Pearl - June 19, 2025


Modern Women Try To Learn How To Approach Guys


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19 minutes

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2,755

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254

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15

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2

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In this episode, we re talking about how to approach men and how to get them to take notice of you. Would you approach a man? Do you have what it takes to get a man's attention?

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00:00:00.000 What up guys? Welcome to my reaction series. Today we're talking about modern women having to 1.00
00:00:05.840 approach men. So back in the day there was a social contract between men and women. A man 0.68
00:00:12.740 would see an attractive woman, approach her, and try to shoot a shot in a respectful manner.
00:00:17.460 Or a young man would approach a young woman's father and ask him if he could take his daughter
00:00:22.540 out on a date. It was nice, it was simple, but like most things that tend to make sense,
00:00:29.380 modern women messed that whole thing up. They called it patriarchy and misogyny. Now men aren't 1.00
00:00:36.120 approaching women and women for sure aren't approaching men in mass. Now it's just one big
00:00:44.100 staring contest. There are some women that have worked up the courage to approach men and let's
00:00:50.340 take a look at some of them. And fellas, I want you to rate their riz in the comments. So this is
00:00:55.720 lit girl one. Okay. The script. So, okay, let me make it full screen. Let's rate her riz. Would 0.85
00:01:01.180 you, if she approached you, would you respond? Okay. The script. So I basically, I went up to
00:01:06.800 the counter of the coffee shop and was like, Oh, do you guys have a pen? And then they gave me a pen
00:01:10.580 and paper. And then I wrote my number on it. And I was initially going to give it to a waiter to then
00:01:15.420 like drop it off. Cause I was wearing a white hat and I was kind of opposite him. So I was just
00:01:18.920 going to get them to be like, Oh, the girl in the white hat, like wanted you to have a number
00:01:22.200 basically. But then I just got this like overwhelming boost of confidence. And I just
00:01:28.560 walked straight up to him, tapped him on the back. He was, had his headphones in and he was
00:01:32.520 working. So I definitely caught him by surprise. And I was like, Hey, excuse me. So sorry to bother
00:01:37.280 you. Um, are you single at all? And he goes, yeah, I am. And then I was like, Oh, can I give
00:01:41.480 you my number? And he was like, yeah. And then we had a really like quick, small talk. And then
00:01:46.000 I was like, Oh, I've got to go, but it was lovely to meet you. And then he's like, lovely
00:01:49.440 to meet you. And that was it. And then I walked away. And honestly, even the feeling, um, it
00:01:55.400 was exhilarating. So honestly, highly recommend. Um, but I feel like I'm invincible now, which
00:02:00.240 I'm absolutely not. Something happened today and I am traumatized.
00:02:04.920 All right. Raider Riz guys. I think that's, you know, men, they don't take much. So he was 1.00
00:02:11.020 single and he found her attractive. It's probably good enough. We're so, it's so much easier
00:02:17.500 for us than it is for a guy. Let's look at this. So I approached a guy at the gym and asked
00:02:21.680 him for help. And it was like a good news, bad news type of situation, mostly bad news,
00:02:25.080 but I'm gonna give you the tea. I was like moving something across the gym and I was like
00:02:28.140 huffing and puffing when I was done. And we ended up making eye contact. And then we just
00:02:31.560 started like a conversation and he was like, Oh, if you ever need any help with anything, like,
00:02:35.820 let me know. And I'm like, okay, bad. Like I'm taking that as you're like offering me help. I'm
00:02:39.620 gonna, I'm gonna ask you for help. So fast forward a couple of minutes later,
00:02:42.400 I finished my hip thrust. I'm literally dying. And I was like, I'm gonna go ask him for help
00:02:46.280 just to bring the barbell up from like the ground up into the rack. So I don't have to do it. And
00:02:51.340 then I can unrack my weight. Hi, can I get two shots of espresso over ice in a venti cup? And then
00:02:57.160 do you guys have the vanilla pro? All right. Rate that Riz. Would it work on you? Would it work
00:03:02.060 on you fellas? Team shake the cow. I can never say it. 857 for Starbucks is such a rip off. But
00:03:08.780 anyways, so he helps him with that. And then he like, you know, it's like, okay, have a good
00:03:12.060 workout, whatever. So we ended up walking downstairs at the same time. We have like a
00:03:15.400 10 minute conversation at the bottom of the stairs. We ended up exchanging numbers. I'm like,
00:03:18.820 Beth, that's so cool. I had a feeling like, I was like, I don't think that this is going to go
00:03:22.460 anywhere, but like, at least I put myself out there. So we were texting for a little bit.
00:03:27.220 And then finally he goes like, what's your situation? And to me, that's like a red flag. I don't know.
00:03:31.160 It just gave me like a weird vibe. So I'm like, okay, I'm, I'm no kids. I'm like,
00:03:34.740 not married. What I'm like single looking for a relationship. Essentially this man tells me
00:03:39.600 that he is married, but it's complicated. Okay. So you're married to which I said,
00:03:48.280 thank you for your transparency. Like I'm super glad I didn't go out with him. And then he told
00:03:52.020 me that I said, thank you for your transparency. And I wish you the best of luck. So this story is
00:03:56.340 to say that like, just because you like open up the door to have a conversation with somebody,
00:04:01.620 doesn't mean that it's always going to go the way that you want it to, or the way that you think
00:04:05.380 it's going to go. But at the end of the day, you're still opening the door and you're putting
00:04:09.080 yourself out there and you're trying, and there's no harm in trying. Just pray that God gives you
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00:05:02.780 If you were approached by this woman in public, would you be excited or offended? Let me know 0.99
00:05:07.720 in the comments. So I was at the grocery store the other day and I'm in the produce section and
00:05:13.400 I'm kind of, I'm like shopping for sweet potatoes and I'm kind of like, you know, my baskets in front
00:05:17.880 of like the sweet potato area. And I see this guy walk up and he's sort of like kind of hovering
00:05:24.040 around me with like one of those little plastic bags. And I thought like, is he trying to get to
00:05:30.400 the sweet potatoes too? And he was a good looking, a good looking man. And I thought, okay, here's my
00:05:35.600 chance. Like I'm going to use this as an opportunity. And so, and by the way, if you're new here, I'm
00:05:40.440 Jenny, I'm a dating coach and I'm on my own dating journey and I'm taking you along and I'm teaching
00:05:44.440 you and giving you great ideas for ways. Women are never experts in something when they teach 1.00
00:05:49.720 it. It's always, they're on a journey. Always. To meet men and turn IRL meet dudes into potential
00:05:56.980 relationships and get off the dating apps. So, um, I said to him, Oh, am I in your way? And,
00:06:04.600 and he was like, Oh no, uh, I'm just trying to get this bag open. And it's, you know, how those,
00:06:09.320 those produce bags are like impossible to get apart. And I was like, Oh, I know what you mean.
00:06:14.780 I was like, if we were in our grandparents' generation, they would have licked their finger
00:06:17.800 and like, you know, you touch it like that. And he goes, I know, but he was like post COVID,
00:06:21.860 like, I can't do that. And I was like, tell me about it. We're all dermaphobes now. And we laughed.
00:06:25.480 Right. Um, and we had a perfect, a great little exchange, like a great little moment. Um, I ultimately
00:06:31.380 decided I wasn't feeling it, but it would have been easy for me to have converted that into like kind of
00:06:36.380 flirting with him a little bit and then converting that into something more potentially. Right. If he
00:06:40.700 was feeling the same way. Um, and so I thought this is a great one to remember. Okay. Because
00:06:45.960 you could really use this anytime you want it to. Right. Cause here's the key. If when you approach
00:06:49.840 a man, like if he's interested at all, he's going to help keep the conversation going. Like all you
00:06:55.780 need to do is just start it up and like say something and be friendly. And I was being funny and
00:07:00.160 friendly. Like I'm a very expressive person. Like I'm, I don't have a problem talking to people.
00:07:04.080 I love talking to people that I don't know. Um, so as long as you get it started, then if he's
00:07:10.000 interested at all, he's going, or if he's just a nice person, he's going to keep it going, which he
00:07:15.200 did. Right. Like we had a funny little exchange. There was more in there that I can't remember,
00:07:18.680 but that was the basic gist. Um, so, so the thing that I was realizing is you can really use this
00:07:25.180 anytime because you don't actually have to think that the man wants to get to whatever you're standing
00:07:30.480 by. Right. Like you could actually create this scenario where all you do is he, like you say,
00:07:36.100 you see a cute guy in the store, you just kind of saunter on over to whatever he's in front of,
00:07:41.080 act like you were looking forward to, and then kind of maybe get in his way a little bit. You'd
00:07:45.960 have to be very subtle with this. Okay. And then, and then be like, Oh, was I in your way? Right.
00:07:51.940 Done. You don't actually have to think that he wanted to get to what you wanted. You just have to
00:07:57.540 kind of create the scenario. Right. Like, like rip replicate the scenario. Um, I've heard men say
00:08:08.880 that like a lot of times, like very attractive men, especially have so many women approaching them
00:08:14.240 that a lot of times, like it's the ones that actually, um, or they have so many women that 0.99
00:08:19.900 are interested in them, that it's the ones that actually approach them and make themselves known
00:08:23.520 that tend to get their attention. Um, and a lot of times too, like men noticing it was really just
00:08:28.560 a proximity thing. We think sometimes that it means something about us. We're not attractive
00:08:32.760 enough or whatever if men aren't approaching us. But a lot of times it really just comes down to like,
00:08:37.300 you have to make yourself obvious, right? Men are very in the moment creatures. I don't even want
00:08:43.840 to say, I hate all the man bashing that's been around for years. Like men are just oblivious.
00:08:47.460 They're not oblivious. They're just in the moment. Right. So you kind of have to just be in the
00:08:51.300 moment too. Like you have to be in their moment, right? So like you just need to be in proximity
00:08:55.680 and create an excuse to say something. And that's a great one because you don't have to feel like
00:09:01.000 my favorite Riz was still the first one, but it could be because she was the best looking one. 0.98
00:09:05.820 You're like really putting yourself out there. Okay. Who's next? Who's next? Let's see.
00:09:12.360 We're going to rate the Riz. Oh my God. Yes, for sure. I've approached guys.
00:09:17.440 Now obviously it's a lot easier when you're a girl, you can pretty much
00:09:21.200 get away with a lot more. Even more than that. I used to do door-to-door sales,
00:09:24.540 a hundred percent commission. And what is approaching, if not knocking on someone's
00:09:28.380 door to sell solar panels. So if you live in the Southern California area,
00:09:32.240 probably not on your door. But what usually helps me and how I do it, my kind of style
00:09:36.500 is I'm usually talking to everybody, right? I'm a really big extrovert. So I'm talking to a lot
00:09:41.000 of people in the bars and the clubs or wherever I'm at. And I usually always find a reason to include
00:09:46.700 the guy that I want to talk to in the conversation. Even if it's like, Hey, what do you think? You're
00:09:51.560 being too quiet over there. Something along those lines to invite him into my fun. I kind of turn
00:09:56.920 my attention back to the group and then back to him, back to the group. If I like him, then I will
00:10:01.260 then isolate him and talk to him more one-on-one and see where it goes from there. But I will tell you
00:10:07.420 why girls, including myself, actually don't like approaching that much is when a girl approaches, 0.98
00:10:13.600 a guy just automatically assumes most of the time, most men automatically assume they're in.
00:10:18.200 And then they'll just like boy barnacle to me the rest of the night. And then it's like, Oh God,
00:10:21.860 I just kind of wanted to feel you out a little bit. Realize that even though you might be good
00:10:25.800 looking, not my style, if you will. And then I got to find a way to like back out or excuse myself
00:10:30.780 to the bathroom, leaving him probably very confused. My guy has a courage to approach me.
00:10:36.380 It automatically weeds out all the other ones because I know that that guy has courage. Even if I'm not
00:10:41.300 into it, he still walks away with my respect.
00:10:47.660 Okay. Rate that Riz guys. I'm going to give her for a woman. This is on a female scale 1.00
00:10:53.960 because we're not very good at this. Obviously I'm going to give like a six.
00:11:00.860 All right. Let's see the last one.
00:11:02.560 I'm at Jack's wife, Freda for lunch. And there's a really cute guy at the bar. So I kind of want to
00:11:06.400 go up to him and say hi. And he's by himself. My friend just confirmed. So I'm going to go up to
00:11:10.380 him.
00:11:15.140 Sitting right here at the bar. I did not like that wave. This is my least favorite so far.
00:11:20.620 And I'm going to go say hi because I think he's you. Whatever. Who cares?
00:11:27.760 She's got a good body. That's going to help. She's thin at least. 1.00
00:11:30.740 The voice. I thought she might be kind of fat. 1.00
00:11:38.720 She's crazy. 0.76
00:11:39.640 She's so happy. 0.98
00:11:44.960 She's not really sweet.
00:11:47.580 He's not cute. He's not cute.
00:11:52.420 He just looked her up and down.
00:11:54.840 All right. What? Is he into it?
00:11:58.940 What's the matter of money? Why is he just sitting at a bar?
00:12:01.040 I don't know what I'm saying.
00:12:01.880 I said this is insane.
00:12:04.520 This used to be normal like 20, 10 years ago.
00:12:07.780 He's easier than he's both.
00:12:08.980 I think he's going to be normal now.
00:12:15.920 I'm trying to try.
00:12:18.060 I got my number and we're all going to go out tomorrow.
00:12:20.920 That's the difference between women that want to be in relationships. 1.00
00:12:28.920 And women that don't. 1.00
00:12:31.520 Because the women that actually want to be in relationships. 1.00
00:12:36.000 They'll put their ego aside and do stuff that could potentially get them rejected.
00:12:40.940 The women that don't want to be. 1.00
00:12:42.400 They just get off on rejecting them.
00:12:45.300 I think I liked that one.
00:12:46.980 That one was fine.
00:12:48.160 I thought the wave was kind of weird in the beginning.
00:12:51.580 But I'm going to give that a 6.5.
00:12:55.400 I put that a second.
00:12:57.200 So let me know what you guys think in the comments.
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