Pearl - Modern Women Whine About Guys Not Approaching Them

00:00:00.000 What up guys? Welcome to my reaction series. Today we're talking about men not approaching

00:00:06.300 women anymore. For over 40 years, women have told men to leave them alone. Don't approach me, 1.00

00:00:13.620 you creep, they would all say. And it turns out if you keep telling men to stay away from you,

00:00:18.340 they will. Modern women are going on TikTok to whine about men not approaching them. 1.00

00:00:24.400 Back in the day, it was simple. A guy saw a pretty woman, walked up to her and said hi.

00:00:28.680 Of course, women called that predatory and patriarchy and now everything's messed up.

00:00:34.280 Let's take a look at some of the women that are complaining about men not approaching them. 1.00

00:00:39.620 So anytime. All right. So what are we going to rate her? I would say six, five, six, five, six.

00:00:45.760 I'm talking to like a new guy. I would say for the past, maybe like five, six years,

00:00:50.320 majority of the time they always ask me why I'm single. They can't believe I'm single. They think

00:00:55.400 men are out here approaching you left, right, and center. Let me tell you, like I told them,

00:00:59.500 men do not approach me. Okay. It's very rare that a man out in public, out in the world will see me.

00:01:07.580 I don't care how good I look that day. I don't care how good I smell. I don't care about none of

00:01:11.200 that. They're not walking up to me. And that's because my demeanor says I'm good. I don't come

00:01:16.680 off as friendly. I don't come off as approachable. I don't come off inviting. And that's very

00:01:21.000 intentional because you're not going to come over here and waste my time. You're not going to come

00:01:24.220 over here and play with me. That'd be like, I'm not the one. What the, so she complains about men 1.00

00:01:29.380 not approaching her. That says I'm not the one. And I make, I do this intentionally. I scare off men

00:01:35.820 women. Be known before you even open your mouth, before you even fix your legs to come walk over 1.00

00:01:41.220 into my space and start exchanging words with me. And I like that. And I'm going to keep it that way.

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00:02:19.740 Why men don't approach me in public.

00:02:23.320 I'm somebody who doesn't get approached in public by men, right?

00:02:27.640 Yeah, you got short hair. Men like the long,

00:02:30.900 the long hair. And for the longest time, I wondered why is that?

00:02:36.780 But it just dawns on me.

00:02:40.260 It's because I'm perfect. Oh, I'm too perfect.

00:02:45.160 Bruh. Like, just gorgeous and beautiful and all those good things.

00:02:54.320 How do you, what do you even say to somebody like me when you see me in public?

00:02:59.580 Somebody so ethereal and otherworldly.

00:03:03.440 Men probably see me in public and think their schizophrenia is acting up,

00:03:07.400 they're hallucinating.

00:03:08.220 And before you comment and say anything like, no, it's because you're so big and tall and 0.99

00:03:15.080 you don't have any fucking hair and you're kind of masculine looking. 0.99

00:03:18.300 Don't. I'm not hearing any of that. 0.99

00:03:21.560 I'm dead set on being fucking perfect and unapproachable and unattainable. 0.98

00:03:26.880 That's all it is. 0.96

00:03:27.920 Yeah, I mean, approaching, men approach at like bars and that sort of setting.

00:03:33.360 But in my lifetime, it's never really been normal for men to approach you in public.

00:03:40.200 Hey guys, I'm Bahar Nabiyeva.

00:03:42.040 Because you're single right now, right?

00:03:43.360 Yeah.

00:03:43.760 How should guys approach you in the gym or if at all?

00:03:46.120 They don't approach me, they just stare at me because I think I look intimidating.

00:03:49.500 So they do where they find you on...

00:03:50.920 Yeah, I mean, men aren't super into neck tattoos.

00:03:53.600 Social media, follow you, slide in the DMs, but they don't actually say anything.

00:03:57.320 Talking about, I saw you in the gym, but I was kind of a little scared to approach you

00:04:00.880 and I was like, no wonder.

00:04:02.460 Do you understand how you're kind of intimidating though?

00:04:05.260 Yeah, but I think like even at this point without no context, I think it's the vibe that

00:04:09.200 I'm giving off maybe, maybe a little like tomboyish style and they, I think I do look

00:04:13.700 a little intimidating, I'm not gonna lie.

00:04:15.440 Or you could approach them.

00:04:16.700 No, but I'm not looking for a boyfriend.

00:04:19.300 True.

00:04:19.740 I'm looking for a man.

00:04:21.680 Let's see if there's another.

00:04:22.940 Okay, there's one more.

00:04:25.700 Guys, do not approach you at the bar, not because you're not pretty, but it's because

00:04:29.800 of this. 1.00

00:04:30.740 Because your tits aren't out. 1.00

00:04:32.440 Get them out, ladies. 1.00

00:04:36.940 If you want to increase your approach rate, just put out the boobs. 1.00

00:04:41.460 It'll go up by a thousand. 0.89

00:04:42.880 I've been going to the bars every weekend with my friends, maybe for the past couple months

00:04:46.540 and I love it.

00:04:47.720 I love socializing and I'm single.

00:04:49.960 And my friend and I were talking at the bar the other weekend and we were talking about

00:04:54.720 how we've never been approached by a single guy before, like maybe ever, which is just

00:05:00.700 insane to think about.

00:05:01.840 Like I can't even, I can name a couple occurrences where they have, but it was like people from

00:05:07.900 Europe and they're like a different breed of people. 0.92

00:05:10.040 Okay, so I feel like the culture in America is way different.

00:05:15.360 Guys do not want to approach you, not because of how pretty you are or how you look, but

00:05:21.900 it's really because they're scared of you.

00:05:24.280 And then us women over here who are single are thinking like, we look amazing.

00:05:28.400 We did our makeup.

00:05:29.480 We chose the perfect outfit.

00:05:31.380 Why aren't all these guys coming up to us?

00:05:34.020 Even if we're not into them, why don't they just come up just to like make us feel good

00:05:38.380 about her?

00:05:39.320 Yeah.

00:05:39.860 Cause that's what guys are thinking.

00:05:41.160 How do I make women feel good about themselves? 1.00

00:05:43.900 Because we don't, they don't have big enough egos.

00:05:47.340 They're wondering how, how do I smash?

00:05:52.320 That's what they're thinking. 0.96

00:05:53.360 How, how can I turn this into sex?

00:05:55.860 And if you know, women aren't putting out at the bars, they're just going to stop going. 1.00

00:06:00.320 They're like, am I going to get sex out of this?

00:06:02.220 No, I'll stay home and play video games. 0.87

00:06:05.360 So the guys are doing ourselves.

00:06:08.360 Okay.

00:06:09.180 Now I want you to think of the perspective of a guy.

00:06:11.820 I will never know what's in a man's head, but I have a good, pretty good idea from like

00:06:16.960 my guy friends and going out a lot.

00:06:19.720 Guys are intimidated by you.

00:06:21.180 Okay.

00:06:21.780 They don't all have that courage or charisma or just bravery to go up to you.

00:06:28.360 Like you have to somebody else.

00:06:30.360 And on top of just being intimidated by going up to a stranger in general, you're probably

00:06:35.180 surrounded by a big group of friends and even worse if you're surrounded by your guy

00:06:39.380 friends, because they're going to assume that you're dating one of them.

00:06:41.820 And no one wants to go up to a girl who's surrounded by a bunch of guys.

00:06:45.720 Okay. 0.98

00:06:46.000 It's just a cock block.

00:06:47.340 So now you're probably thinking, okay, we have this information, but what do we do with

00:06:50.740 it?

00:06:51.360 First off, I don't really think bars are the best place to really find a relationship.

00:06:56.340 It's great to meet people, have fun, really get to know other people.

00:07:01.460 But if you're putting all your eggs in one basket and really putting so much pressure

00:07:05.460 on finding a guy that will take you seriously, that's going to be very hard.

00:07:08.840 The other thing is that we always make fun of dating apps a lot, but I think the percentage

00:07:13.660 is something like 60% of people now meet their significant other on the internet because

00:07:18.680 people don't go up to other people anymore because they know they can meet you on a dating

00:07:23.860 app.

00:07:24.240 It's so much easier.

00:07:25.640 This past Saturday, I literally went up to a group of guys and was like, do you want to

00:07:29.120 play cards?

00:07:29.960 I wasn't attracted to any of them, but I'm so happy I did it because I made a new group

00:07:33.420 of friends and it was so much fun.

00:07:36.220 And initially I thought that they weren't that fun.

00:07:38.980 Like they just seemed like they were like moping around, they odd RBFs, like whatever.

00:07:44.280 And I went up to them and they ended up being the funniest group of guys ever.

00:07:47.160 And I'm sure a lot of guys think of you that way too.

00:07:49.920 You might.

00:07:50.720 Yeah.

00:07:51.100 And they're like, dang, these girls hung out with us all night and we didn't even smash. 0.98

00:07:58.100 Have like an RBF or just, you don't seem approachable, but little do they know how you really are.

00:08:04.560 So the takeaway from this video is that guys not coming up to you out in public says nothing

00:08:09.540 about you.

00:08:10.540 You can literally be like Gigi Hadid and a guy's still not going to come up to you.

00:08:14.460 So guys are intimidated and it takes so much courage to go up to a girl. 0.50

00:08:21.240 And a lot of guys are cheap and just don't want to buy you a drink.

00:08:23.880 And they're scared of getting used for a drink, which kind of sucks, but I understand.

00:08:30.520 So do not weigh your worth and whether or not people come up to you.

00:08:34.320 Okay.

00:08:34.960 There's cope.

00:08:37.520 There are women that are super hot that do get approached all the time. 1.00

00:08:40.880 I was friends with the nine when I was younger and it was actually crazy going out with her

00:08:46.380 because she just got so much male attention everywhere. 0.99

00:08:50.400 Like she would get a, like, yeah, it was crazy.

00:08:54.480 Anyways, guys, let me know what you think in the comments on why aren't men approaching.

00:08:58.820 Do you approach women?

00:08:59.680 And if you do, let me know how and where in the comments, like the video, subscribe to

00:09:04.060 the channel and I'll see you guys next time.

00:09:05.800 Bye-bye.

Pearl - June 18, 2025

Modern Women Whine About Guys Not Approaching Them

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