Pearl - Modern Women Try Giving Dating Advice - Its Just Cringe

00:00:00.000 What do you guys think? Would you accept an approach from this woman? Would that work on 1.00

00:00:05.100 you? What up guys? Welcome to the Just Pearly Things YouTube channel and welcome to my reaction

00:00:10.780 series. Today we are going to be reacting to women giving advice on how to approach men.

00:00:17.020 So I know you guys are dying to hear about what the women know about how to approach you. So

00:00:23.220 feminists have told men for over 50 years to leave them alone. They said, don't approach them. 1.00

00:00:28.840 Don't be creeps. Don't even look at them. Men have listened and now most men are just not

00:00:34.960 approaching. That means that women are having to approach men and risk rejection. 0.95

00:00:40.740 We have women on social media that are trying to give other women advice on how to approach men. 0.80

00:00:46.520 Let's take a look and let me know in the comments if you have had a woman approach you and if you 1.00

00:00:52.080 think that your that their strategies would work. Okay. Approach a guy you like when you don't know

00:01:00.060 him. The girlies asked for it so naturally I will deliver. Let's dive right in. Okay so first things

00:01:05.720 first you have to lay the groundwork before the actual approach. So let's say you see him across

00:01:11.200 the room. Make eye contact and make sure to linger on that eye contact. Then you look away and then you

00:01:17.000 do the same thing two more times. This is called the repetition method where basically you do

00:01:21.640 something once it's random. It's the wait would it work on you? Wait let me make me big let me make

00:01:32.580 be big. It's the... You guys know it. You guys know it ladies. 1.00

00:01:43.040 You do something a second time still random. You do something a third time that's on purpose.

00:01:48.460 That's not random. So now he knows you're kind of interested in him. There's a chance he might even

00:01:52.740 come over to talk to you but let's just say he's a shy boy. Let's say he doesn't do that. Let's stage

00:01:58.200 your approach. What I don't recommend you do is just walking over there just like straight up. That

00:02:03.540 can be scary for both parties. What I suggest you do is you get closer and closer by accident. Let's

00:02:09.600 say you're in a bar. This does work in like every situation but just so we have the same thing in

00:02:13.760 mind. Let's say you're in a bar. Before going over to him talk to your friends. Mingle a little bit.

00:02:18.800 Maybe have a little dance. Oops suddenly you're next to him. Now to start your contact you actually

00:02:23.500 don't have to do a lot. All you have to do is say hi. Men don't get approached as much as women do so 0.70

00:02:28.880 they're not used to it. So you don't have to come up with a cheesy pickup line or anything. Just

00:02:32.600 just say hi and then you can follow that up with a simple question. It really depends on who this guy

00:02:37.880 is. Have you seen him before? Do you have mutual friends? You know anything that is easy to just

00:02:42.640 start talking about use that. If this is a guy that like you have no idea about lead with something

00:02:47.320 that has to do with his profession because that way it's easy to find common ground. Either way

00:02:53.420 the most important thing during this conversation is the triangle method. Now don't overdo this. You

00:02:58.440 don't want to look like a clown but basically what you want to do during the conversation you're going 0.84

00:03:02.860 back and forth. Look into one eye. Switch to the other eye. Look down to the lips. Back up and you

00:03:08.420 keep going. Again you don't have to do this during the whole conversation. Just like sprinkle it in

00:03:12.460 here and there. Trust me it will do wonders. I hope this helped. Good luck on your mission girly and

00:03:17.280 follow me for more tricks. Bye. All right let's see. Let's see what this woman has to say. 1.00

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00:05:07.720 I've never not approached a guy I've dated, like a long-term relationship. I've never

00:05:13.620 not approached or made the first move with a guy I've dated. I get a lot of questions like how to

00:05:20.100 meet someone, where to meet someone. Me, I don't really like online dating. I just, it's going to be,

00:05:26.820 you're going to have to, you know, sieve, sieve through a lot of people who are just there to

00:05:31.520 make sure that they're still hot as in like they're not available emotionally. They're

00:05:37.420 married. They're doing A, B, C, D, F, G, as we know, right? So I really like to see a human being

00:05:42.240 in their face and know that that person might be for me. So here is my thing, right? As a woman,

00:05:49.580 natural selection, you're going to choose the man, but you're not going to initiate stuff after that.

00:05:54.960 But you've got to make the choice, baby. You've got to make the choice. If you want to potentially have

00:05:59.160 a life partner, why are you letting them choose you? You let them know that, yeah, I'm approachable

00:06:07.240 and then they can do the work. Okay. So what you do is everyone I've ever dated, I've seen out because

00:06:12.960 number one, I don't like the guy that's going to come up to me. Essentially, that's like 10% of men

00:06:18.460 who come up to every girl just to see their chances. And maybe out of that 1%, he's that guy who's just

00:06:23.640 brave enough to see you. But essentially ask any man in the world, unless they're like that top

00:06:29.020 5% player, women are scary to come up to. A female rejection for a young guy, especially is 1.00

00:06:35.780 just painful. It's just like the world giving you a barometer of where you're placed in the world.

00:06:41.420 Essentially, that's what a woman's rejection is. It's like, oh, are you all these things? You don't

00:06:45.980 meet the criteria. I'm going to ignore you. It's quite painful. You know what I mean? We understand

00:06:50.040 that. So give him a signal, ask him to hold your drink. Well, unless he's going to put something in

00:06:56.180 it. So don't ask him to do that. Ask him to hold your jacket. Oh my God. Ask him to hold your jacket.

00:07:00.560 Ask him. Do you know what it is with men? This is it. This is how this is how to approach a man

00:07:05.280 101. Ask him for his assistance. Ask him for his advice or ask him for good advice. That's really

00:07:12.840 good advice. Asking guys. Guys love teaching you stuff. They love it. You know, there's a reason women 1.00

00:07:19.520 fall in love with like the professors or whatever at university. It's just a great dynamic when the

00:07:26.500 woman's alerting from the man. Yeah. Or help. It's a proven thing, a proven thing that when you ask

00:07:35.120 someone for a favor that's doable, a small favor, a man especially, they like you more than if you

00:07:41.480 hadn't. Let me repeat that. If you ask a man you just met for a small favor, like a direction to hold

00:07:48.200 your jacket while you, you know, get your chair out or something or to just explain something on

00:07:54.100 the menu to you, they like you more than if you hadn't done that because it lets them be in their

00:08:01.360 masculine role, in their masculine energy. So let the guy know. Give the guy a smile that you like. 0.53

00:08:07.040 That's what I mean. I approached them. I don't mean I came up to them and said, hello, what's your name?

00:08:11.940 No, I gave them a smile. I looked in their direction and looked away.

00:08:15.520 I'd say that's good advice. That's good advice. Um, I like the asking for help. That's a good one.

00:08:21.160 How to talk to your crush. All right. Beautiful women, men approach. Mids got to approach men. 1.00

00:08:31.540 So you got to notice these are all mids. That's not a bad thing, right? Men love mids, you know.

00:08:37.420 Telling you how to talk to your crush. That is like one of my most requested videos is Trinity. How do I

00:08:41.580 talk to my crush? I'm so nervous. How do I talk to him? Okay, let's go through how you're going to

00:08:45.300 talk to him. One, let's start with the prep. We're going to build the baddie energy before we even 0.79

00:08:49.440 speak to him. It's about how we feel more so than anything we say. Oh, to get prepared to talk to

00:08:54.160 this man, we need to wear some confident colors. You guys know how I feel about wearing red? Still

00:08:58.760 very big about it. When you wake up in the morning and you're like, my task today is to talk to my crush.

00:09:03.720 I'm going to crush it. Oh, hell yeah. I love the confidence, buddy. Let's put on some confident colors.

00:09:07.180 Red is flirty. Black is powerful. White is angelic and mysterious. Pick out of those three which ones 1.00

00:09:13.140 you like the best. Or, you know, just wear your favorite color. Whatever one makes you feel the

00:09:16.440 most confident. We are going to wear a cute tank and some jeans. Be a little skirt. Be a sweater.

00:09:22.600 Off the shoulder moment. Something that makes you feel confident. Something that makes you feel sexy

00:09:26.460 and sensual and alluring. What is that? What makes you feel like that? Okay, now that we have a cute AF

00:09:31.260 outfit that makes us feel bad AF, what perfume are we wearing? We need to make sure we smell good

00:09:36.080 to keep his attention. When we leave the conversation, he's still getting a whiff of us

00:09:40.540 because our perfume is that good. Perfume recommendations I have. YSL Libre. It's sexy,

00:09:44.800 bold, unforgettable. Ariana Cloud Perfume is soft, addictive, and sweet. Or Sol de Janeiro Crush 62.

00:09:49.160 It's warm vanilla pistachio. You smell like a summer memory. Whatever your vibe is, wear it. Any perfume

00:09:54.300 is good. I like any vanilla, any amber, anything musky. Something that's going to be like, this girl is sexy. 0.99

00:10:00.040 Now that we are prepared, let's work on some confident hacks before we go up and talk to him.

00:10:04.460 We cannot be nervous. We need to be prepared. This is how I make myself more confident before I go

00:10:10.300 into any situation. And it's kind of silly. It's kind of silly. Go to the mirror and look at yourself 0.93

00:10:14.540 in the mirror. We're going to do a power pose. Shoulders back. Men, it's so funny because I watch

00:10:20.840 men's tips to approach women and they talk about tonality. They talk about what not to say, 0.94

00:10:26.700 what to say women. It's, it's like, um, be confident. Deep breath in, chin up, chest out.

00:10:35.100 We're going to say, he's just a person. He's just a person. He's just kind of cute. Literally just a

00:10:42.040 boy, you guys. And now we are going to walk to him and have this conversation with him. I don't care

00:10:46.620 where you're having the conversation. Maybe you sit next to him in class. Maybe you guys are in the

00:10:50.860 same friend group. Maybe you play on the same sports team. It doesn't matter. Let's go talk

00:10:55.480 to him. All right. Now you get to him and you're like, I'm ready to have a conversation with this

00:10:57.860 man. How are we going to do it? Here are some one-liners that work every single time. Same thing

00:11:02.580 is you have to be confident. It doesn't matter what you say to him. You just have to be confident

00:11:06.800 while you're doing it. This one's always good. You could always start it off with a compliment.

00:11:10.020 Like, oh, you smell really nice. What are you wearing? Boom. You're talking to him. Boom. He already has a

00:11:13.620 compliment. Boom. He feels good. That's a good, that's a good intro. I like that one.

00:11:17.980 You could also be like, your hair looks really good. Did you use like gel today? It's not weird

00:11:21.000 to start off with a compliment. Here's another one. You could say, I'm so sorry. I just can't

00:11:25.080 stop thinking about how you look like blank. One time I told this man he looked like Joe from you

00:11:28.880 and he turned out to also be freaking crazy like Joe from you, but he really appreciated the compliment

00:11:33.520 in the moment. Remember, you want to ask open-ended questions so that you guys can keep the

00:11:37.840 conversation going. Another thing you can do is ask for his opinion on something. Boom. Men feel more 0.99

00:11:42.820 important when they think they have a say in something. It's called the Ikea effect.

00:11:46.020 Yeah. These women are actually, this isn't bad advice. Oh, if you're at sports, you're like, 1.00

00:11:51.020 oh, should I put my hair in a ponytail or a low braid? Which one do you think looks best?

00:11:54.020 He's going to be like, why does she care about my opinion? But hey, someone cares about it. I like

00:11:57.320 that feeling. Ask his opinion on something. Now that you've hopefully said some good one-liners,

00:12:02.440 let's get into keeping it going. How are you going to keep the conversation going? Again,

00:12:07.220 we need to use the bounce back trick. What is the bounce back trick? This is what he's going to be

00:12:11.480 like. I like basketball. What are you going to say? Oh, you like basketball? That's cute. You

00:12:16.380 play for fun or you like NBA material? Boom. You need to answer and ask. Answer and ask. You're

00:12:21.460 going to keep the conversation going. Don't just answer. Answer and ask. That's how you keep the

00:12:25.560 conversation going, people. Here's another one. Compliment curve. Give a unique compliment and then

00:12:29.920 playfully question it. Here's one. You smell really good. Are you like a clone connoisseur?

00:12:36.940 That's silly and funny. Now let's talk about exiting the conversation. That was kind of corny. 0.97

00:12:41.740 Sometimes exiting can be the most awkward part. I want to be walking away thinking,

00:12:45.000 oh god, that could have gone so much better. This is always a good one. Just say, okay,

00:12:48.580 I have to go, but it was awesome talking to you. This one's good. You leave with a little smirk.

00:12:52.800 You say, it was nice talking to you. I'll text you later. Bye. Goodbye. Or you could always be like,

00:12:58.520 it's always nice talking to you. I'll see you around. Believe with confidence. It's about how you walk

00:13:02.400 away, you guys. Just as much as it is about how you get there, it's about how you walk away.

00:13:06.440 Remember, it's about being confident. It's more so about your energy than anything you can say.

00:13:10.340 But if you guys need some more one-liners, just let me know. I have them on back order. Thank you

00:13:14.640 guys so much. I will see you in my next one. Shoot, that was pretty good, actually. I'm impressed.

00:13:20.640 Nice job, ladies. Let me know what you guys think in the comments. Was this good advice?

00:13:26.680 And how would you respond? And would it work on you? Let me know in the comments. Like the video,

00:13:30.960 subscribe, and I'll see you next time. Okay. We got one more. What up, guys? Welcome to my

00:13:40.040 reaction series. Today, we are reacting to women are still wondering why men are not approaching

00:13:45.140 them. Women have made it painfully obvious that they don't want to be approached in public. We all 1.00

00:13:50.720 know they wouldn't mind if Chad or Tyrone approaches them. But if you're not that guy, it'll be bad time

00:13:56.120 for you. But women are still in denial and still wondering why men are not approaching them. 0.94

00:14:02.180 Let's look at some women complaining about... Oh, wait. Hold on. 1.00

00:14:10.900 I forgot to take this off. What up, guys? Welcome to my reaction. All right. What up, guys? Welcome

00:14:20.020 to my reaction series. Today, we're reacting to women are still wondering why men are not approaching

00:14:25.540 them in public. So women have made it painfully obvious that they don't want to be approached 1.00

00:14:31.320 in public. We all know they wouldn't mind if Chad or Tyrone or Pookie approached them. But if you're

00:14:37.400 not that guy, it's going to be a bad time for you. But women are still in denial and still wondering 1.00

00:14:43.080 why men are not approaching them. Let's look at some of the women complaining about men not 0.98

00:14:48.820 approaching them. Okay, wait. Let's show this tab instead.

00:14:54.600 ...are not approaching me. And it's really fucking with my head. I mean, they used to. 0.99

00:15:03.380 It used to happen. But now it's... It's as if...

00:15:07.060 You got old. Now it's time to... Now you're on sale. You're on discount. So it's time to signal

00:15:11.960 like Facebook marketplace free. If I sprayed man repellent on myself, I just... I can't get

00:15:23.040 over it. It's just... It's ruining my life. It's progressively just getting worse. I just

00:15:31.080 can't. I just don't know why. I just... My mental health is just in the hole. Okay? It's in the

00:15:39.340 shitter. I don't know what I'm gonna do. All I know is I want men to approach me. Please. 0.79

00:15:48.820 Just... I just wanted to go back to the way that it was. I can't. I can't do this anymore. It's...

00:15:57.040 I think she might be trolling, but whatever. All right. Share this tab.

00:16:03.920 Why are men not confident enough to walk up to women now? Please shout out to the guys who are

00:16:08.540 confident enough to walk up to women. The masculinity on earth has diminished drastically

00:16:14.340 that guys don't even come up to you anymore. They'll just stare at you from a distance.

00:16:18.360 As a woman who's trying to embody her feminine energy, you're not gonna catch me going up to 1.00

00:16:22.100 the guy. You're just not. We can just stare at each other. And die alone.

00:16:26.200 Please shout out to the guys who are confident enough to walk up to women because guys don't do 0.99

00:16:30.700 that anymore. If God were to guarantee that your 20th person would be the love of your life,

00:16:36.040 you would be so happy to be rejected by all 19. So why are men not confident enough to walk up to 0.97

00:16:42.780 women now? We don't chase. We signal, like, you can come up to me now. But all men do is just look at

00:16:50.780 you now. And of course, like, if the woman is interested, she's gonna keep looking your way too. 1.00

00:16:55.500 But it just like stays like that. Nothing ever happens. Because men don't walk up to women

00:17:00.560 anymore. Or they're just tired of being rejected. But it's like, if God were to tell you that

00:17:05.180 you're gonna go through 20 rejections before you get to your yes, and that's gonna be the love of

00:17:08.940 your life, you guys would be so happy to go through all 20 because you would just so closer to the love

00:17:14.080 of your life. It's kind of endearing when women talk less if they know anything about approaching 1.00

00:17:20.780 women. 0.81

00:17:21.780 Baby girl, you're pretty as hell. Hold on. Hold on. You're just as pretty as me, 0.84

00:17:27.340 if not prettier. And girls way less conventionally pretty. Girl, you're pretty as hell. I looked at

00:17:31.100 your profile. You're just as pretty as me, if not prettier. And girls way less conventionally 1.00

00:17:34.860 pretty than you and I are still very attractive to men. Do you think men aren't approaching you

00:17:38.700 because you're not pretty? Oh, baby girl, men aren't approaching you because they're scared of you.

00:17:43.020 Men aren't approaching women because they're not attracted to them. They're not approaching women 0.83

00:17:46.220 because they're terrified. They don't know what they're doing. They're. Uh, I mean, if you ever

00:17:51.100 out with a beautiful woman, they do get approached way more than mids to be on, to be honest, but it's

00:17:57.180 also, uh, it's also women have shame men into not approaching them. They're afraid of creeping us out.

00:18:05.820 They don't know. They're so afraid. I'm pretty sure I get approached way more than the average woman.

00:18:09.980 It's not because I'm so hot. You want to know why men approach me all the time? As soon as I say it,

00:18:13.340 you're going to be like, that actually makes so much sense. Are you ready? Are you ready?

00:18:16.780 They approached me because I'm approachable. Yeah. I mean, because when you're smiling and

00:18:22.300 making eyes and waving, it's, um, it's signaling you're on discount. Some people have resting

00:18:27.740 bitch face. I have resting smiley face. You guys, if I'm dancing and I make eye contact with somebody, 1.00

00:18:32.060 my instinct is to point at them and start singing or to do this. They can't resist that. Men look at me

00:18:38.140 and they see a bubbly little jumping bean and think I'm pretty sure this one's going to be nice to me.

00:18:41.580 And they're right. I'm so friendly. It's actually a problem. It's actually something I'm working on.

00:18:45.180 I'm really bad at being mean to people. And a lot of men will not leave you alone until you're

00:18:48.380 mean to them. That's why the best combo is when I go out with a girlfriend who's like kind of a

00:18:51.580 bitch, like the bitch bubbly girl combo, unstoppable because she'll make sure that nobody harasses us. 1.00

00:18:56.220 And I'll make sure that we're drinking for free. If you don't believe me, then you go do the approach, 1.00

00:19:00.620 go approach men. And if you think they didn't seem interested, you probably just didn't do it right.

00:19:04.540 Okay. You need to be really clear with men. They don't know you're flirting with them. I tell men when they're

00:19:07.900 approaching women that the first thing they need to do is to just establish comfort and safety 0.94

00:19:11.500 and a lack of threat so that there's no creepiness. But because creepiness is ambiguity of threat and

00:19:15.740 women don't pose as much threat to men as vice versa. It's totally different rules for us. It's very 0.71

00:19:20.060 difficult for us to creep men out. What's way more likely is a man not realizing what's happening.

00:19:24.300 So while I would never tell a man to do this for a woman, what you do is you go up to a man, 0.61

00:19:27.900 you smile and say, hi, I'm Brenna. I like your hair, your arms or your nose or whatever,

00:19:32.060 some physical compliment, really try to make it physical. Cause if you compliment their hat,

00:19:35.420 they'll be like, Oh, she likes the sports team on my hat. Like they won't, they need you to be

00:19:39.020 really clear. Sometimes I even say things like you're really funny. I'm so glad I decided to

00:19:43.100 flirt with you because they need to hear flirt with you. I'm flirting with you. It puts them 0.62

00:19:48.780 at ease. It makes them happy. Just trust me. And if you're like, but Brenna, you approaching them

00:19:52.140 takes all the fun out. How am I even supposed to be attracted to a guy if he doesn't approach me?

00:19:55.580 And I got you girl. Try what I would call the messenger method. You're out with a group of girls, 0.99

00:19:59.900 go up to a group of guys and go up to one of them and be like, Hey, sorry to interrupt. Uh, but my friend

00:20:03.580 over there, the one with the red hair, she thinks you're really cute and would love to talk to you. 0.97

00:20:06.620 And then walk away. This my friend is a win, win, win. You win because you didn't have to

00:20:11.660 do anything vulnerable or scary. Like you didn't approach anybody. You were just delivering a

00:20:14.860 message. She wins because guy is still going to approach her and he wins because he's not so

00:20:18.780 scared anymore. He's got a clear invitation to come up and speak with you. You're like,

00:20:21.740 you are welcome and encouraged. What do you guys think? Would you accept an approach from this woman? 0.98

00:20:26.860 Would that work on you? Let me know in the comments, make sure you like the video and let me know.

00:20:32.460 I would say that men aren't approaching women because they just don't think the juice is worth 0.99

00:20:36.940 the squeeze. If they have to approach a hundred women to get a lay or something like that, it's,

00:20:42.460 they're just not going to want to do it anymore. Anyways, guys, make sure you like the video,

00:20:46.060 subscribe to the channel, ring the notification bell, and I'll see you next time.

Pearl - August 27, 2025

Modern Women Try Giving Dating Advice - Its Just Cringe

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