Pearl - September 13, 2024


Mother FALSELY ACCUSED Her HUSBAND Of Having MOLESTED Her DAUGHTER For 15 YEARS! ｜ Pearl Daily

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mommy issues
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Kevin Samuels Uber Eats Gen Z Tremarco Oprah
Some Things In Life Are MORE IMPORTANT Than Changing The World ｜ Pearl Daily Some Women Are NOT PREPARED For MOTHERHOOD｜ Pearl Daily

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In this episode, I talk about the curse of the modern mother and how it s ruining the modern woman's ability to be a wife, mother, and housewife. I interview 1,000 women to see how they think about being a wife and mother.

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00:00:00.000 I'm sorry. I don't even know right now. It's hard for her to know how to feel when it's been pumped
00:00:05.160 in her head for 16 years something that didn't start that please. It's not your fault. Stop. And
00:00:12.940 how do you are you glad to know the results? I still don't think my mom's lying to me. Okay look
00:00:18.740 what these people are interested in is that you would at least show some graciousness towards
00:00:26.060 your father who has for 15 years walked around with people thinking that he is some kind of
00:00:34.620 pervert that hurt his daughter so as you guys know i was a normal woman selling copiers in milwaukee
00:00:41.260 when i was sent a kevin samuels video this video led me into an online world of red pill content
00:00:47.820 puas and dating and relationship content this content led me to test out some of these ideas
00:00:54.380 by interviewing 1,000 women. There were lessons in the process, but today I want to talk about
00:01:00.500 the curse of the modern mother. For the sake of this show, I am going to need to define
00:01:06.520 traditional and modern. There is a spectrum between traditional and modern. It's not black 0.99
00:01:11.600 and white, but for all intents and purposes, traditional mothers are mothers that put the 1.00
00:01:16.280 family over themselves. A modern mother is one that puts herself before the family. 0.99
00:01:22.080 So oftentimes, guys, I will say, and a lot of people get offended by this, but traditional
00:01:27.400 women are married before 25. 1.00
00:01:29.880 The reason I say that is because traditional women spend their youth on their family. 1.00
00:01:34.200 That's the most important thing to them, where modern women tend to spend their youth on 1.00
00:01:39.140 themselves and then start a family later.
00:01:41.620 One is not better or worse.
00:01:43.400 They're just different.
00:01:44.440 Another thing that I tend to say is traditional women believe in obeying their husbands, where 1.00
00:01:50.220 modern women tend to want more of a 50-50 partnership, and they will say things like 1.00
00:01:55.940 you need to negotiate with your husband, a traditional woman says whatever he says goes. 1.00
00:02:02.080 One is not better or worse, I just have to define them. If more women were brutally honest with 1.00
00:02:08.400 themselves, we would figure out that most women are not meant to be mothers, because being a 1.00
00:02:13.280 mother is selfless, meaning you have to think about your husband and children before yourself. 0.87
00:02:18.600 but we live in a world where women are told and enabled to put themselves first for a lifetime. 0.85
00:02:24.720 Do you have a child and a lucrative career? State-sponsored daycare. Why raise your kids 0.96
00:02:30.060 when someone else can? Why cook your husband dinner when Uber Eats is an option? Why clean 1.00
00:02:35.320 the house when you can leave it messy or hire mates? Neither is better or worse per se,
00:02:40.920 but one thinks about the husband and children first, and one thinks about herself first.
00:02:46.580 It blew my mind how many women I had met that were married to high-earning men and still
00:02:52.720 believed they needed to work. They were lying to themselves. Sure, I understand that there's
00:02:58.460 a recession, but you can move to a smaller house and spend more time with their children.
00:03:03.340 But the money and the lifestyle was more important than the kids. Gen Z women rank men as seventh in 0.81
00:03:10.080 their list of priorities. They put things like travel, work, and education above men. 1.00
00:03:14.520 But how did society get here where marriage is falling apart and the sexes are more and more 1.00
00:03:20.880 divided? When interviewing women, I break down the women in a couple categories by age group. 0.98
00:03:26.520 The 70 to 90-year-old women were the beginning of the end of the generation of traditional women. 0.84
00:03:32.720 Women in their 70s lived through a lot of the decline of society and were part of it, 0.99
00:03:37.800 but I would still say that half are fairly traditional, meaning that when I ask them
00:03:42.400 questions about obeying their husbands and things, and things that show how they felt about
00:03:47.740 traditional dynamics, they at the very least gave me traditional answers. The issues these women 1.00
00:03:53.680 have is that even the traditional ones told their daughters not to be traditional. Being that I was
00:04:00.920 in London, I interviewed a lot of women from traditional countries who shared with me that
00:04:05.180 their mothers told them to get an education and not spend their youth on a family. 50 to 70-year-old
00:04:12.680 women on a balance of probabilities were the first generation of truly shitty wives. This is where I 1.00
00:04:19.040 see the femininity leave the culture. These women will swear tooth and nail that they are different 1.00
00:04:24.760 than the young women today, but I saw little difference in their answers. They were the first
00:04:29.240 generation of women who divorced their husbands and broke up their family. Every generation pretty 1.00
00:04:34.380 much gets worse until we hit millennial women who are so bad that we don't even make it down the 1.00
00:04:39.720 aisle. Each generation has offered less and less traditional skills, so it's no wonder we have less
00:04:45.780 and less traditional outcomes. Again, I am not saying one is better or worse. Maybe Oprah's
00:04:51.880 husband is happy. They have cooks, so who needs a housewife? What I am saying, it is different than 0.87
00:04:59.060 before and the sexes are more and more divided. I have a lot of empathy for the women I interviewed
00:05:04.740 on some level. I found that probably more than half of women, I would guess 80%, have been
00:05:10.420 alienated from their father in some way. They have been told from a young age that if they submit to
00:05:16.380 a man, he will abuse them. So many mothers instilled fear in their daughters, even women 0.98
00:05:22.400 that had been married 30 plus years. Stay-at-home wives would frame the father of their children as 1.00
00:05:28.840 deadbeats as if they worked a lot, and even calling themselves single mothers. Traditional 0.79
00:05:35.000 marriages, the wives would complain to the kids and call their husbands toxic. Young women would 1.00
00:05:41.140 say some off-the-cuff negative trait about their father, and when I would ask them to name specifics
00:05:46.360 they never could, it was really clear that the mother was telling them these things.
00:05:51.220 I came to the realization that almost 90% of daddy issues were actually mommy issues.
00:05:56.420 They were mothers that could not regulate their emotions and used their children as emotional 1.00
00:06:01.560 tampons. I saw this consistently across race, culture, and religion. Mothers hate the fathers 1.00
00:06:08.300 of their children so much that they make the children pay for it. I saw this on both sides
00:06:13.340 of my work, from interviewing men who were victims of divorce grade to interviewing women who were
00:06:18.380 victims of parental alienation. Some women figure it out when they're older, some never will. 1.00
00:06:24.400 So it's no wonder that the family is breaking down the way it is.
00:06:28.080 Mothers teach their daughters to hate their fathers, and the cycle continues. 0.61
00:06:31.920 A couple stories from this period that stuck with me.
00:06:34.720 There was one man whose wife said that he had graped her the first time they hooked up
00:06:39.120 10 years ago at the beginning of their relationship.
00:06:43.040 After this supposed grape, they were together for 10 years and had two children.
00:06:48.320 She shared that story with the children.
00:06:51.120 The children spent the beginning of their adult life believing it. There was another woman who 0.99
00:06:57.360 I spoke with whose mother told her that her dad was abusive, and she found out at 25 years old
00:07:04.000 that she lied. She had not seen her father for 15 years at that point. She hated him her whole
00:07:10.480 childhood. Another phenomenon was how many women I interviewed who thought it was perfectly 0.96
00:07:16.800 acceptable to tell their children under the age of 10 why their marriage ended. They would tell
00:07:22.400 me that their kids are going to see that they're upset and ask why, and they clearly had to tell
00:07:27.140 them. It always conveniently blamed the father. If the father cheated, the women always thought 0.99
00:07:33.420 it was acceptable to tell the children. When I suggested they control their emotions and maybe
00:07:38.360 not do that, they looked at me like I was crazy. There is a couple of archetypes of women that I 1.00
00:07:44.040 found. One is the competing mother. These are mothers that compete with their daughters. It's 1.00
00:07:49.680 very obvious once you see it. Many of them flirt with their daughter's boyfriends. Whenever
00:07:54.900 something good happens for their daughters, they need to steal the attention, and they cannot deal 1.00
00:07:59.880 with their children getting more attention than them. Many men even told me that their girlfriend's 0.99
00:08:05.240 mothers would hit on them. Some of these men, this was their first sexual experience, was with their
00:08:11.060 girlfriend's mother. These are the mothers that try to be young forever and dress like they are 1.00
00:08:16.540 in their teenage years. The I missed out on my youth mother and the I did so much for you mother.
00:08:23.020 These two archetypes, there's usually a crossover. The I missed out on my youth mother often married 1.00
00:08:28.780 young or gave up a high-powered career in order to be a mother. Unfortunately, you can't serve
00:08:34.260 two masters and you can't have it all, at least not at the same time. These are the women that 1.00
00:08:39.480 kill themselves trying to do so. These are the women that give up things in order to have 1.00
00:08:44.080 children. But it does not count if the women feel as though they should have chased the alternative.
00:08:50.440 I found that many women felt like they missed out on a career or partying in their youth when 1.00
00:08:55.720 they married young. They regret the decision and make sure the children know. This is where the
00:09:01.140 I did so much for you comes from. This is where the mothers that want recognition for doing the 0.83
00:09:06.960 bare minimum of raising the children you chose to have. I did so much for you equals I only give
00:09:14.140 in order to get. I missed out on this equals I wanted to party or chase a career more than be
00:09:21.180 a mom. The I hate your father mother. These are the mothers that hate the fathers of their children 0.99
00:09:27.320 so much that they make their kids pay for it. These are the mothers that say things like you 1.00
00:09:32.040 are just like your father, as if being like your father is a bad thing. These women married men 1.00
00:09:38.220 that they don't like in order to have children, and every chance they get, they belittle him.
00:09:43.820 These are the mothers who make passive-aggressive jokes and disrespect the father of their kids 1.00
00:09:48.420 every chance they get. When these women get divorced, they make sure the entire town knows 1.00
00:09:53.720 why. They play victim, even to the point of filing false abuse allegations. I have an example of this,
00:10:00.500 but I'm going to show it after I'm done reading the last one. The social media mothers. These are
00:10:05.940 the mothers that use their children to build their brand. Growing up, all children deserve a sense of
00:10:11.360 privacy, but for whatever reason, these mothers think it is more important to show off that they 1.00
00:10:16.980 are a mother and even show personal moments of their kids' childhood, sometimes having tantrums
00:10:23.360 and posting it online. It is very obvious by their social media posts what they are trying to signal.
00:10:29.860 look at me i am a great mom this in itself is not traditional because traditional women don't like 1.00
00:10:36.640 to bring attention to themselves there are many archetypes of mothers and these are certainly not
00:10:41.980 all of them but i'm going to show you a clip that demonstrates the i hate your father mother 0.57
00:10:47.520 i'm sorry i don't even know right now it's hard for her to know how to feel when it's been pumped
00:10:52.800 in her head for 16 years something that didn't start that please not your fault stop and how do
00:11:01.480 you are you glad to know the results I still don't think my mom's lying to me you said you wanted
00:11:06.680 the poly results and and you have them and you heard me say that I believe your mother is well
00:11:15.600 intentions. I love my mom. Nobody is asking you to do anything other than have love and loyalty
00:11:26.460 for your mother. I hope this can be taken off the table and you and your mother. And one thing
00:11:33.680 that really surprised me in my year of doing interviews was how often women would tell these
00:11:40.340 outlandish stories that had no basis and how often false accusations happen. When I was growing up,
00:11:49.240 I always thought it was a one-off or if a woman said a crazy story, I would assume it was true. 0.99
00:11:55.860 I wouldn't think people lied about that. But in my year of shows, every other woman, maybe that's 0.98
00:12:02.100 an over-exaggeration. I would say at least one woman a show or every other show, a woman said 0.91
00:12:07.560 that she was abused. And if I asked a couple questions, I would say 85% were lying because
00:12:14.760 they didn't, their story didn't match the facts. So here, this woman told her daughter for 16 years
00:12:22.580 that her dad molested her when she was a kid. You would be shocked how many accusations like that
00:12:28.500 happen. When I was interviewing men that were victims of divorce scrape, there's one guy I
00:12:33.780 interviewed, that was his job. So his job was when a man was divorce-graped. And when I say
00:12:38.220 divorce-graped, it just basically means a woman is pulling the nuke button in divorce. So she's 1.00
00:12:44.160 using every possible tactic. There's a book called How to Destroy a Man, and it teaches women the 1.00
00:12:50.440 step-by-step guide of how to use the false accusation system against men. So you would be
00:12:56.140 surprised how common that is. And this man that worked with those men told me that there's a
00:13:03.760 ton of men every year that commit suicide because of accusations like this, because the whole town 0.62
00:13:09.160 thinks they're a pedo. And a lot of times, because family court is not based on evidence, it's based
00:13:15.460 on a balance of probabilities, those men can still lose access to their children. So a lot of times
00:13:22.440 women go to family court where they know they don't actually need evidence. They pull these 1.00
00:13:27.200 accusations. They may even post on social media about how the dad did that. They ruin this guy's
00:13:33.780 reputation. Some of them even go so far to say this stuff to the man's friends and families.
00:13:39.500 And a lot of these guys get so overwhelmed because some of them are older. Some of them
00:13:44.440 are in their fifties that they just end up committing suicide. The average age of first
00:13:49.940 suicide is, I think, 45 for men, or there's an increase. I can't remember the exact stat,
00:13:57.920 but it's around the first age of divorce, because a lot of guys, they get to that age,
00:14:04.200 you know, and they see, oh, I have to start over, and I have maybe 20 years left. It might just be
00:14:09.920 easier to, you know, so this type of thing, it's more common than you would think.
00:14:16.660 can can take this from between you and and you can talk about this i i have you heard me say
00:14:23.340 that your mother was a liar have you heard me say that your mother was vicious or vindictive 0.86
00:14:28.460 you've not heard me say one thing i've not met you but when i hear other people well with my mom 0.95
00:14:34.920 okay look what these people are interested in is that you would at least show some graciousness
00:14:42.640 towards your father who has for 15 years walked around with people thinking that he is some kind 0.52
00:14:51.500 of pervert that hurt his daughter. Can I ask why I didn't get a lie detector? I asked for a lie
00:14:56.900 detector to prove that I wasn't lying. If you would like to take a polygraph, Mr. Tremarco
00:15:06.160 is here today and prepared to administer that to you today. Let's go. You have a woman like this. 1.00
00:15:12.860 What is she going to grow up to be? So, you know, I would have a lot of empathy for some of these
00:15:19.360 women because a lot of them, their mom was in their ear. They came from really, really crazy 1.00
00:15:24.400 backgrounds. Like there is one woman, and I guess this is a little off topic, but she was like 19 0.94
00:15:30.620 and she was infertile from plan B's. I mean, it was her own dumb decision, right? But it was a 0.97
00:15:38.500 choice she made at 19 where, and she was like a nice girl. She was like, she was a sweetheart to
00:15:44.160 be honest, but you know, they're raised in these like environments where a lot of times the mom
00:15:49.720 is just in their ear poisoning the entire well for years. So what do you get? The saddest part
00:15:57.340 for me, but I would do these divorce documentary interviews. So when I was in London, there was a
00:16:02.660 point where I was filming so much. It was crazy. I was so busy because I was working on a divorce
00:16:07.940 documentary. I was also doing all these shows and I would interview the men that were divorce
00:16:13.920 great. So they would bring in their pile of papers and they would tell me these awful stories.
00:16:19.800 And guys, these stories, I couldn't, I don't know how conservatives still push marriage
00:16:29.220 after hearing stories like I have heard.
00:16:32.520 I'm sure they haven't.
00:16:33.780 They have to be naive because if there was a pill, right?
00:16:38.600 If there was a pill and there was a 15% chance or a 5% chance of a guy going through what
00:16:45.520 those men went through without knowing the consequences, I would feel like it was immoral
00:16:52.560 to push it. Even if maybe 50% had great outcomes and it was amazing, that 5% chance,
00:17:01.120 I would feel responsible if it happened and I was the one pushing it.