Pearl - Modern Women Prefer Hobbies To Families

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00:01:22.400 okay hello everybody welcome to the show welcome to another episode of pearl daily my name is pearl

00:01:30.320 and i am your host um i wanted to start with telling you guys a little bit more about me

00:01:37.760 recently i know you guys are thinking pearl pearl you self-centered influencer nobody

00:01:43.760 wants to talk about you it's an influencer thing what can i say uh i do apologize for this but

00:01:51.600 You know, I think sometimes I've realized I have more new people watching me and they don't really know where I came from, how I know the things I know.

00:02:02.500 And I just get asked this question a lot.

00:02:04.380 So I thought I'd tackle it.

00:02:05.400 So a couple of years ago, I stumbled into RP content.

00:02:16.480 I was a normal woman.

00:02:17.920 I was playing volleyball.

00:02:19.380 I sold copiers.

00:02:21.600 and I randomly found PUA content. Now, PUA is essentially seduction. It's men learning

00:02:30.040 strategies in order to get laid. Again, it's men solving their problem. The women reject them, 1.00

00:02:36.980 and they think, how do I fix this? Seduction. Now, I ended up going to a PUA bootcamp. Now,

00:02:48.380 a PUA boot camp is where you pay a couple grand to have men teach you how to get laid. So this 1.00

00:02:56.480 boot camp was in Vegas. And I think I was 25 at the time. And I just thought it was really

00:03:04.040 interesting. I had a boyfriend at the time. And I told him I was like, I'm going to this PUA boot

00:03:09.860 camp. He was like, what? Okay. And anyways, long story short, when you're there, you kind of want

00:03:17.540 to help the guys. Like there's 10 men. They're talking about, they said, no, don't forget when

00:03:27.040 you reacted to Chief Keef. Yeah, that too. But at this point, I went to this boot camp and you

00:03:38.280 really want to help the men get laid when you're there you're kind of on their side you're friendly

00:03:42.860 in hindsight 2020 I don't know why they let me come because it's kind of awkward for the men

00:03:48.740 you know I was thinking about this in hindsight but at the time I was just so nosy I wanted to see

00:03:54.220 and they basically go and approach women at these bars and it's Vegas there's like pool parties all

00:04:02.460 this stuff and to be honest guys before i went into the red pill i was very sheltered like i just

00:04:10.140 lived a very sheltered life um i went to a small college by chicago um and

00:04:22.140 i went to a private school growing up i was in club volleyball so everyone i was around

00:04:26.940 um I think I was a bit sheltered from the realities of the world when I started

00:04:33.680 now at this PUA boot camp I witnessed overweight women reject average men and this was the first 1.00

00:04:43.400 time that I ever saw things from the male point of view because these men were pretty normal guys

00:04:51.720 for the most part I mean there's like one or two kind of weird ones but overall normal nice

00:04:56.840 guys um and i saw how difficult it was for them to just talk a woman into bed but i also saw the

00:05:06.280 opposite side i saw the instructors and one of the instructors took a different girl home 0.97

00:05:13.640 every single day and it was actually really interesting because they would tell me how

00:05:19.240 they hid girls from each other so um one guy would get his apartment cleaned in between girls

00:05:26.920 um another guy didn't have any social media so the women couldn't find each other which is a pretty

00:05:33.320 good strategy we can we can guys we look through the likes and stuff now i go to this boot camp

00:05:43.960 And at this period, I'm supposed to go to England in about a month.

00:05:48.420 I'd quit my job in sales and my plan was to go play volleyball overseas.

00:05:54.300 Now, when COVID happened and everything got canceled, so I essentially quit my job for

00:06:06.040 no reason because I still had a year that I needed to work and I needed to get paid.

00:06:12.040 So my dad encouraged me.

00:06:13.180 said look if you like this media stuff go for it and i started reacting to a lot of different types

00:06:19.980 of content and red pill was one of them um and i remember when i first heard kevin samuel some of

00:06:25.820 this stuff like um it really did trigger me like i'll give you an example high value men

00:06:32.780 cheat that was something when i first heard really really triggered me um my dad i would

00:06:39.660 have considered him according to the things that kevin samuels left listed he would have been high

00:06:46.460 value and my dad didn't cheat and so it kind of triggered me i thought no that's not true

00:06:54.940 um anyways fast forward i go to england and i end up interviewing a thousand women 0.99

00:07:01.020 and the way i did this was i would recruit women to come on my show it'd be through instagram the 1.00

00:07:06.220 gym um and i wanted to test out some of these ideas in real life so i would some of the stuff

00:07:14.220 again i was kind of sheltered i would say high value men cheat and then i would ask the women

00:07:20.700 what they thought do you like toxic men or do you like nice guys and at first

00:07:27.420 i thought some of the red pill stuff was wrong i really did um

00:07:30.700 because women would tell me that parts of it were wrong and this was the confusing part and men would

00:07:39.880 too you know but there was a couple moments that red pilled me a little bit one of them was there

00:07:46.920 was a guy who had a very big Christian brand on my show and I found out he and he would come on

00:07:53.840 the show and debate me about men cheating and say high value men don't cheat and turned out he was

00:07:59.260 sleeping with three women on the show now to be fair um I doubt he told the women that it was

00:08:07.040 exclusive right but I realized that these guys just find their way around it out of technicality

00:08:14.040 but they're doing the same thing I'm not judging them for it you know women do the same thing too 1.00

00:08:19.100 but what I realized is there was a lot of capping going on you know women would say they don't like

00:08:24.860 cheaters and then whenever you ask them if they broke up with their boyfriend after he cheated

00:08:30.900 the answer was always no but oftentimes when he stopped cheating they would stay and there was

00:08:38.980 just little moments like this that really like red pilled me over time where I realized that

00:08:48.160 holy crap this stuff was true

00:08:51.160 um and I just started to be able to see it in real life and even my life um 0.98

00:09:03.160 that these guys know what the hell they're talking about and you just couldn't escape it 0.58

00:09:08.940 now I wanted to talk a little bit about community and I want to give a little bit

00:09:15.380 about my background and the community that I grew up with. Now, when I was growing up, I found

00:09:21.600 community in three different places. I went to private school, I played volleyball, I played

00:09:27.140 basketball, and we went to church. Now, when I think back to my school, that was probably

00:09:34.960 the biggest community that I had up to the time I was 12. I pretty much went to the same school

00:09:43.400 with 30 kids until eighth grade and everyone knew each other everyone kind of knew each other's

00:09:49.320 families and that was probably the last time i had a close community that lived nearby

00:09:56.040 when we went to high school most people lost touch although there's a few that i still to this day

00:10:00.520 know um like my guitar teacher came on the show the other day his whole family i grew up with

00:10:07.080 like um they all were like the musical geniuses of our town so even though he was a little older

00:10:14.680 than me um there's still a sense of when you go to see someone familiarity because you know their

00:10:20.680 family um and i don't think i noticed it in real time but the older i got the more community sort

00:10:29.480 of died sure my high school was smaller right it was 150 200 kids but still

00:10:41.560 it didn't have that community that i grew up with but the community that i found later was volleyball

00:10:49.960 and this was something that was really important to me growing up so i all i wanted was to win a

00:10:55.720 national championship it was just something that was in my head from a young age and i had division

00:11:00.120 one offers to go play at decently big d1 schools and i turned them down to go d3 i know everyone

00:11:06.520 says that but it's actually true um and the reason i did that was because i wanted to win a national

00:11:12.600 championship and recently i'm back in the area and i just played in a tournament last night

00:11:19.000 i'm not on the team anymore but sometimes i play in tournaments for fun

00:11:22.200 and I realized I knew like maybe five ten people there just from when I played around here a decade

00:11:30.120 ago and I realized that is the transition people used to get community 20 years ago from the people

00:11:39.100 they lived around their church and their school but we do not have that anymore

00:11:46.720 um now your community used to be where you lived in your families neighbors used to know each other

00:11:55.100 when I was growing up this wasn't normal maybe it's because I went to private school but

00:12:00.160 I did not know many of my neighbors growing up I don't think I was traumatized by this a lot of

00:12:07.080 people see this as the worst thing in the world it was just kind of how I lived if I wanted to

00:12:12.560 see someone, they were 20 minutes away. Apparently back in the day, or maybe in different communities

00:12:20.740 that I don't know of, it wasn't uncommon to see block parties, neighborhood cookouts, annual

00:12:26.280 celebrations. But the last several decades, the sense of community really has been lost. People

00:12:33.800 live with each other for years, never having introduced themselves. Now the neighborhood

00:12:40.600 that I live close to, we know maybe two houses. There's not really trick-or-treaters anymore like

00:12:51.620 there used to be and people are really socially isolated. And I felt this a lot when I lived in

00:12:57.720 London. I found that most people I met when I lived in London were through my show or through

00:13:04.640 my volleyball.

00:13:06.580 That was where I met people.

00:13:09.340 Traditional ways of forming communities like churches have not done enough to facilitate

00:13:13.580 people coming together like they used to.

00:13:16.480 Social media has created a false sense of community where people think that their community

00:13:21.100 is online instead of in person.

00:13:24.580 Today we're going to talk about some of the ways that we got to this and then talk about

00:13:30.040 if or what can be done.

00:13:34.640 So, the first thing that's happened in my lifetime is I've seen a really steep decline

00:13:45.100 in religion.

00:13:46.100 So my grandma, she was a church goer every single week. 0.92

00:13:52.820 So every single week, she would go to church, it was a complete family event.

00:13:58.380 But growing up, I mean, we went to church more than we didn't, I would say, but it was,

00:14:03.200 You know, we kind of go in waves, sometimes we did, sometimes we didn't.

00:14:07.480 And most of my siblings, we don't really go to church at all.

00:14:10.880 And that's the general trend.

00:14:13.600 Now I found an article that talked about the six reasons people are leaving church and

00:14:17.760 how to keep them.

00:14:19.080 The reasons listed are, I can't deal with the politics, there are no opportunities to

00:14:26.280 get involved, my church is too judgmental, I can't identify with these people, the focus

00:14:31.920 doesn't resonate with me. Money is not being spent wisely. And when I think into what I've

00:14:38.400 seen in the last decade, that matches up. You hear the women talking about church is too judgmental, 1.00

00:14:44.120 so they leave. I can't identify this people. I think the number of people that come out to be

00:14:53.640 frauds is something that turns people away. Money not being spent wisely. I think we've all seen

00:15:01.340 those pastors going viral that, you know, they're like in the expense of cars, et cetera, et cetera.

00:15:12.080 Okay. I was curious to see how long people really stay with their churches because I kept hearing

00:15:21.900 that if you want community to go to church. But when I see the women that I know in my life that 0.95

00:15:27.520 are on the more religious side, none of them have been with their churches that long.

00:15:31.340 The only women that I see that have consistently gone to a church for over a decade 0.99

00:15:36.840 are over the age of 45, generally speaking.

00:15:43.220 And when I looked it up, that seemed about right.

00:15:45.420 A church, the average length of time someone spends at a church is around 6.6 years,

00:15:50.840 with the median being the most accurate representation, meaning

00:15:54.480 half of churchgoers stay for less than this time and half stay longer. However, this can vary

00:16:04.960 depending on the sources and demographics being studied. While the average church member may stay

00:16:09.960 for several years, pastors typically have a shorter tenure with some studies indicating

00:16:14.860 an average of three to four years. So we're finding that the average churchgoer stays for

00:16:21.000 about six years and the average pastor stays for three to four. Again, maybe not when I was really

00:16:28.820 little, but the past decade I would say that is pretty consistent with what I've seen. We had a

00:16:35.540 new priest every three to four years in our church. I would say on average people stayed

00:16:42.480 going to Catholic church until the kids were like eight to ten.

00:16:46.400 um and i just don't really hear a lot of people talking about this

00:16:55.120 now attachment to traditional communities has gone down catholicism christian islam

00:17:01.600 human needs need to believe in something so where have i seen people go the last decade

00:17:08.080 and i really want to try to take morality out of this because many times what we have a tendency

00:17:14.320 see to do is say this is terrible or this is good. This is neither good nor bad, just a different way

00:17:20.040 of doing things. People have gone to CrossFit, veganism, becoming a witch, horoscopes, wokeism,

00:17:29.980 LGBTQ. I was curious the gender composition of religions on top of that, and I wanted to see

00:17:38.300 which religions were dominated by men and dominated by women. What I see for the next 0.95

00:17:43.480 decade is we are going to see more people. What I predict for the next decade is we are going to

00:17:49.280 see men and women go further and further apart. I predict that we will see this in religion and 0.98

00:17:56.200 hobbies. You are going to see the division of hobbies for men and hobbies for women. You are

00:18:03.100 also going to see the division of religion for men and for religion for women. Gender composition

00:18:10.820 by religious groups. So Buddhism is 51% men. Catholic is 46% men, meaning I think that 0.73

00:18:19.880 Catholic is the next religion to go completely off the rails. I believe that when you see women 1.00

00:18:25.360 completely take over, that is when you will see the LGBT woke things go into the church, 0.89

00:18:32.180 when it becomes majority female. Hindu is 62% male. So that is the most male-dominated religion, 0.97

00:18:39.600 except for Muslim, which is 65 percent. Orthodox Christian is slightly more male than female at

00:18:46.900 56 percent. Mormon is 54 percent female, mostly women. Jewish, 52 percent male. 0.79

00:18:56.220 Evangelical Protestant is 55 percent female. And if I had to guess, I think that young women,

00:19:04.040 if you look at the church attendance by women under 40, it's going to be mostly women.

00:19:09.600 Men are leaving the church because of the feminism influence.

00:19:17.580 Pastors preach a word that is against traditional values and masculinity.

00:19:24.040 There was a pastor that had to say to his congregation that you should not use the words

00:19:32.160 against your husband.

00:19:36.260 that women were weaponizing scripture to criticize their husband's behavior.

00:19:44.220 The average American lives in their house for eight years, meaning that, sorry, let me backtrack

00:19:54.280 a second. So what I've also noticed is that people move around a lot more than when I was a kid.

00:20:01.700 i'm 28 years old and when i think back to when i was eight to maybe like 12 and under

00:20:09.780 most of my grades stayed the same so between like four five six seven eight nine ten eleven twelve

00:20:16.700 between and that's about eight years which matches up with the average length of marriage the average

00:20:24.300 person lives in their house for eight years and the average person lives in an apartment for two

00:20:30.480 a half years the average relationship length is two years and nine months

00:20:38.080 now i need to go switch the screen because i don't have a producer today and i can't um but

00:20:44.320 i want to show you guys a video i saw that i thought depicted very well the problems

00:20:49.520 that we see in church give me one second

00:21:00.480 okay

00:21:16.560 okay

00:21:27.200 okay i'm gonna see if this works can you guys see the screen now

00:21:40.160 um yeah you can okay cool

00:21:47.840 so this guy is talking about why i left my colombian wife after one year of marriage

00:21:52.640 on her side and it wasn't until after the proposal where things started going downhill

00:21:57.460 so i remember two months before the wedding we were fighting quite a bit i felt that i was dating

00:22:02.380 the church more than i was dating her she would always prioritize the opinions of the people of

00:22:07.300 the church and what the church thought over my needs and wants as the boyfriend and the husband

00:22:12.960 in my marriage for example i could not go out to any bars or clubs because if i were seen there it

00:22:18.640 would reflect poorly okay so what i see happen is the women submit to the church and they pick 0.99

00:22:26.500 the community of the church over the community of their family so where church used to be a moral

00:22:33.300 code and something you did with your family now it is used as a tool by women to control the men 1.00

00:22:40.400 that they're with on her and the people at church would say something i could not go attend other

00:22:46.540 church services because she was a leader at her church and if somebody caught me at another church

00:22:52.340 it would make her look bad. And it got to the point where when I was by myself going to the gym

00:22:56.800 I was fearful of interacting with any woman whatsoever for fear of if somebody saw me what

00:23:02.100 would they tell my wife or you know how would this come back to me. I just wanted to avoid as many

00:23:06.580 problems as possible. We decided to sit down with the pastor for marriage counseling right before

00:23:11.580 we got married. We actually did that several times before we got married. I think we did it

00:23:15.780 starting from six months before the wedding every single month we would meet with the pastor and I

00:23:20.580 would have meetings with the pastor by myself as well after we told him the situation he told us

00:23:25.140 that it's apparent that love is here and we care about each other but if we continue down this path

00:23:31.040 the marriage is not going to work me Wes I have to fully agree and be on board with everything

00:23:36.960 that they teach at the church if not that's okay I should walk away but by marrying my wife I am

00:23:43.960 accepting that this is the path that I want to take. And I guess looking back, this is probably

00:23:48.060 the point where I should have walked away. I can admit that this was maybe cowardly behavior on my

00:23:53.940 part, but it was very difficult because I had so many things on my mind. Being in a foreign country

00:23:58.400 with no family, not knowing the language, not having any stability. I had the potential of

00:24:03.740 losing all the stability and community that I built in Manizales. I would have everybody in

00:24:07.900 the church turn on me, which going through the divorce now has clearly shown me. If you ever

00:24:12.500 gone to a new place and set up roots you understand how daunting and exhausting it is finally when i

00:24:17.620 found like a good area of stability and people who i felt loved me it was really hard to give that up

00:24:24.180 plus the pressure of what everybody in the church was going to think and the fact that my family

00:24:29.780 all of them bought tickets already to come to the wedding there was just a lot of things going

00:24:32.900 through my head so my wife and i we talked about it and we came to the conclusion that because of

00:24:38.100 love we're going to fight through it and we're going to try to negotiate everything as the

00:24:42.020 marriage progressed right because we love each other i've never said this openly in my channel

00:24:45.840 but when i was courting my wife there was another man who i guess is like another one of her father

00:24:50.640 figures this guy he went to jail in the u.s for narco trafficking now he's a reformed christian

00:24:55.420 and everything he came up to me one day and just took me aside and he's like hey look like if

00:24:59.340 anything bad were to happen to anna he gave me like the gun fingers and he put it on my chest

00:25:03.300 he's like i'm gonna kill you he may have said it as a joke he may have not but well this guy went 0.67

00:25:07.780 to jail for it, right? He could very easily do something like that again. Ultimately, I decided 0.96

00:25:12.500 that I think I should go through with the marriage. I just had too much to lose. It does look like a

00:25:15.940 bad decision, but I did what I believed was the best thing to do at the time. People get unhappy

00:25:20.920 in marriages the way that people go bankrupt, which is very slowly and then all at once.

00:25:25.680 So the first six months of our marriage were very interesting. It was the first time that

00:25:29.500 either of us have ever lived with a partner before. Our co-living situation actually was

00:25:34.040 pretty good. We didn't have a ton of issues. I'm firmly against yelling at my partner. I know what

00:25:39.380 it's like being on the other side of that and how crappy it feels coming from somebody you love.

00:25:43.560 She never raised her voice at me either. You know, it was all very cordial. But the same topic kept

00:25:47.620 coming up again. Am I dating her or am I dating the church? It just always seemed that she put

00:25:52.860 the needs of the church and the opinions of the people of the church over my needs as a husband

00:25:57.800 and what I wanted out of the marriage. She expected me to fit neatly into her life and

00:26:03.020 she wasn't willing to compromise any of the time that she spent at the church. So the first eight

00:26:07.860 months of the relationship, she was working a full-time job. She was an accountant at the local

00:26:12.440 hospital. So from Monday through Friday, sometimes Saturdays, she would leave at seven in the morning

00:26:16.740 and come back at generally around 6 p.m., but a lot of times at 8 p.m., sometimes at midnight,

00:26:23.660 at one, two in the morning, because she had to work. For me, it just didn't make a lot of sense

00:26:27.920 because I'm like, why are you working so hard when I'm paying most of the bills? I'm paying for like

00:26:32.060 80% of everything. And I don't get to see my wife. It didn't really make sense. And then Saturdays,

00:26:36.600 she would volunteer at the church because that was important to her. And then Sundays were

00:26:41.420 mandatory church going days. And then afterwards we would eat with their family or with their mom

00:26:45.720 or something like that. So we didn't really have any time dedicated to us or developing a

00:26:50.880 relationship as a couple. And I also had a problem with the fact that every time that we would go on

00:26:54.740 a date or go on a trip, I was planning all the events. If I didn't plan anything, we would not

00:27:00.320 have any time together because she would always prioritize like volunteering from the church being

00:27:05.920 at the church being at those services but she never really put our relationship as a priority

00:27:11.260 even the honeymoon right we were gone for a month and i paid and planned for every single detail on

00:27:17.380 that honeymoon where we would go her visa situation all the plane tickets all the airbnbs the tours

00:27:22.400 everything i did everything when i would be waiting at home for her to come back i'm like what what

00:27:26.820 what do I do? Do I go out and try to meet people? But if I'm not hanging out with people from the

00:27:31.600 church, I'm going to get shit from my wife and she's going to have a problem with that. You know, 1.00

00:27:34.880 I want to go out and go dancing, but then I know she'll have a problem with that as well.

00:27:39.540 Just to avoid having more issues with my wife, I just decided to stay home. And this is why I

00:27:44.480 started smoking weed again, because I was at home and I'm like, well, I don't know what time my wife

00:27:47.960 is going to come home. I can't really go out. So what am I going to do? I'm just going to smoke

00:27:51.220 weed and play video games because I have no other way to de-stress. So if she had to work in order 1.00

00:27:56.140 for us to pay the bills, I think it would have been a different story. So this is why I eventually

00:28:00.180 asked her to quit her job because I was like, if the church is something that you're not going to

00:28:03.960 negotiate, then I would rather you get a part-time job so I can actually see my wife and spend more 1.00

00:28:09.220 time with her. Because a lot of times it doesn't even really feel like I have a wife. And I started

00:28:13.080 noticing that when we would have disagreements, we would talk about the things that we would need

00:28:17.960 and want in a relationship. So she'll tell me that as a Christian woman, these are the things

00:28:21.880 and I need my relationship, you know, I need you to spend time with my family, go to the church

00:28:26.320 once or twice a week, because that's important to me. I need you to show me love this way. I want

00:28:30.360 you to be the provider of the household. I'm shy. I'm a very timid person. So you need to respect my

00:28:36.800 boundaries. And I'm like, okay, that's totally cool. But then every time I would try to ask

00:28:40.220 something from my point of view, things that I would like as a man or things I would like for

00:28:43.800 my culture, right? As soon as she disagreed with it, she would use religion as her argument for

00:28:49.300 her not wanting to do it so for example when i told her that some sundays i don't want to go to

00:28:53.780 church because we work all week and i never get to see my wife i would like to some sundays for us

00:28:58.820 to be able to spend some time just her and me and she'd be like okay well it's important that we go

00:29:03.960 to church at least once a week so if we don't go on sunday can we go wednesday nights or thursday

00:29:07.780 nights and she was just so concerned about what people at the church would say yeah so again

00:29:15.460 the church becomes a hobby to women and a community to women. And I was in a non-denominational

00:29:26.140 Protestant church for a couple of years. And the thing that made me leave was I went on this church

00:29:33.080 retreat. I mean, I was there like, I don't know, two years. I went on this church retreat.

00:29:38.000 and it was all 27 28 plus single women and i just thought

00:29:46.460 this is what the rest of their lives are going to be

00:29:52.720 wasting time in this church say if she didn't go rather than what i was truly asking her which was

00:30:00.620 just i wanted to spend more time with my wife i also found that there was an unequal effort

00:30:04.540 being made to understand the other person's culture this whole entire time I was in Colombia

00:30:08.660 I had to learn a new language adapt to a new culture adopt a whole entire new religion and

00:30:13.940 accept all of her family as they were and it makes me sad that in our two and a half years

00:30:17.980 together she has still not had one conversation with my dad or my sister because she always says

00:30:24.100 that her English isn't good enough and she never learned how to make a Chinese dish and I'm not

00:30:28.160 saying that she has to be the best of cooks or that she has to be fluent but after two and a

00:30:31.840 half years, I'm just like, if you were truly making an effort, you would have something to

00:30:35.880 show for it. I remember one week before I went to Medellin for a business trip, my wife and I

00:30:40.280 were fighting a lot. One evening, I received a text from a man from the church who was like a

00:30:46.020 father figure to her and I. Wes, tonight I feel the need to write to you because you and I need

00:30:50.200 to have a conversation. I need to remind you that she isn't alone and that I'm here to care for her

00:30:54.440 and defend her against anyone who harms her, not only physically but mentally as well. When you

00:30:58.820 decided to be with her nobody forced you supposedly as a mature person you promise to be with her and

00:31:03.580 not bring her to a life of sadness or contempt you did it for love and this love doesn't mean

00:31:08.400 that she has to give up her values that she had since she's known you i don't okay let me i need

00:31:13.060 to i need to turn this off one second

00:31:28.820 so again does he get a wife is she submitting to him or is she submitting to the pastor

00:31:51.620 by the way guys you already know chalk oh my gosh

00:32:00.100 i have a cup up here i really all right this is the ad i usually read it during the show but my

00:32:05.140 ipad died um i actually do like this stuff it's pre-workout i drank it before my marathon see it

00:32:14.740 gets nice and blue it raises your testosterone which i think is good for men and for women because

00:32:20.420 there's been research that's shown women's testosterone drops too i know i always have

00:32:25.540 to read that it's like this epidemic one but i actually do like this stuff and it helps the

00:32:30.260 show if you get it so you know the discount count the discount code is pearl you get like 15 off

00:32:39.940 and i like the taste it's like a blueberry so

00:32:42.740 and the owner's really nice too good guy so you know if you like um pre-workout

00:32:53.080 it's lemon maple cherry oh I thought it was blueberry that's kind of what it tastes like but

00:32:57.380 um you know get the adrenaline etc take it or leave it whatever but

00:33:03.680 helps the show feel free to get it okay

00:33:07.080 okay this so again when churches are like that and what you have is pastors enforcing what the

00:33:21.900 woman want on husbands and the husband having no authority over his own home what do you get 1.00

00:33:28.020 you get men leaving the church

00:33:33.460 now the other trend that i've seen is an increase in online communities and i have to say i'm part

00:33:45.340 of this the last four years i have made good friends that i met online i met my boyfriend

00:33:51.560 online and that just seems to be the way that the world is going so 40 stats

00:34:01.680 you should know about online communities in 2024. Online communities have stolen the spotlight. An

00:34:10.260 online community can be anything from a sports group to a financial literacy course. Whatever

00:34:16.920 the scenario, these communities help people feel supported and tied together to a greater cause,

00:34:22.380 thus driving the user engagement and retention.

00:34:28.200 76% of internet users participate in some sort of online community.

00:34:35.420 One study found that people in online communities that include blogs, forums, and or vlogs across all devices.

00:34:43.920 these communities can be seen in many platforms such as reddit which is home to more than 130

00:34:50.080 000 active communities facebook is another popular platform um 60 percent of businesses

00:34:58.220 own a branded online community participants and a recent study indicate that over 30 percent of

00:35:04.740 their resin revenue is influenced by branded online communities on average larger companies

00:35:11.580 are more likely to have online communities than smaller only 40 of communities of small companies

00:35:18.540 have an online community finally making connections with people who have similar interests 66

00:35:25.900 this is the way the world's going guys there's an increase in people moving around

00:35:31.340 and, you know, parents that made bad choices left kids with no other options.

00:35:41.880 What do you do when you're raised by a single mother

00:35:44.180 with no community around you and no siblings?

00:35:49.360 they're forced to go online

00:35:57.040 or join hobbies what other choice do you have

00:36:02.860 um the average american has three to five close friends and some studies suggest that it takes

00:36:12.580 40 to 60 hours to form a casual friendship 80 to 100 hours to transition to being a good friend

00:36:18.980 and more than 200 hours to become good friends with somebody. So making friends is a part-time

00:36:24.720 job and usually if you don't do it in your 20s it's most likely you're never going to have a

00:36:29.220 lifelong friend. The 20s are generally considered the prime time for finding good lifelong friends

00:36:36.800 due to formative experiences and more free time. People make close friends throughout their life

00:36:41.920 but the early adult years can make a significant period for establishing deep connections. Factors

00:36:47.960 like school work and shared interests can play a big role where people meet their best friends

00:36:53.320 people lose touch with almost half of their friends in their lifetime and according to recent

00:36:57.800 trends gen z tends to go out significantly less than previous generations with many reports

00:37:03.720 suggesting that they might only go out once or twice a week at most so what trends do we have

00:37:11.240 the increase in digital the increase in hobby communities the decline of religion

00:37:18.360 and the sex is going further and further apart and more online

00:37:24.200 now

00:37:28.280 oh hey

00:37:33.000 let me switch the screen really quick i think i found a way to do it on my laptop but i'm not sure

00:37:38.360 let me see if i can do this

00:37:41.240 Let's see if this works.

00:37:51.420 Okay.

00:37:52.420 Oh, yay, this is working.

00:37:55.960 Okay.

00:37:58.000 Oh, hey.

00:37:59.820 Look at that.

00:38:00.780 I wanted to show you guys an Instagram reel.

00:38:02.480 I wanted to make sure it worked.

00:38:04.780 Okay, so how couples met in the last 100 years.

00:38:10.400 i'm gonna go here oh hell yeah hell yeah can you you guys see that heck yeah 0.52

00:38:40.400 So this is why we say conservatives are playing pretend when they talk about traditionalism.

00:39:06.760 40 percent of couples they met online

00:39:10.680 60 percent in 2024 and even if we start this over

00:39:19.340 so 1930 22 percent was family 22 percent was school

00:39:36.760 19% was friends. When did family become not the norm, let's say? Family, 40s.

00:39:44.720 Since the 80s, it's been four.

00:40:07.120 yeah and this is what you know it's easy to virtue signal and say guys guys

00:40:16.300 don't go online don't but the way i see it is i don't control the trends

00:40:24.040 i you know yesterday at this volleyball tournament i went to three people told me

00:40:30.720 they don't go out in chicago anymore because there's so much crime and they know people

00:40:36.160 personally that got robbed and they're just not going to do it yeah that's why i say you know

00:40:42.960 women that want to meet men in real life you're either approaching or it's not going to happen

00:40:48.480 you might get lucky but on average people don't really talk to each other anymore not like they 0.99

00:40:55.200 used to um okay the average relationship length is two and a half years so once you get into a

00:41:05.680 relationship with someone on average it lasts two and a half years the average marriage is seven to

00:41:11.360 eight years which lines up with the average length people stay in an apartment in a house

00:41:18.560 um and it also lines up with the theory that women move when they get their heart broken

00:41:28.080 um and my conclusion really is to go with the times or be left behind there's a lot

00:41:34.960 of people that protested the smartphone there's a lot of people that protested youtube

00:41:42.160 and if you don't adapt you get left behind the trads that say and this is why i say traditional

00:41:47.840 dating advice is awful they do not understand the real world because they have never dated in the

00:41:54.560 online age for the most part unless you are a unicorn if you want to be married or in a

00:42:02.000 relationship you will most likely meet them online or through a hobby community or both

00:42:10.880 that is how people are meeting

00:42:16.000 that's how people are meeting so you can either take this information and use it to

00:42:20.640 get the best outcome or say no i want to do with the old wet well i can't so the

00:42:32.000 um these are the conclusions that I've made by looking at the chessboard

00:42:37.360 I'm only dating only fans girls in my church look I mean this is I see it as a chessboard okay if we

00:42:46.020 know there's an increase in hobby communities there's a decrease in religion there's an increase

00:42:52.620 in online dating and what was second the second way uh wait hold on let's get back to the end

00:43:01.940 I'm gonna wait till it goes

00:43:06.140 what was second I gotta look

00:43:09.960 oh and second is friends

00:43:19.960 so mutual friends third is co-workers

00:43:27.140 Jazzy it's the approach don't be creepy 1.00

00:43:29.440 you're an idiot sorry Jazzy I mean you're a woman so you have no idea you know what the 1.00

00:43:37.520 success rate is of approaching women it's like one percent you have no idea online 1.00

00:43:44.560 that's the way to go

00:43:47.840 their lives are a quest for hobbies made of no accountability or responsibility till it's too

00:43:56.300 late that's true you know the problem with workout classes is female workout classes if 1.00

00:44:02.240 they're too hard someone complains and then they stop signing up

00:44:05.960 I'm sorry Jazzy I know you subscribe but

00:44:13.360 it's just you know I'm not saying it's not bad to get social skills but

00:44:22.080 ROI wise, are you likely going to meet your girlfriend or wife that way?

00:44:27.300 Probably not.

00:44:30.780 You could go to the bars and going out, but they're literally going out of business.

00:44:39.820 So women are not, cannot, and will not be finding long lasting relationships with the 1.00

00:44:47.600 men that they want.

00:44:48.320 This perpetuates the 80-20 rule and all of the toxic aspects of online dating.

00:45:00.300 Height, looks, and status will be the norm for modern women going forward. 1.00

00:45:11.000 Expect to be a single parent.

00:45:13.240 People don't like it when I say this.

00:45:15.660 I say expect it.

00:45:17.260 Ladies, I have seen women more moral than you get divorced. 1.00

00:45:23.900 Yep.

00:45:25.320 Have a plan.

00:45:26.500 Expect it.

00:45:30.360 I don't think it's, you know, hope for the best, but prepare for the worst.

00:45:38.540 Or, you know, you can option A is go with the times or option B is fight it.

00:45:43.120 you know put your wife in a flower dress and make bread 0.98

00:45:47.120 join a church where the people leave every three years

00:45:51.360 then expect your wife not to leave

00:45:54.920 because she promised that she wouldn't go to bars that are becoming more and more

00:45:58.840 empty expect things to change and try to form a community

00:46:03.020 where you live with people you have nothing in common with because they have

00:46:06.640 immigrated a million people that we have nothing in common with 1.00

00:46:14.080 Or go to the parks that are empty.

00:46:20.760 Anyways, guys, that's all I got for you.

00:46:25.160 Thank you for bearing with me through my technical difficulties.

00:46:31.560 Said Pearl is just jealous of women like Nala. 1.00

00:46:36.660 I'm so jealous of a woman that has a video of her getting tag teamed online for the rest of her life. 1.00

00:46:43.120 oh damn I just wanted to be her 0.97

00:46:47.600 okay guys um I gotta go figure out how to turn this stuff off so give me a second 0.99

00:46:54.160 thanks for tuning in love you guys and I'm gonna be on I'm gonna be live tomorrow because I didn't

00:47:02.180 end up going to the inauguration but Trump 2024 baby

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Pearl - January 19, 2025

Modern Women Prefer Hobbies To Families

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