Pearl - July 27, 2025


Modern Women Hate That Men Are Starting to Ignore Them

Topics
approaching women
Mentioned
Andrew Huberman Theo Vaughn
The Hard Reality of Disease and Hookup Culture Freedom of Speech Is Not A Real Thing

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Length

9 minutes

Words per minute

194.17

Word count

1,803

Sentence count

127

Harmful content

Misogyny

9

sentences flagged

Toxicity

1

sentences flagged

Hate speech

7

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Summary

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Women have told men for decades to leave them alone. Don t catcall them, don t approach them in public, don't stare at them, and that's exactly what men have done. Now, women are wondering why men don't approach.

Transcript

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00:00:00.000 What up, guys? Welcome to my reaction series. Today, we are reacting to women wondering why 1.00
00:00:05.220 men are ignoring them. Women have told men for decades to leave them alone. Don't catcall them, 0.99
00:00:10.760 don't approach them in public, don't stare at them. And that's exactly what men have done.
00:00:14.960 There are young women that have never been approached in public. Now, women are wondering
00:00:19.080 why men don't approach. This is exactly what we wanted, ladies. This is the world we built.
00:00:24.700 Now, let's take a look at some of the women that are wondering why men do not approach in public. 0.99
00:00:30.720 I was just watching this woman in San Diego talk about how men in San Diego don't approach women.
00:00:36.160 Now, she's married and I'm in a relationship, but she says all her girlfriends say men never
00:00:40.600 approach them. And I can say that when I was briefly single here in San Diego between my divorce and my
00:00:47.640 new relationship, men didn't approach me either. I mean, I tried online dating and that was so much
00:00:53.600 worse than the first time I tried online dating. I think it's just become so saturated and cynical
00:00:59.820 but it's true. Men don't approach. And I was starting to feel like there's something a little
00:01:06.660 wrong with me, but I have heard this from so many women. And I honestly think in a place like
00:01:11.700 Southern California, so not exclusive to San Diego, men get feminized in just like creeping ways,
00:01:18.500 right? This is such a comfortable, nice place to live. It's also super appearance oriented.
00:01:29.220 It's, you just don't have to be that rugged to live here. You know, you can know how to make money.
00:01:35.800 That's not the same as being like a pursuer or a hunter in that way. And I'm not saying it's wrong
00:01:43.280 or right. It just is what it is. But for sure, people just, men just aren't approaching that much
00:01:47.860 here. And I think also our progressive culture and politics also lends to the fact that men just do
00:01:55.120 it less and less. Because besides just becoming more feminized and therefore just becoming more
00:02:01.060 wired like women, there's also the cultural factor of just for so long, men didn't know if they could 0.97
00:02:10.420 even, you know, say hi or look at you, you know, or just breathe in the wrong direction and without
00:02:17.480 getting chastised or worse, cancelled. So I don't have any answers. I just know that it's a thing.
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00:03:00.940 save yourself. All right, let's see who's next. I really want to talk about this comment because
00:03:08.460 this is definitely something that has come across my desk a few times in the last few weeks. Yeah,
00:03:12.500 I know they don't want to be on TikTok. It's just there's cameras everywhere. I wish I feel like I
00:03:17.380 was born in the wrong generation because I don't know because I do enjoy this. Like I do enjoy the
00:03:22.680 media like talking to you guys or whatever. But I also everything's filmed now and I don't really
00:03:32.740 like that. Like my personal life, I don't love being filmed in public a ton. Like if it's a street
00:03:39.360 interview, I feel like that's different. Like people go up to you, but you know, especially
00:03:43.080 I think it's very important for women to acknowledge that, you know, when we complain
00:03:48.740 that men don't approach women anymore in public, this is the fear that's going on in their heads
00:03:53.240 is that they are scared of being shamed online. And I've spoken to younger men and especially with
00:04:00.120 younger men, this, this rings true. And it was interesting because I was listening to Theo Vaughn's
00:04:03.780 podcast, the episode that he had Andrew Huberman on. And Andrew Huberman said the same thing. He said
00:04:07.800 that he mentors a lot of young men who have this genuine fear of being shamed online by
00:04:12.860 women, which is why they don't feel the need. Yeah. Cause it's not even just like recording 1.00
00:04:16.160 at the time. It's like, they don't want to be on the T app. They don't want to like, they
00:04:19.960 don't want, you know, because women, we never put ourselves in men's shoes. Like when we've, 0.99
00:04:25.840 we've all done weird stuff in dating, right? Come on. Let's, unless you've just been a natural
00:04:30.600 from the time you were young, everyone's done weird, abnormal, whatever, but you don't really
00:04:35.580 want to blast it on the internet. Like it's kind of a private thing and it's just embarrassing.
00:04:40.640 Or the urge or the desire to approach women in public anymore. And honestly, like if I thought
00:04:46.900 that I would be publicly shamed online, if I approached a man, I probably wouldn't do it
00:04:50.500 either. So obviously there are nuances to the situation, like people who inappropriately
00:04:55.340 approach women or do it in a derogatory way or do it in a disrespectful way. Of course, we're not
00:05:00.160 really speaking about that. We're talking about just men not wanting to talk to women in public
00:05:04.120 because they're scared they're going to get trashed online. And as women, I think we really
00:05:07.600 need to acknowledge our behavior in this cycle. You know, if we continue to, you know, berate men
00:05:13.220 online and talk about how, you know, a guy approached you and he was ugly and you're going to make fun
00:05:18.640 of him and do all this stuff on the internet. Don't complain when men have this genuine fear of
00:05:23.760 approaching women in public anymore. So thank you for leaving this comment. I think it is really 1.00
00:05:27.640 important to talk about that because it's really, truly come across my desk multiple times in the last
00:05:32.560 few weeks. And it's something that I've actually wanted to talk about. And the more that I speak
00:05:37.340 to men and the more that, you know, I, I listened to men who mentor young men, especially this is what
00:05:43.480 the genuine fear is. Yeah. And cause they've grown up with women that probably did that from a young
00:05:48.700 age. If you guys are Gen Z watching the channel, what did you ever have an experience where someone in 0.76
00:05:55.280 your class was blasted online at like middle school or high school?
00:06:01.060 So why do men no longer come up to women? I asked this in a TikTok last week and it got so many
00:06:08.560 comments, especially for men. And I just want to preface this with, this was no shade to men. This
00:06:13.900 post was no shade to men and neither is this one. I was just genuinely curious and asking. I love men.
00:06:19.940 I think they're awesome. And I think that they're a little confused right now, but most of their
00:06:24.900 responses said something like we were told not to go up to you guys. And we were told, yeah, the men
00:06:29.980 are like, you guys are gaslighting us. You guys said, stop. So we stopped. We, you didn't like the cat
00:06:35.900 call and we stopped. And now you miss it. The audacity, the audacity that you want to be left alone
00:06:43.820 and you just want your own space and you don't want us approaching you, which for some women that can 1.00
00:06:48.760 absolutely be true, but I love meeting people in person. And I just think that it takes a confident
00:06:55.460 person to go up to someone when you see them in person. And I think it's a really cool way to meet
00:07:00.960 people rather than meeting people online. And we're also seeing things like they were called creeps and
00:07:05.840 weirdos and they don't want to be called that. It's not a pleasant experience, but I will say that
00:07:11.680 it has to do with how you approach a woman.
00:07:15.140 Yeah. She doesn't know anything. It has to do with how hot you are. Sorry, fellas.
00:07:21.020 Like for example, myself and my friends have had men come up to us with a really,
00:07:25.660 really intense energy, like a very in your face energy. And they're really nervous and they're
00:07:30.720 kind of scattered and they're very pushy or, or weird. And their energy is just off. And one of
00:07:37.060 the most attractive things to a woman is emotional intelligence. And, and that shows within like the 1.00
00:07:45.520 first few seconds of meeting someone when they introduce themselves to you. So if you're going
00:07:50.560 to go up to women, just like take a calm, deep breath. If you see a woman working on her laptop 1.00
00:07:56.160 or something at a cafe, you can go up to her and be like, Hey, my name is so-and-so. Um, I thought
00:08:02.540 you were really beautiful and you seem interesting. I would love to get to know you more if you're
00:08:07.540 interested. And then slipping her your number on a napkin or something, you know, like just coming up to
00:08:12.580 women with a calm energy and not giving off this like needy energy or this like pushy energy. I think 0.68
00:08:18.780 that is what women don't like. I think it's really sweet and cute to be approached in person. And I know
00:08:26.680 that there's a lot of women like me, there's probably some women out there who don't want to be 0.99
00:08:29.800 approached and that's fine. I think it's your tone too. Like, it's like, if they come up with a soft tone,
00:08:34.740 we register that as like, you're a bit, you know, like, you know, um, it's hard. We don't have to do it. So
00:08:42.060 I have no idea what it is in a man's shoes, but I watch a lot of the PUA, like TikToks of them
00:08:47.160 approaching women. It seems like it's a lot of tone and it's hard to tell who's who, but I think you can
00:08:51.860 tell when you go up to a girl kind of right away, if she'd be interested or not based on her body
00:08:56.860 language and just be calm. Yeah. Um, you guys don't want to hear women's thoughts and approaching. You're 1.00
00:09:04.160 like, you don't know shit. Okay. Let me know what you think in the comments. Have you ever approached in 1.00
00:09:10.220 person? Um, if so, how did that go for you? Let me know in the comments. Make sure you like the video,
00:09:15.520 subscribe. I'll see you next time.