Pearl - Nice Guys Finish Last For a Good Reason.... ( Call In Show)

00:00:00.000 Chats are gonna chat

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00:00:35.760 And take the hoes from Brad

00:00:40.540 It's not too rad to be Brad

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00:00:50.400 Brad thought that being nice would get him

00:00:55.380 Some bitches

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00:01:25.820 And Chad walks in and says hi

00:01:30.600 And Stacey comes in and says bye

00:01:35.320 Her hoes are gonna hope

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00:02:02.160 And take bitches from rat

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00:02:48.900 how's it going everybody thank you so much for tuning in tonight i love you all i really love

00:02:57.220 you all i don't know how i would do what i don't know what i would do without you truly

00:03:03.520 you guys could be doing so many things tonight

00:03:08.640 and yet you have decided to watch my show. So I appreciate it. Okay, so today we're talking

00:03:21.860 about nice guys and why nice guys finish last and it's for a good reason. Now, this might be

00:03:29.420 one of my more controversial streams, but oftentimes all of society wants women to get

00:03:35.080 with beta bucks. Now, beta bucks in a relationship in the context of a woman, meaning they're letting

00:03:43.680 the woman lead. Women typically pick beta bucks for resources, parental investment, and they

00:03:52.420 typically pick alpha fucks for genetic material or leadership qualities. Now, we get into a

00:04:04.180 little bit of a problem because women naturally want to procreate with alpha fucks. Women naturally

00:04:09.240 do not like beta bucks. To be fair, women don't like anybody, right? Thank you. Thank you for the

00:04:14.600 $20 super chat. We don't like any, we don't even like ourselves, so don't take it too personal.

00:04:22.300 But women want to be with alpha fucks. And in order for society to function, women have to

00:04:28.020 reproduce with the best genetic material possible but this poses a problem because women are

00:04:35.400 naturally always going to pick the top 20 percent of men now this is contextual the same guy could

00:04:42.060 be the bottom 80 percent of men and the 20 80 percent but top 20 percent of men at different

00:04:46.680 points in his life and even in different rooms like for example i have a friend who plays guitar

00:04:51.920 and he jumps into the top 20% of men. He jumps into the top 20% of men immediately when he plays

00:05:02.380 his guitar. Bitches love guitar. So in order for society to function, women must date men they

00:05:08.960 don't like. Now this causes a ton of issues. Women did have less choice in the past and

00:05:14.120 conservatives argue that they did have a choice, but really when you take into account

00:05:20.260 societal shame um and the lack of free shit being given to women women had to marry men

00:05:29.960 they did not like in order to survive now women have the choice to live without men

00:05:38.900 yes women need skills men's skills and money to survive but collectively as a society we have

00:05:46.640 subsidize women's ability to be with the top 20% of men. Now the equivalent of this, I was thinking

00:05:52.900 about it. And if you guys have a thought later in the show, when we do the call-in,

00:05:57.860 I was thinking about that women,

00:06:07.860 the equivalent of this would be young women being subsidized for men to bang. I don't know how,

00:06:13.420 but if you got a better analogy, put it in the chat. Women will always organize themselves to

00:06:20.340 be with the top percentage of men and hypergamy is not a straight jacket. A lot of times men put

00:06:25.820 their own point of view on women. Men like things that are dependable, useful, and obedient. So

00:06:31.520 many times when fathers, brothers, or even male friends tell women who to pick, they tell women

00:06:39.040 to pick men that are dependable obedient and useful but the issue is the customer is always

00:06:43.380 right and that's not what women want women like chaos women like strength that is emotional

00:06:48.320 strength money to some degree although that's not what we pick first in genetic material

00:06:53.580 um now i had a reaction or a coffee talk the other day i can't remember the precise topic but

00:07:00.380 i noticed um there's a comment that i thought articulated this pretty well

00:07:06.660 i said that marrying a man that's a provider um is an l for women and i think this offended some

00:07:13.660 of the guys in the chat because i mean who which one of you which one of you guys hasn't been a

00:07:20.600 provider at some point you know what i mean it's just an l and you know i think men come back and

00:07:26.540 they say hey but objectively logically that's a good deal for women and i'm like look the customer

00:07:33.060 is always right that's not what women want women want spark connection we want to be with leonardo

00:07:39.640 dicaprio on the freaking like uh boat you know you can't shame the customer out of wanting what

00:07:51.360 they want you could argue it's immoral but that does not change the fact that women want men

00:07:56.560 that have high status behaviors and not money. Now let's go into the female psyche. Any woman

00:08:04.240 that has sex out of obligation knows how to, any woman that has sex out of obligation

00:08:12.300 feels like they have to have sex. Most women have sex out of obligation and not desire.

00:08:20.920 For example, I have to have sex with my boyfriend, so he proposes. I have to have sex with my

00:08:25.940 husband, so he does not leave me. Going into the female psyche is understanding that women want

00:08:32.360 and their dream is to have sex for fun and not to get things out of it, not for resources.

00:08:44.840 So that's where false rape allegations come into play. Although women are evil and spiteful and

00:08:55.600 all that stuff a lot of times it's because women retrospectively view sex that they had to have

00:09:01.040 out of obligation as rape now it's not necessarily true right but that's how we feel and in this

00:09:12.200 society the customer is always right and it's useful to understand how women feel right

00:09:16.840 robert glover's book somebody called me out on this in the chat no more mr nice guy discusses

00:09:25.560 the idea that nice men are not nice. In fact, they are weak. Nice guys are secretive. Nice guys are

00:09:31.920 fundamentally dishonest. They give gifts and presents and submit to the women in hopes that

00:09:38.680 she will give them sex or genuine desire in return. Nice guys are actually unable and unwilling to

00:09:45.060 verbalize their own needs. Nice guys are not willing to correct women in their lives. They're

00:09:50.260 neurotic they're always thinking what will go wrong he puts himself on a pedestal for being

00:09:55.660 attentive to the needs and desires of others and gives with the expectation of getting something

00:10:00.820 back nice guys are controlling they can't control emotions so when problems arrive um they get weird

00:10:08.080 you know it's kind of like the guy that freaks out you know like when here here's the difference

00:10:12.720 a nice guy that you know jack in titanic i use this a lot because women love this this movie

00:10:19.920 uh the reason the rich fiance was a villain to rose is because he was neurotic you know rose said

00:10:26.420 look ninja i'm gonna go bang this guy in the bottom of the boat sorry not sorry i'm gonna go

00:10:33.060 bang him and the fiance you know he pulled out a gun and crashed out that's what the nice guy does

00:10:39.240 because he's like it's like repressed right it's like i have done all this stuff for you

00:10:43.720 i expect you to do this for me where if he was a real ninja he would have just said have fun

00:10:49.240 on the have fun on the bottom of the boat bitch um is there a nice young latina is there a is

00:10:59.840 there a latina from the bottom of the boat who wants to come with me i need a new what do you

00:11:04.880 know what i mean that's an attractive mindset but he crashed out do you know what i mean this this

00:11:10.500 guy crashes out gets a gun gets so mad titanic was fiction okay i know it was fiction

00:11:18.840 i'm totally aware it was fiction but it speaks to the female psyche

00:11:26.380 there's a reason women relate to this movie right it's women's dream to marry the guy that

00:11:33.060 that they love for him and not money um nice guys use their behavior to control outcomes

00:11:39.980 nice guys give in order to get you know and women do this too it's kind of like

00:11:45.940 men at some point, all women are basically nice guys. Nice guys in a way are adopting the female

00:11:53.380 psyche because women give in order to get. That's why sometimes, you know, when men are banging a

00:11:59.920 chick, right? And she's like, Oh, let me cook dinner. And then the chat is like, no, sorry.

00:12:06.340 Sorry. You will not cook dinner. Cause I don't want you to be entitled to anything for me in

00:12:14.380 the future i'm here to pump and dump bitches you know she says i got you concert tickets he's like

00:12:22.660 no you know because he understands that about women but it's like adopting a female mentality

00:12:28.520 right um nice guys give in order to get nice guys are passive aggressive they're full of rage and

00:12:37.760 repressed rage rage that women are choosing assholes i am nice so you owe me sex and love

00:12:43.340 nice guys outsource their worth to her reactions so they don't feel good enough in their own skin

00:12:50.560 it's based on how women respond right

00:12:55.200 niceness is coming come niceness is covering up insecurity women aren't broken or hypocritical

00:13:06.160 for choosing men who take risks hold frame and don't seek validation from them the rejection

00:13:11.740 of the classic nice guy is a feature not a bug a bug and it's accurate first for it's accurate

00:13:18.620 screening for men who can actually lead and create attraction instead of covertly demanding it men

00:13:25.420 that complain about women tend to be reactive even though i complain about women um in a way

00:13:31.420 um complaining about women in general shows that and this is i'd like to say this is very

00:13:37.260 hypocritical and i'm gonna keep doing it some things some some flaws that you have you'll just

00:13:43.980 keep going you'll just keep going with it it's like well take me or leave it but um

00:13:59.100 when you complain about women it's um communicating that you're bad with women

00:14:05.100 right it's communicating um that you're react it's like not holding frame because you're reacting to

00:14:10.860 other people you know the guy reacting to a woman doing something to him he's not holding frame even

00:14:17.900 though it's like perfectly reasonable he's like i paid for this cruise i got you on the lifeboat

00:14:23.100 and you're banging some guy in a car but the the if he was a chad he would have said all right

00:14:30.940 next bitch, you know. Nice guys are reactive to women. Nice guys do not have the courage to be

00:14:37.560 honest. Nice guys don't have the courage to look dumb. Nice guys live in fear. They do not have

00:14:42.760 the courage to make mistakes and this repulses women. Women hate men that are looking for her

00:14:50.740 approval. Validation seeking behaviors include bombarding women with good morning texts and

00:14:56.480 How are you messages? Seeking reassurance. Do you like me? This is tied to childhood patterns of

00:15:02.380 managing mom's moods replicated with women. It reads as low value and puts her in a masculine

00:15:07.400 role. The I did everything right. Resentment after months and years of being the perfect

00:15:13.060 supportive partner. Listening, helping, and never cheating. He complains that she's not

00:15:17.760 affectionate or sexual enough. Guys who's always available and never rocked the boat and then

00:15:23.200 wonders why dead bedroom or she branches to someone with edge women reject or lose attraction

00:15:30.680 because it signals he can't lead or handle reality without his validation and I was thinking about it

00:15:37.020 I'm like in a way the guys that are um courageous enough to be assholes to women in a way they kind

00:15:44.320 of deserve the bitches they kind of deserve it because um I think it's more difficult when you

00:15:52.240 love a woman like i think it's easier for a man to make a million dollars than hurt a woman's

00:15:59.440 feelings when he really loves her is that is that beta of me to think it just seems like it seems

00:16:06.480 like a man could easier make a million dollars or succeed at work than he could say no to women and

00:16:12.480 i say this i say this because i just look around and nobody seems to be able to do it right it

00:16:19.040 seems like that's actually more difficult because i think i've met more maybe maybe it's my circles

00:16:26.640 right but i think i've met more millionaires or men on track to be millionaires by the time

00:16:31.600 they're 40 or 50 or 60 um then men that say no to their wives that they love is that crazy

00:16:41.520 being a nice guy um is like wanting a reward for raising a brat so it's kind of like imagine if you

00:16:53.300 had a company right and the boss said i did so much for the employees i did how did they not

00:17:00.560 respect me and you're like do you want a cookie for having terrible employees

00:17:07.800 like when you think about it like that you almost start to when you start to think about it like

00:17:13.980 men allowing things you almost start blaming the man instead of the woman like you know Steph Curry

00:17:21.940 it's like can you not get your woman in line are you gonna tell her to shut the fuck up

00:17:30.940 do you know what I mean like when their wives are wild and out it's like

00:17:36.540 you don't have the courage to stand up to your wife oh but she could take everything

00:17:41.740 isn't that better than a nagging wife in your ear

00:17:44.600 your kids are gonna have to suffer because they're never gonna like you're gonna allow

00:17:53.320 her to ruin them too and when i started thinking of it like this i'm like i think we're right

00:18:01.300 and so i thought about this a little further

00:18:10.100 and i'm like in a way it's really on the guy

00:18:15.260 for allowing women to treat him that way

00:18:19.380 all right contracts i gave you a back rub so you owe me sex i bought you dinner so you owe me sex

00:18:28.860 um it leads us to accept it hate accepting things from you because we don't want to

00:18:39.740 accept anything like it's like crazy if you meet a 22 year old hot chick

00:18:44.420 it's absurd the amount of um

00:18:49.260 it's the absurd the amount of resources that are thrown at her 24 7

00:18:59.480 and it's you start to not even feel bad for the guys because you're just like

00:19:06.200 she's made it so clear she's not into you and you just keep throwing the money keep

00:19:13.580 throwing the validation you keep telling her how awesome she is what are you getting out of this

00:19:17.580 why is it that the guy has to bring everything to the table well you don't have to play right

00:19:24.660 it's you know we have a bunch of fat whores on the market you know i'm not saying you got to play

00:19:30.500 but if you're gonna play

00:19:33.400 it is on you what you allow you know and i don't mean to say this to judge or to nag you i'm sure

00:19:45.020 I couldn't do it better but I just I'm kind of thinking of this concept because if you start to

00:19:52.160 think of men as the bosses of households that's what they're supposed to be right um if you have

00:20:00.920 a boss that's tricked into thinking that he's equal by employees do you feel that bad for him

00:20:12.100 are they nice or are they just weak

00:20:22.600 and it's okay right i'm weak in a lot of ways

00:20:28.280 i'm soft in a lot of ways i'm not judging i'd like to make it clear

00:20:33.240 this is not this is a judgment-free zone i don't think i'm better than anybody

00:20:38.700 um but i i think of things because i come from a sports background in terms of sports

00:20:45.740 and like if you lose a game it's so much more helpful to know why you lost i remember i had

00:20:52.380 a female versus a male coach and the male coach would just say you did x y and z

00:20:57.740 and the female coach would be like talking about our feelings from the game you know

00:21:07.740 nice is nice weak is weak two different things well you can call in and tell me if you think

00:21:14.820 I'm wrong hey I don't think I know everything um okay frame is controlling what you can control

00:21:23.640 women like oh wait let me get the actual definition because I thought I had it in here

00:21:29.820 I don't want to misquote it

00:21:37.740 um is the set of beliefs interpretation of events and personal boundaries that define a person's

00:21:44.040 reality okay yeah so it's like if you're worried about her cheating you're in her frame you're not

00:21:49.880 in your frame she should be worried about you cheating ninja you know what i mean

00:21:54.960 um defining your own path ensuring it's not dependent on others actions so it's like

00:22:03.900 what am I going to do with my life?

00:22:14.800 Having a woman to cook and clean is nice, but I can, I can get there, you know, with or without you, you know.

00:22:24.720 Maintaining frame requires constant self-awareness and control of your emotions.

00:22:29.980 Yeah, so when women get you to argue, that's what we want.

00:22:33.000 So it's almost like you're entering into her frame by arguing with her.

00:22:38.860 You're reacting to her.

00:22:42.020 And I'm kind of new to these concepts.

00:22:44.220 I just read Robert Glover's book, so I'm not, this is not the most perfect.

00:22:49.000 I get a little nervous during the show, but it's not the most perfect show in the world.

00:22:53.080 But when you think about it and you understand the rules, you're almost like, damn, a lot of these ninjas brought this upon themselves.

00:23:03.000 frame is a mental filter and a set of rules that dictate how you interact with the world

00:23:24.760 you're encouraging men to define their own reality rather than operating in someone else's

00:23:33.000 many men signal their low status through their behaviors many of these behaviors are repulsive

00:23:51.260 to women i would argue it's harder to be socially assertive to a woman you love than to make

00:23:57.380 maybe not a million i'll say make six figures you have to look at the girl's face and not

00:24:02.620 fold. You have to deal with the social stigma many times when you tell her no. You have to deal with

00:24:07.940 friends nagging you, her friends, society. And in a lot of ways that's difficult. Women are correct

00:24:18.000 actually to not like men that have validation seeking behavior. Men who seek validation and

00:24:24.120 avoid conflict. We like men that don't shy away from the fact that they want to fuck, but also,

00:24:36.840 but also.

00:24:54.120 walk away when she says no, right?

00:24:58.880 Women like men that are honest about what they want.

00:25:01.960 And when they don't get what they want, walk away and say, okay, next.

00:25:05.740 Again, Rose might've,

00:25:07.480 he might've been able to get Rose to beg for him back if he didn't pull out

00:25:11.200 his gun and crash out on the Titanic, whatever her fiance's name was.

00:25:17.340 But the issue is, um, you know, she crashed out.

00:25:20.960 So he crashed out.

00:25:23.100 like he was communicating that rose was that special do you know how many thin women there

00:25:27.740 were in 1920 get you another bitch my you know

00:25:31.900 alphas don't worry about it as much because they're busy

00:25:40.860 there's assertiveness um assertiveness for boundaries that women are attracted to

00:25:55.500 um some of the ones listed in the book were broken record negative inquiry

00:26:01.140 um doing something you want to do or doing assertiveness negative inquiry

00:26:07.940 fogging

00:26:10.500 negative assertions negative inquiry you can google those we can go through those a different day

00:26:20.940 um

00:26:22.640 women are not wrong for selecting men with assertive communication boundaries and an idgaf

00:26:31.900 attitude of anything that is a level of that is a level of bravery that is not displayed normally

00:26:38.580 nice guys have no self-respect they allow their wife to make decisions and run the house

00:26:43.920 that is like a boss allowing their employee to run the company can you really blame them

00:26:49.800 women will always make demands of your time and energy and assertive quote-unquote bad men

00:26:55.760 protect themselves. So. And don't avoid conflict. So this is kind of a new concept to me and

00:27:08.780 I actually think it's pretty interesting. So if you guys have thoughts on it all together,

00:27:14.880 I'd love for you to call in. Let me do. I'm going to send Doug MPA. Actually, I'm going to go.

00:27:28.580 So anyways, in a way, men avoid upsetting women so much just in life that I really think they'll

00:27:48.220 make a bajillion dollars before they do it. So if it's more rare, and this is arguable,

00:27:53.760 But I think it's more rare to find men that aren't afraid of upsetting women.

00:27:59.180 I think that's more rare, especially their wife or a woman they love, than it is to find a rich guy.

00:28:07.780 So we're going to send it to Doug MPA.

00:28:17.360 Now, this is a fair criticism.

00:28:19.880 A boss can sack his employees.

00:28:21.360 but i'll tell you what the bad guy will take his self-respect above all just in general

00:28:29.480 again they're less controlling in general they they let go of things they have no control over

00:28:38.220 you know gangster um it is when a woman is trying to take your kids and the dude just says you can

00:28:46.960 have them oh i'm gonna air you out online post it my ninja post it so you know that's a level

00:28:57.040 of bravery it's an idgaf attitude and sometimes it'll go your way sometimes it won't you're not

00:29:04.640 in control of outcomes laws reward women divorcing their husband that's true

00:29:12.720 uh but leonardo dicaprio is still found a way to get 18 there's men that figure it out right

00:29:20.480 all you can do is learn from those guys

00:29:22.820 or not play right some games you can just say do you know what this is too hard this is too

00:29:35.640 difficult and i wouldn't play blame you like i wanted to go division one as an athlete

00:29:41.100 And I thought, you know what? That shit was too hard. I accepted my failure because I'm like,

00:29:47.340 do you know what? Not many people succeed when it comes to that.

00:29:51.400 That's pretty rare. Like most athletes don't go D1.

00:30:03.180 So you guys can call in. We'll start with Doug.

00:30:07.180 mpa and sean welcome to the show um my assertion is that nice guys finish last for a good reason

00:30:17.580 um i'd love to hear your thoughts um i i don't necessarily have a question i just want to hear

00:30:22.300 people's thoughts on the topic so sean you are sorry doug mpa you can go and then sean go

00:30:28.620 uh so first off you were cooking earlier like this is one of those tough conversations it's

00:30:35.180 it's tough for a lot of guys to have because we've been nice guys.

00:30:38.420 And like,

00:30:39.140 you're just pointing a mirror at a lot of us former nice guys.

00:30:42.620 And one of the worst things about men,

00:30:45.100 like the hardest thing to deal with as a man is being mad at yourself.

00:30:50.000 You know what I'm saying?

00:30:51.240 Like being a nice guy and figuring out that you're a nice guy and seeing

00:30:55.440 that you're getting nice guy results and having to make the change.

00:30:58.560 It hurts and it's tough,

00:31:00.640 especially in this gynocentric social order in the West that we have.

00:31:08.920 So, yeah, you were cooking 100%.

00:31:10.780 In the chat, this guy said, how does one get coined a nice guy?

00:31:16.440 I said, honestly, I don't think you get coined a nice guy.

00:31:20.700 You start getting nice guy results in your life first,

00:31:25.800 and then you get put into a nice guy category.

00:31:30.640 then women start calling you a nice guy understand i'm saying yeah because you'll like they'll um

00:31:38.480 nice guys can't run from it because the one guy will have two and he's like where's mine

00:31:43.040 you know yeah yeah yeah yeah everything you're saying in the monologue is 100 true and here's

00:31:50.160 the thing like like you especially guys when you hit t every man gets to a point where you're at

00:31:57.920 where you're most men get to the point where you're at where you're supposed to be dude

00:32:02.800 unless you make a change and as you get older less and less men are willing to make a change

00:32:09.120 so um yes nice guys do finish last because you you're getting nice guy results and you're not

00:32:16.400 willing to do what's necessary to change it this isn't just with women it's with life in general

00:32:21.680 nice guys you know even even in your professional life all sorts of nice guys they just they get

00:32:27.760 nice guy results holistically understand understand so yeah you're you're cooking 100

00:32:34.240 pearl like 100 it's tough because most of us have simped and most of us have been nice guys you you

00:32:42.400 can't avoid it in the west especially in the united states most of us not all pretty much all like i

00:32:49.600 i was thinking i think it's i think it's more rare to find men that say no to women than to find

00:32:56.880 richmond i was like so it must be easier to do that that's true yeah like i think you could find

00:33:03.360 guys that make six figures like you meet like i don't know if it's because i'm in a nice area but

00:33:08.660 like i feel like you meet them all the time and then like um i know they're not the largest

00:33:13.980 percentage but some start not making six figures and you know they will someday so i'm like that

00:33:20.380 seems to be more rare than a guy that tell like i know guys that can tell women to like shut up or

00:33:26.140 put them in their place but it always changes once they're in love yeah okay so let me okay so

00:33:32.060 if 10 of men make six figures or more what percentage of men in society out of 100 are

00:33:38.280 able to say no to women like two or three percent yeah two three okay okay okay now of that three

00:33:44.900 percent how many are able to say no to women throughout their lifetime that's hard because

00:33:52.080 um i think maybe like 10 percent of men 20 maybe get it someday 10 20 like like uh one guy might

00:34:00.760 be a nice guy for 20 years but eventually you know they get annoyed but it's also the same

00:34:07.440 question of 10 because you're saying 10 percent of men make six figures but what i wonder what

00:34:12.340 percent of men make six figures in their lifetime you know i'm saying so like he might not make six

00:34:18.020 figures in his 20s or 30s but like i don't know just question i don't know sean what are your

00:34:24.100 thoughts on the topic man y'all was cooking yo i would say you finish last as a nice guy behind

00:34:32.780 everybody behind the dog behind the cat behind the children behind the behind the raggedy cat

00:34:42.960 down the street the stray cat like you are behind everybody at the end of the day as a nice guy and

00:34:49.760 and i want to hone in on this nice guy word actually what it really is is be good to yourself

00:34:56.700 and be good to good people and i think a lot of times the nice guy is being good to someone who's

00:35:02.240 not being good to them yes they're just being good period i knew you're gonna go ahead go ahead

00:35:08.740 No, no, I just said I knew you were going to cook because I interrupted you. Sorry.

00:35:12.720 Yeah, no, no, it's all good.

00:35:15.000 Yeah, so they're being good to people who are not giving them reciprocity at any shape, form, or fashion.

00:35:21.820 And it's not only them, it's the rest of everybody else.

00:35:25.580 Probably their friends, friends.

00:35:27.060 Yo, bro, happy wife, happy life.

00:35:28.860 It's probably the therapist who needs a therapist that is giving them therapy on how to do it.

00:35:34.560 So at the end of the day, you were cooking when you said everybody in the culture, reinforce it also.

00:35:40.080 So it's hard to get out of it because then you look like a rager.

00:35:43.540 But when you say that there's a point, like let's say Elon Musk is a 0.001% man.

00:35:51.040 As far as the man that can say no to the women he loves, because they can say no to random women, but that's rare too.

00:35:56.920 But it's rarer to say it to the women you love.

00:35:59.660 if elon's a 0.001 man then that's 0.0000000 0.1 percent of men that can do that pearl

00:36:10.540 elon was crying about losing grimes grimes had more power over the richest man in the planet

00:36:18.460 so at the end of the day even the wealth and the ambitious men end up getting trapped by the women

00:36:25.340 they love so you can ask what yeah what percent of men do you guys think overcome their natural

00:36:33.260 nice guyness like what's sad of a hundred i i would say okay there's guys that over okay there's

00:36:43.180 the guys that are just nice and can't overcome it there's a guys who suffer enough and can't

00:36:49.980 overcome it and disengage and then they're the guys who overcome it so i think the smallest

00:36:56.620 percentage are the guys who overcome it but then there's this weird purgatory where you know that

00:37:02.060 you're that you don't have the skills necessary to say no so you pull back and you're seeing more

00:37:06.780 more of those guys that you choose not to be involved with women at all

00:37:10.700 so uh then you have the one the guy that'll never get over it so there's three positions in my

00:37:15.580 my opinion what do you think sean reinstate the question more time for what percent of men get

00:37:24.460 over being nice men i would say it's always if they do it's temporary i would actually say a lot

00:37:31.840 of them do but it's temporary meaning they go through it right and then they blue pill rage

00:37:37.920 because something bad happens and it's not red pill rage it's blue pill rage they blue pill rage

00:37:43.680 about it and then they say man you gotta be a bad boy you gotta be a d you gotta be terrible to women

00:37:50.800 and then they fall in love again and they revert back to the nice guy even when they're actually

00:37:55.520 having on the cosplay of a bad man role that's so true even when they have the cosplay pearl

00:38:02.240 they have it and then they're secretly in the corner on confession talking about you know this

00:38:07.600 is really not me i'm really not this type of guy yeah i really want something special and real

00:38:12.880 i've seen it live on television that's really how men are about it because here's the thing you

00:38:21.120 you get to the point in life where things are just um your nature and so and and acting against your

00:38:31.360 nature you can only do it so like acting against your nature it feels like work so a lot of guys

00:38:37.520 it's hard for them to be if they're nice guys it's hard for them to be a bad boy or be mean

00:38:43.040 for any length of time because because it feels like work i have a question for um for pearl

00:38:49.520 for pearl and sean this whole a lot of nice guys a lot of nice people a lot of givers

00:38:56.240 they give and they're nice and they get to the wrong people and they get nothing in return

00:39:02.480 but what they get is that feeling of being nice it's like and that is their reward so the only

00:39:09.520 person rewarding them for simply and giving in themselves is themselves

00:39:17.920 do you know what that's called or why that's a thing like why do nice people or nice guys

00:39:23.440 get give what's that feeling call when you're giving to other people and you're giving nothing

00:39:28.720 in return but you feel good about it what's that call like why is that a thing are you

00:39:34.720 are you understanding my question i'm not i'm okay sean is maybe he can answer

00:39:40.800 you understand yeah yeah yeah but you know why you get it pearl dope because she's not a man she

00:39:46.640 ain't been conditioned to do some dumb stuff like that so basically it's a situation where it's

00:39:51.600 basically like what he's saying pearl is men that it continue to give to people without the

00:39:56.400 to reset propriety but they still feel good i mean this is what men indoctrinate and society

00:40:01.700 other people with it's like man nobody you should not be happy at christmas everybody else should

00:40:08.040 be happy you should be suffering that type of stuff it's not a man's job to be happy his job

00:40:14.640 is to make sure everyone else is happy i've heard that so many times like in the media career it's

00:40:21.300 a man like men it doesn't matter if they're happy oh my gosh that's so true his job is to make sure

00:40:28.500 the dog's happy the society's happy the children are happy his job that makes him happy if they're

00:40:35.380 not happy and then they continue with that yeah yeah that's what kind of doug was saying yeah but

00:40:39.380 you just been programmed like that my guy that's literally it it's nothing if you go to the

00:40:45.300 scandinavian societies they condition the boys to be very passive and they condition the men

00:40:51.380 or women to be very aggressive and when they grow up and they're adults they have exactly that women

00:40:58.100 are going out chasing the guys they're being aggressive men are being super passive just

00:41:03.220 because they were conditioned like that so most men are conditioned just to serve women like that

00:41:07.540 regardless of reciprocity i say it's terrible reinforced by the mothers too 100 it's

00:41:15.140 ridiculous uh donnie what's your thought on the topic welcome to the show uh hi pearl uh hi doug

00:41:22.260 can you guys hear me i can hear you okay i'll try to be quick as always uh i doug i think the word

00:41:28.660 you were looking for was altruism you know when you sacrifice for others yes yes that that is the

00:41:36.820 word i was looking for thank you yeah altruism yes yes uh see the thing is i think i can really

00:41:42.900 speak to this i think i know you guys use the friends in the thumbnail you know ross from

00:41:48.140 friends but i think the worst simp in fiction modern fiction might be bill from king of the

00:41:53.860 hill you guys ever watch hank hill king of the hill yeah uh-huh okay uh well pearl i recommend

00:41:59.560 you watch it it's a great red pill show great slice to life show you know hank hill from texas

00:42:04.800 but his friend bill you know the one that was divorced balding yeah every now and then he gets

00:42:09.960 a woman but it's like a blue moon thing and bill is sad yet selfless like so much has gone wrong

00:42:16.980 in his life he's fat washed up disgusting won't take care of himself but he will help others

00:42:23.860 sometimes he is that good friend you need other times he is that massive simp and it's also

00:42:30.940 personal because i had a close friend of mine that self-deleted two years ago uh let's call him j.s

00:42:38.140 imagine bill dotrieve if you haven't seen king of the hill go look it up but

00:42:44.420 balding 5'10 fat schizophrenic very simpy did favors for girls and it was terrible like

00:42:57.240 yeah every guy has their own simp habit but a lot of us grow out of it the problem with

00:43:03.200 my friend js was he he never grew out he had that extreme altruism where he thought it was noble

00:43:12.400 sacrificing for people like yes he'd work crappy delivery driver gigs 60 70 hours a week he had no

00:43:22.080 one in his life and he thought it was noble giving and giving and it's like if it's a close friend

00:43:29.120 that actually needs help there's nothing wrong with giving occasionally but he would give too

00:43:34.240 much he never learned how to be selfish like and you see this with with the christian church but

00:43:41.760 not just christians like there are several philosophies like i don't want to get all

00:43:47.200 academic but we we have in our culture this idea that selfishness is always evil like you know

00:43:53.600 you ever watch star wars where it's like the sith practice selfishness and they're always

00:43:59.680 painted as evil but nichi ayn rand they basically said you know what being selfish doesn't always

00:44:06.400 mean hurting people like it doesn't always have to be might makes right i'm sorry i'm getting off

00:44:11.260 topic that's okay um did you want to land yeah i'll land with this uh i think nice guy normally

00:44:23.580 for 80 of guys it just means it's code for you're not good looking enough because controversial

00:44:30.060 topic not all nice guys are lonely losers who never get the girl like there are some good

00:44:36.860 wholesome ned flanders guys that are wholesome good god-fearing great people but they also had

00:44:45.020 the looks that okay they were the total package they were i don't think i don't think this whole

00:44:54.780 dark triad be alpha bc i think everyone should be more selfish but if a woman thinks you're ugly

00:45:01.740 even if you act like you're more dominant she's still gonna see you as a creep like that whole

00:45:08.060 be alpha be dominant yeah that's gonna work for arnold schwarzenegger it's not gonna work for

00:45:14.460 someone that looks like danny devito who was also in a friends episode that one where he was like a

00:45:20.580 male stripper they paid him to keep his clothes on but you guys got a lot of people on uh it's a

00:45:27.300 it sounds like a good friday show uh i i want to split great talking with you uh doug great talking

00:45:33.020 with you pearl nice outfit thanks thanks for calling in uh so altruism is the unselfish

00:45:40.660 concern for other people's welfare involving actions that benefit others often at a cost

00:45:46.880 or risk to oneself. Driven by empathy, it strengthens social bonds and foster good community

00:45:52.600 trust. Key types include kin altruism, reciprocal altruism, and cultural altruism. That's what

00:46:00.860 I was trying to talk about earlier. Yeah, good job for bringing that up, Diane. Good

00:46:04.040 job okay we'll do uh d-a-h welcome to the show what are your thoughts on the topic

00:46:14.120 yeah hi there so uh i'm a british guy but i've grown up in the middle east and i've been here

00:46:21.380 for over 35 years when i first got here it was kind of foreign for me to see women covered

00:46:27.180 to see bearded men you know and i think when you're young you know you kind of

00:46:34.220 tend to be goody goodies and as you grow older you know you become more skilled more dangerous

00:46:41.340 more capable and where i am now as a 46 year old you know i've come to appreciate you know what

00:46:49.460 they have in the middle east that dynamic between the men and the women

00:46:53.020 uh you know it seems to work it doesn't sound good it's not politically correct but you know

00:47:01.740 the infrastructure the man lays for his woman you know don't you know go with other men even

00:47:09.060 as friends you know cover yourself cover your beauty for the husband you know there seems to

00:47:14.800 be somewhere there right thanks for calling in i appreciate it all right let's see mark welcome

00:47:22.080 back. What are your thoughts on the topic? My thought is altruism is not the same as being

00:47:30.520 nice. Nice, you want people to perceive you a certain way. Altruism, you don't really care

00:47:36.480 about their perception. You're doing it because you think it's the right thing to do. You're

00:47:41.860 putting yourself in their shoes. You would like people to show you mercy, so you're showing

00:47:45.040 mercy. Nice, you want to look nice. You want to be perceived a certain way. And what was

00:47:51.320 your thoughts on the monologue do you have anything else to add about nice guys no you're

00:47:56.620 spot on they're in denial they are not getting what they want so they think by appearing a

00:48:01.500 certain way they might get what they want without actually being assertive without having the

00:48:05.420 courage to vocalize what they want you were spot on yeah there's a reason women don't find them

00:48:10.500 attractive yeah go ahead ask market market questions so so i said earlier okay what come

00:48:18.000 Okay, so I agree with you that being nice is a perception.

00:48:24.120 What do you think happens first?

00:48:26.900 Does a guy get nice guy results and then get labeled a nice guy?

00:48:31.300 Like, what is the progression?

00:48:32.940 Because I think that – so do you think that guys that are nice guys,

00:48:38.120 they know they're trying to be nice?

00:48:40.960 Is it like a strategy or something?

00:48:43.380 Is it like an active thing?

00:48:45.620 Yeah, you decide to be nice first.

00:48:47.460 that's what comes first having been a nice guy that's where i started i chose to be the nice guy

00:48:52.820 i thought that by being nicer than everyone else i was going to get the outcome i want it doesn't

00:48:57.460 work so so then you think that nice guy denial is not a real thing because there are guys because

00:49:07.380 i agree with you 100 i just guys try to say oh you know i was nice try to act like they didn't

00:49:14.500 understand that they were going to get the results they were getting by being nice so what would you

00:49:20.180 say to a guy that said are you know uh that try to act like they didn't know that being nice would

00:49:27.620 get them the results that they were getting what would you say to that guy i would say they were

00:49:32.100 ignorant of reality they didn't do their due diligence to look at other people trying their

00:49:36.580 method to see if it works to see if it produces the results they want they were just ignorant

00:49:40.660 that's okay you can learn just admit you didn't know but now you know better i did dude yeah i

00:49:47.780 agree 100 oh welcome to the show what are your thoughts on nice guys um uh i think it's all

00:49:57.780 looks i think a lot of it is looks when you're um you know in my 20s i was a model for like

00:50:06.180 maschino in tokyo and worked in paris and i mean we got like it was great for me i was you know

00:50:16.260 single and uh straight most of the other models were gay so it was like it was just like open

00:50:24.980 season it was like eight or nine models we could date every one of them it was great um so it was

00:50:31.980 nice but the nice guys i mean i could pull i could pull uh any woman i wanted away from a nice guy

00:50:42.300 just like hey wow you know let's go with me and she's oh okay okay just simple so the nice guys

00:50:50.860 for me i always thought they came in last you know um you know mom was a model my father was

00:50:58.460 it it helps it's looks looks has and even more than money so i'd be with other guys who had

00:51:06.540 more money or whatever but i could still get a slightly better looking gal you can mog

00:51:13.580 i don't know mog what is mog oh that's the new term for being like face mogging

00:51:21.820 so like um if someone's better looking than you they mog you

00:51:25.920 so you'd mog the girls and then steal them so you're saying um what do you say though that

00:51:32.940 won't help them once you get into a relationship like if you're weak as a guy once you're dating

00:51:38.420 like once you start dating though she's still gonna walk all over you well i mean that's

00:51:44.540 not if you're confident if you're confident she's never gonna walk over you because

00:51:49.340 she knows that at any given point you can say hey you know what there's a lot of fish in the sea

00:51:55.980 honey and um i'll punch your ticket yeah but that's my point like don't you think nice guys

00:52:03.460 is somewhat based on behavior more than looks or you disagree um i i you know i again i i think

00:52:13.840 it's all looks i i think looks has a whole hell of a lot because i you know and i think that's

00:52:18.600 probably genetic right so if you're if you're good looking uh you're symmetrical a woman looks

00:52:26.420 at you their body says this is what you go for they don't i mean that's the bottom line if you're

00:52:33.800 not symmetrical i mean like i mean like hey elon musk has got a ton of money but he's nothing to

00:52:40.040 look at so did you date any famous models um you know i don't know if they were necessarily famous

00:52:51.000 um but they mogged yeah yeah i mean they were they were great and they were gorgeous i mean

00:52:59.520 and all different all different like i mean you know white girls blonde girls redheads asian girls

00:53:08.500 black girls i mean like the chicks from senegal and their noses are like more refined than the

00:53:16.340 than the girls from finland they were like amazing you're just sat there you're like you've

00:53:22.400 gotta be fucking kidding me you know gay men that sounds like heaven on earth

00:53:27.280 you were with a bunch of models they're all yeah i mean i remember i remember a couple of gigs that

00:53:34.000 we were at we were like it was me and this guy from kentucky and i was like a midwestern he's

00:53:41.600 like yo come back he had the funny hat and all that kind of nonsense uh you know he was a

00:53:47.240 fucking country boy but you know he like was good looking he had the blue eyes you know and he was

00:53:54.760 you know pretty built so he could he could he had game you know and and that was it it was it was

00:54:03.820 awesome because all the girls were straight they were like they were all straight the other guys

00:54:07.660 were kind of gay so you know they were like well they're not interested they're like we want you

00:54:12.380 to pick them up here like this is great this is the best day of my life how many guys would pay

00:54:19.860 to be in that room they're like i'll be your assistant security guard what you need yeah i

00:54:24.260 mean this is this definitely did not suck i mean it was great but and we made good money but i mean

00:54:31.220 Oh, it's like always you work for two hours and you wait for eight for them to set everything up.

00:54:37.580 Yeah.

00:54:38.200 So I have a question about the whole looks thing.

00:54:41.940 So the best advice my father ever gave me was those who don't have to won't, right?

00:54:48.040 And a lot of guys that deal with pretty women will tell you that, like, they're so hard to be around because they're so good looking that society doesn't require them to have to really do anything in life.

00:55:01.220 yeah um is that what you saw with these models where they were so pretty that their lives were

00:55:06.740 a mess um did looks affect yeah i mean looks them up books definitely them up

00:55:16.420 but but what about the guys the same thing for the guys lives too because i've had most of my

00:55:22.180 good-looking guy friends they haven't achieved as much as regular guys because society gives

00:55:27.700 them a fast deal well i don't know i mean i was a i was a professor so um but you know they were

00:55:38.020 like uh professor paul they have a special thing you won't make five hundred dollars on weekend i

00:55:44.580 said five hundred dollars doing what you have to um do modeling and they need a kimpatsu kimpatsu is

00:55:52.740 called the blonde haired people that was me so i was like oh oh five hundred dollars i could use

00:56:00.260 so i'm like yeah sure let's let's do it so then i went that's how the whole then they give you you

00:56:06.180 know you get a guy he takes pictures and then you get what's called a comp card and then you know

00:56:12.180 they put you in a model database and then from there it just goes on and on and on and on and

00:56:16.740 And, you know, after a while, you're like, do I have to teach any more because I'm making more money doing this?

00:56:23.420 It's stupid.

00:56:25.300 You know, and then there's all the parties, you know, in Roppongi.

00:56:28.940 And, oh, it was, you know, you're running around in limousines.

00:56:34.820 And, you know, and I'm sitting there with the guys from Smashing Pumpkins.

00:56:40.740 And whoever came into town played at the Tokyo Dome.

00:56:44.520 And you're, like, hanging out with them.

00:56:46.060 and they you bring your whole entourage it sounds lit thanks for calling in paul you're i really

00:56:52.880 enjoy uh listening to you uh pearl thanks for calling we don't agree on everything but a lot

00:56:58.440 of stuff i think you're right you don't have to that's all right you're beautiful thank you thank

00:57:03.100 you i don't have a comment yeah go ahead i was thinking about why do men turn into a nice guy

00:57:10.500 once they're in a relationship i think it's because they're afraid of taking the l of walking

00:57:14.560 away if it doesn't go their way they're afraid of uh the time that they've lost the energy they've

00:57:20.240 invested so they think maybe if i'm the nice guy i can salvage this i think that's part of it

00:57:27.040 do you agree sean and doug i would add in yes i think he's right but then you know the west

00:57:34.240 it's it's that on top of you know it's that on top of it being taught to us too like i think

00:57:44.040 that too many men think that that's their that that's their eventual reality understand i'm

00:57:50.200 saying and so they just end up in it they just end well no no they put themselves in a situation

00:57:57.220 and they feel it's normal yeah so i'd agree 100 i agree and and women have no idea

00:58:04.300 how much the narrative is that women sacrifice in a relationship women do all this work and women

00:58:10.700 have no idea how much it takes for the average guy to get a relationship in a marriage and get

00:58:17.100 any kind of regular sex on a regular basis a lot of guys as they get older you see this in the

00:58:22.940 workplace once you hit your 40s you meet a lot of people who hate their jobs and they

00:58:28.300 bitch and moan and complain about their job but they don't want to they'd rather be an expert at

00:58:33.980 a job they hate than take the risk to find a job that's better for them yeah you know at my day job

00:58:39.980 i see it all the time i see these women particularly black women who bitch and moan and complain all

00:58:44.620 day it's like why don't you just go get a different why i couldn't do that it's like why you're gonna

00:58:49.580 sit here and complain and moan bitch all day you know what it is i think it's fear of making a

00:58:54.780 choice too and making the wrong choice what i've noticed is do you think trump really took a long

00:59:00.680 time to divorce his ex-wives did he sit there and like wonder if it was the right he took he caught

00:59:06.840 he was crazy trump caught wife number two cheating with his bodyguard and still maintained a good

00:59:11.960 relationship never said a bad word wished her well you know it's the it's the beta it's the

00:59:18.040 nice guys that crash out he's like i'll just get new i'm gonna get a melania i'm gonna get a think

00:59:23.560 about it if he badmouth her how does that make it him look because he chose to be with with her to

00:59:28.620 begin with 100 true and men understand that women don't yep yeah and i also say just so fast guys

00:59:36.220 um the most important question you can ask yourself when it comes to a relationship when

00:59:42.300 it comes to your job when it comes to your circumstances in life is this working yes or no

00:59:47.500 you have to answer that question yes or no if the answer is no well then all the rest is easy

00:59:53.200 make the change but people don't want to answer that question men will be in a shitty situation

00:59:58.100 with a woman and you go up to your friend and be like bro is this working for you and they'll be

01:00:03.640 like and they'll be in that they don't want to answer that question because if you answer that

01:00:09.760 question that's when if the answer is yes it's working for you with a shut up and stop complaining

01:00:15.340 if the answer is no that's when the real work starts if people don't want to start the real

01:00:20.660 work if if your relationship or your marriage isn't working for you guys ask yourself is this

01:00:25.540 working the answer is no you gotta start doing the work to get out of it yeah that's what i think i

01:00:32.660 think it is the fear though it's like the fear of making a choice yeah and i would add oh go ahead

01:00:41.060 i think it's the i would add i would add the other wait let me add something real quick

01:00:45.380 i know we're honing in on that and that could be a part of the equation

01:00:48.740 but i still think that majority of it is scarcity if you move from a scarcity construct and it's

01:00:55.460 usually coupled with wanting infection from women and it's like oh it's ridiculous like men men just

01:01:02.980 see their whole lives arranged around women there was a survey that was just recently done

01:01:08.020 and 70 72 of men said they wanted to get married or have kids in the future majority of women said

01:01:15.300 they don't even want men around in their lives they just don't even like men so at the end of

01:01:20.180 the day i think it's you scarce you're in a scarcity mindset leaving out like the guy just

01:01:26.420 said he was a model he wasn't it wasn't something else that gave him the initiative to leave it was

01:01:32.180 his options he had options so he was like bro i'll punch your damn clock shorties have options y'all

01:01:40.020 laughing at fat girls who say the stuff they got to say but dudes be sliding in their dm oh my god

01:01:46.020 you might you might be like well they don't want to marry you wait hold on this is this is the red

01:01:50.420 pill coat they don't want to marry you though doesn't matter they still want to get with me

01:01:56.420 yeah it does marry because you can't have children it's a coat it's a coat guys i've seen a guy with

01:02:02.500 blue a green eyes light-skinned dude tall muscular marry a big fat mexican woman like at the end of

01:02:09.220 the day it's like it's stop stop the cope in the cope strategy and you have to realize you got to

01:02:16.180 be in that uh go ahead go ahead and sorry i just want to add one thing women don't want to get

01:02:19.760 married even when they're old don't even i've talked to women in their like 50s and i talked

01:02:26.960 to this woman about dating she's in her 50s so it's like what more time do you have right i mean

01:02:32.420 she's good looking for a 50 year old woman but like still right and she's like talking about

01:02:37.700 she doesn't really want to get into a relationship because she's afraid of std she likes to travel

01:02:44.580 she wants to have time with her kids and i'm like telling her i'm like okay well then have

01:02:50.580 the sex at least that's fun right and she's like no like i don't want to do that and i'm like

01:02:56.820 you're 50 you got no time left and you still don't want a man and i'm like women never want

01:03:01.700 want to be in relationships or married i think it's about we do like one of our biggest copes

01:03:09.540 in the red tail is that it's it's it's the mistake of like results like we still think that the result

01:03:20.040 is marriage and children for women and pearl's one of the leading people saying that that's not

01:03:25.980 true guys most women their their results aren't what we think they should be i understand i'm

01:03:33.180 saying what do what do women choose with all the choice like kim kardashian she could have been

01:03:38.500 with anybody whoredom whoredom social media influencer yeah ivf yeah and single mothers by

01:03:46.360 choice and their girlfriends that's because she wanted to be a lawyer she had aspirations

01:03:51.120 i heard that i heard that kanye wanted to take the bar it's just like because he wanted the first

01:03:59.440 time and i heard it was a fake story and i was so sad because i wanted it to be true

01:04:04.960 imagine if kanye just took the bar and passed it oh my god i wanted it to be true so bad

01:04:11.520 i've got an idea why women don't want to get married okay marriage takes work a relationship

01:04:18.400 takes work it's a lot easier and a lot more exciting to be the side chick of a top dude

01:04:24.800 than to put in the work to actually have a good relationship 100 true it's easier to be the

01:04:30.080 concubine of the king and it's a more comfortable lifestyle than to be the wife of the farmer down

01:04:34.720 the road yep yeah that's so true because the wife of the farmer has to do a bunch of work what is

01:04:40.080 the the concubine just has to lay there she just has to look pretty not piss him off too much

01:04:46.320 and let him when he wants to and she has a comfortable lifestyle it makes sense it

01:04:50.720 completely makes sense right the biggest example of what you're talking about is how

01:04:57.680 women started using the term partner for for being in a relationship or a marriage with a man

01:05:04.720 right boyfriend girlfriend fiance husband wife have implied roles in society

01:05:11.360 partner is nebulous and vacuous i've never heard men say partner i've seen like liberal guys say

01:05:19.000 it but like men in general they're talking about what they want from a woman they still usually

01:05:23.940 say fiance and wife women use this nebulous vacuous partner so they don't so things don't

01:05:29.960 have to be defined and they don't have to be um um implied roles in a relationship and here's the

01:05:37.480 thing um women say partner because it's nebulous backwards and then they want to be able to

01:05:43.920 determine what the terms are in that partnership so be careful when women start saying partner

01:05:50.840 go ahead think about it it's a way to escape accountability it's a way to escape having a

01:05:55.300 burden of performance on them if you can constantly shift the goalpost 100 true

01:05:59.700 okay go ahead mark i was thinking about why is it that people have a hard time admitting when

01:06:06.640 their relationship isn't working i think it's because they don't want to deal with the emotional

01:06:10.200 consequences of admitting that a they don't know what they're doing or they chose the wrong person

01:06:16.140 try to build the relationship they don't want to admit that so and rather than deal with that

01:06:20.380 emotional consequences they'd rather just be in denial and try to keep doubling down to get it

01:06:26.160 to work right why do people double down in a losing situation they just don't want to quit

01:06:30.840 they don't want to admit that this isn't working they don't want to deal with the emotional side of

01:06:34.320 the sad part about it is that can carry you far in like business and other aspects of your life

01:06:43.440 but it could be a bad thing when it comes to your personal life you know what i'm saying

01:06:46.520 most of the guys i know that have that problem in marriage and relationship that that dogged

01:06:55.160 determination carries them well in a lot of other aspects of their life but notice a losing

01:07:02.180 situation is a losing situation at some point you got to realize i got to stop doubling down and

01:07:07.140 walk away right uh let's look at gambling a lot a lot of people lose because they just won't walk

01:07:12.180 away oh i can make this back i can make this back i can make this no no it's a losing situation just

01:07:16.340 walk away you become emotionally invested in an outcome you're no longer using logic and reason

01:07:21.860 to evaluate your position and you're continuing to make decisions that aren't achieving the outcome

01:07:26.340 you are you're trapped in a mental loop and i would like to add to that mark just to help a

01:07:33.540 guy move forward with it i always ask people this question if you're in a situation where

01:07:39.200 you're saying the relationship doesn't work and then you say you're walking away you're gonna

01:07:45.480 have a hard time convincing me on how that's a loss the way we phrase it the way you even think

01:07:51.540 about it is all effed up when a girl says to me i don't like you i want to be with this

01:07:57.820 chad ron or trad dracula i say

01:08:01.220 i sit back and i say okay you don't want to be with me anymore right she's like no i'm not in

01:08:10.080 love with you i say great i don't see it as a downside i don't want to be with somebody who

01:08:16.420 don't want to be with me i don't want to be with somebody who despise me i don't want to be with

01:08:21.260 somebody who holds me in contempt who treats me like a son who treats me like a sibling

01:08:26.680 i just don't that's just not my lifestyle so if an individual says that that i want to go off and

01:08:33.180 do this then i say be free and peace be on to you and i actually mean that shit and that's that's

01:08:41.080 how you need to start seeing it and that signals to the woman that you like yourself like if you

01:08:45.800 don't like you why would we like you exactly like some of the best advice i ever got my father told

01:08:53.240 me consider yourself in a good position when something somebody or some organization tells

01:08:59.320 you everything that you need to know and so many guys the the woman they're with is telling them

01:09:05.520 by their absence actually what they need to know and they're choosing not to act on that information

01:09:09.640 so yeah i agree 100 you guys are cooking tonight let's go sean i got one question for you i agree

01:09:15.680 with you but how long does it take a man to reach to that point where he admits to himself what you

01:09:21.920 just said how many men struggle to get to that point right we all have had to go through ego

01:09:29.440 death and get to that point that's why we can now walk away we've gotten to that point and we're

01:09:35.520 trying to convince other men who have not gotten there that hey you're going to end up here

01:09:40.240 eventually if you're honest with yourself yeah but they gotta suffer simps have got exactly

01:09:47.040 yeah they need to eat that humble pie of being slapped in the face by reality

01:09:51.920 yeah gotta be posted men got a simp you know what i mean it's just a circle yeah right

01:10:00.080 i believe in ope other people's experience so a lot of times i don't have to hit my head against

01:10:05.600 the wall because i've seen somebody turn around with blood gushing from their head and i'm like

01:10:10.640 all right cool i get the message but some people are not like that some people are like no i gotta

01:10:15.980 do it too and then they hit their head against the wall and then they might learn their lesson

01:10:20.860 and they might patch it up and go do it again so you know it's just go ahead i will say a life

01:10:26.940 not lived i think is worse than a life where you make mistakes we've all met that person that's

01:10:32.780 like afraid to take risks won't leave their room will go out like they have taken zero risks in

01:10:38.060 life and i think that's a worse way to live than making like making mistakes yeah i i'd also say

01:10:46.080 that in like in relationships i think that i think that guys at least once in your life you don't

01:10:52.420 have to get married but like try to build a life with somebody because where i live there's so many

01:11:00.760 women who have never had a serious relationship never and it's sad like one of my family members

01:11:08.280 is going to be 50 and she's never had a serious relationship and just talking to her it's just

01:11:13.720 weird i'm like what is so like i changed my position on this i think it's better to have

01:11:18.960 love and lost than but to have never loved at all you don't have to get married don't put yourself

01:11:24.880 in a position where you can lose a lot but like i think that's how you can truly choose to be

01:11:29.900 single is if you know what life with a woman is like and you're choosing not to do it and that's

01:11:35.260 what a lot of these women do you want to say wait i'm choosing to be single but you don't have a

01:11:39.260 choice because no no men are coming after you or you don't have any experience building with the

01:11:44.620 man understand i'm saying we doug i want to add something because you just said it and it just

01:11:48.860 came to my head you said about the loss and love say that one more time i say it's better to have

01:11:55.820 love and loss that they've never loved at all okay now what i want to add to that is loving yourself

01:12:04.380 it sucks if you never experienced that and i really mean this guys it sucks if you go through

01:12:11.100 life i don't care how many wives you had or girlfriends you had and you said oh my gosh

01:12:15.100 i loved and it failed life will freaking suck at the end if you never learn to love yourself

01:12:20.220 and most men go through loves with women maybe love of their children but they never come to

01:12:25.800 love themselves they'll that's why y'all deleting yourself y'all don't even know what i mean when i

01:12:31.780 said i'd rather be lonely by myself lonely forever by myself if i can at least figure out how to love

01:12:38.820 myself before i'm worried about does this girl like me does this girl want to stay with me for

01:12:43.640 35 to 50 years i can give a rat's ass i will die loving myself and be completely fine and content

01:12:51.200 with that when you learn that and you reach that point there's nothing else that can move you off

01:12:56.560 your life in your square so leave losing a girl here or there or people walking out on you it's

01:13:02.000 cool i'm the common denominator of this story called life there's nothing else outside of me

01:13:07.400 go ahead mark a point i want to point something out for us men when we say love yourself if you

01:13:14.580 don't understand what that means replace the word love with respect it's pretty damn close

01:13:18.920 that'll help you go on the right track oh that's good that's good um aj welcome to the show

01:13:25.980 what are your thoughts what are your thoughts on the topic

01:13:30.580 can you hear me your audio is weird man okay um yeah you're laying down in bed dude come on yeah

01:13:39.120 okay i'm gonna bring someone else up we'll circle back thomas welcome to the show what do you think

01:13:45.180 of the topic how are you doing tonight how you doing pearl how are everybody doing

01:13:49.300 good um so what do you think of the topic all right well all right i consider myself a zennial

01:13:57.800 So I'm born in 1983, 42 years old.

01:14:02.720 I've been married.

01:14:04.180 I've had plenty of relationships.

01:14:06.480 I cannot have kids.

01:14:08.540 Unfortunately, my wife could not have kids and it didn't work out.

01:14:12.800 And just looking at everything going on, you know, we need to get back to the basic family structure.

01:14:24.100 That's what I believe.

01:14:25.460 one parent at home one parent working and i don't know how we get there

01:14:32.940 when both sexes are fighting one another all the time but somebody needs to be home with the kids

01:14:41.200 somebody needs to be giving them the right structure and i don't know how we get back to

01:14:47.680 that it's never going to happen in our lifetime i have an idea that'll help you filter for that

01:14:54.760 go ahead you ask how many leaders can there be in a household there has to be one head

01:15:01.160 you can't have two heads that's an abomination right we call it a genetic deformity if an

01:15:05.320 animal's born with two heads you need one head the woman has a problem admitting that basic reality

01:15:10.680 walk away that's you you have seen enough to know that's not worth your time she might be

01:15:16.600 fun fought but don't try a relationship she's going to be fighting you for authority all the

01:15:21.000 damn time wait i i i always say guys please please i'm maybe maybe i'm clueless when did this exist

01:15:32.280 this like one parent in the household type stuff people struggled all their lives everybody worked

01:15:39.080 kids worked we had to pass laws not too long ago to get kids to stop working so what is this whole

01:15:45.960 thing with kids in the household you're making it up it's nostalgia it's holding you back it's

01:15:52.800 never been like that for a small few people for a small lot of time most people were out here

01:15:59.300 working people were slaves what are you talking about most of humanity was slaves so what the

01:16:03.940 kids were staying at home i'm not talking about 200 years ago we're talking about the 1960s the

01:16:10.920 1970s but the women born in the that were married in the 50s like in the 70s it was the highest

01:16:18.400 divorce rate ever so they don't like you yeah you could have got a bitch from the 40s and she still

01:16:26.220 would have divorced your ass at like 40 or 50 might have been yeah like and that doesn't even

01:16:34.640 include like my grandma was separated when she died so like they had separate houses they may

01:16:39.760 well have been divorced but they oh i agree like my my grandfather was on his third wife when i was

01:16:46.720 being raised up but that's what it was in order for in order for one group to do it they have to

01:16:54.720 go get the rocks so if you're not saying let's go get the rocks like the middle east then you're

01:16:59.520 not gonna do it so at the end of the day it's just like you're gonna have to find a new mental

01:17:04.800 a new frame that's not what we got in the west or the east and the middle east don't even got

01:17:09.600 it they losing their grip saudi arabia letting girls drive now they in dubai living it up i've

01:17:14.800 been there i lived in the middle east you see muslim feminists with platforms now insane

01:17:20.640 that grip too bro but can we at least agree that somebody needs to be home with the kids

01:17:25.840 male female damn them kids they need to go back get jobs they need to go out here and do some

01:17:31.920 things kids will be all right man kids be babied until they're 18. now you got your kids in the

01:17:37.520 household they ain't grew up it's they 25 years old well my brain ain't fully developed like come on

01:17:46.640 my mom got her roof redone uh she lives down south and you know and she's like me where she avoids

01:17:53.760 companies owned by ninjas and um so she picked this hispanic group and the the quote was less

01:18:02.880 and all the ninja companies were like oh yeah it'll take us two days to redo your roof the

01:18:07.600 hispanic guys like we can do it in one right these three guys showed up and their sons were like 10

01:18:13.440 11 and 12 and were climbing those ladders bringing roof tiles up to their dads and the best relief

01:18:20.960 they got her whole roof done in 12 hours their son they got there at 6 a.m and by 6 p.m with

01:18:28.480 their sons it was it was three sons i think they were 10 11 12 and no 10 11 and 13 and they got

01:18:35.440 that roof done in 12 hours hey pearl what did you say about what did you say earlier about the the

01:18:42.320 men raising kids what did you say earlier about that oh men raise better kids what which part

01:18:48.320 yeah that's what you said right so retire yourself men you stay at home with your kids

01:18:54.800 and get your money right i'm trying to hand that wait hold on stop trying to hand that over to a

01:18:59.440 damn wife that's why your kids all out here punks statistics say when you take charge

01:19:05.360 don't give her curriculum and say well i i leave no no no you can't delegate that to her that's

01:19:11.440 why your kids is sour sweet and sour chicken as they is now because she raised them you have to

01:19:17.280 raise your kids as a man period they get my indoctrination from me they get the word from god

01:19:23.680 i don't pass it to no moses i don't pass it to no middle man because you're gonna get the eve

01:19:28.640 situation your kids gonna be out here listening to snakes so take charge of your household get

01:19:33.760 yourself in a position and you indoctrinate your children your woman can continue to work she can

01:19:39.360 go out here and be on i don't give a dang but at the end of the day i don't want her teaching my

01:19:43.520 kids never the book talked about how it's confusing for children because they when the mom's home with

01:19:49.840 the kids they have to react to the mother's emotions yes so that's why everyone's like

01:19:55.680 messed up because the mother's at home and there's no incentive structure for good behavior number

01:20:02.560 one so like of course they raise criminals when there's no incentive for being good so like when

01:20:07.920 men parent they'll say like i got caught for throwing a party when i was in high school

01:20:12.240 and like we were drinking at it and when my mom caught me she's like oh like you're a bad like

01:20:16.800 she basically was saying you're a bad kid where my dad would say you're a good kid why would you

01:20:22.640 do this you know what i mean he's like this isn't like you why would you do and that's like a better

01:20:26.800 incentive structure yeah because you're like you're right i'm not a bad kid why did i do this i'm

01:20:32.480 you know yeah it's like the mothers will bring it up for all of eternity and just mentally torture

01:20:37.840 you for forever yeah but when i have talked about this you learn better what i don't know why well

01:20:44.800 there's there's like the dad will give you a punishment but then like after it's you're done

01:20:50.000 it's penance it's like yeah like i got said pearl and i have talked about this where where what

01:20:55.360 happens is um there's what i call emotional maintenance like parents are supposed to give

01:21:02.400 you the skills and give you the confidence and maintain your emotion enough to to turn you into

01:21:07.600 an effective person fathers do that to their children a bad mother you end up having to do

01:21:16.900 that for the mom like the kids and the father like the kids and the father will have to emotionally

01:21:21.820 maintain the mother instead of the mother emotionally maintaining the children so the

01:21:26.940 mother's a bad mother does bad things but the children have to tell the mother she's a good

01:21:31.820 mother and i'm not doing things to you to affect your image as a mother that's the biggest

01:21:38.220 difference between a father and a mother i want to put it like this both the mom and the dad

01:21:45.580 understand that the child's behavior is a reflection of the parent's ability to parent

01:21:50.540 the dad wants the best possible reflection of him as a father that's why he tells the child you can

01:21:56.220 do better i know you can do better why did you do this he's trying to create that better reflection

01:22:02.380 whereas the mom is upset because you made her feel like a bad parent because you acted up so now

01:22:07.100 she's trying to punish you for making her feel bad that's boom exactly right so that's why the

01:22:12.620 man has to lead and he has to say honey i know you feel this way you can't do it that way it's

01:22:18.060 not going to get you the outcome you want you want the same outcome as me you hate the same

01:22:22.940 negative outcome is me but we're going about it a different way here's why i think my way is

01:22:28.060 actually going to accomplish what you want more than the way you're doing it now it's not easy

01:22:33.340 but you got to get her to see your way if she's not willing to see your way i don't know what to

01:22:37.820 say yeah and if you want to take it a step further the way the father's doing it that's the biblical

01:22:44.700 way it says think on the good things focus on the good so that way you stay in a more of a

01:22:49.900 positive mindset if you keep focusing on the negative you made me feel bad you made me feel

01:22:53.420 bad you're going to be stuck in that negative feedback loop of emotion i don't know i disagree

01:22:57.820 with that a little bit and and the fact that i think a good mom will whoop a child and say i hope

01:23:06.220 your father thinks this is enough because if this wasn't enough he gonna spank you too okay i'm not

01:23:13.260 saying you don't hold the child accountable i'm saying don't punish the child for how you feel

01:23:17.740 you have to hold them accountable for their behavior but you can't hold them accountable

01:23:23.380 for your own emotions that's you projecting onto them the accountability you're supposed to have

01:23:28.400 for yourself yeah but how are we going to know how our moms feel every given day of the week

01:23:33.240 it's not every woman has it not about accountability things happen you might have a stressful day you

01:23:41.100 might have a good day things happen but it has to be a stable a a you know uh you know this is

01:23:49.240 how we're going to do it and it doesn't change i agree but what i'm saying is what we see happening

01:23:56.000 is women who don't want to take accountability for how they feel so they want to punish people

01:24:01.600 who create bad feelings in them the woman's reacting negatively to an outside influence

01:24:06.940 and she's punishing the one creating the influence instead of saying hey i've got some internal

01:24:11.340 psychological work i gotta do to figure this out because it's not fair to punish people for how i

01:24:16.140 feel because i don't like it when people punish me for how they feel right it's why mothers overreact

01:24:23.100 to everything yeah like it's um i forgot doug mp were you the one that told me the story about

01:24:28.700 putting things on the room of your floor was that you yeah yeah so like so so my mom

01:24:38.860 i don't know if you guys know this but like my mom was awful to me like for the first 35 years

01:24:43.660 of my life then she went to therapy my parents got divorced now she's mom 2.0 like she's she's

01:24:50.220 done her best to repair the relationship and she like admitted she said i was so

01:24:55.180 she admitted to being a scumbag for the first 35 years of my life she said i was terrible to you

01:25:02.160 guys she said she said that she was my whole childhood she said that she was hurting so bad

01:25:08.420 that she wanted everyone else to hurt as bad as she did and i remember one time she said to me

01:25:14.320 because i moved off to to start my career at my uh my job now and she said i hate you when you're

01:25:21.780 here but i miss you when you're gone and that was my entire childhood right so when i was young my

01:25:28.100 mom would just kick open the door to your room and just like my mom was a clean freak and she

01:25:35.140 thought that things being messy was an affront to her being a mother but you could do everything

01:25:40.260 you possibly could my room would be immaculate and she would go into my closet and just pull

01:25:45.860 stuff off the hangar just find reasons to get upset so we would literally like find the most

01:25:53.220 obvious way to clean something in front of her for her to leave us alone and so we would leave

01:25:59.140 stuff on the floor so she said oh yeah because she'd always find something like she was looking

01:26:03.620 for something to be mad at so they looked like magazines on the floor so they she could see

01:26:10.660 Yeah, so she could yell about that.

01:26:13.640 There was something inside her she wasn't happy about.

01:26:16.500 She was looking for an external excuse to justify because she didn't want to accept that it's something inside her.

01:26:21.160 That's why she was looking for an excuse, right?

01:26:23.080 Look at the common trope.

01:26:24.460 The girlfriend is looking for a reason to pick a fight.

01:26:27.440 She's looking for a reason.

01:26:29.860 She's looking for a reason how the man doesn't measure, why the man's the problem.

01:26:33.340 Because she doesn't want to accept.

01:26:34.480 Actually, it's not him.

01:26:35.660 It's in me.

01:26:36.560 I just don't want to accept it, so I'm looking for something external to blame on.

01:26:40.660 yeah it's trying to escape accountability let's see uh welcome to the show uh gene what is your

01:26:49.860 thought on nice guys finishing last i agree with it i think they do i i uh i think i started out

01:26:57.640 not being such a nice guy i was young studly good looking had the looks then i got married

01:27:06.180 became a beta because i married a narcissist i didn't know what that was a bipolar narcissist

01:27:13.060 24 years i thought i had enough love to make it work and i hit her like a fire hose and it almost

01:27:19.700 killed me and then 10 years ago i got a divorce and i went back and i looked like i was going to

01:27:26.420 die i'm 58. i got younger after the divorce i rebounded and now women have to compete for my

01:27:33.780 solitude my solitude is everything what um what made you switch and when did you notice that you

01:27:42.100 were different than when you met because when i met her she told me everything i wanted she was

01:27:46.980 my dream girl and i married her because she already had two kids and i knew she couldn't

01:27:51.060 leave me and so i played it safe and i never did that before and yet we had a kid together

01:27:58.340 how could she be your dream girl with two kids well she was a high school sweetheart when we

01:28:03.940 were in sixth grade okay so it was one of those but it was someone else's kids

01:28:09.300 yeah and i and and so i had this she come back around to you later on in life so you

01:28:13.700 oh no like they're in high school a single mom do you know i bet there was a nice girl that was

01:28:22.980 like this is this is the thing so i had three men that i adored my step-grandfather and my

01:28:30.580 two uncles and they both married women that had lost their husbands or they got divorced

01:28:37.620 and they raised all these kids and i thought it was so noble and they really were great guys

01:28:42.820 right and so i just justified it i'm like i'm gonna be like these idols in my life

01:28:49.380 and try this out and the great news is i did it it was worth it because i have a great relationship

01:28:56.180 with both of my step daughters i am the only grandfather now to all of their kids and my

01:29:01.860 relationship with my daughter's finally come back around because you know there's a parental

01:29:06.020 alienation thing that happened when i rejected my wife of 24 years right when i rejected her she

01:29:12.340 took away my youngest daughter and now we're back and uh but the key i'm on the other side

01:29:18.900 of a lot of what you're discussing but it's solitude solitude is my saving grace right like i

01:29:24.900 i have a very intense career i love what i do everything's wonderful now right i'm gonna ask

01:29:33.860 you a question so for me i a lot of the things that women say they want from a man i did in my

01:29:40.740 marriage oh he needs to support my dreams he's because women they want a successful ambitious

01:29:47.300 guy to set who they are aside to help them achieve their selfish goals right yeah and if you let a

01:29:54.260 woman win she wins for herself not for you right exactly and so step and fetch yes yes so i remember

01:30:02.420 the worst part about being married guys is when you're around your wife you have that altruism

01:30:07.380 where you feel like you're doing the right thing but i remember my ex-wife would always go to sleep

01:30:11.940 before me and i would be laying in bed looking up at the ceiling just knowing that it wasn't right

01:30:17.460 like i'm i'm giving all this i'm getting nothing in return i'm gonna be a never was so i got

01:30:23.060 divorced right and like it took me 10 years to to get past this well and well i don't even struggle

01:30:31.140 with it now but like what you're talking about with solitude maybe you have the same experience

01:30:35.460 as me when you feel a woman start having these expectations of taking your time and your purpose

01:30:41.780 away from you you just you just you just walk away from them they want to know why they want

01:30:48.580 to shame you out of it but like once you've done what gene's talking about and you give that much

01:30:55.540 it it feels like a like the noose is from around your neck and all these women they just want to

01:31:01.220 put the noose around your neck again right am i right g totally i gave my most of my adult life

01:31:08.020 to somebody who didn't possess condition unconditional love it was all conditional

01:31:14.180 everything that ever came out of her mouth and anytime i felt like there was a little bit of

01:31:18.980 love coming back at me it was just some extra that i given her that she gave back to me

01:31:24.020 me she studied normal she was not and you know and and my intuition always told me that i remember

01:31:32.020 my mom telling me why are you marrying her and um and i told my mom the reason and she's like son

01:31:39.620 really you know and it was so so my mom even saw it right and but the good news is i'm lucky enough

01:31:48.100 that i'm i didn't crush me it almost did i pulled out just at the last minute because i think if i

01:31:55.620 stuck in any longer somebody was gonna die right like and it was likely me but i i was losing it

01:32:03.540 i looked horrible my i had built an empire i let it crumble around me because i thought i could

01:32:11.380 save this i had the arrogance to think that i could i could i could over and i was out of my

01:32:19.140 depth i didn't realize psychologically what i was playing with i was playing with he was one of those

01:32:25.380 where you were a mover and a shaker a shaker in your industry a problem solver you're a subject

01:32:31.540 matter expert and you just don't understand why you can solve every other problem in your life

01:32:37.060 except for your wife bro dude you must be psychic because that's what i do for a living i solve

01:32:41.700 impossible problems that's all i do and i thought ah i got this if i could just do this she'll

01:32:50.260 understand and if i could just and it goes on for years bro face plant man yeah done but it's like

01:32:56.900 wanting to be in control of the outcome and of another person gee do you think of this because

01:33:03.940 i made this point yesterday every other aspect of your life is mostly your professional career

01:33:11.860 almost everything except your relationship or marriage with a woman depends mostly on your

01:33:17.700 own effort so yeah so what you put into it is usually what you get out of it except for with

01:33:23.280 a woman correct i can see what chris rock said a man is judged by what he can provide

01:33:28.980 yeah and i'm a provider and i just thought that's the way it was let me ask uh you a question doug

01:33:35.700 or or the other gentleman what's your name i didn't get it gene gene gene or or doug if if

01:33:43.480 that's the situation let's transfer it from the love romantic to just like a business relationship

01:33:48.700 y'all both said like where experts were accomplished what would you do with an employee

01:33:53.000 who just wasn't showing up who was being drunk refused to stack boxes what would you do because

01:33:58.960 you could solve problems right so what would you do with that employee who just refused to get right

01:34:06.320 you get rid of them so transfer that same construct into the romantic relationship

01:34:14.960 there's a deeper problem than that do you have to figure out what it is and why you well in the

01:34:19.840 corporate world at least the corporate world comes with uh guardrails and how-to books and hr right

01:34:27.600 and you've got to follow steps and you know make sure you're not going to get sued and

01:34:33.120 all this other stuff but in general over time i build really great teams and so now i don't

01:34:40.880 have as many employees i've got a lot of cowboys and cowgirls out there that work with me and

01:34:47.200 i don't have to worry about all that stuff there is no bs there's no rumor mill there's no uh but

01:34:54.400 again but again but again that's that's that's fine but if they cross the line like you said

01:34:59.200 adios yeah that's what i'm saying why doesn't that same mentality that same skill that you

01:35:06.320 have in that corporate transferred to the romantic sector on the same principles you

01:35:11.040 should because you said it earlier i think it was you you talked about how or one of you guys said

01:35:16.320 it was really great it's because we're afraid we're afraid of either the social aspect or

01:35:23.120 we've invested you said so once one of you guys said the investment oh my god i clocked 24 years

01:35:30.640 with this person yeah no guys nobody ever thanked me for the mercedes i got him never

01:35:39.360 do you want an example in the financial world of this mental phenomenon people who make a losing

01:35:45.440 investment in the stock market they don't want this canceled investment they're hoping it turns

01:35:50.240 around goes the other way it's the same mentality yeah yeah right that's why i had to stop training

01:35:55.520 because i couldn't break that cycle myself like i tried it's like hey i can't own my own psychology

01:36:00.320 enough at this point to do this so i i gotta stop trying trading jean jean i have a question so you

01:36:05.600 know bad marriages but bad relationships are like losing weight i said this all all throughout the

01:36:12.000 time i've been i've been on youtube people think that losing the weight is the hardest part people

01:36:18.400 think that keeping off the way is the hardest part i don't think that's true i think that

01:36:22.640 when you lose the weight you get the health of your lifestyle you start living the quality of

01:36:27.520 life that you always wanted to live and you look back on all the time you didn't do it marriage is

01:36:32.720 the same way guys like you have this quality of life now and you probably look back and you're

01:36:38.320 like what the was i thinking dude you don't want to go back do you still get upset at yourself

01:36:44.080 sometimes when you look back it may not be as frequent but there are times where you probably

01:36:49.440 still look back and you're like man yeah i do and i even go back to conversations

01:36:55.200 years later i'm like i should have said this

01:37:01.040 so here's what i found when i'm starting to feel that negative way i just have to you know what

01:37:05.360 i gotta show myself grace i gotta forgive myself for being ignorant i didn't know what i didn't

01:37:10.080 know oh okay end of story move on i'm not feeling bad about myself anymore i can keep moving forward

01:37:16.800 yeah i'm sorry go ahead what no no no because i wanted i wanted to keep building with gene

01:37:23.360 and doug and even mark with this okay let's say that investment thing you're like i'm the expert

01:37:28.000 at investing but at the same time i keep doubling down on bad investments you wouldn't be an expert

01:37:33.280 then right you would be like yo you're a bum like mark said i had to quit right that's cool

01:37:37.840 in my world in my world i can never make a mistake if i make a mistake i'll never get hired again

01:37:44.220 end of story no i dig it so this is what i'm just trying to help under uh i discover with you guys

01:37:51.000 if that be the case and this is what people do i say transfer it to the romantic sector you can't

01:37:57.600 love is love see that's why you keep getting hooked and booked i always say stuff is transactional

01:38:04.720 when I do business and relationships with women, I say it's business. I know business and I keep

01:38:09.020 it business. I'm like, wait, hold on. You have no assets. You have none of this, none of this.

01:38:13.480 Why would I do this again? Why would I marry you? Why would I join my empire with yours?

01:38:17.220 It's a straight business deal. But if I said, well, it's love. And with love, you don't do that.

01:38:23.800 It's not business. And then I'm like, oh my gosh, you're right. Let me marry you without a prenup.

01:38:28.580 Everything is transactional in business. You are an expert. Stop losing your expertise when

01:38:34.480 your transfer number that's what women do they don't have to invest you know why they just marry

01:38:38.800 elon musk and jeff bezos and become the richest person on the galaxy so kids i gotta tell you

01:38:44.280 i've got to tell you i became an expert this is what got me out of it i hired every great

01:38:50.360 psychologist in the country on parental alienation spent probably 700 000 on that alone

01:38:57.440 and i studied every book and gave myself my own phd in psychology and it was the greatest thing

01:39:05.520 i ever did because the way my mind's so fucked up i don't know if i can curse on here it's so

01:39:10.880 screwed up is because i've got to understand the science behind it and then i'll get it right and

01:39:16.480 so that's what i did and now i had to become an expert on psychology to understand why the hell

01:39:22.720 did i do this for 24 years and mark mark said that yesterday and how do i course correct and get down

01:39:31.760 the road as fast as i can because i'm tick the clock is ticking and i want to cause as much

01:39:37.760 trouble as possible when it comes to why men when it comes to why men make this exception in love

01:39:45.600 it's just completely illogical it's the same as asking a woman why she obeys her boss and not her

01:39:52.000 husband is there a panacea is there a panacea do we have them up on a pedestal because that's what

01:39:58.640 it was for me right like i was chasing that right yeah oh boy yeah and the thing is everybody suffers

01:40:05.920 when men um do this because like the kids are going to suffer watching you simp for your wife

01:40:11.360 yep the kids are gonna like there's not gonna be order in the house it's gonna be chaotic

01:40:16.960 awful awful yeah i want to point something full circle mark mark full circle yes this is what

01:40:23.840 we're talking about on last stream go ahead do your thing okay so gene you said you want to pivot

01:40:29.600 as fast as possible because you got limited time i agree but here's the part i want to caution

01:40:34.240 against don't expect to get results as fast as possible because it takes time to course correct

01:40:39.280 if you're desperate to get results fast you're going to start i don't have any i have zero

01:40:44.160 expectations brother period okay okay i'm just it's a warning for other guys i don't give a

01:40:50.640 if she can beat out my solitude she wins and she's got to be amazing that's my filter

01:40:58.400 right so something that sean said is he is the architect of his reality okay okay so your life

01:41:06.560 is not a whole lot different than your business not anymore okay you are not marrying the woman

01:41:13.680 she is marrying you she's not hiring you you are hiring her a company hires the employee

01:41:23.120 to come serve the company's purpose not the other way around right it can be mutually beneficial

01:41:29.520 but at the end of the day an employee who doesn't want to help the company further its vision

01:41:34.240 that employee is on the short list to get kicked out the door right so this is what sean was saying

01:41:39.680 if a woman's coming on board to help him get the outcomes he wants because he's the architect he's

01:41:46.240 going to consider her if she's counterproductive she's a waste of time she's going to slow him down

01:41:51.760 and cause problems instead of being a net positive he don't have time for that plow around the stumps

01:41:58.800 right think about why do women like having male friends because it's positive for them and they

01:42:05.120 don't have to put out and the friends are a lot yeah why do we tell men don't be that guy

01:42:13.520 thank you because they're getting nothing out of it good chat uh welcome welcome to the show mario

01:42:19.600 what is your thoughts nice guys finishing last oh i think it's completely true um after me being

01:42:28.080 trying to be the the good nice husband for 13 years it didn't didn't didn't didn't work out

01:42:35.120 they just run all over you and why do you think that is do you have any thoughts on the general

01:42:40.740 conversation yeah um well i was i've been hearing it for the whole time and uh like yeah on one hand

01:42:48.760 it's like you you don't know because a lot of people a lot of men when they get in the marriages

01:42:53.560 they think this is going to be the one and done this is like my forever girl this is the one i'm

01:42:58.360 going to grow old and die with right and that's the same way that i did but that's for me it was

01:43:03.460 different because i had i was serving my country and been overseas five times and i knew that if

01:43:08.660 i stayed in and not have a family i won't be able to at least uh make a a legacy out of my for my

01:43:17.100 family from my side so that's why i did it but now after all this has happened i'm more of like

01:43:25.980 i'm gonna be single now because she decided not to stay in my marriage so you know what i'm just

01:43:32.220 gonna be me if you can if you want to be around me cool not fuck off yeah thanks for calling in

01:43:40.980 mario appreciate you why throughout history has there been a dowry why was the man paid to marry

01:43:48.220 the woman because he came with problems yeah all the reason they did it even all of us every single

01:43:59.340 one there's no special women i didn't even get a goat i didn't get it the craziest part about it

01:44:05.100 is and gene can talk about this it's like you do you use every skill that you learn in your

01:44:10.460 professional life your education to try to understand the woman that you committed to

01:44:16.620 in your life and it just doesn't work dude you keep trying over and over and over and it's

01:44:22.700 opportunity cost like gene's probably just like me we're like if you could get all that time and

01:44:27.340 effort back and put it into something that wasn't actively fighting i'd be bulletproof i'd be if i

01:44:34.220 can get all the time and effort i put into my my ex-wife or women uh and have put it towards myself

01:44:41.500 i'd be able to leap tall buildings in a single bound seriously and it's just like you just have

01:44:47.020 to just the effort that you put trying to understand a woman and try to treat her like a

01:44:54.780 problem you can fix guys it's just you just and days turn into weeks weeks turn into months

01:45:01.500 months turn turn turn into years it's just crazy how much time and effort you see that

01:45:07.580 once you get out of it and you look at the cost benefit analysis it's a rough deal man it's rough

01:45:13.660 uh welcome to the show pirate dog what is your thought what are your thoughts on the topic

01:45:19.260 um what do you guys mean by nice guys that's i think that's a that's a good question for

01:45:24.780 Did you listen to the monologue or no?

01:45:28.940 No.

01:45:29.720 I kind of went through that there.

01:45:31.980 I can read it again, I guess.

01:45:34.200 No, just like a synopsis.

01:45:36.540 Men who placate women.

01:45:39.140 Men who placate women.

01:45:40.700 Yeah, totally agreed.

01:45:42.400 I think I sent it earlier in the chat.

01:45:44.880 The biggest issue is, you know, we all know the old adage, like,

01:45:51.140 weak men create hard times.

01:45:52.580 um and we're living in some hard times i mean i'm i'm 26 the dating scene is not very

01:45:59.140 chill anymore i mean i think a lot of that falls on the young men though because

01:46:03.580 the uh the dating experiences that you hear from young women are just awful i mean between

01:46:08.620 um hookup culture to just like these awful experiences to where a guy leads them on so

01:46:15.480 much it's like i'm ready to date you i'm ready to step over to the plate then they just ghost

01:46:18.920 them they just wanted sex from them and then these women get these ideas in their head that

01:46:22.460 that's all the men in my life are going to do to me especially if they had a bad upbringing with

01:46:27.060 like a bad childhood or a bad father figure so then they have they double down on this reality

01:46:31.760 and they're like well i'm just going to treat men the same way they've been treating me so then they

01:46:35.240 go out into the dating world and do the same thing and they kind of um they don't expect men to stay

01:46:40.000 around they just want to get banged and then they want to just go about their life and kind of live

01:46:44.920 it however they want and then the good guys that are out there like me and it sounds like a lot of

01:46:48.940 you guys as well uh we get the short end of the stick because we're like trying to prove them

01:46:53.340 like look we're a good guy we want to stick around we want to lead you and in my life i want to lead

01:46:57.340 them in a godly way in a biblical way um but it's tough because they don't believe you because

01:47:01.980 they've experienced so many men out there that have just wronged them and that have just treated

01:47:05.940 them so poorly so i'll balance off what you said um a lot of the women in your life if you can

01:47:12.000 ask them if they think that men are just a source of pain and anguish and they'll say yes even if

01:47:17.540 they've never been been in a relationship they automatically assume that men are just a source

01:47:23.340 of all they can bring to a woman's life is pain and anguish so you go ahead john i'm sorry that

01:47:30.440 shout outs to the brother who said it but cat cat i don't believe that these girls went through

01:47:38.540 this traumatizing experience and all men treated them 30 of men don't even get no no no kitty cat

01:47:45.120 your mistake is believe in them you know what i mean your mistake is believing them well no no no

01:47:51.920 right along with eve what i'm saying is is there's there's a social infrastructure in place for the

01:47:57.520 past 40 50 years that where men are just harmful to women and women believe it whether they have

01:48:05.600 the experience i'm not saying that women went through that i agree with you a lot of women

01:48:09.200 have never it's just like it's like how black people try to say oh slavery but most of us have

01:48:13.520 never been through it but how many black people act on this on this boogeyman that never happened

01:48:19.600 women are the same way they act like they went through all the trauma when none of them went

01:48:24.000 through it but they still navigate the dating market that way go ahead and if you talk to the

01:48:28.240 guys most like you're not really gonna know the real story until you talk to the guy that led them

01:48:33.520 on half the time they'll tell you that they told the girl that they didn't want anything early on

01:48:38.000 like well i will second i would say this and personally ask them their jobs the jobs of these

01:48:46.120 guys a lot of times it's like it's like a job where it's like what did you expect yeah that's

01:48:51.300 true it's like the bouncer cheated on me well you know what i mean the bartender cheated on me yeah

01:48:57.040 how did that how did that happen you know i found out i found out the personal trainer was banging

01:49:02.400 four other women besides all of his clients stacy what

01:49:09.360 yeah i don't know how um old uh most the chat is like i said i'm i'm 26 so not too old but i mean i

01:49:16.080 would just say my own personal experience my friend groups and everything growing up i have

01:49:20.160 seen firsthand my friends that are men do that to women i've called them out and said it's wrong

01:49:26.400 everywhere it's a plethora it's it's like a toxin that exists they they they text 10 different girls

01:49:32.800 at one time things about them wanting to date and the girls come confide in me crying saying

01:49:37.600 yeah but he like literally told me that he wants to date that guy dude that's what i'm saying but

01:49:42.080 it's already out there and it's already rampant i'm not that person but trying to convince these

01:49:46.800 girls that don't be the guy that don't be the guy these women talk to about the toxic don't be that

01:49:52.560 guy man i'm the guy's friend and i'm kind of like in the area oh bro you gotta stop that right away

01:50:01.440 hold on a second i've been the guy talking to multiple girls have you been that guy do you know

01:50:07.760 yeah but i'm not i'm not leading them on saying that i'm going to date them for 10 years like you

01:50:12.080 should that's fair okay i wasn't leading them on but i was flirting with multiple girls i understand

01:50:18.480 the emotional high that it does to your ego i get why they do it do i agree with them lying to the

01:50:24.640 girls leading them on no i don't agree with that but at the same time i get why they do it they

01:50:28.880 have to live with themselves i don't the same time they're not going to listen to me if i tell them

01:50:33.040 stop it because they're doing they're going to keep doing it right now i want to point out an

01:50:37.280 underlying thing we are all realizing that there is this infrastructure of social conditioning

01:50:42.720 that gives people a false expectation if you do the blue pill you get this certain outcome and

01:50:47.360 And we're all seeing it doesn't work.

01:50:48.600 We're seeing the young men learn the lessons that we have learned through pain and suffering.

01:50:53.300 And because we learned it the hard way, we're not going to give up that lesson.

01:50:57.360 And now we're actually trying to do something positive about it by calling it out for what it is so that maybe someone else can learn it with less pain.

01:51:04.840 So props to all of you guys.

01:51:07.780 Yeah.

01:51:08.340 Were there any signs from these women that he wasn't, in fact, taking them seriously?

01:51:14.800 Like, were there any warning signs?

01:51:17.360 um that's just i mean like so but i'm gonna say is like yeah i'm not i'm not avidly like out there

01:51:28.740 like let me be a shoulder to cry on for these girls but they'll just come up to me at a place

01:51:32.480 and say like your friend did this to me and i'm like yeah i was there i saw the text message i

01:51:36.880 saw him saying that i saw what he said i's told you know i've seen what he's talked about with

01:51:41.060 you and how he does that to 20 different girls and like that's just something i don't want to

01:51:44.860 participate in my only point is that that type of behavior does not help the dating market and

01:51:50.600 doesn't help the world it doesn't it's not a positive outcome to this reality the fact of

01:51:55.240 the matter is we're dealing with a dating market and just a hurt group like a hurt world a hurt

01:52:00.260 a hurt generation of people that are just treating people awfully how do we fix it i don't think

01:52:05.600 doing that type of stuff is going to make it any better yeah but what did the girls do did they

01:52:10.360 leave or did they just keep going no they kept going because but only because only because

01:52:16.120 young women are very susceptible we all know this like they're very susceptible people they'll

01:52:20.480 believe whatever you tell them so that's why men as the leaders of this generation as the

01:52:24.420 protectors and providers the people that are in charge the people that are supposed to be leading

01:52:27.740 them in a godly biblical way are not doing that so that's just how it is yeah but what are they

01:52:33.540 supposed to do if the women don't they don't respond to men in a godly biblical way okay

01:52:38.940 i want to point something out i want to point something out those women are going to be

01:52:43.100 attracted to those men no matter what kind of logic you use because of how those men make them

01:52:48.060 feel so we want those women to make better choices we have to demonstrate to them that we can create

01:52:54.220 that exact same feeling in them but in a more ethical way that takes a lot of work and a lot

01:52:59.820 of men don't want to put in that work we can learn to create that same kind of attraction in those

01:53:05.580 women so they can see actually you know what i don't have to go with the beggar i can find a

01:53:09.820 guy who has better character who can still make me feel that damn excited that i want him that

01:53:14.460 i'm gonna chase him wait wait wait hold on pause did we see that did we see the all right so you

01:53:19.740 said you've seen the messages that your friend sent as a man did you see her messages and the

01:53:25.340 message she was sending to other guys or was she only talking to him stop the cap we always keep

01:53:32.540 coming with humanize these goddamn women stop trying to put them in this stage that's our

01:53:37.740 biggest weakness every time a woman comes y'all try to put them in this women are like children

01:53:42.860 no they're not they're equal citizens yeah they're humans and at the end of the day they

01:53:47.980 and they're willing participants too just the way they are out not not the participants you keep

01:53:53.180 looking at it from that they are committing the same atrocities you act like these girls are going

01:53:57.980 out here man i'm only got only got tricked by this guy besides that i was sitting on the top

01:54:03.180 of the hill eating the apple and being goody two-shoe is that the only guy was popping it

01:54:09.500 they was popping it pearl they was twerking they they hit puberty before you you were still pushing

01:54:15.500 blocks and pokemon cards and they was looking at boys they've been in the game longer than you

01:54:22.780 yeah like what if she like how do you know she wasn't talking to other dudes too

01:54:27.180 no she definitely was okay i'm i'm just proposing an idea and you're totally right

01:54:34.300 um i'm proposing an idea though that it's like okay you said this women are not children obviously

01:54:40.940 to say that many women no no of course men and women are equal in terms of humanity in terms of

01:54:48.140 like how much value they have but in terms of their role in life they are not equal and one

01:54:53.740 question i will pose that i've heard before on podcasts i think pearl you're actually on one

01:54:57.580 that talked about it is who controls access to sex it is solely women that is a very key thing to

01:55:05.900 bring into this conversation they control access to sex 100 hands down women control and control

01:55:13.260 access to relationships i think i think women control access to both yeah no because why are

01:55:20.620 women chasing the men at the top trying to get the man to commit to them again y'all stepping into

01:55:26.700 women frame men are too i tell bitches you ain't getting no d please daddy give me some d please

01:55:34.700 y'all never known that that's why girls don't sniff your dirty drawers it's because y'all don't

01:55:38.780 know this construct y'all step into the construct the opposite way which is she control she controls

01:55:45.340 sex she could no you don't there's sex out on the internet for 9.99 how are you going to control

01:55:51.180 something that's a surplus you know i'm sure everyone in here has has rejected women and

01:55:56.860 rejected them trying to have intercourse with them but it is only at the guise of them consenting to

01:56:01.980 that at all times if a man comes forward to you at any point in time is like i was sexually assaulted

01:56:06.460 by a girl at a bar i'm like i'm not what like i'm what do you mean you're sexually how did she

01:56:11.580 overpower you how does she that doesn't make any sense like how are you sexually assaulted by

01:56:18.060 i would say women control access to relationships because an average woman's gonna have more choice

01:56:23.740 than an average guy always like you could argue maybe a small percentage right but like the

01:56:28.940 average girl is gonna have more choice than the average guy because nowadays um relationships

01:56:34.300 don't start till sex happens yeah yeah pirate i just have to get back what's the near point though

01:56:41.180 but don't y'all say in the space it's usually the girls who ask what are we that's what y'all say

01:56:46.620 i don't say that but see see y'all y'all don't make no sense how they control that too and then

01:56:52.380 most people say man girls are always asking the guys what are we are we serious are we going to

01:56:57.740 get serious i think they're talking about the majority if you consider the average like oh

01:57:02.860 you're talking about the average yeah at least 51 to 52 percent of the time is what pearl's

01:57:07.580 talking about i just you know what i've saw a fat woman's tinder and that just changed everything

01:57:17.020 some men pump and dump but she's just a numbers game like one of there's a black guy that'll do

01:57:22.060 it out there you know 100 true i want to point something we see what the average is the woman

01:57:27.660 is controlling it and we see it's not working out well right correct so men we have to adopt

01:57:33.100 this mentality she doesn't control access to sex it's a privilege for her to have sex with me

01:57:38.460 we got to get to that point where the woman actually believes it because we are above

01:57:42.620 average because we are the architects of reality i know that but you have to have the results to

01:57:47.500 back that up though yes because the worst thing you can do is think that but not have put in the

01:57:52.300 work to have those options yes i've done the work just caviating i'm telling her no i'm not gonna

01:57:59.340 let you yeah and i don't even think you have to do that because then chad roon and pookies and

01:58:04.700 ravers wouldn't exist you could forever do that look this is the funny part it this is the arrogance

01:58:11.820 that people have if i'm financially literate and i'm above average i'm a multi-millionaire and i

01:58:17.580 come start giving you advice about how you could possibly increase your wealth and you're like

01:58:23.580 you should shut up and listen and follow the strategies it could apply to you too so the same

01:58:30.380 thing is if a guy is getting above average results and they're ethical right shout outs to adding

01:58:35.420 that on and he's trying to tell you this i can't do that because i'm short see you ain't even got

01:58:40.540 the mindset bro get out of here it's like when you're talking to a brokie like get out of here

01:58:45.020 man i'm trying to tell you what steps you need to take because i've been there done that

01:58:49.500 and then you're always rebelling with this but but but but but so at the end of the day like

01:58:55.020 he just said yes you have to do work on yourself but you could be average and get these results

01:59:00.060 this is your construct you have an actual voice in the marketplace too but if you just keep saying

01:59:05.180 we don't have no access women control sex they control everything okay damn then you're gotten

01:59:10.220 from this job you always be hook line and sinker that's it i just want to get back to the nice guy

01:59:15.980 thing so so pirate you you can't be the kind of guy that you that your friends girls have

01:59:23.340 been messing around with will show their text messages to dude you can't be that guy dude you

01:59:27.980 can't i'm sorry that was sort of something that that's not like a regular occurrence and i'm not

01:59:34.380 like the friend of their shoulder to cry on i was just mentioning that like they would drunkenly

01:59:38.460 come up to me knowing that i'm friends with the person and just like didn't it did like i'm not

01:59:43.180 like oh my gosh i'm so sorry that he did that to you i'm just like whatever like okay just general

01:59:48.380 this is this is general and then like you gotta shrink what you like these big causes of the

01:59:57.580 world and all that stuff but especially when you're 26 you you can't do anything about that

02:00:01.900 right now dude you really can't you need to focus like shrink what you're focusing on like like sean

02:00:09.180 said love yourself and focus on yourself and focus on building yourself first because the worst thing

02:00:14.700 you can do in your 20s is get attached to these big larger societal issues and you do that later

02:00:19.980 on but right now you can't afford to do that you really can't society as a whole honestly like

02:00:26.380 right now oh well i have a big youtube channel and i'll tell you i know a lot of these people

02:00:32.060 with a lot of influence they can't do shit it drives them crazy yeah yep they can't do shit

02:00:38.040 uh welcome to the show sean what are your what are your thoughts on the i know you got thoughts

02:00:43.700 on this topic nice guys just last for a reason i mean the reality is right there are no nice guys

02:00:51.160 there's unattractive men and there's attractive men that's what it is like attractive men don't

02:00:56.220 have to be nice they can be assholes because they have plenty of women chasing them and quite

02:01:00.560 frankly that's why they get a little bit more heavy-handed unattractive men act nice they act

02:01:06.100 all spineless because they think they have to shuck and jive for women in order to get one but

02:01:11.300 if they had women banging on their door you best believe they wouldn't give a crap like i can tell

02:01:15.720 you right now you can take unattractive men here with some money you send them to thailand or

02:01:20.440 wherever there's pay to play abroad they'll start turning into assholes real fast like point like

02:01:26.540 so what i'm trying to say is like that's not who they are it's who they act like

02:01:31.560 in the absence of any power that's really what it comes down to

02:01:35.380 you know i will add too there's a bunch of slowers out there i don't think getting with

02:01:44.920 a girl is difficult it's not i mean you can go out anywhere and have a girl come up to you and

02:01:49.640 approach you at any attractive level i mean the some girl is going to be into you somewhere it's

02:01:54.480 the quality of women that are out there that um are harder to find i mean i mean you can carry

02:02:01.560 yourself in a demeanor to where you're respectable and attractive and you you're confident in yourself

02:02:06.020 but those girls only gravitate towards you um when you can prove to them that you're like a

02:02:12.500 safe space you know because that's that's what they're looking for you know i disagree with

02:02:19.460 that because i've traveled abroad to different countries i've gone to you know more conservative

02:02:24.340 parts of canada i went to parts of europe eastern europe i've been to asia the women there act very

02:02:31.160 different i'm not saying they still don't have female nature they absolutely do there's no doubt

02:02:35.560 about it but they will act very nice and pleasant to you simply because you're a man in certain

02:02:42.040 countries because they are just socially conditioned that way so like it's just a reflection

02:02:46.760 of what you're seeing here is there's just a very anti-male sentiment here for reasons i just don't

02:02:52.920 understand quite frankly even though american men are some of the nicest men on the freaking planet

02:02:57.560 it's just beyond me as to why the women are this way but they are you could say it's media

02:03:03.000 propaganda or whatever so like what you're seeing here is just a reflection of low quality women

02:03:07.480 and so we start thinking this is normal and then we start saying oh well it's everywhere

02:03:11.080 I promise you, you go to parts of Asia, you go to parts of Europe, in the East, what have you.

02:03:18.860 Now, granted, they might be looking for money and different things like that, but they'll at least show you respect, 100%.

02:03:24.580 I want to point this out.

02:03:28.140 What we're seeing is a reflection of low-quality men and women.

02:03:31.600 It takes two to tango.

02:03:33.020 Yeah, Mark's 100% right.

02:03:35.040 Society is built by both sides.

02:03:37.240 Bingo.

02:03:37.520 We both contribute to it, or we both detract from it.

02:03:40.240 right now we got a lot of people detracting from it and not a lot trying to contribute to it

02:03:46.320 society conditions us with this paradigm if the guy plays his cards right he might get lucky

02:03:51.760 right that's nice guy thinking it doesn't work women are attractive to the man that if she plays

02:03:57.600 her cards right she might score right women like that which is rare us men we like that which is

02:04:04.240 rare why do we want the hottest girl out of all the average girls we want the one that's rare we

02:04:08.960 want the girl that's prettier because she's rare than the others right why do women want the hot

02:04:14.240 guy versus the other guy he's rare we like what's rare right so the guy who comes off as if she

02:04:21.280 plays her cards right she might score that is a lot more interesting to the woman than if the

02:04:27.360 guy plays his cards right he might score so she starts saying you know if you play your cards

02:04:31.440 right you might score you got to shut that down because she's saying you're beneath me i have more

02:04:36.720 options than you yeah i disagree with that like uh women want what's better and everything's

02:04:44.260 relative right so if you're around a lot of high quality guys they start wanting even higher

02:04:48.140 quality they start wanting taller they start wanting richer men will bang up will bang down

02:04:54.080 will bang sideways we will bang simply new i've seen men in relationships with very attractive

02:04:59.280 women who will cheat on them with less attractive women simply because it's new so i don't think

02:05:05.520 it's simply men are looking for better i think we're looking for novelty to a degree that's

02:05:12.400 absolutely true and i think we compared to the dating market today i think most men will just

02:05:18.220 take a girl who's not fat who acts nice yeah because that's more rare than the ugly fat one

02:05:24.280 you put the ugly fat one the not fat pretty one which one are the men going to choose the one

02:05:30.860 that's harder to find there was a time in history where the fat woman was considered beautiful

02:05:35.620 because she was considered healthier and more fertile she comes from a wealthy family that was

02:05:39.540 the standard of beauty at one time now it's the skinny one who ain't fat but not like not like

02:05:46.060 2026 fat though like you know this is like marilyn monroe was considered fat type of not not the

02:05:53.380 whales swimming around right now dude come on guys i take the fat ones i've seen guys with girls who

02:05:59.620 are handicapped they ain't got no legs they ain't got no arms

02:06:09.460 how much options does he think he had i promise you fat women are not alone in 2026. they can

02:06:16.020 find a guy any given night fat chicks need love too but hold on the men that they are with those

02:06:23.060 men what options do they think they have did those men really respect themselves

02:06:32.260 because they bang fat chicks if they think a fat chick is the only chick they can get oh

02:06:39.060 well no but a lot of times like they're banging fat chicks and skinny chicks you know what i mean

02:06:45.940 i don't know maybe you can order fat chicks you bring mcdonald's in a flurry so it's not

02:06:50.980 i've heard i've heard they gluck gluck 9 000 to know tomorrow yeah gluck gluck 9 000 yeah

02:06:57.700 how much did she weigh fellas yeah it's just like single moms you know you you even have guys saying

02:07:03.620 bang single moms because because the sex is easy and they have snacks in the cabinet so you can

02:07:09.700 you can get some applesauce and some cheese it's yeah pringos they got all this

02:07:15.940 but at this point at the same time isn't the guy kind of saying you know i could do better but this

02:07:23.380 is easy so i'm just gonna go for this that's what i'm saying it kind of comes off as he's taking the

02:07:27.860 easy option yeah that's true mark i i promise you there are attractive men who will have a hot

02:07:35.220 girlfriend but will sleep with fat women on the side simply because they're nicer and you know

02:07:39.860 they cook and different things like that they may not give that girl a relationship but they'll

02:07:44.580 still sleep with them on the side i promise have you seen the goblin that arnold schwarzenegger had

02:07:48.500 a kid with oh my god remember arnold schwarzenegger's nanny or whatever that freaking i can't believe

02:07:54.020 honestly this might be the smartest woman alive to have pulled that off bro i mean like honestly

02:08:01.140 how could this woman have done better like in life i'm gonna show you guys this is with the

02:08:07.620 cards she had i just can't think of anything better for this woman so this is the nanny arnold

02:08:13.540 schwarzenegger bro do you know what i'm saying like if this is your face card as a woman

02:08:20.080 that's like the best play ever get in there of course the hot wife is gonna hire you because

02:08:27.100 she's gonna think oh he wouldn't he i mean he's not gonna fuck just anything right that's what

02:08:34.820 he's gonna think and so she'll allow her into the home and now the arnold schwarzenegger got

02:08:42.500 this woman pregnant like that's genetics way out of her league like that woman had no business

02:08:48.340 banging Arnold Schwarzenegger yeah it was just her being around and because remember his wife

02:08:54.480 was a Kennedy and she's probably impossible and guess whose arms he would go into you know all

02:09:01.000 throughout those years and she was around for years so she just bided her time dude

02:09:05.740 ended up with a kid with one of the most successful men on the planet fat chicks in the chat I have a

02:09:12.100 I have a play for you.

02:09:15.280 Think about what that says.

02:09:17.340 His wife took her position for granted and got out beat at the wife game by the nanny.

02:09:24.420 It's a win for the nanny.

02:09:25.840 It's a loss for the wife.

02:09:27.040 Yeah, ladies, go move to L.A.

02:09:30.460 If you're into celebrities, go move to L.A. and be a nanny.

02:09:34.880 This is what you can do.

02:09:36.160 Fatten yourself up before interviews so the wife will approve it.

02:09:40.140 So gain like 50 pounds before the interview, and then after you get the job, just take the weight off, and then boom.

02:09:50.220 Or just wear a fat suit.

02:09:53.860 It's L.A., just hire a makeup artist to make you look ugly for the first interview in the first couple of weeks, and you're good to go.

02:10:03.580 Whose husband could you steal?

02:10:07.340 Let's see.

02:10:08.180 All of them, pretty much.

02:10:09.300 yeah i mean i can't imagine who do you still at this point

02:10:13.060 god here's something cheaper than a makeup artist just don't wear makeup during the interview

02:10:19.780 there you go that's true

02:10:26.100 where you got

02:10:29.060 yeah ladies you can just google married celebrities and then boom you're welcome

02:10:34.820 yeah but but you know go back to nice guys you know i i think pearl was cooking earlier i like

02:10:42.820 mark's point about there are guys who try to act nice to get nice guy results um it's just you know

02:10:49.540 you gotta uh but sean said the best black sean said said the best guys make sure to focus on

02:10:56.900 yourself and be nice to yourself first and foremost that'll give you the best results and

02:11:03.300 And then someone said, I think it was Mark.

02:11:06.280 Mark said that if you think that you're going to get some kind of outcome,

02:11:10.740 a lot of the nice guys, they didn't look at the guys being nice around them

02:11:14.740 and the horrible outcomes they were getting.

02:11:17.220 Guys, a lot of times people think there's two positions.

02:11:21.600 You're either moving forward or backwards.

02:11:23.560 You're making progress.

02:11:24.800 There's three positions.

02:11:26.080 There's moving forward, moving backwards,

02:11:27.700 and then just standing there and taking a look around

02:11:30.240 before you make your next set of decisions.

02:11:33.000 guys look around at the men around you look around at what's going on around you because like

02:11:40.040 like black sean said let's you got to get to the point where you don't have to knock your head on

02:11:45.080 something to know that that it's gonna hurt your head you know what i'm saying

02:11:51.160 i i want to add this if you think a certain method is going to work look for other people

02:11:56.440 who have tried it and what results they got then then make your decision don't commit without doing

02:12:01.400 your due diligence it'll save you a lot of time and trouble yeah but i think the problem is most

02:12:06.040 like young men they look to movies and tv to figure out how to act and they kind of sell

02:12:11.800 them a lie you know what i mean like if you look at disney channel whether it's lizzie mcguire or

02:12:16.920 you know big bang theory where they always show the nerd who gets with the girl at the end it's

02:12:21.560 like that's not real life but that's what they think is real so it's almost like the media wants

02:12:27.160 to keep this curve going and the sad part about that sean is because of youtube you actually have

02:12:32.520 less it was even worse in the 80s and the 90s bro because we didn't have the internet

02:12:39.400 or youtube or like alternative media so like i always say us 90s raised guys were the biggest

02:12:45.880 simps ever born in society because between the r b music with boys and men and stuff

02:12:51.240 we had urkel chasing laura on every single comedy on tv was a guy being the father's an idiot the

02:12:58.440 son has to chase some girl who doesn't want him so guys are better off now when it comes to what's

02:13:03.960 talking about than they were 15 20 years ago it was brutal 20 years ago i think they were simps

02:13:11.480 back then i mean dudes was talking about if i go to world war ii and make it back i can get the best

02:13:16.200 girl from my high school like that's insane so most of the time men have always been under this

02:13:21.720 construct look i think most gods like i said it's reinforced by guys it's just people at the end of

02:13:27.080 the day i'm not blaming media the illuminati or the jays it is just people at the end of the day

02:13:32.920 it's it's it's so insane pearl i remember somebody was saying we there's a king here in thailand

02:13:37.960 right it's a he's a king and people were like man he got multiple women that ain't he should be

02:13:43.560 faithful to the queen only i was like he's a king you idiot like even the construct of a simple man

02:13:50.520 thinks a king should just be beholden to one woman he's a king of a whole country

02:13:57.560 he can't have concubines and dudes are like no it's not traditional knowing that kings before

02:14:02.920 had yeah that's pretty true west wing of 50 000 women look at your mindset today in comparison

02:14:10.840 back then y'all would be like yeah he's lord he's duke he's supposed to have a bunch of bees

02:14:15.720 now y'all are communist coochie communists yeah y'all want all the coochie to be divided

02:14:22.040 equitably you are egalitarian i know you'll be like women are egalitarian you are egalitarian

02:14:28.920 you want all the the coochie to be spread out equally amongst everybody and if you see somebody

02:14:34.600 winning y'all start shaming y'all start good guy and nice guy technique that ain't right he

02:14:40.360 a chad room he tread dracula watch out like the guy said oh your friend mistreated me oh man that

02:14:48.360 ain't right he shouldn't be doing that i would have just kept it peeing but like let me see your phone

02:14:52.440 though yeah and then she would have been like no you can't see my phone exactly i want to add to

02:15:00.920 what shawn is saying instead of trying to shame him for success just admit you resent him and

02:15:05.640 you're envious of him just be honest hey and you know it's funny i i was the guy that that i told

02:15:14.040 pirate not to be 21 22 22 i was a guy that women would come over to oh he's such an oh there there

02:15:21.800 there and then they go back i feel so much better and then go back and see that same guy all over

02:15:28.440 again i was that guys and like a lot of us were the biggest information is i'm willing to i hate

02:15:34.920 platforms where guys say say that they've never simped they've never been a girl's friend where

02:15:39.960 they helped her move and did all the stuff without getting anything i was that guy i'm not that guy

02:15:44.920 anymore a lot of us were guys it just depends on how long you were that guy and what you did to

02:15:51.000 change it that's wait so they would come to you cry and then go back oh bro it was bad oh i'm

02:15:56.680 staying up all night i have to work tomorrow i have to work tomorrow she's at my house

02:16:04.920 girl i was crushing when i was a teenager she'd be crashing out because of stuff with their parents

02:16:11.280 i would drive across down stand outside her window trying to talk her down

02:16:15.640 i've been that guy i get it yeah altruism dude well actually actually nice guy like you said

02:16:23.700 you know it's nice it's not altruism because altruism would actually help fix the problem

02:16:28.620 by not understanding you're not actually helping solve you're just placating her

02:16:31.760 you're trying to validate her emotions to be the nice guy to try to win her loyalty it don't work

02:16:36.420 she didn't respect me yeah let's prove it well that's not altruism right altruism is you do

02:16:41.560 something nice but you don't expect anything in return the reality is nice guys are expecting

02:16:46.140 that yeah that's some sort of outcome which is why they're not altruistic if anything they're

02:16:50.940 worse than the assholes and it's um as a girl it's like you don't want to accept anything from

02:16:57.500 well women do accept a lot of things but there's times where like women it's like we don't want to

02:17:03.420 talk to a guy for too long because it's like oh is he gonna get the wrong idea or like accept

02:17:09.360 gifts at times well i don't know about that i think a lot of women like to use a guy in the

02:17:14.300 friend zone they know what the guys want you know what i mean but they're kind of like yeah i don't

02:17:18.660 want to give up the attention and you know maybe he comes over to fix my toilet and you know he's

02:17:23.720 pay for my uber like they kind of know okay fair enough fair enough remember that reaction i sent

02:17:30.680 you where the the girl's like thank you for buying all those drinks for me my boyfriend's here

02:17:37.400 and the boyfriend's like oh yeah oh you bought her drinks all night thanks bro and

02:17:44.200 and the guy's like bro that's messed up dude yeah but it's almost like he's almost teaching the guy

02:17:50.680 a lesson so he could get a girl someday it's almost a favor you gotta you learn it early

02:17:56.380 then later yeah it's you gotta have clavicular steal your girl wants to learn your lesson you

02:18:02.820 know that's true dude yep okay um i think i'm gonna close out the show if you guys want to

02:18:07.940 give final thoughts um sean then mark then or white sean then mark then black sean then dug mpa

02:18:14.480 okay uh yeah i mean i'll go first uh you know i i think the red pill on like social media and

02:18:24.220 things like that it has done a lot to cleanse as many nice guys as possible at least in the

02:18:30.800 younger generation so i think that's a good thing but i i still think it's always going to exist

02:18:34.860 just because guys want to be hopeful they want something to strive for even though it doesn't

02:18:38.660 exist and i think the media will continue to perpetuate it because they see keeping men

02:18:43.520 motivated keeps western society going so i don't think it's ever going to die out that's just my

02:18:49.580 take on it cool uh thanks sean um mark go ahead here's what i want to say being a sim trying to

02:18:59.560 be the nice guy and then learning it doesn't work i think that's just part of growing up part of

02:19:04.540 maturing for us men we all think oh i know better i can do it i can be the exception it's a bit of

02:19:10.200 arrogance it's a bit of a bit of entitlement unfortunately reality is going to humble you

02:19:15.080 it's just a question of how long it's going to take you to realize certain things don't work

02:19:19.240 let me just go listen to the people who've learned the hard way yeah cool thanks for calling in mark

02:19:26.760 um sean go ahead yeah i would just say men be good to yourself and be good to good people

02:19:35.400 if you fall over that you should be all right but at the end of the day protect yourself at

02:19:41.100 all times shout outs to pearl shout outs to doug and the white sean peace thank you doug mpa so

02:19:49.300 so uh it's asian sean not white sean he's asian oh actually i knew that that's the worst part

02:19:55.780 i knew that he's asian yeah yeah i think he's like indian or something yeah guys um you know

02:20:02.420 being a nice guy it's like i'm not gonna say i don't want to not hold guys accountable but

02:20:09.980 there's just a social infrastructure in place that just makes guys that make you think that

02:20:15.820 you're gonna get results from simping and you meet guys who somehow avoided this maybe they just

02:20:22.160 saw the results or early or the dad caught them and stuff you get pissed off as a nice guy when

02:20:27.820 you see guys who aren't nice get get results um it's just you got to look at the results

02:20:35.260 that you're getting in your life and and choose to change it ask yourself in any situation is what

02:20:41.560 you're doing working and if the answer is no all the rest of it's easy and guys honestly like the

02:20:46.880 aspect of being a nice guy they're not going to get you the results that you want and like

02:20:52.380 just figure out accordingly you know a lot of guys that they can be assholes or they choose

02:20:56.660 to deal with women period just uh you know just try to get the results that you want to get and

02:21:05.620 a lot of times being nice isn't going to get you there cool thanks doug mpa great show you were

02:21:11.380 cooking earlier all right guys thanks for watching i think i'm going to do this show again at a later

02:21:21.460 date um i love this new material i've been reading dr robert glover um when i say no i feel guilty

02:21:29.300 that's another one and ryan stone's work and those three guys you know it's like the more into the

02:21:36.660 red pill i get the more i realize how frustrated rollo was in 2023 when i got famous because i'm

02:21:44.820 like wow i didn't know what i didn't know i'm like this stuff is cooking

02:21:48.180 it's tough being a woman they just throw you into being a dei hire you know but i'm here so

02:21:55.840 it's all right all right guys um like the video and subscribe uh thanks for watching and um

02:22:05.100 next week so we're filming the doc i think i leave friday to go film the documentary for divorce

02:22:13.660 so next week i'll probably do shows tuesday wednesday

02:22:20.120 uh tuesday thursday maybe wednesday too so i'll do two or three shows

02:22:25.040 um and then we're gonna get on a more consistent schedule after we finish the doc filming i didn't

02:22:34.840 see the point of getting a consistent schedule now because i'm like it's gonna be inconsistent

02:22:39.560 it for like three weeks till this filming's done so all right guys i love you thanks for

02:22:45.440 watching i appreciate it and i'll see you next time

Pearl - April 18, 2026

Nice Guys Finish Last For a Good Reason.... ( Call In Show)

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