Pearl - Modern Women's Friend's Ruin Their Relationships (Call-in Show)

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00:01:30.000 good afternoon good evening ladies and gentlemen welcome to another episode of pearl daily and

00:01:58.600 And today we're going to start by playing my mixtape.

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00:02:04.360 I do have a producer back in the building.

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00:02:07.860 I've been tortured for two weeks.

00:02:09.360 It's been the worst time of my life ever to learn how to do the equipment.

00:02:15.600 So now we don't have to listen to my mixtapes to start the show, because normally I'd go

00:02:21.620 fix it over there, then I'd come.

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00:02:26.900 So welcome to the show, everybody.

00:02:28.580 is society i made this is called um we don't party like we used to and i wrote this song

00:02:37.540 because my entire life i've been on my phone like um when i got my first smartphone when i

00:02:43.380 was 12 so as an adult i've never been to a party without cell phones and i've always wondered what

00:02:49.060 it would be like you guys to to us this is like the dinosaur age i'm like what do these dinosaurs do

00:02:55.780 without cell phones so i wrote this song and i'm gonna play it to start don't party like we used to

00:03:05.860 take me back to 1992 everybody's acting brand new we're not looking across the room

00:03:15.780 Everybody is looking down

00:03:19.780 On their phones, no one's around

00:03:23.460 Now wait, now wait, the chorus is so good

00:03:25.360 Yeah, we used to tear up the town

00:03:27.160 Now I don't hear a sound

00:03:31.040 People don't dance cause somebody's watching

00:03:36.560 Drink too much, everybody's talking

00:03:40.100 We used to rage like there was no stopping

00:03:43.780 So put your hands up, everybody's rocking. Put your phone down and get on the dance floor.

00:03:51.720 Shake that booty like you never did before. Look real silly, yeah, raise your hands. Let's get

00:03:59.740 together and baby just dance. Now I have a vision for this music video and I want you guys to go

00:04:06.140 through this journey with me. So imagine, I can't dance, but I've always wished I could.

00:04:11.060 it's like white people we don't really have beat you know it is what it is um but I thought it

00:04:18.700 would be cool for me imagine there's a room this is how the music video I do it there's a room and

00:04:24.040 everyone's on their phone they're being so lame it's like women are doing their photo shoots you

00:04:29.640 know when you go to a place and you're trying to enjoy it it's like the women and then I come in

00:04:33.860 and I bring in a bunch of dancers and they steal all the women's phones and then they make them do

00:04:39.580 choreographed dances that's my vision for this music video and i do this in different parts of

00:04:45.180 the world so like we start and i go to like be weird if i was in like high school but like a

00:04:52.380 college right so i go to a college and it's just all the women thirst trapping at the party and

00:04:57.740 then it's like oh we don't want to do that so we we book you know and then i go to like an old folks

00:05:03.180 home where everyone that's on the old folks home is like watching tv and then it's like me with my

00:05:07.500 dance school and then we're like shimmying do you see the vision

00:05:21.020 we used to snap a polaroid now the whole night's on record i used to know who my neighbor was

00:05:30.940 now we really don't do that stuff we used to go out and ding dong ditch now that ring cam is the

00:05:40.820 biggest snitch if that wasn't a good lyric we used to go and ding dong ditch now that ring cam is the

00:05:48.920 biggest snitch i don't get the credit i deserve i really don't i don't know why these music

00:05:54.720 companies are knocking on my door. No one can convince me this isn't good. I don't care what

00:06:04.980 any of you say. Anyways. All right, let's get into today's show topic. I first want to say

00:06:09.940 thank you guys for tuning in today. I really appreciate all of you. I could not do what I

00:06:15.900 do without you. And we just got enough signups on my app that I officially can afford a producer.

00:06:24.720 how how amazing is this so you know maybe someday we can get a full staff again how amazing would

00:06:33.340 that be maybe one day i have a vision i have a vision also um the documentary is going good

00:06:41.580 um they're gonna get us a commercial for it probably in the next two weeks sorry for the

00:06:47.140 gaslighting and i've said this you guys just have to take my word we had to switch teams

00:06:51.000 it caused a hiccup but it's going well um and i'm really excited we have a very we have um

00:06:57.960 some of the guys that worked on matt walsh's what is a woman are also helping us with this

00:07:02.840 so i'm really excited i think it's going to be really good um so it's been great really

00:07:07.620 we've been starting to get traction again and really it's because of you guys i couldn't do

00:07:13.540 it without you so if you guys want you go to the website it's the second sorry the first link in

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00:07:37.660 100 bucks a year but in april we're gonna do something that's pretty cool pretty cool and

00:07:42.580 this is going to be expensive but right now it's cheap on sunday i am doing a cap on whoever has

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00:07:58.820 or 100 a year and the reason i'm doing that is because i really appreciate the people

00:08:04.820 that signed up early on the people that sign up now you're going to get first

00:08:08.500 first invite to events that we do you're gonna as a thank you because you know when the whole

00:08:14.840 world came at me and I was down on my luck you guys are the ones that helped me pick myself

00:08:21.180 back up you and my father thank you dad um you know and I really am appreciative so forever I

00:08:29.540 will remember that I really will and what I'm gonna do is when I got into media I couldn't

00:08:36.560 believe how many sorry let me start say this in a different way when i got into media i realized

00:08:44.520 that i took for granted how many smart intelligent men i know in real life that are not famous

00:08:50.480 and i realized this because in media you meet really famous people and you realize that you

00:08:57.340 know i would i would meet someone and i would think my dad's like not as famous as him but he

00:09:02.440 knows way more and i would meet like the director of a company in the last five years i've really

00:09:07.800 spent building a very very good network right um and so what i'm gonna do is i'm gonna bring on

00:09:14.360 smart intelligent non-famous men onto the platform to give presentations on um different topics and

00:09:23.480 by the way you guys can be involved in this and you guys can give me suggestions on people you

00:09:28.120 want me to bring on so this can be maybe there's an industry you're going into i am very good at

00:09:33.080 getting in touch with people um and so i want to offer that to you on top of that you know

00:09:38.520 the first month i'm going to do it internally and so one of the guys that's going to give a

00:09:43.640 presentation is my former consultant that i used to use um when i first got into youtube he helped

00:09:51.640 me get two million subscribers in a year he is one of the most intelligent people i've ever met

00:09:57.560 he just is very like he is younger he's like two years younger than me and um he's so good at

00:10:04.280 youtube that um his strategies just like blow people up like he is very very good he works

00:10:10.360 with all the big people but he's just not a public facing guy but you know behind a paywall he's

00:10:16.520 willing to give you guys a presentation um next we have um my one of my editors so if you guys

00:10:24.440 want to go into graphic design or editing he can tell you the steps on how to do that and by the

00:10:29.880 way the guys that you guys like um maybe they'll come on monthly or weekly or quarterly and will

00:10:35.800 keep coming back and the great thing is you guys can directly ask them questions so i'm going to

00:10:40.040 block off a whole hour for you guys to ask them questions um if you guys want you guys can tell

00:10:47.400 me i can do a course on how to get in touch with people um i do think it's unfair because i'm a

00:10:53.560 woman and it's just a lot easier when you're a woman um but i i do have a very good network

00:10:58.440 and i've spent years building it and i'll actually give one piece of advice for free

00:11:05.080 you have to not care about being annoying

00:11:09.160 look i have flipped people that were annoyed with me or i'm like interviewing it like i would have

00:11:15.480 a copy and paste the message which i can give to you guys that i would copy and paste to different

00:11:19.560 people and some people thought i was so annoying but after a certain time they realized you're just

00:11:25.560 relentless and that's how i got a lot of big collabs um and so anyways i know so many smart

00:11:35.960 intelligent men that just do not get the credit that they deserve that i really want to i want

00:11:42.920 you guys to experience that and some i'm sure in the future will be famous but you guys have till

00:11:48.840 sunday to get the monthly or yearly membership and i'm gonna keep a spreadsheet for life and

00:11:57.320 i'll remember you guys i don't know exactly all the ways i'm gonna thank you but i promise i

00:12:02.600 promise there there's gonna be more ways so um yeah i first wanted to say thank you so much

00:12:08.600 there's four people in the chat right now on youtube which if you guys do have something you

00:12:14.360 want me to read in the chat today please put pearl read um we have a very active chat on the website

00:12:20.120 and it's very fun i love you guys but sometimes i gotta i gotta do the i gotta know what we can

00:12:27.400 read and not so doug mpa says women can't stand each other and they can't stand when one of their

00:12:33.640 friends finds a good relationship and gets married and that is thank you doug mpa that is the topic

00:12:41.800 that we are going to go into today. So, you know, as you guys know, it is said that women

00:12:50.300 keep women single. Single women cannot stand when any of their friends get into a relationship

00:12:56.960 because they need their friends to support their bad behavior. This is even worse when a woman is

00:13:04.700 married. A married woman's single friend will do everything and anything in their power to get the

00:13:09.880 friend to leave her marriage anything the married woman shared with her single friends the single

00:13:16.600 friends will get will find a way to get her to view it in a negative way anything the man does

00:13:22.940 will be criticized and scrutinized it is the goal of single woman to women to get her friend

00:13:28.960 in a relationship or a marriage so or to leave so that the women can be single again that is why i

00:13:38.380 always say all the time that women sabotage each other's relationships. The women that sabotage

00:13:45.040 relationships can be friends or family members, like that single auntie and that single mother.

00:13:51.540 You guys already know. They're always telling the daughter you can do better. She can't do better.

00:13:56.920 That's why she's with you. We're hypergamous. If we could do better, we would. Do you know what I

00:14:05.340 mean biology? You're not going to undo years of biology. Your only choice as a guy is to be

00:14:11.520 awesome. That's it. That's all you got, you know. Many men tell the stories of how their wives,

00:14:21.500 mothers and sisters do the most to try to get their wife to leave them. The wife or the sister

00:14:26.980 will intentionally put themselves in opposition of their husband to make the woman have to choose

00:14:33.060 who she's loyal to when the wife chooses her husband the mother or sister will make sure

00:14:38.140 that there are severe consequences for doing so some of the common ways that women sabotage

00:14:43.460 their friends relationships or marriages is one make her think that the boyfriend or husband is

00:14:52.240 cheating that is the lowest hanging fruit and the easiest to perpetrate because of the all men are

00:14:59.140 bad culture in the west you guys fall asleep for a nap and you wake up to 10 missed calls saying

00:15:06.020 where are you where are you you're like i was napping i was playing my video games but women

00:15:13.500 we do this thing right we think we have no idea how hard it is to get laid and so we think that

00:15:20.880 if it's diff like if you guys if we want to sleep with you we just assume every other woman does

00:15:27.760 that's our default I'm not saying and you guys have lived life where most women are repulsed by

00:15:34.660 you right I mean I'm just being honest even hot men like most women don't want to right

00:15:40.880 and so when you've lived that um

00:15:44.140 when you've lived that you're like what are you talking about you you think all these women want

00:15:54.020 to sleep with me. And then it's a weird thing that happens. That's another way that women's

00:15:59.880 friends sabotage relationships. They try to sleep with the boyfriend. It's like, it's like, it's

00:16:05.820 like, this is what happens. There'll be a friend group, right? And this guy's friend zoned by

00:16:09.760 everybody. And then one woman says, you know what? He's cool. Let me date him. And do you know what

00:16:14.920 happens? All the other women start flirting with him. It's like, you weren't trying to before

00:16:20.760 the guys, female friends. It's like, there's so many Reddit stories of like men having sex with

00:16:27.400 the girl's husband, sister, best friend, women. We don't care. We're ruthless. Okay. Another reason

00:16:38.200 ways that women sabotage relationships is looking for size signs of weakness or problems in the

00:16:45.740 relationship and then blowing it out of proportion, telling her to leave when the smallest conflict

00:16:52.820 happens. Number three, using any past transgression as a reason to show why the boyfriend or husband

00:16:59.560 is a bad person in the present. Four, say that the boyfriend or husband is too controlling when

00:17:06.320 he tries to set boundaries, especially if they are boundaries that affect time with the female

00:17:12.320 friends female friends or family members a good example of this is samantha lee tyrese gibson's

00:17:19.600 ex-wife they had a pretty messy divorce and tyrese was crying on the internet because he couldn't see

00:17:25.120 his baby it was bad and about a year ago she admitted that if she had different people around

00:17:29.780 her she would have stayed dun dun dun okay so we're gonna watch this interview where she

00:17:38.120 Sean Jackson here with another episode with my co-host, Ron Ketchis.

00:17:42.520 Yo, turn me through that.

00:17:45.640 I love ones, people that support you.

00:17:48.500 You want to make sure that you are involving in that decision-making.

00:17:50.860 And you have to really decide and make a very calculated decision based upon your belief systems,

00:17:59.420 based upon who you're speaking to, your wise counsel, like giving them the information,

00:18:05.240 and then making the best, the best decision. Um, I think that we do take divorce very casually

00:18:13.000 and I'll admit, I probably looked at it a little, little less intensely as I should have.

00:18:21.080 That's me looking back on it. Um, because I would never tell, I, I work with women.

00:18:27.020 I would never tell a woman to walk through that in the same frame of mind I was in when I did it.

00:18:33.460 And when you say that, but what frame of mind was that?

00:18:36.780 What do you mean by that in particular?

00:18:38.580 I was very, very hurt.

00:18:42.680 I was very angry.

00:18:45.500 And I remember like when I made like the decision, I was like hysterically crying on the phone with my attorney.

00:18:56.920 That was not the person I should have been on the phone with.

00:18:59.040 Like that's a whole nother conversation.

00:19:02.420 but anyway i was hysterically crying and i was not in any position to make that decision

00:19:16.740 i was extremely emotionally intoxicated we can be intoxicated with our emotions and i'm one i'm

00:19:24.500 very much emotionally led i feel very strongly i'm just that kind of person very passionate

00:19:29.540 but um i would never tell somebody to make that decision when they're that emotional

00:19:39.720 but of course i was all right even through it all who still would in the chat be honest guys be

00:19:50.780 honest she's taking her ex-husband to the cleaners in divorce court right now

00:19:57.740 how many of you still would date her how many one in the chat one and i wasn't talking to someone

00:20:08.160 that genuinely would be for marriage you know or for reconciliation and that's not just that's not

00:20:19.120 no slight to my you know no it's a current occurrence yeah it has nothing there's no slight

00:20:25.980 to that it done the friends but i was on the phone with my attorney yeah so it was something

00:20:30.780 that was being said to me that hurt me at that time and that um so at that time when i was on

00:20:39.420 the phone and i made that decision i was i was i was i was livid i was emotional i was hysterical

00:20:46.620 and so i if if anything if i could take anything from that and advise somebody else because i don't

00:20:52.420 want families to be torn apart yeah it would be that if you're that hurt and you're like that

00:21:01.560 emotional about someone that's not a lack of love like the opposite of love is not hate it's

00:21:12.060 indifference it's void of love void of feelings and so if i'm that emotional and i'm that hurt

00:21:21.180 and i'm like on that level where i'm just like i can't stop thinking and i'm just obsessing over

00:21:29.740 why i am hurt i have i'm i if it's misguided and misdirected it can go in in a bad direction

00:21:38.860 and so i think that with that being said i didn't know that at the time yeah and i made a decision

00:21:47.660 like well I'm so angry I'm so hurt and you know this is you know and I'm just like you know you

00:21:53.200 know she's so remorseful sounding here do you know what she's doing currently it's so crazy we can

00:22:00.680 just live double lives you would think she was remorseful from this but she's taking her ex

00:22:06.000 husband to the cleaners she has not stopped she's going for like 20k a month you guys thought your

00:22:14.480 divorce was bad forget it you know like never mind like i need to be done with this this is horrible

00:22:21.360 you know just all you just ruminating on all the negative things and not focused on any of the

00:22:26.940 positive things i posted a um a reel and i mean this i i really mean this there was a there was

00:22:32.300 a guy who was talking about the that when he before he decided to marry his wife he had said

00:22:37.820 or had told um his wife that he needed to choose the people that would speak to her in her most

00:22:45.180 emotional moments and he would it was people that would be for the relationship right and i know a

00:22:54.300 lot of people had different kind of like comments about the person and everything like that but the

00:22:58.220 message of what he was saying for me resounds true because the people i have yeah that's a

00:23:06.860 get out of jail free card you could have picked people that were for the relationship you could

00:23:13.100 have went and found some who did you pick you know you picked a divorce attorney

00:23:21.580 do you know what i mean like women you could have picked a therapist i don't know oh i mean they're

00:23:26.620 not much better but you guys get the idea you could have picked someone you picked a divorce attorney

00:23:32.540 so if you picked a divorce attorney you think your husband could have talked you out of that

00:23:38.860 have you guys ever seen a woman that wants to divorce your ass

00:23:43.380 have you seen you've seen people try to talk her out of it they they keep going in my ear at the

00:23:50.980 time we're not for that let me ask you this because i think that's such a good point like

00:23:58.980 when you're even in that spot where when you're emotional yes you're in the pit of your relationship

00:24:04.520 yes it's so important to make sure you have people who are pro-marriage pro-relationship

00:24:09.160 pro-your current relationship 100 to be able to help you know as much as possible make the

00:24:15.760 best decision to keep the marriage going yeah when everybody may not have access to that council

00:24:22.420 so let me ask you this if you if we can go back and if i were able somehow to insulate you

00:24:30.980 with a pro-marriage pro-relationship community do you think you still would have actually gone

00:24:36.340 through a divorce not that time there you go from the horse's mouth now i have two takes on this one

00:24:45.900 take is she's admitting it women sabotage other women's relationships however the other part of

00:24:53.580 me thinks this is kind of just a way to blame other people but two things can be true at the

00:24:59.660 same time okay i don't know what would have happened oh i've never said this publicly

00:25:05.100 no this is what we do this is exclusive baby that reminded me of britney renner

00:25:11.940 actually no

00:25:17.280 I want to deny myself I want to deny ability um yeah no I I um

00:25:25.380 the the truth about the matter is that if i had different people in my ear at that time it would

00:25:35.640 not have made that decision no wow i wouldn't and that's the truth i um i tried my very best

00:25:43.420 at this point in my life to be what i didn't have in that moment um because i think that i was

00:25:50.980 women were like I'm an extremely emotional person people that know me know that about me

00:26:00.220 I'm the kind of person that like okay I feel so and I can ruminate I can get so lost in my

00:26:07.760 thoughts I know a lot of women are like that like we're a lot not all of us right but some of us

00:26:12.500 are just like a lot of men can be like that but I know women specifically the there will be moments

00:26:18.500 they'll be like i'm ready to i'm ready to be done i'm ready to be done i'm ready to be done i can't

00:26:22.820 stand this he don't do this he don't do that blah blah blah blah we're just focusing on these things

00:26:26.980 and because you don't have you don't have a certain um person in your life to say to check

00:26:34.260 you and say sis what about this what about this what about these strings what about what he's not

00:26:39.060 doing what like those types of things um that's that can that can get you thinking about the

00:26:48.820 positive aspects of this person that you may not be thinking about okay i i think we've heard enough

00:27:00.260 so there you have it guys and this is the thing we're so anxious that's just you know

00:27:07.620 know, as women, this is something we struggle with. And, you know, I don't care. Every woman

00:27:13.140 has this problem to some degree. We always think the worst is going to happen. Why do you think

00:27:20.100 women will always say their number one answer to, like, why you have to be married or whatever

00:27:28.220 is, or there has to be alimony or child support is because the men are going to leave us high

00:27:33.460 and dry we're afraid of spending our youth on the wrong guy and then getting getting old and crusty

00:27:40.340 and left but then we leave so it's like counter you would think we would stay you know i don't

00:27:46.480 know so now there's a dating channel that's talking about how single friends sabotage a

00:27:53.100 girl's relationship and this is going to be a call-in at the end so i'm going to want to hear

00:27:57.960 you guys's experience here we go hey guys how you doing welcome to another dating channel story

00:28:08.440 so learning lessons from previous relationships is something that you really have to be mindful of

00:28:15.400 to not repeat the same thing over and over i've seen a lot of situations where men

00:28:20.200 tend to repeat their dating habits. And it's the definition of insanity, trying the same thing over

00:28:28.840 and over, hoping that you would have a different result. So learning from your dating past is

00:28:35.960 insanely important. Can it get in the way sometimes of just experiencing somebody and

00:28:40.740 meeting people? Yeah. I think at the end of the day, if you, if you ignore a lot of your past

00:28:47.720 experiences then yeah you can meet more people and generally uh just be around more people but

00:28:54.160 are they quality people so what i've done in the last i don't know seven or eight months i've

00:28:59.280 really concentrated on the quality of people that i want to run in my life and i'm going to tell you

00:29:03.400 why because in my previous relationships there has been lessons to be taught and i'll give you

00:29:09.540 the most recent example. If a woman generally starts to distance themselves from you and hang

00:29:20.440 out more with their friends, they want to be single. And you have to be like, okay, well,

00:29:26.840 am I doing something wrong? No. Am I giving off the wrong signs? Am I not being supportive? Am I

00:29:32.800 not being the the you know the provider uh protector situation no i think a lot of the

00:29:39.120 times women just like socializing and men don't men generally when they hang out with their boys

00:29:46.080 they just work on a car they work on something and they that's where they hang out whether they

00:29:51.600 building a garage with their friends building a car or go to the bar to watch a game they don't

00:29:57.840 necessarily like to just socialize for the sake of socializing. Usually, highly productive men

00:30:03.360 are somewhere working on something and making either money or concentrating on their craft

00:30:09.180 or whatever. But women generally like to just socialize for the sake of socializing. So I

00:30:15.100 remember a pivoting point in my last relationship that made me realize that this is probably not

00:30:22.200 for the long haul. The person I was with was working in a law firm and they met somebody

00:30:29.940 who was in the middle of a breakup. You know how it is misery loves company. So yeah, because

00:30:36.280 after the breakup, obviously women have to be hoes. Yeah, they're ready to get, I mean,

00:30:42.400 if you think when, if you dump your girlfriend, especially if you dump her, you might, you might,

00:30:48.200 the worst might come to your mind like someone else is like digging her out

00:30:51.420 and it should come to your mind because that's probably happening we got tinder it's 2025 do

00:30:57.100 you know what i mean okay let me get this let me get this straight the woman has the choice to be

00:31:02.200 sad or go f a hot guy better looking than you now he's gonna smash and pass which is worse for you

00:31:11.780 you know you loved her sucks it is what it is it is what it is they're going through a breakup

00:31:17.520 they're my my girlfriend at the time was trying to help them go to the breakup but the woman was

00:31:23.300 just you know banging the x and hanging out and just kind of like going through that process of

00:31:27.620 splitting up once the breakup was finalized now this person needed someone to hang out with

00:31:33.140 and yeah women women need like a partner in crime not too big of a partner in crime one partner in

00:31:42.200 crime. I'm going to read the chat on the website really fast. Um, Doug MPA says there's nothing

00:31:50.200 what, or this is Tyrese's ex-wife. She regrets leaving him. Her mom and all her friends were

00:31:55.140 talking trash in the ear about him. How sad women just make up words emotionally intoxicated. What

00:32:01.960 the hell does that mean? I think I know what it means. So, okay, I'll tell you what it means now.

00:32:10.120 it's like i'm a woman so i can understand woman speak that's when so this is kind of how our

00:32:16.700 hamster wheel runs okay so you'll have a trait right so let's say the woman sees you is not

00:32:24.140 working hard enough right so like she she views you you've done things to indicate to the woman

00:32:29.840 that you're lazy so the woman this is how the hamster wheel goes so first she's like well he's

00:32:35.660 kind of being lazy now i know what you're thinking the woman is probably lazier she doesn't have a

00:32:40.620 right that's not how we think we think we're angels right so we'll start that then the hamster

00:32:45.820 wheel keeps going and they're like oh my god i can't provide what if i have a husband that

00:32:50.320 doesn't provide for me oh my god i'm gonna be okay what about but they're that guy over there

00:32:55.460 he's providing and i do all this stuff i did that and i did that and i did that and i did that

00:32:59.940 and then it just goes and that's a hamster wheel so yeah i mean that's that's what i would say

00:33:07.640 emotionally intoxicated so then the woman does this for like five hours maybe a week maybe a

00:33:13.460 month and by the end of it her her um hamster wheel was spinning so much that she's already

00:33:19.480 gonna divorce you by the end and you're and you you just thought you took like a nap

00:33:26.820 like you thought that you were just napping and it was going to be fine

00:33:31.360 and she thought well I'm contemplating this whole relationship because you napped

00:33:37.460 anyways all right Pearl Reed she's trying to get 40k a month in child support from Tyrese and has

00:33:45.980 two lawyers to pay for it Daniel says it's not what she says um it's her actions state her eyes

00:33:53.400 say that she does not give a shit. James says, Pearl, how old is your dad? I have a feeling

00:33:57.940 he's half my age. My dad is. Well, if you're half, if my dad's half your age, it means you're real

00:34:04.140 old. No offense, James. My dad's in his fifties. He's almost 60, I think. Um, she's never going

00:34:12.260 to get a man of Tyrese's caliber. Now she's a single mom out here. Do you know what? I want

00:34:17.680 to I want to give these women hope now she probably won't but I think we should do a show

00:34:25.000 Doug I want you to add this to the list of the women who won against all odds and who I'm thinking

00:34:32.100 of is Jeff Bezos's wife that woman had two baby daddies and landed a billionaire a billionaire

00:34:40.060 or Ashley St. Clair that was a midwoman now you might think and now she's the baby mom of another

00:34:46.320 billionaire and she was a e-girl do you know what I mean can you talk about how women's cool

00:34:53.580 interests and gestures is something they learned from a boyfriend basically just a copycat everything

00:34:58.560 cool from us comes from men do you want to know why I'm conservative my dad taught it to me duh

00:35:06.860 yeah do you know why I decided to abandon sinking ships you know why my boyfriend

00:35:16.280 he said you got to stop with the he didn't say that he he i don't want to say he made me he didn't

00:35:23.780 make me he he showed me why it's useless to anyways i don't useless to fight for some of

00:35:33.580 these sinking ships and like the guys just say stuff that makes sense and yeah so um james glad

00:35:42.380 to be a part of the network you came at my at my radar when you spoke up for stephen crowder

00:35:47.500 yeah stephen crowder is the hill i died on in 2024. i think eventually i'll go on his show

00:35:55.020 i feel like i could get it if i really pushed but

00:36:02.940 i died i died i died on that hill anyways we'll go back to the video

00:36:07.420 oh james says female lawyers are great to date crazy fun but only date be the girl that i was

00:36:15.260 dating and the girl that i was dating liked her she thought she was a cute little girl that they

00:36:20.060 got along with and they can do things together and i'm like okay well you're in a relationship

00:36:25.660 so i've always wondered um why all of a sudden women wonder why we question what they're doing

00:36:32.060 when from one day to the next things change drastically but the pivoting point of the

00:36:37.340 relationship in my opinion was not all the stuff that happened while she lived here it was i used

00:36:42.140 to call her complex girl you know there were a lot of things issues with her ex issues with their

00:36:47.100 parents issues with her issues with their dog issues with everything but i overlooked that

00:36:51.420 because you know not everything is perfect so you're like okay well um you can if you can get

00:36:56.700 through this stage generally we have a good time together but this part made me really question

00:37:03.660 the motivations and am i even in this relationship like for the long haul because of their answer

00:37:10.620 so this a single co-worker that she had had a lot of um let's just say uh questionable advice um

00:37:19.660 things that she would say to do versus what she did or not you know like imagine you have a friend

00:37:25.580 and you're like you shouldn't do this but then they go and do it a lot of that stuff was happening

00:37:30.300 according to my girlfriend at the time i i can only go by what she tells me so we i meet this

00:37:36.700 person one time at a like container store and i say hello how you doing and you know we meet and

00:37:42.460 exchange pleasantries and bada bing bada boom now remember guys nothing keeps single women's

00:37:49.740 single, nothing keeps single women more single than single friends. If you have a single friend

00:37:56.140 and they want to hang out with you more, they'll try to, if you're a woman, say you're a woman in

00:38:03.740 a relationship and you have a single friend, that single friend is miserable. They're just alone

00:38:08.360 and they hate the fact that you're happy in a relationship. So they're going to try or at least

00:38:12.960 attempt to put seeds of doubt in the relationship in order for them to have the friend 100 percent

00:38:20.720 i've seen this happen many times so when i saw this happen i go here we go so after that happened

00:38:28.480 whatever come home a couple days passed and um i asked the question so what what'd your friend

00:38:34.000 think because i met your friend and your co-worker like what'd she think she said now now this is a

00:38:40.720 very telling next couple of sentences because i'll give an example if my girlfriend met one of

00:38:50.400 my friends and my friend later on says bro i don't like her she's kind of kind of ugly and

00:38:57.520 you know she's kind of dumpy and you know she's kind of weird looking and like i'll take that as

00:39:03.600 like i'll internalize it and cool and if she was to ask me hey what's your friend think of me he

00:39:08.960 said you were a nice girl not looking to hurt anyone's feelings he said you were a nice girl

00:39:13.360 that's it bada bing bada boom done but when i asked the question of her her co-workers

00:39:20.320 i guess impression she goes she said that i could do better and i went interesting what did you say

00:39:28.160 and i think that caught her by surprise she was like what do you mean i'm like well what did you

00:39:33.440 say if you're dumb it's a good show doug doug mpa i have another one should modern women lie to men

00:39:46.240 because there he said should modern women spare men's feelings and be less honest

00:39:55.520 put a one in the chat if you think modern women should be less honest

00:39:59.120 like in that situation two more honest your little friend is telling you who is in a happy

00:40:10.140 relationship you can do better than that guy what did you say did you defend me did you say hey what

00:40:18.380 the fuck like he's great you know like what'd you say and she's like well i didn't say anything

00:40:22.880 right then and there i knew that the relationship was kind of doomed

00:40:28.000 having someone's back cost nothing like cost nothing i've um been in situations where people

00:40:34.920 don't like the people i'm dating with two girlfriends ago everyone said she was homely

00:40:39.220 looking everyone said she was ugly but i loved her and i was like yeah but she treats me good and

00:40:43.540 i generally have a great time with her so i don't care that you think she's ugly i like her

00:40:48.100 so when something like that happened on the other end like you know reverse the roles and nobody

00:40:54.560 defended me I said to myself I know what's happening the single friend wants her single

00:40:59.940 so that she could do girl stuff with her because she's recently out of a relationship and wants to

00:41:06.360 keep her for herself and not have me as the main time taker because if she's spending her free time

00:41:15.160 with me she can't spend her free time with her and subsequently I was right

00:41:20.260 about that because I think the seeds of doubt get planted and then the more they

00:41:25.780 hung out at work eight hours a day had lunches together had breakfast together

00:41:29.260 after work together meaning they're hanging out a little too much like I

00:41:33.220 love my friends but I see them once a month or maybe once every two weeks hey

00:41:38.540 what's up catch up for about an hour and that's it but every single day when you

00:41:42.560 hang out with someone that literally told you I think you could do better than

00:41:46.820 that guy that you're with I would have hoped that they would have defended me

00:41:51.080 and it would have said hey fuck you I like him or whatever you know some kind

00:41:55.360 of defense and I would have felt at least happy that someone had my back in

00:41:59.800 that relationship so understand that guys single women nothing keeps single

00:42:04.940 women more single than single friends so and it's because women just like to do

00:42:09.380 things together go out drinking in the middle of the you know in the afternoon

00:42:12.740 on a Sunday have bottomless mimosas on a kind of Sunday morning have brunch

00:42:17.720 just to say they had brunch it's a very odd behavior that happens men don't do

00:42:24.020 that men go you know I like her she seems nice are you happy and if they're

00:42:29.720 like yeah I'm happy they generally just kind of like let it be if I saw an issue

00:42:34.340 like unless I saw my friend's girlfriend cheating on him I'm not really gonna

00:42:39.280 give them my personal opinion on on the situation if they're happy if they're

00:42:43.420 happy they're glowing and they're just smiling all the time I'm like why am I

00:42:46.780 gonna be a stick in the mud and tell them hey I think she looks ugly you

00:42:50.220 could do better I've never have said that in my life to a man that I had about a

00:42:55.960 friend that had a relationship with a woman and then I love I'm like oh you

00:43:00.600 could do way better I would say are you happy if she fulfill all your needs does

00:43:06.420 she get you? Does she support what you do? And they say, yeah, I'm happy. Wipe your hands of the

00:43:13.200 situation and you're good. So the moment this person did not defend me, I said to myself,

00:43:18.400 it's just a matter of time. And of course, with time, they brought up some old stuff that had

00:43:23.440 nothing to do with anything as the excuse as to why it wasn't going to work. And I said, okay,

00:43:29.240 if you want to hang out with your friends and you want to do the single girl thing, have fun.

00:43:33.700 i'm not really gonna be here to be second fiddle especially to someone that you didn't defend me

00:43:39.400 against it was an interesting situation that i think you guys should really pay attention to

00:43:43.180 if your girlfriend has a lot of single friends get ready guys they're just gonna start planting

00:43:51.060 seeds of doubt in the relationship and eventually make it so that she's single so they can all go

00:43:56.820 double fist cocks at duffy's and have a good time so be on the lookout for more videos on

00:44:02.160 the dating channel as 2024 looks to be a pretty busy year in terms of the dating channel

00:44:07.440 have a good rest of your day i'll see you guys later

00:44:12.160 there you have it let's see what else we got okay we got another one women says to be careful

00:44:19.760 of low-value friends

00:44:22.060 and taking advice from them.

00:44:32.560 Go.

00:44:40.240 Okay.

00:44:41.440 I've already said it

00:44:42.680 and I'm going to say it again.

00:44:44.400 If you are in a relationship,

00:44:46.200 be very careful whose advice you take.

00:44:49.060 if you have a really good friend but she is low value and you have a problem in your relationship

00:44:54.660 and you tell her about it and she gives you advice the chance of that advice being low value is like

00:45:00.400 90 percent 95 and if you take that low value advice you might sabotage your own relationship

00:45:07.200 even more i've seen it happen so many times and actually relationships or like the the people

00:45:13.760 breaking up because of advice that was taken from a low value friend if you take advice because you

00:45:21.200 have a relationship problem make sure it's high value advice so for example if you and him have

00:45:25.600 a fight and it's really not your fault and you talk to your friend about it and she says why

00:45:30.640 don't you just apologize to him why don't you just reach out to him that is low value advice

00:45:35.600 that you should not be taken and that's just a simple example that's kind of funny how she's

00:45:43.520 saying don't take advice from the friends and you would think it would be like advice that

00:45:53.520 is like dump him but the advice she's saying not to take is apologize

00:46:02.240 women am i right it's like we just

00:46:07.200 okay before i go to the next video i have a couple more i want to say thank you to the people

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00:48:43.720 trying to go from when did the show end yesterday uh okay gary last one thank you guys so much this

00:48:51.240 is great you guys are doing awesome okay so next we got a reddit story that i'm gonna play

00:49:02.040 and then we're gonna do a call-in so we're gonna put the zoom link in the chat now and um you got

00:49:09.240 the this is tick tock is kind of long so make sure when you guys go on onto the call that you have

00:49:17.800 your camera on um today i'm gonna do cameras on so you can be off camera i'm gonna ask you guys

00:49:29.400 first but i need to see you so and then the question is gonna be did you ever have a situation

00:49:35.560 where your girlfriend's friend or female family members tried to sabotage the relationship

00:49:41.320 ladies if you're calling in the question is did you ever have a female friend tried to sabotage

00:49:46.280 your relationship or marriage so i'm going to play this last video and then go

00:49:52.200 okay wait hold on go now it starts off okay i met fiona on the very first day of college

00:50:01.640 imagine a dorm room that looked like the before picture in a home renovation show

00:50:05.240 unimpressed and overwhelmed i was trying to stuff my art supplies into a drawer when she walked in

00:50:09.960 she had the air of someone who would name her plants and then forget to water them which was

00:50:13.560 oddly endearing roomies she'd asked holding out a bottle of cheap wine like a peace offering

00:50:18.680 i don't drink but the gesture was appreciated a no thank you and a few shared gripes about dorm

00:50:23.480 life later and just like that we were friends we navigated the chaotic lanes of college together

00:50:28.520 acquiring degrees killing houseplants and forming a bond stronger than the wi-fi in the library

00:50:33.480 through every high and low fiona was my constant as for her drinking i noticed it pretty early on

00:50:39.000 first it was just for fun a way to unwind or celebrate as she called it but as the years went

00:50:43.800 by her drinking escalated from casual to concerning there were nights i'd find her slumped over in the

00:50:48.600 bathroom mascara smeared muttering something about how sambuca is the devil but for every intervention

00:50:54.200 every heart to heart fiona would strive to get better and she did only to relapse when life

00:50:58.680 pulled the rug out from under her but enough about fiona let's talk about frank i met him

00:51:03.080 two years ago during a rather unconventional double date frank was the polar opposite of

00:51:07.320 of Fiona, where she was fire, he was ice, calm, collected, and with a smile that could put a

00:51:12.380 hallmark card to shame, he won me over, we moved in together, merging our lives while still

00:51:17.080 maintaining a room for Fiona in our home, and in our hearts, life was as stable as it could be for

00:51:21.900 a trio with one leg perpetually wobbly, Fiona had landed a job she loved, Frank and I were deeply

00:51:26.960 in love, and things were generally looking up, until earlier this summer, when Fiona's job decided

00:51:31.960 to go in a different direction, which was corporate speak for we're letting you go, but we'll make it

00:51:35.960 sound like it's mutual. The impact was instantaneous. Despite years of teetering on the edge, this was

00:51:41.080 the nudge that sent Fiona spiraling down the abyss of her alcoholism. Frank and I were in uncharted

00:51:45.600 territory. It's one thing to be roommates and friends, but to be caregivers for a friend who's

00:51:49.860 succumbing to her worst impulses? Needless to say, things got a little chaotic. Last Saturday started

00:51:54.920 as a usual weekend day, a haze of Netflix binges and failed attempts at adulting. But then, my phone

00:52:00.280 rang, and Fiona's name flashed on the screen. Her voice on the other end was slurred, and the

00:52:04.780 background was filled with the chaotic sounds of laughter and thumping music. I need a ride,

00:52:09.020 she said, skipping any formalities. The problem was, I was in the throes of a flu so nasty,

00:52:14.280 it deserved its own theme music. High on cold medicine, with a brain as foggy as San Francisco

00:52:18.880 in the mornings, driving was out of the question. But Fiona was my friend, and she needed help.

00:52:23.680 So, I did what any responsible adult would do. I delegated. Frank, can you go pick up Fiona?

00:52:29.260 She's drunk and needs a ride, I told him, handing over the duty like a baton in a relay race.

00:52:34.140 Frank, ever the reliable one, nodded and left.

00:52:36.980 Frank returned with Fiona in tow, her face flushed and her steps uncertain.

00:52:40.780 He helped her into the guest room, gave her a glass of water, and wished her a good night.

00:52:44.920 Then we returned to our Netflix cocoon, as if it was just another ordinary Saturday.

00:52:49.040 But things shifted after that night, like pieces on a chessboard you didn't even realize were in play.

00:52:53.520 Frank, who's usually as transparent as a freshly windexed window, started acting strangely.

00:52:58.500 His phone, which used to be as public as a park bench, suddenly became Fort Knox.

00:53:02.520 face down on the coffee table, tucked away in his pocket, taken to the bathroom, seriously,

00:53:07.600 who needs a phone in the bathroom, unless you're the President of the United States,

00:53:11.120 no email is that urgent, my mind did what minds do best, jumped to conclusions, was he planning a

00:53:16.340 surprise for me, or worse, was he keeping secrets, and was Fiona involved in this mystery, she had,

00:53:22.160 after all, been the catalyst for this strange behavior, and let's not forget, the timing was

00:53:26.620 too coincidental, it all started after Frank had gone to pick her up, so, there I was, sitting on

00:53:31.940 the couch, staring at Frank's strategically positioned phone as if it was a ticking time

00:53:35.660 bomb. Questions buzzed in my head like a swarm of anxious bees. What was going on? And more

00:53:40.560 importantly, how would it impact the delicate balance of our friendship and our lives? I

00:53:44.460 decided I needed more answers so I went straight to the source. Fiona and I were sitting at

00:53:48.580 Brute Awakening, a cafe notorious for its existentialist quotes on the walls and coffee

00:53:52.660 that was complicated enough to have its own Myers-Briggs type. Fiona, Frank's being really

00:53:57.000 odd lately, I initiated, my eyes locked onto hers. He's being secretive with his phone,

00:54:01.800 even putting it face down. You're one of his closest friends, do you know if he's planning

00:54:05.500 something? A proposal, perhaps? Fiona paused, her hand trembling slightly as she put down her cup.

00:54:11.360 She looked like she was calculating the trajectory of a spacecraft destined for the outer reaches of

00:54:15.300 the galaxy, only, it wasn't the fate of a spacecraft she was pondering, but the destiny

00:54:19.520 of our lives. Did you check his phone? She fumbled with her words, avoiding eye contact.

00:54:24.280 No, I responded, a tad too quickly, realizing this was no ordinary conversation.

00:54:29.260 That's when it happened.

00:54:30.400 Fiona's emotional dam broke.

00:54:32.020 Her eyes flooded with tears faster than an open faucet.

00:54:34.640 I've got to tell you something, she stammered, and you're not going to like it.

00:54:37.940 The atmosphere grew tense, as though someone had just brought a durian into a perfume shop.

00:54:42.140 With a deep inhale, she let the cat out of the bag.

00:54:44.500 We hooked up, Frank and I, in his car, when he picked me up last Saturday.

00:54:49.100 Silence.

00:54:49.860 It was as though the entire cafe went mute.

00:54:51.720 I could hear my heartbeat in my ears, each pulse like a drumroll leading up to an ill-fated

00:54:55.960 climax, and there's more, Fiona continued, her voice quivering, I've been telling him

00:55:00.400 he has to confess, and we've been messaging about it, only, it's on Snapchat, so there's

00:55:04.940 no evidence left, I sat there, paralyzed, as though Medusa herself had looked me in

00:55:09.360 the eyes, you have to show me, I finally mustered, text him now, Fiona picked up her phone and

00:55:14.420 tapped away, her fingers shaking like a leaf in the wind, we waited, one minute, two minutes,

00:55:19.300 The dreaded silence from Franksand was like a void, sucking away any shred of certainty.

00:55:24.020 No read receipt.

00:55:25.100 No response.

00:55:26.160 Nothing.

00:55:26.780 Do you think I'm making this up?

00:55:28.180 Fiona broke the silence, visibly distraught.

00:55:30.620 Do you think I was so drunk that I imagined it?

00:55:32.600 Her words were laced with a bitterness, a cocktail of regret and indignation.

00:55:36.260 I know I mess up when I'm drunk, but I'm not delusional, and I certainly don't fabricate

00:55:40.240 entire incidents.

00:55:41.360 With that, she slammed her cup on the table.

00:55:43.600 Believe me or don't, that's up to you, but I needed you to know the truth.

00:55:46.720 I felt like I was stuck in quicksand, the more I struggled with the revelations, the deeper I sank

00:55:51.640 into a pit of despair and disbelief. I wanted to scream, to cry, to run away from the reality that

00:55:56.660 was crashing down on me like a ton of bricks. I need to go, I said finally, my voice barely above

00:56:01.640 a whisper. I need to go home and talk to Frank. As I left the cafe, I knew I was walking away from

00:56:06.720 more than just Fiona. I was walking away from the safety net of a friendship and a relationship that

00:56:11.060 had, up until now, defined a significant part of my life. And I was walking towards a confrontation,

00:56:16.000 A reckoning that would either shatter or reshape the world as I knew it.

00:56:19.600 I arrived home, my feet marching in step with the rhythm of my conflicted heart.

00:56:25.540 What should he do?

00:56:26.960 Let me know in the chat.

00:56:28.940 Okay, so now we're going to take callers.

00:56:32.300 Could you let in Doug MPA first?

00:56:35.920 You can let him up.

00:56:38.220 And then...

00:56:39.000 the question is did you ever have a situation where uh make sure the thing is um make sure

00:56:52.820 we're not showing the screen yeah oh it's not okay okay good um so the question is did you ever

00:56:58.460 have a situation where your girlfriend's friends or female family members tried to sabotage your

00:57:03.720 relationships. Women that call in, has it ever happened to you? Doug MPA, welcome back. A pleasure

00:57:16.000 as always. How are you? How are you doing, Pearl? Can you hear me okay? Yeah, I can hear you. I'm

00:57:21.100 good. How are you? I'm doing good. So I actually have a story to start it off. One of my best

00:57:26.600 friends he um he got with this girl in our 20s and uh she they were gonna okay hold on wait so

00:57:37.400 they moved away so she can go to college and then she they were up in this college down

00:57:44.280 so she can go to college for two years and then she dropped out and they came back to our hometown

00:57:49.060 and he was gonna break up with her but then she got pregnant right so classic ended up

00:57:55.180 classic you want to you want to get rid of them and they're like nope not today baby

00:57:59.660 so um so they have a kid then they get married like five years later okay right and then they

00:58:08.100 have another kid and it was just all bad for years and my friend's one of those old he he was a

00:58:15.520 kickboxer he's he's one of those guys where if this were 500 years ago he'd be a samurai you

00:58:19.880 know what i'm saying he's one of those really honorable kind of guys the kind of guys where

00:58:23.380 is he a chad huh is he a chad i mean he's he's asian and he's five foot nine five foot eight

00:58:32.260 okay yes can they be chads oh that sounds racist i'm sorry sorry i'm interrupting you keep going

00:58:39.520 anyway so um so fast forward like 10 years later and she starts hanging out with her friends like

00:58:49.820 after work and uh and then they start going out friday and saturday nights right and she started

00:58:56.700 making more money than him right so so she felt emboldened to do what she wanted so she had this

00:59:03.260 friend who was a single mom who somehow always found people to take care of her kids when she

00:59:09.180 went out to the club and she went out a couple of times and um my friend told his wife why do

00:59:16.140 do you keep going out on friday saturday nights and you keep going to these bars and clubs it's

00:59:21.720 like you're single and she's like well i'm just going there to have fun and dance with my friends

00:59:26.060 whatever she's banging tyrone in the bathroom yeah so her friend came over when they were

00:59:33.260 arguing knocked on the door and decided to just open the door to their house and have the nerve

00:59:39.240 to say well i've said his name and said we're gonna go out and we and he said wait a minute

00:59:48.540 there's only one we it's me and my wife not you and her and so after that her friend was literally

00:59:55.600 saying like well you you can't tell us what to do and we we we he's like there is no the only we

01:00:01.140 here is me and my wife you need to get the hell up out of here yeah and did they get divorced or

01:00:08.160 they stayed together oh they did they got divorced like a year after that that conversation yeah

01:00:16.160 yeah i could have seen that coming um what else is i gonna ask has that ever happened to you

01:00:24.160 doug mpa i've never i've never dated a woman whose friends and family females were were

01:00:33.680 were hostile no no never had it happen well let's see if any of you guys in the chat have dealt with

01:00:40.240 it um maybe you can let in the first person oh is anyone there really nobody called it

01:00:48.560 not one of you guys all right well i'm trying to think i had um do you know what

01:00:57.040 i had one friend that did try to sabotage a relationship a while ago

01:01:01.840 but we're not friends anymore she made up well yeah i always say that women really can't stand

01:01:08.080 each other the only time that women band together is against the patriarchy and men but other than

01:01:14.320 that they can't stand each other and you said it on previous shows pearl if you ask your female

01:01:21.120 friends if you if you dare to have any or your mom or your sister should tell you the people that

01:01:27.040 have done the worst to them or other women and these are friends family members acquaintances

01:01:33.200 yeah no that's totally true and you know i've had guys um say that like hearing women's stories of

01:01:41.760 like what their friends has done have done to them has like traumatized them because like men tend to

01:01:49.040 i guess the worst thing men do to each other is sleep with each other's girl

01:01:52.800 it's usually women will destroy your entire reputation across the whole town though yep

01:01:58.480 they'll tell everybody make it a big thing it'll be a slow burn over years too

01:02:03.680 yeah they never they never move on yep yeah a man will cheat and do that at one event but a woman

01:02:10.400 will will say horrible things behind your back to everybody all the time and smile on your face

01:02:16.560 yeah they do that to their husbands all the time yeah i agree let me read the chat on the website

01:02:25.340 women are group thinkers hive minds hi pearl happy to be a new member welcome jason um we oh yeah we

01:02:34.020 also had someone else sign up welcome oh it was you welcome jason let me see if anyone in the

01:02:41.360 youtube chat guys call in have any of you had your woman's friends sabotage your relationships

01:02:51.340 it's on zoom zoom i knew someone would call in i was like you guys you guys have like some of you

01:02:58.160 had to have had this happen okay nick

01:03:00.840 he's joining give it a second

01:03:10.460 yeah doug can stay doug mpa

01:03:14.540 nick unmute

01:03:21.460 okay good to see you again buddy how you doing good how are you good are you okay to be on camera

01:03:32.740 yeah i can be on camera i'm just in my car right now so it's not very good

01:03:37.420 nice how are you nick thanks for calling in thanks how are you i'm good so what do you have

01:03:47.000 on the topic has a woman's friends ever sabotaged your relationship my when in my early 20s i was

01:03:54.200 dating a girl for a while and yeah her cousin was just a nightmare it's funny because like

01:04:01.660 the girl i was dating was like super against cheating quote unquote and like you know hated

01:04:06.240 that has been with guys who cheated whatever and then uh her cousin was like had also cheated

01:04:13.680 and then she was like yeah i don't trust cheaters so then i'm like oh what about your cousin she's

01:04:18.580 like yeah i know it's not great but blah blah blah and then later on her cousin's saying all

01:04:25.960 this shit about our relationship and i'm like dude and you trust it like what like how how how

01:04:33.920 has this happened you know and then uh but yeah that happened for a while and eventually we broke

01:04:39.400 up and i think it's largely i mean it's good we broke up we shouldn't have been together but like

01:04:42.960 it you know what was the what was the cousin saying like why'd she hate you did she just

01:04:49.340 want to be outside and the girlfriend was inside it was probably part of it but like i mean we

01:04:55.120 would fight a lot like we did not have like a great relationship necessarily but like you know

01:05:00.300 I mean, it really was, I think that she just, the, the girlfriend was kind of happier than usual.

01:05:11.220 And the cousin was like, absolutely not.

01:05:13.860 Cannot happen.

01:05:15.200 Happier than me.

01:05:17.960 Do you think, cause, do you think that, cause sometimes it's cause the girlfriend vents to the friend.

01:05:26.960 so do you think do you think it was because sometimes what happens is the girlfriends will

01:05:32.800 vent to the friend and they'll give a very one-sided side of the story because that's all

01:05:37.080 we see is our side so obviously women are heroes and victims at the same time in their own stories

01:05:45.160 yeah so did you that's why you you got to learn how to pick up the female friendly version of the

01:05:50.640 story this is the female you got to tell me what really happened man because that doesn't sound

01:05:56.000 right and then sad part about it is women will tell the female friendly version of the story

01:06:01.760 so many times that it turns to them it becomes the real version and we start questioning it

01:06:08.160 they get offended like why don't you believe me it's because you're telling the female friendly

01:06:12.160 version of the story that's why so i know and like and they'll say things too or you're like

01:06:17.920 like they'll say things that are like borderline physically impossible and you'll be like i don't

01:06:22.320 know if i believe that and they're like why don't you believe me how could that like you know what

01:06:28.640 i mean they're like i was dating this guy and i was perfect and this guy all he would do is come

01:06:33.040 home and scream every single day and it's like yeah all right i'm sure well yeah what did you

01:06:40.800 do to make him scream that's my question well yeah they don't they don't usually scream over nothing

01:06:47.040 i mean or who are you dating how could you say that that is so misogynistic of you do you know

01:06:52.880 what i had someone recently tell me a story that i know about her getting like beaten and i'm like

01:07:01.120 thinking i just don't believe her at all and she could just tell by my face and i'm like uh-huh

01:07:10.400 okay that's great because she was like moving back and i'm like well

01:07:13.680 okay good luck with that you know i guess i'll see you soon

01:07:18.080 there's never i'm like well sorry to hear that anyway so let me just i know it's weird too

01:07:26.280 because like if you follow their story for real then they end up like sounding like the biggest

01:07:30.420 idiot in the whole world like why would you be with somebody that is consistently doing these

01:07:37.300 terrific things and you're a perfect angel you know so you knew how how soon did you know that

01:07:45.660 you shouldn't be with this woman and how how much longer did you stay after you knew you shouldn't

01:07:49.860 have stayed with her and then what made you stay was she like a beast in the sack or something

01:07:54.540 i mean that's usually what it is man that's usually what it is

01:07:59.220 i plead the fifth but uh you know um i mean honestly i was at a time in my life like i had

01:08:10.000 i i lost my virginity late and i had just lost my then like i racked up a couple bodies pretty

01:08:15.600 quickly and then and then i found a girlfriend you know so i was like i don't know maybe i can

01:08:21.340 make it work blah blah blah you know but was it just was it just the sex was consistent so you're

01:08:27.080 like i mean it's like more like i was like i did you know i liked being around her you can be you

01:08:38.260 can be honest you can you can you can be honest you can it's okay i swear to god dude like i

01:08:51.720 really think that sex is the least important part of a relationship in my opinion like a healthy

01:08:56.260 relationship then what are we friends like that's what i'm saying like what you guys you guys you

01:09:05.060 guys want you guys want to you guys want to you guys want to be pals like otherwise this is a

01:09:10.500 friendship do you know what i mean like that's the only that's the only thing different for the guys

01:09:19.780 girls can't be in a relationship well they can i think they can but like it seems like

01:09:23.940 like you guys do you want a girl in a relationship that doesn't enjoy the sex with you and just

01:09:28.980 sticks it out that's a great question and i think that's not even that's a that's not a relationship

01:09:34.100 like when you talked about the betas you just you just said the sex doesn't matter that's what i'm

01:09:39.300 saying you just said it doesn't matter and women you have to understand it's like you're either

01:09:44.660 good or you're not like it's like if we don't we've then that's when she's thinking about her

01:09:48.580 rex you know so that's your choice if the sex doesn't matter then you're marrying your girl

01:09:54.000 thinking about her ex no no no or or or or if a woman is there are plenty of sexless men in

01:10:02.380 marriages and relationships and their girl is they're taking care of their responsibilities

01:10:07.400 and their girl is getting dug out by nug nug and freaking and it's gabbing the starving musician on

01:10:14.180 side so yes women can be in relationships without getting sex from the guy that she's in a

01:10:20.020 relationship with yeah definitely but like what i'm saying is that like oh wait wait wait two

01:10:25.460 choices and i need you guys to pick this you get two choices of women oh god one all right one woman

01:10:31.540 one woman she's gonna cheat on you but she's a great mother she's a great great mom the other one

01:10:38.820 does not cheat but terrible mother you gotta pick one define good mother you know she she's

01:10:48.440 responsible she want like the kids love her you don't have to worry about another guy on the side

01:10:54.240 yeah she does yeah but you know you weren't really her cup of tea you know she just married you

01:10:58.780 because she thought you'd be a good dad and so now she's home when they're fucking no no no she

01:11:03.820 does it secretly what kind of question is that she does it secretly you only you only found out

01:11:08.880 because of the icloud linked up to your phone you know you know how that happens and you found out

01:11:14.140 you're like otherwise you would have had no idea that option two is a woman who's obsessed with you

01:11:20.620 but a terrible mother she wants to you know i mean she like is she is she she's not a mother where

01:11:29.940 if if she were to be a single mom with your kids if she if she'd lose custody no let's not go that

01:11:37.380 far let's just say pretty bad let's say like verbally abusive verbally abusive but not

01:11:42.580 physically well no okay here's the thing if a girl if a girl really likes you she'll listen to you

01:11:49.140 pretty much no matter what i think so if she's actually in love with me i can get her to be a

01:11:53.060 good mom pretty easily i think no i think some women don't have it in them no you can crack

01:11:59.800 dude not like literally but like you know what i mean i did a show the other day about women that

01:12:04.260 don't that are literally on social media saying i regret having children bro but that's literally

01:12:10.760 where we're at their husbands they don't love their husband okay no way you got to pick one

01:12:15.220 you're trying to circumvent my question all right i'll let doug mpa go first before nick

01:12:23.180 doug mpa what's your choice so i'm not having children so so how can that mother things be a

01:12:32.120 thing if i'm not having children there you go is this literally a good solution so you take the

01:12:37.340 girl the girl that likes you but then you just say i know kids yeah ask them kids yeah

01:12:44.380 nick what about you i think i'd have to go with the first one do i have to say mary doer

01:12:51.280 you can cheat you can cheat in the relationship she's cheating yeah you can cheat back but it's

01:12:56.580 just like a sham mare you know how they do so like open yeah so like she's watching the kids

01:13:01.620 she's a good mom but she's she's screwing tyrone and you're screwing the hot you said you're in

01:13:06.480 utah the hot girls in salt lake city you know you're banging you're at um you're you're um

01:13:15.780 you're at the mormon school so like pretending to care about it to get you know you're like yeah i

01:13:22.780 care a lot about god the mormons they'll not all of them but there's a lot of girls who will just

01:13:28.800 screw around for no reason so what's your choice what's your choice nick pro oh dude i have to stay

01:13:36.700 in the marriage yeah you gotta stick it out you gotta tell the kids are 18 at least the kids are

01:13:42.920 18 yeah yeah till the kids are 18 you're stuck with both of like you pick one for 18 years who

01:13:48.860 are you picking bad she's a really good she's a really good yeah yeah option two is bad really

01:13:54.580 bad mom but great sex great mother option one really great mom but she i mean she'll sleep

01:14:01.220 with you she'll like do it but it's like man but she's also screwing tyrone do you know what i

01:14:05.940 mean i don't want that no no no she's just she cheats on me i don't want to sleep with her ever

01:14:09.860 again so for 18 years before you kiss okay so you can't before you see when she comes home she

01:14:16.180 she has to wash her mouth out with scope because you don't know if she had a dick in her mouth

01:14:20.340 well fine but you know you guys are roommates now but now you can

01:14:24.820 and you would be great you could be a married man on dating apps and women love that

01:14:32.740 if you put you know i know do you know what when i when i was on the apps before i've

01:14:39.620 in a relationship now but before there was a lot of guys that's in their bio they like

01:14:43.940 crop out their their face and they're like yeah i'm a married guy and i'm like just straight up

01:14:50.020 in the bio yeah i'm like women must be doing it i'm seeing too many i bet the single guys figured

01:14:55.140 this out i bet you i bet you single guys figured that out and started doing it

01:15:02.260 a pro nick you know i'm i'm old enough where i remember you know back when people used to actually

01:15:07.780 um hit on on women in clubs and stuff and i had friends where if they were striking out

01:15:14.340 talking to girls they had a wedding ring in their pocket and they put a wedding ring on

01:15:18.580 yeah yeah maybe you'll find your future wife like that nick give it a try

01:15:25.940 she's like break up with your with your wife for me and i'm like okay

01:15:33.220 yeah you're like you're like easy yeah you're

01:15:39.780 i oh my gosh i totally had a friend that did that when i was younger oh my gosh

01:15:46.100 the married guy but he didn't leave she just took that out i told her i'm like this is an

01:15:51.460 l you got to eat this yeah it's crazy you talked about a while ago uh how like people know like

01:15:59.300 women how women are either from sleeping with a lot of girls or they know they have a friend right

01:16:05.860 yeah and i've hooked up with i really don't i really try to keep my number not too high but

01:16:11.540 But I've got friends that when we go downtown, it's like, it's crazy to see, you know, and like, oh, dude, it's just gross, bro.

01:16:20.400 Like girls with boyfriends will just hook up with guys with zero concern.

01:16:31.360 None.

01:16:32.120 I have a question for you, actually, if it's cool, if I ask.

01:16:36.660 Why are you the only girl that's saying this stuff?

01:16:41.540 i think isabella moody's close but she's still got a little bit i don't know

01:16:46.020 you're like the single woman that i interviewed a thousand women and i just i've seen too much

01:16:54.040 i'm done but like i'm black i'm black bill do you know why is there one woman because

01:17:01.300 i don't know i think they haven't seen what i i don't know i don't know i can't tell you

01:17:08.400 up though like they they have their friends they you know what i mean like i don't you know i don't

01:17:16.200 know yeah i don't have an answer well i guess you're in the black pill i'm blackpilled it's

01:17:29.040 over i'm gonna have a good i'm gonna have a great life but it's over for you guys lucky lucky for

01:17:36.840 me the men the men the men don't really leave you know what i mean we gotta deal with we gotta deal

01:17:42.840 with the wall though you know i'm walling it now the wall i don't know if the wall fully exists

01:17:48.280 though dude because there aren't well there's a wall for when you'll stop being able to sleep

01:17:52.440 with guys who are out of your league basically now you'd be surprised how low they go you'd be

01:18:00.360 surprised you know what you'd be you know you'd be you know it just take i had a friend on my team

01:18:09.720 a couple years ago she was but ugly god she was so ugly and she would show me the guy she'd hook

01:18:14.360 up with and i'm like i'm like yeah they'll go she was she was not aware though sorry what i mean

01:18:25.560 she took owls really well i think she was aware but she was kind of old she was like in her third

01:18:31.480 like she was like mid-30s i think by mid-30s that's when they start getting desperate

01:18:37.240 like like late 20s early 30s is like denial

01:18:43.160 the wall isn't measured by hooking up with somebody it's measured by commitment from a man of value

01:18:50.680 so true and having children without birth defects but women women don't the only thing is that women

01:18:57.720 don't want commitment everyone like this idea that women want commitment it's like not if they wanted

01:19:03.720 commitment they would be in relationships like think about think about like if you guys had

01:19:09.160 the power of women on dating apps like if you had a thousand matches like yeah like if any girl

01:19:15.560 downloads a dating app gets 5 000 matches if you wanted a wife you'd be on a date every single day

01:19:22.360 and you find you you would go until you know you might toss some but eventually you'd find one you

01:19:28.680 liked and you'd get married women we're not doing that so why not though it's like why are guys like

01:19:35.800 someone said that uh guys are the real romance romantics or whatever and it's like why why do

01:19:40.600 you know what i'll tell you why i'll tell you what it's just like other things get in the way

01:19:45.880 it's like women it's the brunch that's what it is no it's like you gotta think about this when

01:19:51.080 women's it's not like women are we're maliciously like saying oh like i plan to like never get

01:19:58.200 married you know whatever but it's like you know they'll say set up a hinge date at 11 a.m on

01:20:03.240 sunday or go to brunch with the girls and the women are picking brunch it's like go on it wasn't until

01:20:10.740 everything i heard that the men did pretty well during covid on the dating apps i've heard it was

01:20:14.960 like a frenzy and it's because everything else was canceled everything else so it's like you

01:20:21.340 can't go to brunch i guess it's time to start banging these guys on tinder you know they're

01:20:28.740 not settling down still like i feel like a lot of guys like given the opportunity would settle

01:20:34.580 down and it's so funny because i have like female friends that will be like oh no like guy all they

01:20:39.080 want is sex blah blah and i'm like i have a slew of friends that would just kill for a single date

01:20:44.860 with a girl and they would marry well there there are multiple studies that show that like um it's

01:20:51.240 like over 50 percent of men still say that that they want a relationship in marriage and only like

01:20:56.460 24 of women do but remember if social media is any indication all these broads

01:21:05.500 when they hit like 40 to 50 they all want a relationship and they can't get it so that's

01:21:10.620 why they're on psych meds pearl did a show about psych meds yesterday if you haven't checked it

01:21:15.180 out go back and watch it so true yeah but and and the other thing too is that it's

01:21:21.500 It's, they'll, they'll get, I'll give you an example.

01:21:25.180 There's a girl I went to school with.

01:21:27.100 I bet sometimes they watch these shows and they're like, damn it, Pearl, why are you

01:21:30.680 telling these stories?

01:21:32.380 But, you know, she, it's like a lot of women, they get a certain level of guy and they just

01:21:38.660 can't, you know, men, it's like, they'll hook up with a really hot girl and they know that

01:21:43.200 she's out of their league and that she's going to leave.

01:21:46.200 Like, it's not if, it's like this, every woman I've hooked up with has been a six.

01:21:51.500 this is an eight i'm gonna enjoy this as long as she stays yeah odds are that might not ever

01:22:01.160 happen again i don't know i may have just been a rebound i was they're like the women it's like

01:22:09.120 we just never get over it and then if we date someone after if we date someone after that's not

01:22:15.340 is good then we're like ah we want and and the things that we rank is really good just don't

01:22:21.420 even make sense like they just don't because so one woman it's like one woman wants a criminal

01:22:27.980 and you're like what and the other woman the other woman wants a musician you know it's always who's

01:22:35.500 popular well they want a musician who's also a criminal ideally a lot of women want a criminal

01:22:41.580 in some way yeah yeah we're gonna let you fall back because we have frankie on the line are you

01:22:48.060 there frankie frankie what's going on hey how you doing pearl hey guys i'm good how are you

01:22:55.580 doing great so what's your experience with women's friends and dating have you

01:23:01.740 what actually it wasn't really the issue with the friends but actually family

01:23:06.460 And my biggest hurdle was actually my ex-mother-in-law.

01:23:12.000 And every time I turned around, she would try to do something in her ear.

01:23:19.640 She even got to the point to where she started making advances on me, tried to make it seem

01:23:26.580 like I was going after my mother-in-law.

01:23:29.220 Wait, wait, wait.

01:23:30.220 Wait, so she tried to...

01:23:32.220 The mother-in-law was coming after the mother-in-law?

01:23:34.220 You do know what?

01:23:35.220 this is not the first time i've heard this story i had like three different guys tell me the same

01:23:40.980 thing on my show some of them did it though did you do it or what no no you're sure you're sure

01:23:48.420 you didn't you're sure you didn't i'm positive i didn't now now now now now now i have a question

01:23:55.940 about that now did you not do it because you felt like it was morally wrong or was it a consequence

01:24:02.660 basic decision where you really thought about it, but the consequences weren't worth you actually

01:24:06.920 doing it? No, it was a moral decision. It wasn't the right thing to do. I mean, I did truly love

01:24:13.040 my wife and I didn't want anything to come between us. But in her defense too, it wasn't

01:24:21.660 the greatest family. I was young, dumb. I was in my early 20s. I didn't know crap. So I didn't

01:24:29.480 no designs. Um, and so once I got in there, it was kind of a whirlwind of what the hell am I in?

01:24:35.920 And, but yeah, it was a moral decision. I just, uh, I knew it was wrong and I just kind of had

01:24:41.140 to step on eggshells. But what really got me is when I approached, uh, my ex-wife now,

01:24:48.220 yeah. Um, we, we were together 20 years and we, we divorced now for almost five years now. Um,

01:24:57.560 and that's a whole nother story but yeah that's where the friends come in later but uh this was

01:25:02.760 initially and um so once i took it to her it was like immediately she took the defense of her mother

01:25:09.920 um so it was kind of like i was a rock in a hard place this is your fault you should have lied

01:25:16.980 sorry i'm just kidding i'm just kidding keep going

01:25:19.840 and i mean i got to a point i went to my father-in-law and i was like hey you know what's

01:25:28.080 up and he goes oh this ain't the first time it's happened i'm like you know about it he's like yeah

01:25:32.540 boyfriend before i started dating her yeah and uh before i started dating her um did the same thing

01:25:39.060 and it was like a nonchalant kind of thing uh i just uh so i was like no i don't think i want to

01:25:44.580 go on this ride wow you'd be surprised how many young men lose their virginities to older women

01:25:53.520 like like mothers and older babysitters and stuff a lot older women yeah i'm not i was in the same

01:26:00.720 boat i heard that story so many times i had i know three different guys that lost their virginities

01:26:07.320 to either a babysitter or their aunt i'm like what are these that is crazy yeah my i lost uh

01:26:15.720 it's probably tmi but uh mom was a 42 year old woman and i was i had just uh i guess the real

01:26:26.200 um losing of it was with her um i was 15 and just said got my permit or license and was out around

01:26:33.400 the town one thing led to another a month later i couldn't believe what was going on so yeah it

01:26:38.280 happens a lot more than i was saying what people realize what was it like your friend's mom or

01:26:42.280 something or how did that yeah it was i've heard that story before too yeah yeah it was like it's

01:26:54.040 either a teacher or the friend's mom maybe i went to college with a guy who um who who was dating

01:27:02.040 this girl and she they both graduated they dated junior year and senior year and then she went off

01:27:07.240 to college but her um her parents got divorced like right before he started dating the daughter

01:27:15.480 right and her mom was this business woman that would go on these business trips or whatever

01:27:20.520 and so when the daughter was off at school he would still go over to the house because you know

01:27:25.000 he was kind of like the man of the house after the dad left so he'd have like you know mow the lawn

01:27:30.360 and like help fix stuff or whatever and he said that one day the mom had to go to a work function

01:27:36.600 and needed a plus one and was like hey will you go with me to this like work function at this

01:27:41.160 nice hotel and stuff he's like yeah sure so he's like 18 in a suit with this woman you know you

01:27:46.520 know at this party whatever and they're drinking and stuff and one thing led to another and he's

01:27:52.760 he smashed his girlfriend's mom after a work party oh no i was like bro come on he's like

01:27:59.800 it was it was one of the first times he had ever drank and yeah and she knew exactly what she was

01:28:05.160 i mean it didn't last much longer after that but yeah he said yep she he was a plus one to

01:28:09.480 her work party and ended up smashing her mom after that and she was in her 40s and he was 18.

01:28:17.240 uh steve m says my ex-girlfriend's aunt hit on me i was fixing my girlfriend's car and she told

01:28:23.480 my girlfriend i hit on her she was a large she was a large breasted woman and i was like i've

01:28:29.320 got standards we broke up the next week sorry to hear that steve m in the chat on the website

01:28:37.720 uh fazelle says he's criticizing your decision i won't lie frankie um he says opportunity he says

01:28:44.600 opportunities are rare when one arises you got to seize it without hesitation

01:28:51.160 now you know now that i look back in in retrospect where i'm at now probably and

01:28:56.840 and after the divorce you're like dang it yeah it's like damn it but uh and not only

01:29:03.400 on top of that is she hot my sister was she hot huh for her age she was pretty good yeah

01:29:11.160 i'm not gonna lie uh you do it huh doable yeah yeah and and my sister-in-law at the time she

01:29:19.320 was actually a um stripper on top of it okay so it's like i'm surrounded by whoredom yeah

01:29:32.760 but yeah you go back now and look at and look at over like man maybe i should have done that

01:29:37.240 but no i still probably so it's one of those where if if she's if she's gonna make you do

01:29:43.800 the time of a of a divorce you might as well do the crime worth it you know what i'm saying

01:29:47.640 Yeah. And then that's one of the reasons we did get divorced. She kept accusing me of cheating

01:29:54.000 and I never did. And now I look at it, I said, well, maybe I should have done it and gave her

01:29:57.760 a reason. You know, I mean, it's just, yep, yep, and that's all of hers. It's like the more you

01:30:03.080 try to do the right thing, it's like the more flacky you got of it. And after a while, you

01:30:08.480 just kind of get tired of hearing it. So, but, but yeah, that was that. And then, you know,

01:30:14.160 her friends come in later as things started getting rocky. And she only had one married

01:30:19.420 friend out of all of her friends. The rest of them were single. A couple of them were,

01:30:23.880 I'm just going to say three or fours. And I mean, skanky as hell. So every time I would

01:30:29.820 leave for work out of town, they're in her ear. They're going out. She's doing this.

01:30:33.720 And it's like when things were going well, like 99% great, they would find the 1% bad

01:30:41.340 thing and blow it up to a hundred percent just uh to me it seemed like it when they were was trying

01:30:46.620 to cause the issue in order for the breakup if that makes sense where is she now how did um

01:30:52.540 is she by herself did she did she she didn't cheat with your dad or something did she

01:30:59.500 she she actually uh cheated on me with a guy that she grew up with down the street

01:31:05.660 um but he uh matter of fact he just dumped her about four weeks ago so i guess he had enough

01:31:10.780 of it as well and uh she's by herself and um one room apartment and lonely yeah how does it make

01:31:21.100 you happy does it bring you joy no but karma can be a yeah no i don't know if i can say that but

01:31:29.500 yeah you can say that things happen okay uh but yeah um it doesn't make me happy i don't wish

01:31:35.580 anything bad on anyone and um i think there is a huge issue out there right now especially in the

01:31:40.460 dating world, especially marriage for guys. It's a lot of lopsidedness there. And I'm not saying

01:31:49.020 all women, I'm not saying all men, but looking at the statistics, you know, women causing 80% of

01:31:54.700 the, initiating 80% of divorces, and they're getting 90% or better of the custody of the

01:32:00.180 children, separating the families. I'm not defending men in any way, but it's like you get

01:32:08.660 to a point to um it's like they want to do it and it's like why i mean what's if things are going

01:32:15.860 great they want to make it bad wow yeah i don't maybe that was just my my um scenario my issue

01:32:22.980 that i went through i mean we love the ups and downs so it's like that's fun for us we're like

01:32:28.580 we're like if it's if it's just up it's just it's not it's kind of your fault you should

01:32:33.300 have picked more arguments and like told her she wasn't good enough to like yeah so yeah it's on

01:32:39.780 you so just keep her mad keep her yeah yeah you just get her get her mad for like two days but

01:32:45.140 then she'll feel more bonded after and then you get to make a you know uh-huh yeah yeah you should

01:32:51.620 have been less reasonable someone's asking uh if you had kids with your ex-wife frankie i did i

01:32:59.060 that had two boys okay yeah they're grown now one's 21 the other's 19 so um and i the worst

01:33:08.440 part of it is they they saw it um and i did try to defend her in a certain way because i don't

01:33:15.180 want them to have a bad view of their mother um and but then again they're also out there in the

01:33:21.480 dating world now you know they're having to deal with it and and everything so it it was how do i

01:33:27.860 say a double-edged sword they got to see the negative part but also told them something

01:33:31.740 if that makes sense yeah makes sense yeah so and they come they come to me um later and just said

01:33:38.680 dad we're sorry you know we couldn't say a whole lot started living with mom mom had custody at

01:33:44.100 time and i only got them you know about very little but uh they got to really see it because

01:33:49.880 once she started dating the other gentleman or seeing him she was treating him exactly the same

01:33:56.700 way she treated me and they were like hey wait a minute there's a pattern here and as they got

01:34:00.660 older she turned around and started treating them the same way and eventually they're like it's not

01:34:07.560 us it's not dad it wasn't him it's there's an issue with you but you don't want to take

01:34:12.280 accountability to go and fix it and she never would i mean we even talked about therapy counseling

01:34:17.800 everything it was like no no i'm not the problem i'm not the problem you know that's the thing and

01:34:22.400 i'm not saying and i'm sorry i'm not saying i did everything right either by far i mean

01:34:26.580 You know, nobody does everything right in a relationship on one side or the other.

01:34:31.100 We all got to step up and say, hey, I did wrong.

01:34:33.900 I need to fix it.

01:34:34.720 And, you know, and I think, I don't know if this is my perspective, I think men do that a little bit easier because they've got to build their value, you know, as they go through life.

01:34:45.360 So if they screw up, they got to say, hey, wait a minute, I screwed up.

01:34:49.300 How do I make it better?

01:34:50.380 How do I become better?

01:34:51.420 where i think not all women but a lot of women just in a sense have a victim mentality and say

01:34:57.300 it wasn't my fault um help me kind of deal and just try to get away from it yeah okay um go ahead

01:35:06.960 no go ahead oh no um society just downplays how much men endure in a marriage relationship you

01:35:14.780 cannot or you can't tell me any different that men give more than women do men give

01:35:20.580 women just take so you know even if you weren't the best i guarantee you that you endured more

01:35:26.460 from her than she ever endured from you because men it's kind of what we do in marriage especially

01:35:32.220 when you have kids man i have friends who freaking endured hell just to have their kids

01:35:37.740 in their lives so you make sure to give yourself that credit man you i guarantee you you endured

01:35:42.820 oh i appreciate it she did yep yeah i appreciate it and and my father i gotta say i had a great

01:35:49.260 family um and a great upbringing i had two parent household that loved each other um and my father

01:35:55.340 was a huge influence on me and the way um to to run a family and and how to how to treat your wife

01:36:02.440 and all that um but it seems like it got to a point you just had to throw your hands up and

01:36:08.000 uh you know for five years i slept on the couch and uh no sex no nothing um and i just i only

01:36:15.500 endured it for the boys because i wanted them to at least have their father in the household

01:36:20.940 we were basically roommates and i explained it to the kids i explained to the boys hey here's

01:36:25.420 what's going on and the reason is going um just because you're young adults don't mean you can't

01:36:30.700 understand and uh this happens to adults it happens in marriages and you know it is what it is but uh

01:36:37.420 once now now once they hit close to 18 i i just went ahead and booked i was the one who ended up

01:36:43.740 leave i just couldn't endure it anymore and so but if this gives you any kind of you know consensus

01:36:50.280 whatever so one thing i've learned is there's two terms there's giving up and there's letting go

01:36:54.680 right giving up is when is if you left okay giving up is when you left you didn't try everything you

01:37:01.720 possibly could and if you left you'd regret it but letting go is when you tried everything you

01:37:07.780 possibly can that's just true yeah but you have to let it go for the for for the sake of yourself

01:37:14.120 and the people you care about if you did everything you possibly can it's like you you won't is you

01:37:20.920 didn't give up you you let it go and also um i told pearl about this because i was married at

01:37:27.780 one time and i left my ex-wife only 20 of men divorce their ex-wives but you get all sorts of

01:37:33.920 judgment when you leave your ex-wife like i say oh yeah i'm divorced and they say oh oh you got

01:37:40.160 divorced what'd you do i didn't get your fault yeah i left her oh but did you try everything

01:37:47.040 though what there's all this judgment like if you've if if it's if it if the marriage ends

01:37:55.520 and it's your fault it's your fault if the marriage ends and it's her fault it's your fault

01:37:59.040 oh yeah it is

01:38:01.600 when I made that decision

01:38:03.960 I was going to be the bad guy

01:38:05.140 Fazelle says you slept on the couch for five years

01:38:07.880 without sex and didn't fuck the mother-in-law

01:38:10.280 come on buddy

01:38:11.580 no we

01:38:14.680 we pretty much got estranged from the mother-in-law

01:38:17.960 with a situation that happened with my father-in-law

01:38:19.840 when he passed away

01:38:20.720 so there was that last five years

01:38:23.840 of us being together I never even saw

01:38:25.860 my mother

01:38:26.280 Yeah. Okay. I think we got to move to the next caller.

01:38:29.820 I am going to be honest. It wasn't like I was on the prowl. It was hard, but you know,

01:38:37.280 a vow is a vow.

01:38:38.280 In your mind, you slept with the mother-in-law a hundred times.

01:38:43.280 Yeah. Her and plenty others.

01:38:46.280 All right, buddy. We're going to move on.

01:38:49.280 All right, brothers. Y'all have a good one. Thanks Pearl.

01:38:52.280 Thanks for calling. Call back anytime.

01:38:54.280 time uh doug mpa uh just wait a second i want to read the chats on the website before we go to the

01:38:59.720 next person um james says shout out to terrence pot we both under the family court the same year

01:39:05.080 and he i knew him from the beginning jason i want a blonde version of peg from married with children

01:39:12.040 um steve says pearl walked through the valley of 304s and made it out alive on the other side

01:39:19.320 scarred but alive pearl young men shouldn't get married much easier to just find someone you hate

01:39:24.840 and give them a house that's a good one jason women don't know what they want until they don't

01:39:32.200 have it um fazelle pearl it's bad for business i would have satisfied that this is funny okay

01:39:40.760 my ex-girlfriend um aunt hit on me i was fixing my girlfriend's car and then she told my girlfriend

01:39:46.840 i had oh i read that already oh he wanted to he was a beast not large breasted i read it wrong

01:39:52.520 earlier um i would have f'd the mother-in-law and every hole god has given her thank you so much

01:39:59.480 fazel for letting me know um aj women try to make their friends single so they can get with their

01:40:05.720 boyfriends jason so if we don't marry them and just use them for sex it's a win-win she needs

01:40:11.160 to believe you're the best she'll ever get you worthless woman get in the kitchen and get me a

01:40:14.920 beer uh jason trump changed it from international women's day to get your man a cold beer and a

01:40:20.520 burger day um you should make a woman's contribution stream and make it five minutes long we are gonna

01:40:28.040 do a stream tomorrow we are for international woman's day this is very important fazelle oh

01:40:35.400 would i read that already okay so next we got john john john unmute

01:40:45.800 is doug mpa is is divinity the one that called in last time yeah yeah yeah yeah are you resting

01:40:53.000 you can't you can you can now we can remove her she's just hearing a bitch okay

01:40:59.640 Okay. All right, John, go ahead. Yeah, can I come back in and clear? Yeah. Good evening.

01:41:08.780 And the topic of discussion is, remind me again. It's, have you ever been in a relationship where

01:41:16.240 the women's friends sabotaged it? Sabotage, gotcha. I think sabotage is a strong word,

01:41:26.800 Um, but I think that my position has a lot to do with writing the balance between, um,

01:41:36.800 allowing a woman to have like a quote unquote support system from her friends and coming

01:41:42.420 off as someone trying to cut her off from people that are important in our life.

01:41:46.780 So there's a lot of rhetoric, a lot of feminist rhetoric, a lot of, uh, self-victimization.

01:41:52.120 And so a lot of women don't know the difference.

01:41:54.080 Does that make sense?

01:41:55.240 Yeah.

01:41:55.440 so how do you tried like have you had an experience where you weren't able to balance it

01:42:03.600 um yeah i think you i mean that's usually the case i think for for me it's um

01:42:11.760 i ended up uh breaking up with a girl basically because she chose her quote-unquote support

01:42:19.760 system over me it was more important for her to basically they were her family and i wasn't and

01:42:26.400 i couldn't get her to understand that those are two different things and she's she is just choosing

01:42:31.360 them over me she just didn't get it because of like modern rhetoric she just didn't understand

01:42:36.880 if that makes sense was she black uh no she was white okay

01:42:42.400 yeah i've noticed that a lot a lot of women um you know they don't have good relationships with

01:42:51.680 their families they don't have good relationships with um they have a hard time maintaining long

01:42:57.440 term relationships so they end to uh end up like really um sticking really hard on people who are

01:43:05.520 willing to say that they're going to be there for them even if they're not and you can point

01:43:11.120 out that in ways that people aren't there for them but as long as they believe it it doesn't

01:43:14.720 really matter what you say or do you got it uh doug mpa do you have anything you want to ask him

01:43:23.200 um so he said so what was her friendship dynamic like like would she would she go out on trips

01:43:33.360 that's a good question yeah yeah what kind of community would she say like was it one of those

01:43:43.060 things where she had days where you couldn't talk to her or you she'd be unavailable to hang out

01:43:47.380 with her girls and stuff like that or she how would she prioritize her girlfriends over you

01:43:52.500 like what activities and what kind of rhetoric was it right so what she did was is um she's the

01:44:00.320 of woman like the career woman type um so lots of volunteering and making friends through work

01:44:06.480 volunteering and building relationships around being needed so once a woman feels needed outside

01:44:13.840 of you know romantic relationships it fulfills all of her motherly instincts so she has no reason

01:44:19.440 to get into a relationship at that point and so how did that translate into the relationship like

01:44:27.680 Like, I'm just trying to get at what specifically happened, like, what, like, she, like, she

01:44:31.640 would, what specifically happened to, she wasn't, uh, available, so.

01:44:35.760 Oh, she would just do that.

01:44:36.940 She would do that instead.

01:44:37.820 Okay.

01:44:39.260 Yeah.

01:44:39.460 Like what he was saying, like, it felt like she might as well been out partying or she

01:44:43.360 might as well been like either way, she wasn't available or she couldn't be reached.

01:44:46.660 And her excuse was always like, Oh, well, I have all these things I need to do.

01:44:52.400 How would the conversations go between you and her?

01:44:54.740 when you talk with her about the relationship with her friends or did you ever confront her

01:44:58.980 about it yeah that that's my whole thing is confrontation and a lot of women just try to

01:45:04.100 just try to fake it until they make it and then i just end up cutting them loose

01:45:07.520 before they stick around too long when i get sick of it

01:45:11.700 yeah makes sense

01:45:16.060 um doug did you have anything you wanted to add if not i think we'll go to the next caller

01:45:24.000 yeah um yeah i don't have anything else to do okay so so what okay since you have the situation

01:45:33.300 happened to you what signs would you tell a guy to look for you have good questions today

01:45:38.460 that has uh unhealthy relationship with her friends or or who will um or so they can stay

01:45:46.640 out of the situation because i've met girls where they literally have i've had especially church

01:45:51.580 families i've had women in the church and say you know i mean my church family's always been there

01:45:56.460 for me and oh my god for me after you're gone you they have this whole exactly my friends were here

01:46:04.700 before you and they're going to be here after you're gone and it just automatically put you

01:46:08.940 in condition with their friends so so what signs would you tell a guy to look out for so he wouldn't

01:46:13.340 end up in a situation where the woman values her friends more than uh him that's a that's a great

01:46:19.660 question and you should be able to tell right away i might have bias because i deal with this

01:46:23.740 a lot i i for whatever reason i attract a lot of quote-unquote independent women quote-unquote

01:46:27.980 career women so i would say that the first thing you're going to look for absolutely um is like

01:46:34.380 posturing and them trying to make themselves seem as like intellectually or socially as valuable as

01:46:41.260 you are they're going to try to put put themselves up on a on a pedestal or try to say that they're

01:46:45.980 doing better than you or as equal as you they're going to do that and then they're also going to

01:46:51.580 try to make it sound like they're in high demand and that they're very busy and that a lot of

01:46:55.740 people count on them um so you can kind of see how these are traditionally masculine things

01:47:01.740 so let's sort of put all of these things in your face this um this posturing and there's this

01:47:05.580 performance to make it seem like they're in high demand uh they're very busy and it's all to to

01:47:12.060 basically create this value system that they assume you would like even though it's like a

01:47:17.660 male value system so they think that you're going to like that they're busy they think you're going

01:47:21.500 to like that they're dependable they're you're going to think they you like they're consistent

01:47:25.500 and then they're going to try to fit you in to the life that they already have that's the worst yes

01:47:30.700 yeah 100 true because yeah you know uh in the current dating market i'm in i meet these women

01:47:35.580 who are professionals you know their day job they work 70 80 80 hours a week then they have to meet

01:47:41.740 with their sorrows on mondays and wednesdays then they usually have some female mentee that they

01:47:46.860 mentor then they're always traveling and stuff and you go on a date with them and they're describing

01:47:51.820 their whole thing to me and i'm like where are you going to fit a man into all this exactly

01:47:56.700 you're not supposed to ask that you're not supposed to ask that they think it's attractive

01:47:59.740 when they say well i'm busy but i'll make time for the right one exactly yeah so you'll know

01:48:05.820 you're the right one when she just does it unfortunately that's that's when you'll know

01:48:11.580 you won't be having that conversation or she'll be complaining she keeps having to to break her

01:48:16.380 own rules that's all you know and also tell me if you agree with this john a lot of these women who

01:48:21.580 have to feel needed and literally saving the world sticking up with their friends but their

01:48:27.180 personal lives are a mess and they're only willing to give you what's left so if you're dating them

01:48:34.460 and you like them you're planning for you and her and she's planning for herself and everybody else

01:48:40.060 exactly

01:48:43.660 sorry was there a question in there or oh no i'm just saying was that your similar experience

01:48:49.900 um for me i i think it's it's mostly them trying to present value to me um either out of

01:48:58.540 intimidation or they just want to be worth my attention or worth me dating them if that makes

01:49:04.220 sense so they're trying to stack up accomplishments and the more they stack up accomplishments the

01:49:09.180 more i'm going to want to ask that question or try to form our conversation around the question

01:49:14.300 of you know where do i fit in where's the relationship fit in etc etc and then i'll

01:49:19.020 poke in pride and the more they resist the more the easier it is for me to tell like okay she's

01:49:23.820 If she's not going to budge, she's not going to budge.

01:49:26.800 The worst part about it is these women,

01:49:30.160 if they felt like you were trying to fit them in,

01:49:33.840 they'd be pissed.

01:49:35.200 They say, I want a man's full attention.

01:49:38.900 That's the thing about women, though.

01:49:40.160 They're all double standards.

01:49:41.600 Their entire existence is double standards.

01:49:43.280 We can't equate ourselves to that.

01:49:44.900 We have to go by completely different roles.

01:49:47.580 If anything, we have to assume the opposite is true for ourselves.

01:49:51.820 Frankie, you want to ask John a question?

01:49:54.840 Yeah, I was going to ask, what was her profession?

01:49:59.960 Did she make more than you, or did she feel that she was superior to you just because of her status in her career?

01:50:08.240 Oh, no, she didn't feel superior.

01:50:09.720 She felt inferior.

01:50:10.840 She couldn't show up enough for me.

01:50:13.220 Oh, gotcha.

01:50:14.000 Okay.

01:50:15.140 I'm so sorry.

01:50:16.820 No, you're fine.

01:50:17.320 And so actually to further answer your question, in scenarios like this, she'll – I lost my train of thought.

01:50:24.100 Sorry.

01:50:25.300 Well, odds are her alone isn't much, but everything going on in her life makes her seem more important.

01:50:35.940 Exactly.

01:50:36.420 So a lot of women, they wouldn't know what to do themselves.

01:50:41.400 They don't know how to measure up to a man that's worth a damn by themselves.

01:50:45.640 so they have to say it's like women that leave with their education in the degrees yeah men

01:50:51.240 don't care about it but it makes them feel important so and then by the time but and then

01:50:56.440 by the time they come to me they want me to handle all of it they just sort of just hand me like this

01:51:00.920 is my life can you handle this yes or no and then you know i i take a look at it and i go yes or no

01:51:07.240 So, yeah, yep. Similar experience here. But, okay, well, John, thank you for calling in.

01:51:15.300 Wait, actually, I have one more question. What careers do you find that to be the most

01:51:19.740 common in? So, like, what women have you dated? Like, what were their careers?

01:51:25.580 That's a good question. I would say in any field where they're helping people, they're

01:51:35.360 getting a lot of that uh social work yeah any social work clinical counselors all that run away

01:51:41.880 yeah the medical stuff too yeah the medical stuff the creative stuff literally anything where people

01:51:48.840 are going to depend on it like creative directors of any kind those people too um there's a lot of

01:51:54.660 women nowadays they're finding themselves in management position and like human relations

01:51:58.340 positions so it's it's very easy for them to get in positions where they they're like hurting

01:52:04.080 people together and it immediately makes them so important oh is there jobs that you think are

01:52:09.200 better to date where you avoid this a little bit because you know it's funny i had a guy i had a

01:52:16.400 guy call in and said he didn't wanted a woman without a job so he went to the unemployment

01:52:24.640 but um this is he's this was like 20 years ago he said but i don't know about now but um have you

01:52:31.280 found any that like they don't get that as much from that career or that job um i this is gonna

01:52:40.720 sound silly i usually try to um i usually think it has a lot more to do with the woman like for

01:52:46.640 example like a women are inconsistent right so the reason why i say it has to do with the woman is if

01:52:51.840 at her core she is this type of person if she doesn't have that job she'll find it you know

01:52:57.440 what i mean doesn't matter she's married doesn't matter where she lives doesn't matter what you

01:53:01.760 tell her to do with her time um she'll she'll find that thing and fill the gap you could leave

01:53:06.560 her at home and then you could come home and the whole neighborhood's at your house you know what

01:53:10.400 i mean oh i see like they'll find a way to fill in and that's why i said earlier that it's it's

01:53:16.400 like the mother part of her brain so it's usually childless women or career women and that that's

01:53:22.960 the part of your brain that is activating these people depend on you as if they were your children

01:53:27.280 so there's no reason for you to stop and also also good observation that that used to produce

01:53:34.560 the type of women that would have the nurturing mindset that you would want teachers nurses you

01:53:40.960 know 20 years ago dating a nurse wasn't a problem or like a teacher you know who wouldn't want to

01:53:46.560 a teacher but now teachers are awful nurses are awful you know career women have you have you

01:53:53.360 guys dated a nanny because i grew up with nannies and some of them actually i think ended up making

01:53:59.440 pretty decent wives but this was a while ago so i'm curious if any of you have dated one i never

01:54:05.600 have no i've never gotten that far i've just talked to them i cut a lot of women off really

01:54:12.720 smart man i've started doing that myself

01:54:20.000 yeah um i think that's all the questions i got you got anything else doug mpa

01:54:26.400 nope i'm good to go well thank you guys for calling in i appreciate it you guys are both

01:54:30.880 great callers so call in any time thanks um i think that's all the callers we got today

01:54:38.800 right there's no one else in the room yeah okay um final thoughts on women sabotaging when other

01:54:45.920 women i mean our own mothers are sabotaging us in this it's like well from frankie we learned uh

01:54:54.960 smash the mom because it'll make divorce feel better when it comes yeah you'll feel like it

01:54:59.520 was kind of deserved you're like wow yeah you know i i may have to pay her fifteen hundred dollars a

01:55:05.360 month and child support but you know i smashed her mom so she's all you know she may be getting

01:55:10.400 the house but i'll let her have it because i smashed her mom but yeah my final thoughts are

01:55:18.960 guys um i read an article i might send it to pearl but the average woman when she gets in

01:55:24.720 a relationship loses two to three friends at least and don't be afraid to have a conversation

01:55:31.520 with a woman about her friends because women can't stand each other and women can't stand to

01:55:36.720 see another woman happy because when a woman is in a good relationship or or she's married to a man

01:55:43.440 of substance she walks through the world completely different than

01:55:47.040 than her friend group and it just pisses them off right so you you gotta be well it's her

01:55:53.040 responsibility to make sure that you have a good relationship with her friends and family and if

01:55:57.920 If you're not getting that, you have to have the conversation with her and literally ask her.

01:56:05.080 There could be a scenario where you say it's either me or your friends.

01:56:08.020 And if she chooses her friends, you got to leave.

01:56:11.480 Give them that ultimatum.

01:56:15.120 No.

01:56:15.520 Yep.

01:56:15.980 And it doesn't even have to be a big thing.

01:56:18.140 It's just next time she goes out with her friends.

01:56:21.120 What does Myron always say?

01:56:22.880 If you go to the club and I don't want you to, would you come back and you're single?

01:56:27.120 There you go.

01:56:27.920 Thanks for contributing, as always, Doug MPA.

01:56:34.280 Also we got another sign up on the website.

01:56:37.140 I want to say thank you to Jason.

01:56:40.580 We appreciate you.

01:56:42.360 And by the way, guys, if you want to listen to smart, intelligent men tell you how to

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01:57:29.660 ask these people questions and yeah that's all i got for you guys today thank you so much for

01:57:34.940 watching the show you guys are a pleasure as always please like the video and subscribe to

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Pearl - March 08, 2025

Modern Women's Friend's Ruin Their Relationships (Call-in Show) ｜ Pearl Daily

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