Pearl - Modern Women Despise Their Husbands More Than They Love Their Children ｜ Pearl Daily

00:00:01.000 I'll be the villain if that's what you want. I'll be the villain if that's what you need. I'll be the villain if that's what you gotta believe. Guys, welcome. It's your favorite villain. It's Pearl. I'm sorry for the delay, guys. I'm so sorry. I had volleyball today and I was running from practice, you know.

00:00:28.000 had to shower, just to put on a great show for you today.

00:00:33.100 Now, you know, I piss off a lot of people on X.

00:00:36.880 And I don't know why.

00:00:38.060 I'm always, I'm such a friendly gal.

00:00:40.220 I have this professional boxer tweeting at me.

00:00:43.480 I forgot his name, Ryan something.

00:00:45.620 I've triggered all the simps at the Daily Wire, obviously.

00:00:48.740 There was, I found out about this today.

00:00:51.740 There was some show that wanted me to call in to,

00:00:55.860 and he said, this guy has beef with you.

00:00:58.000 And I didn't even know who he was.

00:00:59.940 They said he's like a baseball guy for the Daily Wire.

00:01:03.440 And I thought to myself, the Daily Wire has a sports division?

00:01:10.720 Someone covers sports?

00:01:13.440 Why have I never heard of this?

00:01:15.800 And so there's something about me that just, I guess, triggers people.

00:01:20.260 I trigger simps, old ladies that want to look hot, unhappy wives, and 304s. 1.00

00:01:31.580 That just seems to be the demographic that triggers people.

00:01:36.040 I don't know what it is.

00:01:37.380 I don't know why.

00:01:39.080 But, you know, they make Pearl the bad guy. 0.96

00:01:41.740 And I'll tell you why, guys.

00:01:43.920 Gynocentrism goes back a thousand years.

00:01:45.900 Now, what is gynocentrism?

00:01:48.080 It's essentially the deference to women.

00:01:51.780 So going to the authority of women. 1.00

00:01:55.840 Now, a thousand years ago, none of this was normal.

00:02:00.760 You know, it actually predates, it really goes back to chivalry.

00:02:06.580 That is the OG feminism. 1.00

00:02:09.380 You know, a lot of people say chivalry is dead.

00:02:11.540 I don't think chivalry should have began to begin with.

00:02:15.960 So basically, 1,000 years ago, it was arranged marriages.

00:02:22.600 So when they say go back to traditionalism, it doesn't really make sense because it's like what time period?

00:02:28.580 1,000 years ago, the families got together.

00:02:31.540 They said, hey, you two are going to get together.

00:02:36.200 And then, you know, the families would get together.

00:02:39.960 They'd get on their lot, whatever.

00:02:41.640 They'd live happily ever after.

00:02:43.940 Romantic chivalry, I forgot his name.

00:02:45.760 I'm going to go over it next week, but there was basically a guy.

00:02:49.000 He was the OG simp, and he was the one who started romantic love,

00:02:54.260 so love based on feelings, emotions, which obviously, you know,

00:02:59.220 men can kind of do that, right, because they can kind of override their feelings

00:03:04.600 and emotions and say, you know what, I committed to that woman.

00:03:08.340 But, you know, you give women a say in this romantic chivalry, 0.70

00:03:12.420 that's when it all went to hell. 1.00

00:03:14.180 That's when it all went to shit. 0.98

00:03:15.760 And so a lot of this stuff is so old that the person that calls it out is the bad guy, is the villain. 0.98

00:03:25.180 The person that says, you know what, no.

00:03:29.060 Statistically, women are not more nurturing than men.

00:03:32.220 Statistically, women are not more. 0.69

00:03:37.700 Oh, statistically, women are more violent than men. 1.00

00:03:40.640 All of this stuff, because for a thousand years, we've been peddling this stuff.

00:03:44.600 And, you know, when it all started, you know, they basically put all of this stuff in the writings, not the violence and that, but romantic, like, love based on feelings and not practicality.

00:03:57.460 They put it into plays.

00:03:59.060 They put it into writings.

00:04:00.820 And so it's really bigger than me, but I'm the bad guy.

00:04:04.600 now guys look at so i just met with youtube today and i don't think i'm ever getting back in this

00:04:12.020 partner program because they told me basically this time around they finally told me what got

00:04:17.360 me demonetized um why i couldn't get back in what was the title they told us blessing what was it

00:04:24.260 it was it was most women something about voting something women yeah yeah i don't know if i should 0.51

00:04:29.960 am i allowed to say it youtube can i say it let's not say can i say what i said can we do that on

00:04:35.380 the website yeah if you guys it's only 10 bucks a month and what i'd really like to do is i'd like

00:04:42.620 to get other creators that have been banned off of everything on the website that that would be

00:04:47.460 like a long-term goal of mine i really want this to be a place you know it's not like you know the

00:04:52.640 daily wire where we're gonna get rid of someone because they disagree with me i don't care

00:04:59.540 I think it's even okay to sign people that maybe have differing opinions so you can have a good

00:05:06.740 debate. Why not? Let's debate. If your ideas are good, let's go at it. So if you can, try to get

00:05:13.400 the yearly membership. That stuff really, really helps us. You'll also have first access to our

00:05:18.380 documentaries. And I want to do it somehow. I want to incorporate some of the courses we're

00:05:25.940 going to launch. Troy is going to do a dating course. I recently am trying to work with

00:05:33.640 Terrence Pop. I know he's got some courses on how to get your kids in court, like that

00:05:41.920 sort of thing. So I don't know how I'm going to incorporate it, but I'd like to get either

00:05:46.120 like a discount or something with it. So, you know, if you guys want to support, it

00:05:51.020 really helps us out here. We want to get a warehouse at some point too. So anyways. Okay,

00:05:58.200 so today's story. Today we're going to be talking about Brett Cooper again. Now I'd like to preface

00:06:05.560 this actually is a stream I hope to help Brett in her future endeavors. I hope she watches this

00:06:11.760 and I hope that my hope is that I can bring awareness to some of these issues so women and

00:06:18.800 men can better report on this stuff in the future. Now, some of my opinions have changed over time.

00:06:25.100 There was a time where I probably wouldn't have picked this up. I probably wouldn't have noticed

00:06:29.260 the patterns, but, you know, I started working on a divorce documentary. And in the process of

00:06:36.480 working on this divorce documentary, I know it's taking me forever, guys, but it's going to be

00:06:40.220 good. So I need your patience. But in the, which is also going to be on the website, www.theaudacitynetwork.com.

00:06:48.800 Anyways, so basically, I interviewed guys that were just completely screwed by the system, where they had a bitter ex-wife that would alienate them from their children, and I would find the same patterns of behavior.

00:07:05.720 I would just notice the same sort of patterns, and I kind of want to go, I can go up there, right?

00:07:15.440 Okay, I'm going to go up there first today.

00:07:16.900 I want to go through some of the patterns that, can you guys hear me?

00:07:23.420 Can you put the chat over there?

00:07:25.840 I want to go through first because I'm going to react to Brett's video.

00:07:30.960 Brett basically, Brett Cooper had a video talking about a deadbeat dad.

00:07:37.880 Okay, so she, sorry, I forgot to take this out from last show.

00:07:43.120 Please forgive my, forgive me, okay?

00:07:46.540 So Brett Cooper had a video where she was covering the breakdancing dad.

00:07:54.280 I'm going to show it to you guys in a minute.

00:07:55.740 But essentially, there was a girl that went on TikTok and said that she had a deadbeat dad,

00:08:03.360 where her dad wouldn't pay for stuff and essentially just wasn't around for her childhood.

00:08:10.240 So here is the girl.

00:08:12.780 Boom.

00:08:13.340 So I noticed this pattern where women especially, men not as much, but women especially, there's

00:08:21.000 a mother and there's a father.

00:08:25.640 And I noticed this through the divorce documentaries.

00:08:29.160 So they were first in love.

00:08:31.480 A lot of times what happens is they're first in love.

00:08:33.540 And then, boom, oh no, they break up.

00:08:37.540 Now, for whatever reason, men can go through breakups and not hate the woman.

00:08:45.520 They can kind of just get over it.

00:08:48.360 So he's smiling.

00:08:49.860 He's like, you know what?

00:08:51.400 This is Bob, let's just say.

00:08:52.700 It didn't work out, but let's just be good.

00:08:57.960 You know, let's just be happy.

00:08:59.080 Now, the woman, on the other hand, how do we handle breakups? 0.78

00:09:04.600 Blessing?

00:09:06.780 Okay, that wasn't the answer I was looking for.

00:09:14.380 Okay, okay.

00:09:15.400 How do we, all right, not that one.

00:09:18.260 How do we handle, you know, how do we speak about our exes?

00:09:23.380 Do we, yeah, now, do the men typically trash their exes the same way? 1.00

00:09:29.060 Yeah, so this is what I noticed.

00:09:30.980 Now, I spoke to divorce attorneys,

00:09:32.780 And the general consensus is nine out of ten times the woman does this and not the man.

00:09:40.100 So this is the first step the woman does. 0.99

00:09:42.500 So first, and she often does this before the marriage ends, okay? 0.73

00:09:50.140 What she'll do is she'll trash the father. 1.00

00:09:54.760 Now, oftentimes, she will spread rumors at school, maybe, to their mutual friends.

00:10:06.200 So just imagine, I'm, you know, the couple is together, and obviously the wife is kind

00:10:14.460 of bitter, and, you know, the husband's happy, and then they go hang out with some pals.

00:10:20.100 There's, like, this couple, a bunch of pals over here.

00:10:25.040 And so what the woman does is the woman starts talking bad. 0.99

00:10:29.320 So maybe she drops the kid off at school and tells all the moms at school that he is evil, abusive, and terrible.

00:10:38.240 Now, oftentimes, these stories lack complete context.

00:10:43.800 So oftentimes what they'll do, and now, is this always intentional?

00:10:47.240 a lot of the times yeah but i don't think it always is sometimes i think women get so emotional 0.99

00:10:54.460 you know they just get so mad and they only you know we're so narcissistic now we only see our

00:11:00.420 point of view right so she might say okay like one time i interviewed her i was speaking to a woman

00:11:08.060 and she told me that her ex was a bum right she said my ex and i and so i i just asked and this 0.83

00:11:14.940 is what you guys got to learn to do ask questions so I said did he have a job yeah so how was he a

00:11:23.800 bum did he not did he pay for like the bills yeah but only half okay so he wasn't a bum okay um 0.92

00:11:33.700 another girl you know she she said my ex pushed me down the stairs and I thought okay yeah well

00:11:42.160 you know and you always have to ask this question like why did he do that you know it's not like

00:11:46.000 you know I see blessing every day right hi blessing and you've never pushed me down the

00:11:50.800 stairs right blessing nah and so typically you know it's not like women are these sweet little 1.00

00:11:57.700 angels that just do nothing and don't you know contribute to the situation now sometimes I don't

00:12:04.480 think it's intentional sometimes I think women you know we just see our point of view whatever

00:12:08.740 But anyway, so when she's chatting to her friends,

00:12:12.140 and we'll get to the daughter later.

00:12:14.660 When she's chatting to her friends,

00:12:17.120 she'll only say one side of the story, you know?

00:12:20.960 Another thing, for example, is another one I've heard,

00:12:23.700 is my father wasn't around.

00:12:25.540 So the daughter will say, my dad, just he wasn't around at all.

00:12:28.920 He was gone.

00:12:30.240 He was, ah, the worst.

00:12:32.980 And then do you know what I would find out?

00:12:34.300 I'd say, well, what was he doing?

00:12:37.080 Working.

00:12:38.120 what you don't want the father to provide so he was doing what he was supposed to do and then

00:12:45.920 oftentimes the mothers because they're evil not all not all not all but you know they're evil so

00:12:52.880 that what they'll do is they'll say well that's not an excuse working to not be there

00:12:59.560 anyways um another one i've heard is the women will they'll say oh back to the pushing down 1.00

00:13:11.700 the stairs so the women said oh i got pushed down the stairs and so i said what happened you know

00:13:16.140 and she said well he wanted me to leave and so i was like wait so he told you to like where were

00:13:21.900 you will his house and we were in front of his daughter like i got that out of her somehow and

00:13:26.920 I just thought, so you were trespassing?

00:13:33.140 I mean, you know, blessing.

00:13:35.420 If I want you to leave, you know, and you refuse to leave,

00:13:39.680 I reserve the right to push you, okay?

00:13:42.860 Yeah.

00:13:44.100 You know, I'm just like, I think blessing's a pretty cool guy.

00:13:47.200 You wouldn't do me like that, right?

00:13:48.840 Nah.

00:13:49.760 If I said get out, you'd go, right?

00:13:52.720 I will.

00:13:54.000 What the?

00:13:54.520 Moonwalk out of here.

00:13:55.440 all right you know whatever so whatever so anyway so the mother will chat chat chat to all these

00:14:05.440 people so she might do this like two to three years in advance so then okay she goes maybe 1.00

00:14:13.060 she chats to the wrong person and then she goes to a and it could be a school counselor

00:14:20.540 a lawyer um sometimes it's even a doctor right and they say oh no you've been and by the way

00:14:33.040 what they also do is they change the definition of abuse so there's abuse

00:14:38.900 now when now abuse used to be if blessing came over and punched me that would be abuse right 0.88

00:14:46.320 blessing yeah but now women has changed abuse to behaviors we don't like so now 1.00

00:14:56.520 this has included emotional abuse

00:15:04.380 financial blah blah blah okay so that in family court they've switched it so it

00:15:10.320 It used to be one person's hitting the other, unreciprocated, whatever.

00:15:16.520 Now they've switched it to emotional abuse, financial abuse,

00:15:19.640 coercive control.

00:15:20.500 They've added all these words that just to confuse you, they don't mean anything.

00:15:24.040 Anyway, so they go to, a lot of times they'll go to a women's shelter, 1.00

00:15:27.320 a lawyer, whatever, and they'll give them a story to tell everybody.

00:15:32.400 So blessings from Zimbabwe.

00:15:36.920 So they might say the men in Zimbabwe are, I don't know what the,

00:15:42.760 coercively controlling or whatever.

00:15:45.180 Okay, it doesn't matter.

00:15:46.520 They'll come up with some story.

00:15:48.120 It might fit the culture.

00:15:49.060 So anyway, so now oftentimes the next thing is they bring,

00:15:56.300 they're building a case against the guy.

00:15:58.720 So they'll put clips to social media.

00:16:01.100 Now we saw this in the Crowder case, you know,

00:16:04.280 and oftentimes it's like imagine.

00:16:06.260 Imagine if I hit Blessing 10 times and then he hit me back once, all right?

00:16:12.200 Now, you would never do that, right, Blessing?

00:16:14.880 Nah, and, Pell, we just got a $50 superchild on the website.

00:16:19.120 Oh, thank you.

00:16:20.120 From Timoyd M. of Engle.

00:16:23.600 Timoyd, thank you so much.

00:16:26.460 Now, oftentimes when, you know, women post clips to the Internet for two reasons. 1.00

00:16:33.660 One, they're emotional and mad and, like, you know, whatever, you know.

00:16:38.320 But sometimes it's to run a story, right?

00:16:43.060 So it's, you know, it's to build a case against the guy for this, okay?

00:16:51.140 So if I hit blessing ten times and then I cut that off

00:16:56.620 and then the one time he punched me in the face, I put that on social media,

00:17:01.080 well everybody would call me a poor abused soul right blessing oh yeah I'll be done yeah don't 0.97

00:17:11.840 do that okay I won't actually but you guys get the point so we get we trash they trash the father

00:17:19.440 with rumors they go around um they go to the counselor the lawyer they claim abuse clips

00:17:25.800 to social media. They might even go to his job, take the clips, bring it to his job, whatever.

00:17:33.140 And then five, oh, use kid as a pawn and ruin the reputation with the kid. Now, what I found

00:17:51.160 in my line of work, is that typically the father just wants to get along

00:18:00.460 and raise the kid together, where the mother typically tends to want 1.00

00:18:05.940 to ruin the relationship so they would have a happy relationship,

00:18:09.900 you know, happy relationship between these two.

00:18:14.380 And the mother says, no, no.

00:18:18.260 So now the problem is mothers get custody 90% of the time. 1.00

00:18:24.600 They get child support.

00:18:26.080 They get alimony.

00:18:27.080 So they're paid, and this is all based on how much the dad can see the kid.

00:18:31.980 So if you're a mom and you're not trying to work too much

00:18:35.360 and you get an extra, I don't know, two grand a month

00:18:39.320 to not let the dad see the kid, well, what are you going to do?

00:18:43.600 Maybe you just like your kid, you want to see it,

00:18:45.620 But other times it's just because, you know, she hates the dad.

00:18:49.900 So a lot of times the mother's hatred for the father is greater than her love for the child.

00:18:57.780 And I really, anybody that doesn't like their dad, please, I am begging you, get his side of the story.

00:19:08.560 And we're going to show you why this show.

00:19:11.700 Women lie. 1.00

00:19:12.720 Now, knowing that the mother has the kid 90% of the time, 80%, maybe every other weekend, what does that mean, guys?

00:19:26.020 She can be in her ear constantly, constantly.

00:19:32.120 How is the father supposed to compete with, you know,

00:19:37.260 the mom can tell 10 stories for two weeks straight

00:19:41.020 and then the father maybe gets every other weekend to clear his name?

00:19:46.740 How is he going to do that?

00:19:49.400 I mean, that's a tough one.

00:19:51.060 I see what you guys do to me.

00:19:52.320 And by the way, by the way, you'll notice that women 1.00

00:19:56.140 use the same reputation destruction in the media.

00:19:59.900 there's many ways that women do this okay yeah there's many ways but basically 1.00

00:20:11.120 that's it so typically what I have found oh and six they'll play the poor single

00:20:19.640 mother card then they'll go get attention and fame and 0.73

00:20:27.500 say oh my life is so hard because I'm a single mother even though it was my

00:20:31.580 choice and a lot of times too if the women get divorced you got to ask them

00:20:35.600 why they got divorced you have to ask the dad because a lot of times the woman 1.00

00:20:39.140 doesn't tell the other side of the story. Okay looking at the chat

00:20:48.440 Edward Wilson okay well I'll throw it we're going back to here so now how does

00:20:53.660 does that, how does that lead me? Hello, over here. How does that lead me to today? Oh my

00:21:06.920 gosh this cord is no sorry guys the what the I told you I'm not a cord person okay

00:21:25.000 we're back I undid it ah all right so now remember Brett I'm hoping Brett

00:21:36.080 watches this. I'm hoping this can help her. Remember, Brett, divorce lawyers say this happens

00:21:44.240 90% of the time with the mother. So the mothers typically do this. So that means if something 0.87

00:21:52.800 like this happens, there is a 90% chance that that's what's happening. So notice her coverage

00:22:02.520 on this it's a gynocentric leaning because again we have been told for a thousand years that women 1.00

00:22:08.800 are the innocent ones women are the non-violent ones women are the ones better with the children 0.99

00:22:16.040 if a woman cries she probably lies that's what it should be anyways um okay let's pull this up 0.99

00:22:32.520 I can't hear it okay now again again I'm hoping my my whole hope with this is to

00:22:47.520 bring awareness to child and parental alienation so people can wake up it is

00:22:52.980 the saddest thing when people hate their dads for no reason okay that that is my

00:23:00.060 whole aim with this. Welcome back to the comment section. I'm Brett Cooper. So one of the core

00:23:06.700 types of comedy, of humor, is irony. And sometimes the internet delivers the best examples of this.

00:23:12.460 And if you watch the show regularly, you know that we talk about- Oh, and by the way, Brett,

00:23:15.280 they're trying to use people like me and people like you. The women, show the whiteboard again. 1.00

00:23:21.500 Show the whiteboard one second. They're trying to use us to do this, right? So women, they know 1.00

00:23:28.700 that if they they're the damsel in distress yada yada they know that like we'll pick it up and at

00:23:33.860 one point i probably would have had the same take until i figured out the truth okay go back

00:23:38.920 yes there are so many things in the real world right now that are so incredibly ironic i was

00:23:43.700 literally saying this in an episode yesterday but i think that reality is far more funny than

00:23:48.320 anything that tv has produced in years like watching things unfold online is just so much

00:23:53.680 more entertaining at this point and while what we're about to talk about is funny it can also

00:23:57.420 explain a lot about young women and feminism today so before we get into it make sure that

00:24:00.700 you like this video subscribe to the channel if you've not already and ring that notification bell

00:24:04.380 so that you never miss a comment section or one of our live streams all right so a few months ago

00:24:07.820 a video went viral on tiktok and on twitter of a girl sharing a story time of the date that she

00:24:11.740 just had and she quickly became coined the factory reset girl because in this video she claims that

00:24:16.620 she's a feminist she's you know bisexual she's dated girls she's dated like softer guys okay so 0.99

00:24:20.780 that's red flag number one so just just so you know brett when you um have a chick that's super 0.98

00:24:27.900 liberal it usually means a weak father who wasn't holding frame in the relationship and a strong

00:24:36.540 influence from the mother okay is and that or a single mother like either or she randomly went

00:24:42.940 on a date with a chad a dude's dude a bro's bro the broest of the bros and she said that the

00:24:49.020 feminism left her body let's watch i went on a date this week and i felt the feminism leaving my 1.00

00:24:55.260 body i live on the east side of la and if you don't know what that means it's sort of like the

00:24:59.100 artsier part of la you know it's it's people say it's like brooklyn and new york it is so hipster

00:25:04.860 i cannot even tell you like that is the most hipster part of la it's the rich artists that

00:25:12.300 hate that they have money so they live in this area so that they can be like cool and kind of

00:25:16.220 cosplay is poor because oh I'm a hipster I live in like Southern Park I live in this part yeah no

00:25:21.280 you are so rich you live in LA you have a really nice loft apartment you just don't want to live

00:25:26.000 in Beverly Hills that's the kind of people there okay go on dates with a lot of men and women who

00:25:30.060 you know live over here there's always a negotiation about who pays and that's great I like to pay for

00:25:34.640 people all that but what I will say is that I sort of fell into going on a date with the most

00:25:42.980 guy's guy i've ever been on a date with and he's from west west you know santa monica he's a bro

00:25:48.880 right a guy's guy is usually not my type like i cannot remember the last time that i went on a

00:25:54.260 date with like a straight bros bro you know what i'm saying but it befell me it befell me in an

00:25:59.880 organic fashion organic fashion almost like you're biologically inclined to like that but if you just

00:26:08.140 let your guard down that actually might be what women are interested in great they're not interested 1.00

00:26:13.220 in that so that's wrong if women rewarded chivalry men would do it more and and that's the thing 0.97

00:26:20.020 women do not reward the nice guys let me just i'm on this date with this guy and the thing about a 1.00

00:26:28.040 guy's guy is he's putting his card down he's paying for everything and i really just it sort

00:26:35.240 have activated something feral in me i'm not gonna lie he went to like another bar and he went he was

00:26:40.840 gonna go to the bathroom so i was getting prepared to pay for our drinks because he's been paying

00:26:44.760 all night of course i'm gonna pay for the next round but as he's going to leave for the bathroom

00:26:49.160 he turns to me and he hands me his credit card and okay we don't care blah blah blah but the

00:26:54.680 bar is literally oh god i'm interested it's wild somebody commented and said haha i love

00:26:59.880 okay sorry i just i don't i don't care about the the date we're gonna keep going

00:27:05.240 all right feminism okay and want men to actually act like men crazy now this girl is a comedian 0.80

00:27:11.940 and based on the tiktoks that she has posted since december which is when that video came

00:27:15.540 out and went viral she's definitely not become some kind of hyper feminine trad con like in the 1.00

00:27:19.900 caption of that video she was like guys don't worry i checked his politics before going out i'm not

00:27:23.980 gonna become some conservative he's not conservative he's just like a guy's guy

00:27:27.240 oh before hooking up with him but we do see a lot of truth through humor which is why i love

00:27:34.420 this story and obviously this man and this date stood out to her and apparently according to

00:27:38.760 videos posted last week they are still going out she's continued to date him she's continued to

00:27:43.240 talk about him she talks about this guy's guy all the time and every one of the videos about him is

00:27:46.360 like is this masculine guy okay it's not wrong to like being taken being a guy's dad there we go

00:27:54.260 recently until not the b posted this article yesterday and they said this girl's dad abandoned

00:27:59.540 his wife and four kids to pursue break dancing and doesn't she look familiar it's the same girl

00:28:05.540 read that headline again this girl's dad abandoned his wife and four kids to pursue break dancing

00:28:10.940 and guys this story is insane she posted it on tiktok she did a whole story time about it

00:28:15.140 we just have to watch what's a piece of trauma that you have that's funny it has to actually

00:28:19.660 be funny i'll go first my dad abandoned my family when i was five years old that is um a wife and

00:28:26.460 four kids he abandoned us and then pursued amateur break dancing and he got so let's just think about

00:28:33.740 that does that sound real okay well really good he like blew up like he became like a d-list

00:28:47.100 celebrity status like viral break dancer he became like the oldest actively competing break dancer

00:28:51.580 in the world and he got on good morning america and talk shows and washington post wrote about

00:28:55.900 him and he went super viral and he did all these interviews and he danced with paul abdul and here

00:29:00.300 i'll show you let's see take a look at this 60 year old break dancer yes 60 years i mean it's

00:29:07.660 impressive amazing that's ben hart he's competing at a break dancing competition in philadelphia

00:29:14.840 and he may not have won but he i tell you what he is winning over a lot of people on the internet

00:29:18.920 he really is yeah he's winning a lot of people on the internet this guy wouldn't pay my medical bills

00:29:27.160 now we just gotta we gotta think critically here

00:29:31.720 does he look like i mean if we google you'll see his face in a little bit but does he

00:29:35.800 look like a deadbeat

00:29:38.280 does that what he looks like 0.98

00:29:42.220 the worst part damn it yeah the biggest thing they say you can't read a book by its cover 0.91

00:29:51.280 you certainly can tell a lot by a cover let me that is the worst advice anyone's ever told me 0.96

00:29:57.400 in my life he should not be able to move his body like that it's like impossible it's beautiful

00:30:02.940 hey dad like there was no split custody or anything like he just like left

00:30:09.320 so that's red flag number three there was no split custody why

00:30:13.820 she didn't see him why

00:30:17.740 okay why these are the questions we got to ask it's to do that you may not have paid for some

00:30:26.720 of my medical bills growing up oh my god i just she's wearing one of his now this

00:30:30.400 Because if it was a divorce with a D, that means 90% of the time the woman gets alimony and child support. 1.00

00:30:42.320 And they get a good percentage of the marital assets.

00:30:47.020 So again, if you don't know what to look for, you wouldn't know.

00:30:55.180 but my hope is that this helps other reporters report this better in the future

00:31:00.460 oh my god i just noticed it did because again you know if you look at the i'd have to go back

00:31:06.700 but i don't want to lose my time the the thumbnail it said deadbeat dad so again

00:31:11.360 that's engaging in the same reputation destruction right it's breakdancing merchandise so that's him

00:31:17.940 he's on his head benihana is his b-boy name because his name is ben hart you know i'll get

00:31:22.000 texts like this happy birthday you know and then this is the second question you know real deadbeat

00:31:29.980 dads they don't really want much to do with the kids when they're older either why why would they

00:31:34.920 so if he's texting happy birthday i mean this out this looks like that's so cute it looks like a

00:31:41.400 text my dad would send you know so this is just kind of what you got to look for question mark

00:31:47.940 and then like links to his to his breakdancing videos if you have funny trauma like actual

00:31:53.060 funny haha trauma i need to hear it i mean that is wild that objectively is very funny now i know

00:32:00.100 that she did include some videos of his breakdancing but this one just made me laugh

00:32:04.020 so hard this was in a random comment section this is him in 2019 yeah so again back to the

00:32:09.540 does this look like a deadbeat and the thing is like we got to offer corrections especially you

00:32:14.900 You know, we're bound to get this wrong.

00:32:17.800 But again, that's like a terrible thing to say, you know?

00:32:23.980 It's the same reason I keep asking Candace Owens

00:32:26.140 to retract what she said about Crowder.

00:32:27.780 I don't think she ever will, but it's like, you know.

00:32:35.820 In front of the White House.

00:32:38.860 Oh, there he goes.

00:32:39.860 Yup, that is her father.

00:32:42.500 What a man.

00:32:44.900 I'm just imagining him like setting up the camera

00:32:47.340 and it's just making me cringe so hard.

00:32:50.360 You know, I think as he's aged a little bit,

00:32:52.040 he's lost, he's lost some of the talent.

00:32:54.620 I think he peaked very quickly and then lost it

00:32:56.920 because that basically just looked like a cockroach

00:32:58.520 running around.

00:32:58.960 Now, somebody said all the news stories

00:33:00.440 calling him the breakdancing dad

00:33:02.000 when he was a total deadbeat.

00:33:03.340 Peek, peek. 0.93

00:33:04.080 I mean, would you expect anything less from our culture?

00:33:06.280 Like seriously?

00:33:06.840 see this is the same thing

00:33:15.000 girl says story we just believe right i mean it's no surprise because this is the same culture

00:33:26.540 where 70 of women who get abortions say that they did it because they felt pressured or

00:33:30.420 Oh no, dear God. Brett, you gotta stop believing these chicks. Women get abortions because they want to. Men have zero say in abortion. And they also can Google what an abortion is. It's not hard to find. If Google doesn't put it up, you can go to other websites. No, no, no, no, no. 1.00

00:33:55.840 by their partner and that is where pre-born steps in okay to hear her

00:33:59.460 don't care don't care what makes you think that they're going to stay and not walk out on their

00:34:06.180 kids and when they are the most reborn.com slash brett i mean if our society does not even value

00:34:12.040 children when they are the most innocent and then we gotta ask this question okay who is society

00:34:19.060 Who controls the culture? 0.90

00:34:21.720 Women make 80% of consumer buying decisions. 1.00

00:34:25.500 Women are the ones with the kids the most. 1.00

00:34:28.540 If the culture is one way, it's because it's catering to women. 1.00

00:34:31.920 Even the increased sexuality that's catering to women. 0.90

00:34:34.940 If you look at a men's action film, I mean, yeah, there might be like one hot chick in it, like Megan Fox, you know, Transformers. 1.00

00:34:43.100 But Transformers wasn't about Megan Fox, wasn't about the romance.

00:34:46.620 women watch 50 shades of gray you know most precious what makes you think that they're 0.98

00:34:57.200 going to stay and not walk out on their kids for freaking break dancing like none of this

00:35:01.380 is a shocker sadly if you look up ben hart it's like the washington post article is talking about

00:35:05.940 his family and you know being the break dancing dad good morning america called him the break

00:35:09.520 dancing dad like everything was about his role as a father when he was literally not being a father

00:35:14.920 at all another person said imagine leaving your family just to pursue your new hyper fixation for

00:35:19.220 break dancing somebody else said so and then my question is you know he issued the second video

00:35:24.600 i knew exactly what happened when i watched this it's been a month where did she put out a

00:35:29.120 retraction i didn't i didn't see it if she did let me know in the chat i didn't see about meeting

00:35:34.060 a guy's guy and having feminism leave her body in this there should be a sitcom written about 1.00

00:35:38.320 this girl and her life like literally i don't know if you'll watch this video girl but you are

00:35:41.960 a comic you should write it and if you don't i will because it's absolutely fantastic now even

00:35:45.760 though this story is objectively funny and we can all laugh at this it also breaks my heart because

00:35:49.900 no wonder she was shocked by having a strong unflappable dude let's see it now so who would

00:35:55.040 who would brett be in this um and do my whiteboard again no i don't want smoke guys i'm trying to i'm

00:36:01.760 trying to show you guys the patterns it's not about smoke um you see the the people the little

00:36:08.080 people there um trash the father with rumors so you would be the person that she's telling go back

00:36:16.180 to me she would be the person she's telling the rumors to and i just want to show you guys how it

00:36:20.380 happens so now she heard the story from the daughter who heard the story from the mother

00:36:26.360 and then everyone just believes it without asking any questions we have to ask the follow-up

00:36:35.500 questions you're on a date and do the bare minimum of paying like she's never

00:36:40.740 yeah and again the bare minimum of paying you know women she's not 1.00

00:36:46.660 traditional why do traditional women deserve traditional treatment that's 1.00

00:36:52.480 just entitlement sure if you're traditional you were raised by two

00:36:56.860 parents that are still married you got married young you know how to cook you

00:37:00.700 know how to take care of a household you you're if you're traditional sure I wouldn't consider

00:37:07.020 myself traditional I wouldn't consider most women traditional I can maybe think of five maybe so you

00:37:16.940 know at that point it's kind of just entitlement and that her father doesn't even remember her

00:37:21.540 birthday apparently also through one of the comment sections onto posts and this is another

00:37:25.320 thing. So what they do a lot of times is men and women remember different things about the children.

00:37:32.460 My dad loves me dearly, okay? Look it. And I love my father dearly. But he, that man does not,

00:37:43.180 he doesn't always remember my birthday or like the year. If you ask him like little stuff,

00:37:48.460 It's just not, women remember little details a lot more than men, you know, so a lot of

00:38:00.360 times what women will do as, you know, proof that the dad isn't a good dad is they'll say 1.00

00:38:05.940 things that they are naturally better at.

00:38:07.920 I can't remember the ones that guys are naturally better at.

00:38:11.420 It's like women are better at knowing like the doctors their kids go to, the little details 1.00

00:38:16.440 where men, I mean, okay, I'll give you an example with my dad. If you asked my dad what the score

00:38:21.680 was in my fifth grade basketball tournament that he coached me in, you know, he might not know my

00:38:27.480 birthday, but he would remember that, you know, he'd be, and he would tell me all about, it's so

00:38:32.540 funny. He'll tell me about overtime, but yeah, he probably doesn't remember his own birthday. Yeah.

00:38:38.840 you know this is the this is the thing men and women are just different they

00:38:45.900 remember different stuff this video and about the story I learned that her

00:38:49.280 father has now moved on from breakdancing is a little too old to do

00:38:51.720 the head spins and he's now become a crypto guy a right-wing crypto guy like

00:38:55.640 he was even interviewed by Dinesh D'Souza and he featured this on his blog

00:38:58.580 and I think this is so and then we got it we got to ask ourselves our deadbeat

00:39:02.520 dad's usually this responsible generally speaking like they're you know a crypto guy

00:39:13.960 important point because i think a lot of people on the right assume that just because they're

00:39:17.980 conservative or have conservative values that they will automatically be good parents that

00:39:21.740 that just inherently makes somebody better but just being on the right does not yeah and it's

00:39:27.920 the same thing with the women Brett I mean look at I'm just being honest when I'm analyzing this

00:39:34.120 stuff most and out of the the trad con women uh you're you're the you're the best by far but 99

00:39:42.740 percent of them they act it's the same thing it's like the feminist shame insult guilt need to be 1.00

00:39:51.120 it's all the you know because we women we just have a default programming our default programming 1.00

00:39:57.400 is basically feminism some some are worse some are better but it's you know that you have good 1.00

00:40:04.900 values like you're there's no there's no conservative woman in divorce court 1.00

00:40:09.380 politics does not inherently make you a better person this right here what we're talking about

00:40:14.900 is not about politics i do not care it is about prioritizing your family putting their well-being

00:40:19.820 above your hyper fixation of the month of break dancing like this father walked out he abandoned

00:40:26.040 his family he see again you're saying that as fact it's not a fact and look at look think about this

00:40:32.840 brett 366 000 views and the problem we're gonna get the problem the retraction will never get as

00:40:42.440 many views as the original story and many men can never recover from this stuff never

00:40:50.120 and and a lot of times i just want you to be aware this is the point where a lot of men commit

00:40:58.200 suicide a ton because the woman has trashed their reputation a lot of times they they lose their 0.97

00:41:06.760 jobs a lot of times they're in a bunch of debt they get thrown in jail and we're going to watch

00:41:11.220 the follow-up video because it's perfectly embodying what i'm talking about this is why

00:41:18.300 I will never, never, never, never, never, never tell men that marriage is the answer

00:41:23.780 because I have seen the other side of it now. Yeah. So let me keep going.

00:41:32.720 His four kids alone. Like she was four years old when that happened. He left his daughter

00:41:36.940 without a role model, both for her or for the type of band that she would hopefully find and

00:41:40.440 fall in love with. And sadly, I know you guys know this, but this is not a rare occurrence.

00:41:44.360 In 2022, there were 73 million children in America.

00:41:48.060 And of that number, 18 million of them lived without fathers.

00:41:52.000 And this...

00:41:53.360 Why?

00:41:55.720 We got to think critically here, right?

00:41:58.340 If women are given money to kick the dad out of the home 1.00

00:42:03.300 and to not let the children see the father, what do you think happens?

00:42:08.000 I don't understand why conservatives totally understand this concept

00:42:12.520 when it comes to welfare.

00:42:13.600 If you pay people to be lazy bums, they do it. 1.00

00:42:17.000 If you pay women to be lazy bums and deadbeat moms, they'll do it too. 1.00

00:42:23.180 The deadbeat father, it's a myth. 0.98

00:42:26.520 And I urge you, I urge anybody that's watching that has a poor relationship with their dad

00:42:31.620 to ask their dad for their side of the story and just let him talk.

00:42:36.400 Don't interrupt him. Give him an hour to just explain himself.

00:42:39.500 not include the fathers that are just not present or not active in their lives or absent fathers

00:42:44.000 but are still married like that does not include that that is 25 percent of american children like

00:42:49.040 no wonder we have women growing up resenting men or being okay but see notice and this is why i say

00:42:55.760 she is a gynocentric and it's hard everyone pretty much starts with this it's been a thousand years 0.97

00:43:00.540 but this is a gynocentric leaning because she's automatically deferring to the woman's story 0.99

00:43:08.100 okay oh shit what do they hate them or not trust them or just naturally being attracted to women 0.99

00:43:14.580 instead of men or softer less masculine men like none of this so still you know and and brett 1.00

00:43:19.420 we can't blame female behavior on the men you know there's a there's a girl on my team actually 1.00

00:43:26.600 she had two sisters and they both grew up in the same household they both were in a single mother

00:43:31.240 home allegedly the dad walked out but who knows and one of them is a single mother and one of

00:43:38.440 them is engaged to be married and i i actually think they'll make it i rarely bet on people

00:43:43.360 making it but she she's one of the few and she's actually a really kind sweet person

00:43:47.740 the choices that you make are nobody else's fault they are your fault you can't blame

00:43:57.580 the father. You can't blame anything. It's a character flaw. You know, men are raised in

00:44:04.140 single mother homes all the time. If they commit a crime, it's still their fault. 1.00

00:44:11.100 Should be surprising. Now, obviously, that is not the only cause of feminism, like not by a long 1.00

00:44:15.860 shot, but it is certainly a contributing factor. But the good thing is I have high hopes for this

00:44:20.400 next generation because of you guys, because I read the comments on all these videos. I see your

00:44:24.300 DMs. I see the things that you guys send me on TikTok. I see the stories that you share about

00:44:27.800 your children and your marriages and the choices that you're making for their futures. And it's

00:44:31.100 incredible. All children obviously need their mothers, but we cannot forget fathers. And I'm

00:44:35.040 so glad that we've woken up to this reality. Yeah. Okay. No, you haven't. Um, sorry. I just,

00:44:42.220 guys, I've seen too much. I've, I've seen too much. So now let's see the dad's side of the story.

00:44:48.520 Let's see the dad's side of the story. And I want you guys to, I'm going to point out some

00:44:53.100 patterns here that I've seen. Blessing, can you, would you mind pulling up my phone over there so

00:44:59.720 I can read the chat on it? Just in a second, but I'm going to play it and then you can grab it.

00:45:06.820 Judge Leslie Alden had just sentenced me to one year in jail for contempt of court

00:45:11.560 as part of my divorce. I knew the instant that I saw Judge Alden's haircut that I was finito,

00:45:17.500 here's what happened I had allowed my ex-wife to take 97% of the marital 1.00

00:45:25.960 assets which totaled 1.7 million dollars for her I left myself with 72

00:45:34.000 thousand dollars which was quickly consumed by lawyers inexplicably I had

00:45:39.340 also agreed to give my ex-wife an additional $100,000 in cash above and

00:45:45.060 beyond the marital assets that we had.

00:45:47.500 So my ex-wife was supposed to get $1.8 million, 1.00

00:45:51.060 but I was only able to come up with $1.7 million.

00:45:54.260 I was $100,000 short.

00:45:56.940 The reason I was $100,000 short

00:45:59.480 was my ex had destroyed my business

00:46:02.020 by issuing subpoenas and deposition requests to my clients.

00:46:06.340 So it's so crazy.

00:46:07.240 I sort of predicted this before I even saw it.

00:46:10.580 It's the same pattern.

00:46:12.320 She thought there was more hidden money

00:46:14.060 more hidden income out there for her to find. Now my clients did not want to be part of a nasty

00:46:19.260 divorce litigation, so they ran for the tall grass and ghosted me. My clients were gone,

00:46:25.420 and my income was gone. So then my ex and her legal team filed what's called a show cause

00:46:31.660 petition with the court, asking for the court to put me in jail, for contempt of course,

00:46:37.180 for failing to come up with the final 100,000 dollars due. Also, my lawyers quit the case the

00:46:43.660 day before the hearing because I owed them a lot of money. So I went into Judge Alden's courtroom

00:46:49.740 without a lawyer. The next thing you know, I'm buck naked and getting a full body cavity search

00:46:55.500 by police officers in the basement of the Fairfax County Virginia jail before getting into my prison

00:47:01.580 jumpsuit and chained to 11 other inmates okay let's go back to the beginning and find out how

00:47:08.300 i got into this situation and i touched on this story in a previous video but people in the

00:47:13.340 comments of that video are asking for a lot more detail so here goes and get ready for a really

00:47:19.500 insane story actually beyond insane okay a lot of you in the comments to my recent videos are asking

00:47:27.100 me questions along these lines how can you keep such a positive disposition in the face of so

00:47:32.460 much anger hatred and poison from your ex-wife to the point that she destroyed your business 0.99

00:47:39.020 had you put in jail with help from an insane feminist judge named leslie alden also poisoned 1.00

00:47:45.980 your daughters against you and continues to try to destroy your livelihood even today 19 years 0.98

00:47:52.940 after your divorce, and even though your ex got remarried in 2012.

00:48:00.160 What might her current husband think of all this?

00:48:02.800 Might this behavior by my ex-wife, his current wife, cause a bit of nervousness on his part?

00:48:09.820 He seems like a very good guy.

00:48:12.140 My advice to him?

00:48:13.760 Keep your head on a swivel, and I've linked to these previous videos below.

00:48:18.380 My ex-wife Betsy even wrote two books trashing me and presenting herself as a picture of 1.00

00:48:23.520 virtue.

00:48:24.840 The title of one of her books is It Takes a Parent to Raise a Child, which is a play

00:48:29.900 off Hillary Clinton's book It Takes a Village to Raise a Child.

00:48:33.960 In Betsy's book It Takes a Parent to Raise a Child, she presents herself as this heroic

00:48:39.340 single mother who raised four children by herself after the husband, me, supposedly 0.71

00:48:46.080 abandoned the family. And the title of this book literally makes no sense. Her second book is a

00:48:52.060 collection of newspaper columns she wrote, largely repeating the same theme. She was also all over

00:48:57.460 TV repeating this theme when she was promoting her books. Ketsy Hart didn't exactly write the 1.00

00:49:02.540 book on love, but she does. All right, guys. So I just logged into the Audacity Network chat. I'm

00:49:09.520 watching it now. Sorry, guys. Hello, Dee Miller. Hello, Ms. Ziegler. I apologize. I don't remember

00:49:17.740 my login, so I need a blessing to reset it. Okay, but so you see the patterns, right?

00:49:27.200 Destroying his reputation. She wrote a book. Oftentimes, you know, the book is I am a victim

00:49:33.680 to elicit sympathy. And women, we have to, we have to really have a strong mind to not let this 0.99

00:49:43.560 overtake us. It is really easy in this culture. You know, everyone's, you know, many times if you

00:49:49.740 say you're the victim, nobody second guesses you. And so you could say something that's half true

00:49:55.780 and all of society will confirm it.

00:49:58.940 You know, how is she's a single mom

00:50:03.420 and she's getting 97% of the marital assets? 1.00

00:50:08.080 97?

00:50:10.640 I had a nationally syndicated column about it.

00:50:13.800 Betsy went through a divorce

00:50:15.060 and suddenly became a single mother of four.

00:50:18.500 She speaks from experience.

00:50:20.980 Her practical and humorous insights on family issues

00:50:24.220 are often featured on shows like Fox and Friends and other media outlets.

00:50:29.800 Betsy's new book, From the Heart, is a collection of some of her most popular columns.

00:50:35.200 But guess what?

00:50:35.980 So many women in particular, and certainly children, get really short-shifted in the process. 1.00

00:50:41.840 Boy, they really, really do.

00:50:42.960 You went through a divorce in 2004.

00:50:45.360 What was that like for you?

00:50:46.500 Well, I was devastated.

00:50:47.620 I very much did not want it.

00:50:48.960 It was not my choice.

00:50:49.960 it was not my choice okay but again when women say it wasn't my choice they never talk about 0.99

00:50:58.580 the behavior that often let men don't typically divorce for no reason men are kind of

00:51:05.400 they get a girl that's you know good enough they're kind of set they're good

00:51:11.960 i mean to them it's like too much work to divorce unless you're just being a miserable bit like

00:51:19.760 blessing what would it take you to divorce no divorce never oh no she's cheating on you 1.00

00:51:28.520 she's out okay all right so a lot of times they say it wasn't my choice but you know

00:51:35.440 only there i was with four very young children just 10 down to three and i was sort of thinking

00:51:42.600 oh my goodness what what do i do now fortunately i had a wonderful support network and i had had a

00:51:48.260 wonderful church life and and was already walking with God and then he used that to come in and draw

00:51:53.880 me I think so much closer to himself and over those eight years learned and grew a lot and

00:51:59.540 learned through adversity and to let my children see me in adversity and not have to pretend oh

00:52:03.780 this is all great when it's not and to let them see that pain isn't it you know when you're in

00:52:07.660 the midst of such deep pain yourself and then you feel so um like you have to fill the bill for all

00:52:14.320 of your children at a time

00:52:15.500 where this is very devastating for them too.

00:52:18.200 How did you juggle all of that?

00:52:19.740 I think it's okay to let our children

00:52:21.380 see us when we're broken

00:52:23.060 because so often God works through the broken.

00:52:25.640 Wrong, wrong, wrong, wrong.

00:52:28.160 So women often, what they'll do is they'll, 1.00

00:52:31.700 so go back to the board.

00:52:32.880 I see your complaint, D, about the marker.

00:52:37.080 We'll get it next show.

00:52:38.480 But you see right there how on the board,

00:52:42.200 the... 0.99

00:52:44.320 the trash the fathers with rumors and stuff women will use their feelings as 1.00

00:52:51.220 an excuse to talk to the kids and let them go back to me see them see them 0.98

00:52:56.380 broken as an excuse to trash the dad the kids got to know what's going on the

00:53:01.180 kids will just that they'll like I heard that we had single mothers on our show 0.98

00:53:04.960 tell me that it's they the the kid would just know obviously it's like Woody so

00:53:13.540 we say this is really hard but I'm walking with God anyway that can almost

00:53:17.560 be more powerful I think then look at me I have it all together because one is

00:53:21.520 about God and the other is about me and I want it to be about God and then so

00:53:25.440 many of those columns made it into my book from the heart and with a lot of

00:53:29.360 more backstory and sort of putting the whole story together about making wise

00:53:34.360 choices and relationships about asking for what we as women really want I'm

00:53:39.160 newly engaged and that's very and after eight years as a single mom I'm very

00:53:45.460 grateful so that's all in from the heart until now I've been silent through all

00:53:49.660 this until my 25 year old social media influencer daughter posted a series of

00:53:55.120 viral videos trashing me repeating the same lies she had been told by my ex

00:53:59.980 wife since our separation and divorce in 2004 and 2005 my dad abandoned my family

00:54:07.940 when I was five years old. That is a wife and four kids. He abandoned us and then pursued

00:54:14.220 amateur breakdancing. Take a look at this 60-year-old breakdancer. Yes, 60 years old.

00:54:23.280 That's Ben Hart. He's competing at a breakdancing competition in Philadelphia.

00:54:26.920 This guy wouldn't pay my medical bills. That is not true. This video got 8 million views

00:54:34.260 just on TikTok and tens of millions of views across all social media platforms.

00:54:39.480 So, and I'll tell you how the women lie with that. 1.00

00:54:42.060 So the women might say to the dad, oh, the kid, you know, has this medical issue. 0.97

00:54:48.040 Can you pay for it?

00:54:49.140 And the dad may say, no, I'm giving you a billion dollars a month.

00:54:53.840 Pay for it yourself.

00:54:56.300 And that, you know, that's kind of a funny way how women. 1.00

00:54:59.620 Then Maddie went up with an even more negative second video. 1.00

00:55:02.780 i know my dad posted like a 10 minute video or whatever being like you know my daughter's lying

00:55:08.060 we have a great relationship i have a great relationship with all my kids that's just

00:55:11.340 objectively not true like guys we're all freaking out about this in my family group chat right now

00:55:15.200 we're being like he's so unhinged and delusional we don't know if he actually believes his own

00:55:19.020 narrative or if he's lying on purpose but he's just like a weird guy yeah he said he lived down

00:55:24.100 the street from us that's not true or like if he did it was only for a few months maybe but

00:55:27.960 i don't want to get into this like again like my video was basically like sanitizing the situation

00:55:32.760 and like poking fun at the lightest parts of that childhood trauma but obviously in real life it was

00:55:37.720 a lot more like complicated and traumatic and it was really hard he left us immediately married

00:55:41.960 another woman we didn't hear from him for years and then he would visit every few months and we'd

00:55:45.800 go out to dinner but like he truly had no hand in raising us at all some money growing up i like i

00:55:51.960 honestly don't know the nitty-gritty of the financial situation i really really don't bottom

00:55:55.640 line is this guy was a completely absent father completely absent father and this story blew up

00:56:01.240 all over the internet in the media her dad apparently became like a dealer celebrity

00:56:05.800 became the oldest actively competing break dancer in the world went on good morning america went

00:56:10.680 super viral etc etc but she added that he wouldn't pay her medical bills then comes ben stage name

00:56:16.280 benny hana with a 10-minute reaction video and some pretty good natured corrections he claimed

00:56:21.000 he lived close by after the divorce did pay medical bills child support put money into a college fund

00:56:25.880 to the tune of around five million dollars all in all to cover the cost of the kids

00:56:29.960 and said he saw his kids often when they were growing up but he did admit that from his

00:56:33.240 daughter's perspective as a five-year-old it might seem like abandonment but that in his opinion it

00:56:37.720 was not a totally accurate account whilst we watched his father-daughter union play out in

00:56:41.000 real time obviously elon musk weighs in to tell ben you're awesome i didn't even know but this

00:56:45.880 has got me thinking ben is getting absolutely dragged online with people calling him a dead

00:56:49.880 beat dad and like loads of other grim stuff are these internet call-outs fair like should we be

00:56:53.800 airing our dirty laundry on tiktok because i've seen these happen time and time again and it

00:56:58.120 always turns out that there's another side to the story now i don't really blame maddie for any of

00:57:02.520 this though she is 25 years old and should know better and she's just repeating the lies she's

00:57:08.040 been told by her mom for 19 years now remember the theme of betsy's books newspaper columns and tv

00:57:14.200 appearances she presents herself as a single mom who raised four kids by herself with no help from

00:57:19.800 the dad who abandoned the family no help from dad whatsoever right what betsy always fails to mention

00:57:26.760 as I paid her about $4 million over the years

00:57:28.960 in alimony, child support, health insurance.

00:57:32.480 And men view their money as their time.

00:57:37.200 And a lot of women will come back and say, 1.00

00:57:39.660 oh, but that's not an excuse for you to not be there.

00:57:43.320 No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no.

00:57:46.240 Somebody, somebody has to pay for stuff.

00:57:50.280 You know, my dad worked a lot when I was a kid.

00:57:54.440 He worked a lot.

00:57:55.260 And I'll never hold it against him

00:57:57.980 His whole goal in life was

00:57:59.200 To pay for our college

00:58:00.920 Thank you dad

00:58:03.940 I have no college debt

00:58:04.800 Thank you

00:58:05.440 And this is the crazy thing

00:58:09.700 It's like as women 1.00

00:58:11.080 We're told we're always the victim

00:58:12.740 We're always, always, always, always the victim

00:58:15.280 Life insurance contributed more than $600,000

00:58:18.100 To the kids college fund

00:58:19.740 She also fails to mention

00:58:21.320 That I lived a bit more than a mile down the street

00:58:23.320 From the kids in LaGrange, Illinois

00:58:25.800 easy walking distance sidewalks all the way i saw the kids all the time so no i did not abandon the

00:58:33.640 kids at all betsy and i got a divorce about half of marriages in america and in divorce it's common 0.99

00:58:41.880 and no betsy did not raise the kids with no help from the dad as she's been claiming in her books 0.99

00:58:47.080 tv appearances and newspaper columns she also took every legal action possible to prevent me from

00:58:52.920 seeing my kids, including filing a motion to prevent visitation. During our divorce proceedings,

00:58:59.080 Betsy destroyed my business with her subpoenas and deposition requests to my clients. So my 0.97

00:59:04.120 clients ran for the tall grass. I then fell short on payments. Betsy and her lawyers then filed a

00:59:09.880 show cause petition with the court asking that I be put in jail for contempt of court.

00:59:15.800 So that's what happened when I had the misfortune of entering the courtroom of this feminist judge, 1.00

00:59:21.320 a woman by the name of Judge Leslie Alden. I knew the instant I saw Judge Leslie Alden's haircut 1.00

00:59:28.120 that I was in big trouble, and then when I saw how she looked at me, and by the tone of her

00:59:32.920 questions, I knew I was dead in the water. Finito. Gonzo. Histoire. Another theme of the comments in

00:59:41.400 my previous videos is people want to know more about my second wife, Wanda. Wanda and I have

00:59:46.840 been happily married now for 18 years, since December 6th of 2006. No issues whatsoever.

00:59:53.780 We have a fantastic marriage. So a big part of this video will be contrasting

00:59:57.980 my two wives. My ex-wife, Betsy, with my current wife, Wanda. I'll also be talking about

01:00:04.660 how the family law legal system is totally rigged and stacked against dads, to the point

01:00:10.240 of absurdity, to the point that it's pretty much financial suicide for males to get married

01:00:15.480 today. My hope with this video and my other videos is to help dads out there who are divorced

01:00:20.720 or who are getting divorced to avoid the many mistakes that I made in my divorce because

01:00:26.060 I made every possible mistake in my divorce that it's possible to make. The good news

01:00:31.180 is my son appears to be unaffected by all this drama. And see that's the pattern you

01:00:37.200 tend to see. Men can kind of see through bullshit a lot better than women. So the men, when 1.00

01:00:44.620 there was a divorce they kind of want to stay out of it you know blessing how many times have you

01:00:49.620 heard a chick talking nonsense and you just didn't say anything uh low like what when's the earliest 0.99

01:00:56.420 you thought this girl is full of shit and you didn't say and how old were you earliest at eight 1.00

01:01:03.060 so yeah guys from a young age can just pick up bullshit a lot quicker than us we're kind of 1.00

01:01:10.960 dummies you know even you know even in this video like none of us even asked any any questions to 0.98

01:01:18.120 verify any of this like a lot of everyone just jumped the chick's defense appears to be fine 1.00

01:01:24.080 i see my son peter all the time i met wanda at a karaoke bar and what attracted me most to wanda

01:01:30.600 is her incredible story far worse than i went through in judge leslie alden's courtroom and

01:01:36.740 eight nights in the Fairfax County Jail. Wanda's background is a story of true grit. Wanda is the

01:01:44.180 opposite of privileged. Now I wish Wanda could sit here next to me while I tell you her background,

01:01:49.980 but she doesn't like to go on camera, much less speak publicly on the internet to people she

01:01:54.700 doesn't know. She's sitting in the other room right now watching TV. Maybe I can get her to pop

01:01:59.740 in here later. And it's taken me many years to pull this story out of Wanda. She doesn't like 0.99

01:02:04.720 talk about it because she says many people went through what she did in Laos. She doesn't see

01:02:09.120 her story as anything special. Wanda grew up in Laos, which is right next to Vietnam,

01:02:14.240 across the Mekong River from Thailand. Her Laotian name is Vandalone. Wanda is an Americanized

01:02:20.160 version of her Laotian name. After the Communists conquered Laos in 1975, Wanda's mom and oldest

01:02:26.560 sister, Kamsi, put together a plan for the family to escape to Thailand when Wanda was 13 years old.

01:02:33.360 Wanda's story in Escape from the Communists is similar to movies like The Killing Fields,

01:02:37.440 and first they killed my father. Wanda's deceased mom, Champa, was born in China.

01:02:44.080 When Japan conquered China and was committing genocide, basically killing everyone, 0.94

01:02:49.600 the parents of Wanda's future mom put her on a boat when she was about 15 years old,

01:02:55.040 with a suitcase full of cash, gold, and other valuables. This was probably in 1943.

01:03:00.560 wanda's future mom champa ended up in laos she never saw her parents again wanda's future mom

01:03:07.840 arrived in laos as a 15 year old girl not knowing any laotian but she built a life there she met a

01:03:15.040 guy named on wanda's future dad who is very good looking by the way wanda has two younger brothers

01:03:22.080 two older brothers and four older sisters mom was very industrious she knew the value of gold 1.00

01:03:29.280 so she started a cash for gold business mom also made food products mostly baked goods and sold

01:03:35.600 them at the local market she put the kids to work in this business including wanda mom also bought 1.00

01:03:41.760 a bus and started a bus service wanda's father and wanda's oldest brother sakta would drive the

01:03:48.480 bus and the bus had a route people would get on the bus at various stops and go to the market in

01:03:54.320 Paxay. So this was a third profitable business for the family. Wanda's father also worked as a

01:03:59.840 delivery truck driver for the government when the French were running Laos, before the communists

01:04:05.120 took over. The driving entrepreneurial force in the family was Wanda's mom. She made enough 1.00

01:04:10.800 money with her baked goods, cash for gold business, and shuttle bus business that Wanda's family was 0.99

01:04:16.320 able to buy two houses, paid for the houses with cash. There was no such thing as a mortgage in

01:04:21.680 Laos, at least not that they knew about. The house they lived in overlooked the great Mekong River.

01:04:27.600 The other house was for their extended family. So they got to be very well off financially by

01:04:32.640 Laotian standards of that day. Then the communists conquered Laos. Okay guys, I'm going to skip like

01:04:37.540 10 minutes of this. It is a really great story. I do recommend you watch the whole thing,

01:04:44.140 but it doesn't really

01:04:46.500 matter as much to

01:04:48.120 the, she has 0.60

01:04:50.320 a really incredible story, it's really great

01:04:52.400 but I'm gonna, okay

01:04:54.360 we're gonna go back here. Watching

01:04:56.340 their cargo. Wanda doesn't 1.00

01:04:58.360 remember how many there were. She just

01:05:00.320 says there was a big crowd of refugees and gangsters 1.00

01:05:02.560 who had guns.

01:05:04.360 Wanda, her mom, the smugglers, and the other

01:05:06.180 refugees walked for four days and

01:05:08.240 three nights through the Laotian jungle.

01:05:10.460 Wanda said they had almost no water or food.

01:05:12.980 She says she thought she was going to die out there.

01:05:15.620 Plus, if they ever got caught by the communists, they would all be shot.

01:05:19.480 No question about that. 0.73

01:05:21.440 Wanda says, I was so hungry and thirsty, I had ticks all over my body, including one in my eye.

01:05:27.420 Fortunately, I had a wonderful support network, and I had had a wonderful church life and was already walking with God.

01:05:34.300 And then he used that to come in and draw me, I think, so much closer to himself.

01:05:38.820 When we say, this is really hard, but I'm walking with God anyway.

01:05:42.420 And you have to watch how people tell stories.

01:05:48.700 Is it everything happened to me, always the victim?

01:05:52.440 Or is it, you know, like this other chick?

01:05:54.560 Four days of walking, they finally reached the canoes,

01:05:57.000 which were hidden along the banks of the Mekong River.

01:05:59.900 They all went across the Mekong River in the canoes in the cover of darkness.

01:06:03.700 I'm so sorry. I've got to skip this, guys.

01:06:07.340 You've got to watch the whole thing.

01:06:08.980 It's just not too relevant to this part.

01:06:11.480 I just want to get the clips of the mom talking.

01:06:14.440 She was wearing sandals and a Laotian dress.

01:06:17.420 Her possessions amounted to one pair of sandals and two dresses.

01:06:20.880 Fortunately, I had a wonderful support network,

01:06:22.860 and I had had a wonderful church life and was already walking with God.

01:06:27.860 And then he used that to come in and draw me, I think, so much closer to himself.

01:06:32.280 So when we say, this is really hard, but I'm walking with God anyway.

01:06:36.120 Wanda says arriving in America was like landing on another planet.

01:06:39.660 it just looks so different than anything i had seen before she says the family was placed in

01:06:45.040 this woman is hot blessing blessing would you 0.95

01:06:50.400 would you

01:06:53.440 no comment okay freaking okay um anyways so we're gonna skip over it's a long video that's why i

01:07:03.740 kind of have to skip over this part um okay then she talks about Wanda's sons she has no fear

01:07:09.960 Wanda also has two sons from a previous marriage one is David who served one tour in Iraq and two

01:07:16.360 tours in Afghanistan he has amazing stories her second son is John he's also a great guy and a

01:07:23.180 very hard worker he works as a plumber we're very proud of them both okay now let's switch to my

01:07:29.060 legal battles with my ex Betsy. And many of you were asking these questions in the comments to

01:07:34.320 my previous videos. Many of you were asking, why would I give my ex 97% of the family assets at

01:07:40.920 the end of the marriage in 2004, totaling about $1.8 million, and then leave myself with just

01:07:47.080 $72,000, which was quickly consumed by lawyers. And why would I agree to pay my ex $18,000 per

01:07:54.740 month in alimony and support, which was later reduced to $12,000 per month after extensive

01:08:00.520 litigation. And why would I agree to pay child support until each kid turns 22 years old?

01:08:07.380 And these are all very good questions. Okay, so let me give you a little bit more background

01:08:12.540 on my divorce from my ex. Would you guys smash the ex-wife? One in the chat if you would. 0.91

01:08:17.280 more detail than i've previously provided my wife and i got separated in 2004 we got divorced in

01:08:26.680 2005 we'd been married since 1987 we have four children the oldest being my son and then three

01:08:33.540 daughters we lived in virginia just outside of washington dc in fairfax county i'm not going to

01:08:39.880 go into all the issues that led to our divorce but one of the big points of friction was different

01:08:44.680 attitudes we had about money she was a spendaholic frankly now i grew up in vermont and was basically

01:08:51.240 a country boy with pretty simple tastes a big house and big lifestyle were never important to

01:08:56.840 me i often say you can only live in one room at a time why do we need all these rooms what's even

01:09:02.920 the point of living in a house that's bigger than you need warren buffett has the same belief he's

01:09:08.440 worth 140 billion dollars he's the greatest investor of all time he still lives in his middle

01:09:14.440 class house in Omaha, Nebraska that he bought in 1958 for $31,000. I have a similar attitude toward

01:09:22.200 money as Warren Buffett. Why spend more money than you need to spend to have a perfectly comfortable

01:09:27.000 life? I built a successful... There are more ones in the chat that I'm proud of, guys.

01:09:31.800 I'm not, I'm disappointed in some of you.

01:09:43.340 Sorry, I'm going to continue.

01:09:44.440 I agree with him, though, on the money thing.

01:09:46.220 ...advertising agency.

01:09:47.520 I was making quite a bit of money.

01:09:49.320 When we had Peter, our youngest son, in 1994, we decided that Betsy would be a stay-at-home mom.

01:09:56.060 Betsy actually had an extensive work history. 1.00

01:09:58.580 She was working in the Reagan White House when I met her.

01:10:00.640 And I had written speeches for Reagan's 1984 presidential campaign

01:10:04.640 Also for George H.W. Bush's 1988 presidential campaign

01:10:08.920 And I wrote speeches for many prominent politicians of that era

01:10:12.540 In fact, my first business was a speech writing business

01:10:15.500 Someone said, men have needs? 1.00

01:10:24.480 Guys!

01:10:26.860 This chick got him thrown in jail, you'd still go 1.00

01:10:29.920 oh my gosh all right you know what i'm disappointed but not surprised

01:10:38.400 not surprised at all by you guys not even a little bit this then morphed into an advertising agency

01:10:45.020 because i found that i could make more money writing advertisement d miller gets it d miller

01:10:50.960 gets it that's the right answer d and speeches the problem with writing speeches is that once

01:10:58.780 Once the speech is written, the money stops flowing.

01:11:02.160 The only way you can make more money as a speech writer is to write another speech.

01:11:05.820 So you're basically selling your time for money.

01:11:08.500 With advertising, you charge a creative fee, a fee for writing and creating the ad, plus

01:11:13.060 you earn a royalty, or you earn a percentage of the advertising buy.

01:11:17.840 So you create the ad once, and so long as that ad is being used, so long as that ad

01:11:21.900 is running, you receive a steady stream of income.

01:11:25.500 And I can talk about how I set up my businesses in other videos.

01:11:29.040 So my advertising business is quite successful, but I'm not really motivated by money.

01:11:33.480 I just do what I like to do, which is write and create.

01:11:36.660 The money then just seems to flow in automatically, almost without me thinking about it.

01:11:41.800 And this actually goes to my whole approach on how to succeed in life.

01:11:45.320 And that's to focus on your daily process, your daily routine, not so much on the goal.

01:11:50.340 I believe in process over goals.

01:11:53.560 If you have a good process and a good routine, good things tend to happen.

01:11:58.100 So I've written seven books.

01:11:59.980 The way I set out to write a book is not to think about how difficult it will be to write

01:12:03.700 300 pages or 400 pages of manuscript.

01:12:07.680 Instead I set out to write three pages a day.

01:12:10.380 And then after 100 days of doing that, I have a 300 page manuscript.

01:12:14.680 I have a book.

01:12:16.200 The way you run a marathon is one step at a time.

01:12:19.500 think about the 26.2 miles that you have to run to complete the marathon. Just put one foot in

01:12:25.600 front of the other. Just start and then put one foot in front of the other. And keep doing that

01:12:32.160 until the finish line comes in view. If you want to lose 20 pounds, don't think about that goal.

01:12:37.360 Instead, commit to walking three miles a day. And just do that every day. Come hell or high water.

01:12:43.760 This becomes part of your daily routine, like brushing your teeth. It becomes part of your

01:12:48.880 life. Something that you just do every day. Wanda has a relative in Laos who did this.

01:12:55.120 She walked three miles every day. She lived to be 102. That's pretty much how I approach every area

01:13:01.360 of life. And that's pretty much how I built my ad agency. So when Peter was born in 1994, Betsy

01:13:06.640 wanted to be a stay-at-home mom. And I was happy with that even though it meant losing one income.

01:13:11.680 And she still did do some professional work. She wrote a weekly column for Scripps Howard News

01:13:15.600 service, which I think brought in about a thousand dollars a month. Now I was

01:13:19.280 perfectly happy in our townhouse, but because my ad agency was doing so well,

01:13:23.220 Betsy wanted to build a big house in a wealthy suburb of Washington DC, a 1.00

01:13:27.800 suburb called Great Falls, Virginia. We bought two acres of land, very close to

01:13:33.140 the Tyson's Corner shopping mall, and we built a pretty enormous house. Six

01:13:37.500 bedrooms, 6,000 square feet, not counting the basement which was also huge. Zillow

01:13:42.780 currently values that house at 2.5 million dollars. And Betsy was spearheading the house 1.00

01:13:47.800 building project. I wasn't paying that much attention to what she was doing on it. But once

01:13:52.600 I saw the scale and scope of it, I was pretty annoyed and pretty stressed out by it. And I'm

01:13:58.040 told our builder had a nervous breakdown through his dealings with Betsy. After he would complete

01:14:02.880 some element of the house, she would change her mind, saying something like, well, I like it. I

01:14:07.800 like it, but do you think you can move that wall maybe three feet to the left? And she said to me,

01:14:14.100 you know, I know you approved this plan and that you don't want a gigantic mansion, but do you

01:14:19.020 think we could at least make the foundation three feet bigger all the way around? Three feet bigger

01:14:24.000 doesn't sound like much. So I said, okay, really without thinking about it much. And by three feet

01:14:29.380 out, she meant three feet out on every side of the house. And that turned a damn big house into an 0.99

01:14:34.460 enormous mansion. And I really didn't want to be a slave to an enormous mansion. It's not just the 0.98

01:14:39.860 monthly payments on the mortgage. It's the watering system for two acres of land, the grounds crew

01:14:45.340 required to keep up the property, the property taxes, the insurance costs, the cost of maintenance,

01:14:50.800 and so on. And the photo here really doesn't capture how enormous this house is, because much

01:14:56.200 of the structure is in the back. And here's what our old street looks like. Wow. Wow.

01:15:04.460 I don't think single motherhood would be so bad in that house, huh, blessing. 0.64

01:15:15.960 This house was on two acres of land, just down the street from the famous malls of Tyson's Corner,

01:15:21.240 where you will find the Ritz-Carlton and all the high-end stores.

01:15:25.080 So this was primo real estate just outside of Washington, D.C.

01:15:29.540 on Daryl Lane in Great Falls, Virginia.

01:15:31.880 You can look up this street if you want.

01:15:33.500 I wondered what my clients might think. They might conclude they are overpaying me.

01:15:39.020 If you hire a lawyer, you really don't want the lawyer whose offices look like the Taj Mahal.

01:15:43.820 You want a lawyer who looks like he's more interested in saving money, not spending money needlessly.

01:15:48.240 You want a lawyer more like Better Call Saul. Well, maybe not Saul, but you get my point.

01:15:53.860 And I think the same rule applies to an ad agency. Most clients, most businesses think they're being

01:15:58.560 ripped off by their ad agency. Anyway, the last thing you want to do is reinforce that

01:16:03.120 impression. But it wasn't just the house. We also had nice cars, a Jaguar, a big Lexus,

01:16:09.320 an Audi A6. And of course, we had to join a fancy country club. The initial entry fee

01:16:14.740 for this country club was $50,000.

01:16:18.520 50K? I get annoyed at the Soho House membership.

01:16:28.560 I think it's way too expensive 50k plus $800 per month and that's before you

01:16:38.160 spend any money at the club for dinners at the nice restaurant and whatnot back

01:16:42.540 then this club is called Lowe's Island it had two championship golf courses

01:16:46.380 approved for u.s. open play tennis courts a swimming pool and a really nice

01:16:51.240 clubhouse with a fancy restaurant for fine dining and this club was bought by

01:16:55.500 Donald Trump. Of course. Trump loves making rich people stuff. Now called the Trump National Golf

01:17:02.300 Club. And I'm sure the initiation fee for this club today is $200,000 or something like that.

01:17:07.320 I tried to look up the initiation fee, couldn't find it. The website just says,

01:17:11.680 contact the club. Betsy was very much into appearances and impressing our social circle. 1.00

01:17:17.040 Yeah, exactly. Someone put this in the chat. He couldn't say no to her. I see a lot of guys get

01:17:22.460 in this predicament where they're just working a lot

01:17:24.660 and they just don't really want to deal with their wife

01:17:26.600 so they just say sure sure sure

01:17:28.300 and then they look back and they're like what the hell

01:17:30.740 what the

01:17:33.040 and this is the thing like these are the

01:17:34.760 trad con women at church often 0.89

01:17:37.000 that's why these trad con

01:17:38.880 women I grew up around these chicks 1.00

01:17:40.280 they'll play victim and talk about how

01:17:42.800 amazing and awesome they are for years

01:17:44.580 for years

01:17:45.300 D Miller says the modern world has sadly fed the

01:17:48.660 selfish centered instincts of men and women

01:17:50.800 and the same time enabling the abuse of men by women. 0.98

01:17:53.740 Guys, if you want me to read your comments,

01:17:56.440 sign up to the website because I'm reading their stuff first.

01:17:59.400 Martin says, what a great live stream, Pearl.

01:18:01.320 Thank you, Martin.

01:18:02.440 And I didn't like being a slave to the monthly cost of this lifestyle.

01:18:06.320 I was perfectly happy in our townhouse.

01:18:08.880 Yeah, I knew we'd have to upgrade to a single family home

01:18:11.320 as more kids are born,

01:18:12.520 but I was not anticipating anything like the house we ended up with

01:18:16.000 in Great Falls, Virginia.

01:18:18.000 One of the breaking points for me was when Betsy said,

01:18:20.120 you know, we really cannot live on anything less than $30,000 per month.

01:18:25.940 And of course, that would be after taxes.

01:18:28.740 And I'm like, are you kidding?

01:18:31.120 And remember, this was in the 90s.

01:18:32.080 $30,000 a month?

01:18:35.340 Freaking A.

01:18:38.300 My Lord.

01:18:39.900 90s, so tack on 50% for inflation.

01:18:43.560 So that would be like $45,000 a month today, just to cover our fixed monthly costs.

01:18:48.380 So when we say, this is really hard, but I'm walking with God anyway.

01:18:52.240 And it is true that my ad agency was throwing off quite a bit of money.

01:18:55.660 But I didn't know if that could be sustained.

01:18:58.000 I would much rather bank that money than spend it on a big lifestyle with lots of overhead.

01:19:02.520 And almost all my income came from a few big clients.

01:19:05.760 I was not sure if this income was stable.

01:19:08.300 Plus, I think I kind of had imposter syndrome.

01:19:11.200 I really wasn't sure if I had just been lucky to build this business.

01:19:14.780 What if my big clients went away?

01:19:16.380 would I be able to replace that income

01:19:18.460 what if the economy tanked

01:19:20.820 in the advertising business the first

01:19:22.540 expense that businesses cut is advertising

01:19:24.680 guys how much

01:19:26.080 you know

01:19:28.540 because women always say abuse right 1.00

01:19:30.180 how much a month would you have to be paid

01:19:32.680 to take a little bit of abuse

01:19:34.240 just like you know a hit here

01:19:36.260 not saying you did that but you know I

01:19:38.340 you know

01:19:40.660 because the same thing happened with Crowder's ex-wife

01:19:42.760 she was getting like 30k a month or something

01:19:44.760 I mean, how much?

01:19:47.940 I mean, just like a little bit.

01:19:50.560 Yelling.

01:19:51.220 How much of you?

01:19:51.960 Would you take some yelling for $30,000 a month?

01:19:55.200 And marketing costs.

01:19:56.780 The advertising business is very cyclical.

01:19:59.540 Also, income tended to arrive sporadically, often big chunks, then nothing for a while.

01:20:05.500 Plus, I had staff and offices I had to pay for.

01:20:08.340 This just wasn't a lifestyle I wanted to be a slave to.

01:20:11.600 I did not like the financial pressure.

01:20:13.380 I didn't want to be a hamster on a wheel.

01:20:16.520 I would be perfectly happy in a rural setting with a house on a hill overlooking a pond or a river.

01:20:21.840 The kind of house that I grew up in in Vermont.

01:20:24.220 That's my style.

01:20:25.760 And that kind of life can be cheap.

01:20:28.500 The last thing I wanted to do was support a giant infrastructure.

01:20:32.040 Supporting a big infrastructure with big monthly costs is not my idea of living.

01:20:37.020 That's slavery. 0.99

01:20:38.360 To me, the best status symbol there is—

01:20:39.980 And this is the thing, guys.

01:20:41.160 modern day marriage is slavery i know this sounds crazy but this guy was put on child support

01:20:51.740 until the kids were 22 that's over a decade where he has to pay a chick because he screwed her for 1.00

01:21:00.140 a couple years had a couple kids now he's huh huh is a house with no mortgage

01:21:10.960 I'd much rather have a middle class house

01:21:13.220 With no mortgage than an enormous house

01:21:15.380 With a big mortgage

01:21:16.280 This difference in attitude toward money

01:21:18.500 Someone said Pearl can beat me for 30k money 0.98

01:21:21.240 Guys

01:21:23.220 Stop! Stop it! 1.00

01:21:26.480 D. Miller

01:21:27.340 Says I mostly live off the grid

01:21:29.260 With my wife and five children

01:21:31.620 On 26,000 years

01:21:33.380 Wife is insane 1.00

01:21:34.580 Martin says Mr. Hart

01:21:37.320 Has an incredible spirit

01:21:38.660 Despite what happened to him

01:21:40.440 what life should look like created a lot of friction in my marriage to Betsy, who now wasn't

01:21:46.100 really bringing any money to speak of because she wanted to be a stay-at-home mom. Well, she did have

01:21:51.000 her weekly column for Scripps Howard News Service, but that only brought in about $1,000 a month,

01:21:56.260 so basically nothing. And I was kind of wondering, where is all this money going?

01:22:01.760 Why are our credit card balances so high? Also, why do you need a boob job? Why do you need a nose 1.00

01:22:07.740 job i like your nose the way it is blessing what are the seven deadly sins one of them's greed right

01:22:15.980 yeah you see this is this is what always infects women i don't know what it is about us

01:22:21.980 not all not all not all not all women some women

01:22:28.380 dang it do you need liposuction you're not fat at all and why do you need a facelift she's looking 0.90

01:22:36.540 for that next husband your face looks fine so we just had very different ideas about what life

01:22:42.140 should look like despite all these tensions we had more kids which kept the marriage together

01:22:47.900 even though the marriage was not great for a whole host of reasons we were in fights all the

01:22:51.740 time about money and maybe one reason we had four kids was to keep the marriage going i think we 0.70

01:22:57.100 both knew the marriage was hanging by a thread but we both believed in the institution of marriage

01:23:01.660 until death do us part. We didn't believe in divorce. And I have a bit of a different view

01:23:06.980 now. Till death do us part worked fine when life expectancy was 28 years old. But realistically,

01:23:14.360 how well does that work when life expectancy is 85? Hey, if you're lucky and marry the right

01:23:19.600 person, great. But that's a bit of a moonshot. Half of marriages end in divorce. Among those

01:23:26.220 marriages that last, about half those marriages are in big trouble and mainly survive because

01:23:31.500 of inertia i'm not sure what the answer is but that seems to be the state of affairs in america

01:23:36.720 today and the number one friction point in marriage is disagreements about money

01:23:41.280 i think marriage counselors and that's why you always see these trad con guys saying

01:23:45.940 oh well men make more money because they're married well yeah because i mean women a lot

01:23:52.520 of women have a spending problem they got to make more money to pay for this broad 1.00

01:23:59.760 agree on that point if you and your spouse are not in agreement about money i put it at 1.5x

01:24:06.320 speed yeah i'm gonna do that because we need to i'm trying to i should have time stamped it

01:24:11.740 earlier i thought he got to the i'm trying to get to the jail story and what life should look like

01:24:16.860 it's gonna be very tough to keep your marriage together and what's great about wanda is she's

01:24:19.800 a penny pincher almost to an extreme she's a coupon collector and saver if she thinks she's 1.00

01:24:24.440 being overbilled by comcast or some service she'll stay on the phone for hours to save ten dollars 0.78

01:24:28.000 she wears them down. And she does this as a matter of principle. Even though it's really

01:24:31.680 not worth all that time to save $10, I would just let it go. But not Wanda. That's just how Wanda

01:24:36.180 is. Without getting into any more detail as to the straw that broke the camel's back

01:24:39.700 in terms of the marriage with Betsy, I'll just say at this point, we agreed to separate in 2004

01:24:43.320 and divorce in 2005. And I decided to just pretty much let Betsy have all her assets, or 97%. 1.00

01:24:48.020 Total college paid by Ben, $600,000. Total, subtotal child support,

01:24:56.720 set almost a million total assets she got 1.8 million dollars total from ben four million dollars

01:25:07.120 would you take a little bit of abuse for four million dollars okay so where am i signing up

01:25:23.520 like would you take like a beat down once a month for how long for like 18 years 0.96

01:25:30.860 damn for 4 million though what about like five years yeah that's like boxing in it 0.84

01:25:38.700 assets not saying you did not say you did i'm just you know i'm just asking the question 0.99

01:25:46.840 At $1.8 million for Betsy, I kept $72,000. So $1.8 million for Betsy, $72,000 for me.

01:25:54.440 Many ask, why would I agree to that arrangement? Usually marital assets are split 50-50.

01:25:58.940 Well, my answer to that was I wanted to make sure that the kids could continue

01:26:01.560 living at their current level and wouldn't need to downgrade their lifestyle because of the divorce.

01:26:06.200 In addition, I initially agreed to pay Betsy about $18,000 per month in support.

01:26:10.120 That was during the separation. This was later reduced to $12,000 per month after extensive

01:26:14.220 litigation and also child support would last until age 22 for each child in some ways i thought this

01:26:19.180 might be a money saver for me because betsy was such a spendaholic yes the kids would be able to 1.00

01:26:23.500 live at their current level for the most part but betsy would have limits on what she could spend on 1.00

01:26:27.100 boob jobs facelifts clothes lavish vacations expensive landscaping trips to the spa fancy

01:26:32.380 cars and whatnot she would probably have to host fewer fancy parties fortunately i had a wonderful

01:26:36.700 support network and i had had a wonderful church life and and was already walking with god and

01:26:41.340 And then he used that to come in and draw me, I think, so much closer to himself.

01:26:44.900 So when we say, this is really hard, but I'm walking with God anyway.

01:26:47.840 Betsy also proposed something else that I agreed to, foolishly, as it turns out.

01:26:51.460 She asked if it would be okay if she moved the kids to Illinois.

01:26:54.380 Illinois is where Betsy is from. 1.00

01:26:56.080 And it's where...

01:26:56.440 And I've covered cases where the mom will actually leave the country. 0.98

01:27:02.380 Again, you know, when fathers have kids, it's not their kids. 0.96

01:27:06.060 It's the mother's kids.

01:27:07.940 Emily is.

01:27:08.700 I can work from anywhere.

01:27:09.580 I'm a writer and a creative type.

01:27:11.340 So I thought, sure, I'll just follow Betsy and the kids to Illinois, and I'll set up shop there.

01:27:16.120 What I did not anticipate is that Betsy would subpoena all my clients. 0.98

01:27:19.460 She thought I was probably hiding income and more money somewhere.

01:27:22.120 My clients were not interested in being part of any lawsuits or any divorce proceeding.

01:27:25.800 So they pretty much hightailed it for the tall grass, and this pretty much destroyed my business.

01:27:30.240 Meanwhile, Betsy sold the house and moved the kids to Illinois almost instantly.

01:27:34.000 I did not think that would happen that quickly.

01:27:35.960 I thought that was more of an option or something that would take a while.

01:27:38.740 But she moved almost instantly.

01:27:40.360 And because Betsy had torpedoed my business with all of her subpoenas and deposition requests to my clients, 1.00

01:27:45.440 I was not in a financial position to be able to move from Virginia to Illinois quickly.

01:27:49.200 I figured it would take me about six months to be able to move to Illinois.

01:27:52.140 Until then, I would travel from Virginia to Illinois every four or six weeks or so to see the kids,

01:27:56.560 until I could move there full-time.

01:27:58.600 Now, remember that approximately $1.8 million that Betsy was supposed to get at the end of the marriage 0.97

01:28:02.720 and at the start of the divorce?

01:28:04.460 Well, I was $100,000 short in terms of the final lump sum payment due that I owed,

01:28:09.360 in accordance with the divorce decree.

01:28:11.620 So Betsy sued me for the $100,000 that I was short. 1.00

01:28:14.500 I had been keeping up with the $12,000 in monthly support,

01:28:17.460 but I wasn't able to come up with the $100,000

01:28:19.360 lump sum payment that I owed.

01:28:21.040 And for those of you who have not seen the earlier video,

01:28:23.100 I need to repeat a lot of what happened with this jail part.

01:28:25.640 For those of you who have-

01:28:26.280 Okay, this is what I was waiting for.

01:28:28.340 I'm sorry, guys.

01:28:29.640 I need to-

01:28:31.360 When volleyball's over, the show is going to be A1. 0.77

01:28:36.100 I won't be running from practice.

01:28:37.600 it'll it'll be like you won't even you won't even understand the level the level we're gonna get to

01:28:43.480 some of you who are watching this have seen the other videos so you can speed through this part

01:28:48.220 if you've already heard it but I will be adding some more detail here because people in the

01:28:53.260 comments seem very interested in the jail story so even if you think you've heard this before

01:28:58.120 you might want to keep listening I'm adding quite a bit more detail on different aspects of this

01:29:02.960 But I also think the lessons learned from this can help a lot of people by showing dads what definitely not to do.

01:29:09.820 Okay, so it's $100,000 short of the $1.8 million that I owed Betsy at the conclusion of the marriage, and in accordance with the divorce decree.

01:29:18.640 But I was keeping up pretty well with the $12,000 per month in support, though sometimes a bit late with payments.

01:29:24.060 And because Betsy kept subpoenaing my clients and requesting to depose my clients, I had to invent an entirely new business.

01:29:31.840 An online business.

01:29:32.820 you can super chat at the audacity network.com even more helpful would be to sign up for a yearly

01:29:38.900 membership guys we've been demonetized i've been kicked off of instagram three times tick tock

01:29:44.340 seven times at least at lost count um you know it's been really tough so if you guys can find it

01:29:51.140 in your heart steve even just the one month would be great ten dollars a month i pay more attention

01:29:55.620 into that chat and I read it. You know, we have Tom Twain, Mrs. Ziegler, D. Miller. At some point,

01:30:03.820 we're going to add some courses in there. It's going to be going good. Oh, cool. We got a new

01:30:09.600 paid subscriber. We need to get like a button. Oh, a yearly. Thank you, James.

01:30:16.620 I launched an online education program on how to write effective advertisements and how to use

01:30:22.640 direct marketing methods to build your business.

01:30:26.080 This would ultimately be a pretty big success, but this new business was still in its startup

01:30:30.560 phase when I entered Judge Leslie Alden's courtroom on July 26, 2006.

01:30:37.820 My new internet business was starting to get some traction, was turning a small profit,

01:30:43.320 students were signing up and paying $38 per month for the program, but it still needed

01:30:47.880 about six months to build up to a point where it was throwing off significant income. So I entered

01:30:53.300 Judge Leslie Alden's courtroom with no lawyer. In fact, my lawyers quit the case the day before

01:30:58.900 the hearing because I owed them a lot of money. I was pouring every dollar I could find into my

01:31:04.480 new internet business. So this was kind of a triage situation going on. Triage is where you

01:31:09.820 have to choose which wounded soldiers on the battlefield to try to save based on their

01:31:14.640 likelihood of survival. That was my situation. I had to choose what to pay and what not to pay.

01:31:21.500 I had to pay Betsy monthly support, but could not pay her the final $100,000 lump sum owed.

01:31:27.640 And I could not pay my lawyers. I figured they could wait. I needed to pour every dollar I could

01:31:33.340 find into my internet business, knowing that each dollar invested would be returned in 45 days and

01:31:39.860 would double in about 90 days. And this was early in the internet era, it being 2006.

01:31:45.940 And internet marketing was not something I had really focused on until this point.

01:31:49.860 When I decided to launch this, I didn't even know how to build a website.

01:31:52.980 I was an offline marketer, mainly using physical direct mail, postal mail.

01:31:58.660 So I had to quickly learn how to build a website, how to create an email marketing

01:32:02.180 system and database, how to use Google Ads to drive traffic to my sales letter page,

01:32:06.900 AND HAD TO BUILD A MEMBERSHIP WEBSITE THAT COULD BUILD PEOPLE MONTHLY.

01:32:10.580 ALSO HAD TO SET UP A SHOPPING CARD, A PAYMENT PROCESSOR, AND BE ABLE TO ACCEPT ALL MAJOR

01:32:14.980 MARK K SAYS, MAN, YOU HAVE BEEN EYE-OPENING AS A 65-YEAR-OLD.

01:32:18.580 THANK YOU FOR WATCHING, MARK K, AND WELCOME TO THE MEMBERSHIP PROGRAM.

01:32:21.620 WE'RE AT DOUBLE DIGITS ON THE LIVE STREAM ONLINE.

01:32:24.020 WHOO! 0.78

01:32:24.820 CREDIT CARDS.

01:32:25.860 I ALSO HAD TO GET APPROVED BY ALL THE CREDIT CARD COMPANIES TO BE ABLE TO ACCEPT CREDIT CARD

01:32:29.700 payments which was not easy because yeah and that's someone in the chat put this man went

01:32:34.100 through all of this just to be called a deadbeat do you know how hard it is to make two million

01:32:39.420 dollars i know how easy it is to lose money

01:32:46.200 sorry that's not funny

01:32:50.600 horrible by this point had fallen to in the 500s so i had to put up bonds for the credit card

01:32:58.420 companies. It was quite a process. Oh, we got a new subscriber. Oh my gosh. Hey, Kurt. Welcome.

01:33:06.320 I'm a standstill. Wanda was also involved in helping. She was my tech support. She actually

01:33:11.420 knew a lot more about tech than I did. Plus, she didn't mind spending hours on the phone with

01:33:16.140 customer support to have them walk her through how to do all of this. So I entered Judge Alden's

01:33:21.760 courtroom. With one look at Judge Leslie Alden's haircut, I knew I was dead. Finito. Gonzo.

01:33:27.840 I especially knew I was finito when she started asking me questions.

01:33:33.700 I was spending about $5,000 a month on Google Ads to generate students and maxing out my credit cards.

01:33:40.000 And remember, the metric was that it was taking about 45 days to turn a profit on the Google AdWords spend.

01:33:45.900 People would sign up for a cost of $1 for the first month's trial membership.

01:33:50.520 This would then become $38 per month if they stuck with the program.

01:33:55.020 And students could cancel at any time.

01:33:56.800 Later, this business became a pretty huge success, generating about $100,000 per month

01:34:02.240 in gross sales or about $50,000 per month in profit.

01:34:06.720 But it was only generating about $10,000 per month by that point, with about $5,000

01:34:11.500 per month going to Google Ads.

01:34:13.760 To say that Judge Alden was unimpressed with my startup internet business is an understatement

01:34:19.440 to an extreme.

01:34:21.200 And Betsy was in the courtroom with her lawyers. 0.62

01:34:23.600 She was also in the courtroom, seated toward the back where she would not be noticed much.

01:34:28.300 Instead of maxing out my credit cards and spending every cent I could find on Google

01:34:32.140 ads, Judge Alden thought I should be sending that money to Betsy. 1.00

01:34:36.300 The problem with that is, I would have no business and no income if I did that.

01:34:40.480 I would therefore not be able to pay Betsy the $100,000 lump sum that I owed her, or the

01:34:45.840 $12,000 per month in support.

01:34:48.920 With no business and no steady source of income, Betsy would get zero. 1.00

01:34:53.440 I explained all this to Judge Alden.

01:34:55.480 I said, realistically, it would probably take me six months before I could pay Betsy this

01:34:59.140 $100,000, plus keep up the $12,000 per month in payments, all while also building my internet

01:35:05.660 business.

01:35:06.580 It requires money to build a business.

01:35:09.120 But Judge Alden just kept asking me the same question over and over again.

01:35:12.920 Mr. Hart, what is your plan for paying Mrs. Hart the hundred-

01:35:15.920 Oh, my gosh.

01:35:18.580 People don't know how to do math.

01:35:20.240 You know, I got accused of having slave colonizer contracts last year 1.00

01:35:26.840 because a certain someone was too stupid to add. 0.99

01:35:33.680 Sorry. 0.99

01:35:35.520 $100,000 you owe her.

01:35:37.620 And my answer was always some variation of this.

01:35:39.680 This is girl mouth. 1.00

01:35:40.720 It's girl mouth. 1.00

01:35:41.460 Just wait.

01:35:42.180 Your Honor, I will pay Betsy the $100,000 I owe her as soon as I possibly can.

01:35:47.060 And then I'd explain that Betsy destroyed my ad agency by sending subpoenas to all of my clients. 1.00

01:35:52.780 I am now building a new business that's working, an online marketing education business,

01:35:57.440 but it needs about six more months to build up.

01:36:00.880 Again, Judge Alden would ask, Mr. Hart, what's your plan for paying Mrs. Hart the $100,000 you owe her?

01:36:08.700 And I would come back with essentially the same answer.

01:36:11.480 Your Honor, I will pay Betsy the $100,000 as soon as I can. 0.99

01:36:14.800 I just need some more time for my internet business to build

01:36:18.160 Judge Alden had my bank statements and my credit card

01:36:21.200 Yeah, and that's the thing you lose money before you make money

01:36:23.800 You lose money before you make money

01:36:27.900 But again

01:36:28.920 Well, thank you for the new subscriber

01:36:31.680 Uh

01:36:33.940 Oh, it was a

01:36:36.460 Is it a

01:36:37.580 Super chat?

01:36:39.720 Okay, modern women hate their husbands more than they love their 1.00

01:36:43.240 can you read it i can't i can't see it here wait where is it oh it's at the bottom okay

01:36:49.580 never mind women should never be judged no no no sorry youtube i'm sorry most women should never 0.87

01:36:57.560 be judges no 0.98

01:36:59.620 god damn it okay sorry wait what did i do so no wait what did i do okay wait 0.98

01:37:12.660 what did i oh okay i turned off the lighting okay hold on sorry guys i got carried away 0.99

01:37:19.460 um women should never i did it again d you're killing me you're killing me um women should 1.00

01:37:29.080 never i'm so stupid sorry some women some women should never be judges while there are few men 1.00

01:37:36.680 in today's day and age that have learned to judge logically and impartially without emotion 0.99

01:37:40.780 i have not met a single woman that can do so even me i'm still a woman

01:37:48.300 and this is why people always think i'm trying to like

01:37:52.240 say that i'm special or different no i'm still a chick every chick

01:37:59.080 we have a default programming we have default

01:38:02.780 abandon the kids at all betsy and i got a divorce 0.85

01:38:07.820 About half of marriages in America

01:38:09.780 Oh no, did I lose the time stamp?

01:38:13.540 No!

01:38:15.140 $12,000

01:38:16.000 per month in support

01:38:17.540 So all in all, I'm $148,000

01:38:20.560 short in terms of

01:38:22.300 immediate cash due

01:38:23.860 Why the hell did you agree to all that?

01:38:26.320 Asked the processing officer

01:38:27.560 Who was this

01:38:28.900 Oh, did he get to jail?

01:38:29.660 If you had just paid what you owe

01:38:31.600 Oh, here, we're back here

01:38:32.920 And I was still dressed in my business suit

01:38:35.300 when I entered this large holding cell area

01:38:37.360 which is really like a giant...

01:38:39.040 Welcome, Tara.

01:38:40.940 Welcome, Ezekiel. 0.73

01:38:44.420 Okay.

01:38:45.120 ...cage with maybe 40 other inmates in there.

01:38:48.380 The jail door clanks behind me.

01:38:50.780 An enormous 300-pound black guy called Big Daddy said to me,

01:38:54.760 Hey, what are you in here for with that nice suit, red tie, and shiny shoes? 0.93

01:38:59.880 Some kind of computer fraud or bank fraud or something?

01:39:02.360 Oh, wait.

01:39:02.760 We weren't there yet, right?

01:39:04.540 I think we're here.

01:39:05.140 ...part to the custody of the sheriff.

01:39:07.360 At this point, police officers, but there was this big Google ad spend.

01:39:11.980 Okay, here we go.

01:39:12.640 So not much net income yet.

01:39:15.060 Then Judge Alden picked up a copy of a book I had written.

01:39:17.480 It was sitting there on her desk, titled How to Write Blockbuster Sales Letters,

01:39:22.160 which is a great book, by the way.

01:39:24.120 Judge Alden starts reading from the book.

01:39:26.380 She quotes a passage from my book. 0.99

01:39:28.160 The people you were writing your sales letters to are not stupid. 0.99

01:39:31.320 They are intelligent people. 0.99

01:39:33.000 Pretend you were writing your sales letter to Warren Buffett.

01:39:36.000 Anticipate the questions he might have. 1.00

01:39:38.060 The people you are writing to are not idiots. 1.00

01:39:41.140 She then looks at me and says, I'm not an idiot, Mr. Hart. 0.99

01:39:45.820 What is your plan for paying Mrs. Hart the $100,000 you owe her? 0.56

01:39:50.180 And I said, Your Honor, I don't know what else to say beyond what I've already said.

01:39:55.440 I will pay her as much as I can each month in addition to the $12,000 per month that I've been paying her and will continue to pay.

01:40:01.500 but I think it's going to take four to six months for me to build up my internet business enough

01:40:06.080 so I can pay her the $100,000. At this point, Judge Alden said, Mr. Hart, you are remanded to

01:40:12.580 the custody of the sheriff. Bailiff, remand Mr. Hart to the custody of the sheriff. At this point,

01:40:19.080 police officers put my hands behind my back and put the handcuffs on. I'm like, what's happening

01:40:24.800 here? I try to tell Judge Alden, Your Honor, I'm supposed to teach an online class tonight to my

01:40:30.520 students who are paying $38 a month. What the heck? I don't think she heard me, or if she did,

01:40:36.100 she didn't care. I look at Betsy and her legal team as I'm being hauled out of the courtroom.

01:40:41.040 I silently mouth the words, what the F to them? And then I look at Wanda, who is sitting more

01:40:46.600 toward the back of the courtroom, and I silently mouth the words to her, what the F? And Wanda's 0.73

01:40:52.440 looking pretty distressed. I'm walked out the door by the officer. The door is connected directly to

01:40:57.700 a small elevator, which is really a cage as I remember it, which goes straight down into the

01:41:02.840 basement of the prison. And I'm in this sort of cage-like elevator with one police officer.

01:41:08.860 And my hands are cuffed behind my back. I say to the officer, what just happened? He says,

01:41:15.580 this happens a lot in Judge Alden's courtroom. I feel bad for you. The next thing you know,

01:41:21.440 I'm sitting in a large holding cell in Fairfax County, Virginia jail, with a big crowd of inmates

01:41:26.640 waiting to be processed in, to include MS-13 gang members and members of the notorious R-Street gang

01:41:34.120 in Washington, D.C. Some of them look like they were from the movie Menace to Society.

01:41:38.960 And I was still dressed in my business suit when I entered this large holding cell area,

01:41:43.020 which is really like a giant cage with maybe 40 other inmates in there.

01:41:47.780 The jail door clanks behind me. An enormous 300-pound black guy called Big Daddy said to me,

01:41:53.740 Hey, what are you in here for with that nice suit, red tie, and shiny shoes? 0.93

01:41:59.320 Some kind of computer fraud or bank fraud or something?

01:42:02.680 And I said, Nah, I came up short on money I owe to my ex-wife.

01:42:07.280 So I launch off into my story about what just happened in Judge Leslie Alden's courtroom.

01:42:12.680 Big Daddy called out to the other inmates.

01:42:14.920 He said, Hey guys, come over here.

01:42:17.040 You got to hear this guy's story.

01:42:18.720 This story is great.

01:42:20.400 And they all gathered around to listen.

01:42:22.060 and big daddy was clearly the dominant figure in the group his voice was loud and booming plus he

01:42:28.460 was huge i would guess he's about six foot seven i was sitting on the cement bench next to big

01:42:34.040 daddy we were there for many hours because life in jail is not a fast moving process and they all

01:42:40.080 seemed to like me they were all laughing including the guy with the nazi swastika tattoo on his face

01:42:45.840 and they all couldn't believe i agreed how funny is it this guy's hanging out with people the nazi

01:42:50.680 My ex, $1.8 million, plus the $12,000 per month.

01:42:56.100 Someone said Big Daddy was falling in love.

01:43:00.360 Guys, chill out.

01:43:01.960 Chill out.

01:43:02.720 I was still $100,000 short.

01:43:05.120 Well, actually, I was short more than that because Judge Alden had also awarded Betsy

01:43:09.100 attorney's fees, plus interest.

01:43:11.440 So the bill I owed her at this point was $148,000.

01:43:15.200 One guy who looked like a character out of Menace to Society goes,

01:43:18.100 what the F did you give her all that money for and leave yourself with nothing?

01:43:22.760 Then Big Daddy says, here's what you need to do.

01:43:26.140 You need to phone your ex.

01:43:27.960 And you need to say in your sweetest possible voice,

01:43:30.680 you need to say, dear, sweetie, honey,

01:43:35.320 I can't pay you any money sitting in here and then make a deal.

01:43:40.220 And there was one phone in the holding area.

01:43:42.460 But there was a big line of inmates waiting to use the phone.

01:43:45.400 And you needed a phone card to use the phone.

01:43:47.480 I didn't have a phone card yet. Big Daddy had a phone card, which he let me use at his expense.

01:43:55.380 That was just amazing. Big Daddy was awesome. He didn't have to do that. I'm very glad he liked me.

01:44:02.500 I was able to get Betsy on the phone, but this was a little bit like having... 0.94

01:44:06.000 Tara said, my dad experienced something similar. It gets even worse when CPS gets involved and says

01:44:12.160 Your father should only have supervised visits 0.99

01:44:15.700 Because a CPS cunt observed an open Bible in his home 1.00

01:44:19.700 Wow 0.99

01:44:20.160 And I think we're going to do

01:44:22.680 Maybe like one or two call-ins at the end of this

01:44:25.300 So if you guys have a story that's similar to this

01:44:28.440 Feel free to call in at the end

01:44:30.000 With Osama bin Laden 0.58

01:44:32.260 She just kept saying

01:44:33.680 Well you wouldn't be in jail if you had just paid what you owe

01:44:36.320 And she seemed pretty amused by the whole thing

01:44:38.960 Fortunately I had a wonderful support network

01:44:41.100 and I had had 1.8 million dollars Brett please offer retraction on this dear God

01:44:48.660 please please I'm begging you please full church life and and was already

01:44:54.960 walking with God and then he used that to come in and draw me I think so much

01:44:59.160 closer to himself when we say this is really hard but I'm walking with God

01:45:03.060 anyway I also called Wanda to tell her what's happening she's obviously very

01:45:07.920 upset and cussing out Betsy. And I couldn't stay on the phone long because there was a big line of

01:45:13.040 inmates waiting to use the phone. Plus I didn't want to run up the bill on Big Daddy's phone card.

01:45:18.880 Then one of the guards called out my name. And I exited the holding cell area with the guards.

01:45:24.400 I never saw Big Daddy again. What a bigger than life character. A guard put me in-

01:45:30.000 I wonder what happened to Big Daddy.

01:45:31.760 I was seated handcuffed to a metal chair next to an officer who was inputting data into

01:45:43.060 a computer. He pulled up my record. He looked at my record and said,

01:45:47.880 What did you say to this judge to get one year in jail?

01:45:51.500 Wait, I'm here for a year? What for? Judge Alden had never said anything about this.

01:45:57.160 All she had said was, Bailiff, remand Mr. Hart to the custody of the sheriff.

01:46:01.760 That was all she said. Nothing about one year in jail. Doesn't that require a trial and a jury or

01:46:08.380 something? Nope. For contempt of court, a judge can put you into jail for up to one year, and then I

01:46:15.100 guess extend it from there if she wants. So the officer read from the screen and says, well, this

01:46:20.400 says you're here for contempt of court. It says you owe $148,000 to your ex-wife, and you're here

01:46:27.240 for a year. How did you get $148,000 behind on your child support, he asks. And I said, well,

01:46:33.500 it's not really support. I paid my ex about $1.7 million in the assets we had, which was pretty

01:46:39.380 much all our assets, but I still owe her $148,000 to bring the total to $1.8 million in cash up front

01:46:47.480 and at the get-go. I also agreed to pay her $12,000 per month in support. So all in all,

01:46:54.560 I'm $148,000 short in terms of immediate cash due.

01:47:00.280 Why the hell did you agree to all that, asked the processing officer.

01:47:03.680 Who was this judge in your case?

01:47:06.080 Judge Leslie Alden, I said.

01:47:08.520 Oh, that explains it, said the cop.

01:47:10.560 Yep, that judge really hates me.

01:47:13.200 Oh, no way.

01:47:15.160 I can contact her?

01:47:19.960 $475 an hour.

01:47:24.560 DM it to me. DM me if you have the link on Instagram. What's my new Instagram name? It's like

01:47:29.940 just pearly things official. Yeah, but you guys should go follow me on there because I used to

01:47:35.580 have like 400k. They deleted it. Big L. They took that away. It's just annoying.

01:47:41.420 Then this happens a lot in her courtroom. After the officer finished inputting my info and giving

01:47:48.260 me an inmate number, I was taken in cuffs to an area and given a green jumpsuit. Now I

01:47:54.540 said in my previous video that it was an orange jumpsuit, but Wanda reminds me that it was

01:47:58.700 actually green. This was 18 years ago, and I always think of prison. The cops then took

01:48:03.860 my business clothing, wallet, watch, phone, and everything I had, and put it all in a

01:48:07.960 plastic bag for safekeeping, to be returned whenever I get out. The next thing you know,

01:48:13.420 I'm buck naked and getting a full-body cavity search by police officers in the basement

01:48:18.640 of the Fairfax County, Virginia jail, before getting it in my prison jumpsuit and chained

01:48:24.140 to 11 other inmates. We were led to our cell block. My cellmate was a Cherokee Indian who said

01:48:30.580 he had been convicted of 47 felonies, and right now he's in for attempted murder. We actually got

01:48:36.420 along very well. He gave me lots of great legal advice. He told me I would not really be in there

01:48:41.640 for a year. This is contempt of court. The judge is just trying to scare the shit out of you.

01:48:46.680 Your number one objective right now, he said, is to find a way to get a letter to the judge. 0.98

01:48:51.500 You've got to say whatever you have to say to get out of here.

01:48:54.760 And this was no white-collar work-release type program for non-violent offenders.

01:48:59.320 It's clear Judge Leslie Alden really wanted to send me a message by putting me here.

01:49:04.060 There are about 1,800 inmates in the Fairfax County Jail.

01:49:07.180 The way our cell block was set up is there was one common area that linked to six cells where we slept.

01:49:14.520 Each cell has two cement beds for two inmates.

01:49:18.260 On the cement bed is a thin pad.

01:49:20.920 Barely a pad at all, really.

01:49:22.760 And no pillow.

01:49:24.340 And my cellmate was the Cherokee Indian.

01:49:27.120 We would talk for hours in there.

01:49:28.840 Not just about my legal case, but about philosophy of life and all kinds of stuff.

01:49:34.280 We were locked out of our sleeping cells all day.

01:49:36.640 So the 12 inmates in this cell block were in the same small all-cement common area all day.

01:49:43.880 So we spent all day there just shooting the bull.

01:49:46.800 There was one toilet and one shower out in the open in plain view of everyone.

01:49:51.100 And you got used to it after a while.

01:49:53.160 I got along fine with everyone, even though most were in there on serious violent felony charges.

01:49:58.840 We spent a lot of time talking about how to get me out of there.

01:50:02.000 In fact, that was the main topic of conversation.

01:50:05.320 Everyone agreed with a Cherokee Indian that I needed to write a letter to the judge and offer a payment plan.

01:50:10.500 We talked about how much I should offer.

01:50:12.640 I thought maybe $2,000 a month.

01:50:15.260 They all thought that was way too much.

01:50:17.340 Problem is, if you can't come up with the money every month,

01:50:20.060 he'll be right back here, said the MS-13 guy,

01:50:23.000 who was covered in tattoos, including tattoos on his face.

01:50:27.120 Offer $300 a month, said the white guy with a Nazi swastika tattoo on his neck

01:50:31.480 who looked like Charles Manson.

01:50:33.780 I settled on offering $1,000 a month to Judge Leslie Alden and see what happens.

01:50:38.800 Everyone in the cell block thought this was way too much.

01:50:41.780 The Cherokee Indian thought that Judge Leslie Alden would probably let me out if I offered $500 per month.

01:50:47.840 But I decided on $1,000.

01:50:50.080 I wanted to get out of there.

01:50:52.060 I didn't want to take a chance on offering too little.

01:50:54.400 And then maybe have to be there another week or another month or whatever. 0.98

01:50:58.000 I also figured Judge Alden isn't stupid. 0.69

01:51:00.480 She must know I can't pay Betsy anything sitting in here. 0.99

01:51:03.280 And my ex is already getting $12,000 per month.

01:51:06.580 But I could not continue paying that if I'm sitting.

01:51:09.320 d says sadly i won't activate tiktok telegram or facebook because i view them as communist

01:51:15.400 controlled platforms uh twitter is a little better but i'm glad you started the audacity

01:51:20.700 network thank you you know and that's what i'm trying to do i really want this network to be

01:51:25.520 funded by the people for the people i i don't want big donors i don't want you know i i want

01:51:33.700 be able to create movies someday i want to create all of the content that you know is just you know

01:51:42.580 even music someday that's really the vision i see i want to get like based professions based lawyers

01:51:48.340 based there i'd even sign a liberal honestly we want someone to debate what what's the what's the

01:51:54.900 harm free speech you know um we also got a new invoice uh oh that's the same thing okay here

01:52:02.980 so it was in everyone's interest to get me out of there pronto so i could start making money again

01:52:08.100 the problem is tara says so convicted murderers and felons are easier to get along with than his

01:52:14.660 ex-wife could not get a pen we were not allowed to have anything that could be used as a weapon

01:52:23.540 after three days in there i got a visit from the head of the prison the warden himself he came all

01:52:28.580 all the way down to the deepest, darkest hole in the prison to find out what I had done to end up

01:52:33.020 there. Out of the 1,800 inmates, he wanted to talk to me, Ben Hart. I guess he had read my file and

01:52:39.620 wanted to hear the story. So how did you get $148,000 behind on your child support, he asked.

01:52:45.560 And why did the judge put you in here? The warden was talking to me through the bars of a small

01:52:50.500 window in the steel door of our cell block. I explained that I did not get $148,000 behind on

01:52:56.120 my child support. I then went through all the details of how I paid her close to $1.7 million

01:53:01.700 plus $12,000 a month in support, all payments made. But I had fallen $100,000 short on the

01:53:08.200 $1.8 million we'd agreed to. Then the judge tacked on another $48,000 for interest in attorney's

01:53:13.900 fees. Just wasn't able to come up with the final $100,000 plus the $48,000.

01:53:19.700 Who was the judge, the warden asked? Judge Leslie Alden, I answered.

01:53:24.840 That explained it, said the warden.

01:53:27.180 She's a real man-hater. 0.51

01:53:29.460 Looks like you really pissed her off.

01:53:31.800 He paused. He looked at his file of papers.

01:53:34.520 He then said,

01:53:35.980 Even though you've been sentenced to be here,

01:53:38.540 I'm going to move you to work release.

01:53:41.100 Trouble is, we don't have any jobs for you

01:53:42.720 that will help you pay off this $148,000 debt.

01:53:46.100 The jobs we have pay $7 an hour.

01:53:49.100 People who are in work release are there

01:53:50.520 because they're behind on child support.

01:53:52.840 They pay their child support that way.

01:53:54.940 But this is not going to help you get out of your situation.

01:53:57.760 Well, let me see what I can do about this.

01:53:59.700 I can't have you down here.

01:54:01.680 About a day later, guards arrive.

01:54:03.880 They take me to the work release facility.

01:54:06.380 This was low security.

01:54:07.820 I was able to get a pen and write a letter to Judge Leslie Alden,

01:54:10.560 with my proposal to pay my ex $1,000 per month toward the $148,000 that I owed her,

01:54:16.960 plus keep up with my other obligations under the divorce decree.

01:54:20.040 And actually, they would not let me write my letter with a full-blown pen.

01:54:24.860 What they gave me was a flexible plastic ink cartridge with a metal writing tip on the

01:54:29.740 end of it.

01:54:30.740 Right?

01:54:31.740 Metal writing tip on the end of it.

01:54:32.740 And it looked kind of like this, though.

01:54:34.740 I think it was clear.

01:54:35.740 I think it was actually a lot more flexible than this.

01:54:38.200 And it was not easy to write a decent-looking letter with this flexible ink cartridge.

01:54:42.800 You had to try to hold the metal tip like this and then write the letter that way.

01:54:49.720 So I eventually got this letter written, but I couldn't get a guard to agree to take my

01:54:53.600 letter to Judge Leslie Alden.

01:54:55.920 So I called Wanda.

01:54:57.800 And she could not come and get my letter because it's not Visitor's Day.

01:55:00.940 I asked Wanda to talk to the lawyers I had not paid, who had quit my case the day before

01:55:05.540 my hearing with Judge Alden.

01:55:07.920 Lawyers were allowed to visit inmates pretty much any time, since legal representation

01:55:11.960 is a constitutional right.

01:55:14.160 A junior lawyer for the firm came to the jail and took my letter to Judge Leslie Alden's

01:55:18.680 office.

01:55:19.680 I did not hear anything back.

01:55:21.400 I thought, well, I guess I'm here for a year.

01:55:25.280 And I started to accommodate myself to that reality.

01:55:28.540 It's amazing how humans can get used to almost any reality over time.

01:55:32.740 Whatever situation is becomes the new normal.

01:55:35.540 Blessing, can you put the call-in link in the chat?

01:55:37.840 Because I'm going to watch this for a little longer, but I think you guys get the idea.

01:55:43.000 I'm going to go a little longer.

01:55:44.900 You have it, right, Blessing?

01:55:46.780 Okay.

01:55:47.180 Why don't you put it in the YouTube chat

01:55:49.600 And in the Audacity chat

01:55:51.120 So guys if you have a story

01:55:53.900 Similar to this you want to share

01:55:55.400 If you went through the system

01:55:56.620 Try to make the story

01:55:59.360 Condent

01:55:59.880 Unless it's this crazy

01:56:02.440 But don't give me

01:56:03.680 To the point story

01:56:05.680 Baseline for existence

01:56:08.040 And I met some very interesting people in there

01:56:10.620 Including a high powered attorney

01:56:12.280 Who apparently was in there on some kind of fraud

01:56:14.860 But I would say that most of the people

01:56:16.720 in work release were in there because they had fallen behind on child support they would work

01:56:22.100 during the day and the other crazy thing is many are in there also are in homeless shelters because

01:56:29.800 they've dealt with family court this is everywhere guys once you see it you can't unsee it turn to

01:56:36.240 jail at night the jobs were things like pick up the trash on the side of the road wash windows on

01:56:41.940 buildings, hang drywall, manual labor type jobs. And the pay I think was seven

01:56:47.040 dollars an hour. This money would then be sent to the mother of their children 0.94

01:56:50.380 until they got caught up with whatever they owe. Now until then I didn't know we

01:56:54.540 still had debtors prisons in America. I thought debtors prisons in the Western

01:56:58.860 world went out with the 19th century or even the 18th century. Wrong. America's 0.92

01:57:05.500 prisons are patched with dads who have fallen behind on their child support.

01:57:10.000 Now, technically, you're not in jail for the debt.

01:57:12.260 So I guess technically they're not debtors' prisons.

01:57:14.240 You're in jail for contempt of court.

01:57:16.580 If you are behind on your court-ordered payments, you are, by definition, in contempt of court.

01:57:22.160 And even though it's work release on pretty low security, it doesn't mean there aren't rough characters in there.

01:57:28.040 There are some truly scary inmates in work release, one white guy in particular.

01:57:33.280 He offered to solve my problem with my ex for $800.

01:57:36.720 I won't even repeat the details of what he said could be done.

01:57:40.280 So I stayed away from him.

01:57:41.620 Okay, but you see, so Brett, sorry, this was, I need to organize it better.

01:57:47.880 I'm telling you, I'm telling you guys,

01:57:50.620 this show is going to go to new heights when volleyball season is over.

01:57:54.480 Right now I still have a crazy volleyball schedule in there like four days a week.

01:57:58.640 I have personal training, I do a lot, anyways, it doesn't matter.

01:58:01.760 So I'm curious, guys, have any of you experienced something similar?

01:58:05.880 The link is in the chat. It's a Zoom link. Do we have anyone on the line? You just put it in, right?

01:58:16.980 But these are the deadbeat dads of America. The majority of these cases, remember,

01:58:24.980 attorneys will tell you nine out of ten times when a child is alienated from the parent,

01:58:29.080 it's the mother doing it to the father. And what I've seen personally is when the father does it

01:58:36.860 to the mother, it's usually maybe the new girlfriend or his mom in the way. Men aren't 0.92

01:58:44.960 really big gossipers. That's just not a man thing to do. Women, on the other hand, 0.99

01:58:52.420 okay so so the question is what is your divorce story what what is your

01:59:04.080 experience with family courts we have someone up

01:59:22.420 okay

01:59:26.460 hello what's your name hey my name's zion zion zaron like aaron oh zaron okay hi zaron where

01:59:39.360 are you at i'm in uh maryland oh in maryland so what is your divorce story or your experience

01:59:46.400 with family court well i got like a little different story but when i watch this

01:59:52.280 It reminded me of, like, my father, he was married to my mom.

01:59:58.000 And, like, it was, like, a point in there where, like, she just was, like, so unappreciative.

02:00:06.240 Like, his wife, the guy's wife.

02:00:08.960 And, like, man, it just reminded me of my mother and father's situation for the longest.

02:00:13.660 And he just wouldn't tell her no.

02:00:15.320 And, like, I don't know.

02:00:16.740 Like, it was just crazy, man.

02:00:18.980 Like, I had, my father had cancer and stuff.

02:00:22.280 like she she left my father but they never got uh divorced so like after um a while like

02:00:30.600 i don't know she just she just really didn't care about him at all but because me and her don't

02:00:35.480 really have a good relationship she don't got a good relationship with the rest of my siblings 1.00

02:00:39.080 they not her children and stuff like i don't know she she did something out of spite she wouldn't 0.97

02:00:44.920 like pick my father up from his house he was actually like afraid of her because of how far

02:00:49.480 that she would go in court and stuff like that like she's done it all my life they're constantly

02:00:55.060 in court with his mother his sisters all types of stuff and like he was so afraid of what she

02:01:00.920 what did what did he what did he do for your mom like you said he did a lot for her

02:01:05.380 yeah like you know when well they didn't get married till i was like nine up to ten

02:01:10.900 but he always paid her rent he always like you know she lived with him she never paid rent

02:01:15.760 If she didn't pay bills, it was, like, small bills here and there.

02:01:18.420 She never needed to have a job. 0.98

02:01:20.360 Like, out of my whole life, she just started having a career maybe, like, five or six years ago.

02:01:29.140 Like, she never had, like, a real career.

02:01:32.260 You know what I'm saying?

02:01:32.620 He paid everything for her, everything.

02:01:34.680 And she left him.

02:01:35.560 Like, it's a lot that was going on in between it and all that stuff.

02:01:38.600 But he just would.

02:01:39.920 He was just, like, head over his.

02:01:41.560 I'm not even going to say in love with it.

02:01:42.760 he was, like, really scared of the consequences of a divorce.

02:01:47.040 And I hate it.

02:01:48.180 I hate to hear, like, when I see the story like that,

02:01:51.860 like, that guy who you just, the clip that you were just watching,

02:01:55.860 he should have been divorced or, you know what I mean?

02:01:57.920 But I really think that he was really afraid of divorce,

02:02:00.480 just like my father.

02:02:01.560 And, like, it was like at the latter part of my father's life,

02:02:06.600 he had cancer and stuff like that.

02:02:08.080 And my mom went and took him from his house to her house

02:02:11.320 so that nobody could see him.

02:02:12.760 i had to go to like all types of stuff i went to i didn't even know they had something called

02:02:16.520 adult protective services i had to go to like adult protective services i was like calling like

02:02:21.400 the police to go do checkups on him while he's at our house because nobody could see him

02:02:25.000 until i started doing all that stuff and i still couldn't go see him because me and her don't have

02:02:29.060 a good relationship but it was like so much pressure she had to let somebody over there 0.92

02:02:33.240 so and like so she stole your dad basically so she wouldn't let anyone see him straight up 1.00

02:02:40.840 kidnap them like she like me and my grandma her mother have a good relationship she don't even 1.00

02:02:45.020 got a relationship with my grandma but like because me and her was on the out she started

02:02:48.800 talking to my grandma and the day that she did that she told she texted my grandma and told her

02:02:53.960 like yeah i kidnapped your son-in-law like laugh out loud wow and like you know my so you called

02:03:00.760 adult protective services adult protective services i call like they got like a it's called

02:03:07.280 a wellness checkup i had to do a wellness checkup like a couple few times like a few times because

02:03:12.160 i talked to my father every day was like my best friend you know um i used to talk to my father

02:03:16.080 like every day and then all of a sudden like no i just couldn't talk to him i paid for his phone

02:03:22.000 paid his phone bill i i still don't got that phone he died like he died like a month ago

02:03:26.880 in her care like he never was he was never as bad as he was in her care and like now he gone

02:03:33.920 you know what i'm saying and it's because like you know she was just being spiteful i actually tried

02:03:38.400 to put a video out there so i could like you know get some help because like the police was like

02:03:44.320 sympathetic towards me they like you know we can't do nothing because they're married

02:03:47.520 i'm like what so she can just like do whatever to them just because they married and it's like 1.00

02:03:52.800 you know i don't know i got even like i got videos of me and him like talking about stuff

02:03:58.960 and he would tell tell me like you know when somebody got a personality like hers

02:04:02.960 when they approached me,

02:04:04.000 I just back up.

02:04:04.940 And I was like,

02:04:05.940 I keep,

02:04:06.320 I kept trying to tell him,

02:04:07.280 you know what I mean?

02:04:07.740 Why he had like some,

02:04:09.620 uh,

02:04:10.260 why he like was like doing well,

02:04:12.980 doing well enough to like,

02:04:13.980 just be out on his own and moving stuff.

02:04:15.940 He would come to my house and stuff like that.

02:04:17.640 And we'd be talking to stuff like,

02:04:18.780 I got this part on camera.

02:04:19.980 He was like,

02:04:20.320 yeah,

02:04:20.440 when I would,

02:04:22.500 when somebody like her approached me,

02:04:23.940 I just backed up.

02:04:24.660 And I kept trying to tell him like,

02:04:26.360 somebody like her will push you off the cliff. 1.00

02:04:28.380 If you keep backing up,

02:04:29.500 man,

02:04:29.700 you know what I mean?

02:04:30.700 And it happened,

02:04:31.580 man.

02:04:31.680 It just happened.

02:04:32.300 I just,

02:04:32.960 hate to see men like really afraid of women it's like you know if what the worst that could happen

02:04:38.960 of course like you said you lose the 50 50 he gave up 97 you know that was crazy you know what

02:04:44.960 i mean but i used to always tell my father because he used to like i said they was in court my whole

02:04:48.640 life and he used to always say it's cheaper to keep and i'm like and when he got cancer i asked

02:04:52.800 i was like i mean you know you probably only got cancer because you know because of her like you

02:04:56.800 You know what I mean?

02:04:57.320 But it's not cheaper to keep him, man.

02:04:59.640 You think that she gave him cancer?

02:05:02.380 She stressed him so much.

02:05:03.820 I mean, you know, obviously other stuff.

02:05:05.760 But, you know, like, he was the type of guy that would pull up to the house

02:05:08.760 and stay in the truck, stay in his car for, like, an hour or two in the driveway.

02:05:14.540 You know what I mean?

02:05:15.600 Like, because he didn't want to come in the house that he, you know, paying for.

02:05:20.080 Like, nice house, man.

02:05:21.520 You know what I mean?

02:05:22.020 Like, took care of all his kids and stuff like that.

02:05:23.840 and she like i mean like i said man i made a video trying to trying to get people i mean i

02:05:29.280 should i should take it down for real but you know like because he's already gone now i was

02:05:32.800 trying to get him back from her house but it was crazy i just don't want people to be afraid of

02:05:38.640 their parent i mean of their of their uh spouse man you know what i mean like we don't live in a

02:05:43.540 time where you can like actually be killed you know what i mean or anything like that you can

02:05:49.640 you can just separate from people you know what I mean and actually divorce like during the during

02:05:55.100 the last part of his life like right before she went and took him she came over the house and

02:05:58.580 cursed him out because she wasn't in the wheel like he left the house to me and my brother me

02:06:03.820 and one of my brothers and then he had another house that he was leaving you know he had cars

02:06:08.180 and stuff boats and stuff like that a boat stuff he left all that stuff to like us and I got it on

02:06:12.860 text message on the video that I posted it's on her text message showing all that stuff she like

02:06:16.980 yeah don't write me out the will it was just crazy man it was crazy and she did all that she changed

02:06:21.700 his will then we probably had to go to court for that i really don't even want to go to court she

02:06:26.040 changed his will how could she do that i've never seen i've never seen him well he never registered

02:06:31.900 it at first so when she when he was over her house i've never seen him in so in worse condition and

02:06:37.440 the last time i ever seen him he was at the hospital and i went to the hospital to see him

02:06:41.880 and he was like really in pain i never ever seen him in that bad condition he was really in pain

02:06:47.220 i'm like hey man you all right he's like you know i'm like do you think that she had something to

02:06:51.440 do with his death is that like do you think that i truly do i truly do but i didn't really want to

02:06:56.560 say that because i i can't prove it you know he's already buried and stuff so it's not like

02:07:00.260 i've heard i've heard that from like i've heard similar stories to that he told one of our buddies

02:07:07.220 he told one of our buddies you know because he like you know all our friends love my father like

02:07:11.880 swimming was packed you know with our friends and stuff like that so he told one of our buddies

02:07:15.620 like i said until i did all that stuff nobody was going to see him and then when it when he could

02:07:20.120 go to see him like one of my buddies went over there he was kind of close to him and he told

02:07:24.140 him man he told me he said he told me like maybe a week before he died he's like yeah man your

02:07:29.120 father said he said your father told me that he think your mother is overdosing i've never seen

02:07:34.740 my father i've never he said that he told him that while he was over there over my mother house he

02:07:39.660 he said that he told him that i've never ever ever i've never seen my father in that bad

02:07:44.700 condition as i've seen him and her condition and like i mean like i don't know and she just

02:07:51.520 i don't know like nobody in my family want to do anything to it because they feel like she always

02:07:55.960 get away with it but i keep telling them only reason she gets away with it is because you guys

02:07:59.780 let her get away with it you know what i mean like yeah you don't never follow through no one

02:08:04.080 ever follows through because they scared of how far she'll go but i'm like man we don't live in a

02:08:08.480 time where somebody can like really exercise their will against you just you know relentlessly

02:08:15.800 without any consequence you know what i mean it's you can always document and call the police but

02:08:21.280 my father didn't believe in that that was the worst part and i think that's how the guy was too

02:08:25.160 like he didn't want to do anything for the break of the family so i i will i'd be willing to bet

02:08:29.800 i'm pretty sure you would be too that the wife is the one who was like all right it's over because

02:08:34.940 he never really said who did that you know what i mean he said they just came to agreement i'd be

02:08:39.380 willing to bet if she never did that he probably still be with it yeah or or she may he may be

02:08:45.020 caught her cheating or something like because men don't usually end it unless there's like a real

02:08:49.360 crazy reason yeah shoot man you know it's people out there's men out here nowadays that

02:08:55.120 will forgive that man that's kind of crazy but it is it is what it is i'm sorry to hear about

02:09:01.340 your dad you should you should file a police report i mean you don't know who's gonna be sick

02:09:06.060 next you know i mean i'm i'm pretty sure like she there's gonna be nobody else that that she can do

02:09:13.180 this to unless it's like maybe like i don't know her sister or something that no one else would

02:09:17.420 yeah put their self in you know what i mean and like i said is is only because it's only because

02:09:24.620 she um my father was like just so afraid of her i actually tried to get you i tried to i sent you a

02:09:32.040 um i sent you a dm on um on twitter on x because i was trying to get you to you know help me out

02:09:41.740 too i'll try and get anybody to help me out but like i posted the videos up there it was just

02:09:46.220 it was it was a nasty thing man i just now my you know my father's gone now and i just i really

02:09:52.320 don't actually i see kind of like this in other people too like it's not really it's not really

02:09:59.440 like it's only it's only because people allow the stuff to happen that's that's my biggest that i

02:10:05.900 guess that's my biggest takeaway from this whole situation everything that happened was because

02:10:10.700 people were too afraid to just stand up and i'm like man i just can't believe the world we live

02:10:15.300 in what did your when you were a kid did your mom like speak ill of your dad to you did you ever

02:10:20.460 think that oh my god did you ever think that he was the bad guy oh no never that because he never

02:10:25.880 left like he never even when me and my mom lived by ourself like he lived close enough to all you

02:10:32.220 know he had he had my my mom his his other uh his other ex-wife and uh he lived like in between us

02:10:40.560 and so we used to he's always come over pick me up he never had my father been an absent person

02:10:45.960 in my life like and he always like my mom was like what the you know i like the ladies try to 1.00

02:10:51.880 make it seem like oh yeah the man's so abusive the man's so busy i'm always just like you know

02:10:57.100 i mean like i rarely have ever seen like a man really be the abusive one in the family i've

02:11:02.300 seen multiple times where the woman is the abusive one it's almost and like it's almost always the 0.92

02:11:07.560 women if the man's always if the man's abusive it's it's usually mutual that's that's what i've

02:11:13.380 and it's usually and she usually starts it yeah and i mean like my father was almost like a whole 0.95

02:11:20.080 foot taller than my mom too and she was the one always starting shit so you know like it's like 0.99

02:11:25.540 it's a it's a terrible it's a terrible time that we live in now to where like even even being even 0.96

02:11:31.640 being like even your stature being physically dominant won't stop somebody from won't stop a

02:11:38.220 woman from doing that and did your dad ever defend himself or no never like one time she

02:11:43.380 once she would call the police so many times one time she called the police so many times in one

02:11:49.440 night that the police say yeah if we if we come back here today somebody's going to jail she 1.00

02:11:55.220 called the police again they locked her up oh that never happens well it's because my brother

02:12:01.100 yeah i was like that takes a lot for the police to lock up a woman yeah man so i don't know it's 0.98

02:12:10.760 just it's a lot man i really hope i really hope that people who are watching this take

02:12:16.160 take real um take real heed to what because i'm telling you this is the worst situation man and

02:12:22.720 like the the daughter the daughter on that oh my god man that's you know i'm trying not to say too

02:12:28.440 much but that's i feel like she's like despicable for that you know what i mean like he went through

02:12:33.220 so much like that's why i'm so highly upset about the things that's just going on in my life for

02:12:39.120 like the past like years so my father did so much just to be around us and take care of us and stuff

02:12:44.340 like that and i never never not appreciated it and man i swear to god like that lady that that girl 1.00

02:12:51.140 that doing that what's name it's just despicable to me it's like man like you don't know how many

02:12:56.120 people you know how many people i know will give their right arm to be in her position you know

02:13:00.700 what i mean like right-handed people you know like give their right arm yeah to have a father 0.96

02:13:06.380 who really loved them that much and she's shitting on him like that it's just yeah it's the worst 0.88

02:13:10.840 thing yeah well and it you know the mom says that for 20 years a lot of kids believe it and that's 0.88

02:13:19.640 really what i'm trying to wake people up to is that the the moms are moms are not these innocent

02:13:24.340 victims that they they some are but it by and large they're not these innocent victims that

02:13:32.120 they pretend to be and a lot of times they're they're the actual real villains if you look into

02:13:37.440 it i swear like that's i'm telling you like i feel like that's the only reason i feel like i

02:13:42.760 shouldn't take that video down because i don't know who's gonna watch it but yeah i put all the

02:13:46.820 messages up there and everything and you you can obviously see who the victim is like yeah i mean

02:13:52.660 and who the villain is like i mean maybe if there's ways maybe if there's ways that you know

02:13:58.720 like other men could protect their fathers if they're in a similar so i don't know if i don't

02:14:03.080 know i've that you're the first one um that i've heard tried to get the law involved and they it

02:14:09.420 didn't work so maybe if there's like is there any way that's like they could have protect you could

02:14:15.080 have protected him or no see i feel like oh well the only thing i could have done because like i've

02:14:21.500 been i've been like like since he died i've been thinking about it so much and i'm like man i did

02:14:26.600 something wrong i did something wrong like the number one thing i did wrong was like uh he told

02:14:32.020 me because like sometimes you know like my mom she had like all this leave and stuff like that 0.73

02:14:37.780 so sometimes he would just actually like you take me to the doctor sometime so like one day i guess

02:14:43.540 she went and picked him up and like she started cursing him up about not about her not being her

02:14:48.740 not been in the wheel and stuff so he called me he's like yeah man i want her i want her talk i

02:14:54.180 weren't taking me nowhere ever again like you know what i mean like i'm gonna be asking you i said oh

02:14:58.820 yeah i got you man you know the type of job i had at the time i could just say yes or no to work and

02:15:03.880 i could take him any day you know what i mean i should have told him because he was getting a

02:15:08.580 little bit weak i should have told him at that time like man come stay with me for a while you

02:15:13.980 know what i mean yeah like to me that's the only thing i feel like i could have done because i

02:15:17.980 went to the police and they was

02:15:19.840 and they wanted to help me but they're like

02:15:21.580 we can't really do nothing man you know what I'm saying

02:15:23.880 so then

02:15:24.920 but I do feel like if it was

02:15:27.960 the other way around I feel like they would have

02:15:29.780 exhausted every opportunity

02:15:31.860 they could have you know what I mean

02:15:33.520 if it was a woman yeah 1.00

02:15:35.700 so

02:15:37.280 I do feel that like that but

02:15:39.460 that's the only thing I can say like if

02:15:41.600 other men if they got in some type of

02:15:43.880 situation

02:15:44.400 I don't know I guess maybe like

02:15:47.980 just be brave enough to like step up and and don't don't um take for granted how much somebody might

02:15:55.580 need you you know what i mean like somebody who's been always been there for you don't take for

02:16:00.460 granted how much somebody might need you because like i should have did that i should have been

02:16:05.100 like nah man just come to my house you sleep in my bed i sleep on the couch man you know i should

02:16:09.740 have did that you know what i mean i i'm pretty sure he would still be here because i only moved

02:16:15.660 back home i was in the military i only moved back home because he got sick and that was like in 2016

02:16:20.940 and the doctor said he would be dead in april 2017 but we like put him on like this restrictive diet

02:16:27.580 and stuff and like uh the cancer actually went away for a while you know what i mean and then

02:16:32.940 it came back so we was about to do the same thing and while we on the way to doing the same thing

02:16:37.740 boom she went over there and took him from his house and made sure like like my brother when 1.00

02:16:43.020 he finally was able to go over there he was scared that he was scared to like he was scared to help

02:16:47.340 him out he instead scared to like give him like you know herbs and stuff like that because we

02:16:51.740 like we we study we study all types of like alternative medicine and stuff like that

02:16:55.980 like his doctor his cancer doctor um i forget what they call it but oncologist his oncologist

02:17:03.100 he talks about him when he gives classes he's like this guy was supposed to be dead a long time ago

02:17:08.060 you know his sons came and came and like rallied up and helped him i don't know what they did but

02:17:13.740 you know i hope he sticks to it because he was supposed to be dead a long time ago and now we

02:17:17.100 can't even detect the cancer in his body so like it worked it just came back because he just you

02:17:22.860 know i guess he started doing the same thing that he was doing before and all that stuff but yeah

02:17:27.820 you know like he was like my brother when he went over there he was scared to even give him

02:17:31.980 them let's do the stuff for them that we did that worked in the first place

02:17:35.860 well like that's how that's how oh go ahead i was about to say that's just how that's how like

02:17:44.920 vengeful that's how vengeful and like yeah uh that's how scared that that's how scared people

02:17:51.680 are of her and stuff like that like and then like she did the worst she did the worst like 0.97

02:17:58.460 when he died finally she did all like the worst things like you know my father was a u.s marshal

02:18:03.880 he used to wear suits to work every day she buried him in a washington redskins uh jersey

02:18:08.580 oh wow yeah and i you know like this is crazy man i just can't i just can't even believe

02:18:18.320 was she always like that when she was younger was she different or no she was always like

02:18:24.200 nope she she's always been like this like you know me and her haven't really had a

02:18:28.580 good relationship probably since i was like 17 years old did your dad did your dad say she was

02:18:35.260 like that when he met her or no like did you ever ask him about that no i'm about to say i never

02:18:41.360 react all that it don't matter to me you know i've seen her i've seen her behavior you know

02:18:45.720 i've seen her behaviors my whole life you know like all the crazy stuff that the that the women 1.00

02:18:50.720 to say on your podcast oh yeah like when they say they did this to a guy you know oh i did that i

02:18:56.220 yeah i seem to do mostly all that stuff so like it never it never like surprises me at all you

02:19:01.860 know what i mean yeah and i'm just like but yeah i appreciate it though well thank you for calling

02:19:09.000 in i'm sorry to hear about your dad uh you should keep the videos up though you never know if someone

02:19:14.000 else will see them and they're going through a similar thing yeah all right

02:19:19.160 well appreciate it well thanks for calling in yeah guys see the it's

02:19:30.560 usually the mom it's usually the moms we have another paid in or another I don't

02:19:38.900 I don't want to say people's last names in case they want like privacy but

02:19:47.340 I'm just gonna say first names welcome to the program Bob thank you you know

02:19:51.060 for helping us get this stuff out you can bring up the next we'll take like

02:19:55.580 one or two more calls what oh yeah yeah guys um I didn't announce this before I

02:20:03.560 need to keep doing it you need your cameras on to come up I'm not doing

02:20:07.240 trolls yeah don't you guys are gonna what are the other rule I gotta write

02:20:16.500 them down cameras on make sure your full face is in it 0.90

02:20:25.000 obviously he's putting his camera up but yeah if you had a similar divorce story

02:20:30.020 if you're maybe you saw something with your parents grandparents friend you

02:20:35.400 know whatever whatever your story is feel free to call in with family court

02:20:40.260 oh I have another new subscriber

02:20:44.800 Andre unmute your mic

02:20:48.020 thank you

02:20:50.680 okay hello

02:20:55.700 I can't hear you

02:20:58.700 Are you muted? Can you hear me now? Yeah, I can hear you now. What's your name?

02:21:04.240 Andre. Andre, where are you calling from?

02:21:07.200 Calling from California. So what is your story with Family Court?

02:21:12.180 Well, I'm actually currently going through it right now. I've got three kids. I've been married

02:21:19.120 to my wife for eight years and um they i've just had repeated issues with her going back and forth 0.98

02:21:30.480 constantly constantly withholding the kids at the worst she withheld them for about eight or nine

02:21:38.560 months wow that was the fourth time she withheld them actually so how old are the kids they are

02:21:47.760 one's going to be five this year the other's going to be nine and eleven okay my daughter's

02:21:53.300 the youngest and so she withheld them four times and the long longest period was nine months

02:21:59.060 when when did that start that started uh 2020 or 2021 is the first time she withheld the kids for 1.00

02:22:06.680 about a month okay and um each time you know you have to drag them back into court to try to see

02:22:11.900 kids again and um the judge basically each time was like you can't do this and you know after the

02:22:20.380 first time she claimed well uh i think there's abuse and the judge was like well did you ever

02:22:26.380 call cps and she was like well no and so when they returned the kids to me for visitation and stuff

02:22:35.260 she actually started calling cps often and each time they had to tell her yeah

02:22:41.900 these are not abuse you're calling for like normal childhood injuries basically

02:22:47.980 she called about six six seven times and they ended up turning it over to juvenile court

02:22:52.860 actually and juvenile court looked at everything and they were like

02:22:57.740 there's no abuse here we're going to kick this back over to family court 0.56

02:23:01.660 so um you know going back and forth to family court and even doing a 730 eval basically each

02:23:08.380 Each and every last one of these reports and investigations was in my favor.

02:23:15.660 But still, there's been no punishment for her.

02:23:20.120 I can see my kids now, but, you know, my daughter, when she was gone for that longer period of time,

02:23:25.320 she returned with a bad attitude, and that reflects a lot of the statistics with single mother homes. 0.95

02:23:31.360 You know, when you don't have the father there for stability, the children end up, you know, going down a bad path.

02:23:37.900 Is that the oldest one, the 11-year-old?

02:23:41.060 That's the youngest one.

02:23:42.240 The youngest.

02:23:42.720 So she's five, you said?

02:23:44.920 She's going to be five next month. 0.98

02:23:46.280 Okay.

02:23:46.400 So what was the difference before and after?

02:23:49.980 Well, before, she was perfectly fine.

02:23:52.800 She didn't, you know, misbehave that much, if at all.

02:23:56.840 You know, she's typical children, you know, sass when it comes to being a toddler. 1.00

02:24:02.560 But afterwards, we had to work on her a lot.

02:24:04.780 um just completely misbehaving not listening to instructions um it's gotten better now because

02:24:12.240 it's been about a year since i've received them back from that eight nine month period of time

02:24:16.880 but uh yeah my my oldest is the most stable one he's uh he's pretty good he's in fact a little

02:24:25.520 bit too tame so how often do you get to see them now did you end up getting primary custody where

02:24:33.000 you put on child support like what what was the are you through with the process are you still in

02:24:37.640 it no i'm still in it um we haven't gone to trial yet so technically i'm still married um but uh

02:24:45.640 yeah i'm on child support of course and i'm in california so but the the crazy thing about all

02:24:52.280 this stuff though is um when it comes to cps i actually had a really good experience with them

02:24:58.600 And, you know, most people have horror stories for them, but I was actually surprisingly, I was surprised by how well they handled everything.

02:25:07.560 Because, you know, they caught everything, including all of her, you know, coaching the kids, especially my son and daughter.

02:25:16.540 But basically how I handle all these things and prove that I'm not doing anything crazy with the kids is I record every drop off and pick up.

02:25:27.440 you know um i have cameras in the house as well so you know they can't say that i'm doing crazy

02:25:35.880 stuff with the kids and having a daughter is kind of scary in this situation because you know that's

02:25:40.420 when the mothers typically try to say that oh you know he's doing something you know uh unsavory

02:25:45.460 with the daughters and something like that did end up happening but not with my daughter with

02:25:50.340 my oldest son and of course it was unfounded so it basically got tossed under the bus but uh having

02:25:56.720 having video footage of every drop off and pickup having cameras in the house has all helped

02:26:02.060 tremendously um i was able to submit all that evidence to cps and 730 eval evaluator and clear

02:26:10.900 my name and a lot of stuff so so she tried to put um i don't know if i can say it on youtube but

02:26:17.020 the pet like she tried to put that accusation on you with your oldest oh yeah me both me and my 0.99

02:26:23.740 mother wow she tried to put on your mother i've heard that before i've heard there was a case i

02:26:29.520 heard where the they were trying to say the dad did it like the grandpa um blessing you might want

02:26:36.080 to fix the camera there you go um wow but but in your case they didn't actually go with it do you

02:26:42.480 do you think family court is getting better and in your experience like over time well um after

02:26:50.480 hearing all the horror stories um i came in prepared to get railroaded but honestly my

02:26:56.240 experience has not been as bad as other men i mean of course i still am you know downgraded to a

02:27:02.960 visitor to the kids but uh i haven't received the brunt of the family court system that other guys

02:27:09.440 have had but at the same time they haven't really done much to you know punish bad behavior when it

02:27:18.080 comes to my soon-to-be ex yeah and how how often do you get to see them now i basically get them

02:27:26.000 first third and first third first second first third fourth and fifth weekends basically from

02:27:33.680 friday to sunday and then i also get it overnight during the week so okay a little bit better than

02:27:40.080 you know some other stories but i mean i i've sunk in thousands of dollars and you know lawyers fees

02:27:46.560 if i didn't have you know that kind of help who's to say what kind of time i would have gotten you

02:27:50.400 know with the kids how much total would you say you've spent on this divorce oh boy it's only been

02:27:58.080 since 2019 and i'd probably say about um somewhere around 20 grand 20 grand wow and it's been five

02:28:04.320 years yeah wow and you're it's still not finalized no we've we've we filed a petition for um for

02:28:13.040 trial but they kind of ignored it because this was around the time covid hit and everybody got

02:28:17.600 sick of seeing each other the you know the divorces exploded basically in the court system 0.98

02:28:22.240 and everybody was just backed up does that include child support too the 20 grand or is that just on

02:28:27.680 lawyers oh that's just on lawyers fees okay so it was 20 and then plus whatever you're paying child

02:28:33.040 support yeah wow okay well um thank you for calling in thank you for having me yeah thank you

02:28:41.200 you. Guys, hold on. Okay, one second. You want to bring the next person? We'll do like

02:28:55.240 one or two more. What? Wait, hold on. Let me check the, wait, give me one second, one

02:29:01.400 second. If you guys have any questions you want me to ask the guys, just let me know.

02:29:11.180 know um i can see the pain in his eyes yeah yeah and it's never like these crazy you know

02:29:23.100 dead like they're always just normal guys okay bring it up next one

02:29:27.980 hello oh hi there the kid oh it froze what's up oh my bad man i didn't know y'all was gonna catch

02:29:40.680 that what's up i've been watching you for a long time you did yeah man i ain't got no horror story

02:29:47.320 because i don't experience that just being honest i'm a full-time single father out here you just

02:29:53.560 seen my daughter she just popped up out of nowhere on the film but i just came to get a fella some

02:29:58.580 free game now this i got full custody of my daughter i can't speak is pennsylvania in pennsylvania

02:30:10.220 is 50 50 automatic john split custody what you do is if you broke go get you a pd if you got a

02:30:19.840 couple dollars go get you a lawyer and you tell that lawyer from the rip that you want

02:30:26.480 either 50 50 john split custody or you want full custody do not get finessed by these chicks out 0.99

02:30:35.400 here man like i just was reading something it was like uh

02:30:39.560 I think it's Wi-Fi

02:30:49.200 I'm sorry

02:30:55.260 you know if you fix your Wi-Fi you can come

02:30:57.380 back but

02:30:58.480 well is there anyone else

02:31:03.540 there or no

02:31:04.080 oh they don't have their mic or their camera

02:31:08.660 okay is he moving again he can come back up if he's moving again it's just frozen

02:31:15.980 okay we'll try it again

02:31:19.280 no okay

02:31:26.640 um well he sounded like he had something important but i think he was just saying to not let the

02:31:36.240 chicks finesse you into not going for 50 50 to make sure you go for 50 50 um 0.86

02:31:43.060 yeah guys but brett i could i could go through these stories all day i i don't make these videos

02:31:53.020 to attack her i hope she doesn't take it as an attack i'm a fan of brett but what i'm trying to

02:31:58.520 wake up people to what's going on okay and generally speaking I really I beg you if anyone

02:32:06.400 has issues with their father ask him for his side of the story because generally when you hear both

02:32:14.960 sides the guys is a lot more sane than the woman's um yeah so let me know what you guys think in the

02:32:25.160 comments um i don't know i might do a whole show where we just accept collins from um with guys

02:32:31.940 experience in the court system maybe i'll do that maybe i'll do it tomorrow i i let me i'll tweet

02:32:38.980 make sure you guys are going on my ex pearly things with the z that's where i put the most

02:32:42.900 updates about the show i've had to be a lot more careful with youtube we're trying to get

02:32:47.880 re-monetized again so i just can't post on here as much as i'd like if you could please go to the

02:32:54.160 audacitynetwork.com. I really want to create a platform where we can just go crazy behind paywalls

02:33:01.920 where, you know, all of the people that are just banned on everything have a place, you know,

02:33:07.600 Rumble's great. I like Rumble, but you know, people can still pull clips out of context where

02:33:13.520 if it's behind a paywall, you know, you can, there's like legal ways where the people can't

02:33:21.400 pull clips if it's behind a paywall like you're not allowed so anyways guys that that's kind of

02:33:26.480 my long term i really would just like to have one place where people can freak speak freely

02:33:32.380 and there's no you know controlled opposition no big donors i want it to be funded by the people

02:33:38.880 for the people like the video on your way out guys subscribe to the channel and i'll talk to

02:33:43.180 you guys next time

Pearl - April 17, 2024

Modern Women Despise Their Husbands More Than They Love Their Children ｜ Pearl Daily

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