Pearl - Pearl Explains Why Modern Women RUIN Their Relationships ｜ Pearl Daily

00:00:00.000 says women can't stand each other and they can't stand when one of their friends finds a good 0.67

00:00:05.060 relationship and gets married. And that is, thank you, Doug MPA. That is the topic that we are going

00:00:11.320 to go into today. So, you know, as you guys know, it is said that women keep women single.

00:00:20.040 Single women cannot stand when any of their friends get into a relationship because 1.00

00:00:24.720 they need their friends to support their bad behavior. This is even worse when a woman is 1.00

00:00:31.880 married. A married woman's single friend will do everything and anything in their power to get the 1.00

00:00:37.060 friend to leave her marriage. Anything the married woman shared with her single friends, 0.69

00:00:43.340 the single friends will find a way to get her to view it in a negative way. Anything the man does

00:00:50.140 will be criticized and scrutinized. It is the goal of single women to get her friend in a relationship 1.00

00:00:57.600 or a marriage so or to leave so that the women can be single again. That is why I always say 0.91

00:01:04.260 all the time that women sabotage each other's relationships. The women that sabotage relationships 1.00

00:01:10.880 can be friends or family members like that single auntie and that single mother. You guys already

00:01:16.880 know. They're always telling the daughter you can do better. She can't do better. That's why she's

00:01:21.780 with you. We're hypergamous. If we could do better, we would. Do you know what I mean? Biology. You're

00:01:27.460 not going to undo years of biology. Your only choice as a guy is to be awesome. That's it. That's all you

00:01:33.880 got. You know, many men tell the stories of how their wives, mothers and sisters do the most to try to

00:01:40.800 get their wife to leave them. The wife or the sister will intentionally put themselves in opposition of 0.60

00:01:46.640 their husband to make the woman have to choose who she's loyal to. When the wife chooses her husband, 0.82

00:01:52.880 the mother or sister will make sure that there are severe consequences for doing so. Some of the

00:01:58.340 common ways that women sabotage their friends' relationships or marriages is, one, make her think 1.00

00:02:05.640 that the boyfriend or husband is cheating. That is the lowest hanging fruit and the easiest to perpetrate

00:02:12.080 because of the all men are bad culture in the West. You guys fall asleep for a nap and you wake up to 0.99

00:02:18.920 10 missed calls saying, where are you? Where are you? You're like, I was napping. I was playing my video

00:02:24.380 games. But women, we do this thing, right? We think, we have no idea how hard it is to get laid. And so we 1.00

00:02:31.600 think that if it's diff, like if you guys, if we want to sleep with you, we just assume every other woman 0.98

00:02:37.940 does. That's our default. I'm not saying, and you guys have lived a life where most women are repulsed 1.00

00:02:44.120 by you, right? I mean, I'm just being honest, even hot men, like most women don't want to, right? 1.00

00:02:51.400 And so when you've lived that,

00:02:54.600 when you've lived that, you're like, what are you talking about? You think all these women want to 1.00

00:03:03.180 sleep with me? And then it's a weird thing that happens. That's another way that women's friends 1.00

00:03:09.200 sabotage relationships. They try to sleep with the boyfriend. It's like, it's like, it's like,

00:03:14.980 this is what happens. There'll be a friend group, right? And this guy's friend zoned by everybody.

00:03:19.920 And then one woman says, you know what? He's cool. Let me date him. And do you know what happens?

00:03:24.640 All the other women start flirting with him. It's like, you weren't trying to before.

00:03:29.780 Guys, female friends. It's like, there's so many Reddit stories of like men having sex with the 0.58

00:03:36.320 girl's husband, sister, best friend, women. We don't care. We're ruthless. Okay. Another reason 1.00

00:03:45.320 ways that women sabotage relationships is looking for signs of weakness or problems in the relationship 1.00

00:03:53.480 and then blowing it out of proportion, telling her to leave when the smallest conflict happens.

00:04:01.100 Number three, using any past transgression as a reason to show why the boyfriend or husband

00:04:06.420 is a bad person in the present. Four, say that the boyfriend or husband is too controlling when he

00:04:12.360 tries to set boundaries, especially if they are boundaries that affect time with the female friends,

00:04:18.780 female friends, or family members. A good example of this is Samantha Lee, Tyrese Gibson's ex-wife.

00:04:26.120 They had a pretty messy divorce and Tyrese was crying on the internet because he couldn't see his

00:04:31.220 baby. It was bad. And about a year ago, she admitted that if she had different people around her,

00:04:36.320 she would have stayed. Dun, dun, dun. Okay. So we're going to watch this interview.

00:04:41.400 Sean Jackson here with another episode with my co-host, Ron Ketchis.

00:04:47.240 Yo, turn me through that. I love loved ones, people that support you. You want to make sure

00:04:51.800 that you are involving in that decision-making and you have to really decide and make a very

00:04:57.260 calculated decision based upon your belief systems, based upon who you're speaking to,

00:05:03.680 your wise counsel, like giving them the information and then making the best decision.

00:05:11.400 I think that we do take divorce very casually. And I'll admit, I probably looked at it a little

00:05:17.260 less intensely as I should have. That's me looking back on it. Because I would never tell,

00:05:25.500 I work with women, I would never tell a woman to walk through that in the same frame of mind I was

00:05:32.580 in when I did it. And when you say that, but what frame of mind was that? What do you mean by that

00:05:37.800 in particular? I was very, very hurt. I was very angry. And I remember like when I made like the

00:05:48.000 decision, I was like hysterically crying on the phone with my attorney. That was not the person

00:05:54.800 I should have been on the phone with when like, that's a whole nother conversation. But anyway,

00:05:58.820 I was hysterically crying. And I was not in any position to make that decision. I was extremely

00:06:08.640 emotionally intoxicated. We can be intoxicated with our emotions. And I'm one that I'm very much

00:06:15.020 emotionally led. I feel very strongly. I'm just that kind of person, very passionate. But I would

00:06:21.140 never tell somebody to make that decision when they're that emotional. But of course, I was

00:06:29.180 all right, even through it all who still would in the chat. Be honest, guys, be honest. She's

00:06:36.320 taking her ex husband to the cleaners in divorce court right now. How many of you still would date

00:06:42.480 her? How many? One in the chat. One. And I wasn't talking to someone that genuinely would be for

00:06:50.800 marriage, you know, or for reconciliation. And that's not just that's not no slight to my, you

00:06:57.020 know, no. Yeah, it has nothing. There's no slight to that. It done the friends, but I was on the phone

00:07:03.040 with my attorney. Yeah. So it was something that was being said to me that hurt me at that time. And

00:07:09.680 that so at that time, when I was on the phone, and I made that decision, I was I was I was, I was

00:07:16.160 livid. I was emotional. I was hysterical. And so if anything, if I could take anything from that and

00:07:23.540 advise somebody else, because I don't want families to be torn apart. Yeah, it would be that if you're

00:07:31.300 that hurt, and you're like that emotional about someone, that's not a lack of love. Like the

00:07:39.660 opposite of love is not hate. It's indifference. It's void of love, void of feelings. And so if I'm

00:07:47.680 that emotional, and I'm that hurt, and I'm like on that level where I'm just like, I can't stop

00:07:56.000 thinking. And I'm just obsessing over why I am hurt. I have I'm I if it's misguided and misdirected,

00:08:04.480 it can go in in a bad direction. And so I think that with that being said, I didn't know that at

00:08:11.760 the time. Yeah. And I made a decision like, well, I'm so angry. I'm so hurt. And you know, this is

00:08:17.100 you know, and I'm just like, you know, you know, she's so remorseful sounding here. Do you know what

00:08:22.060 she's doing currently? It's so crazy. We can just live double lives. You would think she was remorseful 0.76

00:08:28.300 from this. But she's taking her ex husband to the cleaners. She has not stopped. She's going for

00:08:33.940 like 20k a month. You guys thought your divorce was bad. Forget it. You know, like, never mind.

00:08:39.340 Like, I need to be done with this. This is horrible. You know, just all you just ruminating

00:08:43.940 on all the negative things and not focused on any of the positive things. I posted a reel and I mean

00:08:49.080 this I really mean this. There was a there was a guy who was talking about the that when he before

00:08:55.220 you saw Samaria's wife, he had said or had told his wife that he needed to choose the people that

00:09:02.080 would speak to her in her most emotional moments. And he would it was people that would be for

00:09:08.480 the relationship. Right. And I know a lot of people had different kind of like comments about

00:09:13.300 the person and everything like that. But the message of what he was saying for me resounds true

00:09:20.300 because the people I have. Yeah, that's a get out of jail free card. You could have picked people

00:09:26.220 that were for the relationship. You could have went and found some. Who did you pick? You know,

00:09:31.500 you picked a divorce attorney. Do you know what I mean? Like women, you could have picked a therapist. 1.00

00:09:37.340 I don't know. I mean, they're not much better. But you guys get the idea. You could have picked

00:09:41.500 someone. You picked a divorce attorney. So if you picked a divorce attorney, you think your husband

00:09:47.700 could have talked to you out of that? Have you guys ever seen a woman that wants to divorce your 0.99

00:09:52.040 ass? Have you seen you've seen people try to talk her out of it? They they keep going in my ear at the 1.00

00:09:58.660 time. We're not for that. Let me ask you this, because I think that's such a good point. Like when

00:10:06.240 you're even in that spot, when you're emotional, you're in the pit of your relationship. Yes. It's so

00:10:12.380 important to make sure you have people who are pro marriage, pro relationship, pro your current

00:10:16.680 relationship to be able to help, you know, as much as possible, make the best decision to keep the

00:10:24.260 marriage going. Yeah. When everybody may not have access to that counsel. So let me ask you this.

00:10:32.300 If you if we can go back and if I were able somehow to insulate you with a pro marriage,

00:10:39.640 pro relationship community, do you think you still would have actually gone through a divorce?

00:10:43.840 Not that time. There you go. From the horse's mouth. Now, I have two takes on this. One take is

00:10:50.140 she's admitting it. Women sabotage other women's relationships. However, the other part of me 1.00

00:10:57.500 thinks this is kind of just a way to blame other people. But two things can be true at the same time.

00:11:03.080 Okay. I don't know what would have happened. I've never said this publicly.

00:11:06.760 No, this is what we do. This is exclusive baby.

00:11:10.560 that reminded me of britney renner make sure you zoom in on this one

00:11:16.400 actually no i want to deny myself i want to deniability yeah no i

00:11:25.680 the the truth about the matter is that if i had different people in my ear at that time it would

00:11:32.880 not have made that decision no wow and that's the truth i i try my very best at this point in my

00:11:40.480 life to be what i didn't have in that moment because i think that i was women were like i'm

00:11:46.720 an extremely emotional person people that know me know that about me i'm the kind of person that like

00:11:52.320 okay i feel so strongly and i can ruminate i can get so lost in my thoughts i know a lot of women 1.00

00:11:57.440 are like that like we're a lot not all of us right but some of us are just like a lot of men can be

00:12:02.800 like that but i know women specifically the there will be moments where they'll be like i'm ready 1.00

00:12:08.240 to i'm ready to be done i'm ready to be done i'm ready to be done i can't stand this he don't do

00:12:12.240 this he don't do that blah blah blah blah we're just focusing on these things and because you don't

00:12:16.640 have you don't have a certain person in your life to say to check you and say sis what about this what

00:12:24.000 about this what about these strings what about what he's not doing what like those types of things

00:12:29.760 that's that can that can get you thinking about the positive aspects of this person

00:12:35.840 that you may not be thinking about okay i i think we've heard enough so there you have it guys and

00:12:44.880 and this is the thing we're so anxious that's just you know as women this is something we struggle with

00:12:51.040 and you know i don't care every woman has this problem to some degree we always think the worst is 0.98

00:12:57.440 going to happen why do you think women will always say their number one answer to like why you have 1.00

00:13:04.240 to be married or whatever is or there has to be alimony or child support is because the men are going 0.96

00:13:09.520 to leave us high and dry we're afraid of spending our youth on the wrong guy and then getting getting

00:13:16.000 old and crusty and left but then we leave so it's like counter you would think we would stay you know

00:13:23.200 i don't know so now there's a dating channel that's talking about how single friends sabotage

00:13:29.840 a girl's relationship and this is going to be a call-in at the end so i'm going to want to hear

00:13:34.960 you guys's experience here we go hey guys how you doing welcome to another dating channel story

00:13:40.640 so learning lessons from previous relationships is something that you really have to be mindful of

00:13:47.600 to not repeat the same thing over and over i've seen a lot of situations where men tend to repeat

00:13:54.080 their dating habits and it's the definition of insanity trying the same thing over and over

00:14:01.440 hoping that you would have a different result so learning from your dating past is insanely important

00:14:07.840 can it get in the way sometimes of just experiencing somebody and meeting people yeah i think at the end of

00:14:13.360 the day if you if you ignore a lot of your past uh experiences then yeah you can meet more people

00:14:21.120 and generally just be around more people but are they quality people so what i've done in the last

00:14:26.560 i don't know seven or eight months i've really concentrated on the quality of people that i want

00:14:30.960 around in my life and i'm going to tell you why because in my previous relationships there has been

00:14:37.200 lessons to be taught and i'll give you the most recent example if a woman generally starts 1.00

00:14:43.200 to distance themselves from you and hang out more with their friends they want to be single and you

00:14:49.600 have to be like okay well am i doing something wrong no am i giving off the wrong signs am i not being

00:14:56.400 supportive am i not being the the you know the provider protector situation no i think a lot of the

00:15:03.520 times women just like socializing and men don't men generally when they hang out with their boys 0.80

00:15:10.960 they just work on a car they work on something and they that's where they hang out whether they're

00:15:16.240 building a garage with their friends building a car or go to the bar to watch a game they don't

00:15:22.160 necessarily like to just socialize for the sake of socializing usually highly productive men are

00:15:28.000 somewhere working on something and making either money or concentrating on their craft or whatever

00:15:34.400 but women generally like to just socialize for the sake of socializing so i remember a a pivoting 1.00

00:15:40.800 point in my last relationship that made me realize that this is probably not for the long haul the

00:15:47.680 person i was with was working in a law firm and they met somebody who was in the middle of a breakup

00:15:54.960 you know how it is misery love com loves company so yeah because after the breakup obviously women have to be 1.00

00:16:01.600 hoes yeah they're ready to i mean if you think when if you dump your girlfriend especially if you 0.99

00:16:06.880 dump her you might you might the worst might come to your mind like someone else is like digging her out

00:16:11.760 and it should come to your mind because that's probably happening we got tinder it's 2025 do you

00:16:15.920 know what i mean okay let me get this let me get this straight the woman has the choice to be sad 0.94

00:16:21.200 or go f a hot guy better looking than you now he's gonna smash and pass which is worse for you 0.64

00:16:28.160 you know you loved her sucks it is what it is it is what it is they're going through a breakup they're 0.98

00:16:34.960 my my girlfriend at the time was trying to help them go to the breakup but the woman was just you 1.00

00:16:39.840 know banging the x and hanging out and just kind of like going through that process of splitting up

00:16:44.960 once the breakup was finalized now this person needed someone to hang out with and yeah women women 1.00

00:16:52.320 need like a partner in crime not too big of a partner in crime one partner in crime i'm going to read

00:16:57.840 the chat on the website really fast doug mpa says there's nothing what this is tyrese's ex-wife she

00:17:04.400 regrets leaving him her mom and all her friends were talking trash in the ear about him how sad women 0.99

00:17:10.640 just make up words emotionally intoxicated what the hell does that mean i think i know what it means so 0.88

00:17:16.160 okay i'll tell you what it means now it's like i'm a woman so i can understand woman speak that's when

00:17:22.720 so this is kind of how our hamster wheel runs okay so you'll have a trait right so let's say

00:17:29.760 the woman sees you is not working hard enough right so like she she views you you've done things

00:17:36.240 to indicate to the woman that you're lazy so the woman this is how the hamster wheel goes so first 0.75

00:17:42.480 she's like well he's kind of being lazy now i know what you're thinking the woman is probably lazier 1.00

00:17:47.600 she doesn't have a right that's not how we think we think we're angels right so we'll start that

00:17:52.640 then the hamster wheel keeps going they're like oh my god i can't provide what if i have a husband 1.00

00:17:57.440 that doesn't provide for me oh my god i'm gonna be okay what about but they're that guy over there

00:18:02.720 he's providing and i do all this stuff i did that and i did that and i did that and i did that and then

00:18:07.600 it just goes and that's the hamster wheel so yeah i mean that's that's what i would say emotionally

00:18:13.600 intoxicated so then the woman does this for like five hours maybe a week maybe a month and by the 1.00

00:18:19.920 end of it her her hamster wheel was spinning so much that she's already gonna divorce you by the end 1.00

00:18:26.080 and you're and you you just thought you took like a nap like you thought that you were just napping and

00:18:32.720 it was gonna be fine and she thought well i'm contemplating this whole relationship because you naps

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