Pearl - Modern Women Blame Birth Control Instead of Consequences of Being a 304 (Call-in Show) ｜ Pearl Daily

00:00:00.000 Most answered very quickly, no, because men are useless. 0.99

00:00:05.580 This headline from The Hill, it caught my eye. 0.98

00:00:08.360 Most young men are single.

00:00:10.060 Most young women are not. 0.88

00:00:11.380 Young men have fallen faster than any demographic in America over the last 40 years.

00:00:16.100 It's a different world now.

00:00:17.120 Like, we don't need men the way that they used to.

00:00:19.120 Nobody needs men. 1.00

00:00:20.360 The future is female. 1.00

00:00:23.400 Men and women are drifting further apart, and society is crumbling because of it. 0.99

00:00:30.000 A fascinating debate has broken out about the value of marriage.

00:00:33.220 You've kind of got the trad con versus red pill thing.

00:00:35.920 This men's rights crowd that sometimes just goes too far the other way.

00:00:39.480 You need to stop acting like grown boys and infants and actually become men.

00:00:43.560 Marriage is a bond and it's a sacred bond.

00:00:46.200 It's a machine designed to extract the resources from you.

00:00:49.200 Now many of the red pill have taken the position that it's bad for men to get married.

00:00:54.100 Hannah Pearl Davis or just pearly things. 0.79

00:00:57.480 One of the most controversial faces in all of the internet.

00:01:01.480 She goes on to say that marriage is a terrible deal for men.

00:01:04.320 Because if me and you were in a business contract,

00:01:06.540 you would never sign a contract where I am paid to leave.

00:01:09.500 Gee, what could go wrong there?

00:01:11.640 74% or something of divorces are initiated by women. 0.53

00:01:15.240 Men have everything to lose, primarily their own children. 0.81

00:01:18.140 Men get killed by the courts and by divorce laws. 0.73

00:01:20.800 I had no idea that courts of family law were courts of equity, not courts of law.

00:01:25.640 because in family court you don't need evidence to accuse someone of abuse you need no evidence

00:01:29.960 when you guys say get married young a lot of these men don't know what they're signing up for

00:01:33.720 and you're not going to be there when their entire life falls apart i interviewed them on the other

00:01:38.360 side i didn't meet my son until he was 15 months old how much did you spend trying to get him back

00:01:44.040 the legal fees alone was about 200 000. before you know it you're homeless you're literally just

00:01:48.600 thrown out onto the street we absolutely reinforce bad behavior from women wives are taught to leave 1.00

00:01:53.400 their husbands and then daughters grow up without their fathers family is the foundation of society

00:01:58.200 every problem in society comes from single mother homes a lot of women will just chase this negative 1.00

00:02:03.240 rabbit hole of happiness endless happiness feminism's biggest failures is it lies to women 1.00

00:02:07.560 we tell women to date as many guys as possible we tell them to put off family into marriage 1.00

00:02:11.240 you are allowed to leave your perfect husband you are allowed to end a relationship with a really 1.00

00:02:17.320 great boyfriend oh freeze your eggs have an abortion what you're evil i don't think there's 0.87

00:02:21.880 there's anything else in life that we actually ever go into preparing to fail like if you have 0.97

00:02:26.260 the mentality of this is going to go wrong and be pessimistic naturally the outcome is going to be

00:02:30.820 that it's going to fail anyway it's self-sabotage that's the thing like women are so willing to 1.00

00:02:34.980 leave marriages because they're not happy this is not about happiness the most important thing

00:02:39.800 is the children and the problem is we have a modern society where it's me me me my feelings

00:02:45.360 leave when i feel like it instead of doing what's best for the kids this myth that we live in an

00:02:51.500 major male privilege, where's my male privilege?

00:02:53.360 They think, well, men have all the rights, 1.00

00:02:54.880 they have all the power.

00:02:56.060 Privileged patriarchal system that we have.

00:02:58.440 Why doesn't our society care about men's rights? 0.99

00:03:01.120 I have no friends, no white, and no social life. 0.99

00:03:04.400 Men are alone in this situation.

00:03:06.180 Men are homeless, men are thinking about eating guns. 0.67

00:03:08.980 I've seen so many men on the brink of suicide

00:03:11.740 and they didn't do anything wrong.

00:03:13.380 How are you equal if the men are the ones 0.99

00:03:16.360 that have to fight and die to defend the country?

00:03:18.840 The men are the ones that build and maintain 1.00

00:03:21.300 the infrastructure women are helplessly dependent upon men the so-called deaths of despair from 1.00

00:03:27.160 suicide overdose to alcohol three times higher among men than among women culture is telling

00:03:33.060 men you are no good you got to get your act together i think men have failed themselves

00:03:36.860 what kind of a man are you what kind of a woman are you going to attract if men are in trouble 0.99

00:03:41.720 so are women everybody knows this is a huge problem but nobody wants to admit it every 1.00

00:03:46.880 single woman at the table said they wanted a man 500k 500k 300k 200k am i crazy everything is really

00:03:52.780 set up against you to fail as a man if men make less than women women don't want to marry them 0.99

00:03:57.780 so you know who wants more economically and emotionally viable men women i don't want to 0.99

00:04:04.060 be an independent woman anymore i don't want to be a strong independent woman i'm over it when is

00:04:09.260 it going to be my turn where are we meeting the men that don't stop i can't keep having these

00:04:13.260 conversations. The only simp here is you, Pearl. You simp for men. No, I think you simp for women. 0.98

00:04:18.040 She's a provocateur. She says stupid stuff, but Pearl is right about this. It's already happening. 1.00

00:04:22.600 It's just not out in the open yet. Now it's just hookup culture is going to be our fairy tale

00:04:26.340 ending because men don't want a wife and women can't find a husband. The future, if everybody 0.61

00:04:31.440 follows your path, is there is no future. We go into population decline and our economy goes into

00:04:36.780 decline. Civilization will crumble. The American story does not end well. This is an existential

00:04:43.120 presidential crisis failing young men.

00:04:51.760 What's up, guys?

00:04:52.880 Welcome to another episode of Pearl Daily here on the Audacity Network.

00:04:56.440 I first want to start by thanking each and every one of you for supporting my channel.

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00:06:30.400 educational content. Okay, so today we're going to be talking about birth control. So I want to

00:06:40.920 first start off by saying welcome to another episode of Pearl Daily. So the sexual revolution 0.98

00:06:46.240 is most commonly referred to as the time in the 1960s and 70s, where in Western culture,

00:06:52.100 American culture in particular, changed its attitude towards sex, physical intimacy between

00:06:57.200 men and women one of the major contributions to this is the introduction of oral birth control

00:07:03.040 pill women for the first time could have sex with men with a minimized risk of pregnancy the first

00:07:09.440 oral contraceptive pill was approved by the fda in 1960 and within two years with over 1.2 million

00:07:15.760 women using it by 1965 one in four married women under the age of 45 were using or had tried the

00:07:23.440 pill by 1984 50 to 80 million women were using the pill and by 2013 over 100 million women were using

00:07:30.720 the birth control pill you're hearing these numbers and thinking wow this is a great solution

00:07:35.200 it's like magic it solved all of women's problems but what these women did not consider were the 1.00

00:07:40.240 side effects of hormonal birth control the most common side effects include nausea headaches

00:07:45.120 increased blood increased blood pressure mood swings weight changes the more serious side

00:07:50.160 effects include blood clots anxiety stroke stroke and deep vein thrombosis birth control has become

00:07:57.440 accepted as part of american culture that many mothers put their daughters on on it at the age

00:08:02.560 of 16 in their teenage years and this has led to many women being on birth control for decades 0.98

00:08:07.760 without thinking because they're too dumb to think about the long-term side effects 0.95

00:08:12.800 and by the way the way i phrase that is that mothers put their daughters on birth control 0.99

00:08:18.240 But to be honest, these daughters are sleeping with Pookie and Ray Ray. 1.00

00:08:22.820 These mothers don't know what to do. 1.00

00:08:24.540 They're like, F, I can't stop her.

00:08:26.040 She's crawling through the window to sleep with Pookie and Ray Ray. 0.93

00:08:29.260 And so whenever women give these sob stories about getting put on birth control by their 0.82

00:08:33.160 parents, I want you to ask yourself, why would the parents put them on birth control? 1.00

00:08:38.360 It's probably because she was doing some ho shit. 1.00

00:08:40.680 You know what I mean? 0.99

00:08:42.280 Now, the long term effects of hormonal birth control is what we're going to talk about

00:08:46.820 on today's show.

00:08:47.900 This will be a call in show. So when you do call in, tell me your opinion on the pill. Do you think it was a good or a bad thing for society? And what is your experience been with birth control? And if you have a daughter, did she put herself on birth control? Or did you put her on birth control? Would you? Now I do want to give a little preface. I want to tell you my experience with birth control.

00:09:08.820 so um when I was 16 um I was pretty innocent to be honest like I I was a very innocent I know I

00:09:20.020 don't obviously you probably aren't going to believe me I guess I'm a woman I've got a signal

00:09:24.140 purity right but I'll tell you what when I was in high school I just I didn't do much I was very

00:09:30.960 into volleyball like I'm kind of the same as I am now I'm pretty into my channel so I was pretty

00:09:37.580 busy right and there were like I always remember going to football games and being bored like I

00:09:46.800 just there's something wrong with me I think because I don't think I get social gratification

00:09:52.880 from just sitting and hanging out all day I just don't I don't I don't really want to sit and play

00:09:58.580 I want to go learn something that's just kind of how I go do something it's just how I've always

00:10:03.340 been, you know, I always got most improved on the team because other girls had lives, not me.

00:10:11.640 So, uh, we got a $5 super chat. Thank you so much. Documentary got five on it. Thank you.

00:10:17.240 Thank you very much for the donation. So, uh, you know, I've always just been kind of weird.

00:10:22.880 I've been a little strange, you know, a little odd I'll say. So when I was 16, I remember women 1.00

00:10:31.120 on my team were going on birth control. And at this time, um, I don't want to say when I became

00:10:37.720 sexually active, you know, I'm 20, I'm 28 now, but I'll just say this at that time I wasn't right.

00:10:45.180 And the girls on my team were starting to get on birth control. And I remember telling the women 0.51

00:10:56.040 on my team at the time. Hey, um, I think this could have side effects. I don't know. Like I'm

00:11:04.860 not, I'm not a doctor. I don't know, but I'm just logically thinking about it. And I'm thinking this

00:11:11.420 can't be good for you. It just can't like, you cannot shut off your fertility.

00:11:16.940 you can't shut off your fertility and not have any consequences i have a hard time believing that

00:11:31.280 so i'll hear women like this and i just thought of this when i was talking 0.76

00:11:37.620 like alex clark and these women take no accountability because when i at the time 1.00

00:11:44.800 said this to my fellow teammates um they all laughed at me they all they all kind of looked 0.96

00:11:51.160 at me like I was stupid and I thought okay have fun now I'm not gonna you know purity signal here 0.51

00:11:58.620 and act like I never tried the pill or anything but I'll say this I barely did I was on it like 0.98

00:12:04.880 one maybe two years and my personal experience was I had no side effects I felt fine um

00:12:13.460 but I still just had this voice in the back of my head that said I don't think I can be on this

00:12:22.660 and not have a consequence so I you know against I went to the doctor and I told them this and

00:12:29.060 they all said no are you sure and I'm like yeah I'm pretty sure I'm gonna I'm gonna get off it

00:12:36.300 and and you know because I I always felt like my health was in my hands I always felt like my

00:12:42.100 health was my responsibility. It wasn't the doctor's responsibility or what society tells

00:12:48.880 me. And what all these women are going through is they hit 30. They've gotten chlamydia too many 1.00

00:12:53.840 times. They're infertile, which if a woman tells you she has fertility issues, it very well may 1.00

00:12:59.300 be chlamydia, gonorrhea, or birth control. So a choice, right? So here, this is Alex Clark. I

00:13:11.780 think it was this one pediatricians wasted no time telling us that there was a magic pill that could 1.00

00:13:17.040 solve all of our problems in a 10 minute wellness checkup with like how stupid can you be you deserve 1.00

00:13:23.840 it alex if you have issues because of being on birth control for a decade that's your own fault 1.00

00:13:28.360 you deserve it and i mean that you really do deserve that and it's kind of like you know

00:13:35.080 the other day I got locked out of my Twitter account. Um, some guy from India called me and

00:13:40.740 I fell, I fell for a stupid scammer email. Um, it was so stupid and I got locked out of my account 1.00

00:13:47.680 and they started pushing Bitcoin. I have it back now, but I did get locked out for like a week 0.97

00:13:51.240 and I didn't even feel bad for myself because it was so stupid. I was like, I deserve that. 0.97

00:13:56.980 And Alex Clark is trying to blame the doctors when it's like, bitch, Google's existed 0.97

00:14:02.540 And you could Google the side effects then. 0.85

00:14:06.620 I remember, because I remember, I remember Googling this stuff.

00:14:12.940 So I'm getting pretty sick and tired.

00:14:16.520 I'm getting pretty sick and tired of women blaming everybody else for the birth control side effects. 1.00

00:14:25.940 can we change the title to modern women blame birth control for the consequences of being a hoe 1.00

00:14:34.240 i just think that's better no informed consent about the risks or side effects

00:14:40.500 what problems were we solving exactly a couple pimples we were advised to no now this is the

00:14:47.980 oh my god can you imagine this at home oh my god the nagging so now she's gonna blame it she's

00:14:55.720 going to blame it on the you know because they did give you birth control for acne but remember

00:15:01.700 women love plausible deniability so you know the moms might be like hey honey get on this birth 1.00

00:15:07.800 control for for the acne but really you know she's noticed that you've snuck out five times this week

00:15:13.100 and is like we gotta we can't have her get pregnant by gavin the starving musician tyrone

00:15:18.060 gloctavia like we can't do that so don't worry about learning to track our cycle or understand

00:15:24.020 our hormones no conversation about how our likelihood to experience anxiety or depression

00:15:29.620 i looked it up myself and that's why that's why i get so pissed because okay i didn't have i went

00:15:36.100 to catholic school i got worse than you guys i got a chastity talk at catholic school from a run

00:15:44.980 through hoe and a simp i went to catholic school and they had jason everett and christiana everett 0.96

00:15:52.500 and Chris, you can Google them, Christian, you can Google their speeches. Christiana Everett,

00:15:57.960 you know, she came in and basically talked about how she was a hoe. And now she hoes no mo. And 1.00

00:16:03.700 then she married Jason. That's like the gist of it. And we had that every year. No sex ed,

00:16:08.880 no nothing. But again, I wasn't retarded. And I'm just so tired of women acting like, 1.00

00:16:16.740 look, everything in life is a calculated risk. You can't do anything in life without taking risk.

00:16:22.500 So if you want to go get banged out or whatever and not get pregnant, 0.99

00:16:28.840 then wear a condom.

00:16:29.700 And if you can't do that, it's just so irritating.

00:16:34.160 It would increase by 80% on the pill.

00:16:37.980 We stayed on the pill because no one advised us it was only ever supposed to

00:16:42.280 be taken temporarily. 1.00

00:16:46.580 You're so stupid. 1.00

00:16:49.060 Oh, my God. 1.00

00:16:52.500 oh my god she's so dumb like i you know what i mean i have no medical background none and i i 0.98

00:17:01.700 could have figured that out i i did figure that out and i like i did i was on it but i was on it 0.98

00:17:08.020 for a very short period of time and i got my fertility tested look and i got flying colors

00:17:14.100 i i got it tested last year they're like fly your hormones flying colors 0.94

00:17:21.740 it's called not being retarded ladies 1.00

00:17:28.160 then we wanted to have children we got off birth control for the first time in our adult lives

00:17:37.640 only to discover that we had major fertility issues that the hormonal birth control hid 0.96

00:17:42.620 suddenly bro you have fertility issues because you're like 32 and i'm not knocking it like i'm 0.56

00:17:52.400 28 you know it's like i'm i'm old too but it's like

00:17:57.180 come on starting a family means spending tens of thousands of dollars on ivf and other fertility 1.00

00:18:07.380 treatments because even more medical interventions are always the first solution rather than a

00:18:12.600 addressing the root causes of the problem pediatricians wait

00:18:21.960 all right let's go to the next tick tock i just i just can't i can't and do you know what 10 years

00:18:28.200 later some of my friends did have hormone issues and do you know what i didn't feel bad for them

00:18:33.080 at all birth control at all i didn't feel bad because it's like they're like oh nobody told

00:18:39.240 me the truth you didn't want to hear the truth you wanted to go get banged out at college like 0.72

00:18:43.240 can we just call this what it is girl is one of the most damaging things you can put in your body 0.99

00:18:49.240 specifically for your body's biological stress response this is because birth control is linked

00:18:54.760 to increased prefrontal brain activity when you're experiencing negative feelings or emotions so on

00:19:01.560 birth control your brain spends more time capturing memories of stress fear worry and trauma than it

00:19:08.760 does on memories of happiness joy and contentment and over time that will disrupt your processing

00:19:15.160 of those negative emotions which is impacting the way you respond to both minor and major stressors

00:19:21.080 not only does birth control mess with the way that you handle stress there's also evidence for

00:19:25.640 increased so look my my short time on it i didn't really feel that different i also don't think it

00:19:33.400 really makes you gain weight I think it's the environment because most women get on birth 1.00

00:19:39.540 control in college so you're drinking way more like I did gain weight but I think it was because

00:19:45.540 of what I was eating you know we our school cafeteria had some pretty bad food so I get a

00:19:52.560 little irritated when the women are like oh the birth control made me fat really it's not what 0.99

00:19:57.440 put in your mouth i don't know like i think at 1200 calories you'll still lose weight i just i'm so

00:20:04.960 tired of this potential for nutrient deficiencies weight gain persistent low mood and also a higher

00:20:13.360 risk of experiencing a stroke blood clot and even a heart attack so if you've been taking birth

00:20:18.480 control for longer than a year this might be why you're experiencing low mood irritability and

00:20:23.920 and you're also a compulsive warrior yep all right let's see what's next

00:20:30.680 i don't know sometimes i think like the side effects are just things that happen to women 1.00

00:20:37.060 anyway and i'm not saying i i bet the hormone imbalance but like i've never met a woman whose

00:20:44.120 hormones are so balanced that she's not crazy and doesn't have mood swings or doesn't get fat 0.98

00:20:51.200 You know what I mean? I know women on birth control that didn't get fat. 1.00

00:20:58.520 Say that the birth control pill makes the doctor's lives easier and the patient's lives worse.

00:21:03.420 So many women will go to their gynecologist or their primary care. Maybe they have irregular 1.00

00:21:07.940 periods or maybe they have symptoms of PCOS or acne or some other hormonal symptom. And it's

00:21:13.520 like a reflex. The doctor just writes a prescription for the birth control. There's no discussion about

00:21:17.560 lifestyle. There's no discussion about risk. I've seen patients prescribe birth control who were

00:21:21.900 smokers who should never be given birth control. I've seen patients who had clotting conditions in

00:21:26.820 their medical history. There's good evidence birth control pills can disrupt some of the absorption

00:21:31.240 of other vitamins, key vitamins and minerals, as well as other side effects from it. Rarely do I

00:21:35.660 ever prescribe it. I always try to encourage my patients to look at other options. When you take

00:21:40.400 a hormone, it will suppress your own body from making it. So when we take birth control...

00:21:44.400 Okay, so this is how it goes. Women, we have a tendency to want to do a stupid thing. And so then 1.00

00:21:51.160 the men are like, all right, we'll help you do the stupid thing. You want to leave your husband and 1.00

00:21:54.600 go, you know, my grandma, she passed away. But before she died, I asked her because she really

00:21:59.700 lived through all the divorces. And I asked her, I'm like, what do you think caused all these like

00:22:05.820 divorces? Like, what do you think? And my grandma told me birth control. The other funny thing about

00:22:12.960 my grandma before she died um she died like a year or two ago i asked her if she had any regrets in

00:22:19.360 life my grandma had nine kids and she said she wished she had more kids i'm like grandma how

00:22:24.380 many kids did you want she's like i went on the pill for three years i would have wanted 12 0.98

00:22:30.300 i'm like grandma you know why don't these women get pearl reed why don't these 304s know that 1.00

00:22:39.660 birth control makes them infertile. I've met women who are put on it by their doctors to give them 1.00

00:22:44.120 more regular periods or reduced PMS. I only heard this recently. They don't want to know. That's,

00:22:50.860 that's the thing. Women want to do an irresponsible thing and they don't want to know. Like, okay, 1.00

00:22:56.200 women, when we want to know if a guy's cheating, there's apps that like completely let women air 1.00

00:23:02.540 out dates and all this stuff. Like, are we dating the same guy? We go to the ends of the earth to

00:23:07.820 find out tea on men. But we don't go to the ends of the earth to find out what the side effects

00:23:16.700 are of birth control. Do you know what I mean? It's like, we have the ability to do it, we choose

00:23:21.780 not to. And I'm telling you, when I was 16, I had this thought that I'm like, this can't be good for

00:23:30.980 you. And I'm not acting like I'm some super moral person. I went on it for a little bit.

00:23:37.820 And I had zero side effects and I just couldn't get rid of this sunken feeling that there's

00:23:44.500 going to be problems later.

00:23:45.860 And I went off and, and the doctors told me not to go off.

00:23:49.180 And I just thought, you know what?

00:23:50.380 I can figure out how not to get pregnant. 0.99

00:23:53.060 I can.

00:23:56.400 So when I get tired, I really get tired of, I just get so exhausted of women, you know, 1.00

00:24:06.860 just always blaming the men because really the men adapt to the market. The women are like, 0.99

00:24:12.180 we want to bang without getting pregnant. The men say, here you go. And they're like, well,

00:24:16.120 we don't want to catch STDs. They're like, here's a condom. There you go. And now the women 1.00

00:24:21.340 made a mistake. And now there's going to be all these industries based off of women's mistakes, 1.00

00:24:27.520 like tattoo removals, et cetera. The pituitary sees that and it shuts down. Sometimes patients

00:24:34.860 will come to me saying, I want you to test my hormones, but they're on birth control. And I

00:24:38.300 said, well, the only hormone I'm going to be measuring is what's in your pill. I try to just

00:24:41.620 reassure people. It's going to take a while for things to rebalance. There's nothing else we can

00:24:45.800 do by time. There's no way to sort of. I don't know. I felt fine on it. I felt fine after.

00:24:53.060 Like I literally can't think of a single, I did gain weight, but I just can't blame it on the

00:24:58.240 pill i really can't i i blame it on my decisions you know all right what do we got next i i see

00:25:07.440 you guys in the comment and some are saying i look old because i'm not wearing makeup today

00:25:12.340 and some are some are saying they like the look but i just i'm gonna wear less guys um i got a

00:25:19.400 lot better in the last year of makeup but i just i don't like the feeling of paint on my face

00:25:24.440 i'll still wear it sometimes but i'm like probably the older i get i'll wear more

00:25:31.740 but i just can't do it every day most people who agree to a birth control pill don't receive

00:25:37.280 full informed consent they're not told that it'll raise the inflammation in your body by two to

00:25:42.580 threefold it increases your risk of autoimmune disease especially crohn's disease it makes your

00:25:48.920 OK, I just want to show them informed consent. All right, let's Google. Birth control side effects. Wow. Right on the top of Google. And, you know, they'll always say, well, you're just a kid when that happens. Not really.

00:26:05.120 not really i mean

00:26:11.520 you know i mean 15 16 they know how to do the tic tac dances

00:26:20.920 you can't figure out how to google the side effects control system for your hormones less

00:26:28.200 flexible it can rob you of testosterone it can lower your free testosterone it can shrink

00:26:35.100 clitoris by up to 20%. I feel like if that was part of the informed consent, very few people

00:26:39.580 would sign up for it. And I went on the birth control bill when I was 16. But I feel like there

00:26:44.780 are some costs to it that a lot of teenagers and women in their 20s and 30s aren't aware of.

00:26:51.900 And for me, I feel like that awareness is really critical. So who's it for? I would say it's a

00:26:57.500 simple entree into contraception but i would much rather people use things like an iud or condoms

00:27:05.900 or some other barrier method that doesn't mess with their hormonal intelligence i don't know

00:27:11.180 they don't care huh so i'm just um is she crazy or is it the birth control 0.86

00:27:22.780 because if she's just crazy it'll be easy to blame it on the birth control right 1.00

00:27:26.940 about the long-term effects of hormonal birth control on women's bodies.

00:27:30.620 And if you give women an out, like obviously they're going to take it. So they're going to be 1.00

00:27:34.460 like, no, it wasn't me. It was my birth control. Hormonal birth control suppresses our natural

00:27:40.220 ovulation, which is why we don't get pregnant while we are on hormonal birth control.

00:27:45.420 So ovulation is actually really important for our overall long-term health and ovulation actually

00:27:51.740 helps us avoid diseases like osteoporosis heart disease heart attacks and even breast cancer

00:27:57.580 the other thing they don't tell you when women have heavy periods 0.99

00:28:00.500 i don't know this is tmi i'll say i've had that issue and it's always related to diet

00:28:09.100 like that's the thing your health is so much more in your control than you think

00:28:15.120 it's so much more in control like if you're eating like crap of course you're gonna have issues

00:28:23.400 so all hormonal birth control suppresses our natural ovulation except sometimes the hormonal

00:28:30.680 pearl no make it knit makeup needed longer hair adds a lot my hair doesn't grow i haven't had a

00:28:38.260 haircut in almost a year. And this is how long it gets. I used to have extensions. Those are

00:28:51.740 great, but they're so uncomfortable. I just can't do it. And suppressing our ovulation for years,

00:28:58.380 even decades in some cases, really does have long-term effects, even if our ovulation begins

00:29:05.460 right after coming off of hormonal birth control so exposing our bodies to these synthetic hormones

00:29:11.940 instead of our own natural hormones really can be a root cause for a lot of diseases

00:29:17.300 so ovulation is important in so many ways and not just for conceiving hormonal birth control

00:29:24.020 especially the hormonal birth control pill destroys our gut microbiome so it's kind of

00:29:29.540 acting like an antibiotic destroying the balance of our gut microbiome if your doctor prescribed i

00:29:36.260 don't know i hear the gut microbiome stuff what the heck oh my gosh what is it doing that okay

00:29:44.020 i hear the gut microbiotic this i hear the gut microbiome and i always just think it's women 1.00

00:29:50.740 being fat you know what i mean it's just destroying the balance of our gut microbiome if your doctor

00:29:58.020 prescribes you a hormonal birth control pill especially for PCOS so that it can actually make

00:30:04.920 your symptoms worse with weight gain and insulin sensitivity because of the impact on your gut

00:30:11.540 microbiome. There's also a new research study showing that the hormonal birth control pill can

00:30:16.700 actually trigger Crohn's disease which is a disease of the gut microbiome. Gut microbiome is something

00:30:23.580 that is very new in the research field more and more studies are coming out how important a good

00:30:29.420 healthy gut microbiome balance is for our overall health maybe you've heard that it affects our

00:30:36.140 moods it affects our skin it affects our hair it affects our hormones it really does affect

00:30:42.700 everything a healthy gut microbiome is essential for good physical and mental health and now it is

00:30:49.340 possible to obviously fix your gut microbiome but it does take a long time. I am now two years

00:30:56.000 after quitting hormonal birth control pill and I'm still figuring out the balance and still

00:31:02.000 trying to heal my gut. Hormonal birth control also increases inflammation in the body. So if

00:31:08.080 you are prescribed hormonal birth control pills like I was for PMS like cramps, those issues are

00:31:14.700 a symptom of hormonal imbalance and inflammation and so it does not solve and heal you time

00:31:22.060 what the oh my gosh my destroys our gut microbiome so it's kind of all right i don't

00:31:31.820 okay i'm just gonna exit out of this one uh my laptop does this sometimes

00:31:39.180 crashes out hopefully it doesn't do in the next one all right

00:31:42.140 family if you're watching like turn this off and girl talk but when i went off my birth control

00:31:49.460 my sex drive went through the roof because you know sometimes like birth control can affect that

00:31:53.480 my lexapro definitely affects that at times so i was feeling great basically i started to get

00:31:59.420 really really bad acne and this is when i like going into my senior year of college but everything

00:32:04.900 happens for a reason because i started posting about my acne online and that's how i got started

00:32:09.620 on here but basically i started to get the worst acne i've ever had in my entire life like blistering

00:32:15.300 cystic acne on my face down my neck everything and i was basically told from a doctor that like

00:32:21.780 my testosterone levels were high and they were like you need to get back on birth control like

00:32:25.460 you could maybe have pcos so i'm back on birth control so my senior year of college back on my

00:32:30.260 birth control whatever so that was for like two more years so last year i went off of the birth

00:32:34.900 control so six months after in the fall of this year i guess started to break out really really

00:32:40.020 bad again and i went on spironolactone for my acne and i started a really really good skincare

00:32:45.460 regimen and my skin ultimately ended up like balancing out and figuring itself out but i

00:32:50.580 personally feel a lot better not being on birth control but obviously that's also something you

00:32:55.140 have to be very careful about especially in a relationship all right so that's her experience

00:33:02.740 on birth control let's see who's next what do you wish you were told on that day when you first

00:33:08.940 given that little packet of pills if they were being completely honest with you and they google

00:33:13.140 it i can't take it i just can't take it you know like the one person i know that was that went

00:33:21.980 crazy on birth control she was already nuts so yeah like it doesn't shock me she went more nuts 1.00

00:33:29.680 because she was nuts he knew what you know now what is the sort of the list of things you would 0.96

00:33:34.640 have said to a young sarah about this decision the thing that would have really made a difference to 0.85

00:33:40.160 me is that your hormones make you who you are and when you change your hormones you change who you

00:33:47.520 are right so the birth control pill is going to change you it changes the version of yourself

00:33:52.640 that your brain creates and so if you're going to be going on this you need to understand what that

00:33:57.600 does so this of course begs the question hi doug thanks for going live and keeping doing great

00:34:02.960 things oh yeah you should check it out doug mpa does do shows when i'm not here um and i was

00:34:09.280 checking out by the way guys the more i'm debating how nice of a place to get in the place that we're

00:34:17.120 moving so i i've been going back and forth looking at places

00:34:20.560 Anyways, the more support we get, the more cool things we can get. So I always try to reinvest

00:34:30.600 into the studio. What does it do? And there's at least five different things that the birth

00:34:38.260 control does to change who we are, right? It changes our sexual desire and who we're attracted

00:34:43.700 to. It changes our emotional states, right? It can affect our moods. It can affect our ability

00:34:50.640 to regulate. Yeah. So it turns off ovulation. So yeah, I mean, it's going to decrease your sex

00:34:58.200 drive because your highest sex drive is during ovulation. And to manage stress, it influences

00:35:05.020 sexual desire and sexual function. It influences our ability to be able to put on muscle mass

00:35:12.600 and affects our like nutrition and fitness goals, right?

00:35:16.580 It affects all of us and not knowing all of that

00:35:20.600 and not knowing the potential risks

00:35:22.740 of having side effects related to mental health

00:35:25.720 and libido all the way to everything,

00:35:28.580 you know, to like who a person is attracted to.

00:35:31.940 I wish I would have known that.

00:35:33.440 That probably would have, you know, impacted again

00:35:36.580 decisions that I would have made about staying on it

00:35:40.440 when I didn't need to

00:35:41.780 because there was well you should have googled it you should have googled it you should have

00:35:45.620 googled it should have had some common sense i just can't take it anymore so we're gonna put

00:35:50.420 the zoom in the chat if you guys do want to send a super you know we're in here day in and day out

00:35:54.900 trying to make amazing entertaining funny and informative content for you so feel free right

00:36:00.980 send a super um please no simping in the chat you know um i am a normal woman i am a mid

00:36:08.980 keep it at that level all right i i love you guys but we got to be real here um

00:36:15.700 and then we're gonna we're gonna bring up doug mpa first and talk about i think i think i actually

00:36:23.400 before we do i gotta think about

00:36:25.440 i've really said my piece i mean the women didn't listen then i went on it on it for

00:36:32.780 two years in that two years I felt little to no side effects um I did gain weight but I think it

00:36:42.280 was my poor choices um and I got off of it because I just felt like there would probably

00:36:51.980 if there weren't side effects now there may be later and that was my gut feeling about it so

00:36:58.500 oh my gosh now you guys are calling me an eight oh my god it's just embarrassing for you

00:37:06.540 what's up mpa yeah there's a lot of simping in the chat guys calm it down a little bit please

00:37:15.220 you know i was saying um on one of the recap shows because you said that you were a five and

00:37:21.160 that's why pros bulletproof when people try to sue what do you rate yourself

00:37:26.100 five you know the whole time i've known you you said a five the whole time so i don't know what

00:37:33.100 people expect um and if i wasn't chubby when i was 20 you you should give yourself credit for

00:37:44.900 your height though you know i you know you're in like the top eight percent or uh no aren't you

00:37:50.660 like in the top one percent of women for height yeah but guys don't usually like height they're 1.00

00:37:54.900 kind of indifferent i know you're into that but i feel like most people are indifferent yeah and

00:38:00.180 that whole tall men liking short women thing is not a myth almost every tall guy i know is married

00:38:05.480 to some woman that's like five two or five three or something i've noticed that six three six four 0.93

00:38:10.440 go for five five to five seven that's what i've seen yeah i don't know what that is my brothers

00:38:16.180 are into tall girls though my brother dumped a girl because she was too short really i went out

00:38:22.220 with a girl one time that was because I'm almost 6'3", I'm like supposed to say 6'3", and I went

00:38:27.740 out with a girl that was 6'2", and she was pretty too, but she wore these like platform-looking 1.00

00:38:34.100 boot-type shoes that made her taller than me. Okay. Yeah, so she was like 6'5", with her like 0.97

00:38:41.700 shoes on, on the date, and I was like, yeah, I'm not gonna lie, it made me uncomfortable.

00:38:48.440 Oh, really? I didn't call it back after that. I was like, no, I'm good.

00:38:51.060 wait really yeah she was like 6'5 maybe 6'6 with her uh with her whatever kind of platform she's 1.00

00:38:59.860 on it was uncomfortable i was like no thanks you know it's funny most of the time guys will bring

00:39:04.800 up height before the girl does like from my experience i've never brought up height because

00:39:08.600 i feel like if i'm taller it's kind of rude too but like the guys will bring it up first

00:39:13.840 well but you're the only thing i have to counter that with is you'll you'll date a guy

00:39:21.920 where he's of a height that isn't your preference you at least go on a date with him or be in a

00:39:28.900 position to talk with him about it most women if you're not tall enough won't even let you in a 1.00

00:39:33.620 position to be able to have the conversation about it oh i'm not different in that regard most of the

00:39:38.780 like like under a certain height i probably wouldn't but like if they're like the same height

00:39:45.420 it's fine i don't know that's that's how i mean i just feel like i'm too tall to be that picky

00:39:54.620 you know that's yeah like when it comes to height anyways you know go ahead

00:39:59.580 what were you saying i said when it comes to height anyways i feel like i'm too tall to be like

00:40:03.580 Yeah, I just have a rule. I don't think if tall women, they just have to be extra feminine and try to be extra attractive and just put the attitude. Because I think tall women are kind of like dark skinned black women where they want to get you before you get them. They feel like the world just doesn't like them because they're tall. So they kind of want to get the world before the world gets them. 1.00

00:40:30.580 yeah that makes sense i found that like it's usually two to three inches shorter super tall

00:40:37.240 girls go than their height like just because i played volleyball for 10 years so i've seen a 1.00

00:40:41.280 lot of couples obviously like the women their first choice is going to be taller but like

00:40:46.500 they'll do like tall women will do a strong face card uh two to three inches shorter like my 1.00

00:40:52.480 uh friend was six three uh and actually you know who she was dating you've seen about the show but

00:40:58.900 her boyfriend is 6'1 so oh oh she was taller than him yeah she was 6'3 he was 6'1 oh wow okay yeah

00:41:07.420 yeah he was all heartbroken when they broke up yeah that was hilarious stop it all right what's

00:41:16.200 your what's your opinion on birth control that's so so honestly i have to say um 0.79

00:41:22.160 anything to stop whores from having less children um i just don't like that hey i'm serious man you 1.00

00:41:34.360 know i always say we judge fathers harshly but we don't judge mothers as harshly as fathers when 0.98

00:41:41.080 mothers inflict infinitely more damage on their children than fathers ever do so anything to stop 1.00

00:41:47.760 women that should never have kids from having kids if they want to sit on birth control more 1.00

00:41:52.180 power to my biggest problem is the whole culture of putting a woman on birth control right when 1.00

00:41:57.740 she's like 15 or 16 or 17 i don't like that at all yeah i'd like to see the birth rate keep going 0.69

00:42:03.140 down because these women can't be moms you want to read that super chat yeah pearl you're not a 1.00

00:42:09.460 10 but you're not mid either not being a feminist grants you a couple points no it doesn't that

00:42:14.780 doesn't get you invited on the yacht or put in playboy but I appreciate the sentiment guys

00:42:21.660 um yeah but I would say um so that's my biggest thing with birth control and then I don't like

00:42:29.260 that when you talk about birth control women automatically save the pill there's so many 1.00

00:42:35.040 different forms of birth control you know you know IUDs and stuff like that that don't involve

00:42:39.920 that don't involve hormones and then i guess i'll say one more thing about birth control

00:42:45.360 you know me guys i've there's they haven't been they haven't effectively made a male birth control

00:42:54.000 yet but women know not what they ask for if a male birth control pill comes on the market 0.99

00:43:01.200 they'll never let that happen yeah but why and why is that because that would be giving up way

00:43:07.340 too much power they won't do it 100 true 100 because men control access to relationships 0.98

00:43:14.780 and marriage can you imagine if they control access to having children too could you imagine

00:43:23.900 they'd be no more buzzer beaters you know these women that they wake up when they're 35 and they 1.00

00:43:28.700 realize oh man i'm gonna be alone so i gotta have a kid and then they sleep with some loser and get 1.00

00:43:34.780 pregnant and then they have the magical out the rest of their life saying well he was irresponsible 0.73

00:43:40.620 and i thought that he would step up that would all be gone and guys don't get it twisted most

00:43:46.860 men that had something to lose they'd be like i'm not taking that but they'd be taking it i guarantee

00:43:52.620 it hey you know um i still think some guy would sign up unfortunately the buzzer beater i just

00:44:02.060 don't see that i've seen too much yeah yeah in general you know i if a woman wants to go on

00:44:10.860 birth control i mean i would recommend another form of birth control besides hormonal but you

00:44:17.900 know we need less less horrible mothers and less hoes having kids it's just don't put your daughters 1.00

00:44:24.620 on on birth control when she's 15 16 automatically come on now so that's my take well

00:44:32.060 but that's the thing that they don't talk about what the daughters were doing to get put on birth 0.86

00:44:35.700 control every girl i know that was put on birth control that young she was doing some crazy stuff 1.00

00:44:42.080 like one of them the one girl i'm thinking of well she was 16 um her parents worked a lot they

00:44:48.740 couldn't micromanage her and she kept sneaking out of the house and they just they they didn't

00:44:53.120 think they could stop her so what are they supposed to do they don't want her to get

00:44:55.960 pregnant by pookie or ray right yeah you know having the starving yeah that's what the women 1.00

00:45:00.960 they they always leave out whenever they say my mom put me on it they leave out what the f they

00:45:06.140 were doing to be put on it because some you know especially being part of a big family you see how

00:45:11.640 different like personalities are and like different parenting is for different kids because you know 0.91

00:45:16.720 kids are different and I'm like well some of these women they were just crazy teenagers 1.00

00:45:21.280 um midwomen get flown out and invited into the yacht all the time stop it all right well I missed 1.00

00:45:28.320 the i missed the invite i missed it like they didn't they never invited me all right um could

00:45:37.820 you imagine if you had a daughter and you seen you see her with her behavior on a one-way trip

00:45:44.820 to whoredom and there's nothing you can do that's why you said it multiple times oh my daughter 1.00

00:45:50.180 wouldn't do that okay there bud you don't know i would just jake's daughter was a teenage single 0.99

00:45:58.280 mom tg jakes who's that tg jakes the pastor yeah yeah do you know what i would just let her do it 1.00

00:46:08.820 um i'd say look um wear a condom get tested once a month once every three months as much as you can

00:46:16.160 these are going to be the consequences and if you're willing to accept those it's not my problem

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00:46:50.780 community over there first up we have oh my gosh doug mpa what if your friends started banging your

00:46:58.120 daughter oh that would be brutal like one of my one of my friends my age yeah you know here's the

00:47:07.120 thing but first off guys i don't have any kids number one but but number two um there there's

00:47:15.640 lack of fathers in almost every community now and so you if you're a single guy who has a very

00:47:22.280 paternal nature like you you get hit on by uh younger women all the time a lot of these women 1.00

00:47:29.080 that have daddy issues especially guys work in a restaurant and watch all the older guys um banging

00:47:38.040 the the younger host girls and servers i'm telling you dude it's awful don't let your daughter 0.95

00:47:44.760 work. Doug MPA knows. All right, sorry, who's on the line? Oh, Brad, are you there?

00:47:54.100 Yes, sir. How's it going? Hey, Brad, how are you? I'm doing good. I'm a huge fan. I want to say

00:48:01.020 thank you for all the work you do. Thank you. So what are your thoughts on the topic? Do you know

00:48:06.780 anybody that's had side effects from birth control? And if you had a daughter, would you suggest she

00:48:11.520 goes on it? Oh man, if I had a daughter, I don't even want to think like that. Don't even put

00:48:17.540 those thoughts in my head. Hey, I got to, I got to, I got to put the thoughts. It's the question

00:48:23.240 of the day. Mental, mental torture. Yeah. What you doing? I don't know about that. I know,

00:48:31.440 obviously it's very bad for them. Um, man, I tried calling in like last show, but my phone

00:48:37.680 was having difficulties but last show was like women cheating oh man i would have so much to say 0.99

00:48:43.660 about that but birth control i don't know i don't really talk to women about their birth control or 0.94

00:48:49.400 whatever but it's very bad i mean they shouldn't be on it or they you know it's bad for their

00:48:54.560 health is that the main topic of the show just like our experience with women being on birth

00:49:00.360 control well what's your opinion okay so how about this the the advent of the birth control pill

00:49:06.300 has it been good for society or bad what do you think uh overall probably bad i think it's been

00:49:15.480 great for like it's probably helped some guys avoid knocking up some crazy women so it's been

00:49:20.580 good on that it's been a double-edged sword i would say but probably overall bad but i i would

00:49:27.420 say i always tell every guy what i personally do and what i tell every guy is like it's 100

00:49:32.900 your responsibility not to get her pregnant because if you get some random chick pregnant 1.00

00:49:38.300 especially a girl like you don't want to be with that's a crazy chick or whatever like at the end 1.00

00:49:44.860 of the day she's pregnant and that's it so it doesn't you could point the finger at her like

00:49:50.620 oh she lied to me she told me this but bro at the end of the day she's still pregnant you're still 1.00

00:49:55.600 fucked so just put 100 of the responsibility on yourself not to get her pregnant in the first 0.99

00:50:00.720 place you know what i mean cool um yeah uncle tiger says one more and i'll stop the bomb 0.99

00:50:06.540 bramette would you have ever dated a short king uh how short probably um what's the lowest you'd

00:50:15.560 go bro probably five eight five nine five eight okay um but i mean who knows that when i'm when

00:50:23.520 i'm 42 i'd probably go look you know what i mean so brad you you said that you had you know what

00:50:33.020 just i'm gonna say of you calling in so you have a good cheating story oh yeah man i got a few

00:50:40.360 dude i ain't gonna lie i love like if you pick up a girl and she's like if it's one of your boys

00:50:47.160 obviously don't do it but if it's like if she's got a boyfriend or husband you don't even know

00:50:51.760 the guy it just makes it like the icing on the cake what yes sir and the thing is like like you

00:51:00.980 like to you like to be the guy she cheats with 100 it's just like the icing on the cake and the

00:51:09.980 thing is like most guys are completely naive to this stuff like you know the the what guys got

00:51:17.580 understand is like the girl that looks innocent and wholesome in the library on a wednesday

00:51:24.060 is most of the time the same girl that would look like a hoe in the nightclub on a saturday 1.00

00:51:32.380 yeah it's a strategy so have you ever done a thing where you you a girl will go out with

00:51:39.260 a guy for dinner and then like show up to your house afterwards and give you the

00:51:45.180 leftovers or something like that no not yet not that i know of but i can tell you i can run you

00:51:51.180 guys through i can run you guys through a story i would say like maybe one minute yes okay go for

00:51:57.200 it okay so i've done a lot of jobs you know i bounced around jobs there was a time i was a

00:52:03.520 bouncer and that was cool because you get to watch everybody in the club you get to watch the

00:52:08.920 dynamics of like you know some guys try to get our girls whatever and sometimes you get

00:52:16.340 opportunities with girls now i was a little more proactive about it you got to be a little low-key

00:52:20.980 about it but i was more like trying to kill two birds with one stone like i was trying to

00:52:26.420 holler at some girls and there was a milf i was doing the front door there was a milf that came 1.00

00:52:32.660 up bro she had tattoos big titties hanging out big ass white chick all that so I'm like hey you 1.00

00:52:40.300 look like you know how to party immediately receptive so I'm like okay green light let's go 0.99

00:52:46.340 so start talking to her flirting by me and get her number all that and then the thing about being a

00:52:54.100 bouncer though it can give you opportunities but it can also cock block you because you got to stay

00:52:58.060 till the clubs close you got to help clean up and all that and by that time a lot of the girls 0.89

00:53:02.320 what it took it's a whole thing but anyway uh basically i got off a little early that night

00:53:08.120 because the club was kind of kind of dead and this was around the same time she was about to leave

00:53:13.620 so we're coordinating to go to her place and she had with her i'm gonna just skip details for the

00:53:20.100 sake of time okay but she had with her her her adult niece and her best friend okay when her

00:53:26.340 when when they saw what was going on the adult niece was cool with it she was actually on my 1.00

00:53:30.060 side the best friend was like started shaming the hell out of her and was like you fucking whore 1.00

00:53:36.480 you have a boyfriend of three years this is wrong what you're doing blah blah blah and the girl she 1.00

00:53:42.780 had the the milton never mentioned the boyfriend to me but the friend's like trying to do all this

00:53:47.200 right so anyway i overcome the cock block go to the milf's house she had a big house uh home bar 1.00

00:53:55.220 and everything so we get we get drunk and whatever or or i mean we don't get drunk uh

00:54:00.700 so i don't know whatever but you know basically we smashed like three times that night dude i'm

00:54:06.840 busting that on her face twice uh bust in her once i i had a vasectomy so i i just do that 1.00

00:54:13.580 um and then i barely and so like we bang on and off all night and in the morning i take an uber

00:54:21.580 back home I barely missed the boyfriend by like 10 minutes I'm pretty sure because in the morning

00:54:27.700 the boyfriend called right me and the chick are laying naked in the bed and the boyfriend called

00:54:35.120 she answers the phone and I can only hear her side of it but she answered the phone oh hey baby

00:54:40.800 I love you so much I'm so happy to see you today blah blah blah blah oh okay cool hangs up the 1.00

00:54:46.760 phone oh my boyfriend's coming over you know you got to get out of here i said okay i want to fuck 1.00

00:54:52.460 you one last time she said okay so fuck her one last time bust on her face and then she's like 1.00

00:54:58.460 oh i gotta hop in the shower and then because the boyfriend is like i guess the time was getting 1.00

00:55:03.580 close for him to be there and then i take an uber home and it's like you know that that shit happens 0.82

00:55:11.100 all the time like and and the thing is like the guy how is he supposed to even know i mean sure 0.71

00:55:17.600 there could be red flags like obviously if your girl's going out you know without you dressed like

00:55:22.660 and all that okay sure i was just about to say that man like you're gonna let a girl with with 0.99

00:55:27.840 a bunch of tattoos and big titties go to a club by herself what do you think's gonna happen dude 1.00

00:55:32.500 yeah i so i i agree with that obviously if your girl's going out you know without you dressed like 0.98

00:55:39.240 a hoe to bars and clubs at late at night yeah obviously you're naive if you you know that's a 1.00

00:55:45.520 different thing but let's say hypothetically that she didn't even do that but like these guys really 0.99

00:55:52.860 have sometimes there's really no way to know because women are really good liars like you 1.00

00:55:58.720 could be putting off an image to the guy like so so pearl is one of the key um figures in the 0.97

00:56:06.660 movement of just assume a woman's a whore until proven otherwise i agree like if you're if you're 0.97

00:56:14.240 a man worth a dang just assume that your girl's gonna cheat sooner rather than later seriously 1.00

00:56:21.140 why not yeah it's a rental it's a rental why you buy it like this is a this is a renter's market

00:56:28.460 you know no one owns homes at homes anymore no one owns women you know yeah because here's the 1.00

00:56:35.220 you know ultimately look guys society is it's always gonna be it's always going to be the man's

00:56:41.940 fault if the if the relationship ends and the man did something wrong it's his fault the relationship

00:56:47.460 ends and the woman did something wrong it's his fault so honestly guys if you got got it's your

00:56:52.420 fault you might as well cheat too king yeah why not all right yeah all right brad we're gonna move

00:56:59.620 thanks for calling in can i can i say one if i like 30 seconds can i say one thing for a hot

00:57:06.240 ball sure go ahead okay like i said pro your work is very appreciated i know it comes with like a 0.94

00:57:12.080 huge sacrifice that like so many people come at you attacking you with bullshit but you're really 0.81

00:57:18.000 paving the road for the red pill for the new breed of conservatism you're one of the realest people

00:57:23.300 on youtube i just want to say thank you because you're helping a lot of men like you're really

00:57:27.900 saving lives so thank you so much and one piece of like constructive criticism i would give you

00:57:34.040 real quick is you're doing everything super good but i see on these debates the one thing the

00:57:40.140 conservatives the trad cons press you on is they say are you telling men not to get married are

00:57:45.520 you telling men not to get married and then you say i'm not telling men to do anything i would

00:57:49.780 just advise just own it just say yeah i'm telling them not to get married because me personally i

00:57:55.700 tell guys not to get married if you're going to ask me i'm going to tell you don't get married 1.00

00:57:59.080 it's a fucking bullshit deal the contract's fucking bullshit it's setting you up to potentially get 1.00

00:58:04.960 destroyed don't fucking do it so that's all i'll say so thank you very much pearl thanks for calling 1.00

00:58:10.500 in um so freya says boyfriend probably knows and lets her hoe yeah probably let's bring in 1.00

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00:58:52.080 next up we have nevermarrieddating.com is coming up and guys if you have any opinion on birth

00:59:00.680 control if you're a woman and you had a bad experience with birth control call in if you're

00:59:05.880 a man and you were dating a woman who was on birth control and would always complain about 0.92

00:59:10.820 side effects or something like that or or did you have a woman that said that she was on birth

00:59:16.620 control and she really wasn't how about that call in we'd love to hear from you nevermarrieddating.com

00:59:23.340 you're on mute oh is that better hey hey how's it going hi hi pearl i just wanted to call in

00:59:30.620 let you know people are saying you're five today on the podcast shows that you don't work we're

00:59:35.420 we're not wearing much makeup but i just wanted to call in my statement was i think you're i got

00:59:40.860 10 today i think you it takes a lot of uh a lot of uh a lot of gumption to go on there and not

00:59:49.040 use a lot of makeup people always are into this makeup thing and it's it's it's so it's nice or

00:59:53.880 refreshing to see a person that doesn't wear makeup you know that's all i really had to say

00:59:57.780 thanks um what do you have any opinions on the topic birth control uh the birth is a good

01:00:03.860 society bad for society what do you think well the society well birth control is used so they

01:00:09.300 Most people know, especially they don't get pregnant, but our problem in America is people over 40 not having kids, and it's a germinal dream on the system not having kids after 40, especially if you want to have a legacy. 0.78

01:00:31.220 people want about their legacy i have a friend that has a legacy he has five kids and i was like

01:00:37.480 yeah he he was the only child so but people over 40 aren't having kids and it's like a phenomenon

01:00:43.580 and uh we're being taken over by other countries that are overpopulating us so you know that's

01:00:50.060 the problem you know what's crazy is um i'm old enough for when i was in elementary school and

01:00:56.040 maybe middle school was when they were still talking about oh this gave me too many people

01:00:59.960 overpopulation now we don't have enough children to replace the population it's crazy to think about

01:01:09.240 great now now these women yeah there's 25 of 40 year olds haven't been married so and uh this is

01:01:16.680 a question or fact i know the answer to it but do you know what the state with the most highest rate

01:01:21.720 of never married people it's a good interesting fact if you don't know your listeners might i

01:01:26.760 i don't what is it what is it oh the state with the highest rate of most neighboring people is

01:01:33.240 pennsylvania i was gonna guess new york okay why do you think that is well i can guess theorize

01:01:39.960 it's because maybe the cold climate um that pennsylvania is mostly blue uh blue collar a lot

01:01:47.080 of uh industrial workers and uh pittsburgh and philadelphia but uh it's right next to new york

01:01:54.520 so i can't figure out why i mean new york and california but most of the people are in

01:01:59.720 pennsylvania and the president there was only one president in the history of the united states that

01:02:04.600 was never married and he was from the state of pennsylvania i'll fight you naked says my 0.95

01:02:10.760 girl went off the pill then she hated me she moved out within six months after three years 1.00

01:02:15.480 my article on medium is called the family killer okay um do you have anything else that's interesting

01:02:22.920 though the pennsylvania i wouldn't have guessed that you know that oregon and maine have the

01:02:27.800 highest rates of women on on birth control no way yeah utah has the highest of most marriages if

01:02:35.240 you figure utah has the most marriages anywhere did you know that you know that salt lake city

01:02:41.160 has the worst uh a prescription pill problem of any major city yeah oh yeah yeah i was gonna give

01:02:53.480 you a super chat tonight i got a new gift card and i was gonna do a rumble super chat i don't know

01:02:58.920 what the issue is rumble does anybody have a problem using gift cards for uh donations or

01:03:04.120 super chats i i'm just trying to try to do it tonight do you know anybody having that problem

01:03:08.920 i don't know but i'll ask i'll ask the i'll have our team make a note of it and see if they can

01:03:14.440 look and do it yeah that would be nice because i was going to do a super chat i got a gift card

01:03:19.880 i was like i'm going to do that for pearl so it didn't work so well thanks so much i have a

01:03:23.640 wonderful rest of the week and i appreciate your show so much you're the best podcaster around so

01:03:27.640 appreciate it thank you so much i appreciate it um my wife took under the skin and wouldn't stop 0.94

01:03:33.640 bleeding what is oh like the the thing in your arm yeah um i had a friend that was on birth control

01:03:45.240 and then she married her husband and uh she stopped birth control so so they can have a kid 1.00

01:03:53.000 but she had for months it was just like a non-stop period for like months and she went to the doctor

01:03:59.640 was like what's going on i'm talking imagine it for three months pearl straight she's like what 1.00

01:04:06.040 that but she had been on it since she was 16 and she stopped it at 28. wow yeah i mean it's just

01:04:13.960 common sense like i remember being on it for the little bit and even before i got on it just

01:04:19.960 thinking like i can't be on this too long because there's just going to be problems so yeah anyone

01:04:28.600 there's no one else on the lines anyone else want to call in and talk about birth control

01:04:33.560 because yeah there's no one else i guess i guess everyone's happy that birth control is a thing

01:04:41.560 the guys are like yeah we get to nut in these hoes yeah i'm not saying you should i'm not saying 1.00

01:04:49.200 that is not a recommendation i'm just saying there are men that take advantage of that

01:04:54.180 I think about it is there's no way to know if a woman's on birth control if she says she's on birth control. There's no way to know. Never assume, guys. Can guys feel IUDs?

01:05:09.760 I mean, wait, could we pull the chat? Can you feel IUDs? Yes, no. I don't know. Make that the poll. Go ahead.

01:05:21.700 yeah i just think once again like i said before it's funny how women always say well 0.98

01:05:26.180 you know birth control didn't agree with me it's like what kind of birth control are we talking

01:05:30.260 about because go ahead i mean i've never been on it i've never had a pregnancy scare it's really

01:05:38.180 not hard like come on yeah it's not hard never had a pregnancy scare never had an abortion nothing

01:05:46.580 and and even look guys i'm just gonna say it the pull out method it works the only time

01:05:56.500 don't ask me how i know but yeah so because the biggest problem with the pull out method is that

01:06:03.140 guys will be in there having a good time like oh yeah i'm gonna pull out but then they don't pull

01:06:08.420 out so it's like this thing where they're like okay i'm gonna i'm gonna do it i'm gonna i'm

01:06:13.780 gonna go i'm gonna pull out and then they just don't pull they just take the risk and just go

01:06:18.180 for it and that's how guys get caught up like you know i i'm sorry they try to say it doesn't work 0.93

01:06:26.340 it doesn't work because guys are so dumb and he at the moment that they don't pull out that's

01:06:31.220 the only reason why the pullout method it doesn't work i just am so i get so pissed off when i see 0.99

01:06:39.300 women crying about the side of like do you mean like if you took steroids doug mpa and you went 1.00

01:06:44.820 to the doctor and they said hey here are some steroids there's no side effects wouldn't you

01:06:51.600 just logically think uh there might be some side effects and like this is a calculated risk like

01:06:57.820 any procedure yeah or like any medication or i i take advil that's a calculated risk there are

01:07:05.420 people that die from advil there are i mean it's not that common but i'm just saying

01:07:10.460 here's the thing that

01:07:14.520 you see these actors right like um hugh jackman and chris hensworth look you have to get on steroids

01:07:22.780 to have the body type but they're maintained by a doctor and they only do it for a limit

01:07:28.200 they do it for the movie role and then they stop so it's like birth control i mean what if a woman 1.00

01:07:35.000 just wanting to whore around for like nine months get on birth control for nine months and then stop 1.00

01:07:39.800 whoring and get off birth control be smarter than being on it for a decade do you know what i think 0.96

01:07:47.480 i was with a woman in my early 20s who had iud activities knocked out out of place she experienced

01:07:52.520 all sorts of menstrual problems eventually leading to her infertility it's not worth it boys and 0.99

01:07:57.800 girls look most women i know that got off birth control were fine and i'm just being honest or

01:08:03.960 maybe they didn't tell me right but the ones i know they did have some hormonal side effects

01:08:08.680 but they all were able to have kids later that's what i've seen um but

01:08:17.640 it you know but like to act like nothing's gonna happen it's just it's a calculated

01:08:24.840 risk and you might take the l and i'm just really tired of women like life doesn't 1.00

01:08:30.600 every procedure is a risk you know every medication's a risk and if you're going to

01:08:37.020 take something that's not natural it might affect you yep rj isaac are you there

01:08:44.100 rj hey rj how's it going hey it's going well so tell me rj um what's your opinion on birth

01:08:54.960 control do you know any women that were on it and did they have any side effects

01:08:58.500 um i really couldn't speak to whether no i i don't know any women that were on it or having 1.00

01:09:04.880 side effects i mean i've heard of stories about it happening but i haven't had any personal

01:09:10.840 experience with it okay my wife um she wasn't on on birth control so i which was good because

01:09:18.940 again i do hear all these situations where women will go and marry a guy and she takes birth control

01:09:25.520 beforehand and after they get married, then they don't like him anymore. So I guess I dodged that

01:09:30.160 bullet. But I wanted to more address the idea of whether or not birth control is a good thing or a

01:09:38.240 bad thing. And I think that the big problem here, I don't think birth control overall was a good

01:09:45.440 thing okay i i i think the problem is that all the um all the promiscuity that we see right now

01:09:55.040 is a direct result of the of the pill being introduced and before it has basically given

01:10:03.920 women permission to go out and be promiscuous and this really seems to be one of the bigger problems 1.00

01:10:12.160 that we are are facing in the country um as again as was previously mentioned about

01:10:17.520 the uh the problem where we're not having enough children uh this is a big issue and one of the

01:10:24.480 things that particularly for for my sake i have three kids okay and my brother he has made a

01:10:31.840 decision not to have any kids and i as many people else have and one of the things i started to

01:10:37.280 realize is that particularly with the way that the social security system is set up in the United

01:10:42.320 States that what's going to end up happening is that my brother he makes good money so he's not

01:10:48.400 the best example but him and his wife they both work they're both able to contribute to 401ks

01:10:55.520 they're not having expensive having kids but when it comes to actually getting the social security

01:11:00.880 benefits it's my children that are going to be paying for their social security benefits

01:11:06.480 as well as my benefits that are coming to me.

01:11:09.980 And whereas my wife and I, we've had to make sacrifices

01:11:13.480 to be able to, you know, live on one income, to be able to

01:11:17.720 look for ways to cut, plus, you know, pay for all the expenses of having kids.

01:11:21.860 And as a result, we're going to have a lower

01:11:26.840 Social Security benefits if it's still around, of course, when we get to that age.

01:11:30.640 And we are the ones that our kids are going to be supporting

01:11:34.300 all the current generation that are currently contributing to Social Security right now.

01:11:41.660 And this is a, I see this as a really, again, this really, I think, highlights the issue where

01:11:49.100 if we aren't having people, if people aren't having kids now, then all these benefits,

01:11:55.180 all the comfort that we have seen in the United States is going to really start collapsing very

01:11:59.740 quickly and I've mentioned and I've talked with you before I've lived outside the United States

01:12:04.780 for some time and my my assessment right now is that the United States is basically it's like

01:12:12.700 life uh you know you don't have bowling you have those bumpers on the side where you don't get

01:12:16.540 gutter balls yeah life in America is like bowling with the with the bumpers up and you start living

01:12:24.300 in other um countries around the world and they don't have the bumpers down and the problem is

01:12:30.460 they end up learning better skills about how to actually just live and get through things

01:12:35.740 and handle challenges yeah whereas yeah i agree don't have that i'd agree because you know if you

01:12:42.300 have you ever been to the african continent i have not bro let me tell you like p that's why

01:12:49.980 it always makes me laugh when you know people of color in america that they complain about racism 1.00

01:12:56.700 and poverty you've never first off racism go to south america latin america you'll see some racism

01:13:02.860 there then poverty go to the african continent man nothing will make you more patriotic to be an

01:13:08.140 american than spinning some now and i'm not saying that you know the places in africa i've been to

01:13:14.940 were nice but i'm glad i was only there for a limited amount of time sure i can understand that

01:13:20.860 i couldn't do like you can deal with anything when there's a finish line but i couldn't imagine

01:13:26.220 having to live you know i'm not going to say where where i've been but i've been to three

01:13:30.940 different countries man and each time i was glad to get back on that plane to the good old usa

01:13:37.660 well and this is and a good example of this is like i'll talk to people like i'm having a hard

01:13:42.700 time. I was trying to find a kettlebell for some workouts. And I could only find a 16 kilogram

01:13:48.700 kettlebell and I wanted something heavier. And it's like, oh, just order off Amazon. I'm like,

01:13:52.940 oh, I don't really have access to Amazon. And this was actually one of the things I wanted

01:13:57.820 to get away from. When I was living in the US, I saw how comfortable and how easy it was just

01:14:02.300 to get things almost instantly from Amazon. And having to get away from that, go and actually

01:14:07.740 shop at local stores and do all this stuff, I think was one of the things I wanted to do.

01:14:11.580 but I think that this this level of comfort is not sustainable unless we're

01:14:16.560 able to go and have more kids and this is a big problem where the birth control

01:14:22.080 pill has resulted in this and I I don't think this is even like again if I was

01:14:28.740 supreme emperor ruler and I did have the choice I absolutely would actually get

01:14:33.900 rid of it there are some things I don't think once the genie is out of the

01:14:38.940 bottle you can't get it back in so to speak i don't think this is one of them i think um again

01:14:43.940 pragmatically right now of course like in in reality we're not going to be able to but if

01:14:50.040 there was a way for us to or more people were aware at least of what the downsides of birth

01:14:54.720 control were and had you know there may be perhaps more education on that um maybe we can go and see

01:15:01.900 some um some more babies happening uh because again even i'm i'm 35 and people my age don't

01:15:09.300 have kids i'm like the only one has kids and my oldest is 10 years old and um it's it just it's

01:15:17.080 very alarming to me at this point how do you feel about the population decline and the fact that

01:15:22.500 women within the next 10 15 years women are going to have like 1.5 kids i think it's good because 0.97

01:15:30.500 they'd be terrible mothers most women um i'm sure there's bad effects for society 1.00

01:15:36.380 um like he was talking about with social security but i just when i interviewed the a thousand women 1.00

01:15:43.040 i just maybe 10 20 i could see being good moms

01:15:48.980 yeah i think so too because what you and i have both said mothers do infinitely more damage to

01:15:56.920 their children than fathers do because guys i've said it on here before who's the person that 0.93

01:16:03.540 called you who's the first person to say that you're too tall you're too short you're too fat

01:16:09.320 you're too thin your nose is too big your eyes are crossed your eyes are too big look they're too 0.99

01:16:15.020 small who's the first person you've ever called you've ever heard call a woman a whore it was 0.99

01:16:21.400 your mom and i had the same experience too uh and i i honestly i i don't think that matters

01:16:30.120 i think this problem that we've had we've had bad moms throughout all of human history this isn't

01:16:34.600 anything new and i think there's plenty of men who will make um great dads obviously there's

01:16:40.840 challenges with the legal system and everything but if again it regardless of the fact that

01:16:47.640 that there's going to be bad moms out there. We still need people. And even hardships that 0.86

01:16:54.160 people go through, set them up to be able to have future successes in different ways.

01:17:00.020 And just being saying that, well, a lot of people are going to be bad parents. Most people

01:17:04.700 are like most, again, half of parents are below average. Like that's just a reality.

01:17:10.760 And we just, we need the people.

01:17:12.880 wow okay cool good luck convincing women to have them coach yeah sorry sir avia said between birth

01:17:22.560 control and two abortions my ex was infertile dumped her for a younger fertile one i got five 1.00

01:17:26.920 kids stay away from the pills and pull out all right all right i'm sorry sorry one 30 second

01:17:33.680 thing whatever big point i want to make also about the difference between being in the u.s

01:17:37.280 and outside the U.S. In the U.S., anytime I'd go around with three boys, people would look at me

01:17:42.800 and say, oh, I have three boys. You must be so tired. It must be so hard. Outside the U.S.

01:17:49.360 No, that's the dream. Sorry, go ahead. For me, anyway.

01:17:53.040 Anytime men see me with three boys, they're like, they're all yours. You are so lucky.

01:18:00.880 The attitude outside the U.S. is different. Again, at least from the places I've been.

01:18:03.600 I'm not going to say it's everywhere, but it's a big difference, too. But that's all I have.

01:18:06.480 cool thank you always good talking to you buddy i mean that sounds awesome yeah guys make sure

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01:18:34.080 you know the best housewife i've ever met told me that she cried the day she found 0.85

01:18:42.000 out she only had boys like tears of joy one of my friends he's an absolute savage when

01:18:50.000 he came to women in college and stuff like that and uh him and his wife just had a daughter he's

01:18:56.880 like dang it i think well at least if she asks what kind of man not to date you can tell her

01:19:04.720 how you how you used to be when you were young dude don't date you when you were young wait

01:19:10.800 what's what's the name of the person on the line jana jana jana jana hi can you hear me yeah how

01:19:20.960 are you good i just thought i'd call in and help you get your show back on track birth control

01:19:28.080 sure so did you go on birth control or do you know someone that did i was on it uh very briefly

01:19:36.160 probably in my 20s i was on the i don't know if you remember it was called the nuva ring

01:19:41.760 that sounds familiar yeah if you google it you'll see it's actually like a ring that you would

01:19:47.760 actually insert up oh yeah yeah i remember that okay yeah i was on it for four months it was awful

01:19:55.760 and one day i woke up with horrible migraines and so i immediately just went to the bathroom

01:20:01.360 and took that sucker out and flushed it so that was the last time did your symptoms completely go

01:20:07.280 away yeah after the migraine yeah that's what really freaked me out the most was the migraine

01:20:13.760 and did you ever go on after that i talked to my mother and she's like yeah i can never be on

01:20:17.360 birth control myself i'm like thanks mom why couldn't you tell me that before so did you ever

01:20:21.560 go on any other types of birth controls or no no no that was it what about like your friends around

01:20:27.800 you at the time did you see them have consequences or side effects well it's funny like all my

01:20:33.300 friends have been on it since they were 16 but one thing i have noticed is like some of my older

01:20:40.040 friends like in their 40s they've gone into menopause way early no way yeah and i i think

01:20:47.900 we're gonna see a lot of that and i i can't say it's directly because of birth control but i think

01:20:53.140 it is because every single one of them were on birth control from the age of 16 or 18 or whatever

01:20:59.160 yeah because you know what i just think it's common sense like that there might be side effects

01:21:05.300 from something you're putting into your body do you know what i mean i'm just like i don't know

01:21:09.160 how nobody thought like I don't know if you had this conversation but I had I remember having the

01:21:14.780 conversation with people my age at the time and they all looked to me like I was nuts they're

01:21:20.280 like no the doctor said it was fine I'm like you don't think there might be okay you know

01:21:25.900 yeah it's like when you talk to when I talked to my girlfriends about not being on birth control

01:21:31.620 at least you know back when I was younger they were they were looking like I was horrified like

01:21:36.380 i was you know playing russian roulette or something yeah and they didn't and they didn't

01:21:41.020 care about their health or their safety at the time so all these women that are like bitching 1.00

01:21:45.220 in their 30s it's like they'll blame the doctors but like come on they just wanted to have sex raw 0.99

01:21:50.840 like come on like get the fuck out of here exactly yeah and it's not like it's always effective if i 0.99

01:21:59.560 called him before and told you about my friend who had abortions yeah and she she was on birth 0.98

01:22:05.180 control at the time she still got pregnant so well it's because you have to take the pill at 0.97

01:22:09.640 the same time every day i'm assuming she was on the pill no she had the um the shot in her arm i 0.99

01:22:16.040 forgot what's that called was that called uh well okay i guess you know you know the one day place

01:22:23.320 in your arm yeah i know what you're talking about i i don't know did you see any women gain weight

01:22:29.080 she's on the depo pavera shot yeah the women that i saw gained that said they gained weight from 1.00

01:22:37.320 birth control and my experience they just seemed like they were eating too much because a lot of

01:22:43.240 the time you get on birth no because all right a lot of the time when you get on birth control

01:22:48.440 it's a time when you're in college right that's when most women like some started in high school 1.00

01:22:53.160 then some started in college both that's when you're starting to drink and you can't drink

01:22:58.840 heavy you get that freshman 15 right everybody does so like i didn't get on it till halfway

01:23:04.840 through school so i'm like i i gained the weight before you know what i mean and after

01:23:12.280 well i mean like you think about birth control kind of mimics you know or pauses your cycle and

01:23:17.080 all that so like there are certain times in the month when we're hungrier than others

01:23:21.240 i mean oh do you know what that actually makes a little set that you probably keep on water weight

01:23:29.980 but i just i have a hard time believing it makes you like gain fat let me see no it's probably a

01:23:36.380 lot of bloating too yeah you're probably right like i just like because i guess that would make

01:23:40.940 sense because before your period for two weeks you're heavier but it's not like you look that

01:23:47.260 different it's just like i don't know that's that's my guess i'm not a medical professional

01:23:51.660 that's just what i mean you're heavier and hungrier yeah maybe but it's like everyone's

01:23:58.700 drinking so maybe you're hungrier because you're hungover it's true i ate a lot you know after

01:24:06.380 after a night i would eat like a whole p you know i ate a lot after a night out so

01:24:11.820 and also the wrong crap too yeah yeah so you're right thanks for calling in

01:24:18.860 call it anytime thank you yeah thank you both bye bye 0.67

01:24:26.940 hey that is everyone and i'm not saying like i maybe birth control okay wait let me ask

01:24:35.100 why does birth control i'm gonna ask grok right now why does birth control make women gain weight

01:24:42.780 i want to know the reasoning behind it you know i'll ask chat gbt at the same time we'll see if

01:24:48.700 they come up with the same estrogen and progesterone um so it contains synthetic versions of estrogen

01:24:55.980 or progesterone these hormones can influence appetite metabolism and fat storage estrogen

01:25:01.580 may increase retention and alter. Do you know what it is? It probably is that your body thinks

01:25:08.620 you're pregnant. Yeah. Because you're not ovulating. It's fat distribution. Hormones 1.00

01:25:14.720 like progestin may change how your body's towards fat, especially in areas like hips, thighs, and

01:25:19.360 breasts. These changes can make it seem like you gain weight even if your overall weight has

01:25:24.300 increased. Muscle versus fat confusion. Some women report a change in body composition,

01:25:29.880 feeling softly which can be more noticeable than change on the scale um yeah and it says not all 0.96

01:25:38.380 women gain weight on birth control genetic factors lifestyle yeah bullshit okay i bet it 1.00

01:25:44.820 makes you hungrier but it's still a choice what you put in your mouth that's what i think 0.99

01:25:49.140 there were women that were on it that didn't gain weight um some perceived weight gain maybe 1.00

01:25:53.760 due to lifestyle changes aging or unrelated factors studies show that weight gain

01:25:58.160 on hormonal contraceptives

01:26:00.580 contraceptives is often

01:26:02.360 minimal one to two pounds and not significantly

01:26:04.640 different from the placebo

01:26:06.740 effect in many cases

01:26:07.900 that's what I would expect one to two pounds

01:26:10.040 because after your cycle you lose

01:26:12.220 one to two pounds

01:26:13.200 do you know how many calories

01:26:16.240 ten pounds of fat is

01:26:18.240 how many

01:26:20.340 I can't remember calories

01:26:21.520 I know because I'm trying to lose it

01:26:23.160 it's going to take forever

01:26:24.660 so according to ChatBT

01:26:27.240 I put, has the birth control pill been good for society?

01:26:31.120 She said, has it positive impacts?

01:26:33.680 The pill gave women unprecedented control over reproduction, allowing them to plan if 0.99

01:26:38.420 and when to have children.

01:26:40.280 This has been fundamental to women's rights and autonomy, giving them more freedom to 1.00

01:26:44.080 pursue education, careers, and personal growth, personal goals.

01:26:47.720 Yeah, how's that going, right?

01:26:50.080 Studies consistently show that access to the pill has increased college graduation rates

01:26:53.780 for women led to higher labor force participation in income levels yeah how's that going help close 0.99

01:26:59.300 the gender wage gap although disparities still exist and then the health benefits are that they

01:27:06.500 regulate menstrual cycles or reduce acne lower the risk of ovarian and endometrial cancers and treats

01:27:14.020 conditions like pcos and endometriosis oh the endometriosis would make sense because when

01:27:20.020 you're pregnant um like i think that's the one that you remember the guy called in and said when

01:27:26.260 you're pregnant it stops yeah so that would kind of make sense but it says 10 pounds guys 35 000

01:27:34.020 calories that's what you have to burn or eat extra if you gain 10 pounds that's a lot of it like

01:27:41.300 people you people don't realize how long it takes to lose 10 pounds like it's not

01:27:50.020 it's not easy it was um 35 000 calories how many calories a day is that for a month it

01:27:59.460 it was either patti labelle or loretta frank or aretha franklin one of the two and she would 0.75

01:28:04.900 blow up between tours like you know get really big and then she but she'd always start a tour 0.99

01:28:10.020 this is when she was in her 30s and her 40s you know after that she didn't give a dang but um 0.98

01:28:15.380 she'd be walking around doing interviews before a tour just big as a house and then she started

01:28:21.660 the tour like 50 60 pounds lighter and they said how how do you lose the weight she just you know

01:28:29.060 she said i just stop eating yeah no really she's like yeah i just i just i just stop eating she's

01:28:34.540 i i've always been able to do it i just stop eating and you know she should drink coffee and

01:28:39.900 you know maybe some pancakes in the morning and that's it she's like i've always been able to do

01:28:44.320 then she hit her 40s and she wasn't able to do it yeah because like it's just so much i feel like

01:28:51.500 now that i'm almost to the end of this like of losing the weight i gained my early 20s

01:28:58.440 i'm almost to the end of it i'm like it's so much work to learn everything you're eating but there's

01:29:06.000 just no other way to do it you have to know what you're eating that's my opinion like 0.57

01:29:12.000 all these like diets and stuff like people will just quit fasting fuck that like no well and i've 0.89

01:29:20.860 said this many times that's why i don't mind if you hear these women it's not fair that models 0.99

01:29:27.140 have to be a size zero i hate plus size models i hate them because they're doing no work and making 1.00

01:29:33.920 money guys you know i have a job during the day i have to get up and go to and you i have to do

01:29:41.460 what my boss says i have to do everything there i have to you know i have to work for my money

01:29:47.700 plus size models they don't have to work for anything that's why i don't mind that a woman 1.00

01:29:51.460 has to look this one girl i knew in undergrad she she spent from 16 to 19 as an international model 1.00

01:29:59.380 and she said that she was five five ten and she had to be 116 pounds 117 pounds right but she's 0.98

01:30:08.500 5'9 had to be 116 pounds and she said that um how she stayed skinny she she smoked like a chimney 1.00

01:30:15.540 she smoked marlboro reds and then she ate apples bananas and drank black coffee

01:30:24.340 yeah she's like i've been all all around the world you know milan australia all these places

01:30:30.100 but i had to make that sacrifice to get those privileges and then when she hit 19 she didn't 0.55

01:30:35.220 want to do it anymore and i don't have a problem with that people that try to make money and not

01:30:42.260 do any work i hate it i hate that whole concept yeah um yeah i agree i just came 35 000 calories

01:30:56.180 um i forgot i was gonna say i'm spacing out a little bit um i think that's all i got today

01:31:02.020 you got anything else dog mpa um yeah you know i'm i'm all for the birth control

01:31:07.780 you know i think that less hoes need to have kids and less horrible mothers need to have kids 1.00

01:31:13.060 um i wish that there's a way that we could encourage good families

01:31:16.660 to have more i'd rather see you know one married mother and father with

01:31:24.740 five kids than a bunch of single moms running around um but yeah i'm all for the birth control 1.00

01:31:30.980 man you know i just don't just try to have um you know try to have you know a little bit of

01:31:40.100 don't put a young girl on birth control when she's 15 16 17 years old don't do that unless she's 1.00

01:31:46.180 really a hoe that's my opinion if she's really hoeing like aren't some of these high schoolers 1.00

01:31:53.540 like banging criminals yeah yeah if my daughter was banging criminals i would put that iud right 1.00

01:32:00.820 up there we actually have one more call sure we could do one more okay flow state

01:32:10.900 it's coming on up he's been on before right yep i'm your flow state and everyone keeps saying

01:32:17.620 i'm sunburned yes guys i'm very very sun we'll say your audio is connecting there he is

01:32:24.660 flow state are you there what's up flow state

01:32:29.860 uh oh flow state there he is

01:32:36.980 we can see you for a state are you there

01:32:41.940 uh what about now i can hear you how's it going hey good you i'm good

01:32:54.100 so what's your opinion on birth control did you know somebody that was on it

01:32:58.360 uh i've known lots of women who are on it um i cannot tell you specifically who has or hasn't

01:33:04.720 had health effects from it um i i mean it makes sense to me that that if you you can't just turn

01:33:12.120 off a key biological function and not have have uh negative outcomes

01:33:17.900 yeah you think it's been bad or good for society i was about to do i think it's been good or bad

01:33:25.760 for society yep um um for society probably bad overall but um for me personally probably good

01:33:35.180 overall but i've got a 15 year old daughter and i i am not having her anywhere near that

01:33:44.720 yeah what if you had a daughter that was going crazy would you put her on it

01:33:49.660 i'd probably just put an ankle bracelet on her i don't i don't know luckily knock on wood we're 0.61

01:33:58.580 not there uh she's a good kid but um it just seems like the i haven't done a lot of research

01:34:06.040 into it but from what i'm aware just it doesn't seem like it's a it's worth the risk i don't

01:34:11.720 think so i don't think it's necessary like i think it's pretty easy to not get pregnant

01:34:16.520 even without birth control yeah you can you can count days or whatever the pullout method worked

01:34:23.860 for me until it didn't okay now was it a case because i've always make the argument where

01:34:30.880 the pullout method doesn't work because guys don't actually pull out

01:34:35.040 was that your experience

01:34:37.540 it worked for me

01:34:41.860 for two years solidly

01:34:43.920 and then you know

01:34:45.580 the issue is that like

01:34:47.140 you have no margin of error

01:34:49.860 so if you pull

01:34:53.740 mostly out if you get like

01:34:55.760 90% out

01:34:57.260 you still could

01:34:59.000 be in trouble

01:35:00.280 is that what happened

01:35:01.780 it was like a 90% type of thing

01:35:03.800 it was yeah it was it was like a one stroke too too long sort of thing

01:35:07.900 i knew i messed up when it happened but uh you didn't have plan b back then

01:35:12.080 um we were together i'd been with my daughter's mom for about two years at that point

01:35:19.280 and uh so no also i figured what are the odds you know what are the odds you have

01:35:26.080 in two years i have one kind of misfire it'll be fine

01:35:31.160 um luckily luckily it it wasn't yeah luckily because even though i wouldn't chose it at the

01:35:38.980 time it was one of those uh blessings in disguises so cool cool well thanks for calling in doug mpa

01:35:47.060 you got any other questions for him so what because there's a thing okay your daughter's

01:35:56.820 a good daughter so you've raised her well what what kind of parenting did you have to do to

01:36:05.300 raise a daughter that's not headed down the path where you would have to put her on birth control 0.97

01:36:09.820 because i could tell by the way that you said that your daughter's a good kid that she actually is

01:36:14.780 but we see some guys are like oh my daughter would never do that and it's just like bro you

01:36:19.860 never know so what would you what kind of parenting would you recommend to a man that has a daughter

01:36:24.620 to to have a good daughter like yours who who is headed down the wrong path so i think that

01:36:31.480 um a couple things that i did differently from a lot of parents is one um i tried to be honest

01:36:37.860 with my daughter and with myself right so that whole my daughter would never do that mindset 1.00

01:36:41.980 that's that's the opposite of what i think i think that you know i'm raising i'm not sheltering my

01:36:48.860 daughter from the world i'm raising her to be able to operate in it herself um so uh that's 1.00

01:36:56.400 one thing i'm honest with her and i don't and i don't believe in sheltering or hiding kids from

01:37:00.680 things really um that they're going to experience in adulthood um the other thing is uh i raised her

01:37:08.860 so her mom and i got divorced when she was two and i got custody and i raised her as a single dad

01:37:12.960 most of her life good job man awesome and so i remember when i was in high school and middle

01:37:21.460 school the girls who had low self-esteem got taken advantage of and so it was very much in 0.73

01:37:27.280 the front of my mind to raise her in a way where she had confidence and uh i've created a monster 0.99

01:37:34.400 is she is she a little you

01:37:39.480 in in many ways in many that's a compliment man i i recognize it and i appreciate it you know

01:37:47.020 everyone's their own person she does have a lot of my traits but she's also uh you know got some

01:37:52.200 some that are uniquely hers that's awesome man awesome i agree with the sheltering things the

01:37:58.200 women that crash out the hardest are like pastor's kids and like i mean nala was a pastor's daughter 1.00

01:38:05.060 so i didn't know you know and you you see kids where they get upset at their parents for not

01:38:13.120 giving them the tools to face the real world you know what i'm saying or even worse you have kids

01:38:18.720 so parents i mean i'm not a parent but my mother was absolutely terrible right so um

01:38:26.360 parents are supposed to do the emotional maintenance to foster their children and to be

01:38:31.280 confident, successful people like you did with your daughter. But horrible parents,

01:38:37.080 they require the children to do emotional maintenance on them. It's like the other

01:38:41.660 way around. You know what I'm saying? And so we have too many parents that the kids are forced

01:38:46.620 to have to do the emotional maintenance on their parents or pick their parents up. And it's just,

01:38:51.620 but I have a lot of friends who get mad at their parents for not doing what you're doing with your

01:38:55.840 daughter and giving them the tools necessary to face the world it's rough out there man

01:39:00.000 are you gonna put her in like like do you have any plan for are you gonna try to assist her in

01:39:06.840 finding a boyfriend or a husband when the time comes are you gonna put her in like

01:39:10.920 environments you think she'd meet somebody like are you um i was i was thinking that i'll just

01:39:17.240 auction her off for you know whoever can give you the most goats no i was just curious you'd help

01:39:23.740 set up a dating app like do you have a plan with that or no she's she's got a boyfriend he's a nice

01:39:29.500 guy um okay uh i don't plan to meddle in that unless like there's an issue okay yeah and again

01:39:40.940 she brought him home and you were uh you were cleaning the handguns when he came i was actually

01:39:46.540 doing something uh with my truck and he the first thing that he said was uh that i had a cool truck

01:39:52.700 so that was a good way to you know release that that uh relationship

01:39:59.740 awesome cool all right well thanks so much for calling in doug mpa you got anything else for him

01:40:05.580 nope always good talking to you flow state yeah thanks for calling in take it easy

01:40:12.140 cool that's everybody cool as everyone knows tomorrow we're gonna do the um

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01:40:38.460 hopefully one day in my lifetime we will judge we judge fathers harshly but hopefully in my 0.93

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01:40:49.920 we're gonna have the single mother survivor show and then friday we are gonna do another

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01:41:32.000 fries we'd really appreciate that cool all right well thanks so much for um

01:41:38.800 for helping me out today my opinion is i don't really care if people get on birth control it's

01:41:44.160 not my problem my experience it's not really necessary i don't think it's the hardest thing

01:41:48.800 to not get pregnant um uh yeah i don't think it's that difficult so anyways guys let me know what

01:41:56.160 you think in the comments make sure you like the video on your way out and subscribe to the channel

01:41:59.520 Thanks so much.

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Modern Women Blame Birth Control Instead of Consequences of Being a 304 (Call-in Show) ｜ Pearl Daily

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