Pearl - Modern Women DESTROYED Perfect Relationships And REGRETTED It YEARS LATER？

00:00:00.000 But I'm here to let everybody know that I learned my lesson and I will not fumble another bag.

00:00:04.700 Yeah, but the problem is we're told as women that we are young forever. 0.88

00:00:10.160 And over a certain age, you don't get another bag.

00:00:13.620 What up, guys?

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00:00:32.340 to my biggest regret is a guy i rejected when he asked me to settle down with him you guys love

00:00:38.500 hearing about women's regret don't you okay let me pull it up there's a guy i kind of wish i had

00:00:44.220 let go of that's a bit of a regret um he wanted to settle down and i didn't and he did settle down

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00:02:13.040 Recently, I mean, I was dating someone for two months and they were the perfect person

00:02:17.120 in every way, but I couldn't.

00:02:20.400 Was he kind to you?

00:02:21.660 he was incredible he is the most incredible guy everything was perfect and i like was like i was

00:02:28.620 like what is wrong with myself yeah what is wrong well he yeah ladies we get bored and we leave and

00:02:36.300 our friends come around and they say oh just go just go boosted my self-esteem and my well-being

00:02:42.000 so much that i thought that i could do better than him when you get the opportunity to date such a

00:02:48.260 man to not think we should do apology classes now ladies i'd like to say a lot of this this is not 0.98

00:02:54.540 going to work on the men a lot of them are sick of our shit but you know you could you could go 0.98

00:02:59.360 back and you could say sir well let's call him let's call him jared that sounds like a nice guy 0.99

00:03:05.160 named jared jared jared jared you know you were a good man i should not have let you go i was

00:03:10.680 selfish and i messed up i'd like to make it up to you would that work let me know let me know guys

00:03:16.380 no but i'm here to let everybody know that i learned my lesson and i will not fumble another

00:03:24.540 bag some mistakes you ain't gonna come back from it's gonna take you years if you even come back

00:03:29.560 you got a good man he cares about you he's listening he's up cleaning up he's talking to

00:03:33.420 you he's inspiring you you have some disagreements every now and then but he's showing up fixing

00:03:36.920 things and really there for you and you blow that grass is always greener on the other side

00:03:42.560 that's how women think it's not until they get to the other side and they realize that the grass is 1.00

00:03:46.820 yeah then we're like oh no no brown and the streets are cold that they realize in this video

00:03:52.160 we have a woman who rejected a good man decades ago but she still regrets her decision most modern

00:03:58.640 women we see making videos complaining that they can't find a good man already had the opportunity 1.00

00:04:03.800 to secure him but as always they thought they could do better but in the end regret is what is

00:04:09.920 left recently i mean i was dating someone for two months and they were the perfect person every way

00:04:15.960 but i there was no i couldn't the mutual attractiveness just wasn't there and so it

00:04:20.660 didn't work was he not physically attractive i think no i think he's a handsome guy maybe i

00:04:25.520 should say chemistry for us that it wasn't a wretched chemistry the wretched chemistry what

00:04:31.340 does that even mean don't nobody understand the words that are coming out of your mouth man

00:04:34.580 so chemistry what is the okay that basically means men don't understand this women understand 0.85

00:04:40.940 this you can find a guy attractive but not be attracted to him she's talking about looks um

00:04:47.260 but sometimes it's not I guess looks alone because there's sometimes guys that you find

00:04:51.940 attractive but it's like the way that's why a lot of times beta alpha doesn't have much to do with

00:04:58.260 money if i had to guess this guy probably had the mindset where he put her on a pedestal a bit and

00:05:04.660 women we just don't respond well to that i'm starting to notice that chemistry what is the 1.00

00:05:09.860 spark i don't know but what i've learned is that you need it i wish it was to my chagrin that the

00:05:15.860 spark didn't go off but yeah because my next question would be how has it worked out with the

00:05:20.740 men you've had sparks with because typically the men that we feel like sparks with they get a lot

00:05:27.460 of chicks they have sparks with a lot of women you know they've learned how to make make sparks 1.00

00:05:43.140 it's just i think it's that thing that makes you just that draws you to that person initially and

00:05:48.820 so was he kind to you he was in he is the most incredible guy everything was perfect and i like

00:05:57.380 was like i was like what is wrong with myself yeah what is wrong what is wrong you can ask all my

00:06:03.380 friends i was translation he wasn't a bad boy but i am happy that he is free and possibly dating

00:06:11.220 another woman who will value and appreciate what he has to give the funny part is that the guys

00:06:17.060 who give the type of chemistry she is talking about are chads and tyrone yeah yep and we all

00:06:22.740 know what they do when it comes to relationships therefore give it a few years and she will be back 1.00

00:06:28.980 into the dating scene as a single mother looking for the same man she rejected

00:06:34.820 let's check the comments of this video experienced divorce lawyer here that guy dodged a bullet 0.94

00:06:43.140 can you imagine if she married him then a few years later wasn't feeling it 0.97

00:06:46.980 i see it happen every day stay safe that spark is the bad boy treating her like trash 1.00

00:06:54.520 he wasn't toxic enough aka he was too nice and too predictable and you were bored yeah that'll

00:07:02.640 do it wow she sits there and says he is perfect but that was still not enough proof that a woman 1.00

00:07:09.860 will never be happy with what she has and that's the problem we think that men are meant to

00:07:14.260 entertain us and this is something I guess in my life that maybe has come to like my detriment and

00:07:20.040 like a plus I don't know I guess a plus but a lot of times women get bored because they have 1.00

00:07:25.120 no other hobbies nothing going on and I don't mean nothing going on like you need to have a

00:07:31.200 high-flying career or whatever but you know I think it's important as people that we're always

00:07:36.400 working to improve at something so we don't get bored you know whether it's being a better mother 0.98

00:07:41.420 a better sister a better wife but so many times women just they think the grass is greener on the 1.00

00:07:46.500 other side and a lot of times it's not and I see it all the time I see women on my show I've 1.00

00:07:51.120 interviewed over a thousand people about this type of stuff you hear a lot of stories I can't even

00:07:55.620 count the amount of like women not even just women like their mothers who left their dads

00:08:00.620 their dads remarry a lot of times the moms don't he was a safe bed too safe didn't give her the 1.00

00:08:05.600 fluttery feelings like the bad boys do. That's not chemistry that's called anxiety. You don't need

00:08:12.420 it. What is something that you regret? There's a guy I kind of wish I hadn't let go of. That's a

00:08:18.900 bit of a regret. He wanted to settle down and I didn't. I wasn't ready to. We were still quite

00:08:25.160 young and he did settle down and he did have a family and I'm super happy for him because I

00:08:30.320 think he found the right woman and he's living his best life but i really like this guy and i

00:08:37.540 still kind of like this guy i do see him on facebook and i i wish him well but there's just

00:08:42.260 a tiny part of me that thinks huh how would that have worked out if we stayed together and it's

00:08:47.980 interesting because that's the same woman in a different body like 20 years later i mean 40 0.95

00:08:53.340 whatever she's old but it's interesting when you start interviewing people because you you start

00:08:58.780 to see like the same characters kind of just i don't want to say reborn but like at different

00:09:04.060 stages of their lives and you can typically predict how their lives work out for them this

00:09:09.180 is what happens when you think that you can always do better than the person you are with

00:09:13.820 you can see the pain of regret in her voice it's sad based on her own words he wanted to settle

00:09:19.900 down but she thought that she could get a better deal she thought that there was a better option

00:09:24.140 a prince charming somewhere waiting for her therefore it wasn't a good idea to settle with him

00:09:29.820 but she was wrong because after decades she still regrets her decision as she wasn't able to

00:09:34.700 replace him she couldn't find another person better than him and this is why i think that

00:09:39.660 the small number of women watching this type of content are the lucky ones because they will see 1.00

00:09:44.300 real life examples of what life is really about and it will help them to make better decisions

00:09:49.260 if a good man crosses your path make sure that you keep him don't throw him away like she did

00:09:55.260 let's jump into the comment section and so many times if we discarded or if men discarded women 0.99

00:10:03.260 the way that women can so easily discard men i don't think that we would have the same attitude 0.99

00:10:09.360 in all honesty i think we would have a lot of resentment most women don't want a man that loves

00:10:14.300 her she wants a man that she loves and the men that she loves he loves himself they are so used 0.83

00:10:21.140 to pookie and ray ray that a good relationship seems like a scam you don't know what you have

00:10:26.680 until it's gone my life improved 110 after my ex decided to leave after her life collapsed we

00:10:34.940 actually get along better due to her seeing reality yeah so many women live in delusion 1.00

00:10:39.460 i think they're so much more important to their household than they are men run the household and

00:10:44.740 women never count the favors that men do for us but we always count the favors we do for them 0.97

00:10:49.340 what have you done for me lately i gave a whole lot of love to the wrong person

00:10:54.060 been single for over a year now and she's still trying to come back nope i'm straight

00:11:00.380 she lost a good one example of making permanent decisions because of temporary feeling 0.75

00:11:07.020 i can't be the only one with this kind of story about two years ago i was in a relationship with

00:11:16.460 a man and he was about 40 i was about what 25 27 something like that but he was willing to invest

00:11:26.460 in me physically financially emotionally religiously like all aspects he wanted to make

00:11:34.320 me a better woman for him well he boosted my self-esteem and my well-being so much that i 0.95

00:11:42.720 thought that i could do better than him damn it ladies come on and now fast forward i am now 0.95

00:11:51.840 post dealing with a narcissist i now understand that not all men have your best intention at heart 0.97

00:11:58.520 not all men will invest in you and not all men will uplift you so when you get the opportunity

00:12:05.000 to date such a man do not let it go but i just kind of want to hit on that topic again

00:12:10.760 basically i fumbled a bag i fumbled a bag with a man who was willing to invest in me

00:12:17.020 with a man who was willing to do everything right by his woman yes i was 27 and he was more like 38

00:12:24.900 I mean it wasn't that big of an age difference but the purpose of that video was just to help

00:12:31.500 women realize that when you have someone in your corner that is willing to invest in you and willing 1.00

00:12:36.920 to love you the way that they're supposed to do not think that that is normal that is a blessing

00:12:42.500 and from the comments I think we as women need to work on ourselves because there was too many

00:12:48.580 hurt men in my comments but I'm here to let everybody know that I learned my lesson and I

00:12:53.480 will not fumble another bag yeah but the problem is we're told as women that we are young forever

00:13:00.220 and over a certain age you don't get another bag you don't really get that opportunity housewife

00:13:06.400 is off the table that's why kevin samuels would say over the age of say 27 28 housewife is off

00:13:12.940 the table well it's too late now yeah um you either cash out early or you work for a lifetime

00:13:17.940 she misses what he used to do for her but she doesn't miss him but in most cases even when you

00:13:23.700 do everything to make your woman happy she still can find a way to mess it up and threw it out of 0.65

00:13:28.260 the window and this is another reason you guys shouldn't make them the main source of your

00:13:32.820 happiness because it can go bad at any time no matter what you do but i like the fact that she

00:13:39.380 wants to help other women thanks for watching yeah let me let me hit the subscribe button

00:13:45.540 look at that subscribe this is modern dating here yeah very good compilation yeah guys and I think

00:13:53.200 a lot of times people take what I say is attacking women and it's not attacking women but rather I

00:13:59.260 think we can learn from older women's mistakes not what they say because older women will really 1.00

00:14:04.620 in my experience tell you the exact opposite of what you should do because they're competing with

00:14:10.040 you, even married ones a lot of the time. But what I do think is important is that we take these

00:14:16.880 things as lessons and we don't humble a good thing. So guys, let me know what you think in

00:14:21.000 the comments. Make sure you like the video on your way out. Subscribe to the channel,

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Pearl - December 09, 2023

Modern Women DESTROYED Perfect Relationships And REGRETTED It YEARS LATER？

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