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00:02:00.000 what up guys welcome to another episode of pearl daily i am your host pearl and today we are going

00:02:23.080 to be talking about modern women that wish they had children sooner but before we get into today's 0.85

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00:03:18.320 Now let's get into today's topic. I can't talk enough about the modern women life cycle. We 0.64

00:03:27.200 have established here on Pearl Daily and I think it's fairly accurate. I've sent it to other

00:03:32.240 creators that I know and they've verified its validity. Now I can't recap the whole thing here

00:03:38.860 but go back to my previous episodes of Pearl Daily to hear the whole thing. Today we're going

00:03:44.020 to be talking about points four and five of the modern woman life cycle. With four being that

00:03:49.720 modern women will wake up between the ages of 33 to 37, rush to have a kid, find a husband or both. 0.98

00:03:55.800 and number five being modern women will hit their late 30s and early 40s and try to get pregnant 0.99

00:04:01.980 either by a loser or by IVF. Modern women will rush to have kids and some of them will get what 1.00

00:04:09.500 they want. They'll find a man who is irresponsible enough to have a kid by or become a single mother

00:04:15.700 and get inseminated by IVF to be a single mother by choice but when this happens they end up being 0.93

00:04:23.580 older mothers. Now many of these women find more fulfillment in parenting than they ever would 1.00

00:04:29.660 have found in their careers or schools. That's when regret starts creeping in. There is a growing

00:04:36.180 group of women that admit they wish they had kids sooner. They admit that raising a child when

00:04:41.860 they're older has a whole nother set of problems that they did not anticipate. That's what we're

00:04:47.580 going to talk about today. Modern women wishing they had kids sooner. So, okay, here's an article 1.00

00:04:56.980 from BuzzFeed. I don't regret having my son, but I regret what I've given to him by having him later

00:05:07.640 in life. Women who waited until an older age to have kids are sharing their stories. Nowadays,

00:05:13.480 there are a multitude of reasons why women are choosing to get married or have children at an 0.84

00:05:18.080 older age. In 2019, only 51% of 30-year-olds in the United States had been married compared to in

00:05:25.580 1962 when 90% of 30-year-olds had been married at least once. In a previous post, dozens of people

00:05:35.740 from the BuzzFeed community shared their reasoning. Next, I want to dive into a deeper, I wanted to

00:05:41.280 dive deeper into the kids part so i asked people who did wait to become parents at a later age if

00:05:46.300 they're happy with their decision or if there was anything they wish they did differently had their

00:05:50.980 circumstances been different before sharing their stories it's worth reiterating that there's no

00:05:56.440 right or wrong timeline to choose to have kids or not have kids because everyone is so different

00:06:01.180 because it is important to openly talk about this topic because it's nuanced and full of varying and

00:06:07.440 valid perspectives you can find several of these perspectives below so one one couple says or one

00:06:14.940 woman says my husband and i have been married for almost 10 years with little birth control beside

00:06:20.880 the pull-out method it's a great method okay i was fine with waiting to have kids first when i

00:06:28.780 was 30 and he was 35 we started wanting to have kids since we'd already traveled quite a bit and

00:06:33.320 bought a home. After two years of infertility and one miscarriage, we went through IVF and I had my

00:06:37.680 first daughter at 32 and second daughter at 34. I love them both to pieces. He comes from a large

00:06:44.620 family with lots of siblings. We are both from a culture that values large families. I would have

00:06:49.980 loved to have more kids, but I'm just too tired. Having a kid in your 20s versus your 30s isn't

00:06:54.440 the same. You have so much less energy, or at least that's the case for me. We're done having

00:06:59.200 kids he had a vasectomy which was his wish and i'm kind of sad that i'm never going to go through

00:07:03.820 pregnancy labor and have another addition to the family we do have one leftover embryo that i keep

00:07:09.740 in the back of my mind just in case translation i'm going to find someone else to make me kid

00:07:16.280 number two watch out husband okay no regrets here at least not for any of the common reasons

00:07:22.760 mentioned my regret is that my children's grandparents are older too and that my children

00:07:26.920 will lose them at a younger age, then I lost mine. The life, the care, and the wisdom grandparents

00:07:32.420 share is invaluable. Number three, I waited until I found the right partner. We met at 35 and

00:07:38.560 married at 37 and instantly began trying to expand our families. We've gone through multiple

00:07:44.460 miscarriages, failed IVF cycles, and a failed donor egg cycle. I wish I would have been more

00:07:51.040 educated about my body and known how hard it is for a woman of advanced maternal age to try to

00:07:56.280 conceive. Not one OBGYN spoke to me about freezing my eggs. Not one OBGYN ever spoke to me about my

00:08:03.840 eggs and how age affects them. While I was aware that egg quality declines as you age, I was not

00:08:09.260 prepared for the reality that I've now gone through. I never thought to ask questions when

00:08:15.280 I was younger while actively avoiding getting pregnant. It makes me sad that I was never taught

00:08:20.280 about my own body okay she was 37 damn okay I had my first child one year ago and I'm very happy

00:08:30.580 I have no problems getting pregnant after 20 years of birth control it was an easy pregnancy 0.88

00:08:34.760 I have a loving husband who splits care child care responsibilities two sets of retired

00:08:40.860 grandparents who live close by and allow my husband and I to have a weekly date night

00:08:44.700 we can afford a nanny, which makes life so much easier. I'm so glad I waited. So she was anonymous 1.00

00:08:50.560 and she's 40. So yeah, you know, again, this is all a roll of the dice, right? The same way when

00:08:56.120 men get married, it's a roll of the dice. Fertility, it's a roll of the dice. Like 10% of us

00:09:01.360 have, I think it's called endometriosis, cooked, done, naiski, nada. Really,

00:09:09.000 it's not the worst idea to be tested for that at a young age you know what i mean just

00:09:14.900 just to make sure um i didn't end up getting married until 34 then i got right to work having

00:09:20.960 kids asap i had three kids when i was 36 38 and 40 respectively if i had to do it over again

00:09:26.400 i would definitely have kids at a younger age i am now 54 and do not nearly have the same energy

00:09:31.480 i would have if i were younger i'm also scared of having a major health problem before i can get my

00:09:36.160 kids out of the house and through college. Also, in terms of helping for college, I'll only have a

00:09:40.440 few years left to work before I retire, all while having to help my kids through college. So it's

00:09:44.520 not the best timing. I think ahead to grandchildren as well. Will I have the energy and health to be

00:09:50.020 a good grandma? Will I be able to help my kids out if they need? A lot of unknowns. Kelly, 43.

00:09:57.260 Number six, Doug MPA on the website says, Pearl Reed, women want the wedding and not the marriage.

00:10:04.180 modern women want the pregnancy and the birth, but they don't want to be married. It's sad. 0.99

00:10:09.120 I don't even really think, um, they want the kid. Like, I don't think they really want the kid.

00:10:14.760 They just want, um, they, what they want is the, the pregnancy, you know, the clout of being a mom. 0.95

00:10:25.360 That's really important, but being a mom, I don't think they really like that much. Okay.

00:10:31.620 it's not their favorite thing. Okay. Um, I loved having the freedom without kids. When I was in my

00:10:38.500 twenties and thirties, I could focus on myself. Now that I'm older, I have the money, the patience

00:10:43.020 and the time to give my kids a better version of me more than 20 years ago. No regrets. Next. I

00:10:50.740 waited until my career and finances were stable, which took me until the age of 34. Unfortunately,

00:10:55.800 I started developing an eating disorder in my early thirties, which may have significantly

00:11:00.940 in inhibited my ability to conceive my spouse and i are actively trying to get pregnant but i'm

00:11:06.820 terrified that we completely missed our window yeah you did cooked cooked i mean that's cooked

00:11:14.440 i mean i keep saying this on the show because we keep i mean we're cooked like i i do think like

00:11:21.240 i don't think the world's gonna end i think like society will be fine relatively for my whole

00:11:25.920 lifetime, but in terms of like the nuclear family, one mom, one dad and kids cooked. I mean, that's

00:11:31.500 cooked. C-O-O-K, cook, E-D, cooked, cooked, done, nice, naisky, not. Do you know what's funny?

00:11:42.480 I was having a conversation with someone and they, they were calling me, he was calling me

00:11:47.720 blackpilled, right? And this, and I'm like, and this is a guy that was divorced, right? So he's

00:11:53.940 once divorced he has a second wife and I'm talking to him and he's like how can you have

00:11:59.580 this outlook do you not think that like you and your boyfriend could have it because that's what

00:12:03.460 everyone wants to bring up they're like you don't think you guys could have a good relationship

00:12:06.520 like you think marriage is dead and I'm like you're divorced like how are you I haven't even

00:12:13.920 given it a go yet but I'm like you can't predict the future do you know what I mean like I'm like

00:12:20.520 i'm sure i'm sure you thought you were going to be married forever i'm sure i thought that i was

00:12:29.100 going to be with a previous boyfriend forever right we all think things right but you can't

00:12:35.180 you know there's people that think they're going to be at their job forever they get fired you

00:12:38.880 can't really control the universe and you certainly can't control another person so

00:12:42.680 you cannot control if he is going to leave you or she is right so

00:12:47.820 cooked. Pearl Ramsey

00:12:50.500 cooked. You're right. That's

00:12:52.320 true.

00:13:03.580 All right.

00:13:04.200 Nine. I had my first child with my first

00:13:06.240 husband. I convinced myself

00:13:07.680 myself and him that we were loved

00:13:10.200 our lives and wanted to be child free. But really

00:13:12.360 I didn't want kids with him.

00:13:13.740 Oh.

00:13:16.460 Oh.

00:13:17.820 Oh, I, can you imagine your wife writing this about you?

00:13:26.440 That they mean it though.

00:13:27.800 If a woman's putting off having kids with you, I got bad news for you, but well, it 1.00

00:13:34.060 doesn't have to be bad news, right?

00:13:35.380 So this is, this is how you got to be, right?

00:13:39.140 If we take her ego out of this, cause that, that is pretty ego killing, right? 1.00

00:13:43.200 To know it's you.

00:13:44.700 She doesn't want to have kids with, she deems you not worthy of reproducing. 0.99

00:13:47.820 right but but but but but um here's the upside okay here's like the upside in that

00:13:56.740 you don't need to pull out because she's gonna abort 1.00

00:14:00.540 do you know i'm just i'm trying to or she'll make sure she's on birth control or whatever 1.00

00:14:06.500 i'm trying the silver lining like you know the the sad thing is you got about seven

00:14:11.860 years with your wife before she leaves you the upside is you fellas can always do better younger

00:14:19.300 and hotter so if you like what you got going just remember you can always get better so you know

00:14:27.120 it's not really blackpilled it's actually pretty um I would say happy it's pretty happy for the men

00:14:34.660 and the women is kind of happy too I mean we love being side chicks so we can go do that forever 0.79

00:14:40.220 we love being whores now we get to be our true nature so I see this as a win-win sorry fellas

00:14:46.620 okay when I met my second husband I knew I wanted to have children with him and he felt the same 0.96

00:14:51.600 way about me I got pregnant with her first a month after our wedding we had our second right

00:14:55.540 after I turned 38 in our neighborhood in Texas I'm one of the oldest moms with young kids but

00:15:00.140 it couldn't have worked out any other way yeah that girl has no regrets I was set on not having 0.63

00:15:06.240 a kid because I didn't want the baby to have an alcoholic father yet I chose my husband over a

00:15:10.900 child for 14 years I do not regret making this choice and waiting to see if he would get sober

00:15:15.640 because he eventually did after 12 years together on his home on his own and now we are expecting

00:15:21.040 our first and only in my late 30s I believe is a much better choice to have a child at a time

00:15:25.380 when they can be raised better okay this is like the only logical reason like this is kind of a

00:15:31.680 happy story right i mean maybe you shouldn't date an alcoholic but she loved him and she was really

00:15:38.080 in it for the ups and the downs which we love the ups and the downs anyway so she got what she

00:15:42.880 wanted right which is chaos and um now she gets like she tamed the bad boy so now you know this

00:15:50.480 is like every woman's you know what she dreams of and then what she can also do is get the i'm such 0.55

00:15:57.760 a good woman clout points where she can attribute all of his overcoming alcoholism to her which is

00:16:04.060 going to be great for her um all right I believe it is a much better choice to have a child at a 0.93

00:16:10.740 time when they can be raised better just to have them on a ridiculous timeline that society throws

00:16:14.720 at us and expects us to follow the average person in their 20s is definitely not suited and ready

00:16:19.720 to have kids because they have them anyway because they're cute or because they just got married and 0.87

00:16:24.740 it's the next thing to do. 11. Um, I had my son at 33, which in my area is considered older.

00:16:31.560 I sometimes wish I had done things differently and had them earlier or not at all.

00:16:37.000 Some women aren't meant to be mothers. I have nothing in common with most of the other moms 1.00

00:16:41.280 on his t-ball team because I'm 10 years older than most of them. It's hard to make friends.

00:16:46.180 Uh, my friends who do have kids are either much older than my son or they live in another state.

00:16:51.900 I wish I would have been able to have him in my 20s, but then I think I wouldn't have the son I have.

00:16:58.060 I wouldn't have the patience that I have.

00:16:59.940 I think about how exhausted I am when I still have work to do, house to clean, appointments to make, and running him to his stuff.

00:17:06.100 It's so draining.

00:17:06.700 Do you know what's so crazy?

00:17:09.020 Women in the past had kids in their 40s, in their late 30s, right? 0.99

00:17:12.920 Like my grandma did. 0.81

00:17:14.960 But do you know what?

00:17:15.700 She had her ninth kid.

00:17:18.600 Yeah.

00:17:19.580 So do you know what's so funny?

00:17:20.560 my grandma my grandma she she's dead now she dead you know like jesse lee peterson says

00:17:25.660 sorry grandma you know but i asked her before she died i asked her um i said is there anything you

00:17:33.520 like are there any regrets you have in life and you know what she told me she said i wish i had

00:17:38.880 more children and i'm like grandma you had nine kids how many did you want oh you know i was on

00:17:45.020 birth control for a few years and I wish I had 12 12 so that's the thing it's like funny because

00:17:53.720 the women now are like doing less than the women of the past did because like my grandma had nine 1.00

00:17:59.940 kids you know so but they're exhausted from one I'm wondering maybe they had the older kids just

00:18:06.200 like do all the work for them that's the only that's the only workaround I've thought about

00:18:10.960 but by all accounts it seems like they had harder lives um okay to be clear though i love my son i

00:18:19.860 don't regret him i i regret i i don't and don't regret him i regret what i had given to him by

00:18:27.300 having him later okay rj said kids are a gamble i did it the right way and had three kids in my 20

00:18:33.180 child one and two are severely autistic and at 10 and 8 they do not talk and self-harm

00:18:38.640 one in 30 is terrible odds

00:18:41.220 some people just take L's

00:18:45.160 you know what I mean

00:18:45.940 I mean if you had them in your 20s there's nothing you can do

00:18:49.460 you had two autistic kids

00:18:51.600 dang

00:18:52.560 alright

00:18:55.340 Joel there's no offense

00:18:57.180 I don't mean to call your kid an L

00:18:58.600 but

00:18:59.140 I can't really walk that back

00:19:03.380 can I

00:19:03.980 I can't really

00:19:05.100 I can't really be like

00:19:07.160 i said it i'm not a paul you know what i said it i i said what i said joel there's never a good

00:19:17.620 time to have kids one makes sacrifices at any age deal with it and stop complaining girls 0.98

00:19:23.500 yeah okay let me see if you guys super chat on the normal webs on the youtube you can do it too

00:19:31.600 w grandma yeah i mean she just kept going she just was like pop pop pop pop pop it was like

00:19:38.940 with the kids so she did we have had kids like the feminists aren't wrong we have had kids into 1.00

00:19:44.260 the 40s but remember your body changes when you have kids in your 20s right so by the time in your

00:19:53.960 forties. Am I making sense? Like you're more likely to get pregnant again than get pregnant

00:20:02.940 for the first time at 40. That's the catch. That's always like women are like, Oh, my mom 1.00

00:20:09.180 had kids at 42. Yes. So did mine, but she had her sixth kid or her ninth kid, not your first kid

00:20:17.520 with IVF, Diane. Okay. I did things the traditional way. I waited until I was in a good job, stable

00:20:23.540 marriage and big enough house to raise a family. But I regret not having children earlier because

00:20:27.660 I don't have any energy at almost 40 that I had in my twenties from sleepless nights to running

00:20:31.800 around in the ballpark. I'm exhausted and that's running around, rubbing on my child. That's the

00:20:36.120 reason we have decided to only have one child. I'm sure I could physically manage another pregnancy

00:20:41.060 and baby phase. We were planning on having two, but I regret the waiting. Um, my child will be

00:20:46.340 waiting meant that my child will be an only child. 13. I wish I had taken more time to be in shape

00:20:52.640 before getting pregnant. Do you know what? I'm so tired of women blaming, getting, and 1.00

00:20:59.500 you're not fat because you had a kid. I've seen pictures of women from the 1920s, 30s, 40s, 50s. 1.00

00:21:08.840 You're fat because you ate too much. Okay. My mom ran a marathon six months pregnant 0.93

00:21:14.260 and my youngest sister is fine. I mean, she's thriving. She's a good kid.

00:21:18.840 okay um it's been so hard to break 36 years of habits it's been way harder to get motivated to

00:21:25.620 work out and lose the weight while also working out to keep up with the toddler all my friends

00:21:30.060 had kids younger rachel 37 my partner and i had just started back in school wow there's a lot of

00:21:40.040 these okay i'm gonna do one more before we move on to the next so let's see where we are actually

00:21:47.000 know we can go to two more. My partner had just started back in school after taking eight years

00:21:52.400 off. So we put off starting a family until they were done with their degree. Then we waited.

00:21:57.580 We wanted to wait until we were more financially ready. When the time finally seemed right,

00:22:03.880 I was diagnosed with PCOS. After a few rounds of mild fertility treatments failed, we made the

00:22:10.200 decision to not move forward with more aggressive treatments. I wish someone would have told me

00:22:14.420 when I was younger that there was not a right time to start trying. But more than that, I wish

00:22:20.200 someone would have told me that it's okay to stop trying and that feels right too. Infertility is

00:22:25.220 really hard and finally being able to stop beating myself up over it, it was very freeing. Sometimes

00:22:30.940 things don't end up the way that you would have always thought, but that does not always have to

00:22:35.320 be a bad thing. A 15, I didn't find the right partner until my 30s and then had problems getting

00:22:41.040 pregnant which led to us having kids at 38 at first we enjoyed our financial stability

00:22:45.280 and that we were past our partying years we were able to be very attentive and present parents

00:22:51.180 then my mom died and it devastated me to lose a parent in our 40s now I'm really afraid we won't

00:22:56.540 live to see our grandchildren or really know my children when they're adults I want to be an

00:23:01.100 active grandparent and that doesn't look like it's going to happen I'm afraid of being old frail

00:23:05.400 grandma or not being here at all taking care of my aging grandparents and also having very young

00:23:11.020 children. It's tough. And I never thought I'd be in the position and I don't want to burden my kids

00:23:15.580 with that same situation. Anonymous. Okay. So next we have women on Tik TOK talking about their L's 1.00

00:23:23.980 as per usual. So here are women talking about wishing they had kids earlier. 1.00

00:23:30.780 y'all baby what going on y'all baby me i and absolutely i love my bugger nose kids to death

00:23:43.120 i would not trade my children for the world right but again i would have had my children younger

00:23:50.700 if i had known a little better okay and and the sad thing about society and the world is

00:23:57.160 it's like oh they tell you go to school get your career get your career get your career

00:24:01.620 so as women sometimes we put off having children in order to pursue that career and then when we

00:24:07.880 decide to have children we ain't got no energy to run after those kids because toddlers they are a 0.99

00:24:14.840 special kind of something they require oh the the amount of energy and attention a toddler require

00:24:21.400 is insane. So as a woman, it's like we have to think between career or children, career or

00:24:30.720 children. And again, we put off the children. Yeah, we put it off because we don't want to do

00:24:36.640 it. This is what conservative commentators miss. Okay, they completely miss this. There's this

00:24:44.460 idea that women have this innate nature to have children, raise them and be mothers. I don't 1.00

00:24:49.860 believe that's true now you think pearl how could that be true that cannot be true women are 1.00

00:24:55.460 nurturing women are the givers of life that's what i've heard my whole life right well if we're so 1.00

00:25:00.940 nurturing why have we aborted an eighth of the world population

00:25:05.460 why is it that we fought for birth control to push off motherhood as long as humanly possible

00:25:16.180 no way answer these questions it's like it's like okay if you have a fat person

00:25:24.300 and they're like I want to get in good shape and the trainers like eat less and they're like I

00:25:28.940 don't want to do that you're like you don't really want to lose weight right you'd rather

00:25:35.380 eat than and I've been there right I used to I did you know I used to be kind of chunky

00:25:41.520 and I didn't want to give up my, my large caramel lattes. I'd have like three a day.

00:25:46.600 They're so bad for you. I don't want to give it up. Do you know? And I was like,

00:25:50.340 I wanted that more than being thin, I guess. So it's the same concept, right? Yeah. We abort

00:25:57.580 more children each year than die. Yeah, I know. I know. And if we, then we look at like women that 1.00

00:26:04.680 have kids and did you know when, um, a child is found in a dumpster or dead in the first year of

00:26:10.960 life. The number one suspect is always the mother. It's never the father. So the most likely person

00:26:17.600 to kill a kid is the mom. Now, I also cross examined this with the infant mortality rates 0.59

00:26:23.820 in the past. So if one out of three women have abortions now and the infant mortality rate used 1.00

00:26:31.000 to be one out of three, I don't know. I can kind of put two and two together, right?

00:26:40.960 Now, they may have fooled the guys in the past, but there were bones found in bathhouses in Greece, okay? 0.90

00:26:49.360 Women have always killed kids. 1.00

00:26:51.100 We're ruthless, okay? 0.99

00:26:52.420 And we had to be ruthless, right?

00:26:53.980 Because what happened was, in history, if, okay, so if I'm married, right, so I'm happy, I'm like, I love my husband and my kids,

00:27:03.620 and then someone else came in and killed my husband, do you know who's getting killed next?

00:27:10.540 my kids and do you know who I have to fall in love with that guy that killed my entire that's 0.76

00:27:16.560 what we had to deal with ladies like you think life is bad now in the past you had to fall in 1.00

00:27:21.680 love and you you either had to fall in love or fake it real good you want to know why we're two

00:27:26.840 faced yeah because before in the past if we didn't do that do you know who was going to be killed

00:27:33.800 next us do you know who he just killed the husband and the kids you don't think we're next

00:27:40.460 so of course now women it's like we like to be desired like we like being the hot girl in the

00:27:47.380 room but if we really liked being kids then why are we such terrible mothers like if we really

00:27:55.920 liked the kids why do we keep using them as a pawn against the father do you like women don't 1.00

00:28:03.740 like being mothers like I think they like controlling things right like they like to 0.73

00:28:09.080 have the kid to control the guy I think we like attention and being worshipped right so we like

00:28:15.040 we want to post the that we want to post that we're good mothers right like that's that's

00:28:20.800 important to us we want to use the kid for clout right so we want to post the children and like 0.99

00:28:28.180 put them you know I mean we call I think in um Ryan Stone calls it a fuck trophy for clout yeah 0.98

00:28:34.260 we love doing that we like to to say wow I you know this is my kid um other things what else do 0.98

00:28:42.980 we like we like the attention from the baby shower the attention from the wedding the attention from

00:28:47.880 the birth how can you see if a girl likes a guy you got to take all that away 0.59

00:28:51.940 and see if she sticks around but then you never really know till she gets what she wants and

00:29:00.440 I'll tell you what because and you guys do this too haven't you guys ever been dating a woman

00:29:07.340 right you're dating a woman you think you like her you're like this girl's amazing 0.98

00:29:11.360 she's awesome and then you smash you're like fuck I just you know men it's like they're blinded by 0.99

00:29:20.160 their want to smash right like they just want to smash so like they'll think a girl is like a good 1.00

00:29:25.500 person. They'll think she's a nice person. They'll think she's likable. But then, you know, in

00:29:30.240 hindsight, they'll be like, I just liked the sex. Okay. Now we have the same thing, but after we

00:29:37.320 have the kid and don't, this isn't my experience, right? Cause I haven't had a kid, but

00:29:41.460 they figured this out in the forums years ago where women, they, they have the kid or the 1.00

00:29:47.740 wedding, whatever the hell that woman wanted. Now she has to look in front of her and say, 1.00

00:29:51.680 do I even like this guy? Unfortunately, what we've seen is two things. And these are the two

00:29:57.920 uncomfortable truths nobody wants to talk about. I am the bad guy for talking about this. Women 1.00

00:30:03.800 don't want to be mothers as much as we thought. And women don't like men. And it's not personal,

00:30:10.700 guys. We don't like anybody. We don't like each other. We don't like ourselves. So it's not like

00:30:15.100 it's not it's not like it's a shocker we don't like you either right like we don't even we don't

00:30:23.700 like ourselves we don't like our kids we don't like anything like we're just we are just like

00:30:28.200 chaos right so um pearl there's no excuse for abortion 100 of babies put up for adoption are

00:30:36.440 snapped up by couples who want them now i'll tell you what happens so that's true when you have a 0.98

00:30:42.120 kid that's given up for adoption as a baby it's it's pretty much that you'll find a home what

00:30:49.260 happens is when a kid's given up for adoption by a crackhead that's when nobody wants it right

00:30:57.080 because who wants a crack kid you know I mean at that point the kids messed it's like you know I've

00:31:03.300 been on both sides of adoption where my parents gave up a kid and got a kid and a lot of it's

00:31:08.180 nature okay a lot of it I'll tell you what so I had a brother when I was 22 I found out I had

00:31:13.640 another brother long story parents got pregnant young and at 22 they sat me down they said you

00:31:19.380 had a brother and I personally I thought they were lying and he was real and so I met him when I was

00:31:24.920 like 23 I think the next year and it was crazy he was just like us even though we'd never met him

00:31:30.420 like literally we never met him until I was like 23 and he was I couldn't believe it like he walked

00:31:36.780 like us. He had, I had the same major, I was an economics major in college. So was he like,

00:31:42.200 it was like, like this, it was a million things. He was in the same industry. His parents never

00:31:47.640 left their hometown. My family grew up traveling. He had like a sailboat company. Like it was just

00:31:52.480 really cool. And, and, um, he was probably more similar than the teenagers that we adopted.

00:31:59.520 Now, to be fair, they were teenagers, but like, you could still say,

00:32:03.220 you know we had some influence and that's when I realized before then because of how badly single

00:32:09.960 mothers like f up their kids you know what I mean like these crackheads I mean the kids will go to 1.00

00:32:15.460 jail I always thought it was nature or nurture right because the single mother home stats were 1.00

00:32:21.560 so bad but when I found out when I met my brother I was like oh this is nature too so maybe the

00:32:28.240 single mothers are single mothers because they just got some f'd up genes you know maybe they're 1.00

00:32:33.200 just born that way I don't know but my point is there's there's we're going back to this

00:32:38.200 I know on a little tangent women don't want to be mothers and we got to stop we got women want 1.00

00:32:46.860 women want to be whores women don't want to be mothers and women don't like their kids that much 1.00

00:32:51.920 and women don't like men that much because if you look at what we do as a group because I know they 1.00

00:32:57.560 always bring it back to me but what about you Pearl are you gonna abort your kid look I've never done 0.99

00:33:02.340 that i have no plans to do that right but i have to look like at what we do in groups in masses

00:33:10.900 in order to come to like a conclusion about society like for example when i look at the 0.99

00:33:16.740 like women that men have crushes on they have big tits big ass and a symmetrical face and they're 1.00

00:33:21.700 like 22 so we can like the the leads and like james bond movies and all does that make sense 0.99

00:33:29.240 so we can come to a conclusion that men like young hot women with big boobs and tits right 1.00

00:33:34.340 but for some reason we can't come to that same conclusion when women try to sleep with men at 0.98

00:33:40.820 concerts and they throw them like when they're underage throwing themselves at of age adults

00:33:46.260 or like they they sleep with celebrities sending nudes they're getting naked in public like 0.99

00:33:51.480 for some reason we can't accept the fact that like female nature is it's kind of whore right 1.00

00:33:57.960 like that like for society like we can accept that men are dogs but we can't accept that women 1.00

00:34:04.060 are sluts like i don't know what it is about society one we can fully be like yeah men are 1.00

00:34:10.480 gonna if they think they can get away with it she'll never find out they're just gonna do it 0.99

00:34:14.300 unfortunately um but yeah so society they will accept the unflattering truths about men easily

00:34:26.760 right they'll say men are dogs um men are stubborn um you know i mean the list goes on 0.96

00:34:35.020 men are cheaters i mean even the abuse men aren't even abusive it's women that are abusive but 0.97

00:34:40.560 they'll say men are violent which to me i think that's just projection i think women are the 1.00

00:34:49.500 abusive violent ones but whatever right but when we're gonna go to the women we can't accept 1.00

00:34:56.740 the whore nature right and we can't accept the hype like the women are always going to try to 1.00

00:35:03.860 do better if they can we can't accept that nature and we can't we also can't accept the women like 1.00

00:35:10.260 cloud is a drug you know men kind of do know this but we can't say this publicly so

00:35:15.520 all right so let me see if anyone else wanted to read on the website remember you get unlimited

00:35:21.420 super chats on the website you just go and put pearl read 10 bucks a month all you want

00:35:26.060 kids are

00:35:32.500 wait wait

00:35:33.040 there's never a good time

00:35:36.380 to have kids one makes sacrifices

00:35:38.340 at any age deal with it and stop

00:35:40.100 complaining girls Pearl we had 1.00

00:35:42.100 ours at 30 and 34 we're 48

00:35:44.020 now we realized we were way better parents

00:35:46.220 by waiting till we were more mature and less

00:35:48.080 selfish look some people are

00:35:50.080 happy they waited some aren't just

00:35:51.740 depends

00:35:52.560 never forget that the woman

00:35:55.980 body tends to dump toxins into the child's pregnancy by breastfeeding. Detox is a must 1.00

00:36:01.120 at these times, unfortunately. There's no excuse for an abortion. 100% of our babies are put up 0.99

00:36:17.020 for adoption. Okay. Yeah. Yeah. Oh, and I never wanted children. I got unintentionally pregnant

00:36:22.360 and planned on having him but unfortunately had a miscarriage even though i didn't make it past my

00:36:26.940 first trimester as soon as i became pregnant i changed i was so attached to this life and

00:36:31.260 immediately went into mom mode all i cared about was preparing for and protecting my child i share 1.00

00:36:35.740 this only to say after my experience i don't understand how anyone could choose to terminate

00:36:40.200 i was always pro-life but just didn't want to have my own that experience made me passionately

00:36:46.360 pro-life doesn't matter in the right situation you'd kill a kid too all women would look 1.00

00:36:51.680 it's and i hate saying this but we don't you don't know what your morals are until you have

00:37:00.060 the you're in a situation where you can do the wrong thing okay because you know and i hate i 0.57

00:37:08.520 hate saying this anna i am sure that guy was good enough to reproduce with if you kept the kid 0.99

00:37:13.600 but if it was the most loser guy you've ever slept with and please don't give me the bullshit 0.99

00:37:18.720 of I've never slept with a loser. I don't believe you. But I'm just being honest here when 1.00

00:37:25.760 most women and men in the right situation would do the wrong thing, right? Like it's like the

00:37:32.780 billionaire who starts cheating on his wife. Well, he always wanted to cheat, but now he just gets

00:37:37.880 the choice. Or, you know, the guy who gets rich and starts doing drugs and partying. He always

00:37:43.880 wanted to do it he just gets the choice now um so anna says f you that was so unnecessary

00:37:51.260 well then get out of the chat it's like women i mean what you're gonna tone police me on my show 1.00

00:37:58.580 okay see ya all right ben you should review matthew hussey's new video finally forced to

00:38:04.420 address the male struggle struggle now it's truly affecting woman would love your thoughts

00:38:10.320 all right i'm gonna continue some of us we put off children till later on and shout out to the

00:38:15.780 women who don't want kids yeah because some women don't want children so sometimes we hear shaming 1.00

00:38:19.820 women oh you ain't got kids they don't want none and they don't and that's the i i had this thought 1.00

00:38:26.160 too i thought in the beginning i thought hmm i thought that can't be right that can't be that

00:38:36.880 can't be right but then i got to know women more and i was like that is right pro read this happened 1.00

00:38:43.060 to me so much overseas they don't have have the option to abort their children yeah every woman 1.00

00:38:49.380 probably would in the worst situation i'm sure some women have morals but that guy in the bible 1.00

00:38:54.160 said he met a thousand women and he never met one good one so if this i think it was paul or

00:39:00.200 something so if the guy in the bible says this who am i to think that like i am better or other

00:39:09.660 women are better right it's it just is what it is and good for you okay but all i'm saying is if i 0.98

00:39:17.140 could go back 37 with a three-year-old okay you actually had women supporting you uh but now

00:39:24.560 you're just a rage beard i'll cancel your membership i don't care anna i'll can't i'll

00:39:28.680 cancel it for you do you know what this is like women they can't take jokes like this is 1.00

00:39:33.560 oh my god not all not all not all but they just nag it's like they just get in my chat and nag 1.00

00:39:39.540 and nag and nag and nag ah all right so i wouldn't do it it's ghetto i won't do it 1.00

00:39:48.500 it is ghetto to be 37 with a toddler i won't all right so women explains why she had kids 0.97

00:39:55.420 I was asked, when did I have kids? And why did I choose to have them at that time? And kind of what was it like? I grew up in a household that wasn't necessarily happy. You know, our parents did their very best. They tried to provide their very best for us, but they had a really difficult relationship. And it did not make me keen on getting married and having kids. I was actually much more desperate to have something of my own because I watched my mom struggling, not being able to leave, even though he was cheating. That kind of thing always stuck to me. Like I was seven years apart from my sister.

00:40:24.900 so we weren't close. We weren't good friends. We didn't really get along. I always longed for

00:40:29.580 a family to sit around the dinner table, to talk like you see in the movies. I wanted to

00:40:35.220 be very settled when I had kids. So when I met John and we finally got married,

00:40:39.760 you know, I was already like 34 and we wanted to travel. We wanted to buy a house. We wanted

00:40:43.540 to be really settled. And for some reason, I really wasn't scared about it. I wasn't nervous

00:40:47.380 that I wouldn't get pregnant. It wasn't something that I was, again, desperate for. I actually had

00:40:52.000 kids at 38 and 40. I was very lucky. They were both healthy. I was very grateful. We knew two

00:40:57.900 was probably all we could handle. We always wanted a huge family. The reality of having a baby,

00:41:03.160 nobody tells you the truth. So when you finally have kids, you realize, oh, okay, that's a lot

00:41:07.860 harder than I thought it was. We had been married for at least four years. You know what's so funny?

00:41:12.300 Women will always say, this is so much harder than I thought. And men will say, this is easier 0.98

00:41:16.260 than I thought. Isn't that hilarious? The men will be like, this is like the easiest, this is what

00:41:23.740 you guys have been doing the whole time. You should get a job. And the women will say it's 1.00

00:41:27.960 the hardest thing you could ever do. Look. So I kind of knew what I was dealing with. We were

00:41:33.380 able to invest in a home. So we were a little bit more stable and not stressed out all the time

00:41:37.900 about money. I was old enough and mature enough to not feel like I was missing out on anything.

00:41:42.220 I was kind of ready to be able to be home, but more okay with making that sacrifice.

00:41:48.280 Yeah.

00:41:50.860 Women had kids in her late 30s. 1.00

00:41:53.220 We got another one.

00:41:57.520 So I had my first child when I was 37, and then my second when I was 39. 0.95

00:42:03.620 waited waited not on purpose but did the corporate shit okay and what no one tells 0.97

00:42:16.140 you about waiting later to have kids is that you might be menopausal sorry lost some people there 0.99

00:42:25.400 you might become menopausal when your kid is going through puberty 0.99

00:42:31.520 say what it's for reference it's not happening yet but i'm anticipating some bullshit it's going 0.99

00:42:40.540 to be thrown down in the next few years also also no one tells you that your parents when you have 0.58

00:42:48.560 little toddlers little kids who are in elementary school no one tells you that this is when your 0.98

00:42:55.120 parents start acting cray-cray when your parents start acting stupid and you're like am i what are 0.99

00:43:05.380 we doing here what do i have these guys to worry about and now you're making me am i worrying about 0.98

00:43:12.320 you as well or and this is this is on a sadder note i have a lot of friends who have little kids 0.91

00:43:19.900 who are also going through some shit with their parents aging. So wowza. Have kids, wait, 0.97

00:43:28.300 wait, have kids when you're older, you're more mature, you're more ready. You've done life.

00:43:33.800 However, and then play this video. However, other things to think about, roll the fucking 1.00

00:43:39.260 beautiful bean footage. 0.99

00:43:40.880 yeah so here you go now you get another woman and this is the thing we'll always rationalize 1.00

00:43:53.020 our bad behavior always rationalize it um woman talks about how horrible it was getting pregnant 1.00

00:44:00.300 when she was older the other thing about women that i can always take is that when women say 1.00

00:44:05.040 that something is horrible i can always count that it's not that horrible do you know what i

00:44:09.980 mean like they say this is like the worst thing ever like what diane did they get your order wrong

00:44:14.580 at the restaurant now in the chat they're arguing in this chat see if you guys want the drama go to

00:44:19.660 the audacity network.com said pearl wasn't being malicious well you actually had a woman supporting 0.99

00:44:27.700 you but you're just a rage bitch you know it's so funny women support you this is why i'm like 1.00

00:44:32.820 whenever i let women into the chat i just know it's a matter of time before they crash out i'll 1.00

00:44:38.120 tell you this this is just a matter of time because they want to support you but they only

00:44:42.140 want to support you in the way that they want right so it's like I support what you're doing

00:44:47.160 but only when you say the words that I want well well then I guess go to the female go to the other 1.00

00:44:56.980 female there's 10 other female influencers that'll talk in the in the pg tone you're looking for 1.00

00:45:03.840 don't worry Anna um okay so women talks about how horrible for the record it was my boyfriend

00:45:11.700 now husband that it happened with so you just proved my point oh my god you just proved my

00:45:17.540 point I said this is what I so I told this lady earlier I said you didn't have bad genes the guy 0.99

00:45:24.540 that you got pregnant by like if she got pregnant by a loser then it would have been a different

00:45:31.640 situation. This is a guy that she stayed with. It's like she backs up my point. So crazy. Women 1.00

00:45:38.540 talk about how horrible it was getting pregnant when she was older. Let's. 0.93

00:45:46.220 Hi, mommies. Good morning. It's time to slather on the makeup. So this is actually,

00:45:52.940 it's like a French cream. It's more of, um, it's awesome. OMG. She proved pearl corrupt. I know.

00:46:00.680 i know i hate talking about makeup it's not it's not so much a concealer as it is a fucking sunblock 0.98

00:46:06.460 okay to answer this person's question yeah dude i'm old as shit um i had my first kid when i was 0.97

00:46:13.060 38 my second kid of 42 horrible to do physically um if i had if i had a parallel pearl i had it 0.86

00:46:22.920 was a grandfather at 50 and had a lot of energy to spend in some very good times and road trips

00:46:27.800 my oldest grandchild think about grandparents when think about the grandparents when you wait

00:46:33.080 until 40 to have kids parallel universe where i had like a really cool supportive family and a mom

00:46:42.680 dude i would have had babies at like 18. 18 because physically your body is meant to do that 1.00

00:46:50.920 at 18 years old like you just when i was 18 i could like drink a pack of zima and eat 0.99

00:46:58.120 fucking cheeseburgers and go to bed and not gain a pound and your body is just tight like you're 0.98

00:47:03.160 going to snap back now i'm not advocating teen pregnant i was actually thinking about this the 1.00

00:47:09.080 other day teen pregnancy is it the worst thing in the world because you know you could be done with 1.00

00:47:18.280 the whole kids part of your life by the time you're 40 i know a couple people that did that

00:47:24.280 right and they're they're like a they're 40 right they their first kid it was like 15 or 16.

00:47:30.120 i mean you're like done you know and see where am i but if you have a cool mom that can raise the

00:47:36.600 kid for you when you're you know 18 like why not and then you get your life back at 36 when that

00:47:44.680 kid is themselves 18 see that math now that being said having kids older is kind of the jam

00:47:52.440 if you want to have a career if you want to do stuff before you have children i highly recommend

00:47:58.840 that because then you have the resources um to afford help which i need because i don't have

00:48:05.320 relatives um and yeah and you're also more emotionally stable and if you have the energy

00:48:12.280 and the health have babies later it's all good and i this person asking don't don't worry 38 is

00:48:19.880 very young yeah that's a lie so it's not looking too good you you could it could work out for you

00:48:27.800 but there's going to be a lot of people it doesn't work out for

00:48:34.040 yeah do you remember old maid used to be like 25 they used to think you were done 0.68

00:48:38.600 nasci nada um it's like i said if you've got the energy and the health fucking go for it but when 0.95

00:48:43.480 i got married i was 32 years old and tom and i were poor poor poor poor poor poor so i didn't 0.75

00:48:51.800 want to bring children into the world until we could you know afford it 38 is not that old dude 0.96

00:48:56.440 38 is only old in like the midwest but on the coasts that's when bitches start having babies 1.00

00:49:02.680 so pump that kid out bro do what you got that's true it is a later time frame when you're in like

00:49:08.280 new york and those places i was actually here's another cope 45 when my daughter was born i'm not

00:49:18.000 40 i want to address some of the common criticisms that older moms sometimes get first of all women

00:49:23.820 having babies in their 40s isn't a new thing childbearing years span decades so why this is

00:49:28.660 shocking okay it's not a new thing but like my grandma i think she started at 16 and stopped at

00:49:35.360 like 43 it's not a new thing but but they start earlier right they they pop they pop the first

00:49:44.600 one out young to some people is beyond me i know so many older moms both now and also when i was

00:49:49.720 i know this is the future right they're not completely wrong women are going to keep pushing 1.00

00:49:55.260 that shit off they're going to keep trying to use their youth and beauty on themselves 1.00

00:49:59.240 and spend as little as possible on their husband and their families they're going to keep pushing 1.00

00:50:03.780 it off okay so she's not wrong per se okay but

00:50:10.140 it's it's probably not a great thing but you know it is what it is growing up one of the most common

00:50:17.280 criticisms that i see online is that it's not fair to have children in your 40s because those

00:50:21.400 children won't have as much time with you as they would if you had them when you were younger the

00:50:25.100 truth is nobody knows how much time they have but let's say for the sake of the argument that we all

00:50:28.880 get the same number of years and we all expire on the same exact day does that mean that we owe it

00:50:33.220 to the next generation to give birth to them as young as possible not everyone is ready or willing 0.96

00:50:37.860 to have a baby in their teens or 20s even if you do feel ready sometimes finding the right partner

00:50:41.620 can take some time and some people like to become financially stable or reach other goals so this is

00:50:46.900 the thing when women are unsure about a decision they rationalize it they have to explain it when 1.00

00:50:52.820 you're sure you're making the right decision do you guys have to explain it no first it's also

00:50:57.780 really common for people to experience infertility or in my case secondary infertility i planned on

00:51:03.140 having our last child in my 30s but when i was in my 30s i had miscarriages the most carefully made

00:51:07.780 plans can be completely out of our control and that's completely in your control most people

00:51:12.420 don't have miscarriages in their 20s that's like that's like the result of your actions and it's

00:51:18.180 not saying it's wrong to make that choice but you gotta account like that that was your choice it's

00:51:24.980 mind-boggling to me that anyone could think a child has more or less right to exist based on

00:51:29.940 the age of her mother another common concern is the increased risk of chromosomal abnormalities

00:51:34.660 with advancing maternal age the numbers vary a little bit according now so that they're gonna

00:51:39.060 she's gonna rationalize that like you won't have autistic kids the older you wait but

00:51:46.420 they're just gonna abort the autistic ones anyway so she's kind of right in a way because women are 1.00

00:51:52.420 gonna get those testing done and if it's not what they want they'll just sorry fellas it's not your

00:51:58.100 choices there's women are the women are the ultimate eugenicists into the source but a 1.00

00:52:03.740 recent one that i read said that at age 30 a pregnant woman has a 0.1 chance of a baby with

00:52:08.880 down syndrome and then by age 40 it increases to one percent by the time i conceived my daughter at

00:52:13.620 age 44 i had about a 2.5 chance of having a baby with down syndrome conversely i had a greater than

00:52:21.320 97 chance of having a baby with typical chromosomes who was perfectly healthy more than half of people

00:52:26.580 with down syndrome were born to young moms under 35 lastly the idea that older moms have less

00:52:31.620 energy i've had babies both in my 20s and in my 40s and this hasn't been true for me and i really

00:52:36.080 believe that while there are genetic factors that are out of our control our overall fitness and

00:52:41.180 lifestyle choices have more to do with our mental and physical health than our age does those are

00:52:46.720 my thoughts but i'm happy to continue the conversation in the comments yeah this is her

00:52:53.220 and her husband when you're spending every day on your own and here it goes okay wait they've

00:53:02.220 been together since high school why did they wait so long she was hot right she was hot back in the 0.99

00:53:10.240 day she was a dime yeah okay all right well that's all I got today I guess I also pissed off a woman 0.99

00:53:25.600 in the chat I can't say I'm shocked it is what it is anyways guys let me know what you think in the

00:53:32.820 comments um did you what age did you guys have kids and um are you happy with that you had them

00:53:40.280 at that age top comments i'm gonna like pin and reply to so i'll make sure to do that go to the

00:53:45.940 audacitynetwork.com and you do get unlimited chats on the website like the video subscribe

00:53:51.620 to the channel um and i'll see you guys next time bye

00:54:02.820 Thank you.

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Pearl - April 11, 2025

Modern Women Wish They Had Kids Ten Years Ago ｜ Pearl Daily

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