Pearl - Modern Women Make Terrible Bosses ｜ Pearl Daily

00:00:00.000 the wicked song one-one but the close the eyes to miss it cause i'm being tricked by all these

00:00:04.560 feminist witches i guess they don't get it but that's why i pray so there'll be better days 1.00

00:00:16.480 that's why i pray god lead the way maybe one day i won't be so afraid 0.71

00:00:25.360 I'm a sinner, this I know

00:00:29.600 The Bible thumpers tell me so 1.00

00:00:32.100 Life has got me feeling kind of low

00:00:35.600 All right, let me know if you can hear me

00:00:52.760 At the bottom of a bottle

00:00:54.500 You were out, living life full throttle

00:00:59.380 I found God at the end of a heartbreak

00:01:04.540 I didn't think there was much more I could take

00:01:09.460 I'm a sinner, this I know

00:01:13.080 The Bible thumpers tell me so 1.00

00:01:15.580 Life has got me feeling kinda low

00:01:18.960 I'm a sinner, this I know

00:01:22.900 The Bible thumpers tell me so 1.00

00:01:25.380 Life has got me feeling kinda low

00:01:28.720 But that's why I pray

00:01:31.000 So there'll be better days

00:01:34.840 Maybe I won't be a sinner always

00:01:38.320 That's why I pray

00:01:41.120 God lead the way

00:01:44.460 Maybe one day I won't be so afraid

00:01:48.140 That's why I pray

00:01:52.900 Never did fit in with the Jesus folk 1.00

00:02:03.360 They don't listen, they just like to talk

00:02:08.700 But I believe in better days

00:02:12.160 I believe that Jesus saves

00:02:14.440 God, please show me the way

00:02:17.840 That's why I pray

00:02:20.160 So there'll be better days

00:02:23.740 Maybe I won't be a sinner always

00:02:27.240 That's why I pray

00:02:29.820 God lead the way

00:02:33.400 Maybe one day I won't be so afraid

00:02:37.080 That's why I pray

00:02:50.160 say you looking for better days you need to change from the old to the better ways

00:02:54.160 this guy was calling your name but you ran away then decided to blame the church cause you was

00:02:58.240 led it straight i cannot walk in the council of the wicked it's all one one but the close 0.96

00:03:02.640 of the eyes to miss it cause i'm being tricked by all these feminist witches i guess they don't get 1.00

00:03:07.120 it but that's why I pray so they'll be a better day I gotta go check this on the chat I'm going to get

00:03:15.920 this that's why I pray God lead the way maybe one day I won't be so afraid

00:03:28.160 I'm a sinner this I know the bible thumpers tell me so life has got me feeling kind of low 1.00

00:03:37.120 all right it looks like i got the rumble chat what'd you guys think of the song

00:04:04.240 you know my producer's out of town for another week and a half

00:04:09.820 so god help me with this equipment i've early on in the show i would use it but now it's really

00:04:18.080 it's struggle stream and we're back but i think i'm getting better i think i'm getting a little

00:04:23.380 bit better and since i could show you guys my mixtape without the embarrassment of the producer

00:04:30.760 are looking at me you know I know this is like a cultural commentary show but I gotta I enjoy

00:04:38.620 showing you the mixtapes I just love I love making music I always said if I could do anything

00:04:45.180 I'd be a traveling folk artist and a professional athlete that talks about that talks to random

00:04:52.960 people about politics. Anyways, so maybe, maybe I'll make that a reality here, you know.

00:05:03.600 Anyways, so make sure you like the video on your way in, subscribe to the channel, and we're going

00:05:09.440 to get started about today's topic in one second. I just need to pull something up. So today we're

00:05:16.240 talking about, we're talking about female bosses. Now I want to preface, guys, before we get into

00:05:22.800 the topic we're on the app store the audacity network i built my own app so okay not me i got

00:05:29.680 a guy to do it you're okay i you guilty guilty as charged um on the website if you guys have a

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00:06:02.440 i'd love to get like 30 people in the live chat on the website i know it's a little embarrassing

00:06:07.180 we're we're starting slow sometimes we get to like 12 um but at some point if we get like 30 50 people

00:06:14.320 in there i want to just do one-on-one like um one-on-ones with you guys where you can have a

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00:06:28.800 so anyways if you want to support the channel if we get 10 signups a show i can be youtube free by

00:06:36.020 the end of the year and i'd be a lot less you know stressed out some days so to and and then

00:06:43.520 I'll have the money to finish this divorce documentary. The link to that's in the description

00:06:47.820 too. I do have the first edit covered, but, um, so I think it's around 10 to $12,000 that we raised

00:06:55.260 for this documentary, which by the way, guys was so nice. You know that you guys don't have to do

00:06:59.640 anything. I mean, how often do people want to send money to YouTubers? I get it. Um, but this

00:07:07.640 divorce documentary if we get the next payment then i can get a second edit so right now i have

00:07:16.320 a first edit and then i'm going to go back with them i might even show you guys on the website

00:07:21.680 the edits of the documentaries i was trying to think of a way to do it you guys can't leak it

00:07:26.880 but i want you guys involved in the process like if you're giving me your hard-earned money

00:07:30.460 you guys might as well be involved so anyways it would be cool we're at six live on the

00:07:37.540 website. It would be cool to get to 20 by the end of the stream. I'll be very excited. I'm going to

00:07:44.000 attempt to call in at the end of the show, but you know, I promise nothing. I am producing this

00:07:49.820 myself. Okay. So today we're talking about female bosses. Now I do have a monologue about this, 0.59

00:07:56.640 but I want to talk about my personal experience with female bosses. So generally in my life, 0.78

00:08:02.700 I've worked for mostly men. To be fair, I haven't had a lot of jobs outside of YouTube because I

00:08:12.180 started my career fairly early, but I worked in sales for a little bit. That was men. Copy your 0.92

00:08:18.680 sales. Women aren't doing that. And then I worked in at a plumbing tech company. It was also owned 1.00

00:08:26.800 by a guy. But my experience is more from coaches because for 22 years of my life, I had a lot of

00:08:33.280 coaches and women do are a large percentage of the coaches. And I could say one thing from working

00:08:43.880 with men and women, volleyball coaches, I'll say, I would say I had majority women. There's a lot of

00:08:50.420 challenges that came. For one, bosses that are female or coaches that are female are always 0.95

00:08:56.100 involved in the office drama um now obviously this is the team drama but whenever there was

00:09:02.740 like gossip about one girl whoring it up my coaches would find out it's weird behavior right 0.91

00:09:08.540 what are you worrying about a kid's sex life you know second thing um was that you know when i was

00:09:18.280 in college i played and she was a lovely lady to be honest i played for this woman i don't want to 1.00

00:09:24.820 her name although you guys could probably find her if you really wanted to um but i really liked her

00:09:29.380 as a coach however i experienced when i played for this team we were really competitive we were top

00:09:36.260 20 in all of division three at one point we were like 14th in the country really really competitive

00:09:43.060 team for d3 take with a grain of salt um and this coach whenever we would lose a game guys i

00:09:51.860 shit you not we would sit in the locker room for sometimes up to three hours talking about 0.73

00:09:59.860 everything that went wrong 0.99

00:10:01.760 and at one point in the season i counted how many hours we spent in that locker room and it was damn

00:10:11.020 near a part-time job the men when i had male coaches they would really just focus on what we

00:10:20.180 could improve. The women focused a lot more on the emotions. They would say things like, 1.00

00:10:25.500 you know, this is a mental game. And you know, I played volleyball for 22 years. Yeah, it's

00:10:32.580 somewhat mental, but not really. It's strategy. And male coaches tended to understand that. Like

00:10:43.140 one i had one woman young woman who went to a college in i think kentucky and her coach based

00:10:51.300 all of his decisions on numbers he was really on stats and this young woman she couldn't really 0.92

00:10:57.060 take it she it you know stressed her out too much um okay so doug says women bosses treat men better

00:11:06.340 i've never had a bad female boss as a professional but i've seen women destroy each other 1.00

00:11:10.740 um craig says i liked the song thank you guys on the website now we got seven people on the

00:11:17.580 website chat if you're curious you go to pearl daily on the website

00:11:21.500 and you join it you guys are awesome you guys are the best chat on youtube really

00:11:29.580 um okay so you know we always hear about how bad women have it in the modern day you know we have 1.00

00:11:38.880 the pay gap we have women aren't safe women are oppressed and you know of course they always blame 1.00

00:11:45.080 these issues on the men you know it's always the men's fault what about the men though um you know

00:11:51.980 an example of a place i see this in even outside of work is whenever women sleep with the boss 1.00

00:11:58.640 it's always the boss's fault and not the young hot woman like for some reason even in that 0.99

00:12:07.120 interaction. It's always the guy. I was even talking to my dad about this the other day.

00:12:11.080 And I'm like, dad, the women are apex predators. And he's like, no, the boss is in a position 0.99

00:12:17.220 of power. And I'm like, really, dad, you buy this? I love my dad. My dad's the best.

00:12:24.320 The best guy on the planet. But even him, even him like dad, you're falling for this.

00:12:28.220 If you look at the mainstream misandrist propaganda, women really can't stand each 1.00

00:12:34.180 other. You know, if you ask any woman, your mom, your sister, your female friends, you know, don't,

00:12:40.180 female friends really aren't worth it. But you know, maybe one or two, they'll tell you that, 1.00

00:12:45.460 you know, the person that has done the worst of the things to them in their lives is another woman. 1.00

00:12:52.340 And I could tell you a story about this. So I'll tell you guys a story. And maybe I hope she doesn't

00:12:58.100 go off on tick tock again but i don't care anymore god i don't care anymore so i had an ex i had a

00:13:04.820 friend that was like friends with me for 22 years 22 years and this woman this is how women use 1.00

00:13:15.940 reputation destruction i'll tell you what and i have notes on this but this woman i was friends 0.99

00:13:23.940 with for 22 years and i started my show and this this woman was a liberal right and to put it into 1.00

00:13:29.620 context this is a woman that asked me during george floyd if i posted a black square

00:13:41.460 and you know i'd always liked here we've been close since we were young so i just

00:13:45.220 i would always put politics aside or i mean i've always been a dork i probably talked about it a

00:13:50.260 little bit but you know you she was just the type you had to be careful what she said around because 1.00

00:13:58.660 you know she was i mean one of her friends said like her other friend couldn't see her kid if she

00:14:06.580 didn't get the covet shot i mean this is madness right i don't but i liked her as a person so much

00:14:13.220 so i was in this woman's wedding we were like best friends besties and she texted me one day

00:14:19.140 when I'm doing my show, and then gets mad at me for stuff I was saying on my show.

00:14:26.140 And essentially what it came down to, she said, say what I want.

00:14:31.980 Don't use words that I don't like on your show where I'm not going to be friends because

00:14:35.860 my daughter, my future daughter might see it one day.

00:14:39.620 And you know, I refrain from talking about her because you know, she's gone on TikTok

00:14:43.440 and she just goes off and I'm like, there she goes.

00:14:47.600 Now, anyways, this was really one of my first experiences where I'm like, wow, women really 1.00

00:14:55.200 like to control speech because she could have just shut off my show. 1.00

00:14:59.080 But 22 years of friendship, I guess, down the drain.

00:15:02.340 You know what my crime was?

00:15:03.340 It was so crazy. 0.88

00:15:04.060 I said, men can leave wives that get super fat. 1.00

00:15:14.800 What a time.

00:15:16.320 no, but this was a female friend, 20 years of friendship. And then I just said, okay,

00:15:22.280 you know, I ended it and that was it, you know, but sometimes she likes Spurgs on the internet, 0.61

00:15:28.100 whatever. Um, now this, this is just one example, right? But I think we can all think of, you know,

00:15:36.540 women that have backstabbed each other, you know, a common thing that I've heard is women 1.00

00:15:41.460 sleeping with each other's boyfriends, sleeping with each other's husbands.

00:15:46.320 Um, it's always another woman, you know, who is the woman and, and, oh my gosh, women, 1.00

00:15:53.860 when I got into this space, women started treating me like a man. 1.00

00:15:57.940 And do you know what? 1.00

00:16:03.600 Women have made up so much shit about me, or do you know what they do? 1.00

00:16:07.400 They take a small detail and put it completely. 1.00

00:16:11.220 They over-exaggerate it to destroy your reputation.

00:16:14.400 I mean, these, you know, maybe I'm not going to get into all of it. I'm not going to get into

00:16:21.180 all of it today. Um, it's always another woman, you know, who's the bad person that makes a bad 1.00

00:16:27.100 life decision that wants you to do the same so you can all be miserable together. You know,

00:16:32.660 when one woman's a whore, she has to get everyone to be a whore. Um, it's always another woman. 1.00

00:16:39.980 women make it more difficult for other women in the workplace queen bee syndrome is 1.00

00:16:45.800 a term for when women finally make it into management and then make life hell for every 1.00

00:16:53.160 other woman behind under her supervision and i've seen this in friend groups whenever there's a 0.91

00:17:00.420 female friend group every six months one of the girls gets tired of the other and tries to kick 1.00

00:17:05.000 girl out of the friend group but it rotates then they get less they bitch about that girl for three 0.99

00:17:10.200 months and then they let her back in the friend group and then it's a different girl's time to

00:17:14.600 get kicked out there's usually like three or four that are consistent that maybe you're less annoying

00:17:20.760 or for bitchy i don't know for whatever reason they don't kick get kicked out but um this is 1.00

00:17:29.160 female friend groups now female dominated industries are full of drama because 80 0.98

00:17:36.280 of workplace bullying is a woman bullying women catty behavior is normal working around other 1.00

00:17:45.720 women and women supervisors are stereotyped for being more emotional less and less compassionate

00:17:51.800 to female employees and taking out the frustrations in their personal lives around them that's why 1.00

00:17:57.640 why today we're going to talk about female bosses. Many women, 40% say they would rather work for a 1.00

00:18:03.720 male boss than a female boss. Is there really a patriarchy when almost half of women would rather 0.99

00:18:09.120 work for a man than a woman? So there's an article on LinkedIn. I was looking at this earlier. I was

00:18:15.400 cracking up. God, it was so funny. Oh, let me, let me turn on my camera switcher. Bear with me. And

00:18:23.180 going to take a second to read the chat i'm going to be doing a call in later so get ready um

00:18:32.300 women bosses oh wait i read that many women live on drama it's bizarre i had to chat with my mom 1.00

00:18:38.540 and sister life can be good if you let it we are above ground consider adding a business panel for 1.00

00:18:46.460 the guys who are interested in members can connect share ideas learn and support each other's growth 0.86

00:18:52.220 instead of endless talk of bitches let's build and scale together a business panel um 1.00

00:19:01.900 give me ideas fazel i'm not opposed to it okay so we're gonna go to camera for 0.98

00:19:08.140 okay we spend a lot of time um wait hold on the female paradox women prefer to work with men 1.00

00:19:15.340 we spend a lot of time talking about reading about and writing about the gender desert diversity

00:19:22.220 pay equality in the glass ceiling and lack of women in executive and leadership roles.

00:19:28.720 We hear about how there is a movement and change happening in this area and that women are advancing

00:19:35.740 the ball by leaning in more to accept executive responsibilities. So here's the pressing question

00:19:44.160 I couldn't shake that led me to write this article seeking answers. If there is a huge movement to

00:19:49.760 support and advance professional women? Why do both women and men report not only that they

00:19:54.940 prefer male bosses, but that they prefer to work with men in general more than women? What is the

00:20:01.840 real issue of working with women? The female leader paradox. Women say they support female 1.00

00:20:08.400 leaders, but they really don't want to work with or for them. How can this be? Can we create more

00:20:17.420 female executives without actually wanting to work for them? Can we support and advocate for 0.99

00:20:24.380 the advancement of women and for crushing the glass ceiling without going all in? Who are 1.00

00:20:30.480 female leaders supposed to lead when even women prefer to be led by men? Oh my God, that is so 1.00

00:20:38.060 funny. Women don't even want to do it. Women are like women in leadership and then they're like, 1.00

00:20:45.760 go work for the women. And they're like, you know what? They did this to me with sports. 1.00

00:20:51.280 All the women, all the women said, oh, you know, we want women and we support women's sports. I 0.99

00:20:57.180 never saw any of you feminists at my games. I played sports for 22 years. Do you know who 1.00

00:21:03.040 is the most supportive of female athletes? The male teams. They always got there early. They all

00:21:09.640 went to be fair they're probably trying to get some tail but hey you know what the youtube video

00:21:19.400 keeps going out oh no all right hold on guys let me does this work

00:21:32.040 no black screen oh my god

00:22:02.040 okay i think i got it

00:22:26.360 making up for the no black square yeah guys this

00:22:32.040 This woman, you know, and I never, you know, I should fire the woman in charge of the camera. 0.94

00:22:45.800 What?

00:22:46.020 I'm firing myself.

00:22:51.400 Yeah, let me, let me just fire me, you know.

00:22:54.340 Also, I do apologize for the moving of showtimes.

00:23:02.040 I'm trying to balance a lot. We're short-staffed. I'm doing the best I can. That's all I can say.

00:23:07.340 Go to theaudacitynetwork.com, okay, if you can.

00:23:16.580 Please, you know, monthly membership, yearly membership. Oh, we got seven in the chat. It'd

00:23:23.820 be nice to get to 10. Let's try to get to 10. Three more of you guys. It's 10 bucks a month,

00:23:28.980 a hundred bucks a year. Hire a man to fix the video. Okay. Then go to, go to the website.

00:23:38.680 Sorry. I'm kidding. I'm kidding. Um, I, I, we have one, but he's on vacation. So

00:23:44.540 I knew it before I hired him that he'd have to take like two weeks off right away. I just hired

00:23:49.660 him. So he's a really good producer, but he's coming back. Okay. So I think we have to ask

00:23:57.900 ourselves, are women sometimes unintentionally keeping women down? I'm not sure if it's the lack

00:24:04.360 of advancement of opportunities, societal norms, built-in expectations, or some sort of professional

00:24:11.780 jealousy or something else. But certainly there are underlying factors to contribute to these

00:24:18.860 statistics and research. According to this Forbes article authored by Matt Simmons,

00:24:26.240 Today, women occupy just 4% of CEO at Fortune 500 companies, and fewer than one in five 0.70

00:24:34.720 corporate board seats is held by women. 0.85

00:24:38.500 This Daily Beast article with data and a new Gallup poll authored by Lizzie Crocker informs

00:24:44.240 us that 40% of women prefer a male in charge compared to 27% who prefer a female boss. 0.64

00:24:51.160 This article says that these numbers don't exactly show a groundswell of women adopting Sheryl Sandberg's lean-in attitude, nor have they budged much over a decade.

00:25:02.220 The article, authored by Olga Kahazan and featured in The Atlantic, reviews a Pew article survey that indicates, in fact, more women said they'd rather work with men than men did.

00:25:14.140 The article goes on to confirm that the dilemma gets worse, not better with younger generations.

00:25:18.700 we have to do more to support professional women we have to want to work for them 0.94

00:25:24.900 we often have this discussion about breaking the glass ceiling and resolving pay inequalities as

00:25:31.560 if it's a male driven phenomenon but clearly it isn't from what i can tell it's very much

00:25:37.520 or at least equally a female driven phenomenon i pose i pose that until women actually want to 1.00

00:25:45.780 work with and for other women, these statistics will not change until women stop viewing leadership

00:25:51.140 as mostly a masculine concept. These stats won't change. Unless women match words to deeds and 1.00

00:25:57.640 develop supportive workplace relationships in professional women, these stats will not change 0.89

00:26:02.860 until women report at least equal preference for working with and other women, nothing will change. 0.93

00:26:08.740 Why? Because of supply and demand. Women increasingly making up more and more of 1.00

00:26:14.520 professional of the professional workplace we have the dominant voice and our voice and actions are

00:26:20.160 sending the message that men should be in charge so how funny is it women women got together 0.88

00:26:27.000 and they said let's do this on our own girl power and then feminism always eats itself because the 1.00

00:26:33.960 women they started working for the other women and they thought i don't know about this oh this

00:26:39.880 is pretty bad maybe the men maybe the men had had had a point you know um doug says the average

00:26:48.860 career life of a male ceo is seven to eight years the average career life of a female ceo is two to 0.89

00:26:54.640 three years women get to the top and then quit because it's too hard fazal says my brother thank 1.00

00:27:01.940 you for your support let's meet monthly to add more flavor to the audacity network we can bring

00:27:07.280 and Glenn share ideas. If we hit a wall, gain insights from Pearl's dad to grow stronger

00:27:12.860 together. You know what? My dad might meet with you guys on the website privately. He's

00:27:19.420 not a public, he's not a public guy. We can do that. We can do that actually. We can totally

00:27:29.460 do that. Faisal, I think I owe you a meeting, actually. I just remembered this. I apologize.

00:27:40.500 Okay. Number one, some, all right, so she listed some reasons women don't like working for other 1.00

00:27:47.620 women. One, get this, professional jealousy. Women being jealous, never, never. We're always happy. 1.00

00:27:56.060 especially when other women get promoted fast beyond us or get her work projects noticed more 1.00

00:28:03.960 okay so this is essentially a hotter woman comes into the office so there's a woman that's in the 1.00

00:28:10.720 office she's used to being the hottest woman and then a younger hotter tighter woman comes in 1.00

00:28:16.500 and she makes her life a living hell it's like the 30 year olds with the 20 year olds 1.00

00:28:22.180 limited opportunities since we are competing for such limited roles are we intentionally or

00:28:28.240 unintentionally backbiting and sabotaging one another because there is not enough for all of

00:28:34.180 us different standards for different women do women have different standards for women and with 1.00

00:28:41.240 children and those without them how about married versus single women how do we apply different 0.98

00:28:46.780 standards. Discomfort working with smart, beautiful women. History shows that men don't

00:28:52.940 take beautiful women seriously. But is that still the case? Or I think that ugly women have a harder 1.00

00:28:59.480 time. Or is now more beautiful women a problem? Are women still viewing the workplace as a dating 1.00

00:29:07.040 pool and competing for male attention? Women can't even give it up. When a woman is beautiful, 1.00

00:29:15.020 So are women the ones questioning her competence and intelligence, hence showing her less respect? 0.97

00:29:23.040 The marriage and motherhood factors.

00:29:27.480 Do women look negatively on women who are not married and or mothers? 0.92

00:29:32.520 Yes, of course.

00:29:35.600 Balancing politeness with assertiveness.

00:29:38.620 If the woman is polite and friendly, do we view her as too polite and too friendly? 0.95

00:29:43.260 when she is assertive and direct? Do we view her as temperamental 0.93

00:29:46.500 above herself or even bitchy? I could go on but the ultimate and

00:29:50.880 final question here is how do we overcome gender biases that not 0.89

00:29:55.740 only men have but also women have against women? There you 0.91

00:30:02.940 have it guys. Isn't that insane? Women don't even want to work 1.00

00:30:06.660 with other women. Let me know in the chat. Can you guys go on

00:30:11.460 website and type in your female boss experience they'd be very helpful to me i'm gonna try i

00:30:18.900 think when i share my screen that's when this goes black i want to test this is my screen black again

00:30:25.940 if it is i'll see in a second okay next we have a tick tock of older woman hated this woman in 1.00

00:30:38.500 in the workplace oh my gosh i am so dumb this is why it went black i did not plug in 0.91

00:30:49.220 oh that's so embarrassing oh i was just getting better at producing 0.95

00:30:57.220 oh my gosh

00:31:01.220 now it's gonna work what the

00:31:02.820 okay why is it blocked tiktok

00:31:09.260 okay hold on

00:31:15.480 oh there we go okay this should work now first was to have older women just hate me 1.00

00:31:22.080 for existing we'll talk about i'm gonna go turn this up slightly hold on hold on

00:31:32.820 It says a good bit of that confusion makes this show more entertaining.

00:31:58.260 I'll take it.

00:31:59.260 You know what I mean?

00:32:00.420 Okay.

00:32:00.960 We're going to go back to the beginning.

00:32:02.240 prepared for in the workforce was to have older women just hate me I turned this up 0.99

00:32:07.100 we'll talk about older men that's like oh my gosh okay let me let me go back

00:32:32.240 Okay, well, hopefully this works.

00:33:02.240 i don't know little groups and so my boss was under this one my boss was an older lady maybe 1.00

00:33:07.280 in her 60s and she had worked at this company for 20 years we all different ships so like i could

00:33:11.520 come in at 6 a.m and leave at 3 p.m and that's what i did so i came in at 6 a.m and then she

00:33:15.440 would come in at like a normal time 8 a.m and every day she'd come in she would ask only me

00:33:20.240 what i was doing so you know there's a whole team of like i don't know 15 of us she would say chrissy

00:33:25.680 what have you done then she would log into the back end of my computer to see what i had been

00:33:30.080 doing that day and the thing is i didn't really realize that i was being like singled out you know

00:33:37.040 she got mad at me for taking a lot of water breaks i was also competing in grass beds like i peed a

00:33:41.680 lot you know i get that um so i was naive and i went to hr and i was like hey i just don't think

00:33:46.400 she's treating me fairly she's like treating me different than everyone else now this company

00:33:50.400 also had someone that was on fmla leave and also was just like went finished a lawsuit from um

00:33:57.120 someone not getting their proper lunch breaks so I'm assuming they were like really fearful of a

00:34:01.680 lawsuit I was freshly 21 I don't even like that didn't even come into my brain okay um so I just

00:34:08.140 went to them because that's what I thought you were supposed to do and I was like hey I just

00:34:11.120 think she's like picking on me and I don't really understand it and it got to a point where like

00:34:13.880 she would call me out in front of everyone she would talk down to me but the thing is like

00:34:17.400 my accounts were happy I was hitting goals I was doing okay it's just that I could do the job in

00:34:23.700 less time than everyone else yeah so women this is a common problem with women women don't care 1.00

00:34:31.320 about getting things done they care about looking like they're getting things done

00:34:36.280 so her problem was that she could work less and get more done and her boss would get mad 0.99

00:34:43.620 at her even though she was getting her stuff done now i want to take a moment and say thank

00:34:52.300 you so much to fazelle for getting the yearly membership you got annual on the app every time

00:34:58.620 you guys download the app and it ranks us higher in the app store so i do appreciate you guys going

00:35:05.940 up um also i want to thank gabe you you're awesome thank you to and i i want to say thank you to

00:35:18.140 madam thank you to matthew thank you to mark this app is going good this app's going good

00:35:27.740 okay so next we got um women bosses are less oh wait hold on another tick tock of women talking 1.00

00:35:41.000 about how female bosses are the worst okay so let me go here we often talk about me okay so we often 1.00

00:35:48.260 talk about male bosses and how they are the worst but let me tell you female bosses are the fucking 1.00

00:35:55.720 worst they are nasty they're blank cutthroat blank degrading to other females they're the worst to 1.00

00:36:05.460 deal with and i'm not saying all of them okay but 90 of the time they are mean ass ish okay 1.00

00:36:13.560 and for some reason they're the most straightforward with their like shitty ways 0.99

00:36:18.540 and i don't know it's because they're jealous they feel intimidated or they just hate females 0.92

00:36:25.620 i don't know okay but they always seem to be in a power trip and they always seem to hate the idea

00:36:33.540 of other females being around and trying to like better themselves and this it never makes sense

00:36:39.380 to me it never makes sense like i used to work at this uh place in san antonio and i was supposed to

00:36:48.020 learn from this lady who had been with the company since they started she was about to retire

00:36:52.140 you know she was like the mom of the company because she had been there for so long 0.87

00:36:56.320 she didn't want to fucking train me i literally followed this woman around and she would be like 1.00

00:37:02.260 oh no i'm not gonna teach you that you don't need to know that's what i'm here for okay but 1.00

00:37:07.440 you're gonna retire bitch you old as fuck you're gonna retire um and she never wanted to train me 1.00

00:37:13.240 so they literally removed me from that and like guided my position into something else because 1.00

00:37:19.260 she didn't want to train nobody she was mean she was degrading she was cutthroat she was fucking 0.98

00:37:24.680 nasty for no reason all i was to her was respectful we got eight on the website by the way 0.99

00:37:31.200 can you guys hear the rain is that coming through it's raining kind of hard out here and i was

00:37:35.540 excited to learn and i was excited for like my job it'd be cool to get a 10 let's get 10 on the

00:37:41.940 website and she did not want to have none of it she was on this power trip that she was the only

00:37:47.720 one that knew things and she had been with the company for whatever many years and she was mean

00:37:52.280 okay so yeah male bosses are horrible and extremely demanding at times but female bosses 1.00

00:37:59.940 the wrong female bosses 1.00

00:38:02.360 the worst

00:38:05.260 the worst and I'm sure there's

00:38:07.020 women out there who know 1.00

00:38:08.500 the type of bosses I'm talking about

00:38:10.980 that just hate you for no reason 1.00

00:38:12.820 and you're just there trying to do your damn job 1.00

00:38:15.000 and they just fucking hate your guts 1.00

00:38:16.500 and they treat you like crap 1.00

00:38:18.900 I had a couple 0.99

00:38:21.020 coaches that were

00:38:22.720 bullied me

00:38:24.260 oh my gosh

00:38:26.560 okay we got another one another woman 1.00

00:38:28.640 complaining about her female boss then i think next we'll do a call-in so if you guys have

00:38:34.080 some stories about a terrible female boss i will put a zoom link in the chat after this

00:38:41.200 at some point i will only take it from the website that day is not today we're almost

00:38:47.360 to 10 people on the website though let's get 10 in the live chat on there we're at eight now

00:38:53.600 learned from working for two very insecure women bullies had two bullies in my life and they were 1.00

00:39:01.260 both female bosses the other side of that i have had two wonderful amazing female leaders one of 1.00

00:39:06.220 which is mine right now and i would do anything for her an insecure boss is going to constantly 1.00

00:39:10.740 be living in fear that you are going to take their job so they will withhold resources training

00:39:15.040 anything from you just to keep you at this level they do not want to see you succeed whether it's

00:39:19.520 in that company or elsewhere and they are going to do everything in their power to keep it that way

00:39:23.500 They do not respect your time. They will participate in company gossip and likely be the ones that start it in order to break down the team and create some weird divide so that they can be your saving grace and also take the attention away from the fact that they suck. 0.99

00:39:35.700 They have an inability of self-awareness or gratitude.

00:39:38.400 They will micromanage to the point that you are no longer empowered to make any decision and you start to second-guess your confidence.

00:39:46.860 You heard it from women, folks. 1.00

00:39:49.180 Folks, women got together and they said, let's empower each other. 1.00

00:40:01.140 They said, let's fight.

00:40:03.300 Let's crush the patriarchy. 1.00

00:40:05.840 Let's do this awesome thing.

00:40:07.880 Let's build companies.

00:40:09.240 And then women worked for other women and said, not like that. 1.00

00:40:12.600 No, thank you.

00:40:13.680 They entered a man's world and said, I'm good. 0.97

00:40:15.960 okay i want to read on the chat on the website which we have eight people on can we get to 10

00:40:24.100 people let's try to get to 10 anyways okay zach said i've had a few female bosses one in particular 1.00

00:40:30.180 would crash that every week or so slamming doors yelling etc craig says practice makes perfect you

00:40:36.360 will do better next time i'm an engineer and i've actually had some very good female bosses bosses 1.00

00:40:41.160 and colleagues you know my brother has similar experiences like maybe engineers are better

00:40:46.520 i expect engineering might be somewhat different very few women and more data driven fazelle it's 1.00

00:40:52.280 all good life gets hectic let's reconnect whenever it works for you my guy fazelle fazelle's a fazelle's

00:41:00.360 funny actually he's a funny guy okay i'm gonna go start the zoom i think that was my last video

00:41:07.240 i want to know from you what is your female boss story so i think i get a little bit better of 0.93

00:41:13.800 stories when i allow you guys to not be on camera so today we're going to do that so you can join

00:41:20.600 the zoom but it's not going to be on camera i am going to make you listen to another one of my

00:41:26.120 mixtapes um while i go figure this out because you know i gotta i gotta plug i gotta plug my mixtapes

00:41:41.160 we don't party like we used to take me we don't party like we used to

00:41:49.160 Take me back to 1992

00:41:52.560 Everybody's acting brand new

00:41:56.900 We're not looking across the room

00:42:00.580 Everybody is looking down

00:42:04.280 On their phones, no one's around

00:42:07.980 Yeah, we used to tear up the town

00:42:11.680 Now I don't hear a sound

00:42:15.580 People don't dance cause somebody's watching

00:42:21.100 Drink too much, everybody's talking

00:42:24.600 We used to rage like there was no stopping

00:42:28.320 So put your hands up, everybody's walking

00:42:32.040 Put your phone down and get on the dance floor

00:42:35.960 Shake that booty like you never did before 0.91

00:42:39.560 Look real steely, yeah, raise your hands

00:42:43.000 Let's get together and baby just dance 1.00

00:42:47.700 We used to snap a Polaroid

00:43:03.320 Now the whole night's on record

00:43:06.820 I used to know who my neighbor was

00:43:10.960 Now we really don't do that stuff

00:43:14.360 We used to go out and ding-dong ditch

00:43:18.120 Now that ring cam is the biggest snitch 1.00

00:43:22.300 Now all these young kids do is stream on Twitch

00:43:25.660 2020s are the biggest glitch

00:43:29.380 People don't dance cause somebody's watching

00:43:34.960 Drink too much, everybody's talking

00:43:38.440 We used to rage like there was no stopping

00:43:42.120 So put your hands up, everybody's rocking

00:43:45.840 Put your phone down and get on the dance floor

00:43:49.740 Shake that booty like you never did before 0.91

00:43:53.400 Look real steely, yeah, raise your hands

00:43:56.840 Let's get together, baby, just dance

00:44:01.500 Take a shot, baby, get your move on

00:44:08.540 Be like Stella and get your move on

00:44:13.020 Take a shot, baby, get your move on

00:44:19.600 Be like Stella and get your move on

00:44:23.160 There ain't nothing you can't do wrong

00:44:27.520 We don't party like we used

00:44:31.440 do take me back to 1992 everybody's acting brand new we're not looking across the room

00:44:45.920 okay i have it in audacity look at rumble you're just gonna have to go to my website

00:44:50.560 www.theaudacitynetwork.com

00:44:55.020 It's on the link

00:44:57.460 And I just put it on the website and YouTube

00:45:02.220 I'm going to play one more

00:45:04.040 One more mixtape

00:45:05.480 I got to do what I got to do

00:45:06.900 This one I'm getting produced

00:45:09.860 Hold on

00:45:20.560 Hold on, let me

00:45:25.520 This one I haven't gotten produced yet

00:45:29.880 But I will, I'm going to do one more song

00:45:32.120 While I get this

00:45:32.960 I get this ready, I gotta entertain you guys

00:45:36.140 Somehow

00:45:36.560 Or you know what, I'll play an old video of mine

00:45:40.000 While we're waiting

00:45:42.680 We could do

00:45:45.900 This was

00:45:46.820 We'll play this one

00:45:49.680 Sleeping around different for men and for women, yes or no?

00:45:52.340 Yeah, men don't have to face the consequences.

00:45:55.160 Yeah, I think the same.

00:45:56.240 I think, yeah, when women do it, it's not really acceptable, 1.00

00:45:59.960 but when guys do it, it's fine.

00:46:01.880 I don't know.

00:46:02.660 Oh, for sure, definitely.

00:46:04.520 It depends less fun, though.

00:46:06.520 It's not less fun.

00:46:08.040 It's just that women have to face the consequences. 1.00

00:46:10.480 Men just get branded as legends.

00:46:13.680 Women judge other women as well for sleeping around, I think. 1.00

00:46:17.600 as as you get older yeah i think people care less nowadays if girls sleep around more 1.00

00:46:26.720 some dudes especially with like the whole andrew tate thing some dudes actually care about body 0.98

00:46:30.480 count and shit that's so do you think body count matters fuck no in fact the higher the better 0.99

00:46:35.840 you actually know what you're doing in bed so i have a question would you guys say your body 1.00

00:46:39.440 count no so if it doesn't matter like why don't people just say it what's your body

00:46:43.760 I won't say it.

00:46:44.600 No, do you know what I'm saying?

00:46:46.000 I'm not saying my friends.

00:46:47.060 Yeah, not on an email.

00:46:48.820 But it's just interesting,

00:46:50.160 because we'll say it doesn't matter,

00:46:51.660 but then it's like, if it doesn't matter,

00:46:52.900 why doesn't everyone just say it?

00:46:54.320 Very intellectual thought.

00:46:56.000 Because honestly, for a guy,

00:46:58.120 I think personally, I wish I was a virgin.

00:47:01.280 I wish I waited until marriage.

00:47:02.420 I think one is too many.

00:47:03.440 I disagree.

00:47:04.280 I wish I did, yeah.

00:47:05.380 I really, I wish I was a virgin, yeah.

00:47:08.120 Really?

00:47:09.120 You need to know that the person

00:47:11.600 you're gonna marry is yeah exactly sexual chemistry sexual chemistry is so important

00:47:17.360 i i feel like if you okay that full video is on www.theaudacitynetwork.com i kind of regret

00:47:27.200 those street interviews because i could have did not regret but i just wasted so much time

00:47:34.960 on the moral side of things and i really regret that time in my career

00:47:39.200 even though I meant what I said. But the reason I regretted a little bit is because

00:47:45.440 I could have asked so many more interesting questions. I could have said,

00:47:54.140 okay, what counts as a body to you? If a guy fingers you, is that a body? Do you guys count

00:47:59.900 head? Is that a body count? I think we need to do a show, everybody, where we detail what is body

00:48:07.760 count what is it so doug um is on the line by the way i don't as far as i know this is this

00:48:15.280 is struggle producing so as far as i know i need you guys to stay muted i need you guys to stay

00:48:22.160 muted or we deep shelby god help me i don't want to get up what is it please please please um

00:48:29.040 It's on the line. By the way, I don't, as far as I know. This is struggle producing, so as far as I know.

00:48:35.540 Oh, my God. Why are you doing this to me?

00:48:41.480 Uh-oh.

00:48:42.620 Shelby, God help me. I don't want to get up.

00:48:45.720 Please.

00:48:46.120 Please.

00:48:48.240 It's on the line. By the way, I don't, as far as I know. This is struggle producing, so it's struggle producing.

00:48:54.120 Oh, my God.

00:48:59.040 Thank you.

00:49:29.040 okay i don't know the woman left guys please god please for the love of god i have no producer

00:49:44.240 here i'm doing my best please do not come on the zoom with your mic on please like you see this

00:49:52.960 struggle okay can you hear me okay bro yeah doug i can can i think i made you a host so i think you

00:50:00.240 can boot people uh yeah i'll look but yaya's on the phone and seb okay so well first doug can you

00:50:09.780 can you start us off today with your female boss story so tell you the truth since i've become

00:50:16.800 a professional i've never i've had a bad female team lead but never a bad female boss as in the 1.00

00:50:22.960 one who writes my performance reviews but women treat male employees women supervisors treat male

00:50:30.580 employees better than their female ones 100 i've seen the same female boss be nice to me and then 1.00

00:50:36.280 just destroy every other woman in the office what so what was do you have any what was the story

00:50:44.140 with the person that was your colleague was it like what did they do to make your life go ahead

00:50:51.420 i've seen you know what it is it's because see men we don't go into our jobs trying to be happy

00:50:58.780 or trying to be social or trying to find a passion so when you find women who are trying to be happy

00:51:04.460 at work or find a passion and it clashes and one has authority over the other it's like a powder

00:51:13.020 keg so one of the reasons why i get along with with all my bosses is because my real job i mean

00:51:19.520 it's just a means to an end to me like i i don't think that i'm going to save the world i don't

00:51:23.800 think that i'm special but if you have two women who think that they're special and one has 1.00

00:51:29.020 authority over over the other it's going to be chaos so um i've and then also if you're the guy

00:51:36.040 that gets along with your female boss she'll try to get you involved and stuff she'll talk trash 1.00

00:51:41.620 about another woman to you and then oh you don't i don't like her do you like her you're supposed

00:51:47.300 to say no but you guys just don't get involved don't get involved in squabbles between women

00:51:54.820 especially supervisors uh and uh subordinates they always just try to get the men involved in

00:52:02.180 their squabbles don't do it don't say anything just listen but don't take a side don't say anything

00:52:08.980 because i've seen women try to make people to take sides in the office i've seen what was the 1.00

00:52:16.580 what was the what happened that made them take sides what um

00:52:26.500 was there a fight or something

00:52:31.380 no do we lose him

00:52:34.740 no

00:52:34.980 okay well well we got a second we got some new signups on the website dusty

00:52:42.920 we got a dusty on the website we also got um sean welcome to the site

00:52:53.560 we also got a oh wait for a while so thank you guys guys if we get 10 a show

00:53:02.000 we don't even have to do ads i'm talking to some ads people but you know we attend a show

00:53:08.860 consistently i think doug dropped okay next we got yaya um do you want to unmute yaya

00:53:18.020 no okay well i guess i will

00:53:27.360 you don't have a story well yeah yeah why are you here what are you the zoom was for people

00:53:36.820 that have a story about female bosses i'm not trying to be rude you know go on the website go

00:53:43.320 get the app then you can interact with me and i'll read it but the zoom it's like the second

00:53:51.800 you you could listen

00:53:55.720 yeah that's what youtube's for you know yeah you just go to the website um and then i can read your

00:54:06.120 your chats or whatever but i don't know why you're here okay sub we got sub next

00:54:12.760 you can unmute if you got a female boss story i'd love to hear if you guys could tell me the

00:54:17.640 industry that you're in and like what age maybe this happened to you hey hey pearl i'm back i i

00:54:24.200 got booted but but i'll make sure to let you know who's in the chat who's not who's on there how'd

00:54:29.560 you get booted like the wi-fi or what i don't know it's just connected but i'm back so you

00:54:35.160 you said yeah i think you can can are you able to bring people up i think you can i made you

00:54:40.840 oh wait no not anymore he probably okay we'll do our best so sub said he needs a second so then

00:54:49.080 um okay so we can go to alexander wesner are you ready

00:54:55.880 he's trying to unmute unmute there we go can you hear me all right yeah i can hear you no one's on

00:55:02.120 camera by the way as far as i know sure sure my tech is so you know there's nothing fishy going

00:55:07.720 yeah yeah so what's your female boss story so this would have been a few years ago i was working in 0.99

00:55:16.360 retail just customer service industry um what would you call it a corner store kind of thing

00:55:22.760 um so i had a female boss i had several over the time and i had obviously female peers i actually 1.00

00:55:30.840 found that maybe a male boss would be preferable but if i'm gonna have female peers i actually 1.00

00:55:38.760 like having a female boss because they actually appreciate somebody who's hard working or follows

00:55:46.040 orders well that kind of thing um i actually had an incident with one of my female colleagues where 1.00

00:55:54.440 she was doing some dramatic spiel and um i offered her some life advice because she was going through

00:56:01.720 some hard times or whatever come to find out the next day she spent some story about how i'm being

00:56:09.640 degrading and abusive and all these things verbally abusive what was the advice what was

00:56:17.880 the advice what did you say she uh she was some 20 21 year old maybe and she was like trying to 1.00

00:56:27.880 adopt her third kid when she could barely handle two or it wasn't adopters fostering so they had

00:56:34.040 all kinds of issues she was going on and on about it um yeah hey guys make sure you mute when you

00:56:43.400 get on i'll call you on one by one but i just want to hear the stories but keep going to alexander

00:56:48.920 go ahead sure um so effectively so she uh she talked to my boss about it before i got into my

00:56:57.800 shift and then as soon as i came up and came into the store my boss is like hey can i talk to you

00:57:02.040 for a second and the three of us went into the office and it's a super awkward pause and then

00:57:08.200 my boss starts relaying to me what this co-worker was saying about me i'm like no nobody they have

00:57:16.040 been very cordial and i've taught them just about anything they know in the store like it's i'm

00:57:21.000 i'm pretty sure nothing like that happened um and uh effectively my boss took my side because i'd

00:57:30.360 been there longer and just because she knew my character yeah and she could read very clearly

00:57:35.400 between the lines that this was obviously a a move to make drama and a manipulation tactic and

00:57:45.240 she could see that she could understand did you tell her to get rid of the kids was that it was

00:57:49.640 it like maybe don't foster it was kind of yeah i was like maybe don't keep fostering more oh she

00:57:55.960 had like she was also trying to like foster dogs and stuff at the same time she had like two of

00:58:00.760 them there's a whole thing um why do women get animals they're not ready for my sister did this 1.00

00:58:06.440 too she got a horse you know what commitment of horses oh my goodness yeah i love horses but man

00:58:12.200 they are a lot of work you got to be ready for them yeah i won't lie i died the other day all

00:58:17.880 right tim make sure please i can't i can't i need you to mute till it's your turn i'm going to call

00:58:25.400 you up but i gotta i gotta keep the show going okay thank you um it's struggle production today

00:58:32.200 but yeah my sister i'll tell you what though this this horse died and my dad was so happy

00:58:39.240 he was so happy this thing died because it was such a like oh my gosh it was so expensive for years

00:58:48.600 you know yeah that basically sums up the story um that that co-worker ended up being fired

00:58:55.160 later on but for different reasons um but looking back on it i wonder whether a male boss is

00:59:01.960 the 30s or 40s might have not been a little bit more sympathetic to her and right taking her

00:59:08.760 words that more face value oh so so you almost are less likely to get a false accusation because

00:59:15.720 women hate other women that's the same yeah they can't stand each other yeah oftentimes yeah sad 1.00

00:59:24.120 to say i could see where that would make sense well thanks for the story i appreciate you calling in

00:59:30.440 thank you okay every night okay can you next what tim is next okay i'm you tim

00:59:39.640 can you unmute

00:59:45.160 tim are you there unmute yeah i'm here buddy i'm here hey tim how's it going

00:59:56.140 good how are you doing pearl love your show thanks for watching what do you think of the

01:00:02.980 topic what's your female boss story oh boy i was in the military for 20 years oh no and i

01:00:14.900 first class video officer that okay wait one second do you have my do you have something

01:00:20.420 going in the background do you have my show going in the background tim i think it's echoing like

01:00:28.420 yeah can you pause it hold on yeah hold on okay

01:00:42.420 uh no i don't other than your show

01:00:46.580 can you can you mute for a second okay hold on i want to see something because i hear an echo i

01:00:53.140 think it's you could be someone else but i think yeah i think you got something running

01:01:01.780 okay i'm gonna go to i'm gonna go to a different caller try to get rid of the echo and then we'll

01:01:05.860 bring you back okay tim okay all right so we're gonna go to sub just for a second if tim you can

01:01:13.700 mute yourself for a second we'll come back to you oh wait wait i think it's gone how's that i think

01:01:21.540 think you fixed it. Yeah, I think you fixed it. Okay, tell me about the military. Go ahead.

01:01:28.080 Okay, I had a first-class pity officer. She was a female, and I was a second-class pity officer 0.99

01:01:35.760 at the time, and she would make my life absolutely miserable. 1.00

01:01:44.960 How so? Yeah, I'm listening. What would she do?

01:01:48.480 she would send me out on stupid runs like what we did was we were a trouble desk 0.99

01:01:58.620 and somebody would call in and say I got a problem with the refrigerator or something like that 0.99

01:02:04.040 and uh instead of going to the house first checking out the situation figuring out what

01:02:13.300 was wrong and then coming back to the warehouse if the refrigerator was bad or something was bad

01:02:20.660 she would tell me to go get the appliance first and then swap it out even if the other

01:02:28.260 appliance was still good come to find out on nine times out of ten all it was was a circuit breaker

01:02:36.260 so i was moving around furniture and appliances and everything else

01:02:42.440 knowing that it might have been a circuit breaker wow did um and god 1.00

01:02:52.160 yeah go ahead pearl did you ever see i've heard military women are complete whores 1.00

01:02:59.280 Is that true? 0.99

01:03:01.460 Oh, I was in Diego Garcia.

01:03:08.220 Back at that time, the population on Diego Garcia was, I'd say, 98% men.

01:03:18.580 And the only women that were on the island were older officers, female officers. 1.00

01:03:23.900 and whenever there was a ship that would come in

01:03:28.780 the females that were on that ship would come on uh shore for liberty and leave rich 1.00

01:03:39.380 they were hookers no these are military females no i meant they were they're having sex for 1.00

01:03:48.780 money is that how they would leave rich oh yeah so they were hookers they were hooking themselves 1.00

01:03:55.520 and uh oh my god it was something else

01:04:02.020 and one time one time your question i've always wanted to ask a military person this

01:04:08.840 did you see dealing with female officers that they would emulate the worst part of male leadership 1.00

01:04:17.560 trying to be a male in their role as a as a leader in the military because that's what they

01:04:24.220 thought that they should do was that your experience no no i mostly worked under male

01:04:31.500 uh leadership i was mostly in battalions and the only time i was had any type of female 1.00

01:04:41.480 leadership was when i was on adac alaska in public works okay but they pretty much were

01:04:52.440 professional you know it was it was just like it was just like the time the only time that

01:04:59.400 that i've seen where women were looking themselves was was the barcia were they at least hot 1.00

01:05:11.480 some weren't but when you've been on an island for for eight and a half months without a single

01:05:18.400 woman on there a number one is a number 10 wow so if you want to bat out of your league go find

01:05:27.760 a boyfriend on that island right if you wanna if you wanna you got eight months to make him

01:05:36.920 fall in love before he finds better options well get this one good when i was there they brought up

01:05:45.960 uh we just are almost finishing up with a nine-month deployment

01:05:51.880 and for some reason the upper echelon figured they would bring on miss america and her court 1.00

01:05:59.720 and there they had the uh stage it looked like a prison entrance they had chain link fence

01:06:14.440 from one side to the other from the floor all the way to the roof they had two exits

01:06:20.680 or one entrance and one exit and they had vans backed up to those entrances and that's where

01:06:31.480 miss america and her court would exit the van in the stairs go up on stage and underneath chain 1.00

01:06:40.600 link fans now later on when uh the uh show was over and all the guys went back home

01:06:51.240 or back to their bunks and everything there's a lot of springs squeaking

01:06:58.600 i've heard the military women get down oh yeah did you ever did you ever date one 1.00

01:07:06.120 did you ever like date someone at work uh i mean i started how'd that go it didn't go too well

01:07:16.120 what happened how did it end well have you ever heard that it's your turn that was about it

01:07:29.480 she's not she's not yours but it's your turn where'd she go to like your other colleague 1.00

01:07:36.120 oh yeah

01:07:40.680 irish she she was uh we were dated we dated for a few months and uh i was on duty

01:07:53.800 and i had to come back home to get something real quick and found them in the bedroom

01:08:00.280 yeah okay have fun that was the last time i've seen her oh so you were dating her and you found

01:08:09.980 her in your bedroom yeah we had well what we used to do is we used to get an apartment like a two 0.78

01:08:19.680 bedroom or you know something like that and have like three guys go in on one apartment to cut down

01:08:26.680 on the rent money and uh yeah she knew when i had duty and so did he and so when i had duty

01:08:41.320 they started doing the nasty and and like i said i had to come back home for something

01:08:47.480 real quick and then caught him and that was the end of that wow were you mad or were you just

01:08:53.720 like i saw this coming um i kind of saw it coming uh but then again i have been single my whole

01:09:04.520 entire life i am now 65 years old and uh for some reason i have always was happy when the relationship

01:09:17.880 was over i truly believe that there are some people that are meant to have partners

01:09:26.200 and there are some people that are meant to be single and i think i fall into the category of

01:09:35.400 meant to be single got it so you're kind of relieved you're like i've had enough of this

01:09:41.800 abroad oh yeah i've had oh geez well i've had several women i had a girlfriend sort of uh

01:09:54.280 i'm not going to mention her name but uh we i known her since i was

01:10:01.800 12 years old and she was 11. and she found out where i was

01:10:07.400 and uh i knew she was married and so i was stationed down in san diego and she gave me a call

01:10:21.140 one day and i says well aren't you married and she goes no i'm no longer i'm no longer an item

01:10:30.340 with my with my husband and she asked if she could come down and visit so i says oh sure

01:10:36.480 you're not married sure so for once i'm not the one that had to pay for the plane

01:10:43.840 or the train ticket to get her down there she bought it a round trip ticket so she came down

01:10:52.240 and we had some good times we went to see uh sea world together and a few other

01:10:58.880 the amusement park down in southern california and so it was time for her to go back

01:11:07.520 so i get a letter in the mail that you know saying how what a wonderful time she had and she

01:11:14.720 and and and everything was wonderful and at the bottom of the letter she wrote would you pay for

01:11:23.040 my divorce oh my god so she asked you to pay for her divorce for your divorce you said you were

01:11:33.600 already you weren't you weren't married you you you split the sheets so now you want me to pay 1.00

01:11:40.720 for a divorce i was messing around with a married woman she could have got you killed oh god you 1.00

01:11:50.000 well well speaking of you know don't covet thy neighbor's wife type thing so i sin 0.92

01:11:59.040 not knowing it you know and and i'm not super religious but yeah i i kind of try to maintain a

01:12:10.240 a biblical lifestyle i don't mess around you know and uh boy that ticked me off 0.91

01:12:17.200 and what else isn't she telling me did you not did you not pay for the divorce

01:12:24.140 oh heck no okay what happened next i i i she lied to me you know that's not a good way to 1.00

01:12:37.500 start off a relationship you know what else is she not telling you come to find out she's still

01:12:44.180 living with their mother also so if i would have gotten married to her i would not be just marrying

01:12:51.640 her i would almost i would definitely have a live-in mother-in-law 1.00

01:12:56.660 wow and that's not that's not good so little things like that every every time i get into

01:13:07.280 a relationship there's always something that screws up but then again i'm always so glad

01:13:13.140 when it's over well thanks for calling in tim i'm going to move to the next caller but i do

01:13:20.260 appreciate the story that was hilarious so calling calling again will you it was an absolute pleasure

01:13:28.420 talking to you i really enjoy your show and i think you are a very beautiful woman and uh you

01:13:36.900 take care of yourself thanks so much tim calling any time okay i sure will okay we're gonna go to

01:13:46.980 doug who is next sub

01:13:50.580 also we have another sign up to the website so i wanted to say next yeah so sub why don't you

01:13:57.620 unmute but i'm gonna for before you go i'm gonna read the signups guys we're almost you know it's

01:14:03.300 pretty exciting we are really close to um covering my whole producer costs on the website not that

01:14:10.820 you guys you're like what does that have to do with me fair enough but but thank you to alicia

01:14:19.540 for the sign up thank you to dusty i read that one before thank you guys for the sign ups okay

01:14:26.340 next we got seb i want to hear seb's experience with female bosses feel free to unmute 1.00

01:14:37.060 hey how's it going i'm good how are you seb good i hear you're you're from chicago right

01:14:43.780 yeah are you out here too uh i grew up there okay what part um are you familiar with like

01:14:52.020 the skokines area yeah i know where that's at yeah i grew up in actually it was in morton grove oh

01:14:58.500 nice yeah but i'm out in phoenix now you got away from the cold it's probably smart yeah pretty much

01:15:06.420 everyone everyone that lives here is pretty much from michigan wisconsin illinois indiana everyone

01:15:13.300 comes out here so what are your thoughts on the topic female bosses i have uh i have one good 1.00

01:15:19.940 story and uh one bad story okay so uh i used to be a delivery driver for amazon but uh it was uh

01:15:31.860 you know how they have like they're hired but like third party so you don't work directly for amazon

01:15:38.180 for the the drivers are hired by uh by a third party company okay so the first time i worked

01:15:46.820 there was that was back in uh 20 2017 and uh we had a real of a boss she um she was divorced twice 1.00

01:16:00.100 she was a swinger i found out uh she was just a like a to everybody 1.00

01:16:06.340 always like uh you know being mean like all down down to the business and all that crap like she 0.98

01:16:11.300 thought she was the you know um so a funny story just there was this one guy that started working

01:16:17.060 there on the older gentleman and when you when you go into the loading dock where you uh pick

01:16:24.660 up all the packages there was a retired cop that was working in there and um there's like a speed

01:16:32.820 limit i guess you have to come in and she i don't know she like started bitching at him because she 1.00

01:16:39.140 saw him driving down the uh into the loading dock and he was going too fast i guess and um

01:16:47.140 she started like chewing them out like hey you gotta slow down or i'm gonna write you up or all

01:16:51.060 that whatever and then the guy's like i'm a retired cop and he like cussed her out like

01:16:57.140 like you know straight up like f you this that he's like i'm a cop you don't know what you're

01:17:01.620 talking about and and he actually like loaded the truck and then he left like he actually walked

01:17:07.460 off the job site so she was she was a big b uh but she uh ended up the the company went under like

01:17:16.900 a little bit after that i quit before then but like i found out through my friends that worked

01:17:21.540 there that the company like went under after that wow and then so so i left that company

01:17:29.460 and i actually went back to chicago after that for for about a year and then things didn't work

01:17:35.940 out over there so i came back here and then i found another job with a different company um

01:17:43.300 and uh i also but there were they were a divorced couple that owned the company

01:17:49.380 and uh she was a younger lady they had kids and all that stuff but she was really cool so like she 0.68

01:17:55.380 was always understanding she didn't like if you called in sick or whatever then they didn't give

01:18:00.260 you crap thought nothing you know and so that's like she was she was completely opposite of the 1.00

01:18:05.700 other boss so like i guess it i guess it just depends on how how the person is really so you 0.98

01:18:15.220 had one bad experience and one good experience yeah so i had to throw both of them in i'm like

01:18:20.740 i can't i can't be biased i can

01:18:27.700 50 is pretty bad success rate

01:18:32.740 yeah but for yeah but most of the the men bosses i had they were all pretty cool yeah

01:18:39.300 oh actually i do have another one oh yeah for a bowling alley this this chick uh she was she 1.00

01:18:45.940 was a manager there that hired me i was working there part-time because uh like i have my knee

01:18:51.940 surgery crap going on so um i worked at a bowling alley part-time it was a fun job it was an awesome

01:19:00.660 job um and this the the manager that hired me she was like in her 50s short blonde like thin 1.00

01:19:10.020 she thought she was like hot you know and uh when she hired me like they told me what the pay rate 1.00

01:19:18.980 was right so i signed the paper whatever they they showed they said how much they're gonna pay me

01:19:23.380 hourly and uh and then when i got my first paycheck they it was a different amount that what i signed

01:19:30.580 up for so she like docked me on my pay i was like whatever she docked you out of your how much was

01:19:37.380 it yeah it was like 50 cents oh okay yeah i was like yeah the agreed amount was you know a certain

01:19:47.300 amount and she bumped it down 50 cents less why would she do like what would that's like was it 1.00

01:19:54.020 just to mess with you i have no idea maybe okay i could have said something about it but i was like

01:20:00.340 i don't give a crap it's not worth it you know yeah but yeah that she was a big time so her one 1.00

01:20:07.300 for three of good female bosses huh one for three yeah you can't be biased you can't be biased at all 1.00

01:20:16.900 okay a little bit 0.98

01:20:21.300 yeah what if what if what if my editor called in and kill him

01:20:29.780 okay sorry god hey uh real quick uh what's the weather like out there right now

01:20:34.420 i was pretty nice today actually it was it's been cool yeah it's been cold but today was really nice

01:20:41.460 yeah we hit like 90 out here today yeah it was beautiful that i was like 60s maybe 50s

01:20:48.340 did you guys get like a lot of snow this winter not a lot of snow but um no not a lot of snow but

01:20:55.140 it was cold i mean you know how it is it gets so cold here it doesn't even snow did lake michigan

01:21:00.580 freeze up i don't know i didn't go to it i'm i'm i'm too far from the city i'm not really there

01:21:08.260 much oh okay yeah you're like more towards like winnetka area i'm not really gonna put the area

01:21:15.300 on the live oh yeah sorry that's okay well thanks so much for calling in sab i'm gonna move to the

01:21:21.940 the next caller okay all right cool cramos you can go ahead unmute um hello can you hear me you

01:21:30.220 know guys are so much better with instructions and women i think we had one woman join and she 1.00

01:21:34.860 was the one that didn't mute her mic you know it's funny sorry god um which one was it cramos

01:21:43.400 grandma yeah okay what's your female boss story well can you hear me good yeah i can hear you

01:21:50.860 perfect okay fine uh first of all uh i'm from chile okay so um first of all i want to

01:22:02.700 thank you for your content uh it really helped me um from since three years four years ago because

01:22:13.740 because I didn't know that there was a female understanding so many topics about this campaign 1.00

01:22:23.740 and what's underneath and reading between the lines.

01:22:29.160 So I appreciate it.

01:22:31.640 Of course.

01:22:32.640 Thank you so much for watching.

01:22:35.320 Thank you.

01:22:36.320 Excuse my English.

01:22:38.180 You feel free to correct me.

01:22:42.060 My female boss story is very simple. Years ago, I worked in the agriculture ministry

01:22:50.340 in the government, and I was part of the publicity and communications department. We were four,

01:23:00.880 three males and one female. And my profession is audiovisual communication. And I did many

01:23:11.660 presentations for initiative ideas, and my boss told me, after six months,

01:23:25.660 Evelyn was my female equal in the department, and our boss, female boss, 0.99

01:23:36.660 told me, you need to let Evelyn to do your presentations. 1.00

01:23:43.900 And I was like, okay, why?

01:23:48.900 And the answer was like, because we need to send the message that women are capable to... 1.00

01:23:58.980 Wait, so they took your presentation?

01:24:01.980 Many of them.

01:24:03.980 Sorry, I don't mean to laugh.

01:24:06.640 what the hell yeah it was like um tragic comical scenario tragically comedic yeah

01:24:17.120 because i i had to teach evelyn how to um do the presentation about my ideas and wait wait so you 0.82

01:24:29.520 would you had to teach her how to do a presentation about your ideas did you not did you quit

01:24:38.240 no uh because guys are so nice they're just like whatever

01:24:44.560 so you did all the work for the presentation and they had to give the presentation away oh my

01:24:49.440 my goodness. Yes. It was like strange. And my feeling at the beginning was like, okay, something

01:25:00.520 is going on because my boss wants to give the credit to my equal partner in the department.

01:25:09.960 and uh i'm not uh pursuing credit in in general in my life so it was like uh we have a sound

01:25:20.700 i can hear him doug i can hear him fine can you hear me i can okay on the website i think

01:25:29.080 they can hear him too i think it might be doug i think are you there doug i think it's you

01:25:34.460 Was it?

01:25:36.880 Yeah, because I can hear him fine.

01:25:38.860 Sorry, keep going.

01:25:40.120 It's okay.

01:25:41.380 I'll mute.

01:25:41.980 No worries.

01:25:43.500 Well, anyway, for me, it was like, okay, she can have all the credit for my ideas because

01:25:52.020 we did this.

01:25:53.540 The agriculture minister in Chile is built by 12 organism, different kinds of organism

01:26:02.780 institutions.

01:26:04.460 so okay we did this we have to do this presentations with the minister

01:26:10.860 agriculture minister so it was like a very big deal so she was doing the presentations

01:26:19.420 of my ideas because that was my female boss order i don't want to lose i i didn't want to lose my 0.96

01:26:28.300 job but i was like uh okay there's a higher goal here to benefit uh farmers agriculture family

01:26:38.140 agriculture so i'm not going to stop the information of my ideas just because she was

01:26:45.420 getting the credit but um after two months of this practice uh she started like treating me

01:26:56.780 like i was her employed so that's when i start feeling bad because i i told my boss okay i'm

01:27:07.500 gonna teach her to do the presentations of my ideas i have no problem but please tell her that

01:27:15.420 stop that she needs to stop treating me like i am her employed because she did start you know 1.00

01:27:22.940 So she took your ideas and then started bossing you around? 1.00

01:27:28.880 Yeah.

01:27:29.940 Wow.

01:27:30.240 So that was the point where I told my female boss, hey, I have no problem to give her my presentations, 1.00

01:27:43.580 but please tell her to stop bossing me because I'm having a problem with that. 1.00

01:27:50.580 because it was this attitude, this behavior of, hey, do this.

01:27:57.820 Are you ready with this?

01:27:59.480 Have you done that?

01:28:00.360 And I was like, okay, stop.

01:28:03.100 So anyway, after that, this other boss female of one institution inside the minister told me, 0.98

01:28:15.220 hey, be cool.

01:28:17.180 I know that all these presentations are your ideas. So I told her, hey, but this Evelyn girl,

01:28:28.360 she's bossing me around now and that I don't like it. So she told me very simple. You need to tell

01:28:36.000 the boss, the female boss, or you can take a decision. So my decision was to quit and I did 0.99

01:28:46.360 um i have a lot of contacts in press so i did a very large letter about how my female boss 0.95

01:28:58.760 ordered me to keep my female equal all of my ideas you did a letter to who 0.99

01:29:07.080 or many press newsletter did they pick it up did they pick it up some of them wow

01:29:15.080 Wow. What did the company say?

01:29:20.020 I quit. I put the letters up and the threat started like, we're going to ruin your job.

01:29:27.880 You're not going to have any job again in the government because you're disrespecting the privacy.

01:29:34.620 And I was like, you know what? Fuck y'all. All the respect. Sorry. 1.00

01:29:38.680 but that's okay so the papers picked this up and was the woman did any backlash come to her or no

01:29:46.800 no she was like uh please don't do this why are you doing this and i was like um because you let

01:29:57.600 you were bossing me around and now you're apologizing i didn't understand at all so

01:30:04.280 she got caught she got caught that was why yeah yeah yeah because in in the in the in the papers

01:30:11.300 in the press papers some of the female bosses of other institutions helped me and uh confirmed 1.00

01:30:18.760 my idea got it well i'm sorry that happened but that's a very funny story you know yeah yeah thanks

01:30:29.840 Thanks so much for sharing. I got to move to the next caller, but call in any time. All right.

01:30:35.900 Thank you. I'm going to read the chat. Sorry, Doug. Did you want to go?

01:30:41.740 Oh, no. Apollo Didi, you're next. Okay. Take it. Yeah. I'm going to read the chat.

01:30:50.920 Okay. So we got Fezal who said, Pearl, you got to add the word bitch after ding dong ditch. 0.99

01:30:56.380 that's my favorite word wait oh from the song now we used to dink now we bitch that's kind of funny 0.99

01:31:05.180 okay um i can't copy and paste the link in the website chat it's on there does it not work

01:31:11.580 i look i don't know i put it on there i i'll work next show okay we'll we'll try to figure it out

01:31:18.620 pearl from chaos comes order dusty how about the female bosses with little man syndrome ego val 1.00

01:31:25.660 thanks i'm a returning member i'm also we got up to eight at one point in the chat on the website

01:31:31.500 it'd be nice to get double digits today but you know i don't want a different time

01:31:35.900 um okay they're going back and forth i think that's it on the website i'm going to check

01:31:41.020 in on rumble rasoul says what's up and it's a power trip we're at 74 viewers on one rumble

01:31:47.740 i'm trying to build that up so maybe we can get to 100. pearl hang in there you rock i couldn't

01:31:53.820 remember how to dual stream on rumble till recently so we just got that back up and going again

01:32:01.820 okay doug who'd you say was next apollo dd okay are you there yeah i'm here oh hey

01:32:12.460 how's it going apollo hi pearl so i just wanted i just wanted to get like your opinion on this so

01:32:19.900 i work with a ton of women and they're all like in a clique i guess you could say and i'm the 1.00

01:32:26.860 youngest there so they're all like 30s to like 50s and i'm like 24 so i don't know if that's a factor

01:32:35.900 but i swear anytime i do anything there's this one lady there she's been there for probably 1.00

01:32:41.740 i think she told me 30 years anytime i do anything she has to say something and you can never just

01:32:47.900 have a conversation with this lady she has to have a conversation with you and she has to make sure 1.00

01:32:53.260 everyone around you can hear what's going on and then she has to like demean you the whole time

01:32:59.180 she's talking to you but if you say anything to her then she acts like the victim like oh my gosh

01:33:04.700 i can't believe she just said that can you believe she just said that to me what's the industry uh

01:33:10.940 uh it's phones like cell phones like AT&T oh okay okay fine you don't have to say the company you

01:33:21.440 know it's okay it's all right um and you're the youngest one there by like what a decade

01:33:27.800 um yeah yeah you still got hope in your voice you're cooked sorry

01:33:33.620 do you hear do you hear the pleasantness in her voice doug that means she's done

01:33:42.020 they'll hear that and beat it out of you

01:33:44.960 they're like what it is they're like a young happy woman let me ruin her 0.99

01:33:51.740 can't have that no sorry go ahead so the story i wanted to tell you this was something that

01:33:59.800 happened um so the girl that's like the manager there she's a part of the lgbtq community and

01:34:07.960 i'll just tell you like i come from a more like conservative background so i don't know much about

01:34:14.020 the lgbtq community i've never like grown up with friends with that so i don't know the right 0.99

01:34:18.760 terminology and so what happened was um there was a customer there that didn't speak english

01:34:25.200 and i guess she got upset and she got frustrated and she left and the co-worker came up to me and

01:34:31.480 she was complaining that the um person was being rude to her and she said she doesn't even speak

01:34:37.960 english why she needs to go back where she came from and i didn't say anything but i was like okay

01:34:43.380 maybe she was just being prejudiced against you you know for being a dyke being a lesbian 1.00

01:34:48.920 and she laughed and agreed with me and then everything continued so i thought nothing

01:34:53.540 happened so i didn't think anything of it an hour later my manager walks through the door

01:34:59.300 and pulls me into the back and she's like visibly upset and this is the other woman she's like

01:35:05.300 shaking while talking me as if her adrenaline's rushing and she's like hey um you're getting

01:35:11.620 written up and you get to go home and i was so confused i'm like why what's going on she's like

01:35:17.620 like well you just called so and so a slur in fact it's just as bad as saying the n-word and i'm like

01:35:23.720 what are you talking about what are you even talking about and she's like yeah you called her 0.77

01:35:27.880 a dyke you can't say that i'm like i never called her a dyke i was insinuating that somebody was 1.00

01:35:33.640 prejudiced against her because of her identity no they're scared of soling her they're scared of 0.99

01:35:38.780 the lesbians the one lawsuit they gotta they gotta throw you under the bus oh my god are you so fast 1.00

01:35:45.980 are you do you have like a race card or like a no you if they're all women you can't oh 1.00

01:35:50.220 you should have pulled that you bet like she's a racist yeah yeah but they didn't even care they 1.00

01:35:56.700 didn't even care the only time i've i pulled out the race card is against these wokey woke lgbt

01:36:03.100 hctvs i'm telling you yeah whip it out especially if they're like you know purple haired white 1.00

01:36:12.140 liberals oh my god the manager had to take care yeah tell him say why are you trying to police 0.94

01:36:18.700 a a black person or a person of color speech because i hate i hate the race card but i use 0.96

01:36:24.460 against wokey wilkes all the time and just watching squirm i was like she was just being racist and

01:36:32.540 you know with my ethnic background i could have been upset about it but i wasn't so like not only

01:36:37.660 only that so i'll tell you what else happened so the next day they took me off the schedule so they

01:36:42.460 took me down from five days to three days because she didn't feel safe working around me after me 1.00

01:36:47.240 saying that word well that's almost like problem solved then you don't have to deal with her

01:36:53.240 it's almost a blessing isn't it

01:36:55.520 it's like when women give you this silent treatment you're like wow this is amazing 1.00

01:37:02.340 but like can you believe that she doesn't feel safe around me like she physically thinks i'm

01:37:07.780 like dangerous now do you know what i'm really not about pulling the race card i would pull it

01:37:13.380 in this situation and i'm really not for that at all but i would pull it back

01:37:19.540 i would say doug can we we should brainstorm how can she pull the race card next time something 1.00

01:37:25.300 like this happens doug um i have an expert doug on the line yeah like so if you um

01:37:34.980 the worst thing for especially a white liberal is to be called a racist

01:37:39.860 that's what they hate they hate the most so if you want to stop that conversation even 0.94

01:37:46.900 just whip that out say you know what you i feel like you're being racist to me right now you

01:37:51.060 I'm trying to police my experience and police my language.

01:37:56.180 I don't really appreciate that very much.

01:37:59.220 They'll stop dead in their tracks.

01:38:00.980 It doesn't matter what you say.

01:38:02.680 Once you say that, everything stops.

01:38:04.540 Are the other people white? 0.86

01:38:06.200 Oh, please be white. 0.92

01:38:07.500 Yes.

01:38:07.980 Yes.

01:38:08.460 I knew it.

01:38:09.220 I knew it.

01:38:10.120 Pull it.

01:38:11.680 I knew it.

01:38:13.540 Let me tell you, I'm going to follow.

01:38:16.420 So I was at an office party.

01:38:18.180 no i was um this is way back when i first started in my festival career and we had the first

01:38:27.140 christmas party i was at in an actual office i got people gifts and then i i gave this woman 0.84

01:38:33.420 to get it was something small and i said merry christmas and she was jewish i didn't know could

01:38:41.340 be if you're not supposed to ask people's religious affiliation right and she had like

01:38:45.360 nothing about her that she was jewish she had the nerve to go to corporate to go to management 1.00

01:38:52.240 and say that i offended her because i i said merry christmas because she was jewish oh my god 1.00

01:39:00.640 you can't say merry christmas yeah and that was the very first time because we had a mediation

01:39:07.200 meeting they brought me and her and my boss in an office and we had to hash it out oh my god how

01:39:14.640 dare you be nice yeah that was the first time i'd ever told i was like you know i don't appreciate

01:39:20.400 you policing my language as a black person so i said look give me the gift back because it's

01:39:27.840 gonna be this way and petty i'll be petty too and then we worked together for two more years

01:39:33.440 i avoided her like the plague i never said another word to her for two years

01:39:38.560 look i'm never i never tell people to pull the race card but i think it's time

01:39:43.600 it's time let me ask you a question so i don't know much about the lgbtq community but is that

01:39:49.600 really a bad word the word dyke yeah to them i mean not to me but i'm me yeah yeah not to but to 0.75

01:39:59.520 the woke they might i mean that you can't even say anymore they take everything they take everything

01:40:06.160 fun away you're better not knowing so so don't waste your time yeah well thanks so much for

01:40:14.800 calling the show i didn't know women watch so this is very exciting for us here thanks uh we're

01:40:22.240 gonna move on to the next caller but call back any time and keep me posted i want to hear how this

01:40:27.680 goes okay have a great day pearl you too bye hey brian megan i hate brian we got 0.60

01:40:36.560 unmute brian brian megan

01:40:44.480 okay we'll go on i think james was next is there a james there i don't see him yeah james is there

01:40:51.920 Yeah.

01:40:52.920 Hi.

01:40:53.920 Hey.

01:40:54.920 Oh, now I see him.

01:40:56.920 Hey, James.

01:40:57.920 How's it going?

01:40:58.920 How's it going?

01:40:59.920 Good.

01:41:00.920 I'm a fan of your show.

01:41:01.920 Thank you so much.

01:41:03.920 I appreciate you watching.

01:41:05.920 Tell me, what's your female boss experience? 1.00

01:41:09.920 So I actually got like three stories of like, actually, it's funny because it's actually

01:41:17.680 pretty stories of like one of them was a teacher i know i know i know what you're thinking i know

01:41:25.040 no i'm kicking you know you're getting kicked out 0.96

01:41:30.080 no you're getting kicked out 0.95

01:41:34.720 kick him my editor guys my editor just called him to the show 0.98

01:41:42.560 you went under you went under freaking james you didn't think i'd recognize your voice 0.97

01:41:47.680 i knew you were gonna recognize me oh my god i can't all right tell me tell me tell me your 0.99

01:41:57.120 female i will never say my experience working with you tell me your female boss story go go ahead 1.00

01:42:04.320 go ahead i actually got three uh female boss stories okay shocking okay go ahead go ahead

01:42:11.240 So, first of all, I mean, Pearl, you know that I'm from Colombia, basically.

01:42:15.940 Yeah.

01:42:16.400 And so there I started, I went to like a men-only school.

01:42:22.480 But for some reason, the kids that were like in nursery and in first grade of elementary school,

01:42:32.220 they had like this director who was a woman. 1.00

01:42:35.400 because even though that it was like a very uh catholic school you know man only you know for

01:42:41.300 some reason you know they put these women there because they thought you know it would be better

01:42:45.640 for the kids and so the thing is that um sometimes when for example an english teacher would leave

01:42:53.000 then she would take over and she was like very fun with us very like charismatic

01:42:58.860 and she would for example draw like caricatures of us like on the on the boards and stuff like

01:43:05.840 that and so she was like very very funny and like even would make like challenges so whoever had the 1.00

01:43:12.740 best grades would go with her like on pizza uh pizza friday for example after school like 0.56

01:43:18.620 she would take them to pizza and the thing is that i remember that uh one day we're having

01:43:25.460 an English class and she's showing on top, under, inside, outside and all of this.

01:43:35.460 So she starts and she's like, okay kids, it was like a 30 kids classroom.

01:43:41.460 And she's like, okay kids, everybody take off your shoes and put it on top of the table.

01:43:47.460 And the 30 kids we take off our shoes and we put it on top of the table and everything's fun.

01:43:53.460 Then she's like, OK, kids, take off your belt and put it inside the drawer.

01:43:58.460 And, you know, we were kids, seven years old kids, you know, all male.

01:44:01.780 And we're like, OK, you know, and we take it off and we put it inside drawers.

01:44:05.940 Then she says, OK, kids, now take off your shirt and put it inside the backpack.

01:44:11.340 And, you know, we put it inside the backpack.

01:44:13.060 Some of us, I remember, you know, it was like four of us who actually got like so uncomfortable.

01:44:18.780 And I think she kind of notices even notice it.

01:44:21.500 and she was like okay if you guys don't want to do it like you can just uh keep sitting down

01:44:26.060 and then she was like all right we're gonna go for the final step kids take off your pants 0.99

01:44:31.820 totally and put it next to your chair and you know it was like literally 25 kids inside the

01:44:40.020 the room like what well of course in underwears but you know i remember i was just seven years

01:44:48.740 and i was like there's something weird about this and you know um anyway so years passed the next

01:44:55.780 year like for some reason she disappeared completely uh out of the school and then like right

01:45:02.660 now um i now it's been i think uh what 11 no 21 years since that and i've got two friends that

01:45:13.300 confessed to me last year that they got raped by these women at seven so exactly what many of us

01:45:22.660 are thinking that many many of the kids uh that you know went through these women got raped and

01:45:28.260 you know they're not even gonna go forward and speak about it because you know they're like 0.98

01:45:32.580 there's no way i'm talking about this you know yeah holy shit then next story to make it quickly 0.57

01:45:39.540 I made an event company in Florida in 2013.

01:45:47.620 And so we would make private parties or nightclub parties and stuff like that.

01:45:52.100 And we would fill it up. We would make all the marketing stuff, the videos.

01:45:56.100 And I started this company with two girls that were very hot girls in Colombia. 1.00

01:46:02.100 And so they moved to Florida because they were starting on Gainesville or something like that.

01:46:08.500 And anyways, we started this company. It was just us three and we started making parties.

01:46:14.020 It became very popular because these were like very hot girls and, you know, they were super 1.00

01:46:18.980 popular. So they got like every, you know, Hispanic person in Florida to go to these parties.

01:46:25.460 And then they bring a girl, which was my first experience with women working in the marketing

01:46:32.660 sector especially where there are a bunch of women that don't do anything and they just like 1.00

01:46:38.580 literally they just get paid for being a marketer or whatever the hell that's called and so in the

01:46:46.340 end so she joins and during the first couple of years like uh everything was fine but sometimes

01:46:53.060 she would say like oh i want this to be that way like out of the sudden she would change like and

01:46:57.940 because she was there in florida like she could like kind of take these decisions and so she

01:47:03.060 started like always like this like just to mention i know this girl from colombia and she was like 0.92

01:47:07.540 this rich girl with you know like perfect grades beautiful body beautiful face you know all the 1.00

01:47:14.100 friends the the boyfriends the the cars all that so she was always like very oh yeah you know the

01:47:21.140 And so to make it short, she started like changing everything.

01:47:27.680 And after like four years, like she nagged me up to the point where I just said to the

01:47:31.900 people that they could keep the company and I left without anything related to the company.

01:47:38.500 And basically now the company for like still makes money, like, and, and it's like, um,

01:47:44.340 I always look back.

01:47:45.340 I don't even regret leaving the company because in the end it was just parties, you know, 0.92

01:47:49.040 florida of latinos and that's it but i always think of that girl i'm like holy crap like she 0.99

01:47:54.720 really got into my into my blood and my nerves like imagine imagine if you married her you know 0.95

01:48:02.640 no and the last story the last story is the weirdest oh no hold on my audio just cut hold on

01:48:12.080 yeah wait go back i accidentally unplugged say that one more time your last story yeah i just

01:48:16.880 just got the last story. I'm going to make it as short as possible because I got to finish

01:48:20.740 some stuff right now. And basically, like during some time, I moved to Spain. And from

01:48:29.820 there I was working like in the entertainment sector as well. I've always been around like

01:48:34.960 the parties, music and that kind of BS sector. And so like when I go to Spain, I start working

01:48:43.160 with these women who is like a manager, like an international manager for like artists 1.00

01:48:48.560 and stuff like that. And like when I start talking with her, she tells me that she's

01:48:54.260 married, you know, she has a family and all of that stuff. That's when I met her and I

01:48:58.160 started working with her remotely. And there after a year, she's like, I want to kind of

01:49:05.200 adopt you and I want to bring you to South, South Spain with me so you can work more closely.

01:49:12.500 gonna have more events you know we're gonna move all around spain and so anyways i moved there and

01:49:19.140 you know for when like my first reaction when i got home is that there was no man in the house

01:49:25.700 when i opened the the the house door after like an uber left me there i i basically see her daughter 0.99

01:49:32.900 who was like 16 years old like in in panties you know in the underwear and basically i'm like a

01:49:40.020 little bit shocked and then i go into the room there's these women and i asked her for uh ask 1.00

01:49:45.540 her for her husband who supposedly was the guy i was speaking the most in that year and she's like

01:49:52.900 oh no she he he left for for a trip you know it doesn't matter we'll we'll start working some

01:49:58.100 stuff out and that's it so anyways uh i'm working with her there for almost a year

01:50:04.340 year, hectic year where she wouldn't answer to my invoices, never would pay me on time.

01:50:14.580 Even she would leave for one month's season, and she wouldn't pay the electrical bills

01:50:21.580 of the house or water, so literally one day I would be like, okay, I'm going to take a

01:50:25.500 shower today because there's no running water in the house, literally.

01:50:30.220 And anyways, where it gets weird is that after a year, I'm working with her, I don't know

01:50:38.540 anything about the husband, and she just tells me that she broke up with this guy supposedly

01:50:44.460 eight months ago.

01:50:46.180 That was like four months after I arrived, and I'm like, okay, anyways, she explains

01:50:52.240 me that she's the owner of the house, that she has a lot of money and all of this, and

01:50:57.220 she can work with me you know and do everything perfect and where it gets weird there are many

01:51:03.260 weird stuff where like she even tried to put me with her like 17 years old daughter like she made 1.00

01:51:08.940 me sleep in the same bed with her even what yeah supposedly there was like no room in the house

01:51:15.720 like on the first on the first week like literally she was like oh there uh i don't have any rooms

01:51:21.980 and the room that i've got is full of boxes so you gotta sleep here with my with my daughter 0.81

01:51:26.180 and i literally i was like okay this is super uncomfortable but anyways i mean i thought it

01:51:31.660 was like separate like a big room with separate beds and when i open the room it's like the daughter

01:51:35.800 is sleeping the bed and i just gotta get inside with her and i'm like there's i literally like

01:51:40.500 they're trying to catch they're trying to like catch a charge holy shit yeah it's not in the end

01:51:46.360 like like the the whole story i might tell you like even one day like these women i found out 1.00

01:51:52.040 she's associated like with nargs and stuff like that like some crazy stuff but anyways where it

01:51:58.160 gets super weird is that one night um i've got my room and she had like a this big mansion

01:52:05.000 and i've got my room and i'm sleeping and one night like i literally just wake up out of the

01:52:12.820 sudden and i've got her literally like trying to get in the bed with me like and she's like trying 0.96

01:52:20.140 to explain me that you know this is normal that she started like catching feelings for me and all

01:52:26.060 of that and literally that same night like uh i kind of like was so shocked that i just left the

01:52:33.100 i left the the room and i mean i took like uh i took everything what i could i actually left

01:52:39.020 like a bunch of stuff there because i was like bro i just want to get the hell out of it out of 0.68

01:52:42.460 here like for one hour she was trying to explain me like not violent or anything like that but

01:52:47.980 she was like sorry and then she was like no but let's do this and then sorry and let's do that

01:52:52.780 and anyways i get out of the house i i take like a uber to the airport and they're like

01:52:58.060 i waited for the next day and then i i i caught a flight to to london basically

01:53:04.860 wow not so then you met me now that they say the the free to one experience i can tell you

01:53:09.900 it might be kind of true you know the what the what the free to one experience oh the

01:53:15.020 three to one three out of four got it well dang i i want to call you by your real name but i won't

01:53:25.100 i was about to say it okay well i'm i'm glad you didn't have any other stories

01:53:31.980 chains yeah and and there won't be any other better better not

01:53:41.980 i'm sorry doug go ahead we're gonna do brian are you there

01:53:48.380 brian

01:53:51.100 you you got on camera a little bit ago there you are unmute um

01:53:55.740 um brian unmute unmute you're still muted you're still muted you are still muted my friend

01:54:12.540 you're on mute all right we'll go to we'll go to julian are you there

01:54:18.300 yeah i'm here you hear me yeah go ahead yeah sorry um yeah i've had mixed reactions right

01:54:28.300 one of my best bosses was actually one what sorry before before you go what industry are you in

01:54:35.000 just helps me contextualize yeah i've been in a lot of industries so right now i'm in tech before

01:54:41.240 that it was in business observations uh biz devops all right um so right now i'm in it um before i

01:54:48.360 was in business operations and that woman i think she was good because she had spent 20 years in the 0.96

01:54:53.640 foreign service so she had an accountability mechanism above her so if she failed messed up

01:55:00.520 she'd go to prison right you know you really mess up in foreign service you you can go to jail 0.98

01:55:05.000 or prison um my worst boss was also a woman and i you know i'll go to the worst boss and the big 1.00

01:55:12.500 thing is she was very invasive in my personal life and the way she did it was by asking questions 1.00

01:55:20.040 that i didn't want to answer but then trying to ingratiate herself all the time to try and

01:55:24.440 form this fake relationship and i found this out very this was very early in my career

01:55:29.900 um but she found out that you know uh she wanted to find out about my family find out about who 1.00

01:55:36.520 was dating um all these different types of things and when she found out all these things she held

01:55:41.420 them against me because she didn't approve of certain portions only and that is where what

01:55:46.680 wait how did she okay how did that come up so she asks you like who you're dating and then she says

01:55:53.080 at work like you shouldn't date her or no uh she asks uh so are you taking any time off

01:55:58.740 yeah i'm gonna take time off to spend them with my girlfriend

01:56:02.600 oh who's your girlfriend well girl i've been seeing since i was in college you know we had

01:56:09.680 a good time we've been enjoying each other's company we're gonna go to you know pick strawberries

01:56:15.480 or apples or whatever um but yeah it's gonna be you know long weekend so it'll be a good time

01:56:21.000 and this is me being naive just expecting you know everything's okay approved we're gonna go

01:56:26.340 off in that um and you know she asked she started asking more pointed questions started digging a

01:56:32.880 little bit deeper and you know she found out oh this is my girlfriend big thing that really set 0.99

01:56:38.860 it apart why it made it so terrible towards my end of my tenure at the company i was there for

01:56:43.800 about four years um another girl was hired on who she just got along with they were girlfriends

01:56:51.100 almost right and they had their own falling out eventually that girl who was hired on had a crush

01:56:57.820 on me i had no interest in her one it's a co-worker i don't want to mess with the co-worker 0.98

01:57:02.700 was she fat be honest yeah oh yeah she was fat i knew it yeah that's like zero zero interest i'm 0.53

01:57:13.340 like really zero zero interest man she she she looked like an apple with sticks okay but she 1.00

01:57:19.340 she had that she was bad bill she was a badly made woman okay um and she was very aggressive 1.00

01:57:26.220 you know she she she sent uh pictures of her naked she sent pictures of her like genitalia 1.00

01:57:33.740 and she was fat too they weren't even good pictures i know was this one white or black 0.99

01:57:42.380 uh which one i mean both of them were black but yeah okay okay go ahead no um but i just expressed

01:57:48.860 no interest reported it to hr and you know told my boss about it my boss is like sure i'll talk

01:57:55.020 about this after the fact she found out this is when she found out my girlfriend was not black 0.96

01:58:00.540 and oh man here we go oh no yeah yeah yeah and she she was not cooked she was very she was very

01:58:08.060 good about letting me or about not letting me know that that was an issue but that became an issue of

01:58:13.740 why a couple of weeks before my annual review came up and went from four stars to all of a sudden

01:58:21.360 you're going to be on performance enhancement you know and there's at that point you pretty

01:58:27.080 much need to look for a new job and so i did and went through the pip and got laid off i don't know

01:58:35.240 five weeks later and you know there's nothing i could do about it because you know it turned into

01:58:39.580 I need to check every email you send. I need to check every work product you send before you

01:58:44.820 send it to the person you're sending it to. It's not you. So it becomes a control situation.

01:58:51.460 You're going to comply. You're going to submit. And it wasn't good. It set me back. It turned

01:59:00.340 into a good reason why I took a couple months off, left the country, came back a year later.

01:59:07.280 And I realized, one, certain people are not meant to be in leadership.

01:59:13.500 Two, if they're in leadership, you cannot share your personal information at all.

01:59:20.100 Like, you should have just a standard non-true story or something you can stick with with parts of the truth, right?

01:59:27.700 So if you're working for a company that likes families, then you're just a family guy, right?

01:59:32.500 If you're working for a startup, you don't have a family.

01:59:35.440 and you have to figure out how do you sell yourself because that even your your existence

01:59:40.280 as a person your status romantically that has to be a portion of it and i think women take that

01:59:45.580 into an account a lot more and if you're if you violate their internal rules that are beyond the

01:59:52.160 company's rules you're cooked right so do you find that to be the same with men like men will 0.99

02:00:00.360 evaluate you based on like if you're like if you're married or um single guy whatever

02:00:12.120 it's a mixed bag i think i think generally all right so all right america the majority of men

02:00:19.640 that are going to be in hiring manager positions going to be white men about 40 to 60 somewhere in

02:00:26.200 in that neighborhood okay most of them are family guys right they've they got their wife they got

02:00:30.200 the kids they want to work they want to do their job but then something's going to pop up i think

02:00:33.960 most of those guys just want somebody who can solve the problems they want somebody to take

02:00:38.040 the burden off their hands so they don't really care as much about your romantic status but they

02:00:44.920 do like family guys so that's where it pays to have like a format where you can just lie or

02:00:53.480 you know shape the truth and just say yeah i'm a family guy i want this position right but a lot

02:00:59.000 of those guys also they suffer from a lot of this you know frustration of not being taken

02:01:05.160 fully seriously outside of their job as much as they are on their job and so those guys have

02:01:10.120 a different issue that they're going through yeah okay they're more fair though yeah go ahead go

02:01:19.480 this is a question that's separate from pearl but you know i'm i'm a black professional just like you

02:01:27.480 have you found it in your experience that in an academic and professional setting you you usually

02:01:35.320 you're the person that treats you the worst or your worst enemy or your arch nemesis is another

02:01:40.360 black person uh all right so i i know what you're getting at all right so i'll say this 0.99

02:01:46.200 I'll say it

02:01:48.920 Most of the time

02:01:50.320 This has nothing to do with parole

02:01:53.020 This is just Doug MPA

02:01:54.000 Most of my professional jobs

02:01:57.920 It's been a black woman 0.99

02:01:59.560 That's given me the most hell of work 0.98

02:02:02.060 I'll say that as someone that will not help me

02:02:05.500 At all

02:02:06.400 I'll be more diplomatic

02:02:08.660 I'll say

02:02:08.980 From a business perspective

02:02:11.620 The ones who will take you

02:02:14.500 at your your technical skill and knowledge it's going to be white 99 of the time well let's say 1.00

02:02:21.700 90 of the time it's gonna be it's gonna be like middle-aged white guy who just needs you to help

02:02:26.980 solve their problem so they look good yep god i'm i'm like envisioning but it's really like i mean

02:02:31.940 how professional minded are you that's the big thing i'm envisioning my dad right now as you

02:02:36.580 guys are talking like he does not care you could be you could be like a a vegan leftist with three

02:02:43.620 girlfriends and a boyfriend and he will not care if you can make his life easier and save him time

02:02:50.740 he does not care yeah they want to solve problems yeah and like they know i can tell them what they

02:02:57.220 need to hear i can demonstrate what i need to solve what i can alleviate from their burdens

02:03:01.940 and then they pay me my money and i'll get out of their hair and it's the basic thing and and to me

02:03:09.300 you sound like the kind of person like i always say on my channel you know it's not about finding

02:03:14.980 a passion it's not about being happy at work it's about getting the job done and and having a job

02:03:23.700 that gives you dignity respect and the finances to live the life you want on your terms or to

02:03:29.940 support a family if you so choose but one of the reasons why women are so terrible to each other 1.00

02:03:34.580 they bring in all this stuff oh you know we have to all get along together on a personal level

02:03:39.080 we all have to be happy at work we all have to find our passion no we don't

02:03:43.840 oh yeah yeah i don't i don't want i don't want a bagel lunch i don't want a pizza lunch 0.99

02:03:47.460 i don't want any other like stress balls i don't want any of that shit if you want to do any of 0.99

02:03:51.940 that garbage send it to me in a check that can be counted as a stipend you know internet stipend 0.99

02:03:57.480 cell phone stipend something along those lines i don't need to be best friends with the people if 0.94

02:04:01.880 I get along with people I work with? Fantastic. But I don't need to get along with you other than

02:04:07.020 how do we solve the problem that we're all tasked with? That's the basic thing.

02:04:12.340 A lot more women are not, they're not qualified for that. And it's, you know, there are women's 1.00

02:04:17.320 who are out there who do that. And you don't hear many complaints from or about them. But

02:04:22.540 a lot more who get in the positions, they want to exercise control. They want to get you to comply

02:04:27.680 in certain ways that just don't make any sense for the job i'm coming in here to share this carpet

02:04:32.880 get the job done see the direct deposit and then live my life and if i get along with a couple of

02:04:38.480 people you invite me to your wedding fantastic if you don't fantastic i don't really care about that

02:04:43.760 i want the job i want to get the job done there you go yeah thank you for answering i appreciate

02:04:49.120 it yeah thanks so much for calling in yeah thank you big fan have a good night thanks

02:04:55.520 Thanks.

02:04:56.520 That's everybody, bro.

02:04:57.520 You're good.

02:04:58.520 Yeah.

02:04:59.520 I was about to say, I think that's going to be my last caller anyway.

02:05:03.900 I think, let me, okay, I think that's all I got, Doug, any final thoughts on female 0.99

02:05:14.580 bosses?

02:05:15.580 Women can't stand each other, guys. 1.00

02:05:18.800 The only time they come together is against the patriarchy and men, but other than that,

02:05:25.140 can't stand each other what do you think about long-lasting female friendships like the ones 1.00

02:05:30.180 you know because i know some friend groups that have been together for a while what's your thought

02:05:33.940 on those um female friends will last until one of them gets into a serious relationship where 1.00

02:05:40.500 they get married then it's over yeah or or if if any of those women get happy for some reason 1.00

02:05:48.420 they find you know this if they're successful in business if they you know if they find some kind

02:06:00.180 of passion or something women can women can't stand each other guys yeah so that's it well 1.00

02:06:05.640 thanks so much doug and thank you everyone for watching if you want go to the audacity

02:06:11.560 network.com and i'm about to read all the final chats of the night let me refresh really quick

02:06:16.120 also thank you to everyone watching on rumble um we're at 99 people on rumble what a day

02:06:24.080 um okay wait let me go to the bottom um all good there's if you guys want me to read your

02:06:31.520 comment on the website put pearl read um i do want to get to at some point i think it'd be fun

02:06:38.840 to do like monthly zoom calls with the people on the website but i gotta get enough first that it

02:06:45.180 makes sense. But if you want yearly membership, feel free. Um, the, every female boss I've had 1.00

02:06:52.580 acted more masculine and bossy than any male, like they're trying to become some image of a

02:06:57.800 tough guy. I was working in general labor and warehouse work. That's Yankee. Um, okay. I think

02:07:05.280 that's everyone. Thanks so much for watching guys. And obviously I'm going to play my mixed tape as

02:07:11.960 a way to end the show because well um i yeah because good night girl good night thanks for

02:07:23.340 calling very welcome have a good night you too all right i'm gonna go on the live thanks for

02:07:30.700 watching, guys.

02:08:00.700 Thank you.

Pearl - February 27, 2025

Modern Women Make Terrible Bosses ｜ Pearl Daily

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