Pearl - March 20, 2024＂Most Women Trust The Wrong People＂ Pearl Reacts To The Controlling Wives Of The Church
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In this episode of Relatable Monday, I discuss a growing trend within the conservative Christian right that I see in the media, social media, and in the culture at large. It's a movement that I think many of us have seen within conservative media and social media. In this episode, I talk about what I see happening within the Christian right, and why I think it needs to stop.
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And finally, Christian women listen to their pastor before they listen to their husband.
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How do you trust your husband enough to have a child by him,
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but yet still go to a pastor for advice before you go to your husband?
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Okay, an example that I see of the way that Christian,
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and this is why I put her in the title, no offense.
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Remember, the red pill is just men trading notes.
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You don't have to interact with it if you don't want to.
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hey guys welcome to relatable happy monday hope everyone had a wonderful weekend um so i spent a
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lot of time over the past couple days thinking about what i really want to discuss today how i
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want to approach this topic we are going to talk about tim keller the pastor the author who died
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I'm bad at putting timestamps guys so please excuse me and dress something that's going on
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online if you're not really online very much particularly if you're not on Twitter you might
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have no idea about what I'm about to discuss this trend this movement that I'm about to talk about
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or how any of it has to do with me in this podcast I don't want to make it about me I don't want to
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make it about me I want to make it about encouraging you encouraging Christians particularly Christian
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women. I've seen a movement both within the secular and the Christian right. I consider myself
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on the Christian right. I am a conservative. I'm on the right side of the political cultural
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spectrum. I am a Christian. I consider myself a conservative Christian because I believe that
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what is referred to as a conservative view of the Bible is actually just a biblical view of the Bible
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and faith um but the movement that i'm talking about within a segment of the christian right
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could maybe be called like the trad movement or in some cases and again you might not right now
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recognize where this trend is or it's like women we can't get to the point right
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but i'm like a minute in i'm sorry where it's going and that's okay and i'll give you some
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examples i don't want to give too many specific examples because there's so many different
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caveats that i have to put like this person is kind of part of this movement this is not
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this is a tweet that kind of represents it yeah and i'll tell you why because again there's the
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core basic eyes trading notes it's not me all right i'm just a chick talking about this stuff
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and then people yeah yeah yeah but it doesn't but those of you who are in conservatism certainly
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conservative media or who just consume it you've probably seen the direction that all of this
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is going. And particularly if you're not on Twitter, you may not have seen it, but I'm
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going to try to explain it the best I can. And there are good chances that you at least have a
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feeling about what I'm talking about. So I'm like two minutes into this. Are we sorry? You'd think
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that the red pill, I'm sorry, I need to get timestamps. I'm sorry, guys. I'm sorry. I apologize.
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As I called it would just be kind of becoming a conservative. And maybe it was at one point
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realizing that the mainstream narratives about everything race gender economics is just wrong
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but it's actually now kind of morphed into a strange collection of perpetually online men
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who complain about women okay notice how she's already starting the shaming language this is
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what i mean when i said when i say that christian women use the same shame insult guilt need to be
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right as non-christian women it is the same i'm sorry i grew up around y'all y'all mostly catholics
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but christians i have been in the hood in london arguably i don't see a difference
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i don't see a difference and equate masculinity to physical fitness and ultra self-sufficiency
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and what i mean by that is like in some of these circles it's looked down upon to be a monogamous
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in a monogamous relationship or in a marriage at all um in some they emphasize the importance of
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getting a trad service oriented submissive wife why is that wrong
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a trad service or blessing isn't that what you're supposed to want
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now it's like we're shaming men for wanting what they want and uh these are often represented
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go get you someone to argue with twitter accounts constantly posting tick tock videos of
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girls saying stupid things or stories of girls betraying their boyfriends or girls at the gym
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wearing scandalous clothing uh angry that guys are looking at them basically this group both of
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those who are like no i'm non-monogamous and i think you know being a strong man is really just
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kind of sowing my wild oats everywhere and the side that's like oh no we need to get married to
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like the most submissive trad wife out there both of these groups it seems from kind of what they're
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saying they view girls or depict girls women as dumb as promiscuous okay so again if women are
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dumb and promiscuous it's the men depicting them as dumb and promiscuous we couldn't possibly
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just do that behavior oh it's the men the men the men god you guys are killing me sometimes this
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stop s-i-m-p-s-i-m-p-i-n-g stop simping sorry all as radical feminists they believe that feminism is
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the cause of all of our problems they're really not that different than incels and voluntary
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celibates who think the same thing girls women that's the they're the core of all of our problems
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as a country and speaking as someone who knows and has talked about the modern female propensity
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to be overly self-focused and to be duped by any political narrative that plays upon
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our feelings to the detriment see again we are just duped you innocent
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i don't know blessing is it is it unbiblical to say it's a choice is that unbiblical your pastor
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i don't know they say i'm not i'm not a i'm not a real christian they say i'm not like enough so
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i don't know you may you're probably enough being a pastor is that unbiblical to say it's a choice
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no no no am i wrong is this no no you're not wrong no no just the men have choices but women
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don't we're just duped of our country um the first one was the basis of my first book the
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trendy narcissism that i talk about a lot the latter the over emphasis on feelings when it
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comes to political and cultural decisions is the focus of my second book coming out next year. So
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I'm no coddler of women. I'm no feminist. And yet I see and I'm concerned by the different flavors
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of woman hatred. I see. See, I'm no feminist, but I'm behaving in the same way that feminists do
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because now she's going to the men are misogynists. Now they're just women haters. I'm going to tell
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men how to talk. Online discourse today. Yes, of course, from the left in the form of elevating men
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who pretend they're women, excoriating every discontent white woman as a Karen. Yet we know
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that progressives hate God's design. They hate true femininity and true masculinity. And so I
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am used to and expect a kind of a form of woman hatred from a lot of people on the left, but
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also from the right uh some uh some of whom some people on the right um love to play the women are
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dumb and have caused most of the societal problems that we have today i mean
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is that true i mean is it is it is it am i wrong now i'm trying to stay youtube safe i'll just
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keep that one to myself i'll keep that one trope they love to play on that trope and there's
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crossover between this and the that's the red pill and then the trad movement which is also
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just a weird part of conservatism which claims to be a push for traditional ways of life
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traditional marriage and of course i am a huge advocate the biggest advocate of traditional
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marriage and think we should elevate it but this online sect but not not the way that men
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want to just the way I want to. What I'm talking about that you've probably seen before isn't
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necessarily talking about biblical marriage or biblical gender roles. There is a strange
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overemphasis in this community, if you will, movement, trend, whatever. I think it's a grift,
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but a strange overemphasis on the need to subdue women and on creating this almost like 19th
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century aesthetic in your home and way of life. There's a lot of criticism from this crowd of
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women who, a criticism of women who work in any way that is not strictly domestic. And here's
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what I mean when I say that this group is not necessarily Christian, even though they're quote
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unquote trad. There was a young woman the other day who tagged me in her Instagram story. She
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was very angry about something that I said. I don't even remember what. She's an influencer,
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I guess. I think I agree with her on this point. Small following. I didn't respond to anything that
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she said but she claims yeah yeah yeah she's she's with the she's with the the now she's
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going to talk about the the trads with the bikini pictures on instagram we'll agree there but you
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guys this is what i'm showing you men are sick of this they're sick of being told how to talk
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they're they're sick of being told to watch their tone they're they're and the more we do this
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the more it's just it it's just gonna not work you're gonna keep seeing young men leaving and
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then crying about that they're leaving and blaming pearl for it like i did this okay
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so that's the controlling wives archetype that i see in the church
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okay so the next one we have the simps the controlling wives and the born again virgins
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Now, the born-again virgins are the single mothers, ex-OF chicks, and women that maybe had a history of sex work and single motherhood.
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These are women that have some sort of public scarlet letter, per se.
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Okay. But these women tend to come to church to be absolved of all of the consequences of their
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decisions. Many of these women mask it under finding God, but generally speaking, it's more
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to find a husband and be absolved of any wrongdoings. Many of these women passed over the
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men that would have married them in their youth, gave their best years to someone that didn't
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appreciate them and still expect those men to clean up the mess after and to be fair to them
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some of you simps do it some of you in church but for every one woman that finds a simp there's five
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that don't and you'll see this by looking at all the young women in church that are single
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young virgins you guys are so bad that men don't even want virgins anymore because of the headache
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you are known to come with virgins even have the reputation of being controlling
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of being controlling and even withholding sex after marriage don't shoot the messenger okay
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this is just what the men tell me men are biologically wired to want a virgin and the
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reputation of christian virgin women is so bad that men are avoiding the hassle
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don't shoot the messenger this is just what the guys are saying to me this is what the guys are
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okay so many women come to church wanting to do a rebrand if you will notice the women that do
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tend to find a husband in church or a simp generally she is older than him and the younger
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man just doesn't know any better many of these men are roped into a lifetime decision based on
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the advice that trads are giving them when oftentimes there are predatory women in church
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predatory okay generally these women put on a dress tell everyone how godly they are
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but usually the mask comes off eventually, usually to whatever simp they got to marry them.
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Okay, so now this all came full circle. I need to get the clip. This all came full circle
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during my debate with Michael Knowles. Okay, this all came full circle. And if you guys want to hate
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me for milking this interview, I'm going to do it. And I'm going to do it more. I'm going to keep
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doing it so you can be mad let me let me get this time stamp so during the debate with michael knolls
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it was actually quite ironic so we were talking about only only can we say of on youtube is there
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anything against let's just leave it for now okay let me make sure this is the right part
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whatever this actually there have been miracles happen but I would have that
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okay okay there we go I think it's here me so how do we know our purpose men
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have the scriptures we have revelation but we also have our conscience and
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reading us toward marriage men and you would disagree no you wouldn't well so
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there you go no no no well sort of sort of I think men
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I think that in the current market there are just not enough wives to go
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around there there are not enough wives to go women that deserve to be wise in
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in my opinion okay you'd agree on that right well I don't like so so I don't
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know exactly what you mean by that I maybe I would agree but I don't know
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exactly what you mean by it okay do you think men should have standards yes do
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you think it's it's okay for them to want a woman that's in shape you think
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So what are men supposed to do in the meantime?
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They're supposed to convince the women to get in shape and get religious.
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Maybe the men would be more persuasive than you would.
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Did the OnlyFans models quit that you interviewed?
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there's actually there I mean miracles happen but I wouldn't bet out there
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there are a couple girls there are a couple girls have written into my show
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not from the whatever podcast but who were watching my show and you know
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really watching in the member block and everything who were both like online
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pornographers to some degree and one said she was gonna quit I kind of lost
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track of her in the show another one quit had a major conversion and you know
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what a what a wonderful one on Twitter yes yeah her
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OF link was still up so a lot of times yes it was I checked it yes it was I'm positive she she posted
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it and showed that it was it was I don't know I don't know she seemed but but in any case are
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you denying the principle okay so here we go here we go all right so wait actually let me keep going
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I think I think there is a little more I'm gonna keep going that people can change yeah I mean God
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can forgive you but men don't have to I wouldn't repentance is good but I
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wouldn't say that makes her wife worthy if you still used to have an oaf
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account you you would agree that men in general should not date women that had
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only fans accounts it's not ideal okay you can't definitively you can't
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definitively say that a woman okay I don't think it's disqualifying well I
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just I think you're gonna have a tough time selling guys on that so he starts
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men can have standards. Yes, Pearl, men can have standards. Then
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we can't disqualify a chick for having OF content on the internet. Guys, ladies,
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can we just look at it from the men's point of view? If you had a son, blessing, if you had a
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son, would you tell him to wife a chick? Being a pastor, no. Blessing is a very forgiving guy.
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blessing preaches here he preaches to all of us would you say that it would be a good choice
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for him to date a woman with an only fan why is this so hard christians god can forgive you of
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your sin but you should be doing it for god not to get something out of it and so okay now it was
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so funny because this all proved my point this all proved my point so i during this clip we were
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actually talking about two different women. We were communicating, but we both were confused,
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okay? I was talking about, I'm going to show you this on my screen. All right, so I was talking
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about, let me make this full screen, this woman right here. This is who I was talking about.
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so this girl you know this guy on twitter has done a great job reclaim your throne has done
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a great job exposing this chick because she said that you know she was leaving and then she that's
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who i was talking about now i didn't realize you can take it down i didn't realize that michael
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was actually talking about let me actually put in her x at this girl and she deleted all of it
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because she proved my point when so many times you chicks argue with me and then you prove my point
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um did she block me she might have blocked me so oh oh i got well i'll just show that i'll just
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show the screen i'm blocked dang it oh oh no no i wanted the of chicks to oh i just i wanted i i
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totally wanted to see what an ex-sex worker has to think. I, oh, why God, why? Why do bad things
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happen to good people? Okay. They're going to, they're going to kill me for this one. Okay.
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But I found, um, this chick had a whole essay and I, I, it was a whole essay talking about how I was
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wrong for quest even questioning her conversion even saying how that doesn't seem sincere
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the same way i wouldn't do business with a former convict if someone has scammed you know even that
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wolf of wall street guy i mean he's charismatic there's stuff we can learn from him but do i
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want to do business am I going to trust him with my family's money no the same way why would you
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trust an OF chick being the mother of your children and as women why is this so difficult
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for us to understand the men have put up with so much they put up with us being overweight
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we don't got to be virgins anymore but we can't draw the line at sex work
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really the men are wrong for saying you know what sex work is the line this
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woman and this is what happens when do you see who someone truly is when they're
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angry what do they do when they are angry this woman took off her mask she's
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threatened and I have a screenshot of it I said why don't you come on the stream
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and talk. She asks to fight me instead. Is that who we want? Like, you know, Mike, I'm just,
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and I'm not saying this to pick on Michael, right? I'm saying this because young men will watch that
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stuff and think it's actually a good idea. They won't. That's why the men are leaving.
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But the way that they react to me is how they're going to react to you. I am just a stranger on
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the internet giving her opinions i am just a random chick okay so what i tend to see happen
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in church is we have the controlling wives we have the
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born again virgins and we have the simps and blessing's the only one left right blessing
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should not marry at all because nothing is good enough for them
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where women can do the bare minimum and be rewarded
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so my question is am i wrong are christian women wife material and is
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this a good deal for men um i'd like to talk to the women first
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i'd like to talk to the women first i'm going to put the link in the chat
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all right this is so if you think the topic's relevant you know did you which email the pearly
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things one yeah you emailed it to me yeah oh i see it i see it i see it
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oh wait and i actually have one more i saw a tweet that i thought
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summarized this really well. I thought summarized this really well. The conversation, mind you,
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what I say does nothing. I am not arrogant enough to think that my words have such an impact on
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society, it's going to change it. Do you think I can change these government incentives, abortion?
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Because if that were true, Ben Shapiro, one of the most skilled debaters I have ever seen,
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would have stopped this terrible culture i am no ben shapiro i am no candace owens i am i am
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nowhere near as skilled as those people and they weren't successful in conserving anything
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so why on earth would i think i could do it that's just that's just yeah good luck
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So, what I say does nothing, but what I am pointing out is that by saying men are wrong
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if they're lied to about paternity, they still need to father the kids and they're wrong
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to divorce their wife, that is not a good sell on marriage.
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By saying you should, by not definitively saying not to date OF workers.
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Single mothers and women with crazy pasts, that is going to turn men away.
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By telling men to wait for women that are not worthy, that's going to turn men away.
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That is the greatest marketing plan you could ever do
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to discourage men from getting married and going to church.
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which is change the laws, make them more fair for men
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that would actually be more likely to encourage men to get married.
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Where what you guys are pushing actually will turn them away
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because men naturally weigh the costs and the benefits.
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i mean i could blessing if i started saying marry these of chicks marry these of chicks
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would you do it because i said it hell no i mean i i can't you cannot control men
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maybe maybe some young ones some of you christian women figured out how
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um okay but so i'm gonna do it in the youtube chat women get first priority
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i've been going for two hours oh no an hour and a half we're gonna put it in the x chart as well
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we got 4 600 people wow yeah okay i don't know how to do it uh i'm gonna put it there okay i
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can't even put it in my own oh shit i'm logged into christine's account
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the juice is just not worth the squeeze now again i'm putting my own so my question is and i want
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you guys to answer this question are christian women wife material
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are christian women wife material am i just am i just all wrong am i just making this up