Pearl - Mothers Who Arent Nurturing

00:00:00.000 it just made her like more obsessed with trying to regain control of me so that she can resume 1.00

00:00:05.440 bullying and abusing me and i know they'll like fight to be in your life just to tell you that 0.99

00:00:10.400 you suck what up guys welcome to my reaction series i am dispelling the myth that mothers 0.99

00:00:18.560 are the nurturing gender mothers are the first ones to call their daughters fat mothers are the 0.99

00:00:25.200 ones to emotionally abuse and even physically abuse their children far before fathers do if 1.00

00:00:31.520 fathers acted the way that mothers do they would be thrown in jail so today women um feminism 1.00

00:00:38.240 always eats itself so women are exposing their mothers for being terrible mothers so 1.00

00:00:55.200 why it bothers you and then you need to work on getting the fuck over it because your sister's 0.98

00:01:00.000 here to support you your sister is putting time out of her day to sit here and watch all of your 0.99

00:01:04.440 fucking day because she's always telling you it's a job in a nice voice it wasn't condescending it 0.99

00:01:09.840 wasn't being bad at all and then you sit here and you fucking cry about it and then you play her 1.00

00:01:15.580 and tell us she can't fucking talk to you i'm crying still i'm trying to talk to you 0.99

00:01:21.600 emotional abuse i mean these mothers i'm telling you they're evil here so i'm really glad my mother 0.99

00:01:30.460 died and not because like oh she was in a lot of pain and i want her to feel better hell no i hope 0.95

00:01:36.240 she died and i hope she's in hell um there's a lot of people that get relief from their mothers 0.96

00:01:42.680 dying because the mothers are just such a burden emotionally spiritually always wanting to control 0.99

00:01:48.760 you no matter how old you get the beast she was a wicked wicked person and she hated me she gave 1.00

00:01:55.720 birth to me when i was uh when she was 14 and she hated me she was in my life the whole time she 1.00

00:02:01.720 gave me to her sister to raise but she hated me period i don't know why she just she just did and 0.98

00:02:07.480 then she hated her sister because she had me and she was raising me and she was getting to be my

00:02:12.360 mother so she hated her for that but because of all this today is my baby brother's birthday and

00:02:19.960 two weeks ago he passed away from a horrible accident while he was at work and because of her

00:02:25.640 i never got to have anything to do with him after about 10 years ago and i haven't had anything to

00:02:32.300 do with my other brother um for the same amount of time because she had both of them convinced that i

00:02:37.920 had unalived her sister, my aunt, which I did not. If that was going to happen, it would have been

00:02:45.100 hurt. If I was going to do it, it would have been hurt. It would not have been my aunt. My aunt was

00:02:51.120 kind and loving and giving, but so today I'm celebrating the birth of my dead brother without 0.98

00:02:58.420 my other brother because of all of the rumors and shit and the lies that she's told about me 0.89

00:03:05.660 and her sister that raised me who i know is mom um so yeah there's quite a few of us out here who 0.99

00:03:12.660 women use emotional and verbal violence um in order to emotionally terrorize everyone around 1.00

00:03:18.360 them are glad we're glad when our mothers die because at least now her mouth has shut the fuck 0.99

00:03:24.980 up permanently a lot of people feel like that but they won't say it okay when you go now no 0.99

00:03:30.780 contact from people who are emotionally abusing you contact from people who are emotionally

00:03:34.960 abusing you they're going to sit around and they're going to try to think of ways to get to

00:03:38.000 you they're going to try to think of ways for you to break your contact they're going to lie they're

00:03:41.360 going to gaslight and they're going to lie about things that happened so recently you are going to

00:03:44.720 feel like you're losing your mind the biggest most healthy thing that you can do is to have no

00:03:48.720 reaction and it's sometimes the hardest that's so true you can't react the more you react the more

00:03:54.080 it gives them fuel narcissists for you to do every single time that my mother has tried to get some

00:03:59.200 sort of rise out of me um she's trying to get me to have a big reaction because then she can say look

00:04:04.080 it is her fault it takes everything in me to not give her that emotional abusers narcissists

00:04:09.840 dysfunctional people they need your attention even if it's negative attention it doesn't

00:04:14.640 matter to them they know that they're getting at you if you've been watching me long enough 1.00

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00:05:57.120 for me breaking the cycle means not reacting in the way that i would have to her in the past it

00:06:02.160 means not giving her any reaction at all even if she's lying even if she's doing it to make me

00:06:08.240 angry even if she's doing it to hurt me having zero reaction because that's what they want they

00:06:14.400 want you they want to emotionally uh manipulate you it's honestly not very fun um i have a lot

00:06:20.880 of rage building up inside of me right now i'm at that stage in my healing journey where i just

00:06:26.000 actively i think i just hate her um she's made me so angry that i can't even see straight sometimes

00:06:33.280 and i have to pour a lot of really negative thoughts into my journal i used to say that i

00:06:38.960 was strong enough to forgive my mother because i understand why she is the way that she is but i

00:06:44.080 i don't actually forgive her anymore and i don't think that i need to in order to continue on my

00:06:48.760 healing journey i actively hate my mother and hope that i never see her again okay next we got this

00:06:56.240 one she's like i love you she's like you don't have to say it back so i was like bye and she's

00:07:00.020 like you don't have to say it back because when i'm in a relationship we're strictly mother and 0.96

00:07:02.960 daughter like this is why i'm never gonna fucking speak to them the second i turn 18 bro oh my god 0.96

00:07:11.960 and she's like that's what i mean it's like mothers just have to they're so not in control 0.98

00:07:17.760 of their emotions they just they emotionally torment the daughters i don't know if anybody

00:07:22.340 else feel like me but this is how i'm feeling i gene and people will be like your mom's so nice

00:07:27.860 and you're like yeah to you to you to you they do not like my mom like uh a part of me is really

00:07:37.340 like oh my god I can't believe I said it but at the same time it's like no this is my truth like

00:07:42.040 I really do not like my mom like I feel like I have became her in many ways when it comes to

00:07:50.380 my relationships in my life like I'm trying to run away from who she is and maturing is realizing that

00:07:58.360 if I don't address the problems within myself that I'm trying to run from then I'm going to

00:08:06.120 continue to stay in the pattern of my mom i hope that makes sense like i do not like her i feel

00:08:16.200 like she has tormented me in many ways mentally and emotionally and the thing is mother's treatment

00:08:28.440 of their children should inspire them to want to take care of them when they're old so many times

00:08:33.480 mothers like it's like a guilting thing they feel entitled to the kids future because they gave

00:08:38.600 birth and it's like no you have to treat your kid nice you got it you got to be nice to people in

00:08:43.480 order to deserve that and i am really just trying to understand how did i allow this to happen for

00:08:50.040 so long the real reason why i do not have children is because i am so scared that i will turn into

00:08:58.520 my mother like i want to be the purest healthiest person i can be before bringing children into this

00:09:06.040 world like i genuinely do not like her she is not a nice person not a good person to me like

00:09:15.160 and that's the thing sometimes they can be good people to other people but not

00:09:18.840 it's like again to you all right let's go to the next one um i don't love my mother

00:09:23.640 I don't love my mother anymore. I stopped loving her a long time ago. I've tried repeatedly to

00:09:34.400 love her, even though she's done some of the most horrific evil things to me, even though she's still

00:09:41.040 married to the man who sexually molested me, even though, you know, she's done some horrible things.

00:09:48.340 And I mean, that's the thing. 0.81

00:09:49.900 Mothers that break up their homes, they feel no responsibility for the men they bring into 0.95

00:09:55.760 their kids' lives. 0.94

00:09:56.640 And just having like rotating men for years and years and years, that's not good for a

00:10:00.500 kid.

00:10:00.900 This is not a one-time incident.

00:10:02.900 This is years and years and years of constant bullying and just toxicity from my mother.

00:10:11.280 And she specifically targeted me.

00:10:13.840 There was always something about me. 1.00

00:10:15.780 but as sweet and as kind and that's another thing what mothers will do is they'll be nice to like

00:10:21.760 one kid and then treat the other like the devil and then it's so confusing to the child because

00:10:28.500 the kid feels rejected by their mother and as i was and my family knows you know me as a child

00:10:35.620 growing up i was very soft-spoken i was very shy um non-aggressive not the fight the girl that you

00:10:44.540 see right now, this, I was totally the opposite. I know my family looks at me in shock, you know,

00:10:50.960 when I curse and I flip and I go off, that's because I'm tired. You know, when you push

00:10:55.180 somebody to their fucking limit, they're going to snap and go the fuck off my entire life. Damn 1.00

00:11:00.460 there. I've been the shy, fat, quiet girl in the corner, never talked back, always took a beating, 1.00

00:11:06.840 always took, you know, somebody disrespect. I took a lot of disrespect off a lot of people,

00:11:11.340 but my number one bully my number one hater was my mother and always has been yeah and it's like

00:11:19.660 the mothers will go behind the scenes and like destroy your reputation with every like

00:11:24.720 oh i can't i can't talk about the things i want to say but like they'll go behind the scenes and

00:11:31.220 just destroy your reputation with everybody they can it's sometimes mothers are literally your

00:11:37.640 biggest hater what i've come to realize is that you know i cut her off over 15 years ago and in

00:11:45.720 that 15 year span it's given me a lot of time to really study her study her behaviors study her

00:11:54.360 upbringing study her childhood um and also monitor her behavior as a result of me pulling away from

00:12:02.520 her. Did me pulling away from her and staying away from her change her behavior or did it stay 0.98

00:12:09.320 the same? And what I've come to realize is that her behavior never changed all the time spent

00:12:15.040 away from her. It just made her like more obsessed with trying to regain control of me 0.61

00:12:20.280 so that she can resume bullying and abusing me. And I know they'll like fight to be in your life 1.00

00:12:26.740 just to tell you that you saw that 15 year span. I've had a chance to grieve my mother.

00:12:33.600 And another thing that I realized is that I don't actually love her anymore. I may have used to love

00:12:40.980 her, but I fell out of love with her. If that makes sense to y'all, I'm trying to make this

00:12:46.320 make sense. What I actually loved about my mother was the ideal of her. Yeah. It's like you want

00:12:53.880 love from someone that doesn't give love i agree with jesse lee peterson mothers don't give love 0.98

00:12:58.560 they just give you toxicity verbal abuse and mental abuse that's it the ideal of her actually

00:13:05.100 i don't want to listen to her for 10 minutes um let me know in the comments guys did you have a 1.00

00:13:09.540 good mother yes or no um did you have some of the same struggles that some of these ladies are 0.75

00:13:14.820 talking about yes or no put it in the comments like the video i'll see you next time 1.00

Pearl - April 28, 2026

Mothers Who Arent Nurturing

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