Pearl - March 30, 2025


Modern Women Are Being REJECTED And Humbled For Being Selfish


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Length

26 minutes

Words per Minute

180.57005

Word Count

4,726

Sentence Count

541

Misogynist Sentences

24

Hate Speech Sentences

12


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00:00:00.000 And if a man of a certain caliber breaks up with a woman, he has to worry that the woman will say horrible things about him on social media, write a tell-all book, or in the most extreme cases, me too, him like Amber Heard and Johnny Depp.
00:00:14.800 So why am I telling you this?
00:00:16.860 I was watching a recap of the end of the latest season of The Bachelor.
00:00:21.500 I can't help it.
00:00:22.660 I'm a woman, all right?
00:00:23.700 This season, The Bachelor was Grant Ellis, a 6'5", former NBA player turned day trader with a net worth of over $4 million.
00:00:32.380 He is the quintessential Chad or Tyrone, a high-value man for sure.
00:00:37.300 And during the finale, Grant had to make a choice between two women, Latia or Juliana.
00:00:43.260 Grant ended up having to pick between two of them.
00:00:47.140 So we're going to first show a picture of Grant.
00:00:51.260 Let me see what we got.
00:00:52.380 Also, guys, before I forget, if you want me to read your chat, go to theaudacitynetwork.com.
00:00:59.600 That's theaudacitynetwork.com.
00:01:01.440 The link is in the description.
00:01:03.480 We're also on both app stores.
00:01:05.120 If you put in the Audacity Network, it'll come up.
00:01:07.800 What you'll get is we are a learning platform.
00:01:10.540 And next week, I'm going to give a presentation where you can ask questions to me directly about how to be a YouTuber.
00:01:16.360 My editor is going to give also a presentation on how to do that.
00:01:21.820 And on top of that, Doug MPA, our monitor, is going to give a presentation on how to break into his industry.
00:01:28.600 Okay, so this is The Bachelor.
00:01:32.580 You know, we got we got a chat over there.
00:01:35.020 Now, he was eliminated from Jen Tran's season of The Bachelorette.
00:01:39.540 And then he was cast as the lead.
00:01:42.280 So we got this guy.
00:01:44.020 Just so you guys can get like, okay.
00:01:46.940 So next, we got Latia.
00:01:49.320 Now, I want you guys to rate her in the chat.
00:01:52.320 I would say she's a six, six, seven.
00:01:55.600 That's kind of what I would give her.
00:01:57.140 Her biography is she is a vibrant, empathetic, and confident woman with a lot of love to give.
00:02:03.160 She's ready for a man to put her first.
00:02:06.580 I am sure that's what every man wants.
00:02:09.040 She wants to put you first.
00:02:11.100 Someone who is honest, vulnerable, and family-oriented, just like Grant.
00:02:15.600 Latia loves sports and enjoys basketball, football, and water polo.
00:02:19.080 She loves riding horses and is a huge fan of the board game Clue.
00:02:23.540 Even though she feels playing is not her strongest suit, Latia is so ready to meet her other half
00:02:29.580 and hopes that Grant will be the guy.
00:02:33.080 So this is her, you know, body-oddy, right?
00:02:35.740 I would say six, seven.
00:02:37.420 Oh, that's a different girl.
00:02:38.780 That is a different girl.
00:02:39.820 Okay, so they had an immediate connection, right?
00:02:45.240 Now, this is the other girl he was picking against.
00:02:47.660 Her name was Juliana.
00:02:49.080 She is a bubbly, outgoing woman who isn't afraid to speak her mind and go after what
00:02:53.480 she wants.
00:02:54.040 She comes from a big Italian family and aspires to be, to have a lasting love like her parents
00:02:59.820 had.
00:03:00.540 They were high school sweethearts and she hopes to meet a man who has a good heart, strong
00:03:05.060 ambition, and loves to hang out with a family.
00:03:08.600 Okay, so this is her, right?
00:03:10.640 So we got, you know, who do you guys think is better looking?
00:03:14.420 Let me look at the chat.
00:03:15.420 Letia, who did you guys, who would you guys pick?
00:03:19.180 Oh, you guys are saying five, six.
00:03:20.800 Am I rating them too high?
00:03:22.520 Am I simping for women?
00:03:24.420 Okay.
00:03:25.040 All right.
00:03:25.420 So the reason that Grant was considering Letia is she was ready to settle down and have
00:03:32.780 kids.
00:03:33.380 She got along with the family really well when they met and her intentions were clear the
00:03:37.860 whole time.
00:03:38.360 So I'm going to show you guys, they had, they had immediate chemistry, immediate chemistry
00:03:45.920 right off the bat.
00:03:46.900 And she was a front runner.
00:03:48.100 Let me put on these headphones so I can, I can properly watch this with you guys.
00:03:53.360 Hi, Grant.
00:03:54.200 Hello.
00:03:54.720 How are you?
00:03:55.380 I'm good.
00:03:56.760 I love your hair.
00:03:58.040 It's nice.
00:03:58.480 And your shoes.
00:03:59.960 Thanks.
00:04:01.060 I'm Letia.
00:04:02.180 Can you give you a hug?
00:04:04.200 I'm good.
00:04:04.860 How are you?
00:04:05.520 I'm good.
00:04:06.080 So, on your journey, you were very open and honest and vulnerable.
00:04:12.940 And I wanted to start my journey with some vulnerability.
00:04:17.440 Okay.
00:04:18.180 And it might be a deal breaker.
00:04:20.100 Okay.
00:04:20.940 I'm really bad at basketball.
00:04:23.260 Okay.
00:04:23.880 Okay.
00:04:24.440 Okay.
00:04:24.900 I could always teach, you know.
00:04:25.780 Okay.
00:04:26.500 But I will make you a deal.
00:04:29.320 Okay.
00:04:30.060 If you bring the skill, I'll bring the sparkle.
00:04:33.240 Oh, I like this.
00:04:35.280 That's nice.
00:04:36.900 My name is Letia.
00:04:38.580 I'm 31 years old.
00:04:40.560 And I live in Salt Lake City, Utah.
00:04:42.480 I grew up with the big family.
00:04:44.640 And my parents raised me in the Mormon faith.
00:04:48.760 And religion is a guiding light in my life.
00:04:52.320 I was born in Kahuku, Hawaii.
00:04:54.760 My parents met there, and they got married, and they had me.
00:05:01.020 And three months later, my dad passed away in a car accident.
00:05:06.300 Even though he's gone, I still feel his love.
00:05:09.080 I still feel his love and his presence in my life.
00:05:12.960 Okay.
00:05:13.580 So we got a horse girl.
00:05:15.060 Very pretty, right?
00:05:16.160 Okay.
00:05:16.560 You guys get the deal.
00:05:17.800 Now, let me look at another one.
00:05:19.460 This is her getting along with the family.
00:05:21.480 So this is when she met Grant's family.
00:05:24.480 And mind you, these are the two front runners out of two, out of like 20 women.
00:05:30.520 Like, they bring in 20 hot women, and these are the top two.
00:05:34.220 Hey, guys.
00:05:35.140 Hey, guys.
00:05:36.540 I'm excited.
00:05:37.940 Today's the first day in almost a decade that we've all been together since my parents split.
00:05:42.140 How are you?
00:05:43.180 I'm so good.
00:05:44.180 So good to meet you.
00:05:45.800 And to have an opinion from the people that love me the most is important.
00:05:50.860 So tell us, give us some of those memorable moments that you guys have created together.
00:05:56.800 Yeah, what did you guys do?
00:05:57.900 What kind of dates did you go?
00:05:59.060 So our first date in L.A. was when we made, like, a big connection.
00:06:03.700 But then we went to Madrid, which is big because you played basketball.
00:06:09.040 Right, yeah.
00:06:09.940 Yeah, so you went to Spain.
00:06:12.120 Yeah.
00:06:12.940 My most memorable time was the conversation that we had after that date in L.A., where she reaffirmed to me that her morals, really, and where she stands.
00:06:21.440 And when we were in Scotland, that's where we had our first talk about fate and what that meant to us.
00:06:26.800 And I was like, okay, she doesn't lead with her beauty.
00:06:28.900 She is somebody who is a lot deeper than that.
00:06:31.240 And from there, we just continued to grow.
00:06:34.180 And here we are today, so.
00:06:35.700 So you make each other happy?
00:06:37.380 I mean, you find joy being around one another?
00:06:39.700 Of course.
00:06:40.140 Yes.
00:06:40.560 That's so important.
00:06:41.700 Yeah.
00:06:42.240 You guys look so good together, I'll tell you that.
00:06:44.480 Yeah, you guys are cute.
00:06:45.540 You guys are definitely cute together.
00:06:47.200 You both have dimples.
00:06:48.920 I liked you.
00:06:49.560 They kind of look alike.
00:06:51.260 Like, they could be, like, siblings.
00:06:53.000 Since day one.
00:06:54.080 Oh, my God.
00:06:54.840 I'm happy that you're here.
00:06:55.720 I liked you.
00:06:56.740 Seeing her and him together, I just sense the synergy.
00:07:02.160 And I see the joy that he has with her.
00:07:05.440 But he's still, again, he's still torn.
00:07:08.120 So happy to see you, Latia.
00:07:10.000 If he is to be engaged with this woman, the most important thing for me is, what makes
00:07:15.340 him special to you?
00:07:16.500 And does she reciprocate the love feelings that he has for her?
00:07:20.780 Someone who really is in love should be able to answer those questions.
00:07:23.840 So what makes you love my son?
00:07:26.580 What made that happen?
00:07:27.820 What is it?
00:07:28.620 So I knew that I loved Grant when I saw him with my family.
00:07:34.600 He's so conscientious and, like, aware of everyone's needs.
00:07:39.240 Yes.
00:07:39.600 He wants to take care of everyone around him.
00:07:42.300 That is so Grant.
00:07:43.540 Which is, like, such an admirable trait.
00:07:46.360 And that's a trait that I want in a partner for my kids.
00:07:51.060 And he's been like that since a little boy.
00:07:52.980 Yeah, I believe that.
00:07:54.600 It's in him.
00:07:55.320 You can tell.
00:07:56.680 So when you leave the surrounding of The Bachelor and this is all faded away,
00:08:03.560 what will it look like to you, back at work, having to maybe look for a home?
00:08:09.600 Or having kids at some point?
00:08:11.940 That's a good question.
00:08:13.000 And I would never expect him to move to me.
00:08:16.840 So I think if we kind of can start in a neutral place where it's new for both of us
00:08:22.880 and we figure it out together, you know, my family is amazing and I love them.
00:08:27.920 But I want my kids to learn from...
00:08:30.620 I want our kids.
00:08:32.660 Sorry.
00:08:33.240 Jumping the gun a little bit.
00:08:34.340 That's okay.
00:08:35.160 That's okay.
00:08:35.460 But see, she keeps bringing up the kids, right?
00:08:38.160 This is a crucial mistake, okay?
00:08:41.300 And the reason is, Grant is a guy, I think he's early 30s.
00:08:45.760 She, here's the thing, if you're 31 as a woman, you really got to make a choice.
00:08:49.720 Do I want the kid or the man?
00:08:51.380 Melania did not have her first kid till 34.
00:08:54.660 How did she pull that off in her early 30s, late 20s?
00:08:58.080 Now, granted, she's beautiful.
00:08:59.320 She's an eight.
00:09:00.100 Eight plus, right?
00:09:01.640 Eight plus category.
00:09:02.620 She's beautiful, but do you think she would be able to nag him into having kids when she wanted?
00:09:08.680 Hell no.
00:09:09.760 Her game plan was be as nice to him as possible and hope I get one or two.
00:09:16.560 That's really all you can get.
00:09:19.220 And that's really what I would recommend that she do.
00:09:21.680 Look, this is a guy, it's going to be tough to replace him.
00:09:25.600 What I would do in your shoes is I would not bring that up at all.
00:09:29.520 I would not bring up the biological clock.
00:09:31.620 I would just eat that.
00:09:33.160 And every time you're feeling anxious, I would just try to be nicer to him.
00:09:37.460 That's what I would tell her to do.
00:09:38.880 I would be like, look, I would just, I would go the route of learning to cook his favorite food, massage.
00:09:47.660 Do you know what I mean?
00:09:48.460 Figure out what he wants and do that.
00:09:51.200 Be really happy to see him.
00:09:52.680 And if you do this for long enough, he'll probably come around if he's really looking for a wife.
00:09:59.760 Or you pull the plug if like, if this timeline, then you got to start going the desperate route.
00:10:05.220 And really, you're only going to get either a guy that's ready.
00:10:09.340 So either you might get lucky, right?
00:10:11.020 Maybe she goes, finds another Mormon guy who he's already thought all this through.
00:10:15.580 He wants a wife in the next two years.
00:10:17.780 He is ready now.
00:10:20.520 Okay, you get lucky.
00:10:22.000 Or number two, guy that's desperate.
00:10:24.740 That's it.
00:10:25.540 That's all you got.
00:10:26.660 Him, this guy, this is why she fumbled.
00:10:29.220 This is it.
00:10:29.800 I would love for them to learn from you and from your family, I think.
00:10:38.300 That is so beautiful.
00:10:39.560 Yeah, I just, you know, yeah.
00:10:41.540 You know, Grant, he's gone through a lot.
00:10:43.120 Yeah.
00:10:43.680 We have experienced hard times with our family.
00:10:47.340 Dad having that history of drug abuse and Grant was struggling to find his happiness.
00:10:55.120 And so I saw that real down, dark place he was in.
00:10:59.100 This has been a joy for me to see him so happy.
00:11:03.680 I have to tell you, just with my time with him, I just understood how hard of a time he's had.
00:11:12.580 It's been lonelier for him than I, like, realized.
00:11:16.880 Just a major lonely time.
00:11:18.140 Yeah.
00:11:19.220 But, oh no, he loves you.
00:11:21.460 So you get the idea.
00:11:22.640 She is, the family loves her, but she just kept bringing that stuff up.
00:11:29.100 Now, that was her mistake.
00:11:31.600 She kept emphasizing her timeline.
00:11:34.820 She told Grant that she wanted kids within two years, and this was a huge mistake.
00:11:39.520 Don't ever try to take away the man's ability to determine when he has kids and who he has them with.
00:11:46.180 Latia made that mistake and lost.
00:11:48.400 Grant's first interaction in the finale was with Latia.
00:11:51.380 He turns her down and she makes many mistakes.
00:11:54.100 You know, modern women, we just can't take rejection.
00:11:57.920 Yes, he said he loved you.
00:12:00.040 Yes, he said he wanted to be with you and have kids with you, but it's TV.
00:12:04.520 You're on TV.
00:12:06.140 And also, men have the right, just like women, to change their mind.
00:12:10.800 So what did she expect?
00:12:11.880 Latia made the mistake of thinking that Grant owed her something like most women do.
00:12:16.040 Grant owed her nothing, and it was his choice to make.
00:12:18.320 And he made the choice, and she got upset.
00:12:22.140 So this is, we're about to watch her take an L.
00:12:24.900 So she thinks she's about to get proposed to.
00:12:27.520 Look at that face.
00:12:28.820 She doesn't know what's coming.
00:12:30.000 I started falling for you on week two.
00:12:33.140 But I didn't tell you because I don't like to express it, you know?
00:12:36.320 And the other thing, too, is mentally she's just so young.
00:12:39.660 You can just tell she's stunted.
00:12:41.320 Like, the way she talks, it's not like a 31-year-old woman.
00:12:45.540 It's like a 21-year-old woman.
00:12:47.800 And when you get to 31, it's just not as, it's not as cute anymore, right?
00:12:53.040 And this happens a lot with the conservatives or religious folks.
00:12:56.960 They get really stunted because they tell them to delay relationships.
00:13:02.860 And so a woman is, it's not that abnormal for a woman to have, like, a crash-out breakup, right?
00:13:08.860 But you're supposed to have that at, like, 16 or 15, right?
00:13:12.840 You crash-out, you take that out.
00:13:15.700 But as adults, we just keep pushing this off, right, in our early 20s.
00:13:20.220 Now we're pushing off that crash-out to our 30s.
00:13:24.080 And we've had women, now, it's ideal, right, for women to never have a crash-out, I know.
00:13:30.480 But it's just like it's ideal for men to never simp, right?
00:13:34.800 Women have a tendency to just have one crash-out, right?
00:13:39.180 I'm just trying to be honest here, you know, all these other conservatives will try to virtue signal and say, we're so above that.
00:13:46.820 Look, but, like, you should have did that at 21.
00:13:49.700 Now, if you're 31, what you're supposed to bring to the table is maturity, like, real maturity, not this annoying maturity, like, I know what I want.
00:13:58.840 Like, you know what men want because you paid attention, right?
00:14:02.920 And on our one-on-one in Scotland, I knew that I loved you.
00:14:09.300 Hearing you talk about your childhood and how hard it was for you growing up and how alone you felt sometimes,
00:14:17.720 it made me want to give you a family where you never have to feel that way.
00:14:22.640 And it made me want to make a home where our kids will always know that they're loved and cherished.
00:14:30.660 I could see you as my husband, and it just felt complete for me.
00:14:35.520 You see his face?
00:14:36.840 He's like, I don't want to do this.
00:14:38.820 I love you so much, and I feel so lucky to be loved by you.
00:14:44.160 You just have shown me how I want to be loved forever.
00:14:47.280 Yeah, she knows now.
00:14:56.900 Yeah, this is it.
00:14:58.360 This is, you guys see this?
00:15:00.420 I've been looking for an emotional connection, and I feel like I have that with me.
00:15:05.140 I feel like...
00:15:06.280 You do.
00:15:07.020 Oh, no, see, this is the coping.
00:15:08.700 You are one of the most amazing and beautiful women that I've ever met, and you deserve love.
00:15:15.460 You deserve to be treated right.
00:15:17.280 This is hard for me.
00:15:19.320 Latia, I love you very much, and I want to give you everything that you deserve, but I'm not your person.
00:15:26.760 And here's the thing.
00:15:28.000 How a woman reacts in a breakup shows her true character, right?
00:15:32.900 That, okay.
00:15:33.880 And I'm sorry to have gotten to this point.
00:15:37.360 My emotional connection is stronger so much.
00:15:40.240 When did it change?
00:15:42.160 There's her real voice.
00:15:43.980 Isn't that crazy?
00:15:45.020 It didn't change.
00:15:46.140 I do love you, and I don't want you to feel like I haven't been open.
00:15:51.000 I haven't been honest, because I have been, and I'm truly sorry, and I hope you don't view me any differently, and I hope that I...
00:15:58.340 Love you, for sure.
00:16:00.480 Come on now.
00:16:01.380 What was that?
00:16:03.320 See?
00:16:03.900 And they're like, now it's like the hood is coming out.
00:16:06.480 And this is the thing.
00:16:07.740 This reaction, guys, he is thinking in his head he is so happy that he picked the other woman.
00:16:14.200 When you crash out, he just...
00:16:17.360 What he's going to do is he's going to say, thank you, God.
00:16:20.320 Your chance of ever getting back together, if you really loved him, right?
00:16:24.560 Because if you really loved him, it's like you're going to want to get back with him.
00:16:27.620 But if you didn't actually love him, which she didn't, she just wanted something out of him.
00:16:32.540 I mean, so this is great for both of them.
00:16:34.660 But then you would take him back.
00:16:36.940 Do you know what I mean?
00:16:37.560 Like all these women saying, I would never take him back.
00:16:40.420 They're so full of shit.
00:16:41.940 They'll beg.
00:16:43.100 We'll beg.
00:16:43.780 None of us are about begging, okay?
00:16:45.900 For the right guy.
00:16:46.880 But, like, when you crash out, now he just knows you're too much of a flight risk.
00:16:52.980 This is not about me.
00:16:54.800 It's all for you.
00:16:55.540 It's all about you.
00:16:56.960 But this moment, it's not.
00:16:58.700 It's not.
00:16:59.360 I'm concerned about how you feel.
00:17:01.920 And...
00:17:02.560 No, I think I got my answers.
00:17:05.480 I'm disappointed.
00:17:06.660 Yeah, you're different than I thought.
00:17:08.420 It's that like...
00:17:09.600 I don't know what...
00:17:10.820 So now she's, like, insulting him, right?
00:17:13.780 You're a bad person because you didn't pick me.
00:17:15.800 And if she really loved him, she would want him to be happy.
00:17:19.840 But she just wanted something out of him.
00:17:21.520 That necessarily...
00:17:22.820 Yeah, he's afraid of her retribution.
00:17:25.140 Yeah, he's scared.
00:17:25.980 He's terrified.
00:17:27.120 I know that you do me differently.
00:17:29.000 But I hope that you see...
00:17:29.800 Wouldn't you?
00:17:30.460 Come on.
00:17:31.580 She's just crashing out.
00:17:33.280 I would.
00:17:33.980 Yeah.
00:17:34.680 I would.
00:17:35.480 I'm just trying to figure out what best suits me.
00:17:38.280 And that's where I'm at.
00:17:40.460 Juliana is a beautiful woman.
00:17:42.800 And she deserves love.
00:17:45.800 And I love her.
00:17:47.420 And I would have a lot of questions if I were her.
00:17:50.580 From the things that you've said to me.
00:17:52.980 And I think...
00:17:53.920 Oh, come on.
00:17:54.740 Who hasn't said things at some point that they didn't really mean?
00:17:58.600 Come on.
00:17:59.400 What?
00:18:00.200 You're telling me in your 31 years of life you've never let a guy on ever?
00:18:05.180 Oh, come on.
00:18:06.200 Come on.
00:18:07.460 These things in terms of...
00:18:07.800 Things in terms of...
00:18:08.580 That's still for you guys to work at.
00:18:10.260 That's in my sense.
00:18:11.580 I don't mean to end things like this.
00:18:14.960 But this is how I...
00:18:15.680 Like, he's been really respectful.
00:18:17.920 Feel.
00:18:18.520 And I have to be honest.
00:18:19.540 Sure.
00:18:20.260 Yeah.
00:18:20.960 I've been misleading.
00:18:22.420 I've been...
00:18:22.840 Come on.
00:18:23.360 The things that you've said to me all along the way make this decision that you've made
00:18:29.860 so much more devastating.
00:18:33.240 For me, the switch up is crazy.
00:18:35.520 I didn't switch up.
00:18:36.640 I have been...
00:18:37.020 She's the one switching up.
00:18:38.600 Do you see us women?
00:18:39.880 Everything we call men, we are.
00:18:42.620 So she just switched up.
00:18:44.720 Like, I didn't hear that voice the whole season.
00:18:48.760 Okay.
00:18:49.620 You're right.
00:18:51.020 You're right.
00:18:51.600 You guys see...
00:18:52.560 Men will just, like, they don't want to argue and they just say, you're right.
00:18:55.840 You win.
00:18:56.380 You're right.
00:18:56.980 How many of you have done that?
00:18:58.280 One in the chat.
00:18:59.720 One in the chat.
00:19:00.480 If you're fighting with your ex-girlfriend, your ex-wife, and you just say, you're right.
00:19:05.740 You win.
00:19:06.820 You win.
00:19:07.920 You're right.
00:19:08.760 Right.
00:19:09.740 Do you know how much you have to push a man to crash out?
00:19:12.480 Because they just don't care.
00:19:13.760 It takes so...
00:19:14.720 When I see a guy crash out, like, when I see...
00:19:17.680 I hate to say this, but when I see those guys, like, shoot their families, right?
00:19:21.900 Or, like, really crash out.
00:19:23.480 It's totally wrong.
00:19:24.540 They shouldn't do that.
00:19:25.500 That's totally...
00:19:25.880 I'm sure there was a screw loose a little bit.
00:19:27.760 But, like, what did you do to make him crash out so hard?
00:19:31.300 Do you know what I mean?
00:19:31.860 Like, when they're, like, normal men and they just...
00:19:34.580 Like, the Gabby Petito...
00:19:36.220 You know, respectfully, not all, not all, not all.
00:19:39.020 But...
00:19:39.380 And I don't know.
00:19:39.940 That's not off of any evidence.
00:19:41.240 That's just my speculation.
00:19:42.800 That's speculation.
00:19:44.000 You just wonder, like, what did you do?
00:19:46.300 Like, how...
00:19:47.600 What did you do to make him crash out?
00:19:49.140 Because men...
00:19:49.740 I mean, they're just kind of indifferent.
00:19:51.300 They want to play their video games.
00:19:52.860 They want to go to work.
00:19:53.800 They want to make money.
00:19:54.920 They don't want to fight, you know?
00:19:56.340 I don't take responsibility for that.
00:19:58.080 I'm disappointed.
00:19:58.780 Tia, I still have love for you.
00:20:01.000 But it came down to the final day where I had to make a decision.
00:20:04.720 And I think that the situation is very awkward and difficult.
00:20:10.440 And I'm not perfect.
00:20:12.640 I try to do my best.
00:20:14.120 And I'm truly sorry.
00:20:15.420 I believe that.
00:20:16.360 I just want to be so clear that I'm confused and I'm sad and I'm mad.
00:20:22.260 I'm sorry that I made you feel like that.
00:20:24.560 And I mean that from the bottom of my heart.
00:20:26.580 I do love you and I wish the best for you.
00:20:28.880 Thank you.
00:20:29.520 Yeah.
00:20:30.480 So, you know what's interesting?
00:20:32.000 This franchise...
00:20:33.200 Is she going to cry?
00:20:33.860 How disappointing.
00:20:35.680 Ever.
00:20:36.400 I don't even think she's really sad.
00:20:37.960 I think she's just mad she didn't get what she wanted.
00:20:39.980 Okay.
00:20:40.760 What's interesting is this franchise is known for failed relationships, right?
00:20:44.760 Like, they literally, like, they never stay together.
00:20:48.400 Ever.
00:20:49.120 Ever.
00:20:50.080 And I was curious because there was a couple episodes.
00:20:54.940 I remember there was one guy a couple seasons ago who got with, like, his seventh choice, right?
00:21:00.560 And I googled how many of the men chose second.
00:21:06.260 Like, broke up with the first place girl and then went back to the second place girl.
00:21:10.820 And there's three.
00:21:12.140 And do you know what's crazy?
00:21:13.060 Actually, two out of three, they're still with her to this day after, like, a decade and they have kids with them.
00:21:18.940 The, like, staying together rate of The Bachelor is, like, one for 20.
00:21:23.700 Like, none of them are still together.
00:21:25.700 But the staying together rate of the men that picked their second choice in this franchise is two out of three.
00:21:32.000 That's kind of crazy.
00:21:33.520 Okay.
00:21:33.740 So, this is the type of woman that handles a breakup badly and that any man that saw this would avoid her like the plague.
00:21:40.880 A whole different accent came out of this girl when she got upset.
00:21:44.660 Now, let's contrast this with the rejection of another season of The Bachelor.
00:21:49.660 Ari.
00:21:49.960 He rejects a woman and look at how much better she handles the rejection.
00:21:55.480 I'm just grace in class.
00:21:57.560 And he ended up dumping his first pick, getting back with her, and they have kids today.
00:22:04.220 So, this is him dumping her.
00:22:06.180 Okay.
00:22:06.560 I did fall in love with you.
00:22:07.920 I'm extremely confused.
00:22:09.420 I know.
00:22:10.000 I know.
00:22:10.460 And I knew you would be.
00:22:12.720 Okay.
00:22:13.340 Well, I wish you the best.
00:22:15.000 I don't really have a lot else to say.
00:22:16.420 Do you see that reaction?
00:22:18.660 That's it?
00:22:19.700 Okay.
00:22:20.080 I wish you the best.
00:22:21.060 Now, he married that woman.
00:22:22.580 He has kids with her now.
00:22:24.380 Okay.
00:22:24.920 See, he's regretting.
00:22:25.780 He's like, what did I do?
00:22:27.260 I'm so sorry.
00:22:29.020 Now, he's feeling bad.
00:22:30.180 I can't.
00:22:30.580 You see?
00:22:31.000 He said, can I walk you out?
00:22:31.960 The other girl was like, get off of me.
00:22:33.820 This girl is like, okay.
00:22:35.420 And the llamas are in the back.
00:22:36.760 I will say, over the years, the women get uglier and uglier.
00:22:40.280 Like, I would give her a 7-8.
00:22:42.020 I would give her actually an 8.
00:22:43.320 She's pretty hot.
00:22:44.480 Why did she do that?
00:22:45.540 I didn't know.
00:22:46.360 I didn't know fully until this morning.
00:22:48.780 I was in love with her.
00:22:49.820 I was in love with you.
00:22:50.800 And I'm sorry to put you through this.
00:22:53.480 I still love you.
00:22:54.840 I love you too.
00:22:55.840 See, that would make you think about it too, wouldn't it, guys?
00:22:59.000 Every time his first choice starts acting up, he's getting a flashback to this.
00:23:03.880 Okay.
00:23:04.640 Okay.
00:23:05.340 Bye.
00:23:06.420 Yeah.
00:23:06.900 Who wants to see him tell his first choice for fun?
00:23:11.200 Ari breaks up with Becca.
00:23:13.980 For fun, I'm going to show you this one.
00:23:16.140 Yeah, look at this.
00:23:16.760 The studio audience is still not sure how to digest what.
00:23:19.020 Warning, it just might be.
00:23:20.200 I've decided to call off the engagement and break up.
00:23:23.420 I feel terrible.
00:23:24.360 I never wanted to hurt Becca.
00:23:25.740 Yeah.
00:23:26.540 Las Vegas.
00:23:27.860 Okay.
00:23:28.240 Oh my gosh.
00:23:29.680 There it is.
00:23:29.980 Yeah, anyways.
00:23:31.100 Hold on, hold on.
00:23:32.280 I want to get to it.
00:23:33.120 Okay.
00:23:34.360 Yeah, good.
00:23:35.200 Oh my gosh.
00:23:36.680 There it is.
00:23:36.860 I know, it's big.
00:23:38.380 No, I like it.
00:23:39.260 You're making me really nervous right now.
00:23:41.340 Yeah.
00:23:42.100 How do I start this conversation?
00:23:44.000 You know that I've been struggling a little bit.
00:23:46.080 And I think over the last couple times we've been hanging out, I've been really trying to
00:23:50.420 sort my feelings out.
00:23:51.880 Trying to just grasp this whole thing, you know?
00:23:54.920 And the reality of it is that, you know, being with you, although it's been everything
00:24:00.900 that I wanted, I still think about her.
00:24:03.880 And I think you sense that.
00:24:05.540 Yep.
00:24:06.340 Cooked.
00:24:07.060 What is she?
00:24:07.820 And I think for me, the more I hung out with you, the more I felt like I was losing the possibility
00:24:15.700 of maybe reconciling Angel Thorn.
00:24:18.260 Wow.
00:24:20.180 Oh, that's such an L.
00:24:21.880 So what?
00:24:22.760 I'm an asshole.
00:24:23.560 Do you want to interact with her?
00:24:25.980 I want to see if there's that possibility.
00:24:27.840 Are you kidding me?
00:24:29.140 Yep.
00:24:29.400 And now he's about to realize, yep, made the right choice.
00:24:31.900 When I dumped her, she was so nice.
00:24:34.820 I am.
00:24:35.380 I know I made that commitment to you.
00:24:37.300 And I know that this is like, this is obviously a shock for you.
00:24:40.760 Yep.
00:24:41.440 And now, now, he's, now he's more sure, right?
00:24:46.240 We just did the side by side of the breakups, right?
00:24:49.160 So girl one was like, I love you.
00:24:51.560 I still love you.
00:24:52.880 I still love you.
00:24:53.560 Okay.
00:24:54.360 And she was like, are you fucking kidding me?
00:24:56.740 Now, there's even more clarity in his decision.
00:25:00.100 And I know that it's, you always said, you know, guard your heart, figure out where your
00:25:04.320 heart is.
00:25:04.860 And I know that the last week's been really tough for you.
00:25:07.220 And I have to follow my heart.
00:25:10.600 Okay.
00:25:11.000 She's probably never been dumped in her life.
00:25:13.080 And now she's getting dumped on TV.
00:25:14.920 What was this when you had your decision with her?
00:25:17.420 And what?
00:25:17.880 When I spoke to her, I just realized that there was all that feeling there.
00:25:22.300 So I know here's the thing.
00:25:23.840 Okay.
00:25:24.140 So whatever.
00:25:24.740 She's going to go crash out.
00:25:25.680 So now Ari, let's see who gets back.
00:25:29.300 Lauren, let's see them get back together for fun.
00:25:32.160 All right.
00:25:33.160 Well, come up here.
00:25:35.080 That was bad.
00:25:36.060 I'm going to pass out.
00:25:37.100 I made some bad decisions.
00:25:38.860 But the best decision was running back to you.
00:25:40.880 I can't imagine a life without you.
00:25:43.680 You have shown me a love that is patient.
00:25:46.120 A love that is kind.
00:25:47.900 And I truly believe you are my soulmate.
00:25:50.020 I'm ready to face this life with you and all that comes with it.
00:25:53.900 The good and the bad.
00:25:55.140 I love you so much.
00:25:56.260 And I want to do this in front of everyone.
00:25:58.240 Because I want to show you that I should have done this a long time ago.
00:26:01.080 So Lauren, Elizabeth Burnham, will you marry me?
00:26:04.340 Definitely.
00:26:05.100 Yeah, okay.
00:26:05.620 So you guys get the idea.
00:26:06.960 I'm sorry I'm torturing you with reality TV today.
00:26:10.040 But.