Pearl - Only 1% of Women Are Actually MARRIAGE MATERIAL？!

00:00:00.000 So there's a guy who calculated how many marriageable women are in each city. 0.99

00:00:04.640 And I've seen Erin Clary's work on this where it's very, very low. 0.99

00:00:08.240 It's like one, two percent.

00:00:09.960 So let's see what this guy has to say.

00:00:11.580 But also, if you can, like the video on your way in.

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00:00:33.760 Under how many marriageable women there might actually be in your city or how to figure out if the woman you're talking to might be one of them.

00:00:44.060 Well, it's an important question, given how dangerous it can be for men to get married these days.

00:00:48.440 So today we're going to calculate it. And I see no possible way that this could end badly for us.

00:00:54.980 but first let me back up and tell you how we got there you may have recently seen this article the 0.94

00:00:59.380 daily wire has been pushing on us titled why are so many good women single and they give a bunch 0.99

00:01:04.900 of reasons why it's not women's fault at all but one thing they completely forgot to do was prove 1.00

00:01:12.260 that any of these women are actually good odd thing to leave out if you're trying to prove that

00:01:19.220 women aren't to blame but it got me thinking about a couple of questions that i've had for a while

00:01:24.420 now how many marriageable good women are actually out there and how would you know if you were

00:01:32.900 talking to one now to be honest i had given up on this question partly because it's hard to tell

00:01:38.220 which factors might predict this stable loving trustworthy wife long term these days also it's

00:01:44.420 really hard to find any data that would help us figure it out because i don't know if you've 0.51

00:01:50.000 noticed, but asking research questions that might make women look bad? Not exactly something we do 0.99

00:01:55.740 these days. So I had all but given up hope on this, but then I was talking to a friend who's

00:02:00.700 the head of data at a very well-known, long-running Christian organization that does a lot of their

00:02:06.960 own research. This is a guy who knows the deep lore, and he knows how to piece it together. When

00:02:12.860 it comes to data, dude knows ball. And about a week after I had mentioned this problem to him,

00:02:17.860 he calls me and says, oh, by the way, yeah, that question you were having about marriageable women?

00:02:23.120 Yeah, I built an app that will calculate it for you, because that's just what he does for fun,

00:02:29.820 I guess. It's called WifeScore. Now, this is just a prototype that he built over a weekend,

00:02:36.200 but even still, it's actually pretty brilliant. It uses data and peer-reviewed research that are

00:02:41.340 all aligned using scriptural principles. And the idea is it's supposed to help the chuds predict 1.00

00:02:45.460 which women might be trustworthy, peaceful helpmates, and which ones will be contentious, 1.00

00:02:51.680 divorce-prone banshees that will steal your kids before you find out in divorce court. 0.98

00:02:58.540 This app has four main features to it. The first is this thing called the Covenant Compass, which

00:03:03.240 is essentially a logic tree. It's a decision tree that helps guide you through the four different

00:03:09.040 stages of trying to find a decent woman to dating courtship all the way through engagement and then

00:03:16.560 even to managing the marriage itself there's a lot of really good things in here like for example 1.00

00:03:21.260 screening for things like humility and whether or not she has any accountability structures in her

00:03:26.860 life already then once you get into engagement it starts looking at how to set up accountability

00:03:32.760 structures with your church new community as you go and gives you a decision tree if she embraces

00:03:39.480 it okay proceed on with the wedding if she's resistant to oversight or transparency that

00:03:46.300 disqualifies her say no and it gives research and statistics that back all of these decision

00:03:53.620 points up and gives you references to every single one of them the second section is all about real

00:03:59.460 world strategies, right? If you're stuck on your next move, this can help. There's some pretty

00:04:04.380 solid and useful stuff in here. It also has some tangible tactics, stuff you can just go out and do

00:04:09.860 right now, general principles, and even a recommended reading section. So very cool stuff.

00:04:15.980 But this is where things start to get really fun. This is called the Wipeable Score Calculator.

00:04:23.380 I can't get over it and it gives a marriage ability score 0.98

00:04:28.260 based on information that you provide about a particular woman's background behaviors and 0.98

00:04:33.220 temperament you can't do that watch me and again it gives all the research to back up

00:04:38.900 how he arrived at these numbers and lastly we have the crown jewel this is all the data he used to

00:04:46.820 make his calculations and conclusions. And he caps it off with this nice little tool

00:04:54.260 that allows us to estimate the number of marriageable women in your city. 0.93

00:04:59.860 No, no, no, no, no. 0.75

00:05:02.260 Okay, wait, so what's the...

00:05:04.020 And this part is, well.

00:05:05.380 Cause how would you even do the body count one? Because women are just gonna lie. 1.00

00:05:10.180 Put it this way. I thought I was ready. I was not. 1.00

00:05:13.460 now we'll take both of these tools for a test drive in just a moment but there's another app

00:05:18.500 i want to show you guys that might be even more helpful than this one especially if you've ever

00:05:23.700 dealt with porn most of you have told me that you've had basically the same experience with it

00:05:28.340 that i have well it has daily remind if she's marriage material this app asks a series of

00:05:34.740 questions about her behavior and attitudes and it gives her a data-driven marriageability rating 0.99

00:05:41.780 and it gives you the reasoning behind it let's start with a good one of the good ones like a

00:05:48.340 good old homeschooled maximum christian good girl to start stuff with age which he notes is i mean

00:05:56.580 obviously it's fertility window and marital stability peak let's say that she's in that

00:06:02.740 younger age range that adds a good amount to her score relationship with her father okay she's you

00:06:08.580 you know, homeschooled, has extra Christian parents, super close to their dad. So that gives,

00:06:14.820 wow, we're already up to 53. So we got a bunch more stats to go. Sexual partners, zero to one

00:06:22.260 strong pair bonding. Okay, good. Christian faith. Okay, let's, let's maybe, let's bring her down a

00:06:26.640 peg. So she's just sort of cultural Christian, kind of goes to church. But hey, there's some 0.87

00:06:31.640 potential there, right? If you as a man are very strong in your faith, she's close. You can bring

00:06:37.080 closer only a plus five now he didn't actually put a ton of weight on attractiveness or fitness

00:06:42.520 but let's say she's just average we'll say she's homely dark triad adjustment okay this is where

00:06:49.720 things start to get more interesting so we'll say that she's just sort of generally respectful most

00:06:55.480 of the time not like the most consistent about it normal bonding indicators but hmm let's say maybe

00:07:03.000 she's a bit of a perfectionist or she frequently needs to be the one in charge 1.00

00:07:13.480 that's the thing you know we talk about body count and all this stuff 1.00

00:07:17.720 there's worse things that women can do than be whores being a that's something you have to deal 1.00

00:07:22.360 with every single day and i know men have that visceral repulsion so they're always gonna feel 1.00

00:07:27.400 that way but some whores are better than i'm telling you well that's gonna reduce your score 1.00

00:07:32.040 a bit deflects or blames others that I will say she's not the worst but she does often deflect 1.00

00:07:38.920 blame because that's a normal behavior that we see quite often materialism and she's okay she's

00:07:45.240 moderate now this I'm really glad that he ended up including this one this is one that when I was

00:07:49.320 talking to him about it that's a really good one to add because so many men are enslaved to their

00:07:53.960 wives spending habits actually asked me about because this wasn't in the original version of

00:07:57.640 this i mentioned that one of the things that can indicate whether or not a woman will make a good

00:08:02.600 partner long term how much stuff does she buy how much stuff does she expect you to buy for her 0.87

00:08:07.960 that kind of thing hugely important now we'll say she's not the most like brand conscious

00:08:13.960 we'll just give her moderate so we're back down to 52. tiktok social media usage minimal no social

00:08:19.400 media she's kind of off of that stuff now let's view the full report so she actually comes out as

00:08:26.600 borderline so you could dater but there's some risk factors there and it's something you wouldn't

00:08:33.560 want to enter into without first of all strong community around you and you wouldn't want to

00:08:38.280 go in without community do we have in 2026 like let's be real asking people who you trust to have

00:08:45.240 a good idea about the health of the situation and he's got the detailed report here all of the data

00:08:51.160 that backs up all of these different metrics now let's say for example the average reformed 304 or

00:08:59.720 maybe like a single mommy that a lot of your christian peers are trying to hook you up with

00:09:04.920 she is 35 we'll say she's been around she's got a few kids coming to church regularly now pastors

00:09:13.800 are pushing you to date her father relationship neutral distant not great a lot of partners will

00:09:20.520 We'll see, many, oof, yeah, we're already not good, disqualifying, she's very, very

00:09:27.780 strong in her practice, now, now, she's doing her best to take care of her body now because

00:09:33.160 she realizes she needs to, so okay, maybe she's looking good, now, this is an interesting

00:09:37.860 one, I didn't mention this before, but if a woman has had an abortion, he actually put

00:09:42.420 in that it's an instant disqualified, subtracts all possible points that this thing could

00:09:46.960 give to her. 1.00

00:09:47.960 history of abortion is associated with elevated rates of relationship instability and mental

00:09:52.480 health distress. It's weighted heavily here as a risk marker, not a moral verdict. But again,

00:09:58.360 there's a reason why that risk level is too high with a woman who's gone through with

00:10:04.840 her being a baby. But let's say this woman, she had the kids and she's expecting you to take care 0.99

00:10:11.500 of them. Looking for someone who can step up, be the father for me and my kids and not play games. 1.00

00:10:16.720 no pictures of fish status seeking and so on validation seeking view full report

00:10:22.240 woof yeah absolute disqualified don't go ahead contempt control and verbal cruelty are predictors

00:10:29.360 of marital breakdown very interesting machiavellianism and narcissism predict

00:10:33.840 manipulation gaslighting blame shifting and relational stability oh no let me move on to

00:10:38.880 the next this is so interesting okay so basically the single mom's not wifeable who do they do next 1.00

00:10:45.040 interesting stuff here. Now, let's try to put together an actual ideal woman. What kind of 1.00

00:10:49.220 woman would get a high score? So we'll say peak age, good father relationship, no partners, 1.00

00:10:56.420 highly practicing in her faith, attractive, respectful. We'll give her some decent scores

00:11:02.160 for these things. You know, moderate, frugal. Okay. And so now it's given us strong candidate, 0.99

00:11:06.880 a rep at 86. So it's important to know that in this calculation, the woman doesn't have to be

00:11:12.900 perfect in order for it to be a strong candidate. It rates, I believe, anything above 75 as a strong

00:11:19.840 candidate because, I mean, if you have a woman who's got the majority of these things on lock 1.00

00:11:25.540 and there's just a few things here and there, well, okay, you're dealing with a human, but 0.97

00:11:28.700 your risk factors are still fairly low. The fact that she ranks so high in so many of these

00:11:33.380 categories indicates that she's probably a high character woman who's been taught well, who had

00:11:38.320 a good dad, who had good examples, and who has good structures in her life to keep her on the

00:11:43.640 narrow path. So that is the Wifeable Score Calculator. Now, I should point out there are

00:11:48.700 some caveats to this. Obviously, this is just a heuristic tool, and he even has a caveat section.

00:11:56.280 The Wifeable Score Calculator compresses complex whole person discernment into a single number.

00:12:01.360 It's useful as a conversation starter and never as a verdict. So this is not like casting a final

00:12:06.560 judgment on a woman, like should you date her, should you marry her.

00:12:09.780 It's also not saying that, well, if you get a woman with a good score, you're guaranteed

00:12:14.720 to be safe.

00:12:15.880 It's important to remember averages are not promises.

00:12:20.480 And that's all this thing is really doing is just aggregating averages. 0.63

00:12:23.560 It's just something to give us kind of an idea of how any given woman matches up with 0.66

00:12:29.600 the statistical average thing real you were going to the national stats census demographic

00:12:34.900 data and a research-backed probability funnel, this tool estimates how many women in that area

00:12:40.600 would score 75 or higher on the wifable score. Now, remember, 75 is not perfect. It's just a

00:12:48.040 woman who has few enough major risk factors that she will likely make a good partner long-term. 0.99

00:12:56.440 Let's just start with Nashville, since that's the one that's recommending Nashville, Tennessee.

00:12:59.900 this is not quick by the way it uh it takes a second again dealing with the prototype but let's

00:13:06.120 calculate it still waiting ah here we go okay about 1300 the whole city of nashville which

00:13:12.360 apparently it shows you down here what the what it's estimating out of about 700 000 total

00:13:18.040 population and then it subtracts it down to an eligible age range between 20 and 35 years old

00:13:25.840 of which you get about 103,000 and it calculates how many of those 100,000 women actually fit the

00:13:33.820 criteria. I wonder how it'd be if you take out religion because Christian women nowadays has a 1.00

00:13:38.660 red flag. I think they should take that out. Maybe it's because I'm not practicing and I'm making it 1.00

00:13:43.640 about me. A decently eligible woman. Not that many. I don't know what I expected. Let's try 0.97

00:13:50.220 dallas texas how many good women we have in texas these days okay so we got a few more 2244 1.00

00:13:57.320 all right not bad not bad plausible range but also remember there's such a long line 0.96

00:14:02.940 for those women that it builds up their egos that's another thing it does is it gives us a 0.96

00:14:08.400 plausible range because this is not an exact science okay okay not bad we're a little bit 0.92

00:14:14.940 more doing a little bit better down south let's try let's try san diego let's go let's go a little

00:14:20.000 west coast calculate okay roughly similar so another 2200 number 2290 that's out of so you're

00:14:28.120 looking at about 180,000 women in that age range yeah so we've got some pretty good data there now

00:14:33.620 again there's some pretty big caveats to this the first is all of these ratios that are used to

00:14:39.000 calculate and whittle this number down are currently fixed it's taking a nationwide average of how

00:14:45.220 many, for example, healthy or fit women there are out there and applying that to what do they

00:14:51.920 consider fit body fat percentage? The demographic data of that particular city. Now, he does have

00:15:01.000 some additional regional based data on marriage ability ratings. For example, Bible Belt, high

00:15:08.100 weekly attendance, large young practice in Christian populations. However, important to

00:15:14.060 note some southern states also show higher divorce overall so yeah good note here at vet the

00:15:19.740 individual not just the zip code always good advice and then you have texas places like

00:15:24.700 houston dallas like we looked at earlier huge young population dense evangelical and catholic

00:15:30.600 presence a strong parachurch and campus ministry infrastructure very true a large absolute pool

00:15:36.100 even if the rate is average then you have like mountain west places like idaho wyoming good old

00:15:43.640 flyover states, a lot of young marriage, religious communities, family-oriented, lower secular

00:15:48.620 cohabitation in the coast, so yeah. Yeah, what's gonna happen is men are gonna make exceptions. So

00:15:54.180 I see men accepting antidepressants, and I see men accepting obviously body count, men have let

00:16:00.660 that ship sail, virginity cooked, bye. They tend to have slightly better outcomes. Slightly fat,

00:16:06.180 you know. Comes there. And he's also got the top demographic groups. Practicing Latter-day Saint

00:16:10.860 women tend to have the lowest divorce rates, highest fertility, strongest chastity norms. 0.86

00:16:16.220 So they may be a cult, but they've got the marriage thing figured out. Weekly attending 1.00

00:16:21.180 conservative Protestant women, lowest divorce rate among homogenous marriages.

00:16:24.940 Women raised in intact, low conflict to parent homes. That's important to know.

00:16:29.740 But all these studies are, that's from 60s, 70s. Yeah, it's cooked, guys. I think it's lower than

00:16:36.140 this it's very true women who grew up in damaged homes didn't have a good father or their parents

00:16:41.660 went through a divorce high risks themselves never married or in their early 20s chastity

00:16:47.420 and fertility peak right christian college and campus ministry all right it's cooked anybody 0.90

00:16:52.380 everybody enjoy the decline get yourself a hoe you know what i mean it's gonna be too hard to 0.93

00:16:57.740 get the virgin women you know what i mean all right but if if you can good luck i wish you 0.98

00:17:02.140 luck anyways i love you guys thanks for watching um like the video and i'll see you next time 0.99

Pearl - September 08, 2026

Only 1% of Women Are Actually MARRIAGE MATERIAL？!

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