are like having kids with basically like like peasant 0.99

00:00:58.160 women in a way yeah vice versa it was it's harder to chart someone's income trajectory than it was 1.00

00:01:04.800 back then so that romantic love the love match takes over you start to see that uh in literature

00:01:12.480 you know you think about it like the printing press i think came in the mid 1400s literacy rate

00:01:17.360 was really low um then they start making polygot bibles and then they start making these tales of

00:01:22.480 chivalry in these knights who would do these amazing things for women that starts to get very

00:01:26.640 popular literacy rate goes up more people start to read modernization so there's a cultural change

00:01:33.680 and then you know people start looking for their love story a lot more but even as that goes still

00:01:37.680 for a long time you know we were talking about germany earlier even into the 1850s if you look

00:01:42.960 at their records there people who are getting married are still bringing you know some kind of

00:01:47.120 dowry or equal contribution um then this this basically falls out of favor i think we're hitting

00:01:52.480 a point now where the economy and the culture and life you know they'll say oh chivalry is dead

00:01:57.600 whether you believe that or not women coach greg adams you know we'll talk about the monetized

00:02:02.480 dating marketplace uh millennials are having trouble buying houses you know what i mean and

00:02:08.560 what i'm seeing is a kind of similarity to the way economy used to be back then millennials might

00:02:13.920 have a better time starting families and getting houses if the parents are more involved in terms

00:02:18.960 of a wealth threading through the generations like they used to do for thousands of years you

00:02:24.160 know so we're in this very interesting time um and i i think we're we're kind of pushing on

00:02:30.400 something new in the culture where i would like to see men at least remember this so they don't

00:02:35.280 have to feel like they're not a man if they ask for what's owed to them if they're going to be

00:02:41.200 be the provider. So my real first, I don't know, axe to grind is what Tradcons, so to speak, 0.90

00:02:46.940 because they're the ones who are selling this stay-at-home monogamy with the man as this

00:02:50.620 provider, the 100% provider. So that's where I've been at for a while now.

Pearl - June 05, 2025