00:10:10.000But I do think after a breakup, people can behave in uncharacteristic ways, ways that could be described as obsessive, erratic, or possibly crazy.
00:10:21.400And if I'm being honest with myself, I've behaved like that before.
00:10:25.020So in a personal story, I'm sharing a little bit more about my experience being a crazy ex-girlfriend.
00:10:31.980Brad and I met on Tinder shortly after my divorce.
00:10:35.600Brad and I met on Tinder shortly after my divorce.
00:10:38.200i think it's gone now brad and i met on tinder shortly after my divorce he was about five years
00:10:45.020older than me but had never been in a serious or long-term relationship i on the other hand had
00:10:50.040only been in serious relationships now i'd see it as a major red flag if someone hasn't ever
00:10:55.520committed in their 30s but at this time i overlooked it and despite this we ended up
00:11:00.760dating quite seriously for nearly two years we went on multiple vacations together talked about
00:11:06.060getting married and planned on moving into each up in together in fact we were actually starting
00:11:11.160to look at houses but then brad dropped a bombshell he wanted to end things the breakup two weeks
00:11:17.300earlier we'd been on vacation on our trip brad had even talked about us getting married the night
00:11:21.400before we were out with his family and had a great time he stayed over at my place and the next
00:11:25.340morning we parted as normal later that day i was running out i was out running errands and on the
00:11:31.720way to the supermarket i called him to see if he wanted to come with me he didn't answer but it
00:11:36.340wasn't too unusual he had a bad habit of not keeping his phone nearby since i was driving
00:11:41.340right past his place i decided to stop and see if he needed to get groceries too as a side note i
00:11:48.080had the key he'd previously told me that due to his phone habit well he agreed that the two of us
00:11:54.240went to get groceries afterwards i stopped i dropped him at his home and we said our goodbyes
00:12:00.140that night he called and said he wanted to break up but as you can imagine this came as a complete
00:12:05.260and utter shock to me there was no warning signs i didn't know where the hell this was coming from
00:12:10.700i would love to finish this personal story by saying that i calmly told him to go f himself
00:12:16.260before hanging up that i took this out of the blue breakup for what it was a sign of his ineptitude
00:12:21.980rather than mine and never spoke to him again or even that i expressed how blindsided i felt with
00:12:27.120the same kind of eloquent grace as Gabby from this season of The Bachelor. Unfortunately,
00:12:32.480none of that happened. Instead, I reacted in ways that I find embarrassing. That night,
00:12:37.720I cried and committed the cardinal sin of all dumpies. I begged him to change his mind.
00:12:43.440I went over his house under the guise of retreating my belongings, mind you,
00:12:47.340to further try and convince him. The more tears as I implored him not to leave.
00:12:51.860I pressed him for why he would do such a thing. And when he told me he needed space to figure
00:12:55.940out what he wanted I went so far to suggest we just take a break in a pitiful attempt to negotiate
00:13:01.200before I left we agreed to stay in contact something I now recognize as a huge mistake
00:13:06.680now I do believe that you could stay in touch or even friends with an ex
00:13:10.440thank you for the 100 sec I appreciate it Anton very nice of you um but as soon but it's usually
00:13:19.400a recipe for disaster post breakup obsession I continued to call him and text him when he
00:13:25.420failed to answer responded all my anxiety would spike to the point of near panic attack levels
00:13:30.860and did i find a way to deal with my anxiety in a healthy productive way no of course not i ended up
00:13:36.380driving over to his house to talk to him in person quick tip for anyone showing up there showing up
00:13:41.740unannounced at an x house x's house is always a terrible idea no good can come from forcing you
00:13:47.820to talk to forcing someone to talk to you when they don't want to and i'm even more ashamed to
00:13:52.220say that this happened even more than once yes the first time i did it he was angry the second time
00:13:57.020he was under understandably angrier but i didn't learn i was stuck in my own post breakup obsession
00:14:02.860i couldn't think of any other ways to resolve my anxiety they say that the definition of
00:14:08.140craziness is doing the same thing over and over and on and expecting different results
00:14:14.460and that way even though i hate the term crazy ex-girlfriend i can recognize that i was one i
00:14:19.180was repeating the behavior that clearly didn't do me any good yet each time i thought this time
00:14:24.140will be different this time i'll be able to convince him how much i care obviously this
00:14:29.100couldn't go on forever he blocked my number and while i do understand i disagree with the way he
00:14:33.980went about it it came after several weeks of us being in contact during this time he frequently
00:14:39.100told me he thought he'd get back together at some we'd get back together at some point
00:14:43.500he also asked to borrow money which i gave him then he agreed to go somewhere with me but the
00:14:49.820night before he texted me to cancel his message went something like this i'm not going to come
00:14:54.860over this weekend or anytime after that i've decided it's not good to continue to be in each
00:14:59.020other's lives please don't text or call me at all brad considering that i just lent him money prior
00:15:04.540to this he said that he thought there was a good chance of reconciliation that message sent me on
00:15:09.900fire. Of course, I ignored his request for me to crash out or for me not to reach out. And of
00:15:15.580course, he ignored my crash out at the time. I went to his house the next day, but at this time,
00:15:20.900I wasn't there to try and change his mind. This time I was fueled by pure anger. I demanded my
00:15:25.620money back and told him that what he did to me was BS. What's more, I took back a few of the
00:15:30.740gifts I'd given him. So that's how it ended with Brad. We've spoken a few times since then, but he
00:15:35.520never gave me any actual closure. The last contact was when he sent me a happy birthday text. I never
00:15:41.720replied and I certainly didn't reciprocate on his birthday. The life lesson here is breakups tend to
00:15:47.400bring out the worst in us. So it's understandable to act irrationally when you're hurt and angry.
00:15:52.680But even though I understand why I acted the way I did, I'm still ashamed of it. Life lesson here
00:15:59.040is before you act, think about how you'll feel when retelling the story. Have you ever experienced
00:16:04.500a crazy ex-girlfriend before okay so next we're gonna bring up um doug mpa as well as sean welcome
00:16:15.100to the show guys hey how's it going good how are you awesome hey what's going on what's going on
00:16:25.860how you doing good how are you thanks for coming thank you no problem no problem you know i had to
00:16:32.860come through if this guy had your breakup uh formula he wouldn't have gone through it
00:16:38.940maybe maybe maybe so wait they still crash out even with it
00:16:44.640yeah maybe so we have to see but shout out to that person who actually donated the 1k shout
00:16:52.280to him yeah thank you we're gonna go back philip appreciate it philip so i'm gonna read
00:17:03.320the article on the travis rudolph murder trial um so so so i'm gonna set that up real fast okay so
00:17:11.000guys travis rudolph was a cornerback for the miami dolphins and he ended up having a um he had an
00:17:18.040injury so he had to take a couple years off to try to recover from the injury physical therapy and
00:17:22.680stuff well he i think he was late 20s early 30s and he was dating this you know he's a black dude
00:17:30.120and he was dating this b-dub and he they were dating for a year or two and he wouldn't claim
00:17:36.760her as his girlfriend he was just seeing her right and so he he and he moved in with his brother
00:17:44.200in miami because his brother was well-to-do too but he moved in because he wasn't making income
00:17:49.800as an nfl player well he said that he didn't want to be with her anymore and she starts breaking
00:17:55.560stuff in the house what do they always do what's the first thing they go for when they get upset
00:18:02.040guys at the ps5 so she broke the ps5 started breaking stuff in the guy's house but the brother
00:18:07.880said look you need to get her out of here so he kicks her out the front door he texts
00:18:14.920she gets in her car and she texts her brother and says oh he hit me he put his hands on me
00:18:20.920you need to go mess this guy up right so her brother and three of his friends go over there
00:18:27.960with weapons and travis rudolph has his ar-15 and he lights these bad boys up and so one of them is
00:18:38.360deleted another one was severely injured and the other two drove off with the two so one of them
00:18:45.320died in the car the other one made to the hospital and he got charged with attempted murder well he
00:18:51.240got um acquitted of the charges so go ahead okay defense attorney paints dominique jones as a scorn
00:19:00.600lover who recruited brothers friends to kill former fsu football star the ex-girlfriend of
00:19:07.400travis rudolph was a cross it was cross-examined for hours the second day of testimony in the
00:19:13.320florida state football states florida state football stars murder trial dominique jones
00:19:19.320who had testified the day before that she who had testified the day before that she never intended
00:19:25.720for her brother and his friends to hurt rudolph when she texted her brother to go shoot up his
00:19:33.960ass what is that supposed to be it just says his his oh okay um after learning the football
00:19:41.800player's apparent infidelity was back on the witness stand thursday defense attorney heidi
00:19:47.640pearlett attempted to portray jones as an out-of-work real estate agent who was married to
00:19:52.620another man jealous yeah that's another thing so she she crashed out over him being unfaithful or
00:19:59.740whatever when he never claimed to have his girlfriend and she was married to another man
00:20:03.540the whole time all right go ahead of rudolph's professional football career and angry with
00:20:10.320rudolph at the time of the april 2021 fatal shooting in lake park rudolph is charged with
00:20:15.740one count of first degree murder and three counts of attempted first degree murder in connection
00:20:20.220with the shooting that killed sebastian jean jacks jones testified thursday that rudolph became
00:20:26.380confrontational and wouldn't let her leave after she read his text messages with another woman
00:20:32.300she also admitted to smashing his playstation and calling him a broke after the confrontation
00:20:38.460spilled out to the front yard of rudolph's home they always go for the playstation
00:20:43.420is not hot enough for this bullshit oh my god um i can't believe he was messing with her in the oh
00:20:49.980my god isn't that it's crazy how low these guys will go um it's isn't the moral of the story
00:20:58.620that you sent your brothers and your friends to go kill travis perlet ask jones
00:21:03.180no the moral of the story is him putting his hands up that's always what women say
00:21:07.580it's never he beat the it's always he put his hands on me that is really the basis of everything
00:21:13.740and i didn't send my brothers to kill him no you just sent a text to go shoot up his shit right
00:21:19.020perlet said i didn't say shoot him jones answered when asked to explain what she meant by her text
00:21:24.180messages jones said it was nothing violent towards a person i was upset my adrenaline was running
00:21:28.940and i said something i didn't mean jones said she went on to say that she didn't necessarily mean
00:21:33.560for anything bad to happen to travis his family his house or anything perlet made a point to
00:21:38.920mention that jones went back inside his home to get a tequila bottle which perlet claimed jones
00:21:43.900used to hit rudolph in in his head another item she picked up during the scuffle was a brick that
00:21:50.080she used to smash his car window joe jones testified i don't think i slapped him but i
00:21:55.120did like throw a punch into him she testified jones also confessed to deleting the shoot up
00:22:00.240his shit text message along with another text message with the audacity she's gonna lie okay
00:22:06.360um that her brother sent a group text referring to rudolph as a dead man walking before turning
00:22:12.760his phone over to the deputies that's why betas are so dangerous because they enforce women's
00:22:19.700crazy demands rudolph has been out of jail on house arrest since last year after after he
00:22:24.680unsuccessfully sought sought a stand your ground defense gene um jack quest uh fled after the
00:22:31.800shooting was later found fatally wounded in the front passenger seat of a car in west palm beach
00:22:36.140the driver and back seat passenger who were also were also in the car but they were uninjured
00:22:40.960another victory another victim was found with gunshot wounds in lake park a star wide receiver
00:22:48.200at cardinal newman high school rudolph went on to play at florida state he hauled in 153 catches
00:22:54.0402,311 yards and 18 touchdowns in three seasons with the Seminoles from 2014 to 16.
00:23:02.080The West Palm Beach native left school early to declare for the NFL draft, and although he wasn't
00:23:07.260drafted, he signed with the New York Giants in 2017 and spent two seasons with the team.
00:23:12.380Rudolph was signed to the Miami Dolphins practice squad in 2018, but torn ACL on his first day of
00:23:17.160workouts and never played in the NFL again. He signed with the Canadian Football League, Winnipeg,
00:23:21.840blue bombers in 2020 but the text but the team released him after his arrest testimony was
00:23:27.880expected to continue on friday wow yeah so she she called her brother and they went over there
00:23:37.260and one guy lost his life the sad part about it is they drove around with that guy bleeding out
00:23:42.760for an hour before they took him to the hospital what do we do man what do we do what do we do
00:23:48.360yeah waited an hour to take him to the hospital should i read the next one but yeah because that
00:23:57.000that tells what happens the ex nfl florida state player travis rudolph found not guilty of murder
00:24:02.520and attempted murder charges um travis rudolph a former wide receiver for florida state who played
00:24:09.240in the nfl was found not guilty of murder and other charges charges by a palm beach county jury
00:24:14.680on Wednesday court records show Rudolph has faced one count of first degree premeditated murder and
00:24:20.280three counts of attempted first degree murder in connection with a 2021 shooting Rudolph argued
00:24:25.940that the shooting was in self-defense the jury found Rudolph not guilty on all counts when and
00:24:31.020he was released from house arrest Wednesday according to court records I'm definitely going
00:24:35.720to celebrate with my family trying to get back to play football Rudolph spent two seasons in the NFL
00:24:40.940as a player for the New York Giants and the Miami Dolphins.
00:24:43.620In 2017, he played seven games for the Giants,
00:37:35.040Well, that was pretty short, but one thing I think he did was just explain it a little bit good, just like he did.
00:37:40.640Don't curse guys. Don't call them effing psycho. Don't do that. Just explain it.
00:37:45.600Because then again, when you're showing this evidence, right, to the court, to the officer,
00:37:53.060they're going to hear you calling her effing psycho and all this other stuff.
00:37:56.120And again, remember who you're talking to. Everybody's bait is around you.
00:38:00.260So it'd be like, hey, this is my ex. She pulled up to my site. I'm recording it. I'm scared. I don't know what to do. I just wanted to record it and make sure that I have my evidence. That narration is better than the narration. Oh, she's the effing psycho. Look at her. She's effing this. That's not good for you.
00:38:20.060Yeah, because even if you're right, even if you're right, it doesn't matter because you don't it matters if the cop thinks you're right.
00:38:26.700Yeah, and young guys really have to watch out because young women, I mean, women in their late 20s, early 30s crash out, but no one crashes out like the 18, 19, 20, 21-year-olds.
00:38:39.720They have no concept of long-term consequence.
00:38:41.980I mean, most women don't anyway, but especially when they're 19, 20, 21, 22, these women would do something drastic that will affect the rest of their lives, man.
00:38:51.140So you really got to be careful, young guys.
00:38:53.980If you're between the ages of 19 and 25, you've really got to watch out with these breakups, guys.
00:39:03.520Yeah, yeah, no, what I was going to just add is, remember, guys, it's easy, you've got to, when somebody's looking into your story about what's going on between a dispute and you're the one looking calm and puts you in a superior position,
00:39:17.400if you're not looking calm then then already puts them on a narrative like oh she's crying
00:39:24.100she's erratic but this guy's angry and so you get what i'm saying so from the outside looking in
00:39:31.520the beta officers are going to be like okay she's obviously the victim and he's the aggressor
00:39:37.100and you're yeah aggressive or angry yeah you want to just be level-headed yeah he seems like an
00:39:43.140angry guy so he must have done something to make her this way yeah exactly all right let's see the
00:39:50.700next one i hid in my ex-boyfriend's closet for a week now i know what y'all thinking what the
00:39:57.080is this on right now first i want to preface i was literally 17 and psycho and mentally ill so
00:40:05.120literally i've been dating this guy for almost a year and i was like so in love with him like
00:40:10.700more in love with anybody than I've ever been in my life and he broke up with me and I was like
00:40:16.300well what the hell like please no like I was like this was detrimental this was the worst thing that
00:40:22.040could ever happen in my entire life like it literally felt like my world was ending and I
00:40:26.480was gonna die so of course stupid 17 year old me would still sneak over to his house and we would
00:40:32.060you know you know duh because I thought well if I keep doing that maybe he'll love me and not want
00:40:38.640to break up anyway so eventually like I was over there one time and I don't even know but I ended
00:40:47.160up staying there for a week straight like and I would hide in his closet like during the day
00:40:53.300when he wasn't home and his parents were home and like literally I would just hide and I would just
00:41:02.680stay in there like literally and I would shower at night like when his parents went to bed and
00:41:07.020everything and it was this was like a week a week long and mind you I did not
00:41:12.120have my driver's license because I did not get my license until I was 18 so
00:41:16.500like I had somebody drive me there and then like I just stayed it was low-key
00:41:21.720kind of nice but then at the same time it was like like I don't know I don't
00:41:26.220know what I was thinking bro what was I thinking now this was like eight nine
00:41:30.780years ago so it was a long time ago but I still think about us sometimes cuz
00:41:34.680is literally crazy but anyway one day he went to school and i went out to the living room and his
00:41:40.920dad was there and he caught me so that was embarrassing and his mom ended up coming home
00:41:47.960from work to take me home and it was not good and my ex-boyfriend was mad because he got caught
00:41:53.000and in trouble and then he didn't want to talk to me ever again so no we did not get back together
00:41:59.720um seven years later we did and he is who I'm dating now and we've been together for
00:42:04.860two years now so if y'all think that men don't like crazy might just overlook it so
00:42:13.780I mean I was down bad but I ended up back with him so who's really winning
00:42:19.540oh wow Eric these guys who call in and don't show their faces are cowards beta and alpha
00:42:28.500cosplay costumes eric some people got jobs you know what i mean um what do you guys think of the
00:42:38.340the girl why do you think the guy got back with her
00:42:45.060uh she's she's probably great in the sack she looks like the type
00:42:48.980what do you think sean well not a coward but what i would say is he probably got back with her
00:43:00.820because again people don't realize that like you said many times before a lot of guys don't get a
00:43:08.560lot of access to women so supply and demand she was somebody familiar from his past he probably
00:43:15.280overlooked the red flags with time and he said okay i want to be with her and that's what he
00:43:22.200allows so at the end of the day the relationship worked out i don't even think she's got to give
00:43:27.800all that good poom poom we know guys don't have many friends right they don't have a big network
00:43:33.520of male friends so they need intimacy and she probably maybe is good in the sack i don't know
00:43:40.560but at the end of the day he said okay i'll take her back and then he took her back what would you
00:43:46.800do do it all the time what would you tell guys to do in that situation if they found their girlfriend
00:43:52.140hiding their ex-girlfriend hiding in their closet obviously file a police report that's number one
00:44:00.060right that's number one i don't even understand like and then you got to watch this one the whole
00:44:05.960family knew it happened and they just drove her home and then he got in trouble yeah if that was
00:44:12.320a guy he'd be shot bruv right yeah like this girl was breaking an entry hiding in someone's houses
00:44:19.540the mom drove her home like okay darling hope you get home safe and then after that right so this
00:44:27.260is what i'm saying that the ecosystem of betas that just allow women to do as they please so
00:44:33.280if that happens to you guys definitely follow police report period even if your parents thought
00:44:38.960it was okay it's irrelevant protect yourself at all times yep i agree let's see this right on
00:44:46.240see this next girl he would have been shot pearl bam if it was a male oh hiding in someone's closet
00:44:53.360he would have been shot all right let's see it's me in my birthday day you are going to buy me the
00:44:59.920handbag of chanel sorry do you remember when you promised me at my birthday you are going to give me
00:45:06.960the chanel bag okay but that's when we were together love like you broke up with me
00:45:18.160yeah but the promise is a promise okay so what do you want
00:45:22.560i came here to get my handbag your handbag you know you we broke up six months ago it's what's
00:45:32.560even crazier is women will take back gifts that men they get men in a relationship but like
00:45:39.860the what is this girl's got to be mentally ill
00:45:43.680doesn't matter i wouldn't break up six months ago you told me my birthday you are going to
00:45:52.100give me the handbag yeah when we were together we're not together anymore so
00:45:58.660it doesn't matter like when we're not together anymore so why yeah like i don't understand why
00:46:03.140you're here if we are together or not together that doesn't matter but you actually you make
00:46:11.220a promise and i always keep my word when i say something and you should do too you told me you
00:46:19.380are going to give me my birthday is the handbag yeah i said that i'll get you a handbag when we
00:46:24.340were like boyfriend and girlfriend we're not we're not together anymore we're not when we're not in
00:46:28.260anything anymore but now you've come to me in my house saying to me hey where's my bag