Pearl - April 11, 2025Modern Women Wish They Had Kids Ten Years Ago ｜ Pearl Daily
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In 2019, only 51% of 30-year-olds in the United States were married compared to in 1962, when 90% were married at least once. Women who waited until an older age to have kids are sharing their stories.
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what up guys welcome to another episode of pearl daily i am your host pearl and today we are going
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to be talking about modern women that wish they had children sooner but before we get into today's
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Now let's get into today's topic. I can't talk enough about the modern women life cycle. We
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have established here on Pearl Daily and I think it's fairly accurate. I've sent it to other
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creators that I know and they've verified its validity. Now I can't recap the whole thing here
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but go back to my previous episodes of Pearl Daily to hear the whole thing. Today we're going
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to be talking about points four and five of the modern woman life cycle. With four being that
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modern women will wake up between the ages of 33 to 37, rush to have a kid, find a husband or both.
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and number five being modern women will hit their late 30s and early 40s and try to get pregnant
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either by a loser or by IVF. Modern women will rush to have kids and some of them will get what
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they want. They'll find a man who is irresponsible enough to have a kid by or become a single mother
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and get inseminated by IVF to be a single mother by choice but when this happens they end up being
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older mothers. Now many of these women find more fulfillment in parenting than they ever would
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have found in their careers or schools. That's when regret starts creeping in. There is a growing
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group of women that admit they wish they had kids sooner. They admit that raising a child when
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they're older has a whole nother set of problems that they did not anticipate. That's what we're
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going to talk about today. Modern women wishing they had kids sooner. So, okay, here's an article
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from BuzzFeed. I don't regret having my son, but I regret what I've given to him by having him later
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in life. Women who waited until an older age to have kids are sharing their stories. Nowadays,
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there are a multitude of reasons why women are choosing to get married or have children at an
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older age. In 2019, only 51% of 30-year-olds in the United States had been married compared to in
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1962 when 90% of 30-year-olds had been married at least once. In a previous post, dozens of people
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from the BuzzFeed community shared their reasoning. Next, I want to dive into a deeper, I wanted to
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dive deeper into the kids part so i asked people who did wait to become parents at a later age if
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they're happy with their decision or if there was anything they wish they did differently had their
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circumstances been different before sharing their stories it's worth reiterating that there's no
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right or wrong timeline to choose to have kids or not have kids because everyone is so different
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because it is important to openly talk about this topic because it's nuanced and full of varying and
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valid perspectives you can find several of these perspectives below so one one couple says or one
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woman says my husband and i have been married for almost 10 years with little birth control beside
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the pull-out method it's a great method okay i was fine with waiting to have kids first when i
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was 30 and he was 35 we started wanting to have kids since we'd already traveled quite a bit and
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bought a home. After two years of infertility and one miscarriage, we went through IVF and I had my
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first daughter at 32 and second daughter at 34. I love them both to pieces. He comes from a large
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family with lots of siblings. We are both from a culture that values large families. I would have
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loved to have more kids, but I'm just too tired. Having a kid in your 20s versus your 30s isn't
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the same. You have so much less energy, or at least that's the case for me. We're done having
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kids he had a vasectomy which was his wish and i'm kind of sad that i'm never going to go through
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pregnancy labor and have another addition to the family we do have one leftover embryo that i keep
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in the back of my mind just in case translation i'm going to find someone else to make me kid
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number two watch out husband okay no regrets here at least not for any of the common reasons
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mentioned my regret is that my children's grandparents are older too and that my children
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will lose them at a younger age, then I lost mine. The life, the care, and the wisdom grandparents
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share is invaluable. Number three, I waited until I found the right partner. We met at 35 and
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married at 37 and instantly began trying to expand our families. We've gone through multiple
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miscarriages, failed IVF cycles, and a failed donor egg cycle. I wish I would have been more
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educated about my body and known how hard it is for a woman of advanced maternal age to try to
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conceive. Not one OBGYN spoke to me about freezing my eggs. Not one OBGYN ever spoke to me about my
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eggs and how age affects them. While I was aware that egg quality declines as you age, I was not
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prepared for the reality that I've now gone through. I never thought to ask questions when
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I was younger while actively avoiding getting pregnant. It makes me sad that I was never taught
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about my own body okay she was 37 damn okay I had my first child one year ago and I'm very happy
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I have no problems getting pregnant after 20 years of birth control it was an easy pregnancy
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I have a loving husband who splits care child care responsibilities two sets of retired
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grandparents who live close by and allow my husband and I to have a weekly date night
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we can afford a nanny, which makes life so much easier. I'm so glad I waited. So she was anonymous
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and she's 40. So yeah, you know, again, this is all a roll of the dice, right? The same way when
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men get married, it's a roll of the dice. Fertility, it's a roll of the dice. Like 10% of us
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have, I think it's called endometriosis, cooked, done, naiski, nada. Really,
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it's not the worst idea to be tested for that at a young age you know what i mean just
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just to make sure um i didn't end up getting married until 34 then i got right to work having
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kids asap i had three kids when i was 36 38 and 40 respectively if i had to do it over again
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i would definitely have kids at a younger age i am now 54 and do not nearly have the same energy
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i would have if i were younger i'm also scared of having a major health problem before i can get my
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kids out of the house and through college. Also, in terms of helping for college, I'll only have a
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few years left to work before I retire, all while having to help my kids through college. So it's
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not the best timing. I think ahead to grandchildren as well. Will I have the energy and health to be
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a good grandma? Will I be able to help my kids out if they need? A lot of unknowns. Kelly, 43.
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Number six, Doug MPA on the website says, Pearl Reed, women want the wedding and not the marriage.
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modern women want the pregnancy and the birth, but they don't want to be married. It's sad.
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I don't even really think, um, they want the kid. Like, I don't think they really want the kid.
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They just want, um, they, what they want is the, the pregnancy, you know, the clout of being a mom.
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That's really important, but being a mom, I don't think they really like that much. Okay.
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it's not their favorite thing. Okay. Um, I loved having the freedom without kids. When I was in my
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twenties and thirties, I could focus on myself. Now that I'm older, I have the money, the patience
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and the time to give my kids a better version of me more than 20 years ago. No regrets. Next. I
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waited until my career and finances were stable, which took me until the age of 34. Unfortunately,
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I started developing an eating disorder in my early thirties, which may have significantly
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in inhibited my ability to conceive my spouse and i are actively trying to get pregnant but i'm
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terrified that we completely missed our window yeah you did cooked cooked i mean that's cooked
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i mean i keep saying this on the show because we keep i mean we're cooked like i i do think like
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i don't think the world's gonna end i think like society will be fine relatively for my whole
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lifetime, but in terms of like the nuclear family, one mom, one dad and kids cooked. I mean, that's
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cooked. C-O-O-K, cook, E-D, cooked, cooked, done, nice, naisky, not. Do you know what's funny?
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I was having a conversation with someone and they, they were calling me, he was calling me
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blackpilled, right? And this, and I'm like, and this is a guy that was divorced, right? So he's
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once divorced he has a second wife and I'm talking to him and he's like how can you have
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this outlook do you not think that like you and your boyfriend could have it because that's what
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everyone wants to bring up they're like you don't think you guys could have a good relationship
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like you think marriage is dead and I'm like you're divorced like how are you I haven't even
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given it a go yet but I'm like you can't predict the future do you know what I mean like I'm like
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i'm sure i'm sure you thought you were going to be married forever i'm sure i thought that i was
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going to be with a previous boyfriend forever right we all think things right but you can't
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you know there's people that think they're going to be at their job forever they get fired you
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can't really control the universe and you certainly can't control another person so
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you cannot control if he is going to leave you or she is right so
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our lives and wanted to be child free. But really
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Oh, I, can you imagine your wife writing this about you?
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If a woman's putting off having kids with you, I got bad news for you, but well, it
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If we take her ego out of this, cause that, that is pretty ego killing, right?
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She doesn't want to have kids with, she deems you not worthy of reproducing.
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right but but but but but um here's the upside okay here's like the upside in that
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you don't need to pull out because she's gonna abort
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do you know i'm just i'm trying to or she'll make sure she's on birth control or whatever
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i'm trying the silver lining like you know the the sad thing is you got about seven
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years with your wife before she leaves you the upside is you fellas can always do better younger
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and hotter so if you like what you got going just remember you can always get better so you know
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it's not really blackpilled it's actually pretty um I would say happy it's pretty happy for the men
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and the women is kind of happy too I mean we love being side chicks so we can go do that forever
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we love being whores now we get to be our true nature so I see this as a win-win sorry fellas
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okay when I met my second husband I knew I wanted to have children with him and he felt the same
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way about me I got pregnant with her first a month after our wedding we had our second right
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after I turned 38 in our neighborhood in Texas I'm one of the oldest moms with young kids but
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it couldn't have worked out any other way yeah that girl has no regrets I was set on not having
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a kid because I didn't want the baby to have an alcoholic father yet I chose my husband over a
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child for 14 years I do not regret making this choice and waiting to see if he would get sober
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because he eventually did after 12 years together on his home on his own and now we are expecting
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our first and only in my late 30s I believe is a much better choice to have a child at a time
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when they can be raised better okay this is like the only logical reason like this is kind of a
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happy story right i mean maybe you shouldn't date an alcoholic but she loved him and she was really
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in it for the ups and the downs which we love the ups and the downs anyway so she got what she
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wanted right which is chaos and um now she gets like she tamed the bad boy so now you know this
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is like every woman's you know what she dreams of and then what she can also do is get the i'm such
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a good woman clout points where she can attribute all of his overcoming alcoholism to her which is
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going to be great for her um all right I believe it is a much better choice to have a child at a
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time when they can be raised better just to have them on a ridiculous timeline that society throws
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at us and expects us to follow the average person in their 20s is definitely not suited and ready
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to have kids because they have them anyway because they're cute or because they just got married and
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it's the next thing to do. 11. Um, I had my son at 33, which in my area is considered older.
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I sometimes wish I had done things differently and had them earlier or not at all.
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Some women aren't meant to be mothers. I have nothing in common with most of the other moms
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on his t-ball team because I'm 10 years older than most of them. It's hard to make friends.
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Uh, my friends who do have kids are either much older than my son or they live in another state.
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I wish I would have been able to have him in my 20s, but then I think I wouldn't have the son I have.
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I think about how exhausted I am when I still have work to do, house to clean, appointments to make, and running him to his stuff.
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Women in the past had kids in their 40s, in their late 30s, right?
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my grandma my grandma she she's dead now she dead you know like jesse lee peterson says
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sorry grandma you know but i asked her before she died i asked her um i said is there anything you
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like are there any regrets you have in life and you know what she told me she said i wish i had
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more children and i'm like grandma you had nine kids how many did you want oh you know i was on
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birth control for a few years and I wish I had 12 12 so that's the thing it's like funny because
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the women now are like doing less than the women of the past did because like my grandma had nine
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kids you know so but they're exhausted from one I'm wondering maybe they had the older kids just
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like do all the work for them that's the only that's the only workaround I've thought about
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but by all accounts it seems like they had harder lives um okay to be clear though i love my son i
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don't regret him i i regret i i don't and don't regret him i regret what i had given to him by
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having him later okay rj said kids are a gamble i did it the right way and had three kids in my 20
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child one and two are severely autistic and at 10 and 8 they do not talk and self-harm
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I mean if you had them in your 20s there's nothing you can do
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i said it i'm not a paul you know what i said it i i said what i said joel there's never a good
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time to have kids one makes sacrifices at any age deal with it and stop complaining girls
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yeah okay let me see if you guys super chat on the normal webs on the youtube you can do it too
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w grandma yeah i mean she just kept going she just was like pop pop pop pop pop it was like
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with the kids so she did we have had kids like the feminists aren't wrong we have had kids into
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the 40s but remember your body changes when you have kids in your 20s right so by the time in your
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forties. Am I making sense? Like you're more likely to get pregnant again than get pregnant
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for the first time at 40. That's the catch. That's always like women are like, Oh, my mom
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had kids at 42. Yes. So did mine, but she had her sixth kid or her ninth kid, not your first kid
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with IVF, Diane. Okay. I did things the traditional way. I waited until I was in a good job, stable
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marriage and big enough house to raise a family. But I regret not having children earlier because
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I don't have any energy at almost 40 that I had in my twenties from sleepless nights to running
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around in the ballpark. I'm exhausted and that's running around, rubbing on my child. That's the
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reason we have decided to only have one child. I'm sure I could physically manage another pregnancy
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and baby phase. We were planning on having two, but I regret the waiting. Um, my child will be
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waiting meant that my child will be an only child. 13. I wish I had taken more time to be in shape
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before getting pregnant. Do you know what? I'm so tired of women blaming, getting, and
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you're not fat because you had a kid. I've seen pictures of women from the 1920s, 30s, 40s, 50s.
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You're fat because you ate too much. Okay. My mom ran a marathon six months pregnant
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and my youngest sister is fine. I mean, she's thriving. She's a good kid.
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okay um it's been so hard to break 36 years of habits it's been way harder to get motivated to
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work out and lose the weight while also working out to keep up with the toddler all my friends
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had kids younger rachel 37 my partner and i had just started back in school wow there's a lot of
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these okay i'm gonna do one more before we move on to the next so let's see where we are actually
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know we can go to two more. My partner had just started back in school after taking eight years
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off. So we put off starting a family until they were done with their degree. Then we waited.
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We wanted to wait until we were more financially ready. When the time finally seemed right,
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I was diagnosed with PCOS. After a few rounds of mild fertility treatments failed, we made the
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decision to not move forward with more aggressive treatments. I wish someone would have told me
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when I was younger that there was not a right time to start trying. But more than that, I wish
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someone would have told me that it's okay to stop trying and that feels right too. Infertility is
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really hard and finally being able to stop beating myself up over it, it was very freeing. Sometimes
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things don't end up the way that you would have always thought, but that does not always have to
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be a bad thing. A 15, I didn't find the right partner until my 30s and then had problems getting
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pregnant which led to us having kids at 38 at first we enjoyed our financial stability
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and that we were past our partying years we were able to be very attentive and present parents
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then my mom died and it devastated me to lose a parent in our 40s now I'm really afraid we won't
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live to see our grandchildren or really know my children when they're adults I want to be an
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active grandparent and that doesn't look like it's going to happen I'm afraid of being old frail
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grandma or not being here at all taking care of my aging grandparents and also having very young
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children. It's tough. And I never thought I'd be in the position and I don't want to burden my kids
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with that same situation. Anonymous. Okay. So next we have women on Tik TOK talking about their L's
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as per usual. So here are women talking about wishing they had kids earlier.
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y'all baby what going on y'all baby me i and absolutely i love my bugger nose kids to death
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i would not trade my children for the world right but again i would have had my children younger
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if i had known a little better okay and and the sad thing about society and the world is
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it's like oh they tell you go to school get your career get your career get your career
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so as women sometimes we put off having children in order to pursue that career and then when we
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decide to have children we ain't got no energy to run after those kids because toddlers they are a
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special kind of something they require oh the the amount of energy and attention a toddler require
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is insane. So as a woman, it's like we have to think between career or children, career or
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children. And again, we put off the children. Yeah, we put it off because we don't want to do
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it. This is what conservative commentators miss. Okay, they completely miss this. There's this
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idea that women have this innate nature to have children, raise them and be mothers. I don't
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believe that's true now you think pearl how could that be true that cannot be true women are
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nurturing women are the givers of life that's what i've heard my whole life right well if we're so
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nurturing why have we aborted an eighth of the world population
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why is it that we fought for birth control to push off motherhood as long as humanly possible
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no way answer these questions it's like it's like okay if you have a fat person
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and they're like I want to get in good shape and the trainers like eat less and they're like I
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don't want to do that you're like you don't really want to lose weight right you'd rather
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eat than and I've been there right I used to I did you know I used to be kind of chunky
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and I didn't want to give up my, my large caramel lattes. I'd have like three a day.
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They're so bad for you. I don't want to give it up. Do you know? And I was like,
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I wanted that more than being thin, I guess. So it's the same concept, right? Yeah. We abort
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more children each year than die. Yeah, I know. I know. And if we, then we look at like women that
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have kids and did you know when, um, a child is found in a dumpster or dead in the first year of
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life. The number one suspect is always the mother. It's never the father. So the most likely person
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to kill a kid is the mom. Now, I also cross examined this with the infant mortality rates
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in the past. So if one out of three women have abortions now and the infant mortality rate used
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to be one out of three, I don't know. I can kind of put two and two together, right?
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Now, they may have fooled the guys in the past, but there were bones found in bathhouses in Greece, okay?
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Because what happened was, in history, if, okay, so if I'm married, right, so I'm happy, I'm like, I love my husband and my kids,
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and then someone else came in and killed my husband, do you know who's getting killed next?
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my kids and do you know who I have to fall in love with that guy that killed my entire that's
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what we had to deal with ladies like you think life is bad now in the past you had to fall in
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love and you you either had to fall in love or fake it real good you want to know why we're two
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faced yeah because before in the past if we didn't do that do you know who was going to be killed
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next us do you know who he just killed the husband and the kids you don't think we're next
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so of course now women it's like we like to be desired like we like being the hot girl in the
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room but if we really liked being kids then why are we such terrible mothers like if we really
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liked the kids why do we keep using them as a pawn against the father do you like women don't
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like being mothers like I think they like controlling things right like they like to
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have the kid to control the guy I think we like attention and being worshipped right so we like
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we want to post the that we want to post that we're good mothers right like that's that's
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important to us we want to use the kid for clout right so we want to post the children and like
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put them you know I mean we call I think in um Ryan Stone calls it a fuck trophy for clout yeah
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we love doing that we like to to say wow I you know this is my kid um other things what else do
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we like we like the attention from the baby shower the attention from the wedding the attention from
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the birth how can you see if a girl likes a guy you got to take all that away
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and see if she sticks around but then you never really know till she gets what she wants and
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I'll tell you what because and you guys do this too haven't you guys ever been dating a woman
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right you're dating a woman you think you like her you're like this girl's amazing
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she's awesome and then you smash you're like fuck I just you know men it's like they're blinded by
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their want to smash right like they just want to smash so like they'll think a girl is like a good
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person. They'll think she's a nice person. They'll think she's likable. But then, you know, in
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hindsight, they'll be like, I just liked the sex. Okay. Now we have the same thing, but after we
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have the kid and don't, this isn't my experience, right? Cause I haven't had a kid, but
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they figured this out in the forums years ago where women, they, they have the kid or the
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wedding, whatever the hell that woman wanted. Now she has to look in front of her and say,
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do I even like this guy? Unfortunately, what we've seen is two things. And these are the two
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uncomfortable truths nobody wants to talk about. I am the bad guy for talking about this. Women
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don't want to be mothers as much as we thought. And women don't like men. And it's not personal,
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guys. We don't like anybody. We don't like each other. We don't like ourselves. So it's not like
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it's not it's not like it's a shocker we don't like you either right like we don't even we don't
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like ourselves we don't like our kids we don't like anything like we're just we are just like
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chaos right so um pearl there's no excuse for abortion 100 of babies put up for adoption are
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snapped up by couples who want them now i'll tell you what happens so that's true when you have a
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kid that's given up for adoption as a baby it's it's pretty much that you'll find a home what
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happens is when a kid's given up for adoption by a crackhead that's when nobody wants it right
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because who wants a crack kid you know I mean at that point the kids messed it's like you know I've
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been on both sides of adoption where my parents gave up a kid and got a kid and a lot of it's
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nature okay a lot of it I'll tell you what so I had a brother when I was 22 I found out I had
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another brother long story parents got pregnant young and at 22 they sat me down they said you
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had a brother and I personally I thought they were lying and he was real and so I met him when I was
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like 23 I think the next year and it was crazy he was just like us even though we'd never met him
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like literally we never met him until I was like 23 and he was I couldn't believe it like he walked
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like us. He had, I had the same major, I was an economics major in college. So was he like,
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it was like, like this, it was a million things. He was in the same industry. His parents never
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left their hometown. My family grew up traveling. He had like a sailboat company. Like it was just
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really cool. And, and, um, he was probably more similar than the teenagers that we adopted.
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Now, to be fair, they were teenagers, but like, you could still say,
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you know we had some influence and that's when I realized before then because of how badly single
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mothers like f up their kids you know what I mean like these crackheads I mean the kids will go to
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jail I always thought it was nature or nurture right because the single mother home stats were
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so bad but when I found out when I met my brother I was like oh this is nature too so maybe the
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single mothers are single mothers because they just got some f'd up genes you know maybe they're
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just born that way I don't know but my point is there's there's we're going back to this
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I know on a little tangent women don't want to be mothers and we got to stop we got women want
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women want to be whores women don't want to be mothers and women don't like their kids that much
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and women don't like men that much because if you look at what we do as a group because I know they
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always bring it back to me but what about you Pearl are you gonna abort your kid look I've never done
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that i have no plans to do that right but i have to look like at what we do in groups in masses
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in order to come to like a conclusion about society like for example when i look at the
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like women that men have crushes on they have big tits big ass and a symmetrical face and they're
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like 22 so we can like the the leads and like james bond movies and all does that make sense
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so we can come to a conclusion that men like young hot women with big boobs and tits right
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but for some reason we can't come to that same conclusion when women try to sleep with men at
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concerts and they throw them like when they're underage throwing themselves at of age adults
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or like they they sleep with celebrities sending nudes they're getting naked in public like
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for some reason we can't accept the fact that like female nature is it's kind of whore right
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like that like for society like we can accept that men are dogs but we can't accept that women
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are sluts like i don't know what it is about society one we can fully be like yeah men are
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gonna if they think they can get away with it she'll never find out they're just gonna do it
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unfortunately um but yeah so society they will accept the unflattering truths about men easily
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right they'll say men are dogs um men are stubborn um you know i mean the list goes on
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men are cheaters i mean even the abuse men aren't even abusive it's women that are abusive but
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they'll say men are violent which to me i think that's just projection i think women are the
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abusive violent ones but whatever right but when we're gonna go to the women we can't accept
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the whore nature right and we can't accept the hype like the women are always going to try to
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do better if they can we can't accept that nature and we can't we also can't accept the women like
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cloud is a drug you know men kind of do know this but we can't say this publicly so
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all right so let me see if anyone else wanted to read on the website remember you get unlimited
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super chats on the website you just go and put pearl read 10 bucks a month all you want
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body tends to dump toxins into the child's pregnancy by breastfeeding. Detox is a must
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at these times, unfortunately. There's no excuse for an abortion. 100% of our babies are put up
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for adoption. Okay. Yeah. Yeah. Oh, and I never wanted children. I got unintentionally pregnant
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and planned on having him but unfortunately had a miscarriage even though i didn't make it past my
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first trimester as soon as i became pregnant i changed i was so attached to this life and
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immediately went into mom mode all i cared about was preparing for and protecting my child i share
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this only to say after my experience i don't understand how anyone could choose to terminate
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i was always pro-life but just didn't want to have my own that experience made me passionately
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pro-life doesn't matter in the right situation you'd kill a kid too all women would look
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it's and i hate saying this but we don't you don't know what your morals are until you have
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the you're in a situation where you can do the wrong thing okay because you know and i hate i
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hate saying this anna i am sure that guy was good enough to reproduce with if you kept the kid
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but if it was the most loser guy you've ever slept with and please don't give me the bullshit
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of I've never slept with a loser. I don't believe you. But I'm just being honest here when
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most women and men in the right situation would do the wrong thing, right? Like it's like the
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billionaire who starts cheating on his wife. Well, he always wanted to cheat, but now he just gets
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the choice. Or, you know, the guy who gets rich and starts doing drugs and partying. He always
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wanted to do it he just gets the choice now um so anna says f you that was so unnecessary
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well then get out of the chat it's like women i mean what you're gonna tone police me on my show
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okay see ya all right ben you should review matthew hussey's new video finally forced to
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address the male struggle struggle now it's truly affecting woman would love your thoughts
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all right i'm gonna continue some of us we put off children till later on and shout out to the
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women who don't want kids yeah because some women don't want children so sometimes we hear shaming
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women oh you ain't got kids they don't want none and they don't and that's the i i had this thought
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too i thought in the beginning i thought hmm i thought that can't be right that can't be that
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can't be right but then i got to know women more and i was like that is right pro read this happened
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to me so much overseas they don't have have the option to abort their children yeah every woman
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probably would in the worst situation i'm sure some women have morals but that guy in the bible
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said he met a thousand women and he never met one good one so if this i think it was paul or
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something so if the guy in the bible says this who am i to think that like i am better or other
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women are better right it's it just is what it is and good for you okay but all i'm saying is if i
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could go back 37 with a three-year-old okay you actually had women supporting you uh but now
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you're just a rage beard i'll cancel your membership i don't care anna i'll can't i'll
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cancel it for you do you know what this is like women they can't take jokes like this is
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oh my god not all not all not all but they just nag it's like they just get in my chat and nag
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and nag and nag and nag ah all right so i wouldn't do it it's ghetto i won't do it
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it is ghetto to be 37 with a toddler i won't all right so women explains why she had kids
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I was asked, when did I have kids? And why did I choose to have them at that time? And kind of what was it like? I grew up in a household that wasn't necessarily happy. You know, our parents did their very best. They tried to provide their very best for us, but they had a really difficult relationship. And it did not make me keen on getting married and having kids. I was actually much more desperate to have something of my own because I watched my mom struggling, not being able to leave, even though he was cheating. That kind of thing always stuck to me. Like I was seven years apart from my sister.
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so we weren't close. We weren't good friends. We didn't really get along. I always longed for
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a family to sit around the dinner table, to talk like you see in the movies. I wanted to
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be very settled when I had kids. So when I met John and we finally got married,
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you know, I was already like 34 and we wanted to travel. We wanted to buy a house. We wanted
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to be really settled. And for some reason, I really wasn't scared about it. I wasn't nervous
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that I wouldn't get pregnant. It wasn't something that I was, again, desperate for. I actually had
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kids at 38 and 40. I was very lucky. They were both healthy. I was very grateful. We knew two
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was probably all we could handle. We always wanted a huge family. The reality of having a baby,
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nobody tells you the truth. So when you finally have kids, you realize, oh, okay, that's a lot
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harder than I thought it was. We had been married for at least four years. You know what's so funny?
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Women will always say, this is so much harder than I thought. And men will say, this is easier
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than I thought. Isn't that hilarious? The men will be like, this is like the easiest, this is what
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you guys have been doing the whole time. You should get a job. And the women will say it's
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the hardest thing you could ever do. Look. So I kind of knew what I was dealing with. We were
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able to invest in a home. So we were a little bit more stable and not stressed out all the time
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about money. I was old enough and mature enough to not feel like I was missing out on anything.
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I was kind of ready to be able to be home, but more okay with making that sacrifice.
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So I had my first child when I was 37, and then my second when I was 39.
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waited waited not on purpose but did the corporate shit okay and what no one tells
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you about waiting later to have kids is that you might be menopausal sorry lost some people there
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you might become menopausal when your kid is going through puberty
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say what it's for reference it's not happening yet but i'm anticipating some bullshit it's going
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to be thrown down in the next few years also also no one tells you that your parents when you have
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little toddlers little kids who are in elementary school no one tells you that this is when your
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parents start acting cray-cray when your parents start acting stupid and you're like am i what are
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we doing here what do i have these guys to worry about and now you're making me am i worrying about
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you as well or and this is this is on a sadder note i have a lot of friends who have little kids
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who are also going through some shit with their parents aging. So wowza. Have kids, wait,
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wait, have kids when you're older, you're more mature, you're more ready. You've done life.
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However, and then play this video. However, other things to think about, roll the fucking
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yeah so here you go now you get another woman and this is the thing we'll always rationalize
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our bad behavior always rationalize it um woman talks about how horrible it was getting pregnant
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when she was older the other thing about women that i can always take is that when women say
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that something is horrible i can always count that it's not that horrible do you know what i
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mean like they say this is like the worst thing ever like what diane did they get your order wrong
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at the restaurant now in the chat they're arguing in this chat see if you guys want the drama go to
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the audacity network.com said pearl wasn't being malicious well you actually had a woman supporting
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you but you're just a rage bitch you know it's so funny women support you this is why i'm like
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whenever i let women into the chat i just know it's a matter of time before they crash out i'll
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tell you this this is just a matter of time because they want to support you but they only
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want to support you in the way that they want right so it's like I support what you're doing
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but only when you say the words that I want well well then I guess go to the female go to the other
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female there's 10 other female influencers that'll talk in the in the pg tone you're looking for
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don't worry Anna um okay so women talks about how horrible for the record it was my boyfriend
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now husband that it happened with so you just proved my point oh my god you just proved my
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point I said this is what I so I told this lady earlier I said you didn't have bad genes the guy
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that you got pregnant by like if she got pregnant by a loser then it would have been a different
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situation. This is a guy that she stayed with. It's like she backs up my point. So crazy. Women
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talk about how horrible it was getting pregnant when she was older. Let's.
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Hi, mommies. Good morning. It's time to slather on the makeup. So this is actually,
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it's like a French cream. It's more of, um, it's awesome. OMG. She proved pearl corrupt. I know.
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i know i hate talking about makeup it's not it's not so much a concealer as it is a fucking sunblock
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okay to answer this person's question yeah dude i'm old as shit um i had my first kid when i was
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38 my second kid of 42 horrible to do physically um if i had if i had a parallel pearl i had it
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was a grandfather at 50 and had a lot of energy to spend in some very good times and road trips
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my oldest grandchild think about grandparents when think about the grandparents when you wait
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until 40 to have kids parallel universe where i had like a really cool supportive family and a mom
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dude i would have had babies at like 18. 18 because physically your body is meant to do that
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at 18 years old like you just when i was 18 i could like drink a pack of zima and eat
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fucking cheeseburgers and go to bed and not gain a pound and your body is just tight like you're
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going to snap back now i'm not advocating teen pregnant i was actually thinking about this the
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other day teen pregnancy is it the worst thing in the world because you know you could be done with
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the whole kids part of your life by the time you're 40 i know a couple people that did that
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right and they're they're like a they're 40 right they their first kid it was like 15 or 16.
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i mean you're like done you know and see where am i but if you have a cool mom that can raise the
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kid for you when you're you know 18 like why not and then you get your life back at 36 when that
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kid is themselves 18 see that math now that being said having kids older is kind of the jam
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if you want to have a career if you want to do stuff before you have children i highly recommend
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that because then you have the resources um to afford help which i need because i don't have
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relatives um and yeah and you're also more emotionally stable and if you have the energy
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and the health have babies later it's all good and i this person asking don't don't worry 38 is
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very young yeah that's a lie so it's not looking too good you you could it could work out for you
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but there's going to be a lot of people it doesn't work out for
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yeah do you remember old maid used to be like 25 they used to think you were done
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nasci nada um it's like i said if you've got the energy and the health fucking go for it but when
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i got married i was 32 years old and tom and i were poor poor poor poor poor poor so i didn't
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want to bring children into the world until we could you know afford it 38 is not that old dude
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38 is only old in like the midwest but on the coasts that's when bitches start having babies
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so pump that kid out bro do what you got that's true it is a later time frame when you're in like
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new york and those places i was actually here's another cope 45 when my daughter was born i'm not
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40 i want to address some of the common criticisms that older moms sometimes get first of all women
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having babies in their 40s isn't a new thing childbearing years span decades so why this is
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shocking okay it's not a new thing but like my grandma i think she started at 16 and stopped at
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like 43 it's not a new thing but but they start earlier right they they pop they pop the first
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one out young to some people is beyond me i know so many older moms both now and also when i was
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i know this is the future right they're not completely wrong women are going to keep pushing
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that shit off they're going to keep trying to use their youth and beauty on themselves
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and spend as little as possible on their husband and their families they're going to keep pushing
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it's it's probably not a great thing but you know it is what it is growing up one of the most common
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criticisms that i see online is that it's not fair to have children in your 40s because those
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children won't have as much time with you as they would if you had them when you were younger the
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truth is nobody knows how much time they have but let's say for the sake of the argument that we all
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get the same number of years and we all expire on the same exact day does that mean that we owe it
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to the next generation to give birth to them as young as possible not everyone is ready or willing
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to have a baby in their teens or 20s even if you do feel ready sometimes finding the right partner
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can take some time and some people like to become financially stable or reach other goals so this is
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the thing when women are unsure about a decision they rationalize it they have to explain it when
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you're sure you're making the right decision do you guys have to explain it no first it's also
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really common for people to experience infertility or in my case secondary infertility i planned on
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having our last child in my 30s but when i was in my 30s i had miscarriages the most carefully made
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plans can be completely out of our control and that's completely in your control most people
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don't have miscarriages in their 20s that's like that's like the result of your actions and it's
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not saying it's wrong to make that choice but you gotta account like that that was your choice it's
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mind-boggling to me that anyone could think a child has more or less right to exist based on
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the age of her mother another common concern is the increased risk of chromosomal abnormalities
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with advancing maternal age the numbers vary a little bit according now so that they're gonna
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she's gonna rationalize that like you won't have autistic kids the older you wait but
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they're just gonna abort the autistic ones anyway so she's kind of right in a way because women are
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gonna get those testing done and if it's not what they want they'll just sorry fellas it's not your
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choices there's women are the women are the ultimate eugenicists into the source but a
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recent one that i read said that at age 30 a pregnant woman has a 0.1 chance of a baby with
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down syndrome and then by age 40 it increases to one percent by the time i conceived my daughter at
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age 44 i had about a 2.5 chance of having a baby with down syndrome conversely i had a greater than
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97 chance of having a baby with typical chromosomes who was perfectly healthy more than half of people
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with down syndrome were born to young moms under 35 lastly the idea that older moms have less
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energy i've had babies both in my 20s and in my 40s and this hasn't been true for me and i really
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believe that while there are genetic factors that are out of our control our overall fitness and
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lifestyle choices have more to do with our mental and physical health than our age does those are
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my thoughts but i'm happy to continue the conversation in the comments yeah this is her
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and her husband when you're spending every day on your own and here it goes okay wait they've
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been together since high school why did they wait so long she was hot right she was hot back in the
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day she was a dime yeah okay all right well that's all I got today I guess I also pissed off a woman
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in the chat I can't say I'm shocked it is what it is anyways guys let me know what you think in the
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comments um did you what age did you guys have kids and um are you happy with that you had them
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at that age top comments i'm gonna like pin and reply to so i'll make sure to do that go to the
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