Pearl - November 06, 2026


Modern Mothers Are FAILING Their Children!

Double Standards Male Feminist Makes EXCUSES for Cornell Accuser Friendship Expert Gets GHOSTED by Her Friend of 20 YEARS @JustPearlyThings

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00:00:00.200 Women hate being mothers and are not nurturing at all and are terrible parents. 1.00
00:00:05.240 And I'm really tired of this lie that women like having kids. 0.97
00:00:08.500 Now, everyone says, but Pearl, how could you say that women are the only ones that give birth? 0.97
00:00:13.540 And I'm like, well, women are even trying to not do that because we have surrogates now. 0.86
00:00:18.100 And if women can choose, I think they'd rather not, you know. 0.89
00:00:21.140 Anyways, so today we're going to react to women admitting this. 0.83
00:00:25.100 i really hate being a mom and i'm having a really hard time with like motherhood in general okay
00:00:32.640 and i'm just worried about like my marriage and then like the relationship i'm gonna have with
00:00:38.900 my daughter okay because i just it's just really hard yeah hate it yeah so again women are here's 1.00
00:00:47.300 the problem women are coddled like they're kids and we don't know how to do anything and so then 1.00
00:00:51.840 we become a parent and then we realize that we're retarded because we have to take care of another 1.00
00:00:55.700 kid and we don't even eat and sleep ourselves at the same time now we got to manage another kid's 0.83
00:01:00.460 schedule and then we just crash out so really heavy word tell me about that i mean there's
00:01:06.400 like nothing wrong with her she slept well she smiles all the time i just i mean it's just every 0.95
00:01:13.800 day it's the same song and dance and like i really want to like it again women we crave variety not
00:01:21.720 routine and we get bored so that's her getting bored there you sit there and i feel like how
00:01:26.920 happy my husband is and how much she just loves it and i just i just she resents it because she
00:01:33.960 hates it i just can't even bring myself to rather do anything else than have kids and just like it
00:01:38.520 i don't know why i and i feel terrible because i know my husband deserves someone who wants to be
00:01:46.140 there and my daughter deserves someone who loves her and i love my daughter but not in the same way
00:01:53.220 that my husband loves her can i tell you i don't know if i fully believe that why do you think your
00:01:58.620 daughter deserves a better mom than you i just don't feel like i'm good enough and everybody 0.78
00:02:03.100 says now the the white guy the white guy with money and status is gonna coddle her he's gonna
00:02:07.240 say oh well you are doing what you want to do instead of saying do you know what maybe you
00:02:11.840 should leave girl leave that family and stop torturing and that's it like you're sick of
00:02:16.660 feeling this way why don't you think you're good enough it's just so hard yeah it's the worst it's
00:02:23.060 the worst it's the worst it makes you just want to curse pinterest doesn't it yeah and all the
00:02:29.900 mommy guilt blogs that are out there people building accent walls with their kids and their
00:02:34.540 little slings and making their sourdough bread like why do you think you're so bad at this
00:02:41.840 I just see, like, how other people interact with her. 0.98
00:02:44.560 I don't give a crap about other people. 0.94
00:02:46.920 What about you? 0.98
00:02:48.160 I don't know.
00:02:48.980 I just, I just, I mean, I remember before I had my daughter,
00:02:53.760 I just remember just knowing I didn't want kids.
00:02:58.620 I just knew, like, my limitations.
00:03:01.420 And I just knew, like, because how I grew up was just, like, rough.
00:03:04.780 I mean, like, you know, it's not the perfect life, but, I mean, you know, it is what it is.
00:03:08.840 and um I just remember just being like I don't I don't want to have a kid because I just don't
00:03:15.260 want her to I don't want her to be like me I don't want her to you know grow up the same way as me
00:03:22.280 and I'm trying really hard to change the thing yeah and here's the only thing that you can tell 1.00
00:03:27.580 her get over it get over it this is your life now be a mom or bounce stop you know you the women 0.94
00:03:34.360 live in regret when there's no point in regretting mentally i think we're mentally weak i think 0.88
00:03:38.920 that's the biggest edge men have on us they're just bullied from a young age they have to be
00:03:42.200 mentally tough and not worry about things they can't control and just eat it and move on women
00:03:47.960 we just mentally we're just soft we stay in these spirals they're children but they are starting to 0.55
00:03:53.800 hate motherhood women don't love their children look at again motherhood is hard when you have
00:03:59.720 to do the role of two people women that say this are convinced they do the role of two people 0.97
00:04:04.360 it's the finances motherhood is beautiful when you're not struggling as a mother i love my kids
00:04:09.160 but it definitely is a setback and tiring i wouldn't recommend there's no reward yeah you see
00:04:14.360 my cat my kid helped me figure out i have adhd yeah and and disclaimer this is coming from someone
00:04:19.880 who does not have children i don't have children but i genuinely believe women love their children
00:04:26.840 they do would they do it over again probably not that's what i mean yeah idea of motherhood the
00:04:33.480 the very being of motherhood and all that it takes and all that they sacrifice and all that
00:04:39.080 goes into motherhood so then that's too much praise you know they hate motherhood and and
00:04:43.800 there's a big difference between loving your children and caring for your children but 1.00
00:04:48.600 motherhood is a whole different ball game and you wonder why a lot of women mothers are tapping out
00:04:55.080 mentally see back then i think the mothers felt the same way but it wasn't normal to complain it 0.98
00:05:02.360 Yeah, and that's better. That was a better world when it wasn't normal to complain.
00:05:05.820 Normal to have a bad day or to be struggling or to want another family member or your support
00:05:12.480 system if you had one or your village to come and take the kids for you so that you could
00:05:16.480 get a day to rest. Resting was like a sin for a woman who had kids. This generation 1.00
00:05:23.000 of women, motherhood is taking a toll on them. And they ain't afraid to tell you that.
00:05:27.920 mind you she said motherhood's taking a toll on them this is kind of and motherhood's easier than
00:05:32.840 it's ever been we have more help more resources and more choice on when we want to do it and yet
00:05:39.040 we still complain just a stream of consciousness that i feel like a lot of people would relate to
00:05:43.000 but i'm gonna be honest and say it may be circumstances are to blame but my mom wasn't
00:05:49.000 the best mom like i feel like propaganda was so strong for gen x that if they were alive
00:05:57.760 their goal their their role their purpose in life was to have a child and my mom thought she was
00:06:02.960 just doing what she was supposed to do and it wasn't until way later that like like internet
00:06:07.120 basically that taught her like oh no you can actually do whatever you want to do with your
00:06:11.040 life but by the time she woke up to that she had already given herself the life of a mother
00:06:16.640 i think she would tell me things that would insinuate that she just liked being a parent
00:06:20.560 and she always wanted to be a parent that's what she like dreamed of doing she just loves kids and 0.99
00:06:26.560 wants to take care of kids but i actually think my mom had as many kids as she did because that's 1.00
00:06:30.900 all she knew how to do like she was only being female laziness epidemic prepared to be a mother
00:06:36.480 and by the time she was i think there was a point where she was like oh i don't actually like doing
00:06:42.020 this like this is hard this is harder than i thought this isn't again and it's easier than
00:06:46.920 what the men are doing we complain more feeling she didn't realize that till she was literally in
00:06:50.940 her like late 30s and like she was still a parent like you you can't stop being a parent and so much
00:06:57.840 of her life had already passed by that she was just like okay well all i know how to do is be
00:07:02.800 a parent so i guess i'll just have more kids and like that gives me something to do i that's why i
00:07:07.300 always feel like the greater majority of people have children to give themselves a sense of
00:07:13.500 responsibility it's not that they actually want children it's just that they don't actually care
00:07:17.460 about themselves enough to exert that much effort keeping themselves alive but they'll be more
00:07:23.680 motivated to keep themselves alive if they were responsible for a child because that child is
00:07:27.600 innocent and i think all of the like voids inside of me come from the fact that my mom herself
00:07:35.260 wasn't fulfilled by being a parent so i didn't get fulfilled i think my mom and my stepdad were
00:07:41.320 just coping with the consequences of the life that they chose yeah and kids can feel it when you don't 0.98
00:07:46.860 want them right kids can they can feel that shit here we go your child but hate being a mom i 0.99
00:07:51.820 literally hate being a mom i don't enjoy being a mother i take a shower i gotta give him a shower 0.99
00:07:55.940 i buy me a shoe i gotta buy him a shoe i get ready in the morning gotta get him ready in the morning
00:07:59.360 gotta drop him off at school before i go to work gotta feed him clothe him bathe him you got three 1.00
00:08:03.540 kids at 24 again all these women on the internet openly saying they don't want kids they hate 1.00
00:08:08.160 their kids they don't like being a mother and then the simps just keep saying oh no women don't mean 0.99
00:08:14.660 it. Women don't mean it. 1.00
00:08:17.900 just saying that. So you' 1.00
00:08:20.360 struggle. You're getting
00:08:21.600 to cry. Hey, it's me. This
00:08:24.460 and rainbows. This is hard.
00:08:26.880 this life on my worst enemy
00:08:29.080 I say this. Do not have ki 1.00
00:08:32.120 to give up, give up evryth 0.98
00:08:35.940 under the weight of mother
00:08:37.540 is a severe weight and I w
00:08:40.020 dependency levels based on
00:08:42.020 they are and how that plays
00:08:44.420 and exhaustion of motherhood because as a newborn they cannot regulate their temperature they cannot
00:08:48.500 feed themselves they cannot communicate needs beyond crying they cannot soothe themselves
00:08:52.180 yeah okay this requires your nervous system to constantly be regulated to constantly regulate
00:08:57.060 them wakes up every two to three hours around the clock with no exceptions you are literally
00:09:00.660 a life support system for a newborn now when they get to one to three years they are physically
00:09:04.580 mobile but mentally a liability they can now move toward danger but has zero impulse control
00:09:08.740 cannot be left alone for even a minute look at look at this and moaning 1.00
00:09:12.740 just bitching moaning bitchy this is my female spaces and terms as their only emotional regulation 1.00
00:09:17.940 tool requires constant supervision narration and redirection still needs you for everything 1.00
00:09:22.420 include wiping themselves now you get to the preschool age three to five years more verbal
00:09:26.740 but emotionally explosive nightmares fears separation anxiety peak here questions everything
00:09:31.380 the average four-year-old asks 300 questions a day still cannot be trusted alone still needs help
00:09:36.340 with basic hygiene and this is when mom burnout typically peaks so if you think about a child
00:09:40.260 from newborn to five years that is five years of your life on constant high alert yeah and that's 1.00
00:09:44.420 usually when they leave their husbands and take the kid with the kid they hate motherhood but they 0.75
00:09:48.820 still steal children it's like you could just leave it with the dad girl then they go to school
00:09:52.900 so when they're finally in school you are still the homework enforcer the lunch packer the activity
00:09:56.740 coordinator emotional needs intensify bullying friendship self-esteem all become your problem
00:10:01.300 to navigate mental load explodes school events doctors dentists sports play dates they can dress
00:10:05.860 themselves but the mental management never stops now we get to teenage years emotionally the most
00:10:10.100 volatile and exhausting phase pushing away from you while simultaneously needing you desperately
00:10:14.500 mental health crisis is peak in this age group peer pressure social media and relationships all
00:10:18.500 land in your lap you become the villain for enforcing any boundary sleep deprivation returns
00:10:22.820 because now you're waiting out for them because at that age now the parents realize or the kids
00:10:27.540 realize how awful the mom is okay see but my daughter i think i feel like she basically has
00:10:33.460 the life that i want and i know that sounds so wrong i'm not i have a very good relationship
00:10:38.660 with my daughter okay um and her but her boyfriend fiance he's you know he's very attentive um he
00:10:48.180 just asked if she needed help with me he wants to do things with her he wants to be with her
00:10:54.100 he's financially stable i've heard so many men tell stories about cracking like their girlfriend's
00:11:00.980 mom or the girlfriend's mom trying to hit and hook up with them no again i am so happy for her
00:11:06.660 And, you know, I feel like I do have a blessed life and hate each other, but it's just kind of like, I feel like, you know, ah, because I recently, um, I've been reading your book and it's kind of a lot brought a lot of, I guess, bricks out.
00:11:21.680 Yeah.
00:11:22.660 And, um, and I recently just like about a week ago, just, I just kind of had a meltdown and my daughter was witness to it.
00:11:30.300 and so it was just it was hard i mean it was like kind of everything just came up
00:11:36.140 and she was there for me and you know it's just it's a lot so so yeah how old are you
00:11:43.660 i am 54. 54. and i've been married for um almost 32 years oh so you're still married
00:11:51.340 yeah yeah so these are hard women are terrible evil look at congrats having me and we've had
00:11:59.100 had this conversation she said my mom regrets having me and i'm so grateful we have and i think 1.00
00:12:03.260 all women that are considering having children need to have this kind of conversation the kids 1.00
00:12:07.440 messed up right she's good she's fat right um obviously no impulse control long nails i mean 1.00
00:12:14.080 you can just see it mental illness and this blunt honesty because it almost feels like it's more
00:12:20.160 uncommon than not um and you can sound off in the comments because i know you will but we sat down
00:12:26.340 and we were talking about it because i'm 29 i'm debating what i want to do in my future
00:12:29.820 and she she had me at 37 she got married at 36 and she was like sarah like i love you and life
00:12:36.060 is what it is and like we are best friends like she is such a wonderful there's honestly no revenge
00:12:39.720 fantasy because even if women have kids half the time they're such terrible parents the kids don't 1.00
00:12:44.120 talk to them or they just wish they didn't have kids let me get that these older women they do
00:12:48.920 not regret a thing i promise you he's a wonderful mother i've always been so grateful that she's my
00:12:53.680 mom my entire life even when i was a bitchy teenager i've always been so grateful for my
00:12:57.200 mother but she was like i had you because i was afraid of losing your father he really wanted a
00:13:02.320 child and the second you were handed to me i never had a maternal instinct like i regretted the
00:13:07.640 decision i realized like i made a bad decision for myself and yeah look at the comments they're
00:13:13.520 based a wonderful mom would never put the burden of her unhappiness on the children i will never
00:13:17.620 understand that yeah i know there's some things you just are not meant to tell your kids nothing
00:13:22.200 to do with you and i've never felt that i've never felt like she regarded me i've never felt like
00:13:27.020 anything because she's such a wonderful person and she put herself on the back burner to be a
00:13:32.060 mother to me and i see that happen so much with mothers like even like i could talk about my
00:13:36.240 father and be like he was present he'd go to my basketball games he'd pick me up from school
00:13:39.700 sometimes like he paid his portion of the bills he did the lawn but like my mom had to have dinner
00:13:44.200 on the table every night my mom had to do all our laundry like my mom had to pack us all lunch and
00:13:48.560 it's crazy because her mom was probably complaining why is she talking like this as a kid you don't 0.99
00:13:52.880 think about who does what right and all the jobs she's saying that her mom did is significantly
00:13:57.500 easier than what her dad did is and still work a 40-hour work week if not more and she had no time 1.00
00:14:04.800 for herself it was either like my dad would go to bed early so she was taking care of me into the 0.94
00:14:09.040 night like it was always her and she had to give up so much of herself to keep the house going while 0.86
00:14:15.440 working and doing all those things because nowadays like a one parent at home is a luxury
00:14:20.120 it's not a standard like it once was and she had to give up so much of herself and so much of her
00:14:25.440 identity like even now i started a photography business and she's like i could tell part of her
00:14:29.620 i got my love of photography from her and i could tell part of her like wished she could have done
00:14:34.260 this and i jealous right insufferable you want to know one of the most jarring statistics that i've
00:14:40.320 heard that i've read it was that the united states of america has 15 over 15 million single moms
00:14:48.580 and we comprise a large portion of the family households so like when they're calculating the
00:14:56.880 amount of families in america we comprise a large majority of the family households in the united
00:15:04.160 States of America and that just like I was taken aback because I'm like this is this is crazy 0.96
00:15:11.340 America is a country full of single moms where did we go wrong and I just feel like and it's easy
00:15:20.440 to blame the single moms it's easy to be like oh well you chose to have kids with this person or
00:15:25.460 that person or you chose this or you chose that but I feel like it's unfair it's unfair to put
00:15:31.700 the entire responsibility on the mother who had the child when in reality it takes two to tango 1.00
00:15:39.860 oh my god oh my god i'm so done i'm so done with these ladies you guys are so retarded all right 0.98
00:15:47.220 guys um anyways i'm done being gas lit about this stuff i'm done i'm done with these boomer men 0.99
00:15:53.380 gaslighting gen z and millennial women about how they gaslight us about how terrible women 0.96
00:15:58.660 are. Women are awful. And we all know it. We all had bitchy teachers, bitchy mothers, 1.00
00:16:03.100 bitchy sisters. We know it. Bitchy friends. We know it. But these boomers and these women 1.00
00:16:09.120 gaslight you into eternity. Not today, Satan. I love you guys. Like the video and I'll see you 1.00
00:16:13.840 next time.